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<v Speaker 1>Life Audio. In today's episode of Timeless Wisdom.

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<v Speaker 2>I begin with the question of trusting people unless given

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<v Speaker 2>reason not to. I am prepared to trust people.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm currently dealing with trust, and I believe it also

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<v Speaker 3>goes in hand in hand with lies. I think everybody lies,

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<v Speaker 3>including myself. But the thing is to face those things.

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<v Speaker 3>One of my friends has been continually lying to me, and.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, that's by the way. The interesting thing

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<v Speaker 2>about lying is especially when adults do this. Kids have

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<v Speaker 2>their own reasons, but when an adult lies to another adult,

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<v Speaker 2>it is because the lying adult doesn't trust the other one.

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<v Speaker 2>The reason that people lie to a friend is very simple.

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<v Speaker 2>If you knew the truth, you wouldn't love me, or

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't like me, or wouldn't be with me, or wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>stay with me.

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<v Speaker 1>That's coming up on Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Welcome

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<v Speaker 1>to Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Here thousands of hours

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, everybody, Welcome to the Dennisprager Show, The Happiness Hour

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<v Speaker 2>every week at this time, I devote an hour to

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<v Speaker 2>the great subjects of happiness. Happy people make the world

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<v Speaker 2>better and the unhappy don't. And that's why I devote

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<v Speaker 2>an hour a week to this subject. It is more

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<v Speaker 2>important than almost anybody thinks. It's up there with integrity, kindness, goodness, honesty.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, join me, everybody here, wherever you are. It's

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<v Speaker 2>the happy, happy, happy happy hour.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, it is it. It's the happy, happy, happy happy hour. Yep,

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<v Speaker 4>that's correct. Come hell or if I order or even

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<v Speaker 4>trillion dollar deficits, we will speak about happiness. And I'm

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<v Speaker 4>dead serious about it. The happy make the world better.

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<v Speaker 4>The unhappy make it worse. It's true in your personal lives,

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<v Speaker 4>and it's true in the world. The happiest in countries

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<v Speaker 4>do not tend to become communist or Nazis or terrorist.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that fair to say? What a happy terrorist? Now?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so in love with life I think I'll blow

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<v Speaker 2>myself up. It's an oxymoron. It doesn't work that way. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I am so happy. I'm going to go to the

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<v Speaker 2>communist rally and see how many more Ukrainians I can

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<v Speaker 2>starve because I'm such a happy dude. Doesn't work like that,

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<v Speaker 2>it does not work like that. The happy make the

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<v Speaker 2>world better. It is a moral obligation to act happy

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<v Speaker 2>even if you are not happy. And that is the

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<v Speaker 2>reason that I devote an hour a week to the subject,

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<v Speaker 2>plus all the lectures I've given around the world on

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<v Speaker 2>the subject and the book that I have written. It

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<v Speaker 2>is that important. I never realized how important it was.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought as a kid that happiness was a selfish

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<v Speaker 2>pursuit that as an adult I have come to realize

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<v Speaker 2>over the last twenty twenty five years. It is a

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<v Speaker 2>moral obligation to inflict one's unhappiness on others, and everybody

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<v Speaker 2>has unhappiness. To inflict it on others is like inflicting

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<v Speaker 2>bad odor and bad breath on others. And that's the

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<v Speaker 2>way it is. Hence I tell you to act happy

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<v Speaker 2>even if you don't feel. It doesn't mean you hide

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<v Speaker 2>what you feel. You can tell or you should tell

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<v Speaker 2>your best friends, that is your spouse, hopefully on others

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<v Speaker 2>you know what's bothering you. Of course, of course, that's

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<v Speaker 2>very different from inflicting a bad mood. Okay, what's today's subject?

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<v Speaker 2>Today's subject is a dual one because they are so related.

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<v Speaker 2>And I begin with the question of trusting people. The

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<v Speaker 2>world is divided, you know, there are all these divisions.

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<v Speaker 2>The world is divided between the those who love dogs

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<v Speaker 2>and those who love cats. We have all of these

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<v Speaker 2>types of divisions, right, and that's fine, and I get

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<v Speaker 2>a kick out of that. One division is those who

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<v Speaker 2>trust people and those who don't trust people. And I

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<v Speaker 2>am in the group that trust people in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think any of you who have heard me

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<v Speaker 2>over any period of time know that I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>people are basically good. So you would think if you

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<v Speaker 2>don't think people are basically good, why would you trust anybody? Well,

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<v Speaker 2>on a daily basis, I am prepared, unless given reason

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<v Speaker 2>not to, I am prepared to trust people. And the

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<v Speaker 2>reason that I am is ironically selfish. I will have

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<v Speaker 2>a happier life based on that than on not trusting.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why, and I'll tell you why. And this brings

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<v Speaker 2>me to the related twin topic. What's the worst thing

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<v Speaker 2>that could happen if you trust some and they betray

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<v Speaker 2>your trust That you get hurt. But if you live

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<v Speaker 2>a life trying to avoid getting hurt all the time,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't live life. And that's the reason that unless

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<v Speaker 2>I am given signals and they're believe me. And I

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<v Speaker 2>can tell you that's a great subject for another hour.

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<v Speaker 2>I can tell you the signals of whom not to trust.

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<v Speaker 2>I am stunned often I have. I have seen this,

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<v Speaker 2>and in fact, I spoke about this on the Male

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<v Speaker 2>Female Hour when I talked about the subject of humiliating

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<v Speaker 2>a spouse publicly. I remember being very very friendly. There's

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<v Speaker 2>a very rare thing in my life, but it happened.

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<v Speaker 2>I was very friendly with a guy. And I won't

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<v Speaker 2>give more data because it's it's not important that he'd

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<v Speaker 2>be identifiable, though he wouldn't be. But nevertheless, anyway, I

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<v Speaker 2>was very friendly. We would we would we would socialize together.

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<v Speaker 2>We even played ball together. And then one day I

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<v Speaker 2>met his wife and he so humiliated her in my

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<v Speaker 2>presence and other's presence. I ended the relationship. I just

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<v Speaker 2>knew then and there, and here is the way it goes.

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<v Speaker 2>If he's going to do that to his wife, he's

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<v Speaker 2>going to do that to me. It's very interesting. By

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<v Speaker 2>the way, if you have a friend who bad mouths

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<v Speaker 2>people to you, please know rule eight four nine A

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<v Speaker 2>in life. They will do that to you to somebody else.

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<v Speaker 2>If you receive bad mouthing, I promise you will be

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<v Speaker 2>the subject of that person's bad mouthing to somebody else.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you want to avoid getting hurt by people,

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<v Speaker 2>avoid people who display bad behavior, not weak behavior, not

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<v Speaker 2>flawed behavior. Everybody does. I mean bad behavior. Bad is

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<v Speaker 2>mean spirited, bad is destructive. Now, by the way, you

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<v Speaker 2>don't always see this the first time you know somebody.

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<v Speaker 2>It may only come out later and then you get hurt.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course that's true. People can put on terrific acts,

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<v Speaker 2>and they do all the time. The world is a

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<v Speaker 2>stage and we are all actors on it, or something

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<v Speaker 2>like that from Shakespeare. And so that is a possibility.

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<v Speaker 2>But so I don't when I say trust people, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't say trust everybody, no matter how they act. Obviously

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<v Speaker 2>there are people who should be ruled out. I am

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<v Speaker 2>stunned when people don't rule out some people from their trust,

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<v Speaker 2>And I think, don't you see what type of person

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<v Speaker 2>this is? What are you nuts? But having said that

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<v Speaker 2>and excluded those people, by and large, it's worth trusting

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<v Speaker 2>because and this is the large issue of today's Happiness hour.

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<v Speaker 2>The larger issue is that the only reason there are

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<v Speaker 2>people who don't trust anybody is they don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>get hurt, and living a life of not wanting to

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<v Speaker 2>get hurt, of avoiding hurt, is not to live a life.

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<v Speaker 2>I prefer to be hurt and live a full life

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<v Speaker 2>than to live half a life and never be hurt.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want on my tombstone here lies Dennis Prager,

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<v Speaker 2>nobody ever hurt him. I don't. That's not an aim

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<v Speaker 2>of mine, and I don't like getting hurt anymore than

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<v Speaker 2>the next guy or the next guyet But in fact,

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<v Speaker 2>that's not how I live my life, and I advise

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<v Speaker 2>the same to you. Well, I'm just gonna, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna, really, you know, keep my distance from everybody

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<v Speaker 2>I meet until you know, if I'm going to ever

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<v Speaker 2>open up to anybody or trust anybody, it's going to

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<v Speaker 2>take a really, really long time. I don't know who's

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<v Speaker 2>going to hang around you that long to be perfectly honest.

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<v Speaker 2>People who don't, who don't. I don't like to be

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<v Speaker 2>mistrusted by people I meet. You don't like to be mistrusted,

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<v Speaker 2>So you should. You should generally have the same approach

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<v Speaker 2>toward everybody else, or toward most everybody else. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>what's going to happen. My father had at a had

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<v Speaker 2>a funny uh has actually a funny statement on that.

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<v Speaker 2>He says, it's only pain. I mean, he went, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, this is a guy who wouldn't take an

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<v Speaker 2>injection before having his teeth drilled. So you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>have to put my father in a certain you know,

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<v Speaker 2>special area of Hey, pain, that's great, but but for

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<v Speaker 2>most of us, it's still a good It's still a

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<v Speaker 2>good phrase for most of us. In most occasions, it's

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<v Speaker 2>only pain. And if you get hurt, you get hurt,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you move on and you hopefully learn a

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<v Speaker 2>lesson of what type of person to avoid. Believe me,

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<v Speaker 2>there are people to avoid. I am I I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>telling you to trust every person on earth, but there

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<v Speaker 2>are plenty of people you can trust and waiting a

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<v Speaker 2>very very very long time until you do so. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not talking about the dating situation where people have

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<v Speaker 2>all sorts of motives going in. Dating is its own world, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I would I would say that a woman is a

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<v Speaker 2>little foolish if she if she trusts every guy that

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<v Speaker 2>she dates, and you know who murmurs anything romantic and

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<v Speaker 2>goes to bed with him? All right? It's forgetting moral

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<v Speaker 2>issues and sexual issues. It's just it's just foolish because

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<v Speaker 2>he has it. Most men have an agenda there and

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<v Speaker 2>that that's understandable. Even good men have that agenda. So

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<v Speaker 2>I want to title my book on male sexuality your

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<v Speaker 2>husband is not a pervert. But that's a separate issue.

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<v Speaker 2>That great title. Every woman thinks her husband's a pervert

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<v Speaker 2>if he's a normal guy. One eight Prager seven seven

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<v Speaker 2>six is the is the phone number here, one eight

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<v Speaker 2>p r a g e R seven seven six, which

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<v Speaker 2>translates digitally into eight seven seven two four three triple

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<v Speaker 2>seven six. And again the subject is that, yes, it's

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<v Speaker 2>better to live a life where you trust and you

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<v Speaker 2>get hurt, you know, periodically, not if you get regularly hurt.

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<v Speaker 2>Then you are trusting too easily. But it's not that

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<v Speaker 2>you're trusting too easily, it's that you're picking the wrong people.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you should trust easily. I just think that

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<v Speaker 2>you have to pick the right people in which to

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<v Speaker 2>do so. I'm going to take your calls as soon

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<v Speaker 2>as we come back, and I have some interesting ones

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<v Speaker 2>coming up. Will begin with I guess Las Vegas, but

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<v Speaker 2>we'll see one eight Prager seven seven six. This is

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<v Speaker 2>the Happiness Hour on the Dennis Prager Show.

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<v Speaker 1>This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this.

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<v Speaker 1>Now back to more of Dennis Prager's time as Wisdom.

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<v Speaker 2>If the economy continues in its direction, that's all you

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<v Speaker 2>will have is the sun in the morning and the

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<v Speaker 2>moon at night. It's going to become the theme song

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<v Speaker 2>of the country. Hi everybody, Dennis Prigger here, this is

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<v Speaker 2>the Happiness Hour. And the issue here is trusting people

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<v Speaker 2>and how I advocate that you do You obviously you

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<v Speaker 2>don't trust everybody, and you have to discern whom to

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<v Speaker 2>bring into your life. That's another subject for another show.

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<v Speaker 2>We must do that. It doesn't have to be even

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<v Speaker 2>a Happiness hour, but we have to do that. But

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<v Speaker 2>it's related. This theme is related to another theme, and

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<v Speaker 2>that is you can't lead a life. And that's the

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<v Speaker 2>bigger theme. You cannot live a life whose primary goal

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<v Speaker 2>is to avoid being hurt or avoid pain. Then you

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<v Speaker 2>don't live a life. See here's the question that everybody

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<v Speaker 2>has to ask him or herself, and that is do

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<v Speaker 2>I want to live a full life? And a full

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<v Speaker 2>life involves more pain than a non full life. It

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<v Speaker 2>does if you opt to to have children, you are

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<v Speaker 2>opting for pain. You are opting in many instances, for

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<v Speaker 2>a spectacular joy as well. It's not only pain, obviously,

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<v Speaker 2>but if you want to avoid pain, if that is primary,

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<v Speaker 2>I would say, don't have kids. I think most people

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<v Speaker 2>would acknowledge that. Even I'm not talking about that the

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<v Speaker 2>kids will be bad or God forbid, very sick, or

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<v Speaker 2>even just normal course of events. The challenges that kids

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<v Speaker 2>pose to a marriage, for example, I mean it's inevitable.

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<v Speaker 2>In fact, you might even argue, don't get married. Look

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<v Speaker 2>at all the pain that has resulted from poor marriages.

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<v Speaker 2>If half the people the divorce or whatever the statistic is,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, people debate, oh it's forty five percent,

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<v Speaker 2>it's fifty, it's not really half. What does sicily debate

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<v Speaker 2>to me? A lot of people divorce, and believe me

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<v Speaker 2>not everybody who didn't divorce is happily married. So if

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<v Speaker 2>you really want to avoid pain, you And by the way,

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<v Speaker 2>there are a lot of bachelors who will say that, hey, listen,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, maybe there's something to be said for marriage,

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<v Speaker 2>but hey, the single life, you know, and I could do.

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<v Speaker 2>I go where I want, when I want, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>have to answer to anybody. I eat what I want,

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<v Speaker 2>I watch what I want. You know, that's great. In fact,

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<v Speaker 2>some of the men sitting with me right now have

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<v Speaker 2>a big smile on their face thinking that is one

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<v Speaker 2>cool life. I mean, you know. So that's the question

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<v Speaker 2>that you have to pose. Do you want to lead

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<v Speaker 2>a full life or do you want to lead a

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<v Speaker 2>life that minimizes the possibility of pain? Alrighty, who did

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<v Speaker 2>we promise? We promised Vegas? All right, Jack in Las Vegas.

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<v Speaker 2>You're on Dennis Praguer. Hey, you're not on Dennis Prager.

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<v Speaker 2>You're on the Dennis Prager Show.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, thank you for taking my call. Dennis. I can't

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<v Speaker 3>thank enough for your work. You do help me change

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<v Speaker 3>my life and face myself a wonderful things. I'm currently

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<v Speaker 3>dealing with trust, and I believe it also goes in

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<v Speaker 3>hand in hand with lies. I think everybody lies, including myself.

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<v Speaker 3>But the thing is to face those things. One of

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<v Speaker 3>my friends has has been continually lying to me, and.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, that's by the way. The interesting thing

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<v Speaker 2>about lying is especially when adults do this. Kids have

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<v Speaker 2>their own reasons, but when an adult lies to another adult,

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<v Speaker 2>it is because the lying adult doesn't trust the other one.

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<v Speaker 2>The reason that people lie to a friend is very simple.

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<v Speaker 2>If you knew the truth, you would you wouldn't love me,

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<v Speaker 2>or wouldn't like me, or wouldn't be with me, or

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't stay with me. So ironically, it comes from his

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<v Speaker 2>mistrust of you.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, I guess I don't know, but it hurts so much,

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<v Speaker 3>you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, then look, you know you you explain this. If

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<v Speaker 2>you can tell me on a national show, you should

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<v Speaker 2>also tell him privately, and you should say, look, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I just I've always you know, adored you, and you

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<v Speaker 2>know how close I feel. But you're rupturing our friendship

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<v Speaker 2>because I can't trust what you say to be true. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>And see that's where who the person is. Well, that's right,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't that's the reason lying is so off, that's right, Jack.

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<v Speaker 2>And I hear the pain. I mean, I hate to

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<v Speaker 2>say it. I feel like Bill Clinton. I hear your pain,

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<v Speaker 2>but I do, and it is painful. Look, a rupture

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<v Speaker 2>with a friend is like a divorce. I value friendships

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<v Speaker 2>in the most sacred manner there. It's essential to my

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<v Speaker 2>well being. Friendship and I've always felt that, And so

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<v Speaker 2>if a friend starts or continues to lie to you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's terrible, but there's no way around that. Either they

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<v Speaker 2>stop or you can't continue, and there's no way around that.

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<v Speaker 2>And the irony, as I said, is that the person

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<v Speaker 2>lying is doing so because he doesn't trust you. Because

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<v Speaker 2>if Jack knew the truth, Jack wouldn't be with me.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, let's go to Fort Worth, Texas and Christina. Hi, Christina, Dennis.

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<v Speaker 5>Prager, Hi, Dennis, thanks for taking my call. Your efforts

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<v Speaker 5>on helping people know themselves have really helped me change

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<v Speaker 5>my life and evolve into a person I am learning

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<v Speaker 5>to love now and I really appreciate that.

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<v Speaker 6>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I appreciate your telling me go ahead.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, Well, my parents have been married for about forty

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<v Speaker 5>three years something in there, and it seems to me

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<v Speaker 5>they've sent their entire life trying to avoid pain and

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<v Speaker 5>trying to avoid conflict, and in doing so, they avoid trusting.

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<v Speaker 5>They have very few friends, and now, as an adult

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<v Speaker 5>and as a parent myself, I've realized I've absorbed that

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<v Speaker 5>same kind of behavior of not trusting and therefore having

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<v Speaker 5>very few friends. And it's only when I had my

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<v Speaker 5>children that I realized I have a problem. Trusting people.

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<v Speaker 5>My husband had to point it out multiple times for

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<v Speaker 5>me to even acknowledge that he had a point. And

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<v Speaker 5>now I learn I have to I have to go

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<v Speaker 5>outside of myself and find strengths where I didn't know

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<v Speaker 5>I had it, to trust the pediatrician or trust the

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<v Speaker 5>grandparents to watch the kids for an evening. And it's

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<v Speaker 5>nerve racking.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow. Wow, Yeah, that's that's powerful. Look thank God for

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<v Speaker 2>your husband.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, absolutely, he's an amazing blessing. We've we're meant to

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<v Speaker 5>help each other grow, for sure.

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<v Speaker 7>But just.

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't know I didn't trust.

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<v Speaker 2>Does the trust manifest itself in that you don't open

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<v Speaker 2>up fully to people, to anyone?

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, yes, I'm very guarded.

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<v Speaker 3>Uh.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm curious if you and I were, if you and

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<v Speaker 2>I were stuck on an island, would would you open

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<v Speaker 2>up to me?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh?

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<v Speaker 5>I'm sure I would, because you open up so so much.

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<v Speaker 5>I've listened to you for a few years now, and

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<v Speaker 5>so I feel like I know you, even though I

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<v Speaker 5>don't know you personally.

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<v Speaker 2>No, you do, right, But you do know me, as

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<v Speaker 2>I always say. But that that your answer is very

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<v Speaker 2>very interesting in what I am gonna I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>share with everybody. Christina, You're going in a great direction.

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<v Speaker 2>That's all I can say. You are you see, folks,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what she opened up with. Remember you help

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<v Speaker 2>me know myself. That That's been a theme of some

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<v Speaker 2>of my happiness hours. You have to know. You can't

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<v Speaker 2>get happy if you don't know yourself. So she knows

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<v Speaker 2>now that she doesn't trust easily. Okay, that's that's step

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<v Speaker 2>number one. That's fifty percent. Then I want to react

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<v Speaker 2>to this thing about Dennis opens up so I can

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<v Speaker 2>open up when we come back.

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<v Speaker 1>This episode of timeless Wisdom will continue right after this.

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<v Speaker 1>Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom.

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<v Speaker 8>It's so important to make someone happy, Make just one

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<v Speaker 8>someone happy, make just one harm to heart you.

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<v Speaker 1>You sing two one.

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<v Speaker 8>Smile that cheers you, lights when your.

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<v Speaker 2>Everything to fame if you win it. You're listening to

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<v Speaker 2>the Dennis Prager shell. And it's the hour I devote

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<v Speaker 2>each week to happiness, titled not oddly the Happiness Hour

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<v Speaker 2>because it is such an important subject. Happy people make

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<v Speaker 2>the world better and make the lives, certainly of those

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<v Speaker 2>around them, so much, so much better. My subject today

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<v Speaker 2>is dual because they have to be related. One is

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<v Speaker 2>the people who mistrust just about everybody, and it's a

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<v Speaker 2>terrible way to go through life. And why people do that, well, there,

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<v Speaker 2>of course there are psychological reasons from their past why

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<v Speaker 2>they would do that, but the but the philosophical reason

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<v Speaker 2>or the rational reason is they don't want to get hurt.

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<v Speaker 2>And my point about that is that avoiding getting hurt

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<v Speaker 2>is a terrible way to live a life. You can't

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<v Speaker 2>live a full life if you don't take risks and

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<v Speaker 2>I mean emotional risks here. And that's the way it is.

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<v Speaker 2>And there are other risks too, by the way, which

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<v Speaker 2>I would I would say the same thing about it's

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<v Speaker 2>better to live a full life with pain than a

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<v Speaker 2>half life with much less pain. The purpose of life

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<v Speaker 2>is to live it, not to avoid pain. At least

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<v Speaker 2>that's my take. Others certainly differ. Now. The last call

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<v Speaker 2>was very moving to me, and this I think she

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<v Speaker 2>was thirty four, was it, Christina? And she said that

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<v Speaker 2>she does not trust easily or even the pediatrician or

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<v Speaker 2>even grandparents that take care of her children, let alone

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<v Speaker 2>opening up to people. And I asked her because she

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<v Speaker 2>had opened up with kind words about my role in

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<v Speaker 2>her life, would you if we were stuck on an

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<v Speaker 2>island together, would you open up to me? Said she would.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's because you open up on the air, and

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<v Speaker 2>I feel I know you, which leads me to another point.

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<v Speaker 2>If you want people to open up, you have to

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<v Speaker 2>open up. That's pretty much. If you're guarded, by and large,

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<v Speaker 2>the next person will be guarded. People pick up immediately

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<v Speaker 2>and so and I don't mean you. You know, you

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<v Speaker 2>immediately divulge every aspect of your life. But if you

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<v Speaker 2>keep the conversation on a macro level and not mention

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<v Speaker 2>your own life, then people will keep it. Likewise, on

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<v Speaker 2>some more superficial level. There are people that I know

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<v Speaker 2>very well, who I've known my whole life, and when

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<v Speaker 2>I whenever I talk to them, the discussion is about

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<v Speaker 2>politics or about religion. But it's always about some subject.

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<v Speaker 2>It's never about what's going on in their life, which

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<v Speaker 2>I don't find all that interesting. Frankly, I can discuss

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<v Speaker 2>I find religion and politics and all these other subjects

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<v Speaker 2>of endless, endless fascination, as you well know. But in

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<v Speaker 2>intimate talk, if it's only that, then it's not intimate. Alrighty,

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<v Speaker 2>Let's go to Houston Texas and Daniel. Hello Daniel, Dennis Prager.

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<v Speaker 9>Hello Dennis. I absolutely adore listening to your show, and

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<v Speaker 9>I wish I'd spend a lifetime speaking with you.

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<v Speaker 2>No, thank you.

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<v Speaker 9>I have a unique problem in the sense that if

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<v Speaker 9>you were to ask any one of my friends or

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<v Speaker 9>anyone who's ever met me any even for a brief moment,

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<v Speaker 9>they would tell you what wonderful and you know, carrying

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<v Speaker 9>a good person I am to be around. But I

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<v Speaker 9>have the most horrible time trying to make peace with

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<v Speaker 9>my mother, and it has gotten so bad to where

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<v Speaker 9>whenever we're in a room together, you know, it's just

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<v Speaker 9>an instant flash. And this all stems from my parents'

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<v Speaker 9>divorce and her infidelity with my father, which has ultimately

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<v Speaker 9>led me to mistrust the majority of women. And I

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<v Speaker 9>continue to try to trust them, but I seem to

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<v Speaker 9>continue to get into relationships where women mistreat me by

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<v Speaker 9>cheating on me or you know, doing something that would

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<v Speaker 9>lead me to mistrust them.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I guess.

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<v Speaker 9>Continue. I guess My question to you is how can

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<v Speaker 9>I resolve the issues with my mother were we both

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<v Speaker 9>acknowledge we have many, many problems and we are actually

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<v Speaker 9>trying to resolve them. But we are so much alike

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<v Speaker 9>it is very, very difficult to gain any headway.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, all right, I have a theory on why

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<v Speaker 2>what is happening with the women you date is happening.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll tell you that. We come back. I am curious,

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<v Speaker 2>how are your relations with your mother prior to the divorce. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we'll get an answer. We come back. You're listening to

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<v Speaker 2>the Happiness Hour on the Dennis Prayer Show.

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<v Speaker 7>Hi, this is a message for Dennis Prager at the

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<v Speaker 7>Happiness Hour, choosing to be happy. I also have been

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<v Speaker 7>very emotional and very moody. I let myself for no

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<v Speaker 7>real reason.

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<v Speaker 3>In college.

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<v Speaker 7>I thought the artistics act you been genuine to My

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<v Speaker 7>emotions spiraled down into depression.

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<v Speaker 2>And it was so bad.

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<v Speaker 7>I mean literally I got the point of almost being

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<v Speaker 7>like suicidal. But but what I learned was to constant choice.

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<v Speaker 7>You do have to fight it, but all you got

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<v Speaker 7>to do is just one I know what a time.

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<v Speaker 7>That's Mike, and so I love Denn Frager.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 7>I hope this will help. And this is one of

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<v Speaker 7>the most important things I've learned in my life, that

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<v Speaker 7>going from an emotional person to being people love my

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<v Speaker 7>positivity and happiness, but I choose it and I fight it.

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<v Speaker 9>Thank you Dennis and Jennifer and ever. I love you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Bye.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it, I love this, I love the lyrics,

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<v Speaker 2>as he's still there, Yes he is. Okay, folks, this

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<v Speaker 2>is the Happiness Hour, and I've been talking to you

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<v Speaker 2>about the subject of trusting people and how you can't

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<v Speaker 2>live a happy life if you don't trust people. It's

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<v Speaker 2>pretty self evident, and therefore the larger issue, and the

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<v Speaker 2>more interesting one, perhaps, is that people who don't trust

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<v Speaker 2>people don't want to get hurt, and not wanting to

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<v Speaker 2>get hurt is a poor recipe for a happy life. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>a full life is a happier life, even if it

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<v Speaker 2>has pain, and that's the better life. Now, obviously Daniel's issue, Daniel,

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<v Speaker 2>this would we would be on for the hour at least.

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<v Speaker 2>And indeed you are the classic example of a person

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<v Speaker 2>who probably could be helped by a good therapist. I

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<v Speaker 2>always emphasize good therapists because most of the therapists are

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<v Speaker 2>not good, and every therapist I've talked to was always

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<v Speaker 2>said that anyway. Your relationship with your mother, I asked

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<v Speaker 2>you my last question was was it a difficult relationship

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<v Speaker 2>prior to your parents' divorce.

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<v Speaker 9>No, it was very loving, And I'm sorry I misspoke

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<v Speaker 9>a little. It wasn't that my mother was cheating on

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<v Speaker 9>my father. They just had a horrible relationship, and my

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<v Speaker 9>father had explained to us that she had cheated on him.

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<v Speaker 9>But what was most traumatizing for me was how quickly

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<v Speaker 9>after they split up she brought other men into her

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<v Speaker 9>life and started dating again. And I've never been able

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<v Speaker 9>to get over that.

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<v Speaker 2>How old were you nine? This is a this is

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<v Speaker 2>a very common issue. It's a to a certain extent,

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<v Speaker 2>it's there were two things going on. They're probably ten things,

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<v Speaker 2>and I would just share two of them. One is

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<v Speaker 2>childhood narcissism. My parents exist for my pleasure, and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't mean that in a condescending way at all. It's

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<v Speaker 2>just that's that's a child like view, and one one

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<v Speaker 2>is no longer a young person. One should not have

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<v Speaker 2>that your parents have as much right to happiness as

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<v Speaker 2>you do, and the constant belief that they should forsake

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<v Speaker 2>it for the sake of the child is a primitive

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<v Speaker 2>narcissistic one. So that's but that doesn't help you psychologically.

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<v Speaker 2>It only helps you intellectually. But the older one gets,

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<v Speaker 2>the more the intellect can play a role here. And

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<v Speaker 2>the other is that you may have very well simply

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<v Speaker 2>identified with your same sex parent and felt that he

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<v Speaker 2>was betrayed, and therefore your loyalty to your father would

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<v Speaker 2>have caused that resentment. Did those two things make sense

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<v Speaker 2>without adult Okay? So all right, these are That's why

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<v Speaker 2>I say these are things that you can you can

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<v Speaker 2>and will. I am sure you will work because you

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<v Speaker 2>want to work them through. You don't want this relationship

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<v Speaker 2>with your.

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<v Speaker 9>Mother, right, No, not at all?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, then I promise you. I promise you it will

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<v Speaker 2>work out. I mean, I'm not saying painlessly. I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>curious though, Oh, yes, the issue because none of that

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<v Speaker 2>is directly related to my topic, except in so far

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<v Speaker 2>as you spoke about the women you date, how they

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<v Speaker 2>repeat your mother's pattern. If they do, the reason is

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<v Speaker 2>so obvious that it doesn't take particular insight. But the

0:31:32.920 --> 0:31:37.800
<v Speaker 2>reason is that you're choosing to undo the damage in

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<v Speaker 2>your home through having women like your mother in your

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<v Speaker 2>life and then making it good. That's why many first

0:31:47.520 --> 0:31:52.600
<v Speaker 2>marriages don't work, because people choose the spouse based on

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<v Speaker 2>the opposite sex parent and try to fix their family life.

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<v Speaker 9>Okay, well, I guess one last question. If you would

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<v Speaker 9>recommend therapy. Would you recommend that we try to do

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<v Speaker 9>some sort of group therapy together?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh you and your mom? Oh, if only if you

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<v Speaker 2>have found that that others have recommended that it works.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have any any that on that question. It

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<v Speaker 2>to me the only issue is what works, not not

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<v Speaker 2>which specific way to do it. But but I tell you,

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<v Speaker 2>the human complexity is such that you know this is

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<v Speaker 2>a perfect example. You know, repeating the sins of the

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<v Speaker 2>family is one of the most common things. It's almost

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<v Speaker 2>as if people sometimes I think people ought to have

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<v Speaker 2>a first marriage and not be allowed to have kids

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<v Speaker 2>for two years and then and then be allowed by

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<v Speaker 2>society to annull it. I mean, of course, I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't advocate that. I'm just saying, though, that so

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<v Speaker 2>often people choose in a first marriage, or in a

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<v Speaker 2>second or a third, or of tenth I mean, for

0:33:01.160 --> 0:33:04.200
<v Speaker 2>that matter, or at least, here is not marriages, but

0:33:04.280 --> 0:33:08.800
<v Speaker 2>here was successive relationships. Again, choosing the mother so as

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<v Speaker 2>to so as to undo the damage and fix it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's all done by the way, subconsciously. No, none of

0:33:14.840 --> 0:33:17.760
<v Speaker 2>it is done consciously. In fact, consciously, you may want

0:33:17.800 --> 0:33:22.080
<v Speaker 2>to choose the opposite of your opposite sex parent. All right,

0:33:22.120 --> 0:33:24.760
<v Speaker 2>back to the trust issues in any event, and let's

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<v Speaker 2>go to San Antonio, Texas and Deborah High Deborah Dennis Prager.

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<v Speaker 6>Hi, Dennis, I really love you. I tell my husband

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<v Speaker 6>I have an intellectual affair on him every day with you.

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<v Speaker 9>Uh Oh.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope, I hope he takes it well. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want I don't want to get I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>get white powder in the mail from San Antonio. Okay, oh, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>bless him.

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<v Speaker 6>Came to San Antonio. He took me to.

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<v Speaker 2>Good good.

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<v Speaker 6>Actually, I had a friend or a coworker who used

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<v Speaker 6>to constantly talk about other people, and I guess share

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<v Speaker 6>with me stuff that was going on in their lives.

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<v Speaker 6>And I would never stop her from doing it. And

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<v Speaker 6>somebody told me something that I shared with her that

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<v Speaker 6>was very personal about me. She shared it with somebody else,

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<v Speaker 6>and I knew I had not shared that with anybody else.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, you lived exactly what I said earlier, exactly.

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<v Speaker 6>So I remember being so upset and I said, Okay,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm not going to trust anyone at work. I just

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<v Speaker 6>that's it. And it happened that About a week after that,

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<v Speaker 6>our pastor did a Hebrew teaching on gossiping, and so

0:34:41.200 --> 0:34:46.000
<v Speaker 6>he said, there's three people affected, the person gossiping, the

0:34:46.000 --> 0:34:49.080
<v Speaker 6>person listening, and the person that is God.

0:34:49.400 --> 0:34:52.480
<v Speaker 2>That's right, That's exactly right. And that's exactly from the

0:34:52.480 --> 0:34:54.600
<v Speaker 2>Hebrew teaching. A comment. When we come back and more

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<v Speaker 2>calls on the Happiness Hour.

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<v Speaker 1>This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this.

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<v Speaker 1>Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless Wisdom.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, you're listening to the Dennis Prager Show. I

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<v Speaker 2>try to hit a nerve, as they say, in the

0:35:31.120 --> 0:35:35.560
<v Speaker 2>best sense. Every happiness hour, and sometimes I feel that

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<v Speaker 2>I've really hit one today is one of them. On

0:35:38.120 --> 0:35:40.920
<v Speaker 2>this issue of trust, I could tell by the openness

0:35:40.960 --> 0:35:43.840
<v Speaker 2>with which you spoke and when I see the subjects

0:35:43.880 --> 0:35:47.200
<v Speaker 2>of the other callers. So it's a very big deal.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me say so. Let me say something though, because

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<v Speaker 2>I look at a call here from Sherry in Pensacola, Florida,

0:35:54.280 --> 0:35:57.720
<v Speaker 2>and I'm in a relationship with my man is always

0:35:57.760 --> 0:35:59.719
<v Speaker 2>on the internet, says that I should trust him, that

0:35:59.719 --> 0:36:02.279
<v Speaker 2>he's not dating other women. How can I trust him?

0:36:02.920 --> 0:36:08.680
<v Speaker 2>See the issue of betrayed trust or suspicions in a

0:36:08.719 --> 0:36:13.200
<v Speaker 2>marriage or in dating, that's a separate issue entirely. There

0:36:13.239 --> 0:36:15.800
<v Speaker 2>there are so many other factors involved. I'm talking about

0:36:15.800 --> 0:36:20.279
<v Speaker 2>trusting the other six billion people on earth, not all

0:36:20.360 --> 0:36:24.279
<v Speaker 2>of them obviously, but from among them, and not specific

0:36:24.400 --> 0:36:27.719
<v Speaker 2>to dating. As I said very early, you know, men

0:36:27.840 --> 0:36:30.799
<v Speaker 2>dating tend to have an agenda. Some indeed wanted the

0:36:30.840 --> 0:36:33.520
<v Speaker 2>agenda of marriage. But in any event, men have other

0:36:33.600 --> 0:36:36.839
<v Speaker 2>agendas and doesn't make them bad, it makes them male.

0:36:37.600 --> 0:36:41.359
<v Speaker 2>So this notion of well, I trust every guy I date,

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<v Speaker 2>and if you know, and if he wants to take

0:36:43.960 --> 0:36:45.799
<v Speaker 2>my clothes off, it means that he loves me. That's

0:36:45.840 --> 0:36:49.040
<v Speaker 2>a little silly. Then you're being naive. I'm not asking

0:36:49.080 --> 0:36:52.240
<v Speaker 2>people to be naive. I'm asking them to be trusting

0:36:52.320 --> 0:36:55.279
<v Speaker 2>unless they have reason not to be. That's a tough

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<v Speaker 2>one with Sherry. I mean, I'm on the internet a lot,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's you know, I guess the answer is one.

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<v Speaker 2>One way is, since I'm a big believer in couples

0:37:09.000 --> 0:37:12.839
<v Speaker 2>doing as much together as possible, that you sit you know,

0:37:12.960 --> 0:37:14.799
<v Speaker 2>can I sit next to you? Honey? I would love

0:37:14.840 --> 0:37:17.120
<v Speaker 2>to love to do what you're doing. Say well, you

0:37:17.160 --> 0:37:19.520
<v Speaker 2>don't trust me, and you say no, Actually, the truth

0:37:19.600 --> 0:37:21.640
<v Speaker 2>is whether I trust you or not. I just want

0:37:21.680 --> 0:37:23.759
<v Speaker 2>to share it with you. The more we share. I mean,

0:37:23.760 --> 0:37:26.719
<v Speaker 2>if you can really say that I would have a

0:37:26.760 --> 0:37:28.520
<v Speaker 2>problem with my wife sitting next to me when I'm

0:37:28.560 --> 0:37:33.879
<v Speaker 2>on the internet, I'd actually probably like it. Let's see

0:37:33.920 --> 0:37:41.200
<v Speaker 2>here and uh oh, that's interesting. Jan In Cleveland, my

0:37:41.280 --> 0:37:44.280
<v Speaker 2>ex husband was a cop and in the final stages

0:37:44.320 --> 0:37:46.520
<v Speaker 2>of marriage, we went to a marriage counselor who said,

0:37:46.600 --> 0:37:51.040
<v Speaker 2>for the first time he only knew one husband, a

0:37:51.120 --> 0:37:53.440
<v Speaker 2>cop who was able to trust his wife. I'd like

0:37:53.480 --> 0:37:55.680
<v Speaker 2>to hear about that. I mean, if you can't trust

0:37:55.719 --> 0:37:58.880
<v Speaker 2>your wife, then it's a big problem. That's that's a

0:37:58.920 --> 0:38:01.920
<v Speaker 2>big deal. But I haven't talked about trust in husband

0:38:01.920 --> 0:38:04.520
<v Speaker 2>wife things. That's a separate issue. That's about your marriage

0:38:05.000 --> 0:38:07.440
<v Speaker 2>in general. My friends. Here's the motto. This is what

0:38:07.520 --> 0:38:10.279
<v Speaker 2>I want you to take away from this hour. That

0:38:10.400 --> 0:38:13.920
<v Speaker 2>you can't live a life trying to avoid pain. You

0:38:14.000 --> 0:38:16.720
<v Speaker 2>have to lead a full life, and that will always

0:38:16.920 --> 0:38:20.359
<v Speaker 2>involve pain. And now call in on any subject under

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<v Speaker 2>the sun. One eight Prager seven seven six.

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<v Speaker 1>On tomorrow's episode of Dennis teaches the Torah.

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<v Speaker 10>Shakespeare is a genius. In fact, I'm reading Hamlet now,

0:38:31.719 --> 0:38:33.480
<v Speaker 10>believe it or not. I should have read it in

0:38:33.520 --> 0:38:35.840
<v Speaker 10>high school. But I'm enjoying it more now, I suspect

0:38:35.880 --> 0:38:36.920
<v Speaker 10>than I would have then.

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<v Speaker 2>I suspect I'll read Hamlet again and yet again.

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<v Speaker 11>But having read other plays by Shakespeare, the repeated study

0:38:46.239 --> 0:38:50.040
<v Speaker 11>does not reveal enormous new insights every time I do it.

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<v Speaker 11>I am amazed at how many new insights I learn

0:38:55.040 --> 0:38:59.319
<v Speaker 11>each time I study a chapter in the Torah. There

0:38:59.360 --> 0:39:01.680
<v Speaker 11>is a depth to it that I have found nowhere

0:39:01.719 --> 0:39:05.359
<v Speaker 11>else in life. Now you can say brilliant people wrote it.

0:39:05.600 --> 0:39:09.520
<v Speaker 11>You certainly have that prerogative. I don't believe though, in

0:39:09.640 --> 0:39:14.440
<v Speaker 11>such superhuman abilities as I find in the depth of

0:39:14.480 --> 0:39:16.640
<v Speaker 11>the words of the Torah. So I believe that there

0:39:16.719 --> 0:39:21.239
<v Speaker 11>is a divine human interaction that makes it, being that

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<v Speaker 11>it is to me therefore a religious text, and being

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<v Speaker 11>that in Judaism it is a religious obligation to study

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<v Speaker 11>Torah and related texts.

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<v Speaker 10>I wear a keypot when I teach Toro. So that's

0:39:33.440 --> 0:39:36.760
<v Speaker 10>why I always make this introductory statement. You'll understand why.

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<v Speaker 2>I do it.

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<v Speaker 11>With that, I will begin the Book of Exodus.

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