WEBVTT - Dennis & David: The Problem with Modern Happiness 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:03.040 On today's episode of Timeless Wisdom. 0:00:03.440 --> 0:00:06.400 Want to come on the air, young man. I want 0:00:06.400 --> 0:00:10.400 to put on his mike. This is totally spontaneous. My 0:00:10.520 --> 0:00:13.920 older son is in from Florida. When he was a 0:00:14.040 --> 0:00:16.400 little kid, he'd come to my night show that I 0:00:16.440 --> 0:00:22.360 did in Los Angeles and often would sleep during the show. David, welcome. 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:23.520 It is a joy to have you. 0:00:23.720 --> 0:00:27.120 Thank you. And I think that since that time, I've 0:00:27.160 --> 0:00:31.800 had to have radio or television or something on while 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:34.640 I fell asleep, and I always wondered why. 0:00:35.400 --> 0:00:38.800 That's coming off on Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager, and 0:00:38.920 --> 0:00:45.080 it starts right now. Welcome to Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. 0:00:45.479 --> 0:00:48.879 Here thousands of hours of Dennis's lectures courses in classic 0:00:48.960 --> 0:00:52.720 radio programs. Had to purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles. Go 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:57.200 to Dennisprager dot com. 0:00:57.320 --> 0:01:00.880 Hey, everybody, it's the Happinest hour. And remember come hella, 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:05.759 high water, lice, vermin, smiling of the firstborn. Darkness does 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:11.560 not anything happens, It does not postpone the Happiness Hour, everybody. 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:20.199 It's the happy, happy, happy Happy. That's correct, my friends, 0:01:20.200 --> 0:01:22.679 because the happy make the world better and the unhappy 0:01:22.720 --> 0:01:25.600 make the world worse. You have a moral obligation to 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:28.640 act as happy as possible, if not actually be as 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:32.160 happy as possible. Happiness is a moral virtue, not a 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:40.640 psychological state. Woohooh that's big, and that's my thesis. Happiness 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:48.640 is a moral virtue. It's easy to be cranky, it's 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:58.000 easy to be miserable. It's tough to be happy in 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:01.400 a difficult life is difficult, or, as I like to 0:02:01.400 --> 0:02:05.280 put it, life is relentless. Want to come on the air, 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:08.960 young man. I want to put on his mic. This 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:13.639 is totally spontaneous. My older son is in from Florida, 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:17.960 and I don't know when the last time is that 0:02:18.040 --> 0:02:21.440 you were on any of my shows, David. David is 0:02:21.440 --> 0:02:27.640 a father himself. It makes me a grandfather. And you know, 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:33.160 every grandfather thinks that his grandkid is the cutest. But 0:02:33.320 --> 0:02:43.120 I know it. Hey, that's the thing. Others think it. Actually, 0:02:43.240 --> 0:02:47.239 I'm slightly more rational than that. While he is unbelievably adorable, 0:02:47.800 --> 0:02:53.440 there is a possibility, however faint, it may be that 0:02:53.520 --> 0:03:01.080 others are just as cute. It's hard to believe. Dave 0:03:02.280 --> 0:03:05.280 has been in my broadcast studios from the beginning, well, 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:08.480 not from the very very beginning. I'm broadcasting one year 0:03:08.600 --> 0:03:12.799 more than you're alive. You're twenty nine. Correct. You want 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:16.520 to give him a mic? Yeah? Are we good? I 0:03:16.560 --> 0:03:22.440 want to say correct again. I'm not hearing him try 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:25.280 that other mic. I'm sorry, Dave. This is totally spontaneous. 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:27.600 Ladies and gentlemen. He had no idea. He came back 0:03:27.600 --> 0:03:29.040 from the men's room and I told him you might 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:32.400 be on a talking on a national radio show. But 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:37.000 he's very calm. You're in anyway, you're twenty nine, I'm 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:40.360 broadcasting thirty years. When he was a little kid, he'd 0:03:40.360 --> 0:03:42.560 come to my night show that I did in Los 0:03:42.600 --> 0:03:48.560 Angeles and often would sleep during the show, and it 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:51.280 was very humbling for me when you put your own 0:03:51.360 --> 0:03:55.320 child to sleep while broadcasting. David, welcome. It is a 0:03:55.440 --> 0:03:56.160 joy to have you. 0:03:56.320 --> 0:03:59.720 Thank you. And I think that since that time, I've 0:03:59.720 --> 0:04:04.440 had to have radio or television or something on while 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:08.720 I fell asleep, and I always wondered why. I thought 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:10.880 it was because I was bottle fed, but I think 0:04:10.920 --> 0:04:11.680 it's actually. 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:21.880 That was good. All right? Today is open line for happiness. 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:24.679 Give me a call one a prager seven seven six. 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:27.599 I'm gonna chat with David a little bit here while 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:31.240 you folks call and any subject, it's I set the 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:35.240 agenda forty eight out of fifty two shows. Let's say two, 0:04:35.360 --> 0:04:37.360 I take off and you hear a best of so 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:43.960 forty six out of fifty I set the topic four 0:04:44.040 --> 0:04:46.640 times a year. I have you do it? You know 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:52.000 that he's even texting now. This generation texts. I think 0:04:52.040 --> 0:04:55.080 that there are your generation. There will be people who 0:04:55.120 --> 0:04:57.640 will be dying as they die. They will be texting, 0:04:58.400 --> 0:05:07.799 dying just about to leave the earth and with some initials. Dave, 0:05:08.000 --> 0:05:10.200 welcome back to La. How does it feel to come 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:11.680 back to La where you grew up? 0:05:13.640 --> 0:05:15.880 It was funny because I love where I live, and 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:19.760 I live in Miami, but coming back here, the one 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:21.760 thing I noticed, as I told you last night, was 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:25.240 was I walked out of the terminal. My glasses did 0:05:25.279 --> 0:05:27.039 not fog up. Because I have been on the East 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:32.320 Coast for about ten years now, and in August, wherever 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:35.479 you are on the East Coast, it's humid. So it 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:38.239 was interesting to be in a place where your glasses 0:05:38.240 --> 0:05:41.120 didn't fog up. Outside of that, not too much of 0:05:41.160 --> 0:05:43.440 a reaction. It's great to be back. Great to be 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:48.760 with friends and family, but being away so long in 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:51.440 some ways it you know, it doesn't feel it doesn't 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:54.080 feel as if I'm coming home necessarily because it's been 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:54.520 so long. 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:56.720 Yeah, no, I understand. It's like when I go back 0:05:56.720 --> 0:05:59.200 to New York, right. I know I grew up there, 0:05:59.240 --> 0:06:02.080 but I don't feel Elvis is home. When you move, 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:07.159 you move exactly, but you are still an LA teams fan. Yes, 0:06:07.320 --> 0:06:12.080 absolutely see. That doesn't leave people. It's so interesting. I 0:06:12.080 --> 0:06:14.680 always marvel at that when I'm at a Dodger game 0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:17.800 and they're playing the Cubs in half the stadium, our 0:06:17.880 --> 0:06:19.120 Chicago Cubs fans. 0:06:19.760 --> 0:06:25.520 It's like that in LA, in in Miami two for 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:28.320 two reasons. Number one, the fans, I'm sorry to say 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:31.520 in LA and Miami are not that vocal and loyal 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:35.320 to their teams. And also too, it's just part of it. 0:06:35.400 --> 0:06:37.680 You should have been at Kings games. I just want to. 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:39.520 Say, when they were winning the Stanley Cup. 0:06:40.520 --> 0:06:43.440 That's true, okay, But also people move. 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:46.200 To those cities so much that people, like you said, 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:50.040 retain their team loyalties, so when they come to those cities, 0:06:50.520 --> 0:06:51.960 they want to see their teams play. 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:55.640 Yeah. No, I understand that that's and that's going to 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:58.360 be true for you if the Angels come to Florida 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:01.920 or the right exactly exactly all the Lakers. 0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:05.640 Though, with my son, I will permit him to root 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:07.960 for to root for Miami teams. I don't want him 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:10.120 to feel like an outsider. 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:13.640 That's an interesting point where the parent pushes onto the 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:18.240 kid the allegiance to a city they never been to. Yeah, 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:20.720 it's a very interesting point. Exactly. Hey, this is the 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:26.640 Happiness Hour, and I know this is almost a silly question, 0:07:27.600 --> 0:07:30.560 but I'm going to pose a tough one to you. 0:07:30.720 --> 0:07:33.120 What would you say off the top of your head, 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:34.880 because I know you think these things through, but I 0:07:34.960 --> 0:07:37.720 still am putting you on the spot. And you don't 0:07:37.760 --> 0:07:42.040 represent an entire world of twenty nine year olds. I 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:45.600 recognize that. But to the best of your ability, what's 0:07:45.680 --> 0:07:48.720 the biggest obstacle to happiness in your generation? 0:07:51.640 --> 0:07:57.040 I think it's two things. Number One is, we grow 0:07:57.160 --> 0:08:03.000 up with so much materially that we've begun to take 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:06.160 so much for granted. We just expect so much to 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:09.800 be there. And when you have, as you've spoken about 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:12.440 so many times in your book on the show, when 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:16.200 you have high expectations, it's hard for those expectations to 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:20.280 be matched. And when expectations aren't matched, you stop. It's 0:08:20.320 --> 0:08:23.080 harder to be happy. So it's hard to have low 0:08:23.160 --> 0:08:29.840 expectations with so much materially. Second is that when you 0:08:30.040 --> 0:08:33.319 have so much materially, it's harder to find a purpose 0:08:33.320 --> 0:08:35.640 in life. For so many generations and in much of 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:38.439 the world, people's purpose, in my opinion, is to put 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:41.920 food on the table. But when you almost expect that 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:44.280 to be taken care of, either by yourself or by 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:47.079 your parents, because by and large most of us have 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:49.800 food on our table, we have to find a purpose 0:08:49.960 --> 0:08:52.920 other than survival. And that's when things, i think, get 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:57.200 very tricky. As you said about the last hour, people 0:08:57.840 --> 0:09:00.680 are bored, so they need to find a purpose to 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:04.079 do something because they have so much materially that that's 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:07.120 Since that's taken care of, they have to find something 0:09:07.160 --> 0:09:09.280 else and that becomes the biggest challenge. 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:12.480 So you feel that in a lot of your peers, 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:15.280 that's a problem. 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:19.480 Lack of purpose, yes, lack of purpose, yeah, it's a 0:09:19.520 --> 0:09:21.480 sense of well, sense of comfort. 0:09:22.040 --> 0:09:24.880 I couldn't agree with you more And obviously I'm not 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:28.160 agreen because you're my son. This is my son, David Prager, 0:09:28.200 --> 0:09:31.480 and I just figured since he was in town and 0:09:31.600 --> 0:09:34.040 he came to visit at the show, that I would 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:37.200 share him a bit with you. One A Praguer seven 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:43.920 seven six The Happiness, the Happiness Hour. Let me take 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:47.479 some of your calls. It's an open line. A Happiness 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:51.000 Hour will begin in Phoenix, Arizona. And Tony Hi, Tony, 0:09:51.040 --> 0:09:52.080 Dennis Prager. 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:55.080 Hi, Dennis Hi. I just want to let you know 0:09:55.400 --> 0:09:59.960 yesterday it was your birthday, and it was my daughter's birthday. Also, 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:03.079 I haven't seen in over twenty five years, and I 0:10:03.200 --> 0:10:05.640 called her, I left a message and wished a happy birthday, 0:10:06.760 --> 0:10:08.839 and I just want to let you know that your 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:10.480 birthday inspired me to do that. 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:14.840 Well, I got the chills actually, because that's one of 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:17.720 my and I use the word crusades in life, and 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:20.200 that is to have parents and children who don't talk 0:10:20.240 --> 0:10:23.079 to one another talk to one another. May I ask 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:27.040 why the twenty five year gap, but well. 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:29.040 I also have a son I haven't seen too, he's 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:29.720 forty two. 0:10:29.920 --> 0:10:31.880 Why my ex. 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:34.960 Wife poisoned them? You know, I didn't have a custody 0:10:35.000 --> 0:10:37.200 of them, and I was out west here in Phoenix 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:40.440 and it just got worse and she just you know, 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:42.720 you know, when you hear poison all the time, you 0:10:42.760 --> 0:10:43.760 get poison yourself. 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:46.480 Did you get her response from your daughter? 0:10:47.120 --> 0:10:47.320 No? 0:10:47.760 --> 0:10:50.720 No, I've written letters over the past years and called 0:10:51.280 --> 0:10:53.760 but I was just inspired yesterday by your birthday to 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:55.520 call her and wish her a happy birthday. 0:10:57.400 --> 0:11:01.240 Tony. I really pray, and I don't do that much. 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:04.360 I don't ask God for much. I asked God to 0:11:04.760 --> 0:11:09.640 have your daughter respond to you. We'll continue. You're listening 0:11:09.640 --> 0:11:11.640 to the Dennis Prager Show, the Happiness Hour. 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:17.440 This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:26.599 Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless. 0:11:26.120 --> 0:11:32.000 Wisdom Happiness Hour. Dennis Prager's show's talking to my son 0:11:32.040 --> 0:11:38.800 who's twenty nine visiting from Miami, and he was I 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:41.960 asked him what he thinks the biggest obstacles to the 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:44.960 happiness of people his age are, and I agree with 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:50.199 him the purpose issue. Once, once you have enough food 0:11:50.240 --> 0:11:51.920 and enough shelter, what do you do? What do you 0:11:51.960 --> 0:11:58.400 do for purpose? Yes, and that should be a subject 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:01.559 unto itself, But because it would end the political I'm trying, 0:12:02.160 --> 0:12:05.200 I won't speak about it. Much right now. Anyway, this 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:07.800 is the open line, which I do a couple of 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:10.440 times a few times a year on the Happiness Hour. 0:12:10.880 --> 0:12:13.480 I was talking about texting. I was ribbing my son 0:12:13.520 --> 0:12:16.520 about his texting and saying your generation people will be 0:12:16.600 --> 0:12:20.520 dying and texting that they're dying. My wife just sent 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:25.520 me this article, actually this news report from yesterday from 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:30.480 August second at Huntsville, Alabama. A college student from Texas 0:12:30.520 --> 0:12:34.680 believes he is lucky to be alive after a terrible crash. 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:38.679 He was texting and driving while when his truck flew 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:46.400 off a cliff. Chance bothees or Bothe's truck plunged off 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:49.200 a bridge and into a ravine. One of the last 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:53.600 things he typed indicated what almost happened to him. He wrote, 0:12:53.920 --> 0:12:57.560 I need to quit texting because I could die in 0:12:57.600 --> 0:13:02.520 a car accident and then went over a cliff. I 0:13:02.559 --> 0:13:07.560 can only laugh because he's okay, but it does it's 0:13:07.600 --> 0:13:12.960 a funny story. All right. Let's take let's take some 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:18.360 of your calls here and let's go to Christine's open 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:21.880 Line Happiness Hour, Fraser Park, California. 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:24.600 Christine, Hi, Hi, Dennis, thank you for taking my call. 0:13:24.720 --> 0:13:25.959 Where is Fraser Park. 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:28.120 It's south of Bakersfield. 0:13:28.160 --> 0:13:31.480 Actually, I was going to guess it, and I didn't. 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:34.040 It's a pleasure to talk to you. My husband and 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:36.560 I are avid listeners, and I always say, thanks to 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:40.040 Dennis Prager, my husband converted from left to right. 0:13:41.240 --> 0:13:43.680 Wow, and you were already on the right. 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:45.600 I'm so far right, it's scary. 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:48.320 Well, you owe me. You know you should send me 0:13:48.360 --> 0:13:49.200 a cigar. 0:13:49.400 --> 0:13:54.280 Okay, I should. Yes, congratulations, it's conservative. 0:13:54.440 --> 0:13:58.000 Yeah, well you know what's funny. I'll tell you what 0:13:58.200 --> 0:14:01.920 is funny. Women call up at thank me for converting 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:06.280 their husbands to being conservative. Men call up or tell 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:10.080 me privately, thank you for having my wife listen to 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:14.640 your male fe mail hour and being more receptive to 0:14:14.800 --> 0:14:20.720 certain overtures. So men have a different game plan. 0:14:21.320 --> 0:14:24.040 Yes, I agree with you. Well that's kind of why 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:27.200 I called, because thanks to you, I had a conscious 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:30.040 decision to be happy. You know, I'm of an age 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:34.360 where I spent the seventies growing up small child through 0:14:34.360 --> 0:14:38.040 my teenagers being brainwashed by the feminist left. You know, 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:39.800 a woman without a man is like a fish without 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:42.680 a bicycle, and that sort of got shoved down my throat, 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:45.240 you know, even through Sesame Street, et cetera, and all 0:14:45.280 --> 0:14:49.360 the media and thanks to you in a happiness hour 0:14:49.520 --> 0:14:53.080 and me embracing my face getting right with God. I 0:14:53.160 --> 0:14:55.960 made this conscious decision to be happy because I realized 0:14:56.280 --> 0:14:59.040 if I was responsible for my happiness, I was obviously 0:14:59.120 --> 0:15:03.280 responsible for my unhappiness. And I was essentially always angry 0:15:03.360 --> 0:15:07.120 at my husband for not being psychic, not knowing intuitively, 0:15:08.040 --> 0:15:10.720 you know what my needs were, what my desires were, 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:13.000 you know what needed to be done around the house, 0:15:13.040 --> 0:15:16.840 et cetera. Basically, I was angry because it wasn't all 0:15:16.880 --> 0:15:19.080 about me. And then one day I just decided to 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:22.320 be happy and be the kind of wife my husband 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:24.920 wanted me to be in his marriage. I decided to 0:15:24.960 --> 0:15:28.640 take the first step, and my husband turned on a dime. 0:15:28.880 --> 0:15:31.360 Let me tell you, I was nice first, and that's 0:15:31.440 --> 0:15:35.400 all it took. And our marriage is fabulous. We had 0:15:35.400 --> 0:15:38.840 some rocky times in the past. We've been together twenty 0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:43.000 four years, we have two children, and I'm happier than 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:45.240 I have ever been. I mean, all it took was 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:47.280 I mean, it started about five years ago. I took 0:15:47.320 --> 0:15:49.080 my first step into a synagogue and I was like, 0:15:49.440 --> 0:15:51.360 it's like God whacked me on the forehead and said, 0:15:51.400 --> 0:15:54.240 what took you so long? You know you're finally here. 0:15:54.520 --> 0:15:58.560 And it was like an epiphany and I just decided 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:01.640 that I'm going to make more of an effort instead 0:16:01.640 --> 0:16:05.760 of being so selfish. And my husband responded immediately. 0:16:06.080 --> 0:16:06.480 And. 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:12.280 I can't tell you why were your last words, I'm. 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:14.080 Sorry at the end of the work day, we can't 0:16:14.120 --> 0:16:15.040 wait to see each other. 0:16:15.200 --> 0:16:18.880 Well, well, you know what better than a cigar? And 0:16:19.160 --> 0:16:21.960 now I'm being very serious. I'd like you to say 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:25.520 some of these things on a little video and email 0:16:25.560 --> 0:16:29.920 it to me. Oh okay, I'm very serious. It would 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:32.480 mean the world to me. God, bless you, thank you. 0:16:32.640 --> 0:16:36.920 Love to your husband. I decided to treat him nice 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:43.480 and then he turned on a dime. That's it. That's 0:16:43.520 --> 0:16:50.040 it for the vast majority, not all, there are some 0:16:50.240 --> 0:16:55.240 real loser men, but for the vast majority, or the 0:16:55.280 --> 0:16:59.960 great majority of men, that's that's what it takes. That's it. 0:17:02.680 --> 0:17:05.879 Some men that they well, nothing will work. I fully 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:12.000 grant that happy wife, happy life is a very a 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:15.720 variant of that. It's not identical, but it's it's related. 0:17:17.240 --> 0:17:20.800 But that's what that's really what it takes. The woman 0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:26.920 I've always said the woman. I believe the woman makes 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:31.280 the marriage if the if the man is a decent man. 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:36.080 I'm not talking about men with very serious psychological problems, 0:17:36.160 --> 0:17:39.480 or men who are addicted to a drug or alcohol, 0:17:39.800 --> 0:17:44.320 or or or or I'm certainly not talking about serial 0:17:44.840 --> 0:17:49.120 philanderers or anything like that. But for the average decent guy. 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:51.399 And the average guy is decent in America. Let me 0:17:51.400 --> 0:17:56.400 tell you that's all that really is what it takes. 0:17:57.680 --> 0:18:01.520 And I was very, very power full, very eloquent call, 0:18:01.600 --> 0:18:05.280 and I thank you. All right, Let's go to Kaylee 0:18:05.320 --> 0:18:07.680 in Dallas, Texas. How old are you, Kaylee? 0:18:08.400 --> 0:18:09.840 I'm seventeen years old. 0:18:10.320 --> 0:18:11.400 How do you spell your name? 0:18:12.280 --> 0:18:14.520 Ka y l e y? 0:18:15.119 --> 0:18:17.399 Is that the normal spelling of Kaylee? 0:18:18.800 --> 0:18:21.840 I think there are a lot of normal spellings with Kayley. 0:18:22.520 --> 0:18:25.720 That's what I thought. Okay, anyway, thanks for calling. What's 0:18:25.760 --> 0:18:26.320 on your mind? 0:18:27.440 --> 0:18:33.120 Well, your texting commentary reminded me of my theory about texting. 0:18:33.720 --> 0:18:36.480 You know, humans have always been writing to each other, 0:18:36.640 --> 0:18:41.239 from the pony Express to emails, but you know that 0:18:41.440 --> 0:18:45.359 was the pony Express obviously took months and you know, 0:18:45.920 --> 0:18:50.199 up to years going across the oceans. Now, you know, 0:18:50.320 --> 0:18:53.719 we text and you know, it seems to be a 0:18:53.880 --> 0:18:58.040 natural sort of way of communication for humans. I just 0:18:58.119 --> 0:19:04.240 think it's different now because of the instant gratification factor, very. 0:19:04.200 --> 0:19:10.080 Very intelligent point and you're welcome and go on, and 0:19:10.200 --> 0:19:10.840 therefore what. 0:19:12.359 --> 0:19:17.920 And therefore, you know, maybe there's a reduced amount of 0:19:18.320 --> 0:19:21.119 you know, joy you get from talking to someone. But 0:19:21.240 --> 0:19:25.440 on the other hand, you could be happier because you're 0:19:25.680 --> 0:19:27.040 in constant. 0:19:26.680 --> 0:19:30.879 Communication with the great a man, a man I deeply respect. 0:19:31.200 --> 0:19:33.800 Just last night said to me he thinks that your 0:19:33.920 --> 0:19:37.720 generation talked to one another less because of texting. Do 0:19:37.800 --> 0:19:39.240 you agree? 0:19:40.240 --> 0:19:41.320 I do agree. 0:19:41.880 --> 0:19:45.480 That's interesting that we'll be back in a moment happiness. 0:19:45.560 --> 0:19:46.760 Our Dennis Prager Show. 0:19:48.760 --> 0:19:52.119 This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 0:19:57.640 --> 0:20:01.200 Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless wisdom. 0:20:01.680 --> 0:20:05.080 It's so important to make someone happy. 0:20:06.040 --> 0:20:10.960 Make just one, Jimmy Duranti, thank you, sir. Yes, it 0:20:11.040 --> 0:20:13.760 is nice. It's hard to make somebody happy. It's a 0:20:13.800 --> 0:20:16.359 beautiful song, but it's hard. My theory is, you make 0:20:16.400 --> 0:20:20.840 yourself happy, and ironically then all those around you will 0:20:20.840 --> 0:20:24.600 be happier. People want to be around happier people. Oh, 0:20:24.640 --> 0:20:27.000 I can't believe it. The call I was about this 0:20:27.160 --> 0:20:30.240 is the most frustrating part of talk radio. The call 0:20:30.280 --> 0:20:33.000 I was about to take. Somebody wanted to ask my 0:20:33.119 --> 0:20:38.120 son a question, and then they hung up, And there's 0:20:38.160 --> 0:20:42.040 nothing you can do. Should I ask the question anyway? 0:20:42.040 --> 0:20:47.400 Because I read it? Yeah, so somebody. I don't even 0:20:47.400 --> 0:20:51.040 know what city. Nothing it matters, I guess, but they 0:20:51.040 --> 0:20:55.679 were going to ask you in light of your mom's 0:20:55.680 --> 0:20:59.960 at my divorce, your own happiness and its effect on you. 0:21:03.000 --> 0:21:06.159 I don't know if it had. It definitely had effects. 0:21:06.560 --> 0:21:09.760 I know it had effects in terms of happiness, I 0:21:09.800 --> 0:21:11.560 don't think so. I think that the one of the 0:21:11.560 --> 0:21:13.920 most important things for kids to grow up in, It's 0:21:13.960 --> 0:21:16.600 pretty obvious, is to be in a happy house. And 0:21:16.640 --> 0:21:19.320 if two people are staying together and can't be happy, 0:21:20.320 --> 0:21:25.719 then then it's going to affect the kid adversely. In 0:21:25.760 --> 0:21:28.840 addition to that, I think we model a lot of things, 0:21:28.880 --> 0:21:31.520 whether we want to or not, from our parents, And 0:21:31.600 --> 0:21:36.879 if we see a loveless marriage, then wouldn't we model 0:21:37.119 --> 0:21:42.720 our marriage after that as well? Potentially, So, I think 0:21:42.840 --> 0:21:47.480 having two parents married is obviously the ideal, but it's 0:21:48.240 --> 0:21:51.280 but having two happy homes is better than having one 0:21:51.400 --> 0:21:54.640 unhappy home. I think what happens though a lot is 0:21:54.640 --> 0:22:00.679 is I've seen, is that people attribute their happiness to 0:22:02.000 --> 0:22:04.200 getting divorced. Do they think that if they get divorced, 0:22:04.200 --> 0:22:08.679 they'll be happy. But that's just shifting the blame of 0:22:08.720 --> 0:22:11.200 their their happiness to somebody else. And as you say 0:22:11.200 --> 0:22:14.520 all the time, you're responsible for your own happiness. So 0:22:15.520 --> 0:22:18.840 it's a it's a challenge, but I think I think 0:22:18.920 --> 0:22:23.040 ultimately if people say they're staying together for their kids, 0:22:23.119 --> 0:22:25.120 it's also bad because the kids. 0:22:24.960 --> 0:22:25.320 Will know. 0:22:27.080 --> 0:22:32.119 And that'll reinforce the children that the only thing that 0:22:32.160 --> 0:22:34.960 matters in a parent's life is their children, which is 0:22:35.000 --> 0:22:37.680 not good because when you hear that, it's a recipe 0:22:37.680 --> 0:22:39.480 for narcissism. 0:22:39.880 --> 0:22:44.200 Whoh, good stuff, all right, thank you, Dave. Dave's visiting 0:22:44.240 --> 0:22:47.160 from Miami and came to the show, and I figured 0:22:47.200 --> 0:22:50.840 i'd introduce him. I don't think. I don't. When was 0:22:50.880 --> 0:22:53.520 the last time the best thing we ever did? Do 0:22:53.600 --> 0:22:56.040 we have it? We don't have it in our archives. 0:22:56.080 --> 0:23:00.680 That's terrible, Sean. I think the best we ever did. 0:23:00.760 --> 0:23:04.560 David and I announced the game sitting at an Arizona 0:23:04.640 --> 0:23:09.160 Diamondbacks game in Phoenix. That was great. It was great. 0:23:09.480 --> 0:23:12.480 It was we've never played that. Hey, Dave, have you 0:23:12.600 --> 0:23:14.920 heard me going down the ice with Wayne Gretzky. 0:23:15.280 --> 0:23:17.240 I think it's amazing. I think it was hilarious. I did. 0:23:17.240 --> 0:23:21.760 I listened it to it with my brother in Miami 0:23:21.840 --> 0:23:22.679 and we were cracking out. 0:23:22.760 --> 0:23:23.800 It was hilarious. 0:23:25.160 --> 0:23:25.920 I thought it was great. 0:23:26.600 --> 0:23:27.520 That's my other son. 0:23:27.600 --> 0:23:29.320 I thought the thought of you on ice skates was 0:23:29.359 --> 0:23:29.920 actually fine. 0:23:30.000 --> 0:23:33.000 Oh that's painful. That is I did ice skate all right, 0:23:33.080 --> 0:23:35.240 As it happens. I even bought ice skates when I 0:23:35.240 --> 0:23:35.520 lived there. 0:23:35.640 --> 0:23:37.720 King Sun down a line of Wayne Gretzky along with Luke, 0:23:37.800 --> 0:23:41.720 Robotie and Dennis Prager. Retzky wins the face up, he 0:23:41.760 --> 0:23:44.359 gives it the robot Duck, Robatie gives it to Dennis Praeger. 0:23:44.440 --> 0:23:45.639 Here's Freger to kind of rice. 0:23:45.520 --> 0:23:48.360 With Gretzky, two on one break, Gretzky back to Prager. 0:23:48.480 --> 0:23:50.679 He stumbles and Paul. 0:23:54.480 --> 0:23:55.360 Very humiliating. 0:23:56.040 --> 0:23:57.760 That's probably what would have happened. 0:23:59.760 --> 0:24:03.560 Ie. What am I going to say? All right, let's 0:24:03.560 --> 0:24:05.440 go to some more of your calls. This is really 0:24:05.720 --> 0:24:11.040 an open, an open happiness hour here. And uh, let's 0:24:11.080 --> 0:24:16.280 go to Don in Levine Arizona. 0:24:16.720 --> 0:24:19.920 Hi, Hi Dennis. I appreciate you too, Dave. 0:24:20.280 --> 0:24:20.639