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Speaker 2: When someone you love is living with PTSD, it can

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Speaker 2: leave you feeling helpless, confused, and afraid of saying or

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Speaker 2: doing the wrong thing. You want to help, but what

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Speaker 2: if your well intended words make things worse. In honor

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Speaker 2: of PTSD Awareness Month, on today's episode of Your Hope

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Speaker 2: Field Perspective, we will address the questions so many caregivers, spouses,

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Speaker 2: friends and family members quietly ask, like how do I

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Speaker 2: support someone with PTSD, what helps, what hurts? And how

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Speaker 2: do I walk with them without losing myself. This conversation

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Speaker 2: offers practical guidance, psychological insight, and biblical hope for anyone

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Speaker 2: living with someone who's gone through trauma. On a recent

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Speaker 2: episode of Your Hope Field Perspective, I offered an episode

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Speaker 2: discussing understanding PTSD, what it is, what it isn't, and

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Speaker 2: how God meets us in the aftermath of trauma. If

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Speaker 2: you haven't listened to that episode, I encourage you to

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Speaker 2: go back and listen to the insights offered there. But

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Speaker 2: we want to continue this important discussion, so today we

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Speaker 2: will be talking about how to help a loved one

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Speaker 2: who is struggling with PTSD, what to do and what

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Speaker 2: not to do. Welcome to your Hope Field perspective or

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Speaker 2: it's always our goal to restore hope, renew minds, and

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Speaker 2: empowered listeners to live in your God given identity. I'm

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Speaker 2: your host, doctor Michelle Banks and board certified clinical neuropsychologist, author, speaker,

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Speaker 2: and perhaps more importantly, companion on the journey to mental, emotional,

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Speaker 2: and spiritual wellness. I'm always so grateful when you spend

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Speaker 2: a few minutes of your week with us. Today's an

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Speaker 2: important conversation that I just don't think we talk about enough.

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Speaker 2: We're going to talk about how to help a loved

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Speaker 2: one who's struggling with PTSD, what to do and what

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Speaker 2: not to do. Right after this brief word from our sponsor,

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Speaker 2: post traumatic stress disorder doesn't just affect the person who

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Speaker 2: experienced the trauma, It impacts everyone who loves them. If

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Speaker 2: you've ever felt like you're walking on eggshells, unsure of

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Speaker 2: how to respond to a loved one's mood changes, triggers withdrawal,

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Speaker 2: or emotional shutdown, this episode is for you in recognition

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Speaker 2: a PTSD Awareness Month. Today on your Hope Field perspective,

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Speaker 2: we are going to address a topic that affects far

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Speaker 2: more people than we often realize. We will unpack what

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Speaker 2: it really looks like to help a loved one who

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Speaker 2: is struggling with post traumatic stress disorder, what to do,

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Speaker 2: what not to do, and how God meets both the

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Speaker 2: wounded and those who walk beside them in the aftermath

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Speaker 2: of trauma. Joining me for this important discussion is my

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Speaker 2: co host, jessic gunbnrukol Oh. Welcome back, Jess, Thank you.

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Speaker 3: I'm happy to be here. And if you're listening today

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Speaker 3: because someone you love has been changed by trauma and

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Speaker 3: you're not sure how to support them without making things worse,

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Speaker 3: this episode is for you. As I've thought about this

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Speaker 3: episode and the importance it holds not only for those

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Speaker 3: for them, I'm reminded of Romans Chapter fifteen, Verse one,

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Speaker 3: We who are strong ought to bear with the failings

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Speaker 3: of the week, and not to please ourselves. I see

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Speaker 3: this verse as a call to compassionate sacrificial support without judgment.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, and before we go any further, I just want

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Speaker 2: to clarify. I love that verse, and we are not

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Speaker 2: saying that if you struggle with PTSD that you are

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Speaker 2: weak or you are failing. Please don't hear that. What

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Speaker 2: we really feel is that we need to come alongside

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Speaker 2: those who are struggling because it's not your choice, it's

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Speaker 2: not something you've done wrong, and we want to be

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Speaker 2: part of the link with others to build you up

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Speaker 2: and support you. Thinking of the truth in Isaiah forty two,

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Speaker 2: verse three, a bruised read he will not break, and

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Speaker 2: I like that verse and I think it's so applicable,

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Speaker 2: Jess for the conversation that we're having today is because

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Speaker 2: God's gentleness towards the traumatized sets the model for our support.

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Speaker 2: BTSD doesn't just affect the person who experienced the trauma.

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Speaker 2: It impacts relationships and families, marriages, friendships, and even faith communities.

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Speaker 2: So today we're going to talk about what actually helps,

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Speaker 2: what unintentionally hurts, and how God meets both the traumatized

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Speaker 3: Okay, this is going to be a great episode, So

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Speaker 3: let's start right where many of our listeners live. Some say,

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Speaker 3: the trauma happened to my loved one, but it feels

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Speaker 3: like it changed our relationship From a clinical perspective, why

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Speaker 2: That's a very important first question because it helps remove

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Speaker 2: Trauma physically changes how the brain and body respond to

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Speaker 2: we've talked about this before, the amygdala. It becomes overactive

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Speaker 2: I was once involved in a bad car accident when

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Speaker 2: I was doing my fellowship at Henry Ford Hospital in

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Speaker 2: as if I was trying to break And that's what

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Speaker 2: can look like withdrawal, irritability, or emotional distance in a

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Speaker 3: So what you're saying, then, is when a spouse or

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Speaker 3: family member says they're just not the same anymore, that's

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Speaker 2: That's very real. Trauma changes how someone experiences the world

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Speaker 2: I really want listeners to hear is this change does

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Speaker 2: the beautiful thing about how God designed our brains is

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Speaker 3: Okay, this is so interesting and hopeful. Now let's talk

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Speaker 3: about fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. I know that we

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Speaker 3: hear terms like fight or flight, but we don't always

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Speaker 3: know what that looks like in real life. Will you

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Speaker 3: walk through how these trauma responses show up relationally?

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Speaker 2: Sure, and this is so helpful for loved ones to understand.

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Speaker 2: When the brain perceives danger, it automatically activates survival responses,

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Speaker 2: and these responses happen before logic kicks in. In my

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Speaker 2: it automatically activated the survival response, clutching the door handle

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Speaker 2: I could even think about it. In fact, I didn't

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Speaker 2: are you not feeling safe with how I'm driving? And

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Speaker 2: it clicked. No, it really wasn't about her driving. It's

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Speaker 2: to me again. So fight can look like irritability, anger, defensiveness,

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Speaker 2: or quick emotional reactions. A loved one may seem oh

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Speaker 2: because their nervous system is braced for threat. Light often

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Speaker 2: shows up as avoidance. They may pull away from conversations,

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Speaker 2: Avoidance is really the brain's attempt to escape anything that

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Speaker 2: system just shuts down. This can look like emotional numbness, silence, disassociation,

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Speaker 2: like they're here, but they're not really here. And then

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Speaker 2: there's fawn, which is less talked about. Fawn responses involve

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Speaker 3: This is so incredibly helpful because many people listening might

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Speaker 3: recognize these patterns but didn't realize they were trauma responses exactly.

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Speaker 2: And when we name these responses accurately, we help reduce

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Speaker 3: Wow. Now, another thing loved ones mentioned is feeling like

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Speaker 3: they're walking on eggshells. Why does that happen with PTSD?

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Speaker 2: That's often due to what we call hypervigilance. Hypervigilance means

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Speaker 2: that the nervous system is stuck on hyghlert, so a

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Speaker 2: person maybe easily startled sensitive to noise or sensitive to

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Speaker 2: ones Jess, this can feel confusing because something small like

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Speaker 2: isn't about the present moment, it's about the past danger

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Speaker 2: being re experienced within the body. Now, on the other

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Speaker 2: and this is when the brain damns our emotional response altogether. Joy, affection, excitement,

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Speaker 2: as indifference, but it's not. It's actually the brain trying

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Speaker 3: Wow. So what I'm hearing you say is that the

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Speaker 3: same brain that shuts down pain can also shut down pleasure.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely. Trauma doesn't selectively numb, it blunts across the board.

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Speaker 3: So one of the most painful things for supporters is

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Speaker 3: feeling pushed away. Why does PTSD often lead to relational withdrawal?

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Speaker 2: At its core, it's because trauma disrupts trust, both trust

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Speaker 2: in God. Relationships to be close require vulnerability, and vulnerability

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Speaker 2: feels dangerous to a traumatized nervous system, So relational withdrawal

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Speaker 2: is often an unconscious attempt to maintain safety. If I

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Speaker 2: don't get close, I can't be hurt. Unfortunately, that protective

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Speaker 2: strategy can leave loved ones feeling rejected or shut out,

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Speaker 2: even though the desire for connection is still there underneath

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Speaker 3: All right, so you've given us a lot of really

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Speaker 3: good information. Now if you could give loved ones one

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Speaker 3: clinical reframe that could change how they interpret these behaviors.

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Speaker 3: What would it be?

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Speaker 2: I would say this, PTS behaviors are not about a

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Speaker 2: lack of love. They're about a lack of felt safety.

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Speaker 2: So when supporters understand that, it helps to shift the

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Speaker 2: question from why are they doing this to me? To

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Speaker 2: what might their nervousness and be experiencing right now? That

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Speaker 2: receive it as a personal attack that it helps us

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Speaker 2: to understand what they are experiencing that often they don't

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Speaker 2: don't realize what they're doing. Friends, I think this is

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Speaker 2: a really important conversation about how to help love a

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Speaker 3: All right, well, welcome back to this episode on helping

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Speaker 2: The most important place to start is with presence over

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Speaker 3: Oh so okay. So many listeners feel stuck here. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Welcome back to your hope Field perspective, where we are

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Speaker 3: But unintentionally causes harm. Michelle, what are the common mistakes

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Speaker 2: The most common mistakes come from misunderstanding trauma. So let's

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Speaker 2: Oh? Those statements minimize the nervous system's reality. Trauma healing

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Speaker 2: By remembering that trauma responses are about perceived threat, not rejection.

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Speaker 3: Helpers often slide into this role without realizing it, don't they.

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Speaker 3: Thank you. What hope filled perspective? Would you like to

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Speaker 2: I want you to remember this. Loving someone with PTSD

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Speaker 2: We know that trauma tends to isolate, but scripture affirms

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Speaker 1: Your ragged and torn past may be the key to

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