WEBVTT - The Missing Tile Syndrome and the Power of Gratitude | Happiness Hour 0:00:02.680 --> 0:00:03.600 Life Audio. 0:00:04.400 --> 0:00:08.920 In today's episode of Timeless Wisdom, what is. 0:00:08.840 --> 0:00:12.639 The missing tile syndrome? I have a crew in here 0:00:12.720 --> 0:00:18.239 right now videoing me for a documentary on happiness, and 0:00:18.280 --> 0:00:21.639 they asked me, what is your subject? You may know 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:24.759 crewe I am in for total transparency whatever goes on here. 0:00:24.800 --> 0:00:30.000 I tell my listeners anyway, what's your subject? I said, 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:33.680 the missing tile syndrome. And because the guy who's directing 0:00:33.680 --> 0:00:37.640 his Canadian, I excuse him for not knowing what that meant. 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:41.400 All Americans by now should know. But he didn't. So 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:44.240 I said, look at the ceiling in my studio, which 0:00:44.280 --> 0:00:47.880 happens to be tiles. He said, all right, And I said, 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:51.760 now I want you to imagine that just one tile 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:55.280 we're missing, what would you be staring at? And he said, 0:00:55.280 --> 0:00:59.160 the missing tile. The missing tile syndrome is when we 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:02.400 focus on the one thing we don't have. 0:01:02.600 --> 0:01:06.640 That's coming off on Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Welcome 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:10.959 to Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Here thousands of hours 0:01:10.959 --> 0:01:14.319 of Dennis's lectures courses in classic radio programs. Had to 0:01:14.319 --> 0:01:18.920 purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles. Go to Dennisprager dot com. 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:22.880 It's the Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy Hour. Nobody expected me 0:01:22.920 --> 0:01:25.679 to do it, then they always expect it on the 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:29.880 second time around. Hey, everybody, it's the Happiness Hour of 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:32.119 the Dennis Prager Show. And no matter what is happening 0:01:32.120 --> 0:01:36.399 in America or the world, LIFs vermin spinning of the 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:40.440 first born blood No, no, little, I meant blood in 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:43.840 the Nile. Here we go. Come on, everybody America, join me. 0:01:43.880 --> 0:01:47.039 And in fact the German listener group too. It's the 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:50.280 happy It's the clticleish gluiculish Hour. Yes it is. It's 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:59.280 the crilticliss blitulishlalt burkish Hour. All right, everybody, why do 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:02.120 I do an hour every week on happiness? Happy people 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:05.280 make the world better? As simple as that. Okay, this 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:08.799 is I am making a war on the miserable. I am, 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:11.760 and those of you who inflict bad moods on others 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:18.200 please know that that is identical to inflicting bad breath 0:02:18.280 --> 0:02:22.560 on others or bad body odor. You owe it to 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:24.560 the world to be in a good mood. You owe 0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:27.200 it to the world to shower. That's the way it works. 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:30.920 It's a moral obligation to your children, to your parents, 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:33.280 to your spouse, to your friends, to your co worker, 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:36.279 to the person sitting next to you in the airplane 0:02:36.520 --> 0:02:39.840 or on the airplane. Is it on the airplane or 0:02:39.880 --> 0:02:47.720 in the airplane. I'm serious, the person sitting next to 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:53.360 you on the airplane or in the airplane, okay, and 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:57.679 anybody else in your life. That's the point. It is 0:02:57.720 --> 0:03:00.600 a moral obligation. Hi, everybody, this is Dennis Prager Happiness 0:03:00.600 --> 0:03:02.799 Hour every week at this time, come hella, high water 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:09.320 and now and now today's subject. Today's subject is one 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:15.440 that Allan the Alan has been badgering me to talk 0:03:15.440 --> 0:03:18.000 about for so long, and I keep saying, oh, but Alan, 0:03:18.040 --> 0:03:21.040 I've already discussed it is Dennis. That was years ago. 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:24.600 And he said that years ago, so now it's really 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:29.359 years ago. Actually, this is a big one. And I'll 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:31.840 tell you how I know, because the truth is, I 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:35.240 don't always know. I get feedback from you, folks, And 0:03:35.360 --> 0:03:39.800 here is an example. I would say that along with 0:03:40.240 --> 0:03:43.440 perhaps the chapter in my happiness book, Happiness is the 0:03:43.480 --> 0:03:45.960 serious problem is the name of the book. If you 0:03:46.040 --> 0:03:48.440 got to use copy for a dollar, that's fine with me, 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:54.120 just please read it. But I get feedback that in 0:03:54.280 --> 0:03:58.240 Happiness is a serious problem the chapter that most touches people, 0:03:58.400 --> 0:04:02.120 and I hope they all do. But if people isolate 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:06.320 one more than any other, are there I guess two 0:04:06.360 --> 0:04:10.840 were tied. One is to not have expectations and the 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:14.720 other is the missing tile syndrome. So it is time 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:20.520 to offer my thoughts on the missing tile syndrome, as 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:23.440 well as some new thoughts on the subject, since we 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:27.960 all live longer than we did. If we're still living 0:04:28.839 --> 0:04:32.720 and we get new thoughts or deeper thoughts, what is 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:36.560 the missing tile syndrome? I have a crew in here 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:42.120 right now videoing me for a documentary on happiness, and 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:45.880 they asked me, what is your subject? You may know, crew, 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:48.680 I am in for total transparency whatever goes on here. 0:04:48.720 --> 0:04:53.880 I tell my listeners anyway, what's your subject? I said, 0:04:53.920 --> 0:04:58.240 the missing tile syndrome. And because the guy's directing his Canadian, 0:04:58.320 --> 0:05:01.880 I excuse him for not knowing what that meant. All 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:05.680 Americans by now should know. But he didn't. So I said, 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:08.680 look at the ceiling in my studio, which happens to 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:12.719 be tiles. He said, all right, And I said, now 0:05:13.839 --> 0:05:17.240 I want you to imagine that just one tile we're missing. 0:05:18.680 --> 0:05:20.839 What would you be staring at and he said, the 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:26.040 missing tile. The missing tile syndrome is when we focus 0:05:26.320 --> 0:05:33.680 on the one thing we don't have, and that is folks. 0:05:34.200 --> 0:05:36.839 It is so natural. There are so many ways of 0:05:36.880 --> 0:05:40.760 putting this. I am chilled, I really am. I have 0:05:40.839 --> 0:05:45.880 goosebumps at how important this is. It is such. It's 0:05:45.920 --> 0:05:51.920 a truism. No matter how much you have, you focus 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:55.080 on what is missing. I do too. By the way, 0:05:55.240 --> 0:05:57.600 it's not when I say you, I am a member 0:05:57.680 --> 0:06:01.520 of this group of humanity if folks, if I didn't 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:07.000 have these issues, I couldn't have written my book. That 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:09.680 book was as much about me as it is about you. 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:12.360 The only difference is I've thought it through and I 0:06:12.400 --> 0:06:15.640 have tried to put these principles into practice, and they work. 0:06:17.320 --> 0:06:21.520 I am not a happy dispositioned person because I haven't suffered. 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:25.520 I am a happy dispositioned person because I have implemented 0:06:25.560 --> 0:06:28.480 the ideas that I give to you every week. By 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:35.080 the way, parenthetical point, the unhappy think that those walking 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:39.160 around with a happy disposition have had less pain than 0:06:39.200 --> 0:06:44.479 they do. So I have a very important point to 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:50.240 make to those of you who are unhappy. The happy 0:06:51.520 --> 0:06:56.760 have not suffered less than the unhappy. They have chosen 0:06:57.200 --> 0:07:03.680 not to allow that pain to make them miserable. There 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:08.279 are a handful of exceptions. I mean, if you have 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:17.080 lost your family to a band of rapist murderers, I 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:20.440 have to stay mum. I cannot There were certain levels 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:23.200 of suffering to which I cannot address. I will tell 0:07:23.200 --> 0:07:25.880 you though, and then I'm getting back to the missing 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:33.280 tiles syndrome. I knew a family and this couple lost 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:37.200 all three of their sons to a same form I 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:41.760 think of cancer. It was just congenital all in their 0:07:41.840 --> 0:07:47.400 early twenties or late teens. If you met this couple, 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:54.160 you would never ever know what they have endured, the 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:58.480 deaths of all of their children in the most terrific way. 0:07:58.560 --> 0:08:00.520 It's not like a car crash that to goal three, 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:04.400 which is also horrific, obviously, but where they saw it 0:08:04.440 --> 0:08:13.720 coming through. No no bad thing that anybody had done anyway. 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:16.200 My only point is that if these people could walk 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:19.320 around with a pleasant and happy disposition, I think the 0:08:19.360 --> 0:08:24.080 rest of us can. Now back to the missing tile 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:28.760 syndrome the human nature, and I very rarely note this. 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:34.120 There is a sub There is a what is it? 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:36.800 Subtitle to the title of my book it's called a 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:41.160 human nature repair manual because my thesis is that you 0:08:41.280 --> 0:08:44.000 have to fight your nature to be happy. Human nature 0:08:44.000 --> 0:08:49.240 makes you miserable. Everybody is born with human nature. That's 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:52.960 why it's called human nature, not your nature, and we 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:55.839 all have to battle it to be happy. Part of 0:08:55.960 --> 0:09:00.240 human nature is to focus on what we are missing. Now, 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:02.880 how did I learn this? Some of you know the answer, 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:08.280 but many don't. It was in fact told to me 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:15.840 by a bald man who told me many many years ago, Dennis, 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:17.880 I want you to know, when I walk into a room, 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:24.679 all I see is hair, and that man opened my 0:09:24.800 --> 0:09:29.480 eyes to a phenomenon. I never see hair when I 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:32.880 walk into a room because I have my hair. I 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:36.160 therefore never think about it. I am sure if I 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:39.600 were bald, I would have a very similar view. By 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:43.640 the way, the brilliance of that comment is that it 0:09:43.679 --> 0:09:46.600 applies to whatever you think is missing. A woman who 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:50.720 wants children, all she sees are babies. Talk to a 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:53.400 woman who wants to get pregnant and is having trouble, 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:56.080 and she will tell you all her friends are pregnant. 0:09:56.160 --> 0:10:00.520 Everywhere she goes, she sees baby carriages and babies. The 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:04.240 rest of us don't see babies everywhere. People who want 0:10:04.240 --> 0:10:10.959 babies see babies everywhere. Whatever it is. You don't have 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:14.880 a woman who thinks that her thighs are a little 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:17.400 too heavy or a lot too heavy. All she sees 0:10:17.440 --> 0:10:21.320 when she sees women, are thin thighs. The world is 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:27.160 composed of thin thighs. There is no exception to this. 0:10:27.520 --> 0:10:32.360 Whatever it is that people want. People you're having trouble 0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:35.520 with your kid, all you see are well developed, happy 0:10:35.640 --> 0:10:40.360 kids around. Everybody has a fine, happy child except me. 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:43.800 That's the way people who have It doesn't matter what 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:48.240 it is. It does not matter what it is that 0:10:48.679 --> 0:10:52.480 is human nature. Now it's time for you to call 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:55.760 to verify what I say, to ask about what I say, 0:10:56.559 --> 0:11:01.920 to ask how you combat it, whatever is on your mind. 0:11:02.040 --> 0:11:04.440 How in fact, if you can give me more examples 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:07.880 of how you experience the missing tile syndrome, I can 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:09.800 then bring it to others and you will have done 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:13.760 a service. Maybe you differ, maybe you think that that's 0:11:13.800 --> 0:11:15.960 not true. I can't imagine, though. I think this is 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:20.240 so universal that it's hard for me. I've I've never 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:23.079 encountered somebody who said, g I don't know what you're 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:28.280 talking about. One eight Prager seven seven six is the 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:32.320 number one eight p R A G E R seven 0:11:32.559 --> 0:11:36.200 seven six, which is eight seven seven two four three 0:11:36.400 --> 0:11:40.080 triple seven six. What is it in your life that 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:45.280 would constitute that missing tile? It's perfectly wonderful sealing, except 0:11:45.360 --> 0:11:48.400 for the one missing tile. I'm Dennis Prager. This is 0:11:48.440 --> 0:11:49.280 the Happiness Hour. 0:11:50.120 --> 0:11:53.480 This episode of timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 0:11:58.960 --> 0:12:03.679 Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom. 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:09.040 Shout al Aluijah, Come on, get happy, get ready for 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:12.120 the judgment. You're listening to the Happiness Hour on the 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:16.040 Dennis Prager Show. One eight Prager seven seven six. The 0:12:16.120 --> 0:12:20.120 subject is the missing tile syndrome. And I will tell 0:12:20.160 --> 0:12:24.760 you it's it's interesting. I love when people who have 0:12:24.880 --> 0:12:28.800 not heard me hear me, because then I am revived 0:12:29.320 --> 0:12:33.600 in my understanding of how important the and life changing 0:12:33.640 --> 0:12:36.160 a lot of these ideas are. I told you there's 0:12:36.160 --> 0:12:39.040 a film crew in here right now filming the show 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:44.520 for a documentary on happiness, and some were saying, you know, 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:47.600 had not they had not thought about this. People don't 0:12:47.600 --> 0:12:52.400 think about this. Who thinks through happiness systematically? Very few? 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:57.160 Because people think it's a feeling. My service to you 0:12:57.559 --> 0:13:02.680 is that I, as it were, deacons struct happiness. Here 0:13:02.720 --> 0:13:08.040 are the aspects of it that make you happy or unhappy, 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:12.240 and so that way you don't rely on feelings alone. 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:15.160 We all have feelings of happiness. My point is that's 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:18.120 not enough. That it is the mind that has to 0:13:18.200 --> 0:13:22.959 direct our happiness, not the feelings. All right, So the 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:26.240 point here is the missing tile. Whatever you don't have, 0:13:26.440 --> 0:13:28.480 or think you don't have. You may even have it, 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:31.760 but think you don't have is the thing that you 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:35.880 concentrate on most. We don't concentrate most on what we 0:13:36.000 --> 0:13:42.200 do have. That's as simple as that. And I told 0:13:42.200 --> 0:13:44.360 you how I learned it. A man so many years 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:47.000 ago said that he was a bald man who told 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:48.839 me that whenever he walks into a room, all he 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:53.600 sees his hair, he is missing hair. All he sees 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:58.839 his hair, you are missing X or Y or Z. 0:13:59.160 --> 0:14:01.800 All you see is Y or Z. By the way, 0:14:01.840 --> 0:14:04.600 you may not even really be missing it. I mean 0:14:04.640 --> 0:14:07.040 the case of bald men. I have all my hair, 0:14:07.080 --> 0:14:09.760 so I have no vested interest here. So you can 0:14:10.000 --> 0:14:12.040 you can certainly believe what I'm about to say. I 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:15.400 think that a lot of bald men way way way 0:14:15.880 --> 0:14:20.360 exaggerate its significance, including in the eyes of the opposite sex. 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:25.800 But it doesn't matter. Men want their hair by and large, 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:28.240 and that's the way they've thought about it. Although today 0:14:28.280 --> 0:14:31.840 bald is in more than I think certainly I ever 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:34.640 recalled it in the past, after they all used to 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:38.040 wear wigs. Right, we didn't know who was bald. We 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:39.960 don't know how many of the founding fathers were bald. 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:43.600 They all had wigs on. It would be odd, wouldn't 0:14:43.600 --> 0:14:48.760 it a bald I don't know. Thomas Jefferson just who knows. 0:14:48.800 --> 0:14:51.400 Maybe he was, I don't know if he was. All right, 0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:55.680 won aight Prager seven seven six and let's go to 0:14:56.360 --> 0:15:02.280 carry in Minneapolis, Minnesota, carriedn Thanks for calling, hello. 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:06.720 I just wanted to call and just speak to this notion. 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:08.560 I do have the book, I just haven't gotten to 0:15:08.640 --> 0:15:12.120 that chapter yet. But this is really new to me. 0:15:12.720 --> 0:15:16.440 And I had the syndrome and am now cured of 0:15:16.480 --> 0:15:20.240 this syndrome. I was a teen mom and a single mom, 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:25.400 and lived in poverty for many years and really believed 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:29.480 I was the have not and really focused everything and 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:32.480 bought into the mentality that I was a victim, and 0:15:32.560 --> 0:15:35.720 I don't have it, and there's behalves. 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:39.120 And that everybody else does, yes, And. 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:42.400 I actually it actually a symptom of that too, was 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:45.200 I started to have the symptom of entitlement, like I 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:48.680 was entitled to have these things, and became very active 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:52.120 in pursuing why didn't I get my twenty three dollars 0:15:52.160 --> 0:15:55.280 of food stamps? Why did they short me ten dollars 0:15:55.280 --> 0:15:57.960 of my AFDC check that I'm supposed to get on 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:00.440 the first of the month. And instead of focusing on 0:16:00.560 --> 0:16:02.840 the other four hundred and twenty two dollars I did get, 0:16:02.920 --> 0:16:06.200 I was focused on the money that I was shorted. 0:16:06.320 --> 0:16:11.920 And really, you know, every every day and every every 0:16:12.000 --> 0:16:14.240 day with survival, every day with focus. 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:15.160 How did you get out of it? 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:19.480 While I went to school and no. 0:16:19.320 --> 0:16:21.080 No, no, not out of poverty. How did you get 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:22.600 out of the missing tile syndrome? 0:16:23.920 --> 0:16:26.640 I guess I just had a new phone appreciation for 0:16:27.240 --> 0:16:31.000 what you had, faith and family and just you know, 0:16:31.120 --> 0:16:33.600 all the blessing and blessings that God has given me. 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:36.160 My little girl. I'm a mother of five children. I'm 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:39.360 thirty four years old. I was raising five children before 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:40.600 I was twenty six years ago. 0:16:40.840 --> 0:16:42.280 Are you married now by any chance? 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:45.200 I'm married now for seven years. 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:48.800 Well, that's beautiful. That is beautiful, all right. By the way, 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:52.040 you know, there's no politics on the Happiness Hour, but 0:16:52.120 --> 0:16:54.600 I would just raise this issue, and there really isn't. 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:59.440 I'm quite adamant about that. This is a politics free zone, 0:16:59.440 --> 0:17:03.800 the Happiness Hour. But it is worth asking if, in fact, 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:08.960 the missing tile syndrome creates unhappiness, and of course it does. 0:17:10.040 --> 0:17:14.919 Is there any political philosophy that is more or less 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:20.560 likely to create a missing tile syndrome in people? I'll 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:22.199 just leave it at that, and it's just something to 0:17:22.240 --> 0:17:27.280 think about. One A. Praeger seven seven six, And let's 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:31.840 go to uh. Let's see here line four, which doesn't 0:17:31.840 --> 0:17:34.960 help anybody always whenever people do that talk show host 0:17:34.960 --> 0:17:39.440 that gets me annoyed, Who cares what line number? It is? Right, 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:48.440 all right? Line four in the world famous Wasilla, Alaska, 0:17:48.480 --> 0:17:53.600 the most famous little city in America. Hello, Jake, hi, 0:17:53.720 --> 0:17:54.600 ja hi. 0:17:55.000 --> 0:17:59.920 Hey, You're talking about this problem, this syndrome as though 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:02.080 it only has a cure. I have a vaccine for you. 0:18:02.680 --> 0:18:03.760 Oh good man. 0:18:05.600 --> 0:18:07.040 I see this all the time. I see it with 0:18:07.080 --> 0:18:08.680 my friends you know, I don't know how many other 0:18:08.720 --> 0:18:10.920 men out there have wives that every time you get 0:18:10.960 --> 0:18:15.400 in a fight or or even an argument. Every one 0:18:15.440 --> 0:18:19.440 of our friends has idyllic marriages. And our marriage is 0:18:19.800 --> 0:18:22.879 falling apart because we have a little fight. Obviously, it's 0:18:22.880 --> 0:18:25.120 a transient thing. But the way that we got out 0:18:25.160 --> 0:18:27.920 of that pattern, and it's been years now, the way 0:18:27.920 --> 0:18:29.560 that we got out of that pattern is by making 0:18:29.640 --> 0:18:32.639 a point to give, almost in a list form, to 0:18:32.680 --> 0:18:35.400 give thanks for the things that we have. And it's 0:18:35.400 --> 0:18:37.760 like counting the tiles that are there on the phone. 0:18:37.840 --> 0:18:45.760 That's correct. The vaccine is gratitude correct. Yeah, absolutely, good man. 0:18:46.480 --> 0:18:49.919 By the way, he is absolutely right on the couple's issue. 0:18:49.960 --> 0:18:54.240 And I have a chapter on that very subject, but 0:18:54.520 --> 0:18:58.280 it's it's not in the chapter on missing tile syndrome. 0:18:58.320 --> 0:19:04.560 It's in the chapter on comparing ourselves to others. You 0:19:04.600 --> 0:19:07.560 are listening to the Happiness Hour on the Dennis Prager Show. 0:19:10.760 --> 0:19:14.119 This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 0:19:22.240 --> 0:19:26.800 Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom. 0:19:26.840 --> 0:19:32.400 It's so important to make someone happy, Make just one 0:19:33.240 --> 0:19:42.000 someone happy, make just one had the heart you you sing. 0:19:41.880 --> 0:19:48.720 To one smile that cheers you. 0:19:47.760 --> 0:19:55.640 One facetown lights when it needs one, your your everything. 0:19:55.840 --> 0:20:02.399 Thank you, Jimmy Dennis Trager here f the bailout was 0:20:02.520 --> 0:20:06.399 just passed by the US House of Representatives. But we 0:20:06.520 --> 0:20:09.480 continue with the Happiness Hour, just letting you know the news, 0:20:09.560 --> 0:20:13.359 so that shall increase your happiness. I just see you 0:20:13.400 --> 0:20:17.960 all jumping up and down talking about that's what the 0:20:18.000 --> 0:20:21.439 market is doing, is jumping up and down, in other words, 0:20:21.440 --> 0:20:25.080 the prices. The market is up and the market is down. 0:20:26.400 --> 0:20:28.239 My friends, I'll tell you this, if we do go 0:20:28.320 --> 0:20:34.600 through a difficult time economically. I mean this just with sincerity, 0:20:34.640 --> 0:20:38.800 the Happiness Hour will take on even greater importance. If 0:20:38.800 --> 0:20:41.359 it was important during the good times, it will be 0:20:41.440 --> 0:20:48.760 certainly important during the bad times. And so that is 0:20:49.200 --> 0:20:53.040 just a thought tying the two together, the Happiness Hour 0:20:53.119 --> 0:20:55.120 and the news. We'll talk about, of course that we'll 0:20:55.119 --> 0:20:57.360 talk about that in the last night's debate when we 0:20:58.040 --> 0:21:02.760 come back next hour and re enter the prosaic problems 0:21:02.760 --> 0:21:06.040 of life. But this is the real reality of the happiness. 0:21:06.160 --> 0:21:11.960 We're talking about, the happiness issue of the missing tile syndrome. 0:21:12.359 --> 0:21:14.639 We focus on what we don't have. Here comes a 0:21:14.680 --> 0:21:19.359 perfect example. I believe Susan in Englewood, Colorado. Hi, this 0:21:19.400 --> 0:21:20.240 is Dennis Prager. 0:21:20.680 --> 0:21:21.919 Hi, Dennis, this is Susan. 0:21:22.160 --> 0:21:22.360 Hi. 0:21:22.600 --> 0:21:23.480 Nice to talk to you. 0:21:23.720 --> 0:21:24.119 Thank you. 0:21:24.560 --> 0:21:27.520 I have to tell you. I was thirty six years 0:21:27.520 --> 0:21:29.760 old and the clock was ticking, and I wanted to 0:21:29.800 --> 0:21:33.119 be married more than anything. And I was working. I 0:21:33.200 --> 0:21:34.960 was a teacher, and in the summer I took a 0:21:35.000 --> 0:21:39.159 little job as a checkout girl at a grocery store. 0:21:39.760 --> 0:21:42.120 And you see people in their purses in their hands, 0:21:42.160 --> 0:21:46.520 and I would notice everyone's wedding ring m and I thought, 0:21:46.600 --> 0:21:48.560 how that is a mary you. 0:21:48.600 --> 0:21:52.400 Have I'm not you have given me as powerful an 0:21:52.400 --> 0:21:54.800 example as the bald man. 0:21:56.880 --> 0:21:57.240 Thank you. 0:21:58.880 --> 0:21:59.000 All. 0:21:59.200 --> 0:22:00.720 She saw wedding. 0:22:00.520 --> 0:22:03.880 Bands, yep, And I thought, and I would see women 0:22:03.920 --> 0:22:07.199 that I thought, I'm competitive with her. I'm I'm not 0:22:07.480 --> 0:22:11.960 terrible looking, and she's just okay looking. How come of 0:22:12.040 --> 0:22:12.720 course married? 0:22:12.720 --> 0:22:13.119 And I'm not. 0:22:13.320 --> 0:22:16.480 What's what's looking here? What's wrong? And everyone was married? 0:22:16.600 --> 0:22:17.600 And what did you do? 0:22:18.640 --> 0:22:21.560 Well, I'll tell you. I remember. It's been a while now, 0:22:21.560 --> 0:22:24.159 but I remember the day that I was sitting on 0:22:24.160 --> 0:22:26.960 my couch and I had a big cozy blanket around me, 0:22:27.359 --> 0:22:30.439 the television on, and I was eating dinner, sitting on 0:22:30.480 --> 0:22:33.320 the couch in my pajamas with that blanket, with the 0:22:33.359 --> 0:22:36.679 remote in my hand, and I thought, you know, I 0:22:36.760 --> 0:22:39.680 need to really enjoy this. This is cozy and it's 0:22:39.760 --> 0:22:42.439 and it's nice, and you don't get this when you're married. 0:22:43.040 --> 0:22:45.680 I'll tell you. Within four months I was engaged with it, 0:22:46.880 --> 0:22:49.560 six months I was married, and within the year I 0:22:49.600 --> 0:22:52.000 had a baby. And now eight years. 0:22:51.880 --> 0:22:54.439 Later, and now you look at all these women without 0:22:54.480 --> 0:22:57.840 wedding bands and think, oh wow, sit. 0:22:57.760 --> 0:22:58.359 On the couch. 0:23:00.080 --> 0:23:02.280 Now I sit on a hard table, eating dinner and 0:23:02.320 --> 0:23:03.960 my husband has the remote in hiss hands. 0:23:05.359 --> 0:23:07.600 That's that's a great story. 0:23:08.680 --> 0:23:10.960 But I think I was just you know, great. 0:23:11.119 --> 0:23:14.159 By the way, here's the point. Though you were able, 0:23:15.000 --> 0:23:19.320 your story is even more powerful for this reason you 0:23:19.680 --> 0:23:23.280 with the day you decided to be happy in your situation, 0:23:23.720 --> 0:23:24.760 you attracted a man. 0:23:25.359 --> 0:23:25.840 That's right. 0:23:26.640 --> 0:23:27.120 That's right. 0:23:27.400 --> 0:23:30.359 I tell singles who want to get married that the 0:23:30.440 --> 0:23:33.240 happier you can be in your single state, the more 0:23:33.359 --> 0:23:37.040 likely you are to get married. The iron irony of ironies. 0:23:37.200 --> 0:23:40.080 And I want people to get married, but I also 0:23:40.119 --> 0:23:42.320 want people to be happy whether they're married or not. 0:23:43.320 --> 0:23:46.879 That's right. Got a great story. God bless you. That's 0:23:47.040 --> 0:23:51.400 that's just terrific. You're welcome. That's that's a treasure one. 0:23:52.600 --> 0:23:56.040 I'm telling you, folks, this is not rocket science. Happy 0:23:56.040 --> 0:24:01.119 people attract people. I'm tempted to say the following hello, 0:24:01.640 --> 0:24:04.600 but I won't. I don't. I don't like that, so 0:24:04.680 --> 0:24:13.520 I won't go hello. You know, the film crew is 0:24:13.560 --> 0:24:16.320 probably thinking that I'm doing this because they're here. They 0:24:16.320 --> 0:24:22.359 don't know that this is how I am normally. Oh, 0:24:23.480 --> 0:24:26.160 is that the truth? You want? You want to bring 0:24:26.200 --> 0:24:30.119 people into your life? Act happy? Somebody? What was it? 0:24:30.200 --> 0:24:34.040 What was it? Somebody either wrote some essay or somebody 0:24:34.119 --> 0:24:37.360 sent me a letter. Oh my god. You could tell 0:24:37.359 --> 0:24:40.800 they were a bunch of intellectuals. They wanted to know. Well, Dennis, 0:24:40.840 --> 0:24:44.760 it's we We agree, but it's not really authentic to 0:24:44.920 --> 0:24:48.879 walk around in the an elated state. So what do 0:24:48.960 --> 0:24:52.520 you mean by act happy? You need to go to 0:24:52.560 --> 0:24:58.040 graduate school to ask those questions. I'm serious. We We 0:24:58.240 --> 0:25:01.919 shall return momentarily on the Happiness Hour on the Dennis 0:25:01.920 --> 0:25:02.520 Prager Show. 0:25:04.840 --> 0:25:09.080 Dennis, I just wanted to call and say I'm trying 0:25:09.080 --> 0:25:11.320 to have to get too emotional because you have changed 0:25:11.359 --> 0:25:13.960 my life. I have read your books. I listened to 0:25:13.960 --> 0:25:15.480 your Timeless Wisdom. 0:25:15.119 --> 0:25:20.120 Show every day, and I want to be like you 0:25:20.160 --> 0:25:23.000 when I grow up. Thank you for your wisdom. 0:25:23.760 --> 0:25:30.360 Thank you for being true person for God and showing the. 0:25:30.400 --> 0:25:35.520 Light in God in you in this world. 0:25:35.200 --> 0:25:39.760 Because this world needs it. I can't say thank you 0:25:39.840 --> 0:25:41.520 so much enough. 0:25:42.000 --> 0:25:42.840