1 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:06,760 Speaker 1: Life Audio. Hey friend, welcome back to our Waiting for 2 00:00:06,800 --> 00:00:09,520 Speaker 1: Weight Loss series on the Compared to You podcast. I'm 3 00:00:09,520 --> 00:00:12,240 Speaker 1: Heather Creekmore, your host, and I'm so glad that you 4 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:15,560 Speaker 1: are going on this Lenten journey with us when we're 5 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:20,919 Speaker 1: talking about how to desire weight loss and not make 6 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 1: it the goal or the god of your life. We're 7 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:28,159 Speaker 1: meeting here every Monday, Wednesday, Friday. We're also meeting in 8 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:30,800 Speaker 1: our brand new community called Waiting for Weight Loss. You 9 00:00:30,840 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: can join absolutely free at waitingfoweight loss dot com and 10 00:00:34,720 --> 00:00:37,239 Speaker 1: then you'll get to interact with our coaches. You'll get 11 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:39,800 Speaker 1: to ask your questions, and you'll get to talk to 12 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:43,599 Speaker 1: like minded Christian women about the hard stuff that we're 13 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 1: talking about here. An amazing thing happens when you make 14 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 1: connections with Christian women who are on the same journey 15 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:51,879 Speaker 1: that you're on. You know what That thing that happens 16 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 1: is you realize you're not alone. And once we realize 17 00:00:55,440 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: we're not alone, oh boy, then the healing today. Our 18 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 1: topic is a big one. It's how to desire body 19 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 1: change without self rejection. How do I hold these two 20 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:23,680 Speaker 1: things at the same time that I really do want 21 00:01:23,720 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: my body to change. I want my body to look 22 00:01:25,600 --> 00:01:30,240 Speaker 1: different without sitting in this. I hate my body, I 23 00:01:30,240 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 1: don't want to go outside. I'm embarrassed, I'm ashamed of 24 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:37,600 Speaker 1: my body. I hate where I'm at now, and I 25 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 1: want this other thing. How do you do that at 26 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:42,200 Speaker 1: the same time, because I think a lot of us 27 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:46,480 Speaker 1: probably have been told that it's that hate or despisal 28 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 1: of our bodies that will actually shame us and propel 29 00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 1: us into that body change, like you need a ton 30 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 1: of body hate in order to ever pull off the 31 00:01:56,640 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 1: body change. But friend, I don't think that's biblical. In fact, 32 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:04,120 Speaker 1: as I see it, I don't think shame should ever 33 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:08,520 Speaker 1: be our motivator for anything healthy. So here's where I 34 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: want to go today. It is possible to want your 35 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:16,080 Speaker 1: body to change without hating the body you have. In fact, 36 00:02:16,120 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: I think that's a much healthier foundation or platform from 37 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:24,799 Speaker 1: which to desire body change or desire weight loss than 38 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:28,079 Speaker 1: the platform of self hatred. Right, And these two things 39 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:32,320 Speaker 1: often get all tangled together, Right, It's as if the 40 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 1: desire for change has to be fueled by the frustration 41 00:02:35,639 --> 00:02:37,799 Speaker 1: or the shame or the disappointment. But again, I tell you, 42 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be that way you can desire 43 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:43,840 Speaker 1: change without hating who you are right now. And here's 44 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:46,679 Speaker 1: some ways that might look for you. It might look 45 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 1: like you need to go buy some new clothes so 46 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 1: you have something that fits you right now, that fits 47 00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:56,679 Speaker 1: your actual today body. Not saving that as a reward 48 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:58,680 Speaker 1: for progress, like I can buy clothes that fit me 49 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:02,680 Speaker 1: when I lose X number of camps. No, Instead, that's 50 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 1: a radical act of accept where I'm at now, what 51 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:08,679 Speaker 1: my body has gone through to get here, just what 52 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:10,640 Speaker 1: my life has looked like that has led me to 53 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:14,960 Speaker 1: this point. I accept perimenopause like whatever it may be. 54 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 1: That's going to be a radical act of self acceptance. 55 00:03:19,280 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 1: But from that radical act of self acceptance, I believe 56 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 1: you are better set up to make healthy choices for 57 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 1: your life. Right You know how it is like when 58 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 1: you start to lose some weight on a plan, you 59 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 1: actually kind of get to the point where you want 60 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:41,360 Speaker 1: to make more healthy choices because the weight loss feels good. 61 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:43,400 Speaker 1: You kind of start to feel like, Okay, I feel 62 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:45,680 Speaker 1: a little better in my skin. But you don't have 63 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: to wait for the weight loss in order for that 64 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:50,440 Speaker 1: to happen. You can start to feel better in your 65 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 1: skin right now. Today, before that scale ever even moves, 66 00:03:55,600 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 1: just by showing your body some care and some respect. 67 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 1: Of that care and respect, it's finding some clothes that fit. You. 68 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:07,080 Speaker 1: Don't have to spend a ton of money, but find 69 00:04:07,120 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 1: some clothes that you feel comfortable in, you feel like 70 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: look decent enough on you, and feel good about your 71 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:18,839 Speaker 1: body where you're at today as much as you can 72 00:04:19,279 --> 00:04:21,360 Speaker 1: while you're on your way to that goal. Here's another one, 73 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 1: body checking. You know, I talk about body checking in 74 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:28,480 Speaker 1: this book, My forty Day Body Image Workbook. This is 75 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 1: such a big thing. If you're not sure what body 76 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:32,160 Speaker 1: checking is, it's you know, I don't know. You wake 77 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:34,600 Speaker 1: up and you feel your chin, or you feel your 78 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 1: stomach or the other body parts. You are kind of 79 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:40,920 Speaker 1: checking them all the time to see if they've grown, 80 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:43,000 Speaker 1: or if they feel boppy, or if they feel more 81 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: jiggly than they did last week. Right, But choosing to 82 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:50,320 Speaker 1: stop body checking or could even be like mirror scanning, 83 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 1: you know, taking mental measurements of yourself. It's constant evaluation. 84 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 1: Choosing to stop that is a way to let your 85 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:03,480 Speaker 1: body know that it's safe. Right. Your body is okay, 86 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:08,200 Speaker 1: just as it is today, And when you choose to 87 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: take that action to stop all your body checking behaviors. 88 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:15,080 Speaker 1: It can actually help you feel better. It can help 89 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 1: calm that anxiety down because he's kind of what these 90 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: things are. They're kind of anxious habits. You're calming the 91 00:05:22,120 --> 00:05:25,719 Speaker 1: anxiety down. You're saying, I'm okay, just as I am today. 92 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 1: I'm going to hold the truth that God made my 93 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:30,160 Speaker 1: body good and that I did not mess it up 94 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: beyond repair. And I can also hold the truth that 95 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 1: it desired my body to change. I would like to 96 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 1: lose some weight or have my body change another way. 97 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:42,120 Speaker 1: The third thing I would encourage you to do and 98 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 1: as a way to accept where your body is today 99 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 1: while holding that weight loss goal, is to stop comparing 100 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:54,359 Speaker 1: yourself to other women. Friend, God gave you your body. He 101 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 1: knows your story, all that body has been through, all 102 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:00,719 Speaker 1: the ways that body has served you, helped you, kept 103 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:03,560 Speaker 1: you alive. And your story is not the same as 104 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:06,640 Speaker 1: anyone else's story. Your genetics are not the same as 105 00:06:06,640 --> 00:06:12,080 Speaker 1: anyone else's genetics. Your stress, what you've been through not 106 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: the same as anyone else's. Your body has a lot 107 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:23,080 Speaker 1: of unique characteristics to it that reflect your story. So 108 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:27,400 Speaker 1: don't shame your body for what it's been through. Instead, 109 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:29,960 Speaker 1: we can actually thank for bodies now. I know for 110 00:06:29,960 --> 00:06:31,920 Speaker 1: some of you were like, I'm not there yet. That's okay, 111 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:36,159 Speaker 1: just hear me out. Thank you body for going through 112 00:06:36,360 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 1: for pregnancies. Thank you body for enduring that tough, stressful 113 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:46,800 Speaker 1: season I was in. Thank you body for helping me 114 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:50,040 Speaker 1: be a caretaker as I watched over and hoped that 115 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:53,800 Speaker 1: loved one and poured it all out. I was exhausted. 116 00:06:54,320 --> 00:06:57,240 Speaker 1: It took a toll on my body. Thank you body 117 00:06:57,240 --> 00:07:02,800 Speaker 1: for being there for Meppreciate and respect the body you 118 00:07:02,839 --> 00:07:06,040 Speaker 1: have today for all it's done for you, and still 119 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:09,240 Speaker 1: desire for it to change. Scripture reminds us not to 120 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 1: be anxious about anything, right Matthew six twenty five talks 121 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:15,280 Speaker 1: about like, don't be anxious about the clothesure, where of 122 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:18,560 Speaker 1: the fooji eat? And none of that is because our 123 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:21,280 Speaker 1: bodies don't matter. It's not what Jesus is saying at all. 124 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 1: He's saying it's anxiety. He's not gonna help you, right, 125 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: So who can add a day to his life by worrying? Friend, 126 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:34,440 Speaker 1: Being anxious and stressed about what your body looks like 127 00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 1: today is not a good foundation for your body change goals. Instead, 128 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 1: I think a better foundation is feeling loved right, knowing 129 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:50,920 Speaker 1: you are already fully accepted in Jesus Christ, just as 130 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:55,560 Speaker 1: you are today. Jesus isn't waiting for you to drop 131 00:07:55,600 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 1: a couple pounds and then he'll say, and it comes 132 00:07:57,760 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: into my arms, you're my adopted daughter. No, that's already 133 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:03,400 Speaker 1: done right. That's the unique thing about the Gospel of 134 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:06,840 Speaker 1: Jesus Christ compared to all other religions, is the Gospel 135 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:10,080 Speaker 1: is the only path that says the work's already been 136 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 1: done and you didn't have to do it. Jesus did 137 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 1: it for you. He accepts you, and he loves you 138 00:08:19,440 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 1: just as you are today. Oh yeah, he's going to 139 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:25,559 Speaker 1: sanctify you. There's some things that'll change. I'm not saying 140 00:08:25,560 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 1: you should stay where you're at today. We're all on 141 00:08:28,160 --> 00:08:32,920 Speaker 1: a sanctification journey. But that sanctification journey comes little by little, 142 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 1: degree by degree. Like verse Timothy, excuse me, tewod Timothy 143 00:08:36,720 --> 00:08:39,720 Speaker 1: one seven says God hasn't given us a spirit of fear, 144 00:08:39,920 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 1: but power, love, and a sound mind. Right. Shame doesn't 145 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:50,319 Speaker 1: help us make wise decisions. Shame actually keeps us from 146 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:53,960 Speaker 1: worship and service and loving others well, because it keeps 147 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:59,720 Speaker 1: us hiding in our houses, on our phones or on television, 148 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:04,200 Speaker 1: like just doing inward focused activities, waiting for that one 149 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:06,680 Speaker 1: day when I'll feel good enough about my body to 150 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:10,319 Speaker 1: go out. It's actually using your body that will continue 151 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:14,080 Speaker 1: to make you feel good enough. It's using your body 152 00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:16,800 Speaker 1: for the purpose Guy created it for. That will help 153 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:19,880 Speaker 1: you feel alive, and that will propel more energy, more 154 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:22,800 Speaker 1: inertia to continue to out you feel better and better. 155 00:09:23,880 --> 00:09:27,520 Speaker 1: So don't hide at home because of shame waiting. You 156 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:31,520 Speaker 1: can hold these two things together. My body is okay, 157 00:09:31,679 --> 00:09:34,520 Speaker 1: just as it is now. It is accepted and it 158 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:38,200 Speaker 1: is loved, even if not by me or anyone else. 159 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 1: I know I'm accepted and loved in Christ. And God 160 00:09:42,920 --> 00:09:45,840 Speaker 1: gave me a body to use on purpose, for his purpose, 161 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:50,400 Speaker 1: and I'd like it to change. But I'm not going 162 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:55,000 Speaker 1: to get so concerned, so consumed, so fearful and anxious 163 00:09:55,040 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 1: about that change happening, that it's going to stop me 164 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:01,040 Speaker 1: from doing what it is asked me and directed me 165 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:03,480 Speaker 1: to do, and called me to do with this body 166 00:10:03,520 --> 00:10:07,240 Speaker 1: I have. Right now, you're allowed to want change, and 167 00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:12,000 Speaker 1: you're allowed to treat yourself with dignity as you go 168 00:10:12,120 --> 00:10:15,680 Speaker 1: for it. These two things can exist together. I'm so 169 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 1: glad you were here today. I hope this encouraged you 170 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:24,120 Speaker 1: come back. Join the Waiting for Weight Loss community. 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