1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,720 Speaker 1: Hi guys, and good morning. Today we're going to be 2 00:00:02,759 --> 00:00:07,440 Speaker 1: talking about marriage relationships, including submission in marriage and also 3 00:00:07,640 --> 00:00:19,680 Speaker 1: husbands leading with grace. Stay tuned for that. So unfortunately, 4 00:00:20,079 --> 00:00:23,480 Speaker 1: the Crazy T shirt is now partially out of stock, 5 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:26,640 Speaker 1: all right, so all of my mediums in the crazy 6 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: T shirt are gone. So if you want to get 7 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 1: yourself a crazy T shirt, you got to go over 8 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:34,320 Speaker 1: and get one before they all sell out. That is 9 00:00:34,360 --> 00:00:36,320 Speaker 1: linked in the description of this episode. And of course 10 00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:39,720 Speaker 1: the crazy T shirts are for you crazy tea drinkers 11 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:43,880 Speaker 1: that for some reason enjoy tea over coffee when coffee 12 00:00:43,960 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 1: is the superior beverage. But because you guys are so 13 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 1: crazy you have your own T shirt in my shop, 14 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:54,320 Speaker 1: Coffee drinkers, you don't get a T shirt. Maybe some 15 00:00:54,480 --> 00:00:57,560 Speaker 1: day I'll make one for you guys as well. Anyway, 16 00:00:57,600 --> 00:00:59,880 Speaker 1: pay for listeners. Let's go ahead and read Colossian's cha 17 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: chapter three, verses fourteen through nineteen. We are not talking 18 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,400 Speaker 1: about a long portion of scripture today, but it is 19 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:10,119 Speaker 1: full of content because we are going to be discussing 20 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:12,840 Speaker 1: the topic of marriage. So I will be reading this 21 00:01:12,880 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: as I usually do from the web above all these 22 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:20,679 Speaker 1: things walk in love which is the bond of perfection. 23 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:23,120 Speaker 1: And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, 24 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:25,400 Speaker 1: to which you are also called in one body, and 25 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: be thankful. Let the Word of Christ dwell in you 26 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:32,560 Speaker 1: richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another with psalms, 27 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your heart 28 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: to the Lord. Whatever you do in word or deed, 29 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:42,319 Speaker 1: do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving 30 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:45,679 Speaker 1: thanks to God the Father through him. Wives, be in 31 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 1: subjection to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands. 32 00:01:50,480 --> 00:01:55,680 Speaker 1: Love your wives, and don't be bitter against them. On Tuesday, 33 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 1: we talked about the list of dos and don'ts that 34 00:01:59,320 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: Paul expects Christians to do. So he says, don't do 35 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 1: the things that you used to do before you became 36 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 1: a Christian, such as sexual immorality, coveteousness, idolatry, anger, wrath, malice, slander, 37 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:16,239 Speaker 1: all those types of things. Paul says, get rid of 38 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:19,799 Speaker 1: those because that was the old man. You have now 39 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 1: become a new man or a new woman, and those 40 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 1: things are no longer supposed to be part of your lives. 41 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: And so we talked about the struggle with that, how 42 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 1: people have not achieved perfection. You know, once you become 43 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: a Christian, that doesn't automatically mean you stop sinning, but 44 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:39,080 Speaker 1: you try to say no to those sins far more often. 45 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:42,000 Speaker 1: Jesus himself said every single day we got to take 46 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:44,440 Speaker 1: up our cross and follow him. So it's a battle, 47 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 1: a struggle every single day to reject our old sin 48 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:52,799 Speaker 1: nature and pursue the Christian life, living the way Jesus did. 49 00:02:53,360 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 1: But right after Paul says what Christians shouldn't be doing, 50 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 1: he then goes into a list of things that they 51 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 1: should be doing. In verses twelve and thirteen, he says, 52 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 1: put on a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, humility, and perseverance, 53 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:12,480 Speaker 1: bear with one another and forgive each other. So that 54 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: is what Christians should be pursuing, not the old sin nature, 55 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: but these new things that don't come naturally to us, 56 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:24,160 Speaker 1: these things that the Holy Spirit helps us with once 57 00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 1: we become Christians. And that's where we left off on Tuesday, 58 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 1: and in verse fourteen, Paul says, even above all of 59 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: these good things that I just told you to do, 60 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 1: there's something even better that each Christian should be doing. 61 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: He says, above all these things, walk in love, which 62 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:46,400 Speaker 1: is the bond of perfection. And if you read this 63 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 1: verse in the NIV version, here's what it says. Over 64 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 1: all of these virtues, put on love, which binds them 65 00:03:52,600 --> 00:03:57,400 Speaker 1: all together in perfect unity. So, in other words, love 66 00:03:57,680 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: is truly what makes us more humay, more kind to 67 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 1: other people. If we don't have love, we're not really 68 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 1: going to be able to be forgiving or kind or 69 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 1: humble or anything like that. We have to have love first. 70 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:15,320 Speaker 1: That is the greatest of all of the Christian virtues. 71 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:19,279 Speaker 1: Jesus himself said that the Old Testament laws are actually 72 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 1: summed up with two things. Firstly love of God and 73 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:28,040 Speaker 1: then secondly love of others. Jesus himself said that love 74 00:04:28,440 --> 00:04:31,000 Speaker 1: was the greatest commandment. So we are supposed to be 75 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:34,279 Speaker 1: loving above everything else. And then once we learn to 76 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:36,880 Speaker 1: be more loving, these other things are going to come, 77 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:39,920 Speaker 1: maybe not more naturally to us, but we'll be able 78 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:44,719 Speaker 1: to do them more. If we truly have love for 79 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:47,520 Speaker 1: other people, we're going to be less offended, we're going 80 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:51,839 Speaker 1: to be less angry at people, less prideful, and that 81 00:04:51,920 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 1: all comes through the practice of love. But then he 82 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,480 Speaker 1: continues in verse fifteen, and let the peace of God 83 00:04:58,880 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 1: rule in your hearts, to which you were also called 84 00:05:01,640 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: in one body, and be thankful. I believe thankfulness now 85 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:10,160 Speaker 1: has shown up three times already in this chapter of 86 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:13,440 Speaker 1: the Bible. Paul is really pushing thankfulness in this chapter. 87 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:17,159 Speaker 1: He's saying, you have to be thankful because you know, 88 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 1: even secular psychologists and doctors will tell you that thankfulness 89 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: is a very important habit to have. It makes you 90 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:29,039 Speaker 1: a happier individual when you are actually thankful for the 91 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:32,360 Speaker 1: things that you have. Because when you are thankful, that 92 00:05:32,400 --> 00:05:36,039 Speaker 1: means that you aren't pushing for more. Instead, you're getting 93 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 1: rid of entitlement and even arrogance and humbling yourself being 94 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:44,039 Speaker 1: thankful for the things that you've already been given. You know, 95 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:49,560 Speaker 1: there's a myriad of studies done on entitled people that 96 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:52,400 Speaker 1: show that entitled people are far more likely to be 97 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 1: disappointed in life. In fact, here's the AI overview. When 98 00:05:56,640 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 1: I googled entitled people, it says extensive research indicates that 99 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 1: an excessive sense of entitlement is generally detrimental to personal 100 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:11,160 Speaker 1: well being, relationships, and professional success. Studies show that excessive 101 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 1: entitlement can trap individuals in a perpetual loop of distress, 102 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: including chronic disappointment, volatile emotions, cycle of self reinforcement, and 103 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:27,360 Speaker 1: underlying insecurity. So yes, arrogance and entitlement is very bad 104 00:06:27,400 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: for us, which is why Paul encourages the Christian not 105 00:06:31,360 --> 00:06:34,960 Speaker 1: to feel those emotions anymore, but instead to be thankful 106 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:38,799 Speaker 1: and to have the peace of God rule in our hearts, 107 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:42,839 Speaker 1: rather than constantly searching for more, which in a sense 108 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:47,280 Speaker 1: is not peaceful, right, because you always feel as if 109 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:49,680 Speaker 1: you need something more, as if you're not getting what 110 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:54,839 Speaker 1: you deserve. Having God's peace includes the act of thankfulness. 111 00:06:55,120 --> 00:06:58,479 Speaker 1: Those two things go hand in hand. The more thankful 112 00:06:58,520 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: you become, the more peace you're going to feel. Then, 113 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 1: Verse sixteen says, let the Word of Christ dwell in 114 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:09,040 Speaker 1: you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another 115 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:12,880 Speaker 1: with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in 116 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:15,679 Speaker 1: your heart to the Lord. And this is my weekly 117 00:07:15,720 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 1: opportunity now to talk about worship music, because I absolutely 118 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: love talking about worship music. As you guys know, I 119 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:28,160 Speaker 1: do music myself, and so worship music is a very 120 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:31,800 Speaker 1: important part of my life. I am actually the youth 121 00:07:31,840 --> 00:07:36,720 Speaker 1: worship leader at my church right now. Worship music, as 122 00:07:36,840 --> 00:07:40,960 Speaker 1: is clearly stated right here, is supposed to both teach 123 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:46,920 Speaker 1: and admonish. Admonish means to correct somebody's thinking. So our 124 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 1: worship music should fall into one of those categories. Is 125 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 1: it teaching us something about God or is it correcting 126 00:07:53,400 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 1: us in some way? And of course it should all 127 00:07:56,080 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 1: point to God himself. That's the point of worship music. 128 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:03,800 Speaker 1: We are worshiping God. And you know, unfortunately, the majority 129 00:08:03,840 --> 00:08:08,760 Speaker 1: of mainstream Christian music out there does neither of those things. 130 00:08:09,080 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 1: It neither teaches nor does it admonish. Most of the 131 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 1: worship music is like kind of like feel good, hippy 132 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:18,680 Speaker 1: dippy kind of stuff these days. So yeah, the worship 133 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 1: music that we listen to and consume should be God honoring, 134 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:26,720 Speaker 1: should be focused on scripture, should be focused on either 135 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 1: correcting bad behavior or teaching the person about God or 136 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:34,880 Speaker 1: about themselves. And it also says here that we're supposed 137 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 1: to sing with grace in our hearts to the Lord. 138 00:08:38,559 --> 00:08:42,680 Speaker 1: So of course all of these songs are sung ultimately 139 00:08:42,800 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 1: to God. They may be beneficial to us for teaching 140 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:50,480 Speaker 1: or admonishing, but ultimately they are for the Lord. So 141 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 1: we have to keep that in mind as well. But 142 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: in verse seventeen, Paul starts to conclude this chapter. But 143 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:02,680 Speaker 1: even though he's concluding it, I can guarantee you that 144 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:05,000 Speaker 1: we have a lot to talk about still. So he says, 145 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:08,200 Speaker 1: whatever you do in word, or indeed, do all in 146 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:10,960 Speaker 1: the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God 147 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:15,560 Speaker 1: the Father through him. So everything that the Christian is 148 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:18,599 Speaker 1: supposed to do should be done in the name of 149 00:09:18,640 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 1: the Lord Jesus. And this reminds me of one of 150 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:24,040 Speaker 1: the Ten Commandments, where it says thou shalt not take 151 00:09:24,280 --> 00:09:28,079 Speaker 1: the name of the Lord Thy God in vain. That 152 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:32,560 Speaker 1: commandment tells us to not carry God's name in vain. 153 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:35,560 Speaker 1: This could be saying God's name as a swear word, 154 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 1: which is what most people chalk that commandment up to be. 155 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:44,320 Speaker 1: But even more so, it's talking about a Christian not 156 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 1: carrying God's name correctly, meaning they say that they're Christians, 157 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:54,480 Speaker 1: but they are hypocritical, or they misuse or twist scripture 158 00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:58,720 Speaker 1: for their own benefit, or maybe they even add things 159 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:03,119 Speaker 1: or delete things scripture. Those are all examples of carrying 160 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:07,040 Speaker 1: God's name incorrectly, and I think Paul might be thinking 161 00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 1: of this commandment when he says, do all things in 162 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:14,600 Speaker 1: the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God 163 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 1: the Father. Through him, we are supposed to think about 164 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:22,400 Speaker 1: Jesus with everything that we do. That is the point 165 00:10:22,480 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 1: of being a Christian, right. It's not just for Sundays. 166 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:29,120 Speaker 1: It is literally a lifestyle, and it's a lifestyle that 167 00:10:29,120 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 1: we show to the rest of the world. Jesus called 168 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:37,280 Speaker 1: it shining our lights because non Christians really are watching us. 169 00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:39,600 Speaker 1: If you don't think that, I mean, look at how 170 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:44,559 Speaker 1: much criticism the Church gets all the time, how much 171 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:52,000 Speaker 1: Christianity is persecuted, how often things are revolving around Christian ideas, 172 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 1: Christian principles. Non Christians really are watching what we are doing. 173 00:10:57,640 --> 00:11:01,800 Speaker 1: And if we are carrying Jesus's name incorrectly in our 174 00:11:01,880 --> 00:11:04,800 Speaker 1: day to day lives, non Christians are going to see that, 175 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 1: and they're either going to misunderstand who Jesus is based 176 00:11:09,520 --> 00:11:12,280 Speaker 1: upon our actions, or they're going to think that we 177 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:16,080 Speaker 1: are very hypocritical. So we try to avoid that. Paul 178 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:18,480 Speaker 1: says by doing all things in the name of the 179 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:22,680 Speaker 1: Lord Jesus. Then he gives some examples here. He starts 180 00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:26,720 Speaker 1: with the Christian marriage he says in verse eighteen, wives, 181 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 1: be in subjection to your husbands, as is fitting in 182 00:11:30,840 --> 00:11:34,199 Speaker 1: the Lord and man. You know, we women, we don't 183 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 1: like that. We do not like that word subjection or submission, 184 00:11:40,720 --> 00:11:45,360 Speaker 1: because that makes us feel like we are underneath our husbands, 185 00:11:45,440 --> 00:11:49,880 Speaker 1: right and as if our husbands are the rulers over us, 186 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:53,120 Speaker 1: like we're supposed to obey every single thing that they do. 187 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:57,040 Speaker 1: But notice here that Paul does not say be in 188 00:11:57,080 --> 00:12:02,319 Speaker 1: subjection and obey. Those are two very different words. Subjection 189 00:12:02,720 --> 00:12:09,120 Speaker 1: means to defer to somebody, meaning you put yourself underneath 190 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 1: that person. It is an act of humility. Obeying implies 191 00:12:15,000 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 1: both submission and the fact that somebody truly is in 192 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:23,439 Speaker 1: a sense ruling over you. It implies a hierarchy of 193 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 1: some sort. But submission is different because people who are 194 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 1: equal to one another can submit to each other. And 195 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:34,280 Speaker 1: in fact, that is something that Paul actually said in 196 00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:37,920 Speaker 1: Ephesians chapter five. When you look at the famous verses 197 00:12:37,960 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 1: about submission and marriage, Paul actually tells both husbands and 198 00:12:42,040 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: wives to submit to one another, So that would imply 199 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:51,040 Speaker 1: that husbands and wives are on equal footing. And even 200 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:56,199 Speaker 1: Peter himself, when he talked about marriage, said that wives 201 00:12:56,360 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 1: are equal partners in the inheritance of God, so they 202 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:04,840 Speaker 1: are completely equal to their husbands. Elsewhere, not related to marriage, 203 00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:08,000 Speaker 1: Paul actually said there is no more male and female 204 00:13:08,520 --> 00:13:11,600 Speaker 1: under the family of Christ. That's not to say we 205 00:13:11,640 --> 00:13:14,520 Speaker 1: suddenly become I don't know, ambiguous like once we become 206 00:13:14,520 --> 00:13:18,800 Speaker 1: a Christian, but rather that Jesus plays no favorites. He 207 00:13:18,840 --> 00:13:22,079 Speaker 1: doesn't like men more than women. He sees every single 208 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:26,480 Speaker 1: person as equal as equal sons and daughters of his, 209 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:31,480 Speaker 1: as equal brothers and sisters of his. So women are 210 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:34,720 Speaker 1: not underneath men, even though Paul is saying that they 211 00:13:34,760 --> 00:13:38,680 Speaker 1: are to be in subjection to their husbands. You know, 212 00:13:38,800 --> 00:13:43,679 Speaker 1: just a personal testimony of this years ago, I used 213 00:13:43,720 --> 00:13:47,560 Speaker 1: to absolutely hate hate, and I'm telling you the truth. 214 00:13:47,960 --> 00:13:52,040 Speaker 1: I really hated these chapters of the Bible because I 215 00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:56,120 Speaker 1: was like, what right does Paul have to tell me 216 00:13:56,800 --> 00:14:00,840 Speaker 1: to submit to my husband. I don't want to submit 217 00:14:00,840 --> 00:14:03,480 Speaker 1: to my husband. My husband is my equal. I am 218 00:14:03,559 --> 00:14:05,160 Speaker 1: never going to submit to him. That is what I 219 00:14:05,240 --> 00:14:07,800 Speaker 1: used to think. And guess what. Our marriage was pretty 220 00:14:07,840 --> 00:14:11,400 Speaker 1: bad back in those days because we were both vying 221 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:16,040 Speaker 1: for the same role in marriage. We were constantly butting 222 00:14:16,080 --> 00:14:18,559 Speaker 1: heads with each other. And it wasn't until I got 223 00:14:18,559 --> 00:14:23,160 Speaker 1: a little bit older that I started understanding that submission 224 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:26,640 Speaker 1: is such a good thing. And God just like gently 225 00:14:26,640 --> 00:14:29,680 Speaker 1: showed me this over the years, that there are things 226 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:31,920 Speaker 1: I just really don't want to be in charge of, 227 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:36,320 Speaker 1: and it's just so nice now to defer to my 228 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:40,120 Speaker 1: husband when it's something I just don't want to handle. Like, 229 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:41,720 Speaker 1: for example, if somebody comes up to me with a 230 00:14:41,800 --> 00:14:44,480 Speaker 1: question that I just don't want to handle, I just 231 00:14:44,520 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 1: tell him, you know what, let me ask my husband. 232 00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:49,280 Speaker 1: And then I talked to Garrett and I'm like, hey, 233 00:14:49,360 --> 00:14:50,840 Speaker 1: you know so and so has a question, can you 234 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:53,920 Speaker 1: handle that for me? And he generally will handle it 235 00:14:53,960 --> 00:14:55,800 Speaker 1: And it just takes all the pressure off of me, 236 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:57,640 Speaker 1: And it takes the pressure off of me with so 237 00:14:57,680 --> 00:15:01,120 Speaker 1: many other things too. I don't like paying bills, and 238 00:15:01,160 --> 00:15:04,760 Speaker 1: that's something that my husband has taken over. I don't 239 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:07,960 Speaker 1: like fixing things in the house, and that is something 240 00:15:08,000 --> 00:15:12,600 Speaker 1: my husband has taken over. And quite honestly, God teaching 241 00:15:12,640 --> 00:15:16,720 Speaker 1: me submission over the years has been really nice. I'm 242 00:15:16,760 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 1: just able to relax a little bit more and let 243 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 1: my husband handle things that are naturally very stressful for me. 244 00:15:25,840 --> 00:15:28,800 Speaker 1: But that being said, my husband also had to learn 245 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:32,640 Speaker 1: his part in the marriage relationship too. In order for 246 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:36,240 Speaker 1: this to work, he had to learn grace in the 247 00:15:36,360 --> 00:15:39,760 Speaker 1: leadership role. You know, this is not to say that 248 00:15:40,760 --> 00:15:43,400 Speaker 1: my relationship with my husband is perfect. By the way. 249 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:46,280 Speaker 1: We still have our problems, I can tell you that, 250 00:15:46,680 --> 00:15:49,480 Speaker 1: and sometimes they are related to this topic, because every 251 00:15:49,520 --> 00:15:51,880 Speaker 1: once in a while I step out of my role 252 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:55,200 Speaker 1: and I try to take over his role, and every 253 00:15:55,240 --> 00:15:59,160 Speaker 1: once in a while he does not show love on 254 00:15:59,240 --> 00:16:02,320 Speaker 1: his side of the spec You know, if Satan likes 255 00:16:02,320 --> 00:16:06,840 Speaker 1: to attack anything, it is marriages, because marriage was one 256 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:10,760 Speaker 1: of the first foundations that God put in place. Right 257 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:16,240 Speaker 1: after God created Adam, he instituted work. That was the 258 00:16:16,280 --> 00:16:19,720 Speaker 1: first institution, and the second thing soon after that was 259 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:24,840 Speaker 1: the marriage relationship. So Satan, of course hates marriage because 260 00:16:24,880 --> 00:16:27,760 Speaker 1: it was an invention by God. And it's also a 261 00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:33,080 Speaker 1: picture of God with his church. So as Christians shining 262 00:16:33,080 --> 00:16:36,960 Speaker 1: our lights, we are supposed to emulate God to the 263 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:42,240 Speaker 1: world through our marriages and show people what a Christian 264 00:16:42,320 --> 00:16:46,000 Speaker 1: marriage can really look like. If you are following these 265 00:16:46,120 --> 00:16:51,480 Speaker 1: rules laid out in scripture, it says in verse nineteen husbands, 266 00:16:51,760 --> 00:16:56,400 Speaker 1: love your wives and don't be bitter against them. Some 267 00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:59,720 Speaker 1: versions will say don't treat them harshly, because this was 268 00:16:59,760 --> 00:17:03,600 Speaker 1: something that Paul was dealing with. Back in his day, 269 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:08,359 Speaker 1: husbands typically were taught that they were the rulers of 270 00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:12,760 Speaker 1: their families and that they could even treat their wives 271 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:17,400 Speaker 1: however they wanted to, and Paul's correcting this. He's saying, husbands, 272 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:23,600 Speaker 1: don't treat your wives harshly or don't be bitter against them, 273 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:27,160 Speaker 1: be loving towards them. And the Greek word for love 274 00:17:27,160 --> 00:17:32,560 Speaker 1: here is a gapeoh agape. Love is the highest form 275 00:17:32,600 --> 00:17:35,199 Speaker 1: of love. It is the love that Jesus showed to 276 00:17:35,320 --> 00:17:38,560 Speaker 1: us when he died for us, when he sacrificed everything 277 00:17:38,600 --> 00:17:43,879 Speaker 1: on our behalf. That's the type of love that husbands 278 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:48,560 Speaker 1: are supposed to show their wives. Be loving towards them 279 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:53,359 Speaker 1: and don't treat them harshly. So lead your family with grace, 280 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:58,600 Speaker 1: treating your wife as your equal partner under God, showing 281 00:17:58,640 --> 00:18:01,399 Speaker 1: the world not just your family, but showing the world 282 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:05,679 Speaker 1: what a Christian marriage can really look like. And the 283 00:18:05,760 --> 00:18:08,760 Speaker 1: husband has a big role in all of this as well. 284 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:11,520 Speaker 1: If the wife is going to be a good follower 285 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:16,000 Speaker 1: the husband also has to be a good leader, and 286 00:18:16,000 --> 00:18:18,639 Speaker 1: that's vice versa as well. If the husband is going 287 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:21,080 Speaker 1: to be a good leader, the wife also has to 288 00:18:21,080 --> 00:18:24,919 Speaker 1: be a good follower. So wives, you can start this 289 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:30,080 Speaker 1: right now. You can start respecting your husband's deferring to 290 00:18:30,119 --> 00:18:33,959 Speaker 1: them and praying for them as well, especially if they 291 00:18:33,960 --> 00:18:37,040 Speaker 1: are not holding up their end of the bargain. And husbands, 292 00:18:37,080 --> 00:18:40,480 Speaker 1: you can start your part right now. You can start 293 00:18:40,520 --> 00:18:43,879 Speaker 1: showing more love for your wife, even if she's not 294 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 1: doing her role in the marriage relationship. You can start 295 00:18:46,840 --> 00:18:50,000 Speaker 1: treating her with more respect, not treating her harshly or 296 00:18:50,080 --> 00:18:52,919 Speaker 1: yelling at her when she does something that frustrates you, 297 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:56,880 Speaker 1: but being calm in your demeanor and being gracious to 298 00:18:56,920 --> 00:19:00,119 Speaker 1: her and praying for her as well. Once again, and 299 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:05,000 Speaker 1: Satan really wants to destroy your marriage, So pray, pray 300 00:19:05,160 --> 00:19:08,399 Speaker 1: for your spouse that their hearts are open to God, 301 00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:12,720 Speaker 1: and that their hearts are even open to understanding more 302 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:17,280 Speaker 1: about their roles in the marriage relationship. Because I can 303 00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:20,240 Speaker 1: honestly tell you, and I'm not lying when I say this, 304 00:19:21,000 --> 00:19:25,959 Speaker 1: my marriage is proof that this works. When my husband 305 00:19:25,960 --> 00:19:30,679 Speaker 1: and I are following this example, we have such a 306 00:19:30,880 --> 00:19:34,200 Speaker 1: good relationship with each other, like, I can really see 307 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:38,920 Speaker 1: why God put us together in those moments. But when 308 00:19:38,920 --> 00:19:41,040 Speaker 1: I'm not doing my part or my husband isn't doing 309 00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:44,880 Speaker 1: his part, man, everything kind of crumbles at that point. 310 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:47,440 Speaker 1: And you notice that if you're fighting with your spouse, 311 00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:51,320 Speaker 1: everything in life just seems a little bit more miserable. 312 00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:55,560 Speaker 1: So have a strong marriage relationship, and Paul here is 313 00:19:55,680 --> 00:19:58,760 Speaker 1: explaining how to do that, and how you do that 314 00:19:58,880 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 1: is by showing love and respect to each other, specifically 315 00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:08,439 Speaker 1: wives being respectful and submissive to their husbands, deferring to 316 00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:11,600 Speaker 1: them and allowing them to take the lead. And husbands, 317 00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:15,840 Speaker 1: you show love to your wives by emulating Christ to 318 00:20:15,880 --> 00:20:19,880 Speaker 1: them by not treating them harshly or being bitter against them, 319 00:20:20,119 --> 00:20:23,119 Speaker 1: and just having a general respect for them. And that 320 00:20:23,240 --> 00:20:27,080 Speaker 1: is how you're going to have a really, really good 321 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:32,119 Speaker 1: marriage relationship that other people who may not be Christians 322 00:20:32,480 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 1: will look to and even respect and wonder what you 323 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:40,959 Speaker 1: guys are doing different that they might not have in 324 00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:45,679 Speaker 1: their marriage relationships. So, yes, marriage is a way to 325 00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:52,280 Speaker 1: shine the light of Christ to the world. So I 326 00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:55,480 Speaker 1: actually expected to talk about the rest of this chapter 327 00:20:55,560 --> 00:20:58,800 Speaker 1: as well, but we're already going on like twenty minutes 328 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:02,879 Speaker 1: and the next poor is discussing parents and children and 329 00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 1: also slaves and masters, so it's going to be a 330 00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:08,320 Speaker 1: big topic. So we'll talk about all of that on 331 00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:12,960 Speaker 1: Tuesday of next week and finish out this chapter of Colostions. 332 00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:17,119 Speaker 1: But faithful listeners, I hope you enjoyed today's episode, and 333 00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:19,240 Speaker 1: if you did, share it on your social media platforms 334 00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:23,040 Speaker 1: or from whatever podcast platform you're listening from, rate the 335 00:21:23,119 --> 00:21:26,160 Speaker 1: podcast and give it a nice little review. I actually 336 00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:30,479 Speaker 1: found this review recently from Apple Podcasts, and this is 337 00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:37,639 Speaker 1: from Babes and Hearts. But here's what she says. This 338 00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:41,560 Speaker 1: podcast was the missing piece to my faith. This podcast 339 00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:44,960 Speaker 1: is exactly what I needed for many reasons. 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