1 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: Welcome to Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Here thousands of 2 00:00:24,240 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 1: hours of Dennis's lectures, courses in classic radio programs, and 3 00:00:27,880 --> 00:00:38,239 Speaker 1: to purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles, go to Dennisprager dot com. 4 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:41,880 Speaker 1: On today's episode of Timeless Wisdom. 5 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:44,279 Speaker 2: I have I'm going to throw out a theory today 6 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 2: that I once I threw out once, and it is 7 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 2: simply this. This is about our society at this time, 8 00:00:51,880 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 2: or at least for the last generation. Something happens to 9 00:00:56,680 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 2: a lot of women around age twenty nine in the 10 00:01:01,160 --> 00:01:05,839 Speaker 2: way they look at life, so much so that it 11 00:01:06,039 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 2: may in fact be a cause of a disproportionate number 12 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 2: of marital breakups. 13 00:01:13,039 --> 00:01:16,440 Speaker 1: That's coming off on Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager, and 14 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 1: it starts right now. 15 00:01:19,479 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 2: I am old fashioned. I like two sexes. 16 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 3: I don't know. 17 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:24,320 Speaker 2: I think all of a sudden, I don't like being 18 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 2: married to what is known as a new woman. I 19 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 2: want a wife, not a competitor. 20 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 1: Competator, competitor, talk about a bit, this crying in the 21 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 1: morning thing. It's depression, you know, let's get that fixed. 22 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 4: That's what men think, isn't it. 23 00:01:35,680 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 5: What Unless you've got the answer, Unless you can say, oh, 24 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:41,480 Speaker 5: I know this bloke in Essex Road, call fix that, 25 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:43,400 Speaker 5: and there's no point bothering. 26 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 6: How do you write women so well? 27 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 1: I think of a man and I take away reason 28 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 1: and accountability. 29 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 7: I love him. 30 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 8: I love him and I don't care what you think. 31 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 7: I love him for the for the man he wants 32 00:01:57,480 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 7: to be, and I love him for the man that 33 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 7: he almost is. 34 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 5: What do people have rowse about him? 35 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 2: Money? It's sex sex money he wants, she doesn't want, 36 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:14,119 Speaker 2: she wants, he doesn't want women. I've always been a 37 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:20,999 Speaker 2: big problem to me, doctor Fusspenden. Yes, yes, yes, go on, 38 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:33,000 Speaker 2: gon hi everybody, and welcome to the Welcome to the 39 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:39,520 Speaker 2: Dennis Prager Show, The Male Female Hour. Alrighty there, all right, 40 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:43,840 Speaker 2: throat be good, ah, my friends. Every week at this 41 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:46,000 Speaker 2: time we talk about men and women. It's titled The 42 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:49,919 Speaker 2: Male Female Hour, and I'm Dennis Prager and I welcome 43 00:02:49,960 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 2: you to it. Truly honest talk about men and women. 44 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 2: I mean, really honest. There are times that it's so 45 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 2: honest and so mature to use a term that has 46 00:02:58,919 --> 00:03:02,320 Speaker 2: fallen out of common usage that I actually tell you 47 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 2: that maybe kids under a teenage years might not be 48 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:08,000 Speaker 2: it may not be appropriate, for that's not the case 49 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 2: this time, but it gives you an idea of how 50 00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 2: honest we do talk about honestly we do talk about 51 00:03:15,040 --> 00:03:18,320 Speaker 2: these issues I have. I'm going to throw out a 52 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:21,639 Speaker 2: theory today that I once I threw out once. Do 53 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:24,840 Speaker 2: we have that letter? By the way, hoh? Is this 54 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:30,840 Speaker 2: it good? Yes? I threw this out once or twice, 55 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 2: perhaps in the course of talking about related ideas, but 56 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:39,560 Speaker 2: I never ever developed it, and I fully acknowledge it 57 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:45,480 Speaker 2: is just a theory of mine based on observation. It may, 58 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:49,560 Speaker 2: it may, and it may not be. Well, that's redundant. 59 00:03:49,640 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 2: If it may, then it may not. You know, like 60 00:03:53,040 --> 00:03:55,880 Speaker 2: when people say, well maybe or maybe not, but maybe 61 00:03:56,040 --> 00:04:01,440 Speaker 2: means maybe not anyway, I love to get your reactions, 62 00:04:01,880 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 2: and I suspect that, well, no, I think men may 63 00:04:04,880 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 2: have something to say about this, but certainly, certainly I 64 00:04:08,320 --> 00:04:11,760 Speaker 2: suspect a fair number of women. And if not not, 65 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 2: we'll just find out. But if I'm right, it was 66 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 2: worth raising in because the consequences of this may affect 67 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:28,600 Speaker 2: people down the road and not long down the road, 68 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:32,360 Speaker 2: as you will understand, quite considerably. And that is this, 69 00:04:33,919 --> 00:04:37,640 Speaker 2: and I have believed this now for let's see, oh 70 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 2: about twenty twenty five years, and it is simply this, 71 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:45,720 Speaker 2: at least in our society at our time. I do 72 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:48,680 Speaker 2: not say that at all, that this is universal. Most 73 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 2: of my theories about men and women are universal. This 74 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:56,200 Speaker 2: is not. This is about our society at this time, 75 00:04:56,440 --> 00:05:02,720 Speaker 2: or at least for the last generation. Something happens to 76 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:07,280 Speaker 2: a lot of women around age twenty nine in the 77 00:05:07,360 --> 00:05:12,040 Speaker 2: way they look at life, so much so that it 78 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:17,440 Speaker 2: may in fact be a cause of a disproportionate number 79 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 2: of marital breakups. If this resonates with you, call me 80 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:27,360 Speaker 2: male or female, but it is not. But it is 81 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 2: about females. Males at twenty nine is no different than 82 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:35,440 Speaker 2: male at twenty five. Male at thirty five. Males have 83 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 2: a fairly males may have a midlife crisis. But which 84 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:43,239 Speaker 2: of course, could be at fifty, at sixty, at forty five, 85 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know. I would say those 86 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 2: forty five to sixty five, I guess. But that's a 87 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 2: very broad period of time and that we all know about. 88 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 2: But there seems to be something that happens at around 89 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:01,720 Speaker 2: twenty nine to a lot of women who all of 90 00:06:01,800 --> 00:06:04,040 Speaker 2: a sudden start asking and the full number here is 91 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 2: one eighth Praeger seven seven six one eight pr g 92 00:06:08,720 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 2: Er seven seven six, which is eight seven seven two 93 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:16,040 Speaker 2: four three triple seven six eight seven seven two four 94 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:19,840 Speaker 2: three triple seven six. And it appear years that, at 95 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 2: about age twenty nine, a lot of women start asking 96 00:06:25,400 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 2: who am I? What am I? What do I want 97 00:06:29,400 --> 00:06:34,440 Speaker 2: in life? Why am I here in this marriage, in 98 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:40,279 Speaker 2: this relationship, in this in this work, in whatever. It's 99 00:06:40,360 --> 00:06:44,720 Speaker 2: like it overtakes them. It's like a if there's a 100 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 2: midlife crisis for men, then I don't know, is this 101 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:50,560 Speaker 2: an early life crisis. I don't know what to call it. 102 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:53,719 Speaker 2: A twenty nine year it's almost like an alarm clock. 103 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:57,560 Speaker 2: And look, if I didn't, if I didn't see this 104 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:02,720 Speaker 2: in more than a few cases, then I would never 105 00:07:02,880 --> 00:07:08,200 Speaker 2: even bring it to your attention, and certainly I wouldn't 106 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 2: broadcast it on a national radio show. I mean, it's 107 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 2: it would be embarrassing if you know, I knew two 108 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 2: people that something happened to and then say, folks, you 109 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 2: tell me, do you do you find an increase in 110 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:23,400 Speaker 2: I don't know, Dan Ruffo at the age of thirty six. 111 00:07:23,520 --> 00:07:26,400 Speaker 2: I mean, it's not like that it's that I have 112 00:07:26,960 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 2: just too often seen it. I mentioned this once in 113 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:34,720 Speaker 2: passing and I received a number of responses. Here's an 114 00:07:34,760 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 2: example of one from a Katie in Scottsdale, Arizona. Subject 115 00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 2: twenty nine is the magic number. Question mark please please 116 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 2: please expand on this, Dennis, and then three exclamation points. 117 00:07:50,080 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 2: This woman is into Trinity's please please please, three exclamation points. 118 00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:59,120 Speaker 2: I have to know the theory. I am twenty nine 119 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 2: and have undergone tremendous changes in the past year. I 120 00:08:02,840 --> 00:08:05,160 Speaker 2: actually just told my husband the other night that I 121 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 2: don't want to be married to him anymore. I love 122 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:10,520 Speaker 2: him and I don't want to end it, but he 123 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:13,720 Speaker 2: is such a miserable, selfish pain. Anyhow, this is just 124 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 2: one of the many quote unquote changes. If you have 125 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:21,120 Speaker 2: some insight into this than we the royal we needed, 126 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:26,600 Speaker 2: then it's one exclamation point. Alrighty, So let's see if 127 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 2: by the way, if this is so, if there really 128 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:36,319 Speaker 2: is this phenomenon in our society, then it there should 129 00:08:36,400 --> 00:08:41,920 Speaker 2: be some It should have some effect on marital decisions 130 00:08:42,839 --> 00:08:45,640 Speaker 2: that men and women make, and and I'll talk about that. 131 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:48,080 Speaker 2: It doesn't mean you don't marry a woman under twenty nine. 132 00:08:49,360 --> 00:08:52,720 Speaker 2: But it means that care be taken by the woman 133 00:08:52,880 --> 00:08:58,319 Speaker 2: and the man has she thought through a lot of 134 00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 2: things already, if it's even possible to do so in 135 00:09:02,880 --> 00:09:07,120 Speaker 2: every case. All right, Catherine in Phoenix, Arizona, Catherine, Dennis 136 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:08,320 Speaker 2: Praeger High, Hi. 137 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:09,839 Speaker 7: Thanks so much for taking my call. 138 00:09:10,120 --> 00:09:10,400 Speaker 2: Thank you. 139 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:12,559 Speaker 7: As soon as I heard what you were saying, I 140 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:16,679 Speaker 7: stopped dead in my tracks and just picked up my ears. 141 00:09:18,160 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 7: I completely I GESTI with everything you've just said. I 142 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 7: think it's whether you're. 143 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:24,280 Speaker 2: Single, well you are, you are twenty nine. 144 00:09:24,520 --> 00:09:26,679 Speaker 7: I am twenty nine, and I am single. I'm in 145 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:31,240 Speaker 7: a serious, committed relationship. But you start going through this 146 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:34,440 Speaker 7: phase of just asking all these questions and you feel 147 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:37,360 Speaker 7: like you know less now than you've ever known in 148 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:41,000 Speaker 7: your life, and it's hard to make decisions because it's 149 00:09:41,160 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 7: kind of what the color of Katie from Scottsdale. You know, 150 00:09:44,400 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 7: she's having major attortionities now. But I feel like it 151 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 7: happens when you're single or married. 152 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:52,040 Speaker 5: Yes, and I would love to hear more. 153 00:09:52,360 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 2: So wait, I want you. I want to hear a 154 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 2: little more from you. Tell me what this alarm clock 155 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 2: at age twenty nine alarmed you about. 156 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 7: You start to ask career questions. You start to ask 157 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:08,000 Speaker 7: where am I headed in my life? What am I doing? 158 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 7: Is that the right thing? But you're you're kind of 159 00:10:10,240 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 7: at a point where if you are single, your I 160 00:10:12,960 --> 00:10:15,480 Speaker 7: don't know if it's the biological clock, but something's ticking. 161 00:10:16,080 --> 00:10:17,680 Speaker 7: It makes you feel like, well, if you're not married, 162 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 7: you're either doing something wrong or I need to get 163 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:20,920 Speaker 7: on that bandwagon pretty soon. 164 00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:23,240 Speaker 2: Right. But the women, but again, as I said, so 165 00:10:23,360 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 2: many of the women wonder why they got married. I know, 166 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:31,360 Speaker 2: so it's it is an alarm clock. Did it take 167 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:32,320 Speaker 2: you by surprise? 168 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:36,120 Speaker 7: It's a girlfriend and I we have lots of theories. 169 00:10:37,400 --> 00:10:39,839 Speaker 7: Around twenty six, she was a year ahead. She was 170 00:10:39,840 --> 00:10:41,680 Speaker 7: at twenty seven. She says, Catherine, you're going to start 171 00:10:41,679 --> 00:10:44,000 Speaker 7: going through a point in your life where things just 172 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:46,280 Speaker 7: don't make sense. And she was that, I feel like 173 00:10:46,320 --> 00:10:49,640 Speaker 7: it starts happening around twenty six and twenty nine. I 174 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:52,439 Speaker 7: just it's I feel like it is stronger than it 175 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:53,080 Speaker 7: ever has been. 176 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:55,679 Speaker 2: And I know, you know, kind of trouble by the 177 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:58,559 Speaker 2: way you want you want Katie's email address, maybe you 178 00:10:58,600 --> 00:11:01,880 Speaker 2: could stop. You want Katie's email address? Your neighbors, Sure, 179 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 2: she's I can't do that. But now I'm just kidding. 180 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 2: It would be fun, though, to have like the twenty 181 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:10,360 Speaker 2: nine year old Woman's club where you can all sit 182 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:13,319 Speaker 2: and say how confusing life is. 183 00:11:13,920 --> 00:11:16,679 Speaker 7: And it's like, you know, I pray for answers and 184 00:11:16,800 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 7: I just take you day by day. 185 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:20,319 Speaker 2: All right, Well, we'll have a lot of people, all 186 00:11:20,520 --> 00:11:22,959 Speaker 2: I mean, we're just overloaded already with with thank you, 187 00:11:23,200 --> 00:11:27,560 Speaker 2: thank you, Catherine. I appreciate it. I think I'm onto 188 00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:30,640 Speaker 2: something here. And have you ever heard it? Be beyond 189 00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:33,280 Speaker 2: me saying this? And I'm not sitting here to tell 190 00:11:33,320 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 2: you I'm terrific. I just I have not seen it mentioned. 191 00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 2: And why in our society is it? You know? Is 192 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 2: it happening in Uzbekistan and in Paraguay and I don't know. 193 00:11:48,160 --> 00:11:51,760 Speaker 2: All right, well, we'll take more of your calls. This 194 00:11:51,920 --> 00:11:54,679 Speaker 2: is the male Female Hour on the Dennis Prager Show. 195 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:01,679 Speaker 1: This episode of Timeless Wisdom. We'll continue right after this. 196 00:12:07,240 --> 00:12:10,800 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom. 197 00:12:12,800 --> 00:12:15,320 Speaker 2: This is the male female Hour on the Dennis Prager Show. 198 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:21,240 Speaker 2: And I'm Dennis Prager, and I try to be as 199 00:12:21,280 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 2: transparent as possible, and it has its risks. But the 200 00:12:25,200 --> 00:12:31,080 Speaker 2: benefits so far outweigh the risks. And therefore, when people 201 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:32,679 Speaker 2: say to me, you know Dennis, I feel like I 202 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:34,959 Speaker 2: know you? You do you do know me? This is 203 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 2: me and the transparency that I'm about to offer you 204 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:42,720 Speaker 2: is what went into my making this hour on this subject. 205 00:12:43,240 --> 00:12:45,720 Speaker 2: It is something I have thought about for twenty five years. 206 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:49,640 Speaker 2: But I gambled an effect in making this a subject 207 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:52,440 Speaker 2: for the Male Female Hour, because what if my theory 208 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 2: was kaka maimie. I never read about it, nobody else 209 00:12:57,840 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 2: told this to be, and so we really we debated 210 00:13:03,240 --> 00:13:07,319 Speaker 2: Alan and I over this. He wanted it sooner than I. 211 00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:11,000 Speaker 2: I finally felt like, let's take the risk. And yet 212 00:13:11,040 --> 00:13:13,199 Speaker 2: I look at these calls and I think, I do 213 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:17,160 Speaker 2: think I'm onto something here, And if I am, it's 214 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:19,760 Speaker 2: a very important thing to know because the better people 215 00:13:19,880 --> 00:13:22,280 Speaker 2: know themselves, and the better the sexes know each other, 216 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:25,360 Speaker 2: the more chance there is for good relations between the 217 00:13:25,440 --> 00:13:28,800 Speaker 2: sex and a happier life. And it's a very simple theory. 218 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:32,200 Speaker 2: I hope it's not simplistic, but it is simple. Something 219 00:13:32,280 --> 00:13:35,880 Speaker 2: happens to women and many women in our society around 220 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:41,360 Speaker 2: age twenty nine rethinking everything, A is it true? B 221 00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:45,160 Speaker 2: If it is true, why is it so? So let's 222 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:48,280 Speaker 2: first see is it true and get some more calls. 223 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:52,079 Speaker 2: Here we go to Houston, Texas and is your name Hazen? Yes, 224 00:13:52,120 --> 00:13:54,800 Speaker 2: there it is Hi Hazen, Dennis Prager, thanks for calling. 225 00:13:55,120 --> 00:13:57,440 Speaker 5: Yeah, good afternoon, mister Prager. I think to answer your 226 00:13:57,480 --> 00:14:00,000 Speaker 5: two questions right there, I think, yes, you're onto something. 227 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:04,000 Speaker 5: And I can only ponder a guest, but I think 228 00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:05,439 Speaker 5: between the well. 229 00:14:05,280 --> 00:14:07,400 Speaker 2: Tell us why you think I'm onto something? Tell us 230 00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:08,920 Speaker 2: your own experience with this. 231 00:14:09,480 --> 00:14:12,559 Speaker 5: Well. I celebrated my fifth year anniversary last weekend with 232 00:14:12,640 --> 00:14:15,800 Speaker 5: my wife, got two lovely boys. And she needs time 233 00:14:15,840 --> 00:14:16,280 Speaker 5: and space. 234 00:14:16,400 --> 00:14:17,439 Speaker 2: And how old is she? 235 00:14:18,080 --> 00:14:20,280 Speaker 5: She's thirty, okay? 236 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:23,000 Speaker 2: And did it seem to come out of nowhere? 237 00:14:23,480 --> 00:14:27,160 Speaker 5: Out of nowhere? It just absolutely blindsided me. She's needed 238 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:30,440 Speaker 5: time and space. And and I'm to the point where 239 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:34,440 Speaker 5: as I told your screener, you know what are you doing? 240 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:36,560 Speaker 5: I've given you everything you've ever wanted. You stayed on mom, 241 00:14:36,640 --> 00:14:40,680 Speaker 5: beautiful house, healthy boys, loved you. Everything I have is 242 00:14:41,000 --> 00:14:41,640 Speaker 5: in your hands. 243 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:42,520 Speaker 2: Run with it. 244 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:45,600 Speaker 5: And she's all of a sudden now not happy. And 245 00:14:45,720 --> 00:14:48,000 Speaker 5: I think she's not happy because what she's realizing this 246 00:14:48,120 --> 00:14:51,760 Speaker 5: is where my pop psychology comes in. She's venturely. She 247 00:14:51,840 --> 00:14:54,440 Speaker 5: doesn't know how to love. She doesn't know if it's 248 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:58,200 Speaker 5: if it's primal in like nineteen fifties ish, or if 249 00:14:58,240 --> 00:15:01,720 Speaker 5: it's by being a strong, independent, career minded woman. She doesn't. 250 00:15:01,920 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 5: She's I think she's so she's got to be torn up. 251 00:15:04,400 --> 00:15:07,960 Speaker 5: There's there's a the biological as your earlier caller said 252 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:09,080 Speaker 5: about the biological Yeah. 253 00:15:08,960 --> 00:15:11,280 Speaker 2: But she is. She has already met her biological clock. 254 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:13,360 Speaker 2: She has two kids. She had to exactly. 255 00:15:14,840 --> 00:15:16,800 Speaker 5: No, your previous caller addressed that, And what I wanted 256 00:15:16,800 --> 00:15:19,160 Speaker 5: to say is this clock has been met and uh 257 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:21,480 Speaker 5: and that part of the equation in my in my 258 00:15:21,600 --> 00:15:26,200 Speaker 5: world is out, so you know. So now she's saying, Okay, 259 00:15:26,240 --> 00:15:28,200 Speaker 5: well now I have everything I ever wanted, and now, 260 00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:29,880 Speaker 5: well what is it that I really want? You you 261 00:15:29,960 --> 00:15:30,880 Speaker 5: intimated that earlier. 262 00:15:31,160 --> 00:15:34,000 Speaker 2: That's that's exactly right, Hazen. I just want you to 263 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:36,440 Speaker 2: know this is of no help to you, but my 264 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 2: heart goes out to you. Please note that I I 265 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:45,040 Speaker 2: I'm not casting any villains here, but by the way, 266 00:15:45,080 --> 00:15:47,600 Speaker 2: there are times I do. I I don't hesitate for 267 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:49,920 Speaker 2: making moral judgments, but I just want to say here 268 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:54,240 Speaker 2: that my heart goes out to a guy if what 269 00:15:54,440 --> 00:15:59,400 Speaker 2: he describes is accurate, I mean, he is blindsided. You 270 00:15:59,480 --> 00:16:03,080 Speaker 2: know what? What did I do wrong? He must make up, 271 00:16:03,160 --> 00:16:07,720 Speaker 2: pinch himself and ask well, isn't this like the dream 272 00:16:07,960 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 2: of women and folks. I'm not saying this as a 273 00:16:10,960 --> 00:16:13,520 Speaker 2: condemnation or anything. I'm saying this is so we need 274 00:16:13,600 --> 00:16:18,800 Speaker 2: to understand if the phenomenon is true. The need to 275 00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:21,200 Speaker 2: know that, and if it is true, we need to 276 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:26,280 Speaker 2: figure out why because of a lot of gratuitous pain 277 00:16:26,400 --> 00:16:31,480 Speaker 2: that occurs between humans. Mike and Philadelphia. You're on the 278 00:16:31,520 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 2: Dennis Prager Show. 279 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:35,440 Speaker 9: Denz, thank you so much for taking my call. You 280 00:16:35,520 --> 00:16:41,280 Speaker 9: are definitely on something here. I was married for seven 281 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:45,960 Speaker 9: years and my wife, well ex wife is twenty nine, 282 00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:49,560 Speaker 9: and literally got blindsided, just like your other callers. 283 00:16:52,280 --> 00:16:57,520 Speaker 2: You're thirty three now, yes you have kids. No, you 284 00:16:57,600 --> 00:17:00,040 Speaker 2: were married seven years, so you married. She was twenty 285 00:17:00,080 --> 00:17:03,840 Speaker 2: two when she married. Yes you were you the same age? 286 00:17:04,600 --> 00:17:04,639 Speaker 1: No? 287 00:17:05,360 --> 00:17:05,760 Speaker 2: Well were you? 288 00:17:07,000 --> 00:17:10,000 Speaker 9: I was on Tlin four years older? 289 00:17:10,240 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 2: All right to you? Oh, I us that this just happened, Yes, 290 00:17:13,720 --> 00:17:16,800 Speaker 2: just that a year ago, and you were blind You 291 00:17:16,840 --> 00:17:18,840 Speaker 2: were you? And you felt blindsided as. 292 00:17:18,800 --> 00:17:22,719 Speaker 9: Well, absolutely, just one day I found out that there 293 00:17:22,880 --> 00:17:24,960 Speaker 9: was an infinity, that there. 294 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:28,400 Speaker 2: Was a lot, There was a lot infidelity. Yeah, you're 295 00:17:28,400 --> 00:17:31,239 Speaker 2: breaking up a little, okay, in infidelity? And what did 296 00:17:31,320 --> 00:17:32,840 Speaker 2: she say to you? While were her words? 297 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:35,359 Speaker 9: She doesn't know what she wants? 298 00:17:36,320 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 2: Boy, I tell you. 299 00:17:38,240 --> 00:17:41,359 Speaker 9: And this was after years of marriage. You know home, 300 00:17:42,240 --> 00:17:45,560 Speaker 9: you know everything. We're kind of moving towards a shared 301 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:47,680 Speaker 9: goal and then all of a sudden I was kind 302 00:17:47,720 --> 00:17:53,080 Speaker 9: of left on my own and you loved her absolutely 303 00:17:53,880 --> 00:17:54,640 Speaker 9: without a doubt. 304 00:17:56,119 --> 00:17:59,960 Speaker 2: Wow, all right, Mike, I thank you so much. And 305 00:18:01,640 --> 00:18:05,400 Speaker 2: you know you'll certainly meet somebody and have a happy life. 306 00:18:05,440 --> 00:18:10,200 Speaker 2: I'm convinced of that. It's really uh. I mean, folks, 307 00:18:10,280 --> 00:18:12,320 Speaker 2: if you throw out something like this, look, if you 308 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:15,480 Speaker 2: have a big enough audience. I'm not foolish. I understand 309 00:18:15,480 --> 00:18:17,520 Speaker 2: that if you have a large enough audience a selection 310 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:20,600 Speaker 2: of humanity, then then you know, perhaps I could have 311 00:18:20,720 --> 00:18:23,960 Speaker 2: said that men at twenty nine, this happens, But I 312 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:25,680 Speaker 2: don't think I would have filled up the lines like 313 00:18:25,760 --> 00:18:29,360 Speaker 2: this with stories like this. My husband changed at twenty nine. 314 00:18:29,720 --> 00:18:33,560 Speaker 2: I don't think that happens in one percent of the cases. 315 00:18:36,640 --> 00:18:38,320 Speaker 2: All right, now, now we'll have enough time for me 316 00:18:38,440 --> 00:18:40,680 Speaker 2: to offer what I think we might want to learn 317 00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:42,719 Speaker 2: from this, but it's so important to hear from as 318 00:18:42,760 --> 00:18:48,280 Speaker 2: many of you as possible. We go to Anaheim and Teresa, Hello, Teresa, 319 00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:49,480 Speaker 2: Dennis Prager, Hi. 320 00:18:49,440 --> 00:18:50,200 Speaker 6: Dennis, how you doing? 321 00:18:50,359 --> 00:18:51,720 Speaker 2: I'm well? Thank you good? 322 00:18:51,880 --> 00:18:52,080 Speaker 1: Well. 323 00:18:52,200 --> 00:18:56,040 Speaker 6: Here is here is an opinion sixty plus point of view, 324 00:18:56,600 --> 00:19:00,560 Speaker 6: kind of an overview of the various milestones in a 325 00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:04,440 Speaker 6: woman's life. I think men seem to only have one milestone, 326 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:06,840 Speaker 6: and that would be midlife. Whenever that happens to them, 327 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:09,600 Speaker 6: and they try to feel younger, so they try to 328 00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:11,359 Speaker 6: get dinner and they try to get a younger woman. 329 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:14,760 Speaker 6: But a woman realizes about twenty nine, she's really come 330 00:19:14,800 --> 00:19:17,560 Speaker 6: of age when she's says, wow, you know, okay, life 331 00:19:17,640 --> 00:19:20,800 Speaker 6: is passing by really quickly. Either I need to have 332 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:23,200 Speaker 6: a child if I have childless, or I need to 333 00:19:23,240 --> 00:19:24,840 Speaker 6: go back to school, or I need to get a 334 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:27,879 Speaker 6: better job. And I think the reason behind this is 335 00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:31,080 Speaker 6: that a woman is always seeming a woman always seems 336 00:19:31,119 --> 00:19:36,119 Speaker 6: to want to get better. Men seem to feel like 337 00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 6: they've arrived. You know, they have their job, so they 338 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:39,920 Speaker 6: do their job and they come home and that's it. 339 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:47,720 Speaker 6: I'll be sixty three in a few days and right now. 340 00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:50,320 Speaker 6: I mean, I want to do it all. I want to, 341 00:19:50,880 --> 00:19:54,240 Speaker 6: you know, try different fun jobs after I retire. I 342 00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:56,320 Speaker 6: want to enjoy the grandkids. I want to travel. I 343 00:19:56,359 --> 00:19:58,840 Speaker 6: think women are more well rounded. I think that kind 344 00:19:58,880 --> 00:20:01,639 Speaker 6: of ads to as to the problem of what you 345 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:08,080 Speaker 6: men seem to think is confusing in a way because 346 00:20:08,119 --> 00:20:10,359 Speaker 6: you don't know what's happening in our minds. And I 347 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:12,600 Speaker 6: think women are just more well rounded than men. 348 00:20:12,480 --> 00:20:15,720 Speaker 2: And we can so what happens at twenty nine is 349 00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:16,240 Speaker 2: a virtue? 350 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:19,640 Speaker 6: Well, I think it's in a way, and I think 351 00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:22,120 Speaker 6: women are getting married to soon. They should they should. 352 00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:25,200 Speaker 2: Say well, that, by the way, is one of the 353 00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:28,560 Speaker 2: questions I want to discuss here. If there is a 354 00:20:28,680 --> 00:20:31,040 Speaker 2: lesson here, is that one of the conclusions to be 355 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:31,840 Speaker 2: drawn back in a. 356 00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:38,680 Speaker 1: Moment this episode of Timeless Wisdom. We'll continue right after 357 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:48,359 Speaker 1: this now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless Wisdom. 358 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 2: Times. I think if we had one hundred lines to 359 00:20:59,960 --> 00:21:04,920 Speaker 2: the studio, one hundred lines would be lit up and 360 00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:10,000 Speaker 2: with apparently with examples of what I am talking about. 361 00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:14,919 Speaker 2: One a Praguer seven seven six is the number if 362 00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 2: you can get in and and it's it's it's worth trying, 363 00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:19,480 Speaker 2: people drop off or whatever happens. But in any event, 364 00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:22,119 Speaker 2: the subject on this male female hour. Every week at 365 00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:24,240 Speaker 2: this time, I devote an hour to male female issues. 366 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:29,879 Speaker 2: Is a theory of mine that I don't claim is 367 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:32,359 Speaker 2: unique to me, but I haven't heard it elsewhere. And 368 00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:34,800 Speaker 2: that is that something happens around age twenty nine to 369 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:38,840 Speaker 2: a great many women in our society, and it's almost 370 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:43,840 Speaker 2: like an alarm clock goes off and brand new questions 371 00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:47,959 Speaker 2: about their whole life arise. And as you've heard men 372 00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:51,480 Speaker 2: calling up and saying, out of nowhere, in a seemingly happy, 373 00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:54,879 Speaker 2: loving marriage, their wife wants a divorce out of nowhere. No, 374 00:21:55,720 --> 00:22:00,040 Speaker 2: he has had no affair, and you know no, I mean, 375 00:22:00,119 --> 00:22:02,280 Speaker 2: everything seemed to be great. It seems to come out 376 00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:05,040 Speaker 2: of nowhere, and it seems to come out of nowhere 377 00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:07,560 Speaker 2: to the woman too, It's not just to the man. 378 00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:13,119 Speaker 2: And if this is true, then we have to figure 379 00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:16,080 Speaker 2: out why. And once we figure out why, let's figure 380 00:22:16,119 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 2: out what we can do about that. And let's go 381 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:25,080 Speaker 2: to Deborah in San Antonio, Texas. Hi. Deborah Dennis Prager. 382 00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 3: Hi, Dennis. First of all, I want to say that 383 00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:32,040 Speaker 3: your idea is not kakameme. I would call you many things, 384 00:22:32,119 --> 00:22:33,160 Speaker 3: but never cocka. Mamie. 385 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:36,119 Speaker 2: Well, I wouldn't call me kakamemi either. The question was 386 00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:37,399 Speaker 2: where the idea was, not me? 387 00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:42,800 Speaker 3: Go ahead, I won't make that connection. Then. I was 388 00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:45,200 Speaker 3: just going to tell you that when I was about thirty, 389 00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:48,600 Speaker 3: I had exactly what you're describing. Happened to me, and 390 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:51,560 Speaker 3: I've seen it happen to my girlfriends. I'm fifty now 391 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:55,879 Speaker 3: that I remember this very vividly, and what happened, in 392 00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:59,960 Speaker 3: my opinion, is that women feel time passing so much 393 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:03,280 Speaker 3: more quickly than men do. And my theory is that 394 00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:07,760 Speaker 3: our culture places so much value on youth and beauty, 395 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:12,119 Speaker 3: and when a woman starts getting close to thirty, we 396 00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:14,080 Speaker 3: begin to feel that we only have a few good 397 00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:19,159 Speaker 3: years left, and suddenly there's a pick to wonder, is 398 00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:22,560 Speaker 3: there something better with these few good years. It's kind 399 00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:24,600 Speaker 3: of like listening to the radio and you like the 400 00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:27,720 Speaker 3: song that's on, but what if there's something better? So 401 00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:31,280 Speaker 3: you switch stations. And that's what happened with me. I 402 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:36,399 Speaker 3: walked away from a very content, perfectly good life because 403 00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:39,720 Speaker 3: I panicked because I thought time is slipping away? Time 404 00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:43,320 Speaker 3: is running out? And what if I what if there 405 00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:45,159 Speaker 3: was something better for me? What if I could have 406 00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:47,520 Speaker 3: you know, done better? What if there could have been 407 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:48,119 Speaker 3: more for. 408 00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:52,040 Speaker 2: Me or a better man I'm sorry, or a better man? 409 00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:56,600 Speaker 3: Well maybe that I was married to a wonderful man. 410 00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:58,240 Speaker 2: Well wait, wait, did you stay married? 411 00:23:58,760 --> 00:23:58,800 Speaker 6: No? 412 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:00,560 Speaker 3: I got a divorce? 413 00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:03,360 Speaker 2: All right, So then then what I what I said 414 00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:05,720 Speaker 2: was accurate. That part of the what if there was 415 00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:08,159 Speaker 2: something better was what if there's a better man? You 416 00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:10,120 Speaker 2: yourself said, I'll switch stations. 417 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:13,160 Speaker 3: Sure, I think that was part of it is could 418 00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:14,240 Speaker 3: there be a better marriage? 419 00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:19,520 Speaker 2: Okay? Fine, all right? And in retrospect, did you, by 420 00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:20,520 Speaker 2: the way, did you remarry? 421 00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:21,640 Speaker 6: I did? 422 00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:25,640 Speaker 2: Okay, Well, so it's hard to ask because it would 423 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:28,840 Speaker 2: seem to it would it doesn't reflect on your current marriage. 424 00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:33,800 Speaker 2: But uh, I'll still ask, and please know that it 425 00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:36,000 Speaker 2: doesn't reflect you. May have the most wonderful marriage in 426 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:38,600 Speaker 2: the world, but in retrospect, do you think it was 427 00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:40,120 Speaker 2: worthy of divorcing over? 428 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:41,680 Speaker 1: No? 429 00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:45,719 Speaker 3: I wish I had been more mature. I'm so happy 430 00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:47,360 Speaker 3: with my marriage. Now. 431 00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:49,640 Speaker 2: Okay, Well, you are an honest woman, because you see 432 00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:51,400 Speaker 2: it would be tempting for you to say, well, since 433 00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:54,280 Speaker 2: I'm so happily married. Now I realized it was the 434 00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:56,720 Speaker 2: right decision. But you answered me very honestly, and I 435 00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:59,399 Speaker 2: salute you for that. You're you're a very deep person 436 00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:04,080 Speaker 2: and I appreciate that call. But this is exactly why 437 00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:06,280 Speaker 2: I raised this. And it was a gamble, as I said, 438 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:10,000 Speaker 2: because what if I was just wrong and people would 439 00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:12,560 Speaker 2: think the guy has this bizarre theory met you know, 440 00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:15,040 Speaker 2: he met two women in his life that this or 441 00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:18,720 Speaker 2: heard about two cases, and now he's generalizing, you know, 442 00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:21,480 Speaker 2: my my theory. Anyway, generalizations are the mother of wisdom, 443 00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:24,199 Speaker 2: but of course a wrong generalization is the mother of foolishness. 444 00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:29,600 Speaker 2: So better don well be a good generalization. You don't 445 00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:32,520 Speaker 2: have a very clear view of the world. I think 446 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:35,520 Speaker 2: this is clear, so I will take more calls, but 447 00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,160 Speaker 2: I think now we have to ask and I will 448 00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:43,000 Speaker 2: have to start thinking through with you if this is true, 449 00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:48,240 Speaker 2: and apparently it is, what can be done to forestall tragedy? 450 00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:52,879 Speaker 2: And one answer I'll tell you right now is just 451 00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:57,159 Speaker 2: given by Deborah. It's called maturity, and that is not 452 00:25:57,400 --> 00:26:00,200 Speaker 2: something we aim for much in this society. It's a 453 00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:08,040 Speaker 2: big problem male female hour at Dennis Prager show well 454 00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:10,680 Speaker 2: to my satisfaction, and I'm Dennis Prager, and this is 455 00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:14,760 Speaker 2: the male female Hour to my intellectual satisfaction. I think 456 00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:18,480 Speaker 2: we've established that my theory has a basis in reality 457 00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:22,960 Speaker 2: that enough of itself is worth talking about. By the way, 458 00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:27,440 Speaker 2: how you come to understand life based on your own experiences, 459 00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:30,200 Speaker 2: whether your experiences are atypical or not. I mean there's 460 00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:34,000 Speaker 2: a lot in that whole issue of what you can 461 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,760 Speaker 2: you learn from your own observations, because remember, college makes 462 00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:39,359 Speaker 2: you stupider. I mean that literally. I don't mean it. 463 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:41,159 Speaker 2: It's an attack, but I don't mean it to be 464 00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:43,600 Speaker 2: an attack. I mean it literally. It makes you stupider 465 00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:46,080 Speaker 2: in part because it says what you observe means nothing. 466 00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:49,360 Speaker 2: The only thing you can ever learn from our studies, 467 00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:54,200 Speaker 2: and so we become stupider when we look at life. Anyway, 468 00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:56,960 Speaker 2: that's a side issue, but a very important side issue, 469 00:26:57,080 --> 00:27:01,840 Speaker 2: hence I mentioned it. My theory is that for many 470 00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,880 Speaker 2: women in our society, I'm not speaking about other societies 471 00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:09,040 Speaker 2: or historically, around the age of twenty nine, for many 472 00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:13,240 Speaker 2: women and some alarm clock goes off out of nowhere 473 00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:17,520 Speaker 2: seemingly and asks the ultimate questions of what am I? 474 00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:19,720 Speaker 2: Who am I? What am I doing here? Whatever? The 475 00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:21,639 Speaker 2: here is? Why am I single? Why am I married? 476 00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:23,920 Speaker 2: Why do I have kids? Why don't I have this job? 477 00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:26,240 Speaker 2: Why are and I traveling? Why are and I staying home? 478 00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 2: Why are and I? Who am I? Well? Will be 479 00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:32,080 Speaker 2: the best you like? Some of you are so eloquent, 480 00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,080 Speaker 2: by the way, It's my point. You remember that when 481 00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:39,159 Speaker 2: people are passionate, they become eloquent. And some of you 482 00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:43,199 Speaker 2: have truly been, and you feel women do in our 483 00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:47,000 Speaker 2: society at any rate with the premium on youth and beauty, 484 00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:51,680 Speaker 2: how many years that was really irrevelatory and for many people, 485 00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:54,280 Speaker 2: I think, how many years do I have left at 486 00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:58,680 Speaker 2: this worth? And have I done the very best I 487 00:27:58,840 --> 00:28:03,440 Speaker 2: can do with this? It's almost like I have a treasure. 488 00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:06,919 Speaker 2: The treasure is now starting to flow through my hands 489 00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:11,399 Speaker 2: before it dissipates. What can I do? What do I 490 00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:15,680 Speaker 2: even want to do? Is what many women ask now. 491 00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:19,160 Speaker 2: And this last woman, I mean just honestly saying as 492 00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:21,760 Speaker 2: great as her current marriage is, that there was no 493 00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:28,119 Speaker 2: good reason for her to divorce at thirty, but she did. Dallas, 494 00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:32,480 Speaker 2: Texas and Julietta Julietta Dennis Prager, thank you for calling. 495 00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:35,119 Speaker 2: How old are you? I am twenty one, sir, Oh, 496 00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:36,520 Speaker 2: so you have eight years to look forward to. 497 00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:38,440 Speaker 6: Sounds like it. 498 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:42,280 Speaker 8: I listened to you all the time, and I don't 499 00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:45,000 Speaker 8: think I've ever been as interested in a topic as 500 00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:48,240 Speaker 8: this one. I told your screener, I'm twenty one, and 501 00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:51,480 Speaker 8: I know that I'm young and all this stuff, but 502 00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:55,480 Speaker 8: I think that it doesn't necessarily deal with being twenty nine. 503 00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:59,040 Speaker 8: I think the factor that you have to look at 504 00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,400 Speaker 8: is if you have a goal in mind and if 505 00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:04,520 Speaker 8: you've achieved it. I am currently in law school. I 506 00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:06,880 Speaker 8: finished college in two and a half years. I'm kind 507 00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:10,960 Speaker 8: of just on the fast track, and I think I 508 00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:12,880 Speaker 8: had something like this. I don't think to the same 509 00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:15,040 Speaker 8: extent because I'm single and you know, I still live 510 00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:18,480 Speaker 8: with my parents trying to save money. But I think 511 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:21,200 Speaker 8: I came to the point where I was just thinking, 512 00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:23,360 Speaker 8: you know, I've done everything, like what am I going 513 00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:24,880 Speaker 8: to do when I graduate? I'm going to have a 514 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:26,360 Speaker 8: job and done what? 515 00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:30,480 Speaker 2: And then you know, so you think, so you think 516 00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:33,600 Speaker 2: you have speeded up your life, is what you're saying, 517 00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:35,600 Speaker 2: and you're asking these questions already. 518 00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:39,400 Speaker 8: It's not necessarily spew it out my life. I'm happy 519 00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:43,760 Speaker 8: with where I am. I think it's just the idea 520 00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:47,960 Speaker 8: of having some goal in mind, and I've already. I 521 00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:50,200 Speaker 8: think it happens for twenty nine year olds later, because 522 00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:53,479 Speaker 8: I mean, not everybody goes through at the same place, right. 523 00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:56,479 Speaker 2: Well, I somehow wish. It's very rare that I ever 524 00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:58,520 Speaker 2: want to visit the future. I have no desire to 525 00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:00,920 Speaker 2: see the future, but if I could have a call 526 00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:03,800 Speaker 2: with you in eight years, I would love that. I mean, 527 00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:05,720 Speaker 2: in other words, now if I could, if I could 528 00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:09,000 Speaker 2: somehow visit the future, I'd like to know if all 529 00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:13,320 Speaker 2: of your goal setting and obviously terrific attainments at your 530 00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:16,960 Speaker 2: age you sound like a remarkable young woman, will in 531 00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:20,960 Speaker 2: some way a militi against your going through this experience 532 00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:22,960 Speaker 2: at twenty nine. I just don't know. I'm agnostic on 533 00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:25,520 Speaker 2: the issue. I'm not predicting it at will. Julietta, I 534 00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:28,719 Speaker 2: can't say this to women, though, it is worth asking 535 00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:34,840 Speaker 2: these big questions before twenty nine, because no wisdom is 536 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:38,479 Speaker 2: given over in college, none zero. In fact, it's anti wisdom. 537 00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,640 Speaker 2: I think that that's a factor. This is about seven 538 00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:46,520 Speaker 2: eight years after college. For many women, they have had 539 00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:51,080 Speaker 2: time to undo the foolishness that college has instilled in them, 540 00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:57,080 Speaker 2: like profession is everything, or indeed, to assimilate it, whatever 541 00:30:57,200 --> 00:30:59,520 Speaker 2: it might be. I don't think that that's the only 542 00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:01,920 Speaker 2: factor by any means, but I think it is a factor. 543 00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:05,600 Speaker 2: We are not kids are not made wise today. They're 544 00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:09,000 Speaker 2: made educated, but they're not made wise religion, which was 545 00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:12,400 Speaker 2: a major factor in wisdom teaching. Kids would learn proverbs, 546 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:14,960 Speaker 2: for example, Most kids today never heard of the Book 547 00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:18,880 Speaker 2: of Proverbs, but so today there are no aphorisms even 548 00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,320 Speaker 2: in their lives. They don't know what the word aforism means, 549 00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:25,400 Speaker 2: for that matter, and so they don't get wisdom, and 550 00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:29,520 Speaker 2: so wisdom is achieved only through experience, and experience is 551 00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:33,440 Speaker 2: a great teacher. But if only experience teaches, and we 552 00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:37,360 Speaker 2: learn nothing from our elders or from traditions that precede 553 00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:41,560 Speaker 2: our elders, then we will all be fools until we 554 00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:45,560 Speaker 2: experience life. And it shouldn't have to be that way. 555 00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:48,520 Speaker 2: The whole point is to learn about life as best 556 00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:51,800 Speaker 2: as possible without having to experience it. When I was 557 00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,080 Speaker 2: a kid, I used to say, if one hundred people 558 00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:56,400 Speaker 2: in front of me are walking in a certain direction, 559 00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:58,880 Speaker 2: and they all fall off a cliff. I don't feel 560 00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:01,239 Speaker 2: it necessary to fall off that cliff. I take their 561 00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:03,440 Speaker 2: word for it. I will fall off the cliff too. 562 00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:07,239 Speaker 2: That's sense to say that life hasn't taught me an 563 00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:10,440 Speaker 2: immense amount. It certainly has. But I did believe that 564 00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:12,880 Speaker 2: there was wisdom that preceded me. And these are questions 565 00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:16,080 Speaker 2: I would advise every young woman listening to ask herself, 566 00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:19,320 Speaker 2: who am I? What do I really want? Life? What 567 00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:23,320 Speaker 2: is really important? Ask those questions now. The sooner you 568 00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:26,640 Speaker 2: ask them, the less that alarm clock will be loud 569 00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:31,400 Speaker 2: when life will force you to ask those questions. What 570 00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:34,560 Speaker 2: sort of man do I really want? What sort of marriage? 571 00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:34,920 Speaker 6: Do? 572 00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:39,880 Speaker 2: I believe that marriage is at least as important as career? Children? 573 00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:43,520 Speaker 2: What about children? In fact, it's funny because we were debating. 574 00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:46,240 Speaker 2: The other subject I was thinking of doing for this 575 00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:51,840 Speaker 2: hour was how children can adversely affect the relationship between 576 00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:54,080 Speaker 2: husband and wife. I'm going to talk about that obviously 577 00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:58,600 Speaker 2: another week, but that is something to think about in advance. 578 00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:01,880 Speaker 2: The more that life hits you with surprise is the 579 00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:05,240 Speaker 2: less able we are to deal with them. The more 580 00:33:05,360 --> 00:33:08,720 Speaker 2: we can think through in advance, the better we will 581 00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:12,320 Speaker 2: be able to deal with life. So for young women 582 00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:15,200 Speaker 2: knowing that twenty nine may all of a sudden pose 583 00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:19,960 Speaker 2: all these questions, ask them now at twenty four and 584 00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:24,880 Speaker 2: help others. Ask others to help you answer them. There 585 00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:28,040 Speaker 2: are people over thirty who have wisdom. Back in a moment. 586 00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:29,000 Speaker 2: I'm Dennis Prager. 587 00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:36,320 Speaker 1: This episode of timeless wisdom. We'll continue right after this. 588 00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:45,480 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom. 589 00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:55,520 Speaker 5: You say, man, I say hello. 590 00:33:56,920 --> 00:33:59,400 Speaker 2: Hi everybody, I say hello to you. I'm Dennis Prager. 591 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:01,400 Speaker 2: This is a male female hour. One an hour, by 592 00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:04,720 Speaker 2: the way, which reminds me I try to make every 593 00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:09,120 Speaker 2: hour in some way life affecting. I do. Okay, I 594 00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:10,920 Speaker 2: don't know if it sounds arrogant. I'll have to live 595 00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:14,239 Speaker 2: with that charge. And that's why I bring to your 596 00:34:14,279 --> 00:34:18,920 Speaker 2: attention praguer Topia, where you can have my shows permanently downloaded, 597 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:22,080 Speaker 2: commercial free, highest quality. It's prager Topia at any of 598 00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:26,040 Speaker 2: my websites Prager Radio dot com, Dennis Praguer dot com, 599 00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:31,720 Speaker 2: or even Praegertopia dot com for that matter. Seven dollars 600 00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:35,440 Speaker 2: a month. That's the whole price, and by the way 601 00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:40,800 Speaker 2: this show. The Male Female Hour has about eighteen eighteen 602 00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:44,279 Speaker 2: great shows on disc available eight hundred two two five 603 00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:47,160 Speaker 2: eight five eight four eight hundred The Male Female Hour 604 00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:50,880 Speaker 2: eight hundred two two five eighty five eighty four or 605 00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:55,319 Speaker 2: also at those websites. Okay, what Happens to Women at 606 00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:59,520 Speaker 2: twenty nine? Jessica, Minneapolis, Dennis Praguer, High, Hi, Dennis, I'm 607 00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:00,120 Speaker 2: just shaking. 608 00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:03,840 Speaker 4: I can't believe I'm not alone in this. I'm twenty 609 00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:06,800 Speaker 4: nine and I've been married nine years, and i have 610 00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:09,480 Speaker 4: three kids, and I'm secure in my marriage. My husband 611 00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:11,239 Speaker 4: went through I don't know if you call it a 612 00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:14,400 Speaker 4: corter life crisis at twenty six and I was forced 613 00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:17,200 Speaker 4: to deal with that whole year. Why am I in 614 00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:19,520 Speaker 4: this marriage? Is it worth it? And we were through that, 615 00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:22,040 Speaker 4: and I feel very secure and solid in my marriage. 616 00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:24,400 Speaker 4: But I feel like since I've turned twenty nine and 617 00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:27,480 Speaker 4: I've had a crisis in every other one of my relationships. 618 00:35:27,520 --> 00:35:31,680 Speaker 4: I've stopped talking to my mom, who's been emotionally abusive 619 00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:34,880 Speaker 4: my whole life. I've evaluated every single friendship I have. 620 00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:38,280 Speaker 4: I feel like I'm going through a crisis of faith. 621 00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:39,120 Speaker 6: What is real? 622 00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:40,480 Speaker 4: What does God want? 623 00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:40,840 Speaker 8: From me. 624 00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:46,320 Speaker 4: Who do I believe? And who is right? And what 625 00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:48,680 Speaker 4: am I supposed to be doing? What am I doing here? 626 00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:49,880 Speaker 6: What is my purpose? 627 00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:53,600 Speaker 4: It's nice to know that I'm not alone, and I'm 628 00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:55,040 Speaker 4: so glad you're doing this hour. 629 00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:59,920 Speaker 2: Oh, thank you for telling me you are not alone, Jessica. 630 00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:02,560 Speaker 2: It seems to me that women who go through that 631 00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:05,719 Speaker 2: age and don't have this issue, they're more in the 632 00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:06,880 Speaker 2: minority than you are. 633 00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:08,239 Speaker 4: Oh. 634 00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:10,560 Speaker 2: I will have a lot to say about this and 635 00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:13,480 Speaker 2: ensuing weeks, by the way, but I did want to 636 00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:15,400 Speaker 2: get to who is this? John? Was that right? The 637 00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:19,480 Speaker 2: one yes? John? In Los Angeles? Dennis Prager High, Are 638 00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:20,640 Speaker 2: you okay? Thank you? 639 00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:24,920 Speaker 10: So I completely agree with you. 640 00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:25,640 Speaker 2: I heard it. 641 00:36:27,120 --> 00:36:29,800 Speaker 10: When I think one time you had mentioned it previously, 642 00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:33,239 Speaker 10: and I just happened to hear that snippet, and I 643 00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:37,360 Speaker 10: thought I was gonna cry because I went through it 644 00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:42,600 Speaker 10: three years ago when my wife just turned twenty nine, 645 00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:47,000 Speaker 10: and we had been planning our wedding and our kids 646 00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:51,040 Speaker 10: and started building our dreamhouse and we spent five years together. 647 00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:54,880 Speaker 10: And it was the weekend after Thanksgiving and we just 648 00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:58,960 Speaker 10: had family over and she cooked and everything was so happy. 649 00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:00,640 Speaker 10: And I came home from Mark, and she said that 650 00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:03,040 Speaker 10: she thinks we're moving in different directions. 651 00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:09,200 Speaker 2: That's right, all right, what does it all mean? That's 652 00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:12,719 Speaker 2: why I invite you to future editions of The Male 653 00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:14,480 Speaker 2: Female Hour. I'm Dennis Braker. 654 00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:21,040 Speaker 1: Tomorrow Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. 655 00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:25,440 Speaker 2: The subject is that the pursuit of a perfect world, 656 00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:31,480 Speaker 2: of a perfect society, produces hell. The examples are Legion, 657 00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:35,200 Speaker 2: where people have this vision, Oh, if we only remake 658 00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:38,919 Speaker 2: society in the image that I can imagine it, then 659 00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:44,400 Speaker 2: then it will be great. It will be perfect, people 660 00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:47,680 Speaker 2: will love each other, it will be a beautiful world. 661 00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:51,600 Speaker 1: Join us tomorrow to hear more on Timeless Wisdom with 662 00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:56,160 Speaker 1: Dennis Pragger. This has been Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. 663 00:37:56,640 --> 00:38:01,280 Speaker 1: Visit Dennispragger dot com for thousands of hours of Dennis's lectures, courses, 664 00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:05,960 Speaker 1: and classic radio programs, and to purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles.