1 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:06,440 Speaker 1: Life Audio. Hey there, Heather Creekmore here. Thanks for watching 2 00:00:06,519 --> 00:00:09,440 Speaker 1: or listening to the compared to podcasts. Today, we're in 3 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:11,399 Speaker 1: our Waiting for Weight Loss series. If you haven't joined 4 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:13,280 Speaker 1: us in the community yet, go join us there Waiting 5 00:00:13,280 --> 00:00:16,599 Speaker 1: forweight Loss dot com. We would love to just get 6 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:19,079 Speaker 1: to know you and hear your questions there. Our coaches 7 00:00:19,120 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 1: are there reading your questions and we're playing and there's 8 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 1: been some great interactions over there. Today. The topic is 9 00:00:27,280 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 1: how I knew weight loss or our body change had 10 00:00:30,800 --> 00:00:34,760 Speaker 1: become too important to me. And if you're no stranger 11 00:00:34,800 --> 00:00:37,159 Speaker 1: to this show, then you may have heard parts of 12 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:40,559 Speaker 1: this before. But if this is all new to you, 13 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:43,120 Speaker 1: I'm so glad you're here today because today we're going 14 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:46,960 Speaker 1: to talk about what's going on spiritually when we have 15 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:49,760 Speaker 1: an over desire for weight loss. And I'm going to 16 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: just explain what I mean by overdesire in just a minute. 17 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 1: But I'm glad you're here today. This could be the 18 00:00:54,760 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: most important episode of this whole series. So maybe share 19 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:02,319 Speaker 1: it with a friend, invite someone to listen to it 20 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:06,760 Speaker 1: with you and talk about it. Right, That's how we 21 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 1: actually change. It's not just listening, right, it's doing in fact, 22 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:13,520 Speaker 1: that's why we do the forty day Body Image's Journey. 23 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 1: We've got another one starting right after Easter. Because it's 24 00:01:16,640 --> 00:01:19,399 Speaker 1: not just about like reading something or listening to something 25 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 1: and letting it go in here, we actually have to 26 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 1: take action on what we've read, what we've heard. And 27 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:28,039 Speaker 1: one great way to do that is encourage a friend say, hey, 28 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:30,920 Speaker 1: we just listen to this, see what you think, have 29 00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:34,920 Speaker 1: a conversation about it, and then encourage each other in 30 00:01:34,959 --> 00:01:37,480 Speaker 1: any changes you need to make. So that's my encouragement 31 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:40,959 Speaker 1: for you as we get started today, let's get into 32 00:01:40,959 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 1: the day's episode. Okay, so to happen today? How I 33 00:01:55,120 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 1: knew body change had become too important to me? And 34 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:01,600 Speaker 1: you know, friend, I was raised in a Christian home. 35 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:04,280 Speaker 1: I said the Sinner's prayer before I was old enough 36 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 1: to tie my shoes. I knew the God and Jesus 37 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 1: answer for everything. But here's the truth. I knew I 38 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:14,000 Speaker 1: was fearfully and wonderfully made, but I didn't feel like 39 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:18,080 Speaker 1: I was, or at least if I was. I just 40 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:19,919 Speaker 1: was kind of mad at God that he didn't make 41 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:23,359 Speaker 1: me fearfully and wonderfully as her or her or her 42 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:25,959 Speaker 1: right like I kind of felling. Maybe got cheated me 43 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 1: a little bit, right, like she had a faster metabolism 44 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:32,040 Speaker 1: I had. All of my friends growing up were all 45 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 1: taller than me, and they could live on potato chips 46 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:39,640 Speaker 1: and candy and still stay thin, while I was trying 47 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:42,360 Speaker 1: to do diets with my mom and would just drink 48 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 1: lemon juice with I think it was maple syrup in 49 00:02:45,600 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 1: it for three days to try to lose a couple 50 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 1: of pounds. I mean, it didn't seem fair. And so 51 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: if I was fearfully and wonderfully made man like God 52 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:56,680 Speaker 1: got a wrong because I wasn't fearfully and wonderfully made 53 00:02:56,720 --> 00:03:00,680 Speaker 1: like she was, and that was frustrating to me. I 54 00:03:00,720 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 1: also knew that from first Samuel I'd looked at my 55 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:06,640 Speaker 1: heart right, just like he looked at David's heart instead 56 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:09,320 Speaker 1: of David's stature, as David was compared to his brothers. 57 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:12,120 Speaker 1: Now he looked at his heart. I knew what was 58 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 1: important to God was my heart, but I kind of 59 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:20,080 Speaker 1: didn't think that was that important. I know that sounds 60 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 1: a little silly, but it felt like well, but I 61 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:25,639 Speaker 1: already believe in Jesus, I already got the God in 62 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 1: Jesus answers. I know I'm going to have in for eternity, 63 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:32,240 Speaker 1: so check check. Now I can deal with these things 64 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: that are important in my life right now, which is 65 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:37,920 Speaker 1: trying to get a body that I can feel good about, 66 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: a body that I feel is acceptable to everyone, like 67 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 1: a body that I can love, or you know, have 68 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:46,600 Speaker 1: the freedom to wear clothes I want, Like, all of 69 00:03:46,640 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 1: these things are really important goals. And I didn't see 70 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: any disconnect there, honestly, Like most people I knew lived 71 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:57,720 Speaker 1: like that, And most people I knew had their God 72 00:03:57,760 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 1: and Jesus answers and then went about pursuing whatever it 73 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:03,160 Speaker 1: was they felt like they needed to pursue here on 74 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:07,160 Speaker 1: this earth. Money wasn't really a big temptation for me, 75 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 1: Like I didn't really feel like, you know, I was 76 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 1: after the dollar and trying to make a quick back 77 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:19,119 Speaker 1: like you know whatever. Right, But my body goals, that's where, 78 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:20,840 Speaker 1: as we talked about in the last episode, that's where 79 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: my greed and lust came in. Right. I wanted a. 80 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:30,159 Speaker 2: Better body, whatever it took, I needed a better body. 81 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:34,120 Speaker 2: Now here's where this gets tricky, right, And I'll admit 82 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:39,720 Speaker 2: right like I was a thinner person. I was never 83 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:43,039 Speaker 2: a size of zero or even a size two. But 84 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 2: I was a smaller person. I fluctuated right, smaller, bigger, smaller, bigger, 85 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:52,840 Speaker 2: which is what often happens with dieting, right, And so 86 00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:56,200 Speaker 2: so my vantage point might be a little different than 87 00:04:56,240 --> 00:04:58,920 Speaker 2: if you've kind of always had a larger body. I 88 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:01,000 Speaker 2: hear that, I understand that. But here's what I want 89 00:05:01,040 --> 00:05:04,520 Speaker 2: you to hear today. After working with hundreds and hundreds 90 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 2: of women, I can tell you that my conversation with 91 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:10,600 Speaker 2: my clients who do wear a size two and struggle 92 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:13,440 Speaker 2: with this is very much the same as my conversation 93 00:05:13,480 --> 00:05:17,400 Speaker 2: with clients who wear a size twenty and struggle with this. 94 00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:20,600 Speaker 2: This is a heart issue, and that was the part 95 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 2: of the issue I never saw. I always believes that 96 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 2: if they could just get the body, then I would 97 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:30,560 Speaker 2: feel good and then I could rest right, Then I. 98 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:34,240 Speaker 1: Would have earned rest. It would be my reward. And 99 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:36,560 Speaker 1: we talked about rest in an earlier episode. Go back 100 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 1: and listen to that, right, because Jesus promised this as 101 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:43,719 Speaker 1: a rest that doesn't come from meeting our body goals. 102 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:46,359 Speaker 1: In fact, meeting our body goals never brings rest, right, 103 00:05:46,400 --> 00:05:48,800 Speaker 1: because then you just go to maintenance, and then you're 104 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:52,200 Speaker 1: aging against the maintenance, and oh, it's it's hard. It's 105 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:55,279 Speaker 1: just plain hard. And so if we're looking for body 106 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:58,160 Speaker 1: change to allow us to rest, it's never gonna come. 107 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: It's just not. But here's the spiritual side of that 108 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:05,200 Speaker 1: that I didn't see until I was really in my 109 00:06:05,240 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 1: mid thirties, and that is that rest I longed for, 110 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 1: or that peace I longed for, that joy that I 111 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:13,040 Speaker 1: was sure what commised. And as I got my body 112 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:18,280 Speaker 1: right right, all of those things were indicating something. They 113 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:22,640 Speaker 1: were indicating that I had made my body change goals 114 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 1: into something that scriptures pretty clear about. I had made 115 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 1: them into idols. Now, Friend, like I said, I was 116 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:30,920 Speaker 1: raised in church, so I didn't think I had an 117 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: idolatry problem because idols were statues that people bowed down to. 118 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:41,640 Speaker 1: They were kind of weird. I didn't have that. And 119 00:06:41,720 --> 00:06:45,840 Speaker 1: yet that wasn't actually a really good definition of idolatry. 120 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 1: Right for those of us, especially in the West, right, 121 00:06:52,120 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 1: idols are much more subtle. In fact, Tim Keller calls 122 00:06:55,480 --> 00:07:00,360 Speaker 1: them idols of our heart because they're not statues, just 123 00:07:00,520 --> 00:07:04,040 Speaker 1: things in our hearts and often in our heads as well, 124 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:08,719 Speaker 1: that we have made into I'm gonna call it like 125 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:14,200 Speaker 1: vehicles of rescue. These are things that could rescue us, 126 00:07:14,280 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 1: or maybe a better way to say it, and you'll 127 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 1: see the idolatry connection here. These are things that could 128 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 1: save us. And so if I could just get the 129 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 1: body I wanted, it would save me now, not for heaven, right, 130 00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:30,360 Speaker 1: Like that's old. I had my gun, Jesus answer check check. 131 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:32,280 Speaker 1: I wasn't gonna save me for heaven, but it was 132 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:34,680 Speaker 1: gonna save me here on earth. It was gonna offer 133 00:07:34,720 --> 00:07:38,480 Speaker 1: me a type of salvation. And it's a fictitious salvation. 134 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 1: This salvation does not actually exist, but this idle promises 135 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 1: a type of salvation that here on the Earth, I 136 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:48,360 Speaker 1: would never feel insecure, I would never feel bad about 137 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:51,280 Speaker 1: my body, that I would never be rejected. People would 138 00:07:51,320 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 1: always love me if I just looked like this, right, 139 00:07:54,920 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: rainbows and sunshine, right, meeting this body, goal would just 140 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 1: make everything wonderful. It would save me from suffering. If 141 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:11,280 Speaker 1: I could just get this body, then I won't suffer. 142 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 1: But idols lie. They just do because idols can't protect 143 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: us from suffering. And if you don't know if that's 144 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:23,240 Speaker 1: true or not, if you're like, yeah, I don't believe it. 145 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure that my friend who has the size 146 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 1: two and the great body, I'm pretty sure she doesn't 147 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:35,120 Speaker 1: suffer like I do. Friend, it's just not true. Watch 148 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 1: the Taylor Swift documentary. Watch Ted talks by Supermodels. Right, 149 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:47,160 Speaker 1: do some research about your favorite celebrity and just google 150 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:50,680 Speaker 1: person's name and body image, and what you'll find often 151 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:54,280 Speaker 1: is either they've become like a big body positivity fan, right, 152 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:57,800 Speaker 1: and so that's kind of covering your body image problems 153 00:08:57,800 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 1: with pride. Which if that doesn't make sense to you, hey, 154 00:09:00,679 --> 00:09:02,320 Speaker 1: join us on the forty Day Journey, because we get 155 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:05,160 Speaker 1: into that. We talk about body positivity and body neutrality 156 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:07,080 Speaker 1: and kind of what the difference is and how those 157 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:09,719 Speaker 1: aren't really the answer for our problems. In fact, I 158 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:12,080 Speaker 1: don't even believe you have to love your body the 159 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:14,120 Speaker 1: way culture says to love your body. That's not the 160 00:09:14,160 --> 00:09:17,520 Speaker 1: alt there's no Bible verse that says love your body, 161 00:09:17,720 --> 00:09:21,040 Speaker 1: that says love your neighbor as yourself, right, but that 162 00:09:21,320 --> 00:09:27,680 Speaker 1: it's about a sacrificial kind of love and service to 163 00:09:28,200 --> 00:09:31,719 Speaker 1: those around us, which should be equal with the way 164 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 1: we love and serve ourselves. It's not about what to 165 00:09:33,920 --> 00:09:37,240 Speaker 1: look like or loving your stretch marks? Right, and we 166 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:40,480 Speaker 1: just we've taken scripture way out of context to make 167 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:54,720 Speaker 1: that verse mean that do you have an idle problem? Thikes, 168 00:09:56,160 --> 00:10:01,559 Speaker 1: this is something that only you can know. But I 169 00:10:01,679 --> 00:10:03,400 Speaker 1: promise you that if you take it to the Lord 170 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:06,160 Speaker 1: and say, God, have I made this an idol? Am 171 00:10:06,200 --> 00:10:10,360 Speaker 1: I looking for weight loss or body change to do 172 00:10:10,559 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 1: something in my life that only you can do? Am 173 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:15,640 Speaker 1: I looking for this to bring me rest? Am I 174 00:10:15,679 --> 00:10:18,120 Speaker 1: looking for this to bring me security? Am I looking 175 00:10:18,160 --> 00:10:21,680 Speaker 1: for this to bring me hope? Right? Weight loss can't 176 00:10:21,679 --> 00:10:24,920 Speaker 1: do any of those things. It's just an idol that 177 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:28,240 Speaker 1: tells us it can. And so, Friend, like I said, 178 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:31,200 Speaker 1: this is probably the most important episode of this series. 179 00:10:32,160 --> 00:10:35,680 Speaker 1: I've done other episodes on the Compared To podcast around 180 00:10:35,880 --> 00:10:39,320 Speaker 1: body image Idolatry. I share my story even more on 181 00:10:39,320 --> 00:10:42,839 Speaker 1: some of them too, But friend, asking yourself this question 182 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 1: today because this is a lynchpin. Okay, So if you 183 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:51,080 Speaker 1: can figure out like I did, that you've made your 184 00:10:51,440 --> 00:10:55,080 Speaker 1: body changed goals your body you know, weight loss goals. 185 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:58,800 Speaker 1: If you've made these into an idol, friend, then this 186 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 1: is how you can change the shift that priority. This 187 00:11:04,679 --> 00:11:09,720 Speaker 1: is how you can recognize that this has taken too 188 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 1: important of a role in your life. And this is 189 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 1: how you can ungrip your clenched fists and relax as 190 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:25,400 Speaker 1: you pursue health, as you pursue body change. This is 191 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:29,000 Speaker 1: what gives you the freedom to not be impatient. Because 192 00:11:29,040 --> 00:11:31,319 Speaker 1: here's the thing. Idles stand between us and the Lord. 193 00:11:32,360 --> 00:11:34,800 Speaker 1: It's really difficult for us to hear from him when 194 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 1: we've got an idol in the way. It's really difficult 195 00:11:37,320 --> 00:11:39,640 Speaker 1: for us to obey him when we've got an idol 196 00:11:39,640 --> 00:11:45,000 Speaker 1: in the way. Idle Idolatry is sin, and it separates 197 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:50,640 Speaker 1: us from God right and so confessing that sin, repenting 198 00:11:50,679 --> 00:11:52,959 Speaker 1: of that sin, and saying God help me with this, 199 00:11:53,880 --> 00:11:55,839 Speaker 1: it's probably the most important thing you can do for 200 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:59,079 Speaker 1: your weight law school. If you've got questions about this, 201 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:01,120 Speaker 1: come to the community waiting for weight loss dot com. 202 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:04,319 Speaker 1: We'd love to chat with you about this there. This 203 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 1: is one of the most important things for you to consider. 204 00:12:09,600 --> 00:12:13,520 Speaker 1: I would say, maybe in all of your life, because 205 00:12:13,520 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 1: as I've observed it, there are so many women that 206 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:19,440 Speaker 1: think they have the God in Jesus' answer, and then 207 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:23,600 Speaker 1: they're pursuing body change goals as if they will save them, 208 00:12:23,840 --> 00:12:26,560 Speaker 1: and they're missing out on true life, on true salvation, 209 00:12:27,120 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 1: on the purpose God has on and for their life. 210 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:31,679 Speaker 1: And I don't want you to be one of them. 211 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:33,920 Speaker 1: Reach out if you need help. This is what we 212 00:12:33,960 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 1: coach women around all the time, and you can always 213 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: join us on the forty Day Journey starting I think 214 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:41,040 Speaker 1: it is April sixth. We'll talk about this more. If 215 00:12:41,040 --> 00:12:43,000 Speaker 1: this is a brand new concept for you, Hey, thanks 216 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:45,719 Speaker 1: for listening today. We'll see in the next episode, come 217 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:49,000 Speaker 1: Bo Babe. Compared to podcasts, it's proud to be part 218 00:12:49,000 --> 00:12:50,760 Speaker 1: of the Life Audio podcast network from were a great 219 00:12:50,840 --> 00:13:01,359 Speaker 1: Christian podcast Go to life audio dot com.