WEBVTT - Addressing Your Recent Concerns Regarding Our Controversial Parenting (Big Changes Coming) 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:02.759 This episode is brought to you by Presidio Healthcare, America's 0:00:02.800 --> 0:00:05.320 first pro life Christian health insurance. This is not sharing 0:00:05.400 --> 0:00:09.360 ministry or crowdsharing program. It is real insurance, robust, protective, 0:00:09.440 --> 0:00:12.880 and surprisingly affordable, built on values that never change. See 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:16.480 if you are eligible at procidiocare dot com such NWUS. 0:00:20.280 --> 0:00:23.920 Well, welcome to our new podcast set up here. It's 0:00:23.920 --> 0:00:26.040 a little rough, there's gonna be a lot of figuring out, 0:00:26.040 --> 0:00:29.120 but welcome to lofty goals and lofty expectations. 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:31.960 Oh my god, you took my joke from yesterday. Yeah, 0:00:32.040 --> 0:00:33.640 how are you just going to steal someone as a joke? 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:34.680 So we're doing this. 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:36.280 I've been sitting on that for a day. 0:00:37.520 --> 0:00:40.239 We're doing the podcast now here in the loft in 0:00:40.280 --> 0:00:42.280 our home, which I know so many of you watched 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:45.360 Melissa and I build going back nearly four years ago now, 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:47.360 I mean, I guess, yeah, four plus years ago. We 0:00:47.400 --> 0:00:50.600 worked on this house, got it built. In that time, 0:00:50.640 --> 0:00:52.640 we had a lot of people making suggestions for how 0:00:52.640 --> 0:00:55.320 it is that we can use this loft space, and 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:56.840 to be honest with you, it really hasn't been used 0:00:56.840 --> 0:00:58.640 all that much whatsoever. So for us to now be 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:03.680 up here because our old podcast studio has been ripped apart. 0:01:03.720 --> 0:01:05.720 We moved everything in here and we're in the loft. 0:01:07.440 --> 0:01:08.280 Well see how it goes. 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:11.760 Yeah, we're overlooking the entire house. We can watch Amazon deliveries. 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:15.440 Mike is actually sleeping in the room next to us, 0:01:15.959 --> 0:01:18.800 so if you hear a baby, just start crying. You know, 0:01:18.959 --> 0:01:22.320 this is so strange being in our home recording the podcast, 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:23.200 So welcome inside. 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:25.080 We're very nervous about this, if you can't tell, just 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:27.000 it being in a new space. We're very uncomfortable. But 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:28.880 check out this really cool center shot that we have 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:32.080 set up. I think this is the best edition, new edition. 0:01:32.480 --> 0:01:34.600 We always had a center shop. But Daryl's now missing. 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:39.160 No Daryl, no bigfoot light, and like I said, we're 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:40.760 a little uneasy. This is all just very new. 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:42.600 Sure sad about the curtains. 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:44.440 And the curtains are gone. I know a lot of 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:46.800 you're gonna be happy about that, but no, a new 0:01:46.840 --> 0:01:50.120 fresh start for us. You can have to boat like like, 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:52.240 just give us a little space because there's a lot 0:01:52.240 --> 0:01:54.360 of figuring out with being in a new space. I 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:56.280 already know we have some lighting issues obviously, where we're 0:01:56.280 --> 0:01:58.960 in front of these big windows. Yep, it is really 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:01.280 really warm up here because we're getting the afternoon sunlight. 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:03.559 So again, just incredibly warm up here. 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:06.920 Bear with us, show us some grace and hopefully this 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:09.440 works out. This is going to be temporary for us. Yeah, 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:11.560 once we get the new space built out and. 0:02:11.560 --> 0:02:13.760 We're going to bring in some plants and some color 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:16.280 and things like that. I mean, this is literally week one. 0:02:16.280 --> 0:02:17.720 We got up here and we went, wow, it's really 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:19.320 brown up here. So we're going to try to bring 0:02:19.320 --> 0:02:22.200 in some color. This is temporary. We are building out 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:25.680 a new podcast space, but for now this will house 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:28.959 us in our house with our lofty dreams. 0:02:28.960 --> 0:02:32.560 And if we start sweating profusely again, it's really really. 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:33.639 Warm one hundred and four up here. 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:35.440 So we have this still little planet that Melissa set 0:02:35.480 --> 0:02:36.919 up at the back of the table to go along with. 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:39.040 Her Yam yam, our only piece of decor. 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:42.359 We also have this tiny plant right here because we 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:45.120 have a grape that's set up as the air return 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:47.919 for our HVAC system. Again, a lot of figuring out that. 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:49.320 We have to do to make it it's not going 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:51.840 to stay. I got some new plants coming. They'll be 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:54.560 here on Wednesday, So next week plants guys. 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:56.480 So it's been a couple of weeks since we've recorded 0:02:56.480 --> 0:02:58.800 a podcast. This is a new space and location for 0:02:58.880 --> 0:03:01.919 us and doing so and so because of that, let's 0:03:01.919 --> 0:03:02.600 see how we do. 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:04.200 Yeah, I'm excited to be back. 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:06.680 On today's episode of the podcast. We're gonna be discussing 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:09.800 the friendship recession. Is this the term that you've heard before? 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:12.000 I have never heard it. You brought it up today, 0:03:12.160 --> 0:03:13.360 and that's new to me. 0:03:13.360 --> 0:03:14.960 With hearing this brand new term. Do you think that 0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:16.839 maybe is something that applies to us. 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:19.560 I mean, I feel like we're in kind of a 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:24.200 friendship drought at this point, Like it's beyond depression friendship depression. 0:03:24.440 --> 0:03:25.440 Are you depressed about it? 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:28.399 I'm not personally depressed about it, but I would say 0:03:28.400 --> 0:03:30.000 the length of time that it's gone on. 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:33.280 Friendship drought. 0:03:34.639 --> 0:03:34.920 Drought. 0:03:35.240 --> 0:03:38.960 I like drought that sounds less sad. So we have 0:03:39.000 --> 0:03:40.400 a video that go along with that. We will be 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:42.720 playing that for you guys and discussing because apparently this 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:44.280 is a new thing that has really taken off and 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:47.680 flourished with our generation in particular, ever since COVID struck. 0:03:47.840 --> 0:03:51.080 Yeah, I mean, yeah, our generation and probably the generation 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:54.440 after us, and I mean maybe even maybe even the boomers. 0:03:54.920 --> 0:03:57.200 I think a lot of people are just more prone 0:03:57.240 --> 0:03:59.640 to stay home and a little bit more comfortable with that. 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:02.360 I mean, even like you were bringing up even church. 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:05.200 You know, like how many people watch online church instead 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:07.880 of attending church. And that wasn't an option before you 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:09.600 had to get up and go to church, but now 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:10.040 you don't. 0:04:10.440 --> 0:04:12.960 It's now you can watch it on We will be 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:16.200 discussing all of that, but before we jump into today's conversation, 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:19.760 Molsa has a Tiny Human book plug. 0:04:19.839 --> 0:04:22.240 We're going to plug right now. Okay, so you guys 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:25.159 know I've been working on Tiny Human and so this 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:28.599 is the actual size and hardcover of the book. We're 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:31.920 going to have books in hand next week. And so 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:34.039 this is what our little gift set looks like. It 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:36.920 is Yam Yam. He has spaghetti sauce all over his 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:39.600 neck because Michael loves him so much. He's completely taking 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:41.960 an over them and he's filthy at this point. But 0:04:42.279 --> 0:04:43.880 this is what he's going to look like after a 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:46.000 week of being loved at your house anyway, So this 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:47.880 is Yamyam. This is the book. This is what the 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:50.920 gift set looks like they are forty dollars and they 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:53.000 make a perfect gift. I know it's crazy to think 0:04:53.000 --> 0:04:54.000 about Christmas. 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:55.159 All righty it falls off the back of the table. 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:58.279 Oh my gosh, she'll die. So Yam Yam is going 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:00.560 to sell out. I just heard that half of them 0:05:00.600 --> 0:05:03.120 are already sold and we're not getting any more. So 0:05:03.400 --> 0:05:05.240 if you think you're going to want the whole set, 0:05:05.360 --> 0:05:07.600 please please please get your orders in because it's just 0:05:07.920 --> 0:05:09.360 it's going to be like Ludo, we're not going to 0:05:09.400 --> 0:05:11.800 get any more of them. Also, you can send a 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:15.840 Yamam and the book to a mother who chooses life. 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:18.760 These are going to be held in the mobile units 0:05:19.040 --> 0:05:21.200 for Save the Storks. And then as soon as they 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:26.040 go around and they will park outside of places where 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:30.720 women will go looking for options and maybe not having options, 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:32.840 and so they give free pregnancy tests and they give 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:35.920 free altersounds, and then as soon as a woman hears 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:37.960 their baby's heartbeat or they see either baby for the 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:40.480 first time, or they just get a positive pregnancy test, 0:05:40.640 --> 0:05:43.520 they will be gifted one of the donation yams. And 0:05:44.120 --> 0:05:47.080 but we name him Yam because that's what Patka calls him. 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:50.719 I don't know why that became his name, but anyway, 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:52.760 for forty dollars, you can save a life because it 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:54.440 will be the first gift that they are ever given. 0:05:54.720 --> 0:05:57.200 So we think that would be really a special thing. 0:05:57.240 --> 0:05:59.960 And also we are now we were donating fifty percent 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:01.800 of all royalties, and now in Eva and I have 0:06:01.880 --> 0:06:04.640 decided to donate one hundred percent of all royalties. So 0:06:04.720 --> 0:06:06.880 every single dollar that we make off this book is 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:09.680 going to be donated towards making motherhood possible. We're going 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:11.640 to be buying diapers and wipes and donating them to 0:06:11.720 --> 0:06:14.840 options clinics to give out to women that are struggling. 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:16.440 Okay, there you go. What's the website. 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:19.160 It is tiny humanbook dot com. So go to tiny 0:06:19.200 --> 0:06:21.799 human book dot com. He's an't going to ship till October. Again, 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:24.240 get your orders in. They're going to sell out big things. 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:25.880 So all the author that have gotten your orders in. 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:27.599 And I'm going to point this out reluctantly. Do you 0:06:27.600 --> 0:06:30.280 feel the light that's like beaming across your face right now? 0:06:30.400 --> 0:06:33.560 I feel heat again? I feel so much heat. 0:06:33.600 --> 0:06:35.560 These are the challenges you might notice. We also have 0:06:35.600 --> 0:06:37.800 these massive snow cone I don't know what they're called 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:39.880 but these mic cover things they. 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:41.560 Look like giant ice cream costs was. 0:06:41.520 --> 0:06:44.719 A massive upgrade, I want to say, because we're dealing 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:47.800 with sound issues grad I'm becoming very insecure. I put 0:06:47.800 --> 0:06:49.839 the podcast together, so I'm looking at like the lighting 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:51.960 across your face right now, the fact that we're both roasting, 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:54.520 and then the fact that the sound might be a 0:06:54.560 --> 0:06:55.640 little wishy washy. 0:06:55.839 --> 0:06:58.000 We're going to get this, get this scardaway. 0:06:58.080 --> 0:07:00.159 It takes time to really get everything dialed in, and 0:07:00.200 --> 0:07:03.880 it did in the last space. It's just a process 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:07.640 you'll get here. It's a process of refinement. So again, 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:09.680 please bear with us. We're going to do our best 0:07:09.680 --> 0:07:13.080 to make this the best show possible that we possibly can. 0:07:13.200 --> 0:07:15.280 We're making a lot of changes in our lives right now. 0:07:15.320 --> 0:07:18.480 I mean I have switched to a tea ball instead 0:07:18.520 --> 0:07:20.840 of a key bag. It's so that you don't put 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:23.920 tea bags in because you know, like I'm on this 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:26.560 health journey and I just found out that they so 0:07:26.680 --> 0:07:28.800 the paper in a tea bag doesn't break down into 0:07:28.840 --> 0:07:33.000 your tea. They spray the tea bag paper with plastic. 0:07:33.240 --> 0:07:35.320 So every time that you're using a tea bag, you're 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:38.760 ingesting microplastics, and you know how I feel about microplastics. 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:40.480 I got rid of all the plastics in our home, 0:07:40.600 --> 0:07:43.560 so now I'm using this and literally my camamel flowers 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:46.560 are floating at the top. So if I have flowers 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:50.120 all in my teeth through this podcast, you'll know why 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:50.760 we've got. 0:07:50.640 --> 0:07:52.560 Light beams across your face. 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:55.640 Get a bunch of stuff in my and your teeth, 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:57.040 it's flowers. 0:07:57.360 --> 0:07:59.440 We're working progress, guys. Thank you for being here once 0:07:59.440 --> 0:08:02.160 again with the new the Old Soul podcast. 0:08:03.720 --> 0:08:04.560 I have to chew it. 0:08:08.480 --> 0:08:10.400 How are you feeling? We wanted to address just some 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:13.720 of the criticisms with us moving this entire podcast here 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:17.720 into our home and abandoning the tiny home location that 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:20.880 we got. We got, uh, I mean somewhat expected, but 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:25.040 we got a number of critical comments, which is okay, 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:26.880 It's fine. People are allowed to feel however it is 0:08:26.880 --> 0:08:29.560 that they want to feel. Do you want to address 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:31.880 some of the criticisms though, before we jump into the 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:33.400 meat and potatoes of this Yeah. 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:34.880 Well, okay, so we kind of knew it was coming, 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:38.760 because anytime that you build something online and people feel 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:41.680 any kind of attachment to it, understand or they feel 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:44.240 like this was a perfectly good space, and then why 0:08:44.280 --> 0:08:46.520 would you just gut it, throw it out like it's 0:08:46.559 --> 0:08:48.120 nothing because you want something better. 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:52.679 Like it was not it was okay, it was it 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:53.240 was wrong. 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:55.960 It was rough. It had vinyl flooring on the walls, 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:57.520 and again like vinyls not that. 0:08:57.600 --> 0:09:00.439 It didn't have proper plumbing, which is why we couldn't combing. 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:03.280 And it had a major It had black mold on 0:09:03.320 --> 0:09:05.520 the walls in the kid's room, on the surface on 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:08.160 the surface of the walls, and we had a major 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:12.560 rodent issue going on behind the walls, so those walls 0:09:12.600 --> 0:09:15.000 needed to be ripped out, and all of that insulation 0:09:15.160 --> 0:09:18.920 had become nesting material for mice. So when we took 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:21.600 the OSB off, something that wasn't in the videos is 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:25.240 we had two massive nests in the ceiling channels that 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:29.960 fell onto our help just I mean sorry, like a 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:33.560 million mouse poop pebbles went everywhere, I mean scattered across 0:09:33.559 --> 0:09:36.720 the floor after hitting somebody in the head, and then 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:39.800 behind the walls like that, you could literally see a 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:43.400 trail of where they had gone, and there is currently 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:47.800 a dead mouse stuck jerkied in. Like I mean, we 0:09:47.840 --> 0:09:49.559 had a major rodent issue. 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:51.720 One of those major But yeah, we had some rodent 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:54.280 issues and we just really slapped that place together for 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:56.719 as cheaply as we possibly could, which is why there 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:59.360 was improper plumbing and some electrical issues that were a 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:01.080 little shot fortunately. 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:03.640 Held around where mice could get in. We've now learned 0:10:03.679 --> 0:10:04.720 so much from that belt. 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:07.520 Fortunately everything held up really well in the two and 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:09.200 a half years that we were living there. So could 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:12.440 KINMANI have moved in there, Yeah, you could have, but 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:14.880 it's less than ideal. Yeah, and so we're doing this properly. 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:16.360 We're adding some space to it. And I think that 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:18.080 was a big part of the criticism of like, hey, 0:10:18.120 --> 0:10:20.600 this was six inch and square feet that you know 0:10:20.960 --> 0:10:23.200 was enough for the six of you, the six of 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:25.520 us when we first moved here. If just your son 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:27.480 is moving in there, why is that you're expanding and 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:29.360 making the space so much larger, right? 0:10:29.520 --> 0:10:32.000 And Okay, So one I didn't consider it to be 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:34.079 a very healthy environment after we moved out. I think 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:36.040 when we were living in it it was different because 0:10:36.080 --> 0:10:38.679 there was activity and stuff. I mean, we still had 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:42.440 some mice then too, and I think a squirrel. But 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:47.080 remember there was like the one bigger Okay. Anyway, so 0:10:47.400 --> 0:10:50.160 I didn't consider that to be a healthy error environment 0:10:50.440 --> 0:10:52.880 somewhere where I would want my children living with mold 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:55.679 and rodents behind the wall, and like you literally had 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:57.160 to pull the walls out in order to clean it 0:10:57.200 --> 0:11:01.160 properly and bleach it so that and then also, this 0:11:01.200 --> 0:11:04.160 is not a space for just Kaimani for now. This 0:11:04.200 --> 0:11:06.760 is not just a launching pad. We figured since we're 0:11:06.800 --> 0:11:09.000 doing it, we're putting plumbing in and we're ripping walls 0:11:09.040 --> 0:11:11.319 out and bleaching and doing all that, we may as 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:14.120 well expand it and make it a more livable living 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:15.480 space for the future. 0:11:15.640 --> 0:11:18.240 Correct. Yeah, I think that's where a lot of the 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:20.280 misunderstanding came from. So we are building this so that 0:11:20.360 --> 0:11:23.480 Kamani has an option once he turns eighteen to gain 0:11:23.480 --> 0:11:25.400 a little more independence. But really what we're building this 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:28.640 space for is just kind of a secondary, more suitable, 0:11:28.880 --> 0:11:33.040 more adequate home in case in case. You know, we're 0:11:33.120 --> 0:11:34.719 fully anticipating that one of the kids at some point 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:36.720 is going to get married, possibly have kids, and if 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:40.640 the economic climate still is then what it is now 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:42.320 to where it's really difficult for a young person to 0:11:42.320 --> 0:11:43.839 go out and just purchase a home like we were 0:11:43.920 --> 0:11:45.880 fortunately able to at the age of twenty three. This 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:49.360 gives them another fallback to where they can be married 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:51.400 with one or two kids and live in this space 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:54.360 very comfortably. And so from the onset when we first 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:56.880 moved here, we told a lot of you guys that hey, 0:11:56.880 --> 0:11:58.719 this is our plan that ideally things would work out 0:11:58.720 --> 0:12:02.679 to where we had, you know, the necessary resources to 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:05.000 make this dream of having family here on this plot 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:09.440 of land just just nearby, safe accounted for, and it's 0:12:09.679 --> 0:12:12.600 it's something that it was our dream to be able 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:14.520 to provide this option for our kids so that they 0:12:14.520 --> 0:12:17.840 could take chances and know that they had a safety 0:12:17.840 --> 0:12:19.920 that in place should things not work out favorably. So 0:12:19.960 --> 0:12:22.960 that's really the reason and our motivation for demolishing the 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:26.960 existing tiny home, which has been very a very very 0:12:26.960 --> 0:12:29.120 difficult process. So just put it that way. I was 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:32.200 getting like legitimately sad in the process of turning this 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:33.719 space apart, and I think maybe that came across in 0:12:33.760 --> 0:12:35.200 the video, But we just wanted to address some of 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:38.520 these questions and concerns and criticisms of so many you 0:12:38.600 --> 0:12:39.199 had out there. 0:12:39.320 --> 0:12:41.199 Yeah, well, I think that things have kind of changed, 0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:43.679 like it's not a new concept to build homes for 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:47.040 your children. And so for us personally, our two oldest 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:49.360 are not choosing to go to university, and so because 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:51.800 they're not going to university, we will instead take the 0:12:51.840 --> 0:12:54.080 money that we would spend to send them to school 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:57.560 and help them with their first houses because we don't 0:12:57.600 --> 0:13:00.360 want to see our children struggling and starting out in debt. 0:13:00.440 --> 0:13:03.640 If we can help them to get started and not 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:05.680 have to take on these big mortgages that they can't 0:13:05.679 --> 0:13:09.680 afford and just start out their lives in crippling debt 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:12.120 and stress and everything that comes with that. They can 0:13:12.200 --> 0:13:15.480 instead take the money that they would do for you know, 0:13:16.040 --> 0:13:18.200 apply to trying to buy a home and paying off 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:20.480 high interest rates at a bank, and they can maybe 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:23.640 start a business with that or do something else not 0:13:23.720 --> 0:13:26.679 have car payments. And so for us, it's just something 0:13:26.679 --> 0:13:28.480 that we can do for our children. And I don't 0:13:28.520 --> 0:13:30.600 view it as being any different than paying for school 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:34.200 for your kids. You're helping your kids launch, yeah, And 0:13:34.280 --> 0:13:36.240 so I mean, I think a lot of the criticism is, no, 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:39.520 you're actually keeping them at your place by providing housing 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:43.280 for them. Case It's like, no, these are places that 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:45.640 they can have They're free to live here, but they 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:47.760 don't have to live here separately. 0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:52.199 Can I address just the comments of like it's excessive, 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:55.360 like things are becoming excessive? Again, I understand the perception, 0:13:56.080 --> 0:13:57.800 but we put our all into what it is that 0:13:57.880 --> 0:14:00.400 we do, and we do everything for our family and 0:14:00.440 --> 0:14:04.440 specifically for our kids. And so, yeah, this did serve 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:08.480 as an opportunity for us to pursue this really lifelong 0:14:08.520 --> 0:14:10.959 dream that Melissa and I have collectively had together of 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:14.400 being able to just you know, get our kids started 0:14:14.559 --> 0:14:18.360 off on the right foot, I suppose, And so I 0:14:18.480 --> 0:14:22.160 understand the perception, but we've made a lot of shocrifices 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:25.960 and worked very hard in order to enable ourselves to 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:28.400 have this opportunity. And so that's been our lifelong pursuit. 0:14:29.000 --> 0:14:31.880 We've been very single minded in our focus, and so 0:14:32.000 --> 0:14:34.200 this is what we're doing. If folks don't like it, 0:14:34.480 --> 0:14:37.760 completely understand. Yeah, but we're excited for the future. 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:39.920 Yeah, And like I said, it's not a new concept 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:42.720 to provide for your children. Like there was generational housing 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:46.240 for centuries, it's actually a new concept for families to 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:48.720 just oh, you turn eighteen, you're on your own. Go 0:14:49.440 --> 0:14:52.680 And I mean families helped the younger generations. You're supposed 0:14:52.680 --> 0:14:55.360 to help the younger generations. You're supposed to leave a legacy. 0:14:55.800 --> 0:14:59.080 And I think the habit that Americans have gotten into 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:01.040 in particular, because you don't see this a lot in 0:15:01.120 --> 0:15:04.920 European countries or in Asian countries, you see a lot 0:15:05.040 --> 0:15:07.600 more generational housing. You see it in Hawaii, probably from 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:09.960 the Asian influence, and just you know. 0:15:09.920 --> 0:15:13.200 There's a necessity there for the same reasons. Housing costs 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:14.520 are exorbitant there. 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:16.440 Right, but they don't just throw people out, and like 0:15:16.480 --> 0:15:18.680 Grandma lives there, and mom lives there, and the grandkids 0:15:18.680 --> 0:15:20.760 live there, and there's something really beautiful about that. You 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:24.040 do see it throughout Europe and in Asian cultures, and 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:26.080 I think that's a really neat thing, and it's something 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:28.120 that we've lost here in America because we are so 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:30.640 fiercely independent in America that we think our children need 0:15:30.680 --> 0:15:33.000 to be fiercely independent when they turn eighteen, go out 0:15:33.000 --> 0:15:35.440 there and struggle and get and take on a lot 0:15:35.440 --> 0:15:37.520 of dead and then bring on all this credit card debt. 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:40.040 And you can watch a twenty two year old or 0:15:40.160 --> 0:15:42.920 twenty five year old get married and just be drowning 0:15:42.960 --> 0:15:44.640 in debt, and then they feel like, well, we can't 0:15:44.680 --> 0:15:47.320 start families. We have all this debt, and so what 0:15:47.480 --> 0:15:51.200 is the point of having all of this wealth as family? 0:15:51.200 --> 0:15:52.560 Not that we have like wealth, but you know what 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:55.600 I mean, Like everyone hoards their wealth or their retirement 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:58.040 and then they leave it to their kids when they die. 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:01.400 But at the same time, it's like, you can get 0:16:01.440 --> 0:16:04.160 it from my cold dead fingers. You know what are 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:05.680 you sitting on all the money for? You can help 0:16:05.720 --> 0:16:08.040 your family now. You can help your kids now when 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:10.840 their kids are little. Because let's say we live to 0:16:10.920 --> 0:16:12.880 the ripe old age of like you know, our eighties 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:14.560 or nineties. I want to be one hundred and three, 0:16:15.040 --> 0:16:18.000 and then by the time I leave my children anything, 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:21.200 their children are grown and gone and I haven't helped 0:16:21.240 --> 0:16:23.600 my grandchildren at all, and then they'll take that money 0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:26.600 and then they'll hold on to it until their kids 0:16:26.680 --> 0:16:27.120 kill us. 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:28.880 The purpose of our life and the way that we 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:31.040 do it is that we exist so that we can 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:32.880 provide you know, opportunity. 0:16:33.240 --> 0:16:35.280 Yeah, I help them now. I want to help them 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:38.320 while we're while we're younger, and we're we have a lot. 0:16:38.200 --> 0:16:39.920 Of family discussions about the fact that hey, we've been 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:42.000 building and doing all this, but Melissa and I very 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:45.040 likely won't be around to enjoy it like the kids 0:16:45.040 --> 0:16:47.800 and hopefully our grandkids will. We're building all this for 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:50.120 not ourselves. We're building it for the generations to come. 0:16:50.240 --> 0:16:52.320 Yeah, and I don't see the point of like hoarding 0:16:52.400 --> 0:16:54.760 anything from our children. The entire we live our lives 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:56.840 for our kids. And so if we can get them started, 0:16:57.240 --> 0:17:00.760 and if I mean, Navea wants to stay here, so 0:17:01.040 --> 0:17:02.680 we're going to help her in every way that we can. 0:17:02.800 --> 0:17:07.000 She's going to be probably possibly she says yes, building 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:09.760 her own house starting next year out here, starting in 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:12.600 the spring, and so she's already in the planning phases 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:15.120 for that. We are not paying to build her forever home. 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:17.160 She's going to be doing that herself. So we're really 0:17:17.160 --> 0:17:20.280 proud of her. She's working very hard, saving her money. 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:23.480 But I mean that build is her. We built a 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:25.679 little apartment for her to live in while she builds. 0:17:26.080 --> 0:17:28.160 Same thing goes with Kaimani. If he chooses to build 0:17:28.200 --> 0:17:30.600 a bigger house, then he's going to be building that. 0:17:30.600 --> 0:17:32.240