1 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:06,360 Speaker 1: Life audio. Hey, their friends had their creak more here. 2 00:00:06,400 --> 00:00:08,440 Speaker 1: I'm glad you were watching or listening that compared to 3 00:00:08,480 --> 00:00:11,720 Speaker 1: you podcasts. Today, we're in our special series called Waiting 4 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:16,920 Speaker 1: for Weight Loss. Today we're talking about fat versus feelings. 5 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:19,440 Speaker 1: What do you do when you just feel fat, when 6 00:00:19,440 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: you just can't stand it, when you just can't take 7 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:23,480 Speaker 1: it anymore, when it just has to change, or you 8 00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 1: feel like you'll die. That's where we're going today. One 9 00:00:37,440 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 1: kind of final concept that I want us to tackle 10 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:46,960 Speaker 1: is this concept of our fat and our feelings. Now, 11 00:00:48,200 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 1: some of us would say I feel fat. Some of 12 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:52,400 Speaker 1: us have read the meme and you know that's not 13 00:00:52,479 --> 00:00:55,520 Speaker 1: a feeling. Oh goodness. There's been lots of debate and 14 00:00:55,600 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 1: conversation around this, but I think we all generally understand 15 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:04,280 Speaker 1: that there are days so when you feel better about 16 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 1: your body and days when you feel worse about your body. 17 00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:12,319 Speaker 1: And so as we think about being on this journey 18 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 1: of waiting for weight loss but not making that the 19 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:18,640 Speaker 1: most important thing in our life, we also have to 20 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:20,959 Speaker 1: recognize that there are days when those feelings are just 21 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 1: going to overwhelm us. So that's where we're going today. 22 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 1: I'm glad you're here for it. Let's get to it. 23 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: So what do you do on a bad body image day? 24 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 1: Most of us would just call it a bad body day. 25 00:01:32,080 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 1: You wake up and I don't know, maybe you do 26 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 1: some body checking. Body checking is something we talk about 27 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 1: and work through in the fourty day Journey. The body 28 00:01:39,440 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: checking is you wake up and you feel your stomach, 29 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:44,440 Speaker 1: or you feel under your chin, or you feel your arms, 30 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 1: or you feel your thighs. There are body parts that 31 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:50,960 Speaker 1: you check. You wake up and you feel like, uh oh, 32 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 1: those parts feel a little different than they did yesterday, 33 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 1: and maybe a panic or maybe it just immediately puts 34 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: you in a lousy mood. You're like, I got the 35 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:09,920 Speaker 1: feeling today, blah, Like it sets you on a course today. 36 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:12,840 Speaker 1: I want to talk about, like, what do you do 37 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 1: when you just wake up feeling bad? When you wake 38 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: up consumed with what your body looks like or feels like. 39 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 1: And the first thing I want us to understand is, Okay, physically, 40 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:29,720 Speaker 1: our bodies are always changing. In fact, you know, you know, 41 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 1: sometimes you wake up in the morning you might feel 42 00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 1: like your stomach's flat, and then by two o'clock it 43 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 1: feels different, or even vice versa. Maybe you wake up 44 00:02:36,919 --> 00:02:39,640 Speaker 1: with a real full feeling, and then by two o'clock 45 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:44,360 Speaker 1: your stomach feels flatter. Like our bodies are constantly changing, right, 46 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 1: They are not the same from hour to hour or 47 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:50,280 Speaker 1: from day to day. Especially if you're a woman who's 48 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 1: still cycling. Start tracking your cycle and you will see 49 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 1: that you've got a couple of weeks out of the 50 00:02:56,760 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 1: month where maybe you feel and look a little thinner 51 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 1: or smaller or trimmer, and other weeks when you're just 52 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 1: like puffy. Well, if that's real, it's very real. But 53 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:17,920 Speaker 1: then there's this other angle to our body magissues, which 54 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 1: is just how we feel about our bodies. Because remember 55 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 1: we talked about this reality that body of magissues aren't 56 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: actually about how your body looks like. Sometimes you can 57 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 1: wake up you know it's supposed to be the best 58 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:32,880 Speaker 1: day of your month in terms of your cycle, and 59 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:37,160 Speaker 1: you feel like you've been eating well or exercising well 60 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 1: and your body should be feeling good. But because of 61 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 1: everything else going on in your life, you wake up 62 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:45,840 Speaker 1: and oh, you do not feel good about your body. 63 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:50,200 Speaker 1: What do you do? One daslike that. Well, here's a 64 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: couple of suggestions. Thing one is, first, I think It's 65 00:03:53,920 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: very important that we understand that so often, so many 66 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:06,120 Speaker 1: of us have been taught not consciously but subconsciously, that 67 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:08,920 Speaker 1: if there's a lot of chaos going on in our lives, 68 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 1: if there are things that are out of our control, 69 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 1: then we should turn to the one thing we can control. 70 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:16,760 Speaker 1: And I'm putting that in air quotes if you're listening 71 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:20,159 Speaker 1: instead of watching, and that is our bodies. And so 72 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:26,880 Speaker 1: often we have picked up and even inadvertently, this habit 73 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:31,360 Speaker 1: of all my word, my life is chaos. What can 74 00:04:31,400 --> 00:04:34,240 Speaker 1: I fix? I'm going to control my eating today, I'm 75 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:36,720 Speaker 1: going to control how to exercise today. I'm going to 76 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:38,919 Speaker 1: just focus on my body today and that'll make it better. 77 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 1: Now does it actually make it better? No? Of course 78 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 1: not right when you're having a problem with your teenager, right, 79 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:52,640 Speaker 1: and your husband and your job, and you turn all 80 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 1: your attention to like, well, I'm just going to eat 81 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:57,720 Speaker 1: healthy today and make sure that I get my work 82 00:04:57,760 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 1: out in Like, does that actually fix any of those things? 83 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:00,200 Speaker 2: Or? 84 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: Wrong? No, it doesn't. Right, And so what I would 85 00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:05,680 Speaker 1: say is thing one, if you wake up on a 86 00:05:05,720 --> 00:05:07,880 Speaker 1: bad body day, wake up and have a bad body day, 87 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:09,720 Speaker 1: you wake up and you're like Oh, I just feel 88 00:05:09,720 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 1: horribleut my body. I'm just obsessing over It's all I 89 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:14,000 Speaker 1: can think about. I just have to do something about 90 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:16,719 Speaker 1: it right now. I just have to go get liposection, 91 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 1: or I've got to start the shots, or I got 92 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:20,279 Speaker 1: to do something right now. I just can't take it anymore. 93 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: I can't stand it. I can't stand it. I'm miserable, 94 00:05:22,880 --> 00:05:27,480 Speaker 1: I'm frustrated. Oh, I'm just overwhelmed. I would encourage you 95 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:31,159 Speaker 1: to take a deep breath, I consider that that might 96 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 1: not actually be about your body, It's most likely about 97 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 1: something else, and then take a minute and very courageously 98 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:43,640 Speaker 1: say what else is going on in my life right now? 99 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:49,000 Speaker 1: What else? Oh? Could it be that big fight I 100 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:52,839 Speaker 1: just had with my parents? Could it be that I 101 00:05:52,920 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 1: just found this out about what my husband is doing secretly? 102 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:01,719 Speaker 1: Could it be that I just wits end with these children. 103 00:06:01,800 --> 00:06:06,000 Speaker 1: I don't know how to help them. Ask yourself, what 104 00:06:06,080 --> 00:06:10,360 Speaker 1: else is going on? Give yourself a minute or two, 105 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:16,479 Speaker 1: or ten or thirty to process through what these other 106 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:20,159 Speaker 1: situations are with the Lord, right, it's not enough just 107 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:22,840 Speaker 1: think about it and worry about it. Friend, Right, if 108 00:06:22,920 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 1: you can add a minute to your life by worrying. 109 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:28,760 Speaker 1: Worrying about it is not the same as praying about it, 110 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 1: and worrying about it is not going to help it 111 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:36,960 Speaker 1: or fix it right, but processing through with Jesus. 112 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:41,360 Speaker 2: Like cud, I'm frustrated about this, I'm angry about this, 113 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 2: I'm sad about this, I'm broken over this, I'm lost over. 114 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:51,839 Speaker 1: This, and feeling like you can feel all of those 115 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:55,520 Speaker 1: emotions whatever they are. You know, there's no bad emotions 116 00:06:56,600 --> 00:07:00,840 Speaker 1: right like negative emotions are okay, they are still emotions. 117 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:03,680 Speaker 1: God gave you a wide breadth of emotions, so you 118 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:07,000 Speaker 1: can feel them all. Now. There are ways to handle 119 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:11,559 Speaker 1: them appropriately, but feeling them is not a bad thing. 120 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:14,320 Speaker 1: And most women that I work with that have spent 121 00:07:14,360 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 1: a lot of time focused on their bodies and changing 122 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:20,400 Speaker 1: their bodies have a really hard time feeling feelings. I 123 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: would much rather the bad feeling comes and me turn 124 00:07:23,840 --> 00:07:26,200 Speaker 1: and start thinking about how to fix my body again. 125 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:30,440 Speaker 1: So what would it look like to sit in those feelings? 126 00:07:30,440 --> 00:07:32,840 Speaker 1: And maybe it's journaling, maybe it's writing out like kind 127 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:34,160 Speaker 1: I'm so upset about this. I don't know what to 128 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:36,920 Speaker 1: do about this, or maybe it's just verbalizing like Lord 129 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 1: help me. I don't know what to do. I'm lost, 130 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:44,800 Speaker 1: but feeling those feelings, allowing the Holy Spirit to come 131 00:07:44,840 --> 00:07:48,960 Speaker 1: in and comfort you and encourage your heart. Remind your 132 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: heart that you are safe in Christ. Right, remind you 133 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: of who you are in Christ. And try that, and 134 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 1: then see see how the rest the day goes. See 135 00:08:01,800 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 1: if perhaps those obsessive swirly tally I can't step thinking 136 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 1: about my body and how fat I am and how 137 00:08:07,080 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 1: it has to change right now. See if that doesn't 138 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 1: calm it down a little bit. Okay, that's idea one, 139 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 1: and I think it's probably the most important idea because 140 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 1: most of the time what we feel around our bodies 141 00:08:23,320 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: is actually about other things. It's not about our bodies. Okay, 142 00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 1: number two, what if it actually is about my body. 143 00:08:31,120 --> 00:08:35,720 Speaker 1: I'm in perimenopause, I have gained weight, I am aging, 144 00:08:36,400 --> 00:08:40,920 Speaker 1: things look different, things feel different. Ah, there's this reality 145 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:43,280 Speaker 1: here that my body is not the same as it 146 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:45,880 Speaker 1: was ten or twenty years ago. And I don't know 147 00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: what to do with that. What do you do with that? Friend? 148 00:08:52,040 --> 00:08:56,760 Speaker 1: It might almost be the same as my last suggestion. Right, 149 00:08:56,840 --> 00:09:02,280 Speaker 1: it's sitting in this reality of Wow, there are some 150 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:06,080 Speaker 1: things that are actually out of my control, Like aging. 151 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 1: I mean, I can use some creams and potions and 152 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:14,160 Speaker 1: you go get injections or whatever other options there are 153 00:09:14,200 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: out there. But at the end of the day, I 154 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:23,400 Speaker 1: am getting older. Time is going by. I'm no longer 155 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:28,000 Speaker 1: the teenager or the twenty something in the family picture. 156 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:31,520 Speaker 1: I'm old enough to be the grandma in that family 157 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:35,800 Speaker 1: picture now. And there's some wrestling that comes with that. 158 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:40,760 Speaker 1: There's some grieving that comes with that, recognizing I'm in 159 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 1: a new era of life. I'm at a new stage 160 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: of life and there's no going back but Froen. That's 161 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 1: when you have a choice to make. You can spend 162 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:52,240 Speaker 1: this whole new stage of life feeling frustrated that you're 163 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: not in the old stage of life, or you can 164 00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:59,200 Speaker 1: come and say, Okay, God, I see I know. I'm 165 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:02,800 Speaker 1: not twenty five. I'm not thirty five anymore. I'm closer 166 00:10:02,840 --> 00:10:06,360 Speaker 1: to sixty than I am the forty. What what do 167 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:10,080 Speaker 1: you have for me now? God helped me to be 168 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 1: content in this season. Show me what you have for 169 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:16,640 Speaker 1: me in this season. I wrote a book called Agent Gratefully. 170 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:20,240 Speaker 1: If you're watching on YouTube, it's behind me. So there's 171 00:10:20,480 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 1: more than ninety thousand copies of it out there friends, 172 00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:26,719 Speaker 1: So it's it's a good book I've heard, but it's 173 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 1: called Agent Gratefully. There's second version of it, oh, SQL 174 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 1: will be coming out in next year or so. But 175 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 1: it's a thirty day devotional on aging that can encourage 176 00:10:37,640 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 1: you if this is where you're at today, If you're 177 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 1: in the season of like, I'm freaking out because I 178 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:46,720 Speaker 1: can't control things like I used to. Things don't look 179 00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:50,679 Speaker 1: like they used to. This book will encourage you. But friend, 180 00:10:50,920 --> 00:11:00,280 Speaker 1: separate your actual feelings from your body, because here's the thing, right, yea, 181 00:11:01,559 --> 00:11:04,160 Speaker 1: how you feel about your body has nothing to do 182 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 1: with how your body looks. And some of you have 183 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:11,160 Speaker 1: experienced this, right, you know, like I feel great and 184 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:13,320 Speaker 1: I was in a bigger size than when I was 185 00:11:13,360 --> 00:11:18,400 Speaker 1: small and obsessing. Right, that's the truth. Confidence doesn't come 186 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:24,079 Speaker 1: from wearing a certain size. Confidence comes from Christ and 187 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 1: the freer you become to focus your life on how 188 00:11:28,160 --> 00:11:31,400 Speaker 1: and what He made you for doing other things, feeling 189 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:37,160 Speaker 1: alive in your purpose, feeling alive in loving others and 190 00:11:37,200 --> 00:11:41,679 Speaker 1: loving God. Getting your mind off yourself, and there's so 191 00:11:41,920 --> 00:11:45,360 Speaker 1: much freedom there that will allow you to wake up 192 00:11:45,360 --> 00:11:49,440 Speaker 1: in the morning not thinking about your body. Not thinking 193 00:11:49,480 --> 00:11:51,880 Speaker 1: about what you look like, but thinking about what does 194 00:11:51,920 --> 00:11:54,040 Speaker 1: God have for me to do today? God gave me 195 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:56,520 Speaker 1: another day on this planet. What does he want from 196 00:11:56,600 --> 00:12:00,080 Speaker 1: me today? What should I do to serve Him today? 197 00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:03,080 Speaker 1: And when that's when you find freedom from those worly, 198 00:12:03,200 --> 00:12:10,400 Speaker 1: truly swirly obsessive negative thoughts. If your words are I'm miserable. 199 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:13,480 Speaker 1: I can't stand it anymore, I can't take it anymore. 200 00:12:14,080 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 1: It's too bad. I can't leave the house. I can't 201 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:21,199 Speaker 1: fill in the blank here. Then, when you are obsessing 202 00:12:21,480 --> 00:12:25,480 Speaker 1: over your outsides, you're obsessing over your body in a 203 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:29,080 Speaker 1: way that goes far beyond stewardship to a place that 204 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:33,880 Speaker 1: may prove that you've made this an idol. Weight loss 205 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 1: is a fine goal, but it's a terrible god. And 206 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:43,280 Speaker 1: when the goal becomes so important to us that we 207 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: feel like we just can't make it without reaching that goal, 208 00:12:46,880 --> 00:12:52,160 Speaker 1: that's a problem. I think of Rachel. Remember Jacob's story 209 00:12:52,280 --> 00:12:55,760 Speaker 1: with Rachel and Leah. Rachel was the more beautiful sister, 210 00:12:56,040 --> 00:12:59,440 Speaker 1: but in Genesis thirty one, she says, give me a 211 00:12:59,559 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 1: baby or I'll die. Give me children or I'll die, 212 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:08,680 Speaker 1: and her demand shows how she's lost her peace. She's 213 00:13:08,720 --> 00:13:13,080 Speaker 1: lost her joy. She's so obsessed with this idol, and 214 00:13:13,200 --> 00:13:16,960 Speaker 1: Jacob doesn't reply to her very kindly. But is that 215 00:13:17,080 --> 00:13:19,880 Speaker 1: what we're doing too? Are we saying, give me weight 216 00:13:19,920 --> 00:13:24,680 Speaker 1: loss or I'll die? Man? The idol of weight loss 217 00:13:25,480 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 1: can become a ruthless task master, making us feel like 218 00:13:29,600 --> 00:13:32,400 Speaker 1: unless we obey it, unless we serve it, unless we 219 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:36,480 Speaker 1: achieve it will not be good enough. We'll not make it, 220 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:40,320 Speaker 1: we'll die and friend, that's how we know we've made 221 00:13:40,320 --> 00:13:42,760 Speaker 1: it an idol, And that's when we have to go back. 222 00:13:42,840 --> 00:13:46,240 Speaker 1: Remember those four exhales at the beginning of the series, 223 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:48,079 Speaker 1: or maybe there were only three of them, but that's 224 00:13:48,120 --> 00:13:50,760 Speaker 1: when we need to go back and remember those exhales 225 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 1: that you're already accepted, you have a purpose, you're already loved, 226 00:13:56,080 --> 00:14:01,520 Speaker 1: seen and known. Losing weight does not change your value. 227 00:14:02,480 --> 00:14:06,320 Speaker 1: You're turning to body change for your salvation and it's 228 00:14:06,400 --> 00:14:08,360 Speaker 1: not going to change it. You're not going to feel 229 00:14:08,440 --> 00:14:10,560 Speaker 1: less miserable as soon as you get the skinny body. 230 00:14:11,679 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 1: This problem is not about your body. It's about what's 231 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 1: going on in your heart. How is your heart oriented? 232 00:14:20,120 --> 00:14:22,280 Speaker 1: So there's a fantastic book by Tim Keller called the 233 00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:25,320 Speaker 1: freedom of self forgetfulness. I recommend it to all of 234 00:14:25,360 --> 00:14:29,800 Speaker 1: my coaching clients because the concept is it's not really 235 00:14:29,840 --> 00:14:32,520 Speaker 1: that you're going to be free once you reach that 236 00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:35,480 Speaker 1: goal weight. You might feel a little better, health might 237 00:14:35,520 --> 00:14:37,600 Speaker 1: be a little better. Sure, all those things great, no 238 00:14:37,680 --> 00:14:40,560 Speaker 1: problem with that, right, But if you are living that 239 00:14:40,800 --> 00:14:43,280 Speaker 1: we talked about this in last episode, that's self focused, 240 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:47,520 Speaker 1: insular life where the most important thing in your life 241 00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:49,120 Speaker 1: is your body and taking care of your body and 242 00:14:49,160 --> 00:14:51,560 Speaker 1: your health and your health goals and your weight goals. 243 00:14:51,880 --> 00:14:55,760 Speaker 1: If you are living that life, you don't suddenly get 244 00:14:55,800 --> 00:14:58,640 Speaker 1: free from that when you lose weight. In fact, there 245 00:14:58,640 --> 00:15:01,280 Speaker 1: are actual studies out there that so that it gets worse. 246 00:15:01,680 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 1: Body of magicians get worse for women that use a 247 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:08,240 Speaker 1: significant lose a significant amount of weight, Women that maybe 248 00:15:08,400 --> 00:15:11,720 Speaker 1: never obsessed that much before, lose a significant amount of 249 00:15:11,720 --> 00:15:14,360 Speaker 1: weight and start obsessing over their body like never before. 250 00:15:15,440 --> 00:15:18,200 Speaker 1: It's not the paths of freedom. The paths of freedom 251 00:15:18,640 --> 00:15:22,040 Speaker 1: is not self neglect. To listen to the difference, but 252 00:15:22,080 --> 00:15:26,920 Speaker 1: it's self forgetfulness. It's waking up in the morning and 253 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:29,160 Speaker 1: you have to lay it down every morning, you really do, 254 00:15:29,680 --> 00:15:31,560 Speaker 1: and after a while it becomes easier. But it's waking 255 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:33,680 Speaker 1: up and instead of feeling your stomach and feeling your 256 00:15:33,720 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 1: chin and feeling your arms and be like, oh my body, 257 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:38,040 Speaker 1: Oh my body. I'm so stressed about my body. I 258 00:15:38,040 --> 00:15:39,520 Speaker 1: look so awful on what to wait today and how 259 00:15:39,520 --> 00:15:42,240 Speaker 1: to exposs today. Instead of doing that, It's okay, God, 260 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:44,480 Speaker 1: my body is yours. Tell me how to use it today, 261 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:46,640 Speaker 1: tell me what you want me to do with it today. 262 00:15:47,120 --> 00:15:50,040 Speaker 1: I am going to take these thoughts captive. I'm not 263 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:51,680 Speaker 1: going to focus on my body today. I'm going to 264 00:15:51,720 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: focus on you and what you made me for and 265 00:15:53,600 --> 00:15:56,080 Speaker 1: what you have for me to do today. And that's 266 00:15:56,080 --> 00:16:00,440 Speaker 1: the secret. That's a secret to not feeling fat. Hey, 267 00:16:00,440 --> 00:16:02,480 Speaker 1: thanks for listening today. You can still join us in 268 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:05,200 Speaker 1: the Waiting for Weight Loss community. We'd love to see there, 269 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:07,280 Speaker 1: and I hope you'll join us on the forty Day Journey. 270 00:16:07,280 --> 00:16:09,280 Speaker 1: I think that'll be encouraging to you. It starts in 271 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:11,960 Speaker 1: just a week. You can learn more at improve Budymange 272 00:16:12,000 --> 00:16:13,960 Speaker 1: dot com look for the forty Day Journey TEP. 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