1 00:00:21,460 --> 00:00:25,820 Speaker 1: Welcome to Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Here thousands of 2 00:00:25,860 --> 00:00:29,500 Speaker 1: hours of Dennis's lectures courses in classic radio programs. Had 3 00:00:29,500 --> 00:00:41,300 Speaker 1: to purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles, go to Dennisprager dot com. 4 00:00:41,580 --> 00:00:44,860 Speaker 2: I am old fashioned. I like two texes. I don't know. 5 00:00:44,900 --> 00:00:46,420 Speaker 2: I think all of a sudden, I don't like being 6 00:00:46,420 --> 00:00:48,460 Speaker 2: married to what is known as a new woman. I 7 00:00:48,460 --> 00:00:51,900 Speaker 2: want a wife, not a competitor, competator, competitor. 8 00:00:51,659 --> 00:00:54,980 Speaker 1: Talk about a bit this crying in the morning, things, depression. 9 00:00:54,980 --> 00:00:57,140 Speaker 1: You know, let's get that fixed. That's what men think, 10 00:00:57,180 --> 00:01:00,220 Speaker 1: isn't it What Unless you've got the answer, unless you 11 00:01:00,220 --> 00:01:02,980 Speaker 1: can say, oh no, this bloke and the essex rud 12 00:01:03,020 --> 00:01:05,539 Speaker 1: to fix that, and there's no point bothering. 13 00:01:05,860 --> 00:01:07,460 Speaker 2: How do you write women so well? 14 00:01:08,380 --> 00:01:11,500 Speaker 3: I think of a man and I take away reason 15 00:01:11,860 --> 00:01:12,780 Speaker 3: and accountability. 16 00:01:13,380 --> 00:01:15,660 Speaker 4: I love him, I love him, and I don't care 17 00:01:15,660 --> 00:01:16,259 Speaker 4: what you think. 18 00:01:16,500 --> 00:01:19,539 Speaker 2: I love him for the for the man he wants 19 00:01:19,580 --> 00:01:21,740 Speaker 2: to be, and I love him for the man that 20 00:01:21,820 --> 00:01:25,460 Speaker 2: he almost is. What do rouse about him? 21 00:01:26,140 --> 00:01:26,500 Speaker 1: Money? 22 00:01:27,060 --> 00:01:31,820 Speaker 2: Sex, sex, money he wants, she doesn't want. 23 00:01:32,220 --> 00:01:34,340 Speaker 4: She wants, he doesn't want women. 24 00:01:35,220 --> 00:01:38,700 Speaker 2: I've always been a big problem to me, Doctor fusspend. 25 00:01:40,860 --> 00:01:43,300 Speaker 2: Are you listening, doctor, Yes, yes, yes, go on, but 26 00:01:45,220 --> 00:01:47,380 Speaker 2: all right, go on, go on, we will. This is 27 00:01:47,420 --> 00:01:52,300 Speaker 2: the Male Female Hour. Every week at this time Wednesday, 28 00:01:52,460 --> 00:01:55,020 Speaker 2: the second hour of the Dennis Prager Show was devoted 29 00:01:55,860 --> 00:01:59,180 Speaker 2: to that most complex of subjects, male female relations, the 30 00:01:59,220 --> 00:02:03,740 Speaker 2: differences between them. And it is honest. You may differ 31 00:02:03,820 --> 00:02:07,020 Speaker 2: with almost anything I say on these matters. That's fine, 32 00:02:07,580 --> 00:02:10,139 Speaker 2: but at least know that none of it is said 33 00:02:11,460 --> 00:02:16,020 Speaker 2: without a Well. I hate to use this word. I 34 00:02:16,060 --> 00:02:18,739 Speaker 2: hate the word. I was gonna use the word sincerity. 35 00:02:18,820 --> 00:02:21,220 Speaker 2: I can't stand the word. I never use it, but 36 00:02:22,540 --> 00:02:24,580 Speaker 2: you like it. I know it's more of a word 37 00:02:24,579 --> 00:02:27,740 Speaker 2: that women like, but I because there are so many sincere, 38 00:02:28,180 --> 00:02:33,260 Speaker 2: foolish notions and actions out there. But anyway, the point 39 00:02:33,300 --> 00:02:36,620 Speaker 2: being that I call them as I see them. I 40 00:02:36,700 --> 00:02:39,500 Speaker 2: do not hide from you as difficult as many of 41 00:02:39,540 --> 00:02:43,139 Speaker 2: these subjects are, and that's the nature of the Male 42 00:02:43,220 --> 00:02:46,260 Speaker 2: Female Hour. Hi everybody again, this is Dennis Praguer. Oh 43 00:02:46,500 --> 00:02:49,780 Speaker 2: a reminder tonight for those of you in southern California, 44 00:02:50,300 --> 00:02:54,780 Speaker 2: I am debating the irrepressible Schmooley Bautaire, the one of 45 00:02:54,780 --> 00:02:59,260 Speaker 2: the most famous rabbis of America and in the public figures, 46 00:02:59,580 --> 00:03:03,500 Speaker 2: and we are doing this in La tonight and in 47 00:03:03,540 --> 00:03:07,180 Speaker 2: New York City next Saturday night, that is a week 48 00:03:07,340 --> 00:03:10,980 Speaker 2: ten days from now. Why do men cheat a debate? 49 00:03:11,940 --> 00:03:12,419 Speaker 4: Awesome? 50 00:03:12,660 --> 00:03:15,780 Speaker 2: Yeah, it should be fascinating. And it is up at 51 00:03:16,020 --> 00:03:20,180 Speaker 2: Dennispraguer dot com for information and tickets, and they're pretty 52 00:03:20,180 --> 00:03:24,460 Speaker 2: inexpens anyway, And there's still a further deduction I think 53 00:03:24,500 --> 00:03:27,500 Speaker 2: if you mentioned the show, but that's all available at 54 00:03:27,500 --> 00:03:30,060 Speaker 2: Dennispraguer dot com. It's tonight. I think you'll have a ball. 55 00:03:30,340 --> 00:03:33,500 Speaker 2: I know you will, because Schmooley and I really love 56 00:03:33,540 --> 00:03:37,420 Speaker 2: each other and differ a lot. Well, my guest is 57 00:03:37,460 --> 00:03:40,820 Speaker 2: the great Allison Armstrong, and I don't use the term lightly. 58 00:03:41,020 --> 00:03:44,380 Speaker 2: I think she is. I think she's gifted with wisdom. 59 00:03:44,500 --> 00:03:47,780 Speaker 2: You know how highly I value wisdom. I've never met 60 00:03:47,820 --> 00:03:51,260 Speaker 2: a woman who understood in nately, who understood men as 61 00:03:51,300 --> 00:03:54,180 Speaker 2: well as I believe she does. I also believe she 62 00:03:54,260 --> 00:03:59,820 Speaker 2: understands women spectacularly well, and that's a very rare achievement. 63 00:03:59,860 --> 00:04:03,060 Speaker 2: She has helped many many couples through her work and 64 00:04:03,140 --> 00:04:08,620 Speaker 2: her writings. She has the widely acclaimed women Seminars or 65 00:04:08,660 --> 00:04:15,220 Speaker 2: seminars period Celebrating Men Satisfying Women. Information about her website 66 00:04:15,260 --> 00:04:18,180 Speaker 2: and work is also up at Dennispraguer dot com, at 67 00:04:18,180 --> 00:04:22,539 Speaker 2: the blog and Alice and Armstrong. It's great to see. 68 00:04:22,339 --> 00:04:24,339 Speaker 4: You, Thank you, it's great to be here. 69 00:04:24,659 --> 00:04:28,180 Speaker 2: Thank you very much. One eight Prager seven seven six. 70 00:04:28,219 --> 00:04:31,219 Speaker 2: We're going to do something a little different today. Whether 71 00:04:31,339 --> 00:04:33,700 Speaker 2: or not you have heard her. If you have, obviously 72 00:04:33,860 --> 00:04:37,539 Speaker 2: then you may have already something to ask. We'd like 73 00:04:37,620 --> 00:04:40,700 Speaker 2: you to throw out any male female question. We're going 74 00:04:40,780 --> 00:04:43,900 Speaker 2: to open up with some subjects, but if you have, 75 00:04:44,980 --> 00:04:48,260 Speaker 2: if you have had some questions that you would like 76 00:04:48,300 --> 00:04:53,020 Speaker 2: a woman's take on rather than mine. I admit that 77 00:04:53,100 --> 00:04:56,540 Speaker 2: I am a male, but you know it's an interesting question, 78 00:04:56,660 --> 00:05:00,540 Speaker 2: isn't it. Do I have a male take on these issues? 79 00:05:00,660 --> 00:05:02,820 Speaker 2: Or do I have an objective take? Do you have 80 00:05:02,860 --> 00:05:05,500 Speaker 2: a female take? Or do you have an objective take? 81 00:05:06,140 --> 00:05:10,220 Speaker 2: Are we capable of seeing beyond our gender or sex? 82 00:05:10,700 --> 00:05:12,940 Speaker 2: That's what do you answer that? 83 00:05:14,220 --> 00:05:16,260 Speaker 4: Well? You and I got to kick out of this 84 00:05:16,340 --> 00:05:18,979 Speaker 4: last time because I brought up to you that you 85 00:05:19,060 --> 00:05:21,659 Speaker 4: thought women didn't want to as much as men because 86 00:05:21,700 --> 00:05:25,260 Speaker 4: they didn't focus on sex, and which would be from 87 00:05:25,300 --> 00:05:28,020 Speaker 4: your point of view as a man. Men focus, so 88 00:05:28,060 --> 00:05:30,180 Speaker 4: the problem must be she's not focused on it. And 89 00:05:30,580 --> 00:05:32,700 Speaker 4: I brought up to you know the problem is women 90 00:05:32,780 --> 00:05:38,620 Speaker 4: don't focus. So I think you always look from a 91 00:05:38,620 --> 00:05:42,220 Speaker 4: man's perspective. And what I've had to catch myself doing 92 00:05:42,580 --> 00:05:45,780 Speaker 4: over the last it'll be nineteen years next month since 93 00:05:45,780 --> 00:05:49,300 Speaker 4: I started studying men, I catch myself over and over 94 00:05:49,420 --> 00:05:55,060 Speaker 4: and over again having a female perspective. And can I 95 00:05:55,060 --> 00:05:55,860 Speaker 4: give you an example of that? 96 00:05:55,980 --> 00:05:57,260 Speaker 2: Oh the more the merrier. 97 00:05:57,420 --> 00:06:00,859 Speaker 4: Well, this just happened last week. I'm finishing the sequel 98 00:06:00,860 --> 00:06:04,100 Speaker 4: to Keys to the Kingdom and one of the characters 99 00:06:04,140 --> 00:06:07,700 Speaker 4: is just struggling with her husband doing housework, or rather 100 00:06:07,900 --> 00:06:12,260 Speaker 4: not doing housework, and she's furious about the trash all 101 00:06:12,300 --> 00:06:15,260 Speaker 4: the time. Now, I've been talking to women about men 102 00:06:15,300 --> 00:06:19,940 Speaker 4: taking out the trash for almost two decades, and what 103 00:06:20,060 --> 00:06:23,220 Speaker 4: I found is almost any man is willing to take 104 00:06:23,300 --> 00:06:25,260 Speaker 4: out the trash for a woman, especially when he finds 105 00:06:25,260 --> 00:06:27,420 Speaker 4: out what it provides for her. But if you ask 106 00:06:27,500 --> 00:06:29,700 Speaker 4: him what does he need to do that, he'll say, 107 00:06:29,900 --> 00:06:31,700 Speaker 4: I need you to tell me when you want me 108 00:06:31,740 --> 00:06:36,900 Speaker 4: to take it out. Now, I tried to figure out why, right, 109 00:06:36,900 --> 00:06:38,740 Speaker 4: I'm always looking for the good reason. What is the 110 00:06:38,900 --> 00:06:39,460 Speaker 4: good reason. 111 00:06:41,620 --> 00:06:41,940 Speaker 2: Ahead? 112 00:06:42,180 --> 00:06:45,580 Speaker 4: So this was the mistake I made. Okay, So in 113 00:06:45,700 --> 00:06:48,620 Speaker 4: tracking down the good reason why a man would need 114 00:06:48,660 --> 00:06:50,539 Speaker 4: to be told when to take it out, because to 115 00:06:50,580 --> 00:06:54,060 Speaker 4: a woman, it's obvious when it needs to be taken out. 116 00:06:54,540 --> 00:06:57,140 Speaker 4: What I figured out is that men do notice the 117 00:06:57,140 --> 00:06:59,779 Speaker 4: trash is full, but they notice it's full when they're 118 00:06:59,780 --> 00:07:02,580 Speaker 4: putting something in the trash in the middle of something 119 00:07:02,620 --> 00:07:05,859 Speaker 4: they're already focused on, so they're already on a track 120 00:07:06,220 --> 00:07:07,979 Speaker 4: and they happen to go to the trash in the 121 00:07:07,980 --> 00:07:10,740 Speaker 4: middle of fulfilling that commitment, and unlike a woman, they're 122 00:07:10,740 --> 00:07:13,820 Speaker 4: not going to interrupt what they're doing to take out 123 00:07:13,900 --> 00:07:17,500 Speaker 4: the trash. So that's why I thought you always needed 124 00:07:17,540 --> 00:07:20,100 Speaker 4: to let a man know when you wanted him to 125 00:07:20,100 --> 00:07:22,540 Speaker 4: take the trash out. Well, I'm in the middle of 126 00:07:22,540 --> 00:07:26,660 Speaker 4: writing the book and these characters have dialogues of their own, 127 00:07:27,020 --> 00:07:32,620 Speaker 4: it's like they really exist, and I'm eavesdropping and she's 128 00:07:32,660 --> 00:07:34,300 Speaker 4: talking to her husband about what it would provide for 129 00:07:34,300 --> 00:07:36,580 Speaker 4: her to take the trash out, and she asks him 130 00:07:36,620 --> 00:07:38,820 Speaker 4: what he need and he says, as usual, I need 131 00:07:38,860 --> 00:07:39,980 Speaker 4: you to tell me when you want me to take 132 00:07:40,020 --> 00:07:42,500 Speaker 4: it out, and she says, well, I want you to 133 00:07:42,500 --> 00:07:45,220 Speaker 4: take out when it's full, and he says, well, fool's relative. 134 00:07:46,660 --> 00:07:49,220 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my male brain exactly exactly. 135 00:07:49,260 --> 00:07:51,860 Speaker 4: Well, it knocked me back on my feet because to 136 00:07:51,940 --> 00:07:54,580 Speaker 4: a woman with only. 137 00:07:54,380 --> 00:07:56,020 Speaker 2: An idiot wouldn't know when it's full. 138 00:07:56,220 --> 00:07:58,820 Speaker 4: Exactly Well, to a woman, well, this is what it is. 139 00:07:58,860 --> 00:08:00,780 Speaker 4: We have. We talked about this. We have this thing 140 00:08:00,820 --> 00:08:05,540 Speaker 4: called diffuse awareness and it has our environment speak to us. 141 00:08:06,300 --> 00:08:11,500 Speaker 4: So the pillow is demanding to be straightened. I'm not 142 00:08:11,580 --> 00:08:13,860 Speaker 4: the one deciding it needs to be straightened. The crooked 143 00:08:13,900 --> 00:08:19,300 Speaker 4: pillow is saying straighten me. And the trash, the trash, 144 00:08:19,460 --> 00:08:22,020 Speaker 4: has this inherent need to be taken out. The trash 145 00:08:22,100 --> 00:08:24,940 Speaker 4: is screaming, take me out. And so I'm in the 146 00:08:24,980 --> 00:08:28,140 Speaker 4: middle of writing this one, I realized the trash isn't 147 00:08:28,140 --> 00:08:30,460 Speaker 4: screaming at the man, take me out, and he's going 148 00:08:30,540 --> 00:08:34,739 Speaker 4: to take the trash out for me, correct providing that 149 00:08:34,819 --> 00:08:36,380 Speaker 4: for me it's well. 150 00:08:36,140 --> 00:08:39,099 Speaker 2: Look at any bachelor pad. It's personal and you'll know 151 00:08:39,179 --> 00:08:42,980 Speaker 2: when men take the garbage out is when it starts 152 00:08:43,059 --> 00:08:46,700 Speaker 2: to overflow after he has stepped into it as often 153 00:08:46,740 --> 00:08:49,900 Speaker 2: as possible to compact it so as to avoid taking 154 00:08:49,980 --> 00:08:50,300 Speaker 2: it out. 155 00:08:50,579 --> 00:08:53,660 Speaker 4: Yes. But but this is the thing. The biggest mistake 156 00:08:53,700 --> 00:08:57,340 Speaker 4: women make with men is we take things personally that 157 00:08:57,500 --> 00:08:59,020 Speaker 4: aren't like a man. 158 00:08:59,500 --> 00:09:03,420 Speaker 2: One minute. One minute, allow me to revel. Allow every 159 00:09:03,500 --> 00:09:08,700 Speaker 2: male listener to revel at that moment. Yes, by the 160 00:09:08,780 --> 00:09:09,540 Speaker 2: all God, we. 161 00:09:09,540 --> 00:09:13,580 Speaker 4: Take so many things personally, yes, that have nothing to 162 00:09:13,660 --> 00:09:14,179 Speaker 4: do with us. 163 00:09:14,980 --> 00:09:18,260 Speaker 2: That's by the way, why don't forget exactly where you're going? 164 00:09:18,340 --> 00:09:22,180 Speaker 2: I have to interrupt. That is why a lot of 165 00:09:22,260 --> 00:09:26,380 Speaker 2: men walk on eggshells, yes, and talking to their women. 166 00:09:26,580 --> 00:09:28,220 Speaker 2: It's because they don't know what we'll. 167 00:09:28,100 --> 00:09:34,100 Speaker 4: Set her off, because because women have it backwards. There 168 00:09:34,100 --> 00:09:37,140 Speaker 4: are things we take personally. You didn't do that because 169 00:09:37,140 --> 00:09:39,660 Speaker 4: you weren't love me. And there are things we don't 170 00:09:39,660 --> 00:09:43,780 Speaker 4: take personally you're a jerk, and they're the opposite of 171 00:09:43,780 --> 00:09:46,699 Speaker 4: what's true. The times when we think a man is 172 00:09:46,740 --> 00:09:49,100 Speaker 4: a jerk are the things that we should take personally 173 00:09:49,140 --> 00:09:51,540 Speaker 4: and the things we take personally. No, that had nothing 174 00:09:51,580 --> 00:09:54,260 Speaker 4: to do with you. He was late because he's a provider. 175 00:09:54,540 --> 00:09:56,180 Speaker 4: He's taking care of your family and he had to 176 00:09:56,179 --> 00:09:58,660 Speaker 4: stay late at work. And yes, he knows it's your 177 00:09:58,660 --> 00:10:01,380 Speaker 4: anniversary and he loves you. But providing is going to 178 00:10:01,420 --> 00:10:04,460 Speaker 4: come first. Why, because he's a man. It's not personal. 179 00:10:05,179 --> 00:10:06,939 Speaker 4: No matter how much he loved you, he would still 180 00:10:06,980 --> 00:10:09,579 Speaker 4: stay late when his boss de manages. 181 00:10:09,660 --> 00:10:13,740 Speaker 2: So bringing it back to a very see, I believe 182 00:10:13,860 --> 00:10:16,980 Speaker 2: that we learned from the micro a lot about the macro. 183 00:10:17,179 --> 00:10:21,820 Speaker 2: So taking this detail of taking out the garbage if 184 00:10:21,860 --> 00:10:28,939 Speaker 2: he doesn't, there are women who will perceive that as personal. Yes, 185 00:10:29,380 --> 00:10:31,780 Speaker 2: if you loved me, you would know when to take 186 00:10:31,820 --> 00:10:36,540 Speaker 2: the garbage out. And every man listening is rolling his eyes. 187 00:10:36,780 --> 00:10:38,940 Speaker 4: It's not even you would know when because they don't 188 00:10:38,980 --> 00:10:41,620 Speaker 4: think that far. To us, it's obvious that it needs 189 00:10:41,660 --> 00:10:43,660 Speaker 4: to be taken out. And the fact that you kept 190 00:10:43,740 --> 00:10:46,580 Speaker 4: walking by and walking by and walking by is a 191 00:10:46,620 --> 00:10:50,900 Speaker 4: demonstration that you don't respect me. That's what women think, 192 00:10:50,980 --> 00:10:53,699 Speaker 4: and then we're mad. We get so mad. 193 00:10:55,179 --> 00:10:58,819 Speaker 2: You have to see the men's faces as that I'm looking. 194 00:10:58,580 --> 00:11:00,620 Speaker 4: At, and that's where you guys are in trouble. 195 00:11:00,780 --> 00:11:04,300 Speaker 2: These guys are confirmed bachelor's another five years. Thanks to 196 00:11:04,380 --> 00:11:06,819 Speaker 2: your visit, We'll be back in a moment Male Female 197 00:11:06,900 --> 00:11:18,820 Speaker 2: Hour with Alison Armstrong on The Dennis Prager Show. 198 00:11:22,060 --> 00:11:25,380 Speaker 1: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 199 00:11:30,940 --> 00:11:38,460 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless Wisdom. 200 00:11:38,580 --> 00:11:43,860 Speaker 2: Dennis Prager here the male female hour. What there is 201 00:11:43,900 --> 00:11:47,260 Speaker 2: to be learned from the littlest things, and that's where 202 00:11:47,260 --> 00:11:53,220 Speaker 2: we learn them actually, because they signify bigger items. And 203 00:11:53,260 --> 00:11:56,980 Speaker 2: I'm talking to Alison Armstrong, this gifted woman with regard 204 00:11:57,140 --> 00:12:01,700 Speaker 2: to male nature and yes, even female nature. Her programs 205 00:12:01,700 --> 00:12:07,180 Speaker 2: are listed up at Dennispraguer dot com. Understanding Men is 206 00:12:07,220 --> 00:12:09,060 Speaker 2: the was that's the name of the website or is 207 00:12:09,060 --> 00:12:11,220 Speaker 2: it still or is it celebrating men? Now? 208 00:12:12,420 --> 00:12:17,300 Speaker 4: We have everything Allison Armstrong dot com. You have to do. 209 00:12:18,179 --> 00:12:23,140 Speaker 2: I was on the Dennisprager Show dot com. Whatever happened there? 210 00:12:23,140 --> 00:12:26,740 Speaker 2: You go exactly exactly, But anyway, you go to her 211 00:12:26,820 --> 00:12:29,020 Speaker 2: or just go to us and we'll direct you there. 212 00:12:29,340 --> 00:12:31,380 Speaker 2: Either way, go to Dennis Prague dot com or to her, 213 00:12:31,780 --> 00:12:34,180 Speaker 2: but do it because it'll help your life. That is 214 00:12:35,100 --> 00:12:38,780 Speaker 2: a free recommendation and a heartfelt one, taking out the 215 00:12:38,820 --> 00:12:43,980 Speaker 2: garbage and what it means to the two sexes, the 216 00:12:44,100 --> 00:12:47,860 Speaker 2: different meaning here. So let me understand that the bigger 217 00:12:47,900 --> 00:12:51,860 Speaker 2: point you're making is what now that the man doesn't 218 00:12:51,860 --> 00:12:55,340 Speaker 2: see when it's full, she sees when it's full. Is 219 00:12:56,140 --> 00:12:58,700 Speaker 2: well one of the points which men need to understand 220 00:12:58,740 --> 00:13:02,700 Speaker 2: and women need to understand about women. Is your I 221 00:13:02,740 --> 00:13:05,660 Speaker 2: love your language. It's not that the pillow needs to 222 00:13:05,700 --> 00:13:08,900 Speaker 2: be straightened, it's that the pillow is yelling at her. 223 00:13:09,179 --> 00:13:12,180 Speaker 2: Straighten me. Oh absolutely, It's like voices. 224 00:13:12,660 --> 00:13:15,620 Speaker 4: It is, yeah, but they're not in our head. They're 225 00:13:15,620 --> 00:13:18,340 Speaker 4: in the pillow and in the sock and in the 226 00:13:18,340 --> 00:13:20,660 Speaker 4: grungee table. Our environments are. 227 00:13:21,100 --> 00:13:26,900 Speaker 2: And the incredibly loud fascinating, and the garbage is saying 228 00:13:26,940 --> 00:13:31,100 Speaker 2: take me out. So and again she takes personally if 229 00:13:31,179 --> 00:13:34,939 Speaker 2: he doesn't, but she doesn't take personally if he doesn't 230 00:13:34,980 --> 00:13:39,300 Speaker 2: straighten the pillow. Why the garbage but not the pillow, 231 00:13:39,500 --> 00:13:42,380 Speaker 2: because it's traditional that men take out garbage but not 232 00:13:42,420 --> 00:13:43,260 Speaker 2: straightened pillows. 233 00:13:44,740 --> 00:13:47,699 Speaker 4: Well, okay, I got to put another piece in here, right, 234 00:13:47,980 --> 00:13:54,220 Speaker 4: I thought. So women are, as you already know, feeling based. 235 00:13:55,860 --> 00:13:59,020 Speaker 4: Rather than thinking based. We're feeling based. But it's even 236 00:13:59,340 --> 00:14:05,020 Speaker 4: more than you know. Almost everything that a woman does 237 00:14:05,780 --> 00:14:09,420 Speaker 4: is in order to make herself feel a certain way. 238 00:14:10,140 --> 00:14:13,020 Speaker 4: The clothes that we wear, the shoes that we buy, 239 00:14:13,500 --> 00:14:16,460 Speaker 4: are to make ourselves feel a certain way. The way 240 00:14:16,500 --> 00:14:19,260 Speaker 4: we keep our environments is to make ourselves feel a 241 00:14:19,300 --> 00:14:21,940 Speaker 4: certain way. The heart. This job a man has is 242 00:14:22,780 --> 00:14:26,420 Speaker 4: we keep men around who make us feel the way 243 00:14:26,460 --> 00:14:28,740 Speaker 4: that we want to feel. And you have no idea 244 00:14:28,780 --> 00:14:31,060 Speaker 4: how to make us feel that, but that's what we 245 00:14:31,140 --> 00:14:35,260 Speaker 4: expect you to do. So the trash for women, they're 246 00:14:35,300 --> 00:14:37,820 Speaker 4: women for whom the trash is a big thing. For them, 247 00:14:37,860 --> 00:14:40,260 Speaker 4: they're women who don't care about it at all. But 248 00:14:40,740 --> 00:14:42,580 Speaker 4: for the women for whom it's a big thing, like me, 249 00:14:43,580 --> 00:14:48,380 Speaker 4: it's how it makes me feel. An overflowing trash makes 250 00:14:48,420 --> 00:14:51,380 Speaker 4: me feel like my life is overflowing, like I can't 251 00:14:51,420 --> 00:14:53,900 Speaker 4: handle it, like it's too much for me, like I 252 00:14:54,620 --> 00:14:58,900 Speaker 4: can't just keep going and creating. And an empty trash 253 00:14:59,020 --> 00:15:02,340 Speaker 4: is like keep going, babe, Just an empty trash. I 254 00:15:02,380 --> 00:15:06,060 Speaker 4: cook an empty sink, I cook a clean kitchen. I 255 00:15:06,100 --> 00:15:08,860 Speaker 4: cook if it's empty, it's like a canvas for me. 256 00:15:09,380 --> 00:15:11,700 Speaker 4: So it's all about how the trash makes me feel. 257 00:15:11,700 --> 00:15:13,260 Speaker 4: And then if I have to take the trash out 258 00:15:13,340 --> 00:15:15,580 Speaker 4: and it's stinky, or I have to take it out 259 00:15:15,580 --> 00:15:18,020 Speaker 4: to the sideyard, which is a mess, and I have 260 00:15:18,140 --> 00:15:20,460 Speaker 4: to go through the dirty places and I have to 261 00:15:20,500 --> 00:15:22,820 Speaker 4: go I don't have to live the lid and it smells, 262 00:15:22,860 --> 00:15:24,260 Speaker 4: and then I feel like I need to take a 263 00:15:24,260 --> 00:15:27,540 Speaker 4: shower and I stop feeling like a princess or a queen. 264 00:15:27,620 --> 00:15:31,780 Speaker 4: I feel like a maid or a sloth, and I 265 00:15:31,860 --> 00:15:32,780 Speaker 4: just want to go crawl. 266 00:15:32,540 --> 00:15:32,860 Speaker 3: In a hole. 267 00:15:34,380 --> 00:15:38,460 Speaker 2: So if he takes it out, he is enabling you 268 00:15:38,540 --> 00:15:41,860 Speaker 2: to feel right, Yeah. 269 00:15:41,180 --> 00:15:44,380 Speaker 4: He's saving me. He's saving me from the uglies, the dirties, 270 00:15:44,460 --> 00:15:47,500 Speaker 4: the smellies, and the overwhelmed m He's the trust. 271 00:15:47,660 --> 00:15:49,780 Speaker 2: You don't want to tell him that you want him 272 00:15:49,820 --> 00:15:53,900 Speaker 2: to know that. I mean you, not you personally, you 273 00:15:53,940 --> 00:15:55,580 Speaker 2: the female. 274 00:15:55,820 --> 00:15:57,700 Speaker 4: It's not that we don't want to tell them that 275 00:15:57,940 --> 00:16:00,540 Speaker 4: we think it's obvious and that we should. 276 00:16:02,420 --> 00:16:03,859 Speaker 2: That's the same thing once. 277 00:16:03,740 --> 00:16:07,660 Speaker 4: Once I teach women anything you need from a man, 278 00:16:08,020 --> 00:16:11,980 Speaker 4: you have to tell him what it will provide, because 279 00:16:12,020 --> 00:16:16,900 Speaker 4: to a man, nothing is worth doing. You do not 280 00:16:17,100 --> 00:16:19,500 Speaker 4: task for the sake of the task. A man doesn't 281 00:16:19,540 --> 00:16:22,380 Speaker 4: do that. Any thing a man does is because of 282 00:16:22,500 --> 00:16:25,540 Speaker 4: how many points he's gonna earn or the difference it's 283 00:16:25,540 --> 00:16:28,940 Speaker 4: gonna make the end result. He's you. Guys are acutely 284 00:16:28,980 --> 00:16:32,380 Speaker 4: aware of the expenditure of energy, and it's got to 285 00:16:32,420 --> 00:16:35,500 Speaker 4: be equal or better for you to do anything. And 286 00:16:35,540 --> 00:16:37,460 Speaker 4: if you get a lot of points for taking out 287 00:16:37,500 --> 00:16:39,700 Speaker 4: the trash. I mean, I have to tell Grig to 288 00:16:39,780 --> 00:16:41,980 Speaker 4: not take out the trash. It's not ready yet, honey. 289 00:16:42,220 --> 00:16:43,940 Speaker 4: But he gets so many points for taking it out. 290 00:16:43,980 --> 00:16:46,500 Speaker 4: He's like, how about now? How about now? Because he 291 00:16:46,540 --> 00:16:50,140 Speaker 4: gets so many points. So anything a woman wants from 292 00:16:50,180 --> 00:16:52,780 Speaker 4: a man, she has to tell him the difference it 293 00:16:52,820 --> 00:16:55,700 Speaker 4: will make in her life, because that's all he cares about. 294 00:16:55,980 --> 00:16:58,100 Speaker 4: The trash is there's no inherent need for the trash 295 00:16:58,100 --> 00:16:59,860 Speaker 4: to go out, There's no inherent need for the piano 296 00:16:59,900 --> 00:17:03,940 Speaker 4: to be dusted. But it makes her feel peaceful, serene, happy, loving, 297 00:17:04,179 --> 00:17:07,300 Speaker 4: want to have sex. Okay, how do I duss the piano? 298 00:17:08,419 --> 00:17:08,980 Speaker 2: Of course? 299 00:17:09,220 --> 00:17:12,660 Speaker 4: Yes, that's my larger point. 300 00:17:13,780 --> 00:17:16,340 Speaker 2: That's why I have her on regularly. Folks, you just 301 00:17:16,379 --> 00:17:19,260 Speaker 2: heard it in a nutshell. Let's take some calls here. 302 00:17:21,540 --> 00:17:22,699 Speaker 4: Can I tell you something about that? 303 00:17:22,740 --> 00:17:22,940 Speaker 2: Though? 304 00:17:22,980 --> 00:17:26,459 Speaker 4: Because you have so many men listening, Sure, guys, you 305 00:17:26,500 --> 00:17:28,859 Speaker 4: don't have to wait for her to tell you. You 306 00:17:28,899 --> 00:17:32,459 Speaker 4: can ask, honey, well, how does that make you feel? 307 00:17:33,379 --> 00:17:33,780 Speaker 2: God? 308 00:17:33,979 --> 00:17:36,300 Speaker 4: Oh, I know it seems like a terrible question to answer. 309 00:17:37,300 --> 00:17:40,419 Speaker 4: Dennis hear the word for play. I'm gay for play 310 00:17:41,379 --> 00:17:44,859 Speaker 4: four play, Honey, how does that make you feel? That's 311 00:17:44,939 --> 00:17:49,179 Speaker 4: four plague. What do you like about that? For play? 312 00:17:50,820 --> 00:17:52,459 Speaker 2: I'm not kidding. 313 00:17:55,739 --> 00:17:58,260 Speaker 4: Well, you know, man, I'm a big fan of men 314 00:17:58,300 --> 00:18:00,259 Speaker 4: getting as much sex as they need, so I'm always 315 00:18:00,300 --> 00:18:02,659 Speaker 4: trying to teach you guys how to get it. Ask 316 00:18:02,699 --> 00:18:03,899 Speaker 4: her how that makes her feel? 317 00:18:04,699 --> 00:18:07,020 Speaker 2: Honey? How does it make you feel when I dust 318 00:18:07,100 --> 00:18:07,580 Speaker 2: the piano? 319 00:18:08,179 --> 00:18:10,459 Speaker 4: Yeah? How would it make you feel if I dusted 320 00:18:10,580 --> 00:18:11,459 Speaker 4: the piano? 321 00:18:14,939 --> 00:18:16,899 Speaker 2: Sex is important? But not that important. 322 00:18:18,739 --> 00:18:20,379 Speaker 4: Well, the other thing I'm trying to teach you women 323 00:18:20,859 --> 00:18:24,619 Speaker 4: is I call it up your ask quit asking heroes 324 00:18:24,659 --> 00:18:25,499 Speaker 4: to dust the piano. 325 00:18:25,699 --> 00:18:30,500 Speaker 2: They want to say, yes, thank you, that's correct, that's correct. 326 00:18:30,899 --> 00:18:32,899 Speaker 2: I mean I want to save civilization. What would you 327 00:18:33,020 --> 00:18:39,020 Speaker 2: like me to do? Let's go to Freeport, Maine and 328 00:18:39,179 --> 00:18:42,139 Speaker 2: Karen Hi, Karen, Alison Armstrong and Dennis Praeger. 329 00:18:42,859 --> 00:18:45,859 Speaker 3: Hi, Dennis, Hi, Alison, I have a question for you. 330 00:18:45,899 --> 00:18:51,100 Speaker 4: I would like to know your perspective on why men cheat. Oh, 331 00:18:51,139 --> 00:18:57,979 Speaker 4: it's a great question, Karen, And thanks for calling infidelity. 332 00:18:58,300 --> 00:19:00,859 Speaker 4: I wish I could, like, I don't know, drill this 333 00:19:00,939 --> 00:19:06,659 Speaker 4: into women's head. Infidelity is always, always, always a result 334 00:19:06,899 --> 00:19:10,139 Speaker 4: of a man not getting something that he needs, and 335 00:19:10,260 --> 00:19:15,100 Speaker 4: women make the mistake of pitying a man's needs against 336 00:19:15,100 --> 00:19:19,820 Speaker 4: his integrity. Men have amazing integrity. They don't set out 337 00:19:19,859 --> 00:19:23,060 Speaker 4: wanting to be unfaithful. They want to keep that promise. 338 00:19:23,379 --> 00:19:25,500 Speaker 4: But we put him in a pickle where they need 339 00:19:25,580 --> 00:19:28,539 Speaker 4: something so badly that they're in a battle with their 340 00:19:28,580 --> 00:19:32,779 Speaker 4: own integrity, and their integrity loses. And the reason is 341 00:19:33,020 --> 00:19:37,340 Speaker 4: the need comes from instinct in human animal integrity is 342 00:19:37,379 --> 00:19:39,099 Speaker 4: an expression of human spirit. 343 00:19:39,659 --> 00:19:41,899 Speaker 2: You'll explain that better when we come back, because it 344 00:19:41,979 --> 00:19:45,100 Speaker 2: sounds like you're blaming the woman every time he's unfaithful. 345 00:19:45,459 --> 00:19:47,619 Speaker 2: We'll be back in a moment. You're listening to the 346 00:19:47,659 --> 00:19:49,699 Speaker 2: Dennis Prager Show, The Male Female Hour. 347 00:19:58,580 --> 00:20:01,899 Speaker 1: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 348 00:20:07,419 --> 00:20:13,220 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom. 349 00:20:15,659 --> 00:20:19,379 Speaker 4: Looking at me, it's just a shame. 350 00:20:24,899 --> 00:20:27,859 Speaker 2: I'm Dennis Trager and this is the Male Female Hour. 351 00:20:29,219 --> 00:20:34,819 Speaker 2: My guest is the inimitable Alison Armstrong. Explains male and 352 00:20:34,899 --> 00:20:42,019 Speaker 2: female natures in profound and original ways, and information about 353 00:20:42,020 --> 00:20:46,019 Speaker 2: her seminars and other work are available at her websites, 354 00:20:46,139 --> 00:20:48,220 Speaker 2: or just go to Dennis Prager dot com and you'll 355 00:20:48,340 --> 00:20:54,340 Speaker 2: you'll be directed there. Now, our caller a woman in Freeport, 356 00:20:54,419 --> 00:20:56,899 Speaker 2: Maine called up and asked why to men cheat? And 357 00:20:57,179 --> 00:21:02,019 Speaker 2: you were answering that, and tell me if I have 358 00:21:02,100 --> 00:21:05,379 Speaker 2: you right that you began your answer because we had 359 00:21:05,419 --> 00:21:09,539 Speaker 2: to interrupt it with that. By and large, they're not 360 00:21:09,619 --> 00:21:11,219 Speaker 2: getting something that they need. 361 00:21:12,459 --> 00:21:15,060 Speaker 4: Infidelity is always in response to something that they need, 362 00:21:15,340 --> 00:21:17,540 Speaker 4: and there's a lot of different Is. 363 00:21:17,500 --> 00:21:18,940 Speaker 2: That true for both both sexes? 364 00:21:19,820 --> 00:21:20,220 Speaker 4: Yes? 365 00:21:20,340 --> 00:21:24,740 Speaker 2: Right, And now obviously I think and I never put 366 00:21:24,739 --> 00:21:27,019 Speaker 2: words in your mouth. One couldn't if one wanted to. 367 00:21:27,500 --> 00:21:32,419 Speaker 2: But I do want to make clear we're not talking 368 00:21:32,580 --> 00:21:40,459 Speaker 2: about those who lack integrity and who just seek a 369 00:21:40,580 --> 00:21:44,020 Speaker 2: conquest after conquest, no matter how well they're treated at home. 370 00:21:44,100 --> 00:21:46,699 Speaker 2: Is that correct? We're talking about the average male and 371 00:21:46,780 --> 00:21:47,739 Speaker 2: average female. 372 00:21:48,340 --> 00:21:51,820 Speaker 4: Yes, there are men who, the way I would put it, 373 00:21:52,300 --> 00:21:53,899 Speaker 4: are not qualified to be married. 374 00:21:54,100 --> 00:21:57,179 Speaker 2: That's right, exactly, well put it perfectly well put. 375 00:21:57,300 --> 00:22:00,699 Speaker 4: Yeah, they're not willing to make the trade. 376 00:22:01,060 --> 00:22:04,780 Speaker 2: Few men, right, exactly, But I want to say few men, 377 00:22:04,820 --> 00:22:09,499 Speaker 2: and I've never known any go into marriage thinking they'll cheat. 378 00:22:10,739 --> 00:22:13,540 Speaker 2: Every man I know, now, I know a fairly high 379 00:22:13,619 --> 00:22:17,100 Speaker 2: caliber guy, I admit it. But let me just say though, 380 00:22:17,179 --> 00:22:20,580 Speaker 2: on their behalf, every man I know went into marriage, 381 00:22:20,780 --> 00:22:22,979 Speaker 2: thinking I will be faithful till I die. 382 00:22:23,219 --> 00:22:27,100 Speaker 4: Yes, most men plan Most men plan on being faithful, right. 383 00:22:27,219 --> 00:22:30,019 Speaker 4: And there's a large percentage of men who know they're 384 00:22:30,020 --> 00:22:33,219 Speaker 4: not monogamous and never will be, and they'll tell women 385 00:22:33,260 --> 00:22:38,100 Speaker 4: that straight out. And the problem is women don't believe them. 386 00:22:38,219 --> 00:22:41,220 Speaker 4: They think if they're good enough in bed, he'll be monogamous. 387 00:22:41,260 --> 00:22:44,659 Speaker 4: They don't know that she could be an Olympian in 388 00:22:44,699 --> 00:22:47,419 Speaker 4: bed and he's not gonna be monogamous. And he's telling 389 00:22:47,459 --> 00:22:49,220 Speaker 4: her that, but she's not listening, right. 390 00:22:49,780 --> 00:22:52,739 Speaker 2: Okay, But that's a smaller percent small percentage. Okay, fine, 391 00:22:53,379 --> 00:22:57,140 Speaker 2: So why is it that that they're not getting. 392 00:22:57,739 --> 00:23:00,979 Speaker 4: Well, there's several categories, okay, And first of all, we 393 00:23:01,060 --> 00:23:03,739 Speaker 4: have to say we're talking about a long term relationship 394 00:23:04,139 --> 00:23:08,619 Speaker 4: based on caring. I'm not talking about a dating relationship 395 00:23:08,659 --> 00:23:12,060 Speaker 4: based on sexual attraction. When a man is just sexually attracted, 396 00:23:12,100 --> 00:23:16,300 Speaker 4: he doesn't have any of himself invested in the relationship, 397 00:23:16,659 --> 00:23:19,980 Speaker 4: so there's nothing to lose, there's no cost to him. 398 00:23:20,020 --> 00:23:23,139 Speaker 4: It's one refrigerator for another. So I'm not talking about 399 00:23:23,139 --> 00:23:26,500 Speaker 4: that kind of relationship. And too often women put themselves 400 00:23:26,500 --> 00:23:29,459 Speaker 4: in that kind of relationship and then are surprised that 401 00:23:29,500 --> 00:23:31,580 Speaker 4: the guy cheats on them when they already know he 402 00:23:31,580 --> 00:23:33,979 Speaker 4: doesn't really care about her, and she can tell because 403 00:23:33,979 --> 00:23:36,379 Speaker 4: he doesn't pay very much attention to her. But she's 404 00:23:36,619 --> 00:23:39,300 Speaker 4: like in La La land about it, you know, trying 405 00:23:39,340 --> 00:23:41,139 Speaker 4: to make something in her head out of it that 406 00:23:41,179 --> 00:23:43,820 Speaker 4: isn't actually there. So we're not talking about that either. 407 00:23:43,820 --> 00:23:45,779 Speaker 4: So we're talking a committed Really what would happen in 408 00:23:45,820 --> 00:23:50,419 Speaker 4: a committed long term relationship where monogamies promised, Why would 409 00:23:50,419 --> 00:23:53,780 Speaker 4: a man cheat? It's going to be because there's something 410 00:23:53,899 --> 00:23:58,419 Speaker 4: that he needs, something he really needs that he's not getting, 411 00:23:59,020 --> 00:24:04,339 Speaker 4: and it could be sex. A surprising number of women 412 00:24:04,899 --> 00:24:07,739 Speaker 4: think because they don't need sex, their husband doesn't either, 413 00:24:08,419 --> 00:24:10,820 Speaker 4: and so it doesn't matter whether or not they provided. 414 00:24:11,179 --> 00:24:13,139 Speaker 4: I mean, it's still shocking to me in this day 415 00:24:13,179 --> 00:24:16,700 Speaker 4: and age how many women will go weeks and months 416 00:24:16,979 --> 00:24:21,020 Speaker 4: without having sex with their husband and think and still 417 00:24:21,060 --> 00:24:25,139 Speaker 4: be shocked that he might be unfaithful. So that's something 418 00:24:25,139 --> 00:24:27,019 Speaker 4: we have to get through our heads and a really 419 00:24:27,020 --> 00:24:30,340 Speaker 4: important question for us to ask our partners men and women. 420 00:24:30,939 --> 00:24:33,340 Speaker 4: You know, if you had it all your way, how 421 00:24:33,419 --> 00:24:37,459 Speaker 4: often would we have sex? And you got to listen, 422 00:24:37,580 --> 00:24:42,460 Speaker 4: because people get weird, especially men. You guys get really 423 00:24:42,619 --> 00:24:48,100 Speaker 4: cranky and squirrely and weird and all twisted up when 424 00:24:48,459 --> 00:24:52,340 Speaker 4: you don't have sex often enough. And it's because it 425 00:24:52,340 --> 00:24:55,820 Speaker 4: it affects your ability to focus. It's like it's trying 426 00:24:55,820 --> 00:24:58,780 Speaker 4: to focus when you're hungry, you know. So you guys 427 00:24:58,780 --> 00:25:02,100 Speaker 4: get really off when you don't have sex often enough, 428 00:25:02,139 --> 00:25:05,779 Speaker 4: and it's usually more often than you wife. Yes, you 429 00:25:05,820 --> 00:25:10,859 Speaker 4: feel unloved, disconnected, She doesn't care about me. There's so 430 00:25:10,979 --> 00:25:15,100 Speaker 4: many there's so many consequences just because of frequency that 431 00:25:15,419 --> 00:25:16,820 Speaker 4: could be fixed with that one thing. 432 00:25:17,300 --> 00:25:20,219 Speaker 2: Then there's also you, Okay, well come back. You know. 433 00:25:20,619 --> 00:25:22,939 Speaker 2: I have her on so often because she's so honest 434 00:25:22,979 --> 00:25:25,979 Speaker 2: and so insightful. Alison Armstrong with Dennis Prager on The 435 00:25:25,979 --> 00:25:50,020 Speaker 2: Male Female Hour. Oh I see you guys wanted that herd. 436 00:25:51,459 --> 00:25:51,899 Speaker 3: Is that it? 437 00:25:52,979 --> 00:25:58,139 Speaker 2: Now? Okay? Fine? Dennis Prager here the Male Female Hour 438 00:25:59,100 --> 00:26:02,379 Speaker 2: Every Wednesday, the second hour of the program devoted to 439 00:26:02,419 --> 00:26:08,660 Speaker 2: the most honest talk possible on the great difficult subject 440 00:26:08,659 --> 00:26:15,740 Speaker 2: of male female differences, relations, etc. My heroine, Alison Armstrong 441 00:26:15,859 --> 00:26:18,619 Speaker 2: is on with me today and her body of work 442 00:26:18,859 --> 00:26:23,299 Speaker 2: is on the inter and at seminars. Go to Dennispraguer 443 00:26:23,340 --> 00:26:26,580 Speaker 2: dot com. You can immediately find out where to contact 444 00:26:26,659 --> 00:26:31,259 Speaker 2: her and find out about her work. And the caller 445 00:26:31,300 --> 00:26:35,060 Speaker 2: from Freeport, Maine asked why Manchet. Obviously we could devote 446 00:26:35,179 --> 00:26:37,459 Speaker 2: hours and hours and hours. By the way, tonight we 447 00:26:37,540 --> 00:26:41,660 Speaker 2: are devoting hours and hours. Not Alison and I as 448 00:26:41,699 --> 00:26:44,300 Speaker 2: it happens, but Schmoolly Boute and I will be debating 449 00:26:44,300 --> 00:26:47,020 Speaker 2: that very subject in Los Angeles. That too is at 450 00:26:47,020 --> 00:26:49,699 Speaker 2: Dennisprager dot com. And for you in the on the 451 00:26:49,739 --> 00:26:53,340 Speaker 2: East coast, we're debating the subject in New York City 452 00:26:54,060 --> 00:26:59,619 Speaker 2: in ten days Saturday night of the following week. And 453 00:26:59,979 --> 00:27:04,619 Speaker 2: you were speaking about putting aside the bad guy, etc. 454 00:27:05,020 --> 00:27:09,979 Speaker 2: The impossibly non faithful one who even announces that to 455 00:27:10,060 --> 00:27:12,540 Speaker 2: his wife when they get married, but she doesn't believe him. 456 00:27:13,060 --> 00:27:14,899 Speaker 4: Well, usually they announce it on like a. 457 00:27:14,859 --> 00:27:17,259 Speaker 2: First date, even on a first date. That's right, she 458 00:27:17,300 --> 00:27:21,179 Speaker 2: should believe him. That's correct. You're not going to change him. 459 00:27:21,859 --> 00:27:23,580 Speaker 2: You want to add one more thinkers, we want to 460 00:27:23,580 --> 00:27:24,179 Speaker 2: go to Kohls. 461 00:27:24,580 --> 00:27:28,539 Speaker 4: Well, we talked about just the sheer frequency of sex 462 00:27:29,820 --> 00:27:32,699 Speaker 4: can cause a lot of can work really well or 463 00:27:32,739 --> 00:27:35,179 Speaker 4: cause a lot of problems. But on one of the 464 00:27:35,179 --> 00:27:38,019 Speaker 4: breaks you said, really, if a woman is sexually giving, 465 00:27:38,580 --> 00:27:42,819 Speaker 4: will her husband cheat? And I liked that term sexually giving, 466 00:27:43,219 --> 00:27:47,739 Speaker 4: but most women don't know that it. It's not enough 467 00:27:47,979 --> 00:27:53,259 Speaker 4: to be willing to have sex. Our husbands need to 468 00:27:53,379 --> 00:27:58,139 Speaker 4: feel desired by us. They need to feel desired, They 469 00:27:58,179 --> 00:28:02,340 Speaker 4: need to feel like they're hot. Women hate to be 470 00:28:02,419 --> 00:28:05,340 Speaker 4: treated as sex objects. Try treating your husband as a 471 00:28:05,340 --> 00:28:11,219 Speaker 4: sex object and see what happens. They is like, it's awesome. 472 00:28:11,659 --> 00:28:16,700 Speaker 4: It's awesome for them. And so it's not just the frequency, 473 00:28:16,739 --> 00:28:18,979 Speaker 4: but it's how much of your heart and your soul 474 00:28:19,020 --> 00:28:21,580 Speaker 4: and your play and your imagination and your sense of 475 00:28:21,659 --> 00:28:24,899 Speaker 4: humor are you willing to put into that time together. 476 00:28:26,300 --> 00:28:29,939 Speaker 4: It can't be a chore in too many ways? Do 477 00:28:29,979 --> 00:28:30,939 Speaker 4: it like a your. 478 00:28:32,619 --> 00:28:38,140 Speaker 2: Let's go to Granbury, Texas and Sandra or Sandra. What 479 00:28:38,219 --> 00:28:40,140 Speaker 2: do you say, Sandra or Sandra? 480 00:28:40,700 --> 00:28:47,620 Speaker 3: Now I'm from Texas at Sandra? Okay, excellent, go ahead, Alison. 481 00:28:47,900 --> 00:28:51,459 Speaker 3: Let me tell you first. I know that all the 482 00:28:51,540 --> 00:28:54,979 Speaker 3: men are loving your calls, loving your comments. Now the 483 00:28:55,020 --> 00:28:57,779 Speaker 3: women that are screaming at the radio, oh, they're going 484 00:28:57,860 --> 00:29:00,620 Speaker 3: to be loving my call because I have a tyrannosaur 485 00:29:00,739 --> 00:29:04,860 Speaker 3: sized bone to pick with you, and I don't even 486 00:29:04,860 --> 00:29:06,779 Speaker 3: know where to begin, except I know one thing I 487 00:29:06,820 --> 00:29:09,300 Speaker 3: want to say, and that's a while back. Last time 488 00:29:09,300 --> 00:29:12,140 Speaker 3: you were on Dennis Brager, you had a call from 489 00:29:12,340 --> 00:29:15,900 Speaker 3: a story about a man where Dennis did who just 490 00:29:16,300 --> 00:29:18,980 Speaker 3: goes to a card shop and says to another man 491 00:29:19,100 --> 00:29:22,940 Speaker 3: standing next to him, every card I pick out will 492 00:29:23,020 --> 00:29:26,300 Speaker 3: be wrong, and all of America listening when oh the 493 00:29:26,660 --> 00:29:29,860 Speaker 3: poor man. And I want to give you the flip 494 00:29:29,940 --> 00:29:33,100 Speaker 3: side of that, And my main problem is with you 495 00:29:33,500 --> 00:29:36,259 Speaker 3: is that you are a male enabler. To me. You 496 00:29:36,420 --> 00:29:38,900 Speaker 3: never asked these boo who men who call in with 497 00:29:38,979 --> 00:29:43,700 Speaker 3: their problems, what have you been doing over the last days, weeks, months, 498 00:29:43,780 --> 00:29:47,420 Speaker 3: and years. That is driving your wife crazy and she's 499 00:29:47,459 --> 00:29:50,100 Speaker 3: begging and pleaded asked you not to do it, but 500 00:29:50,300 --> 00:29:54,779 Speaker 3: you just don't care enough. Because basically, if man treated 501 00:29:54,900 --> 00:29:57,820 Speaker 3: his boss at work the way he dares to treat 502 00:29:57,860 --> 00:30:02,499 Speaker 3: his wife, he would be fired. And I it just 503 00:30:02,580 --> 00:30:05,059 Speaker 3: drives me not to you just drive me nuts. And 504 00:30:05,100 --> 00:30:07,700 Speaker 3: I'm not a feminist. I love man, I love sex, 505 00:30:08,180 --> 00:30:11,979 Speaker 3: but I am tired of men getting me excuse And 506 00:30:12,180 --> 00:30:15,979 Speaker 3: basically the flip side of the boo who car moment 507 00:30:16,500 --> 00:30:18,340 Speaker 3: is I had a husband divorce. 508 00:30:18,420 --> 00:30:21,100 Speaker 4: Now I had a hosbant you fired him. 509 00:30:21,300 --> 00:30:22,740 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well let me tell you why. 510 00:30:22,979 --> 00:30:25,860 Speaker 4: Good job. I recommend that, by the way. 511 00:30:26,500 --> 00:30:28,100 Speaker 3: Really yeah, it all depends on. 512 00:30:28,060 --> 00:30:31,819 Speaker 4: Who i'm Sandra. I know you're Sandra. Sorry, I know 513 00:30:32,459 --> 00:30:33,940 Speaker 4: you know you and I get to have a limited 514 00:30:34,180 --> 00:30:39,420 Speaker 4: conversation from one side, and I am an enabler, but 515 00:30:39,500 --> 00:30:42,739 Speaker 4: I want to enable whoever I'm talking to. So if 516 00:30:42,780 --> 00:30:45,059 Speaker 4: I'm talking to men, I'm going to enable them to 517 00:30:45,140 --> 00:30:47,580 Speaker 4: understand women and get along with them better. If I'm 518 00:30:47,580 --> 00:30:49,420 Speaker 4: talking to women, I'm going to enable them to get 519 00:30:49,420 --> 00:30:53,140 Speaker 4: along with men. But never ever what I tell women 520 00:30:53,180 --> 00:30:56,340 Speaker 4: to lay down and put up with being mistreated ever. 521 00:30:56,540 --> 00:31:00,660 Speaker 4: In fact, I'm I'm one of the biggest proponents of 522 00:31:00,700 --> 00:31:03,420 Speaker 4: telling women that guys know, good for you let him go, 523 00:31:04,020 --> 00:31:06,860 Speaker 4: and they're like, really, won't it work out? No, he's 524 00:31:06,900 --> 00:31:09,340 Speaker 4: not it, say goodbye, you deserve better. 525 00:31:10,100 --> 00:31:12,059 Speaker 3: Well that makes me feel a lot better towards you, 526 00:31:12,100 --> 00:31:14,140 Speaker 3: because I had not heard these comments, and granted I 527 00:31:14,140 --> 00:31:17,700 Speaker 3: do not listen every time that you're on, but it's just, uh. 528 00:31:18,060 --> 00:31:20,180 Speaker 4: It's just something Dennis and I haven't talked about. If 529 00:31:20,180 --> 00:31:21,739 Speaker 4: you want to ask me, you know, when should a 530 00:31:21,739 --> 00:31:23,860 Speaker 4: woman kick a man out, I could give him a 531 00:31:23,940 --> 00:31:25,180 Speaker 4: really long list. 532 00:31:25,459 --> 00:31:26,260 Speaker 2: We should do that. 533 00:31:26,300 --> 00:31:27,380 Speaker 4: By the way, be happy to do. 534 00:31:27,700 --> 00:31:30,700 Speaker 2: And by the way, I'm so glad you called Sandra 535 00:31:30,860 --> 00:31:35,540 Speaker 2: and I and you were. Sandra, by the way, embodied 536 00:31:35,979 --> 00:31:41,740 Speaker 2: exactly my theory that everyone can be eloquent, Yes, beautiful, 537 00:31:41,820 --> 00:31:45,180 Speaker 2: I do when they're passionate people. When you are passionate 538 00:31:45,219 --> 00:31:49,099 Speaker 2: about a subject, you get eloquent. She was eloquent, yes, Sandra. 539 00:31:49,820 --> 00:31:52,099 Speaker 2: Let me say one of the reasons that I do 540 00:31:52,260 --> 00:31:56,580 Speaker 2: defend divorce, as awful and hellish as it can be, 541 00:31:57,940 --> 00:32:00,180 Speaker 2: is that I don't believe that either a man or 542 00:32:00,219 --> 00:32:03,979 Speaker 2: a woman should have tenure, should believe that no matter 543 00:32:04,020 --> 00:32:08,180 Speaker 2: how they treat you, they can't be fired. Yeah, and 544 00:32:08,180 --> 00:32:10,820 Speaker 2: that when you said, did you fire him, that's exactly 545 00:32:10,860 --> 00:32:13,620 Speaker 2: how it is. I think that I have to earn 546 00:32:13,660 --> 00:32:16,060 Speaker 2: my wife's love every day, and she has to earn 547 00:32:16,100 --> 00:32:20,340 Speaker 2: mine every day, or at least commitment. I mean, love 548 00:32:20,380 --> 00:32:24,620 Speaker 2: is life. So we'll put that aside. You you earn, 549 00:32:25,540 --> 00:32:28,860 Speaker 2: just like I have to do a good job every 550 00:32:28,900 --> 00:32:31,499 Speaker 2: day on radio just to stay hired. You got to 551 00:32:31,660 --> 00:32:33,499 Speaker 2: do a good job every day, is a spouse to 552 00:32:33,540 --> 00:32:37,499 Speaker 2: stay hired? If you can't be fired. Why will you 553 00:32:37,540 --> 00:32:42,299 Speaker 2: do a good job? That's human nature. You're listening to 554 00:32:42,300 --> 00:32:44,620 Speaker 2: the Dennis Prager Show, The Male Female Hour. 555 00:32:53,340 --> 00:32:56,700 Speaker 1: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 556 00:33:02,180 --> 00:33:18,459 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom. 557 00:33:18,580 --> 00:33:21,819 Speaker 2: I have to tell you many hours I feel this, 558 00:33:22,140 --> 00:33:26,100 Speaker 2: but and certainly whenever Allison is on, and frequently The 559 00:33:26,100 --> 00:33:28,580 Speaker 2: Male Female Hour. Anyway, I have a board of such 560 00:33:28,660 --> 00:33:35,140 Speaker 2: great and important calls. Let me read some of the descriptions. 561 00:33:35,140 --> 00:33:36,979 Speaker 2: Don't hang up, folks, because then I don't see what 562 00:33:37,020 --> 00:33:43,620 Speaker 2: you called in on. Alright, let's see here, Mike and Sacramento. 563 00:33:43,660 --> 00:33:47,300 Speaker 2: I'm doing it right, three exclamation points. My upstart business 564 00:33:47,340 --> 00:33:49,180 Speaker 2: is not well, and I have been helping my wife, 565 00:33:49,180 --> 00:33:52,020 Speaker 2: whose career is successful. I keep the decks clear for her. 566 00:33:53,620 --> 00:33:57,100 Speaker 2: Ryan in Costa Mesa, California, guys have to have sex. 567 00:33:57,180 --> 00:33:59,340 Speaker 2: What about guys who were waiting to be married? What 568 00:33:59,420 --> 00:34:03,620 Speaker 2: did they do? Okay, that's that's a different question entirely, 569 00:34:03,660 --> 00:34:07,140 Speaker 2: and one we should talk about. Ryan. Thank you for that. 570 00:34:07,300 --> 00:34:10,100 Speaker 2: Ken in Brooklyn, New York. Am I wrong to keep 571 00:34:10,140 --> 00:34:12,939 Speaker 2: insisting to myself and my ex wife that she should 572 00:34:12,980 --> 00:34:15,899 Speaker 2: have stayed in the marriage. Women leave when they think 573 00:34:15,940 --> 00:34:17,820 Speaker 2: they won't get any more out of it. Any comment 574 00:34:17,900 --> 00:34:19,739 Speaker 2: on that quickly or we need to hear more. 575 00:34:19,820 --> 00:34:22,739 Speaker 4: Women leave when they've given up on getting what they 576 00:34:22,820 --> 00:34:28,380 Speaker 4: need from a man. But unfortunately they usually haven't told 577 00:34:28,420 --> 00:34:30,580 Speaker 4: him what they needed, so I didn't have a chance 578 00:34:30,620 --> 00:34:33,419 Speaker 4: in the first place. But they One of the things 579 00:34:33,420 --> 00:34:37,419 Speaker 4: that's always surprising to men is when women leave, they 580 00:34:37,620 --> 00:34:42,140 Speaker 4: move on so quickly and he's in pain, but he 581 00:34:42,180 --> 00:34:45,899 Speaker 4: doesn't know. She's been mourning for years everything she gave 582 00:34:45,980 --> 00:34:50,020 Speaker 4: up on getting from him. She mourned the demise of 583 00:34:50,060 --> 00:34:50,859 Speaker 4: their relationship. 584 00:34:52,460 --> 00:34:57,540 Speaker 2: Rancho, Palas Verdes, California. Sheila wise person told me all 585 00:34:57,580 --> 00:34:59,140 Speaker 2: you have to do to get along with a man 586 00:34:59,259 --> 00:35:04,219 Speaker 2: is need them, feed them, and do them. And I 587 00:35:04,339 --> 00:35:07,940 Speaker 2: might add Sheila's seventy two. Ah, God bless her. 588 00:35:08,100 --> 00:35:12,620 Speaker 4: That's great, add admiration, and I'd probably say she's got it. 589 00:35:12,980 --> 00:35:16,939 Speaker 2: Austin and Redondo Beach, twenty four years old. What do 590 00:35:17,140 --> 00:35:20,100 Speaker 2: men do to drive women away? Says he knows Alison 591 00:35:20,140 --> 00:35:20,580 Speaker 2: and her sin. 592 00:35:21,580 --> 00:35:27,340 Speaker 4: Yes, you know, Austin, I do, Okay, should I answer 593 00:35:27,339 --> 00:35:27,780 Speaker 4: that question? 594 00:35:27,900 --> 00:35:29,260 Speaker 2: Yeah? 595 00:35:29,299 --> 00:35:33,259 Speaker 4: Well, for young men, and this isn't particular to Austin, 596 00:35:33,339 --> 00:35:35,620 Speaker 4: but I have a twenty one year old son as well. 597 00:35:38,940 --> 00:35:41,779 Speaker 4: Women think, if you take the job, you know how 598 00:35:41,779 --> 00:35:45,339 Speaker 4: to do it. So if you agree to be my boyfriend, 599 00:35:46,299 --> 00:35:49,660 Speaker 4: you have the boyfriend manual and you're going to behave 600 00:35:49,980 --> 00:35:52,900 Speaker 4: like a good boyfriend. If you agree to be my husband, 601 00:35:52,900 --> 00:35:55,859 Speaker 4: you have the husband manual. And if you stand in 602 00:35:55,859 --> 00:35:58,820 Speaker 4: front of the minister and you say the magic words 603 00:35:58,859 --> 00:36:01,580 Speaker 4: I do, they'll sprinkle you with fairy dust and you'll 604 00:36:01,580 --> 00:36:06,060 Speaker 4: turn into a good husband. And it just doesn't happen. 605 00:36:06,940 --> 00:36:09,060 Speaker 4: It doesn't happen. He's the same guy was the day 606 00:36:09,100 --> 00:36:09,419 Speaker 4: before you. 607 00:36:09,900 --> 00:36:13,819 Speaker 2: It could be continued Alison Armstrong's work again. Just go 608 00:36:13,859 --> 00:36:17,940 Speaker 2: to Dennisprager dot com. You'll see where to go. Thank you, Allison, 609 00:36:18,540 --> 00:36:21,180 Speaker 2: you're really a font of wisdom. This has been the 610 00:36:21,219 --> 00:36:23,499 Speaker 2: male female hour on the Dennis Prager Show. 611 00:36:32,580 --> 00:36:36,900 Speaker 1: This has been timeless wisdom with Dennis Prager. Visit Dennisprager 612 00:36:36,940 --> 00:36:40,500 Speaker 1: dot com for thousands of hours of Dennis's lectures, courses 613 00:36:40,500 --> 00:36:45,180 Speaker 1: in classic radio programs, and to purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles.