WEBVTT - Don't Put All Your Happiness in One Basket | Happiness Hour 

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<v Speaker 1>Life audio on today's episode of Timeless Wisdom.

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<v Speaker 2>Today it is about a theme that cannot be stated

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<v Speaker 2>often enough, and that is about not keeping all your

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<v Speaker 2>happiness eggs in the same basket.

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<v Speaker 1>That's coming off on Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Welcome

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<v Speaker 2>It's the Happiness Hour on the Dennis Prager Show every

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<v Speaker 2>week at this time, come hell, high water, a bunch

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<v Speaker 2>of deficits, you name it. Yes, like those lyrics, folks,

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<v Speaker 2>All right, everybody, America and the world, here we go.

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<v Speaker 3>It's the happy, happy, happy, happy hour. Yes it is.

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<v Speaker 3>It's the happy, happy, happy alrighty, my friends.

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<v Speaker 2>Happiness makes the world better. Yes, indeed, happy people make

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<v Speaker 2>the world better, and the world has made worse by

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<v Speaker 2>the unhappy. I'm sorry, my friends. That's the way it is.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody has a tough life. That's the way it is, too.

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<v Speaker 2>Some have it tougher than others, admittedly, but there's little

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<v Speaker 2>relationship between tough life and happiness. Some with quite a

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<v Speaker 2>tough life walk around with far greater cheer than those

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<v Speaker 2>with an easier life. And that is our moral obligation

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<v Speaker 2>to walk around at least acting happy and trying to

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<v Speaker 2>be it. It is not a bowl of cherries.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow? Is that an original thought? Oh wow? Where did

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<v Speaker 3>I come up with that? Life is not a bawl

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<v Speaker 3>of cherries?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, all right, everybody, welcome to the Dennis Prager Show,

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<v Speaker 2>the Happiness Hour. Come Hella high Water and there's a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of the former going on. We talk about happiness,

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<v Speaker 2>that's right. Happy people make the world better. Happy people

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<v Speaker 2>make everything better. A happy producer makes a better show,

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<v Speaker 2>A happy engineer makes a better show. A happy intern

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<v Speaker 2>makes a better show. Just to give things off the

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<v Speaker 2>top of my head, yeah, I can't repeat it.

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<v Speaker 3>It was what it was?

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<v Speaker 2>A gem? All right, I have to repeat it, right,

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<v Speaker 2>Sean oh Roy, stop laughing. He hired you. Are you

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<v Speaker 2>sure about the happy producer thing? That's what cracked us

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<v Speaker 2>all up. Let me say a word about Alan. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>Alan is happy. His temperament is, however, a sedated one.

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<v Speaker 2>Not sedated. That's not a good word. That sounds like

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<v Speaker 2>it's a calm. It's a non volatile phlegmatic.

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<v Speaker 3>That is the word.

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<v Speaker 2>But most people will just think you have a bad

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<v Speaker 2>cold if I say flegmatic. That's all, and of which

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<v Speaker 2>I deeply appreciate, and it is in contradistinction to mine.

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<v Speaker 2>We are a great team.

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<v Speaker 3>Alan that I back you up, all right, good good.

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<v Speaker 2>I will do a Honey update just just to make

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not kidding though, folks, this show, I'm dead serious,

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<v Speaker 2>just to give you an idea of the importance of happiness.

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<v Speaker 3>This show is.

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<v Speaker 2>Improved by having happy people work on it. I'm not kidding.

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<v Speaker 2>I am not kidding. Everything is improved in life, family life,

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<v Speaker 2>marital life, business life, friendship life, and the world's life.

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<v Speaker 2>The unhappy became communists, the unhappy became Nazis. The unhappy

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<v Speaker 2>blow themselves up along with people around them. Happy people

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<v Speaker 2>don't do these things. Happy people who have a love

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<v Speaker 2>of life. I mean, after all, love of life is

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<v Speaker 2>part of happiness, right. I mean to say I'm happy,

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<v Speaker 2>but I love Death is what we call an oxymoron.

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<v Speaker 2>If happiness is to mean anything, loving death can't be

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<v Speaker 2>part of it.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, That's all.

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<v Speaker 2>By way of preamble, Welcome to the show. Every Friday

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<v Speaker 2>second hour of the program. It is a three hour show,

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<v Speaker 2>the Dennis Prager Show, and we measure it accordingly. And

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<v Speaker 2>so the second hour Fridays is devoted to happiness today.

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<v Speaker 2>It is about a theme that cannot be stated often enough,

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<v Speaker 2>and that is about not keeping all your happiness eggs

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<v Speaker 2>in the same basket like that. Sean, it's a good one. No, folks,

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<v Speaker 2>I want to say this. I know I've said it

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<v Speaker 2>in different ways, and I know that it so I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to say and yet more different ways, give more examples,

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<v Speaker 2>take your calls, because if you follow this, you have

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<v Speaker 2>a much much better chance for happiness. You can't put

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<v Speaker 2>all your happiness eggs in one basket, because what if

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<v Speaker 2>the basket breaks and the eggs shatter. That's why, and

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<v Speaker 2>to a certain extent, it is almost inevitable that that

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<v Speaker 2>what basket is eternal. Now, don't tell me, you know God.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course I know God is eternal, and that's not

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<v Speaker 2>my point. And by the way, I would not want

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<v Speaker 2>you to put all your eggs in the God basket,

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<v Speaker 2>to be perfectly honest, nor does God. It was a

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<v Speaker 2>Christian pastor who made this point that I am in

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<v Speaker 2>love with, said God announced at the outset of creation

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<v Speaker 2>that he himself, he God himself, is not enough when

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<v Speaker 2>he said it is not good for Adam for man

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<v Speaker 2>to be alone.

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<v Speaker 3>But Adam wasn't alone. He had God. And yet God says.

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<v Speaker 2>Even I am not sufficient. You need a companion in

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<v Speaker 2>human form. You need a human companion, oh man. So

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<v Speaker 2>even God is not sufficient. God is necessary, but not sufficient.

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<v Speaker 2>And so putting your eggs in anyone basket is not

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<v Speaker 2>a good idea, by the way, It's not a good

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<v Speaker 2>idea for anybody, because you know there are parents who

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<v Speaker 2>put all their happiness eggs in the child basket. You

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<v Speaker 2>think that's good for your child. I am the child,

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<v Speaker 2>thank God of two healthy parents. My parents are still

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<v Speaker 2>alive together, they're well, vibrant. I am happy that I

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<v Speaker 2>am not the basket of their happiness. Do I bring

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<v Speaker 2>them some happiness? Of course I do. I'm a wonderful son, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>of course. I mean if I didn't know that, I

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<v Speaker 2>would be out of my mind. Of course I know

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<v Speaker 2>I intend to be. My brother's a wonderful So they

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<v Speaker 2>have two kids, all right, that's fine. In fact, just

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<v Speaker 2>just this week on my call, my call home, and

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<v Speaker 2>my father who always philosophizes on the phone, gave Dennis,

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<v Speaker 2>I want you to know my mother on the other line,

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<v Speaker 2>and my wife was listening in two and he was

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<v Speaker 2>and he was saying, Dennis, I just want you to know.

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<v Speaker 3>How did he put it?

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<v Speaker 2>He said, Uh, I get you know, I get happiness

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<v Speaker 2>from a lot of things. But your mother is my biggest,

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<v Speaker 2>single source of happiness. Not my children, not my grandchildren,

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<v Speaker 2>not my great grandchildren. And he adores being with them,

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<v Speaker 2>and they adore being with him. And I wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>hear that. Not only was I not insulted, I was relieved.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to hear you are my greatest source

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<v Speaker 2>of happiness. And I don't want my.

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<v Speaker 3>Children to think that that's what I think of them.

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<v Speaker 2>I want them to be happy and that brings me

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of joy, but I don't rely on them

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<v Speaker 2>to be happy. The more things you do, reading, reading,

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<v Speaker 2>reading should bring you happiness. There's just another there's a

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<v Speaker 2>see as an example. That should be music, reading, traveling, hobbies, friends,

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<v Speaker 2>glee club, coin club. That is that motion you're making

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<v Speaker 2>exercise that that is that is adorable. He's really on today, Sean.

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<v Speaker 2>I gotta tell you we gotta we gotta should have

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<v Speaker 2>a video.

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<v Speaker 3>In there with the guy.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh Sean is on the robust side and watching him

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<v Speaker 2>do these exercises, it gives one do you do exercise regularly?

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't think so, okay, fine, all right, I just

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh it's very rare that I wish we were on TV.

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<v Speaker 2>But this is one of those moments. What ain't prager

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<v Speaker 2>seven seven six? What ap p R A g e

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<v Speaker 2>R seven seven six. Yes, that's right, it all. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>exercise sports. I mean it's endless. It is endless. That's

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<v Speaker 2>the point that that's why there are a handful of

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<v Speaker 2>things that drive me nuts when a kid says like

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<v Speaker 2>I am bored. Of course, my kids stopped saying that

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<v Speaker 2>to me because they know they get no sympathy. And

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<v Speaker 2>what I say is, no, you're not bored, you're boring.

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<v Speaker 2>That has always been my answer to a kid saying that.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you meet an adult saying that, that's really tragic.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you know, it's far more likely that you

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<v Speaker 2>meet a kid, But if you met an adult set

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<v Speaker 2>on board you're bored with all the options in this

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<v Speaker 2>society for you know, I understand if people who work

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<v Speaker 2>the land one hundred, two hundred, three hundred years ago,

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<v Speaker 2>and they'd get up at sunrise and do the same

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<v Speaker 2>thing they did the last twelve years at sunrise and

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<v Speaker 2>go to bed at sunset and do the same exact

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<v Speaker 2>thing all day till sunset, and if they were bored

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<v Speaker 2>on the next day of you know, planting corn, I understand.

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<v Speaker 2>But in our society, with the options that we have

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<v Speaker 2>for anything, I mean, what you can do with a camera,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't even have to buy film anymore. Making pictures

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<v Speaker 2>is now free. That's right, it is now free. You

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<v Speaker 2>don't even have to buy film. There is no overhead.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it's like a miracle. There was no overhead

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<v Speaker 2>to making ten thousand photographs. One A Praguer seven seven

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<v Speaker 2>six that the Happiness Hour.

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<v Speaker 1>This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this.

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<v Speaker 1>Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless Wisdom.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, everybody, you're listening to the Dennis Praguer Show, The

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<v Speaker 2>Happiness Hour, And truly, one of the most significant of

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<v Speaker 2>all issues in happiness is not putting all your eggs

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<v Speaker 2>in one basket, meaning not depending on one thing for

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<v Speaker 2>all your happiness. The most common I believe the most

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<v Speaker 2>common failure.

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<v Speaker 3>In that is in children. It is it is wrong

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<v Speaker 3>for so many.

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<v Speaker 2>Reasons that that's probably worth its own show. We got

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<v Speaker 2>to put that down. Notice, folks, I no longer say

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<v Speaker 2>write that down, Allen. Did you see it's now the

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<v Speaker 2>royal We we should write that down, Allen. But since

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<v Speaker 2>I won't, it leaves them.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>The reason not to do it just on children is

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<v Speaker 2>that it's unfair to your child and unfair to you.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, it's unfair to you. But it's not

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<v Speaker 2>what children are. That's not what children are for you

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<v Speaker 2>have children, and that's a very good subject our an

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<v Speaker 2>ultimate issues hour.

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<v Speaker 3>Why have children?

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<v Speaker 2>That's big and it really needs to be answered today

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<v Speaker 2>because people have options. Obviously, they have birth control. That's

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<v Speaker 2>the first area that makes it possible. Secondly, they have

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<v Speaker 2>options for a life without children. You don't depend on

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<v Speaker 2>your children in your old age. You depend on social

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<v Speaker 2>security and your own savings and so on. All right,

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<v Speaker 2>let's uh, let's take some of your calls here and uh,

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<v Speaker 2>let's see, let's take Oh boy, there are so many

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<v Speaker 2>good ones. Yeah, let's go to Marie in San Diego, Hi, Marie.

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<v Speaker 4>Dennis Price, good morning to you.

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<v Speaker 5>I wanted to tell you. I'm a single parent of

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<v Speaker 5>two kids, business owners and you have helped me go

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<v Speaker 5>through two disappointments. Uh business is low. I lost money

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<v Speaker 5>a divorce, and you are making me. You are shaping

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<v Speaker 5>me into a better woman. And I work out every

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<v Speaker 5>morning for two hours and I listened to you on

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<v Speaker 5>my iPod in music and that brings you the greatest joy.

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<v Speaker 5>I think the future amount of my life is going

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<v Speaker 5>to send you flowers because every woman man hour, I

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<v Speaker 5>am becoming a better woman.

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<v Speaker 3>I am speechless.

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<v Speaker 2>I am speechless at how beautiful a statement you just made.

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<v Speaker 2>I would love your future husband to send me a

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<v Speaker 2>thank you note.

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<v Speaker 3>It would mean the world to me. Frankly, that's great.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I do the Happiness Hour. And I was

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<v Speaker 2>saying to Alan during the break that it was always

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<v Speaker 2>important and always popular. It's well over ten years. I

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<v Speaker 2>never remember when we started, and I believe, of course,

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<v Speaker 2>given the times we live in, it is more important

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<v Speaker 2>than ever. I feel that way about the three dedicated

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<v Speaker 2>hours that I do, the Male Female Hour, the Ultimate

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<v Speaker 2>Issues Hour, and the Happiness Hour that more and more

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<v Speaker 2>it will draw people and be meaningful to people because

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<v Speaker 2>you can get very very Your mind can get very

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<v Speaker 2>distorted in its thinking. When things are really good materially,

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<v Speaker 2>you can lose sight of what really matters. Then, when

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<v Speaker 2>the material world starts to collapse, what really matters becomes clearer.

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<v Speaker 2>One eighth Praguer seven seven six. Where is the guy?

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<v Speaker 2>There was a fellow in upper at Darby, Pennsylvania. There

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<v Speaker 2>was a call that God was sufficient. I was going

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<v Speaker 2>to take you, sir. I think it was a sir.

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<v Speaker 2>Try to get in if you can. Uh, let's go

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<v Speaker 2>to the Bronx, New York. Bronx, New York on the

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<v Speaker 2>Apple AM nine seventy. Hello Charlie, Dennis Prager.

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<v Speaker 6>Hello Dennis. Before I start speaking, let's wouldn't say quickly

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<v Speaker 6>if you're a pleasure to listen to.

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<v Speaker 7>Hi.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 6>More easier on the years than our other conservative station

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<v Speaker 6>here in New York.

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<v Speaker 2>Way more easy on the years than whatervatives. Oh that

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<v Speaker 2>other conservative station. Okay, this is a one. The Apple's

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<v Speaker 2>a great station. I'm very proud of my colleagues. Go ahead.

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<v Speaker 6>I agreed with you when you were talking about reading.

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<v Speaker 6>It's one of my many hobbies and the number of

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<v Speaker 6>books that I've read. When I get into a good book,

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<v Speaker 6>you practically can't find me. So I just want to

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<v Speaker 6>agree with you on the points. Thank you for bringing

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<v Speaker 6>it up.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you're very welcome. I know that to be true

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<v Speaker 2>for me and for those who love reading even more

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<v Speaker 2>than a movie. And a movie certainly grabs your attention.

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<v Speaker 2>But a movie, you know, no movie could grab your

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<v Speaker 2>attention for six hours, let alone for six days. A

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<v Speaker 2>book transports you. I have been reading this book on maw.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I have so many other things that I've

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<v Speaker 2>taken a break for the last week because I've been

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<v Speaker 2>so busy since the return from Africa. But the h

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<v Speaker 2>I have been I feel I have been living in

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<v Speaker 2>early twentieth century China with this book one eight Prager

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<v Speaker 2>seven seven six. Do you have any questions on this

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<v Speaker 2>subject of not putting all your eggs in one basket?

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<v Speaker 3>I do, have you? Or here's an alternative thing for

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<v Speaker 3>you to comment on.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you done this? Did you do it with children?

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<v Speaker 2>Did you do which? I'll tell you where the most

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<v Speaker 2>logical area is. The most logical area.

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<v Speaker 3>Is in marriage.

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<v Speaker 2>If you have a good marriage, and I would say

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<v Speaker 2>about a quarter of marriages are that good? Maybe not

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<v Speaker 2>even a quarter. I wish it was one hundred percent. Obviously,

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<v Speaker 2>I have no joy in saying this, but it's it's

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<v Speaker 2>it's it's a minority. But if you do have such

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<v Speaker 2>a marriage, it is the greatest. I think it's the greatest,

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<v Speaker 2>single source of joy. But even there, for the sake

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<v Speaker 2>of your companion, you.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't want them.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't want to be the only source of joy

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<v Speaker 2>because it narrows you.

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<v Speaker 3>You because you.

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<v Speaker 2>Are less alive, and certainly not children, and and certainly

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<v Speaker 2>not work. And by the way, I if there's any

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<v Speaker 2>if there are people who enjoy their work more than

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<v Speaker 2>I do, I'd like to meet them. I'm not saying

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<v Speaker 2>that they're is no one who enjoys their work as

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<v Speaker 2>much as I do, but I would be hard for

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<v Speaker 2>me to imagine somebody who enjoys it more. A. I

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<v Speaker 2>love it. B It is meaningful. I mean everything about

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<v Speaker 2>it is wonderful. And you and I communicate that. I

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<v Speaker 2>think you know that I couldn't fake this every day

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<v Speaker 2>for twenty six years.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a lot of faking.

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<v Speaker 2>Or maybe I did fake it and I followed the

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<v Speaker 2>twelve step program.

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<v Speaker 3>Fake it and then you'll make it or whatever. It

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<v Speaker 3>is fake it and you'll make it now.

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<v Speaker 7>No.

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<v Speaker 2>I love this, but but it would be bad for you.

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<v Speaker 2>If this were my only source of happiness, you would

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<v Speaker 2>have a less well rounded, less healthy Dennis Prager. All right,

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<v Speaker 2>let's go to a honey in Phoenix, Arizona.

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<v Speaker 3>High. Honey, Dennis Prager, Honey.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi, it's Connie.

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<v Speaker 2>It's Connie. Yeah, who's screening today? They're dead? Oh, Joseph.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, well, when you're a chastisement room. Yes, when you

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<v Speaker 4>talked about putting your eggs and more than one basket,

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<v Speaker 4>it just really hit me hard because I had all

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<v Speaker 4>my eggs in one basket and that was to my husband,

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<v Speaker 4>and I was just devastated when he announced, after forty

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<v Speaker 4>six years of marriage that he no longer loved me.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>Come all right, all right, I'm keeping I'm keeping you on.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to hear how you handle it. That that

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<v Speaker 2>that's that's terrible. That is back in a moment.

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<v Speaker 1>This episode of timeless Wisdom will continue right after this.

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<v Speaker 1>Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom.

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<v Speaker 8>It's so important to make someone happy, make just one

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<v Speaker 8>someone happy, make just one hat to halt you, you.

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<v Speaker 9>Sing too, one, smile, the cheers you facetof lights when

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<v Speaker 9>it needs you.

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<v Speaker 10>One girl, your your everything.

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<v Speaker 5>To face.

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<v Speaker 10>If you win it toungs and golds in a minute.

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<v Speaker 10>Where's the real stuff in life to cling too? Love

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<v Speaker 10>is the answer for someone to love?

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<v Speaker 2>Alrighty, my friends, thank you Jimmy Duranty if you found you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know.

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<v Speaker 2>It's funny people say rest in peace. I'm thinking, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want Jimmy Duranty to be resting in peace. I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to be singing in the celestial places right now

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<v Speaker 2>and bringing his an inimitable joy to others. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want it to be resting. It's a funny state, but

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<v Speaker 2>actually rest in peace. I wonder how many well, actually,

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<v Speaker 2>wait a minute, well, I see, I wonder how many

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<v Speaker 2>cultures say that about about the dead. You know, it's

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<v Speaker 2>an interesting question about what phrase would be used. I

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<v Speaker 2>know when hebrew One says peace unto him, and Arabs

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<v Speaker 2>say that as well. So it's I guess it's I

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<v Speaker 2>guess that's I guess what's what people want? I want peace.

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<v Speaker 2>That's another subject for the happiness, our peace of mind. Parenthetically,

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<v Speaker 2>talking about peace of mind, one A prager seven seven six.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, one eight p R A G E

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<v Speaker 2>R seven seven six talking about peace of mind.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I think we.

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<v Speaker 2>Did a male female hour on suggestions that I had

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<v Speaker 2>to men on how to stay faithful. Remember, because it's

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<v Speaker 2>a battle for any normal man. And guys write to me.

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<v Speaker 2>I know they were saying, I don't know what you're

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<v Speaker 2>talking about. I've never tempted. I I you guys are

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<v Speaker 2>remarkable out there. Every man that I know has been tempted.

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<v Speaker 2>I I those of you who write to me that

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<v Speaker 2>you've never been tempted? Are you know our phenomena? I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not saying you're lying. I just it's it's I

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<v Speaker 2>just I've never met a man that I knew well

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<v Speaker 2>for whom that was a true. So since it's the

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<v Speaker 2>vast majority of men are one thing to just know

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<v Speaker 2>is if you value a peace of mind, an affair

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<v Speaker 2>is as destructive as you can get it. It's anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>that's just one of the practical forgetting the moral arguments

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<v Speaker 2>one of the practical arguments against it. Just think of

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<v Speaker 2>the world of lies that you have to live and create. Alrighty,

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<v Speaker 2>this the topic today on the Happiness Hours. Don't put

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<v Speaker 2>your all your eggs in one basket. Whatever the basket is,

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<v Speaker 2>it could it could be. Depends on different ages of

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<v Speaker 2>your life. It's different things. So for example, for many people,

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<v Speaker 2>especially I think more women than men, but including men,

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<v Speaker 2>especially traditional cultures. My children are my whole happiness. It's

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<v Speaker 2>not fair to your child. As I said, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to be my parents whole happiness. I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>them to live for me. It becomes less enjoyable to

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<v Speaker 2>be in their presence. In fact, if that's the case,

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<v Speaker 2>children don't want it. It's not good. That doesn't mean

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<v Speaker 2>that children can't be a source of happiness and certainly unhappiness.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course they should be, absolutely, and so whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 2>kids have a different thing. Obviously they don't live kids,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, they live. They might their big thing might

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<v Speaker 2>be popular in school. If I'm not popular in school,

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<v Speaker 2>then I have no happiness. Anybody, any kid who believes

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<v Speaker 2>that should read Michael Michael Medven's book, his first book,

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<v Speaker 2>I think it was, or one of his first books,

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever Happened to the Class of sixty five? Read What

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<v Speaker 2>happened to the most popular kids high school later in life,

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<v Speaker 2>the top cheerleader, the quarterback, the this the that the

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<v Speaker 2>ones who were the most popular with it's right downhill.

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<v Speaker 3>That's exactly right.

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<v Speaker 2>I was blessed, blessed, blessed, blessed, blessed with a non

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<v Speaker 2>desire for popularity. So I had other things, And I

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<v Speaker 2>told my kids, find one or two wonderful kids to

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<v Speaker 2>be close.

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<v Speaker 3>With, and you will have a happier youth.

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<v Speaker 2>Wanting to be popular, then you end up like Bill Clinton,

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<v Speaker 2>who I think is one of the least happy people

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<v Speaker 2>in public life. Alrighty, we go to back to Connie

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<v Speaker 2>in a Phoenix. Connie, all right, poor Connie, Connie, hold

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<v Speaker 2>on again, feel bad. I'm laughing at myself, Connie. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not laughing at you, God forbid. Connie called in and

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<v Speaker 2>she had put all her eggs in the husband basket.

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<v Speaker 2>And by the oh way, if you if a woman

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<v Speaker 2>says I want to live to be a wonderful wife,

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<v Speaker 2>that's beautiful. That's that's different from putting all your happiness eggs. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's a beautiful thing for a woman to

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<v Speaker 2>aspire to to make the man the most important thing

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<v Speaker 2>in her life.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a dream.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's a separate issue as to put all your

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<v Speaker 2>happiness eggs in one basket back in a moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you enjoying timeless wisdom? We'd love to hear from you.

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<v Speaker 1>Call eight seven seven two four three seventy seven seventy

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<v Speaker 1>make it on the show. That's eight seven seven two

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<v Speaker 1>four three seventy seven seventy six. That's eight seven seven

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<v Speaker 1>two four three triple seven six.

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<v Speaker 11>Thanks for listening and for your support.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this is truly happy music. Hi everybody. Finally I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to get back to Connie.

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<v Speaker 3>Here. This is the Happiness Hour.

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<v Speaker 2>The theme is do not put all your happiness eggs

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<v Speaker 2>in one basket. The more baskets you have, the more

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<v Speaker 2>things that bring you joy and happiness, the better. The

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<v Speaker 2>biggest danger generally has been traditionally putting all your eggs

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<v Speaker 2>in the children basket. Kids, put it in the popularity basket.

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<v Speaker 2>Just to give you an example. And now we go

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<v Speaker 2>to Connie back to.

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<v Speaker 3>You in Phoenix.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, let me understand this because this is a it's

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<v Speaker 2>very painful but important that you called Connie and I

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<v Speaker 2>thank you. Married forty six years and then one day

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<v Speaker 2>you and you put all your happiness in the in

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<v Speaker 2>the marital basket. I'm summarizing correctly. Yes, and then forty

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<v Speaker 2>six years your husband announced I no longer love you

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<v Speaker 2>and divorces.

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<v Speaker 4>No, he didn't divorce me. We're still together.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh oh okay, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh all right, I mean reship.

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<v Speaker 2>Well wait, wait, why why would he why would he

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<v Speaker 2>say that?

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<v Speaker 4>I have no clue. I think that's there's something wrong

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<v Speaker 4>with the guy. I really do. Anyway, I went to counseling,

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<v Speaker 4>and the guy, the counselor told me I need to

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<v Speaker 4>concentrate on making myself happy in other ways.

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<v Speaker 3>That's right.

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<v Speaker 4>So I went and I started to do a flower

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<v Speaker 4>arranging class. I play maj on with the women, and

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<v Speaker 4>I just finished a Bible study class that was just

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<v Speaker 4>for six weeks. And I mean I'm doing things. I

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<v Speaker 4>had ladies over for lunch the other day. I'm doing

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<v Speaker 4>things like that. Well, of course, I do think. We

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<v Speaker 4>have four beautiful daughters, my husband and I and eight grandchildren.

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<v Speaker 4>So you know, I don me.

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<v Speaker 2>It sounds like you have more things bringing you joy

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<v Speaker 2>in your life than most people do.

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<v Speaker 4>I just have to wait for my husband to clear

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<v Speaker 4>his mind or I don't know. I don't know what's

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<v Speaker 4>going on with him.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm curious. If I would say to him, and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't need to know his name, I'll just call him Joe.

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<v Speaker 2>If I say Joe, I'd have two questions. Joe, why,

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<v Speaker 2>why after forty six years did you say this to Connie?

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<v Speaker 2>Why would he answer?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know? Do you know? I should ask him that,

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<v Speaker 4>but I'm okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I would ask one other question. I would ask

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<v Speaker 2>him one other question. If you feel that way, why

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<v Speaker 2>do you want to stay together? Mm hmm, I would

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<v Speaker 2>ask him that.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I think the first question is more important than

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<v Speaker 4>why he would say that to me?

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<v Speaker 6>Why?

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<v Speaker 4>White? What makes him feel that way after all these years?

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<v Speaker 3>Well? How old is he? Is he older than you?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>How much? How old is he?

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<v Speaker 4>Five years older than me? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>All right, Well he's not old.

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<v Speaker 4>We're still together. I still do things for him. My

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I cleaned the house, cooking, just like I

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<v Speaker 4>always did before.

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<v Speaker 3>But is he is?

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<v Speaker 4>He?

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<v Speaker 3>Is he less loving?

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<v Speaker 4>H cold as a cucumber?

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<v Speaker 8>Well?

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<v Speaker 3>Why don't you divorce?

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<v Speaker 4>No? I made him, I made I made him, I

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<v Speaker 4>made a I made a covenant with my husband, and

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<v Speaker 4>what was the covenant was with God at the beginning,

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<v Speaker 4>that she is my beloved forever.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, all right, Look, I'll ever argue with that, and

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<v Speaker 2>I respect you tremendously, but the gist of your call

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<v Speaker 2>is critical. When she did the best thing you could,

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<v Speaker 2>the basket broke and so she developed other baskets. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>she's very blessed if she has four wonderful daughters. I

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<v Speaker 2>mean to go four for four on your kids. That's

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<v Speaker 2>a big deal. That's a big deal. What happened to

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<v Speaker 2>the guy?

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<v Speaker 3>You know?

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<v Speaker 2>I tell you these guys. The guy had a call

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<v Speaker 2>on He objected. I don't know. It's not to imagine

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<v Speaker 2>he was serious. Joe said he was serious, all right,

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<v Speaker 2>that he did not like the fact that I said

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<v Speaker 2>that people who blow themselves up are not happy. I

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<v Speaker 2>said that Nazis were not happy, Communists were not happy,

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<v Speaker 2>and people who blow themselves up are not happy. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>if people who blow themselves up are happy, then don't

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<v Speaker 2>listen to my happiness hour, because my definition of happiness

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<v Speaker 2>include loving life. Okay, if you look forward to death,

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<v Speaker 2>you're not happy. All right, That's that's it. Okay, let's

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<v Speaker 2>go too, all right, that's true. That's true. That's true.

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<v Speaker 2>And then let's go to Beaumont, California and Vince. Hello, Vince,

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<v Speaker 2>Dennis Prager.

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<v Speaker 7>Hi, Dennis, thank you so much for all your wisdom.

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<v Speaker 7>I love your show.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you for that.

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<v Speaker 7>I got married fifty one years ago at eighteen.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, hold on, you are one minute, you are fifty

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<v Speaker 2>two fifty three.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you know that? I know people who will do that. Really, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>they will use their fingers. Go ahead, yeah, okay.

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<v Speaker 7>About ten years after we married, my wife was diagnosed

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<v Speaker 7>with schizophrenia.

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<v Speaker 3>And wait, wait, I'm sorry. How many years after marriage?

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<v Speaker 6>About ten?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, go on.

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<v Speaker 7>Obviously she had it before that, but we didn't know it.

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<v Speaker 7>I spent the next forty years trying to make her happy.

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<v Speaker 7>Put all my eggs in that basket, and it didn't work.

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<v Speaker 7>I was ready to die. I was getting sick. I

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<v Speaker 7>really was a miserable person. But I was constantly trying

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<v Speaker 7>to make her happy.

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<v Speaker 3>Was one of the attempts. Medication.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh, she's on all the medicals.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, go on, all right, go on, go on, all right,

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<v Speaker 3>go on.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, yeah, it just that stuff doesn't work.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well it does, it does? It didn't work. With her,

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<v Speaker 2>but quickly go on. So what happened?

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<v Speaker 6>It helps?

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<v Speaker 7>Okay, About a year and a half ago she announced

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<v Speaker 7>that she was leaving me because she was fearful of

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<v Speaker 7>that I was poisoning her toothpaste and things like that,

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<v Speaker 7>and there was nothing legally I could do about it,

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<v Speaker 7>and so she walked out, left me. And I can't

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<v Speaker 7>tell you. At first it was so devastating. And then

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<v Speaker 7>I decided, and hopefully I can say, with partly duty

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<v Speaker 7>to listening to your program for so many years, I

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<v Speaker 7>decided to be happy.

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<v Speaker 2>That's it. That's it, that's it. It's a powerful call.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, you know, everything that he mentioned I

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<v Speaker 2>have talked about on the Happiness Hour. First A, you

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<v Speaker 2>can't make somebody else happy. We can only make ourselves happy.

0:32:30.840 --> 0:32:33.880
<v Speaker 2>You can make somebody else unhappy, but you cannot make

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<v Speaker 2>somebody else happy. The biggest reason that the happy often

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<v Speaker 2>marry the unhappy is the belief that they can make

0:32:42.840 --> 0:32:46.720
<v Speaker 2>the unhappy happy. It is a very common desire. The

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<v Speaker 2>happy are usually better people because they're happy there, and

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<v Speaker 2>because they're better.

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<v Speaker 3>To begin with.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes sometimes and so they want to save and rescue

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<v Speaker 2>the unhappy. Right, Well, I think we have this man

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<v Speaker 2>about the terrorist issue coming up.

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<v Speaker 1>This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this.

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<v Speaker 1>Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless.

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<v Speaker 2>Wisdom, Happiness Hour, Dennis Prager's show and go to Dallas,

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<v Speaker 2>Texas and Amana wants to be Anonymous.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello Anonymous Dennis Prager.

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<v Speaker 12>How you're doing, sir? Thanks for taking my call.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you for calling back. I particularly wanted your call.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay.

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<v Speaker 12>I listened to your show a lot. You talk about

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<v Speaker 12>happiness a lot, and I just didn't like the fact

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<v Speaker 12>you put the contest of terrorism and happiness in the

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<v Speaker 12>same sentence.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, actually terrorism and unhappiness. But yeah, go on, I mean, I.

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<v Speaker 12>Mean, first of all, I'm not for any of that.

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<v Speaker 12>God bless America and it's the greatest country in the world,

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<v Speaker 12>and that's why I'm here. But terrorist has no home

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<v Speaker 12>to say, they have no life. The person has no life,

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<v Speaker 12>least of us concerned is happening, don't you think, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Whether they have a life or not. First of all,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't buy that the nineteen who attacked the United

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<v Speaker 2>States had terrific lives. They were all upper middle class

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<v Speaker 2>people from Arab countries, mostly Saudi Arabia, they were on

0:34:17.320 --> 0:34:19.960
<v Speaker 2>student or work visas in the United States. They had

0:34:20.000 --> 0:34:22.839
<v Speaker 2>a terrific life. They traveled around the world. They had

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<v Speaker 2>a better life than the vast majority of people. They

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<v Speaker 2>were profoundly unhappy, bitter, angry, and evil, and they were

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<v Speaker 2>so Uh. This notion that they don't have a life

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<v Speaker 2>is propaganda? Did would you say that about Nazis and communists?

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<v Speaker 2>They didn't have a life?

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<v Speaker 12>See you twisted again?

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<v Speaker 2>Did?

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<v Speaker 3>Why did I twist? I compare the three people?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, to you?

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<v Speaker 12>Happiness could be a ball of ice cream to them

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<v Speaker 12>happy It is just to see somebody in pain. Yes,

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<v Speaker 12>but individual, isn't it?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>So another all right, so is your question? In other words,

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<v Speaker 2>it is very possible that a statist happy when he's torturing.

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<v Speaker 12>Is that happiness he comes individually? Certain people have different

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<v Speaker 12>the view of happiness.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sure they do. And I just funny, what was

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<v Speaker 3>the last line? I missed it? I'm sorry for you.

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<v Speaker 12>To put that into contest. It just it was more

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<v Speaker 12>political than anything else about your happy as well?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it wasn't political anymore than do you think that

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<v Speaker 2>the whites who lynched blacks were particularly happy people.

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<v Speaker 12>Because they think they are.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, okay, so whether they they they may think they are,

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<v Speaker 2>that is possible. Uh So I am offering the idea

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<v Speaker 2>that the average person who joined the Nazis, who was

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<v Speaker 2>in a lynch mob of a black in the southern

0:35:44.960 --> 0:35:51.080
<v Speaker 2>United States, who was a communist or who is a terrorist,

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<v Speaker 2>that these people, if we say that they are among

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<v Speaker 2>the happier humans, then happiness is true irrelevance in life.

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<v Speaker 2>It is truly irrelevant. And my proof is this, everyone listening,

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<v Speaker 2>everyone knows that they want when they are when they

0:36:09.760 --> 0:36:12.360
<v Speaker 2>feel happy, is when they feel they want to do

0:36:12.480 --> 0:36:16.240
<v Speaker 2>the most good, not be the most cruel. Every single

0:36:16.280 --> 0:36:17.719
<v Speaker 2>one of you listening knows that.

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<v Speaker 1>On tomorrow's episode of Dennis teaches the Torah.

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<v Speaker 2>And like I suspect every one of you have learned

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<v Speaker 2>a lot about this. I may have learned more than

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<v Speaker 2>some because I think I've started out more naive on

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<v Speaker 2>the subject. The subject is the family and it's troubles.

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<v Speaker 2>So I want to begin with the Torah. The Torah

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<v Speaker 2>does a favor, and I mean this absolutely sincerely. I

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<v Speaker 2>think the Torah does us a tram tremendous favor by

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<v Speaker 2>having every one of the families in the entire Book

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<v Speaker 2>of Genesis dysfunctional, and I mean it with I mean

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<v Speaker 2>with utter sincerity. It is in a great service. Jews

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<v Speaker 2>revere the patriarchs and the matriarchs Abraham, Abraham, Ytzakiako of Abraham,

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<v Speaker 2>Isaac and Jacob and Sarah, Riskel, Rafael and Leah, Sarah, Rebecca,

0:37:34.800 --> 0:37:40.400
<v Speaker 2>Rachel Leah, and they are properly revered, but not one

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<v Speaker 2>had a family without serious problems.

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<v Speaker 1>Join us tomorrow to hear more on Timeless Wisdom with

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