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Speaker 1: Life Audio.

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Speaker 2: Hi there, it's Dana sche and welcome to the Rebuilding

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Speaker 2: US Marriage Podcast. Do something different sometimes, you all, we

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Speaker 2: have to shock the system a little bit, you know,

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Speaker 2: when you're used to doing something for so long. This

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Speaker 2: is like in any area of life. If you think

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Speaker 2: about those of us who are on a fitness journey, right,

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Speaker 2: what do all fitness coaches tell you? They say, hit

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Speaker 2: workouts work. HIT stands for high intensive interval training, by

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Speaker 2: the way, but they work because you shock your system.

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Speaker 2: And guess what, your relationship is the same way when

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Speaker 2: you get in a rut, when you start to do

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Speaker 2: the same old things, the same old way, the same

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Speaker 2: old time, the same old system. And some of you

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Speaker 2: it's not that your relationships are struggling, you're just bored. Hey, friends,

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Speaker 2: it's Dana Sha and you listening to the Rebuilding US

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Speaker 2: Marriage Podcast. I am so excited about this week because

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Speaker 2: it is Valentine's Day, and I understand that Valentine's Day

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Speaker 2: brings on a lot of different emotions for a lot

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Speaker 2: of different people, depending on the season that you're in

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Speaker 2: in your marriage or your relationship, or if you're in

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Speaker 2: a marriage.

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Speaker 1: Or relationship at all.

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Speaker 2: I know that sometimes this day can be hyped up, right,

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Speaker 2: and everyone's talking about it and everybody's buying the gifts,

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Speaker 2: and if you're single, you can feel really left out.

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Speaker 2: And that's why I'm so glad that a lot of

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Speaker 2: my single girlfriends do Gallantine's Day events and they really

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Speaker 2: use this day to still celebrate love, just not romantic love.

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Speaker 2: So this episode is specifically, though, for those who are married,

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Speaker 2: or maybe those who are in committed relationships where you

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Speaker 2: are not necessarily in a great place. You might be

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Speaker 2: on the hashtag struggle bus and you still want to

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Speaker 2: recognize the day because you can't get away from it,

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Speaker 2: but you don't really know how to respond in a

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Speaker 2: way that feels genuine, in a way.

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Speaker 1: That feels authentic.

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Speaker 2: So I'm going to give you today five ideas on

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Speaker 2: what you can do if your marriage is struggling and

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Speaker 2: you still have to face Valentine's Day. Before I get

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Speaker 2: into that, though, I am on the heels of a

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Speaker 2: really incredible weekend. I spoke at a marriage conference this

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Speaker 2: past weekend, and then I preached four messages at my church,

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Speaker 2: and then I went to my book launch party and

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Speaker 2: it was so amazing. If you're on my email list,

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Speaker 2: I love my email subscribers. I don't just send a

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Speaker 2: whole bunch of stuff, but I really do treat my

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Speaker 2: email list like family. So if you want to get

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Speaker 2: to Danasha dot com for it slash email. That's da

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Speaker 2: Nache dot com for it slash email. So this weekend,

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Speaker 2: like I was saying, which a really great weekend. I

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Speaker 2: felt so loved, I felt so celebrated. I was so

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Speaker 2: encouraged to hear some of the reviews that are coming

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Speaker 2: in from the book already. And then my husband at

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Speaker 2: the end of the event, my husband and my best

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Speaker 2: friend did such a great job helping me with this event.

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Speaker 2: And at the end, Sean told my best friend, He's like,

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Speaker 2: I want people to go around and say something about Dana,

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Speaker 2: like really to encourage her. And that just filled my cup.

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Speaker 2: One of my love languages is words of affirmation, and

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Speaker 2: so to hear people just saying how much this book

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Speaker 2: has meant to them, how much I have meant to them,

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Speaker 2: like I was overwhelmed. I literally was just overwhelmed by

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Speaker 2: hearing all of that. So I want to encourage you. Friend,

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Speaker 2: if your marriage isn't a place where you are looking

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Speaker 2: to strengthen, it does not have to be struggling. Maybe

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Speaker 2: you just want to strengthen your marriage, you want to

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Speaker 2: have better conversations. Maybe you don't know where to start.

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Speaker 2: One of the guys at the book launch was talking

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Speaker 2: about how the conversation starters that I include after every

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Speaker 2: single chapter has really changed the game for him and

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Speaker 2: his wife. And so maybe that's you. You're like, I

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Speaker 2: know we need to be having more conversations of substance.

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Speaker 2: I just don't know how to start. Well, the conversation

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Speaker 2: starters are going to help you a lot. And I'm

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Speaker 2: excited to say that the paperback edition is also now available.

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Speaker 2: So you've got the ebook, you've got the paperback that

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Speaker 2: you can get right now, and then I'm going to

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Speaker 2: be recording the audio version in just a few weeks.

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Speaker 2: I'm super stoked about that. So I want to read

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Speaker 2: to you one of the latest reviews from the book,

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Speaker 2: just so you can kind of get a feel for

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Speaker 2: the experience that you might have when you read this book.

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Speaker 2: This review is from Gina and She says, this book

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Speaker 2: is one of the best Christian marriage books I have

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Speaker 2: ever read, and I have read many in my thirty

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Speaker 2: plus years of marriage. Rather than presenting marriage as effortless,

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Speaker 2: this book acknowledges conflict, growth, and sacrifice while reminding us

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Speaker 2: that God's guidance is essential through every season. Scripture is

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Speaker 2: thoughtfully woven throughout the ti, reinforcing key lessons and encouraging

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Speaker 2: couples to rely on prayer and faith. What stood out

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Speaker 2: to me was how Dana Shay uses biblical couples to

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Speaker 2: show real challenges, love, sacrifice, forgiveness, and commitment while highlighting

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Speaker 2: how God works through imperfect people. The lessons felt both

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Speaker 2: timeless and relatable, a gentle reminder that strong marriages grow

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Speaker 2: through faith, patience, and reliance on God. Dana Shay's writing

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Speaker 2: style is captivating and marked by subtle humor, making the

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Speaker 2: book easy and enjoyable to read. The lighthearted moments added

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Speaker 2: warmth without taking away from the biblical principles, making it

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Speaker 2: hard to put down. Overall, Tried and True is an

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Speaker 2: encouraging guide for any couple or individual looking to strengthen

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Speaker 2: their marriage with God at the center. I'm looking forward

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Speaker 2: to the hard copy release so I can share it

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Speaker 2: with others that I care about. It's a book that

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Speaker 2: offers hope, insight, and practical encouragement in equal measure.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you guys, can you talk about filling

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Speaker 1: my cup? Like I've read that review when I was like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, I can't believe it.

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Speaker 2: Like, I don't know how you feel about words of affirmation,

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Speaker 2: but it is like a warm hug on a cozy day.

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Speaker 2: I just don't even know how else to describe it. So, Gina,

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Speaker 2: thank you so very much for that beautiful, well written review.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, Gana needs to write a book herself that

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Speaker 2: is awesome. Okay, friends, I want to get into the

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Speaker 2: listen to today's episode that regardless of how you have spent

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Speaker 2: Valentine's Day in the past, regardless of the fears or

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Speaker 2: maybe the hesitation or anxiety, this episode is going to

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Speaker 1: To start some new traditions.

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Speaker 2: So, without any further ado, let's get into today's episode.

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Speaker 1: All right.

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Speaker 2: Number one, when your marriage is struggling and Valentine's Day

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Speaker 2: in so many areas. If you take yourself so seriously,

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Speaker 2: going to be despondent and depressed your whole life. There

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Speaker 2: has got to be a time where you can laugh

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Speaker 2: at yourself, when you can laugh at your spouse, when

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Speaker 2: understand you're like, this is not funny, Dana, where we

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Speaker 2: I'm not saying laugh about the thing, whatever the thing

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Speaker 2: just for a day, gonna just have fun. We are

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Speaker 2: to literally make your marriage lighter. It feels so heavy

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Speaker 2: But if you lay those burdens down, they'll be there tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: Maybe you watch a comedy special on Netflix, or maybe

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Speaker 2: Maybe you tell each other corny knock knock jokes. I

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Speaker 2: to that actually renews us, that reignites something in your relationship.

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Speaker 2: While you're trying to do the big, heavy things. Sometimes

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Speaker 2: give you is to spend time with your little loves together. Okay,

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Speaker 2: take the kids out Valentine's Day. No spend time as

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Speaker 2: But how about making it a family affair. This helps,

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Speaker 2: still celebrate the day and you can still then involve

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Speaker 2: you and your spouse that you can give them a

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Speaker 2: gift together? Again, this is not about you doing something

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Speaker 2: Wherever is there a couple that maybe you go buy

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Speaker 2: or you buy them a box of chocolates and you

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Speaker 2: walk it over them and you say, hey, we just

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Speaker 2: want to celebrate you, guys today. You have meant so

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Speaker 2: much in our lives. You've listened to us, you've encouraged us,

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Speaker 2: you've supported us, and we as a couple just want.

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Speaker 1: To say thank you.

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Speaker 2: Maybe the two of you don't exchange gifts, but you

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Speaker 2: actually still buy a gift or do something special for

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Speaker 2: someone else again, whether that be a mentor couple, or

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Speaker 2: whether that be your children, but take the focus off

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Speaker 2: express your love to the people.

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Speaker 1: That you love. All right, we are going to take

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Speaker 2: there's three more tips that I want to give you

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Speaker 1: We'll be right back, all right, friends, we're back.

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Speaker 2: So the first thing I said was I want you

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Speaker 2: through laughter, to spend some time with your little loves

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Speaker 2: So the first thing that I want you to do

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Speaker 1: Okay, smile right now. Smile. I'm smiling right now, can

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Speaker 2: I want you to do this together. Number three, I

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Speaker 2: Bite that elephant.

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Speaker 2: Number four, I want you to do something different, go

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Speaker 2: love anyway. Now, you don't have to do all five

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Speaker 2: of these. Okay, that might be a little much, but

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Speaker 2: I'm going to give you a moment right now. I

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Speaker 2: don't want you to click off this podcast. I want

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Speaker 2: you to take a moment right now and tell yourself

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Speaker 2: which one of those five you are going to do.

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Speaker 2: Are you going to lighten your load with laughter? Are

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Speaker 2: you going to spend time with your little loves? Are

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Speaker 2: you going to face your issue head on? Are you

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Speaker 2: love anyway? All right, friends, well, I hope that you

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Speaker 2: now have some ideas I've given you five. You can

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Speaker 2: of course always add to that of how you can

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Speaker 2: celebrate your marriage and maybe even put a new jolt

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Speaker 2: of energy or revive those areas of your marriage that.

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Speaker 1: Maybe feel dead or boring or dry.

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Speaker 2: And Valentine's Day is not like the end all be all,

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Speaker 2: So if you don't do anything on that day specifically,

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Speaker 2: you can still use this wisdom in any other time

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Speaker 2: in your marriage, anytime that your marriage feel is dry,

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Speaker 2: anytime that you feel like we need to kind of

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Speaker 2: take it up a notch. I pray that you will

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Speaker 2: come back to this episode and put these things into practice.

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Speaker 2: So I just want to encourage you again. Be sure

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Speaker 2: to get the book Tried and True. You can go

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Speaker 2: to Tried and truemarriagebook dot com and order your copy.

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Speaker 2: Whether you want the electronic version or the paperback version,

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Speaker 2: both are available at Tried and True Marriage book dot com.

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Speaker 1: Thanks so much for listening. I hope you have a

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Speaker 1: great week. Love you much. Take care,