1 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:06,080 Speaker 1: Life Audio. Hey friend, I'm so glad you are with 2 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:09,760 Speaker 1: us on this Waiting for Weight Loss journey through LENT. 3 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:14,640 Speaker 1: Today's episode six, and we're talking about something you've been 4 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:17,520 Speaker 1: talking about in the community a lot, so I'm really 5 00:00:17,560 --> 00:00:20,920 Speaker 1: excited to broach this topic today, and that is negative 6 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:22,800 Speaker 1: self talk. Some of you even said that you were 7 00:00:22,840 --> 00:00:24,639 Speaker 1: giving it up for a LNT, and I hope that's 8 00:00:24,680 --> 00:00:27,600 Speaker 1: going well, because that's an amazing thing to give up. 9 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 1: But here's my question for yours we are going today. 10 00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:45,080 Speaker 1: Are you mean? Are you mean? I mean? I know 11 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: you're not mean to other people. Most of us focused 12 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:51,000 Speaker 1: on our image, try really really hard to be perceived 13 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:55,360 Speaker 1: as nice and kind and loving and gracious. We're only 14 00:00:55,400 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: mean to ourselves. Do you say things like this to 15 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:03,160 Speaker 1: yourself in the mirror? You're so fat, you're so ugly, 16 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:06,640 Speaker 1: you're so lazy. You shouldn't go out in public. You 17 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 1: look so gross. Everyone thinks you're gross. You should never 18 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:13,319 Speaker 1: wear a swimsuit. Your husband is going to be disgusted 19 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: by your body. No one will ever love you. Get 20 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:23,319 Speaker 1: your act together, slob, You're an embarrassment. Yikes, harsh words, right? 21 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:28,039 Speaker 1: Can you imagine if you miss the introduction to this episode, 22 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: and you just like fast forwarded to these comments, and 23 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: you thought that that was me talking to you, saying 24 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: those things to you. You would unsubscribe right away, wouldn't you. 25 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 1: You'd be in shock. You'd be like, I want nothing 26 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:43,680 Speaker 1: to do with her. Ever, she's so mean, And yet 27 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:46,319 Speaker 1: we say these things to ourselves all day, every day. 28 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: We're down right nasty. Now, to be sure, some of 29 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 1: this meanness comes from the enemy of our souls. Let's 30 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 1: talk about this. John ten Ten tells us that the 31 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 1: enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy with comments and 32 00:01:59,320 --> 00:02:02,760 Speaker 1: whispers like the ones I just mentioned. He steals our joy, 33 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 1: he kills our confidence, and he destroys our ability to 34 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:09,960 Speaker 1: live free in Jesus. Now, women often argue with me 35 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,240 Speaker 1: and they say, it's not Satan telling me these things. 36 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: How the I'm saying these things to me? And they're 37 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:19,040 Speaker 1: partially right. Some of these statements we have adopted for 38 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:24,240 Speaker 1: ourselves as truth. But here's how I think it actually worked. 39 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:28,280 Speaker 1: Satan probably whispered that lie to us a long time ago, 40 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:30,160 Speaker 1: Like for me, I know it was as early as 41 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 1: the third grade, and then somewhere along the line I 42 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:37,960 Speaker 1: started helping him out I adopted his lies as my truth, 43 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:40,640 Speaker 1: and I started saying them to myself, like, he doesn't 44 00:02:40,639 --> 00:02:42,960 Speaker 1: even have to help me anymore. I can be mean 45 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: enough to me for the both of us. Yikes. So 46 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 1: stopping negative self talk is a lot more complex than 47 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: some of the social media reels make it seem like, yes, 48 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: you should take thoughts captive, for sure, but it goes 49 00:02:57,919 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 1: deeper than that, Like we do a lot of work 50 00:02:59,840 --> 00:03:04,400 Speaker 1: with clients trying to find that deeper spot, like why 51 00:03:04,440 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 1: are they still believing those lies of the enemy about themselves? 52 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:10,960 Speaker 1: And why do they just keep repeating those same lives 53 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: in themselves over and over again? And until you find 54 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 1: that root, it's really hard just to take the thoughts captive. 55 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: That really oversimplifies it, even though that is Scripture's direction 56 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:24,960 Speaker 1: and something we should do. So without going too deep here, 57 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 1: it's really about your belief system. Do you believe what 58 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 1: God says about you is true? Or do you believe 59 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 1: what you think and feel about yourself is true? I 60 00:03:37,040 --> 00:03:39,360 Speaker 1: like to put it like this, You don't have to 61 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 1: believe everything you think, and yet do you? I mean, 62 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:48,360 Speaker 1: the answer might be both, Yeah, of course I believe 63 00:03:48,360 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 1: what God says and yeah, of course I believe what 64 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:54,120 Speaker 1: I believe. But here's the truth. One of those belief 65 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:58,440 Speaker 1: systems is winning. One of those belief systems is determining 66 00:03:58,480 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: the way you actually live. So I'm writing a brand 67 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 1: new book on this right now, to come out in 68 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:07,760 Speaker 1: twenty twenty seven. But here's some super practical help I 69 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 1: hope for today. You can't stop negative self talk until 70 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:16,680 Speaker 1: you notice it. Most of us don't even hear the 71 00:04:16,720 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 1: mean things we say to ourselves. Sometimes it's the same 72 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:22,640 Speaker 1: phrases we repeat to ourselves over and over again. Maybe 73 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:26,080 Speaker 1: like the phrases we just talked about. Sometimes we can 74 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:30,120 Speaker 1: vividly remember a time and a place when mean words 75 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:33,360 Speaker 1: were spoken over us or said to us, and we 76 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:37,840 Speaker 1: can picture the person saying them to us again and 77 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 1: again and again. It's that mom that said, no one 78 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:44,480 Speaker 1: will ever marry you unless you lose weight. You hear 79 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 1: it in your head every time you try and clothes. 80 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: Or it's a grandma that always said being fat is 81 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 1: ugly and lazy, and the scale shows some signs of 82 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:57,599 Speaker 1: perimeno base, and you are hearing grandma's voice over and 83 00:04:57,680 --> 00:05:01,599 Speaker 1: over and over. It's repeating in your head, you must 84 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:05,880 Speaker 1: be lazy. And ugly because that's what Grandma said. Maybe 85 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:09,640 Speaker 1: these words weren't even said directly to you. Maybe they 86 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:13,200 Speaker 1: were said like around you, about other people. Maybe you 87 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 1: watched a sibling get berated for her size, or maybe 88 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:20,479 Speaker 1: your family always had comments about people on television. But 89 00:05:20,520 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 1: you internalize these mean words as your own. You've become 90 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:28,080 Speaker 1: your own biggest bully with a lifetime collection of cruel 91 00:05:28,120 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 1: world words. So my question for you today is this 92 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: what was said to you that you can't forget? What 93 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:38,799 Speaker 1: mean words have gripped your heart and turned you into 94 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: a body image bully. Then my task for you is this, 95 00:05:43,720 --> 00:05:46,320 Speaker 1: start listening to them. I don't mean believing them, I 96 00:05:46,360 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 1: mean listening for them. Write them down if you're brave enough. 97 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 1: This is an exercise we do in my forty Day 98 00:05:51,800 --> 00:05:54,159 Speaker 1: Body Image workbook, and then we talk about it on 99 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:58,000 Speaker 1: the forty Day Body Image Journey. Bringing these statements to 100 00:05:58,040 --> 00:06:00,839 Speaker 1: the light is going to help you hear them better 101 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:04,960 Speaker 1: next time and recognize them as lies. And then let's 102 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:07,640 Speaker 1: go to the community. Let's be vulnerable there with each 103 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 1: other today. What are those harsh words that you say 104 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 1: to yourself that no one else can hear? I think 105 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:16,400 Speaker 1: in the community. You're gonna find women who understand, women 106 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:21,320 Speaker 1: who can empathize, and perhaps together we can encourage each 107 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 1: other to be kind to our bodies instead of being cruel. 108 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 1: If you're not part of the community yet, I hope 109 00:06:27,560 --> 00:06:30,600 Speaker 1: you'll join us at Waiting for weeightloss dot com. It's 110 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:33,080 Speaker 1: absolutely free. When you sign in, you'll get instructions as 111 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: to how to join, and if you're already in, hey, 112 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 1: go there and be part of this conversation. Now, thanks 113 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:42,719 Speaker 1: again for listening. Let's see in the next episode. 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