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Speaker 1: Life Audio. Hey there, thanks for watching or listening to

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Speaker 1: the Compared to You podcast today. I'm Heather creek Moor

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Speaker 1: and we're in a series called Waiting for we Loss,

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Speaker 1: and today we're going to talk about how to get

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Speaker 1: out of your head. I think that is the most

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Speaker 1: important thing. After recognizing that you've made your body image

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Speaker 1: and idle, potentially that's between you and the Lord. But

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Speaker 1: after seeing that idolatry, after seeing the ways that perhaps

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Speaker 1: your heart has actually believed that a different body, a

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Speaker 1: better body, a more beautiful body, would save you. After

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Speaker 1: seeing and identifying all of that, you got to get

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Speaker 1: out of your head. Now. I've done a couple other

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Speaker 1: episodes on this before, but today I want to bring

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Speaker 1: you a very relevant and real example from my own life.

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Speaker 1: So that's where we're going today. I'm glad you're so.

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Speaker 1: My husband and I just celebrated twenty years of marriage.

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Speaker 1: So we went away for a few days to a

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Speaker 1: tropical location and I felt like I was right back

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Speaker 1: on my honeymoon again. And let me explain to you

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Speaker 1: why I'm sitting at the pool and all of a sudden,

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Speaker 1: I was overwhelmed with this very familiar feeling of oh, Wow,

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Speaker 1: there's a lot of beautiful women here. And I remember

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Speaker 1: back twenty years ago on my honeymoon, I remember feeling like, Wow,

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Speaker 1: I thought my body image issues were going to be

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Speaker 1: fixed when I got married, and instead now I feel

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Speaker 1: like I'm in this even bigger competition where I now

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Speaker 1: suddenly have to be on the lookout for all women

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Speaker 1: that look better than me and then somehow stop my

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Speaker 1: husband from seeing them, which is impossible unless you only

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Speaker 1: Vay came in caves when deserts with no one around.

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Speaker 1: And so I'm sitting there there at the pool, and

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Speaker 1: these very familiar feelings are just overwhelming me. And I'm

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Speaker 1: looking around and I'm seeing a variety of bodies, right,

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Speaker 1: Because if we're honest with ourselves, we kind of zoom

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Speaker 1: in on the good quote unquote better bodies, right, We

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Speaker 1: zoom in the younger woman in the teeny tiny bikini,

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Speaker 1: but we miss kind of the other people sitting around

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Speaker 1: the pool. And what I recognize was that every woman

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Speaker 1: there looked different. Every woman there had a different body

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Speaker 1: size and different shape, and some of them were larger

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Speaker 1: and different proportions. Right, we all looked different, and I

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Speaker 1: was thinking my posture as I looked out around that pool,

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Speaker 1: was where am I in the contest? How do I

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Speaker 1: fit in? Am I going to win the contest? Am

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Speaker 1: I going to lose the contest? Am I going to

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Speaker 1: come in seventh? Am I going to come in twelfth?

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Speaker 1: Am I going to come in last? And I was

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Speaker 1: looking around thinking about these women as my competitors. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I hate to say that, but that was kind of

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Speaker 1: this default instinct. That's the way I used to live

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Speaker 1: my life. I'd walk into a room and think where

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Speaker 1: do I measure up and in relation to everyone else in

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Speaker 1: this room? And I've been on this journey long enough

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Speaker 1: myself now that I was able to be like, oh,

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Speaker 1: that's stupid, Like okay, no, get your head out of that,

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Speaker 1: Like focus on why you're here. You're going to celebrate

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Speaker 1: twenty years of marriage with your husband. He chose you,

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Speaker 1: He didn't choose any of these other women like be

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Speaker 1: here with him. And I was able to kind of

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Speaker 1: calm myself down, but the thought was still there. And

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Speaker 1: then I went to dinner the first night, and it's

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Speaker 1: a small resort and so it was kind of the

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Speaker 1: same people. So we got to see the same people dressed,

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Speaker 1: you know, for dinner instead of wearing bathing suits, and

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Speaker 1: the same couples. And I was looking around at dinner

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Speaker 1: and I thought, you know what, every one of these

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Speaker 1: I know there's some of the men there may have

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Speaker 1: had wandering eyes or different habits whatever, like, I can't

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Speaker 1: get into all of that. Those issues do exist, but

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Speaker 1: for the most part, by and large, each man was

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Speaker 1: there sitting across from a woman that he had chosen

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Speaker 1: to spend this time with. Whether they were married or

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Speaker 1: there was some dating couples there, there was some other

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Speaker 1: interesting arrangements I'm not even sure of. I don't want

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Speaker 1: to go into there. But he was there with that

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Speaker 1: particular woman. And as I chatted with my husband about

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Speaker 1: a little bit more, I was mentioning to him, I'm like,

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Speaker 1: you know, women sit in these situations feeling like this

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Speaker 1: as a contest, like I've got a win, I've got

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Speaker 1: time with me, Your only hope is for intimacy with me.

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Speaker 1: You are not sitting there comparing me to everyone else

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Speaker 1: around the pool. You just want more of me. And

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Speaker 1: it changed my perspective of course, because it's like, wow,

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Speaker 1: so much of this struggle I think I have to

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Speaker 1: win so that I will be acceptable to my husband, right,

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Speaker 1: or that he'll love me more or treat me better.

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Speaker 1: And he already treats me well, right, But like, somehow

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Speaker 1: this is gonna changing my body, is gonna unlock some

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Speaker 1: video game levels of amazingness. But I have to compete

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Speaker 1: in this contest in order to get there, and Fred,

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Speaker 1: it's just not true. So much of the struggle is

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Speaker 1: not about your body. It's about your head and your heart.

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Speaker 1: And first you got to solve the heart issue, right,

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Speaker 1: because getting that sinned out of our lives is the

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Speaker 1: most important thing. Your spiritual health is far more important

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Speaker 1: than your physical health, and so do that first, and

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Speaker 1: then it's what's going on in your head now. We

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Speaker 1: do a lot of work with women where we work

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Speaker 1: through issues that maybe you've had for life, right where

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Speaker 1: maybe you haven't felt safe because of some things that

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Speaker 1: have happened to you, or you've felt insecure around your

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Speaker 1: body because of things that were said to you, and

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Speaker 1: these same cruel words have been repeating in your head

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Speaker 1: for twenty thirty forty fifty years. Right, So there's a

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Speaker 1: way in which you can get help for that, and

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Speaker 1: you probably do need to get help for that. Like,

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Speaker 1: no one ever told us we were supposed to be

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Speaker 1: healed alone, right, We were only supposed to be in

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Speaker 1: community and the church. As we come together, we can

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Speaker 1: encourage each other and pray and find healing for even

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Speaker 1: the these mental and spiritual struggles. That way is down.

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Speaker 1: But today my question for you is, like, what's going

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Speaker 1: on in your head? Friend? Do you even know? Have

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Speaker 1: you paused for just a second to hear the thoughts

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Speaker 1: and maybe examined to see whether or not they are true.

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Speaker 1: I got a new book and I think I shared

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Speaker 1: about it in the community. It's a book. I think

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Speaker 1: it's called How to Do Self Brain Surgery. He talks

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Speaker 1: about how eighty percent of the thoughts we have every

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Speaker 1: single day are just simply not true, and we recycle

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Speaker 1: these same thoughts over and over again. So chances are

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Speaker 1: you're having the same eighty percent of your thoughts that

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Speaker 1: aren't true every single day and do that for twenty

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Speaker 1: they're true because they've been around so long, they're familiar friends. Right,

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Speaker 1: too fill in the blank. I am too lazy, I

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Speaker 1: am too fat, I am too ugly, I am too short,

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Speaker 1: am too flat, I'm too jiggling, like whatever. Right, And

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Speaker 1: we just keep having these ohs over and over and

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Speaker 1: over and over again, and then we kind of start

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Speaker 1: to project them on people like, well, my husband must

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Speaker 1: think this about me too. I Meanwhile, husband might actually

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Speaker 1: even be saying I don't think that about you, But

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Speaker 1: we say I don't believe you, husband, You must think

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Speaker 1: this about me, because this is the truth, and my

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Speaker 1: truth is what's most important. Right. We do these things

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Speaker 1: in our heads is where we get things all discombobulated.

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Speaker 1: What is true? What is right? What is pure? Right?

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Speaker 1: We've got a scripture telling us to think on these

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Speaker 1: things as Christians. Round A twelve. We're supposed to have

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Speaker 1: our minds renewed. If you are still thinking the same bad,

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Speaker 1: negative thoughts you thought about your body as you thought

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Speaker 1: before you became a Christian, friend, that's not the renewing

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Speaker 1: of your mind and maybe, like me, if you feel

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Speaker 1: like you've been a Christian since you were too little

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Speaker 1: that thoughts about your body, but you're still thinking the

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Speaker 1: same thoughts about your body as you did when you

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Speaker 1: were a teenager. Friend, your mind needs to be renewed.

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Speaker 1: That's not the renewing of the mind. Your thoughts should

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Speaker 1: align with what God says about you. God's truth is

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Speaker 1: the truth. Your truth is not the truth. God's truth

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Speaker 1: is the truth. Who are you to disagree with God?

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Speaker 1: A friend? It's deep stuff, but we've got to start

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Speaker 1: thinking about what's going on in our heads. We get

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Speaker 1: into this conversation in the forty day Body Image Journey.

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Speaker 1: It starts in a couple of weeks. You can sign

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Speaker 1: up at improve body image dot com. We'd love to

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Speaker 1: have you join us for that. It's a really important

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Speaker 1: step in this journey if you want to be free,

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Speaker 1: if you want to stop obsessing, and let me tell you,

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Speaker 1: you might not know what to do with yourself if

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Speaker 1: you get free in this journey, because you're gonna have

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Speaker 1: so much more headspace, you're gonna be like, I'm not

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Speaker 1: I should do. I don't know how this works. This

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Speaker 1: is uncomfortable, right. We talk about what to do in

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Speaker 1: that scenario as well. But friend, freedom is possible. You

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Speaker 1: don't have to stay trapped in your head. You don't

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Speaker 1: have to keep obsessing, keep swirling over the calories, over

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Speaker 1: the inch that you pinched, over the number on the scale,

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Speaker 1: over the size that you went up, or the two

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Speaker 1: sizes that you went up, or the threes. You don't

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Speaker 1: have to stay there, friend, You can live the life

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Speaker 1: that God created you to live, and that's a life

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Speaker 1: that wasn't focused on your body. Now, friend, again, you

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Speaker 1: can still pursue your health goals, but there's a way

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Speaker 1: head game. We're going to talk about this more in

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Speaker 1: the community. Go to Waiting for Weightloss dot com, join

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Speaker 1: us for the conversation there, and then make plans to

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Speaker 1: join us in the forty day Journey. It's super affordable

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Speaker 1: six weeks on zoom. It could change your life. Hey,

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