Speaker 1: Life audio on today's episode of Timeless Wisdom.
Speaker 2: Today it is about a theme that cannot be stated
Speaker 2: often enough, and that is about not keeping all your
Speaker 2: happiness eggs in the same basket.
Speaker 1: That's coming off on Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Welcome
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Speaker 2: It's the Happiness Hour on the Dennis Prager Show every
Speaker 2: week at this time, come hell, high water, a bunch
Speaker 2: of deficits, you name it. Yes, like those lyrics, folks,
Speaker 2: All right, everybody, America and the world, here we go.
Speaker 3: It's the happy, happy, happy, happy hour. Yes it is.
Speaker 3: It's the happy, happy, happy alrighty, my friends.
Speaker 2: Happiness makes the world better. Yes, indeed, happy people make
Speaker 2: the world better, and the world has made worse by
Speaker 2: the unhappy. I'm sorry, my friends. That's the way it is.
Speaker 2: Everybody has a tough life. That's the way it is, too.
Speaker 2: Some have it tougher than others, admittedly, but there's little
Speaker 2: relationship between tough life and happiness. Some with quite a
Speaker 2: tough life walk around with far greater cheer than those
Speaker 2: with an easier life. And that is our moral obligation
Speaker 2: to walk around at least acting happy and trying to
Speaker 2: be it. It is not a bowl of cherries.
Speaker 3: Wow? Is that an original thought? Oh wow? Where did
Speaker 3: I come up with that? Life is not a bawl
Speaker 3: of cherries?
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, everybody, welcome to the Dennis Prager Show,
Speaker 2: the Happiness Hour. Come Hella high Water and there's a
Speaker 2: lot of the former going on. We talk about happiness,
Speaker 2: that's right. Happy people make the world better. Happy people
Speaker 2: make everything better. A happy producer makes a better show,
Speaker 2: A happy engineer makes a better show. A happy intern
Speaker 2: makes a better show. Just to give things off the
Speaker 2: top of my head, yeah, I can't repeat it.
Speaker 3: It was what it was?
Speaker 2: A gem? All right, I have to repeat it, right,
Speaker 2: Sean oh Roy, stop laughing. He hired you. Are you
Speaker 2: sure about the happy producer thing? That's what cracked us
Speaker 2: all up. Let me say a word about Alan. Okay,
Speaker 2: Alan is happy. His temperament is, however, a sedated one.
Speaker 2: Not sedated. That's not a good word. That sounds like
Speaker 2: it's a calm. It's a non volatile phlegmatic.
Speaker 3: That is the word.
Speaker 2: But most people will just think you have a bad
Speaker 2: cold if I say flegmatic. That's all, and of which
Speaker 2: I deeply appreciate, and it is in contradistinction to mine.
Speaker 2: We are a great team.
Speaker 3: Alan that I back you up, all right, good good.
Speaker 2: I will do a Honey update just just to make
Speaker 2: I'm not kidding though, folks, this show, I'm dead serious,
Speaker 2: just to give you an idea of the importance of happiness.
Speaker 3: This show is.
Speaker 2: Improved by having happy people work on it. I'm not kidding.
Speaker 2: I am not kidding. Everything is improved in life, family life,
Speaker 2: marital life, business life, friendship life, and the world's life.
Speaker 2: The unhappy became communists, the unhappy became Nazis. The unhappy
Speaker 2: blow themselves up along with people around them. Happy people
Speaker 2: don't do these things. Happy people who have a love
Speaker 2: of life. I mean, after all, love of life is
Speaker 2: part of happiness, right. I mean to say I'm happy,
Speaker 2: but I love Death is what we call an oxymoron.
Speaker 2: If happiness is to mean anything, loving death can't be
Speaker 2: part of it.
Speaker 3: All right, That's all.
Speaker 2: By way of preamble, Welcome to the show. Every Friday
Speaker 2: second hour of the program. It is a three hour show,
Speaker 2: the Dennis Prager Show, and we measure it accordingly. And
Speaker 2: so the second hour Fridays is devoted to happiness today.
Speaker 2: It is about a theme that cannot be stated often enough,
Speaker 2: and that is about not keeping all your happiness eggs
Speaker 2: in the same basket like that. Sean, it's a good one. No, folks,
Speaker 2: I want to say this. I know I've said it
Speaker 2: in different ways, and I know that it so I'm
Speaker 2: going to say and yet more different ways, give more examples,
Speaker 2: take your calls, because if you follow this, you have
Speaker 2: a much much better chance for happiness. You can't put
Speaker 2: all your happiness eggs in one basket, because what if
Speaker 2: the basket breaks and the eggs shatter. That's why, and
Speaker 2: to a certain extent, it is almost inevitable that that
Speaker 2: what basket is eternal. Now, don't tell me, you know God.
Speaker 2: Of course I know God is eternal, and that's not
Speaker 2: my point. And by the way, I would not want
Speaker 2: you to put all your eggs in the God basket,
Speaker 2: to be perfectly honest, nor does God. It was a
Speaker 2: Christian pastor who made this point that I am in
Speaker 2: love with, said God announced at the outset of creation
Speaker 2: that he himself, he God himself, is not enough when
Speaker 2: he said it is not good for Adam for man
Speaker 2: to be alone.
Speaker 3: But Adam wasn't alone. He had God. And yet God says.
Speaker 2: Even I am not sufficient. You need a companion in
Speaker 2: human form. You need a human companion, oh man. So
Speaker 2: even God is not sufficient. God is necessary, but not sufficient.
Speaker 2: And so putting your eggs in anyone basket is not
Speaker 2: a good idea, by the way, It's not a good
Speaker 2: idea for anybody, because you know there are parents who
Speaker 2: put all their happiness eggs in the child basket. You
Speaker 2: think that's good for your child. I am the child,
Speaker 2: thank God of two healthy parents. My parents are still
Speaker 2: alive together, they're well, vibrant. I am happy that I
Speaker 2: am not the basket of their happiness. Do I bring
Speaker 2: them some happiness? Of course I do. I'm a wonderful son, Okay,
Speaker 2: of course. I mean if I didn't know that, I
Speaker 2: would be out of my mind. Of course I know
Speaker 2: I intend to be. My brother's a wonderful So they
Speaker 2: have two kids, all right, that's fine. In fact, just
Speaker 2: just this week on my call, my call home, and
Speaker 2: my father who always philosophizes on the phone, gave Dennis,
Speaker 2: I want you to know my mother on the other line,
Speaker 2: and my wife was listening in two and he was
Speaker 2: and he was saying, Dennis, I just want you to know.
Speaker 3: How did he put it?
Speaker 2: He said, Uh, I get you know, I get happiness
Speaker 2: from a lot of things. But your mother is my biggest,
Speaker 2: single source of happiness. Not my children, not my grandchildren,
Speaker 2: not my great grandchildren. And he adores being with them,
Speaker 2: and they adore being with him. And I wanted to
Speaker 2: hear that. Not only was I not insulted, I was relieved.
Speaker 2: I don't want to hear you are my greatest source
Speaker 2: of happiness. And I don't want my.
Speaker 3: Children to think that that's what I think of them.
Speaker 2: I want them to be happy and that brings me
Speaker 2: a lot of joy, but I don't rely on them
Speaker 2: to be happy. The more things you do, reading, reading,
Speaker 2: reading should bring you happiness. There's just another there's a
Speaker 2: see as an example. That should be music, reading, traveling, hobbies, friends,
Speaker 2: glee club, coin club. That is that motion you're making
Speaker 2: exercise that that is that is adorable. He's really on today, Sean.
Speaker 2: I gotta tell you we gotta we gotta should have
Speaker 2: a video.
Speaker 3: In there with the guy.
Speaker 2: Uh Sean is on the robust side and watching him
Speaker 2: do these exercises, it gives one do you do exercise regularly?
Speaker 2: I didn't think so, okay, fine, all right, I just
Speaker 2: I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt.
Speaker 2: Oh it's very rare that I wish we were on TV.
Speaker 2: But this is one of those moments. What ain't prager
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Speaker 2: R seven seven six. Yes, that's right, it all. Yes,
Speaker 2: exercise sports. I mean it's endless. It is endless. That's
Speaker 2: the point that that's why there are a handful of
Speaker 2: things that drive me nuts when a kid says like
Speaker 2: I am bored. Of course, my kids stopped saying that
Speaker 2: to me because they know they get no sympathy. And
Speaker 2: what I say is, no, you're not bored, you're boring.
Speaker 2: That has always been my answer to a kid saying that.
Speaker 2: And if you meet an adult saying that, that's really tragic.
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, it's far more likely that you
Speaker 2: meet a kid, But if you met an adult set
Speaker 2: on board you're bored with all the options in this
Speaker 2: society for you know, I understand if people who work
Speaker 2: the land one hundred, two hundred, three hundred years ago,
Speaker 2: and they'd get up at sunrise and do the same
Speaker 2: thing they did the last twelve years at sunrise and
Speaker 2: go to bed at sunset and do the same exact
Speaker 2: thing all day till sunset, and if they were bored
Speaker 2: on the next day of you know, planting corn, I understand.
Speaker 2: But in our society, with the options that we have
Speaker 2: for anything, I mean, what you can do with a camera,
Speaker 2: you don't even have to buy film anymore. Making pictures
Speaker 2: is now free. That's right, it is now free. You
Speaker 2: don't even have to buy film. There is no overhead.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's like a miracle. There was no overhead
Speaker 2: to making ten thousand photographs. One A Praguer seven seven
Speaker 2: six that the Happiness Hour.
Speaker 1: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this.
Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless Wisdom.
Speaker 2: Hi, everybody, you're listening to the Dennis Praguer Show, The
Speaker 2: Happiness Hour, And truly, one of the most significant of
Speaker 2: all issues in happiness is not putting all your eggs
Speaker 2: in one basket, meaning not depending on one thing for
Speaker 2: all your happiness. The most common I believe the most
Speaker 2: common failure.
Speaker 3: In that is in children. It is it is wrong
Speaker 3: for so many.
Speaker 2: Reasons that that's probably worth its own show. We got
Speaker 2: to put that down. Notice, folks, I no longer say
Speaker 2: write that down, Allen. Did you see it's now the
Speaker 2: royal We we should write that down, Allen. But since
Speaker 2: I won't, it leaves them.
Speaker 3: Anyway.
Speaker 2: The reason not to do it just on children is
Speaker 2: that it's unfair to your child and unfair to you.
Speaker 2: By the way, it's unfair to you. But it's not
Speaker 2: what children are. That's not what children are for you
Speaker 2: have children, and that's a very good subject our an
Speaker 2: ultimate issues hour.
Speaker 3: Why have children?
Speaker 2: That's big and it really needs to be answered today
Speaker 2: because people have options. Obviously, they have birth control. That's
Speaker 2: the first area that makes it possible. Secondly, they have
Speaker 2: options for a life without children. You don't depend on
Speaker 2: your children in your old age. You depend on social
Speaker 2: security and your own savings and so on. All right,
Speaker 2: let's uh, let's take some of your calls here and uh,
Speaker 2: let's see, let's take Oh boy, there are so many
Speaker 2: good ones. Yeah, let's go to Marie in San Diego, Hi, Marie.
Speaker 4: Dennis Price, good morning to you.
Speaker 5: I wanted to tell you. I'm a single parent of
Speaker 5: two kids, business owners and you have helped me go
Speaker 5: through two disappointments. Uh business is low. I lost money
Speaker 5: a divorce, and you are making me. You are shaping
Speaker 5: me into a better woman. And I work out every
Speaker 5: morning for two hours and I listened to you on
Speaker 5: my iPod in music and that brings you the greatest joy.
Speaker 5: I think the future amount of my life is going
Speaker 5: to send you flowers because every woman man hour, I
Speaker 5: am becoming a better woman.
Speaker 3: I am speechless.
Speaker 2: I am speechless at how beautiful a statement you just made.
Speaker 2: I would love your future husband to send me a
Speaker 2: thank you note.
Speaker 3: It would mean the world to me. Frankly, that's great.
Speaker 2: That's why I do the Happiness Hour. And I was
Speaker 2: saying to Alan during the break that it was always
Speaker 2: important and always popular. It's well over ten years. I
Speaker 2: never remember when we started, and I believe, of course,
Speaker 2: given the times we live in, it is more important
Speaker 2: than ever. I feel that way about the three dedicated
Speaker 2: hours that I do, the Male Female Hour, the Ultimate
Speaker 2: Issues Hour, and the Happiness Hour that more and more
Speaker 2: it will draw people and be meaningful to people because
Speaker 2: you can get very very Your mind can get very
Speaker 2: distorted in its thinking. When things are really good materially,
Speaker 2: you can lose sight of what really matters. Then, when
Speaker 2: the material world starts to collapse, what really matters becomes clearer.
Speaker 2: One eighth Praguer seven seven six. Where is the guy?
Speaker 2: There was a fellow in upper at Darby, Pennsylvania. There
Speaker 2: was a call that God was sufficient. I was going
Speaker 2: to take you, sir. I think it was a sir.
Speaker 2: Try to get in if you can. Uh, let's go
Speaker 2: to the Bronx, New York. Bronx, New York on the
Speaker 2: Apple AM nine seventy. Hello Charlie, Dennis Prager.
Speaker 6: Hello Dennis. Before I start speaking, let's wouldn't say quickly
Speaker 6: if you're a pleasure to listen to.
Speaker 7: Hi.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 6: More easier on the years than our other conservative station
Speaker 6: here in New York.
Speaker 2: Way more easy on the years than whatervatives. Oh that
Speaker 2: other conservative station. Okay, this is a one. The Apple's
Speaker 2: a great station. I'm very proud of my colleagues. Go ahead.
Speaker 6: I agreed with you when you were talking about reading.
Speaker 6: It's one of my many hobbies and the number of
Speaker 6: books that I've read. When I get into a good book,
Speaker 6: you practically can't find me. So I just want to
Speaker 6: agree with you on the points. Thank you for bringing
Speaker 6: it up.
Speaker 2: Well, you're very welcome. I know that to be true
Speaker 2: for me and for those who love reading even more
Speaker 2: than a movie. And a movie certainly grabs your attention.
Speaker 2: But a movie, you know, no movie could grab your
Speaker 2: attention for six hours, let alone for six days. A
Speaker 2: book transports you. I have been reading this book on maw.
Speaker 2: I mean, I have so many other things that I've
Speaker 2: taken a break for the last week because I've been
Speaker 2: so busy since the return from Africa. But the h
Speaker 2: I have been I feel I have been living in
Speaker 2: early twentieth century China with this book one eight Prager
Speaker 2: seven seven six. Do you have any questions on this
Speaker 2: subject of not putting all your eggs in one basket?
Speaker 3: I do, have you? Or here's an alternative thing for
Speaker 3: you to comment on.
Speaker 2: Have you done this? Did you do it with children?
Speaker 2: Did you do which? I'll tell you where the most
Speaker 2: logical area is. The most logical area.
Speaker 3: Is in marriage.
Speaker 2: If you have a good marriage, and I would say
Speaker 2: about a quarter of marriages are that good? Maybe not
Speaker 2: even a quarter. I wish it was one hundred percent. Obviously,
Speaker 2: I have no joy in saying this, but it's it's
Speaker 2: it's it's a minority. But if you do have such
Speaker 2: a marriage, it is the greatest. I think it's the greatest,
Speaker 2: single source of joy. But even there, for the sake
Speaker 2: of your companion, you.
Speaker 3: Don't want them.
Speaker 2: You don't want to be the only source of joy
Speaker 2: because it narrows you.
Speaker 3: You because you.
Speaker 2: Are less alive, and certainly not children, and and certainly
Speaker 2: not work. And by the way, I if there's any
Speaker 2: if there are people who enjoy their work more than
Speaker 2: I do, I'd like to meet them. I'm not saying
Speaker 2: that they're is no one who enjoys their work as
Speaker 2: much as I do, but I would be hard for
Speaker 2: me to imagine somebody who enjoys it more. A. I
Speaker 2: love it. B It is meaningful. I mean everything about
Speaker 2: it is wonderful. And you and I communicate that. I
Speaker 2: think you know that I couldn't fake this every day
Speaker 2: for twenty six years.
Speaker 3: It's a lot of faking.
Speaker 2: Or maybe I did fake it and I followed the
Speaker 2: twelve step program.
Speaker 3: Fake it and then you'll make it or whatever. It
Speaker 3: is fake it and you'll make it now.
Speaker 7: No.
Speaker 2: I love this, but but it would be bad for you.
Speaker 2: If this were my only source of happiness, you would
Speaker 2: have a less well rounded, less healthy Dennis Prager. All right,
Speaker 2: let's go to a honey in Phoenix, Arizona.
Speaker 3: High. Honey, Dennis Prager, Honey.
Speaker 4: Hi, it's Connie.
Speaker 2: It's Connie. Yeah, who's screening today? They're dead? Oh, Joseph.
Speaker 4: Yes, well, when you're a chastisement room. Yes, when you
Speaker 4: talked about putting your eggs and more than one basket,
Speaker 4: it just really hit me hard because I had all
Speaker 4: my eggs in one basket and that was to my husband,
Speaker 4: and I was just devastated when he announced, after forty
Speaker 4: six years of marriage that he no longer loved me.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 2: Come all right, all right, I'm keeping I'm keeping you on.
Speaker 2: I want to hear how you handle it. That that
Speaker 2: that's that's terrible. That is back in a moment.
Speaker 1: This episode of timeless Wisdom will continue right after this.
Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom.
Speaker 8: It's so important to make someone happy, make just one
Speaker 8: someone happy, make just one hat to halt you, you.
Speaker 9: Sing too, one, smile, the cheers you facetof lights when
Speaker 9: it needs you.
Speaker 10: One girl, your your everything.
Speaker 5: To face.
Speaker 10: If you win it toungs and golds in a minute.
Speaker 10: Where's the real stuff in life to cling too? Love
Speaker 10: is the answer for someone to love?
Speaker 2: Alrighty, my friends, thank you Jimmy Duranty if you found you.
Speaker 1: Know.
Speaker 2: It's funny people say rest in peace. I'm thinking, I
Speaker 2: don't want Jimmy Duranty to be resting in peace. I
Speaker 2: wanted to be singing in the celestial places right now
Speaker 2: and bringing his an inimitable joy to others. I don't
Speaker 2: want it to be resting. It's a funny state, but
Speaker 2: actually rest in peace. I wonder how many well, actually,
Speaker 2: wait a minute, well, I see, I wonder how many
Speaker 2: cultures say that about about the dead. You know, it's
Speaker 2: an interesting question about what phrase would be used. I
Speaker 2: know when hebrew One says peace unto him, and Arabs
Speaker 2: say that as well. So it's I guess it's I
Speaker 2: guess that's I guess what's what people want? I want peace.
Speaker 2: That's another subject for the happiness, our peace of mind. Parenthetically,
Speaker 2: talking about peace of mind, one A prager seven seven six.
Speaker 2: By the way, one eight p R A G E
Speaker 2: R seven seven six talking about peace of mind.
Speaker 3: I think I think we.
Speaker 2: Did a male female hour on suggestions that I had
Speaker 2: to men on how to stay faithful. Remember, because it's
Speaker 2: a battle for any normal man. And guys write to me.
Speaker 2: I know they were saying, I don't know what you're
Speaker 2: talking about. I've never tempted. I I you guys are
Speaker 2: remarkable out there. Every man that I know has been tempted.
Speaker 2: I I those of you who write to me that
Speaker 2: you've never been tempted? Are you know our phenomena? I mean,
Speaker 2: I'm not saying you're lying. I just it's it's I
Speaker 2: just I've never met a man that I knew well
Speaker 2: for whom that was a true. So since it's the
Speaker 2: vast majority of men are one thing to just know
Speaker 2: is if you value a peace of mind, an affair
Speaker 2: is as destructive as you can get it. It's anyway,
Speaker 2: that's just one of the practical forgetting the moral arguments
Speaker 2: one of the practical arguments against it. Just think of
Speaker 2: the world of lies that you have to live and create. Alrighty,
Speaker 2: this the topic today on the Happiness Hours. Don't put
Speaker 2: your all your eggs in one basket. Whatever the basket is,
Speaker 2: it could it could be. Depends on different ages of
Speaker 2: your life. It's different things. So for example, for many people,
Speaker 2: especially I think more women than men, but including men,
Speaker 2: especially traditional cultures. My children are my whole happiness. It's
Speaker 2: not fair to your child. As I said, I don't
Speaker 2: want to be my parents whole happiness. I don't want
Speaker 2: them to live for me. It becomes less enjoyable to
Speaker 2: be in their presence. In fact, if that's the case,
Speaker 2: children don't want it. It's not good. That doesn't mean
Speaker 2: that children can't be a source of happiness and certainly unhappiness.
Speaker 2: Of course they should be, absolutely, and so whatever it is,
Speaker 2: kids have a different thing. Obviously they don't live kids,
Speaker 2: you know, they live. They might their big thing might
Speaker 2: be popular in school. If I'm not popular in school,
Speaker 2: then I have no happiness. Anybody, any kid who believes
Speaker 2: that should read Michael Michael Medven's book, his first book,
Speaker 2: I think it was, or one of his first books,
Speaker 2: Whatever Happened to the Class of sixty five? Read What
Speaker 2: happened to the most popular kids high school later in life,
Speaker 2: the top cheerleader, the quarterback, the this the that the
Speaker 2: ones who were the most popular with it's right downhill.
Speaker 3: That's exactly right.
Speaker 2: I was blessed, blessed, blessed, blessed, blessed with a non
Speaker 2: desire for popularity. So I had other things, And I
Speaker 2: told my kids, find one or two wonderful kids to
Speaker 2: be close.
Speaker 3: With, and you will have a happier youth.
Speaker 2: Wanting to be popular, then you end up like Bill Clinton,
Speaker 2: who I think is one of the least happy people
Speaker 2: in public life. Alrighty, we go to back to Connie
Speaker 2: in a Phoenix. Connie, all right, poor Connie, Connie, hold
Speaker 2: on again, feel bad. I'm laughing at myself, Connie. I'm
Speaker 2: not laughing at you, God forbid. Connie called in and
Speaker 2: she had put all her eggs in the husband basket.
Speaker 2: And by the oh way, if you if a woman
Speaker 2: says I want to live to be a wonderful wife,
Speaker 2: that's beautiful. That's that's different from putting all your happiness eggs. Okay,
Speaker 2: I think it's a beautiful thing for a woman to
Speaker 2: aspire to to make the man the most important thing
Speaker 2: in her life.
Speaker 3: That's a dream.
Speaker 2: But that's a separate issue as to put all your
Speaker 2: happiness eggs in one basket back in a moment.
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Speaker 11: Thanks for listening and for your support.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is truly happy music. Hi everybody. Finally I'm
Speaker 2: going to get back to Connie.
Speaker 3: Here. This is the Happiness Hour.
Speaker 2: The theme is do not put all your happiness eggs
Speaker 2: in one basket. The more baskets you have, the more
Speaker 2: things that bring you joy and happiness, the better. The
Speaker 2: biggest danger generally has been traditionally putting all your eggs
Speaker 2: in the children basket. Kids, put it in the popularity basket.
Speaker 2: Just to give you an example. And now we go
Speaker 2: to Connie back to.
Speaker 3: You in Phoenix.
Speaker 2: Now, let me understand this because this is a it's
Speaker 2: very painful but important that you called Connie and I
Speaker 2: thank you. Married forty six years and then one day
Speaker 2: you and you put all your happiness in the in
Speaker 2: the marital basket. I'm summarizing correctly. Yes, and then forty
Speaker 2: six years your husband announced I no longer love you
Speaker 2: and divorces.
Speaker 4: No, he didn't divorce me. We're still together.
Speaker 3: Oh oh okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 4: Oh all right, I mean reship.
Speaker 2: Well wait, wait, why why would he why would he
Speaker 2: say that?
Speaker 4: I have no clue. I think that's there's something wrong
Speaker 4: with the guy. I really do. Anyway, I went to counseling,
Speaker 4: and the guy, the counselor told me I need to
Speaker 4: concentrate on making myself happy in other ways.
Speaker 3: That's right.
Speaker 4: So I went and I started to do a flower
Speaker 4: arranging class. I play maj on with the women, and
Speaker 4: I just finished a Bible study class that was just
Speaker 4: for six weeks. And I mean I'm doing things. I
Speaker 4: had ladies over for lunch the other day. I'm doing
Speaker 4: things like that. Well, of course, I do think. We
Speaker 4: have four beautiful daughters, my husband and I and eight grandchildren.
Speaker 4: So you know, I don me.
Speaker 2: It sounds like you have more things bringing you joy
Speaker 2: in your life than most people do.
Speaker 4: I just have to wait for my husband to clear
Speaker 4: his mind or I don't know. I don't know what's
Speaker 4: going on with him.
Speaker 2: I'm curious. If I would say to him, and I
Speaker 2: don't need to know his name, I'll just call him Joe.
Speaker 2: If I say Joe, I'd have two questions. Joe, why,
Speaker 2: why after forty six years did you say this to Connie?
Speaker 2: Why would he answer?
Speaker 4: I don't know? Do you know? I should ask him that,
Speaker 4: but I'm okay.
Speaker 2: Well, I would ask one other question. I would ask
Speaker 2: him one other question. If you feel that way, why
Speaker 2: do you want to stay together? Mm hmm, I would
Speaker 2: ask him that.
Speaker 4: Well, I think the first question is more important than
Speaker 4: why he would say that to me?
Speaker 6: Why?
Speaker 4: White? What makes him feel that way after all these years?
Speaker 3: Well? How old is he? Is he older than you?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 3: How much? How old is he?
Speaker 4: Five years older than me? Yeah?
Speaker 3: All right, Well he's not old.
Speaker 4: We're still together. I still do things for him. My
Speaker 4: I mean, I cleaned the house, cooking, just like I
Speaker 4: always did before.
Speaker 3: But is he is?
Speaker 4: He?
Speaker 3: Is he less loving?
Speaker 4: H cold as a cucumber?
Speaker 8: Well?
Speaker 3: Why don't you divorce?
Speaker 4: No? I made him, I made I made him, I
Speaker 4: made a I made a covenant with my husband, and
Speaker 4: what was the covenant was with God at the beginning,
Speaker 4: that she is my beloved forever.
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, Look, I'll ever argue with that, and
Speaker 2: I respect you tremendously, but the gist of your call
Speaker 2: is critical. When she did the best thing you could,
Speaker 2: the basket broke and so she developed other baskets. Anyway,
Speaker 2: she's very blessed if she has four wonderful daughters. I
Speaker 2: mean to go four for four on your kids. That's
Speaker 2: a big deal. That's a big deal. What happened to
Speaker 2: the guy?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 2: I tell you these guys. The guy had a call
Speaker 2: on He objected. I don't know. It's not to imagine
Speaker 2: he was serious. Joe said he was serious, all right,
Speaker 2: that he did not like the fact that I said
Speaker 2: that people who blow themselves up are not happy. I
Speaker 2: said that Nazis were not happy, Communists were not happy,
Speaker 2: and people who blow themselves up are not happy. Well,
Speaker 2: if people who blow themselves up are happy, then don't
Speaker 2: listen to my happiness hour, because my definition of happiness
Speaker 2: include loving life. Okay, if you look forward to death,
Speaker 2: you're not happy. All right, That's that's it. Okay, let's
Speaker 2: go too, all right, that's true. That's true. That's true.
Speaker 2: And then let's go to Beaumont, California and Vince. Hello, Vince,
Speaker 2: Dennis Prager.
Speaker 7: Hi, Dennis, thank you so much for all your wisdom.
Speaker 7: I love your show.
Speaker 3: Thank you for that.
Speaker 7: I got married fifty one years ago at eighteen.
Speaker 2: Right, hold on, you are one minute, you are fifty
Speaker 2: two fifty three.
Speaker 3: Do you know that? I know people who will do that. Really, yeah,
Speaker 3: they will use their fingers. Go ahead, yeah, okay.
Speaker 7: About ten years after we married, my wife was diagnosed
Speaker 7: with schizophrenia.
Speaker 3: And wait, wait, I'm sorry. How many years after marriage?
Speaker 6: About ten?
Speaker 3: Okay, go on.
Speaker 7: Obviously she had it before that, but we didn't know it.
Speaker 7: I spent the next forty years trying to make her happy.
Speaker 7: Put all my eggs in that basket, and it didn't work.
Speaker 7: I was ready to die. I was getting sick. I
Speaker 7: really was a miserable person. But I was constantly trying
Speaker 7: to make her happy.
Speaker 3: Was one of the attempts. Medication.
Speaker 7: Oh, she's on all the medicals.
Speaker 3: Okay, go on, all right, go on, go on, all right,
Speaker 3: go on.
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, it just that stuff doesn't work.
Speaker 2: Okay, well it does, it does? It didn't work. With her,
Speaker 2: but quickly go on. So what happened?
Speaker 6: It helps?
Speaker 7: Okay, About a year and a half ago she announced
Speaker 7: that she was leaving me because she was fearful of
Speaker 7: that I was poisoning her toothpaste and things like that,
Speaker 7: and there was nothing legally I could do about it,
Speaker 7: and so she walked out, left me. And I can't
Speaker 7: tell you. At first it was so devastating. And then
Speaker 7: I decided, and hopefully I can say, with partly duty
Speaker 7: to listening to your program for so many years, I
Speaker 7: decided to be happy.
Speaker 2: That's it. That's it, that's it. It's a powerful call.
Speaker 2: By the way, you know, everything that he mentioned I
Speaker 2: have talked about on the Happiness Hour. First A, you
Speaker 2: can't make somebody else happy. We can only make ourselves happy.
Speaker 2: You can make somebody else unhappy, but you cannot make
Speaker 2: somebody else happy. The biggest reason that the happy often
Speaker 2: marry the unhappy is the belief that they can make
Speaker 2: the unhappy happy. It is a very common desire. The
Speaker 2: happy are usually better people because they're happy there, and
Speaker 2: because they're better.
Speaker 3: To begin with.
Speaker 2: Sometimes sometimes and so they want to save and rescue
Speaker 2: the unhappy. Right, Well, I think we have this man
Speaker 2: about the terrorist issue coming up.
Speaker 1: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this.
Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless.
Speaker 2: Wisdom, Happiness Hour, Dennis Prager's show and go to Dallas,
Speaker 2: Texas and Amana wants to be Anonymous.
Speaker 3: Hello Anonymous Dennis Prager.
Speaker 12: How you're doing, sir? Thanks for taking my call.
Speaker 3: Thank you for calling back. I particularly wanted your call.
Speaker 6: Okay.
Speaker 12: I listened to your show a lot. You talk about
Speaker 12: happiness a lot, and I just didn't like the fact
Speaker 12: you put the contest of terrorism and happiness in the
Speaker 12: same sentence.
Speaker 3: Well, actually terrorism and unhappiness. But yeah, go on, I mean, I.
Speaker 12: Mean, first of all, I'm not for any of that.
Speaker 12: God bless America and it's the greatest country in the world,
Speaker 12: and that's why I'm here. But terrorist has no home
Speaker 12: to say, they have no life. The person has no life,
Speaker 12: least of us concerned is happening, don't you think, Yeah.
Speaker 2: Whether they have a life or not. First of all,
Speaker 2: I don't buy that the nineteen who attacked the United
Speaker 2: States had terrific lives. They were all upper middle class
Speaker 2: people from Arab countries, mostly Saudi Arabia, they were on
Speaker 2: student or work visas in the United States. They had
Speaker 2: a terrific life. They traveled around the world. They had
Speaker 2: a better life than the vast majority of people. They
Speaker 2: were profoundly unhappy, bitter, angry, and evil, and they were
Speaker 2: so Uh. This notion that they don't have a life
Speaker 2: is propaganda? Did would you say that about Nazis and communists?
Speaker 2: They didn't have a life?
Speaker 12: See you twisted again?
Speaker 2: Did?
Speaker 3: Why did I twist? I compare the three people?
Speaker 1: Okay, to you?
Speaker 12: Happiness could be a ball of ice cream to them
Speaker 12: happy It is just to see somebody in pain. Yes,
Speaker 12: but individual, isn't it?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: So another all right, so is your question? In other words,
Speaker 2: it is very possible that a statist happy when he's torturing.
Speaker 12: Is that happiness he comes individually? Certain people have different
Speaker 12: the view of happiness.
Speaker 3: I'm sure they do. And I just funny, what was
Speaker 3: the last line? I missed it? I'm sorry for you.
Speaker 12: To put that into contest. It just it was more
Speaker 12: political than anything else about your happy as well?
Speaker 2: Well, it wasn't political anymore than do you think that
Speaker 2: the whites who lynched blacks were particularly happy people.
Speaker 12: Because they think they are.
Speaker 3: I don't.
Speaker 2: Well, okay, so whether they they they may think they are,
Speaker 2: that is possible. Uh So I am offering the idea
Speaker 2: that the average person who joined the Nazis, who was
Speaker 2: in a lynch mob of a black in the southern
Speaker 2: United States, who was a communist or who is a terrorist,
Speaker 2: that these people, if we say that they are among
Speaker 2: the happier humans, then happiness is true irrelevance in life.
Speaker 2: It is truly irrelevant. And my proof is this, everyone listening,
Speaker 2: everyone knows that they want when they are when they
Speaker 2: feel happy, is when they feel they want to do
Speaker 2: the most good, not be the most cruel. Every single
Speaker 2: one of you listening knows that.
Speaker 1: On tomorrow's episode of Dennis teaches the Torah.
Speaker 2: And like I suspect every one of you have learned
Speaker 2: a lot about this. I may have learned more than
Speaker 2: some because I think I've started out more naive on
Speaker 2: the subject. The subject is the family and it's troubles.
Speaker 2: So I want to begin with the Torah. The Torah
Speaker 2: does a favor, and I mean this absolutely sincerely. I
Speaker 2: think the Torah does us a tram tremendous favor by
Speaker 2: having every one of the families in the entire Book
Speaker 2: of Genesis dysfunctional, and I mean it with I mean
Speaker 2: with utter sincerity. It is in a great service. Jews
Speaker 2: revere the patriarchs and the matriarchs Abraham, Abraham, Ytzakiako of Abraham,
Speaker 2: Isaac and Jacob and Sarah, Riskel, Rafael and Leah, Sarah, Rebecca,
Speaker 2: Rachel Leah, and they are properly revered, but not one
Speaker 2: had a family without serious problems.
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