1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,250 Speaker 1: Hi, I'm hazel and 2 00:00:02,250 --> 00:00:03,560 Speaker 2: welcome back to another episode of 3 00:00:03,560 --> 00:00:05,320 Speaker 1: calamities. 4 00:00:06,519 --> 00:00:08,740 Speaker 1: In today's episode. We're actually talking about something that I 5 00:00:08,740 --> 00:00:13,659 Speaker 1: think a lot of people struggle with its confidence and style? Yeah. 6 00:00:13,670 --> 00:00:16,470 Speaker 1: So that's why they styled us today, you know, to 7 00:00:16,470 --> 00:00:18,690 Speaker 1: get out of our comfort zones and you know, people 8 00:00:18,690 --> 00:00:20,710 Speaker 1: always say like, as you get older, right, you get 9 00:00:20,710 --> 00:00:23,960 Speaker 1: more confident in yourself in your style and you kind 10 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:26,280 Speaker 1: of solidify like, okay, this is who I am, 11 00:00:26,295 --> 00:00:27,855 Speaker 1: based on what I wear. That's true. Do you guys 12 00:00:27,855 --> 00:00:28,645 Speaker 1: feel that you feel that? 13 00:00:28,655 --> 00:00:31,155 Speaker 2: I agree? Really? I feel like in my teens I 14 00:00:31,155 --> 00:00:33,745 Speaker 2: was not very sure of what the hell I'm wearing, 15 00:00:33,755 --> 00:00:38,084 Speaker 2: whether I am wearing these clothes because it fits me 16 00:00:38,095 --> 00:00:39,735 Speaker 2: or because I want to be someone else, 17 00:00:39,745 --> 00:00:43,405 Speaker 1: like following the trends. Yes, I understand. Would you guys 18 00:00:43,405 --> 00:00:46,065 Speaker 1: say you are confident individuals? 19 00:00:46,729 --> 00:00:49,450 Speaker 2: I think three of us can safely say that we 20 00:00:49,460 --> 00:00:49,790 Speaker 2: all 21 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:53,180 Speaker 1: are. I mean definitely you have your like, you know, 22 00:00:53,190 --> 00:00:57,630 Speaker 1: occasional insecurities and everything, but I think by large, I'm 23 00:00:57,630 --> 00:01:01,460 Speaker 1: quite unapologetic, so she really is. Yes, 24 00:01:01,470 --> 00:01:02,550 Speaker 2: that's the way that's the way 25 00:01:02,550 --> 00:01:04,730 Speaker 1: I definitely agree. I think the three of us, we 26 00:01:04,740 --> 00:01:07,330 Speaker 1: each have our own very unique styles and we're all 27 00:01:07,330 --> 00:01:10,100 Speaker 1: very confident in our own ways as well. So just 28 00:01:10,100 --> 00:01:12,050 Speaker 1: this year, Watson's data X 29 00:01:12,325 --> 00:01:16,975 Speaker 1: Actually conducted a survey with over 3000 Asian women aged 20-29. 30 00:01:16,975 --> 00:01:19,414 Speaker 1: So we fall in that just almost yeah, we follow 31 00:01:19,415 --> 00:01:22,895 Speaker 1: back and the results actually revealed that almost half of 32 00:01:22,895 --> 00:01:26,705 Speaker 1: these women are actually not confident about themselves at work 33 00:01:26,715 --> 00:01:30,414 Speaker 1: and in life. What do you think affects a woman's 34 00:01:30,415 --> 00:01:33,944 Speaker 1: confidence in this day and age? Media. Yes. The stuff 35 00:01:33,944 --> 00:01:37,420 Speaker 1: you see the Kardashians, which I'm not sorry. 36 00:01:38,209 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 2: Well, I feel like it's what they've been told growing 37 00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:43,260 Speaker 2: up that you need to look a certain way. You 38 00:01:43,260 --> 00:01:45,560 Speaker 2: need to dress a certain way. And this really affects 39 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:48,950 Speaker 2: the confidence of people of women, especially when they actually 40 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:51,610 Speaker 2: dress themselves in clothes that they like themselves in. 41 00:01:51,620 --> 00:01:54,490 Speaker 1: That's right. And sometimes it's comments from people as well. 42 00:01:54,490 --> 00:01:57,590 Speaker 1: You know, people passing certain comments, I think especially when 43 00:01:57,590 --> 00:02:00,730 Speaker 1: you're growing up, especially maybe 10 years ago, you know, 44 00:02:00,740 --> 00:02:03,640 Speaker 1: where people thought that was completely fine to say things 45 00:02:03,650 --> 00:02:06,030 Speaker 1: whether you're skinny, whether you're fat. You know, they'll say 46 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:06,470 Speaker 1: all kind 47 00:02:06,485 --> 00:02:08,555 Speaker 1: things right and that affects you, I think, and some 48 00:02:08,565 --> 00:02:12,835 Speaker 1: people carry with them. Exactly. I think criticism is one 49 00:02:12,835 --> 00:02:15,775 Speaker 1: thing comparison as well when you scroll on social media 50 00:02:15,775 --> 00:02:17,705 Speaker 1: and you see people looking a certain way, you know, 51 00:02:17,705 --> 00:02:20,565 Speaker 1: I'm always on my explore page wishing why does my 52 00:02:20,565 --> 00:02:24,154 Speaker 1: body not look like that? No, but I mean, it's 53 00:02:24,165 --> 00:02:26,505 Speaker 1: easy to fall into that and you don't realize how 54 00:02:26,505 --> 00:02:29,044 Speaker 1: many people actually photoshopped their bodies. We've talked about this 55 00:02:29,044 --> 00:02:30,035 Speaker 1: before as well, 56 00:02:30,165 --> 00:02:33,635 Speaker 2: including me to shoot you in my way, sometimes at 57 00:02:33,635 --> 00:02:34,745 Speaker 1: least you're honest about it. 58 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 1: You know, I get it. I get it. I mean, 59 00:02:37,050 --> 00:02:39,850 Speaker 1: what is that the way to actually sometimes 60 00:02:39,850 --> 00:02:40,230 Speaker 2: on bad 61 00:02:40,230 --> 00:02:45,489 Speaker 1: Days, I think of my dark circles, brighten the eyes 62 00:02:45,500 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 1: a little bit of the yeah, yeah. So a woman's 63 00:02:51,490 --> 00:02:55,060 Speaker 1: anecdote actually shared by refinery. I've gone through periods where 64 00:02:55,060 --> 00:02:57,430 Speaker 1: I struggle with my self image and sometimes I do 65 00:02:57,430 --> 00:02:59,980 Speaker 1: feel great in my own skin, but when I turned 27, 66 00:02:59,990 --> 00:03:03,020 Speaker 1: I looked at all my clothes and I actually decided 67 00:03:03,035 --> 00:03:05,965 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna wear anything that doesn't make me feel good. 68 00:03:05,975 --> 00:03:11,044 Speaker 1: And this realization actually make her so excited to dress 69 00:03:11,044 --> 00:03:12,785 Speaker 1: the way that she wants to in the morning because 70 00:03:12,794 --> 00:03:15,484 Speaker 1: she threw all of those expectations out of the window, 71 00:03:15,495 --> 00:03:18,715 Speaker 1: good on you, good on you, whatever your name is 72 00:03:18,725 --> 00:03:21,595 Speaker 2: starting every day on a confident note, I don't think 73 00:03:21,595 --> 00:03:24,575 Speaker 2: you realize how much of an impact that makes. So 74 00:03:24,585 --> 00:03:25,595 Speaker 2: it's very, very good, 75 00:03:25,605 --> 00:03:27,794 Speaker 1: right? It actually turns your whole day around and when 76 00:03:27,794 --> 00:03:30,525 Speaker 1: you carry yourself with confidence, right? That reflects on the 77 00:03:30,525 --> 00:03:31,264 Speaker 1: other people. People 78 00:03:31,310 --> 00:03:34,190 Speaker 1: see that as well. If you were to go around 79 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:36,230 Speaker 1: and kind of not be very sure about who you 80 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:38,970 Speaker 1: are and you know the way that you hold yourself. 81 00:03:38,980 --> 00:03:41,510 Speaker 1: I think that people can feel that from you, 82 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:43,869 Speaker 2: right? Or if you like, you know, with every step 83 00:03:43,870 --> 00:03:47,380 Speaker 2: you take, you're adjusting your clothes, you don't feel comfortable 84 00:03:47,390 --> 00:03:49,830 Speaker 2: in the things that you addressed and then people can 85 00:03:49,830 --> 00:03:53,160 Speaker 2: tell you just a sort of like a certain vibe 86 00:03:53,170 --> 00:03:54,870 Speaker 2: and that's not very confident vibe, 87 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:57,620 Speaker 1: but I always have to adjust my clothes. Like even 88 00:03:57,620 --> 00:03:59,570 Speaker 1: right now, you know the other day, 89 00:03:59,585 --> 00:04:01,825 Speaker 1: can I just tell you a quick and so the 90 00:04:01,825 --> 00:04:03,745 Speaker 1: other day in the club? Right? So my friend was wearing, 91 00:04:03,745 --> 00:04:05,285 Speaker 1: I know the story. My friend was wearing a tube 92 00:04:05,285 --> 00:04:08,525 Speaker 1: top and she was wearing a brush was wearing like, okay, 93 00:04:08,535 --> 00:04:11,615 Speaker 1: I guess nipple tape and she's obviously jumping around and 94 00:04:11,615 --> 00:04:14,885 Speaker 1: she kept pulling up her top and at 1.1 of 95 00:04:14,885 --> 00:04:17,255 Speaker 1: her tits popped out and the guy 96 00:04:17,255 --> 00:04:19,395 Speaker 2: saw popped up from the bottom because 97 00:04:19,395 --> 00:04:21,655 Speaker 1: she was like, it went like, like I'm wearing a 98 00:04:21,654 --> 00:04:24,595 Speaker 1: tube top now. It went like, like Nayan said pop 99 00:04:24,595 --> 00:04:27,735 Speaker 1: pop pop the guy. 100 00:04:28,390 --> 00:04:31,600 Speaker 1: Then this, she was very embarrassed because it was kind 101 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:33,060 Speaker 1: of like a water malfunction. Right, 102 00:04:33,070 --> 00:04:35,030 Speaker 2: Okay, so this is when I want to share a 103 00:04:35,029 --> 00:04:35,900 Speaker 2: protein with all of 104 00:04:35,900 --> 00:04:37,610 Speaker 1: you get 105 00:04:37,620 --> 00:04:43,810 Speaker 2: The Hollywood tape, it's not very expensive. It's expensive. Okay. Okay, 106 00:04:43,810 --> 00:04:47,950 Speaker 2: I'll get the package of 33 teens for like $40 107 00:04:47,950 --> 00:04:48,970 Speaker 2: on shopping or something like 108 00:04:48,980 --> 00:04:50,670 Speaker 1: that essentially works like double sided, 109 00:04:50,803 --> 00:04:52,223 Speaker 1: right? You can use double sided tape 110 00:04:52,233 --> 00:04:55,043 Speaker 2: cannot because Hollywood tape is meant for 111 00:04:55,043 --> 00:04:56,583 Speaker 1: fabric and your skin. 112 00:04:56,593 --> 00:04:58,853 Speaker 2: So there's a huge difference. I 113 00:04:58,853 --> 00:05:02,433 Speaker 1: use double sided tape yesterday and and it was falling off. 114 00:05:02,433 --> 00:05:05,183 Speaker 1: So no pop, I got nothing much to pop, pop pop. 115 00:05:05,193 --> 00:05:07,542 Speaker 1: But okay, but was there ever a time in your 116 00:05:07,543 --> 00:05:10,272 Speaker 1: lives when you struggle with self confidence, 117 00:05:10,283 --> 00:05:12,323 Speaker 2: Like I mentioned just now in my teens when I 118 00:05:12,323 --> 00:05:12,960 Speaker 2: was in sec 119 00:05:13,156 --> 00:05:14,896 Speaker 2: the school, it was the face of trying to fit 120 00:05:14,906 --> 00:05:18,455 Speaker 2: in and you know, at that point in time, if 121 00:05:18,456 --> 00:05:20,945 Speaker 2: you girls remember skinny jeans were the in thing. Oh 122 00:05:20,946 --> 00:05:24,926 Speaker 2: my God, fishnet leggings, Do you remember? I have no 123 00:05:24,926 --> 00:05:28,666 Speaker 2: idea why this trend ever happened, it should never happen again, 124 00:05:28,676 --> 00:05:33,236 Speaker 2: but people were in shots, like very short shorts and 125 00:05:33,236 --> 00:05:34,176 Speaker 2: fishnet leggings. 126 00:05:34,176 --> 00:05:35,265 Speaker 1: I remember this 127 00:05:35,410 --> 00:05:39,150 Speaker 1: not just fishnets, but like leggings of like different patterns. 128 00:05:39,150 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 1: You remember like a flower, like, I don't know what 129 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:43,390 Speaker 1: strikes strikes. Yes, 130 00:05:43,390 --> 00:05:46,190 Speaker 2: correct. And then you have to wear the very short 131 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:48,720 Speaker 2: and low waisted kind of like shots to go along 132 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:49,240 Speaker 2: with it. 133 00:05:49,380 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 2: And that point of time, skinny jeans were also very 134 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:55,650 Speaker 2: popular and it's like one color on each leg, one 135 00:05:55,650 --> 00:05:56,950 Speaker 2: color each side. Remember 136 00:05:56,960 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 1: the black and 137 00:05:57,640 --> 00:05:58,600 Speaker 2: white skinny jeans 138 00:05:58,610 --> 00:05:59,820 Speaker 1: from boogie Street. Yes, 139 00:05:59,820 --> 00:06:04,130 Speaker 2: correct. And I thought they looked hideous, but I found myself, 140 00:06:04,130 --> 00:06:06,200 Speaker 2: you know, looking for a pair of jeans like that, 141 00:06:06,210 --> 00:06:09,390 Speaker 2: just because I thought it was trendy to be in it. 142 00:06:09,505 --> 00:06:13,116 Speaker 2: And this really made me question my style. Like even 143 00:06:13,126 --> 00:06:15,666 Speaker 2: after I bought a pair of those jeans and wear out, 144 00:06:15,676 --> 00:06:17,236 Speaker 2: do I actually feel good 145 00:06:17,246 --> 00:06:18,395 Speaker 1: picture? Okay, 146 00:06:18,396 --> 00:06:20,505 Speaker 2: I don't have a picture of myself in the skinny jeans, 147 00:06:20,505 --> 00:06:24,095 Speaker 2: but what I do have is a photo from my past. 148 00:06:24,106 --> 00:06:27,046 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, should we do that right now, whip 149 00:06:27,046 --> 00:06:29,620 Speaker 1: up old photos of our old stuff. 150 00:06:29,632 --> 00:06:30,472 Speaker 2: Okay, 151 00:06:30,992 --> 00:06:34,592 Speaker 1: okay, you got to be honest. I have like my face, 152 00:06:34,592 --> 00:06:35,912 Speaker 1: but not much the style. 153 00:06:35,922 --> 00:06:38,522 Speaker 2: Okay. Yes, yes, Yes. But you know from my face, 154 00:06:38,522 --> 00:06:40,992 Speaker 2: you can tell like what's the kind of things that's 155 00:06:40,992 --> 00:06:43,442 Speaker 2: going through my mind. I 156 00:06:43,452 --> 00:06:44,572 Speaker 1: honestly like, 157 00:06:44,582 --> 00:06:45,642 Speaker 2: oh my gosh. Okay. Are 158 00:06:45,642 --> 00:06:46,972 Speaker 1: you ready for this? Okay. 159 00:06:46,982 --> 00:06:49,592 Speaker 2: 3211, 160 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,370 Speaker 1: the flower crown. I remember that. 161 00:06:55,380 --> 00:06:57,330 Speaker 2: Right? Is there? 162 00:06:59,390 --> 00:07:03,330 Speaker 2: Look at the contact lens lock eyes, the color very big, 163 00:07:03,339 --> 00:07:07,599 Speaker 1: Very different job. I cannot recognize this person. I don't 164 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: know why I used to dress like an office lady. Like, understand, understand. 165 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 1: I used to dress like I was 30 years old 166 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:14,810 Speaker 1: when I was like 17. You wanted to grow up? 167 00:07:14,810 --> 00:07:17,070 Speaker 1: That's true. Now I want to dress like a kid, right? 168 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:19,790 Speaker 1: I used to like, doesn't she look like someone who 169 00:07:19,790 --> 00:07:20,800 Speaker 1: works in the CBD? 170 00:07:20,810 --> 00:07:22,290 Speaker 2: Oh wow. 171 00:07:22,300 --> 00:07:25,600 Speaker 1: Like she works in the CBD. Remember those back tops 172 00:07:25,610 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 1: and those like, I don't know are these 173 00:07:27,458 --> 00:07:30,158 Speaker 1: pants must have been from some of the block shops, 174 00:07:30,168 --> 00:07:30,448 Speaker 1: but 175 00:07:30,448 --> 00:07:32,388 Speaker 2: you? D meal 176 00:07:36,678 --> 00:07:39,388 Speaker 1: and then there was like tumbler era where we all 177 00:07:39,388 --> 00:07:44,548 Speaker 1: wear like tumbler inspired clothes, tumbler inspired means like what 178 00:07:44,548 --> 00:07:50,038 Speaker 1: the hell is this ugly dress ugly dress ugly filter like? 179 00:07:50,048 --> 00:07:50,998 Speaker 1: Oh gosh. 180 00:07:51,008 --> 00:07:51,788 Speaker 2: Oh gosh. 181 00:07:51,798 --> 00:07:55,278 Speaker 1: So I guess, you know personally for me actually, one 182 00:07:55,278 --> 00:07:55,508 Speaker 1: of 183 00:07:55,526 --> 00:07:57,956 Speaker 1: the times when I really struggle with my self confidence 184 00:07:57,956 --> 00:08:00,686 Speaker 1: was when I first joined the industry. Yeah. When I 185 00:08:00,686 --> 00:08:00,826 Speaker 1: was 186 00:08:00,826 --> 00:08:01,836 Speaker 2: just wanted to say that 187 00:08:01,846 --> 00:08:03,856 Speaker 1: when I was in my teenagers I would wear whatever, 188 00:08:03,866 --> 00:08:06,046 Speaker 1: I don't give a who, you know who says I'm 189 00:08:06,056 --> 00:08:08,306 Speaker 1: ugly or whatever, but when I came into the industry 190 00:08:08,306 --> 00:08:10,776 Speaker 1: I felt like I had more to prove and I 191 00:08:10,776 --> 00:08:13,626 Speaker 1: felt like I didn't want to follow anybody else's style, 192 00:08:13,626 --> 00:08:15,866 Speaker 1: but I was very lost, I didn't know what my 193 00:08:15,866 --> 00:08:17,026 Speaker 1: style was 194 00:08:17,036 --> 00:08:20,286 Speaker 2: so similarly to jimmy when I just entered the industry, 195 00:08:20,286 --> 00:08:23,576 Speaker 2: I felt like my gosh, I am so for 196 00:08:23,794 --> 00:08:27,674 Speaker 2: no, really, I felt I remember myself thinking this and 197 00:08:27,674 --> 00:08:29,734 Speaker 2: I took part in this like channel eight like tv 198 00:08:29,734 --> 00:08:32,104 Speaker 2: drama where I was just a cameo role and actually 199 00:08:32,104 --> 00:08:35,274 Speaker 2: have a photo from then I was an assistant chef 200 00:08:35,284 --> 00:08:37,184 Speaker 2: and assistant chef, they had to bump up your hair. 201 00:08:37,194 --> 00:08:39,494 Speaker 2: So when they bunch up like all my hair and 202 00:08:39,494 --> 00:08:42,853 Speaker 2: my face was all shown, I just felt like OMG 203 00:08:42,854 --> 00:08:45,404 Speaker 2: I am so, so chubby. And even the director from 204 00:08:45,404 --> 00:08:49,864 Speaker 2: that time told me your cheeks are quite like chubby. 205 00:08:49,874 --> 00:08:51,644 Speaker 2: So this is how I look like 206 00:08:51,662 --> 00:08:55,952 Speaker 2: shows like this, you know, they always say the camera 207 00:08:55,952 --> 00:08:59,031 Speaker 2: adds £10 and after this shows it made me feel 208 00:08:59,032 --> 00:09:03,302 Speaker 2: like should I be cutting down like on some food 209 00:09:03,312 --> 00:09:05,802 Speaker 2: and things, but if anything okay, it made me like 210 00:09:05,802 --> 00:09:09,381 Speaker 2: have a healthier diet. So I guess that's one good 211 00:09:09,381 --> 00:09:11,792 Speaker 2: thing to take away from this entire episode. I 212 00:09:11,792 --> 00:09:14,422 Speaker 1: do still struggle with that, like seeing myself on screen 213 00:09:14,422 --> 00:09:16,702 Speaker 1: and I naturally have a very round face and there's 214 00:09:16,702 --> 00:09:18,062 Speaker 1: not much I can do about it unless I go 215 00:09:18,062 --> 00:09:19,730 Speaker 1: for surgery, which I refuse to. 216 00:09:19,990 --> 00:09:22,449 Speaker 1: No, but you struggle with that because you see yourself 217 00:09:22,450 --> 00:09:25,130 Speaker 1: and you're like ship, that's how other people see me. Yeah, 218 00:09:25,140 --> 00:09:27,700 Speaker 1: so you have days where you feel a little bit 219 00:09:27,700 --> 00:09:30,380 Speaker 1: down about yourself, but but like I always say right 220 00:09:30,380 --> 00:09:32,530 Speaker 1: self confidence and self love, it comes from within and 221 00:09:32,530 --> 00:09:34,490 Speaker 1: it shouldn't be based on how you look on that 222 00:09:34,490 --> 00:09:37,960 Speaker 1: particular day, correct and very honestly, I think we we 223 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:40,660 Speaker 1: still struggle that, you know, we still struggle with that sometimes, 224 00:09:40,670 --> 00:09:42,689 Speaker 1: like you just mentioned as well, but I think it 225 00:09:42,700 --> 00:09:45,060 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, you see right, like 226 00:09:45,070 --> 00:09:49,090 Speaker 1: people focus on like looking good on like being beautiful 227 00:09:49,090 --> 00:09:50,929 Speaker 1: and all that things. But I think when you start 228 00:09:50,940 --> 00:09:53,470 Speaker 1: grooming yourself, like you can look good as well when 229 00:09:53,470 --> 00:09:56,720 Speaker 1: you start learning like your own body type and you know, 230 00:09:56,720 --> 00:09:58,540 Speaker 1: you sort of figure out what works for you and 231 00:09:58,540 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: what doesn't, that helps a lot. Exactly. So it's not 232 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:03,830 Speaker 1: just about okay, why can she wear that? But I 233 00:10:03,830 --> 00:10:05,290 Speaker 1: can't wear that, but look at 234 00:10:05,410 --> 00:10:07,150 Speaker 1: everyone has a different kind of body. 235 00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:10,470 Speaker 2: Exactly. And I just got Covid recently, so I was 236 00:10:10,470 --> 00:10:12,280 Speaker 2: at home for the entire way and there was an 237 00:10:12,290 --> 00:10:14,620 Speaker 2: interesting fact that I found out, so one of those 238 00:10:14,620 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 2: days I had to go on a livestream. So I 239 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 2: was feeling better and I decided okay, I can make 240 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:21,969 Speaker 2: it for the live stream. So that day I slept 241 00:10:21,970 --> 00:10:26,210 Speaker 2: on some makeup, some foundation eyebrows, eyeshadow, drew my liner, 242 00:10:26,220 --> 00:10:28,120 Speaker 2: gave myself some blusher lipstick 243 00:10:28,309 --> 00:10:31,900 Speaker 2: and I instantly felt better about myself. I have no 244 00:10:31,900 --> 00:10:34,520 Speaker 2: idea why this is the way it is. But after 245 00:10:34,520 --> 00:10:36,579 Speaker 2: the makeup and every time I looked at myself in 246 00:10:36,580 --> 00:10:40,510 Speaker 2: the mirror, I felt like, hey, I look great. Yes, 247 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:42,500 Speaker 2: I look different from the other days when I was 248 00:10:42,500 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 2: suffering from covid my eye bags, my eye rings were 249 00:10:45,170 --> 00:10:48,350 Speaker 2: all showing. So just a little something, just a little 250 00:10:48,350 --> 00:10:50,780 Speaker 2: makeup every day can actually help you feel better from 251 00:10:50,780 --> 00:10:53,330 Speaker 2: within and when you feel better from the inside, 252 00:10:53,340 --> 00:10:56,569 Speaker 2: it actually affects a day or maybe putting 253 00:10:56,570 --> 00:10:59,290 Speaker 1: on a beautiful pair of earrings or like a nice bracelet, 254 00:10:59,290 --> 00:11:02,630 Speaker 1: a nice necklace. Yeah, whatever makes you feel good. You know, 255 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:04,949 Speaker 1: actually there's this thing, right? So because I do the 256 00:11:04,950 --> 00:11:07,420 Speaker 1: show at five and so does our friend kat from 257 00:11:07,420 --> 00:11:11,450 Speaker 1: Gold Catherine. So we usually meet right? And most days 258 00:11:11,450 --> 00:11:14,640 Speaker 1: we look like T P T trailer park trams, but 259 00:11:14,650 --> 00:11:17,250 Speaker 1: on days like when we have makeup on or we 260 00:11:17,260 --> 00:11:18,360 Speaker 1: dress a little nicer, 261 00:11:18,370 --> 00:11:21,080 Speaker 1: Usually we presume like, oh you have something, you have shoot, 262 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:23,290 Speaker 1: you have life, that kind of thing. Right? So usually 263 00:11:23,290 --> 00:11:25,580 Speaker 1: whenever we see each other in like makeup will be like, 264 00:11:25,590 --> 00:11:28,790 Speaker 1: what's going on today? And most times actually we just go, no, 265 00:11:28,790 --> 00:11:29,780 Speaker 1: I just had to show off myself 266 00:11:29,780 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 2: today, that's nice and sometimes I spot them, you know, 267 00:11:33,520 --> 00:11:36,050 Speaker 2: in the level three field of media cop taking photos 268 00:11:36,050 --> 00:11:36,820 Speaker 2: for one another. 269 00:11:36,820 --> 00:11:37,870 Speaker 1: Like we do 270 00:11:37,870 --> 00:11:38,530 Speaker 2: do very 271 00:11:38,530 --> 00:11:41,199 Speaker 1: cute even though no one sees us on the radio 272 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:43,390 Speaker 1: sometimes dressing up, it helps you present a better 273 00:11:43,400 --> 00:11:45,760 Speaker 1: outside of yourself and your show goes out better as well. 274 00:11:45,770 --> 00:11:48,449 Speaker 1: And in fact, according to this fashion psychologist, her name 275 00:11:48,450 --> 00:11:52,570 Speaker 1: is Mikayla Forbes Bell nicest name ever. She mentioned that 276 00:11:52,570 --> 00:11:55,750 Speaker 1: research found we all have a dynamic relationship with clothing 277 00:11:55,760 --> 00:11:59,640 Speaker 1: that impacts three different ways. We view ourselves. Number one, 278 00:11:59,650 --> 00:12:02,600 Speaker 1: the person you want to be, Number two, the person 279 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:05,569 Speaker 1: you hope to be and number three the person you 280 00:12:05,570 --> 00:12:08,390 Speaker 1: fear to be. So you're really 281 00:12:08,429 --> 00:12:11,780 Speaker 1: relationship with what you wear. Actually can kind of project 282 00:12:11,790 --> 00:12:15,120 Speaker 1: these different sides of yourself. So how do you think 283 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:17,900 Speaker 1: your style has kind of developed over the years? 284 00:12:17,910 --> 00:12:20,730 Speaker 2: Well, definitely a few media is still a huge source 285 00:12:20,730 --> 00:12:23,240 Speaker 2: of influence and being in this industry with a lot 286 00:12:23,240 --> 00:12:26,650 Speaker 2: of style is um, the kind of clothing that they 287 00:12:26,650 --> 00:12:29,750 Speaker 2: pick up for me also affects the way that I 288 00:12:29,750 --> 00:12:32,400 Speaker 2: want to put my, the way that I choose my 289 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:33,450 Speaker 2: clothes in the future. 290 00:12:33,679 --> 00:12:38,059 Speaker 2: I like to go shopping at Zara mango wherever or 291 00:12:38,059 --> 00:12:40,810 Speaker 2: even online just to see what are the different kinds 292 00:12:40,809 --> 00:12:43,420 Speaker 2: of styles that they offer in this season and whether 293 00:12:43,420 --> 00:12:44,640 Speaker 2: any of those suit me 294 00:12:44,929 --> 00:12:50,940 Speaker 1: about you, how has your style evolved? I feel like, okay, 295 00:12:50,940 --> 00:12:53,270 Speaker 1: I'm a hoarder first of all right, She 296 00:12:53,270 --> 00:12:54,970 Speaker 2: really is, 297 00:12:55,220 --> 00:12:55,730 Speaker 1: her 298 00:12:55,730 --> 00:12:56,930 Speaker 2: wardrobe is bursting. 299 00:12:56,940 --> 00:12:59,780 Speaker 1: It's burst in. Honestly. I just cleared out like two 300 00:12:59,780 --> 00:13:02,370 Speaker 1: huge bags and it's still bursting. I don't know where 301 00:13:02,370 --> 00:13:07,559 Speaker 1: it's coming from anyway, so it's spill in and the 302 00:13:07,559 --> 00:13:11,650 Speaker 1: reason for that right is because I have myself and 303 00:13:11,650 --> 00:13:16,439 Speaker 1: then I have stuff that I'll need for work, like occasions, 304 00:13:16,450 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 1: occasions is one, but you know, sometimes when you have 305 00:13:19,160 --> 00:13:22,429 Speaker 1: to dress yourself a camera, it can't be wide, it 306 00:13:22,429 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 1: can 307 00:13:22,660 --> 00:13:25,930 Speaker 1: be plain, it can't be and it's stuff that you 308 00:13:25,940 --> 00:13:28,949 Speaker 1: usually wouldn't use on the daily, but it looks good 309 00:13:28,950 --> 00:13:31,870 Speaker 1: in camp. And so I hot because I always feel 310 00:13:31,870 --> 00:13:33,920 Speaker 1: like at some point you're gonna need 311 00:13:33,920 --> 00:13:36,850 Speaker 2: it. But the only problem about hoarding is sometimes you 312 00:13:36,850 --> 00:13:37,900 Speaker 2: forget that it's there. 313 00:13:37,910 --> 00:13:41,559 Speaker 1: That's true because it gets hidden behind like five different clothes. Yeah, 314 00:13:41,570 --> 00:13:44,890 Speaker 1: sometimes I find things I'm like, I haven't seen this 315 00:13:44,890 --> 00:13:47,510 Speaker 1: in five years, Let me wear it so clear out 316 00:13:47,510 --> 00:13:50,080 Speaker 1: your wardrobes. Ladies and gentlemen, I think for 317 00:13:50,100 --> 00:13:53,050 Speaker 1: for me, I realized that my style solidified because I 318 00:13:53,050 --> 00:13:55,350 Speaker 1: was thinking about it while reading about this episode, I 319 00:13:55,350 --> 00:13:58,310 Speaker 1: realized that it kind of solidified because I'm still wearing 320 00:13:58,309 --> 00:14:01,089 Speaker 1: things that I bought two or three years ago, which 321 00:14:01,090 --> 00:14:03,450 Speaker 1: means that that is still my style, you know what 322 00:14:03,450 --> 00:14:05,970 Speaker 1: I mean? I think we have also hit an age 323 00:14:05,970 --> 00:14:08,730 Speaker 1: where we go for a little bit about classic pieces. 324 00:14:08,740 --> 00:14:10,809 Speaker 1: Things that can, you know, take you through a couple 325 00:14:10,809 --> 00:14:13,420 Speaker 1: of years, not like trendy items anymore, but we look 326 00:14:13,420 --> 00:14:16,210 Speaker 1: for like things that we can wear with other things 327 00:14:16,210 --> 00:14:17,510 Speaker 1: that we can match with. 328 00:14:17,540 --> 00:14:20,040 Speaker 1: The other thing. That's what they call a capsule wardrobe. 329 00:14:20,050 --> 00:14:21,100 Speaker 1: Have you guys ever heard that? 330 00:14:21,350 --> 00:14:21,980 Speaker 2: What is that? 331 00:14:21,990 --> 00:14:25,610 Speaker 1: A capsule wardrobe is made up of a few plain 332 00:14:25,620 --> 00:14:29,410 Speaker 1: neutral kind of pieces that work, you know, with each other. 333 00:14:29,410 --> 00:14:31,890 Speaker 1: So you can mix and match and basically you have 334 00:14:31,890 --> 00:14:35,090 Speaker 1: like endless combinations of clothes. Yeah, because like, let's see 335 00:14:35,100 --> 00:14:37,030 Speaker 1: what we're wearing now, these two tops, they're more of 336 00:14:37,030 --> 00:14:39,950 Speaker 1: a statement piece that you can't really mix and match 337 00:14:39,950 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 1: with everything. But this what is 338 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:43,570 Speaker 2: wearing the pants 339 00:14:43,570 --> 00:14:44,960 Speaker 1: and the pants for example, 340 00:14:44,980 --> 00:14:46,370 Speaker 1: they're more of like a capsule 341 00:14:46,370 --> 00:14:47,570 Speaker 2: piece. Yeah. 342 00:14:47,580 --> 00:14:50,820 Speaker 1: So you can rotate it amongst your different kinds of outfits. 343 00:14:50,830 --> 00:14:51,030 Speaker 1: I've 344 00:14:51,030 --> 00:14:53,060 Speaker 2: heard about this as well. Like girls, we need a 345 00:14:53,060 --> 00:14:56,900 Speaker 2: few staple pieces in the wardrobe. Basic pieces with neutral colors, 346 00:14:56,910 --> 00:15:02,300 Speaker 2: talking like early tones, brown, black, white, gray. So it's 347 00:15:02,310 --> 00:15:04,480 Speaker 2: easy for you to mix and match with other things. 348 00:15:04,490 --> 00:15:07,840 Speaker 1: I also have a toxic behavior when it comes to this, 349 00:15:07,850 --> 00:15:10,570 Speaker 1: I don't know if anybody also feels the same way, 350 00:15:10,580 --> 00:15:12,420 Speaker 1: but when I try and do that, right, 351 00:15:12,630 --> 00:15:15,700 Speaker 1: okay, let's say short sleeve t shirt, you get it 352 00:15:15,700 --> 00:15:18,050 Speaker 1: in three colors, but you're like, I want the same 353 00:15:18,050 --> 00:15:21,490 Speaker 1: three colors in a different style. So you buy every 354 00:15:21,490 --> 00:15:25,390 Speaker 1: style and every color because that's, that's 355 00:15:25,390 --> 00:15:28,000 Speaker 2: the problem, the wardrobe is bursting. Now we know now 356 00:15:28,010 --> 00:15:30,160 Speaker 1: this is the problem, I think you need to just 357 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:31,080 Speaker 1: buy one, 358 00:15:31,580 --> 00:15:36,010 Speaker 1: it's different, you know, Okay, 359 00:15:36,270 --> 00:15:37,900 Speaker 2: point girl has a point. 360 00:15:37,910 --> 00:15:41,620 Speaker 1: But how do you think we can like find our 361 00:15:41,620 --> 00:15:44,090 Speaker 1: style for people that are listening that are kind of 362 00:15:44,090 --> 00:15:45,680 Speaker 1: still lost in the area? 363 00:15:45,690 --> 00:15:48,500 Speaker 2: I feel like as much as media is huge, influence 364 00:15:48,510 --> 00:15:51,240 Speaker 2: is a great source of inspiration as well. Yeah, I'd 365 00:15:51,240 --> 00:15:55,790 Speaker 2: like to go on Pinterest to look for just some inspirational, 366 00:15:55,800 --> 00:16:00,020 Speaker 2: some creative ideas on how you compare different kinds of apparels. 367 00:16:00,030 --> 00:16:00,560 Speaker 2: It may serve 368 00:16:00,598 --> 00:16:02,248 Speaker 2: surprise you, you know, you, you may find that your 369 00:16:02,258 --> 00:16:05,808 Speaker 2: existing pieces of like clothes can match in a certain 370 00:16:05,808 --> 00:16:07,278 Speaker 2: way that you never imagined 371 00:16:07,288 --> 00:16:09,808 Speaker 1: actually follow a lot of these accounts on instagram like 372 00:16:09,808 --> 00:16:12,708 Speaker 1: kylie Jenner style, Hailey Bieber style, you just follow what 373 00:16:12,708 --> 00:16:15,568 Speaker 1: they have actually do things. I think if you're looking 374 00:16:15,568 --> 00:16:18,308 Speaker 1: for your style, you can refer to these 375 00:16:18,308 --> 00:16:19,288 Speaker 2: people and 376 00:16:19,288 --> 00:16:21,208 Speaker 1: sort of see what you like and then you realize 377 00:16:21,208 --> 00:16:23,378 Speaker 1: that you like the silhouette, oh you like this kind 378 00:16:23,378 --> 00:16:25,498 Speaker 1: of style. You know, you like it straight, you like 379 00:16:25,498 --> 00:16:27,508 Speaker 1: it a bit more glam, you figure that out, right? 380 00:16:27,518 --> 00:16:29,600 Speaker 1: And then after that I feel like you have to 381 00:16:29,616 --> 00:16:32,886 Speaker 1: sort of try it out for yourself and figure out 382 00:16:32,886 --> 00:16:35,536 Speaker 1: if it works for your body because they could be 383 00:16:35,536 --> 00:16:37,666 Speaker 1: wearing like, let's say joggers all day. But joggers don't 384 00:16:37,666 --> 00:16:39,846 Speaker 1: work for you. Or they could be in like palazzos 385 00:16:39,846 --> 00:16:41,990 Speaker 1: and plazas don't work for you. So I think you 386 00:16:41,990 --> 00:16:45,500 Speaker 1: got a tailor that back to your own body. Actually 387 00:16:45,500 --> 00:16:48,940 Speaker 1: our producer, She actually just became a mom not too 388 00:16:48,940 --> 00:16:51,660 Speaker 1: long ago. Yes. And she says, I'm always struggling to 389 00:16:51,660 --> 00:16:55,180 Speaker 1: find a style that fits me, especially after giving birth. 390 00:16:55,190 --> 00:16:57,350 Speaker 1: Like how do I look like cool ship? But also 391 00:16:57,350 --> 00:16:58,570 Speaker 1: come collected who has her ship 392 00:16:58,630 --> 00:17:02,230 Speaker 1: together. Mom. She says most of the time I look 393 00:17:02,230 --> 00:17:05,460 Speaker 1: like tired mom with baby drew on shirt and that 394 00:17:05,460 --> 00:17:06,690 Speaker 1: makes me like confident. 395 00:17:06,700 --> 00:17:08,820 Speaker 2: She does not have baby drew on the shirt today 396 00:17:08,830 --> 00:17:13,820 Speaker 1: today. Oh, she may be, we never said, we don't know. 397 00:17:13,830 --> 00:17:16,950 Speaker 1: But she says some days when I don't feel too good, 398 00:17:16,950 --> 00:17:19,240 Speaker 1: I just put on some lipstick and it makes it 399 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:20,560 Speaker 1: look like I have my ship together, 400 00:17:20,570 --> 00:17:23,530 Speaker 2: right? Good on you, good on you. And I just 401 00:17:23,530 --> 00:17:27,110 Speaker 2: want to like suggest to new moms out there. You know, 402 00:17:27,119 --> 00:17:27,640 Speaker 2: a lot of 403 00:17:27,650 --> 00:17:32,130 Speaker 2: brands, they actually have the plus size collection. So we 404 00:17:32,130 --> 00:17:34,119 Speaker 2: know that like new models, maybe we cannot shut off 405 00:17:34,119 --> 00:17:36,300 Speaker 2: the weight so fast, but we still want to look good. 406 00:17:36,310 --> 00:17:39,320 Speaker 2: We can go to say like Sheen, 407 00:17:39,330 --> 00:17:42,730 Speaker 1: I would recommend like shopping from sites that actually they 408 00:17:42,730 --> 00:17:46,270 Speaker 1: don't classify like plus or normal size because all sizes 409 00:17:46,270 --> 00:17:48,179 Speaker 1: are just sizes, right? I don't really like it when 410 00:17:48,180 --> 00:17:51,310 Speaker 1: they classify it as plus, but they actually show you 411 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:55,720 Speaker 1: models from size zero, always size 16 wearing the same outfit. 412 00:17:55,730 --> 00:17:56,619 Speaker 1: I love that 413 00:17:56,670 --> 00:17:58,820 Speaker 1: because then you know how it's gonna look like on 414 00:17:58,820 --> 00:18:01,520 Speaker 1: my body type and it makes you feel like, yes, 415 00:18:01,530 --> 00:18:03,770 Speaker 1: I can wear this because when I no offense, but 416 00:18:03,770 --> 00:18:06,189 Speaker 1: when I shop on some fast fashion websites, right? And 417 00:18:06,190 --> 00:18:09,080 Speaker 1: that boobs are like double these, I'm like, there's no 418 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:11,250 Speaker 1: way I can wear this top or this bikini. My 419 00:18:11,250 --> 00:18:13,660 Speaker 1: boobs don't look like that. Yeah, So then I don't 420 00:18:13,660 --> 00:18:16,590 Speaker 1: buy it. So I can, I just say as someone 421 00:18:16,590 --> 00:18:19,820 Speaker 1: who's level options, right? I'll say, okay, so I think 422 00:18:19,820 --> 00:18:22,780 Speaker 1: that size does not matter. Like, don't try and go 423 00:18:22,780 --> 00:18:24,230 Speaker 1: for a smaller size. If it doesn't fit you, it 424 00:18:24,230 --> 00:18:25,679 Speaker 1: doesn't fit you. It's not going to look nice on you. 425 00:18:25,690 --> 00:18:28,359 Speaker 1: It doesn't matter what the sizes on the tag as 426 00:18:28,359 --> 00:18:32,119 Speaker 1: long as it fits you well, like fit is everything. 427 00:18:32,130 --> 00:18:33,220 Speaker 1: I've 428 00:18:33,230 --> 00:18:36,200 Speaker 2: come to realize that a size and pants will look 429 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:40,070 Speaker 2: better on me and like make me look even skinnier 430 00:18:40,080 --> 00:18:42,280 Speaker 2: than a size S though. It makes me feel better 431 00:18:42,280 --> 00:18:44,070 Speaker 2: to get a size because I feel like, oh, you know, 432 00:18:44,070 --> 00:18:46,040 Speaker 2: I'm skinny, I'm wearing a size S but most of 433 00:18:46,040 --> 00:18:47,879 Speaker 2: the time it's a size and fit, then just go 434 00:18:47,880 --> 00:18:50,030 Speaker 2: for it. Sometimes even size l 435 00:18:50,040 --> 00:18:53,220 Speaker 1: it may be news to you, but the tag is inside, 436 00:18:53,230 --> 00:18:54,700 Speaker 1: nobody sees correct 437 00:18:55,130 --> 00:18:58,080 Speaker 2: and for every apparel, the cutting is different. This is 438 00:18:58,080 --> 00:18:59,200 Speaker 2: something that we have to 439 00:18:59,200 --> 00:19:02,740 Speaker 1: realize and sometimes wearing better fitting clothes may make you 440 00:19:02,740 --> 00:19:05,800 Speaker 1: look more lean as well rather than trying to squeeze 441 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:09,060 Speaker 1: yourself and having a muffin top in the carriages that 442 00:19:09,060 --> 00:19:11,730 Speaker 1: are way too tight for you for example, I'm so vogue. 443 00:19:11,740 --> 00:19:16,050 Speaker 1: Actually asked several women, career women on what pieces in 444 00:19:16,050 --> 00:19:18,760 Speaker 1: their closets, help them bring their a game to work 445 00:19:18,770 --> 00:19:22,990 Speaker 1: this express secretary actually said it's actually not about how 446 00:19:22,990 --> 00:19:24,490 Speaker 1: you're perceived by others, but 447 00:19:24,510 --> 00:19:27,570 Speaker 1: it's more about internal self assurance. So when Mini was 448 00:19:27,570 --> 00:19:30,210 Speaker 1: dressing me for this episode, she felt very nervous and 449 00:19:30,210 --> 00:19:33,100 Speaker 1: she felt very not confident, but I told her many, 450 00:19:33,100 --> 00:19:35,480 Speaker 1: if I feel confident, that's all that matters, 451 00:19:35,490 --> 00:19:37,010 Speaker 2: Yes, you look confident. 452 00:19:37,020 --> 00:19:39,550 Speaker 1: So when you feel confident people will look at you 453 00:19:39,550 --> 00:19:42,070 Speaker 1: and be like, yes, that bitch looks good. But if 454 00:19:42,070 --> 00:19:45,040 Speaker 1: I come out here like you know, you know yeah, 455 00:19:45,050 --> 00:19:47,350 Speaker 1: then they look at you like maybe the outfit doesn't 456 00:19:47,350 --> 00:19:50,200 Speaker 1: look so good on you. It's about the internal self assurance. 457 00:19:50,200 --> 00:19:53,190 Speaker 2: Exactly the self perception, the more self confidence you have, 458 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:53,869 Speaker 2: the more likely 459 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:56,100 Speaker 2: you will also do your best and give your best. 460 00:19:56,109 --> 00:20:01,629 Speaker 1: Exactly yes, this is actually called enclosed cognition, right. When 461 00:20:01,630 --> 00:20:03,530 Speaker 1: you feel confident. When you speak in front of other 462 00:20:03,530 --> 00:20:07,430 Speaker 1: people by wearing clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident. 463 00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:09,830 Speaker 1: So if let's say right, we were to host a 464 00:20:09,830 --> 00:20:12,640 Speaker 1: company event and we're wearing something that is like, way 465 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:15,320 Speaker 1: too tight for us, we can't breathe, how are we 466 00:20:15,320 --> 00:20:16,480 Speaker 1: going to bring our a game then, 467 00:20:16,490 --> 00:20:18,860 Speaker 2: correct? We don't even need to sit down because then 468 00:20:18,859 --> 00:20:20,250 Speaker 2: I always would spill over, 469 00:20:20,260 --> 00:20:22,580 Speaker 1: right? But then you look at kim Kardashian at the 470 00:20:22,580 --> 00:20:23,240 Speaker 1: Met gala 471 00:20:23,260 --> 00:20:27,570 Speaker 1: wearing that little little corset with the raindrops super, super tight. 472 00:20:27,570 --> 00:20:29,790 Speaker 1: She actually told the press that she can't even sit 473 00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:31,050 Speaker 2: down. Oh, but 474 00:20:31,050 --> 00:20:32,040 Speaker 1: she still looks confident, 475 00:20:32,050 --> 00:20:34,800 Speaker 2: but at least she's honest about it and confident. So 476 00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:37,300 Speaker 2: this is what we're talking about, right? Confidence comes from 477 00:20:37,300 --> 00:20:41,280 Speaker 2: the inside, and when you're honest with yourself, you are confident. 478 00:20:41,290 --> 00:20:42,860 Speaker 2: She says that she can't sit down, then she don't 479 00:20:42,859 --> 00:20:45,380 Speaker 2: sit down, but she's confident with her outfit 480 00:20:45,390 --> 00:20:47,530 Speaker 1: correct? And she wants to do that to herself. That's fine. 481 00:20:47,540 --> 00:20:48,920 Speaker 1: If you don't want to do that to yourself, that's 482 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:51,670 Speaker 1: fine too. And I really like that in recent years, 483 00:20:51,670 --> 00:20:52,619 Speaker 1: a lot more fashion brands 484 00:20:52,630 --> 00:20:55,929 Speaker 1: have become more inclusive, like a sauce. I think it's 485 00:20:55,930 --> 00:20:58,149 Speaker 1: a great one that you can go and find a 486 00:20:58,150 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 1: lot of a wide range of sizes and even less. 487 00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:03,570 Speaker 1: So now has her own brand called city, why I 488 00:21:03,570 --> 00:21:06,699 Speaker 1: t t y it's shapewear for every size and I 489 00:21:06,700 --> 00:21:09,150 Speaker 1: love how she promotes it on her own instagram by 490 00:21:09,150 --> 00:21:12,680 Speaker 1: showing you that, hey, like I feel so confident, it 491 00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:14,710 Speaker 1: doesn't matter what you say about me and that helps 492 00:21:14,720 --> 00:21:18,190 Speaker 1: other people that, you know, don't feel so I 493 00:21:18,250 --> 00:21:21,080 Speaker 2: feel like, oh, if I buy this apparel, I also 494 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:21,990 Speaker 2: will be as 495 00:21:22,010 --> 00:21:23,720 Speaker 2: confident as that person. 496 00:21:23,730 --> 00:21:26,800 Speaker 1: Exactly. Right. So do you girls think that it's worth 497 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:31,660 Speaker 1: dressing up? Even if we're going away like to the supermarket, 498 00:21:31,670 --> 00:21:33,280 Speaker 1: I would wear this to the supermarket. 499 00:21:33,290 --> 00:21:37,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, I wear this, wear this to the supermarket seriously. 500 00:21:37,210 --> 00:21:39,910 Speaker 1: And like shop for like the meat and the apples 501 00:21:39,910 --> 00:21:43,070 Speaker 1: and cabbage by 502 00:21:43,070 --> 00:21:43,970 Speaker 2: some banana 503 00:21:43,980 --> 00:21:47,040 Speaker 1: producers says sometimes when I work from home, I will 504 00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:48,850 Speaker 1: just dress up in a dress and sit there and 505 00:21:48,850 --> 00:21:50,680 Speaker 1: do my work. Then my mom will call me crazy. 506 00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:51,379 Speaker 1: Which one? 507 00:21:54,270 --> 00:21:54,600 Speaker 1: No 508 00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:56,840 Speaker 2: agent parents will be like, can you don't do that? 509 00:21:56,850 --> 00:22:00,160 Speaker 2: They have an extra dress to wash, but sometimes you 510 00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:02,610 Speaker 2: just cannot deny by putting yourself in nice clothes. You 511 00:22:02,609 --> 00:22:04,590 Speaker 2: really do feel more productive. 512 00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:08,290 Speaker 1: It's true. Most days it doesn't affect me. I mean 513 00:22:08,290 --> 00:22:10,430 Speaker 1: you'll have seen me like I really look like trash 514 00:22:10,430 --> 00:22:12,780 Speaker 1: when I come to work. Sorry, 515 00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:15,720 Speaker 2: Only sometimes, maybe only sometimes the 516 00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:19,510 Speaker 1: faces no trash. The faces never trash, but the outfit, 517 00:22:19,510 --> 00:22:21,990 Speaker 1: sometimes it's like you could go to sleep immediately in 518 00:22:21,990 --> 00:22:24,890 Speaker 1: that outfit. So don't come to me to look for 519 00:22:24,890 --> 00:22:28,240 Speaker 1: us because that's how we look like. But I feel 520 00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:32,300 Speaker 1: like I'm okay. I'm okay to look like that and 521 00:22:32,310 --> 00:22:35,669 Speaker 1: I don't mind it and it doesn't affect anything else. 522 00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:39,580 Speaker 1: But sometimes after maybe 345 days of looking like that, 523 00:22:39,590 --> 00:22:41,110 Speaker 1: then I feel like, okay, I would 524 00:22:41,130 --> 00:22:42,900 Speaker 1: you look beautiful. Alright, 525 00:22:42,910 --> 00:22:45,810 Speaker 2: so it stems from within is your own choice to 526 00:22:45,810 --> 00:22:48,640 Speaker 2: look like that look beautiful. But both ways I feel 527 00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:50,340 Speaker 2: like it makes you very comfortable because you are the 528 00:22:50,340 --> 00:22:50,780 Speaker 2: way that you 529 00:22:50,780 --> 00:22:54,669 Speaker 1: are. Let's share some styling tips. You know, to help 530 00:22:54,670 --> 00:22:57,590 Speaker 1: your confidence help you find a personal style producer. M 531 00:22:57,590 --> 00:23:01,120 Speaker 1: says I think every girl should own a blazer because 532 00:23:01,130 --> 00:23:04,770 Speaker 1: it makes you feel like a girl boss. Yes, 533 00:23:04,780 --> 00:23:07,920 Speaker 2: the pad, the ones that padded shoulder. Yeah, I think 534 00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:09,240 Speaker 2: the ones look really good. 535 00:23:09,250 --> 00:23:09,380 Speaker 2: This 536 00:23:09,380 --> 00:23:11,670 Speaker 1: is my other problem. Let me tell you blazer right? 537 00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:15,050 Speaker 1: Must have like bad, it must have like side must 538 00:23:15,050 --> 00:23:17,129 Speaker 1: have like fitted and then same color. You want it 539 00:23:17,130 --> 00:23:19,400 Speaker 1: in black and white but you want like different 540 00:23:19,410 --> 00:23:23,389 Speaker 2: how tough to be. Zura. Sometimes then I have a 541 00:23:23,390 --> 00:23:25,760 Speaker 2: tip for you. You should go to Zara or like 542 00:23:25,770 --> 00:23:29,230 Speaker 2: you know the outlets whenever when it's out of season. 543 00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:31,760 Speaker 2: That's when the blazers are always the cheapest. Then you 544 00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:34,270 Speaker 2: can buy every different design in every color. I cannot 545 00:23:34,270 --> 00:23:36,639 Speaker 1: space. Don't give her ideas. 546 00:23:37,380 --> 00:23:39,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, she's going to come to your house and put 547 00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:43,920 Speaker 1: her clothes in your house if you okay. So you 548 00:23:43,930 --> 00:23:46,920 Speaker 1: learn your body shape as we've said, learn colors that 549 00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:50,430 Speaker 1: actually complement your skin tone. That's very important. Now that 550 00:23:50,430 --> 00:23:51,119 Speaker 1: thing right? 551 00:23:51,240 --> 00:23:52,030 Speaker 2: Finding 552 00:23:52,030 --> 00:23:54,919 Speaker 1: your color is korean korean. Tell 553 00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:55,670 Speaker 2: me more about it. So 554 00:23:55,670 --> 00:23:58,530 Speaker 1: you can go to this like shop in Korea. I 555 00:23:58,530 --> 00:24:00,180 Speaker 1: don't think we have it here in Singapore. But you 556 00:24:00,180 --> 00:24:02,790 Speaker 1: can go to stores in Korea and they will basically 557 00:24:02,790 --> 00:24:05,459 Speaker 1: put different colored cloth on you and see which 558 00:24:05,510 --> 00:24:07,300 Speaker 1: color complements you best. They 559 00:24:07,300 --> 00:24:08,760 Speaker 2: see whether like a darker color suits. 560 00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:11,280 Speaker 1: You are a lighter color to your face. Pops with 561 00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:12,550 Speaker 1: this color or that color. 562 00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:14,460 Speaker 2: And this applies to make up as well. Right? Because 563 00:24:14,460 --> 00:24:16,980 Speaker 2: our skin tone, some of us are more cool. Some 564 00:24:16,980 --> 00:24:19,950 Speaker 2: of us belong to the more like warmer tone. So 565 00:24:19,960 --> 00:24:22,859 Speaker 2: gold or silver, whatever kind of color it really matters 566 00:24:22,859 --> 00:24:23,760 Speaker 2: as well. But 567 00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:27,050 Speaker 1: don't be afraid to try different styles because you never know. 568 00:24:27,060 --> 00:24:28,870 Speaker 1: Something might look really good on you but you're just 569 00:24:28,869 --> 00:24:30,980 Speaker 1: too afraid to try it, Pinterest is a very great 570 00:24:30,980 --> 00:24:33,520 Speaker 1: place to use it as a mood board. 571 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,440 Speaker 1: Okay. You can also kind of like ask yourself questions 572 00:24:36,450 --> 00:24:39,310 Speaker 1: what makes you feel happy when you think of clothes, right? 573 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:43,280 Speaker 1: Is it the cutting, is it the color? Is it? Yeah, 574 00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:46,020 Speaker 1: the prints and then just explore from there 575 00:24:46,030 --> 00:24:48,420 Speaker 2: is another way that you can style yourself is also 576 00:24:48,420 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 2: to follow people that you like. Like I follow a 577 00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:55,210 Speaker 2: lot of influences from like Thailand Malaysia, even like U. 578 00:24:55,210 --> 00:24:57,310 Speaker 2: K U. S. And I just look at what they're 579 00:24:57,310 --> 00:25:00,530 Speaker 2: wearing whether it applies to me as well. And when 580 00:25:00,530 --> 00:25:01,740 Speaker 2: I shop, I actually shot 581 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:04,300 Speaker 2: with an agenda in mind based on all these pictures 582 00:25:04,300 --> 00:25:06,950 Speaker 2: that I've seen and instagram has to say function. Right? 583 00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:07,870 Speaker 1: So a lot of times I just 584 00:25:07,869 --> 00:25:10,710 Speaker 2: save it and when I need like inspiration and just 585 00:25:10,710 --> 00:25:14,240 Speaker 2: go back to my like saved polls, just scroll through it. 586 00:25:14,250 --> 00:25:17,180 Speaker 1: Actually, maybe what you can also do is to look 587 00:25:17,180 --> 00:25:20,440 Speaker 1: at these people who have similar body types to you 588 00:25:20,450 --> 00:25:24,850 Speaker 1: and then that helps, right? And then it's like more 589 00:25:24,850 --> 00:25:28,200 Speaker 1: visual for you. Like, oh, this person can wear this like, okay, 590 00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:29,869 Speaker 1: I can try that too. Right? 591 00:25:29,890 --> 00:25:33,030 Speaker 1: I look at short people and I see what they are. 592 00:25:33,030 --> 00:25:33,240 Speaker 1: Very 593 00:25:33,250 --> 00:25:34,190 Speaker 2: pretty people. Thank 594 00:25:34,190 --> 00:25:38,180 Speaker 1: you. Small people like Ariana grande for example, then I'll 595 00:25:38,180 --> 00:25:40,609 Speaker 1: see like what she wears now, see where she shops 596 00:25:40,609 --> 00:25:42,760 Speaker 1: at and then I'll go to that store and I'll 597 00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:45,909 Speaker 1: know this will fit me because I'm tiny and the 598 00:25:45,910 --> 00:25:47,859 Speaker 1: pants won't be too long for example. 599 00:25:47,869 --> 00:25:49,920 Speaker 2: And when you put up your own social media content 600 00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:52,310 Speaker 2: as well, I think other petite girls out there, look 601 00:25:52,310 --> 00:25:54,920 Speaker 2: at your content and think, oh if jermaine can pull 602 00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:56,540 Speaker 2: this off, maybe I can 603 00:25:56,550 --> 00:25:58,000 Speaker 1: yesterday I just, 604 00:25:58,020 --> 00:26:02,690 Speaker 1: the top, the top cute, it broke, the zipper broke. Oh, 605 00:26:02,690 --> 00:26:05,420 Speaker 1: is that why you came to my ward? Different talk 606 00:26:05,420 --> 00:26:07,929 Speaker 1: when I came to work. But yeah, I mean wardrobe 607 00:26:07,930 --> 00:26:10,960 Speaker 1: malfunctions happen, let's just say, so you bring an extra 608 00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:14,189 Speaker 1: pair of you go out but you're finding your confidence 609 00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:16,900 Speaker 1: is getting out of your comfort zone be it, it 610 00:26:16,900 --> 00:26:19,320 Speaker 1: doesn't just have to be your style, your own confidence 611 00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:22,020 Speaker 1: as well. Yeah, and when you try new things, I 612 00:26:22,020 --> 00:26:23,220 Speaker 1: feel like that empowers you, 613 00:26:23,230 --> 00:26:25,900 Speaker 2: correct? So in the previous episode, I was this like 614 00:26:25,900 --> 00:26:26,130 Speaker 2: dad 615 00:26:26,140 --> 00:26:27,410 Speaker 2: named top right 616 00:26:27,869 --> 00:26:28,270 Speaker 1: back. 617 00:26:28,550 --> 00:26:31,530 Speaker 2: Yes, I really love it when I saw in Zara, 618 00:26:31,540 --> 00:26:33,350 Speaker 2: I took it off the hook right away and I 619 00:26:33,350 --> 00:26:36,000 Speaker 2: bought it. So it's meant to be like at the back, 620 00:26:36,010 --> 00:26:38,510 Speaker 2: it's bareback. So I actually wore this piece when I 621 00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:42,200 Speaker 2: interviewed Jackson wing, he came over to the and we 622 00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:45,040 Speaker 2: made like this Tiktok, right? So in that Tiktok um 623 00:26:45,050 --> 00:26:47,380 Speaker 2: there was a side profile shot and like people could 624 00:26:47,380 --> 00:26:50,709 Speaker 2: see the back of my top and there was actually 625 00:26:50,710 --> 00:26:54,270 Speaker 2: one comment on my instagram by this fellow called Elaine, 626 00:26:54,450 --> 00:26:57,750 Speaker 2: I don't know this person, but she commented something like 627 00:26:57,760 --> 00:27:00,609 Speaker 2: why do you have to wear like this? Can you 628 00:27:00,609 --> 00:27:04,140 Speaker 2: please just spend more time focusing on your hosting skills? 629 00:27:04,450 --> 00:27:09,790 Speaker 2: And this made me feel very perplexed and confused. So 630 00:27:09,790 --> 00:27:12,450 Speaker 2: I replied, what has, what I wear got to do 631 00:27:12,450 --> 00:27:13,680 Speaker 2: with my hosting skills? 632 00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:16,810 Speaker 1: True. So I'm very angry. She wear like that you 633 00:27:16,810 --> 00:27:21,070 Speaker 1: never eat, man, know what I don't understand. I does 634 00:27:21,070 --> 00:27:23,930 Speaker 1: it affect you in any way you never eat, you 635 00:27:23,930 --> 00:27:25,830 Speaker 1: break out in hives smell because you were like that. 636 00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:29,119 Speaker 2: Exactly. So I'm just very bad for, you know, So 637 00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,840 Speaker 2: when I asked her that she actually replied, she said, oh, 638 00:27:31,970 --> 00:27:34,699 Speaker 2: I don't mean it that way, I just mean that 639 00:27:34,710 --> 00:27:38,600 Speaker 2: you should spend more time holding your hosting skills because 640 00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:40,820 Speaker 2: you're one of the newer DJs in Yes, Jason's and 641 00:27:40,830 --> 00:27:43,550 Speaker 2: so like before I could get to that reply, I 642 00:27:43,550 --> 00:27:47,360 Speaker 2: realized that she deleted the entire threat. I couldn't read 643 00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:49,640 Speaker 2: it anymore. But I'm just thinking, okay, if you want 644 00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,210 Speaker 2: to say these nasty things in the first place, then 645 00:27:52,220 --> 00:27:55,510 Speaker 2: why bother deleting it at the end? Because 646 00:27:55,510 --> 00:27:58,530 Speaker 1: sometimes they don't realize like the tone that it comes 647 00:27:58,530 --> 00:27:59,450 Speaker 1: off in there. 648 00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:01,290 Speaker 1: Don't realize that you actually see it 649 00:28:01,300 --> 00:28:05,250 Speaker 2: perhaps. But I feel like confidences upon reading such messages, 650 00:28:05,260 --> 00:28:07,939 Speaker 2: I still feel like I stand by my style. 651 00:28:07,950 --> 00:28:08,490 Speaker 1: I would 652 00:28:08,490 --> 00:28:11,090 Speaker 2: still wear that top because I love it and I 653 00:28:11,090 --> 00:28:14,510 Speaker 2: feel like it makes me happy and confident 654 00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:17,060 Speaker 1: and it has nothing to do with your hosting skills 655 00:28:17,710 --> 00:28:18,510 Speaker 1: that they're 656 00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:22,369 Speaker 2: two completely separate issues. Okay, So I hope that people 657 00:28:22,369 --> 00:28:25,020 Speaker 2: out there realize it and maybe give more thought to 658 00:28:25,020 --> 00:28:26,990 Speaker 2: your comments before you post them online. 659 00:28:27,420 --> 00:28:31,340 Speaker 1: I think for me for a long time I like 660 00:28:31,350 --> 00:28:36,200 Speaker 1: loud pieces, right? My style has been very loud. Yes. 661 00:28:36,210 --> 00:28:37,750 Speaker 2: Colors prints. 662 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:41,150 Speaker 1: Yes, right. And my friends will always be like, 663 00:28:41,740 --> 00:28:44,470 Speaker 1: you really cannot wear normal things, but I don't care. 664 00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:47,490 Speaker 1: I don't care. The point that when I do wear like, 665 00:28:47,500 --> 00:28:50,100 Speaker 1: let's say a jeans and a T shirt, they're like, 666 00:28:50,110 --> 00:28:53,410 Speaker 1: why are you wearing this? I'm like, I cannot, 667 00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:57,490 Speaker 1: yeah, I think compete with yourself, right? Instead of competing 668 00:28:57,490 --> 00:29:00,090 Speaker 1: with others. Yeah. Always trying to one up your own 669 00:29:00,090 --> 00:29:03,370 Speaker 1: style that every day she comes in a more and 670 00:29:03,370 --> 00:29:06,260 Speaker 1: more loud outfit. But we love it. Love it. Look 671 00:29:06,260 --> 00:29:10,270 Speaker 1: at the feathers. I know don't outfit. It's good. I 672 00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:12,870 Speaker 1: don't care what people say. If you stick to your 673 00:29:12,870 --> 00:29:15,560 Speaker 1: style and what makes you happy eventually, they'll just accept it. 674 00:29:15,810 --> 00:29:16,930 Speaker 1: It's true. You 675 00:29:16,940 --> 00:29:20,190 Speaker 2: know, really, really like even confidence. If you fake confidence 676 00:29:20,190 --> 00:29:22,630 Speaker 2: long enough, you eventually really be confident. Have you heard 677 00:29:22,630 --> 00:29:23,030 Speaker 2: of this? 678 00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:24,490 Speaker 1: Fake it? Till you make it? Yes, correct, 679 00:29:24,490 --> 00:29:27,110 Speaker 2: correct, correct. And I've heard of this, quote, what you 680 00:29:27,110 --> 00:29:30,820 Speaker 2: think you become. So a lot of things actually happen 681 00:29:30,830 --> 00:29:35,770 Speaker 2: like up here. Just give yourself a positive affirmations every 682 00:29:35,770 --> 00:29:38,250 Speaker 2: day and your day will be better. You 683 00:29:38,250 --> 00:29:39,420 Speaker 1: guys know Warren Buffett? 684 00:29:39,430 --> 00:29:42,260 Speaker 1: Of course, yeah. Rich guy, Right? He says that the 685 00:29:42,260 --> 00:29:45,050 Speaker 1: big question about how people behave is whether they've got 686 00:29:45,050 --> 00:29:48,510 Speaker 1: an inner scorecard or an outer scorecard, you can be 687 00:29:48,510 --> 00:29:51,950 Speaker 1: satisfied with an inner scorecard. So that's who you are 688 00:29:51,950 --> 00:29:55,070 Speaker 1: on the inside. Okay? Yeah. If you're only judging yourself 689 00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:57,830 Speaker 1: based on your outer scorecard, which is how you look. 690 00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:00,430 Speaker 1: You know, things that you wear the, you know, the 691 00:30:00,430 --> 00:30:03,040 Speaker 1: jewelry that you have. You'll never be satisfied. 692 00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:08,890 Speaker 2: Mm It's definitely more important to feel happy inside. That's 693 00:30:08,890 --> 00:30:10,960 Speaker 1: right. Hype yourself up with affirmations. You can do that 694 00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:11,440 Speaker 1: as well, 695 00:30:11,450 --> 00:30:14,460 Speaker 2: write your own cheerleader. And I also feel like who 696 00:30:14,460 --> 00:30:16,860 Speaker 2: you surround yourself with is very important. The people you 697 00:30:16,860 --> 00:30:19,890 Speaker 2: follow on social media, if you choose to follow maybe 698 00:30:19,900 --> 00:30:23,070 Speaker 2: more uplifting women or like people who always like spreads 699 00:30:23,070 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 2: positivity high chances you become a more positive person. 700 00:30:26,610 --> 00:30:29,420 Speaker 1: That's true. That's true. And also like your friends around you. 701 00:30:29,430 --> 00:30:31,890 Speaker 1: Like if they always build you up and like you 702 00:30:31,890 --> 00:30:32,000 Speaker 1: look 703 00:30:32,010 --> 00:30:34,220 Speaker 1: so good today, which we always do every single day, 704 00:30:34,230 --> 00:30:34,760 Speaker 1: we 705 00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:35,650 Speaker 2: always say that to each 706 00:30:35,650 --> 00:30:38,790 Speaker 1: other yesterday. We just saw him. He looks so good today. 707 00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:41,320 Speaker 1: So cute. So things like that. I think that really 708 00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:43,310 Speaker 1: can help. I think you have to be very careful 709 00:30:43,310 --> 00:30:47,240 Speaker 1: with what you consume, especially online because whether you're conscious 710 00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:51,630 Speaker 1: or not conscious, whatever you're consuming is gonna feed your mind. Yeah. 711 00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:53,890 Speaker 1: So you got to consume the right things 712 00:30:53,900 --> 00:30:54,990 Speaker 2: correct, correct, 713 00:30:54,990 --> 00:30:57,650 Speaker 1: correct. So just some final thoughts after, you know this 714 00:30:57,650 --> 00:31:00,180 Speaker 1: discussion today. How confident do you girls feel 715 00:31:00,190 --> 00:31:00,969 Speaker 1: by yourselves? 716 00:31:00,980 --> 00:31:04,420 Speaker 2: Like my inner scorecard or my daughter? I 717 00:31:04,430 --> 00:31:05,480 Speaker 1: think in a scorecard 718 00:31:05,490 --> 00:31:08,040 Speaker 2: In a scorecard, well, I can't say I'm a 10 719 00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:12,480 Speaker 2: out of 10, but I feel like eight on good days, 720 00:31:12,490 --> 00:31:16,410 Speaker 2: 6.5 on bad days. I mean we all have good 721 00:31:16,410 --> 00:31:17,100 Speaker 2: and bad days, right? 722 00:31:17,100 --> 00:31:19,640 Speaker 1: That's true, right? I completely agree. I mean, you know, 723 00:31:19,650 --> 00:31:21,720 Speaker 1: some days you feel like a 10, some days you 724 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:26,030 Speaker 1: feel like 20, some days you feel zero and it's ok. Yeah, 725 00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,360 Speaker 1: there are ups and downs in lives and 726 00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:31,920 Speaker 1: um it doesn't matter if you know you feel bad today, 727 00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:33,350 Speaker 1: like we always say a bad day doesn't mean a 728 00:31:33,350 --> 00:31:34,600 Speaker 1: bad life, right? 729 00:31:34,610 --> 00:31:37,590 Speaker 2: What is one practice that you would do to sort 730 00:31:37,590 --> 00:31:39,590 Speaker 2: of like, increase that self love? 731 00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:42,880 Speaker 1: Actually, I really believe in self affirmations. It's something that 732 00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:44,960 Speaker 1: I've adopted in the last, like, I would want 733 00:31:44,980 --> 00:31:47,700 Speaker 1: six months to a year. So every day as I'm 734 00:31:47,700 --> 00:31:50,400 Speaker 1: driving right to my first appointment of the day I'm 735 00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:53,160 Speaker 1: driving and I'm telling myself, you're a badass bitch, you're 736 00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:56,050 Speaker 1: gonna kill it today. You look amazing, you're a queen, 737 00:31:56,050 --> 00:31:58,190 Speaker 1: You deserve to be treated like a queen. I talk 738 00:31:58,190 --> 00:32:00,060 Speaker 1: to myself, then other people will look in and be like, 739 00:32:00,060 --> 00:32:01,450 Speaker 1: why is she fighting with somebody? 740 00:32:01,860 --> 00:32:04,090 Speaker 1: And it really helped set the tone for my day. 741 00:32:04,100 --> 00:32:08,750 Speaker 1: And when you do self affirmations, I genuinely believe that 742 00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:11,000 Speaker 1: it rubs off on people. If you tell yourself you're 743 00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:12,450 Speaker 1: a queen, people see you as a queen, 744 00:32:12,460 --> 00:32:13,210 Speaker 2: you're a 745 00:32:13,210 --> 00:32:14,150 Speaker 1: queen, you're a 746 00:32:14,150 --> 00:32:15,280 Speaker 2: queen baby come 747 00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:15,800 Speaker 1: from. 748 00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:21,820 Speaker 1: What about um I feel like when you feel down 749 00:32:21,820 --> 00:32:24,500 Speaker 1: or you feel a little bit off or whatever it is, right? 750 00:32:24,510 --> 00:32:28,190 Speaker 1: Give yourself that time, but you gotta know when to 751 00:32:28,190 --> 00:32:31,600 Speaker 1: step out of it and then find something that will 752 00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:34,100 Speaker 1: make you happy that day. It could be anything, it 753 00:32:34,100 --> 00:32:36,360 Speaker 1: could be nothing, but I think like there's so much 754 00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:38,190 Speaker 1: in the world and there's so much in life for 755 00:32:38,190 --> 00:32:40,490 Speaker 1: you not to find anything to be happy about, you know? 756 00:32:40,500 --> 00:32:43,830 Speaker 2: Yes, Yes, Yes. My answer is very similar, I feel 757 00:32:43,830 --> 00:32:45,270 Speaker 2: like when I'm down slow, 758 00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:48,030 Speaker 2: this is actually true. You realize that after a good 759 00:32:48,030 --> 00:32:50,440 Speaker 2: night's sleep, right, you wake up feeling better and more 760 00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:53,280 Speaker 2: confident about yourself. Secondly, I just want to say it's 761 00:32:53,290 --> 00:32:56,160 Speaker 2: okay to treat yourself to the cake or that muffin 762 00:32:56,170 --> 00:32:58,090 Speaker 2: every once in a while just to make yourself feel 763 00:32:58,090 --> 00:33:01,180 Speaker 2: a bit better. And thirdly always speak with someone that 764 00:33:01,190 --> 00:33:03,620 Speaker 2: you love and you know, loves you back because this 765 00:33:03,620 --> 00:33:08,700 Speaker 2: is a very important source of positivity Yeah, talking is 766 00:33:08,700 --> 00:33:11,350 Speaker 2: actually more important than we think it may be your 767 00:33:11,350 --> 00:33:11,750 Speaker 2: support 768 00:33:11,750 --> 00:33:13,030 Speaker 1: system around you 769 00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:15,480 Speaker 1: really help you build confidence. 770 00:33:15,490 --> 00:33:18,959 Speaker 2: So all in all gaining confidence is a gradual process. 771 00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:21,390 Speaker 2: You may not get there today, tomorrow or even next 772 00:33:21,390 --> 00:33:24,380 Speaker 2: year next month, but you know, step by step bit 773 00:33:24,380 --> 00:33:26,780 Speaker 2: by bit, I'm sure you'll be more confident than we 774 00:33:26,780 --> 00:33:28,560 Speaker 2: are yesterday. Yes, I 775 00:33:28,570 --> 00:33:30,970 Speaker 1: love that. I think it's about self awareness. You know, 776 00:33:30,970 --> 00:33:33,550 Speaker 1: when you catch yourself then you know the right things 777 00:33:33,550 --> 00:33:35,110 Speaker 1: to tell yourself as well. 778 00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:38,380 Speaker 2: Thank you all you confident people for tuning into this 779 00:33:38,390 --> 00:33:39,860 Speaker 2: episode of clarity's. 780 00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:41,940 Speaker 1: Don't 781 00:33:41,940 --> 00:33:44,820 Speaker 2: forget to follow us on instagram at its clarity dot com. 782 00:33:44,830 --> 00:33:47,500 Speaker 1: Listen to us on me listen Spotify as well as 783 00:33:47,510 --> 00:33:50,900 Speaker 1: apple podcasts and turn on the notifications to know when 784 00:33:50,900 --> 00:33:52,950 Speaker 1: our new episode drops and check us out on youtube 785 00:33:52,950 --> 00:33:55,180 Speaker 1: as well so you can see our outfit 786 00:33:55,190 --> 00:33:57,810 Speaker 2: so beautiful and don't forget about at the end of 787 00:33:57,810 --> 00:33:58,720 Speaker 1: the month. Yes, yes, 788 00:33:58,730 --> 00:34:00,590 Speaker 2: yes, I'm hazel 789 00:34:01,770 --> 00:34:02,390 Speaker 1: and we'll see you next 790 00:34:02,390 --> 00:34:02,780 Speaker 2: time. 791 00:34:03,540 --> 00:34:03,990 Speaker 2: Mhm.