1 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: Welcome to Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Here thousands of 2 00:00:24,240 --> 00:00:27,880 Speaker 1: hours of Dennis's lectures courses in classic radio programs. Had 3 00:00:27,880 --> 00:01:12,440 Speaker 1: to purchase Dennis Brager's Rational Bibles. Go to Dennisprager dot com. 4 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 2: You're listening to the Dennis Prager Show, and it is 5 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:20,039 Speaker 2: the happiest hour. Here we go, everybody, I forget this year. 6 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:24,480 Speaker 2: It's that happy, happy, happy happy hour. Yes it is. 7 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 2: It's that happy, happy happy hour every week in this time, 8 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 2: an hour devoted to happiness. Come Hella, high water, or 9 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:38,360 Speaker 2: even terrible, terrible political developments, doesn't matter, doesn't matter. We 10 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 2: talk about happiness. Happy people make the world better and 11 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:45,120 Speaker 2: the unhappy don't. It's as simple as that. So you 12 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:47,919 Speaker 2: have a moral obligation to at least act as happy 13 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 2: as possible. Everybody has unhappy feelings, but the issue is 14 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 2: how you act and do you work on your happiness. 15 00:01:56,760 --> 00:02:00,320 Speaker 2: You have a moral obligation to everyone in your life, 16 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 2: first and foremost your spouse, but also your children, your parents, 17 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:08,880 Speaker 2: your friends, your co workers, the person you sit next 18 00:02:08,920 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 2: to in an airplane. On an airplane, you owe it 19 00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 2: to everybody to be as happy as possible. I don't 20 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 2: mean delirious. I don't mean plastic smile all day, but 21 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 2: I think you know what I mean. Now, I have 22 00:02:23,519 --> 00:02:30,080 Speaker 2: a subject today which may help you immensely. Here it goes. 23 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 2: If you do feel unhappy, I want you to identify 24 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:50,360 Speaker 2: its source. Sounds unbelievably simple. Well, it is unbelievably simple, 25 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:53,200 Speaker 2: and it is the simple that people tend to avoid. 26 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 2: But it is very simple. It's not simple to do. 27 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 2: That I didn't say, but it is a simple suggestion 28 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:05,200 Speaker 2: that is very powerful, and I would say at least 29 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:09,560 Speaker 2: half the people who are unhappy do not do. Because 30 00:03:09,560 --> 00:03:11,239 Speaker 2: there's a part two to this that you have to 31 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 2: hear me, hair me out on again. If you're feeling 32 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 2: unhappy on any given day, or for that matter, for 33 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 2: weeks or months or years on end, you have to 34 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:27,920 Speaker 2: ask yourself the question, what is the root of my 35 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 2: unhappy feeling? Why am I? Why did I wake up 36 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 2: unhappy today? Why did I go to bed unhappy last night? 37 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 2: Why am I? Why is this an unhappy You have 38 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:41,440 Speaker 2: to try to identify it. That's why knowing yourself is 39 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:50,200 Speaker 2: such an important factor in happiness. Know thyself so you 40 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 2: have to try to identify what it is. A lot 41 00:03:53,040 --> 00:03:56,160 Speaker 2: of people can't. I have done this with people. They can't. 42 00:03:56,200 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm just I just feel I just 43 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 2: feel lousy. I just feel lousy. Is you can't do 44 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 2: anything about it? Imagine forget unhappiness, Imagine ill health. You 45 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 2: can't fix a headache, You can't fix a a an 46 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:22,480 Speaker 2: illness if you don't know what causes it. That's how 47 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:25,999 Speaker 2: do you treat it? Doc guy? I really I have 48 00:04:26,039 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 2: this terrible pain in my stomach. And if they can't 49 00:04:30,240 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 2: find out why, then they just rely on the hopes 50 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:40,840 Speaker 2: that it'll disappear. You have to figure out why you 51 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 2: are unhappy. Now you're already calling in, but you shouldn't 52 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:48,400 Speaker 2: because you have to hear Part two. How do you 53 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:57,000 Speaker 2: know that you have done the identification accurately? Here is 54 00:04:57,440 --> 00:05:01,720 Speaker 2: the tricky part. I want you to ask yourself if 55 00:05:01,760 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 2: you do think you've identified why you're unhappy. I want 56 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:10,479 Speaker 2: you to ask yourself if that were removed, would I 57 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:18,280 Speaker 2: be happy if that were changed? I am unhappy because 58 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:23,400 Speaker 2: and then you fill in the blank. I am unhappy 59 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 2: because why would you like to fill in? I am 60 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:35,760 Speaker 2: unhappy because I have monetary problems? All right? Fair enough? 61 00:05:36,960 --> 00:05:40,839 Speaker 2: Now let us say that you had double your income, 62 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:54,080 Speaker 2: would you be happy? You should see it? Okay? Then 63 00:05:54,160 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 2: then then Sean, I will say to you that you 64 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:05,159 Speaker 2: are lucky. You are a lucky man. You know exactly 65 00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:08,039 Speaker 2: the cause of any unhappiness in your life and exactly 66 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 2: the solution. Now here's the problem, sir. The number of 67 00:06:13,560 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 2: people with double and triple and quadruple your income who 68 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:20,240 Speaker 2: are unhappy is at as large as the number of 69 00:06:20,279 --> 00:06:28,479 Speaker 2: people at your current income. And I'm not saying I'm not. 70 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:30,880 Speaker 2: By the way, that doesn't mean that you're wrong. That 71 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 2: may very well be. That's my point to you, folks, 72 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 2: I want you to do two things with regard to 73 00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:40,200 Speaker 2: any unhappy feelings that you have at a given time. 74 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:45,160 Speaker 2: Ask what it is to say I don't know, you're 75 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 2: being honest, but you can't help yourself. You have to 76 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:52,960 Speaker 2: dig deep. I have to dig deep. It's very interesting 77 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:57,400 Speaker 2: when I have when I'm feeling unhappy, it is very 78 00:06:57,400 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 2: easy to say, oh God, you know this will pass, 79 00:06:59,839 --> 00:07:03,159 Speaker 2: which it often does, the fact it always does. But 80 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:08,120 Speaker 2: but it's not enough. I always want to know what 81 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 2: is it? What is it? Because first of all, then 82 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:16,160 Speaker 2: I can address it. I have the choice then of 83 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 2: either addressing the source of my unhappiness or accepting it 84 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:25,400 Speaker 2: and thereby addressing it. Right, that's when the twelve step 85 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 2: prayer comes into play, of you know, God, grant me 86 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:30,760 Speaker 2: the wisdom to know the difference between things I can 87 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:33,960 Speaker 2: change and things I can change, and accept the things 88 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:37,400 Speaker 2: that I can change. So if you can change the 89 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 2: source of your unhappiness, that's that's the best obviously. Now 90 00:07:43,040 --> 00:07:46,080 Speaker 2: that's why this part gets complex. There are a lot 91 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 2: of things going on here. Let me begin therefore it 92 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 2: once again, you're feeling unhappy. The first thing to ask 93 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 2: is why why am I feeling unhappy? I mean, the 94 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:00,400 Speaker 2: answer may be as simple for let's say, for some 95 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:03,200 Speaker 2: women as well, at the time of that's the time 96 00:08:03,240 --> 00:08:06,560 Speaker 2: of the month. That's fine, and you know that that's 97 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:09,880 Speaker 2: the answer. That should help you though, because then you 98 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:12,280 Speaker 2: know it isn't life. It isn't your husband, it isn't 99 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 2: your kids, it isn't the world. It's your period. Okay, 100 00:08:17,000 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 2: that's fine. That should be comforting or relaxing in and 101 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 2: of itself. It isn't all the things I think that 102 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:30,040 Speaker 2: are doing it. It is rather hormonal, all right, that's fine, 103 00:08:30,160 --> 00:08:33,680 Speaker 2: But at least you've then isolated it you've narrowed it 104 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 2: to what it is so the first thing, and a 105 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:41,000 Speaker 2: lot of people don't know how to do this. That's, 106 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 2: by the way, that is one of the reasons for therapy. 107 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:50,120 Speaker 2: Most therapists are not competent. But when they are competent, 108 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 2: that's what they can do for you. By the way, 109 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:55,920 Speaker 2: most therapists are not competent is no insult. It's an 110 00:08:55,920 --> 00:08:59,600 Speaker 2: insult obviously the incompetent therapist, but it's not an insult 111 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:02,480 Speaker 2: to the profession. I don't think that most in any 112 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:07,560 Speaker 2: profession are terribly competent. It's just a sad it's a 113 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:10,480 Speaker 2: sad fact of life. And by the way, I get 114 00:09:10,480 --> 00:09:13,680 Speaker 2: that from other therapists. Every therapist that I have interviewed 115 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 2: in my career has has announced, has said on the 116 00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:22,200 Speaker 2: air that he or she thinks that most of his 117 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:26,560 Speaker 2: colleagues are not competent. But if you do have a 118 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 2: competent therapist, that's what they do for you. They help 119 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:34,760 Speaker 2: you analyze what the reasons are so you can dig 120 00:09:34,800 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 2: it up. That's what psycho analysis, which is four times 121 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 2: a week, that's what its project was, really knowing yourself 122 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 2: because it's not always easy to know why you feel unhappy. 123 00:09:48,360 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 2: It's not always easy, and it may be a confrontation 124 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:56,679 Speaker 2: with real demons in your life, so please understand that. 125 00:09:56,760 --> 00:10:00,760 Speaker 2: But how can you cure an issue that you don't 126 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:03,679 Speaker 2: know the source of? Now there are even answers to that. 127 00:10:04,120 --> 00:10:06,120 Speaker 2: I still want you to act happy even if you 128 00:10:06,160 --> 00:10:09,760 Speaker 2: don't know the reason for your unhappiness, because behavior changes 129 00:10:09,800 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 2: your mood. This may be the most complex happiness hour 130 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:18,760 Speaker 2: I have ever broadcast. But it's clear I know I'm 131 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:21,600 Speaker 2: and clearly it's but it is complex because there were 132 00:10:21,640 --> 00:10:26,319 Speaker 2: so many areas taking place. So Part one is find 133 00:10:26,360 --> 00:10:29,800 Speaker 2: out what is making you unhappy? Dig dig, dig deep? 134 00:10:30,040 --> 00:10:33,199 Speaker 2: What am I really? What's bothering me? What is really 135 00:10:33,240 --> 00:10:39,600 Speaker 2: bothering me? Dig deep? Then to test it, ask yourself 136 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:44,840 Speaker 2: the question if this source of unhappiness were removed, would 137 00:10:44,840 --> 00:10:50,719 Speaker 2: I be happy? Then? You know you don't know the 138 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:53,360 Speaker 2: answer for sure, of course not, but it's a way 139 00:10:53,400 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 2: to test it. One eight Praguer seven seven six. Now 140 00:10:58,520 --> 00:11:03,560 Speaker 2: you can call this is Has this been clear? Would 141 00:11:03,600 --> 00:11:05,560 Speaker 2: you like to ask about it? Do you do this 142 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:10,360 Speaker 2: with your own moods? Ask yourself what is the source? 143 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 2: What is troubling me? And then ask, well, if that 144 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 2: were removed. Would I be happy? One eighth Prager seven 145 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:21,240 Speaker 2: seven six eight seven seven two four three triple seven 146 00:11:21,400 --> 00:11:23,880 Speaker 2: six The Dennis Prager Show, The Happiness Hour. 147 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:27,840 Speaker 1: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 148 00:11:33,360 --> 00:11:39,800 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless Wisdom. 149 00:11:39,960 --> 00:11:41,439 Speaker 2: All right, this is what I want you to do. 150 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:43,800 Speaker 2: This is the Happiness Hour on The Dennis Prager Show. 151 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:49,439 Speaker 2: When you're feeling down, I want you to ask yourself why. 152 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 2: I would say half of you would be able to 153 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 2: answer the question, and that's huge. The other half, it's 154 00:11:54,880 --> 00:11:58,120 Speaker 2: a terrible problem. If you can't identify why you're feeling down, 155 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:03,560 Speaker 2: then you can't fix it. Well, it's not fully true. 156 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 2: Even if you can't. I take that back. You can't 157 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 2: fully fix it, but you can fix it in it 158 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:13,800 Speaker 2: because in a certain way. Because even if you can't 159 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 2: figure that out, you still have to work on all 160 00:12:16,800 --> 00:12:19,000 Speaker 2: the other things that I've spoken about for ten years 161 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:22,240 Speaker 2: years on this hour in terms of your own happiness. 162 00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:25,280 Speaker 2: You still have to act happy. You still have to 163 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 2: seek friends, you still have to seek meaning, you still 164 00:12:27,920 --> 00:12:30,120 Speaker 2: have to find joy where you can, I mean, all 165 00:12:30,120 --> 00:12:34,720 Speaker 2: of the thousands of suggestions. If that's not exaggerated. Hundreds 166 00:12:34,760 --> 00:12:39,959 Speaker 2: of suggestions that I've given still would apply. But at 167 00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:44,079 Speaker 2: its core, you've got to know why you are unhappy 168 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 2: or feeling unhappy at that moment. Let me take your 169 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:52,640 Speaker 2: calls because this will flesh all of this out. And 170 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 2: by the way, a test of whether or not you're 171 00:12:54,880 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 2: right is to then ask yourself, Okay, if that were fixed, 172 00:12:57,440 --> 00:13:02,000 Speaker 2: would I be happy? So if we doubled your salary, 173 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:08,960 Speaker 2: for example, that would be it. Uh hah ah. Now 174 00:13:08,960 --> 00:13:17,920 Speaker 2: it's gone to a wonderful start. It's now a wonderful start, exactly. 175 00:13:19,120 --> 00:13:22,920 Speaker 2: All right, that's very honest, that's very honest. Fair enough, 176 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:28,200 Speaker 2: all right, let's go to uh let's go to Hermosa Beach, California, 177 00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:31,479 Speaker 2: and Betty, Hello, Betty, Dennis Prager Dennis. 178 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:34,120 Speaker 3: A long time listener since Religion on the line. I 179 00:13:34,160 --> 00:13:34,839 Speaker 3: love your show. 180 00:13:35,040 --> 00:13:36,840 Speaker 2: Thank you. 181 00:13:36,840 --> 00:13:40,000 Speaker 3: You know, I'm a therapist, and I think you're absolutely 182 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:44,480 Speaker 3: right that you know, if we are depressed, acting happy, 183 00:13:45,200 --> 00:13:49,360 Speaker 3: trying to change our mood is wonderful. But also some 184 00:13:49,520 --> 00:13:54,520 Speaker 3: people struggle with depression that they've had for many, many years, 185 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:59,560 Speaker 3: and it's biochemical. It's something akin to high blood pressure 186 00:13:59,640 --> 00:14:03,320 Speaker 3: or migraines and that's when you know, a good evaluation 187 00:14:03,559 --> 00:14:07,680 Speaker 3: from a psychiatrist or a psychopharmacologist is really important. So 188 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 3: doing the work on yourself is terrific. But sometimes I. 189 00:14:13,120 --> 00:14:15,959 Speaker 2: Couldn't agree more. Look in my book and even on 190 00:14:16,040 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 2: today's show, I should go to a good therapist. Absolutely, yes, 191 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:22,880 Speaker 2: I agree with that. Though. The question, and this is 192 00:14:22,920 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 2: one for for another for another show. Actually, but a life, 193 00:14:28,960 --> 00:14:31,640 Speaker 2: well not a life, but many years of thinking about 194 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:39,000 Speaker 2: this question, what is the trigger of biochemical depression? And 195 00:14:39,160 --> 00:14:49,360 Speaker 2: my my non scholarly Layman's theory is that events trigger chemistry. 196 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:58,240 Speaker 3: Very very true, very true. But sometimes things such as 197 00:14:58,760 --> 00:15:03,160 Speaker 3: I'm thinking about OCD. You know, patients that have recurring 198 00:15:03,320 --> 00:15:07,320 Speaker 3: thoughts that trouble them, or or behaviors that they repeatedly 199 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:11,560 Speaker 3: do something like this that causes them depression or extreme anxiety. 200 00:15:11,720 --> 00:15:14,720 Speaker 2: No, yeah, clearly. Look if if you're washing your hands 201 00:15:14,720 --> 00:15:18,000 Speaker 2: thirty six times a day, not good, Yeah, you need 202 00:15:18,080 --> 00:15:20,080 Speaker 2: you need a therapy. You you probably need a pill. 203 00:15:21,080 --> 00:15:24,960 Speaker 3: Absolutely. Some people feel bad about that, so I think 204 00:15:24,960 --> 00:15:26,560 Speaker 3: it's a it's a no no. 205 00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:30,280 Speaker 2: That's why I'm very happy that that you called Betty. 206 00:15:30,320 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 2: Thank you so much. I appreciate that. Yeah, okay, let's 207 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:37,520 Speaker 2: go on. What was the what was that line? One 208 00:15:37,600 --> 00:15:41,600 Speaker 2: that was fascinating to me? And they're gone. McAllen Texas 209 00:15:41,640 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 2: and Eric Hi, Eric Dennis Prieger. 210 00:15:44,040 --> 00:15:46,200 Speaker 4: Hi, thank you for taking my call. 211 00:15:46,240 --> 00:15:47,440 Speaker 2: My big fans, thank you. 212 00:15:48,520 --> 00:15:53,000 Speaker 4: I I know why I'm not happy, and it's related 213 00:15:53,040 --> 00:15:56,080 Speaker 4: to someone that I care about. Their first situation is terrible. 214 00:15:56,120 --> 00:15:58,360 Speaker 4: She's a foster dunter that I had in my home 215 00:15:58,400 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 4: for some time and she has moved to a placement 216 00:16:01,200 --> 00:16:03,800 Speaker 4: where since then her life has just continued to get 217 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:07,120 Speaker 4: worse and worse until recently she was even sexually assaulted 218 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:10,640 Speaker 4: at her school. And uh, that's just a constant source 219 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:13,400 Speaker 4: of unhappiness for me. And I know if it was fixed, 220 00:16:14,200 --> 00:16:15,600 Speaker 4: I'd be a lot more happy. 221 00:16:15,840 --> 00:16:19,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, that that makes perfect sense. But unfortunately there's nothing 222 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:23,040 Speaker 2: you can do about it, that's right, yea. And that 223 00:16:23,120 --> 00:16:26,760 Speaker 2: is that is where you have to accept that fact 224 00:16:26,920 --> 00:16:31,480 Speaker 2: or you you you can't you you know that life 225 00:16:31,640 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 2: has filled with tragedy in this world. It's particularly aggravating 226 00:16:36,120 --> 00:16:39,520 Speaker 2: when you believe it's a tragedy that could have been averted, 227 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:43,400 Speaker 2: or it's human incompetence that has caused the tragedy. That 228 00:16:43,520 --> 00:16:44,320 Speaker 2: drives you nuts. 229 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:45,640 Speaker 5: Oh it does. 230 00:16:45,920 --> 00:16:50,160 Speaker 2: I know, I know goes off and that's right. Yeah, 231 00:16:50,720 --> 00:16:54,240 Speaker 2: if you're justice meter can drive you nuts. I agree 232 00:16:54,240 --> 00:16:58,520 Speaker 2: with that, that's true. But you you really now are 233 00:16:58,600 --> 00:17:04,320 Speaker 2: in the classic situation of either I I accept this, 234 00:17:04,800 --> 00:17:08,520 Speaker 2: or I will be miserable and the world's misery will 235 00:17:08,679 --> 00:17:11,840 Speaker 2: not only include my former foster daughter but me as well. 236 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:15,840 Speaker 4: That's right, and I do have other beautiful daughters. 237 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:18,560 Speaker 2: And wonderful right, but this is you know what, there's 238 00:17:18,560 --> 00:17:21,359 Speaker 2: a there's an another way of dealing with this, and 239 00:17:21,400 --> 00:17:27,680 Speaker 2: that is to separate pain from unhappiness. And I'll tell 240 00:17:27,720 --> 00:17:29,879 Speaker 2: you how you do that. You say, I am in pain, 241 00:17:30,080 --> 00:17:32,680 Speaker 2: but I will not allow that pain to make me unhappy. 242 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:36,200 Speaker 2: That's how you do it. And believe and as odd 243 00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:38,760 Speaker 2: as that sounds, Eric and God bless you sound like 244 00:17:38,800 --> 00:17:45,600 Speaker 2: such a decent soul, it can be done. It's done 245 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:49,240 Speaker 2: all the time physically, right. I am in pain, but 246 00:17:49,320 --> 00:17:52,119 Speaker 2: I won't allow that to make me unhappy. I mean, 247 00:17:52,160 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 2: there's a level of pain where you can't help it. Obviously, 248 00:17:56,200 --> 00:17:58,520 Speaker 2: you know, there are pains that certain diseases call. It's 249 00:17:58,520 --> 00:18:01,800 Speaker 2: why people go on on on methadone, and that people 250 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:09,080 Speaker 2: go on painkillers of course, but we generally tend to say, look, 251 00:18:09,160 --> 00:18:11,399 Speaker 2: that's pain, but I'm still not going to become an 252 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:14,399 Speaker 2: unhappy person. I'm an unhappy person in pain. I'm a 253 00:18:14,440 --> 00:18:18,959 Speaker 2: happy person in pain. That's what I'm asking to suggest, 254 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:22,840 Speaker 2: as I spoke when I spoke to the doctors at 255 00:18:23,080 --> 00:18:29,760 Speaker 2: the Indiana Medical Association, and I spoke to them about 256 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:34,800 Speaker 2: happiness at their annual convention two years ago, and I 257 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:39,240 Speaker 2: said to them, you have to distinguish between dissatisfaction and unhappiness. 258 00:18:40,400 --> 00:18:43,399 Speaker 2: You're all dissatisfied, or nearly all of you, which is 259 00:18:43,400 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 2: why they invited me to speak on happiness through their 260 00:18:46,840 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 2: annual convention. I didn't come there to speak about medicine. 261 00:18:52,359 --> 00:18:57,400 Speaker 2: So you have to distinguish between and divide between, separate 262 00:18:57,600 --> 00:19:06,879 Speaker 2: dissatisfaction from happiness and likewise or unhappiness pain. So you 263 00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:09,560 Speaker 2: just as you can say when you have the flu, 264 00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:12,960 Speaker 2: I feel horrible, I am sick, but I am a 265 00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:16,320 Speaker 2: healthy person who is sick. You have to be able 266 00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:21,240 Speaker 2: to say I am a happy person in pain. All right. 267 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:25,560 Speaker 2: Nobody healthy will say I have the flu. I am 268 00:19:25,680 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 2: a sick person. I am sick at this moment, but 269 00:19:29,200 --> 00:19:35,560 Speaker 2: I am a healthy person. Otherwise You're doomed. One eighth 270 00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:38,840 Speaker 2: Praguer seven seven six The Happiness Hour on the Dennis 271 00:19:38,840 --> 00:19:39,480 Speaker 2: Prager Show. 272 00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:43,479 Speaker 1: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 273 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:52,919 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless Wisdom. 274 00:19:56,280 --> 00:19:59,600 Speaker 2: Fame. You're listening to The Dennis Prager Show The Happiness 275 00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:03,720 Speaker 2: Hour and the subject today and thank you Jimmy. I 276 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:08,159 Speaker 2: thank him every week. Where's the real stuff in life? 277 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:12,080 Speaker 2: The topic today is if you feel unhappy? I am 278 00:20:12,119 --> 00:20:15,240 Speaker 2: asking you to ask yourself why dig dig dig dig 279 00:20:15,320 --> 00:20:17,400 Speaker 2: dig dig. You may need the help of a therapist, 280 00:20:17,440 --> 00:20:20,920 Speaker 2: you may need the help of a friend. It may 281 00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:24,399 Speaker 2: come to you immediately, but it's very important to figure 282 00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:28,320 Speaker 2: out why that is, to figure out whether or not 283 00:20:28,440 --> 00:20:33,399 Speaker 2: it's accurate. One way to do that is to ask yourself, well, 284 00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:37,040 Speaker 2: if that were solved, or if that didn't take place, 285 00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:40,439 Speaker 2: would I be happy? Very often, in fact, most of 286 00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:44,280 Speaker 2: the time you'll find that, not all the time, not 287 00:20:44,400 --> 00:20:46,840 Speaker 2: at all, but most of the time you will find 288 00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:49,120 Speaker 2: that when that was not an issue in your life, 289 00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:53,600 Speaker 2: you were not particularly happy, So that, in fact, that 290 00:20:53,680 --> 00:20:55,879 Speaker 2: may not be the reason. That may be the cause 291 00:20:55,960 --> 00:21:01,960 Speaker 2: of immediate pain. And I'm asking you to divide between 292 00:21:02,080 --> 00:21:07,400 Speaker 2: pain and unhappiness, just as you do between between sickness 293 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:09,359 Speaker 2: and health, in the sense that you can say I 294 00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:13,080 Speaker 2: have the flu, but I'm a healthy person. All right. Anyway, 295 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:16,560 Speaker 2: let's go to some more calls, and we actually have 296 00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:18,679 Speaker 2: to the one hour of the week where there's very 297 00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:21,920 Speaker 2: little dissent, but when there is, it's fun to take those. 298 00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:25,920 Speaker 2: Suzanne and Portland, Oregon, Dennis Prager High. 299 00:21:26,000 --> 00:21:31,040 Speaker 6: Yes, hi, sir, I'm a little nervous, but I have 300 00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:34,679 Speaker 6: been through basically everything you mentioned them since the beginning 301 00:21:34,680 --> 00:21:37,760 Speaker 6: of the program, and I realized as life goes on, 302 00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:41,120 Speaker 6: I've raised six children and I'm still in a very 303 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:45,120 Speaker 6: very difficult marriage. When a my husband is a problem, 304 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:49,560 Speaker 6: it's not it's all about my own attitude. I know 305 00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:54,120 Speaker 6: the unhappiness being a young woman with PMS. That feels terrible. 306 00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:56,399 Speaker 6: But even then, you have choices. You don't have to 307 00:21:56,480 --> 00:22:00,960 Speaker 6: engage in battles. You can remove yourself gracefully and say speculator. 308 00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:06,359 Speaker 6: And it is true pain can overwhelm you. The pain 309 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:10,399 Speaker 6: to hear that a parent has cancer terminal is so 310 00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:13,880 Speaker 6: overwhelming and you really don't feel happy. But the happiness 311 00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:17,800 Speaker 6: that I have and I believe is coming from within 312 00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:22,439 Speaker 6: that has nothing to do with the circumstances. So I 313 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:27,119 Speaker 6: call the happiness from from within joy, and I believe 314 00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:27,800 Speaker 6: that's from God. 315 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:33,080 Speaker 2: Well, well, as it happens, we largely agree, Suzanne, that 316 00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:36,600 Speaker 2: my general thesis is precisely that that you are the 317 00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:39,400 Speaker 2: greatest obstacle to your own happiness, that you, we are 318 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:44,479 Speaker 2: the sources of our happiness and unness. But that doesn't 319 00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:48,240 Speaker 2: mean that things from outside do not do not impinge. 320 00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:51,680 Speaker 2: I mean, I live in the real world too. It's 321 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:53,960 Speaker 2: it's the sort of thing where both are true even 322 00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:58,760 Speaker 2: though they sound contradictory. But thank you. Yes it's largely true. 323 00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:00,960 Speaker 2: But I mean, I don't know her marriage at all. 324 00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:04,200 Speaker 2: But let us just say that her husband is really 325 00:23:04,240 --> 00:23:09,080 Speaker 2: an awful man. Well, it is hard to be happy 326 00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:15,440 Speaker 2: while married to somebody awful. That makes sense. You can 327 00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:18,159 Speaker 2: work on yourself and work on yourself, and you should, 328 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:21,200 Speaker 2: and you should still and if you, for whatever reason, 329 00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:25,600 Speaker 2: choose not to divorce, then then you then you have 330 00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:28,120 Speaker 2: chosen to make a life like that, and you must 331 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:30,600 Speaker 2: work on being happy and fine happiness where you can 332 00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:36,000 Speaker 2: with friends, with interest, with loves of all sorts of things, 333 00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:39,359 Speaker 2: whether it's literature or art, or building a home or 334 00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:44,240 Speaker 2: a million things. Yes, that is why I say we 335 00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:49,720 Speaker 2: are granted usually the privilege of finding happiness in a 336 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:53,200 Speaker 2: whole host of areas, and yours may be different than 337 00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:59,240 Speaker 2: mine for you obviously. Nevertheless, maybe I should have said, 338 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:03,359 Speaker 2: if you feel unhappy, figure out where the pain is 339 00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:06,720 Speaker 2: coming from, not the unhappiness. Maybe that would have been 340 00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:12,720 Speaker 2: even more precise. But for all intents and purposes, I 341 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:15,639 Speaker 2: am just speaking to one addressing one issue, which is 342 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:20,480 Speaker 2: know yourself and know what is impacting on you. That's 343 00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:25,880 Speaker 2: that's what I'm talking about. It's got another psycho therapists 344 00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:28,359 Speaker 2: of you on this, A lot of psychotherapists listen to 345 00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:32,240 Speaker 2: the Happiness Era and delighted. Jonathan one thousand Oaks, California. 346 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:35,800 Speaker 5: Hi, Dennis, Hi you, thank you, and I want you 347 00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:37,520 Speaker 5: to know I've been listening to you since you've been 348 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:38,560 Speaker 5: on Religion on the line. 349 00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:39,359 Speaker 2: Thank you again. 350 00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:41,960 Speaker 5: And one final thing about this. You're a very important 351 00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:43,000 Speaker 5: person in my life. 352 00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:44,119 Speaker 2: Why is that? 353 00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:48,840 Speaker 5: Because I learn a lot from you, and I oh 354 00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:50,840 Speaker 5: good and my other stances. 355 00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:53,679 Speaker 2: You take and well, thank you. All right, hold on, 356 00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:55,720 Speaker 2: I don't want I don't want to interrupt your theory here. 357 00:24:56,359 --> 00:25:00,080 Speaker 2: So he's a psychotherapist and he has another take on 358 00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:02,679 Speaker 2: this matter, and I'm curious to hear it. You're listening 359 00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:08,119 Speaker 2: to the Happiness Er on the Dennis Prager Show, Chase 360 00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:12,720 Speaker 2: all your Cares Away, play happy music. That'll that'll help 361 00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 2: my friends getting ready for the judgment day. Though we're 362 00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:22,439 Speaker 2: still perplexed on that album. Judgment is coming and so 363 00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:25,800 Speaker 2: you should be happy about it. Nothing you can do, 364 00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:30,720 Speaker 2: so just accept it. I'm prepared, though, Is that arrogant? Really? 365 00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:33,320 Speaker 2: Is that? That's an interesting question? We ought to do 366 00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:36,720 Speaker 2: that if you had to be judged today, if judgment 367 00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:40,800 Speaker 2: day were today would be would you be confident that 368 00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:43,760 Speaker 2: you'd be judged on the good side? Roy? You'd be confident. 369 00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:48,600 Speaker 2: Our interurn, Roy has announced that he is confident. How 370 00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:52,879 Speaker 2: old are you? Roy? You've had ample opportunity to be 371 00:25:52,920 --> 00:26:00,600 Speaker 2: a bad guy twenty one by you? How about you? Sir? 372 00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:04,200 Speaker 2: You're not sure? All right? All right? One? 373 00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:04,359 Speaker 6: Eight? 374 00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:08,720 Speaker 2: Prager seven seven six. The subject has been on this 375 00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:13,600 Speaker 2: Happiness Hour that if you are unhappy, or you know, 376 00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:16,240 Speaker 2: you wake up it's a bad day or a bad week, whatever, 377 00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:18,720 Speaker 2: you have to find out why why are you feeling 378 00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:21,800 Speaker 2: that what has triggered it? I guess triggered it is 379 00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:25,200 Speaker 2: the best example. Then you have to ask yourself, if 380 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:29,520 Speaker 2: that were removed, would I be happy? And that's a 381 00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:37,200 Speaker 2: complex one, but it's not unanswerable because there's probably been 382 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,720 Speaker 2: a time in your life when that particular issue was 383 00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:45,080 Speaker 2: not in your life. Were you happy? Then we go 384 00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:51,800 Speaker 2: back to Jonathan, our therapist online one. Thanks for calling again, Jonathan. 385 00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:52,960 Speaker 2: So what's your take here? 386 00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:57,240 Speaker 5: Well, my take is that a large percent of the population, 387 00:26:57,480 --> 00:27:04,040 Speaker 5: perhaps fifty percent or so, can't really identify what is 388 00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:12,520 Speaker 5: causing their unhappiness because they've pushed down their feelings impulses, 389 00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:16,760 Speaker 5: and they're afraid of their emotions, and then they punish 390 00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:23,520 Speaker 5: themselves for the emotion they have. Specifically, when parents are 391 00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:27,760 Speaker 5: hurtful of children in a meaningful way, it's hurtful, and 392 00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:32,080 Speaker 5: then the child has retaliatory rage towards the parent he 393 00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:36,040 Speaker 5: or she loves. Then they have to go underground with 394 00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:38,720 Speaker 5: their feelings, even to themselves, because it's too much to 395 00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:43,440 Speaker 5: there to have this retaliatory rage towards see who they love. 396 00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:50,480 Speaker 5: So they end up using defenses to keep themselves unaware 397 00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:52,639 Speaker 5: of what is really going on. 398 00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:57,240 Speaker 2: With them and this thing that sounds very Yes, that's, 399 00:27:57,280 --> 00:28:00,000 Speaker 2: by the way, an example of where it does help 400 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:03,520 Speaker 2: to have a good therapist. Yes, because you can't figure 401 00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:04,800 Speaker 2: that out on your own. 402 00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:10,600 Speaker 5: Yes. And it's my contention that most therapists can't help 403 00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:14,680 Speaker 5: them enough because they don't help the patient immediately start 404 00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:19,000 Speaker 5: identifying their defenses, because you can't turn against your defense 405 00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:21,879 Speaker 5: is in face the truth if you keep using your defenses. 406 00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:27,880 Speaker 5: And I'm talking about intellectualization, rationalization, right eg, things like that. 407 00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:31,359 Speaker 2: Have you Are you a psychologist? 408 00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:35,240 Speaker 5: Well, actually I'm a marriage family therapist and I have 409 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:38,040 Speaker 5: a PhD in sociology. I used to be a college professor. 410 00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:41,520 Speaker 2: Also fascinating. Well, listen, thank you, Thank you very much, 411 00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:46,240 Speaker 2: amana that you listen. Alrighty we go to San Diego, California, 412 00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:48,520 Speaker 2: and Jared, Hello, Jared Dennis Praeger. 413 00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:52,600 Speaker 7: I I just wanted to say that sometimes we can't 414 00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:55,360 Speaker 7: even I identify what it is that makes us unhappy, 415 00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:57,680 Speaker 7: and I've had those dase two. So what I do 416 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:01,080 Speaker 7: I make a happiness list are things that make me happy, 417 00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:02,680 Speaker 7: and usually it goes away. 418 00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:05,640 Speaker 2: You know, that's very nice. What's on your list? 419 00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:10,240 Speaker 7: Things that make me accomplishments. In my life, I have 420 00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:12,720 Speaker 7: been hearing loss and a lot of people have said, 421 00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:14,440 Speaker 7: you know, you're not going to be able to do 422 00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:17,320 Speaker 7: this or that because of your hearing loss. And looking 423 00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:20,920 Speaker 7: back on my life, I've loking things that people said 424 00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:23,680 Speaker 7: I shouldn't been able to overcome. And that makes me happy. 425 00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:27,720 Speaker 2: That's very impressive. How are you hearing me so? Well? Now? 426 00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:31,640 Speaker 7: Well, I we're hearing ags and I've won uniates and 427 00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,960 Speaker 7: so the kid and healing. You you don't hear with 428 00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:37,240 Speaker 7: your ears. You here with your brain. Your brain has 429 00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:39,800 Speaker 7: a real estate for healing and if you train it 430 00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:42,680 Speaker 7: when you since you're a child, you tend most likely 431 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:43,960 Speaker 7: tend to hear very well. 432 00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:52,520 Speaker 2: Fascinating. Yeah, well, nothing like accomplishment to make one make 433 00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:56,640 Speaker 2: one have some degree of happiness. Uh. It's that's why 434 00:29:56,640 --> 00:30:01,280 Speaker 2: I'm so against the self esteem movement without achievement. I'm 435 00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:04,720 Speaker 2: so against giving all the kids who play in their 436 00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:09,280 Speaker 2: baseball league as kids a trophy, because then there's no 437 00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 2: there's no achievement this. Uh. In fact, I've just written 438 00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:16,200 Speaker 2: they they They're coming out with a book next year, 439 00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:19,880 Speaker 2: a men's commentary on the t or the first five 440 00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:23,000 Speaker 2: books of the Bible and on one of the men 441 00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:26,680 Speaker 2: they asked to comment on one of the chapters, and 442 00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:29,560 Speaker 2: it's a point I'll develop, I think maybe on an 443 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:32,640 Speaker 2: Ultimate Issues hour about this something I've talked to you 444 00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:37,360 Speaker 2: about so often, compassion versus standards, and how society has 445 00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:41,120 Speaker 2: opted for the compassion and it will self destruct because 446 00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:46,960 Speaker 2: standards keep society alive, not compassion. Compassion is a beautiful 447 00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:50,240 Speaker 2: trait of human beings, of course, and that we should 448 00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:54,960 Speaker 2: exercise it on a daily basis, But to government society, 449 00:30:55,040 --> 00:31:00,440 Speaker 2: standards have to be maintained. And the kids that we 450 00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:03,800 Speaker 2: were compassionate toward all they lose so they feel bad, 451 00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:08,120 Speaker 2: will give them a trophy have only been hurt. I would, 452 00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:11,360 Speaker 2: even at eight, I would never evaluate a trophy if 453 00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:16,440 Speaker 2: I lost. I mean, the idea was absurd. What is 454 00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:18,280 Speaker 2: there to wane for if you win a trophy, if 455 00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:20,360 Speaker 2: you're lousy, and if you win a trophy if you're good, 456 00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:29,320 Speaker 2: why not be lousy? Unbelievably unbelievably simple stuff to me. Alrighty, 457 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:39,560 Speaker 2: let's go two, Let's go to Tampa, Florida and Jeff, Hello, Jeff, 458 00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:41,080 Speaker 2: Dennis Prager? How are you? 459 00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:41,560 Speaker 5: Dennis? 460 00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:43,080 Speaker 2: Okay? Thanks? 461 00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:47,040 Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm happy and I'm unhappy at the same time 462 00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:50,120 Speaker 5: and ultimate and I don't tower to your question. If 463 00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:52,400 Speaker 5: I were judged today, would I'd be judged on the good? 464 00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:55,760 Speaker 5: I hope so, because I believe that if I died tomorrow, 465 00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:57,480 Speaker 5: I'd be up in Heaven with Jesus. 466 00:31:57,560 --> 00:31:59,200 Speaker 6: I have no doubt in my mind about that. 467 00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:01,320 Speaker 2: All right, Well, that gives you a lot of confidence, 468 00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:04,520 Speaker 2: totally understandably. We'll be back in a moment. And by 469 00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:06,760 Speaker 2: the way, being unhappy and happy at the same time 470 00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:09,760 Speaker 2: is perfectly right. It's like being sick and healthy at 471 00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:12,280 Speaker 2: the same time. Like I spoke about, I'm a healthy person, 472 00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:15,240 Speaker 2: but I have the flu. That's very good there. Jeff 473 00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:18,000 Speaker 2: will be back. Final segment of the Happiness Hour coming 474 00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:19,360 Speaker 2: up on The Dennis Prager Show. 475 00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:23,120 Speaker 1: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 476 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:38,000 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless Wisdom. 477 00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:47,040 Speaker 2: You're listening to the Dennis Prager Show. Yes, indeed, you know. 478 00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:49,040 Speaker 2: I want to I want to say something on happiness. 479 00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:52,360 Speaker 2: Is a huge general statement that might be helpful as well, 480 00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:54,320 Speaker 2: is that this has been and this is the Happiness 481 00:32:54,360 --> 00:33:00,040 Speaker 2: Hour on the Dennis Prager Show. I want maybe Alan 482 00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:03,200 Speaker 2: we should put this down as a notice that change. 483 00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:05,720 Speaker 2: Folks from allan write this down to maybe we should 484 00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:08,960 Speaker 2: write this down. I want to throw up. I find 485 00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:12,040 Speaker 2: that change. I know you like it. I find that 486 00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:19,840 Speaker 2: change so obsequious, A little obsequiousness, A little obsequious. That's 487 00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:23,440 Speaker 2: not a bad thing. Who said that, Patrick Henry a 488 00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:30,160 Speaker 2: little obsequious? It was? It was McKey Mantle was a 489 00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:36,120 Speaker 2: Mickey Mantles said that, Uh huh, okay, anyway, keep going, 490 00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:40,520 Speaker 2: keep going. I'm enjoying this. I'm sure you are. So 491 00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:46,480 Speaker 2: this is what we should write down. Uh turn his 492 00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:52,400 Speaker 2: mic off, will you? There's a danger he may continue. 493 00:33:55,960 --> 00:34:02,240 Speaker 2: There is no odd radio. There is no producer host 494 00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:08,520 Speaker 2: relationship like al all the others. They laugh at the 495 00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:11,160 Speaker 2: host jokes. They echo what he says. You know, no, 496 00:34:11,319 --> 00:34:13,279 Speaker 2: you guys not either. We have Oh by the way, 497 00:34:13,359 --> 00:34:16,799 Speaker 2: that's right. Hey, hey, hey, hey, we're going to talk 498 00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:20,439 Speaker 2: to Mark here. That's right. So let me be very 499 00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:24,519 Speaker 2: fast about this point. I want you to always ask 500 00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:29,640 Speaker 2: yourselves this question in life, what's my choice? So you 501 00:34:29,680 --> 00:34:31,759 Speaker 2: have a very clear choice life. No matter how much 502 00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:33,680 Speaker 2: pain you're in, you will either let it make you 503 00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:38,799 Speaker 2: unhappy or you won't that's your choice. I mean that 504 00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:41,319 Speaker 2: we don't have a lot of choices in life. You 505 00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:43,279 Speaker 2: don't have a choice about whether you're hit by a 506 00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:46,120 Speaker 2: trunk driver. You have a choice of how to react. 507 00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:49,080 Speaker 2: This is all Victor Frankel, which, by the way, John 508 00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:51,920 Speaker 2: McCain said, was the book that most influenced him. Thank god. 509 00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:54,320 Speaker 2: He said he had read it before his suffering in Hanoi. 510 00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:57,279 Speaker 2: Man Search for Meaning? Which is I told you one 511 00:34:57,280 --> 00:35:00,399 Speaker 2: of the five books that most influenced my life. Where 512 00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:02,479 Speaker 2: is that up? Allan? People always ask for that list. 513 00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:06,000 Speaker 2: Mark Eisler is going to be sitting in for me 514 00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:09,239 Speaker 2: on Monday. I know Mark many years. I tried to 515 00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:15,640 Speaker 2: avoid this as much as possible. Mark is a Seriously, 516 00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:18,760 Speaker 2: he's a wonderful human being, a wonderful talk show host. 517 00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:21,680 Speaker 2: We are thrilled to have you, and I'm very happy 518 00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:23,120 Speaker 2: you'll be sitting here. After you said that I'm not 519 00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:24,640 Speaker 2: going to come in. It's too big a build up, 520 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:27,960 Speaker 2: it is. That's right. You can only disappointmill, that is right. 521 00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:31,040 Speaker 2: But I just I want everybody to know that you'll 522 00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:34,759 Speaker 2: be in and look forward to it. You do, And 523 00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:37,319 Speaker 2: I'm gonna say, why are you going to talk about 524 00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:38,640 Speaker 2: how is he? No, I mean it's going to be 525 00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:41,600 Speaker 2: based on the events of the weekends. To do a 526 00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:44,000 Speaker 2: lot of homework as you will, all right, calling on 527 00:35:44,040 --> 00:35:51,320 Speaker 2: whatever is on your mind. 528 00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:57,040 Speaker 1: This has been timeless wisdom with Dennis Prager. Visit Dennisprager 529 00:35:57,080 --> 00:36:00,600 Speaker 1: dot com for thousands of hours of Dennis's lectures, courses, 530 00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:05,280 Speaker 1: and classic radio programs, and to purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles.