1 00:00:00,009 --> 00:00:04,710 Speaker 1: Five years and then you can ghost for a week. 2 00:00:04,719 --> 00:00:06,019 Speaker 1: That's quite, that's damn 3 00:00:06,030 --> 00:00:09,079 Speaker 2: rude. Thank you for giving her for giving her cheat already. 4 00:00:09,159 --> 00:00:09,979 Speaker 2: Leave 5 00:00:16,309 --> 00:00:20,278 Speaker 2: happy New Year everyone. It's officially 2024. 0 my God. 6 00:00:20,288 --> 00:00:22,857 Speaker 2: Welcome back to the hot pot. I'm Q, I'm Joey. 7 00:00:22,868 --> 00:00:25,207 Speaker 2: I'm Nick. And if you are new to the channel 8 00:00:25,218 --> 00:00:27,929 Speaker 2: and to the hot pot, if you haven't subscribed yet, 9 00:00:27,938 --> 00:00:32,687 Speaker 2: remember to subscribe now. And if you are already a subscriber, hey, 10 00:00:32,699 --> 00:00:36,598 Speaker 2: thanks for bringing the good vibes from 2023 over to 11 00:00:36,609 --> 00:00:38,199 Speaker 2: 2024 with us, man. Yeah, 12 00:00:38,219 --> 00:00:43,089 Speaker 1: man. OK, guys. Guess what by popular demand we are 13 00:00:43,098 --> 00:00:43,719 Speaker 1: doing 14 00:00:43,869 --> 00:00:50,250 Speaker 1: Singapore's worst breakup stories from Nick's favorite at Reddit. Love it. 15 00:00:50,459 --> 00:00:53,598 Speaker 1: What a way to start the year breakup stories there. 16 00:00:53,610 --> 00:00:56,849 Speaker 1: I got to say right, I'm very excited, but I 17 00:00:56,860 --> 00:00:59,930 Speaker 1: also really hope that this can talk our previous videos 18 00:00:59,939 --> 00:01:01,919 Speaker 1: because it was so fun. 19 00:01:02,029 --> 00:01:05,419 Speaker 2: Yeah. So if you guys haven't watched our first red episode, 20 00:01:05,470 --> 00:01:07,949 Speaker 2: it was episode 10. So go and watch it after 21 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:11,289 Speaker 2: this and it was about Singapore's worst first dates. 22 00:01:11,790 --> 00:01:14,120 Speaker 2: So now we fast forward the entire relationship done already. 23 00:01:14,129 --> 00:01:18,629 Speaker 2: Then now we Singapore's worst breakup. Oh my God. Actually, 24 00:01:18,779 --> 00:01:21,580 Speaker 2: I'm quite curious. Like, do people normally break up at 25 00:01:21,589 --> 00:01:23,589 Speaker 2: the start of the year at the end of the season? 26 00:01:24,239 --> 00:01:26,769 Speaker 2: Around March is breakup season? Oh, no, no. You know 27 00:01:26,779 --> 00:01:27,399 Speaker 1: why March 28 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:31,128 Speaker 1: after they take the money from the boyfriend's family break 29 00:01:31,339 --> 00:01:31,889 Speaker 1: up done? 30 00:01:32,690 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 2: I 31 00:01:32,750 --> 00:01:35,690 Speaker 1: got more. You go and ping with their family. You 32 00:01:35,699 --> 00:01:38,139 Speaker 1: got double your site. You sh seeing 33 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:42,069 Speaker 2: double happiness, a friend, right. That you must, you should 34 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:45,229 Speaker 2: break up in November. So you see, I don't buy 35 00:01:45,239 --> 00:01:48,300 Speaker 2: Christmas present. Don't spend too much money celebrating New Year's 36 00:01:48,309 --> 00:01:51,300 Speaker 2: Eve and then like, you don't come out Valentine's Day 37 00:01:51,309 --> 00:01:53,220 Speaker 2: or your friends still single. Yeah, 38 00:01:53,709 --> 00:01:54,980 Speaker 1: that's why. Ok. 39 00:01:55,860 --> 00:01:59,349 Speaker 2: Move on to the episode. Our first story. Oh my God. OK. 40 00:02:00,389 --> 00:02:03,879 Speaker 2: Again like a book. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Story number one 41 00:02:03,889 --> 00:02:08,008 Speaker 2: by user cattery sign. I was in a bad spot 42 00:02:08,020 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 2: and was unwilling to emotionally commit to a relationship but 43 00:02:11,889 --> 00:02:13,570 Speaker 2: she chased me hard. 44 00:02:14,929 --> 00:02:21,440 Speaker 2: Got a comma. So III I gave in after three 45 00:02:21,449 --> 00:02:27,070 Speaker 2: months and the next six were amazing. Then her behavior changed. 46 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:31,270 Speaker 2: Our texting frequency dried up like water in the Sahara. 47 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:35,169 Speaker 2: The sex was still good but I could sense something 48 00:02:35,179 --> 00:02:39,019 Speaker 2: was up. I eventually caught her cheating on me. She 49 00:02:39,029 --> 00:02:42,359 Speaker 2: begged for forgiveness and I gave in, she cheated on 50 00:02:42,369 --> 00:02:46,039 Speaker 2: me two more times. I also forgave her the second 51 00:02:46,050 --> 00:02:49,970 Speaker 2: time what's going on. But the final straw was when 52 00:02:49,979 --> 00:02:53,990 Speaker 2: her dad texted me. When I was overseas asking if 53 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:56,960 Speaker 2: I knew where his daughter was. She hadn't been home 54 00:02:56,970 --> 00:02:59,380 Speaker 2: for a few days and wasn't answering her phone. 55 00:03:00,008 --> 00:03:02,779 Speaker 2: Turns out she had been checked up with her UNI 56 00:03:02,788 --> 00:03:06,210 Speaker 2: CC mate ever since she sent me off at the 57 00:03:06,220 --> 00:03:09,059 Speaker 2: airport with a kiss. What this story? Damn long? 58 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:11,179 Speaker 1: My jaw damn tired. 59 00:03:13,029 --> 00:03:16,139 Speaker 2: When I got back to Singapore. I put all her 60 00:03:16,149 --> 00:03:19,070 Speaker 2: stuff in a box and dropped it off at her parents. 61 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:22,919 Speaker 2: She came to my place crying asking why I had 62 00:03:22,929 --> 00:03:26,660 Speaker 2: done that. Why I had done, sorry can say again 63 00:03:29,179 --> 00:03:33,119 Speaker 2: she came to my place crying asking why I had 64 00:03:33,130 --> 00:03:37,360 Speaker 2: done that. Eight months later, she contacted me via an intermediary. 65 00:03:37,369 --> 00:03:38,839 Speaker 2: Turns out she got knocked up 66 00:03:40,110 --> 00:03:43,940 Speaker 2: my God, what's going on? It is a freaking like 67 00:03:43,949 --> 00:03:49,070 Speaker 2: T series. Then she asked, would you marry me? But 68 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:51,350 Speaker 2: I don't want an abortion and I think you'd be 69 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:53,740 Speaker 2: a better father than that guy. I hung up without 70 00:03:53,750 --> 00:04:04,690 Speaker 2: responding the skin, the skin. Really? Damn audacity. Yeah. OK. OK. OK. OK. 71 00:04:04,699 --> 00:04:06,020 Speaker 2: There's a lot to unpack here. 72 00:04:06,285 --> 00:04:08,485 Speaker 1: I am shook. And first 73 00:04:08,494 --> 00:04:10,404 Speaker 2: of all, like the guy also asking for a bit 74 00:04:10,414 --> 00:04:13,725 Speaker 2: by like he, he forgiving her for giving her cheat 75 00:04:13,735 --> 00:04:17,704 Speaker 2: already leave. She is one time offense guys like straight 76 00:04:17,714 --> 00:04:18,174 Speaker 2: red card. I 77 00:04:18,184 --> 00:04:21,553 Speaker 1: was just having this conversation with a friend recently like 78 00:04:21,565 --> 00:04:26,964 Speaker 1: I despise cheating like it is the worst, absolute crime 79 00:04:26,975 --> 00:04:29,914 Speaker 1: of disrespect and dishonor to your family and your family's 80 00:04:29,924 --> 00:04:30,255 Speaker 1: cow 81 00:04:30,265 --> 00:04:32,424 Speaker 2: and your ancestors. Yeah. But 82 00:04:32,910 --> 00:04:35,720 Speaker 1: I feel like if it was done to you because 83 00:04:35,730 --> 00:04:38,959 Speaker 1: of the history and especially if you have Children or 84 00:04:39,010 --> 00:04:42,380 Speaker 1: if you just bought a house or like depending on 85 00:04:42,390 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 1: the circumstance, right? I think it depends on the cheating. 86 00:04:44,649 --> 00:04:48,238 Speaker 1: Also not to say that we can count. But 87 00:04:48,678 --> 00:04:50,250 Speaker 1: I feel like it's not as simple as you treat 88 00:04:50,309 --> 00:04:54,420 Speaker 1: me by not so simple to cut the tie and I, 89 00:04:54,428 --> 00:04:58,410 Speaker 1: I can kind of sympathize as to why some people 90 00:04:58,420 --> 00:05:01,039 Speaker 1: are willing to let it go. And I wouldn't say 91 00:05:01,049 --> 00:05:02,609 Speaker 1: that you stupid. Who asked you? Because 92 00:05:02,959 --> 00:05:05,480 Speaker 2: your partner drunk, how? I don't think it's an excuse. No, 93 00:05:05,488 --> 00:05:06,700 Speaker 2: I don't think it's, I think black 94 00:05:06,709 --> 00:05:08,480 Speaker 1: out drunk they have sex a bit. Like can you 95 00:05:08,488 --> 00:05:10,469 Speaker 1: do better? Like can you come up a better excuse? 96 00:05:10,605 --> 00:05:13,524 Speaker 2: Also? I don't think you still can conduct, 97 00:05:13,975 --> 00:05:17,784 Speaker 1: you can stand up co That's right. OK. Sheldon 98 00:05:17,795 --> 00:05:18,494 Speaker 2: Cooper. 99 00:05:19,774 --> 00:05:22,224 Speaker 1: And it was worse you emotional or physical, physical. 100 00:05:22,934 --> 00:05:26,265 Speaker 2: I feel like if someone came home to me right 101 00:05:26,274 --> 00:05:28,915 Speaker 2: after having sex with someone else, I feel like you 102 00:05:28,924 --> 00:05:32,424 Speaker 2: damn dirty. It's true. But I think if someone 103 00:05:32,678 --> 00:05:35,549 Speaker 2: has fallen in love with another person, I feel more 104 00:05:35,559 --> 00:05:40,059 Speaker 2: hurt and disappointed than angry. That's true. Yeah. Different emotions. 105 00:05:40,549 --> 00:05:43,599 Speaker 2: But let's talk about her getting pregnant. She pre 106 00:05:43,829 --> 00:05:45,709 Speaker 1: that she proposed it. Yeah, I 107 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 2: think just really like, wow, what is the top process? No, 108 00:05:49,450 --> 00:05:52,279 Speaker 2: I think right. Maybe like the other guy is better 109 00:05:52,290 --> 00:05:56,010 Speaker 2: at the act of quarter. And then, but then the 110 00:05:56,019 --> 00:05:58,619 Speaker 2: original guy is a more man. She 111 00:05:58,630 --> 00:05:59,940 Speaker 1: loved this guy but she 112 00:06:00,037 --> 00:06:01,097 Speaker 1: last the other guy. 113 00:06:01,298 --> 00:06:06,877 Speaker 2: Yeah. Next story by user otherwise. Ok. 8902. 1st break up, 114 00:06:06,888 --> 00:06:09,837 Speaker 2: he told me I was lost for being agnostic. We 115 00:06:09,847 --> 00:06:14,048 Speaker 2: were already an interfaith interracial relationship when we got back 116 00:06:14,058 --> 00:06:16,376 Speaker 2: together by his big act of love which I didn't 117 00:06:16,388 --> 00:06:19,738 Speaker 2: saw as love bombing. We eventually got engaged. I was 118 00:06:19,747 --> 00:06:21,996 Speaker 2: getting stressed because I wasn't on good terms with his 119 00:06:22,007 --> 00:06:26,058 Speaker 2: sister who is dot dot dot A big bitch. He 120 00:06:26,067 --> 00:06:27,277 Speaker 2: was also a mama 121 00:06:27,395 --> 00:06:30,455 Speaker 2: boy. The family. It's like 122 00:06:30,466 --> 00:06:32,536 Speaker 1: double whammy. This is the worst combo. 123 00:06:32,545 --> 00:06:35,445 Speaker 2: Mama's boy is ok. But if you don't get along 124 00:06:35,455 --> 00:06:36,335 Speaker 2: with your mother in law, then it's a 125 00:06:36,346 --> 00:06:39,226 Speaker 1: problem. Yeah. No, I think mama's boy, it depends like 126 00:06:39,335 --> 00:06:42,786 Speaker 1: you can be so soon but you can be, you 127 00:06:42,795 --> 00:06:46,015 Speaker 1: can be respectful to your mom. But being a mama's boy, 128 00:06:46,026 --> 00:06:47,696 Speaker 1: not so much the way he treats the mom is 129 00:06:47,705 --> 00:06:52,175 Speaker 1: more how overly attached the mom is like hawking over 130 00:06:52,186 --> 00:06:54,545 Speaker 1: his life like you want to do for my son. No, 131 00:06:54,555 --> 00:06:54,656 Speaker 1: I 132 00:06:54,753 --> 00:06:56,294 Speaker 1: do it better. No, he doesn't like it this way 133 00:06:56,303 --> 00:06:56,683 Speaker 1: or it's like a 134 00:06:56,694 --> 00:07:00,623 Speaker 2: competition you choose me. I told him once that I 135 00:07:00,634 --> 00:07:03,563 Speaker 2: felt like calling off the engagement and he immediately told 136 00:07:03,574 --> 00:07:05,653 Speaker 2: my parents and we had to have a talk to 137 00:07:05,664 --> 00:07:08,493 Speaker 2: prevent me from doing so I wanted to because he 138 00:07:08,503 --> 00:07:11,403 Speaker 2: wasn't truthful about the few months we were together. So 139 00:07:11,414 --> 00:07:13,174 Speaker 2: when I really broke up with him, first thing he 140 00:07:13,183 --> 00:07:14,484 Speaker 2: did was revenge porn. 141 00:07:14,493 --> 00:07:17,734 Speaker 1: Revenge porn means he posts her videos online. I 142 00:07:17,743 --> 00:07:19,433 Speaker 2: had to go to the police three times to report 143 00:07:19,444 --> 00:07:22,003 Speaker 2: this dude because he started creating accounts, Impersonating my 144 00:07:22,111 --> 00:07:24,242 Speaker 2: to talk to my dad. And then the next time 145 00:07:24,252 --> 00:07:27,411 Speaker 2: Impersonating me on dating apps, kept fishing other guys. So 146 00:07:27,421 --> 00:07:29,842 Speaker 2: they will look for me in person at my house 147 00:07:29,851 --> 00:07:33,321 Speaker 2: or workplace. Wow, this guy needs to go to jail. 148 00:07:33,631 --> 00:07:33,951 Speaker 2: I'm 149 00:07:33,962 --> 00:07:37,201 Speaker 1: then in shock there like what people even more 150 00:07:37,212 --> 00:07:41,252 Speaker 2: to unpack. The one I thought the last one was crazy. 151 00:07:41,282 --> 00:07:42,131 Speaker 2: I I feel 152 00:07:42,141 --> 00:07:45,231 Speaker 1: like this girl is therapy and this guy needs to 153 00:07:45,242 --> 00:07:46,191 Speaker 1: pay for it. Yeah, 154 00:07:46,201 --> 00:07:48,291 Speaker 2: I mean, I think that's the scary thing also, I 155 00:07:48,302 --> 00:07:49,221 Speaker 2: feel like 156 00:07:50,200 --> 00:07:52,269 Speaker 2: you hear a lot of these kind of stories, right? 157 00:07:52,519 --> 00:07:55,149 Speaker 2: Like if someone is harassing you or stalking you right? 158 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:58,079 Speaker 2: There's not much that we can do. There was this 159 00:07:58,089 --> 00:08:01,589 Speaker 2: story in the newspaper where this boy was stalking and 160 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:06,390 Speaker 2: harassing this other boy. Then after that like the victims 161 00:08:06,399 --> 00:08:09,070 Speaker 2: that right? I think he's trying to restrain him or 162 00:08:09,079 --> 00:08:12,380 Speaker 2: something like that. Then the guy like like that, I 163 00:08:12,390 --> 00:08:13,690 Speaker 2: think he likes self defense. 164 00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:14,790 Speaker 1: They got charged, 165 00:08:14,809 --> 00:08:17,140 Speaker 2: it's gonna charge and it was after years of them 166 00:08:17,149 --> 00:08:18,109 Speaker 2: trying to get like the 167 00:08:18,299 --> 00:08:21,250 Speaker 2: authorities like to do something but cannot. So she's very 168 00:08:21,260 --> 00:08:23,179 Speaker 2: scary because, like, you imagine if you, oh my 169 00:08:23,190 --> 00:08:25,140 Speaker 1: God, why we have to wait for a crime to 170 00:08:25,149 --> 00:08:28,299 Speaker 1: happen or for someone's life to be in imminent danger? 171 00:08:28,309 --> 00:08:31,579 Speaker 2: I feel like the system, the system isn't really equipped 172 00:08:31,589 --> 00:08:33,140 Speaker 2: to deal with this kind of like, 173 00:08:33,799 --> 00:08:35,749 Speaker 2: really damn lot relationships. 174 00:08:35,758 --> 00:08:39,348 Speaker 1: It's hard because it needs to be quantifiable on paper. 175 00:08:39,359 --> 00:08:44,138 Speaker 1: And if they haven't done an actual offense, you know, 176 00:08:44,148 --> 00:08:46,098 Speaker 1: like if they say the harassing, the only thing you 177 00:08:46,109 --> 00:08:47,598 Speaker 1: can do is let him off with a warning and 178 00:08:47,609 --> 00:08:50,189 Speaker 1: tell him to stop if you need a restraining order. 179 00:08:50,198 --> 00:08:52,618 Speaker 1: So there's a lot of steps to do that and 180 00:08:52,629 --> 00:08:55,018 Speaker 1: not everyone has access to, 181 00:08:55,518 --> 00:08:59,818 Speaker 2: to all of that. This one not funny man. Not funny. Yeah. 182 00:08:59,828 --> 00:09:03,007 Speaker 2: But ok, aside from that, right, the revenge porn part 183 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:08,450 Speaker 2: something I always tell myself, don't never ever film anything 184 00:09:09,669 --> 00:09:13,260 Speaker 2: Joe. You back to the silence is very loud. But, 185 00:09:13,590 --> 00:09:18,099 Speaker 2: but personally, for me as an the couch that I 186 00:09:18,109 --> 00:09:21,270 Speaker 2: will never trust technology, I will never trust. I don't 187 00:09:21,280 --> 00:09:21,409 Speaker 2: trust 188 00:09:21,419 --> 00:09:24,650 Speaker 1: the cloud. I will say that obviously, you know, you 189 00:09:24,659 --> 00:09:26,299 Speaker 1: make your own decisions and 190 00:09:26,390 --> 00:09:28,940 Speaker 1: if you really trust the person on you, like it 191 00:09:28,950 --> 00:09:32,010 Speaker 1: comes to the risk that it might be seen by others. 192 00:09:32,020 --> 00:09:34,049 Speaker 1: You know, like not to say that when you, I mean, 193 00:09:34,059 --> 00:09:36,340 Speaker 1: you shouldn't really send it to people. You don't really know. 194 00:09:36,349 --> 00:09:38,729 Speaker 1: I don't really trust, you know, if let's say die, 195 00:09:38,739 --> 00:09:42,479 Speaker 1: die Charlie's phone gets hacked. I look them pretty good. 196 00:09:42,489 --> 00:09:45,710 Speaker 1: So whatever I look good. If I saw the model, 197 00:09:45,770 --> 00:09:46,150 Speaker 1: I look really 198 00:09:46,330 --> 00:09:48,440 Speaker 2: good. So I take away is that if you are 199 00:09:48,450 --> 00:09:51,090 Speaker 2: going to film anything right? Then you must do it 200 00:09:51,219 --> 00:09:53,770 Speaker 2: with the thought that like 201 00:09:54,130 --> 00:09:56,858 Speaker 2: this other people might see this? Ok. No, you use 202 00:09:56,869 --> 00:10:00,030 Speaker 2: a camera with SD card, then you can just say 203 00:10:00,469 --> 00:10:03,609 Speaker 2: in a safe. Ok. Can I actually burn you stomp 204 00:10:03,619 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 2: on it every time you want to watch? You must 205 00:10:05,010 --> 00:10:08,789 Speaker 2: go and take your card better than to watch together. 206 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:13,909 Speaker 1: My friend literally tried to bypass this and took Polaroids 207 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:19,179 Speaker 1: of his and his partners nether regions and kept it 208 00:10:19,190 --> 00:10:21,010 Speaker 1: in a drawer. But one day I 209 00:10:21,880 --> 00:10:24,960 Speaker 1: OK. Wait, wait, wait, wait, before we continue, click the 210 00:10:24,969 --> 00:10:31,189 Speaker 1: subscribe button right here. Ddddddd. Done. Drink some water. 211 00:10:31,869 --> 00:10:32,900 Speaker 1: Let's get back into it. 212 00:10:34,020 --> 00:10:36,250 Speaker 1: But one day I need to go and find the 213 00:10:36,260 --> 00:10:39,729 Speaker 1: passport and then I searched the drawer and then I 214 00:10:39,739 --> 00:10:42,409 Speaker 1: open like this is not a passport. 215 00:10:42,729 --> 00:10:46,729 Speaker 2: Yeah, like confirm physical is worse, right? Got 216 00:10:46,739 --> 00:10:47,210 Speaker 1: flash. 217 00:10:47,729 --> 00:10:51,739 Speaker 2: It's art, it's art artistic actually. Like I was, I 218 00:10:51,750 --> 00:10:52,710 Speaker 2: was reading on radio 219 00:10:52,905 --> 00:10:55,775 Speaker 2: right last time back in our parents and before the 220 00:10:55,784 --> 00:10:58,505 Speaker 2: days of digital cameras, if you want to take n 221 00:10:58,515 --> 00:11:00,994 Speaker 2: you use film, right? The guy then you need to 222 00:11:01,005 --> 00:11:03,554 Speaker 2: go and develop the film, right? So the guy developing 223 00:11:03,924 --> 00:11:05,875 Speaker 2: the film was you just see your news and then 224 00:11:05,885 --> 00:11:08,945 Speaker 2: this person posting on Reddit, right? He said he was 225 00:11:08,955 --> 00:11:12,505 Speaker 2: working part time in the film development like place LA. 226 00:11:13,015 --> 00:11:16,375 Speaker 2: Then he said that the uncle, right? Every single new 227 00:11:16,385 --> 00:11:19,135 Speaker 2: that comes his way. He keep a copy. See guys 228 00:11:19,659 --> 00:11:23,119 Speaker 2: never trust anyone. Anything, this revenge point thing, I mean, 229 00:11:23,130 --> 00:11:27,789 Speaker 2: avoidable and ok, but let's talk about the scenario where 230 00:11:27,799 --> 00:11:30,609 Speaker 2: let's say your partner insists on filming and you don't 231 00:11:30,619 --> 00:11:31,080 Speaker 2: want to, 232 00:11:31,109 --> 00:11:33,099 Speaker 1: that's bound down to. 233 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:36,460 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think there's a bigger issue with the whole relationship. Really. 234 00:11:36,469 --> 00:11:37,510 Speaker 2: Not just the Yeah, 235 00:11:37,700 --> 00:11:40,449 Speaker 1: no one ever films a video thinking that 236 00:11:41,080 --> 00:11:43,309 Speaker 1: their family is going to see their future employer is 237 00:11:43,320 --> 00:11:45,090 Speaker 1: gonna see it that the whole world is going to 238 00:11:45,099 --> 00:11:46,669 Speaker 1: look at you different. You know, I mean, look at 239 00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:48,780 Speaker 1: the internet and the comments when these things happen, they 240 00:11:48,789 --> 00:11:52,320 Speaker 1: shame the person. We are all sexual beings that we 241 00:11:52,330 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 1: all do things in a spot of the moment. Have 242 00:11:54,010 --> 00:11:55,579 Speaker 1: you never made a mistake in your life? Like why 243 00:11:55,590 --> 00:11:58,520 Speaker 1: are we shaming this person for exploring that part of 244 00:11:58,530 --> 00:12:02,739 Speaker 1: their sexuality? He decided to betray that he's the asshole 245 00:12:02,750 --> 00:12:03,780 Speaker 1: for it. She's not 246 00:12:03,789 --> 00:12:05,820 Speaker 2: stupid. Yeah, the 247 00:12:05,995 --> 00:12:09,666 Speaker 2: pronouns in use here are just an example can happen 248 00:12:09,676 --> 00:12:11,315 Speaker 2: either way. Yes, most 249 00:12:11,325 --> 00:12:12,895 Speaker 1: definitely can happen either way. So 250 00:12:12,905 --> 00:12:16,575 Speaker 2: like girl can also film guy without guys consent 100%. 251 00:12:16,585 --> 00:12:18,705 Speaker 2: So actually if this happens to you, right? What should 252 00:12:18,716 --> 00:12:18,835 Speaker 2: you 253 00:12:18,846 --> 00:12:23,574 Speaker 1: do? First of all castration for the guy and non chemical? Ok. 254 00:12:23,585 --> 00:12:27,116 Speaker 1: But realistically it really sucks when these things happen because 255 00:12:27,125 --> 00:12:29,445 Speaker 1: as much as you can damage control, let's say you 256 00:12:29,455 --> 00:12:30,815 Speaker 1: have the tools 257 00:12:30,910 --> 00:12:34,331 Speaker 1: and the money to hire a lawyer and to hire 258 00:12:34,341 --> 00:12:37,731 Speaker 1: a team and they will be on watch for the 259 00:12:37,742 --> 00:12:40,960 Speaker 1: video and every time it resurfaces they can contact the 260 00:12:40,971 --> 00:12:42,960 Speaker 1: website to get it taken down. But there's only so 261 00:12:42,971 --> 00:12:45,161 Speaker 1: much you can do because there are people who will 262 00:12:45,171 --> 00:12:48,151 Speaker 1: have the recording and they have the video, all they 263 00:12:48,160 --> 00:12:51,160 Speaker 1: need to do is maybe alter the title, alter a 264 00:12:51,171 --> 00:12:53,642 Speaker 1: little like frame of the video or change it. And 265 00:12:53,651 --> 00:12:56,192 Speaker 1: then it's harder to detect and harder to find. There's 266 00:12:56,202 --> 00:12:57,351 Speaker 1: only so much you can do. 267 00:12:57,679 --> 00:13:00,010 Speaker 1: And I mean, the best outcome will be that this 268 00:13:00,020 --> 00:13:03,650 Speaker 1: person gets punished for it by law, you know, and 269 00:13:03,659 --> 00:13:06,140 Speaker 1: that they hopefully will never get to do it again 270 00:13:06,150 --> 00:13:10,580 Speaker 1: to someone else. This is by user Lurk. She woke 271 00:13:10,590 --> 00:13:13,460 Speaker 1: me up because I had the night sweats and she 272 00:13:13,469 --> 00:13:16,250 Speaker 1: was convinced I had a I DS for some reason, 273 00:13:16,260 --> 00:13:19,739 Speaker 1: I decided to appease her and got a full CD screen, 274 00:13:19,750 --> 00:13:22,020 Speaker 1: including an expensive a test. 275 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:24,289 Speaker 1: A few weeks later, I drove to a house to 276 00:13:24,299 --> 00:13:27,400 Speaker 1: give her my signed note. I had to specifically request 277 00:13:27,409 --> 00:13:31,109 Speaker 1: for this stating my clean bill of health. She accused 278 00:13:31,119 --> 00:13:34,728 Speaker 1: me of forging the entire thing. And in the following argument, 279 00:13:35,030 --> 00:13:38,119 Speaker 1: pulled the plates out of the cupboard and frisbee them 280 00:13:38,130 --> 00:13:42,609 Speaker 1: at me. I left immediately about six months later, I 281 00:13:42,619 --> 00:13:46,059 Speaker 1: had just started dating my now fiance. She contacted me 282 00:13:46,070 --> 00:13:48,409 Speaker 1: to tell me that she believed me and wanted to 283 00:13:48,419 --> 00:13:50,359 Speaker 1: know if she and her two dogs could move in 284 00:13:50,369 --> 00:13:51,030 Speaker 1: with me. 285 00:13:52,960 --> 00:13:54,309 Speaker 2: Singaporeans. Ok. Wait, this is 286 00:13:54,320 --> 00:13:56,369 Speaker 1: Singaporeans who never responded. What's 287 00:13:56,380 --> 00:13:56,979 Speaker 2: happening? 288 00:13:57,809 --> 00:14:00,468 Speaker 1: What audacity they buy from where? 289 00:14:00,479 --> 00:14:04,580 Speaker 2: Also she, she just saw him sweating. Then you wake up, 290 00:14:04,590 --> 00:14:08,349 Speaker 2: you got a fellow sweating and accusation. 291 00:14:09,239 --> 00:14:12,869 Speaker 2: Why would the first thing that first of all, first 292 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:13,339 Speaker 2: of all, it's better. 293 00:14:15,010 --> 00:14:17,489 Speaker 1: You got fever. Why is it not like are you 294 00:14:17,500 --> 00:14:19,960 Speaker 1: feeling all right? Are you having a your stomach pain? 295 00:14:19,969 --> 00:14:24,169 Speaker 1: You know, like and imagine if he answer like, 296 00:14:25,099 --> 00:14:29,429 Speaker 1: what do you mean? Are you guilty? I will be like, bro, 297 00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:31,869 Speaker 1: what are you talking about? Why would you suddenly 298 00:14:31,880 --> 00:14:35,150 Speaker 2: say he still humor her? He still go and get 299 00:14:35,159 --> 00:14:36,059 Speaker 2: the test everything, 300 00:14:36,619 --> 00:14:38,070 Speaker 1: right? What a nice guy. 301 00:14:38,080 --> 00:14:41,059 Speaker 2: Ok. Then this is the first question also is like, 302 00:14:41,070 --> 00:14:43,880 Speaker 2: what is your sexual history? Maybe if you like 303 00:14:44,359 --> 00:14:47,559 Speaker 2: body count super high and then this is a new relationship, right? 304 00:14:47,809 --> 00:14:48,369 Speaker 2: He got like 305 00:14:48,380 --> 00:14:49,080 Speaker 1: rashes, 306 00:14:51,289 --> 00:14:55,510 Speaker 2: let's not blame her so fast. Maybe he really has 307 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:58,330 Speaker 2: a high body count and bad rap. 308 00:14:58,340 --> 00:15:01,679 Speaker 1: For example, maybe he has a history of practicing unsafe sex. 309 00:15:01,690 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 1: Then maybe. But 310 00:15:03,330 --> 00:15:03,809 Speaker 2: the w 311 00:15:04,059 --> 00:15:06,190 Speaker 2: someone up in the middle of the night and accusing 312 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:08,859 Speaker 2: that they, it's a bit scary just sitting by the 313 00:15:08,869 --> 00:15:10,919 Speaker 2: bed and staring at a person, right? And waking them 314 00:15:10,929 --> 00:15:13,820 Speaker 2: up for whatever reason is weird. She look at him, 315 00:15:13,830 --> 00:15:16,690 Speaker 2: then he, like, one bit of sweat rolling down. She, 316 00:15:16,710 --> 00:15:18,780 Speaker 2: is it? No. Is it nightmare? No. She go and 317 00:15:18,789 --> 00:15:22,299 Speaker 2: go first. Oh, my God, she went on, she went 318 00:15:25,140 --> 00:15:25,950 Speaker 2: possibly a, 319 00:15:27,849 --> 00:15:30,719 Speaker 2: take the test. Now, since you're talking about it, let's 320 00:15:30,729 --> 00:15:34,640 Speaker 2: talk about sexual health. Yeah. No, I think important to, like, 321 00:15:34,650 --> 00:15:39,429 Speaker 2: know your partners, any prospective partners, like sexual history. And 322 00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:42,960 Speaker 2: then what I realized right, apparently in the dating scene, right? 323 00:15:42,969 --> 00:15:44,400 Speaker 2: It is quite common for like 324 00:15:44,739 --> 00:15:47,469 Speaker 2: people to, to like ask when was the last time 325 00:15:47,479 --> 00:15:49,729 Speaker 2: you were tested or for people who are just dating around? 326 00:15:49,739 --> 00:15:51,719 Speaker 2: Right to go get test regularly. But 327 00:15:51,729 --> 00:15:56,440 Speaker 1: Singapore community is actually pretty, is pretty kinky. Like we 328 00:15:56,450 --> 00:16:02,340 Speaker 1: have BDSM communities where before they engage, they establish like 329 00:16:02,349 --> 00:16:02,679 Speaker 1: say 330 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:07,059 Speaker 1: words, they establish like where your boundaries are and they 331 00:16:07,070 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 1: also share test results before and they have to be updated. 332 00:16:11,450 --> 00:16:14,489 Speaker 1: I think that's really, really interesting. Yeah. So get yourself 333 00:16:14,500 --> 00:16:14,969 Speaker 1: checked 334 00:16:15,140 --> 00:16:15,510 Speaker 2: for safe 335 00:16:15,570 --> 00:16:17,419 Speaker 1: sex. Yeah. Honestly. 336 00:16:17,700 --> 00:16:20,570 Speaker 2: OK. Next story by user the wondering kiddo 337 00:16:20,979 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 2: broke up because of my parents spoil alert because of 338 00:16:25,450 --> 00:16:27,119 Speaker 2: the parents. Oh, sorry, I shouldn't be reading. 339 00:16:27,460 --> 00:16:27,919 Speaker 1: I don't 340 00:16:28,460 --> 00:16:31,150 Speaker 2: kind of saw it coming because stress of my parents 341 00:16:31,159 --> 00:16:34,460 Speaker 2: disapproval constantly wait on me and the tipping point would 342 00:16:34,469 --> 00:16:37,679 Speaker 2: be stressful periods in school when the stressful period was over. 343 00:16:37,690 --> 00:16:39,780 Speaker 2: I tend to re evaluate and tell her I wanted 344 00:16:39,789 --> 00:16:42,520 Speaker 2: to try again. Went through the cycle like four times 345 00:16:42,530 --> 00:16:44,369 Speaker 2: the fifth time, she kind of sensed it coming and 346 00:16:44,380 --> 00:16:45,530 Speaker 2: initiated the break. 347 00:16:45,880 --> 00:16:47,789 Speaker 2: I know I probably sound like an ass. But in 348 00:16:47,799 --> 00:16:49,650 Speaker 2: my defense, I really did try to talk to my 349 00:16:49,659 --> 00:16:52,030 Speaker 2: parents again and again, after each time I said I 350 00:16:52,039 --> 00:16:54,900 Speaker 2: would now it's just a sad period where I'm all alone, 351 00:16:54,989 --> 00:16:57,859 Speaker 2: hate my parents but still live with them. Constantly think 352 00:16:57,869 --> 00:17:01,130 Speaker 2: about her trying to move on emotionally and trying to 353 00:17:01,140 --> 00:17:03,580 Speaker 2: survive my final year in uni I know I can't 354 00:17:03,590 --> 00:17:05,839 Speaker 2: try getting back just because I'm lonely. 355 00:17:05,849 --> 00:17:08,000 Speaker 1: I will say this. She dodged the bullet. 356 00:17:08,010 --> 00:17:10,660 Speaker 2: I think. So. It sounds like this guy for his age, 357 00:17:11,469 --> 00:17:13,469 Speaker 2: not the most mature. I think 358 00:17:13,479 --> 00:17:16,500 Speaker 1: it's fine to respect your parents decision. But if you 359 00:17:16,510 --> 00:17:19,829 Speaker 1: are not willing to fight for who you love and 360 00:17:19,839 --> 00:17:24,310 Speaker 1: what you want and manage both sides, then you're not 361 00:17:24,319 --> 00:17:25,550 Speaker 1: equipped for a relationship. 362 00:17:25,569 --> 00:17:30,189 Speaker 2: I feel like the uni age, right? Especially for a guy, right, 363 00:17:30,199 --> 00:17:32,708 Speaker 2: who is two years older than the girls in his batch. 364 00:17:33,199 --> 00:17:35,400 Speaker 2: That is the age where you are looking for potential 365 00:17:35,410 --> 00:17:40,020 Speaker 2: life partners. I mean, no pressure to really find life partner, pressure, 366 00:17:40,030 --> 00:17:42,349 Speaker 2: but there are people who get together at the age 367 00:17:42,359 --> 00:17:44,660 Speaker 2: who end up getting married. Is it a red flag 368 00:17:44,670 --> 00:17:47,020 Speaker 2: on him or red flag on the whole family? I 369 00:17:47,030 --> 00:17:47,300 Speaker 2: think 370 00:17:47,310 --> 00:17:49,979 Speaker 1: it's how he managed it. That is the red flag. 371 00:17:49,989 --> 00:17:50,180 Speaker 1: But 372 00:17:50,189 --> 00:17:52,930 Speaker 2: what if his parents are toxic people? I feel like 373 00:17:52,939 --> 00:17:55,930 Speaker 2: Singaporean parents or Asian parents in general try to always 374 00:17:55,939 --> 00:17:58,040 Speaker 2: have like that, ok, you cannot have relationship until 375 00:17:58,479 --> 00:18:01,540 Speaker 2: certain date. That is what is resulting in our like 376 00:18:01,550 --> 00:18:05,089 Speaker 2: so many single people cannot like declining birth rate. And 377 00:18:05,099 --> 00:18:06,880 Speaker 2: I also think that sometimes if you control your kids 378 00:18:06,890 --> 00:18:08,760 Speaker 2: too much, they're gonna rebel. Most 379 00:18:08,770 --> 00:18:13,379 Speaker 1: repressed environments tend to raise the wildest people. 380 00:18:13,390 --> 00:18:15,750 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. So end up, you see this guy like 381 00:18:15,760 --> 00:18:19,399 Speaker 2: lonely or like confirm emotionally not very healthy and then 382 00:18:19,410 --> 00:18:22,399 Speaker 1: he ends up growing like some form of resentment for 383 00:18:22,410 --> 00:18:24,099 Speaker 1: his parents. But then I'm 384 00:18:24,185 --> 00:18:25,895 Speaker 1: I'm sure his friends but it was all for your 385 00:18:25,905 --> 00:18:28,545 Speaker 1: own good. You suffer. Now it's OK. I don't mind 386 00:18:28,555 --> 00:18:29,094 Speaker 1: being the bad guy. I 387 00:18:29,104 --> 00:18:31,805 Speaker 2: really feel them bad for the girlfriend. She cannot like 388 00:18:31,814 --> 00:18:34,484 Speaker 2: the break up then get back together five times 389 00:18:35,165 --> 00:18:39,905 Speaker 1: but she dodged a huge you. OK. Next story by 390 00:18:39,915 --> 00:18:40,864 Speaker 1: Tim Lim T 391 00:18:41,895 --> 00:18:46,204 Speaker 2: li again. T li t remember Tim? Tim Lim was 392 00:18:46,214 --> 00:18:49,294 Speaker 2: in the worst, right? First story is by a user 393 00:18:49,305 --> 00:18:52,324 Speaker 2: called Tim Lim 029. 394 00:18:52,630 --> 00:18:56,939 Speaker 2: I once matched with someone. I actually suggested other places 395 00:18:57,060 --> 00:19:06,520 Speaker 2: but she was quite insistent on decay will miss, you know, 396 00:19:06,900 --> 00:19:09,449 Speaker 2: I feel I feel like one day if it's possible 397 00:19:09,459 --> 00:19:11,640 Speaker 2: rightly make yourself known to us, you will be a 398 00:19:11,650 --> 00:19:14,280 Speaker 2: guest come and tell your stories yourself. Oh my God 399 00:19:14,290 --> 00:19:18,520 Speaker 2: guys is this story linked to the, you know, the story. 400 00:19:18,530 --> 00:19:19,770 Speaker 2: Did he really get together? 401 00:19:19,780 --> 00:19:21,050 Speaker 1: With her. OK, let's go. 402 00:19:22,020 --> 00:19:26,439 Speaker 1: Tim. Lim. 029. Shout to you personally. My best breakup 403 00:19:26,449 --> 00:19:29,930 Speaker 1: came out of my worst. I had an absolutely terrible 404 00:19:29,939 --> 00:19:34,760 Speaker 1: breakup just before uni screaming fights. Super petty. She burned 405 00:19:34,770 --> 00:19:37,160 Speaker 1: all the love letters. I had written her that kind 406 00:19:37,170 --> 00:19:40,000 Speaker 1: of breakup. I was pretty distraught and cut contact with her. 407 00:19:40,010 --> 00:19:43,040 Speaker 1: Moved on with my life. About three years later, I 408 00:19:43,050 --> 00:19:46,839 Speaker 1: bumped into her and reconnected. That anger had long disappear. 409 00:19:47,630 --> 00:19:50,010 Speaker 1: But we both knew very well. We weren't good in 410 00:19:50,020 --> 00:19:53,390 Speaker 1: a relationship and much better as friends. We ended up 411 00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:57,359 Speaker 1: becoming pretty good friends actually. Still friends. Now. It's so nice. LA, 412 00:19:57,439 --> 00:20:00,099 Speaker 1: we got our first date story from him and now 413 00:20:00,109 --> 00:20:00,520 Speaker 1: we got a 414 00:20:00,530 --> 00:20:04,189 Speaker 2: breakup story. Story from your breakup went better than that 415 00:20:04,199 --> 00:20:06,438 Speaker 2: first day. Yeah. Yeah. If you all don't know what 416 00:20:06,449 --> 00:20:08,569 Speaker 2: we're talking about, go and watch episode 10. Yeah. So 417 00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:09,910 Speaker 2: that was quite solid. 418 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:11,770 Speaker 1: So, I hope you and her now you're 419 00:20:11,839 --> 00:20:15,540 Speaker 1: friends. You can go in here and go home separately. 420 00:20:15,949 --> 00:20:16,900 Speaker 2: It's the same pay for 421 00:20:16,910 --> 00:20:18,719 Speaker 1: delivery on your own. It might be different 422 00:20:18,729 --> 00:20:22,339 Speaker 2: people. He like to go to go. Ok. The fact 423 00:20:22,349 --> 00:20:25,189 Speaker 2: that you guys are friends now, just be careful for 424 00:20:25,199 --> 00:20:28,810 Speaker 2: your future relationship. Yeah. It's gonna be tough to navigate. 425 00:20:28,819 --> 00:20:31,729 Speaker 2: Maybe your future girl would not like it twice. Yeah. 426 00:20:31,739 --> 00:20:33,930 Speaker 2: You might be a red flag. Yeah. Are 427 00:20:33,939 --> 00:20:35,659 Speaker 1: you friends with any of your exes? 428 00:20:35,890 --> 00:20:36,300 Speaker 2: Yes. 429 00:20:36,900 --> 00:20:40,119 Speaker 2: Actually, I only got like one serious X and then 430 00:20:40,130 --> 00:20:43,780 Speaker 2: the rest not very like serious relationship. So those I 431 00:20:43,790 --> 00:20:46,899 Speaker 2: think some like follow each other on Instagram. You got 432 00:20:46,910 --> 00:20:47,698 Speaker 2: like a photos. 433 00:20:47,709 --> 00:20:48,640 Speaker 1: No good 434 00:20:48,650 --> 00:20:53,500 Speaker 2: boy. OK. Next story by user see slow Mo we 435 00:20:53,510 --> 00:20:55,930 Speaker 2: were together for five years and I can truly say 436 00:20:55,939 --> 00:20:59,410 Speaker 2: that I gave everything into the relationship. About a month ago, 437 00:20:59,420 --> 00:21:01,550 Speaker 2: I found out that her ex tried to contact her 438 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:02,959 Speaker 2: back via Instagram 439 00:21:03,339 --> 00:21:07,399 Speaker 2: and they had a meal together shortly afterwards. Then she 440 00:21:07,410 --> 00:21:10,839 Speaker 2: stopped opening my messages for a whole week and refused 441 00:21:10,849 --> 00:21:15,400 Speaker 2: to pick up my call across multiple messaging platforms after 442 00:21:15,410 --> 00:21:18,069 Speaker 2: pressuring her to confess why she had gone mi A. 443 00:21:18,079 --> 00:21:20,479 Speaker 2: She just told me that she don't like skinny guys. 444 00:21:21,890 --> 00:21:22,150 Speaker 2: Ok. 445 00:21:23,479 --> 00:21:25,599 Speaker 2: I begged her not to leave me, please, please, please. 446 00:21:26,209 --> 00:21:29,869 Speaker 2: She never said I for dramatic effect that I will 447 00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:33,930 Speaker 2: get a gym membership to b myself up. No, wait. 448 00:21:33,939 --> 00:21:37,900 Speaker 2: So just because she saw her ex, then she realized 449 00:21:38,589 --> 00:21:43,760 Speaker 2: actually this guy a bit more b Yeah, she refused 450 00:21:43,770 --> 00:21:45,670 Speaker 2: to give me another chance and asked me to stop 451 00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:48,319 Speaker 2: disturbing her. I got into contact with her elder sis 452 00:21:48,329 --> 00:21:50,189 Speaker 2: and found out that she got back together with her ex. 453 00:21:50,199 --> 00:21:50,459 Speaker 2: So 454 00:21:50,569 --> 00:21:54,319 Speaker 2: it was indeed the ex. Wow. Ok. First of all, 455 00:21:54,329 --> 00:21:57,550 Speaker 2: she definitely has a type and she wasn't aware prior 456 00:21:58,329 --> 00:22:00,750 Speaker 2: and then they took it for five years. So for 457 00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:02,680 Speaker 2: the past five years, she now noticed that he was skinny. 458 00:22:02,810 --> 00:22:02,989 Speaker 2: Is it 459 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:08,109 Speaker 1: five years and then you can go for a week. 460 00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:11,869 Speaker 1: That's quite, that's damn rude. That's ridiculous. I think that's 461 00:22:12,219 --> 00:22:16,089 Speaker 2: ridiculous. She going through something then just say, like, hey, like, 462 00:22:16,099 --> 00:22:18,449 Speaker 1: can we just take a week off? Like, five years? 463 00:22:18,459 --> 00:22:21,199 Speaker 1: I think he deserves even one year 464 00:22:21,209 --> 00:22:26,069 Speaker 2: or even not emotionally mature. Yeah. This is a trigger 465 00:22:26,079 --> 00:22:26,929 Speaker 2: for body 466 00:22:26,939 --> 00:22:30,770 Speaker 1: dysmorphia. Yeah, I'm leave it for the man for the guy. 467 00:22:30,979 --> 00:22:33,449 Speaker 2: Right. Ok. But going back to point number one, 468 00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:36,310 Speaker 2: is it OK to meet your ex? I feel like 469 00:22:36,319 --> 00:22:39,420 Speaker 2: if you're in a new relationship, then it's not about 470 00:22:39,430 --> 00:22:42,170 Speaker 2: whether you are willing to meet them or not. It's 471 00:22:42,180 --> 00:22:44,770 Speaker 2: about whether your partner is comfortable with you meeting them 472 00:22:44,780 --> 00:22:47,500 Speaker 2: or not. No, but then it requires the first level. 473 00:22:47,510 --> 00:22:49,880 Speaker 2: Whether you want or not, whether you are willing to 474 00:22:49,890 --> 00:22:51,400 Speaker 2: or not. If you're not willing to, then don't need, 475 00:22:51,410 --> 00:22:54,329 Speaker 2: I think depends on how the relationship ended. Like if 476 00:22:54,339 --> 00:22:56,579 Speaker 2: like Tim Li like that, then maybe can. But 477 00:22:56,939 --> 00:23:00,890 Speaker 2: if like the stalker revenge, then I 478 00:23:01,209 --> 00:23:04,160 Speaker 1: was in a situation where I had no feelings for 479 00:23:04,170 --> 00:23:08,010 Speaker 1: my ex anymore. I had already met Charlie 480 00:23:08,369 --> 00:23:10,649 Speaker 1: and my ex reached out to meet up for coffee 481 00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:13,250 Speaker 1: and I just said no, I don't see why there's 482 00:23:13,260 --> 00:23:15,709 Speaker 1: a point as in like, I, I have no interest 483 00:23:15,719 --> 00:23:18,989 Speaker 1: in forming a friendship with you. There's honestly nothing that 484 00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:21,459 Speaker 1: we can talk about in person. If you, if it's 485 00:23:21,469 --> 00:23:24,030 Speaker 1: very important and you can just text me, you know 486 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:25,989 Speaker 1: what I mean? Like, I don't know what the point, 487 00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:28,189 Speaker 1: what was the point of like meeting up for coffee? 488 00:23:28,270 --> 00:23:30,560 Speaker 1: But in fact I said no and then Charlie not 489 00:23:30,569 --> 00:23:32,709 Speaker 1: happy with me. He was like, 490 00:23:33,020 --> 00:23:35,319 Speaker 1: I feel like you should meet him. You guys were 491 00:23:35,329 --> 00:23:38,979 Speaker 1: together for a while like yeah, so I was like, no, 492 00:23:38,989 --> 00:23:40,899 Speaker 1: I don't want he was like, but why like at 493 00:23:40,910 --> 00:23:43,979 Speaker 1: one point you guys loved each other, right? I'm like, 494 00:23:43,989 --> 00:23:45,849 Speaker 1: no need. I think you break up a 495 00:23:45,989 --> 00:23:54,839 Speaker 2: specific break up. Ok? Painful. But then afterwards peaceful like apologized, closure. Ok? 496 00:23:54,859 --> 00:24:00,329 Speaker 2: I think I'm down to meet then a about like 497 00:24:00,339 --> 00:24:02,109 Speaker 2: how have you improved as a person 498 00:24:03,099 --> 00:24:05,619 Speaker 2: if it's platonic is fine. But if I sense that 499 00:24:05,630 --> 00:24:09,219 Speaker 2: there's intention to get back together and no la the 500 00:24:09,229 --> 00:24:12,760 Speaker 2: other part is ghosting. I feel like it seems very unreasonable. 501 00:24:12,770 --> 00:24:14,900 Speaker 2: But I think that it actually it actually is quite 502 00:24:14,910 --> 00:24:19,719 Speaker 2: common for people in emotional turmoil. Probably seeing her ex 503 00:24:19,729 --> 00:24:21,399 Speaker 2: then triggered like that whole 504 00:24:21,810 --> 00:24:24,479 Speaker 2: like, oh, suddenly I am so uncertain about this person 505 00:24:24,489 --> 00:24:26,319 Speaker 2: that I just spent the last five years. So I 506 00:24:26,329 --> 00:24:29,849 Speaker 2: don't know what to do. So then also guilty, right? 507 00:24:29,859 --> 00:24:33,500 Speaker 2: Guilty then cannot respond to your messages and cannot face 508 00:24:33,510 --> 00:24:33,609 Speaker 2: the 509 00:24:33,619 --> 00:24:36,510 Speaker 1: person. Maybe she wasn't ready to make a decision yet. 510 00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:39,909 Speaker 2: So, so just like avoid them for one week, 511 00:24:40,500 --> 00:24:44,209 Speaker 1: I think one day is long enough already. Like if 512 00:24:44,219 --> 00:24:47,079 Speaker 1: you just say like, hey, I I'm sorry, I've been, 513 00:24:47,089 --> 00:24:50,660 Speaker 1: I know I've been avoided but I'm just going through something. 514 00:24:50,670 --> 00:24:52,890 Speaker 1: I just need you to trust and respect that. I 515 00:24:52,900 --> 00:24:56,929 Speaker 1: need a week off. Like, let's, let's talk again in 516 00:24:56,939 --> 00:24:59,390 Speaker 1: a week. I mean, this guy, five years. Come on. Yeah, 517 00:24:59,619 --> 00:25:01,188 Speaker 2: that was such a great response. 518 00:25:01,689 --> 00:25:03,969 Speaker 2: People write it down if, in case you ever need 519 00:25:03,979 --> 00:25:06,679 Speaker 2: that and for people out there who might have, like, 520 00:25:06,689 --> 00:25:10,130 Speaker 2: feedback from their partners about like a certain preference for 521 00:25:10,140 --> 00:25:12,290 Speaker 2: like body types and things like that, once it goes 522 00:25:12,300 --> 00:25:13,760 Speaker 2: past the point of like, you know, 523 00:25:14,140 --> 00:25:17,750 Speaker 2: just putting in effort to look presentable. If you want 524 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:19,369 Speaker 2: to change your body type, it should be on your 525 00:25:19,380 --> 00:25:21,629 Speaker 2: own terms and like it should be because you want 526 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:24,359 Speaker 2: to and because it makes you feel good, not because 527 00:25:24,369 --> 00:25:28,369 Speaker 2: like your partner wants you to la I mean, purely 528 00:25:28,380 --> 00:25:30,709 Speaker 2: from an aesthetic point of view and not like a 529 00:25:30,719 --> 00:25:33,160 Speaker 2: health point of view. So like if you are unhealthy 530 00:25:33,170 --> 00:25:35,859 Speaker 2: and they want you to be healthy, then be more reasonable. 531 00:25:35,869 --> 00:25:38,040 Speaker 2: If they just want you to like, I like I was, 532 00:25:38,420 --> 00:25:38,630 Speaker 2: I like 533 00:25:38,714 --> 00:25:41,935 Speaker 2: b dudes then a bit unreasonable, 534 00:25:41,944 --> 00:25:44,073 Speaker 1: then just be like, I like Megan Fox. You look 535 00:25:44,084 --> 00:25:46,665 Speaker 1: nothing like her. Then how I do feel like there 536 00:25:46,675 --> 00:25:48,854 Speaker 1: is a double standard like where girls 537 00:25:48,864 --> 00:25:50,813 Speaker 2: can say guys cannot say yeah, like 538 00:25:51,385 --> 00:25:55,964 Speaker 1: you're not building like a lego, you're not building a character, 539 00:25:55,974 --> 00:25:58,104 Speaker 1: you know, like, oh I like your character by your looks, 540 00:25:58,114 --> 00:26:00,544 Speaker 1: then you just like the person like you have to 541 00:26:00,555 --> 00:26:03,214 Speaker 1: take the person for who he is upgrades or not. 542 00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:06,180 Speaker 2: So for those of you who are going through breakups 543 00:26:06,189 --> 00:26:08,629 Speaker 2: or tough times in your love life at this point 544 00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:13,379 Speaker 2: of time, just remember that this time shall pass, ok? 545 00:26:13,390 --> 00:26:16,689 Speaker 2: And to really focus on surrounding yourself with love from 546 00:26:16,699 --> 00:26:20,369 Speaker 2: your friends, family and to stay positive. It's a new year, 547 00:26:20,380 --> 00:26:23,109 Speaker 1: new beginnings, new opportunities, new season of 548 00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:25,849 Speaker 2: life. That's why it's a new year. So no use 549 00:26:25,859 --> 00:26:28,380 Speaker 2: feeling down and let us know in the comments as 550 00:26:28,390 --> 00:26:29,180 Speaker 2: well if you have 551 00:26:29,290 --> 00:26:33,079 Speaker 2: even better breakup stories to share. Yes, please. Team name 552 00:26:33,109 --> 00:26:36,829 Speaker 2: if you want to share one more story, comment section. 553 00:26:36,839 --> 00:26:38,989 Speaker 2: And with that, thank you for joining us on this 554 00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:41,599 Speaker 2: episode of the Hot Pot. You can also listen to 555 00:26:41,609 --> 00:26:44,869 Speaker 2: us on Apple podcast, Spotify and me. Listen as well 556 00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:45,379 Speaker 2: and please 557 00:26:45,390 --> 00:26:47,389 Speaker 1: subscribe if you haven't already see 558 00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:51,208 Speaker 2: you in the next episode. Bye. I had my first 559 00:26:51,219 --> 00:26:55,649 Speaker 2: girlfriend when I was I think 1112, my first boyfriend, 560 00:26:55,660 --> 00:26:56,099 Speaker 2: 13 561 00:26:56,359 --> 00:26:58,510 Speaker 1: like boyfriend like like like, 562 00:26:59,599 --> 00:27:01,770 Speaker 2: yeah. Yeah. You late bloomer. Oh 563 00:27:02,790 --> 00:27:04,810 Speaker 1: my God. Yeah, because my first kiss was 564 00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:07,280 Speaker 2: someone's current.