1 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 1: Life audio picture her for a second. I'll color Sarah, 2 00:00:07,080 --> 00:00:09,400 Speaker 1: but honestly, she could be any of us. Maybe she 3 00:00:09,600 --> 00:00:12,520 Speaker 1: is you. Sarah wakes up. In the first thing she does, 4 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:14,680 Speaker 1: before her feet even hit the floor, she reaches for 5 00:00:14,760 --> 00:00:17,919 Speaker 1: her phone, and in the first ninety seconds of her day, 6 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:21,400 Speaker 1: before she's even had a sip of water, she's already 7 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 1: absorbed six contradictory instructions about how she should take care 8 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:29,720 Speaker 1: of her body. One reel tells her that seed oils 9 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 1: are slowly poisoning her and she needs to switch to tallow. 10 00:00:33,479 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 1: The next tells her that that's fear mongering, nonsense, and 11 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:40,360 Speaker 1: as long as she hits her protein goals, she's fine. 12 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 1: A third says protein chasing is a diet culture trap 13 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 1: and she should just be doing gentle nutrition. A fourth says, 14 00:00:48,520 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: intermittent fasting changed this woman's life, and we'll look at her. 15 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 1: And then a fifth says, fasting is going to wreck 16 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:57,560 Speaker 1: your cortisol and it's going to give you cortisol face, 17 00:00:57,760 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 1: and that's why she looks puffy. Six is a doctor, 18 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:05,640 Speaker 1: an actual doctor, we think, but wearing a white coat 19 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:10,520 Speaker 1: and everything, telling you that the doctor in yesterday's video 20 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 1: was wrong. By the time Sarah stands up, she hasn't 21 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:17,200 Speaker 1: done anything yet. She hasn't eaten, she hasn't moved, she 22 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:20,520 Speaker 1: hasn't looked in the mirror. But she's already behind. She's 23 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: already failing at a version of right that she didn't choose, 24 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:27,840 Speaker 1: and it keeps rewriting itself so that every day, no 25 00:01:27,840 --> 00:01:32,039 Speaker 1: matter what she does, no matter who she follows, she's 26 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: always falling short. Here's what I want to say to 27 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: Sarah and any of you who feels her exhaustion in 28 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:44,479 Speaker 1: your bones today. You're not failing to get it right. 29 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:49,000 Speaker 1: There is no right to get not one that hundreds 30 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 1: of people are actually agreeing on anyway, And no amount 31 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 1: of trying harder is going to let you win a 32 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 1: game with rules that change every time you open an app. 33 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 1: Stick with me, friend, I think this one might set 34 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 1: something down in you that you've been caring for a 35 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 1: long time. I'm Heather Creak MOOREG. You're listening to the 36 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:23,160 Speaker 1: Compared Day podcast. I'm glad to here. Well, hey there, 37 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:26,200 Speaker 1: thanks for listening to the Compared To podcast today. This 38 00:02:26,400 --> 00:02:30,120 Speaker 1: is like episode five hundred and thirty or something like that. 39 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 1: I've been podcasting for seven years now, and if you're 40 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:38,280 Speaker 1: new to the show, welcome. I'm glad you're here. This 41 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 1: is a space for anyone who's tired, and today I 42 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:45,640 Speaker 1: specifically want to talk to you if you are not 43 00:02:45,760 --> 00:02:48,920 Speaker 1: just tired, but exhausted. And it's a certain kind of exhausted. 44 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:52,040 Speaker 1: It's the kind of exhausted that comes not just from 45 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:56,440 Speaker 1: one bad day, but from years of trying to be 46 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:58,640 Speaker 1: I don't know, let's call it the straight a student 47 00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: in a class where the professor keeps changing the syllabus 48 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 1: every single morning. Because here's what I don't think it's 49 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:10,720 Speaker 1: said enough. It's not just that body image issues are hard. 50 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 1: It's that we're being asked to build our sense of 51 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:18,720 Speaker 1: am I doing this right on a foundation that was 52 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:24,600 Speaker 1: never designed to hold still. Fitness influencers disagree with nutrition 53 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:28,640 Speaker 1: influencers who disagree with doctors, who disagree with other doctors, 54 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 1: who disagree with what your grandmother told you, And honestly, 55 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:37,720 Speaker 1: sometimes what grandma told you holds up better than everything else. 56 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 1: And somewhere in the middle of all of that noise 57 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 1: is a woman like Sarah or maybe like you, who 58 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 1: is genuinely, sincerely and exhaustedly trying. She's trying to eat right, 59 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 1: she's trying to move right. She's trying not to think 60 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:00,400 Speaker 1: about her body too much. She's trying to think about 61 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 1: her body in a biblical way. She's trying to serve Jesus. 62 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 1: She's trying to love God. She's trying to take care 63 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: of her family. She's trying to be good at work. 64 00:04:07,880 --> 00:04:10,600 Speaker 1: She's trying to be a good daughter. She's trying to 65 00:04:10,680 --> 00:04:13,600 Speaker 1: be a good wife. She's trying, she's trying. She's trying, 66 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:18,679 Speaker 1: trying so hard to get it all right that there's 67 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 1: a limited availability of capacity left to just actually live 68 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: yet alone enjoy life. So today we're gonna talk about 69 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: why just trying harder to get it right was never 70 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 1: a good solution. It was never gonna work. Like, honestly, 71 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:43,000 Speaker 1: it's not because you're not trying hard enough. It's because 72 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 1: this idea of right, and I'm using that in quotation 73 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 1: marks right was never a fixed target to hit in 74 00:04:51,440 --> 00:04:55,600 Speaker 1: the first place, at least not according to culture. Let's 75 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:58,039 Speaker 1: go back to our friend Sarah for a minute, because 76 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:01,280 Speaker 1: I think her Tuesday is gonna sound may be painfully 77 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:03,920 Speaker 1: familiar to some of you. So by ten am, Sarah 78 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:08,480 Speaker 1: has already changed her mind about breakfast twice. She initially 79 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:11,800 Speaker 1: she meant to skip it because someone she saw on 80 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:15,800 Speaker 1: one of those reels said that sixteen eight fasting, So 81 00:05:15,839 --> 00:05:19,560 Speaker 1: a sixteen hour fasting window eight hour eating window, of course, 82 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: is the way to do it, and so she tried it, 83 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: but then she started feeling shaky, and so she ate anyway, 84 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 1: and now she feels guilty, and she's convinced that she's 85 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:31,000 Speaker 1: already blown it for the day. But somehow she makes 86 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:33,960 Speaker 1: it to lunch, probably thinking about food all morning, and 87 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:36,720 Speaker 1: she stands in front of the fridge for four full minutes, 88 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:38,880 Speaker 1: not because she doesn't know how to feed herself, but 89 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 1: because she's trying to remember which foods are inflammatory and 90 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:48,240 Speaker 1: which oil is toxic, and how much protein she's already had, 91 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:52,480 Speaker 1: and whether or not it's okay to count protein grams 92 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:55,520 Speaker 1: when you're doing intrutive eating. And she's just trying to 93 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:58,880 Speaker 1: follow all the philosophies, and sometimes it feels like they 94 00:05:58,880 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 1: want opposite things. By that afternoon, oh goodness, she's found 95 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 1: herself scrolling again. She didn't even mean to, but she 96 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 1: just had five spare minutes in line and starts scrolling, 97 00:06:10,160 --> 00:06:12,359 Speaker 1: and what does she see? She sees a woman with 98 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 1: a flat stomach explaining the one thing she stopped eating 99 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: to fix her menopause belly. Sarah doesn't even fully trust 100 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: this woman, but some tiny, small, tired part of her thinks, hmm, 101 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:29,480 Speaker 1: what if she's actually the one who got it right? 102 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:34,040 Speaker 1: What if she's showing me the way I'm the one 103 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:36,360 Speaker 1: who's been getting it wrong the whole time. I just 104 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 1: need to stop eating that. And that's the trap right there. 105 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 1: It's not that Sarah lacks conviction. It's that she's been 106 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:49,160 Speaker 1: handed hundreds of competing convictions, all delivered with complete confidence, 107 00:06:49,640 --> 00:06:53,240 Speaker 1: all clipped for fifteen seconds, all landing in the part 108 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:57,880 Speaker 1: of her that already wonders if she's doing the right thing, 109 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:03,479 Speaker 1: or doing enough. She isn't undisciplined, She's just exhausted from 110 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 1: trying to be disciplined toward a target that keeps moving. 111 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:11,400 Speaker 1: And here's the part that breaks my heart. A little. 112 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:14,559 Speaker 1: Sarah would probably just tell you she has a will 113 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:18,520 Speaker 1: power problem. She just can't stick to the program, that 114 00:07:18,560 --> 00:07:22,520 Speaker 1: she needs to just pick a plan and be more 115 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:28,240 Speaker 1: determined to stick to it. But her actual problem isn't willpower. 116 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 1: It's that she's been conscripted into an impossible, unwinnable competition, 117 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:40,760 Speaker 1: and nobody even told her the game was rigged. So 118 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 1: let's talk about why just trying harder to get it 119 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:48,640 Speaker 1: right will never work, and we'll do that right after 120 00:07:48,640 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 1: this quick break. Just trying harder is always going to 121 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:56,640 Speaker 1: fail for a couple reasons. Reason one, there's no it 122 00:07:57,560 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 1: to get right. This is the piece that I think 123 00:07:59,840 --> 00:08:02,080 Speaker 1: is buried under all the noise we talk about body 124 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 1: image and food and finis like there's a hidden correct answer. 125 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:08,840 Speaker 1: I'd call it in my book. Compared to you, I 126 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 1: call it a unicorn or it's lost treasure, and we 127 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 1: are Indiana Jones trying to find you know, the the 128 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:20,640 Speaker 1: what does he try to find? The goblet? I think 129 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 1: it's the chalice of Jesus. Right, It's like this, this treasure, 130 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: this mystery, this unicorn, and we just haven't found it yet. 131 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:32,680 Speaker 1: And if we could just find the right thing, if 132 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:34,640 Speaker 1: like Sarah, we could just do all the research and 133 00:08:34,679 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 1: finally land on the truth, will find this thing and 134 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:42,960 Speaker 1: it'll unlock everything for us, and suddenly we'll be able 135 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:45,600 Speaker 1: to eat right, and our body fat will just melt 136 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:49,600 Speaker 1: away and will be fit. Will be the best versions 137 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:53,360 Speaker 1: of ourselves. It will unlock a heaven on Earth unlike 138 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 1: we've ever experienced. Right, It's like it's just hidden out 139 00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:02,720 Speaker 1: there and my goal is to find it. But here's 140 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:07,800 Speaker 1: what ends up happening. You get open, follow ten different 141 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:13,760 Speaker 1: accounts on Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, your choice of poison, and 142 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:17,920 Speaker 1: you'll get ten different truths, each one presented with the 143 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 1: same amount of conviction, the same amount of certainty, like 144 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:25,720 Speaker 1: each of them will imply that anyone who disagrees with 145 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 1: what they're suggesting is misinformed, or lying or just trying 146 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 1: to sell you something, as if they're not trying to 147 00:09:32,520 --> 00:09:37,720 Speaker 1: sell something, trying harder to get it right. Assumes that 148 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:41,800 Speaker 1: the right answer is out there, it's findable, it's stable, 149 00:09:42,520 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 1: but it isn't not in this arena, which means the 150 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 1: striving itself is like chasing a mirage. Okay, reason number two. 151 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:57,240 Speaker 1: The goalposts are being moved on purpose. Yes, there is 152 00:09:57,280 --> 00:09:59,679 Speaker 1: an agenda behind this, Like I'm gonna be honest about this. 153 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:03,920 Speaker 1: A lot of this content isn't neutral information. It's marketing 154 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:09,840 Speaker 1: wearing a costume of concern. The algorithm rewards whatever you 155 00:10:09,960 --> 00:10:13,880 Speaker 1: keep watching, and nothing keeps you watching like a little 156 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:19,400 Speaker 1: jolt of wait, am I doing that wrong? Influencers, even 157 00:10:19,440 --> 00:10:23,559 Speaker 1: sincere ones, often build entire platforms on identifying a new 158 00:10:23,600 --> 00:10:26,920 Speaker 1: problem you didn't know you had, because the solution is 159 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:31,120 Speaker 1: usually attached to something they're selling, a program or a supplement, 160 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:34,880 Speaker 1: And it's not conspiracy theory. That's just how it works, 161 00:10:35,520 --> 00:10:38,560 Speaker 1: which means some of what feels like I'm just staying 162 00:10:38,600 --> 00:10:43,440 Speaker 1: informed is actually just repeatedly opening yourself up to a 163 00:10:43,559 --> 00:10:50,199 Speaker 1: fresh wave of manufactured inadequacy. You've got it wrong, You're 164 00:10:50,240 --> 00:10:54,840 Speaker 1: not up to date, you haven't heard. That's so twenty 165 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:58,520 Speaker 1: twenty five. Now we do it this way right, Oh, 166 00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:05,199 Speaker 1: it's so frustrating. Reason three, Trying harder just treats our 167 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:10,240 Speaker 1: heart issues like research problems. Here's the phrase I want 168 00:11:10,280 --> 00:11:14,240 Speaker 1: you to remember from this whole episode. Remember this, Your 169 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:16,720 Speaker 1: body mistruggle is not really about your body. I don't 170 00:11:16,760 --> 00:11:19,079 Speaker 1: know how many times I've said that, hundreds of times 171 00:11:19,080 --> 00:11:21,800 Speaker 1: if you've listened to this podcast for a while, But 172 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:24,480 Speaker 1: it's one thing that's just really hard for most of 173 00:11:24,559 --> 00:11:29,600 Speaker 1: us to believe. But underneath our I need to finally 174 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:33,200 Speaker 1: figure out the right way to eat is usually something 175 00:11:33,240 --> 00:11:37,440 Speaker 1: more like I need to finally feel Okay, I need 176 00:11:37,559 --> 00:11:40,320 Speaker 1: proof that I'm disciplined enough, or good enough, or in 177 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 1: control enough, or worthy enough. Remember our friend Sarah, she's 178 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:51,440 Speaker 1: not actually looking for her correct macro split. She's looking 179 00:11:51,480 --> 00:11:57,000 Speaker 1: for permission to stop feeling like a failure. And no influencer, 180 00:11:57,200 --> 00:12:01,680 Speaker 1: no matter how confident, can actually give for that. Because 181 00:12:01,880 --> 00:12:05,280 Speaker 1: that was never a nutrition problem. That's a heart problem. 182 00:12:06,360 --> 00:12:09,839 Speaker 1: So if trying harder to find the right answer isn't 183 00:12:09,960 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 1: the actual answer, what is well? I want to take 184 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:15,600 Speaker 1: you to a passage that changed how I think about 185 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: this whole thing. In John chapter four, Jesus meets a 186 00:12:18,160 --> 00:12:21,520 Speaker 1: woman at the well. She's alone at the well and 187 00:12:21,559 --> 00:12:23,880 Speaker 1: the hottest part of the day, when nobody else would 188 00:12:23,880 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 1: be there, because she's carrying shame she'd rather nobody see. 189 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 1: She's been married five times, is currently living with a 190 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 1: man who isn't her husband, and Jesus doesn't hand her 191 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:37,679 Speaker 1: a better relationship plan or a stricter set of rules 192 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:40,120 Speaker 1: so she can finally get it right. He goes straight 193 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:43,320 Speaker 1: to the root. He says, essentially, everyone who drinks this 194 00:12:43,400 --> 00:12:46,440 Speaker 1: water will be thirsty again, but the water I give 195 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:50,880 Speaker 1: will become a spring welling up to eternal life and 196 00:12:50,960 --> 00:12:53,679 Speaker 1: she kept going back to the well, like she kept 197 00:12:53,679 --> 00:12:56,800 Speaker 1: trying the next relationship, trying the next fix, trying the 198 00:12:56,840 --> 00:12:59,840 Speaker 1: next thing to finally make her feel better, make her 199 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:03,000 Speaker 1: fe feel whole. And that's not just a story about 200 00:13:03,000 --> 00:13:05,680 Speaker 1: marriage friends. I mean that's Sarah's story too, and probably 201 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:09,040 Speaker 1: yours and mine. We keep going back to the well, 202 00:13:09,240 --> 00:13:14,040 Speaker 1: the next plan, the next fill in the blank, the 203 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: next influencer, the next thing, the next piece of finally 204 00:13:19,280 --> 00:13:23,520 Speaker 1: the real truth, and we keep being shocked that we're 205 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:28,119 Speaker 1: thirsty again by next Tuesday. There's a phrase in Colassions 206 00:13:28,120 --> 00:13:31,120 Speaker 1: that I think nails exactly what's been happening to Sarah 207 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:34,480 Speaker 1: and to you and to me. Paul writes about rules 208 00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:37,800 Speaker 1: and regulations don't handle, don't taste, don't touch, and he 209 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:41,959 Speaker 1: says something almost startling. He says, these rules have an 210 00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:46,200 Speaker 1: appearance of wisdom, but they're of no value in checking 211 00:13:46,240 --> 00:13:50,440 Speaker 1: the indulgence of the flesh. In other words, even a 212 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:57,800 Speaker 1: technically correct rule followed perfectly cannot touch the actual thing 213 00:13:58,520 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 1: under the struggle. You can win every single rule you 214 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:08,040 Speaker 1: find online, every rule any influencers ever mentioned, and you 215 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:11,600 Speaker 1: can still be just as hungry, just as anxious, just 216 00:14:11,679 --> 00:14:17,000 Speaker 1: as unsettled in your own skin. Rules are never the 217 00:14:17,080 --> 00:14:20,560 Speaker 1: mechanism for heart change. They weren't built for that job. 218 00:14:21,480 --> 00:14:24,280 Speaker 1: So here's the reframe I want to offer you. The 219 00:14:24,320 --> 00:14:26,680 Speaker 1: goal was never to finally find the right thing that 220 00:14:26,720 --> 00:14:31,520 Speaker 1: works for you. The goal is to stop asking any 221 00:14:31,680 --> 00:14:38,320 Speaker 1: plan to be your will. So let's camp out just 222 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:40,240 Speaker 1: for a second here on one more piece of this, 223 00:14:40,680 --> 00:14:44,200 Speaker 1: because I think it's what finally makes lasting change possible. 224 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:48,440 Speaker 1: Instead of just like theoretically nice, I think it's what 225 00:14:48,520 --> 00:14:53,760 Speaker 1: Sarah needs most. Almost every voice competing for Sarah's attention 226 00:14:54,120 --> 00:14:58,760 Speaker 1: and yours and mine is built on a hidden posture 227 00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:02,880 Speaker 1: of earning. Get the right plan and you'll finally earn 228 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:06,760 Speaker 1: the body, the confidence, the permission to feel okay, and 229 00:15:06,960 --> 00:15:11,640 Speaker 1: even our spiritual language around trying harder can quietly run 230 00:15:11,680 --> 00:15:15,000 Speaker 1: on the same fuel. If I'm disciplined enough, informed enough, 231 00:15:15,040 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 1: obedient enough, I'll finally feel like I'm enough. And that's 232 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:23,000 Speaker 1: not really all that different from chasing the fitness and 233 00:15:23,080 --> 00:15:27,080 Speaker 1: food trends. It's just chasing it with a Bible verse 234 00:15:27,120 --> 00:15:30,800 Speaker 1: taped on top. But listen to what Jesus actually says 235 00:15:30,800 --> 00:15:34,200 Speaker 1: in Matthew chapter eleven. It reads, come to me all 236 00:15:34,240 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 1: who labor and are heavy laden, And I will give 237 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:39,720 Speaker 1: you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, 238 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:42,520 Speaker 1: for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you 239 00:15:42,560 --> 00:15:46,440 Speaker 1: will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is 240 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:51,400 Speaker 1: easy and my burden is light. Listen to that again, slowly. 241 00:15:52,360 --> 00:15:56,480 Speaker 1: My yoke is easy, my burden is light. I will 242 00:15:56,520 --> 00:16:01,200 Speaker 1: give you rest. I want you to pick share yourself. 243 00:16:01,560 --> 00:16:08,000 Speaker 1: Sitting on the couch scrolling, Jesus isn't saying try harder, 244 00:16:08,920 --> 00:16:11,720 Speaker 1: sort through more reels? Can you get through more content? Like, 245 00:16:11,800 --> 00:16:14,320 Speaker 1: stay online longer so you can see more reels, and 246 00:16:14,320 --> 00:16:17,120 Speaker 1: then you'll finally find the right answer, and then you 247 00:16:17,160 --> 00:16:19,480 Speaker 1: can earn rest because you'll have it figured out. You'll 248 00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:22,320 Speaker 1: find like the magic key that unlocks all the happiness, 249 00:16:22,880 --> 00:16:27,360 Speaker 1: and then you can ah exhale. Now what is he saying? 250 00:16:27,400 --> 00:16:32,640 Speaker 1: He's saying, Colm, and I will give you rest first, 251 00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:39,720 Speaker 1: before she's found the right plan, before Sarah's sordid facts 252 00:16:39,720 --> 00:16:44,680 Speaker 1: from marketing, before she's fixed anything at all. Rest isn't 253 00:16:44,680 --> 00:16:48,239 Speaker 1: the reward of getting it right. Rest is the starting 254 00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:51,000 Speaker 1: place the whole thing is supposed to grow out of. 255 00:16:51,680 --> 00:16:53,720 Speaker 1: And this flips the order that most of us live by, 256 00:16:53,920 --> 00:16:56,200 Speaker 1: we think, once I finally figure out the right way 257 00:16:56,240 --> 00:16:58,640 Speaker 1: to eat and the right way to exercise for my 258 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:01,440 Speaker 1: body and for my seasonal life, and the right way 259 00:17:01,480 --> 00:17:04,640 Speaker 1: to manage my day and manage my schedule and manage 260 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:07,959 Speaker 1: my family, like, once I can just be consistent and 261 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:12,720 Speaker 1: get all these things right, then I'll see the results 262 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:14,880 Speaker 1: I want. And once I see the results I want, 263 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:16,840 Speaker 1: then I'll be able to rest. I'll be able to 264 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:19,240 Speaker 1: stop striving. I'll be able to feel like I'm enough. 265 00:17:20,040 --> 00:17:22,160 Speaker 1: Then I'll be able to go to Jesus and say, Okay, 266 00:17:22,680 --> 00:17:25,760 Speaker 1: I'm good. Now, what do you have for me? Friend? 267 00:17:25,800 --> 00:17:30,760 Speaker 1: That's not how it works. Jesus offers us the rest first. 268 00:17:31,880 --> 00:17:35,760 Speaker 1: The rest is a gift, not something we earn. The 269 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:40,160 Speaker 1: rest isn't a prize for winning an impossible information war. 270 00:17:41,119 --> 00:17:46,520 Speaker 1: The rest is the starting line, not the finish line. 271 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:50,560 Speaker 1: He Bread chapter four says that there remains a Sabbath 272 00:17:50,600 --> 00:17:54,639 Speaker 1: rest for God's people because whoever enters God's rest also 273 00:17:54,840 --> 00:17:58,760 Speaker 1: rests from their own work. The way God rested from 274 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:04,280 Speaker 1: his word. Work isn't only about religious effort. It's about 275 00:18:04,400 --> 00:18:09,200 Speaker 1: every form of self salvation, every version of If I 276 00:18:09,240 --> 00:18:11,320 Speaker 1: can just figure out this well, enough. If I can 277 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:15,480 Speaker 1: just do this right, then I'll finally be okay. But 278 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:20,480 Speaker 1: Hebrews says, stop laboring for what's already been finished and 279 00:18:20,680 --> 00:18:24,840 Speaker 1: just rest in it instead. Paul, writing to Galatians, asks 280 00:18:24,920 --> 00:18:29,320 Speaker 1: something almost ridiculous. He says, are you so foolish? Having 281 00:18:29,359 --> 00:18:32,359 Speaker 1: begun by the spirit? Are you now being perfected in 282 00:18:32,480 --> 00:18:36,880 Speaker 1: the flesh? Did you actually think you could finish by 283 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:41,359 Speaker 1: your own research, by your own effort? What only grace 284 00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:44,960 Speaker 1: ever started? At Sarah's trap and that's my trap. In 285 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:49,000 Speaker 1: one sentence, she began, we all begin in a place 286 00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:53,199 Speaker 1: of being loved by grace, and then what happens? We 287 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:57,360 Speaker 1: quietly switched the engine to self effort, as if right 288 00:18:57,480 --> 00:19:02,879 Speaker 1: information could finish what only Christ began. Oh, thanks for 289 00:19:02,880 --> 00:19:05,640 Speaker 1: your grace, Lord. Okay, now click, I'm going to try 290 00:19:05,680 --> 00:19:07,800 Speaker 1: harder and get it all right, and I can do it. 291 00:19:08,119 --> 00:19:13,560 Speaker 1: Thanks No, So what does this mean for you and 292 00:19:13,600 --> 00:19:18,199 Speaker 1: your body and your body image? Practically, it means that 293 00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:22,359 Speaker 1: the goal isn't to finally win the algorithm and find 294 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:26,439 Speaker 1: the influencer who's right and finally earn a body you 295 00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:30,760 Speaker 1: can feel good about. It means resting in the truth 296 00:19:30,760 --> 00:19:34,320 Speaker 1: that you're already fully known, fully loved, fully accepted in Christ. 297 00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:37,840 Speaker 1: Not because you've found the correct plan and are doing 298 00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:41,720 Speaker 1: it all right, but because of what Christ has already accomplished. 299 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:48,639 Speaker 1: And from that rested, secure place, that's where you make decisions. 300 00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:52,360 Speaker 1: That's where you can make decisions about food and movement 301 00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:55,000 Speaker 1: and how to care for your body. And you can 302 00:19:55,080 --> 00:19:59,639 Speaker 1: stop trying to win an impossible contest and start being 303 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:06,879 Speaker 1: simple in this respect. You can ask God to help you, 304 00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:09,800 Speaker 1: ask him to lead you. And God, you, friend, he 305 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:13,399 Speaker 1: created your body. Do you think he doesn't know how 306 00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:17,440 Speaker 1: it works? Do you think he's unsure about whether or 307 00:20:17,480 --> 00:20:23,000 Speaker 1: not you should eat more protein or less protein? Friend, Like, 308 00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:28,119 Speaker 1: we have AI now, and it's amazing in so many ways, 309 00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:32,800 Speaker 1: but we have something even better than AI. Friend, you 310 00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:35,359 Speaker 1: can go to the God of the universe, who created 311 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:39,000 Speaker 1: you in everything around you, and say, lead me, Lord, 312 00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:44,639 Speaker 1: show me how can I steward this body? Well? Show 313 00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:51,240 Speaker 1: me what to do, and in seeking him, you can 314 00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:55,640 Speaker 1: truly care for your body in a healthy and RESTful way, 315 00:20:56,600 --> 00:21:00,160 Speaker 1: instead of seeing your body as a project that you're 316 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 1: just desperately trying to fix. So you can finally feel 317 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:06,399 Speaker 1: okay and you're taking everyone's advice and you're just feeling 318 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:10,440 Speaker 1: confused and overwhelmed. Man Jesus invites us into something else, 319 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:16,399 Speaker 1: which is rest. Tewod Corinthians three says it beautifully, we 320 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:20,760 Speaker 1: with unveiled faces beholding the glory of the Lord, are 321 00:21:20,840 --> 00:21:25,040 Speaker 1: being transformed into his likeness. Notice the verb not we 322 00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:29,719 Speaker 1: are researching ourselves into transformation. Isn't that what a lot 323 00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:33,159 Speaker 1: of us do all day long? No, we are being transformed. 324 00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:37,320 Speaker 1: It's something that happens to you as you behold him, 325 00:21:38,080 --> 00:21:43,040 Speaker 1: not something you're scrolling your way toward. Producing. That's rest 326 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:50,040 Speaker 1: fueled change, not fear fueled striving. And it's the only 327 00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:53,199 Speaker 1: kind of change that actually lasts. Okay, so let's make 328 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:55,920 Speaker 1: this really practical, because I never want to just give 329 00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 1: you a nice idea for you to think about. What 330 00:21:59,000 --> 00:22:03,560 Speaker 1: actually inspire change is when we can take the next 331 00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:07,760 Speaker 1: step and do something, not just think about something. Okay, 332 00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:10,240 Speaker 1: So thing one I think first you have to name 333 00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:13,600 Speaker 1: the noise for what it is. Next time you are 334 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:16,680 Speaker 1: scrolling and you feel that familiar jolt of I'm doing 335 00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:20,320 Speaker 1: this wrong? Should I be doing this? Oh? Is this 336 00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:23,040 Speaker 1: actually right? And what I was thinking was right is wrong? 337 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:28,120 Speaker 1: I was just pause and ask yourself, is this actually new, 338 00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:32,359 Speaker 1: trust worthy information or is this just another real Is 339 00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:37,360 Speaker 1: this just another voice competing for my attention and honestly 340 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:39,800 Speaker 1: kind of trying to make me feel behind or like 341 00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:43,840 Speaker 1: I'm doing something wrong. You're allowed to let ask that 342 00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:48,959 Speaker 1: question before you decide to let that information in. You 343 00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:56,719 Speaker 1: can be discerning. Not every influencer is created equally. Okay, second, 344 00:22:57,480 --> 00:23:01,119 Speaker 1: pick a few trusted voices and let that be enough. Friend, 345 00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:04,720 Speaker 1: if you are spending I'm going to say more than 346 00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:10,600 Speaker 1: ten minutes a day scrolling reels from random people that 347 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:15,640 Speaker 1: the algorithm has served to you, You're not doing yourself 348 00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:25,960 Speaker 1: any favors. You're just making everything more difficult and confusing. Instead, 349 00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:28,120 Speaker 1: what I would do is pick just a few trusted 350 00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 1: voices and let that be enough. The whole internet doesn't 351 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:34,879 Speaker 1: have to consult you on what to eat for lunch. 352 00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:38,320 Speaker 1: Find maybe a doctor you actually trust or a dietitian. 353 00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:41,679 Speaker 1: I can name a few wisdom from people maybe you 354 00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:45,240 Speaker 1: know in real life. Now there's a crazy idea, and 355 00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:49,680 Speaker 1: give yourself permission to just stop there. Like, not knowing 356 00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:53,560 Speaker 1: what everyone says about everything is not a loss, that's 357 00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:58,400 Speaker 1: a gain. Closing the tab is not laziness, it's wisdom. 358 00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:05,320 Speaker 1: And Third, replace the I'm gonna try harder prayer with 359 00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:09,080 Speaker 1: a truer one instead of praying, God, help me finally 360 00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:13,000 Speaker 1: figure out the right way to do this. Try this, God, 361 00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:17,680 Speaker 1: I've been asking the right answer to give me the 362 00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:21,119 Speaker 1: peace that only you can give. Will you be my 363 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:28,200 Speaker 1: peace instead? Will you be my leader, my influencer, my guide. God? 364 00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:31,840 Speaker 1: Will you show me what is true? Show me what 365 00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:35,399 Speaker 1: is best for me and this body you created for me. 366 00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:42,000 Speaker 1: Redirect where you're actually looking for rescue. You're not looking 367 00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:45,760 Speaker 1: for rescue from finding the right reel. You're looking for 368 00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:52,080 Speaker 1: rescue from the real God. Fourth, build actual. I'm gonna 369 00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:55,000 Speaker 1: call it scaffolding, not just resolve. Okay, So, like you said, 370 00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:56,520 Speaker 1: you can listen to this and be like, ok hey, yes, 371 00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:59,560 Speaker 1: I'm determined, I'm going to do better. And what are 372 00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:03,520 Speaker 1: you doing? Just trying harder again? Friend, don't try harder 373 00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:05,400 Speaker 1: to do what I'm telling you to do. To not 374 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:10,080 Speaker 1: try harder? Do that makes sense? Friend, You need to 375 00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 1: take some action here. You need some people in your life. 376 00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,800 Speaker 1: If you don't have people in your life who can 377 00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:22,720 Speaker 1: support you around these issues, then I invite you join 378 00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:25,400 Speaker 1: us on the next forty day journey. It's not because 379 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:27,479 Speaker 1: I'm trying to sell you something, man, I'm offering it 380 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:30,720 Speaker 1: so cheap. It's fifty nine dollars, it's ten bucks a week. 381 00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:35,160 Speaker 1: Like you can't find counseling or coaching that cheap anywhere. 382 00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:37,800 Speaker 1: But we do that because we want to give you 383 00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:44,400 Speaker 1: community that can be your scaffolding for these issues, where 384 00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:47,639 Speaker 1: you can go someplace and find a little grounding. You 385 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:51,360 Speaker 1: can have honest conversations with real women who are struggling 386 00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:55,680 Speaker 1: in the same way you are. Real women who maybe 387 00:25:55,720 --> 00:26:02,679 Speaker 1: feel a little odd or upset or frustrated because they 388 00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:04,600 Speaker 1: couldn't do it on their own, because we all just 389 00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:06,840 Speaker 1: want to do it on their own, but have decided 390 00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:11,639 Speaker 1: humbly to come to community and admit they need some 391 00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:15,520 Speaker 1: help and friend That's when the change happens. That's how 392 00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:19,879 Speaker 1: change was designed to happen in community. You're not struggling 393 00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:24,320 Speaker 1: because you need more information. You're struggling because you're trying 394 00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:30,840 Speaker 1: to sort a heart level ache with research, problems, tools, 395 00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:34,639 Speaker 1: and what you need are people to tell you the truth. 396 00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:40,000 Speaker 1: People to speak God's truth into your life, into these issues, 397 00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:43,800 Speaker 1: into your struggles. People who can address these issues at 398 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:48,760 Speaker 1: a heart level, not a try harder. Here's what you 399 00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:53,840 Speaker 1: need to do level and fifth practice starting from rest 400 00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:57,720 Speaker 1: instead of striving, and before your next meal, before your 401 00:26:57,760 --> 00:27:00,679 Speaker 1: next scroll, before your next attempt to this week, I'm 402 00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:02,720 Speaker 1: gonna finally get it right. I'm gonna get myself together. 403 00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:06,280 Speaker 1: It's September now, I'm gonna get all the things in order. 404 00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:10,399 Speaker 1: I just I want to just pause. I want to stop. 405 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:12,320 Speaker 1: If I deal with me right now, just take a 406 00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:17,320 Speaker 1: nice big inhale and exhale, inhale, exhale. Maybe do that 407 00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:23,400 Speaker 1: one more time inhale, exhale. I think one third time 408 00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:27,360 Speaker 1: will help you really calm down inhale, exhale. Oh man, 409 00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:29,399 Speaker 1: we all need to just tell our bodies they're safe 410 00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:33,399 Speaker 1: and calm them down, and then pray this prayer. I 411 00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:38,199 Speaker 1: already have your rest, Lord. I'm not doing this to 412 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:43,359 Speaker 1: earn my worth. I already have it in you. And 413 00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:47,640 Speaker 1: then make your choice. You can make a practical, ordinary choice. 414 00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:53,360 Speaker 1: Any single choice is not life our death. You can 415 00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:57,439 Speaker 1: take the same action perhaps you were gonna take before, 416 00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:01,560 Speaker 1: but take it from a completely different posture, from a 417 00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:05,120 Speaker 1: posture of I'm enough because I'm enough through what Christ did, 418 00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:12,360 Speaker 1: I'm okay. Because of Jesus, I'm safe and I can 419 00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:15,800 Speaker 1: do this from a place of rest, because getting this 420 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:20,880 Speaker 1: right or wrong does not determine my acceptance. So let's 421 00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:23,399 Speaker 1: go back to our friend Sarah one more time. Her 422 00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:28,480 Speaker 1: turning point wasn't finding that one content creator who finally 423 00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:34,919 Speaker 1: had the right answers. It was one ordinary evening with 424 00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:38,040 Speaker 1: her phone in hand, about to open that app one 425 00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:41,520 Speaker 1: more time to see what new rules she could add 426 00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:45,200 Speaker 1: to her life. But instead she just sat there and 427 00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:48,600 Speaker 1: she asked herself this question, what am I actually looking 428 00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:53,600 Speaker 1: for right now? And the honest answer was she wanted someone, 429 00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:58,560 Speaker 1: anyone to tell her she was already okay without having 430 00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:01,880 Speaker 1: to earn it first. She still open the app that night. 431 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:05,360 Speaker 1: If you're wondering, this isn't a story about instant willpower, 432 00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:10,160 Speaker 1: Remember we said willpower not effective. But she said that 433 00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:12,440 Speaker 1: was the first time in years that she'd ask the 434 00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:16,120 Speaker 1: real question instead of chasing one more piece of advice. 435 00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:20,520 Speaker 1: And asking that question over and over over the course 436 00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:26,160 Speaker 1: of months is what actually started to change something. Not overnight, 437 00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:33,000 Speaker 1: not perfectly, but for real. Our coaches were able to 438 00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:39,920 Speaker 1: help Sarah get through all the noise, examine the actions 439 00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:44,719 Speaker 1: she always takes and get to the heart of the issue, 440 00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:47,800 Speaker 1: and that's what we'd love to do for you too. 441 00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:50,200 Speaker 1: The best way to get started is with our forty 442 00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:54,880 Speaker 1: day Journey. It starts September fourteenth, and this is just 443 00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:59,840 Speaker 1: really your chance to start looking at the heart is 444 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:04,560 Speaker 1: use beneath the whole of the issues you've perhaps been 445 00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:09,760 Speaker 1: trying to solve with information, tips and advice from the 446 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:14,400 Speaker 1: Internet front, let's cut through all that noise and get real. 447 00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,240 Speaker 1: I Oh, by the way, in case you're worried, Sarah's 448 00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:21,719 Speaker 1: name has been changed, we do protect the privacy of 449 00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:24,760 Speaker 1: all of our clients. So hey, friend, as we close today, 450 00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 1: I just want you to hear this. You're not behind, 451 00:30:27,440 --> 00:30:32,680 Speaker 1: You're not missing something. More information is not going to 452 00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:39,680 Speaker 1: solve anything in the long run. If you're looking for 453 00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:46,480 Speaker 1: these other wells to satisfy, it just never works. So 454 00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:51,240 Speaker 1: turn to the only one who does and approach even 455 00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:53,920 Speaker 1: your body change goals. It's not bad to have body 456 00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:57,240 Speaker 1: change goals, but approach them from a place of rest, 457 00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:00,959 Speaker 1: from a place of enoughness, from a place of peace, 458 00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:06,320 Speaker 1: from a place of security, and tune out all of 459 00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:10,800 Speaker 1: those clamoring, competing voices that are just keeping you striving 460 00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:16,400 Speaker 1: and chasing and confused. This episode landed for you, man, 461 00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:17,920 Speaker 1: I'd love to hear about it. Drop me a note, 462 00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:20,760 Speaker 1: Heather at compared to you, Dot me and tell me 463 00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:22,800 Speaker 1: what you thought of it. I would also just be 464 00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:25,280 Speaker 1: honored if you'd consider leaving a review of the show. 465 00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:28,960 Speaker 1: Those reviews are what help other people find the show, 466 00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:32,680 Speaker 1: and I can see my data and I know I've 467 00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:35,600 Speaker 1: got thousands and thousands of you listening and not that 468 00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:38,120 Speaker 1: many reviews. So if you would just take a moment 469 00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:41,120 Speaker 1: and leave a review, that would bless us so much. 470 00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:43,760 Speaker 1: Also consider sharing it with a friend who you know 471 00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:47,239 Speaker 1: is also exhausted and trying to keep up with one 472 00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:51,680 Speaker 1: hundred contradictory voices as well. Sometimes the most loving thing 473 00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:53,840 Speaker 1: you can do for someone else is just give them 474 00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:58,880 Speaker 1: permission to close the app until next time. From You're 475 00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:01,720 Speaker 1: not a project to be perfected. You're a person who's 476 00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:07,800 Speaker 1: deeply already loved more than you can now. I hope 477 00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:17,480 Speaker 1: you'll stop comparing and start living. Oh bye bye