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Speaker 1: Life Audio.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to I Wish you could hear this, where we

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Speaker 2: explore great stories and simple, proven steps to help you

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Speaker 2: thrive in life, faith, and relationships.

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Speaker 3: In our research, we've heard hundreds of Hopefield strategies for marriage, parenting, leadership,

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Speaker 3: and life that are grounded in science and consistent with

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Speaker 3: biblical truth, and now you can hear them too.

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Speaker 1: I'm Shanti Felteim.

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Speaker 3: And I'm Jeff Felton.

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Speaker 2: Young Christian moms know how difficult it can be to

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Speaker 2: balance everything life, kids, maybe a job, a spouse, and

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Speaker 2: when on earth is there supposed to be time to

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Speaker 2: pray or read my Bible. It can be overwhelming and uncertain.

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Speaker 2: And every Christian mom wants to prioritize their faith and

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Speaker 2: be a good mother, wife, friend, coworker, but we may

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Speaker 2: not know how, or at least how to get started,

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Speaker 2: especially while also being exhausted. There is a way to

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Speaker 2: both find the purpose and the rest that God has

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Speaker 2: for us without all the guilt or the pressure or overwhelm.

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Speaker 2: With our special guest, Brittany An, a woman who has

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Speaker 2: been there and who has built a huge ministry to

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Speaker 2: millions of young moms.

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Speaker 1: That is what we're going to tackle today on I

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Speaker 1: wish you could hear this.

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Speaker 3: Welcome Brittany, and thanks so much for joining us on

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Speaker 3: this podcast.

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Speaker 4: Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited

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Speaker 4: for this conversation and just get to hang out with

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Speaker 4: you both today.

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Speaker 3: That's great.

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Speaker 1: That's great.

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Speaker 3: So let me introduce you to our viewers or viewers

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Speaker 3: and listeners. So you're an author, speaker, podcast host, and

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Speaker 3: wife and busy mom to four kids. You're also the

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Speaker 3: founder of Equipping Godly Women, a non denominational ministry that

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Speaker 3: encourages Christian moms with practical biblical tips and advice. You've

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Speaker 3: written a couple of books, including fall in Love with

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Speaker 3: God's Words, and since you started that ministry in twenty fourteen,

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Speaker 3: it's grown and grown. You reach millions of Christian women,

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Speaker 3: and you clearly have hit a nerve.

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Speaker 4: So thank you well, thank you for that. I feel

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Speaker 4: like all talked up now, like oh wow, because that's

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Speaker 4: like it's fun to read a bio and to see

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Speaker 4: like all of the things, but that doesn't always translate

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Speaker 4: to like day to day on a Tuesday. So it's

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Speaker 4: like today it's you know, I'm taking care of two

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Speaker 4: kids who are homesick, and it makes it sound so glamorous,

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Speaker 4: and you can maybe as you're listening to this kind

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Speaker 4: But from my perspective, I'm just like, Oh, I'm just

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Speaker 4: trying to balance all of the things. So I'm so

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Speaker 4: excited that we're going to have this discussion because I

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Speaker 4: think that is something that so many moms wrestle with.

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Speaker 2: I think it is absolutely fantastic that you are doing

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Speaker 2: also being a mom taking care of two kids who

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Speaker 2: I asked Brittany and how old her kids were and

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Speaker 2: she started to tell me, and she said, I better

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Speaker 2: get it right because one of them is staring at

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Speaker 2: And so I love that because that is what we're

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Speaker 2: any mom, and it certainly is helpful even for those

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Speaker 2: of us who are beyond the young mom phase and

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Speaker 2: have maybe some of you listening have kids who are

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Speaker 3: I didn't say that you were beyond the young.

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Speaker 2: Youthful mom.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh, thank you, thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Jeff, absolutely no, but but we have to admit we

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Speaker 3: So, Brittany, and can you tell us why you started

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so starting all of equipping got the women as

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Speaker 4: like that's what so many people says. I just wanted

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Speaker 4: It wasn't this whole big grand plant. It wasn't like

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Speaker 4: So there's you know, so much strategy obviously in those

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Speaker 4: just every day showing up being a mom and when

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Speaker 4: to say, Okay, God, what's next? What's today?

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Speaker 1: I love that.

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Speaker 3: Me too as entrepreneurs. That is the story of our journey.

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Speaker 3: And I love that you put it so eloquently that

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Speaker 3: you know what, it's just taking that next step.

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Speaker 2: We often I was literally just talking to somebody about

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Speaker 2: isn't that you're going to see what's far ahead of you.

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Speaker 2: You're going to see like the next step or two.

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Speaker 2: Have the grace with ourselves and candidly is gonna sound funny,

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Speaker 2: knowing how to balance life. And I wonder if this

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Speaker 4: And so I've seen so much, like as I've gone

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Speaker 4: he's given us as much as I want to, Like,

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00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:16,880
Speaker 4: that's like my dream. I'm like, you just want thirty

440
00:20:16,920 --> 00:20:18,760
Speaker 4: two hours. I just want to do all the things

441
00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:20,159
Speaker 4: Like a puppy. I'm like, I just want to do

442
00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:22,160
Speaker 4: all the things. He's like, no, you have twenty four

443
00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:24,080
Speaker 4: hours is all you get to do. But I want

444
00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:25,119
Speaker 4: to do more things.

445
00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:30,080
Speaker 2: So you know, it's interesting. There's so many reasons for that.

446
00:20:30,480 --> 00:20:33,760
Speaker 2: One of them when I do when I speak at

447
00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:38,720
Speaker 2: women's retreats, one of the things that we unpack a

448
00:20:38,720 --> 00:20:43,040
Speaker 2: little bit of is what's underneath the But I want

449
00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:44,920
Speaker 2: to do all the things right, Like I don't want

450
00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:47,600
Speaker 2: to not do this. There's this wonderful stuff over here,

451
00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:49,840
Speaker 2: and it goes all the way back to the garden.

452
00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:55,760
Speaker 2: I mean, we see Eve having this incredible like God

453
00:20:55,760 --> 00:20:59,919
Speaker 2: says you can have any fruit of any of these trees,

454
00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:03,680
Speaker 2: just not this one, just one, just this one thing.

455
00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:09,000
Speaker 2: And the enemy comes and goes you're missing something. He's

456
00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:12,639
Speaker 2: keeping something from you, Like there's this beautiful thing that

457
00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:16,520
Speaker 2: you're not not allowed to do right now. And we

458
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,520
Speaker 2: all have a little bit of that in our sinful

459
00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:22,479
Speaker 2: nature of But I don't want to miss something. I

460
00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:26,480
Speaker 2: want to seize all those opportunities, and instead we do

461
00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:30,000
Speaker 2: have to tell ourselves. I think, I think, and it's

462
00:21:30,040 --> 00:21:32,840
Speaker 2: important for me even now, even as an empty nester,

463
00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:37,480
Speaker 2: that if we accept the limits that God puts on

464
00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:40,960
Speaker 2: us in each individual season, it's just like again back

465
00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:44,080
Speaker 2: in the garden, we wouldn't lose something, we'd find something.

466
00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:47,679
Speaker 2: We have all this wonderfulness. That's what we need to

467
00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:52,800
Speaker 2: embrace in the whatever the season that we're in. So anyway,

468
00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:56,200
Speaker 2: that's what occurs to me as you're sharing that.

469
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Speaker 4: That's so good. I think sometimes we're just greedy and

470
00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:01,879
Speaker 4: we want everything, and God's like that, like I'm thinking,

471
00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:04,040
Speaker 4: like you know, I have young children who like to eat.

472
00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:06,280
Speaker 4: It was Easter recently, so they were like, how much

473
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:07,840
Speaker 4: Easter candy can we eat? I'm like, I want you

474
00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:11,000
Speaker 4: to enjoy Easter candy, but like, don't eat all of it.

475
00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:13,320
Speaker 4: You will get a belly ache, Like be reasonable. And

476
00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 4: I think that concept really applies here because I'm like,

477
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:17,479
Speaker 4: I just want all of the Eastern candy, like all

478
00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:19,160
Speaker 4: of the experiences. I want to do all of these things.

479
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:21,280
Speaker 4: And God's like, you will give yourself a belly ache

480
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:24,200
Speaker 4: if like you can have some but like be reasonable,

481
00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:27,760
Speaker 4: but I think sometimes we're greedy or honestly, this is

482
00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:32,040
Speaker 4: going to hit hard. We can be idolatrous to think, oh,

483
00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:34,639
Speaker 4: I can do everything, like I have all of the capacity,

484
00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:37,280
Speaker 4: I can do everything, and I can do it perfectly, Like, no,

485
00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:40,080
Speaker 4: you can't. You're human. And like that's where the gospel

486
00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:41,960
Speaker 4: comes in. You don't have to be perfect, you don't

487
00:22:42,040 --> 00:22:43,919
Speaker 4: have to do all the things. It doesn't rest on you.

488
00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:47,040
Speaker 4: God has only asked you to carry your part and

489
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Speaker 4: trust that He's got all the rest. It's not up

490
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Speaker 4: to you. He doesn't need you to do all of it,

491
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Speaker 4: even though I really, really speaking to myself, really really

492
00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:53,800
Speaker 4: want to.

493
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Speaker 1: That is so yes, that is so true.

494
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Speaker 2: You're you're you're channeling all the things that we as

495
00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 2: women are often juggling with. And I will just tell

496
00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:09,000
Speaker 2: for any anyone who's listening to this who is in

497
00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 2: that young, exhaustive mom phase right like anyone who is

498
00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:18,400
Speaker 2: in that chaotic phase, I promise, like I'm gonna say

499
00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:21,119
Speaker 2: this and know that this is true. I promise you

500
00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:26,959
Speaker 2: that you will have opportunities again when the kids are

501
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:31,119
Speaker 2: older and you have a different season that you're navigating.

502
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:35,880
Speaker 2: And suddenly the kids start driving, and wow, like your

503
00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:41,359
Speaker 2: life just changes dramatically when empty nest comes, it's a

504
00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:47,040
Speaker 2: completely different season. Your life changes dramatically. And just as

505
00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:49,440
Speaker 2: an encouragement, I know that this may sound like it's

506
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:53,480
Speaker 2: forever way to a young mom, But one of the things,

507
00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 2: as an example that's occurring to me is that I

508
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 2: felt when I had that conversation with Liz Curtis Eggs.

509
00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:03,560
Speaker 2: One of the things that I felt pretty clearly from

510
00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:05,800
Speaker 2: the Lord was that I had to turn down We

511
00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:06,880
Speaker 2: had been getting.

512
00:24:08,119 --> 00:24:11,200
Speaker 1: International speaking invitations.

513
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:15,080
Speaker 2: And we did a few where we could bring the kids,

514
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:18,679
Speaker 2: but mostly that we had to turn them down because

515
00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 2: going international that's way longer than just flying a few

516
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:25,960
Speaker 2: states over right, and that that would take too much

517
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:28,479
Speaker 2: time away from the kids and other things that we

518
00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:30,159
Speaker 2: were called to do. And I was like, but I

519
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:32,200
Speaker 2: want to be able to do this, like these are

520
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:34,960
Speaker 2: like my equivalent of mission trips, Like I want to

521
00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 2: be able to do this, and it was like this, chill, right,

522
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:42,080
Speaker 2: that's not the season that you're in. And it's interesting.

523
00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 2: Suddenly we become empty nesters and didn't even try to

524
00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:51,760
Speaker 2: set this up. Could never have set this up. We're

525
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 2: speaking at an event immediately after becoming empty nesters. We're

526
00:24:56,600 --> 00:24:59,920
Speaker 2: speaking at an event in Hawaii, of all places, suffering

527
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:05,119
Speaker 2: for Jesus. And the person at the table book table

528
00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:09,080
Speaker 2: next to ours that Jeff started talking to was one

529
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:12,840
Speaker 2: of the key leaders of Compassion International and asked, if

530
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 2: you know, we wanted to become Compassion International speakers and

531
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:20,160
Speaker 2: suddenly now we have these opportunities to go on Compassion

532
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 2: trips and to have this kind of hopefully this more

533
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:29,280
Speaker 2: international impact as well. And couldn't have arranged that. That

534
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:31,480
Speaker 2: was something that God just set up. And so that's

535
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 2: an encouragement to the young moms, which is some of

536
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:37,120
Speaker 2: this is just trusting God.

537
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Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's so encouraging to me, so to be

538
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 4: very vulnerable. I really struggled the couple of years, last

539
00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:48,479
Speaker 4: couple of years, which is this idea of getting older

540
00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 4: because I saw so much online this narrative of oh,

541
00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 4: once you get older and everything falls apart, and I'm like, okay,

542
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:57,600
Speaker 4: I know, like I've been told like there will be time,

543
00:25:57,840 --> 00:25:59,440
Speaker 4: and even my husband like that's what he would tell me.

544
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Speaker 4: He's like, there will be time when our kids aren't little,

545
00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:04,000
Speaker 4: and I'm like, I don't want to invent anybody else,

546
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:06,639
Speaker 4: but I'll be old then, Like I don't know what

547
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 4: it's like to be fifty and sixty, Like I haven't

548
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:10,840
Speaker 4: gotten there. This is me in my thirties. I'm like,

549
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:13,040
Speaker 4: but I like that seems so far off, And like

550
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 4: everything I read online is like all of these people

551
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 4: they hit forty and then they completely fall apart and

552
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:19,199
Speaker 4: it feels so dramatic and like you have to do

553
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:21,240
Speaker 4: all of these things. And I'm like, but am I

554
00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:23,439
Speaker 4: gonna have the time? Am I going to have the energy?

555
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 4: And then I did recently turn forty, and then I

556
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:28,679
Speaker 4: was like, oh, I still feel young, probably because I

557
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:30,640
Speaker 4: have a tuther, but I'm like, oh, like my life,

558
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:33,359
Speaker 4: that sounds way too dramatic. My life isn't over. But

559
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:35,000
Speaker 4: I'm like, I still have lots of energy. I still

560
00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:37,879
Speaker 4: have lots of time. But when you're twenties and in

561
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:40,600
Speaker 4: your thirties you don't know that yet. Like I don't

562
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 4: know what it's like to be older. So that's why

563
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 4: I love having this conversation, not calling you older, but

564
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 4: just somebody here.

565
00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:50,320
Speaker 2: It's okay, we've had to make peace with that too,

566
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Speaker 2: But can I just tell everybody else, including you. One

567
00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:56,240
Speaker 2: of the things that we found in our research, everybody

568
00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 2: feels thirty inside.

569
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Speaker 1: Like it doesn't matter.

570
00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:00,280
Speaker 2: You can be talking to an eighty years old and

571
00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 2: they're like, yeah, I'm still thirty inside, like or twenty

572
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:04,919
Speaker 2: five like somewhere.

573
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 1: The way we see ourselves, the way we.

574
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 2: See ourselves is we never get to the point. Most

575
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,200
Speaker 2: people don't get to the point where they see themselves

576
00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:16,240
Speaker 2: as oh wow, I'm eighty and I feel eighty.

577
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:19,680
Speaker 1: Uh fascinating, so you know, yeah.

578
00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:23,720
Speaker 3: Of course the chiropractor tells me that I'm not thirty inside,

579
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:26,480
Speaker 3: but nevertheless, I'm a slow learner.

580
00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:27,439
Speaker 4: So that's fascine.

581
00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 3: That's why I go to the chiropractor.

582
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Speaker 4: I love it. I actually sent out an email because

583
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 4: I have an email list, so I sent out an

584
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:34,679
Speaker 4: email and I was like, Okay, I know some of

585
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 4: you are older, and I need you to encourage me,

586
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:39,919
Speaker 4: like if you are in your sixties, seventies, eighties, like

587
00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 4: what are you doing, Like tell me about these awesome

588
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:44,399
Speaker 4: things that you're doing and how like what do you

589
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:46,920
Speaker 4: want to be doing? And some of them replied back

590
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 4: and they were like, I'm so happy because I'm just

591
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:50,359
Speaker 4: hanging out with my green kids. And I'm like, awesome,

592
00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 4: Like this is the life you wanted and you have

593
00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 4: it and you're happy. But others were like, you know what,

594
00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 4: I'm riding motorcycles and going on Mission Strip and I'm

595
00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 4: like people are doing that, like it's still possible. So

596
00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 4: I just love having these conversations to be like, Okay,

597
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 4: some people might be whining about getting older, but other

598
00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,440
Speaker 4: people they really are still living life.

599
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:08,080
Speaker 1: And I don't know.

600
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 4: It was probably dumb, but it was a revelation to

601
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 4: me to be like, it's not all over, even though

602
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:15,479
Speaker 4: I can't see that far ahead. I don't know what

603
00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 4: that's like, but just to hear like there's more, it's coming.

604
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:21,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, different seasons.

605
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:27,639
Speaker 2: As we've said, Okay, let's dive back into just briefly.

606
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:30,880
Speaker 2: I want to give some practical help to these young

607
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 2: moms that are listening, or to the parents of the

608
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 2: young mom who can pass it along.

609
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 1: Because one of the very very practical.

610
00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:43,719
Speaker 2: Things that is often an issue when you're in that

611
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 2: phase are mournings. Mornings are just insane, like they're the

612
00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 2: craziest part of a day, getting the kids around for school,

613
00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 2: like all the things preschool, school, whatever. Do you have

614
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 2: any like super practical advice that you could share to

615
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 2: help a young mom who's just trying to get through

616
00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 2: the morning without losing her mind.

617
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:12,160
Speaker 4: Yeah. I think what I'm going to say is not

618
00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 4: to try to follow somebody else's morning plan, but to

619
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 4: figure out for yourself what specifically is causing you trouble

620
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 4: and how you can fix it, because I think so

621
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 4: often we get online and we see like, oh, here's

622
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:24,800
Speaker 4: this morning plan or here's what these people do, and

623
00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 4: we're like, oh, well, I'll just follow their plan. But

624
00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:29,360
Speaker 4: all of us are so unique in terms of what

625
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 4: ages our kids are, and if we're morning people or

626
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 4: night people, and where we are going. So what I

627
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:36,720
Speaker 4: would encourage women to do is just to be really

628
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 4: intentional think through, like right now, go or like after

629
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 4: you listen to this podcast, like get out a piece

630
00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 4: of paper and say, okay, what do I do in

631
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:45,400
Speaker 4: the morning. Maybe take a couple days where you're like

632
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:47,360
Speaker 4: writing it down, Okay, I do this, and I do,

633
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 4: like make a list of all the things that you're doing,

634
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 4: how long they take, and then say, okay, which of

635
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 4: these things are stressful and which of these things are

636
00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:57,680
Speaker 4: not stressful? And if you just start like identifying the

637
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,920
Speaker 4: pieces that are stressful and making a strategy for those.

638
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 4: So if you're like, oh, we have stress because my

639
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 4: kids won't get dressed, Okay, then move that to the

640
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:07,120
Speaker 4: night before. Or we have stressed because of lunches, okay,

641
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 4: move that to night before, or we have stress because

642
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 4: we're always running late. Okay, Well, then that is the

643
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 4: night before. There's all the night before, it's coming up

644
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 4: a lot, but the night before you need to go

645
00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:18,080
Speaker 4: to bed earlier. You need to do them. And if

646
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 4: there's things that don't stress you out, okay, awesome. But

647
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 4: if there's things where you're like, do I really need

648
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 4: to be doing this in the morning or is there

649
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,120
Speaker 4: a better way to do it instead of just saying oh,

650
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:26,959
Speaker 4: I just like mornings are just stressful and it just

651
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 4: is what it is. Okay, Like what specifically is stressful?

652
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 4: How can you tackle that piece?

653
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:36,480
Speaker 1: That's so good? Yeah, you're very problem solving easy.

654
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Speaker 3: So I recognize your your ministry, Brittany in is to

655
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Speaker 3: young moms or to moms in general. We've got listeners

656
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:51,880
Speaker 3: here who are dads. Yeah, so I think about dads

657
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 3: in crazy mornings, and you know, in our case, and

658
00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 3: I think with a lot of guys that I talk with.

659
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 3: Men and women tend to process that craziness kind of differently.

660
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 3: So in our case, you know, I can be very

661
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:13,240
Speaker 3: task driven, and the task is to get the kids

662
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 3: fed and get them out the door to school tom

663
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:21,560
Speaker 3: and and you know, whether they're closed match isn't necessarily

664
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Speaker 3: something that's part of my list of things that are

665
00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 3: important to make sure are done perfectly. So also in

666
00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 3: accomplishing that task, I oftentimes do it differently than Shaunty,

667
00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 3: and I can be sometimes at the risk of hurting

668
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:40,360
Speaker 3: feelings in order to get things.

669
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Speaker 2: Well know, you're not like the military stuff, if the

670
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 2: kids aren't, if the kids aren't falling into line after

671
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 2: two or three times, yeah, exactly.

672
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Speaker 3: So the difference I think between me and Shaunty, and

673
00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 3: I think we've found that between men and women, is

674
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Speaker 3: as those kids get out the door, I'm then now

675
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,600
Speaker 3: in my work mode and so I'm off to my

676
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 3: job and I'm not thinking about I knew I'm probably

677
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:12,880
Speaker 3: hurt their feelings, but you know, we'll deal with that later, okay.

678
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 3: Whereas Shanty, on the other hand, is acutely aware of

679
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:24,120
Speaker 3: the hurt feelings and wondering throughout her day how she's

680
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 3: going to how the kids are doing at school, whereas

681
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 3: that thought really just doesn't come up in my mind.

682
00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 3: So the question is, how does a young mom in

683
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 3: this kind of craziness where you and your husband may

684
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 3: have very different parenting styles in this how do you

685
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:50,760
Speaker 3: prevent yourself from telling yourself a narrative about your husband

686
00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 3: that he's just not sensitive or he's you know, unkind

687
00:32:56,960 --> 00:33:02,760
Speaker 3: or permitting or allowing resentment toward him to build up.

688
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 3: How does a young mom in this crazy phase manage that?

689
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I have so many things I could say on

690
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:12,720
Speaker 4: this topic, because yes, this resonates in our marriage too.

691
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Speaker 4: We have had seasons. My husband and I both work

692
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 4: from home, but we have had seasons most of the time. Honestly,

693
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 4: he and I don't come down at the same time

694
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 4: because he knows like, I've got a perfectly well oiled

695
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 4: machine and he wants to help. But if he comes

696
00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:30,360
Speaker 4: down when I like it is time to we are

697
00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 4: moving and we're like getting out the door. So he

698
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 4: has kind of figured out like if he comes in

699
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:36,440
Speaker 4: gets involved, it's going to make it worse. So he

700
00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 4: just kind of like, lets me do my thing. So

701
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 4: that's one strategy is he's just like eh, and that

702
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:42,440
Speaker 4: works really well for us. I don't know that I

703
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:44,800
Speaker 4: would recommend it for everyone because some wives might be

704
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 4: like no, like get down here and help, But for us,

705
00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 4: I'm like, no, I got this, just like.

706
00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:52,320
Speaker 3: Lets you talked it through to find out or you

707
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 3: kind of learn.

708
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 1: That about each other.

709
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:56,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, we learned that about each other. He's kind of

710
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 4: like did that and then told me after the fact, Oh, hey.

711
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 1: Like this is what I'm doing.

712
00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 4: And I'm like, I'm not gonna argue with you, like

713
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 4: we got it. Like I'm just very independent. I'm like

714
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 4: I don't need help, Like we're fine, like just live

715
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 4: your life. But like then he helps. He helps so

716
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:10,480
Speaker 4: much another way, So I don't want to be like,

717
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 4: oh he's a hands off because he's not at all.

718
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 4: Just like in that short window of time, he's like

719
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 4: you've got this, You've got your system. So that's one strategy.

720
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Speaker 4: Wouldn't recommend it for everyone, works really well for us.

721
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 4: Another thing is to say hey, to have a conversation,

722
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:26,600
Speaker 4: to say hey, this is really important to me, and

723
00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:29,480
Speaker 4: this is why there's so many things throughout our marriage.

724
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,560
Speaker 4: There so many times we've disagreed on things or he's

725
00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 4: done something and I'm like in my head internally, I'm like,

726
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:37,040
Speaker 4: why would you do that? That was dumb, Like I

727
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:39,279
Speaker 4: wouldn't do it that way, like obviously your way is wrong.

728
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 4: And we even out loud to each other, we'll have

729
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:43,360
Speaker 4: these conversations as politely as we can and we're like,

730
00:34:43,520 --> 00:34:44,920
Speaker 4: I know, I think you're wrong, like why.

731
00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:45,399
Speaker 1: Would you do that?

732
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 4: But if I am wise enough to keep my mouth

733
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Speaker 4: shut and I don't say that out loud, and I

734
00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 4: try to like I'm sure he has a reason. There

735
00:34:53,800 --> 00:34:55,360
Speaker 4: have been so many times, or he's come back to

736
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 4: me later and just like mentioned in passing like, oh yeah,

737
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 4: I did this thing, and here's the reason. And when

738
00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 4: he tells me the reason, I'm like, oh, like actually

739
00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:06,880
Speaker 4: makes a lot of sense. It's actually better than my

740
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:08,800
Speaker 4: way of doing something. So that's my second piece of

741
00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 4: advice is you know, sometimes you just do it and

742
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:12,759
Speaker 4: get through it. But then sometimes maybe you have the

743
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:15,279
Speaker 4: conversation and you're like, hey, like I've noticed that I'm

744
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:17,800
Speaker 4: kind of this way and you're kind of this way.

745
00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 4: What do you think that could be? And try to

746
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:23,359
Speaker 4: keep it a friendly, inquisitive conversation and you might find

747
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:25,759
Speaker 4: out that there's things that he is doing that are

748
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:27,880
Speaker 4: actually better than the way you're doing, and there may

749
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:30,160
Speaker 4: be things that you're doing on purpose for a reason

750
00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 4: that he just doesn't have that information, and it really

751
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:34,799
Speaker 4: your way really is better and he just doesn't know

752
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:37,279
Speaker 4: the context or his ways better, and so having some

753
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 4: more of that context rather than just immediately assuming well,

754
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,359
Speaker 4: you're just dumb and you're strong, Like, there's probably a

755
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 4: reason if you married a decent person, like they love you,

756
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:48,480
Speaker 4: they love your kids, they're not out to harm you,

757
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:52,120
Speaker 4: they're not just hopefully just not being lazy and uncaring,

758
00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:55,439
Speaker 4: there's probably a reason you have. Like every person, even

759
00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:57,239
Speaker 4: if we say, oh, of course God's number one and

760
00:35:57,280 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 4: our family's number two, we all have different values. Some

761
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 4: people really value being quick and efficient, some people really

762
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 4: value community and feelings. And I honestly I love that

763
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 4: about our marriage, that we have very different views on things.

764
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:14,239
Speaker 4: But it's such a benefit because rather than doing things

765
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:16,520
Speaker 4: his way versus my way, I'm like, great, now we

766
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:18,120
Speaker 4: get the best of both worlds. Like we'll bring my

767
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:20,399
Speaker 4: perspective and your perspective and we figure out the third

768
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:23,120
Speaker 4: way that works for both of us. So obviously, like

769
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 4: if you can talk through it. It's great. But even

770
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:28,080
Speaker 4: in the in between, before you get to that talk,

771
00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:30,000
Speaker 4: just giving them the benefit of the doubt and saying,

772
00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:32,319
Speaker 4: you know what, my spouse is a loving person. He

773
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:34,920
Speaker 4: loves me, he loves our kids. He is not actively

774
00:36:34,960 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 4: trying to harm us. Maybe there's information he doesn't know,

775
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,439
Speaker 4: maybe there's information I don't know. So we're just gonna

776
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,239
Speaker 4: give them the benefit of the doubt. Later we will discuss.

777
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:46,959
Speaker 4: We might agree, we might not agree, but either way,

778
00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 4: sometimes things really matter, and some things you're like, you know,

779
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:53,200
Speaker 4: it doesn't matter. It is gonna be fine. These kids

780
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 4: like need some adversity to grow big and strong. They're

781
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:56,720
Speaker 4: gonna be fine.

782
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 1: They're gonna be fine. I love that.

783
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:03,280
Speaker 2: That's a great, great way to avoid that narrative, avoid

784
00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:08,000
Speaker 2: that resentment. Okay, as we get to the end of

785
00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 2: our time, I want to at least spend a few

786
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:14,279
Speaker 2: minutes digging into something that you spend a lot of

787
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 2: time on with young moms and with your kids, which

788
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 2: is about studying the Bible and having the time to

789
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 2: dig into God's word. This We could spend a whole

790
00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:29,360
Speaker 2: podcast on this, but since we're near the end of

791
00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:32,320
Speaker 2: our time, One of the things that I think would

792
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:37,439
Speaker 2: help some young moms is a why do you think

793
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 2: that that is so important? When they're like, look, I

794
00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:41,760
Speaker 2: know the Bible is important, but I'd rather have a nap, thinks,

795
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:46,359
Speaker 2: And then b how do they actually do that when

796
00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:50,719
Speaker 2: they're in that chaotic phase. One of my close friends,

797
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 2: this was a number of years ago, she had five kids,

798
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 2: always chaos.

799
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 1: She always she.

800
00:37:56,680 --> 00:38:00,719
Speaker 2: Was like, I just am not finding time for my

801
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,439
Speaker 2: quiet time with the Lord. And she finally went, wait,

802
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:05,920
Speaker 2: who says it has to be quiet? So she had

803
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:08,880
Speaker 2: loud time with the Lord with the Bible on her

804
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:14,239
Speaker 2: lap while the kids are running around. What's your advice,

805
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:18,440
Speaker 2: your practical tips, as you have spent all this time

806
00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 2: with millions of young moms to help them understand the

807
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:26,320
Speaker 2: importance and understand how to do that in this phase.

808
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, I love that you mentioned loud time with the Lord.

809
00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 4: That's amazing and that's really where I want to start.

810
00:38:32,360 --> 00:38:35,360
Speaker 4: Because nowhere in the Bible does it command you to

811
00:38:35,400 --> 00:38:37,399
Speaker 4: read the Bible every single day. It is not in there.

812
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 4: I double check to be sure it's not in there,

813
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 4: like obviously it couldn't have been, because the Bible wasn't

814
00:38:42,640 --> 00:38:46,719
Speaker 4: the Bible before it was exactly but like literally, it

815
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 4: does not say I made sure. Nowhere does it say

816
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:51,719
Speaker 4: you have to read the Bible every day. Now. What

817
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 4: it does say is and I don't remember the first

818
00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:56,080
Speaker 4: off the top of my head, which I should, but

819
00:38:56,120 --> 00:38:58,320
Speaker 4: it does say to like meditate on God's word.

820
00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:00,359
Speaker 1: Constantly, constantly yep.

821
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:03,359
Speaker 4: So however, the actual verse says it talks a lot

822
00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:07,080
Speaker 4: about being in God's word, letting, whether it's reading your

823
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:11,080
Speaker 4: Bible or just like getting scripture inside of you whatever

824
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 4: that looks like. So that's the first place I want

825
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:15,319
Speaker 4: to start. If you are in a season where you're

826
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:17,680
Speaker 4: like I have kids with special needs, I have a newborn.

827
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:20,319
Speaker 4: Work in is crazy mode right now, and I just

828
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 4: cannot give yourself some grace because God's not asking you

829
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:26,279
Speaker 4: to be the perfect Bible study teacher and leader. Like

830
00:39:26,320 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 4: that's not your season and that's okay. There will be

831
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 4: a season where that's your season now, is not it?

832
00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:34,319
Speaker 4: And that's okay. I don't read my Bible every single day.

833
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:36,040
Speaker 4: My goal is five days a week and then I

834
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:37,479
Speaker 4: have church and then i have the other day because

835
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 4: I'm a mom and I'm gonna fall asleep before it

836
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:42,839
Speaker 4: happens somedays, so we've given ourselves grace. So first start

837
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:44,640
Speaker 4: there is you don't have to sit down and read

838
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 4: your Bible. You can have a lot of time. You

839
00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:48,040
Speaker 4: can have listened to praise and worship time. You can

840
00:39:48,080 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 4: have pray while you are reading time, pray while you're

841
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:54,319
Speaker 4: going up about your daytime. But the most important thing

842
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 4: is just to get God's word inside of you, to

843
00:39:57,480 --> 00:40:00,399
Speaker 4: know the verses, to know what it says. That's something

844
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 4: that I have really been clinging to so much lately

845
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 4: in the season I'm in right now where I'm trying

846
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:06,879
Speaker 4: to build this ministry and I'm trying to take care

847
00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:09,640
Speaker 4: of all of these kids and all of the things

848
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 4: that I'm trying to do all at the same time.

849
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:13,480
Speaker 4: Like I don't have time to sit and look up

850
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:15,200
Speaker 4: the verse and like go look and think. But I've

851
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:17,960
Speaker 4: read it. I've read it before. It's in here. I

852
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:21,319
Speaker 4: know it. So when I am going through something and

853
00:40:21,360 --> 00:40:23,400
Speaker 4: I do read the Bible, and that'll come up. But

854
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:25,560
Speaker 4: as I'm going through my day, I remember a verse

855
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:27,400
Speaker 4: or I have a conversation like this, I'm listening to

856
00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 4: a podcast. They're listening to a podcast right now. I'm

857
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:33,000
Speaker 4: listening to praise and worship music, whatever that is, and

858
00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:37,319
Speaker 4: these verses come up and I remember the stories. I

859
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:40,480
Speaker 4: remember Job who went through a really hard season. I

860
00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:42,919
Speaker 4: remember the story of the Loaves and the Fish where

861
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 4: the disciples were like, we can't feed these people and

862
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:47,200
Speaker 4: God was like, just go do it and they were like,

863
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:49,560
Speaker 4: we can't do it. And that's like the one that

864
00:40:49,560 --> 00:40:51,400
Speaker 4: I'm clinging to right now. I'm like, this all have,

865
00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:53,480
Speaker 4: it's not enough, and He's like, it doesn't need to

866
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:56,960
Speaker 4: be enough. So just knowing these stories and knowing these

867
00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:59,279
Speaker 4: verses and the Lord will bring them to mind, so

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Speaker 4: Bible every day. To be in the Bible every day

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Speaker 4: when you read it, when you can, when you observe it,

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Speaker 4: even if it's a teeny tiny bit at a time,

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Speaker 4: just to get it in your heart.

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Speaker 1: The little remind you.

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Speaker 4: And it is such an encouragement to look back at

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Speaker 4: those stories of Oh, you came through for that person,

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Speaker 4: and you came through for that person. You came through

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Speaker 4: for that person, and you gave this promise, and you

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Speaker 4: God you are then is the God you are now

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Speaker 4: and you will come through for me too.

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Speaker 2: Amen.

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Speaker 3: Wow, I don't know if we can say anything more

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Speaker 3: than what you just said, Brittany. And one thing in

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Speaker 3: our regular listeners listeners will know that when we wrap

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Speaker 3: a particular podcast, we always recognize that a lot of

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Speaker 3: information has been shared, but we also want them to

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Speaker 3: be able to remember one thing or to take away

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Speaker 3: one thing that they can use going forward in their lives.

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Speaker 3: And so with you, I'm going to ask a question.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to say for one of those average listeners,

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Speaker 3: if they were to remember just one thing that we

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Speaker 3: else about this that we didn't get to, what would

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Speaker 3: that one thing be in your mind that you feel

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Speaker 3: would help them move forward with hopefulness, with courage in

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Speaker 3: a crazy time.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, the one thing I would just love to leave

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Speaker 4: if I had a microphone for the entire world. What

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Speaker 4: I want to tell everyone is that following God is

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Speaker 4: always worth it. And by following God, I don't mean

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Speaker 4: following it their way or their way. It's just focusing

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Speaker 4: in on what is God calling you to do in

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Speaker 4: this season right now where you are with the resources

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Speaker 4: He's given you the skills, the talents, the abilities, the interests,

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Speaker 4: He's given you all of that. How is he calling

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Speaker 4: you to follow him right now? It's going to be hard,

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Speaker 4: It's gonna be really hard, but it is always worth it.

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Speaker 1: Wow. I love that.

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Speaker 3: I love that too.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so, brittany Ana. How can people find you?

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Speaker 2: How can they find your ministry? How can they find

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Speaker 2: your books like fall in Love with God's Word?

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Speaker 1: Uh? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I blog online at equipping at godlywomen dot com, where

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Speaker 4: I challenge and courage and quit busy Christian moms to

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Speaker 4: go all in in their faith and family and to

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Speaker 4: figure out what does that look like on a day

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Speaker 4: to day basis. I have a bunch of books, my

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Speaker 4: two most applicable for this conversation or fall in Love

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Speaker 4: with God's Word, which is perfect if you are saying, hey,

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Speaker 4: I want to get into my Bible more regularly and

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Speaker 4: have that quiet time or that loud time whatever it

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Speaker 4: looks like. We're gonna help you figure out, like step

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Speaker 4: by step. I'm a very practical list thinker. Here is

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Speaker 4: how you, specifically in the season you're in, figure out

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Speaker 4: how do I get into God's Word? And then the

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Speaker 4: follow up is follow God's will. That's okay. Once you're

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Speaker 4: does that look like on a Tuesday? How is God

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Speaker 4: calling you specifcifically in your season? I wish I could

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Speaker 4: say I'm on social media and all the things, but

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Speaker 4: like I do not have the band with right now,

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Speaker 4: so I don't know how people feel about email, but

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Speaker 4: like getting on my email list, like that is the

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Speaker 4: best way I send out encouragement every single week. And yeah,

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Speaker 4: that's the best way.

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Speaker 1: That's fantastic. Thank you.

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Speaker 2: I want to say thanks to Brittany and for coming

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Speaker 2: on the show today. Please check out her books, her website,

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Speaker 2: her email list, the blog she's talking about for more

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Speaker 2: of what you've heard today. Clearly there's a lot of

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Speaker 2: insight there, and so we're going to put the details in.

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Speaker 1: The show notes.

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Speaker 2: And if you know someone who needs to hear what

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Speaker 2: she's been sharing today, what we've been talking about today,

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Speaker 2: please share today's episode and tag us and tag her

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Speaker 2: on all your social media channels. Thanks so much, Brittany,

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Speaker 2: and thanks for listening to I wish you could hear this.

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Speaker 2: Remember to subscribe to our podcast, and as always, forward

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Speaker 2: today's audio or video link to a friend, counselor, or

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Speaker 2: pastor who would be encouraged. I just want to take

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Speaker 2: a second to thank the team at Life Audio for

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Speaker 2: their partnership with us on the podcast. If you go

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