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Speaker 1: There is one topic that comes up quite often when
Speaker 1: we are talking about conflict, when we are talking about communication,
Speaker 1: and this is true for men and for women. How
Speaker 1: do I actually express myself? How do I express my
Speaker 1: feelings to my spouse or my partner without starting a
Speaker 1: misunderstanding or without making it worse or starting a fight
Speaker 1: or fill in the blank, however you would actually describe
Speaker 1: that particular sentiment. I've actually felt this in my own marriage.
Speaker 1: How do I actually tell Sean how I'm feeling without
Speaker 1: making the problem worse, how do I actually tell him
Speaker 1: how I feel without him feeling attacked or judged or
Speaker 1: us now starting a whole nother conflict. And maybe it's
Speaker 1: not a romantic relationship for you. It could be a
Speaker 1: work relationship or it could be a relationship that you're
Speaker 1: having with your child that you really need to tell
Speaker 1: your child or your parent even how you're feeling. But
Speaker 1: you don't really know how to do that without starting
Speaker 1: something or without causing a misunderstanding. So I think that
Speaker 1: what we're going to hear today is going to be really,
Speaker 1: really important and it's going to help you. You guys,
Speaker 1: this is why I do this podcast. I don't want
Speaker 1: to just show up every week and just give you
Speaker 1: some good knowledge and you're like, yeah, that makes sense.
Speaker 1: But I really want you to begin to practice these
Speaker 1: tips in your relationships so that you can see improvement,
Speaker 1: so that you are not going into these conversations on
Speaker 1: edge or full of anxiety or fear about what's going
Speaker 1: to happen. But now you actually have a blueprint, You
Speaker 1: actually know how to show up in conversations with more
Speaker 1: confidence and more clarity. So I want to just discuss
Speaker 1: a few things. This is not going to be a
Speaker 1: long episode at all. The first thing that I want
Speaker 1: to tell y'all is that, first of all, and I've
Speaker 1: said this before, that conflict is normal in a normal relationship.
Speaker 1: Conflict is normal. Now, what I did not say is
Speaker 1: throwing people down the stairs and slashing tires and yelling
Speaker 1: and screaming and all of that. That ain't normal. But
Speaker 1: having conflict in your relationship, having a disagreement with the
Speaker 1: person that you're in relationship with, that's normal. You are
Speaker 1: two different people with strengths, weaknesses, opinions, different ideas. So
Speaker 1: conflict is inevitable. So it's time that we stop being
Speaker 1: afraid of it, that we stop trying to avoid it.
Speaker 1: It's going to happen. Now. If you have been in
Speaker 1: a relationship with someone, you also have likely gotten your
Speaker 1: feelings hurt. You have likely been misunderstood. There is something
Speaker 1: that that person said or did, or maybe something that
Speaker 1: you said or did that caused some sort of conflict,
Speaker 1: that caused some sort of problem, that caused an issue.
Speaker 1: And what happens a lot of times, you all, is
Speaker 1: because we have not been properly trained on how to
Speaker 1: actually have productive conversations in conflict. Most of us either
Speaker 1: shy away from conflict, we diminish the conflict, or we
Speaker 1: just full out go full steam ahead into it and
Speaker 1: we don't really know how to get out of it.
Speaker 1: As you produce more confidence, I think in yourself, and
Speaker 1: as you actually develop more awareness of how you actually
Speaker 1: are feeling in the moment, that is going to give
Speaker 1: you the confidence to show up and be able to
Speaker 1: talk about that with the person that you're in relationship with.
Speaker 1: So the first thing that I want to tell you
Speaker 1: is really important that we just start here on the
Speaker 1: foundational level and understand you have the both the right
Speaker 1: and the responsibility to tell your partner how you feel. Hey,
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Speaker 1: back to our show. You have the right and the responsibility.
Speaker 1: What I mean by that is you are autonomous. No
Speaker 1: one is forcing you into this relationship. You don't have
Speaker 1: to be in this relationship. Even those of you who
Speaker 1: are married. Yes, you stood before probably a priest or,
Speaker 1: a pastor, or the justice of the peace or somebody
Speaker 1: who married you and you committed. You entered into a covenant.
Speaker 1: But marriage is not bondage. I promise you it's not.
Speaker 1: I know some of you are like m I don't
Speaker 1: know about that, Dana. I promise you it's not. Marriage
Speaker 1: is not bondage. You are not being forced into this.
Speaker 1: So because you're not being forced into this, you have
Speaker 1: a right. You have a right to say this is
Speaker 1: how I feel about that, this is what I think
Speaker 1: about that, this is how your comment made me feel.
Speaker 1: You have a right. But not only do you have
Speaker 1: a right to say that, but you also have the
Speaker 1: responsibility to say it, because what happens is when you
Speaker 1: don't share how you're feeling, now, you leave it up
Speaker 1: to the person that you're in relationship with to guess,
Speaker 1: to fill in the gaps, to decode, to try to
Speaker 1: read your face and try to look at all the
Speaker 1: behaviors and all the things the passive aggressiveness that you're
Speaker 1: spitting out, and they have to try to make up
Speaker 1: some story and that's just too much work, Like that's
Speaker 1: just not fair. Okay, So not only should you tell
Speaker 1: how you're feeling, but you need to tell how you're
Speaker 1: feeling because how else are they going to know? And
Speaker 1: can we just stop saying, well, they should know. I've
Speaker 1: known my husband since he was eight years old, Okay,
Speaker 1: I should be able to know everything about him at
Speaker 1: this point, but I don't. I need him to give
Speaker 1: me some clues. I need him to tell me why
Speaker 1: he feels that way or what he's about what I said,
Speaker 1: I can't just assume. So remember that that you have
Speaker 1: the right and the responsibility to share your feelings. So
Speaker 1: if you're in a relationship with somebody and they make
Speaker 1: you feel bad about sharing your feelings, well that's a
Speaker 1: problem and you need to tell them. Hey, I actually
Speaker 1: have the right to speak up. I have the right
Speaker 1: to tell you what I'm feeling. This isn't just you
Speaker 1: know the you show. Okay, I like, I'm a partner
Speaker 1: in this relationship with you, and so if you're making
Speaker 1: me feel some kind of way, then I have the
Speaker 1: right and the responsibility to tell you that. So the
Speaker 1: second thing that I want to tell you is this,
Speaker 1: Your feelings are how do I say this gently? Your
Speaker 1: feelings aren't factual. Okay, okay, your feelings are not factual.
Speaker 1: What I mean by that is, yes, your feelings are important,
Speaker 1: Yes they're valid. I'm not invalidating how you feel, but
Speaker 1: understand that your feelings only tell half the story, and
Speaker 1: your feelings are biased to you. Your feelings are like
Speaker 1: the best friend that you have always needed and wanted.
Speaker 1: Your feelings are gonna show up for you. They're not
Speaker 1: really concerned with other people. So when you're feeling rejected,
Speaker 1: that doesn't necessarily mean that you were rejected. Hear me, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that you're making this up, and I'm
Speaker 1: not saying that you shouldn't feel that way, but you
Speaker 1: just need to understand that your feelings only tell half
Speaker 1: the story. There are so many times in my own
Speaker 1: marriage where I may have felt something, but that was
Speaker 1: not what Sean intended to do, nor is it really
Speaker 1: what happened. So the other day, prime example, Sean and
Speaker 1: I we always greet each other when we approach, like
Speaker 1: like if I'm at home and he comes in the house, right,
Speaker 1: He's gonna greet me all the time. We don't just
Speaker 1: like come in the house and like one person goes
Speaker 1: upstairs and the other person goes and starts watching TV
Speaker 1: or something like that. If one person is in the
Speaker 1: house and the other person enters, we always greet each
Speaker 1: other with a kiss, all right, and then and when
Speaker 1: we leave the house, same thing. So if I'm upstairs,
Speaker 1: he will literally come find me and say hey, I'm
Speaker 1: about to run out, or he'll call me sometimes like
Speaker 1: if I'm in the bathroom or whatever. He'll call me
Speaker 1: and be like, hey, I'm about to leave. And those
Speaker 1: are rare because usually even if one of us is
Speaker 1: in the bathroom, will wait and so the other person
Speaker 1: gets out so that we can give each other a kiss.
Speaker 1: And I love that about our relationship, and it's really important, y'all,
Speaker 1: just kind of as an aside that you do that,
Speaker 1: because listen, life is short and you never know what's
Speaker 1: going to happen. We take life for granted so much
Speaker 1: and we're just like, oh, I'm just gonna run into
Speaker 1: the store, but don't say bye. We just disappear, and
Speaker 1: then my goodness, God forbid, something happens. The last thing
Speaker 1: that you said to that person was what So we
Speaker 1: have this value of what we do, how we greet
Speaker 1: each other, and then how we leave. So the other
Speaker 1: day Sean left and I did not get greeted goodbye,
Speaker 1: or he didn't say goodbye to me, He didn't kiss me,
Speaker 1: he didn't say goodbye, and I'm feeling right, I'm in
Speaker 1: my fields, as they say, and I'm like, no, this
Speaker 1: man didn't leave the house without kiss and may goodbye.
Speaker 1: And then what do I start doing? I start thinking
Speaker 1: did I say something wrong? Did I do something? Am
Speaker 1: I coming across like what? Like you know, I'm now
Speaker 1: I'm starting to try to figure this thing out, and
Speaker 1: I'm starting to add all this imagery and all of
Speaker 1: this stuff is happening in my mind. That is absolutely
Speaker 1: unnecessary because where was Sean? He was in the driveway.
Speaker 1: Now he left the house, and I heard the alarm
Speaker 1: like you know, whatever, garage door or whatever. So like
Speaker 1: I heard him leave, and I thought, this is the thing.
Speaker 1: I thought I heard his truck leaving, but he didn't leave.
Speaker 1: He was in the driveway. But he was like in
Speaker 1: the driveway doing something and he was outside for a while,
Speaker 1: so I assumed. And isn't that what we do? We
Speaker 1: make assumptions, and half the times our assumptions are not accurate.
Speaker 1: So then we attach feelings to those assumptions, and then
Speaker 1: we come up with this whole story. And now where
Speaker 1: in full out conflict with somebody They don't even know it,
Speaker 1: like he had no idea as he's outside that I'm
Speaker 1: having a whole meltdown in the kitchen because oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: you left without saying goodbye to me, And so I
Speaker 1: just want to tell you today that your feelings are
Speaker 1: not factual. So trust them, Trust them, but don't give
Speaker 1: them one hundred percent full authority and credibility in your life. Okay, friends,
Speaker 1: we're going to take a quick break. I have some
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Speaker 1: are back you, guys. So we've been talking about how
Speaker 1: to express your feelings without causing a misunderstanding. And I
Speaker 1: hope that the last point that I said makes sense
Speaker 1: to you. Guys. The feelings that you feel are valid,
Speaker 1: but they don't tell the full story. Okay. The third
Speaker 1: thing that I want to share with you is when
Speaker 1: you're expressing your feelings, you need to ask yourself why
Speaker 1: do you want that person to know? This is all
Speaker 1: about being self aware. This is doing the work before
Speaker 1: the conversation. There's a lot of work that we have
Speaker 1: to do prior to having these conversations, especially conversations that
Speaker 1: could create conflict or conversations when we're in conflict. We
Speaker 1: have to do some work on the front end. One
Speaker 1: of the things that we have to do is why
Speaker 1: am I having this conversation? What is the outcome that
Speaker 1: I want to happen? This is how I coach my couples. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you had a conversation about your husband leaving his
Speaker 1: clothes all over the floor, and you're talking about how
Speaker 1: that makes you feel, and you know how your dad
Speaker 1: used to do that and how your mom was so disrespected.
Speaker 1: What is the outcome that you want? Now, you would
Speaker 1: think that that would make sense, like the wife actually
Speaker 1: wants our husband to pick up after himself. Right, But
Speaker 1: I don't assume anything. Neither should you. But we have
Speaker 1: to ask ourselves what do I actually want to happen?
Speaker 1: Do you know how many people are so unclear? Do
Speaker 1: you know how many people stare at me blankly when
Speaker 1: I ask them that what is the outcome? What would
Speaker 1: you like to see happen? They're like, outcome, what do
Speaker 1: I want to see happen? I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I mean I guess I want him to, like, I
Speaker 1: don't know, like not be so messy. Okay, Well that's
Speaker 1: important because guess what if he says, Okay, fine, I'll
Speaker 1: stop being so messy, Well then you don't need to
Speaker 1: keep on talking for twenty more minutes about how disrespected
Speaker 1: you feel because you got the outcome. So you need
Speaker 1: to understand what do you want to happen? Why are
Speaker 1: you having this conversation in the first place, and then
Speaker 1: what do you want to happen? So this is going
Speaker 1: to help you to frame the conversation in such a
Speaker 1: way that you don't have to spend an hour on
Speaker 1: each conversation, y'all. This is why a lot of times
Speaker 1: our spouses and partners and friends and folks don't want
Speaker 1: to have conversations with us because it's just too dang
Speaker 1: on long. It's just too long. Like, can we have
Speaker 1: a conversation and I'm speaking to myself, y'all because I
Speaker 1: can be long winded, okay, but can we have conversations
Speaker 1: that do not take four days to complete? And can we,
Speaker 1: my goodness, have a favorable outcome at some point? So again,
Speaker 1: another example of this for me in my personal marriage,
Speaker 1: our gas bill one month, you guys, was over six
Speaker 1: hundred dollars. Now we live in a fairly large house,
Speaker 1: but still six hundred dollars is ridiculousness. Okay. Now, the
Speaker 1: problem with that is I am always cold. My friends
Speaker 1: know me, I always have. Right now, I have a
Speaker 1: cardigan and a sweater, a blanket and my heater. Okay,
Speaker 1: I probably have low iron I know. For all of
Speaker 1: you doctors like my goodness, please get your iron levels check.
Speaker 1: I will. But the problem is I'm always cold, always cold.
Speaker 1: So I use our gas fireplace religiously. And so Sean
Speaker 1: is like, Dana, I'm sorry that we cannot The gas
Speaker 1: bill was over six hundred dollars. We cannot be running
Speaker 1: that gas fireplace all day. And so I started getting
Speaker 1: in my feelings like, well, you're all hot. That's easy
Speaker 1: for you. You don't have to sit around with blankets and
Speaker 1: sweatshirts and heaters and things like that because you're always cold.
Speaker 1: So I'm thinking, you know what, he just doesn't care
Speaker 1: about me. He just doesn't care. He doesn't care that
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get arthritis in my bones because I'm sitting
Speaker 1: in this cold house. He's got the air conditioner on
Speaker 1: in December. He just does not care. I don't even
Speaker 1: know why I married him. Like literally, you guys like
Speaker 1: this is what we do. We go on these crazy
Speaker 1: rabbit trails, right, And so I said, okay, I need
Speaker 1: to let Sean know how I feel. I get it
Speaker 1: that the gas bill is high, but what am I
Speaker 1: supposed to do here? Like, what am I supposed to do?
Speaker 1: He's like, wear socks. I got on socks. Brother wear sweatpants?
Speaker 1: I got on a sweatsuit? What am I supposed to do?
Speaker 1: So obviously compromise is needed, right, But I need to
Speaker 1: be able to go to him and not feel like
Speaker 1: I need to change him, because this is the problem
Speaker 1: you guys A lot of times when we say, oh,
Speaker 1: I just need to tell my partner, my spouse, whoever,
Speaker 1: my friend, I need to tell them how I feel.
Speaker 1: What we're really meaning is I need to tell them
Speaker 1: how they need to change to accommodate me. That's what
Speaker 1: we really mean. Now we won't say it, but if
Speaker 1: you think about it, that's what you really want. Right
Speaker 1: when I asked you earlier, what's the outcome that you're
Speaker 1: looking for? The outcome is going to be in your
Speaker 1: favor because that's how we're wired. So I need Sean
Speaker 1: to just like be okay with me running the fireplace,
Speaker 1: even though I know that it's crazy, ridiculously expensive. So
Speaker 1: I had a choice. I can let him know how
Speaker 1: I feel. But then I need to ask myself what
Speaker 1: do I actually want to happen out of that conversation,
Speaker 1: because if my outcome listen to me carefully here. If
Speaker 1: my outcome is one dimensional, which is I want him
Speaker 1: to be okay with me running the gas fireplace when
Speaker 1: he says I don't want to run it, what do
Speaker 1: we have? We have a misunderstanding, we have an unresolved conflict.
Speaker 1: How do we move from that? Because we're both disagreed here,
Speaker 1: So the outcome can't be one dimensional. It can't just
Speaker 1: be I want to get my way, I want to
Speaker 1: do what I want to do. The outcome has to
Speaker 1: be something that is favorable to both of us. So again,
Speaker 1: when I'm coaching my clients, I'm always trying to get
Speaker 1: them to see how can you both win? It's not
Speaker 1: about you giving up something, it's not about you losing.
Speaker 1: It's about how can y'all come to an agreement where
Speaker 1: you both win? So what is the favorable outcome for
Speaker 1: both of you? This is going to help you when
Speaker 1: you're framing this conversation around your feelings to be able
Speaker 1: to say, Okay, this is how I'm feeling, this is
Speaker 1: the preferred outcome? Might not necessarily be what I want,
Speaker 1: but this is something that's going to work for both
Speaker 1: of us. Okay, spend some time thinking about that and
Speaker 1: really practice that in your conversations before you actually bring
Speaker 1: that up to your spouse or your partner. Okay. The
Speaker 1: fourth and final thing that I want to share with
Speaker 1: you all today is how you start the conversation matters. Oh,
Speaker 1: it matters so much. How you start these conversations. When
Speaker 1: we're starting conversations from a place of accusation, then we
Speaker 1: are starting the conversation with our partner on the defense.
Speaker 1: So if I were to go up to Shawan and say,
Speaker 1: you know what, I need to talk to you about
Speaker 1: something because this gas thing is just we're gonna have
Speaker 1: to figure this out, what do you think He's going
Speaker 1: to respond like he's going to be defensive. So what
Speaker 1: I need to do is I need to download the
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Speaker 1: start conversations so that you don't end up in conflict.
Speaker 1: Some of you are having conflict in your relationships because
Speaker 1: you lack the proper tools. So this is my job.
Speaker 1: I want to give you the proper tools so that
Speaker 1: you stop going in the crazy cycles of having these conversations.
Speaker 1: So one of the things that I might say is
Speaker 1: in this conversation, specific to this example that I'm giving
Speaker 1: you guys, is hey, Sean, can we talk about the
Speaker 1: temperature situation in our house? It's an open ended question, right,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying we need to talk about this and
Speaker 1: you need to get it together and all the other
Speaker 1: wives don't have issues. I'm not doing any of that foolishness.
Speaker 1: I'm simply asking a question, Hey, can we talk about
Speaker 1: the temperature situation in our house? And then I'm gonna
Speaker 1: come to him with my feelings. I'm not gonna go
Speaker 1: into the theatrics, okay, because I hopefully I have processed
Speaker 1: the theatrics and my mind and I know what is
Speaker 1: real from what is fallacy. It is not that my
Speaker 1: husband does not care about me and he wants me
Speaker 1: to get arthritis and die. That is not the truth.
Speaker 1: What is the truth. The truth is my husband is
Speaker 1: trying to save us money and does not want to
Speaker 1: give our gas company more money than what they deserve.
Speaker 1: That is his full motivation. Does he care about me? Yes,
Speaker 1: he does. He just is not necessarily making the connection
Speaker 1: between my need for warmth and this crazy astronomical gas bill.
Speaker 1: So now it is my desire to help him get there. Okay,
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna have this conversation with him. Hey, can
Speaker 1: we talk about the temperature situation in our house? You
Speaker 1: know that I am always cold, Sean, I am always cold.
Speaker 1: I've always been this way. I'm probably never going to change.
Speaker 1: As a matter of fact, is the old the older
Speaker 1: that I get, It's probably gonna get worse. I appreciate
Speaker 1: the fact that you are trying to help us to
Speaker 1: save money. I appreciate the fact that you care so
Speaker 1: much about our family finances that you're frugal in this regard. However,
Speaker 1: what can we do so that I am not bundled
Speaker 1: up and that I can enjoy an afternoon on the
Speaker 1: couch like everybody else without feeling so cold? Okay? Now
Speaker 1: I'm exaggerating this a little bit, you guys, just because
Speaker 1: I want you to get what I'm trying to say here.
Speaker 1: I'm telling him how I feel. I feel cold. I
Speaker 1: feel like I can't enjoy the couch with the rest
Speaker 1: of the family like everybody else, because I'm always so cold.
Speaker 1: This is a problem for me. How can we work
Speaker 1: together so that I can enjoy the same liberties that
Speaker 1: you all enjoy. I'm asking questions, I'm telling him how
Speaker 1: I feel, and I'm inviting him into a participatory conversation
Speaker 1: where he actually can express his feelings too. See, I
Speaker 1: can't just come into the conversation just expressing my feelings
Speaker 1: and being like, well, I mean, I don't care how
Speaker 1: you feel, this is how I feel. That's not gonna work.
Speaker 1: And you know that because you've tried that. So it's
Speaker 1: time for us to try a different way. It's time
Speaker 1: for us to say, you know what, I'm going to
Speaker 1: express my feelings and I'm also going to listen to
Speaker 1: my partner's feelings, and then together we can actually both
Speaker 1: come up with a solution that does not result in
Speaker 1: a misunderstanding. I want you all to try these. I'll
Speaker 1: go through these real quick, and I want you to
Speaker 1: put them into practice. Okay, So the first thing is
Speaker 1: remember that you have the right and responsibility to share
Speaker 1: how you feel. Number two, remember that your feelings are
Speaker 1: not factual. Number three, ask yourself, what do you want
Speaker 1: to happen as a result of this conversation? What's the outcome?
Speaker 1: And then number four, you need to know how to
Speaker 1: start these conversations in a way that will not put
Speaker 1: your partner on the defense. So if you have not
Speaker 1: already downloaded the conversation starters, head over to danashe dot
Speaker 1: com forward slash Conversation Starters and get it. I know
Speaker 1: that it's going to help you against just three, just
Speaker 1: three suggestions. Of course, there's hundreds of ways that you
Speaker 1: can start conversations when you're in conflict, but that particular
Speaker 1: PDF is going to help you so much. So thank
Speaker 1: you guys so much for being here on this podcast.
Speaker 1: You know, every single time that I get a DM
Speaker 1: or you all write a podcast review, that means so
Speaker 1: much to me. It lets me know that I'm in
Speaker 1: the zone and that I'm actually sharing knowledge with you
Speaker 1: you that's actually helping you in your relationships today. A
Speaker 1: good relationship is not one that works. A good relationship
Speaker 1: is one where you put in the work. Let's get
Speaker 1: to work, my friends. I'll see you on the next
Speaker 1: episode at take Care