1 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:03,520 Speaker 1: Life Audio. 2 00:00:05,680 --> 00:00:08,880 Speaker 2: Sometimes we need a season where we can meet with 3 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:11,720 Speaker 2: others that speak our spiritual language, that are open to 4 00:00:11,760 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 2: the spirit, that love the word, that are going to 5 00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:18,439 Speaker 2: make space to listen together, to pursue Jesus together. That's 6 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:21,479 Speaker 2: just going to say I see you, I'm cheering you on, 7 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:24,760 Speaker 2: I'm on your team. I want you to grow and 8 00:00:24,800 --> 00:00:25,479 Speaker 2: go with God. 9 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:29,639 Speaker 1: This podcast is for the woman who loves Jesus or 10 00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:32,040 Speaker 1: who is longing to reconnect with Him and who knows 11 00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:35,160 Speaker 1: deep down that alcohol is no longer serving her. I'm 12 00:00:35,200 --> 00:00:38,559 Speaker 1: your host, Dan, your coach, Christy Osborn. Here we'll talk honestly, 13 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:41,520 Speaker 1: with grace and truth about how stepping away from wine 14 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 1: opens the door to the love, joy, peace and connection 15 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:48,320 Speaker 1: you've been searching for. Because, Babe, those were never meant 16 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 1: to be found in a bottle of wine. They're found 17 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:53,920 Speaker 1: in Jesus. Through a scripture, coaching and neuroscience, I'll help 18 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 1: you make sense of your habits, your nervous system, and 19 00:00:56,560 --> 00:01:00,400 Speaker 1: your heart so freedom feels possible and sustainable. You don't 20 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:03,240 Speaker 1: have to do this alone, Babe. Welcome to Love Life Sober. 21 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:08,200 Speaker 1: Today's conversation feels like sitting on the sofa with a 22 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:11,039 Speaker 1: girlfriend who loves Jesus just as much as you do, 23 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:15,360 Speaker 1: but still gets tired, overwhelmed, and even a little grumpy sometimes. 24 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:18,880 Speaker 1: Today I'm joined by my friend m Tyler. She's a 25 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: twice certified coach, international speaker, author, podcaster, and all around 26 00:01:23,880 --> 00:01:27,560 Speaker 1: faith cheerleader. Emm is also the founder of the Established Conference, 27 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 1: and each week she encourages more than seven thousand gals 28 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 1: through her substack grow and Go believers a space for 29 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 1: faith fueled growth without burnout or striving. Babe, this conversation 30 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:41,959 Speaker 1: is exactly that. It's real life, real faith, real gals 31 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:45,520 Speaker 1: who keeps showing up even when we feel behind. We 32 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 1: talk about why beginning again isn't failure at all, it's 33 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 1: actually the rhythm of discipleship. If you're feeling behind in 34 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:55,120 Speaker 1: your Bible, reading, behind in your habits, or your healing, 35 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:59,320 Speaker 1: or your sobriety journey or just life, then this conversation 36 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 1: is for you. Let's dive in. Hi, my friend, how 37 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 1: are you? 38 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 2: I am good, but also I'm going to be really real. 39 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 2: I'm tired. 40 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, you've got a big weekend, have a very big weekend. Yes, Well, 41 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:14,920 Speaker 1: let's tell the gals who don't know you already and 42 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:17,120 Speaker 1: so many of the gals that are listening will know 43 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 1: you because of your incredible leading through your devotional four 44 00:02:21,240 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 1: thirty one days a Beginning again. But we'll just tell 45 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:26,560 Speaker 1: her I'm meet cute because it's such a good one. 46 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 1: So I was in Charleston for Jess Connolly's conference and 47 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 1: I heard M's accent and I was like, oh my gosh, 48 00:02:36,360 --> 00:02:39,040 Speaker 1: there's someone else from the UK here. So I ran 49 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:41,399 Speaker 1: over to her like a weirdo. I'm like, oh my gosh, 50 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:43,239 Speaker 1: we're from the UK, and I know that I don't 51 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 1: sound like I'm from the UK, but I actually live there. 52 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 2: And then you said and I was like, eh, yeah, sorry, 53 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:53,079 Speaker 2: but I actually live in New Zealand. But yes, I 54 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:55,280 Speaker 2: am from the UK, but I don't live there. I 55 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:57,960 Speaker 2: live in New Zealand. But nice to meet Eastrange lady 56 00:02:58,240 --> 00:02:59,440 Speaker 2: with the American accent. 57 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 1: He's living in London. Yeah, And I was like, oh, 58 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: I thought I made a new friend. And then we 59 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 1: kind of like followed each other on Instagram. We're capfully 60 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: keeping up up with each other's things. It was like 61 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:10,919 Speaker 1: two years later. 62 00:03:11,639 --> 00:03:14,080 Speaker 2: I was at the top of the sky Tower in 63 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 2: Auckland and New Zealand feeling very sad because I was 64 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 2: going to have to leave New Zealand and come back 65 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:21,880 Speaker 2: to the UK. And I went to the Ladies' Loo 66 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 2: and on the back they had this massive poster about 67 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:27,519 Speaker 2: Mocktail Hour and I was like, oh, my gosh, that's 68 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 2: so cool. 69 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 3: I know who will love that. So I took a 70 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:33,400 Speaker 3: picture to send to you, and then in the process 71 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 3: was like, oh, and by the way, I'm coming back 72 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:36,640 Speaker 3: to the UK. 73 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:39,080 Speaker 1: That's so excited by the fact that you were coming 74 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 1: back that I forgot about it. Yeah, But anyway, that 75 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: was the reason I kind of reached out again was 76 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:45,400 Speaker 1: because of this poster. So I feel like it was 77 00:03:45,520 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 1: just God being like, you need to get back in 78 00:03:47,680 --> 00:03:50,880 Speaker 1: touch with Christy because I was very sad about coming back. 79 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 3: And then it made me remember. 80 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 2: Oh, Christy is in London, and I was like, I'm 81 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:58,640 Speaker 2: not going to be that far from London. She will 82 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 2: be one of my people that get me and understands 83 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 2: the fact that you know, yes, I was born in England, 84 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 2: but I don't always feel culturally British, don't always fit 85 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:12,600 Speaker 2: the mold. And Christy gets that, Okay, this is cool. 86 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 2: We're going to get to hang out. So I was like, 87 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:18,039 Speaker 2: I'm coming back, Yeah, excited. And then within like the 88 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 2: month of coming back, Christy says, oh, by the way, 89 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:22,280 Speaker 2: I'm moving and I was like. 90 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:26,880 Speaker 3: No, do that to me. 91 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 2: I was so excited about the fact that we were 92 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 2: going to be near each other. And then You're like, 93 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:34,240 Speaker 2: I'm moving out of London and I'm like why why 94 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:37,200 Speaker 2: would you do that to me? But next part of 95 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:39,400 Speaker 2: the story, yeah, where were you moving? 96 00:04:39,480 --> 00:04:43,840 Speaker 1: Chris next door to you? 97 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 2: So now we're really close by and we get to 98 00:04:46,920 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 2: see each other in real life. 99 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 1: So good, It's so good. God knew, God knew all 100 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 1: the things. The funny part of that, I mean so 101 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:55,680 Speaker 1: many funny parts of this. But I have been like 102 00:04:55,800 --> 00:05:00,840 Speaker 1: praying for a group of women in my agent's that 103 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:02,919 Speaker 1: loved Jesus that I could hang out with, and I 104 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:06,479 Speaker 1: did not find that in London. For years. I had 105 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:11,720 Speaker 1: a couple people, but never like a never like a 106 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: solid group. So you plus like the Bible study girls 107 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:17,359 Speaker 1: that I go to, like go to every Friday that 108 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:19,640 Speaker 1: normally I don't get flat tires on the way to. 109 00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:23,240 Speaker 2: Like, it's just so good, it's so so good. He's 110 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 2: giving us what we need. I think we all need 111 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 2: people who get us, who speak our spiritual language. Because 112 00:05:29,640 --> 00:05:31,960 Speaker 2: you can go to a church and you can like 113 00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:35,160 Speaker 2: show up faithfully and love people, but still kind of 114 00:05:35,240 --> 00:05:38,479 Speaker 2: not have people who maybe want to talk about Jesus, 115 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:40,280 Speaker 2: you know, which is a weird thing to say when 116 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 2: you can be in a church and people don't talk 117 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:45,839 Speaker 2: about God. But that can happen and it just makes 118 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 2: you feel a little bit lonely or a little bit isolated. 119 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:50,240 Speaker 2: But when you find your people who you'll be in 120 00:05:50,279 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 2: mid conversation and they're like, hey, let's pray about this, 121 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:56,080 Speaker 2: or you know, you're just doing life and actually the 122 00:05:56,080 --> 00:05:58,840 Speaker 2: Bible comes into your conversation or what you were praying 123 00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 2: about comes into your conversation, it is a game changer 124 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:03,360 Speaker 2: and it is so life giving. 125 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 3: And I have found that in. 126 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 2: You know, I didn't want to move back here again 127 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 2: the friends that God has given me in having unit by, 128 00:06:10,160 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 2: but also some of the ladies that I have found 129 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 2: that we meet up and pray. It is exhale water 130 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:18,720 Speaker 2: to the soul, like just feels so life giving and 131 00:06:18,839 --> 00:06:22,760 Speaker 2: such a blessing and God knows what we need. And 132 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 2: if you are listening and you are lonely, don't give 133 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:29,640 Speaker 2: up hope that he can provide real life people in 134 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,080 Speaker 2: your world, like where he's planted you, where he's put you. 135 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:36,680 Speaker 2: Just keep asking because he is a good God and 136 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 2: he will have the right people. And if not, come 137 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:41,680 Speaker 2: hang out with us online because we like to do 138 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 2: together online as well. 139 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 1: So yeah, oh my gosh, it's so true. One of 140 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: the things that we have in the community, which I've 141 00:06:48,520 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 1: been so excited about starting for so long, as like 142 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 1: the in person Hubs map, and there are now over 143 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 1: five hundred gals in there, which is but nanas why 144 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:02,839 Speaker 1: while I started to like tear up because Amber shout 145 00:07:02,839 --> 00:07:05,560 Speaker 1: out to Amber, who literally would like nothing would work 146 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:09,120 Speaker 1: without her. She puts together this map and it started 147 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:12,480 Speaker 1: out with like, you know, a few blue dots in 148 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:16,080 Speaker 1: the UK, and like a handful of dots around the US, 149 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 1: and now there's just like blue dots everywhere and where. 150 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:19,760 Speaker 1: She was like, sent me a picture the other day 151 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:22,360 Speaker 1: and she's like, look at all the dots and anyways, 152 00:07:22,800 --> 00:07:25,400 Speaker 1: so people are able to use this map to find 153 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:27,800 Speaker 1: people local to them for in person hugs, which is 154 00:07:27,960 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 1: also totally optional. If that freaks you out, I was 155 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:30,440 Speaker 1: going to. 156 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 2: Say, I'm not a big huggy person, so I would 157 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 2: be like, don't like, don't come at me. But you know, 158 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:38,120 Speaker 2: when you've made it to like the real inner circle, 159 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 2: when I will ask for a hug. And there's been 160 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 2: a few times recently when I've said to people, I'm like, 161 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 2: can I have a hug? 162 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:47,040 Speaker 1: Oh, that's so funny. I never noticed that about you. 163 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:48,960 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, have you been doing that every single 164 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:50,760 Speaker 1: time I've gone to hug you. I'm so sorry. 165 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 2: No, you're allowed. You're allowed to hug me. Some people 166 00:07:55,360 --> 00:07:58,640 Speaker 2: just like get instant access. You're one of those people. 167 00:07:58,680 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 2: Other people have to work for it, like my husband, 168 00:08:00,840 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 2: I'm Jayako. 169 00:08:01,760 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 1: That's so funny. We'll be back right after a quick 170 00:08:04,640 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 1: word from our sponsors. Babe, can I pause us just 171 00:08:08,520 --> 00:08:10,800 Speaker 1: for a moment if you're listening to this and thinking 172 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 1: I don't want to do this alone anymore. I want 173 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 1: to tell you about the love Life Sober community. This 174 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 1: is the space where the podcast turns into real connection 175 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:22,680 Speaker 1: and real support inside the community. We gather weekly for 176 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:26,560 Speaker 1: live connection calls where you can listen, share, or simply 177 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 1: be present. There's a beautiful leadership team holding this space 178 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:33,080 Speaker 1: with wisdom and care. A dedicated prayer request area where 179 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:36,920 Speaker 1: you can be covered, regular masterclasses led by expert guests, 180 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:39,680 Speaker 1: and even a worship music playlist to help you reconnect 181 00:08:39,679 --> 00:08:42,680 Speaker 1: when your nervous system needs it. Inside the community, there's 182 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:45,680 Speaker 1: also a dedicated coaching space called True Vine for women 183 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 1: who want even deeper support. The Love Life Sober Community 184 00:08:48,840 --> 00:08:50,880 Speaker 1: is a place to connect with like minded women and 185 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 1: open up in a way you might not be able 186 00:08:52,760 --> 00:08:55,280 Speaker 1: to in your church or small group. This space was 187 00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:58,319 Speaker 1: created specifically for women who are questioning their relationship with 188 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:01,079 Speaker 1: alcohol and who want the kind of freedom that can 189 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:04,200 Speaker 1: only be found in Jesus. All the details to join 190 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:06,000 Speaker 1: us are at the link in the show notes. I 191 00:09:06,040 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 1: can't wait to meet you. All right, let's jump back 192 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 1: into the episode. So you have the Blessed, Blessed, Blessed, 193 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 1: Blessed the Gals and the Love Life Sober Community with 194 00:09:14,320 --> 00:09:17,319 Speaker 1: your thirty one days a beginning again please, I mean 195 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:19,360 Speaker 1: this is so funny, right because again we were talking 196 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 1: about like we're just trying our best, and I'm always 197 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:24,520 Speaker 1: telling the gals you are not behind, You're right on time. 198 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 1: I'm behind in thirty one days. However, the last two 199 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:31,360 Speaker 1: scriptures are exactly what I needed to hear on that 200 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: morning and so but I mean, you are just so 201 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:38,200 Speaker 1: gifted in the way that you pull out scripture, like 202 00:09:38,440 --> 00:09:41,280 Speaker 1: digest it, analyze it, and like give it back to 203 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:44,880 Speaker 1: us in a way that's so understandable and relatable, which 204 00:09:44,920 --> 00:09:46,839 Speaker 1: is how all of your talks ares, which is why 205 00:09:46,880 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 1: I always post those in the community as well. But 206 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:52,840 Speaker 1: talk about what thirty one days and doing it in 207 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:55,440 Speaker 1: the Love Life Sober community has meant, and then let's 208 00:09:55,520 --> 00:09:57,560 Speaker 1: talk about what your next one is. 209 00:09:57,920 --> 00:10:02,280 Speaker 2: So I think for me, part of the whole theme 210 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:06,240 Speaker 2: of beginning again came out of my own story of 211 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 2: As I mentioned, we moved as a family from pastoring 212 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:12,199 Speaker 2: a church in New Zealand. We'd been there about seven years, 213 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:14,640 Speaker 2: just less than seven years. In twenty twenty four, we 214 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:19,280 Speaker 2: moved back to the UK and I was mad at God. 215 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:20,600 Speaker 3: I didn't want to be in the UK. 216 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:23,000 Speaker 2: I quite liked the sunshine in New Zealand, and a 217 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:25,000 Speaker 2: whole lot of other things about life in New Zealand. 218 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:29,239 Speaker 2: Beginning again can feel really scary, It can feel really overwhelming, 219 00:10:29,320 --> 00:10:32,600 Speaker 2: It can feel really vulnerable, It can feel hard and heavy, 220 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:35,439 Speaker 2: And we live in a culture where doing something more 221 00:10:35,480 --> 00:10:37,760 Speaker 2: than once or beginning again isn't sexy. 222 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:39,959 Speaker 3: It's just not. It's like we. 223 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:41,640 Speaker 2: Get told all the time that you should be able 224 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:43,800 Speaker 2: to do something once, nail it and move on, and 225 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:44,920 Speaker 2: if not, then you're failing. 226 00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:47,320 Speaker 3: If not, like who even are you? 227 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:51,080 Speaker 2: I just don't think that that's what scripture says. I 228 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:54,640 Speaker 2: don't think that's what Jesus says. I think walking with 229 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 2: Jesus and going the distance with him is about a 230 00:10:57,440 --> 00:10:59,320 Speaker 2: life long beginning again. 231 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:02,000 Speaker 3: Day. We need to come back to Him for our 232 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 3: daily bread. Every moment. 233 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:06,240 Speaker 2: We need to keep coming back to Him, for strength, 234 00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:10,000 Speaker 2: for equipping, for being refreshed and refilled with the spirit, 235 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:12,320 Speaker 2: for figuring out like God, what do you want me 236 00:11:12,360 --> 00:11:14,840 Speaker 2: to see about this situation? Or like help me. I 237 00:11:14,880 --> 00:11:16,720 Speaker 2: can't do it in my own strength. I need your 238 00:11:16,760 --> 00:11:19,439 Speaker 2: help to begin again in whatever the thing is. When 239 00:11:19,480 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 2: I released thirty one days a Beginning Again and you said, 240 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:24,840 Speaker 2: did I want to come and lead it in the community, 241 00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:28,240 Speaker 2: it was just like the most obvious thing. It was 242 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:29,959 Speaker 2: just the most obvious thing to say yes to you. 243 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:33,800 Speaker 2: Because here's a group of women who are assessing life. 244 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:36,960 Speaker 2: They're looking at different areas and elements of what it 245 00:11:37,040 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 2: means to begin again in relationship to alcohol. What it 246 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:42,719 Speaker 2: means to begin again in We started it at the 247 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:44,480 Speaker 2: beginning of a new year, so like that was a 248 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:48,160 Speaker 2: natural time. What it means to begin again in just 249 00:11:48,800 --> 00:11:52,200 Speaker 2: offering our lives back to Jesus and saying, you get 250 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:52,880 Speaker 2: to be in charge. 251 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:53,160 Speaker 1: God. 252 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:55,959 Speaker 2: Like, when I try and do it in my own strength, 253 00:11:56,120 --> 00:11:58,440 Speaker 2: things invariably go a bit wrong. When I try and 254 00:11:58,480 --> 00:12:03,680 Speaker 2: control everything, manipulate situations to kind of have a particular outcome, 255 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:07,200 Speaker 2: then invariably that doesn't work well and I end up 256 00:12:07,240 --> 00:12:10,440 Speaker 2: feeling pretty rubbish as a result. Help me to begin 257 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 2: again in the word, you know, coming back to the truth, 258 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:18,079 Speaker 2: being able to switch out the negative narratives that we've 259 00:12:18,080 --> 00:12:20,320 Speaker 2: picked up along the way that aren't serving us and 260 00:12:20,400 --> 00:12:23,640 Speaker 2: to instead put in God's truth. And so to do 261 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 2: it in the community has been such a joy because 262 00:12:27,120 --> 00:12:30,080 Speaker 2: I think women in the love life sober community are 263 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:33,280 Speaker 2: hungry for Jesus, and I think they're hungry for his 264 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 2: voice and his input and for getting into the Word 265 00:12:36,679 --> 00:12:39,319 Speaker 2: and just receiving the life from it. 266 00:12:39,840 --> 00:12:43,480 Speaker 3: And regardless of whether you are on the sober. 267 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:47,040 Speaker 2: Curious journey or where you're at in that transition and 268 00:12:47,040 --> 00:12:51,319 Speaker 2: that process, we all need to keep beginning again with Jesus. 269 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:54,400 Speaker 2: And like you've mentioned you're behind, I would say that 270 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:57,000 Speaker 2: you're not. You know, like, yes, it's a thirty one days, 271 00:12:57,000 --> 00:12:59,720 Speaker 2: a beginning again that they're not dated. And Okay, it's 272 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:01,480 Speaker 2: hard when you start it at the beginning of the 273 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 2: month because you were aware of the date of the 274 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:05,960 Speaker 2: month and what day you're on, and so there's that 275 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:08,960 Speaker 2: element that might feel like you're behind, but actually it's 276 00:13:09,040 --> 00:13:11,960 Speaker 2: just thirty one days. And I think it's the same 277 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:14,520 Speaker 2: that you say to your lovely ladies, like counting how 278 00:13:14,520 --> 00:13:15,319 Speaker 2: many days sober? 279 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 3: Right? 280 00:13:16,080 --> 00:13:18,800 Speaker 2: If you have a break that doesn't negate the days 281 00:13:18,840 --> 00:13:21,160 Speaker 2: that you've already done, you know those days are still 282 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 2: valid and relevant and to be celebrated. And I think 283 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:27,040 Speaker 2: it's the same any time we come back to the 284 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:31,000 Speaker 2: word to like just sit with Jesus and listen and 285 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:34,160 Speaker 2: be with him and let him speak to us and 286 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:38,200 Speaker 2: let him challenge and encourage and all these things like 287 00:13:38,320 --> 00:13:42,480 Speaker 2: that's to be celebrated. And like you, I don't always 288 00:13:42,600 --> 00:13:45,800 Speaker 2: follow it for like what I'm doing every single day. 289 00:13:45,840 --> 00:13:49,760 Speaker 2: Do I wish that I did? Yes, But life happens. 290 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:54,000 Speaker 2: Things happen. You get ill you get tired. Like schedules change, 291 00:13:54,200 --> 00:13:57,439 Speaker 2: and so your rhythm that might be beautifully curated might 292 00:13:57,480 --> 00:14:00,280 Speaker 2: have the shift in a season, and then you find 293 00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:01,959 Speaker 2: you come back to it and they're like, oh, well, 294 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:04,600 Speaker 2: I needed that exact first today, and that happens to 295 00:14:04,640 --> 00:14:06,840 Speaker 2: me as well. And so like you can beat yourself 296 00:14:06,920 --> 00:14:08,520 Speaker 2: up and be a bit like, oh, you know, I'm 297 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:10,839 Speaker 2: not doing it every day, but it might be that, 298 00:14:11,000 --> 00:14:14,400 Speaker 2: like God really speaks to you through a passage and 299 00:14:14,480 --> 00:14:17,480 Speaker 2: you dwell on that for like a week. I've got 300 00:14:17,520 --> 00:14:21,040 Speaker 2: friends who, you know, everybody else might be on day 301 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 2: twenty something and they're on like day three or day four, 302 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:28,480 Speaker 2: but men are they meeting with Jesus. And I just think, like, 303 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:32,040 Speaker 2: let's change the narrative around even how we do Bible 304 00:14:32,040 --> 00:14:35,280 Speaker 2: study that it doesn't have to be this like get 305 00:14:35,320 --> 00:14:37,480 Speaker 2: through the whole Bible in a year. And that's great 306 00:14:37,560 --> 00:14:39,360 Speaker 2: and that's good and I love it and I'm here 307 00:14:39,400 --> 00:14:42,000 Speaker 2: for those two. But also there's something to be said 308 00:14:42,040 --> 00:14:45,400 Speaker 2: for slowing down sometimes and going, oh wow, there's like 309 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:48,160 Speaker 2: there's so much in this one word and like God 310 00:14:48,280 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 2: keeps unpacking it, and enjoy that rather than kind of 311 00:14:51,360 --> 00:14:53,680 Speaker 2: feeling like you've got to rush through it. A few 312 00:14:53,720 --> 00:14:56,720 Speaker 2: weeks ago, I was eating soup like one lunch time. 313 00:14:57,000 --> 00:14:59,200 Speaker 3: I was just not thinking about it at all, numbing 314 00:14:59,240 --> 00:14:59,680 Speaker 3: it down. 315 00:15:00,040 --> 00:15:01,760 Speaker 2: Eating lunch was something to be ticked off before I 316 00:15:01,760 --> 00:15:04,280 Speaker 2: could get back to my work. I just sense the 317 00:15:04,320 --> 00:15:09,920 Speaker 2: spirit say savor, savor the soup, like savor this moment, 318 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:14,400 Speaker 2: like taste it like what like slowed the heck down woman, 319 00:15:14,920 --> 00:15:17,480 Speaker 2: and savor it. And then to say, like, savor my presence. 320 00:15:17,880 --> 00:15:20,600 Speaker 2: You know, don't just be rushing through everything so much 321 00:15:20,640 --> 00:15:23,080 Speaker 2: that you're not even aware of what you're doing. And 322 00:15:23,360 --> 00:15:25,040 Speaker 2: you know, we read that like taste and see that 323 00:15:25,080 --> 00:15:27,280 Speaker 2: the Lord is good. Like to taste, we have to 324 00:15:27,320 --> 00:15:30,760 Speaker 2: engage our mind and our senses to go what does 325 00:15:30,800 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 2: this taste like? 326 00:15:31,800 --> 00:15:34,040 Speaker 3: What are the sensations going on in my world right now? 327 00:15:34,040 --> 00:15:35,480 Speaker 3: And I think it's the same with the word. 328 00:15:35,560 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 2: And when we come back to the feet of Jesus 329 00:15:37,160 --> 00:15:40,960 Speaker 2: again and again and again every day, every moment, and 330 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:43,320 Speaker 2: that might not look like doing a study every day, 331 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 2: but constantly coming back to Him in our thoughts and 332 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:49,720 Speaker 2: in our patterns and saying, okay, where are you in this? 333 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 3: You know, okay, I've got this list of ten things 334 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 3: to do. What do you want me to do next? 335 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:58,000 Speaker 2: And even this morning I asked him because, as I say, 336 00:15:58,120 --> 00:16:01,200 Speaker 2: coming out of a baptism, we can was preaching, had 337 00:16:01,200 --> 00:16:04,960 Speaker 2: guests visiting from overseas, and my mum's been having a 338 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:06,800 Speaker 2: whole bunch of health stuff going on. It's been a 339 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:10,920 Speaker 2: wild season, and there have been things that have been 340 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:13,360 Speaker 2: like pushed down the to do list that now feel 341 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:16,240 Speaker 2: really pressing. And I just as I was driving back 342 00:16:16,280 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 2: from dropping my friend off at the airport, I said, Jesus, 343 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:20,760 Speaker 2: what do you want me to know about today? 344 00:16:21,720 --> 00:16:25,760 Speaker 3: And he said, there's no rush. There's no rush. 345 00:16:25,800 --> 00:16:29,360 Speaker 2: And I can be so tempted to make things a 346 00:16:29,440 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 2: rush and make things pressured, and there is actually no rush. 347 00:16:33,360 --> 00:16:33,720 Speaker 3: There's not. 348 00:16:34,680 --> 00:16:37,080 Speaker 2: And so I think beginning again with the ladies in 349 00:16:37,080 --> 00:16:38,920 Speaker 2: the community has just been such a joy and a 350 00:16:38,960 --> 00:16:42,320 Speaker 2: delight because I'm being reminded as much as I hope 351 00:16:42,320 --> 00:16:46,000 Speaker 2: everyone else, that there's no rush to begin again. It's 352 00:16:46,040 --> 00:16:50,360 Speaker 2: a process, it's ongoing. It's something actually that we will 353 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:54,000 Speaker 2: forever be doing, is beginning again with Jesus, because constantly 354 00:16:54,240 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 2: we need to return to the Father, return to him, 355 00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:59,640 Speaker 2: like come away from all that is busy and overwhelming 356 00:16:59,680 --> 00:17:02,480 Speaker 2: and life and his unforced rhythms of grace right. 357 00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:05,119 Speaker 3: But for me it's been really exciting. 358 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:07,800 Speaker 2: It's a real privilege to kind of see behind the 359 00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:10,359 Speaker 2: scenes of love Life's over in terms of the community 360 00:17:10,600 --> 00:17:13,200 Speaker 2: and just to anyone who might be on the fence 361 00:17:13,240 --> 00:17:16,119 Speaker 2: about whether it's a place to show up. These women 362 00:17:16,480 --> 00:17:20,199 Speaker 2: are wildly generous in their heart and their love for 363 00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:24,200 Speaker 2: one another, in cheering each other on, in pursuing God, 364 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:28,240 Speaker 2: in just lifting each other up. And it's such a 365 00:17:28,280 --> 00:17:32,240 Speaker 2: safe space, and it's such a joy filled space. And 366 00:17:32,280 --> 00:17:35,600 Speaker 2: I just I celebrate you Christy and the team that 367 00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:38,840 Speaker 2: are building this place, because what a safe space to 368 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 2: land if you are somebody who is wanting to investigate 369 00:17:42,440 --> 00:17:45,600 Speaker 2: your relationship with alcohol but also love Jesus at the 370 00:17:45,640 --> 00:17:48,520 Speaker 2: same time. It is amazing and I feel quite honored 371 00:17:48,560 --> 00:17:50,520 Speaker 2: and privileged to be able to be a part of it, 372 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:53,760 Speaker 2: to be able to speak life and truth and hopefully 373 00:17:53,800 --> 00:17:56,040 Speaker 2: some hope into the space as well. 374 00:17:56,119 --> 00:17:59,639 Speaker 1: Yeah, first of all, God's so good because the timing 375 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:01,919 Speaker 1: of every thing that you just said. We're in the 376 00:18:01,960 --> 00:18:04,720 Speaker 1: middle of our January fast because I started it late, 377 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:08,400 Speaker 1: but you know, also right on time. But also there's 378 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:11,080 Speaker 1: a lent one coming up, and I just I really 379 00:18:11,119 --> 00:18:13,679 Speaker 1: on our very first coaching call. That's the message that 380 00:18:13,720 --> 00:18:16,560 Speaker 1: I wanted to get across to everyone is it takes 381 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:18,879 Speaker 1: as long as it takes. And I know that that 382 00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:23,359 Speaker 1: sounds wildly crazy because people want to crack whatever they 383 00:18:23,440 --> 00:18:24,879 Speaker 1: want to do right away. 384 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:25,240 Speaker 2: Right. 385 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:27,960 Speaker 1: They want to crack not drinking in forty days, and 386 00:18:28,119 --> 00:18:30,720 Speaker 1: maybe it will take forty days, but maybe it won't. 387 00:18:30,840 --> 00:18:35,000 Speaker 1: And that's okay because of everything that you just said, right, 388 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:38,120 Speaker 1: everything that you just said, God's timing is so perfect. 389 00:18:38,640 --> 00:18:41,280 Speaker 1: I did the Bible recap at last year. It felt 390 00:18:41,480 --> 00:18:43,679 Speaker 1: rush to me at the end, and I was I 391 00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:46,480 Speaker 1: recognized that I was going to do it to tick 392 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:48,920 Speaker 1: off a box. And that is not how I want 393 00:18:48,920 --> 00:18:52,320 Speaker 1: to feel, especially like when I'm reading in the New Testament. 394 00:18:52,359 --> 00:18:54,359 Speaker 1: I mean in all of it, but definitely in some 395 00:18:54,400 --> 00:18:56,359 Speaker 1: of these passages, and so I know I have to 396 00:18:56,440 --> 00:18:58,359 Speaker 1: go back and do them slowly. And I love that. 397 00:18:58,440 --> 00:19:01,440 Speaker 1: How in thirty one days, that's what that's the instructions. 398 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:05,480 Speaker 1: It's like, read these verses slowly, read them slowly. 399 00:19:06,400 --> 00:19:09,000 Speaker 2: Every day do we just like, oh, this is the passage, 400 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:10,679 Speaker 2: I'm going to read it, and then you're moving on 401 00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:12,399 Speaker 2: to like a question, and it's like, where do you 402 00:19:12,400 --> 00:19:13,280 Speaker 2: see God in the passage? 403 00:19:13,320 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 3: And you're like, I don't even know what I just read. 404 00:19:15,359 --> 00:19:17,840 Speaker 2: I don't know, And I mean it's an instruction to 405 00:19:17,920 --> 00:19:20,600 Speaker 2: my heart as much as like those that are doing 406 00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:22,840 Speaker 2: thirty one days, whether it's thirty one days at Beginning 407 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:25,320 Speaker 2: again or there are other thirty one days coming down 408 00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:27,960 Speaker 2: the line, which we'll talk about, but that's going to 409 00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:31,120 Speaker 2: stay in all of them. Read it slowly, slow down, 410 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:32,800 Speaker 2: save it, savor it. 411 00:19:32,880 --> 00:19:34,919 Speaker 1: And we are and know, like shade to the Bible Recap, 412 00:19:34,920 --> 00:19:37,680 Speaker 1: we're doing the Bible Recap currently and I'm so glad 413 00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:39,560 Speaker 1: I did that because it was the first time after 414 00:19:39,600 --> 00:19:42,159 Speaker 1: three attempts reading it cover to cover, and I'm so 415 00:19:42,320 --> 00:19:45,080 Speaker 1: glad that now I can go back and do it slowly. 416 00:19:45,280 --> 00:19:47,119 Speaker 1: But you need. I think it's a good thing to 417 00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:49,359 Speaker 1: do for context. One hundred percent. 418 00:19:49,920 --> 00:19:50,399 Speaker 3: I love it. 419 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:52,160 Speaker 1: And we're going to all links to thirty one Days 420 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:54,439 Speaker 1: the Beginning again because this is also your book book. 421 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:57,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, we can talk about the book book a little bit, 422 00:19:57,600 --> 00:20:00,359 Speaker 2: but not in any great detail other than to just 423 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:03,880 Speaker 2: wet your appetite and say keep your eyes peeled because 424 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:05,320 Speaker 2: at the end of twenty twenty six. 425 00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:07,720 Speaker 3: I have a book book that is coming out. 426 00:20:08,119 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 2: Can't even say what the title is because it's not 427 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:12,720 Speaker 2: been nailed down, and I don't know if I'm allowed. 428 00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:16,719 Speaker 2: But this idea of again is something that God has 429 00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:19,920 Speaker 2: been speaking to me again and again and again since 430 00:20:19,960 --> 00:20:22,560 Speaker 2: coming back to the UK. And that's because I think 431 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:24,879 Speaker 2: in life we have different types of again. We have 432 00:20:25,119 --> 00:20:27,800 Speaker 2: the again that you hear from like a toddler who 433 00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:29,840 Speaker 2: they're at the park and you're pushing them on the 434 00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:30,880 Speaker 2: swings and they're. 435 00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:32,520 Speaker 3: Like again, again and again. 436 00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:34,080 Speaker 2: And it gets to the point where you're like, I 437 00:20:34,200 --> 00:20:36,840 Speaker 2: really don't want to do this again. I have my 438 00:20:36,960 --> 00:20:40,639 Speaker 2: joy for again right now has aspised. Then there's like 439 00:20:40,680 --> 00:20:43,239 Speaker 2: the again you get if you're at the gym and 440 00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:45,960 Speaker 2: you're doing a gym class and it's maybe circuits or 441 00:20:45,960 --> 00:20:49,919 Speaker 2: there's personal trainer and they're like counting down and then 442 00:20:49,960 --> 00:20:50,520 Speaker 2: they're like do. 443 00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:53,119 Speaker 3: It again, and you're like, I physically can't. 444 00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:55,879 Speaker 2: I am like at the end of myself, I have 445 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:59,240 Speaker 2: nothing left to do it again, and it's relentless and 446 00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:02,479 Speaker 2: it's kind of physically draining and emotionally draining and all 447 00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 2: the things. Then there's like a vulnerable again or a 448 00:21:06,720 --> 00:21:11,080 Speaker 2: tentative again. So last year, my dad had an accident 449 00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:16,560 Speaker 2: with a chainsaw, which sounds really terrifying, and he's absolutely fine, thankfully, 450 00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:19,080 Speaker 2: which is a miracle in and of itself, because he 451 00:21:19,200 --> 00:21:22,240 Speaker 2: was up an a frame ladder on his own with 452 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:25,800 Speaker 2: a chainsaw and things went wrong and it cut his 453 00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:29,479 Speaker 2: thumb very badly. And my dad is a musician, and 454 00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:32,480 Speaker 2: so he didn't know for quite some time whether he 455 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 2: would ever play the piano ever again. So that first 456 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:38,400 Speaker 2: few times that he had to see what he could 457 00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:41,880 Speaker 2: do musically, it was a form of in again. And 458 00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:44,600 Speaker 2: so it was after an injury. And so you might 459 00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:47,080 Speaker 2: not have had an accident with a chainsaw. In Jesus' name, 460 00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:50,320 Speaker 2: please I pray that won't ever happen. But maybe you 461 00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:53,760 Speaker 2: have got divorced and you are staring down the barrel 462 00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:58,040 Speaker 2: of do you date again? It's tentative and vulnerable and scary, 463 00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:01,399 Speaker 2: or maybe it's like after a redundancy, like we have 464 00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:05,640 Speaker 2: these agains that feel very overwhelming because there's a real 465 00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:09,960 Speaker 2: tenderness where we've maybe been hurt. Yeah, And then for me, 466 00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:13,280 Speaker 2: at the beginning of twenty twenty five, I was like, 467 00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:16,360 Speaker 2: really struggling with the fact that we were in this 468 00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:21,920 Speaker 2: new place, new church, new community, new country, and I 469 00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:25,119 Speaker 2: had been really hurt. I've been really hurt. And God 470 00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:28,679 Speaker 2: just said to me, you need to hope again. And 471 00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:34,240 Speaker 2: I was like, Oh, don't want to because that feels risky, Like. 472 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:35,040 Speaker 3: It felt really. 473 00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:37,240 Speaker 2: Risky because hoping again means you could get hurt again 474 00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:40,639 Speaker 2: if your hopes are unmet. And so he spoke to 475 00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:43,800 Speaker 2: me a lot about in that moment about hoping again. 476 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:45,440 Speaker 3: But the book book. 477 00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:48,520 Speaker 2: Is really looking at how life with Jesus isn't just 478 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:51,600 Speaker 2: one and done. It is a series of agains. We 479 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:53,320 Speaker 2: have to keep coming back to Him again. We have 480 00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:55,199 Speaker 2: to keep getting filled with the spirit again. We have 481 00:22:55,320 --> 00:23:00,280 Speaker 2: to keep forgiving again and trusting again. And that sounds's 482 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:04,160 Speaker 2: very overwhelming, but actually it's how God has wired us, 483 00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:07,560 Speaker 2: is how He's made the world. We have like waves 484 00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:10,240 Speaker 2: that come again and again. The sun rises and it 485 00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:14,080 Speaker 2: sets every single day. You know our brains and how 486 00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:18,639 Speaker 2: we've been wired with neuroplasticity and repetition. It's like built 487 00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:22,600 Speaker 2: into us that there is this power of again. I'm 488 00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:25,919 Speaker 2: really excited about this book because I've been living what 489 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:28,960 Speaker 2: it looks like to start again, to begin again, And 490 00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:30,960 Speaker 2: so that's like a little bit of the thirty Days 491 00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:33,280 Speaker 2: thirty one days, but also like what does it mean 492 00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:35,720 Speaker 2: to grow again? What does it mean to believe again 493 00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:38,280 Speaker 2: when you've been disappointed? What does it mean to go 494 00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:41,639 Speaker 2: again when you feel tentative or unsure or lacking in confidence? 495 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:44,600 Speaker 2: And so, yeah, the book is coming. It's not coming 496 00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:47,439 Speaker 2: till near the end of the year, but it is 497 00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:50,080 Speaker 2: has been such a joy, and I'm just at the 498 00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:52,480 Speaker 2: stage where I'm getting edits back from the editor. And 499 00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:55,679 Speaker 2: I had quite a space between where I submitted this 500 00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:58,400 Speaker 2: manuscript and then this has come back, and as I'm 501 00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:02,000 Speaker 2: just getting into it again, I am so excited for 502 00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:04,640 Speaker 2: what God wants to do in and through it. And 503 00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:06,280 Speaker 2: you know, it's going to be a book that's going 504 00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:08,560 Speaker 2: to be great to do in community as well. There'll 505 00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:11,280 Speaker 2: be questions at the end of each chapter to really 506 00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:13,800 Speaker 2: kind of apply it to our life so that we 507 00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:15,840 Speaker 2: don't just read something and then go, oh, yeah, that's 508 00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:18,600 Speaker 2: cool and then move on. But it's also full of 509 00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:21,040 Speaker 2: like fun stories like the time my daughter made a 510 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:25,639 Speaker 2: bomb not on purpose, you know, so and we were 511 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:28,080 Speaker 2: living in a rental and you know, so there's lots 512 00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:32,320 Speaker 2: of like hopefully fun and engaging moments, lots of scripture, 513 00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:35,479 Speaker 2: love the Bible, and then lots of a little bit 514 00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:37,200 Speaker 2: of neuroscience sprinkled in as well. 515 00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:40,879 Speaker 1: So I'm excited. I'm so excited for the book. I've 516 00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:45,040 Speaker 1: only read the first few chapters, but I'm so excited too. 517 00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:48,520 Speaker 1: We'll be back right after a quick word from our sponsors, 518 00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:53,000 Speaker 1: talk about what's happening before the end of the year. 519 00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:55,200 Speaker 1: Let's talk about cohorts. 520 00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:56,560 Speaker 3: Cohorts. 521 00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:58,480 Speaker 1: So, as I've already. 522 00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:01,919 Speaker 2: Said, we're normal women, and we're tired and we're busy, 523 00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:05,000 Speaker 2: but we also recognize the value and beauty of being 524 00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:06,800 Speaker 2: able to pursue Jesus together. 525 00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:11,000 Speaker 3: And so following on from thirty. 526 00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:14,160 Speaker 2: One days to beginning again, there will be some cohorts 527 00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:17,520 Speaker 2: Grow and Go cohorts there for women only. They are 528 00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:21,080 Speaker 2: defined beginning and defined end, so you're not having to 529 00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:24,080 Speaker 2: sign up for something forever and then feel like you're 530 00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:26,160 Speaker 2: never going to finish it, or it's overwhelming, or it's 531 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:28,440 Speaker 2: another thing to add to your plate all the rest 532 00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:32,160 Speaker 2: of it. The heart behind a grow and Go cohort 533 00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:34,959 Speaker 2: is that you will be able to join for a season. 534 00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:36,480 Speaker 3: It will serve you. 535 00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:39,400 Speaker 2: It will help you to keep growing in your relationship 536 00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:41,439 Speaker 2: with Jesus so that you can go into the fullness 537 00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:43,719 Speaker 2: of where He's put you right here, right now, wherever. 538 00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:44,119 Speaker 3: That may be. 539 00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:48,040 Speaker 2: About getting into the word together, about applying it together, 540 00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:51,560 Speaker 2: cheering each other on, helping each other out. There'll be 541 00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:55,000 Speaker 2: some life zoom calls to kind of get into scripture 542 00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:59,400 Speaker 2: and to just be in meaningful relationship whilst we do something. 543 00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:02,440 Speaker 2: So the weight list is open right now. You can 544 00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:04,479 Speaker 2: join the weight list to find out more about what 545 00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:07,399 Speaker 2: a cohort is without spending too long talking about it 546 00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:10,000 Speaker 2: right now. But the first cohort will be thirty one 547 00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:13,080 Speaker 2: days of Pursuing Wisdom, and it will be going through 548 00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:16,840 Speaker 2: the Book of Proverbs because conveniently God gave us thirty 549 00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:21,080 Speaker 2: one chapters. It's like, that was so kind of him 550 00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:24,360 Speaker 2: to do it like that. But yeah, so it's thirty 551 00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:26,080 Speaker 2: one days of pursuing Wisdom. It will be a chapter 552 00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:28,960 Speaker 2: in Proverbs each day for the month of March yet, 553 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:32,080 Speaker 2: and the cohort is going to be open beyond March, 554 00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:35,280 Speaker 2: so that you don't have that pressure. I don't want 555 00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:37,480 Speaker 2: women joining to feel like it's too much. 556 00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:38,800 Speaker 3: I can't commit and I. 557 00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:40,760 Speaker 2: Don't want to feel behind and I don't want to 558 00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,840 Speaker 2: feel this that in the other. So it's opening on 559 00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:45,760 Speaker 2: the first of March, that cohort, but you can join 560 00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:47,720 Speaker 2: the weight list to get all the info now. It 561 00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:50,360 Speaker 2: will be open for March and April as a cohort. 562 00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:54,879 Speaker 2: You can get the journal from Amazon or you can 563 00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:56,440 Speaker 2: get it direct from me if you're in the UK. 564 00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:59,720 Speaker 2: That may work out cheaper depending on how much Amazon 565 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:04,639 Speaker 2: on sale for they change these things. You know, you 566 00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:07,080 Speaker 2: can get the book now from Amazon or from myself. 567 00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:10,280 Speaker 2: You can sign up to the wait list. And the 568 00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:13,320 Speaker 2: way that the journal works as a Bible reading plan. 569 00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:14,280 Speaker 3: In Journal, each. 570 00:27:14,160 --> 00:27:16,919 Speaker 2: Day you've got five g's, so you have your grow, 571 00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:20,760 Speaker 2: which is the actual Bible reading. So for pursuing wisdom, 572 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,360 Speaker 2: it's simple. It's just a chapter of Proverbs every day. 573 00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:26,119 Speaker 2: Then you have glorify. I think we can be so 574 00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:28,280 Speaker 2: tempted to, like when we're reading the Bible, to go 575 00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:30,400 Speaker 2: straight to like what does this mean for me? How 576 00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:32,320 Speaker 2: is it going to change my life? But I think 577 00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:34,280 Speaker 2: it's really important that we start with like where do 578 00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:36,119 Speaker 2: we see Jesus in the passage? Where do we like 579 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,159 Speaker 2: where with God? What does it teach us about his 580 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:40,920 Speaker 2: character and who he is so that we can kind 581 00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:43,920 Speaker 2: of grow in our understanding of him, because that's when 582 00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,440 Speaker 2: we best get our identity, is when we know who 583 00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:49,720 Speaker 2: he is first. Then it's got the grapple. Then it's 584 00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:52,960 Speaker 2: got the grapple. It's the like, here's some journaling prompts 585 00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:54,959 Speaker 2: or a question to kind of think like how am 586 00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:55,760 Speaker 2: I going to apply this. 587 00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:57,240 Speaker 3: To my life? Or what might God be saying to 588 00:27:57,280 --> 00:27:57,760 Speaker 3: me about this? 589 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,560 Speaker 2: Then it is gather gather your thoughts all the things 590 00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:03,480 Speaker 2: that you've kind of done to that point, the reading, 591 00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:06,760 Speaker 2: the thinking about where God is in the passage, the questioning, 592 00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:09,880 Speaker 2: and gather your thoughts in prayer, so like ride out 593 00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:11,680 Speaker 2: a prayer or you don't have to write if that's 594 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:14,359 Speaker 2: not your jam. Then the final G is go like, 595 00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:16,520 Speaker 2: so how is it actually going to be implemented in 596 00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:19,000 Speaker 2: your life? Because it's really easy again sometimes to be like, 597 00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:21,479 Speaker 2: oh that's really nice and that's great, and then we 598 00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:25,640 Speaker 2: never actually get changed. We never actually do in our 599 00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:29,640 Speaker 2: our walk with Jesus and in our discipleships. So they're 600 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:32,840 Speaker 2: the five g's and so it's got space double spread 601 00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:35,240 Speaker 2: for each each day that you do it as I said, 602 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:38,920 Speaker 2: it doesn't have to be every single day, but each day. 603 00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:39,800 Speaker 3: You come back to do it. 604 00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:43,120 Speaker 2: There's plenty of space to like journal and process and 605 00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:45,719 Speaker 2: write out your thoughts. But then also we'll have space 606 00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:49,920 Speaker 2: in the growing cohorts. It's a platform away from social media, 607 00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:53,200 Speaker 2: away from the algorithms, away from adverts. 608 00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:54,240 Speaker 3: It's private. 609 00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,320 Speaker 2: You can be real and show up how you need 610 00:28:57,360 --> 00:29:00,000 Speaker 2: to show up and whatever that looks like. 611 00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:02,200 Speaker 3: And I'm very excited about it. 612 00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:04,160 Speaker 2: And then the other thing to say is that it's 613 00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:06,640 Speaker 2: a pay as you go model, pays you feel model. 614 00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:10,640 Speaker 2: So it's one dollar to join if you want to 615 00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:12,959 Speaker 2: pay more to help, so into the ministry of all 616 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,800 Speaker 2: things grow and go, you're welcome, but if you don't, 617 00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:18,840 Speaker 2: you don't have to. And that's one of the things 618 00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:20,880 Speaker 2: I'm most excited about because I don't want any women 619 00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:24,040 Speaker 2: to feel like they can't access it because of price. 620 00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:27,000 Speaker 2: So yeah, that's you can find out all the info 621 00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,920 Speaker 2: at mtyler dot com Forward slash Cohorts. 622 00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:33,600 Speaker 1: I'm so excited for this one, babe. I'm so so excited. 623 00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:36,960 Speaker 1: I'm so excited for this just new model because I've 624 00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:39,280 Speaker 1: been bugging you ever since that act study we did 625 00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,760 Speaker 1: I don't remember when that was last year sometime, and 626 00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,120 Speaker 1: you're finally doing it. 627 00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's just it's just for Christie. 628 00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:49,360 Speaker 3: But if you want to join Christie, then you're welcome. 629 00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:53,400 Speaker 2: No, it's it's because I think it's really easy. 630 00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,160 Speaker 3: To do these things. 631 00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:58,920 Speaker 2: Sometimes as if it's like I'm the expert and I'm 632 00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:00,720 Speaker 2: going to teach you how to do all these things. 633 00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:02,920 Speaker 2: But I think it's really important. And I hope you 634 00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:05,040 Speaker 2: hear my heart when it's like I need it to. 635 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:08,720 Speaker 2: I need it to. I need accountability to keep coming 636 00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:10,040 Speaker 2: back to the Word again and again. 637 00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:12,760 Speaker 3: I need other women. 638 00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:16,600 Speaker 2: Who are just hungry for what they read in scripture 639 00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,280 Speaker 2: to see it in their day to day lives. I 640 00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:23,320 Speaker 2: want my relationship with Jesus to be meety and meaningful 641 00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 2: and not empty. Religion not confined to a Sunday morning service, 642 00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:31,520 Speaker 2: but to impact my twenty four to seven, how I parent, 643 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:34,960 Speaker 2: how I exist at work, because I work in a 644 00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:37,520 Speaker 2: like kind of real life world job as well, like 645 00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:40,120 Speaker 2: how how we show up in the spaces and places 646 00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:43,120 Speaker 2: that God has us want. I want the Spirit to 647 00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:45,600 Speaker 2: lead in all of that. And there is something about 648 00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:47,680 Speaker 2: we are not supposed to do faith on our own 649 00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:50,440 Speaker 2: and I am a pastor's wife, so I will be 650 00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:53,640 Speaker 2: the first to say get yourself plugged into a local church. 651 00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:56,120 Speaker 2: I think it's really important, it's really valuable. 652 00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:57,800 Speaker 3: I am pro pro pro that. 653 00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:01,880 Speaker 2: But sometimes we need a season where we can meet 654 00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:04,640 Speaker 2: with others that speak our spiritual language, that are open 655 00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:07,120 Speaker 2: to the spirit, that love the word, that are going 656 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:11,000 Speaker 2: to make space to listen together, to pursue Jesus together. 657 00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:14,360 Speaker 2: Sometimes we need that extra space that's just gonna say 658 00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:17,960 Speaker 2: I see you, I'm cheering you on, I'm on your team. 659 00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:20,719 Speaker 2: I want you to grow and go with God. And 660 00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:23,400 Speaker 2: that's for me what the cohorts are about. It's about 661 00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:26,840 Speaker 2: seeing people and going let's go like God has more. 662 00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:31,800 Speaker 2: He is big into multiplication, big into blessing, big into favor, 663 00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:35,080 Speaker 2: big into loving us. So let's lean into that and 664 00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:37,840 Speaker 2: just say, yes, Lord, we're here for it, we want it. 665 00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:41,520 Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh bab I'm so excited. I'm so so excited. 666 00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:43,800 Speaker 1: So tell everybody where they can find you, and I 667 00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:46,160 Speaker 1: will link everything in the show notes and you can 668 00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:48,560 Speaker 1: find em and love Life Sober Community. You can always 669 00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:50,520 Speaker 1: tagger if you have any questions in there too. 670 00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:53,479 Speaker 2: Absolutely tag me in Love Life Sober community. If that's 671 00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:56,640 Speaker 2: where you're hanging out, I would love to see you there. Otherwise, 672 00:31:57,320 --> 00:32:00,760 Speaker 2: you can find me on my website, which is M 673 00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:04,320 Speaker 2: Tyler so e M T y Elia dot com so 674 00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:05,640 Speaker 2: M tyler dot com. 675 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:07,320 Speaker 3: But equally, I have. 676 00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:10,720 Speaker 2: A substack which is Mtyler dot substack dot com and 677 00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:14,640 Speaker 2: I do weekly devotions there and on socials like Instagram 678 00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:16,560 Speaker 2: or whatever, it's hello M Tyler. 679 00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:20,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, and if you're if you're a substack follower, definitely 680 00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:24,800 Speaker 1: go follow them on substack. Our subjects are so good. Thanks, babe, 681 00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:28,480 Speaker 1: you're the best. I'm so appreciative of you, and thank 682 00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:32,080 Speaker 1: you for sewing into our community. And just you're the best. 683 00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:34,520 Speaker 1: And this is going to be another just I'm glad 684 00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:36,480 Speaker 1: to know that I have all of February to finish 685 00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:38,920 Speaker 1: the January, right. 686 00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:39,640 Speaker 3: You do. 687 00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:43,600 Speaker 2: There's no hurry, There's no hurry. It's all good. 688 00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:46,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, girls, we'll see you next week. Thanks 689 00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:51,560 Speaker 1: m you're the best. Bie. Guys, thank you for spending 690 00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:54,160 Speaker 1: this time with me on Love Live Sober. If today's 691 00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:57,320 Speaker 1: conversation stirred something in your heart, don't rush past it, 692 00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:00,320 Speaker 1: take it to prayer. If you're feeling ready for deeper 693 00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:03,120 Speaker 1: connection and support. I'd love to invite you into the 694 00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:06,840 Speaker 1: love Life Sober community, a grace filled, shame free space 695 00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:10,800 Speaker 1: where real connection grows and lasting change takes root. You 696 00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:13,200 Speaker 1: can find the link to join us in the show notes. 697 00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:17,760 Speaker 1: Love Life Sober is part of the Life Audio podcast Network, 698 00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:20,760 Speaker 1: where faith centered podcasts help you grow deeper in your 699 00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:24,160 Speaker 1: walk with Christ. You can find more faith centered podcasts 700 00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:28,520 Speaker 1: at lifeaudio dot com. Until next time, be gentle with yourself, 701 00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:32,520 Speaker 1: stay curious, and trust God's promises. He has freedom waiting 702 00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:32,800 Speaker 1: for you.