1 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:05,560 Speaker 1: Life Audio. 2 00:00:05,680 --> 00:00:10,480 Speaker 2: But furthermore, when difficult things happen, they are made more 3 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:16,560 Speaker 2: bearable because earlier that day we reminded ourselves that we've 4 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:19,440 Speaker 2: got God with us. We have his provision, his protection, 5 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 2: and his presence. So starting our day with God, starting 6 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 2: our day with hope, really is a way of changing 7 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 2: not only your mourning, but your day, and not only 8 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 2: your day, but your life. 9 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:35,480 Speaker 3: Welcome to Love Life Sober. I'm your host and your coach, 10 00:00:35,640 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 3: Christy Osborne. This podcast is for the woman who loves 11 00:00:38,720 --> 00:00:41,640 Speaker 3: Jesus or is longing to reconnect with him, and who 12 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:44,760 Speaker 3: knows deep down that alcohol is no longer serving her. 13 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:47,879 Speaker 3: Here we talk honestly, with grace and truth about how 14 00:00:47,880 --> 00:00:51,760 Speaker 3: stepping away from alcohol opens the door to the love, joy, 15 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:55,800 Speaker 3: peace and connection you've been searching for. Because, Babe, those 16 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 3: things were never meant to be found in a bottle 17 00:00:57,720 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 3: of wine. 18 00:00:58,400 --> 00:00:59,600 Speaker 4: They're found in Jesus. 19 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 3: Through scripture, coaching and neuroscience, I'll help you make sense 20 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 3: of your habits, your nervous system, and what you're really 21 00:01:06,520 --> 00:01:10,320 Speaker 3: craving so that freedom feels not only possible but sustainable. 22 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:13,479 Speaker 4: You don't have to do this alone, Babe. Let's dive in. 23 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 3: One of the greatest gifts of living alcohol free is 24 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:22,440 Speaker 3: getting your mornings back. Instead of waking up anxious, exhausted, 25 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:25,120 Speaker 3: or wondering what happened the night before, you get to 26 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:27,600 Speaker 3: wake up with a clear mind of fresh start and 27 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 3: another opportunity to meet with God. But here's the thing, 28 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 3: even after years of sobriety, it's easy for our mornings 29 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:37,040 Speaker 3: to become rushed or distracted, or just another item on 30 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:39,959 Speaker 3: the to do list. What if God has something so 31 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:43,399 Speaker 3: much richer for us. Today's guest is best selling author 32 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 3: Jennifer Dukesley, and she has spent years studying what Scripture 33 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 3: says about mornings, including more than two hundred references to 34 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:54,560 Speaker 3: mornings throughout the Bible. In her beautiful new book, How 35 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 3: to Love Your Mornings, she shares why mornings matter so 36 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 3: much to God, what Jesus's own morning rhythms can teach us, 37 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 3: and how simple, faith filled rituals can transform not only 38 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:08,760 Speaker 3: your day, but your entire life. In this conversation, we 39 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 3: talk about creating morning rituals instead of rigid routines. Why 40 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 3: sleep is one of God's greatest gifts, the surprising reason 41 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 3: so many of us stay up too late and how 42 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 3: to find a morning rhythm that actually fits your personality 43 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:25,839 Speaker 3: and your season of life, whether you're on day one 44 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:29,360 Speaker 3: without alcohol or years in. This episode will encourage you 45 00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 3: to see each morning as something far more than the 46 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:36,200 Speaker 3: start of just another day. It's an invitation to experience 47 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:40,720 Speaker 3: God's new mercies, his presence, and his peace. Here's my 48 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:44,960 Speaker 3: conversation with Jennifer Duke's sleep. Jennifer, how are you my friend? 49 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:49,040 Speaker 2: This is so cool to guess you be on the 50 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 2: screen with you, to be at the microphones together. 51 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:57,520 Speaker 3: I love your writing so much, and when I saw 52 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:01,520 Speaker 3: this new current book that just came out, I was like, 53 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:04,360 Speaker 3: oh my gosh, I have to get you on the podcast. 54 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:07,640 Speaker 3: I'm dying to have this conversation with you. The book 55 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:11,239 Speaker 3: is how to Love your mornings, faith filled habits to 56 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:14,680 Speaker 3: build a life of joy and purpose one day at 57 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 3: a time. And the reason, well, there's so many reasons, 58 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 3: but the reason I think that this will just resonate 59 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 3: with the listeners so much is because, just like me, 60 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 3: when I stopped drinking, I fell in love with my mornings. 61 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 3: They became my sacred time. They became my time with Jesus. 62 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 3: And it was almost like I wanted to rush in 63 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 3: the evening to like get to. 64 00:03:42,400 --> 00:03:43,280 Speaker 5: The morning right. 65 00:03:43,320 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 3: I wanted to like literally just fast forward time, get 66 00:03:46,800 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 3: to sleep as fast as possible so I could get 67 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:50,640 Speaker 3: to that like morning cup of coffee. 68 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 5: It was so sacred. 69 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 3: But now kind of, like six plus years on, it 70 00:03:57,160 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 3: feels a little different. And so I'm excited to talk 71 00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 3: about this with you because I'm still getting up, I'm 72 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 3: still doing the same thing, but I want to talk 73 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:07,840 Speaker 3: about like the beauty in it and why it's so good. 74 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 3: And so tell us a little bit of who you 75 00:04:11,200 --> 00:04:13,240 Speaker 3: are and why you wanted to write this book. 76 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 5: Yeah. 77 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:18,159 Speaker 2: So I am a wife, a mother of two girls, 78 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:22,159 Speaker 2: one in on the East Coast, but headed if God 79 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:24,719 Speaker 2: wills it, she would like to live in England someday, 80 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:28,160 Speaker 2: and our other daughter is in Indonesia in full time ministry. 81 00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:31,599 Speaker 2: Scott and I are left here with a very empty nest, 82 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:33,400 Speaker 2: with our little birdies having flown. 83 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 1: Far far away. We are on a farm. 84 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:40,479 Speaker 2: We grow crops here, corn and soybeans, and in the 85 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:43,520 Speaker 2: midst of that, I am also a writer and a speaker, 86 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 2: and part of that is writing this latest book, How 87 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 2: to Love Your Morning, and How to Love Your Morning 88 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:52,599 Speaker 2: Bible study. How this book came about was actually in 89 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 2: a really unusual way. Most of the other books that 90 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,679 Speaker 2: I've written have been from a place of like lack 91 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:02,200 Speaker 2: or failure, some care or flaw. So, for instance, I 92 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:05,360 Speaker 2: wrote a book called Love Idol, and it's about seeking 93 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:08,680 Speaker 2: the approval of God instead of the approval of people, 94 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 2: because I was a people pleaser and approval seeker and 95 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:14,599 Speaker 2: God was working that out of me, and that book 96 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 2: is about those lessons. I wrote a book called Growing Slow, 97 00:05:18,480 --> 00:05:20,480 Speaker 2: even though I could have more easily written a book 98 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 2: called growing Fast because that's my personality. I wrote a 99 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 2: book called It's All under Control because I'm kind of 100 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 2: a control freak. So you can see a pattern here. 101 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 2: I just keep having all these problems and so I 102 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 2: have like an endless supply of content. 103 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:38,880 Speaker 1: Well, this book came. 104 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 2: Out of something that I have actually done pretty well, 105 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:45,599 Speaker 2: not perfectly, but for a lot of my life. But 106 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 2: it wasn't my idea. It was my daughter's idea. And 107 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 2: I know that sounds kind of wild, but we were 108 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:56,360 Speaker 2: on vacation. We were up early in the morning in 109 00:05:56,440 --> 00:05:59,160 Speaker 2: Mexico talking about all the things that we wanted to 110 00:05:59,160 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 2: do that morning. 111 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:02,600 Speaker 1: My college aged daughters and I and Scott was. 112 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 2: There, but he wasn't in this conversation, my husband, but 113 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:10,320 Speaker 2: we were talking about the espresso, the breakfast buffet, the sunrise, 114 00:06:10,400 --> 00:06:13,320 Speaker 2: having Bible study together. We were so excited about the morning, 115 00:06:13,320 --> 00:06:14,920 Speaker 2: and I said, I wish that I could just stretch 116 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 2: out the mornings. They're just so beautiful. They're ful filled 117 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:22,400 Speaker 2: with hope and fun. And Lydia put her hands flat 118 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:25,520 Speaker 2: down on the table and she said, Mom, you need 119 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:28,839 Speaker 2: to write a book about mornings. And I had no 120 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,680 Speaker 2: idea what that even meant, but that morning we began 121 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:35,359 Speaker 2: to talk about what mornings were like in our home 122 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:38,920 Speaker 2: when they were growing up. There was nothing that was, 123 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 2: you know, instagram worthy about them. Nobody would put them 124 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:45,840 Speaker 2: on their Pinterest mood board. But they were this moment 125 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 2: of embodying this concept that everything will be better in 126 00:06:51,279 --> 00:06:53,880 Speaker 2: the morning. And I'm sure you've heard that phrase, maybe 127 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:56,279 Speaker 2: you've spoken it, maybe a parent spoke it over you, 128 00:06:56,920 --> 00:06:59,760 Speaker 2: that you know, weeping may come with the night, but 129 00:06:59,800 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 2: joe comes with the morning. And that was just the 130 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:07,159 Speaker 2: way we operated around here. We had healthy rhythms, we 131 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 2: always had. We prayed together every morning, the girls and 132 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:12,160 Speaker 2: I we ate good food. 133 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:14,520 Speaker 1: We believed the best. 134 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 2: We assumed that God was telling the truth when he 135 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:22,160 Speaker 2: said that God's mercies are new every morning. We believed that. 136 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:25,880 Speaker 2: We held that hope. So this became the seed of 137 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:28,400 Speaker 2: an idea. But I had no idea where this was 138 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:31,920 Speaker 2: going to lead. And I'm like, I can't approach mornings 139 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:33,960 Speaker 2: the way that I think mornings should be. I need 140 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:37,520 Speaker 2: to know what God says about morning. So I started 141 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 2: studying the mornings mentioned in Scripture. 142 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 3: I love that so much. And you looked at two 143 00:07:43,040 --> 00:07:47,239 Speaker 3: hundred mornings in the Bible. What did they have in common? 144 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:48,280 Speaker 5: Like, what did you learn? 145 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 1: Yes, that's that alone. 146 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:54,480 Speaker 2: Surprised to me, Christy that there are two hundred plus 147 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:58,000 Speaker 2: mornings in the scriptures. I think that we run across them, 148 00:07:58,000 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 2: but we just sort of skip over because it just 149 00:08:00,760 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 2: seems like, you know, here's the new tire's the time 150 00:08:03,360 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 2: of day, like this is when this is happening. But 151 00:08:05,920 --> 00:08:10,960 Speaker 2: there's great significance in mornings. The very first one happens 152 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 2: in the opening page of Scripture when we discover that 153 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:18,000 Speaker 2: the very first thing that God created on earth was 154 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:20,600 Speaker 2: a morning, when he said, let. 155 00:08:20,400 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 1: There be light. 156 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 2: And we move on through the old Testament, and we 157 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:28,400 Speaker 2: see that God provides in the morning, and sometimes in 158 00:08:28,440 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 2: surprising ways. We see the Israelites encountering breakfast laying on 159 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 2: the ground in the form of mana delivered every morning. 160 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:40,079 Speaker 2: How cool that God's provision is so creative for us. 161 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:40,880 Speaker 1: In the mornings. 162 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:46,559 Speaker 2: We see people like Abraham stepping out in obedience early 163 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:48,880 Speaker 2: in the morning to do like a really hard thing, 164 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:53,600 Speaker 2: basically taking his son Isaac in this command to sacrifice 165 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 2: his son. 166 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:56,840 Speaker 1: And there was no pushing. 167 00:08:56,480 --> 00:09:00,439 Speaker 2: Snooze, there was no delaying it or procrastinating until noon. 168 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 2: He got up right away in the morning and went 169 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:08,679 Speaker 2: and walked out obedience to the Lord. Then we, you know, 170 00:09:08,800 --> 00:09:13,720 Speaker 2: we see metaphorical verses about that, you know, weeping in 171 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:15,760 Speaker 2: the last for the night, but joy comes in the morning. 172 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:18,920 Speaker 2: In the Psalms, we see the lamentations. First, I mentioned 173 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:21,680 Speaker 2: a bit ago about new mercies. You hop over to 174 00:09:21,720 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 2: the New Testament and you see that not all mornings 175 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 2: are bright and cheery. The worst morning ever in the 176 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 2: history of our world happened on a Friday morning at 177 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 2: nine a m They crucified Jesus. That is exactly what 178 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:41,679 Speaker 2: it says in the Gospel of Mark at nine am 179 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:46,160 Speaker 2: in the morning. But then three days later, on very 180 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 2: early in the morning, the women go to the tomb 181 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 2: and Jesus has arisen, which is the most joy filled, 182 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:56,000 Speaker 2: incredible morning in our history. I think sometimes that if 183 00:09:57,240 --> 00:10:00,160 Speaker 2: God were to whisper into the ears of the Disciple 184 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:05,080 Speaker 2: on that Saturday night, between those two mornings, between the 185 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:08,199 Speaker 2: morning of crucifixion and the morning of resurrection, that maybe 186 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:12,199 Speaker 2: he would have whispered something like this, everything will be 187 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 2: better in the morning, just you wait. 188 00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:17,280 Speaker 1: That is the thread. 189 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:20,880 Speaker 2: You see again and again God's presence and his provision. 190 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:25,080 Speaker 2: Jacob waking up and saying, surely the Lord was in 191 00:10:25,160 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 2: this place, another time waking up in the morning, and 192 00:10:29,559 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 2: he has both a limp and a blessing. 193 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:35,040 Speaker 1: And then at the very end of scripture. 194 00:10:35,000 --> 00:10:40,439 Speaker 2: We see it so clearly, Jesus describing himself as the 195 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:46,240 Speaker 2: bright morning Star. It is a beautiful thread through the 196 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:49,600 Speaker 2: entirety of the biblical narrative. I love that so much. 197 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:56,199 Speaker 3: What is encouraging about this message for all women, not 198 00:10:56,240 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 3: just scals that are maybe seeking an alcohol free life. 199 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 3: But why is the message in this book so encouraging 200 00:11:01,920 --> 00:11:03,240 Speaker 3: and so important? 201 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:07,280 Speaker 2: Well, we all have a morning, no matter what we 202 00:11:07,760 --> 00:11:09,000 Speaker 2: faced the night before. 203 00:11:09,120 --> 00:11:11,240 Speaker 1: No matter what you know. 204 00:11:11,760 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 2: Kind of things and demons have been tracking us down, 205 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:19,200 Speaker 2: no matter what habits we've had, we all have a 206 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:22,080 Speaker 2: morning and we all get to decide how we're going 207 00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:25,680 Speaker 2: to wake up to it. We can wake up feeling 208 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:31,680 Speaker 2: defeated before the day begin, or we can say, you know, God, 209 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:34,600 Speaker 2: this is your day, and I trust you to do 210 00:11:35,120 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 2: good things with it. I trust that there are blessings 211 00:11:37,559 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 2: waiting ahead for me. And that's true even in mornings 212 00:11:41,920 --> 00:11:44,360 Speaker 2: of chaos. You know, if you're a mom and you've 213 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:47,800 Speaker 2: got little kids and it's just crazy and it's busy, 214 00:11:48,000 --> 00:11:51,080 Speaker 2: like you get the opportunity to set a tone for 215 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:53,479 Speaker 2: the way that your morning will be in your household. 216 00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:58,080 Speaker 2: If you are a single person living alone, you get 217 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:00,760 Speaker 2: to decide you have agency or or your morning and 218 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:03,520 Speaker 2: deciding these are the habits that are important to me, 219 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:05,600 Speaker 2: These are the ways that I'm going to take care 220 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:08,240 Speaker 2: of my body and my mind and my strength. We're 221 00:12:08,280 --> 00:12:12,960 Speaker 2: really setting our expectations and our intentions in the morning 222 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 2: around the heart. 223 00:12:14,320 --> 00:12:16,120 Speaker 1: Of God and the will of God. 224 00:12:16,559 --> 00:12:20,560 Speaker 2: That is so important as we step out into the day, 225 00:12:21,040 --> 00:12:24,400 Speaker 2: and when we do that, when the good things that 226 00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:29,040 Speaker 2: come our way. Later in the day happen, we can 227 00:12:29,120 --> 00:12:32,680 Speaker 2: say to ourselves that is God. It's not by chance, 228 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 2: but it is by God. But furthermore, when difficult things happen, 229 00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:43,200 Speaker 2: they are made more bearable because earlier that day we 230 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:46,520 Speaker 2: reminded ourselves that we've got God with us. We have 231 00:12:46,640 --> 00:12:51,000 Speaker 2: his provision, his protection, and his presence. So starting our 232 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:54,960 Speaker 2: day with God, starting our day with hope really is 233 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:57,840 Speaker 2: a way of changing not only your mourning, but your day, 234 00:12:58,200 --> 00:12:59,959 Speaker 2: and not only your day but your life. 235 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:02,280 Speaker 5: Yeah, it's so so true. 236 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:05,040 Speaker 3: I mean I feel like I say all the time, 237 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:06,480 Speaker 3: if I don't open up my Bible, but I don't 238 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 3: spend time with Jesus in the morning, like my whole 239 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:12,800 Speaker 3: day is different, And it is so so true, And 240 00:13:12,840 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 3: I love that you just pointed out. Then it gets 241 00:13:15,240 --> 00:13:17,800 Speaker 3: to I mean, I did it just the other day, right, 242 00:13:17,840 --> 00:13:20,040 Speaker 3: It's like something went like not the way I would 243 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:23,400 Speaker 3: have chosen, and I was in Ephesians that morning, so 244 00:13:23,440 --> 00:13:24,720 Speaker 3: I'm like, nope, he's got a plan. 245 00:13:24,840 --> 00:13:25,319 Speaker 4: I'm good. 246 00:13:26,200 --> 00:13:28,160 Speaker 5: So it is so so true. 247 00:13:28,440 --> 00:13:32,520 Speaker 3: You talk in the book about mornings being a ritual 248 00:13:32,880 --> 00:13:33,920 Speaker 3: not a routine. 249 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:36,320 Speaker 5: What's important about that distinction? 250 00:13:36,559 --> 00:13:39,040 Speaker 3: And then the second part to that, too, is what 251 00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:40,199 Speaker 3: was Jesus? 252 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:41,920 Speaker 5: How did Jesus approach mornings? 253 00:13:42,400 --> 00:13:45,480 Speaker 2: We've all heard of morning routines, and we've all seen them, 254 00:13:45,520 --> 00:13:48,160 Speaker 2: like played out on TikTok and Instagram, and often they 255 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:51,480 Speaker 2: look really unattainable, like get up at five am, run 256 00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:55,000 Speaker 2: a half marathon, make a gourmet breakfast, exegeet the entire 257 00:13:55,040 --> 00:14:00,000 Speaker 2: book of Leviticus, iron your bed sheets all before eight am. 258 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:01,960 Speaker 2: And so we think, wow, a morning routine is just 259 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:04,160 Speaker 2: a lot of work. But even if you don't do 260 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:07,720 Speaker 2: all of those things every morning, a routine can feel 261 00:14:07,760 --> 00:14:11,400 Speaker 2: like a lot of work. A routine can feel performative, 262 00:14:11,920 --> 00:14:16,080 Speaker 2: A routine can feel routine. So I started calling my 263 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:21,560 Speaker 2: morning routine a ritual because when I call something a ritual, 264 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:28,760 Speaker 2: it feels sacred, it feels meaningful. It feels the way 265 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:32,640 Speaker 2: I feel when I walk into one of your churches 266 00:14:32,680 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 2: in England and I feel tied to a tradition. I 267 00:14:37,880 --> 00:14:42,360 Speaker 2: feel tied to a way of being close to God 268 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:46,560 Speaker 2: like through these rituals, whether it's lighting a candle, like 269 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:49,280 Speaker 2: think about the way you feel on Christmas Eve and 270 00:14:49,560 --> 00:14:52,600 Speaker 2: you have this ritual of everybody's holding a candle in 271 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:55,240 Speaker 2: a dark room is filled with light. Right, That's just 272 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:58,760 Speaker 2: one example. We get to take those kinds of things 273 00:14:59,200 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 2: and bring them into our home. For example, when I 274 00:15:03,360 --> 00:15:06,200 Speaker 2: wake up, the first thing I do is head for 275 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 2: the coffee maker, and I'm envisioning that first cup of 276 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:13,160 Speaker 2: coffee before I even go to bed the night before. 277 00:15:13,920 --> 00:15:16,280 Speaker 2: So when I get to my coffee maker, it takes 278 00:15:16,280 --> 00:15:19,280 Speaker 2: some time for it to brew. And I say out loud, 279 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:23,320 Speaker 2: this is my coffee ritual. And it may sound so weird, 280 00:15:23,720 --> 00:15:26,600 Speaker 2: but it creates a holiness over it. It reminds me 281 00:15:26,880 --> 00:15:31,240 Speaker 2: of just this warmth in the aroma that I want 282 00:15:31,240 --> 00:15:32,400 Speaker 2: to be the aroma. 283 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:33,320 Speaker 1: Of Christ in the world. 284 00:15:33,440 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 2: And tied to my coffee ritual is a prayer ritual 285 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:41,560 Speaker 2: where I have people's names posted on my refrigerator and 286 00:15:41,640 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 2: I go down through the names on my prayer list. 287 00:15:45,080 --> 00:15:49,600 Speaker 2: So every single morning I'm praying for these people at 288 00:15:49,680 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 2: least once a day, and on my two cups a 289 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:57,560 Speaker 2: day mornings, they're getting prayed for twice. And then I 290 00:15:57,600 --> 00:16:01,280 Speaker 2: had this little ritual of Bible time at my kitchen 291 00:16:01,280 --> 00:16:05,040 Speaker 2: table and I light a candle, but not with a lighter. 292 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:07,560 Speaker 2: I do it with a match because I love the 293 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:11,240 Speaker 2: sound of a match striking and it just creates this mood. 294 00:16:11,360 --> 00:16:12,200 Speaker 1: It's not beautiful. 295 00:16:12,240 --> 00:16:16,640 Speaker 2: There aren't color coded commentaries, but to me, having these 296 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:20,000 Speaker 2: rituals in place really creates some stability and sets a 297 00:16:20,040 --> 00:16:20,880 Speaker 2: tone for my morning. 298 00:16:21,640 --> 00:16:24,160 Speaker 5: Yeah, I love that. I love that so much. 299 00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:29,240 Speaker 3: We'll be back right after a quick word from our sponsors. Hey, babe, 300 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:32,160 Speaker 3: I just wanted to pause us for one second to 301 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:36,200 Speaker 3: remind you that this September we are gathering in Holland, 302 00:16:36,280 --> 00:16:40,080 Speaker 3: Michigan for the Aligned Conference. This is going to be 303 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 3: the first ever Christian women's alcohol free conference, and I 304 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 3: am so excited to be partnering with my friend Sherry 305 00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 3: Hoppin of Sala House Recovery. If you've ever wished there 306 00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:57,160 Speaker 3: was a place where you could talk openly about freedom 307 00:16:57,160 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 3: from alcohol, growing closer to Jesus, and build genuine friendships 308 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:05,200 Speaker 3: with women who understand the journey, then this is your opportunity. 309 00:17:05,520 --> 00:17:11,719 Speaker 3: We're bringing together incredible speakers, meaningful conversations, worship, prayer, practical tools, 310 00:17:12,040 --> 00:17:14,679 Speaker 3: and plenty of opportunities to connect with women who are 311 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:18,679 Speaker 3: pursuing freedom and living aligned with God's best for their lives. 312 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:21,120 Speaker 3: One of the things I'm most excited about is that 313 00:17:21,160 --> 00:17:23,600 Speaker 3: so many women from the love life sober community are 314 00:17:23,640 --> 00:17:26,359 Speaker 3: already coming. If you've ever wanted to meet some of 315 00:17:26,400 --> 00:17:28,920 Speaker 3: those amazing women in real life and get an in 316 00:17:29,040 --> 00:17:33,120 Speaker 3: person hug and spend a few days just hanging out 317 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:37,080 Speaker 3: with women who are alcohol free or sober curious and 318 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:41,879 Speaker 3: love Jesus, then this is your chance. It doesn't matter 319 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:45,080 Speaker 3: how long you've been free from alcohol, if you are 320 00:17:45,280 --> 00:17:47,679 Speaker 3: just at the beginning of this journey or years in, 321 00:17:48,280 --> 00:17:49,000 Speaker 3: we don't mind. 322 00:17:49,119 --> 00:17:50,719 Speaker 4: We just want to get in a room with you. 323 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:52,640 Speaker 4: And we are so so excited. 324 00:17:53,160 --> 00:17:56,280 Speaker 3: All of the details and the ticket information is all 325 00:17:56,320 --> 00:17:59,680 Speaker 3: at the link in the show notes. I am so 326 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:04,240 Speaker 3: so excited to get to hug some of you beautiful 327 00:18:04,320 --> 00:18:08,159 Speaker 3: women in person this September. Okay, let's get back to 328 00:18:08,160 --> 00:18:12,080 Speaker 3: today's speaking of the woman who's listening to this and 329 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:16,600 Speaker 3: has started a ritual already that she loves and then 330 00:18:17,119 --> 00:18:21,080 Speaker 3: maybe misses it and then starts beating herself up for 331 00:18:21,240 --> 00:18:22,160 Speaker 3: missing the ritual. 332 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:25,880 Speaker 5: Can you talk a little bit about. 333 00:18:25,480 --> 00:18:28,240 Speaker 3: Maybe falling out of the pattern and then how to 334 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:29,680 Speaker 3: get back to it. 335 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:33,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, the really cool thing is that God's mercies 336 00:18:34,080 --> 00:18:38,000 Speaker 2: are truly new every morning. They don't like stop if 337 00:18:38,040 --> 00:18:41,400 Speaker 2: you mess up or you miss like, you just start 338 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:44,800 Speaker 2: again tomorrow, decide that tomorrow is the day. Just in 339 00:18:44,840 --> 00:18:47,160 Speaker 2: the same way that if you're you know you maybe 340 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:50,240 Speaker 2: you've been taking a daily walk or going to exercise 341 00:18:50,320 --> 00:18:53,920 Speaker 2: class and you stop going and you want to go back, 342 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:56,000 Speaker 2: like the only way to go back is to go back. 343 00:18:57,320 --> 00:19:00,280 Speaker 2: And I think also just sometimes the reason we stop 344 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:04,320 Speaker 2: those things is because something happened. It wasn't that we 345 00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:08,800 Speaker 2: intended to, but something difficult happened, and we get out 346 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:12,600 Speaker 2: of a rhythm that is so common, and I think 347 00:19:12,640 --> 00:19:14,639 Speaker 2: the best way to get back into it is just 348 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:18,679 Speaker 2: to shrink it all down. And you know, maybe before 349 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:21,840 Speaker 2: your ritual was twenty minutes in the Bible, but you're like, 350 00:19:21,880 --> 00:19:23,600 Speaker 2: I just I don't know if I can do that 351 00:19:23,720 --> 00:19:26,520 Speaker 2: right now. Life has gotten really chaotic. Shrink it down, 352 00:19:26,920 --> 00:19:31,160 Speaker 2: start with five, see what happens, just you know, kind 353 00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:34,240 Speaker 2: of kick kickstarting it once more with those healthy habits 354 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 2: and giving yourself permission. There was a time not very 355 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:41,560 Speaker 2: long ago when I was launching the book, and I 356 00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:44,440 Speaker 2: was so busy. Launching a book is just a lot 357 00:19:44,440 --> 00:19:48,199 Speaker 2: of work. It's wildly busy, and there were some mornings 358 00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:50,320 Speaker 2: where I'm like, well, I've blown it. And what a 359 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:52,879 Speaker 2: hypocrite I am because I'm not doing my thirty minute 360 00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:57,080 Speaker 2: Bible time. And I'm like, wait a second. You speak 361 00:19:57,200 --> 00:20:01,040 Speaker 2: in the in the book about just like shrinking it 362 00:20:01,119 --> 00:20:03,879 Speaker 2: down and backing it up and keeping it real, and 363 00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:05,760 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, yeah, if I'm not in the Bible 364 00:20:05,800 --> 00:20:08,439 Speaker 2: Recap today like I usually am, you know what I 365 00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:11,080 Speaker 2: can do. I can go to one verse, I can 366 00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:14,359 Speaker 2: go to one song and ponder that, write it down. 367 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:16,240 Speaker 2: I mean, there's just so many things that you can 368 00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:18,200 Speaker 2: do that don't have to look like the day before, 369 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:22,800 Speaker 2: but they still count. It still counts, yeah, one hundred percent. 370 00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:26,760 Speaker 3: And you mentioned the Bible Recap, which we love Love 371 00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:29,240 Speaker 3: Love Love and the Love Life Sober community, and we 372 00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:33,160 Speaker 3: have a special space of gals and captains going through 373 00:20:33,200 --> 00:20:35,680 Speaker 3: that in our community, and I just wanted to take 374 00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:37,720 Speaker 3: the second to say you can join that at any time, 375 00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:40,000 Speaker 3: and we have gals that are at different places in 376 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:41,120 Speaker 3: the Bible Recap and. 377 00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:43,040 Speaker 5: So it's so so special. 378 00:20:43,600 --> 00:20:46,280 Speaker 3: I feel like with my own kind of morning rituals, 379 00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:50,480 Speaker 3: they also have have changed. And so I do think 380 00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:52,600 Speaker 3: it's important to talk about like seasons like you were 381 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:55,359 Speaker 3: talking about the book season for you being super busy. 382 00:20:55,560 --> 00:20:58,119 Speaker 3: I remember when my book seat like season was going on. 383 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:01,760 Speaker 3: During that time, I was getting up at five am 384 00:21:02,080 --> 00:21:04,320 Speaker 3: to do my Bible and to write and all those things, 385 00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:07,280 Speaker 3: and that happened for a really long time. But now 386 00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:11,800 Speaker 3: we're in the season of teenagers who are up studying 387 00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:14,399 Speaker 3: really really late, and so as much as I would 388 00:21:14,440 --> 00:21:17,359 Speaker 3: love to be lights out at nine, I just can't. 389 00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:21,840 Speaker 3: And so she's studying and like the house is awake, 390 00:21:22,000 --> 00:21:24,520 Speaker 3: you know, still at eleven. And so what I do now, 391 00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:27,520 Speaker 3: which like which is working for me for right now 392 00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:29,920 Speaker 3: for this season. In the morning, I take them to 393 00:21:29,960 --> 00:21:32,240 Speaker 3: the bus. I kind of like check emails and stuff, 394 00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:34,080 Speaker 3: which is not my favorite thing first thing in the morning. 395 00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:36,600 Speaker 3: But what I do when I get with Jesus and 396 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:38,840 Speaker 3: I get quiet and in the Bible is after I 397 00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:41,880 Speaker 3: do the bus drop. So at like seven forty five, 398 00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:46,120 Speaker 3: I get back in bed after the like the kids 399 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:47,760 Speaker 3: are out of the house, and I do it then. 400 00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:49,760 Speaker 3: For there was a minute there whether I was like 401 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:52,160 Speaker 3: beating myself up because I wasn't getting up at five, 402 00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:54,120 Speaker 3: but I couldn't get up at five because I. 403 00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:54,840 Speaker 5: Was so tired. 404 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:59,120 Speaker 3: So that kind of brings us to this conversation around sleep, 405 00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:02,439 Speaker 3: and you talk about sleep in the book, which is 406 00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:06,960 Speaker 3: literally my favorite thing in the whole world. And I 407 00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:09,240 Speaker 3: just think it's so important and it's one of the 408 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:12,560 Speaker 3: gifts of living alcohol free, but just one of the 409 00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:15,600 Speaker 3: gifts in general from God. So talk a little bit 410 00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:18,200 Speaker 3: about why it's important. And then I want to talk 411 00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:23,840 Speaker 3: about this revenge bedtime procrastination that you mentioned, because when 412 00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:25,040 Speaker 3: you mentioned that, I. 413 00:22:24,880 --> 00:22:27,840 Speaker 5: Was like, that is so relatable. So yeah, let's talk 414 00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:28,439 Speaker 5: about sleep. 415 00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:31,960 Speaker 2: I'm so glad you mentioned this, and you're right this, 416 00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:34,959 Speaker 2: you know, it is a gift from God. Sleep and 417 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:40,360 Speaker 2: rest are a gift from God, like He created us 418 00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:45,240 Speaker 2: all things, to all living things, to have sleep, to 419 00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:49,080 Speaker 2: have rest. But I was reading from a sleep specialist 420 00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:52,520 Speaker 2: this remark that really got me, and it is that 421 00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:56,199 Speaker 2: human beings are the only ones that will deliberately, you know, 422 00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:59,280 Speaker 2: put off sleep or delay sleep or like not have 423 00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:02,159 Speaker 2: it and just like sort of think it's okay. And 424 00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:05,600 Speaker 2: in fact, we'll even wear it like a badge of honor, 425 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:07,879 Speaker 2: like yeah, I only I only got six hours of 426 00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:09,760 Speaker 2: sleep last night, you know, just in the same way 427 00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:13,159 Speaker 2: we wear busyness as as a badge of honor. But 428 00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:17,320 Speaker 2: in Psalm one twenty seven there's this verse and it 429 00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:23,280 Speaker 2: says God grants sleep to those he loves, which is 430 00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:27,800 Speaker 2: such a beautiful picture, like God loves us so much 431 00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,680 Speaker 2: that he desires us to have the gift of a good, 432 00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:33,000 Speaker 2: good night sleep. And I want to pause there for 433 00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:35,199 Speaker 2: a second and speak directly to those of you who 434 00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:38,480 Speaker 2: don't experience the gift of sleep so easily, Like if 435 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:42,320 Speaker 2: you have insomnia or physical pain that keeps you up 436 00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:44,919 Speaker 2: at night, that doesn't mean that God doesn't love you. 437 00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:49,239 Speaker 2: God is very much present with you even as you 438 00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:52,199 Speaker 2: lie awake in the middle of the night. He sees 439 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:53,800 Speaker 2: you and he holds you through all. 440 00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:55,640 Speaker 1: Of those restless hours. 441 00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:59,359 Speaker 2: But it remains true that God does grant sleep to 442 00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:01,640 Speaker 2: those he loves, and he loved you, and he loves us, 443 00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:05,040 Speaker 2: and he wants us to rest. We are actually getting 444 00:24:05,119 --> 00:24:09,280 Speaker 2: three hours less sleep than we used to, and some 445 00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:12,200 Speaker 2: people will think, well, that's probably because of the mobile phone, 446 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:15,120 Speaker 2: but it's not. It's actually because of the industrial revolution. 447 00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:21,360 Speaker 2: So before the Industrial Revolution, we were guided by natural 448 00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:26,280 Speaker 2: light and seasonal patterns, so you'd go to sleep when 449 00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:28,360 Speaker 2: it got dark and you'd wake up when it got light. 450 00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:32,040 Speaker 2: That's like how we were made. But the industrial revolution 451 00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:35,560 Speaker 2: and artificial light light bulbs, gas lighting out on the 452 00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:38,440 Speaker 2: streets kept us out longer, so we've lost all of 453 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:41,600 Speaker 2: that sleep. It's no wonder we're tired, so we have 454 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:46,639 Speaker 2: to work really hard at getting the sleep we need. 455 00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:49,359 Speaker 2: Only twenty six percent of us are getting the sleep 456 00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:52,120 Speaker 2: we need, according to the CDC, So it creates all 457 00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:54,359 Speaker 2: kinds of problems in our health and our ability to 458 00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:57,600 Speaker 2: have clarity in our hope get a new day. And 459 00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:00,399 Speaker 2: one of the reasons that we are not getting the 460 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:05,560 Speaker 2: sleep we need deliberately is that we're participating in this 461 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:13,440 Speaker 2: revenge bedtime procrastination. So what this is is it's got 462 00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:17,280 Speaker 2: a name now because it's so common. It's when we 463 00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:20,800 Speaker 2: want a little me time for ourselves. We had spent 464 00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,560 Speaker 2: all day taking care of other people, doing all the 465 00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:27,040 Speaker 2: things that it keeps to keeping a house in order, 466 00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:30,399 Speaker 2: or our jobs or whatever, and we feel like we 467 00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:33,960 Speaker 2: deserve this. We are owed this time. Everybody else is 468 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:37,840 Speaker 2: in bed. I'm going to stay up a little bit longer. 469 00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 2: I'm going to scroll a little bit more. I'm going 470 00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:42,480 Speaker 2: to read one more chapter in that novel. I'm gonna 471 00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:45,439 Speaker 2: watch one more show on Netflix and then we end 472 00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:47,920 Speaker 2: up in sleep debt the next day. 473 00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:52,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, my husband Chris, used to work for a huge, 474 00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:56,040 Speaker 3: big law firm in London and the city before he 475 00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:59,280 Speaker 3: went in house, and he would I mean, he was 476 00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:03,399 Speaker 3: working the craziest hours and he would come home like 477 00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:06,640 Speaker 3: way past when you know, we had all gone to bed, 478 00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:09,840 Speaker 3: sometimes one, you know, one two in the morning, and 479 00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:11,800 Speaker 3: he would go and sit and watch a TV show 480 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:13,879 Speaker 3: and I'm like, I would sometimes wake up and be like, 481 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:16,919 Speaker 3: what in the world are you doing, and he would say, 482 00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:18,640 Speaker 3: I just I need to shut off. 483 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:22,200 Speaker 5: And I so relate to that too. 484 00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:24,760 Speaker 3: Like as as a busy mom, like you kind of 485 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:29,399 Speaker 3: that's your me time at the end of the day. However, 486 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:33,280 Speaker 3: I think when I went on this whole sobriety journey, 487 00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:36,200 Speaker 3: I realized that my me time could be in the morning, right, 488 00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:40,080 Speaker 3: that that time could be, you know, the morning, as 489 00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:42,399 Speaker 3: opposed to anything in the night where then you go 490 00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:45,560 Speaker 3: into sleep deficit and you're feeling icky the next day. 491 00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:49,399 Speaker 3: So I think it's just a change of perspectives of 492 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:53,080 Speaker 3: when you're going to get that time for yourself, right. 493 00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:55,840 Speaker 3: And I think we chatted briefly before we hit record 494 00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:59,280 Speaker 3: of having that plan in place of if you know 495 00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:01,159 Speaker 3: you're going to have a night out or if you 496 00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:04,480 Speaker 3: know that you're gonna get less sleep, you know, one day, 497 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:07,200 Speaker 3: how can you make up for it later in the week. 498 00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:09,159 Speaker 5: Can you talk a little bit about that. I so 499 00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:09,960 Speaker 5: relate to that. 500 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:13,400 Speaker 3: I feel like it's so important because then you don't 501 00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:16,600 Speaker 3: end up in burnout right and just totally exhausted. 502 00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:21,159 Speaker 2: Yeah, So if if you know that you're going to 503 00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:24,359 Speaker 2: be out later, We're like last night, Scott and I were, 504 00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:27,159 Speaker 2: let's watch this movie we've been wanting to watch, and 505 00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:29,879 Speaker 2: we knew that if we started the movie that it 506 00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:31,880 Speaker 2: was going to be later than my bedtime, which I'm 507 00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:35,199 Speaker 2: really strict about my bedtime, so we planned for this 508 00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:35,880 Speaker 2: in advance. 509 00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:36,639 Speaker 1: We knew. 510 00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,080 Speaker 2: I knew that I was not going to go to 511 00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 2: workout this morning because I wanted to watch that movie 512 00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:44,320 Speaker 2: with Scott. So I was not going to get up 513 00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:46,240 Speaker 2: at five oh seven, which is the time I get 514 00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:49,600 Speaker 2: up on my workout, Right, I was gonna go ahead 515 00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:53,359 Speaker 2: and enjoy that movie with my husband, and I worked 516 00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:56,680 Speaker 2: out the afternoon before. So I think you make adjustments. 517 00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:59,679 Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that you can't ever watch TV. It 518 00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:01,840 Speaker 2: doesn't mean that you can't ever go to like a 519 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,639 Speaker 2: musical or something like that. It just means that you 520 00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:07,760 Speaker 2: need to think it through because sleep is so valuable. 521 00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:11,760 Speaker 2: Sleep is me time. Sleep is deciding this is important 522 00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:13,679 Speaker 2: for my body and the way that I function and 523 00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:16,439 Speaker 2: the way that I am present in the world. Also, 524 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,400 Speaker 2: some mornings, I don't typically get up at five oh seven, 525 00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:21,760 Speaker 2: only on my workout mornings because I don't have any 526 00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:24,840 Speaker 2: other choice for when my workout classes. But often on 527 00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:27,320 Speaker 2: those days I have to take a small nap, like 528 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:29,399 Speaker 2: right after lunch, Otherwise I'm not going to be clear 529 00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:31,840 Speaker 2: in the afternoon. So I think listening to your body 530 00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,800 Speaker 2: and not making yourself feel like a sloth or a 531 00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:38,320 Speaker 2: slug or lazy if you actually need to just dial 532 00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:40,640 Speaker 2: it back. I mean, Jesus took naps even in the 533 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,000 Speaker 2: middle of a storm. If he took naps, we can too. 534 00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:45,479 Speaker 2: But there's nothing in there that says this was what 535 00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:48,520 Speaker 2: Jesus did every morning. Now, we do know from a 536 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:51,400 Speaker 2: couple places in scripture that he got up very early 537 00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:53,560 Speaker 2: in the morning to consult with the Father. I mean, 538 00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:55,360 Speaker 2: they were like looking all over for him. 539 00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:56,480 Speaker 1: Where's Jesus. 540 00:28:56,680 --> 00:28:59,320 Speaker 2: A bunch of people want him to, you know, cure 541 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,920 Speaker 2: their blindness and all these things. And he was hanging 542 00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:04,040 Speaker 2: out with the Father getting instructions for the day. So 543 00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:07,480 Speaker 2: we know that, but there aren't a lot of other places. However, 544 00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:10,200 Speaker 2: when we look to the traditions of the time, when 545 00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,960 Speaker 2: we see and remember that Jesus was a devout Jew, 546 00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:18,200 Speaker 2: we can understand a bit more about his morning routine. 547 00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:22,840 Speaker 2: And one of those things is for centuries before Jesus 548 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:29,640 Speaker 2: walked this earth, the Israelites prayed the Shamah, and Jesus 549 00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:32,880 Speaker 2: speaks about the samah that it's in Deuteronomy, and he 550 00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:35,680 Speaker 2: repeats it in the Gospels, and that is that you 551 00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:38,400 Speaker 2: would love God with your heart and your soul, with 552 00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:42,640 Speaker 2: your mind, with your strength. So Ever, since Jesus was 553 00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:46,320 Speaker 2: a baby, every morning he would have heard this daily 554 00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:49,800 Speaker 2: intention to love God with your heart's soul, mind, and strength. 555 00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:52,760 Speaker 2: And when he got older, he would have recited it 556 00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:57,200 Speaker 2: into adulthood. Every morning his routine was to say God, 557 00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:59,880 Speaker 2: I'm going to love you like with my whole bea 558 00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:03,840 Speaker 2: I'm gonna love you with all that I am. And 559 00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:07,640 Speaker 2: that can be our daily intention too. We can love 560 00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:08,520 Speaker 2: God with. 561 00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:09,240 Speaker 1: All that we are. 562 00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:12,200 Speaker 2: Like God I'm gonna love you with my heart and 563 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:15,920 Speaker 2: soul today, And that's what this is gonna look like. God, 564 00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,320 Speaker 2: Here's how I'm gonna love you with my mind. Here's 565 00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:19,240 Speaker 2: how I'm gonna think. 566 00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:20,040 Speaker 1: About you today. 567 00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:23,000 Speaker 2: These are the thoughts that I want you to replace 568 00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,760 Speaker 2: in my mind. And God, I'm gonna love you with 569 00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:29,120 Speaker 2: my strength, not just my inner strength, but the way 570 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:31,440 Speaker 2: that I take care of the physical body that you 571 00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:34,920 Speaker 2: gave me, by putting good things into this body, by 572 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:38,760 Speaker 2: getting the sleep that I need, by eating good nutritious 573 00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:41,760 Speaker 2: foods like that is a form of loving the Lord, 574 00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:46,440 Speaker 2: our God. And that was what Jesus morning routine was saying. 575 00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:49,440 Speaker 2: And that's valid for us, and that could be something 576 00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:52,240 Speaker 2: that any of us could do to have that like 577 00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:55,920 Speaker 2: written out somewhere by your teapot or your coffee maker, 578 00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:58,760 Speaker 2: to say, God, I'm gonna love you with all of 579 00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:00,600 Speaker 2: my heart's, soul, mind strength. 580 00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:02,640 Speaker 5: I love that. 581 00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:05,800 Speaker 3: I love that we can know that he had that 582 00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:07,280 Speaker 3: morning routine. 583 00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:09,080 Speaker 5: That's so good. 584 00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:12,360 Speaker 3: It just goes back to that whole living life by 585 00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:16,960 Speaker 3: design and not by default, being really intentional about how 586 00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:20,360 Speaker 3: you're living, which I think is so encouraging for the 587 00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:24,560 Speaker 3: Gallas listening, because when you remove an alcohol from your life, 588 00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:29,520 Speaker 3: you know, you get to really really live by design, right, 589 00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:34,200 Speaker 3: live with intention, which is so so cool. We'll be 590 00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:37,840 Speaker 3: back right after a quick word from our sponsors. Can 591 00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:42,280 Speaker 3: you talk a little bit about the morning ritual archetypes 592 00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:43,920 Speaker 3: and what that's all about. 593 00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:44,880 Speaker 1: Yes. 594 00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:48,000 Speaker 2: So when I wrote the book, as I started to 595 00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:51,440 Speaker 2: pull together my research, I had really honestly hoped to 596 00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:55,720 Speaker 2: find a one size fits all morning routine that would 597 00:31:55,720 --> 00:31:57,520 Speaker 2: work for everybody. There's a lot of books on the 598 00:31:57,560 --> 00:32:00,400 Speaker 2: secular marketplace like that, like everybody needs to up at 599 00:32:00,440 --> 00:32:02,320 Speaker 2: these at this time and do these three things. 600 00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:05,640 Speaker 1: It became really clear early on that that would not 601 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:06,320 Speaker 1: be possible. 602 00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:09,480 Speaker 2: I interviewed hundreds of women for this book, and their 603 00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:13,600 Speaker 2: morning rituals were wildly, vastly different because of the season 604 00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:17,680 Speaker 2: they were in and because of their personalities the things 605 00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,440 Speaker 2: that got them fired up in the morning and ready 606 00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:20,760 Speaker 2: to go. 607 00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:23,440 Speaker 1: So I discovered. 608 00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:28,320 Speaker 2: These four morning archetypes emerging in my research, and one 609 00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:32,640 Speaker 2: of them is the daybreakdoer. And this might be I 610 00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:36,600 Speaker 2: heard glimmers of a daybreakdoer in you, Christy when you 611 00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:39,200 Speaker 2: said I need to check emails first thing in the morning, 612 00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:42,560 Speaker 2: and I sense and I could be wrong a little 613 00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:45,640 Speaker 2: bit of ah. That doesn't sound very like as a Christian, 614 00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:48,000 Speaker 2: maybe I'm not supposed to be a daybreakdoer, like I 615 00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:51,160 Speaker 2: shouldn't be checking these things right away. But in fact, 616 00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:54,200 Speaker 2: what that did for you was you were able to 617 00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:56,120 Speaker 2: kind of center your mind around this is what the 618 00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:58,120 Speaker 2: day is going to hold for me. Now I'm going 619 00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:00,520 Speaker 2: to write this down. I'm going to know what's ahead, 620 00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:03,320 Speaker 2: and now I can be clear focused on getting my 621 00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:05,840 Speaker 2: kids to the bus stop. And I can sit down 622 00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:09,200 Speaker 2: with Jesus in my bed at seven forty five and 623 00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:12,400 Speaker 2: really focus on him because I know what's waiting. I 624 00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:15,000 Speaker 2: can be clear focused on him, and that gives a 625 00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:18,680 Speaker 2: daybreakder so much peace, Like okay here I am. So. 626 00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:20,760 Speaker 2: I know some day breakdoers that will even keep a 627 00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:23,360 Speaker 2: distraction list beside their Bible. 628 00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:27,240 Speaker 5: So I just started doing that. It's like literally right here. 629 00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:30,720 Speaker 2: So that's wonderful that way, when you are doing your 630 00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:34,000 Speaker 2: time with the Lord, you and something pops in that 631 00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:36,920 Speaker 2: you're a human, I mean, that's normal. You're a daybreak doer, right, 632 00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:38,959 Speaker 2: So you just write it down and then you carry on. 633 00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:41,760 Speaker 2: That way, you can keep talking to Jesus. So that's 634 00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:44,960 Speaker 2: a day breakdoer. The next one is a morning mover. 635 00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:49,280 Speaker 2: A morning mover is somebody who's really motivated by getting 636 00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:53,000 Speaker 2: their body moving, whether that is a walk, a run, 637 00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:56,760 Speaker 2: a hit, workout, whatever it is, it kickstarts their mood 638 00:33:56,840 --> 00:34:01,080 Speaker 2: and their metabolism. I am a morning move I would 639 00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:03,800 Speaker 2: not ordinarily get up at five oh seven unless I 640 00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:05,080 Speaker 2: knew I was going to get to hang out with 641 00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:08,640 Speaker 2: my girlfriends at fitness class and know that I got 642 00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:11,760 Speaker 2: my workout done already. Those are my most productive mornings 643 00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:15,080 Speaker 2: because I come back ready to dig into the word, 644 00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:18,200 Speaker 2: to start my work, to have my coffee and all 645 00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:21,200 Speaker 2: those things. So daybreakdoor morning mover. The next one is 646 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,440 Speaker 2: the meditative mind. And this is the one that fits 647 00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:28,919 Speaker 2: kind of that quiet time profile, like we all need 648 00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:31,160 Speaker 2: quiet time, no matter what your type is, but these 649 00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:34,680 Speaker 2: these folks want to start right away with that activity. 650 00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:37,240 Speaker 1: So maybe they'll grab their coffee. 651 00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:42,120 Speaker 2: But they're immediately in the word, journaling, maybe a devotional 652 00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:45,600 Speaker 2: something like that. That is their kind of more extended 653 00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:51,000 Speaker 2: quiet time immediately. And then the fourth type is the 654 00:34:51,040 --> 00:34:54,080 Speaker 2: social seeker. This one is I think for people, the 655 00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:57,960 Speaker 2: most surprising because this involves interacting with others, and it 656 00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:02,520 Speaker 2: might even mean like interacting with your friend group on 657 00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:06,680 Speaker 2: text in the morning to say, hey, you know, let's 658 00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:09,680 Speaker 2: read our verses together and let's talk about our gratitude 659 00:35:09,719 --> 00:35:12,359 Speaker 2: leus together or whatever. It is, like something that you're 660 00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:17,279 Speaker 2: doing with other people. You're a social seeker. Children tend 661 00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:19,920 Speaker 2: to be social seekers. Not all of them, but a 662 00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:21,880 Speaker 2: lot of kids will come out of their bedrooms in 663 00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:25,359 Speaker 2: the morning and they have these stories that have been 664 00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:29,640 Speaker 2: pent up in their mind for an intolerable number of hours. 665 00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:32,359 Speaker 1: And they just want to tell those stories. They just 666 00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:33,440 Speaker 1: want to be held. 667 00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:38,320 Speaker 2: A lot of widows that I interviewed for the book, 668 00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:41,440 Speaker 2: it turns out they were social seekers and they didn't 669 00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:44,400 Speaker 2: even know it because they were so used to having 670 00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:47,640 Speaker 2: that immediate interaction with their person, with their loved one. 671 00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:51,839 Speaker 2: That person is no longer there, and that gap has 672 00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:55,960 Speaker 2: made them realize, I am lonely. My morning routine isn't 673 00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:57,799 Speaker 2: what it used to be. And they have to be 674 00:35:57,840 --> 00:36:03,120 Speaker 2: super intentional about seeking connection very first thing in the morning, 675 00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:07,560 Speaker 2: and sometimes always we hope that some of that connection 676 00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:11,280 Speaker 2: is with God. You know, God is the ultimate social seeker. 677 00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:14,799 Speaker 2: He seeks time with us. 678 00:36:15,120 --> 00:36:18,759 Speaker 3: Yeah, I love that so much, and I think there's 679 00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:24,040 Speaker 3: so much freedom right in knowing that you can do 680 00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:27,240 Speaker 3: it differently and it doesn't have to look like whoever 681 00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:30,160 Speaker 3: you follow on Instagram, and it doesn't have to be perfect, 682 00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:36,319 Speaker 3: and it can change for the gals listening who have 683 00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:39,480 Speaker 3: fallen out of their morning ritual or just want one 684 00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:41,800 Speaker 3: small step. 685 00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:44,360 Speaker 5: To get back to that ritual. 686 00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:47,239 Speaker 3: Apart from getting your book, which everyone should do and 687 00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:51,640 Speaker 3: I will link it in the show notes, what is 688 00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:55,520 Speaker 3: one kind of tiny new action that they can start 689 00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:58,000 Speaker 3: to get back to their morning ritual. 690 00:36:58,680 --> 00:37:00,239 Speaker 2: I know this is going to sound like a really 691 00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:02,680 Speaker 2: weird place to start, especially if you're not somebody who 692 00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:06,200 Speaker 2: identifies as a morning person. But the first step, I 693 00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:09,239 Speaker 2: think is to say I am a morning person. I 694 00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:11,520 Speaker 2: am a morning person because God is a morning person. 695 00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:14,680 Speaker 2: That it doesn't matter what time I wake up, I 696 00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:17,560 Speaker 2: am a morning person. Being a morning person is not 697 00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:22,680 Speaker 2: a clock thing, it's a God thing. And it's important 698 00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:26,560 Speaker 2: to say these things over ourselves because that automatically levels 699 00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:29,279 Speaker 2: us up into a place of hope. If we wake 700 00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:32,040 Speaker 2: up and say I'm just not a morning person, we're 701 00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:35,480 Speaker 2: already setting ourselves up for failure. We're waking up defeated 702 00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:36,320 Speaker 2: before the day. 703 00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:37,080 Speaker 1: Has even begun. 704 00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,400 Speaker 2: But when we say I am a morning person because 705 00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:43,880 Speaker 2: God is a morning person, even if it's ten am, like, 706 00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:46,640 Speaker 2: I am a morning person because I believe that God's 707 00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:49,680 Speaker 2: mercies are new every morning. I want to follow the 708 00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:51,440 Speaker 2: rhythm and pattern of God. 709 00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:52,279 Speaker 1: I want to. 710 00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:55,200 Speaker 2: Grab hold of those mercies and step forward into the 711 00:37:55,239 --> 00:38:00,160 Speaker 2: new day. Most women I know want that deeply for 712 00:38:00,200 --> 00:38:02,520 Speaker 2: their mornings. So that's the first thing I do. The 713 00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:04,360 Speaker 2: second thing I know you didn't ask for two, But 714 00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:06,520 Speaker 2: the second thing I do, super easy thing that you 715 00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:10,359 Speaker 2: can start to do tomorrow morning is to say what 716 00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:13,960 Speaker 2: Mother Teresa taught us to say, which is every morning's 717 00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:18,279 Speaker 2: say good morning Jesus. Just that good morning Jesus. The 718 00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:21,719 Speaker 2: first thing out of your mouth, from your lips, out 719 00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:26,000 Speaker 2: of your mind is the thought of God. Then everything 720 00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:28,520 Speaker 2: else has to level up to meet that for the 721 00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:31,160 Speaker 2: rest of the day. Like to start your day with God, 722 00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:35,200 Speaker 2: even in such a simple way instead of ugh the 723 00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:39,600 Speaker 2: alarm or ugh no, good morning Jesus. It changes everything. 724 00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:44,600 Speaker 5: Yeah, oh, I love that. That's so good, babe. 725 00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:47,600 Speaker 3: Can you tell the ladies where they can find you 726 00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:51,279 Speaker 3: learn more about you? Obviously I'll link the book in 727 00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:53,960 Speaker 3: the show notes. But if people want to read your 728 00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:56,399 Speaker 3: other books, which I have some of them sitting here 729 00:38:56,400 --> 00:39:00,000 Speaker 3: on my shelf, where can they find you? 730 00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:04,080 Speaker 2: Jennifer Duke's lead at all the places online. My website 731 00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:07,799 Speaker 2: is jenniferdukesley dot com. The book page is how to 732 00:39:07,880 --> 00:39:11,040 Speaker 2: Love Your Morning dot com. There's all kinds of resources 733 00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:16,120 Speaker 2: available to you, quiet time templates, morning survival kit, all 734 00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:19,359 Speaker 2: kinds of things on my resources page, scripture cards, all 735 00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:20,360 Speaker 2: kinds of free stuff for you. 736 00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:24,799 Speaker 5: Oh that's so cool. Oh babe, I can't wait till 737 00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:25,280 Speaker 5: you visit. 738 00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:27,600 Speaker 2: I can't either. 739 00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:29,240 Speaker 1: I love England. 740 00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:32,960 Speaker 3: This is such a great conversation and so encouraging and 741 00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:37,120 Speaker 3: just highlighting again some of the gifts like rest and 742 00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:39,959 Speaker 3: mornings that God gives us, that are, as you say, 743 00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:43,480 Speaker 3: truly new every single every single morning. 744 00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:45,240 Speaker 5: So thank you, my friend. 745 00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:48,120 Speaker 3: I'm gonna put the Shema prayer I think on my 746 00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:50,160 Speaker 3: coffee maker because I love that. 747 00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:54,000 Speaker 5: And yeah, thank you, thank you so so much. 748 00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:57,520 Speaker 1: You're welcome, all right, ladies, we. 749 00:39:57,520 --> 00:39:58,760 Speaker 5: Will see you next week. 750 00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:01,759 Speaker 3: Thank you for spending this time with me on Love 751 00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:05,320 Speaker 3: life Sober. If today's conversation stirred something in your heart, 752 00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:08,120 Speaker 3: don't rush past it, take it to prayer. If you're 753 00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:11,520 Speaker 3: feeling ready for deeper connection and support, I'd love to 754 00:40:11,560 --> 00:40:14,800 Speaker 3: invite you into the love Life Sober community, a grace filled, 755 00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:19,080 Speaker 3: shame free space where real connection grows and lasting change 756 00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:19,719 Speaker 3: takes root. 757 00:40:19,960 --> 00:40:21,800 Speaker 4: You can find the link to join us in the 758 00:40:21,840 --> 00:40:22,400 Speaker 4: show notes. 759 00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:26,960 Speaker 3: Love Life Sober is part of the Life Audio podcast Network, 760 00:40:27,200 --> 00:40:30,000 Speaker 3: where faith centered podcasts help you grow deeper in your 761 00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:33,400 Speaker 3: walk with Christ. You can find more faith centered podcasts 762 00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:37,719 Speaker 3: at lifeaudio dot com. Until next time, be gentle with yourself, 763 00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:40,160 Speaker 3: stay curious, and trust God's promises. 764 00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:42,040 Speaker 4: He has freedom waiting for you