WEBVTT - Timeless Wisdom: Male/Female Hour - Jealousy 0:00:19.840 --> 0:00:24.200 Welcome to Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Here thousands of 0:00:24.240 --> 0:00:27.880 hours of Dennis's lectures courses in classic radio programs. Had 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:39.720 to purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles, go to Dennisprager dot com. 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:43.319 I am old fashioned. I like two sexes. I don't know. 0:00:43.320 --> 0:00:44.840 I think all of a sudden, I don't like being 0:00:44.879 --> 0:00:46.880 married to what is known as a new woman. I 0:00:46.879 --> 0:00:49.800 want a wife, not a competitor, competator, competitor. 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:52.640 Talk about a bit, this crying in the morning thing. 0:00:52.680 --> 0:00:55.120 It's depression, you know, Let's get that fixed. That's what 0:00:55.160 --> 0:00:56.000 men think, isn't it. 0:00:56.200 --> 0:00:59.880 What Unless you've got the answer, unless you can say, oh, 0:00:59.880 --> 0:01:00.080 I know. 0:01:00.160 --> 0:01:03.120 This bloke in the essex radical fix that, and there's 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:03.960 no point bothering. 0:01:04.280 --> 0:01:05.919 How do you write women so well? 0:01:06.840 --> 0:01:09.920 I think of a man and I take away reason 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:11.200 and accountability. 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:14.080 I love him, I love him and I don't care 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:14.720 what you think. 0:01:14.920 --> 0:01:17.960 I love him for the for the man he wants 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:20.119 to be, and I love him for the man that 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:21.759 he almost is. 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:23.880 What do people have rowse about him? 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:24.920 Money? 0:01:25.480 --> 0:01:30.240 Sex, sex, money he wants, she doesn't want. 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:34.760 She wants, he doesn't want women. I've always been a 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:37.160 big problem to me, doctor Fusspend. 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:41.600 Are you listening, doctor, Yes, yes, yes, go on. 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:47.880 Gone, doctor fuss Bend my hero. Hi everybody, it's the 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:54.160 Male Female Hour on the Dennis Prager Show. And I 0:01:54.200 --> 0:01:56.120 love this hour, and I know many of you do. 0:01:57.040 --> 0:02:00.440 I have three dedicated hours on the show pretty much 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:02.880 what I call come Hella high Water hours. We talk 0:02:02.960 --> 0:02:07.080 about this subject. Male Female Hour is the second hour 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:09.960 on Wednesdays, The Ultimate Issues Hour is the third hour 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:12.680 on Tuesday, and the Happiness Hour is the second hour 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:20.600 on on on Friday. Right, the Male Female Hour today 0:02:20.760 --> 0:02:24.480 is on a subject that will hit some of you unfortunately, 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:28.359 right between the eyes. And I would like to hear 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:32.280 from you because perhaps you and I together can help 0:02:32.960 --> 0:02:39.560 people understand a rather complex element in the male female relationship. 0:02:39.880 --> 0:02:48.720 And that is the big j. What's the big J? Jealousy? Now, 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:51.920 you might expect me to say that it is not 0:02:52.000 --> 0:02:54.760 a good thing. You got to learn to control it, 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:59.359 you'll have a much happier life. Well, you're right about 0:02:59.400 --> 0:03:03.240 the second two, but not about the first one. Yes, 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:04.880 you do have to learn to control it, and you 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:08.320 will have a much happier life. But it's not a 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:15.799 bad thing entirely. The problem with jealousy is degree, not existence. 0:03:17.840 --> 0:03:22.560 Get it. That's the key here. Listen. If there is 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:26.640 none whatsoever, if it can never be provoked between two people, 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:32.240 then I think I think that there is some degree 0:03:32.480 --> 0:03:39.040 of love, or at least romantic love missing. If it truly, 0:03:39.160 --> 0:03:46.960 if it truly means nothing. I one is uh. One's 0:03:47.000 --> 0:03:51.280 wife is uh. You know, spending time with different men 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:56.760 and speaking about them, but it provokes nothing because you know, 0:03:56.800 --> 0:03:59.520 while I just trust my wife. Well, the issue is 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:02.240 not trusting your wife or trusting your husband. That's a 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:05.840 separate issue. The issue is do you feel any jealousy? 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:11.400 And the truth is that you ought to. The question 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:16.960 is how much and how easily is it triggered? That's 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:19.200 that's the issue. I mean, there are men and there 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:21.960 are women, and I think that this seems to run 0:04:22.159 --> 0:04:26.280 and this is purely anecdotal in my experience talking to people, 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:29.479 it seems to run fifty to fifty. Sometimes it is 0:04:29.520 --> 0:04:32.680 the man who is over controlling and who is jealous 0:04:32.680 --> 0:04:35.919 of the slightest degree of interaction between his wife and 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:39.400 another man. And sometimes it is the woman who is 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:44.080 overreacting and who is deeply upset by any interaction between 0:04:44.120 --> 0:04:48.040 her husband and another woman. I have not found this 0:04:48.120 --> 0:04:53.760 to be sex based as in gender based one eight 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:57.080 Prager seven seven six. You can start calling now because 0:04:57.160 --> 0:05:00.120 here is one of those times. This is one of 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:06.840 those times whence your examples and questions will be helpful 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:10.680 to other people. My bottom line is that it is 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:15.560 there is an inevitability and a health to a certain 0:05:16.040 --> 0:05:20.599 degree of jealousy that you will feel that feeling you 0:05:20.640 --> 0:05:21.680 really love somebody. 0:05:22.440 --> 0:05:22.560 Uh. 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:25.960 It doesn't mean you act on it, it doesn't mean 0:05:26.000 --> 0:05:32.600 you control I'm talking about the feeling of jealousy. Now. 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:35.280 What you have to do, though, is to control it. 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:39.359 And here there are two people involved, at least in 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:43.080 helping you control if they're if they're simply if they 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:47.720 overwhelm you, or they are constant triggered by, as I say, 0:05:47.720 --> 0:05:50.039 any interaction of your spouse with a member of the 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:54.400 opposite sex. To first, you have to help yourself be 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:59.559 Your spouse has to help you, and that is done 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:05.160 by regular reassurance in a in a in a in 0:06:05.200 --> 0:06:10.320 a verbal, and whatever other way it takes of their 0:06:10.360 --> 0:06:13.960 love for you, their exclusive love for you. I mean, 0:06:14.320 --> 0:06:18.960 a healthy person doesn't care if his or her spouse 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:22.960 house interacts with members of the opposite sex. You care 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:27.080 if you feel that they are attracted. And I don't 0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:29.280 mean in the in the usual way men are attracted 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:32.840 to seventy two women a day, but but in any 0:06:32.880 --> 0:06:36.960 any deeper sense than that. And uh, and that it threatens. 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:39.480 That's the that's the fear. I mean, what is jealousy 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:44.159 but ultimately a fear that somebody is coming between my 0:06:44.480 --> 0:06:48.080 loved one and me. Right, I mean, that's that's essentially 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:50.479 what jealousy is about. If you don't have that fear, 0:06:50.600 --> 0:06:55.200 then then then it's meaningless. And so you have to 0:06:55.240 --> 0:07:00.520 ask yourself rationally, is there really is there really that possibility? 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:08.720 Is there really that that that potential? You know, your 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:11.280 husband falls in love with an actress on the screen. 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:13.960 I you know, I think that the jealousy is not 0:07:14.080 --> 0:07:17.600 called for if he unless he's deeply unhealthy and starts 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:21.160 stalking her. It's it's it's a it's a fantasy joke. 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:26.240 You know, your wife goes, oh God, is he gorgeous? Uh? 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:31.720 You know, big deal. It's actually good. If your spouse 0:07:31.800 --> 0:07:35.040 can say to you he's gorgeous or she's gorgeous, that's 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:38.920 actually a healthy thing. Means you're not you're not hiding 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:42.440 your reactions. And my deepest belief is that the more 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:46.840 you share with your spouse, the better it is. But 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:51.800 that that's quite different than than obviously you know somebody 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:58.080 at work who becomes very involved quote unquote professionally in 0:07:58.320 --> 0:08:02.440 life of your of your husband. Let's say, uh, Now, 0:08:02.880 --> 0:08:05.760 unless you know that it's and you can know it 0:08:05.800 --> 0:08:09.160 is possible, you know it's a non issue. You know 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:12.520 she's she's no threat to to his love for you. 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:16.160 That's the That's the issue of jealousy, as I said earlier, 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:22.000 is the threat that a person can pose to the 0:08:22.080 --> 0:08:27.240 exclusivity of your relationship. But having said all that to 0:08:27.520 --> 0:08:31.600 if it's absolutely absent, that's not good either. It gives 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:37.080 an edge attention that is good for a relationship. It 0:08:37.160 --> 0:08:39.560 also helps, by the way, in doing something else, and 0:08:39.600 --> 0:08:43.240 that is never taking your spouse for granted. If you 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:46.760 never ever feel any jealousy, it would seem to me 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:50.000 that you take for granted that your spouse will always 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:53.280 be with you and always love you, And I don't 0:08:53.320 --> 0:09:00.480 think that that's healthy. That's the subject that I've covered 0:09:00.520 --> 0:09:03.640 and will return to another time, because it's not nearly 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:08.200 often enough spoken about the taking for granted of a 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:16.840 spouse that people engage in as if you have tenure, 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:21.280 like a college professor, can't be fired. I think that 0:09:21.320 --> 0:09:26.959 every spouse should think that they could be fired. In fact, alrighty, 0:09:27.040 --> 0:09:29.760 let's go to let's go to some of your calls 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:35.120 here one eighth Prager seven to seven to six, and 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:39.760 let's go to Cleveland, Ohio and Scott. Hello, Scott, Dennis Prager. 0:09:40.040 --> 0:09:42.959 Hey, Dennis, boy, is a real pleasure talking to you. 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.520 Listen to you for a long time, first time calling in. 0:09:46.920 --> 0:09:49.600 I've been with my wife in one form or another 0:09:49.679 --> 0:09:53.439 for twenty five years. We started dating when we were seventeen, 0:09:54.160 --> 0:09:59.960 and she was tended to be quite jealous at that age, 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:07.880 almost problematic, and over time it's drifted away, and I 0:10:08.000 --> 0:10:11.800 just sort of assumed it was something like a more 0:10:11.880 --> 0:10:16.600 childhood attitude that she grew out of. Interested in what 0:10:16.679 --> 0:10:19.480 other people say today on the subject, but there was 0:10:19.480 --> 0:10:21.320 no real effort on my part to make it go 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:24.160 away other than enduring it, and in just overtime it 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:24.640 went away. 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:30.360 How long did you know each other prior to marriage? 0:10:30.600 --> 0:10:37.040 I was in sixth grade with her. We really, I 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:38.600 mean I knew her name and that was it. 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:41.360 Well, well, let me ask you this, what age did you? 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:46.640 Did you marry twenty three? Okay, so there were six 0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:52.440 years from seventeen to twenty three. And what I think 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:57.439 is marriage made her more secure than being boyfriend and girlfriend. 0:10:58.520 --> 0:11:02.280 I suspected that as well. That like you said that, right. 0:11:02.120 --> 0:11:04.640 All right, So let me let me say something. This 0:11:04.720 --> 0:11:09.640 is very important. That's another benefit of marriage. I'll explain 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:12.000 when we come back. This is the Male Female Hour 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:13.640 on the Dennis Prager Show. 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:21.880 This episod of Timeless Wisdom. We'll continue right after this. 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:32.679 Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom. 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:36.280 Hi, everybody, Dennis Prager hear the Male Female Hour each week, 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:42.240 this hour of the show on Wednesdays, and talking to 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:45.200 you today on the Male Female Hour about jealousy. It 0:11:45.320 --> 0:11:48.640 is a good thing, but it is a bad thing 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:55.359 when uncalled for or when it becomes terribly controlling, obsessive, 0:11:55.440 --> 0:12:00.120 et cetera. In other words, if it doesn't exist, it's 0:12:00.160 --> 0:12:03.440 not good, and if it exists too much, it's not good. 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:07.920 Like much of life, this is not exactly different from 0:12:08.000 --> 0:12:10.920 much of life. That a moderate amount of something is 0:12:10.960 --> 0:12:15.240 probably good and an excessive amount is bad. But some 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:17.880 people might think that it's good if it doesn't exist 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:21.320 at all. And if with that view, if you really 0:12:21.360 --> 0:12:25.319 love somebody and you are married to that person in particular, 0:12:26.360 --> 0:12:32.400 then an a certain exclusivity is definitional to the marital state. 0:12:32.760 --> 0:12:35.200 That's why the last call from Cleveland was so interesting. 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:39.040 He was with the woman that became his wife from 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:42.400 seventeen to twenty three, then married. She was very jealous. 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:45.440 Then with marriage she became much less jealous, as indeed 0:12:45.480 --> 0:12:49.360 she ought to be in marriage that you have made 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:56.320 it a formal commitment, a formal and legal commitment to exclusivity. Therefore, 0:12:56.440 --> 0:13:00.160 jealousy should be reduced. Now it comes up though in 0:13:00.880 --> 0:13:03.840 so many different ways. A man looks a man looks 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:07.520 at another woman, and again it is moderation. Men look 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:10.199 at women. That is the way we are made. It 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:15.840 is as instinctive as smelling a nice flower or biting 0:13:15.920 --> 0:13:22.520 into a yummy food. I mean, it is so basic that, frankly, 0:13:22.559 --> 0:13:24.320 you have to be a male to realize it. Now, 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:26.560 I'm not saying women don't see attractive men, but come on, 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:29.160 let's be honest. Both women and men look more at women. 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:32.800 All right, that's just the way it is. And the 0:13:32.920 --> 0:13:36.600 jealousy issue, Oh, he looked at another woman, or he 0:13:36.679 --> 0:13:40.440 was looking at the women in Victoria's Secret catalog and 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:46.200 how men I am jealous. There's nothing that's usually an 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:51.880 unhealthy reaction. Now, of course, the reaction may be on 0:13:51.920 --> 0:13:55.120 a far deeper issue than that, and that is that 0:13:55.200 --> 0:13:58.560 you feel very insecure about your looks. Visa VI the 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:02.600 models of Victoria's Secret. If this is any consolation, every 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:08.800 woman is insecure of Visa VI, the models in Victoria's 0:14:08.840 --> 0:14:12.240 Secret catalogs, or in Playboy or what have you. That's 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:14.839 another subject for another time. I can help women out 0:14:14.880 --> 0:14:17.640 a great deal on that issue. As I have said 0:14:17.720 --> 0:14:23.120 over and over and over, overwhelmingly, women prefer men, prefer 0:14:24.000 --> 0:14:27.040 at least healthy men. I can't speak for unhealthy men, 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:30.640 but for healthy men prefer a live woman that is 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:36.280 less than perfect to a perfect fantasy. All right, that 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:38.880 this should be. This is extremely important for women to 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:41.720 know this now. At the same time, I think that 0:14:41.760 --> 0:14:46.640 a woman who takes care of her body and who 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:49.560 is married is saying in a very profound way to 0:14:49.640 --> 0:14:53.080 her husband that I love you. All right. These are 0:14:53.200 --> 0:14:58.480 very difficult issues to confront. That's exactly why somebody needs 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:04.320 to confront them, because they are usually evaded. But don't 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:07.520 be jealous of the fact in and of itself that 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:11.760 he has looked at these fantasy pictures or these women 0:15:12.440 --> 0:15:16.440 or the catalog or what have you. All right, let's 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:21.800 go to more on the jealousy issue, and let's see here, 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:26.320 got a lot of good calls. Uh, you know, I 0:15:26.320 --> 0:15:30.600 will stay in Cleveland and take uh take Steve Hello, Steve, 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:35.080 Dennis Prager, Dennis Hello, Steve, Yes. 0:15:35.000 --> 0:15:36.400 Yes, yes, can you hear me? 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:36.720 Okay? 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:38.000 I sure can. 0:15:38.400 --> 0:15:41.840 Okay, I just had a headset on Yeah, one time 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:44.680 listener for some caller and good. This issue comes up 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:48.560 quite often. People accuse people being jealous when it's really envy, 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:51.720 and I think there needs to be a clarification about that. 0:15:52.160 --> 0:15:56.120 Well, envy and jealousy are different. Envy is when you 0:15:56.840 --> 0:16:02.480 want what somebody else has. Correct, Well, I mean that's 0:16:02.640 --> 0:16:06.840 and even then technically that's coveting. But but envy is 0:16:07.520 --> 0:16:11.600 you have I envy you your car, but there's no 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:16.080 I don't know if that's exactly jealousy, right, but I. 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:19.520 Hear people like they use it interchangeably and where. 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:21.560 They do use it. Yeah, that's why I'm that's why 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:22.600 I'm sticking just. 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:25.840 To the J word, right, And and so it's a 0:16:25.880 --> 0:16:28.680 part of a relationship such as even the first commandment. 0:16:28.840 --> 0:16:32.000 But I the Lord, I'm a jealous God because we 0:16:32.120 --> 0:16:36.320 belong to him, and therefore when in a marriage relationship 0:16:36.680 --> 0:16:39.320 we belong to each other the husband, by the. 0:16:39.240 --> 0:16:42.440 Way, I thank you for I thank you for raising that, Steve. 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:46.920 That that is, in fact a good example of how 0:16:47.400 --> 0:16:52.800 a biblical idea has changed my life. Uh, that's a 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:56.480 it's a it's a really good example. If God is jealous. 0:16:56.560 --> 0:17:00.120 And I understand that these these are anthropomorphic terms used 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:04.359 because we are anthros, we are humans, and therefore human 0:17:04.520 --> 0:17:07.799 like terms will be used. Nevertheless, how bad could it 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:13.000 be if God himself is jealous? God wants an exclusive 0:17:13.040 --> 0:17:18.280 relationship and uh, and to which he is entitled, And 0:17:18.320 --> 0:17:21.080 so I I think that, hey, if it's good for God, 0:17:21.480 --> 0:17:24.760 by golly, it's good for us. So that was that 0:17:24.800 --> 0:17:28.280 actually was a way in which I formulated by view 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:30.680 that jealousy in and of itself is not a bad thing, 0:17:31.560 --> 0:17:34.040 but is it in fact but can be and is 0:17:34.080 --> 0:17:37.280 a good thing. But of course there could be a 0:17:37.320 --> 0:17:40.200 hell of a lot too much. Let's go to Arcadia, 0:17:40.280 --> 0:17:43.320 California and Susan, Hi, Susan, Dennis Prager. 0:17:43.520 --> 0:17:45.520 Hi, Dennis, love you your. 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:47.240 So thank you for both. 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:50.720 I have three points I thought I could make. One 0:17:50.800 --> 0:17:53.480 is I've been married to a personal trainer for ten 0:17:53.560 --> 0:17:57.920 years and pretty much most of his clients tell are women, 0:17:58.040 --> 0:18:00.840 and you know they're wearing work. 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:04.080 Uh uh are you breaking up? There? Are you on 0:18:04.240 --> 0:18:05.360 a are you traveling? 0:18:06.440 --> 0:18:08.639 I just pulled over. Actually, I'm sorry, good. 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:11.320 Good, Okay. He's so, he's a personal trainer. Most of 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:15.239 his clients are women, and they're dressed. And then it 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:16.120 became garbled. 0:18:17.080 --> 0:18:20.199 Okay, And I said, there would have plenty of opportunity 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:25.320 for jealousy had my husband not have the character that 0:18:25.359 --> 0:18:29.160 he has. And he is very very conscientious of our 0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:32.760 intimacy and our relationship. And I hear from his clients 0:18:32.800 --> 0:18:35.880 all the time how he glowingly speaks of his family 0:18:35.920 --> 0:18:39.560 and his wife. So that has been very helpful. 0:18:40.280 --> 0:18:41.840 But I do agree with you. 0:18:43.240 --> 0:18:45.159 I'm sorry, go on, go on, go on. 0:18:45.800 --> 0:18:48.200 I do agree with you that jealousy is not only 0:18:48.320 --> 0:18:52.520 titillating in a relationship, but I think it's motivating, and 0:18:52.840 --> 0:18:55.080 I can speak for myself that I had gotten a 0:18:55.119 --> 0:18:58.960 little off track and taken care of myself and the 0:18:59.040 --> 0:19:02.040 jealousy that I had motivated me to this year get 0:19:02.080 --> 0:19:04.240 in shape and lose twenty pounds. So that was a 0:19:04.240 --> 0:19:08.320 good thing. And my last point I wanted to make 0:19:08.440 --> 0:19:12.840 is you did a show some months ago about men 0:19:13.160 --> 0:19:16.240 and how they how they're wired and that they look 0:19:16.440 --> 0:19:18.600 at women, and you said go home and tell your 0:19:18.640 --> 0:19:20.320 husbands thank you for his fidelity. 0:19:21.160 --> 0:19:21.960 And I did do. 0:19:22.040 --> 0:19:24.760 That, and I think it was fabulous because my husband 0:19:24.880 --> 0:19:28.480 just brightened up and like the change in the space 0:19:28.600 --> 0:19:31.120 was amazing and he said, Wow, thank you so much 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:33.480 for acknowledging that and seeing that. So I have to 0:19:33.480 --> 0:19:34.520 thank you, Dennis for that. 0:19:35.560 --> 0:19:43.159 You made my day. Uh, I'm really I'm so I 0:19:43.200 --> 0:19:45.520 can't tell you how happy I am. I'll explain why 0:19:45.520 --> 0:19:48.800 when we come back. One eight Prager seven seven six 0:19:48.840 --> 0:19:50.159 is the Male Female. 0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:56.640 Hour this episode of Timeless Wisdom. 0:19:56.800 --> 0:19:58.080 We'll continue right after this. 0:20:03.600 --> 0:20:12.560 Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless Wisdom bullets. 0:20:19.000 --> 0:20:22.199 Thank you to play. This is Dennis Prager. Hi, everybody, 0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:25.760 I'd like showing to play. Do you have it ready? 0:20:26.080 --> 0:20:28.560 From that spot good. I want you to hear the 0:20:28.680 --> 0:20:35.440 end of the last call from this woman in Arcadia, California. 0:20:35.480 --> 0:20:36.680 I think she's in her forties. 0:20:36.680 --> 0:20:43.040 Go ahead, my last and I wanted to make is 0:20:43.880 --> 0:20:49.080 You did a show some months ago about men and 0:20:48.000 --> 0:20:51.880 how they're wired and that they look at women, and 0:20:51.920 --> 0:20:53.840 you said go home and tell your husband thank you 0:20:53.880 --> 0:20:57.040 for his fidelity. And I did do that, and I 0:20:57.080 --> 0:21:00.560 think it was fabulous because my husband just brightened up 0:21:00.800 --> 0:21:03.840 and like the change in his face was amazing, and 0:21:03.880 --> 0:21:06.840 he said, Wow, thank you so much for acknowledging that 0:21:06.960 --> 0:21:08.800 and seeing that. So I have to thank you, Dennis 0:21:08.800 --> 0:21:09.040 for that. 0:21:11.400 --> 0:21:16.000 By the way, one thing that comes to my mind 0:21:16.040 --> 0:21:19.000 immediately is that what was what was the lady's name? 0:21:19.160 --> 0:21:22.200 Was it Anita? What was her name? I want you 0:21:22.280 --> 0:21:25.000 to try to find that chan sall be able to 0:21:25.080 --> 0:21:28.640 refer to her properly. I bet that she never went 0:21:28.680 --> 0:21:33.600 to graduate school. I mean that utterly, sincerely, And I'll 0:21:33.600 --> 0:21:37.399 tell you why, at least in the liberal arts. And 0:21:37.800 --> 0:21:41.800 the reason is because of the distorted reality that is 0:21:41.840 --> 0:21:44.800 given over to women in particular, but to both sexes 0:21:45.280 --> 0:21:47.880 in the vast majority of cases, in the vast majority 0:21:47.880 --> 0:21:53.640 of universities, and that the longer you're exposed to this 0:21:54.600 --> 0:22:01.840 distorted view of life, the more pernicious its effects. This 0:22:01.880 --> 0:22:04.439 is what you would have been taught. A woman with 0:22:04.520 --> 0:22:10.040 a graduate degree would probably sneer at this notion that 0:22:10.080 --> 0:22:12.479 a woman would say to her husband, thank you, honey, 0:22:12.480 --> 0:22:15.040 for being faithful. I know the battle that you have 0:22:15.840 --> 0:22:20.240 on an almost daily basis because of your it's susan. Okay, 0:22:21.160 --> 0:22:26.240 thank you again, Susan. They would sneer at this because, 0:22:26.680 --> 0:22:29.960 first you know, anything to thank a man for anything 0:22:30.040 --> 0:22:34.840 distinctive is immediately as something that you don't do. But secondly, 0:22:35.560 --> 0:22:37.960 why should I thank him? He should be thanking me 0:22:38.240 --> 0:22:41.119 just as much I have the same battles for a 0:22:41.119 --> 0:22:45.800 fidelity that he does. This is the drivel, the utter, 0:22:46.080 --> 0:22:49.720 and total. It's not even partially true. It's partially true 0:22:49.720 --> 0:22:52.119 for some women. Of course, it's even fully true for 0:22:52.200 --> 0:22:56.440 some women. Unhappily married women who stay faithful and who 0:22:56.520 --> 0:23:01.040 are who are sought by men do have this battle. 0:23:02.040 --> 0:23:05.240 But men have this battle even when they are in love, 0:23:06.080 --> 0:23:12.960 even when things are good. And so look look look 0:23:13.000 --> 0:23:16.720 at how that contributed to her marriage. The other thing 0:23:16.800 --> 0:23:19.199 she said, which was so powerful, which is show what 0:23:19.240 --> 0:23:22.280 a healthy woman she is, is that her jealousy of 0:23:22.280 --> 0:23:28.080 her husband, the trainer, was motivated her to get in shape. 0:23:28.119 --> 0:23:30.439 I mean, the guy works with women, you know in 0:23:30.560 --> 0:23:35.840 Leotard's All Day. It's a good idea, It is a 0:23:35.920 --> 0:23:40.280 very good idea. But there's a third point there that 0:23:40.320 --> 0:23:43.480 I'm talking about. The subject of today's Male Female Hour 0:23:43.560 --> 0:23:47.399 is jealousy. And here was a great example of where 0:23:48.800 --> 0:23:51.679 A he did not foster it. She made that clear 0:23:51.920 --> 0:23:54.920 and men and men should not foster it, nor should 0:23:54.960 --> 0:24:00.760 women obviously. But B where she took that emotion and 0:24:00.880 --> 0:24:04.639 instead of pickling it and getting angry over it, it 0:24:04.760 --> 0:24:10.560 motivated her. That's that's a great credit that there. The 0:24:10.600 --> 0:24:16.760 credit goes to Susan. There's a very significant call. I 0:24:16.760 --> 0:24:20.639 don't usually review calls like that. All right, let me 0:24:20.680 --> 0:24:25.560 take some more here. Glendora, California, Bernard, Hello, Bernard, Dennis Praeger. 0:24:25.720 --> 0:24:28.040 Hello, how are you? Dennis Scala? 0:24:28.119 --> 0:24:29.600 One to tennis? Seven point eight? 0:24:30.119 --> 0:24:32.320 Well, then I hope you were carry up to our 0:24:32.440 --> 0:24:32.720 eight to. 0:24:32.760 --> 0:24:35.960 Live and I don't seek that seven point eight is 0:24:36.000 --> 0:24:36.480 darn good? 0:24:36.560 --> 0:24:40.479 Go ahead, all right, well, well listen, My comment is 0:24:40.560 --> 0:24:44.000 that I think the extent that we have premarital sex 0:24:44.800 --> 0:24:48.359 in our society undermines the element of trust between a 0:24:48.480 --> 0:24:53.160 husband and wife, and in that process it contributes to jealousy. 0:24:54.560 --> 0:24:58.439 You know, I have heard this my whole life. I 0:24:58.480 --> 0:25:02.560 have never for a second related to it. So stay 0:25:02.600 --> 0:25:09.520 on with me and tell me why I never got it. 0:25:10.280 --> 0:25:13.639 I never got it, and I may be atypical, I fully, 0:25:13.680 --> 0:25:16.880 I'm just being open with you, folks. So Bernard will 0:25:16.880 --> 0:25:20.199 explain why when we come back one to eight Praguer 0:25:20.359 --> 0:25:38.600 seven seven six, Hi, everybody, Dennis Prager. Here, the subject 0:25:38.640 --> 0:25:42.639 is jealousy, and it is a good thing in moderation. 0:25:42.800 --> 0:25:47.600 It is a bad thing when irrational and obsessive and 0:25:47.600 --> 0:25:51.160 and and destructive, et cetera. You have to know when 0:25:51.359 --> 0:25:53.679 again the mind believe it or not. Even here, the 0:25:53.800 --> 0:25:59.200 mind has to ultimately be in control. But the absence, 0:25:59.240 --> 0:26:03.840 the complete absence of jealousy is not good either. 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