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Speaker 1: a lot of these young ladies have competing pressures right now.

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Speaker 1: I ask good questions. Yes, I do this for Eles.

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Speaker 1: Charlie kirkshak you guys liking these questions.

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Speaker 1: So God bless you. Thank you so much, and Shabat

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Speaker 1: shalum tonight.

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Speaker 7: Hi Charlie and Erica. My name is Savannah. This is

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Speaker 7: Lilah Esther and we have another one on the way

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Speaker 7: in January. So I did find my godly Man and

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Speaker 7: we are.

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Speaker 1: Making more babies.

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Speaker 8: My question for you is, we want to have a

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Speaker 8: lot of kids, and I'm wondering what your best advice

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Speaker 8: is for young couples with small children on how to

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Speaker 8: prioritize and nurture their marriage. Amiss the busy day to

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Speaker 8: day life of kids.

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Speaker 2: That's a very good question because your marriage came first,

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Speaker 2: and your husband is very important. Because your kids, you're

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Speaker 2: raising them to fly, You're raising them to leave the nest,

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Speaker 2: they'll always come back.

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Speaker 3: And once they do.

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Speaker 2: I think that's why people get empty nest syndrome, because

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Speaker 2: they look at their husband in an empty living room

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Speaker 2: and they're like, who are you?

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Speaker 3: I have to relearn you. You want to grow with

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Speaker 3: your husband.

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Speaker 2: That is going to be very acrobatic at times, even

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Speaker 2: if that means locking yourself in a closet with your

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Speaker 2: husband for just an hour to say, can I breathe

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Speaker 2: with you? Can I just five minutes? Can I just

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Speaker 2: have a second to look at you. Something that Charlie

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Speaker 2: does that's really sweet that I love is that sometimes,

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Speaker 2: especially when he's traveling, we don't obviously we figure out

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Speaker 2: the dynamic.

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Speaker 3: Of at least having a date night at least once

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Speaker 3: a month at least, but there will be moments.

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Speaker 2: Where he's literally about to rush out the door and

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Speaker 2: I won't see him for several days. Kids are wreaking

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Speaker 2: havoc in the kitchen, pulling things out all over, and

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Speaker 2: he just and he's like one minute and we just

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Speaker 2: literally stare at each other for a minute and say like,

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Speaker 2: I love you, whatever you need to say, but you

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Speaker 2: just we have that one minute together to reset our hearts.

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Speaker 2: And honestly, that is something that we that helps recharge

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Speaker 2: the bucket until you get that date night. So just

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Speaker 2: being really intentional about little moments that will build into

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Speaker 2: a greater good for the relationship.

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Speaker 1: But I know you I agree with all that. Just

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Speaker 1: prioritize obviously your marriage actually comes before your kids. I

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Speaker 1: know that's a provocative thing to say, but it's true.

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Speaker 1: Your relationship with your kids is important, yes, but it's

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Speaker 1: not covenantal right, it's your Your marriage is a covenant.

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Speaker 1: Your relationship with your kids is an outgrowth of a covenant.

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Speaker 1: They're under your stewardship. But covenantal relationships are ones that

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Speaker 1: we saw with Abraham and David and Israel and of

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Speaker 1: course Jesus. That idea of marriage being a covenant is

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Speaker 1: a big, big deal. In fact, only marriage in the

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Speaker 1: Bible is compared to Christ's relationship with the Church. So

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Speaker 1: always prioritize your marriage. Thank you.

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Speaker 9: lifetime of knowledge with his viewers. Viewers who listen, discuss

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Speaker 9: the thank you from a stranger halfway across the world.

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Speaker 9: TikTok is a place where respect opens the door for discussion,

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Speaker 10: Hi.

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Speaker 11: My name is Lindsay Cameron. I'm eighteen years old and

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Speaker 11: I was homeschool and I.

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Speaker 3: Just graduated high school.

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Speaker 11: And with graduating high school comes to question of so

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Speaker 11: what are you going to do?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And to be honest in.

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Speaker 11: My career, like I want to be a mom and

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Speaker 11: I want to have kids, and I want to homeschool

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Speaker 11: them and I want to stay at home with them,

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Speaker 11: and that's just not a really acceptable answer. And I'm

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Speaker 11: struggling to really know what i want to do in

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Speaker 11: the meantime while I'm waiting to get married and have

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Speaker 11: kids because I'm not dating and I don't see anybody

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Speaker 11: that I really want to date, and so I'm just

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Speaker 11: I have a lot of friends who are in this

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Speaker 11: same position too, of being in this weird waiting period

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Speaker 11: where I don't want to go to college and I

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Speaker 11: don't want to commit to a career that I know

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Speaker 11: that I'm going to abandon once.

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Speaker 3: I have kids.

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Speaker 11: So I was just wondering if you'll had any advice

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Speaker 11: for that, and if you had any advice with dealing

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Speaker 11: with criticism, because I'm having some from an extended family.

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Speaker 2: What I know, we talked about don't follow your don't

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Speaker 2: follow your heart and all that.

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Speaker 1: Don't follow your heart. It's a bad idea to do that,

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Speaker 1: you laugh, but the Bible is very clear the heart

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Speaker 1: is wicked.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, do not.

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Speaker 1: Follow your heart. Your talents, right, Yes, that's correct. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, so look, what are you good at?

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Speaker 3: What are you talented at? I love people.

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Speaker 11: I love talking to people all the time and honestly

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Speaker 11: turning point usay like Alex Clark has really shaped my life.

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Speaker 11: I got really into culture of Popcario. It's kind of

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Speaker 11: change my life. And I mean, I would love to

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Speaker 11: get involved in health and wellness, but I feel like

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Speaker 11: there's not a really clear path for a career in that.

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Speaker 11: I feel like most people just kind of happen to

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Speaker 11: fall into it because of life circumstances. And I don't

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Speaker 11: really know where to start for that.

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Speaker 1: You'd be surprised. I mean, like, so I could give

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Speaker 1: you a million ideas, but the first thing is you're

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Speaker 1: already thinking about this correctly, which is your aim. You

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Speaker 1: got your aim right, which is important. And by the way,

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Speaker 1: if your aim is career, I'm not saying that's bad.

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Speaker 1: At least you are clear. Don't confuse yourself of your aim.

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Speaker 1: We are aiming creatures. We need something to point at.

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Speaker 1: I mean, look, there's a million things you could do.

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Speaker 1: You could work at a mobile IVY clinic right as

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Speaker 1: an administrator. Like, there's a lot of stuff you could

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Speaker 1: do in that kind of maha space. I would are

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Speaker 1: you from Texas? I'm guessing yeah, from here? Okay, yeah, great,

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Speaker 1: And Dallas actually has a huge infrastructure of like New

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Speaker 1: Maha small businesses. You could work at those kind of

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Speaker 1: around that kind of genre and that outreach. I will

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Speaker 1: say though, that don't if you find your future husband

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Speaker 1: and he is godly and it passes premarital counseling, which

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Speaker 1: Eric is exactly right, do not appease extended family. You

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Speaker 1: only really have one thing to worry about, which is

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Speaker 1: the fear of the Lord. Right now, let me just

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Speaker 1: can we riff on premarital counseling for a second. It's very,

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Speaker 1: very important and it shouldn't get a bad taboo. If

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Speaker 1: you are anybody currently engaged right now, I'm sure there's

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Speaker 1: some Okay, awesome, praise the Lord. It's amazing. Aren't you

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Speaker 1: from Canada or something? Yeah, I remember you you found

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Speaker 1: a husband. We'll talk in a second. We'll talk in

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Speaker 1: a second. I remember. That's great. I hope you did

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Speaker 1: not find your partner here at y WLS. I hope you.

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Speaker 1: I'm kidding. So now I'm kidding. I'm kidding. I'm kidding.

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Speaker 1: So at SaaS right, So primaral counseling, who's going to

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Speaker 1: control the finances, Who's going to wake up in the

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Speaker 1: middle of the night if the kid has an issue.

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Speaker 1: Are you gonna have kids? How many kids are you

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Speaker 1: gonna raise the kids Protestant or Catholic? Are you going

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Speaker 1: to read the Bible? Are you Here's a good question

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Speaker 1: in premarital counseling that most won't ask, and you got

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Speaker 1: this will save you a lot of problems. Are you

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Speaker 1: a open or closed house? Who here grew up in

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Speaker 1: an open house where all the kids would come by

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Speaker 1: in the neighborhood. You know what I'm talking about, right?

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Speaker 1: How many of you was raised in a closed house

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Speaker 1: where your parents? Okay, it's important, though, Has anyone ever

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Speaker 1: told you when you look in a spouse to ask

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Speaker 1: that question? Were you raised in an open or closed house?

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Speaker 1: It's incredibly important because all of a sudden, if you raise,

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Speaker 1: if you if you marry an open house person. This

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Speaker 1: was not an issue for us, thankfully at all, but

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Speaker 1: I've seen it destroy marriages, and they've recovered some not

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Speaker 1: an open house person marries a closed house person, they

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Speaker 1: get married, they're inviting all their friends over all the time,

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Speaker 1: barbecue open up. The closed house person is like, this

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Speaker 1: is crazy. I wasn't raised like this and none of

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Speaker 1: that gets filtered in the engagement. That's one of like

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Speaker 1: a hundred questions that would be a good book. We

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Speaker 1: could write one hundred questions you should ask before you

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Speaker 1: get married, right, that would be a good book.

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Speaker 3: But go ahead, No, no, no, I was just saying

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Speaker 3: the home is sacred.

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Speaker 1: I could go on, but that's like you just have

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Speaker 1: to What premarital counseling should do, which it does a

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Speaker 1: bad job of in most churches, is you must really

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Speaker 1: know the nature of your spouse introvert extrovert. What is

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Speaker 1: their love language? Right? Do they need time alone? Do

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Speaker 1: they get filled up when you spend time with them,

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Speaker 1: or when they come home and they're beat down and

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Speaker 1: they need time alone. Here's a good one that almost

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Speaker 1: no pastor will ever tell tell you. What is a

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Speaker 1: vice that your spouse struggles with, and what is an

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Speaker 1: acceptable vice and an unacceptable vice. So, for example, an

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Speaker 1: acceptable device might be that you'll allow alcohol. We don't drink, right,

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Speaker 1: so that for us. I'm not saying you have to

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Speaker 1: do that, but for us, that's what works. So it's

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Speaker 1: not even a question. Some men like cigars. I think

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Speaker 1: they smell like, you know, dead raccoons, But that's fine.

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Speaker 1: Are you willing to smell a cigar? Have you ever

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Speaker 1: smelled a cigar? Will your house be able to withstand

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Speaker 1: cigar smoke? Inside? You're laughing? This is the stuff that

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Speaker 1: breaks apart marriages. This is the stuff that creates isolation,

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Speaker 1: and it must be flushed out in the engagement period,

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Speaker 1: not in the honeymoon period or two years in and

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Speaker 1: so other vices, which is like, you know, we're not

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Speaker 1: gonna watch R rated movies or we're not gonna swear.

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Speaker 1: You'd be amazed at how many marriages all of a sudden,

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Speaker 1: you know, the husband's just drop an F bomb. She's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, Like,

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Speaker 1: we don't do that around here? You see this? Who's

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Speaker 1: gonna cook? Right? What does it mean to take time off?

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Speaker 1: Here's another one? What type of vacations are you guys

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Speaker 1: going to take? This is very important?

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 1: What I should write the book?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Right, but no, but think about it. Because Erica grew

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Speaker 1: up in a camping family, right, yes, we get how

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Speaker 1: many of you guys are camping families?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, how many of you guys think camping is like

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Speaker 1: for Neanderthals? Raise your hands gay, I'm an eagle scout.

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Speaker 1: If it's a necessity for survival, I'll go camping. Okay.

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Speaker 3: His camping is like the Foreseas.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, Okay, No, I have no shame in that. Okay.

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Speaker 1: I have a busy life. I get like three days

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Speaker 1: off a year. I'm not going to like hang my

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Speaker 1: food by a tree for the three days off I

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Speaker 1: have a year. Okay. That dog's not gonna hunt for

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Speaker 1: other families. They think it's like invigorating and exhilarating, right

653
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Speaker 1: to like run from the wolves at night or something

654
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Speaker 1: I don't know, or like, hey, we're gonna go do

655
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Speaker 1: a road trip. Road trip really in an ur in

656
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Speaker 1: an r V. Oh sounds interesting.

657
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Speaker 2: That's like Charlie's the worth nightmare to be stuck in

658
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Speaker 2: a moving vehicle at multiple for multiple hours.

659
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Speaker 1: I had to go into a trailer that's an r V,

660
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Speaker 1: and they said, isn't this nice? So rather go to Alcatraz?

661
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Speaker 1: Then he's stuck in this thing. It's just it's just everything.

662
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Speaker 2: He went on a cruise once and that was the

663
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Speaker 2: last time we'd ever go on to go.

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Speaker 1: It's it's just terrible, which I mean, I this is

665
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Speaker 1: important because you might think you know your spouse and

666
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Speaker 1: all of a sudden you book like a seven day

667
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Speaker 1: cruise in a Caribbean and it's non refundable and he has.

668
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Speaker 2: The head I didn't do this, by the way, I

669
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Speaker 2: just tried, but he Charlie had.

670
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Speaker 1: The head band I had I was doing. I get

671
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Speaker 1: totally sea sick. It's terrible. Yeah, it's you have to

672
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Speaker 1: know the nature right and unfortunately, and we can kind

673
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Speaker 1: of we say we want to get married early, but

674
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Speaker 1: that does not mean you should get married in a

675
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Speaker 1: rushed way. So two different things. Early and rushing are

676
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Speaker 1: not synonyms. Thank you. I hope that was someone helpful

677
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Speaker 1: that we took a lot of detours there.

678
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Speaker 10: Oh do you want to hold it?

679
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Speaker 1: Okay, Hey, so you're getting married? Yes, amazing.

680
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Speaker 10: So, speaking of which, I have a wedding planning question.

681
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Speaker 10: I know that this sounds a bit weird. So essentially

682
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Speaker 10: I am facing visa visa delays. How do I deal

683
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Speaker 10: with the disappointment and the feeling of status of having

684
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Speaker 10: to plan for a peak winter wedding in the state

685
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Speaker 10: of Wisconsin.

686
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Speaker 1: Wait, so, okay, is it a visa question or is it.

687
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Speaker 10: It's so basically because of the visa delays, which is

688
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Speaker 10: beyond anyone's beyond pretty much anyone's control. How do I

689
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Speaker 10: plan for? Okay, I am going to have a wedding

690
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Speaker 10: in the peak winter when there's snow outside, when when

691
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Speaker 10: it's really really cold, like and I'm feeling disappointed and

692
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Speaker 10: sad about it.

693
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Speaker 3: You shouldn't. The winter is actually really beautiful.

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Speaker 2: There's something really I know, it's cold, you can figure

695
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Speaker 2: out the outfit. You can wear a really beautiful shawl

696
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Speaker 2: over yourself. There's way more options for winter attire.

697
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Speaker 3: Than the typical think of it.

698
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Speaker 2: This way, your wedding is going to be amazing because

699
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Speaker 2: you're not having to have the florals.

700
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Speaker 1: And they'll save a bunch of money.

701
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Speaker 3: You'll save a ton of money.

702
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Speaker 2: Yes, you'll get a killer deal. But there's something special

703
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Speaker 2: about the winter season.

704
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Speaker 3: There really is.

705
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Speaker 2: And because what comes after winter spring Metaphorically you are

706
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Speaker 2: springing into a new season of life. You're springing into

707
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Speaker 2: a beautiful marriage. Embrace the snow, Embrace the beauty of it.

708
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Speaker 2: It might not be ideally what you want, and that's

709
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:05,560
Speaker 2: that's okay, because God's challenging you to release that. The

710
00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:08,719
Speaker 2: wedding day is a wedding day, it's really not for you.

711
00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:12,440
Speaker 2: It's for your family. It's important on the altar, that

712
00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 2: is for you.

713
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Speaker 3: But I'm talking about the party. It's really not for you.

714
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Speaker 3: It's to entertain everyone else.

715
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Speaker 2: So just hold true to the fact that what matters

716
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Speaker 2: the most, regardless of the season, is the man and

717
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Speaker 2: the woman standing at the altar and that covenant you're making.

718
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Speaker 2: It could be raining, it could be snowing, it could

719
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Speaker 2: be one hundred and some degrees like our wedding, that

720
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Speaker 2: didn't stop us.

721
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Speaker 3: What's so important is.

722
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Speaker 2: That marriage and that because when you guys get married,

723
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Speaker 2: that's your family. Your husband's your family, everyone else's relatives,

724
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Speaker 2: that's your husband.

725
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Speaker 1: Congratulations, And I want to use you as an example.

726
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Speaker 1: What's your name again, Vicki? And that was last year

727
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Speaker 1: when you gave the question two years ago, so.

728
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Speaker 10: That was in twenty twenty four, so that was last year.

729
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Speaker 1: So Vicky came up last year and said, how do

730
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Speaker 1: I meet a husband? And she made her priority and

731
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Speaker 1: a year later she's engaged. Howesome, Thank you very much,

732
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Speaker 1: we got thank you. Thank you. Next question, Yes, hi.

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Speaker 3: Erica, Charlie.

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Speaker 4: I'm Melissa, and my question is I'm twenty and I'm

735
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Speaker 4: single and I want to get married young. However, every

736
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:17,880
Speaker 4: almost every woman in my life is telling me that

737
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Speaker 4: I'm not missing out anything.

738
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Speaker 3: Do you have any response to that? The women, the

739
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:24,800
Speaker 3: women that are married. Yes, well that's so sad, so sad,

740
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Speaker 3: that's really sad.

741
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Speaker 1: What what what I mean as far as like having

742
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Speaker 1: kids or the relationship.

743
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Speaker 3: Or just like getting married young. Because when I tell

744
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Speaker 3: people like.

745
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Speaker 4: My parents are really supportive about it, but when I

746
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Speaker 4: tell other people, like in church, like outside of church,

747
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Speaker 4: I want getty young, they look down on me. Like

748
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Speaker 4: why they like they tell me to, you know, get

749
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Speaker 4: go to college, to get a career. So like, what

750
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Speaker 4: is like a good response to that?

751
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Speaker 3: And like what should I be doing?

752
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Speaker 4: Because I don't I don't feel like I'm missing out,

753
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Speaker 4: but I'm not sure, Like what I should be doing?

754
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Speaker 1: What church do you go to? I must have missed

755
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:03,319
Speaker 1: it in Matthew, which is go forth and become a

756
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Speaker 1: CEO of a shoe company. It'd be fruitful and multiply.

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Speaker 1: I mean, first of all, you are hitting a very

758
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Speaker 1: fundamental and precious point. I've said for a long time,

759
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Speaker 1: we as Christians have done a crappy job of glorifying

760
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Speaker 1: and celebrating marriage it. In fact, when we first got married,

761
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Speaker 1: I heard almost more negatives than positives. I hope you're

762
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Speaker 1: going to be have your handcuffs or oh, marriage is

763
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Speaker 1: the most awesome thing ever. Everybody it's amazing.

764
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Speaker 2: And I think it's because they didn't have good examples

765
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Speaker 2: to look towards themselves. So they either settled or they're

766
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Speaker 2: not happy because either something in their life they didn't

767
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Speaker 2: settle and get fixed prior to getting marriage.

768
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Speaker 3: They're unequally yoked.

769
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Speaker 2: It's sad, but honestly, I feel like it's like I

770
00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:55,200
Speaker 2: talked about, that's a form of spiritual warfare, Like the

771
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 2: enemies will use anybody to keep you from where God

772
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:03,680
Speaker 2: needs you. You to be so smile and wave, just

773
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Speaker 2: be like, I'm so sorry that happened to you. It's

774
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Speaker 2: not gonna happen to me. And you just you say,

775
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Speaker 2: I'll be praying for you. I mean, marriage is beautiful,

776
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Speaker 2: don't let that deter you. It's another thing too. I'd

777
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:17,840
Speaker 2: like motherhood's the same thing. There are so many Christian

778
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Speaker 2: moms who will get on social media and they'll say

779
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Speaker 2: I'm so tired, I need wine. My child's driving me

780
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Speaker 2: nuts like, no.

781
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Speaker 3: No, motherhood is beautiful.

782
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Speaker 2: It's exhausting, but it's beautiful, and it's not gonna be

783
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Speaker 2: those sleepless nights. Yeah, one day, your kid's probably not

784
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 2: gonna go home until midnight, So the sleepless nights gets

785
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Speaker 2: like a little bit construed. But you will sleep again,

786
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Speaker 2: you will have you know your time again. But I

787
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Speaker 2: feel so bad for the women not being able to

788
00:40:52,760 --> 00:40:57,520
Speaker 2: have people to look towards for marriage and motherhood because

789
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Speaker 2: they just are complaining about it mostly, which is sad.

790
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Speaker 1: Really, I have to do this before I forget who

812
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Speaker 1: here knows. Nobody in the room raise your hand, anybody,

813
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Speaker 1: that's cool, all right for those of you that knowpe

814
00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 1: keep your hands up. Keep your hands up like that,

815
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:31,200
Speaker 1: everybody around the people raising your hands. Now you have

816
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Speaker 1: to introduce yourself and then we fix that problem. No, seriously,

817
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Speaker 1: go do that right now and say where you're from.

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Speaker 3: That's sweet.

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Speaker 1: Let's see, and now you have friends, You're welcomed. That's

820
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Speaker 1: what the Young Women's Leadership Summon it is all about.

821
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Speaker 1: How great is that? It's next question?

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Speaker 12: Hi, mister Kirk, My name is Noveah I'm eighteen years

823
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Speaker 12: old and I was homeschooled my whole life and just

824
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Speaker 12: graduated last year.

825
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Speaker 7: Thank you.

826
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Speaker 12: So right now I'm in that period of my life

827
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Speaker 12: where I'm trying to establish myself. So I've been working

828
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Speaker 12: for myself online as a YouTuber and a podcast or

829
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Speaker 12: from the time I was fifteen, and I'm actually trying

830
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Speaker 12: to work for you right now. So that's what I've

831
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 12: been focusing on. But I do have a really strong

832
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Speaker 12: desire as a Christian to eventually get married and have children,

833
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Speaker 12: and I want to homeschool my kids as well eventually.

834
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Speaker 12: So I'm wondering what your advice is for balancing those

835
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Speaker 12: two desires and what to prioritize at what stage in

836
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Speaker 12: your life. Since women can't have it all.

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Speaker 3: Women they can't.

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Speaker 2: They can have it all, but it's not simultaneously, like

839
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:51,360
Speaker 2: different seasons. Your career, again, like I said, is not

840
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Speaker 2: going anywhere. So what you're establishing now on YouTube and

841
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Speaker 2: your platform and all that stuff.

842
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Speaker 3: It's not going anywhere.

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Speaker 2: What I will recommend though, is when you do have children,

844
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Speaker 2: do not use your children as ponds for a discount code.

845
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:07,799
Speaker 2: Do not use your child for a free stroller for

846
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Speaker 2: some influencer thing. Your children are sacred. Protect them. That

847
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:17,319
Speaker 2: is your role as a mother. Your platform was given

848
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Speaker 2: to you by God, so stewart it well and Stuart properly.

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Speaker 2: But it's not going to go anywhere. What you're building

850
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Speaker 2: now is not going to get destroyed. I think that's

851
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Speaker 2: what a lot of people get misconstrued is thinking like, Okay,

852
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Speaker 2: what I'm building now is going to be worthless once

853
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Speaker 2: I have a family. No, God will redirect it. He'll

854
00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:34,320
Speaker 2: turn it into whatever it needs to turn into. Pray

855
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Speaker 2: on it because it's not always super clear, but it

856
00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 2: will come to you. And I think that, Yes, every

857
00:44:40,680 --> 00:44:43,200
Speaker 2: season is going to come and have its own time

858
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Speaker 2: and turn. But if this is what you're focusing on

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Speaker 2: right now, like that's what you're focusing.

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Speaker 3: On, I mean, I don't.

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Speaker 1: I think you're in a great spot honestly. And Erica

862
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Speaker 1: answered it beautifully. So again, you have to always prioritize

863
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Speaker 1: what you what matters most, and with that, the Lord

864
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Speaker 1: will open up the right doors. Thank you. All right,

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Speaker 1: let's see how quick this one is. This might be

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Speaker 1: the last question.

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Speaker 13: Yes, okay, hi guys, my ning is Lily. So one

868
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Speaker 13: thing is a piece of advice I'd love the other

869
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:16,680
Speaker 13: is a question whichever one you guys have time for. So,

870
00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 13: first of all, with gentle parenting and then you have

871
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:22,640
Speaker 13: like abusive homes, what is the balance of biblical discipline

872
00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 13: and love? And also I would love advice for if

873
00:45:26,480 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 13: you know you have a godly guy in your life.

874
00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 13: You guys agree on a lot of things spiritually and politically,

875
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:35,120
Speaker 13: but you still feel like there's a little bit more

876
00:45:35,200 --> 00:45:37,080
Speaker 13: maturity that ends to go, how do you wait on

877
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:38,440
Speaker 13: the Lord and how do you go about that.

878
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:39,720
Speaker 3: I'll take the second one.

879
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:42,480
Speaker 2: That's say, I'll take the first one too, but I

880
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 2: want to hear.

881
00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:44,800
Speaker 3: I mean, it's powerfully hearing. Father.

882
00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 1: The most important thing as a parent is that you

883
00:45:47,680 --> 00:45:51,239
Speaker 1: must instill self control and not self esteem for your kid.

884
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:55,480
Speaker 1: Whatever it takes, you must have them understand the power

885
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:57,560
Speaker 1: of restraint, which is a fruit of the spirit. Remember

886
00:45:57,600 --> 00:46:00,759
Speaker 1: self control is a fruit of the spirit. That's much

887
00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:05,239
Speaker 1: easier said than done. Right, I could tell you more

888
00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:06,920
Speaker 1: about what not to do and what we're not doing

889
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 1: them what we're doing because we're still figuring it out,

890
00:46:08,640 --> 00:46:10,680
Speaker 1: but we know what not to do. It is a

891
00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 1: it is a civilizational tragedy. When Eric and I go

892
00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:17,440
Speaker 1: out with our two kids to eat and we go

893
00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:20,480
Speaker 1: look at another family and everyone has their eyes on

894
00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:25,279
Speaker 1: a screen. So I just it is so beyond I

895
00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:27,200
Speaker 1: don't want to sound judgmental. Maybe they had like a

896
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 1: long day at work or something. I really find no

897
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:34,000
Speaker 1: excuse whatsoever because these kids put on these headphones and

898
00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 1: they just escape reality, staring at these screens all day long.

899
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:42,320
Speaker 1: And it's it's really really bad everybody, and it's totally unnecessary.

900
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 1: We have a very hyperactive two year old. You just

901
00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:48,799
Speaker 1: you have to just have them color something, have them right,

902
00:46:48,960 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 1: bring I bring.

903
00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 2: An arsenal of a backpack. I have plato, I have paints,

904
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:57,520
Speaker 2: I have anything. You can imagine. You just load up

905
00:46:57,520 --> 00:47:00,960
Speaker 2: that bag. And that's what you're teaching them. You make

906
00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:03,440
Speaker 2: it fun. Here's your fancy napkin, you get to order

907
00:47:03,560 --> 00:47:05,279
Speaker 2: like this is really special. If they have to get

908
00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:07,520
Speaker 2: up and go outside and run around, so be it.

909
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:10,440
Speaker 2: But you're teaching them how to interact with adults. You're

910
00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:12,600
Speaker 2: teaching them how to be patient. If you're putting a

911
00:47:12,640 --> 00:47:14,600
Speaker 2: screen in front of them, you're teaching them a way

912
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:15,240
Speaker 2: to escape.

913
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 1: The data shows this, but we anecdotally can confirm this

914
00:47:18,480 --> 00:47:21,600
Speaker 1: even like five minutes of screen time, they get braddier. Yeah,

915
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:24,879
Speaker 1: they get more unruly, They just kind of get disconnected

916
00:47:24,880 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 1: from where they are. We could see a total behavioral

917
00:47:27,200 --> 00:47:30,560
Speaker 1: difference with our daughter as soon as there's like a

918
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:31,720
Speaker 1: screen introduced, even.

919
00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 2: If it's just Spotify, like if even if she's like,

920
00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:34,880
Speaker 2: I want to choose my song?

921
00:47:35,239 --> 00:47:38,200
Speaker 3: Do you want to do so? And she but like

922
00:47:38,239 --> 00:47:40,839
Speaker 3: five minutes later she's like, you can't.

923
00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 1: It's like she's droned in. So we have one screen

924
00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:46,439
Speaker 1: for the whole family central and it's same as Matt

925
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:48,520
Speaker 1: Walsh and I kind of got this from him. There's

926
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:51,400
Speaker 1: agreed upon stuff that we're allowed to watch as a family,

927
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:53,920
Speaker 1: and it's a very very short list, right, It's like

928
00:47:54,120 --> 00:47:58,120
Speaker 1: Bob Ross, Mister Rogers, and then the Chicago Cubs and

929
00:47:58,160 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 1: the Charlie Kirkshow and the Charlie Kirkshaw And we don't

930
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:03,359
Speaker 1: allow it later in the day unless the clubs are playing.

931
00:48:03,400 --> 00:48:05,400
Speaker 1: That's a whole separate issue. They happen, they happen to

932
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:08,720
Speaker 1: be good this year, and then maybe some college football.

933
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 1: But that's like we're so careful because and that we

934
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:15,160
Speaker 1: can do the whole parenting. But as far as this.

935
00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:17,040
Speaker 1: This is a very difficult thing and it's hard for

936
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:19,719
Speaker 1: It's very hard actually, but it must be said. You

937
00:48:19,760 --> 00:48:22,839
Speaker 1: are not your kid's friend, right, that is like it

938
00:48:22,920 --> 00:48:27,000
Speaker 1: is I know that it sounds easy to hear you

939
00:48:27,080 --> 00:48:29,799
Speaker 1: are their parents. It is a it is an up

940
00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:33,120
Speaker 1: and down relationship. It is. It is not a horizontal one.

941
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 1: You are not there equal. And I see in public

942
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:41,120
Speaker 1: sometimes these parentings displays that it's so sad where it's

943
00:48:41,160 --> 00:48:45,480
Speaker 1: just placation. The parent is being held hostage by the child.

944
00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:50,160
Speaker 1: It is it is like a ongoing blackmail operation. No,

945
00:48:50,360 --> 00:48:53,439
Speaker 1: I'm not kidding where it's like give me candy or else.

946
00:48:53,480 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 1: I riot it's like completely different than like be it's

947
00:48:57,000 --> 00:49:00,680
Speaker 1: no different than BLM. It's like, you know, give me

948
00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:03,480
Speaker 1: something or else I'm going to tear down. No, seriously,

949
00:49:04,400 --> 00:49:07,400
Speaker 1: it's like no, you need rules in order. And like

950
00:49:07,560 --> 00:49:10,440
Speaker 1: Eric has been amazing. You deserve so much credit. Like

951
00:49:10,520 --> 00:49:14,400
Speaker 1: sometimes you leave the restaurant sometimes like nope, we're done.

952
00:49:14,600 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 1: Actually you made a fool of yourself. We're done. We

953
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:23,200
Speaker 1: gave you one last warning, right and final thing is

954
00:49:23,239 --> 00:49:25,560
Speaker 1: that And Alex Clark has been phenomenal on this. She

955
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:29,359
Speaker 1: deserves a lot of credit she does, and it's it's

956
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 1: informed us amongst Bobby Kennedy and others. What you are

957
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:38,719
Speaker 1: putting into your kids really matters, especially sugar carbohydrates. How

958
00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:42,720
Speaker 1: they behave If you feed them good stuff, parenting becomes easier,

959
00:49:42,760 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 1: not easy, but.

960
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:47,399
Speaker 3: Easier, truly, truly, I forget what.

961
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 1: Your question gentle parenting and the maturity of a man.

962
00:49:51,000 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 1: He's not quite there yet. He's not as mature as

963
00:49:52,920 --> 00:49:53,360
Speaker 1: she would like.

964
00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:55,240
Speaker 3: I would have him find someone.

965
00:49:55,440 --> 00:49:57,399
Speaker 2: If you have a solid church that you go to,

966
00:49:57,920 --> 00:50:00,279
Speaker 2: I would share that with you as a pastor or

967
00:50:00,320 --> 00:50:02,600
Speaker 2: someone within the church that you look up to, and

968
00:50:02,680 --> 00:50:06,400
Speaker 2: have a male figure pour into him, not a stranger

969
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:09,120
Speaker 2: or not an uncle or not a brother, someone totally

970
00:50:09,200 --> 00:50:11,960
Speaker 2: a separate party that's not connected. It can be private,

971
00:50:12,080 --> 00:50:15,000
Speaker 2: but have him go and get mentored once twice a

972
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:18,040
Speaker 2: week and really just have someone he can look towards

973
00:50:18,080 --> 00:50:20,520
Speaker 2: to see like this is the way to be a bit.

974
00:50:20,640 --> 00:50:23,279
Speaker 1: He needs to hear one thing, just one sentence. You

975
00:50:23,360 --> 00:50:26,040
Speaker 1: will lose her if you don't grow up. If he

976
00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:29,200
Speaker 1: hears that, radical change will happen. If the right person

977
00:50:29,239 --> 00:50:31,279
Speaker 1: says that he doesn't need a whole feeling session. We

978
00:50:31,320 --> 00:50:34,040
Speaker 1: don't need that as men, we don't need emotionality. No, no,

979
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:37,680
Speaker 1: you need conviction, an order and a challenge, and we

980
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:40,960
Speaker 1: need like high stakes and if we hear, you're going

981
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:43,840
Speaker 1: to lose what you take for granted if you don't

982
00:50:44,400 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 1: watch radical change in Sue. Thank you, last question.

983
00:50:48,440 --> 00:50:50,160
Speaker 12: Sorry weeks so hades.

984
00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:51,320
Speaker 3: Gek's so awesome.

985
00:50:52,160 --> 00:50:55,480
Speaker 14: Hi guys, my name is Violet. I'm from San Antonio.

986
00:50:56,280 --> 00:50:59,600
Speaker 14: I'm super emotional as well. I'm sure I'm not the

987
00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 14: only one, and I also know that men are very

988
00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 14: logical and kind of have our time with that. So

989
00:51:06,640 --> 00:51:09,480
Speaker 14: I was wondering, Charlie, what do you do to really

990
00:51:09,560 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 14: nurture Erica's emotional side when your boy brain is like

991
00:51:13,280 --> 00:51:14,920
Speaker 14: trying to answer every question.

992
00:51:14,640 --> 00:51:18,760
Speaker 1: And be allowed to go with her. It's a great question.

993
00:51:20,000 --> 00:51:23,759
Speaker 1: This is why understanding female nature to the best of

994
00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:27,520
Speaker 1: our ability as men is very important. And again we've

995
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:30,680
Speaker 1: had like different configurations of a men's summit, but I

996
00:51:30,719 --> 00:51:32,520
Speaker 1: talk to men a lot on campus and through my

997
00:51:32,560 --> 00:51:35,960
Speaker 1: content and stuff. But it's what I tell them is

998
00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 1: that you must understand God wired us a lot differently.

999
00:51:39,640 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 1: The biggest thing is really time time with your spouse.

1000
00:51:43,320 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 1: Time to have your spouse be able to think or

1001
00:51:45,600 --> 00:51:50,279
Speaker 1: talk about that specific situation that has them maybe fired up. Right.

1002
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:54,080
Speaker 1: And then also sometimes men look at we have a

1003
00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:57,120
Speaker 1: problem where we think we are the firefighter to put

1004
00:51:57,120 --> 00:52:01,719
Speaker 1: out a fire. We see problem, we want to fix it. Right.

1005
00:52:02,200 --> 00:52:04,600
Speaker 1: We see broken engine, we come to repair it.

1006
00:52:05,440 --> 00:52:05,640
Speaker 4: Right.

1007
00:52:06,280 --> 00:52:10,799
Speaker 1: Sometimes the solution is just talking about the problem, which

1008
00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:13,960
Speaker 1: for us is like an incomprehensible thing. It's like, wait,

1009
00:52:14,000 --> 00:52:16,280
Speaker 1: why would you talk about the problem and not solve

1010
00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:19,239
Speaker 1: the problem? Because sometimes the problem is the fact that

1011
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:23,560
Speaker 1: it hasn't been talked about. Am I right? I understand

1012
00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:27,520
Speaker 1: female nature, and it's like for men, it's like it's

1013
00:52:27,520 --> 00:52:30,080
Speaker 1: like what do you It's like a distant thing. And

1014
00:52:30,840 --> 00:52:34,960
Speaker 1: similarly for you when you have husbands, right, it might

1015
00:52:35,040 --> 00:52:39,000
Speaker 1: drive you crazy that you can't And Eric and I

1016
00:52:39,040 --> 00:52:41,319
Speaker 1: we talk about this. You can't get out more than three?

1017
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:45,440
Speaker 1: I was your day? Fine? You know, what would you

1018
00:52:45,440 --> 00:52:46,840
Speaker 1: do today? Stuff?

1019
00:52:47,120 --> 00:52:47,840
Speaker 3: A lot of stuff.

1020
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:50,280
Speaker 1: It's not an insult to you.

1021
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:50,440
Speaker 10: Now.

1022
00:52:50,480 --> 00:52:55,880
Speaker 1: They're tired, tired, and our brains work differently, right. It's

1023
00:52:55,680 --> 00:53:03,160
Speaker 1: for women, conversation, especially conversation about nothing, is therapeutic. Okay,

1024
00:53:03,880 --> 00:53:05,360
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, it's very cathartic.

1025
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:06,800
Speaker 2: Okay.

1026
00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:11,279
Speaker 1: For men, it's exhausting, right, And for us we like

1027
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:16,360
Speaker 1: to unplug and we like to watch or see somebody

1028
00:53:16,400 --> 00:53:20,040
Speaker 1: else do something hard. That's what sports is, right, or

1029
00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:22,960
Speaker 1: a movie like For us, we either want to do

1030
00:53:23,040 --> 00:53:26,239
Speaker 1: hard things or watch other people do hard things. That's

1031
00:53:26,280 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 1: like men in a nutshell. Okay, we either want to

1032
00:53:29,200 --> 00:53:31,520
Speaker 1: be the ones doing the hard thing like mowing the

1033
00:53:31,560 --> 00:53:34,359
Speaker 1: lawn or chopping down a tree, right, or we want

1034
00:53:34,400 --> 00:53:37,359
Speaker 1: to watch other people do hard things. Okay. For women,

1035
00:53:37,400 --> 00:53:40,040
Speaker 1: they're like, well, let's talk for forty five minutes. And

1036
00:53:40,480 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong about that. Emotionality is a beautiful thing.

1037
00:53:44,400 --> 00:53:47,520
Speaker 1: This is why we are not AI right, we're not

1038
00:53:47,600 --> 00:53:51,040
Speaker 1: chat GPT. We have a soul right, and God made

1039
00:53:51,080 --> 00:53:54,839
Speaker 1: us different for a reason. And and I just want

1040
00:53:54,840 --> 00:53:58,440
Speaker 1: to brag on the women of America because there's a

1041
00:53:58,440 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 1: lot of bashing of like finism, and there should be.

1042
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:03,440
Speaker 1: There's a lot of bashing of women in the country

1043
00:54:03,800 --> 00:54:06,399
Speaker 1: of like how they veered off track, some of which

1044
00:54:06,440 --> 00:54:08,400
Speaker 1: honestly is warranted. But the one thing that is not

1045
00:54:08,880 --> 00:54:13,719
Speaker 1: talked about enough is how women have kept church attendants

1046
00:54:14,040 --> 00:54:16,759
Speaker 1: and the faith alive in the West in a much

1047
00:54:16,800 --> 00:54:18,640
Speaker 1: better job than men. The last third no, it's a

1048
00:54:18,719 --> 00:54:23,400
Speaker 1: very real thing. This is why Mother's Day church service

1049
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:25,720
Speaker 1: is one of the highest attendants of the year besides

1050
00:54:25,800 --> 00:54:29,879
Speaker 1: Easter and Christmas. Why what do you want from Mother's Day? Honey?

1051
00:54:29,880 --> 00:54:33,080
Speaker 1: I want to bring the entire family to church. What

1052
00:54:33,120 --> 00:54:35,000
Speaker 1: do you want for Father's Day? Honey? I don't know

1053
00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:38,440
Speaker 1: golf or watch golf. Remember do hard things, watch people

1054
00:54:38,480 --> 00:54:40,439
Speaker 1: do hard things. I don't want to go to church.

1055
00:54:40,880 --> 00:54:42,400
Speaker 1: By the way, let me just say, for men out

1056
00:54:42,440 --> 00:54:45,040
Speaker 1: there that are listening in the internet, if you do

1057
00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:47,160
Speaker 1: not lead your family to church, it is the number

1058
00:54:47,160 --> 00:54:49,799
Speaker 1: one predictor that your children will not also go to church.

1059
00:54:50,880 --> 00:54:54,000
Speaker 1: But it deserves so the women. You deserve so much

1060
00:54:54,040 --> 00:54:57,920
Speaker 1: credit for keeping church attendants alive, for serving in the churches,

1061
00:54:58,640 --> 00:55:03,880
Speaker 1: for volunteering in the church, for keeping the entire faith robust.

1062
00:55:03,920 --> 00:55:06,120
Speaker 1: And now we're seeing a resurgence of young men finally

1063
00:55:06,160 --> 00:55:08,960
Speaker 1: come back at something I don't think that's always articulated

1064
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:11,680
Speaker 1: of how the American church has really been saved and

1065
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:13,840
Speaker 1: strengthened by women in America.

1066
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:17,520
Speaker 2: Final thoughts, So, something that he does support into me

1067
00:55:17,600 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 2: emotionally is or to just check in from that standpoint,

1068
00:55:22,760 --> 00:55:24,920
Speaker 2: is if he comes home.

1069
00:55:24,800 --> 00:55:26,239
Speaker 3: He's tired, how did you day? Great?

1070
00:55:26,239 --> 00:55:29,359
Speaker 2: Blah blah blah, and I'm still cooking whatever on this

1071
00:55:29,520 --> 00:55:31,920
Speaker 2: on his sabbath, when he has a moment, he writes

1072
00:55:31,960 --> 00:55:35,280
Speaker 2: me a note. He has not missed one. He writes

1073
00:55:35,320 --> 00:55:37,800
Speaker 2: me a note, either leaves it on my pillow, hands

1074
00:55:37,800 --> 00:55:39,800
Speaker 2: it to me. I have saved every single one of

1075
00:55:39,840 --> 00:55:45,920
Speaker 2: them in those notes are what refill me emotionally if

1076
00:55:45,960 --> 00:55:46,880
Speaker 2: I need that filling.

1077
00:55:47,360 --> 00:55:48,440
Speaker 3: He's very good about that.

1078
00:55:48,880 --> 00:55:52,040
Speaker 2: So when you're in a relationship, how it's important to

1079
00:55:52,040 --> 00:55:54,640
Speaker 2: know your spouse's nature, it's also important to know your own.

1080
00:55:55,480 --> 00:55:57,919
Speaker 2: What do you want him to do to help pour

1081
00:55:58,000 --> 00:56:01,239
Speaker 2: into your emotional side? Is something that makes you tick

1082
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Speaker 2: in your heart tick? Do you want him to write

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Speaker 2: you a note? Do you want him to tell you

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Speaker 2: you're beautiful? Do you want him to take you on

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Speaker 2: a date. Do you want him to bring you flowers?

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Speaker 2: Do you hate flowers? Do you want a cake? Like

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00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:13,600
Speaker 2: you learn what will speak to you so that you

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00:56:13,640 --> 00:56:16,200
Speaker 2: can check that box in your head, even on a

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Speaker 2: day where he says five words, but he brought you flowers,

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Speaker 2: and you're like, wow, I feel loved.

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Speaker 3: I get it.

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Speaker 2: Just like be sure to communicate that though he can't

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Speaker 2: read your brain. It's the famous thing of where do

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Speaker 2: you want to go eat for dinner?

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Speaker 3: I don't care. We'll go to Chipotle.

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Speaker 2: I don't want Chipotle like you need to be able

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Speaker 2: to know your own nature, to tell your husband, not

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Speaker 2: train him.

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Speaker 3: But is a team.

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Speaker 2: This is what I want, This is what I expect.

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Speaker 3: I love you so much. Please, this is.

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Speaker 2: How you can pour into me. How can I pour

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00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:49,799
Speaker 2: into you? Charlie and I check in with each other

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Speaker 2: every single day. How can I serve you better? What

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00:56:52,040 --> 00:56:53,399
Speaker 2: can I do for you to make it better when

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00:56:53,440 --> 00:56:55,239
Speaker 2: you get home? Is there anything that you need me

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Speaker 2: to have ready for you when you come back from

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Speaker 2: the office or this trip?

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Speaker 3: Xyz? He asked me the same thing.

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Speaker 2: If I'm not doing something, or even if I'm out

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Speaker 2: with the kids, what can I do?

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Speaker 3: How can I make your day better?

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Speaker 2: You are a team, and you guys are not at

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00:57:08,719 --> 00:57:12,440
Speaker 2: ends with each other, work together, communicate and grow together

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Speaker 2: as equally yoked partnership.

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Speaker 1: It's beautiful, and thank you for that. I want to

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Speaker 1: plug one thing and then I will say one last

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Speaker 1: thing to the whole audience, and thank you. I want

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Speaker 1: all of you to start a turning Point USA chapter

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Speaker 1: at your high school or college. Who's your a turning point?

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00:57:30,840 --> 00:57:33,680
Speaker 1: You say, chapter leader, raise your hand. We need more

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00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:36,480
Speaker 1: of you to go start turning Point USA chapters. You

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00:57:36,520 --> 00:57:39,800
Speaker 1: could do so out there. There's amazing giveaways associated The

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Speaker 1: final thing, I'll say two final things and that Eric,

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Speaker 1: do you have any final thoughts Before I get to

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00:57:44,960 --> 00:57:47,000
Speaker 1: my two final things, I'll go quick while you think

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00:57:47,000 --> 00:57:49,080
Speaker 1: about it. The first of which is we're gonna have

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Speaker 1: a whole Q and A for politics or whatever you

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00:57:50,720 --> 00:57:53,800
Speaker 1: want tomorrow or more relationship stuff if you want. Do

1130
00:57:53,960 --> 00:57:57,240
Speaker 1: not talk down to men. Do not engage in this

1131
00:57:57,360 --> 00:58:01,560
Speaker 1: toxic maskin masculinity bashing men. Not only do we need men,

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00:58:01,600 --> 00:58:05,280
Speaker 1: the civilization is God created men and women, and it's

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Speaker 1: very tempting to get into the whole kind of girl

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Speaker 1: dominant society. You do not want to live in that world.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you right now. You do not. You want

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Speaker 1: to live in a world where the best of both

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Speaker 1: sexes are equally balanced. The other thing I'll say, which

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Speaker 1: is kind of funnier. It's hard to put into words

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Speaker 1: how much men want a just like a return to

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Speaker 1: normal things like cooking a meal, like serving in like

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00:58:31,000 --> 00:58:35,440
Speaker 1: those fundamental ways. Like that stuff as a husband or

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00:58:35,440 --> 00:58:37,840
Speaker 1: even a boyfriend goes beyond measure that I can put

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Speaker 1: into words and.

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Speaker 3: Make it fun, be like what do you want to eat?

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00:58:40,680 --> 00:58:42,400
Speaker 2: And then like have them make a menu and then

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00:58:42,440 --> 00:58:45,360
Speaker 2: it's a good challenge for you to like, I cooked

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Speaker 2: swordfish the other night.

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Speaker 3: It was okay, it wasn't.

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Speaker 1: My best, but it's like great.

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Speaker 3: But it goes to say, just make things fun.

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Speaker 2: Don't again, don't look at it as I have to.

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00:58:58,160 --> 00:59:01,720
Speaker 2: I get to serve my h I get to submit

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Speaker 2: unto my husband because he's submitting himself to the Lord.

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Speaker 2: There is a balance, and there's something really beautiful about

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Speaker 2: that balance.

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Speaker 3: If you have a situation where you don't.

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Speaker 2: Have someone in your life that you can look towards

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Speaker 2: as a healthy marriage, find seek that out, whether that's

1159
00:59:18,520 --> 00:59:20,960
Speaker 2: in your church, whether that's in your community, whether that's

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Speaker 2: something online. Hold on to that so that you can

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Speaker 2: have some form of an understanding of Okay, this is

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Speaker 2: what I have to look forward to. I'm so excited.

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Speaker 2: And God will make sure that the right man will

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Speaker 2: come in your path. He won't walk past you, he

1165
00:59:34,560 --> 00:59:38,360
Speaker 2: won't miss you. God is always on time, and so

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Speaker 2: is your future husband. So just wait on the Lord

1167
00:59:41,000 --> 00:59:43,520
Speaker 2: and you'll get everything that you've prayed for, and more

1168
00:59:43,640 --> 00:59:45,480
Speaker 2: stuff that you prayed for that you thought you needed.

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Speaker 2: You'll get way beyond that because God knows truly is

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Speaker 2: the desires of your heart.

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Speaker 1: If you see anybody that looks lonely, go introduce yourself totally.

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Speaker 1: Make sure you counsel them and make a friend out

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Speaker 1: of them. We want people to leave friends for a

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Speaker 1: lifetime here and we are just getting started. The next

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Speaker 1: couple of days are gonna be life changing. God bless

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Speaker 1: you all. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 5: For more on many of these stories and news you

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Speaker 5: can trust, go to Charliekirk dot com