1 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:06,640 Speaker 1: Life Audio. Hey, their friend Teather creekmok, here, are you 2 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:09,399 Speaker 1: ready to be encouraged today? I think you will be 3 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:13,520 Speaker 1: by this interview with yet another one of our coaching 4 00:00:13,560 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 1: clients and one of our coaches, Tara. You see, Tephany 5 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: was scared. She had never talked to anyone about these 6 00:00:21,600 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 1: issues before. She wasn't sure if this kind of coaching 7 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: help or joining the ford Dy journey would actually help her. 8 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:35,479 Speaker 1: And man, every one of the enemies lies to Teffany, 9 00:00:36,159 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 1: I betcha is one of the lies that you probably 10 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 1: here also around whether or not you it's actually possible 11 00:00:45,760 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 1: for you to ever be free from your body magicues. 12 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 1: Tephany heard them, We spell them out today. We expose 13 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:52,960 Speaker 1: the going to be schemes today, and you are going 14 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:55,320 Speaker 1: to be so encouraged by her story. I'm so glad 15 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 1: you're here for it. Hey, new year, a new view 16 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:02,440 Speaker 1: of you. How's it going on? Have you gotten started 17 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 1: on any goals that will actually change the way you 18 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:08,640 Speaker 1: feel about yourself? Because here's the thing, friend, Like you 19 00:01:08,680 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 1: can lose the weight, you can change the way your 20 00:01:11,280 --> 00:01:15,319 Speaker 1: body looks, and you might still feel the exact same way, 21 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 1: the exact same level of insecurity. So many of my 22 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:21,120 Speaker 1: clients have that story. I have that story. Friend, don't 23 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:24,399 Speaker 1: rely on your body goals to change your body image. 24 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: It just doesn't work that way. But God wants you 25 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 1: to be free. God wants you to see yourself the 26 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 1: way He sees you. He wants you to not be 27 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:37,880 Speaker 1: encumbered by body obsession food obsessions so much so that 28 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 1: you can't actually do what He's called and made you 29 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: to do. Friend, freedom is not that far away, but 30 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:45,440 Speaker 1: you got to start the journey today. We've got a 31 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: free course for you called Obsessed to Bless It's a 32 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 1: free mini course. It's available on our website. Link is 33 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 1: in the show notes. I hope you'll go grab that. 34 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 1: Just sign up for it and it'll take you a 35 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: couple days to work through it, but it will set 36 00:01:57,880 --> 00:02:00,800 Speaker 1: you on the right course for this. You're Obsessed to 37 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 1: Blast free on Improvedbodymange dot com. Go check it out 38 00:02:04,160 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 1: right now, let's get to the show. Wow, it's always 39 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 1: a privilege to have clients on the show, and you've 40 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:23,240 Speaker 1: had the opportunity over the last couple of weeks to 41 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:28,440 Speaker 1: hear from a couple different compared to who coaching clients 42 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:30,840 Speaker 1: today is going to be just a little bit different, 43 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 1: but I think it's going to be super cool and 44 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:36,120 Speaker 1: I'm excited that you're here for it. I am here 45 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:40,959 Speaker 1: with one of our clients, Teffany, and her coach, Tara, 46 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:44,960 Speaker 1: and today it's going to be a little different because 47 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:48,080 Speaker 1: we're going to walk through Tephany's story, but we're also 48 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:51,800 Speaker 1: going to walk through the story from the perspective of Tara, 49 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 1: and Tara's going to kind of chime in with what 50 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 1: were some of the things that they did in coaching 51 00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:01,760 Speaker 1: worked on in coaching, and and my goal for you 52 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 1: is that you will truly have a taste of what 53 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:10,120 Speaker 1: it's like to work with us and coaching, and that 54 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: perhaps if you're someone who's been on the fence and thought, well, 55 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:18,360 Speaker 1: I don't know, coaching could be really helpful, but I 56 00:03:18,360 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 1: could also be really uncomfortable, or maybe I don't need 57 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 1: coaching because my issues aren't that bad. Don't we all 58 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 1: say that if you're one of those people that thought 59 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:35,960 Speaker 1: maybe coaching, but then there's fear and questions around it, 60 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 1: I'm hopeful that this episode will encourage you to take 61 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: that step. So Tephany, Tara, welcome to the podcast. 62 00:03:44,280 --> 00:03:46,240 Speaker 2: Thank you, Thanks glad to be here. 63 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: So Tephany, you're in the hot seat today. What led 64 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: you to coaching? You can give us a little bit 65 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: of your story, your journey, like, I know you didn't 66 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 1: wake up a morning like you know what I think 67 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 1: I need. I think I need body image coaching. How'd 68 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:05,640 Speaker 1: you get here? 69 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 2: So, of course it was a lifelong issue. This wasn't 70 00:04:11,920 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 2: as you said overnight. I just always had body image 71 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:22,640 Speaker 2: issues growing up. Always felt like I was too large 72 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:26,000 Speaker 2: all the time. Even when I hit puberty, I always 73 00:04:26,040 --> 00:04:30,160 Speaker 2: felt like I was the heavier friend, and my mom 74 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 2: always struggled with weight as well, so it was always there. 75 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 2: I never did a diet, though, which is crazy, until 76 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 2: I got married, actually, but it was always in the 77 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:49,560 Speaker 2: back of my head always I'm not thin enough. I 78 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:51,839 Speaker 2: need to be thin to be attractive. I need to 79 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:55,159 Speaker 2: be thin to attract a husband because I wanted it, 80 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:56,760 Speaker 2: you know, when I was young, I wanted to get 81 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 2: married and I need to be thin to keep a 82 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 2: husband's So that was all the messaging that I would 83 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:06,800 Speaker 2: get as a teen, as a young adult. And then 84 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:10,839 Speaker 2: I got married, and then of course I tried different 85 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:13,719 Speaker 2: diets after I had kids. I would go on a 86 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:16,359 Speaker 2: diet and all that kind of thing, and that I 87 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:18,839 Speaker 2: was always I always struggled with, there's got to be 88 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:23,000 Speaker 2: more than just controlling my body. I knew there was 89 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 2: some I always could tell that there was just something more, 90 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:29,760 Speaker 2: and I never knew like what I always thought of, 91 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:32,479 Speaker 2: maybe if I try to find a Christian kind of 92 00:05:32,560 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 2: thing that might help me, because I knew it wasn't 93 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 2: just my body that I was with. And I met 94 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:47,440 Speaker 2: someone who told me about the forty Day Body Image 95 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:52,360 Speaker 2: Program and I thought, hey, maybe I'll try this. So 96 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 2: but I was, you know, I was in that space 97 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 2: of what's the trick, what's the key? What am I missing? 98 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 2: What haven't I found yet to fix my problem? So 99 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:07,480 Speaker 2: that's kind of how I came into the forty Day 100 00:06:07,560 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 2: Body in the class. 101 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:12,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that's we're all looking for that, right, 102 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:14,400 Speaker 1: I mean I think that's how everyone comes to the 103 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:18,039 Speaker 1: forty Day Body an a journey. They're like, surely you 104 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:22,160 Speaker 1: have the magic formula. And I've bought many, many, many 105 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:25,160 Speaker 1: magic formulas. I've tried many many minutes, so maybe this 106 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 1: one will work. Yeah, And did I have the magic formula? There? Tehani. 107 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 2: I loved about it was it was really finally I 108 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:41,200 Speaker 2: felt like I heard the truth about it, like it's 109 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:46,320 Speaker 2: we all struggle, but just the truth about where you 110 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:49,279 Speaker 2: can find that freedom. And it wasn't in my size. 111 00:06:49,480 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 2: It wasn't in how thin or how could I stay 112 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:54,840 Speaker 2: a certain size or get to a certain size. And yeah, 113 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 2: I felt like it was a huge aha. Oh my goodness, 114 00:06:58,160 --> 00:06:59,280 Speaker 2: this is really what I need. 115 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, the aha is there is no magic. 116 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:05,120 Speaker 2: Right. 117 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:08,159 Speaker 1: It's kind of a bummer though, I mean, you know, 118 00:07:08,480 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 1: to stopped the chase, but yet at the same time, 119 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:12,920 Speaker 1: that's where the freedom is. 120 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely, I was very excited to start that forty 121 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 2: day journey. 122 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, it sounds like there is a bit of exhaustion. 123 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 2: Definitely tired of feeling bad about myself and physically. Yeah, 124 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:36,840 Speaker 2: and only comparing of course to other women my age 125 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:40,280 Speaker 2: or what you know, I think I should be at. 126 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 1: My Yeah, yeah, all those ideals we hold for ourselves, right, yeah. Okay, 127 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 1: So Tephanie did the forty Day Journey and then you 128 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:55,480 Speaker 1: signed up for coaching, and what did that look like. 129 00:07:55,600 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 1: Had you met Tara in one of the groups during 130 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 1: the forty day journey or was she brain? 131 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 2: She was there, but I don't think I didn't like 132 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:07,160 Speaker 2: me meet her, but she was one woman that was 133 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 2: on the call. And I'm very nervous about like I've 134 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:16,679 Speaker 2: never done one on one coaching. I've never done anything 135 00:08:16,760 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 2: more than like you know, the forty day a journey 136 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:25,760 Speaker 2: was already like a step for me because I wasn't 137 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 2: sure what to expect or how much I was supposed 138 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 2: to share or how much I would be on the spot. 139 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 2: But that was that was actually really good because we 140 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:35,680 Speaker 2: were in a group and then to get a little 141 00:08:35,679 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 2: bit more a smaller group or one on one. I 142 00:08:39,360 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 2: was nervous because I, well, I'm private, like I don't 143 00:08:42,720 --> 00:08:46,600 Speaker 2: like to share too much, and to be honest with you, 144 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:50,880 Speaker 2: I've never done any therapy, so to me, this was 145 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 2: like me stepping into kind of therapy. 146 00:08:54,440 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 1: So yeah, it was a little scary, okay ary, but 147 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:06,079 Speaker 1: you were so brave, So kudos to you. I think 148 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:08,400 Speaker 1: there's probably a lot of women listening that are like, oh, yeah, 149 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:11,040 Speaker 1: me too, I'm private. I can't do that. I'm private. 150 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:14,680 Speaker 1: But what was it like when you started to share 151 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:17,600 Speaker 1: and open up? Like, how did for you? 152 00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 2: From what I remember, there was three four other women 153 00:09:20,840 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 2: with Tara, so there was five of us total, and 154 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:29,800 Speaker 2: what was really eye opening was how each of them 155 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:33,520 Speaker 2: struggled with some of the same things that I do, 156 00:09:34,280 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 2: and it but just so in an honest, like very 157 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:43,560 Speaker 2: honest sharing, and that was very encouraging because I feel, 158 00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:45,840 Speaker 2: oh wow, I'm not the only one that feels this way. 159 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 2: And people the group was very supportive, like very willing 160 00:09:51,280 --> 00:09:55,520 Speaker 2: to encourage and cheer you along and cheer me along. 161 00:09:55,679 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 2: And I loved Tara because she always had a lot 162 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:06,960 Speaker 2: of wisdom and helped encourage each us of us so well. 163 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:11,200 Speaker 2: And I just even just listening to her speaking to 164 00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:14,160 Speaker 2: the other women and me, and it was a very. 165 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:17,079 Speaker 1: I guess I said several times. 166 00:10:16,920 --> 00:10:21,320 Speaker 2: A very encouraging time to process and felt very safe 167 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 2: as well. 168 00:10:22,760 --> 00:10:25,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I love that. And so now you're talking 169 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 1: about like the group coaching, just in case anyone listening 170 00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:33,440 Speaker 1: wasn't following, because Taffane went from forty day to group coaching, 171 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:35,280 Speaker 1: and so that's where you had just this group of 172 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 1: five yes, with Tara, and I love to hear how 173 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:45,559 Speaker 1: encouraging it was. Tara. What's it like that first week 174 00:10:45,760 --> 00:10:48,959 Speaker 1: or so with a brand new group like Teffanese group. 175 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 1: I mean, does everyone in the same boat, feeling a 176 00:10:52,040 --> 00:10:54,440 Speaker 1: little nervous about being there, Oh my gosh. 177 00:10:54,480 --> 00:10:55,840 Speaker 2: And this was actually one of. 178 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:59,720 Speaker 3: My my first groups that I have the privilege of, 179 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:01,800 Speaker 3: which was such a blessing. 180 00:11:03,640 --> 00:11:04,679 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. 181 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 3: I was so nervous too, which is so beautiful, because 182 00:11:10,360 --> 00:11:12,600 Speaker 3: what's so great about these groups is you get to 183 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:14,720 Speaker 3: come just as you are. So I could bring my 184 00:11:14,800 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 3: nerves and I could tell them. I could tell them 185 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 3: right out. And I knew by me sharing any of 186 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:24,440 Speaker 3: my weaknesses, my story and even where I was in 187 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:27,480 Speaker 3: the moment was going to be an invitation for them 188 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:31,520 Speaker 3: to share theirs. And so that's not how we meet 189 00:11:31,559 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 3: women out in the world today, Is it right to 190 00:11:36,160 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 3: me creating and fostering these groups of just wanting this 191 00:11:40,000 --> 00:11:43,560 Speaker 3: beautiful safe and I always call it it's our sacred space, 192 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:46,480 Speaker 3: and we always begin and we would pray and ask 193 00:11:46,480 --> 00:11:49,840 Speaker 3: the Holy Spirit into it, into this beautiful sacred space 194 00:11:50,520 --> 00:11:53,000 Speaker 3: where I think for many of us women, I know 195 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:56,280 Speaker 3: for me it was even as a group leader. 196 00:11:56,320 --> 00:11:57,000 Speaker 2: Now it's just. 197 00:11:57,679 --> 00:12:02,080 Speaker 3: Giving the opportunity to actually share in a vulnerable way 198 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:07,040 Speaker 3: without like the fear like you bring it that first time, right, 199 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 3: but the fear starts to melt away, right. I think 200 00:12:09,920 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 3: did you feel that too, Tephany. As you begin to share, 201 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:14,560 Speaker 3: and all of a sudden you're like, oh my gosh, 202 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:18,600 Speaker 3: and everyone looks different and has, you know, their own unique, 203 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 3: nuanced stories, and yet all of us are like shaking 204 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:25,480 Speaker 3: our heads along with one another, like I've been there, 205 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:28,240 Speaker 3: I've been there, and for the first time, you can 206 00:12:28,360 --> 00:12:33,320 Speaker 3: just see the nerves from like that day one meeting one. 207 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:37,440 Speaker 3: You can just see each progressive meeting the beautiful way. 208 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:40,840 Speaker 3: It's such a privilege to watch these women just grow 209 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:44,960 Speaker 3: and change and sort of like open up and some 210 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:49,560 Speaker 3: of those fears and things just melt away. It's really amazing. 211 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:53,160 Speaker 1: You said. Something I'm going to key in on, Tarah 212 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:56,719 Speaker 1: is that we don't relate to women like this, and 213 00:12:56,800 --> 00:13:00,559 Speaker 1: the real Teffany, had you ever shared any of the 214 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:01,920 Speaker 1: stuff with anyone else before? 215 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 2: No, some of it, I mean, our stories, but just 216 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:14,080 Speaker 2: how we felt about them was different. Because you know, 217 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 2: everybody talks about what diet they're doing, what exercise they're doing, 218 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:21,280 Speaker 2: so they're trying to but this was not about that. 219 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:27,200 Speaker 2: This was about how you were processing your struggles and 220 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 2: being really honest with because we were trying to to 221 00:13:31,160 --> 00:13:35,520 Speaker 2: really see it as you know, God sees things, and 222 00:13:36,200 --> 00:13:41,160 Speaker 2: so it was a different way of processing the issues 223 00:13:41,360 --> 00:13:44,680 Speaker 2: and so it was it was and it was a 224 00:13:44,760 --> 00:13:48,200 Speaker 2: different are you know, we were on different stages of life. 225 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:50,680 Speaker 2: Some of us had she had, you know, younger kids, 226 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:52,920 Speaker 2: some of us have grandkids, some of us, and so 227 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:56,400 Speaker 2: it was really amazing to see how we can all 228 00:13:56,440 --> 00:13:59,880 Speaker 2: support each other in the different phases of life and 229 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:04,800 Speaker 2: that it's still you know, a common ground that you 230 00:14:04,880 --> 00:14:08,680 Speaker 2: can all connect in. And so it was it was 231 00:14:08,880 --> 00:14:09,719 Speaker 2: very unique. 232 00:14:09,960 --> 00:14:13,319 Speaker 1: I have to say, yeah, yeah, I love that. I mean, 233 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 1: just as someone who has tried to coordinate these groups 234 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:18,960 Speaker 1: over the years, i mean sometimes it's been like there's 235 00:14:19,000 --> 00:14:22,720 Speaker 1: a group and it's like okay, everyone's over fifty and 236 00:14:22,920 --> 00:14:25,200 Speaker 1: you know, kind of the same life stage. And then 237 00:14:25,240 --> 00:14:27,480 Speaker 1: sometimes it's not been that way, and it's just been 238 00:14:27,520 --> 00:14:31,240 Speaker 1: really neat to see God work through both, right, because 239 00:14:31,240 --> 00:14:34,200 Speaker 1: there is, like you said, there's a beauty to being 240 00:14:34,240 --> 00:14:38,680 Speaker 1: able to be like, yeah, well I'm actually here and 241 00:14:39,640 --> 00:14:43,800 Speaker 1: I'm still struggling, or you know, hey, we're going to 242 00:14:43,840 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 1: struggle before you get to my age, or you know, 243 00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:50,800 Speaker 1: there's just different ways that we can encourage each other 244 00:14:52,080 --> 00:14:53,320 Speaker 1: no matter what stage we're in. 245 00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:56,600 Speaker 3: So I love that, Yeah, And I want to own 246 00:14:56,600 --> 00:14:59,360 Speaker 3: to hone in on what Timmy just said, the word unique. 247 00:14:59,400 --> 00:15:01,280 Speaker 3: And I love the you said that, Tefhaniqu because that 248 00:15:01,440 --> 00:15:04,520 Speaker 3: was my experience when I first when I began as 249 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:09,920 Speaker 3: a client as well. And I think that that's it's 250 00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 3: so funny listening to you know. There is no magic. 251 00:15:13,440 --> 00:15:16,040 Speaker 3: You know, there's no unicorn, there's no magic, And I 252 00:15:16,080 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 3: love I love you know now that reality is wonderful 253 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:22,840 Speaker 3: to kind of let go of that, right. But to 254 00:15:22,880 --> 00:15:24,440 Speaker 3: your point you said how they're like, oh, you know, 255 00:15:24,480 --> 00:15:26,400 Speaker 3: in the beginning, it can be sad, and then. 256 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:31,000 Speaker 2: There is this beautiful to use that word. 257 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 3: Magic that happens and it's it's Jesus, right, and it's 258 00:15:36,000 --> 00:15:38,920 Speaker 3: it's the Holy Spirit and it's God. And in the 259 00:15:39,000 --> 00:15:44,800 Speaker 3: way that Heather created this body, you know, freedom framework 260 00:15:45,080 --> 00:15:49,240 Speaker 3: is incredible. And so for the lessons that you guys 261 00:15:49,280 --> 00:15:52,320 Speaker 3: would do each week and just the amount of information 262 00:15:52,440 --> 00:15:54,640 Speaker 3: that was in there, it is so much and like 263 00:15:54,680 --> 00:15:57,480 Speaker 3: you said, it is it's a holy way of thinking, 264 00:15:57,560 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 3: a holy way of processing. It's so it really is 265 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:05,040 Speaker 3: a journey that's too much to walk alone. Right, And 266 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:09,720 Speaker 3: as we say, all the time. It's healing and growth, 267 00:16:10,000 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 3: you know, happens in community and God builds these beautiful relationships. 268 00:16:14,360 --> 00:16:17,760 Speaker 3: And I think unique is such an amazing word to. 269 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:19,080 Speaker 2: Use for these groups. 270 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:25,160 Speaker 3: Is because I experienced it as the client and realized 271 00:16:25,720 --> 00:16:28,240 Speaker 3: there is something magical. 272 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:28,960 Speaker 1: That happens in here. 273 00:16:29,160 --> 00:16:31,320 Speaker 3: You know, that kind of magic that the world talks 274 00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:34,040 Speaker 3: about doesn't exist, but we know what that magic is now. 275 00:16:34,120 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 1: We know that's God, that's the Holy Spirit that's happening. 276 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:42,280 Speaker 1: What was it like going through the Bodyment Freedom Framework? 277 00:16:42,400 --> 00:16:46,600 Speaker 1: So you had videos and things to do every week 278 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:48,360 Speaker 1: and then you came together in process. What was that 279 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:50,760 Speaker 1: like for you? Did it feel like a lot of work? Like? 280 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:55,600 Speaker 1: What did you experience as you walked through the course 281 00:16:55,680 --> 00:16:56,800 Speaker 1: in addition to the coaching. 282 00:16:57,760 --> 00:17:01,480 Speaker 2: Some of it felt hard because you really had to 283 00:17:01,560 --> 00:17:06,680 Speaker 2: think and some of it was reading verses and processing, 284 00:17:07,440 --> 00:17:12,200 Speaker 2: but thinking through some of the work was a little 285 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:15,439 Speaker 2: more challenging than others. But it wasn't hard in the 286 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:19,280 Speaker 2: sense of I didn't think I'd get through it right. 287 00:17:19,520 --> 00:17:23,119 Speaker 2: I felt like it was just something that I did 288 00:17:23,280 --> 00:17:27,520 Speaker 2: understand that being intentional with the time is what's going 289 00:17:27,560 --> 00:17:30,600 Speaker 2: to help me grow and not just you know, fly 290 00:17:30,720 --> 00:17:34,560 Speaker 2: through it and putting the time in is important, and 291 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:38,880 Speaker 2: so some of the topics were easier to go through 292 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:47,400 Speaker 2: than others, but overall it was very helpful. I say 293 00:17:47,440 --> 00:17:49,440 Speaker 2: this all the time because I want to go through 294 00:17:49,440 --> 00:17:52,080 Speaker 2: it again. I think going through it once is not enough, 295 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 2: and I haven't gone through it again. But I went 296 00:17:55,400 --> 00:17:58,200 Speaker 2: through their Body Image Freedom Framework. But then we also 297 00:17:58,359 --> 00:18:04,560 Speaker 2: did the Attunement and I was thinking, how could that 298 00:18:04,640 --> 00:18:07,679 Speaker 2: build on the Body Image Framework and Freedom Framework and 299 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:10,399 Speaker 2: it did. It was like Wow, all of it is 300 00:18:10,440 --> 00:18:14,879 Speaker 2: just so beneficial. And I still am working through it. 301 00:18:14,960 --> 00:18:17,000 Speaker 2: I'd have to say, I mean, it's a journey, like 302 00:18:17,040 --> 00:18:20,679 Speaker 2: you're never going to get to the end. But I 303 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:24,280 Speaker 2: felt like it was, uh get I get. Some of 304 00:18:24,320 --> 00:18:26,840 Speaker 2: it was easier to do, and some of it was 305 00:18:26,920 --> 00:18:29,240 Speaker 2: I felt like I really need to spend more time 306 00:18:29,280 --> 00:18:31,080 Speaker 2: and it just took longer. 307 00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, So just to kind of clarify for the listener, 308 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:39,119 Speaker 1: So you did the Body Ofage Freedom Framework, and then 309 00:18:39,119 --> 00:18:41,840 Speaker 1: we have a program that follows that called the Attendant Reset, 310 00:18:42,119 --> 00:18:47,200 Speaker 1: which is what Tehanie was referencing. And we invite graduates, 311 00:18:47,240 --> 00:18:50,800 Speaker 1: so we don't actually graduate you necessarily, but we invite 312 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:53,320 Speaker 1: those who have finished the Body of Wage Freedom Framework 313 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:56,840 Speaker 1: coaching course program to go into the Attendant Reset, which 314 00:18:56,840 --> 00:18:59,199 Speaker 1: focuses a little bit more on food. But our philosophy 315 00:18:59,200 --> 00:19:03,600 Speaker 1: here is that you're gonna have a much better Dare 316 00:19:03,600 --> 00:19:05,639 Speaker 1: I say easier? I don't know. That's probably not the 317 00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:07,840 Speaker 1: right word, but but it's going to be a more 318 00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:11,800 Speaker 1: effective journey if you work on your body stuff first. Now, 319 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:13,760 Speaker 1: some people do get away with working on their food 320 00:19:13,760 --> 00:19:16,440 Speaker 1: stuff first, but I think for the vast majority of 321 00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:19,119 Speaker 1: the population, working on the body stuff first allows you 322 00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:21,720 Speaker 1: to be freer when you start to work on the 323 00:19:21,760 --> 00:19:24,680 Speaker 1: food stuff, and that allows everything to stick a little 324 00:19:24,720 --> 00:19:27,000 Speaker 1: bit better. So that's kind of the process here. But 325 00:19:27,440 --> 00:19:30,920 Speaker 1: I want to know Tephany, like, Okay, see you've done 326 00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:33,399 Speaker 1: all these courses, you started the forty day, went all 327 00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 1: the way through, Like where are you now? Like how 328 00:19:35,840 --> 00:19:41,440 Speaker 1: are you feeling? Like? What has changed? What's your after story? 329 00:19:42,880 --> 00:19:47,400 Speaker 2: So I was thinking about that because I was like, well, 330 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:49,560 Speaker 2: what was it like? Because I started this about a 331 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:53,840 Speaker 2: year ago. Now it was a year ago in May, 332 00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:57,960 Speaker 2: and you know, when you're in it, you don't realize 333 00:19:58,080 --> 00:20:02,200 Speaker 2: the change, and so thinking back, I'm like, well, now 334 00:20:02,800 --> 00:20:05,639 Speaker 2: i feel like I'm at a place where I'm not 335 00:20:05,760 --> 00:20:10,840 Speaker 2: a different size, but I feel different about myself, like 336 00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:17,239 Speaker 2: I feel I'm not looking for a diet anymore. I 337 00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:21,879 Speaker 2: know that that's not the answer, I know, But at 338 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:24,399 Speaker 2: the same time, I know I want to treat my 339 00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:27,399 Speaker 2: body well, right. I want to take care of my body, 340 00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:29,359 Speaker 2: not because I want to be a certain size, but 341 00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:33,760 Speaker 2: just because God gave us a body to you know, 342 00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:37,280 Speaker 2: move and treat it well. So I'm still learning what 343 00:20:37,320 --> 00:20:40,320 Speaker 2: that looks like. I'm still figuring that out, but I 344 00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:46,760 Speaker 2: definitely am in a better place, especially because before so 345 00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:49,880 Speaker 2: I have two kids who got married within a year 346 00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:54,600 Speaker 2: of each other, and prior I started the body image 347 00:20:54,720 --> 00:21:00,159 Speaker 2: framework right before my first one got married, and it 348 00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:03,040 Speaker 2: helped me deal with the pictures and all that, because 349 00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:05,959 Speaker 2: I hated myself in pictures before. But then when I 350 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:10,239 Speaker 2: got to the weddings, especially this last wedding, it was 351 00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:14,159 Speaker 2: more of a I'm thankful for the moment, thankful for 352 00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:17,040 Speaker 2: the time, and not so hung up on how do 353 00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:20,520 Speaker 2: I look in these pictures, but remember, you know, just 354 00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:24,800 Speaker 2: enjoying the occasion and the fact that we can celebrate 355 00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:29,199 Speaker 2: my kids in this way, and I'm grateful for that. 356 00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:31,399 Speaker 2: I can see the shift in that, not that I 357 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 2: don't sometimes say, oh, you know, I would love to 358 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:38,359 Speaker 2: be dinner. But then I catch myself, I'm like, that's 359 00:21:38,480 --> 00:21:42,640 Speaker 2: not what's going to give you peace or joy, right, 360 00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:47,840 Speaker 2: And so I can I'm in a better place, for sure, 361 00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:51,480 Speaker 2: and I'm very grateful for that, and I'm still growing 362 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:56,080 Speaker 2: and learning. But I whenever I you know, we just 363 00:21:56,560 --> 00:22:01,000 Speaker 2: had the holidays and you see family, and it's no 364 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:04,520 Speaker 2: when people ask about, you know, oh what do you do, 365 00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:06,720 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I'm I don't diet anywhere. 366 00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:09,480 Speaker 1: That's I don't care about that anymore. 367 00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:13,560 Speaker 2: Now let's go, you know, have fun and play. I'll 368 00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:15,320 Speaker 2: do that, but I'm not going to think. You know, 369 00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:17,560 Speaker 2: I can tell there's been a shift, and I'm very 370 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:21,320 Speaker 2: grateful for that, and I want to keep going. I 371 00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:21,919 Speaker 2: want to keep that. 372 00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:25,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think, you know, that's one of the hardest things. 373 00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:28,800 Speaker 1: I think we have to explain when we talk about 374 00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:31,359 Speaker 1: this coaching program, and you know, terror maybe you can 375 00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:34,600 Speaker 1: jump in here too, but it's like I would love 376 00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:36,720 Speaker 1: to promise you that you'll be fixed at the end 377 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:39,440 Speaker 1: of twelve weeks or twenty four weeks and you'll never 378 00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:42,600 Speaker 1: think about your body again. But like any program that 379 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:44,960 Speaker 1: promises you that, be it a diet or any other 380 00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:49,240 Speaker 1: kind of program, it's just lying because this is going 381 00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:55,600 Speaker 1: to be to some level a struggle. But it's about 382 00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:57,760 Speaker 1: the kind of struggle, right, And what I hear you saying, 383 00:22:57,800 --> 00:23:01,959 Speaker 1: Tephany is Yeah, of course I would not be human 384 00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:05,480 Speaker 1: if I didn't have these thoughts, Right, you'd have to 385 00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:09,520 Speaker 1: live under a rock to be like, yeah, I've never 386 00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:12,199 Speaker 1: thought about how I look at pictures, right, Like, this 387 00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:15,960 Speaker 1: is not the culture we live in. But yet the 388 00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:20,560 Speaker 1: change that we're going for really is a change of focus. Right, 389 00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:22,560 Speaker 1: and hopefully at the end of if you give us 390 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:25,360 Speaker 1: twelve weeks, if you give us twenty weeks, Like, hopefully 391 00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:28,960 Speaker 1: at the end of that, our goal is really that 392 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:33,200 Speaker 1: you'll start to see things with a different perspective. Right, 393 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,080 Speaker 1: You'll see the body God gave you from a different perspective. 394 00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:40,800 Speaker 1: You'll see your struggle from a different perspective. You'll you'll 395 00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:47,080 Speaker 1: see the world through Kingdom glasses versus through cultures narrowly 396 00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:52,000 Speaker 1: defined you know, definitions, right, and so like, our goal 397 00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:56,480 Speaker 1: is really, I would say, simply to help you draw 398 00:23:56,520 --> 00:24:01,000 Speaker 1: closer to Jesus than this. Instead of battling it on 399 00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:04,280 Speaker 1: your own thinking. The solution is changing your body. I 400 00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:07,800 Speaker 1: mean teppaning was that your experience? Is that an outcome 401 00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:08,800 Speaker 1: you feel like you gained? 402 00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:15,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I really needed the guidance of the courses 403 00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:21,200 Speaker 2: and the coaching because it's so ingrained the old way 404 00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:24,120 Speaker 2: of thinking. It takes time to. 405 00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:27,560 Speaker 1: Shift and you need help. 406 00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:31,840 Speaker 2: I needed help to shift, and I'm still shifting. It's 407 00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:35,840 Speaker 2: not like I'm all the way there. But the biggest 408 00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:42,720 Speaker 2: blessing I got recently over Thanksgiving, my niece told me 409 00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:46,000 Speaker 2: how much she looked up to me as far as 410 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:51,760 Speaker 2: being a role model for her, and I realized it 411 00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:56,800 Speaker 2: was not my physical appearance that mattered, right, It was 412 00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:03,320 Speaker 2: the way I you know, loving God or encouraging her. 413 00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:05,800 Speaker 2: Being more confident in who God made me to be 414 00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 2: influences those around you. And it was just such a 415 00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:13,520 Speaker 2: blessing to hear that. I didn't even expect her to 416 00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:17,199 Speaker 2: say that to me, you know, because a teenager you 417 00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,480 Speaker 2: don't hear you don't expect those things from a teenager. 418 00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:21,000 Speaker 2: But the fact that she said that to me was 419 00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:23,520 Speaker 2: so huge, and I realized, God, when we get so 420 00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:28,920 Speaker 2: caught in our own head about how you know, negative thoughts. 421 00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:32,760 Speaker 2: It affects everyone around us. So when you shift, it's 422 00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,480 Speaker 2: not just helping you, but it's helping people around you too. 423 00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:40,480 Speaker 2: So anyway, it's been, it's been. I'm very grateful for 424 00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:44,280 Speaker 2: this journey, and I'm grateful because I want to be 425 00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:47,480 Speaker 2: a better example to my children, to my nieces, to 426 00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:51,240 Speaker 2: my nephews and not you know, I just want to 427 00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:54,280 Speaker 2: be a positive and a good role model for them 428 00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:55,119 Speaker 2: in this area. 429 00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:59,919 Speaker 1: Oh, I love that so much. I mean, boy, call 430 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:01,880 Speaker 1: Or has lied to us and told us the way 431 00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:04,080 Speaker 1: to get everyone to look up to you is to 432 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 1: wear a certain size and look a certain way. But 433 00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:11,399 Speaker 1: we all know that's not really what we're looking for. Yeah, 434 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:14,399 Speaker 1: and your niece prove that. I love that, Tara. You 435 00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:18,000 Speaker 1: have thoughts. I know you do. I see them, of course. 436 00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:20,159 Speaker 3: Oh there's never enough time to capture them all. I 437 00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:22,960 Speaker 3: have so many beautiful thoughts. I always think of this 438 00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:27,040 Speaker 3: journey and just the gratitude I share with Teffane. To 439 00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:29,080 Speaker 3: have been able to walk it as a client, and 440 00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:31,040 Speaker 3: to be able to walk through with these women is 441 00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:34,480 Speaker 3: just the greatest privilege. And as you were saying, hither too, 442 00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:38,879 Speaker 3: like the challenge with the coaching is just it's shifting 443 00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:42,600 Speaker 3: that false belief like we come in with so many 444 00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:44,879 Speaker 3: of them, you know, as Teffanie was saying, it's really 445 00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:48,920 Speaker 3: so ingrained. We have so many false beliefs, and one 446 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:55,040 Speaker 3: of them is that healing health freedom looks like never 447 00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:59,280 Speaker 3: thinking these thoughts again, never feeling bad, never being upset, 448 00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:03,720 Speaker 3: never wish your body was different. And that's that's what 449 00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:08,520 Speaker 3: culture tells us, but that's not what the reality is. 450 00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:10,919 Speaker 3: What it is And the word that kept coming to 451 00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:13,520 Speaker 3: me too when I was going through it was the power, 452 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,280 Speaker 3: the grip that it had on my life, the obsession, 453 00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:21,760 Speaker 3: what it stole from me, and my ability to serve God, 454 00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:26,800 Speaker 3: to love Him, to be able to you know exactly 455 00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,359 Speaker 3: what Tefani was just saying, to be a light to 456 00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:32,720 Speaker 3: those around her. You know how beautiful that could be. 457 00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:36,960 Speaker 3: That was all stifled. And the power that this has 458 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:40,080 Speaker 3: over us is so enormous. When we first come in, 459 00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:44,840 Speaker 3: and I remember very early on, I couldn't really believe 460 00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:47,879 Speaker 3: a lot of the truth. So your voice, Heather, was 461 00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,679 Speaker 3: the truth that I needed to hear to believe. And 462 00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:53,879 Speaker 3: then over time, as that power and the Holy Spirit 463 00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:56,720 Speaker 3: works on us and we begin to receive the love 464 00:27:56,760 --> 00:28:01,560 Speaker 3: of Jesus, that grip breaks down, and what it turns 465 00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:05,399 Speaker 3: into is our own voice begins to speak the truth 466 00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:09,040 Speaker 3: to us, and all of a sudden, the struggle feels 467 00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:12,640 Speaker 3: a little lighter because as we know, you know John 468 00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:16,800 Speaker 3: sixteen thirty three is one of my favorite and hardest scriptures, 469 00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:18,639 Speaker 3: is that in this world we will have trials for 470 00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:19,800 Speaker 3: reulations and. 471 00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:21,880 Speaker 2: There will be. 472 00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:25,280 Speaker 3: Hard times, but it's how much what do we do 473 00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:27,560 Speaker 3: with those hard times when they come? And what truth 474 00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:31,760 Speaker 3: are we speaking back? And that is what this journey brought. 475 00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:34,320 Speaker 3: And oh my gosh, it's just to hear Teffany in 476 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:39,040 Speaker 3: her story, like I just I have chills because remembering 477 00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:42,280 Speaker 3: from that day one and going through and as I 478 00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:44,560 Speaker 3: always say to anyone that I work with, like at 479 00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:47,240 Speaker 3: any point in any time, if you need me, like 480 00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:49,400 Speaker 3: I'm here, you call like and just as you do, 481 00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:51,920 Speaker 3: Heathery're like, we'll do a one on one her group. 482 00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:54,120 Speaker 3: We all met as a group and checked in with 483 00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:57,240 Speaker 3: each other and stay connected. I even have the beautiful 484 00:28:57,240 --> 00:29:00,400 Speaker 3: privilege of meeting Teffany in person, which was amazing because 485 00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:02,640 Speaker 3: we don't live near each other, but she ends up 486 00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:05,040 Speaker 3: having a brother right around the corner from where I live, 487 00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:08,600 Speaker 3: and we got to meet in person and actually hug 488 00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:12,640 Speaker 3: one another, and it was such a gift in her journey, 489 00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:15,360 Speaker 3: in watching her grow has been amazing, and the one 490 00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:18,040 Speaker 3: thing she did was kind of going back to her 491 00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:20,400 Speaker 3: just being here telling her story. She's so brave, like 492 00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:23,440 Speaker 3: even when it got really hard, even when the struggle 493 00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:27,760 Speaker 3: felt overwhelming, because in the beginning it does, she's still 494 00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:30,640 Speaker 3: trusted and she showed up and she was always willing 495 00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:35,880 Speaker 3: with an open heart. And now to hear that you 496 00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 3: can stop the you know, the spiral from happening, right, 497 00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:39,960 Speaker 3: that's what we all of us want. 498 00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:40,600 Speaker 1: It's like we all have. 499 00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:42,719 Speaker 3: Those days where we glance, we look in the mirror, 500 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:44,520 Speaker 3: we think, oh, yeah, it'd be great to be thinner, 501 00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:47,600 Speaker 3: and then to know not only no with your head, 502 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:50,560 Speaker 3: but no with your heart. And that's not where the 503 00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:53,280 Speaker 3: freedom is. That's not what makes me loved and valued. 504 00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:55,600 Speaker 3: It's so good to hear you say that. 505 00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so I guess in some ways happening here 506 00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:04,720 Speaker 1: my grandchild, Yes, yes, exactly. Kara was my first, one 507 00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:06,960 Speaker 1: of my first or well nut firsts, but an early 508 00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:10,960 Speaker 1: client too, my daughter in this journey, and then for 509 00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:17,240 Speaker 1: her to be carrying on the coaching and coaching you yeah, 510 00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:19,440 Speaker 1: and I just, you know, to kind of reiterate with 511 00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:20,960 Speaker 1: that's her. I don't know how to make it maybe 512 00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:27,560 Speaker 1: even more plain rights. It's the difference between I see 513 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:33,040 Speaker 1: a picture of myself at my child's wedding or gradual PII, 514 00:30:33,560 --> 00:30:35,640 Speaker 1: or I don't know. I was out with friends and 515 00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,120 Speaker 1: for some reason someone had to take a picture of us, 516 00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:41,880 Speaker 1: I don't know why. And I see that picture and 517 00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:45,960 Speaker 1: I either immediately hear all of that shame and condemnation 518 00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:51,160 Speaker 1: and spend the next day thinking about it, and then 519 00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:53,800 Speaker 1: the next day thinking about it more and trying to 520 00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:57,720 Speaker 1: figure out how to starve myself or get liposeuction. That 521 00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:01,000 Speaker 1: still a thing. I don't know, you like, I'm figuring 522 00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:04,640 Speaker 1: out all the things to do right, and it consumes 523 00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:07,320 Speaker 1: me for a week or weeks or months, or it 524 00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:10,520 Speaker 1: doesn't stop consuming me because I stay obsessed, and then 525 00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:12,520 Speaker 1: someone else takes the picture and it happens again, and 526 00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:15,640 Speaker 1: they just keep spiraling and spiraling. It's the difference between 527 00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:21,400 Speaker 1: that and I see the picture and I think, oh, man, boy, 528 00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:24,600 Speaker 1: a little older and a little rounder than I had 529 00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:31,200 Speaker 1: hoped I would look in this photograph. Oh well, yeah, 530 00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:34,760 Speaker 1: that's still got something for me to do. I got 531 00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:38,320 Speaker 1: other important stuff to do. I got important stuff he 532 00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:41,760 Speaker 1: wants me to be after this week like I, like 533 00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:44,240 Speaker 1: you said, Tephanie, like I can take time to take 534 00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:49,160 Speaker 1: care of my body. But man, chasin chasin' that ideal image. 535 00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:53,560 Speaker 1: I know where that leads, and it's nowhere. It's nowhere 536 00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:59,920 Speaker 1: with light at least. So yeah, if you were listening 537 00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:02,800 Speaker 1: today and you're like, man, I wonder what it would 538 00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:05,840 Speaker 1: be like to feel like that spiral could stop. I 539 00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:08,080 Speaker 1: don't think it's possible for the spiral to spot. You 540 00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:10,560 Speaker 1: don't know how much I spiral? Oh friend, we know 541 00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:16,120 Speaker 1: how much is spiral? So come on in the Latter's fine. 542 00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:21,680 Speaker 1: We can help, We really can. Tephanie, any other thoughts 543 00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:24,120 Speaker 1: from your journey or just you know, anything you feel 544 00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:28,080 Speaker 1: like you'd want to say. Don't encourage someone listening today, Well. 545 00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:31,960 Speaker 2: One, I want to encourage them to come on this journey. 546 00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:37,080 Speaker 2: It is definitely a blessing and it gets you started, 547 00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:42,160 Speaker 2: and it helps you head into the best direction, and 548 00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:45,400 Speaker 2: that's closer to the Lord and how he sees you. 549 00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:49,160 Speaker 2: And so I'm very grateful that I took this journey 550 00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:53,480 Speaker 2: and and now just to say the fact that I 551 00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:56,720 Speaker 2: can even say what I said of where I'm now, 552 00:32:57,520 --> 00:33:01,840 Speaker 2: I never thought I would get there. So I can't 553 00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:06,760 Speaker 2: wait to see where God will keep taking me. But 554 00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:13,120 Speaker 2: it's it's been really encouraging, and I hope this encourages 555 00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:14,880 Speaker 2: someone to take that step. 556 00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:18,360 Speaker 1: I appreciate you saying that so much. Stepani. I love 557 00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:21,680 Speaker 1: I love those kind of testimonies. They make me get 558 00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:22,200 Speaker 1: choked up. 559 00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:28,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, para your final thought, same feeling like I'm a 560 00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:30,640 Speaker 4: little a little choked up now too, And I think 561 00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:32,840 Speaker 4: that's one of the hardest things and one of the 562 00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:36,200 Speaker 4: most beautiful things of this is I get to watch 563 00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:41,200 Speaker 4: and see and and just walk with and hold hands 564 00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:42,960 Speaker 4: with these women and. 565 00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:47,480 Speaker 3: I truly, I mean everyone that I get to cross 566 00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:50,680 Speaker 3: pathwords I'm praying for and then to see what God 567 00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:54,560 Speaker 3: does is so incredible. And I love it when they 568 00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:56,960 Speaker 3: don't need me anymore, and yet I hate it when 569 00:33:56,960 --> 00:34:00,640 Speaker 3: they don't need me anymore because we build these beautiful relations. 570 00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:03,120 Speaker 3: And the great thing is is you know, I will 571 00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:06,120 Speaker 3: forever be checking in with Tephany and just hearing about 572 00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:11,200 Speaker 3: her because because it's incredible. It's incredible what God's done 573 00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:18,279 Speaker 3: with her. And so it's just a privilege to have 574 00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:21,600 Speaker 3: been able to be your client, Heather, and now to 575 00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:25,000 Speaker 3: be able to take what you gave to me and 576 00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:27,680 Speaker 3: again use my story to share it for God's glory. 577 00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:30,160 Speaker 3: And now I see Teffany and she's going to get 578 00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:32,440 Speaker 3: get to go out and do the same thing. And 579 00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:35,520 Speaker 3: this is Kingdom work, Like, there's nothing more beautiful than this. 580 00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:39,200 Speaker 3: So I'm just I feel so overwhelmed with gratitude to 581 00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:39,839 Speaker 3: be a part of this. 582 00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:44,799 Speaker 1: Yes, And then so the moral of the story is 583 00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:49,160 Speaker 1: if you've said to yourself, yeah, this is one area 584 00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:51,680 Speaker 1: God I'll never touch. I'm never going to be different, 585 00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:55,399 Speaker 1: that's just a lie, friend, that's just an enemy lyon 586 00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:57,400 Speaker 1: in your ear, just like you're lying about all the 587 00:34:57,400 --> 00:35:02,000 Speaker 1: other things. It doesn't have to be that. God does 588 00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:06,280 Speaker 1: want you to be free, and you can have that freedom. 589 00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:10,120 Speaker 1: It's not elusive. It's not only for Tephany and Tara, 590 00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:14,600 Speaker 1: It's for you too. So we have a forty day 591 00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:18,239 Speaker 1: journey starting in just about a week. You can go 592 00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:21,880 Speaker 1: to Improvefidamins dot com look for the forty Day Journey 593 00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:24,399 Speaker 1: tab you can find up there. We would love to 594 00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:28,360 Speaker 1: have you join us. That group bit to Ben's normally 595 00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:32,200 Speaker 1: twenty thirty forty fifty women are a part of that group, 596 00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:35,320 Speaker 1: so that's a larger group. And then it's Tephany explained, 597 00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:37,920 Speaker 1: you know, she went on to smaller group coaching, and 598 00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:40,520 Speaker 1: that's an option for anyone who goes through the forty 599 00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:43,400 Speaker 1: day journey, and then eventually you can find yourself in 600 00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:45,919 Speaker 1: the attainment reset too. If food is a place where 601 00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:47,959 Speaker 1: you need a little bit extra support, but the place 602 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,160 Speaker 1: to start is a forty day journey, and I really 603 00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,200 Speaker 1: hope that you'll consider joining us for that. It's only 604 00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,799 Speaker 1: fifty nine dollars, Like, that's less than ten bucks a week. 605 00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:57,800 Speaker 1: Come on, that's cheaper than Starbucks. Now if you get 606 00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:01,279 Speaker 1: you know, cocaa milk and a shot of vanilla and 607 00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:03,080 Speaker 1: caramel and all the other things that I get in 608 00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:08,240 Speaker 1: my Starbuck shrink, it's way cheaper than that. So please 609 00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:12,440 Speaker 1: consider being brave like Tephany, She's led the way and 610 00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:15,480 Speaker 1: joining us on that journey. Tephany, Tara, thank you so 611 00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:19,000 Speaker 1: much for me on the show today. Oh, thank you, 612 00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:23,239 Speaker 1: thank you, and thank you for listening today. I hope 613 00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:27,759 Speaker 1: something today has helped you stop comparing and cooling. Bye. 614 00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:30,959 Speaker 1: Bye compared to podcasts. It's proudly part of the Life 615 00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:34,239 Speaker 1: Audio podcast Network. 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