1 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: Welcome to Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Here thousands of 2 00:00:24,240 --> 00:00:27,880 Speaker 1: hours of Dennis's lectures courses in classic radio programs. Had 3 00:00:27,880 --> 00:00:39,720 Speaker 1: to purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles, go to Dennisprager dot com. 4 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:41,959 Speaker 2: I am old fashioned. I like two taxes. 5 00:00:42,920 --> 00:00:43,279 Speaker 3: I don't know. 6 00:00:43,320 --> 00:00:44,840 Speaker 4: I think all of a sudden, I don't like being 7 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 4: married to what is known as a new woman. 8 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:49,760 Speaker 2: I want a wife, not a competitor, competator, competitor. 9 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:52,639 Speaker 1: Talk about a bit, this crying in the morning thing. 10 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 1: It's depression, you know, let's get that fixed. 11 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 4: That's what men think, isn't it What Unless you've got 12 00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:00,240 Speaker 4: the answer, unless you can say, oh, I know this 13 00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:03,080 Speaker 4: bloke can use ex rud to fix that, and there's 14 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 4: no point bothering. 15 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:05,919 Speaker 5: How do you write women so well? 16 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:09,920 Speaker 4: I think of a man and I take away reason 17 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 4: and accountability. I love him, I love him and I 18 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 4: don't care what you think. 19 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:17,959 Speaker 6: I love him for the for the man he wants 20 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:20,119 Speaker 6: to be, and I love him for the man that 21 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:21,720 Speaker 6: he almost is. 22 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 7: What do people have rouse about him? 23 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:30,040 Speaker 2: Money? Sex, sex, money he wants, she doesn't. 24 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:32,760 Speaker 6: Want, she wants, he doesn't want women. 25 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:37,680 Speaker 4: I've always been a big problem to me, doctor Fussbend. 26 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 3: You listening, doctor Yes, yes, yes. 27 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:47,800 Speaker 2: Go on, go on, and welcome everybody to the Male 28 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:50,280 Speaker 2: a Female Hour on the Dennis Prager Show. I have 29 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 2: a big smile only because I love that opening so much. 30 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 2: It always gives me a smile, especially are you're listening, 31 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 2: doctor Fussbitt Yes, yes, yes, yeses, go ahead, go ahead. 32 00:01:58,960 --> 00:02:03,800 Speaker 2: I love it well. I have a little anecdote to 33 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 2: report to you which made me feel very good about 34 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:13,080 Speaker 2: the impact of this hour, and it will be a 35 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:19,399 Speaker 2: good introduction to a different topic but very related, as 36 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:21,880 Speaker 2: you will see in a moment. At a recent talk, 37 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 2: a woman came over to me, an attractive woman in 38 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:30,360 Speaker 2: her thirties and told me her story. As men and 39 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:32,280 Speaker 2: women do, open up to me a lot, and it's 40 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,799 Speaker 2: very helpful because then I can report even more honestly 41 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:39,800 Speaker 2: about men and women in the program in my writing. 42 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:45,480 Speaker 2: And she explained that in her I guess late teens 43 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 2: early twenties, she had been a stripper and had then 44 00:02:52,639 --> 00:02:56,640 Speaker 2: become a Christian and stopped that work, gotten married and 45 00:02:56,720 --> 00:03:01,480 Speaker 2: has a wonderful husband and children. She said, until I 46 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 2: heard your explanation of men, I had this long standing 47 00:03:07,600 --> 00:03:11,720 Speaker 2: belief that men were, especially the men who came to 48 00:03:11,760 --> 00:03:16,600 Speaker 2: see my work in my pre Christian days, were pigs. 49 00:03:16,919 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 2: Men were just pigs. And I realize now that that's 50 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 2: you know, that's not the case. Not to say that 51 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 2: there aren't men who are, but that normal men are 52 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:35,680 Speaker 2: normal men. And it obviously helped or understand her husband better. 53 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 2: And this is this is terrific. This is why I 54 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 2: am writing my book on male sexual nature. It's part 55 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 2: of why I do this program. The reason I tell 56 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 2: you the story, aside from I think it's inherently interesting, 57 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 2: is as a as an introduction to something else because 58 00:03:54,000 --> 00:04:04,520 Speaker 2: I'm known, I'm known for explaining men, but there doesn't 59 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 2: mean that I always defend men. There are a lot 60 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:10,520 Speaker 2: of things guys do that drive me nuts visa v. Women, 61 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 2: and I want to talk to you about that today 62 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 2: and hopefully help men here in better understanding themselves and 63 00:04:18,520 --> 00:04:21,999 Speaker 2: the way they can come across at times. I've just 64 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 2: recently did the show on men looking quote that way 65 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 2: at a woman and telling women and explaining to women, 66 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 2: and a lot of women call to agree that unless 67 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 2: a man overdoes it, and some men do, it's a 68 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:43,600 Speaker 2: real compliment. And when later in life or at any 69 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:46,640 Speaker 2: given time in life that stops. A lot of women 70 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 2: miss it and feel quote unquote invisible. So one should 71 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 2: not knock men looking at women that way. But of 72 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,240 Speaker 2: course there's that way, and then there's that way, and 73 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:02,279 Speaker 2: there could be that way. That that is, you know, 74 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:10,480 Speaker 2: constant staring and particularly foolish comments, especially guys who are dating. 75 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:15,280 Speaker 2: And I have overheard this at restaurants. I have been 76 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:21,160 Speaker 2: told this by women. I guys have told me just because, gentlemen, 77 00:05:21,320 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 2: just because sex is on your mind much of the time, 78 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 2: it doesn't mean you need to talk about it as 79 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:30,800 Speaker 2: much as it is on your mind. And so there 80 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:35,120 Speaker 2: are comments that men could make that just don't reflect 81 00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 2: well on you in the life of a woman, especially 82 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 2: if you're courting a woman. To make some some sexual 83 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:46,679 Speaker 2: innuendos on the first date or second date, I presume 84 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:49,800 Speaker 2: is not the most brilliant thing. That the trick is 85 00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:54,039 Speaker 2: to attract a woman is to work against the stereotype. 86 00:05:55,440 --> 00:06:00,800 Speaker 2: And so you know, oh God, are you hot, or 87 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:03,839 Speaker 2: or saying what you know? But i'd you know, God, 88 00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:06,000 Speaker 2: what I'd love to be with you? I mean, and 89 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 2: I'm and I'm being uncrude here. I mean, these are 90 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 2: not wise things for a man to say in the 91 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:18,279 Speaker 2: early stages of courting a woman. So I want to 92 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:21,799 Speaker 2: I want to develop in this hour, and women would 93 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 2: be very helpful here for men to hear, just as 94 00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:27,920 Speaker 2: it's been so helpful for women to hear about men 95 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:33,360 Speaker 2: and better understanding men. It's I want women to call. 96 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 2: Men are certainly invited as well, but women especially about 97 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:42,719 Speaker 2: no knows you think should apply to male behavior in 98 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:46,479 Speaker 2: social settings or on a date or or what have you. 99 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 2: One eighth Prager seven seven six one eight p R 100 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:54,279 Speaker 2: A g e R seven seven six. I mean there 101 00:06:54,320 --> 00:06:57,280 Speaker 2: are times when I mean, for example, I'll give you 102 00:06:57,279 --> 00:06:59,480 Speaker 2: one example that has always driven me nuts is when 103 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:02,600 Speaker 2: a man is dating a woman and says, this came up. 104 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:07,000 Speaker 2: I just spoke in Chicago about male sexuality and a 105 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 2: a an attractive a woman or raised this issue. I 106 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 2: would say the woman was about thirty five years old 107 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:16,800 Speaker 2: or late thirties and said, well what do I say? 108 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:19,000 Speaker 2: What do I do? Though? And it was a particular 109 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:22,920 Speaker 2: attractive woman. Interestingly enough, where when a man says to me, well, 110 00:07:22,960 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 2: if you really loved me, you'd go to bed with 111 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 2: me and I and I look at this, This woman, 112 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 2: who would obviously had a high highly educated, very bright, 113 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:38,040 Speaker 2: clearly from at least from an attractiveness standpoint, could have 114 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:41,720 Speaker 2: a pick of many men. And even she is falling 115 00:07:41,760 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 2: for this line and not knowing what to answer. I mean, 116 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:47,840 Speaker 2: any guy who gives you that line, if you love me, 117 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:50,280 Speaker 2: you're not married, You're not on your way, you're not engaged, 118 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:51,920 Speaker 2: you're not on your way to marriage. And I'm not 119 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 2: talking here about morality and religion and so on. And 120 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:57,280 Speaker 2: I do believe that intercourseould way to marriage. I think 121 00:07:57,280 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 2: that is the ideal, But I also believe that some 122 00:07:59,920 --> 00:08:05,160 Speaker 2: sexual activity should take place because you need to know 123 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:08,200 Speaker 2: about the person and if there is any if there 124 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:11,800 Speaker 2: is incompatibility there, it's better to know what before you 125 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:14,480 Speaker 2: marry than after you marry. So I'm gonna I'm on 126 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 2: a middle road there. But this notion if you loved 127 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:21,840 Speaker 2: me you would sleep with me, The answer, of course, 128 00:08:21,920 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 2: is if you loved me, you wouldn't say something so stupid. 129 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 2: One aight, prager? Seven seven six? Are what are you? Women? 130 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 2: You have the forum now, you have a lot of 131 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:41,120 Speaker 2: men listening. Is there are there no nos that you 132 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:43,280 Speaker 2: would like men to know? Whether it is dating, or 133 00:08:43,319 --> 00:08:46,320 Speaker 2: whether it is in a social setting, or what have you. 134 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 2: I mean, I have asked that women understand men better, 135 00:08:51,080 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 2: and a lot of women have. I mean, the letters 136 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:57,240 Speaker 2: and the comments that I get when I speak are 137 00:08:57,360 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 2: very very heartening from women. But there were things that 138 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 2: guys do and say that drive me as a man, 139 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:07,199 Speaker 2: I'm almost embarrassed. I almost want to go undergo a 140 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:10,800 Speaker 2: sex change for ten minutes when when I hear some 141 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:14,960 Speaker 2: of these, some of these lines, and you know, you know, 142 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:18,320 Speaker 2: of course, my answer to the other famous line, oh 143 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:20,600 Speaker 2: why should we get married? Marriage is just a piece 144 00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:23,160 Speaker 2: of paper, to which the response is, if it's just 145 00:09:23,200 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 2: a piece of paper, why not get married? And that 146 00:09:27,600 --> 00:09:30,319 Speaker 2: pretty much ends that, doesn't it. I always got a 147 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 2: kick out of that argument. It's just a piece of paper, 148 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 2: So why is he so adamant about not doing it 149 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:39,120 Speaker 2: if it's just a piece of paper? All right, So 150 00:09:39,240 --> 00:09:42,920 Speaker 2: let's begin here in Minneapolis and Laurie, Hello, Laurie, Dennis. 151 00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 5: Prager, Hi, Denni's longtime listener. First time I've ever called in. 152 00:09:47,040 --> 00:09:47,960 Speaker 2: Oh great, thank you. 153 00:09:49,120 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 5: My comment is it's not necessarily online. 154 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:55,080 Speaker 2: But oh no, no, no, it could be an action. 155 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 5: Not just the way my action is men who they 156 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:00,040 Speaker 5: don't even have to be in a day. It can 157 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 5: be a social situation. And thank god, I've never had 158 00:10:02,640 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 5: a boss who does this. But when men will just 159 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:07,679 Speaker 5: stare at your chest the entire time they're talking to you, 160 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 5: I don't know if it's unconsciously, they're not even aware 161 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:15,320 Speaker 5: that they're doing it. And if they are aware, what 162 00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:17,240 Speaker 5: is their motive? What are they trying to gain? 163 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 2: Now? Now, good, let's sign a lize. Is this because 164 00:10:20,640 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 2: you do have you do give some leeway to male nature. 165 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 5: That he will look right, let's see, I'm not dressed 166 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:28,080 Speaker 5: sexually at all? 167 00:10:28,600 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 2: Right, okay, okay, regular outfit on. Now if he notices it? 168 00:10:35,000 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 2: Are you okay with that? 169 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:41,200 Speaker 5: I can't just even just stare at my chest the 170 00:10:41,200 --> 00:10:41,600 Speaker 5: whole time? 171 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, that's what I mean. In other words, 172 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:46,280 Speaker 2: I want to talk about the difference between noticing and staring. 173 00:10:47,280 --> 00:10:49,800 Speaker 2: So are you are you opposed to noticing as well 174 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:51,440 Speaker 2: as staring or just at staring? 175 00:10:51,720 --> 00:10:53,880 Speaker 5: Maybe a quick glimpse wouldn't bother me? 176 00:10:55,080 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 2: Okay, staying on with me, because this I happen to 177 00:10:57,440 --> 00:11:00,480 Speaker 2: agree with you. I think it's it's it's almost it's 178 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:03,440 Speaker 2: it's buffoonery. I mean, if a man really I want 179 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:06,160 Speaker 2: to know, though, is that common? Do men? Do men 180 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 2: really do that just stare the whole time? Or is it? 181 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:11,760 Speaker 2: Or is a woman reacting to a couple of glances 182 00:11:12,160 --> 00:11:14,320 Speaker 2: Back in a moment. You're listening to the Male Female 183 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:15,720 Speaker 2: Hour on the Dennis Prager Show. 184 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:22,280 Speaker 1: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 185 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:34,679 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless Wisdom. 186 00:11:34,960 --> 00:11:41,240 Speaker 2: Hi, everybody, Dennis Prager here, and a particularly honest show 187 00:11:41,559 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 2: is the Male Female honesty about the two sexes. That's 188 00:11:47,360 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 2: why a lot of people listen and hopefully are helped 189 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 2: by it. The Male Female Hour each week Wednesday, second 190 00:11:55,360 --> 00:11:58,480 Speaker 2: hour of my program. I'm Dennis Prager. Thank you for 191 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:02,920 Speaker 2: being with me, and I have explained men in their 192 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 2: sexual nature a great deal. A lot of women have 193 00:12:06,160 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 2: heard it and it's helped a lot of relationships. I 194 00:12:09,480 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 2: am proud and happy to say this doesn't mean everything 195 00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:16,600 Speaker 2: men do or say is exactly intelligent or good. However, 196 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:23,480 Speaker 2: and as a as a hopeful instructive lesson to men, 197 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:26,559 Speaker 2: I'm having women call in. In particular men, though are 198 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 2: certainly invited, but in particular women to speak of the 199 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:37,079 Speaker 2: no nos of men's behavior or speech, and especially as 200 00:12:37,120 --> 00:12:40,199 Speaker 2: it relates to women. That's what I mean. We're all 201 00:12:40,240 --> 00:12:44,200 Speaker 2: against men who rob banks, so don't call in about 202 00:12:44,400 --> 00:12:51,280 Speaker 2: male violence. And obviously that's obvious. I mean, if we 203 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:53,280 Speaker 2: have to have a program on why it's wrong for 204 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:57,160 Speaker 2: male to be violent outside of protecting the innocent, then 205 00:12:57,200 --> 00:13:00,080 Speaker 2: we're in bad shape. All right, let's go back to 206 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:03,200 Speaker 2: Laurie in Minneapolis. Thanks, thank you again Laurie for calling. 207 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:08,840 Speaker 2: So it's men staring at your chest. Now, So a 208 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:14,040 Speaker 2: guy meets you in a business or social situation and 209 00:13:14,360 --> 00:13:18,640 Speaker 2: his eyes glanced downward or well, I guess if he's 210 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:22,840 Speaker 2: much order upward, but presumably downward or a level and 211 00:13:23,800 --> 00:13:26,680 Speaker 2: that's okay, But prolonged staring is not. Do I have 212 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:32,720 Speaker 2: you correctly? Okay, I happen to agree with you. It's 213 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:38,160 Speaker 2: just know this that think of magnets. Have you ever 214 00:13:38,320 --> 00:13:42,520 Speaker 2: had two powerful magnets as a kid, You know they 215 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:46,200 Speaker 2: they just they're they're the staggering power of the attraction 216 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:50,800 Speaker 2: as they get closer closer. Think of male eyes and 217 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:55,400 Speaker 2: women's breasts as magnets, and it will give you an 218 00:13:55,400 --> 00:13:57,880 Speaker 2: idea of the will power it takes for a man 219 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:02,400 Speaker 2: never to look, and by the way, I think it's 220 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:06,839 Speaker 2: a power he should exercise ninety nine percent of the time. 221 00:14:06,920 --> 00:14:11,120 Speaker 2: If he doesn't notice at all, then you know, then 222 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:15,160 Speaker 2: we have lost some of the playfulness of male female 223 00:14:15,440 --> 00:14:20,600 Speaker 2: into relations and that wouldn't be good. But if it's prolonged, 224 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:23,720 Speaker 2: I am totally on your side. But please know that 225 00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:31,760 Speaker 2: if it's prolonged, he's he's exercising self control. Are you there? 226 00:14:31,880 --> 00:14:32,720 Speaker 5: Yep, I'm still here? 227 00:14:32,800 --> 00:14:34,200 Speaker 2: Say is that okay? 228 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:34,760 Speaker 5: Yes? 229 00:14:34,920 --> 00:14:35,200 Speaker 2: I guess. 230 00:14:35,240 --> 00:14:37,680 Speaker 5: My only added comment is it would happen a lot 231 00:14:37,760 --> 00:14:39,960 Speaker 5: more when I was younger than it does now, And 232 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:42,000 Speaker 5: I guess now I would be apt to say something. 233 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:44,200 Speaker 5: When I was younger, i'd be a little, you know, 234 00:14:44,640 --> 00:14:47,240 Speaker 5: set back by it and startled and wouldn't say anything. 235 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:49,600 Speaker 2: But I think, why would you would? Why would you say? Today? 236 00:14:50,240 --> 00:14:52,320 Speaker 5: I would just probably say, sure, are you aware of 237 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 5: the fact that you've been staring at my chest the 238 00:14:54,200 --> 00:14:55,600 Speaker 5: entire time we've been conversing? 239 00:14:57,120 --> 00:14:59,920 Speaker 2: And what if he said, yes, I have been. Frankly, 240 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:01,360 Speaker 2: it's a very attractive one. 241 00:15:02,200 --> 00:15:04,040 Speaker 5: I guess I don't know. I wouldn't know what to 242 00:15:04,040 --> 00:15:04,920 Speaker 5: say at that point. 243 00:15:05,040 --> 00:15:09,960 Speaker 2: Exactly exactly all right, bless you, Laurie. It's very funny 244 00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:13,600 Speaker 2: if that were actually to happen. Uh See now, Laurie, 245 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:16,480 Speaker 2: remember this is very important here because these things are 246 00:15:16,520 --> 00:15:21,160 Speaker 2: far more complex than they seem at the outset. Of course, 247 00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:24,240 Speaker 2: we're all against men just in a social interaction staring 248 00:15:24,240 --> 00:15:28,240 Speaker 2: at a woman's chest, obviously, but what if the woman 249 00:15:28,560 --> 00:15:32,080 Speaker 2: is half uncovering her breasts and he starts to stare 250 00:15:32,160 --> 00:15:35,280 Speaker 2: more than a glimpse. See if she shows a lot, 251 00:15:35,360 --> 00:15:39,120 Speaker 2: can't he look a lot? Now, not advising men to 252 00:15:39,200 --> 00:15:41,520 Speaker 2: do this, but I'm saying that there has to be 253 00:15:41,560 --> 00:15:44,680 Speaker 2: a quid pro quo here. Laurie has the right to 254 00:15:44,760 --> 00:15:48,040 Speaker 2: protest because she's covered up much more than a woman 255 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:54,320 Speaker 2: who Isn't you show he looks? All right? So let's 256 00:15:54,320 --> 00:15:59,080 Speaker 2: go to Let's go to some more of your calls. Phoenix, Arizona, Jody, Hello, Jody, 257 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:02,200 Speaker 2: Dennis Prager, good morning, how are you. I'm well, Thank 258 00:16:02,240 --> 00:16:03,000 Speaker 2: you good. 259 00:16:03,600 --> 00:16:08,080 Speaker 6: I love these conversations that you have. And I used 260 00:16:08,120 --> 00:16:11,840 Speaker 6: to be a dancer too, and just like that woman, 261 00:16:11,880 --> 00:16:15,600 Speaker 6: not realizing that I thought men were pigs until much later. 262 00:16:15,800 --> 00:16:19,440 Speaker 6: But I have a wonderful husband, and one of the 263 00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:22,040 Speaker 6: things that just happened yesterday, which just blessed me to bits, 264 00:16:22,240 --> 00:16:25,120 Speaker 6: is that we were driving down the road and saw 265 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:28,800 Speaker 6: a billboard with this beautiful woman in a bathing suit 266 00:16:28,840 --> 00:16:31,960 Speaker 6: scantily clad for a tanning salon, you know, and I 267 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:35,360 Speaker 6: was kind of looking at it and remembering when and 268 00:16:35,480 --> 00:16:38,120 Speaker 6: my husband just said, how would you like to be 269 00:16:39,440 --> 00:16:41,440 Speaker 6: up there on that billboard? And he said it with 270 00:16:41,600 --> 00:16:42,640 Speaker 6: something in his voice that. 271 00:16:42,720 --> 00:16:43,680 Speaker 5: Was like huh. 272 00:16:43,760 --> 00:16:46,560 Speaker 6: So I said, well, are you kidding? Most women would 273 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:49,680 Speaker 6: want to look like that, you know, And he said, 274 00:16:50,360 --> 00:16:52,600 Speaker 6: I said what do you think? And he goes, well, 275 00:16:52,640 --> 00:16:55,720 Speaker 6: i'd be embarrassed. You know, what if that was your mom, 276 00:16:55,840 --> 00:16:56,880 Speaker 6: what if that was your sister? 277 00:16:57,040 --> 00:16:57,280 Speaker 8: You know. 278 00:16:57,840 --> 00:17:00,240 Speaker 6: I was like, what do you mean? And he said, well, 279 00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:03,680 Speaker 6: you're mine. He says, I wouldn't want you up there 280 00:17:03,720 --> 00:17:07,320 Speaker 6: looking like that. And I said, well, would you be 281 00:17:07,400 --> 00:17:09,759 Speaker 6: proud of me if my body looked like that? And 282 00:17:09,800 --> 00:17:11,360 Speaker 6: he said, of course, I'd be proud of you, but 283 00:17:11,400 --> 00:17:14,320 Speaker 6: I wouldn't want you hanging out like that. I said, well, 284 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:17,520 Speaker 6: you know, obviously my body doesn't look like that. What 285 00:17:17,520 --> 00:17:19,280 Speaker 6: do you think now? And he goes, he looked and 286 00:17:19,320 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 6: it goes baby, He said, you will always look like 287 00:17:22,520 --> 00:17:25,919 Speaker 6: that to me, that just really, you know, I just 288 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:31,760 Speaker 6: it just renewed my my honor and my dignity and 289 00:17:32,880 --> 00:17:38,960 Speaker 6: just made me realize again that you know that I 290 00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:41,000 Speaker 6: don't know how to put that into words. It just 291 00:17:41,080 --> 00:17:44,080 Speaker 6: renewed my trust. 292 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:45,399 Speaker 1: And my well. 293 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:47,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm sure you loved him for it. I 294 00:17:47,400 --> 00:17:50,600 Speaker 2: mean it's a great comment, you. 295 00:17:50,520 --> 00:17:54,000 Speaker 6: Know, and and it was good because we could be Okay, 296 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:54,520 Speaker 6: by the way. 297 00:17:54,680 --> 00:17:56,760 Speaker 2: Do you by the way, do you do you take 298 00:17:56,800 --> 00:17:59,200 Speaker 2: care to to try to look as good as possible? 299 00:17:59,480 --> 00:18:02,439 Speaker 2: I do, Well, I had a feeling that I had 300 00:18:02,480 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 2: a well, let me give you back one second while 301 00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:07,800 Speaker 2: was the butt. I'm sorry, I. 302 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:10,399 Speaker 6: Said, Yeah, I do. I do take care of myself. 303 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:13,280 Speaker 6: But I'm not obsessed. I mean, I'm fifty three and 304 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:15,520 Speaker 6: I'm not going to look eighteen again, and. 305 00:18:15,680 --> 00:18:18,560 Speaker 2: I can't obviously, no, no, but the women at fifty 306 00:18:18,600 --> 00:18:21,359 Speaker 2: three could look rather good. I mean, we live in 307 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:26,119 Speaker 2: a new age thanks to nutrition health. Every so often, 308 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:28,479 Speaker 2: you know, maybe a nipp or a tuck here, if 309 00:18:28,520 --> 00:18:33,040 Speaker 2: that's what a woman wants. Anyway, if a woman takes 310 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:38,880 Speaker 2: care of herself physically, and I'm excluding cases where it's 311 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:41,680 Speaker 2: you know, there's some impossibility. But if a woman does 312 00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:46,520 Speaker 2: take care of herself, just that fact is a loving 313 00:18:46,560 --> 00:18:49,320 Speaker 2: statement to her husband. This is one of the things 314 00:18:49,320 --> 00:18:52,640 Speaker 2: that women don't know, or not all women know, let's 315 00:18:52,680 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 2: put it that way. Many many women do. That is 316 00:18:55,119 --> 00:18:59,280 Speaker 2: so important for them to understand that the very effort 317 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:02,359 Speaker 2: that one might make through exercise or watching how she 318 00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:05,479 Speaker 2: eats and so on, this and dressing, you know, in 319 00:19:05,480 --> 00:19:10,159 Speaker 2: a non frumpy way, this is a massive statement to 320 00:19:10,240 --> 00:19:13,520 Speaker 2: your husband that I love you because you're doing it 321 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:15,760 Speaker 2: for him. And if you say you're doing it for yourself, 322 00:19:15,800 --> 00:19:17,760 Speaker 2: and you're doing it for yourself, but he'll still take 323 00:19:17,800 --> 00:19:22,200 Speaker 2: it as for him in the meantime, his comment is true, baby, 324 00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:24,520 Speaker 2: you'll always be like that to me. There is a 325 00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:28,679 Speaker 2: lot of truth to that, because otherwise no people growing 326 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:30,679 Speaker 2: past a certain age would be would be able to 327 00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:34,159 Speaker 2: have any attraction for one another. So he wasn't he 328 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:38,200 Speaker 2: wasn't completely or he wasn't perhaps it in any way exaggerating. 329 00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:43,679 Speaker 2: All right, we'll continue talking about two men here about 330 00:19:43,720 --> 00:19:46,800 Speaker 2: some of the no nos. This is the male Female 331 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:48,480 Speaker 2: hour on the Dennis Prager Show. 332 00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:57,280 Speaker 1: We continue this episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right 333 00:19:57,320 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: after this. Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom. 334 00:20:14,880 --> 00:20:17,720 Speaker 2: Hi, everybody, welcome back. This is the Male Female Hour 335 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:21,159 Speaker 2: on the Dennis Prager Show. Behaviors that men engage in 336 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:25,480 Speaker 2: that women think or no knows. I've been reflecting on 337 00:20:25,800 --> 00:20:29,400 Speaker 2: Laurie in that Minneapolis Who's call I enjoyed and that 338 00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:33,120 Speaker 2: we had our wonderful dialogue, and it was when men 339 00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:36,280 Speaker 2: speak to her, it stare the entire time at her, 340 00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:41,359 Speaker 2: at her breast. And I bounced this off a number 341 00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:46,360 Speaker 2: of women offline here who say that they who have 342 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:50,760 Speaker 2: who are well endowed in that arena, and they have 343 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:54,600 Speaker 2: not experienced that. And I'm not saying Laurie hasn't. That's 344 00:20:54,640 --> 00:20:56,600 Speaker 2: not my point at all. It's to raise the issue. 345 00:20:57,680 --> 00:21:01,760 Speaker 2: Is it. Obviously men look, But as to a whole 346 00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 2: conversation where a man stares and not looking ever at 347 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:09,560 Speaker 2: your face, that's hard to for me to imagine. And 348 00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:12,280 Speaker 2: I think a lot of men are goofy, but it's 349 00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:15,600 Speaker 2: still it's hard for me to imagine. And so I 350 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:18,440 Speaker 2: would love to have a video and see how much 351 00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:21,159 Speaker 2: is in the eye of the beholder the woman, and 352 00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:23,720 Speaker 2: how much is in the eye of the man. The 353 00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:32,240 Speaker 2: alleged starer, just something to think about as well. And 354 00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:36,040 Speaker 2: it's one of those things where as I've often felt 355 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:39,320 Speaker 2: it would be so good if each sex could experience 356 00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:41,240 Speaker 2: what it is like to be the other sex for 357 00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:44,560 Speaker 2: a week or even a day. Of course, my theory 358 00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:47,480 Speaker 2: is that if men got women's brains for a day, 359 00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:50,359 Speaker 2: they would there would be a large amount of suicide. 360 00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:54,760 Speaker 2: The amount that would be going on would be so 361 00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:57,320 Speaker 2: would drive them out of their minds. They're not used 362 00:21:57,359 --> 00:22:00,480 Speaker 2: to having so much go on at one time. All 363 00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:04,000 Speaker 2: the conversations, for example, that would be reviewed. Whereas if 364 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:07,240 Speaker 2: women got our brains for a day, they would all 365 00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:10,520 Speaker 2: be singing in the streets, free, free, free at last, 366 00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:15,400 Speaker 2: given how little was going on all right, now, let's 367 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:23,560 Speaker 2: let's go to Karen in Redundo Beach, California. Karen, Hi, 368 00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:26,760 Speaker 2: Dennis Brager, Hi, Hi, how are you good? Thank you? 369 00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:31,040 Speaker 7: I'd like to make a comment about the male behavior 370 00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:34,120 Speaker 7: no knows, and one that I think of when I 371 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:37,879 Speaker 7: was younger was how men can be with you, but 372 00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:42,360 Speaker 7: they're looking lustfully at other women, And I always thought 373 00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:46,879 Speaker 7: it was very disrespectful. I've been married for a long 374 00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:52,919 Speaker 7: time and I understand that men are very visual and 375 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:55,280 Speaker 7: my husband looks, and I know he looks, but he 376 00:22:55,320 --> 00:23:00,040 Speaker 7: does it in a very discreet and respectful way to me, and. 377 00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:05,000 Speaker 2: I just wanted to good, let me talk. Let me 378 00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:08,439 Speaker 2: talk about this, Karen, because this is I was hoping 379 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:11,359 Speaker 2: that somebody would raise this subject. So let me let 380 00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:14,280 Speaker 2: me again be as open and honest as possible here. 381 00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 2: It takes a tremendous amount of will power for a 382 00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:21,320 Speaker 2: man not to look when a woman enters a room, 383 00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:24,240 Speaker 2: or for that matter, when a woman enters within one 384 00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:28,240 Speaker 2: square mile of where he is. That is how profoundly 385 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:33,280 Speaker 2: we men are programmed visually, as Karen was saying, So 386 00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:36,160 Speaker 2: women need to understand that, but men need to understand 387 00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:40,520 Speaker 2: that there's a certain propriety to the way they do this. 388 00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:44,320 Speaker 2: And I'll be very precise here. I'll give you with 389 00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:46,720 Speaker 2: it with an example. I call the guy Radar Run. 390 00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,520 Speaker 2: You're sitting at a restaurant with Radar Run, and every 391 00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,919 Speaker 2: time a female walks by the table or into the restaurant, 392 00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:57,520 Speaker 2: the guy just spends a little while looking at that 393 00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:00,240 Speaker 2: woman and then returns to you. And to give you 394 00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:02,480 Speaker 2: an idea of how wrong that is, I don't like 395 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:07,760 Speaker 2: that when I, who am not the wife or the girlfriend, 396 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:12,520 Speaker 2: or just another even female business companion. I'm another guy, 397 00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:14,920 Speaker 2: and I don't like being at a restaurant with a 398 00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:20,080 Speaker 2: guy who's doing that. It's rude to anybody. That's that's 399 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:23,040 Speaker 2: the point. This is just simple common sense, which by 400 00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:26,240 Speaker 2: the way, most of life is. But this is certainly 401 00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:29,720 Speaker 2: that at the same time, he will notice. And one 402 00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:32,159 Speaker 2: of the one of the things that I think can 403 00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:37,920 Speaker 2: uh can help dissipate some of the tension that that 404 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:40,680 Speaker 2: might cause is first for the woman to accept that 405 00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:44,240 Speaker 2: he will inevitably notice, and that there be a time 406 00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:47,160 Speaker 2: factor if he you know, if if he just if 407 00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:51,040 Speaker 2: the conversation ends because he can't stop looking, we that's 408 00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:53,879 Speaker 2: that's when we have a very serious problem. You know, 409 00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:56,720 Speaker 2: even you know, five seconds could be a lot of 410 00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:59,520 Speaker 2: time in that regard. Another thing that he might do 411 00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:03,840 Speaker 2: is if it is his wife or or his girlfriend. Again, 412 00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:07,000 Speaker 2: I am very big on men being honest and open. 413 00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:11,120 Speaker 2: That doesn't mean constant. That's a big difference. As I said, 414 00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:13,200 Speaker 2: if men talked about sex as much as they think 415 00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:16,680 Speaker 2: about it, they would be very boring. Back in a moment, 416 00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:28,760 Speaker 2: you're listening to the Dennis Prager show, The Male Female Hour, Hi, everybody, 417 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:33,960 Speaker 2: welcome back. It's the Male Female Hour, honest talk about 418 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:38,159 Speaker 2: men and women every week at this hour, the second 419 00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:42,320 Speaker 2: hour of my show on Wednesdays, talking about Given all 420 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:46,040 Speaker 2: the explanations of male behavior, which I think has helped 421 00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:50,800 Speaker 2: so much, I want to also let men know that 422 00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:54,240 Speaker 2: none of this gives you us a green light to 423 00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,480 Speaker 2: do anything or act in any way or speak in 424 00:25:56,520 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 2: any way we want. And so some of the no nos, 425 00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:04,600 Speaker 2: at least in women's eyes, need to be explained. And 426 00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:06,639 Speaker 2: I have a middle of the road issue on the 427 00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:12,720 Speaker 2: one that keeps being noted and totally understandably men looking 428 00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:15,000 Speaker 2: at women in a sexual way? What does that mean? 429 00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:17,159 Speaker 2: I mean, you know, it's the guy you know, you know, 430 00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:21,359 Speaker 2: you know, circulating his tongue around his lips, I mean, 431 00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:24,360 Speaker 2: you know, or something gross or is it a glance. 432 00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:29,000 Speaker 2: There's a very broad spectrum here one eight Prager seven, 433 00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,639 Speaker 2: seven to six, and it's not always involved in a 434 00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:37,600 Speaker 2: sexual thing, as we will hear from Catherine in Los Angeles. 435 00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:43,679 Speaker 8: Crager. Yes, Hi, Catherine, Oh, good morning, sir. Thank you 436 00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:47,439 Speaker 8: so much. You make my life a better one and 437 00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:49,800 Speaker 8: you make me a better human being day by day. 438 00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:52,240 Speaker 2: So thank you, thank you, thank you for telling me. 439 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,280 Speaker 8: I know this is radio. So I put this into 440 00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:58,080 Speaker 8: five quick bullet points. If I could read them off, 441 00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:03,919 Speaker 8: go ahead. Number one sharing information about our intimacy with 442 00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:07,960 Speaker 8: his friends to impress them. Number two, lying to my 443 00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:12,520 Speaker 8: friends to make himself sound more impressive. Number three being 444 00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:16,719 Speaker 8: rude to service people on our dates. Number four talking 445 00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:19,920 Speaker 8: about his big ambitions but doing nothing to get there. 446 00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:22,920 Speaker 8: And number five comparing me to his ex. 447 00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:27,360 Speaker 2: Now you have a husband or a boyfriend who does 448 00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 2: these things. 449 00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:31,479 Speaker 8: I am a single, twenty six year old woman in 450 00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:37,000 Speaker 8: Los Angeles, the conservative, so it makes for slim pickens 451 00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:40,080 Speaker 8: out here. But I have a nice boyfriend now. But 452 00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:43,560 Speaker 8: I've dated a lot of guys that have just all 453 00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:45,960 Speaker 8: exhibited this same Well, I. 454 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:49,440 Speaker 2: Mean, that is a perfect list of things for which 455 00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:54,200 Speaker 2: I have contempt. For all five, you get no argument 456 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:57,280 Speaker 2: for me. Let's very quickly review them. Start with number one. 457 00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:02,840 Speaker 8: Number one sharing information about our intimacy with his friends 458 00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:04,080 Speaker 8: in order to impress them. 459 00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:08,440 Speaker 2: Well, I've never understood this about guys after the age 460 00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:09,040 Speaker 2: of fifteen. 461 00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 8: Frankly, hmm, yeah, I'm talking about younger guys like my age. 462 00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:18,320 Speaker 8: It's very, very hard to find male peers of mind 463 00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:19,440 Speaker 8: that I can really too. 464 00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:22,760 Speaker 2: Well, all right, it's so bizarre to me. I mean, 465 00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:25,439 Speaker 2: what is there at the age of twenty six and 466 00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,280 Speaker 2: I assume the men that your day to go up 467 00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:31,640 Speaker 2: to thirty five at least, and and you know, tell, hey, man, 468 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,879 Speaker 2: let me tell you what we did. You know, it's 469 00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:38,720 Speaker 2: hard for me to imagine. But anyway, and even harder 470 00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:41,080 Speaker 2: for me to imagine that you would find out about it. 471 00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:45,160 Speaker 8: Well, yeah, he tells me. You know, oh, I told 472 00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:47,720 Speaker 8: so and so about such and such, and boy was 473 00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:48,480 Speaker 8: he impressed. 474 00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:50,600 Speaker 2: All right, Well, I don't know if the such and 475 00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:53,400 Speaker 2: such were the details of your sex life in order 476 00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:57,480 Speaker 2: to impress them, then you go on to the next guy, next. 477 00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:01,680 Speaker 8: Number two, number two, sir lying to my friends to 478 00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:03,200 Speaker 8: make himself sound more important. 479 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:06,760 Speaker 2: Right, Well, this, this, of course, is mind blowing. Yeah, 480 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:09,400 Speaker 2: this drives me nuts. I mean that that is one 481 00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:13,080 Speaker 2: of the rare things that I would say immediately invalidate somebody. 482 00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:16,360 Speaker 2: I mean, it's one thing where somebody might exaggerate, you know, 483 00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:20,960 Speaker 2: an accomplishment. I I think that that shouldn't be done. 484 00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:25,680 Speaker 2: But outright makeup stuff is if that's what you mean, 485 00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:31,360 Speaker 2: it's unfortunately, that is an immediate cancelor. I agree number three. 486 00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:36,120 Speaker 8: Number three, being rude to service people on our gates. 487 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:39,000 Speaker 2: I have written. I wrote in my book. My favorite 488 00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:41,440 Speaker 2: of my four books is Think a Second Time forty 489 00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:45,400 Speaker 2: four essays, and in it I actually have a chapter. 490 00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:49,560 Speaker 2: One of my essays is exactly on how we can 491 00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:54,120 Speaker 2: pick people properly. And I say, watch how people treat 492 00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:57,760 Speaker 2: people from whom they don't want anything like a waiter 493 00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:02,000 Speaker 2: or waitress. Don't look at how people treat someone from 494 00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:05,520 Speaker 2: whom they want something like a boss. Watch how they 495 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:10,680 Speaker 2: treat people whose social station is below them. How do 496 00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:14,840 Speaker 2: they treat the plumber who comes to the house, or 497 00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:21,120 Speaker 2: the sanitation worker or whomever. And okay, number four. 498 00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:25,960 Speaker 8: Number four talking about their big ambitions but doing nothing 499 00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:26,520 Speaker 8: to get there. 500 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:30,760 Speaker 2: Okay, that's fair enough. That's yes, I knew somebody like that, 501 00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:33,680 Speaker 2: and and he lost he lost all his friends as 502 00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:34,360 Speaker 2: a result of it. 503 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:40,080 Speaker 8: Next and fifth final, comparing me to his ex Yeah, well, 504 00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:42,280 Speaker 8: to your face, I don't even understand that. 505 00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:45,320 Speaker 2: It's so bizarre a piece of conduct. These are all 506 00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:48,600 Speaker 2: pretty self evident. So what you need to do is 507 00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:51,160 Speaker 2: you need to go on e harmony and write about 508 00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:55,480 Speaker 2: your values and uh, and you know, find somebody hopefully anyway. 509 00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:59,400 Speaker 2: I thank you, Catherine. I appreciate, appreciate your calling. There 510 00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:03,360 Speaker 2: are conservative men in Los Angeles, by the way, I can. 511 00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:07,280 Speaker 2: I can identify at least six offhand. Now that that 512 00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:11,440 Speaker 2: was just a dark joke. Okay, there are more than six. Okay, 513 00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:18,400 Speaker 2: very good. Let's see here. Let's go to Marlena in Dallas, Texas. 514 00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:19,840 Speaker 2: Marlena nis Prager High. 515 00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:21,440 Speaker 9: Hi, Dennis, how are you. 516 00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,400 Speaker 8: I'm well, thank you, it's good to talk to you. 517 00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:30,640 Speaker 9: My comment about male no nos is when couples are 518 00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:33,280 Speaker 9: in the presence of each other and having, you know, whatever, 519 00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:42,120 Speaker 9: conversations and say somebody's husband comments on somebody's girlfriend in 520 00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:47,320 Speaker 9: front of his girlfriend or his wife, that's pretty embarrassing. 521 00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:50,600 Speaker 2: And it I mean comments in a very positive way and. 522 00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:57,320 Speaker 9: Saying she's you know, look at look at uh so, 523 00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:00,040 Speaker 9: and so she's hot. I mean she's a total babe. 524 00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:04,760 Speaker 2: Yes, terrific. Not only are you Marlena, not only are 525 00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:08,920 Speaker 2: you right about it in a male female context, but 526 00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:11,880 Speaker 2: this is a moral issue that I've always thought about. 527 00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:16,480 Speaker 2: If I am talking to a violinist, I will never 528 00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:23,680 Speaker 2: talk about great violinists. Huh you. It's just common sense 529 00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:27,520 Speaker 2: that you you don't make a person feel less than 530 00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:32,880 Speaker 2: others of their same category, whether it's female or violinist, 531 00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:36,000 Speaker 2: or or whatever the person does. Or if you talk 532 00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,480 Speaker 2: to an accountant and you start reeling off the names 533 00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:42,160 Speaker 2: of the greatest accountants you you've known, just be sensitive 534 00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:46,680 Speaker 2: to this human sensitivity back in a moment. 535 00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:54,280 Speaker 1: This episode of timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 536 00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:06,080 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless Wisdom. 537 00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:21,520 Speaker 4: LI say hellooney, Hello, hello buddy. 538 00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:28,360 Speaker 2: Well this has been, I hope, very helpful to both sexes. 539 00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:32,280 Speaker 2: Some of the know knows that women perceive in male behavior. 540 00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:37,760 Speaker 2: I have explained men so much in the course of 541 00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:40,800 Speaker 2: the Male Female Hour. I don't know how long it's 542 00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:43,120 Speaker 2: I've been broadcasting it. Is it a year or two years, 543 00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:46,760 Speaker 2: I don't even know. And of course my writing's on 544 00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:48,680 Speaker 2: it and now the book that I'm writing on it 545 00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:51,800 Speaker 2: that I also need men to understand that none of 546 00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:54,160 Speaker 2: this is a big green light to do or say 547 00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:58,360 Speaker 2: whatever they want at any given time. It's so interesting 548 00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:00,680 Speaker 2: to me, like the last the last one was such 549 00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:05,200 Speaker 2: a fascinating thing to say in front of your girlfriend 550 00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:10,920 Speaker 2: about how hot another woman is. It's forget the woman factor. 551 00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:15,439 Speaker 2: As I said earlier, if I were sitting with you, 552 00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:19,960 Speaker 2: If I were sitting with you, okay, and you started 553 00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:23,680 Speaker 2: saying how great another talk show host was, Now, I 554 00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:29,040 Speaker 2: couldn't personally care less. I have deep ego fulfillment in 555 00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:33,520 Speaker 2: my work. I'm rather balanced. But it would be insensitive 556 00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:36,880 Speaker 2: on your part unless it came up, and you know, 557 00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:39,279 Speaker 2: the name came up, or I raised the name and said, 558 00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:41,120 Speaker 2: you know, I'll tell you I'm among my colleagues that 559 00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:44,520 Speaker 2: I really admire. Is X Y or Z. I mean, 560 00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:48,600 Speaker 2: you just it's just as I said, It's just people 561 00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:53,680 Speaker 2: don't think enough. What impact are my words having? So 562 00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:56,279 Speaker 2: what was true? It's true about the woman, but it's 563 00:34:56,320 --> 00:35:02,800 Speaker 2: true about anybody. It just it would just make make sense. 564 00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:08,279 Speaker 2: And uh, you know, let's let's maybe we'll try to 565 00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:11,880 Speaker 2: get this call from an eighty year old woman in Sarasota, Florida. 566 00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:16,760 Speaker 3: Lohello, Lorrain, Dennis Prager, Hi there, thanks, thanks for listening 567 00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:21,920 Speaker 3: to me from when I'm in the car and I 568 00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:24,040 Speaker 3: have to laugh. I'm going to be eighty years old 569 00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:28,319 Speaker 3: in September. I have buried three husbands, and I have 570 00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:31,239 Speaker 3: some very dear friends of mine, even older than I am. 571 00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:35,280 Speaker 3: We all feel the same way. When our husbands stop looking, 572 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:39,680 Speaker 3: then it's time to dig the hole deeper, because there 573 00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:42,080 Speaker 3: are many times where they would like to give us 574 00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:45,560 Speaker 3: some advice, and they're very hesitant because they're afraid we 575 00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:48,680 Speaker 3: may not take it in the right direction. But when 576 00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:52,040 Speaker 3: we watch them and we see what gives them some 577 00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:57,640 Speaker 3: pleasures in looking at other women, then we in turn 578 00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:03,080 Speaker 3: take those looks and say, maybe maybe I should do 579 00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:04,400 Speaker 3: something about myself. 580 00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:09,680 Speaker 2: Lorraine, your three husbands were lucky men. If I come 581 00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:12,080 Speaker 2: to Sarasota, which I intend to do, I want you 582 00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:13,600 Speaker 2: to come over. I want to give you a big hug. 583 00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:18,200 Speaker 2: That's right. When your husbands see that, you have to 584 00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:21,440 Speaker 2: balance it. You shouldn't be staring all the time. But 585 00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:25,040 Speaker 2: if he stops looking, you've got a problem on your hands. 586 00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:27,960 Speaker 2: I hope this is all help. Male Female Hour at 587 00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:28,879 Speaker 2: Dennis Prager Show. 588 00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:41,200 Speaker 1: This has been timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Visit Dennisprager 589 00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:44,760 Speaker 1: dot com for thousands of hours of Dennis's lectures, courses, 590 00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:49,440 Speaker 1: and classic radio programs, and to purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles.