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Speaker 1: So we're here to answer people's questions about dating.

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Speaker 2: Right, It's like ask the kirks about marriage.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if people can handle the truth, though,

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Speaker 2: I think they can. I don't know. It's tough love,

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Speaker 2: right mm hm, do you want to start off with

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Speaker 2: Does your husband ever cook dinner?

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Speaker 1: Very rarely? No, you've cooked once, I think once. The

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Speaker 2: I understand I mean every now and then it would

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Speaker 1: I guess that's the wife's job.

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Speaker 2: I think so too. How to find real men of

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Speaker 2: pray to God for him to reveal him reveal your

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Speaker 1: Don't you agree, Yeah, of course. Yeah. I mean a

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Speaker 2: Well, you're dressing for a different demographic than you're looking

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Speaker 1: And they don't act like at the piety or with purity.

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Speaker 1: And so men want what they can't what they can't

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Speaker 2: Leave something to the imagination.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and just just don't act with you know, trash and.

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Speaker 2: We have to tell the truth, Okay, we have to.

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Speaker 1: We're not going to do Patty k Christian podcast where

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Speaker 2: I agree. How to know when you have found the one, you.

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Speaker 2: Oh man, that was great. Okay, Please talk about missionary dating.

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Speaker 2: I have never There's a few questions in here. I

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Speaker 1: Yeah. The reason she's asking this question is her husband's

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Speaker 1: take the Lord's name in vain. I think depends. It

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Speaker 1: depends how you break it, but yeah, it started. Fourth

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Speaker 1: is the only ritual in the ten commandments, and it

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Speaker 1: is for six days you shall work, and for the

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Speaker 1: seventh day you shall rest. So we're commanded to work

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Speaker 1: for six days, which we do good and do very well,

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Speaker 1: I should say. And I think it keeps families together total. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I think also to something that's really special is that

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Speaker 2: we always ask each other, we check him with each

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Speaker 2: other constantly throughout the day of like how can I

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Speaker 2: make your day better? How can I help you with this?

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Speaker 2: How can I serve you with that? How can I

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Speaker 2: just like constantly.

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Speaker 1: Being able to Yeah, and like see, I mean.

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Speaker 2: Just check in and touch base.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's right.

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Speaker 2: Okay, what if he checks all of the boxes but

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Speaker 2: you're not attracted to.

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Speaker 1: Him, well, then you should not marry him.

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Speaker 2: Well, he obviously didn't check all the boxes.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean, yeah, attraction is absolutely so unbelievably important,

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Speaker 1: or else it's just going to be you might as

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Speaker 1: well just get a sperm donor are you laughing, Daisy?

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, I mean obviously looks fades. You can't be

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Speaker 2: like super Fax.

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Speaker 1: But is this a woman asking this question? Yeah, but

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Speaker 1: women can be attracted to men that are unkept for

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Speaker 1: other reasons.

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Speaker 2: Okay, but here's the thing you can't. You can if

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Speaker 2: he is super smart, but he needs a haircut, or

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Speaker 2: he needs to groom himself a little bit better or something.

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Speaker 2: A guy can change a lot between the ages of

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Speaker 2: twenty to twenty five or twenty five to thirty, like

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Speaker 2: their face changes a little bit. Do you know what

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Speaker 2: I mean?

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Speaker 1: She wouldn't ask this question if there wasn't a majorance.

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Speaker 1: And by the way, that's an unusual question for a

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Speaker 1: female because most females don't consider looks to be nearly

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Speaker 1: as important as character or financial stability.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Genetics is a big thing. Like you're looking,

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Speaker 2: that's your kid might look more like him than you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but very rarely do I hear from women I'm

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Speaker 1: not attracted to him, but he checks all the other boxes.

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Speaker 1: Very that's rare. That's a very visually stimulated female, which

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Speaker 1: is usually a male characteristic.

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Speaker 2: So are you saying she's a lesbian? Just kidding? Why

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Speaker 2: are we getting so many lesbian submissions? It could be

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Speaker 2: I don't know, we're getting trolled.

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Speaker 2: Okay, how do you cope with feeling that God does

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Speaker 2: not hear your prayers regarding relationships? I feel like God

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Speaker 2: always hears your prayers, It's just he's answering them in

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Speaker 2: a way that you might not like.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's exactly how I would have answered it.

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Speaker 1: That's exactly right. He hears all prayers. But there's a

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Speaker 1: lot of pride in that question, respectfully, that you are

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Speaker 1: so important that God is your celestial butler to ask

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Speaker 1: for all your quiet. You all ask for all your stuff.

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Speaker 2: The lamp.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, God is not the room service phone at the

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Speaker 1: hotel at the four Season. Yeah, I want a burger,

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Speaker 1: I want a milkshake. That's not God. It's not the

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Speaker 1: way it works, right, So she has an unbiblical view

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Speaker 1: of God. Prayer is a petition to the Divine out

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Speaker 1: of obedience and gratitude and piety and service and duty.

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Speaker 1: You don't you don't do to God and God. I

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Speaker 1: also want the corvette. It's not your Amazon shopping cart.

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Speaker 2: No, literally, but he also he hears your prayers. But

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Speaker 2: also too, if you feel like he's not quote unquote

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Speaker 2: delivering you, you're human and time. I feel like it's

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Speaker 2: also because you still have a lot of growth to

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Speaker 2: do yourself. He's still trying to prune from your life,

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Speaker 2: maybe a past relationship, or maybe he's trying to get

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Speaker 2: something out of your life that you're.

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Speaker 1: Holding on, trying to make you more obedient to do

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Speaker 1: things you're not doing right. Maybe you should go to

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Speaker 1: TV show or club or start drinking alcohol or right

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Speaker 1: or stop whatever. Yes, well, there's a great there's a

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Speaker 1: great uh song. I think it's by Toby Keith, Thank

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Speaker 1: God for Unanswered prayers.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 1: It's true if you think every prayer you're giving you

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Speaker 1: know exactly how it's going to end up. That's a

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Speaker 1: very arrogant, prideful way of looking at the sovereignty of God.

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Speaker 2: Well, and two, that means you don't understand how beautiful

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Speaker 2: God's will is. That's right, because God's will will always

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Speaker 2: be way better than anything you could have ever been.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and to this person's question, is she's obviously in pain,

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Speaker 1: so I would just have her change her opinion and

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Speaker 1: instead she should have instead of why is God not

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Speaker 1: answering my prayer? What am I not yet doing to

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Speaker 1: find my future mate? To get to the place where

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Speaker 1: only God can open the door. I believe God meets

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Speaker 1: us halfway.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know what I would recommend her doing, too,

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Speaker 2: is instead of right. Instead of in her mind thinking

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Speaker 2: God's not answering her prayers, she should look back in

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Speaker 2: her life and write down the things that God saved

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Speaker 2: her from that she thought that she wanted. And write

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Speaker 2: and meditate and pray on the things that God saved

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Speaker 2: you from that you thought you needed. Okay, next question,

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Speaker 2: should a son in law and a daughter in law

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Speaker 2: honor the parents of the partner? Yes, since you're married,

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Speaker 2: you're now one.

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Speaker 1: Well no, just practically it makes life a lot easier.

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Speaker 1: One hundred percent. No, totally. You I'm very blessed to

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Speaker 1: have the best in the best in laws ever. We

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Speaker 1: have a great she's the best. Yeah, we have a

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Speaker 1: great We just have.

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Speaker 2: A great unit.

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Speaker 1: Yes, fam together, I say, absolutely, you are one. But

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Speaker 1: it makes your spouse's life infinitely easier.

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Speaker 2: Well, and two, their parents are like your parents. I'm

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Speaker 2: grateful for because they brought you into the world.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and they raised me and so.

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Speaker 2: I tell you how to use a spoon and a fort.

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Speaker 1: Yes, the answer is yes.

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Speaker 2: Okay, where question where to meet single conservative Christian men

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Speaker 2: in their thirties. You know where? Amfest?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, amfest dot com. That's right. You can go to

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Speaker 1: a m fbst dot com. But also church, their church,

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Speaker 1: their pastor. Yeah, just the pastor's wife. Most pastors wives

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Speaker 1: operate as like Christian mingle.

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Speaker 2: So with that said, though, some churches, when they know

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Speaker 2: that you're single, it's the most awkward because you're in

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Speaker 2: a group. Let's say you're in a youth not a

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Speaker 2: youth group, a younger group, and everyone knows you're single,

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Speaker 2: and then it's like if someone starts flirting with you,

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Speaker 2: then another guy's like, oh, that guy's flirting with her,

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna not touch her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean you know what I mean. My experience

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Speaker 1: so that whether it be uncles, aunts, cousins, if you

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Speaker 1: really want to get married and you're in your thirties

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Speaker 1: and you feel like your biological clock is ticking, which

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Speaker 1: obviously you do is a female, then you need to

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Speaker 1: kind it kind of be a little aggressive, which is

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Speaker 1: not a female characteristic naturally, right and text everyone and

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Speaker 1: say I'm looking for a mate, can you set And

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Speaker 1: you're going to probably have some pretty awful dates. I'm

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Speaker 1: just being honest, Like, that's what once you get into

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Speaker 1: your thirties and you're unmarried. I hope every twenty something

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Speaker 1: woman hears me. You're getting a little desperation mode.

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Speaker 2: But then it also too, you have to be careful

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Speaker 2: from the standpoint of you. Your CVS list receipt of

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Speaker 2: non negotiables is going to have to.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's got to get to be like ten be

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Speaker 1: chopped one or like four, yeah, or two.

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Speaker 2: You're gonna have to have like an Einstein.

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Speaker 1: I know a young lady texted you recently. She's like,

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Speaker 1: I want this, and I want this, and I want

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Speaker 1: this and that. I was like, geez, are are you

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Speaker 1: like customizing?

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Speaker 2: Literally like and.

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Speaker 1: I want the you know, the heated seats, and I

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Speaker 1: want the four wheel drive and satellite radio spinning rims. Wow,

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Speaker 1: that's it's that's even a very narrow path.

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Speaker 2: Should you just get married if you don't feel peace

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Speaker 2: about it yet?

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Speaker 1: No? Absolutely not.

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Speaker 2: I totally agree that marriage is not just a No.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, you need to find you need you need to

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Speaker 1: find a pastor to help sort that out.

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Speaker 2: See. That's the thing though, is that I don't think

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Speaker 2: the weight of marriage. I don't know if it's.

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Speaker 1: And that's it's better to not marry than mary. Wrong.

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Speaker 2: I completely agree, and.

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Speaker 1: I'm not I'm a huge fan of marriage. But if

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Speaker 1: you have any sort of lack of shalom, then you

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Speaker 1: need to find a pastor and figure that out. It's

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Speaker 1: either on you or it's on them. And then if

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Speaker 1: you need to have the intellectual and spiritual courage to

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Speaker 1: admit maybe it's you. Yeah, commitment issues, You're father left you,

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Speaker 1: stuff like that.

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Speaker 2: We only have a few more.

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Speaker 1: Minutes, we have five moms.

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Speaker 2: Okay, does equally yoked mean commitment to Jesus or theological knowledge?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. You have to ask a pastor that

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Well, probably both.

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Speaker 2: I mean I would say it would have to do

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Speaker 2: somewhat with both.

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Speaker 1: Not Yeah, I don't want to speak out of turn theological.

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Speaker 2: No, that's true. There's some people that feel as though

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Speaker 2: as long as they say Jesus Christ is my Lord

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Speaker 2: and Savior, that means we're equally yoked. But then there

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Speaker 2: might be some theological things where they might.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, first of all, you need to believe.

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Speaker 1: You need to add the same worldview, and so the

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Speaker 1: Catholic Protestant thing can work, but it's still risky. But

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Speaker 1: you need to believe in the errancy of scripture. If

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Speaker 1: you both believe in that Jesus is the king of

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Speaker 1: the world and I see in Creed. If you don't

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Speaker 1: believe in that, then you're not equally yoked. Right, It's

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Speaker 1: not fair because I mean, if your if your husband's

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Speaker 1: a theologian, you're not going to know as much as

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Speaker 1: it no, right, So that's that's not exactly a fair question.

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Speaker 1: So I don't think so.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So then a lot of these questions just to

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Speaker 2: skim through is like thirty three and single, no prospects

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Speaker 2: any advice or heading into Yeah, I mean if I

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Speaker 2: thirties plus and single, hitting the deadline but still being

657
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Speaker 2: single and feeling the pressure of that, I.

658
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Speaker 1: Don't mean to speak down to these people, and we're

659
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 1: gonna get so many hateful emails. I don't care. It's

660
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 1: like someone needs to tell you that you have to

661
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 1: focus on your personal growth, your work with your walk

662
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 1: with Christ. Right, do not blame others because guess why

663
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Speaker 1: for no other reason. Then that's very unattractive to other men.

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Speaker 1: A man has a certain you know, men are not

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Speaker 1: necessarily atmospherically very aware of things, but men can sense

666
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Speaker 1: bitterness in a woman like immediately, and it's very unattractive.

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Speaker 2: Right, So a thirty three year old single.

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Speaker 1: Male, Oh, male's got plenty of theme. He'll figure out.

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Speaker 2: No, I understand. But is when a thirty three year

670
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Speaker 2: old single man meets a thirty three year old single woman,

671
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Speaker 2: the tension there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the man is probably financially stable, just beginning to

673
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Speaker 1: look for his options, and the woman is like, I

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Speaker 1: only have thirty seconds left on the helon.

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Speaker 2: Oh, and that that really does suck for the woman.

676
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:17,280
Speaker 1: It does suck, but it's I'm just reiterating the culture

677
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 1: lied to her. And so I hope she's able to

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Speaker 1: find her mate.

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Speaker 2: No, I understand, because she put career and stuff first.

680
00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 2: But they but they it was almost like also too,

681
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 2: what if their parents were like, you have to find

682
00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:32,680
Speaker 2: a job and go and do this and go to God?

683
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Speaker 1: Have created really anxious thirty three year old women.

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Speaker 2: No I could not agree with.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and these boom where parents were like, well, I'm

686
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Speaker 1: glad you did get married at twenty three? Are you No?

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Speaker 2: But that's exactly that is exactly right, because they said,

688
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Speaker 2: you need to go to the Ivy League school, you

689
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 2: need to get the top job, work your way up

690
00:32:48,400 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 2: through Google, and then get on the pill. Get on

691
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Speaker 2: the pill. We don't want you to get pregnant when

692
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Speaker 2: you're nineteen, Well, obviously you don't want to.

693
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Speaker 1: Go or even twenty six or twenty seven, don't even

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Speaker 1: start seriously dating.

695
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Speaker 2: And right, and then now the parent is they're like, where.

696
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,400
Speaker 1: Are your grandkids? And then it creates a lot of

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Speaker 1: acrimony in the family. So, I mean, my heart goes

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Speaker 1: out for these women that are in their thirties. I

699
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:11,720
Speaker 1: don't have easy answers for you, though, because I don't want,

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Speaker 1: I don't lie, I don't mislead me.

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Speaker 2: No. But okay, so let's create. But because we're closing out,

702
00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 2: let's create kind of a checklist, if you will, Because

703
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Speaker 2: a lot of these questions were submitted by women who

704
00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 2: are still single looking for the guy. Yeah, what's take

705
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 2: care of yourself? So okay, well what about this take

706
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 2: care of yourself from the inside.

707
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 1: Meaning spiritually nourish yourself.

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00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:37,640
Speaker 2: Correct but also too take your vitamins. Yeah, don't drink,

709
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Speaker 2: you take some time off to check it.

710
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Speaker 1: That's a great idea. So if you are looking for

711
00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 1: a man, literally, alcohol is a toxin. It ages you, right,

712
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Speaker 1: So like, if you are looking for a man, zero alcohol,

713
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Speaker 1: zero drugs.

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Speaker 2: Why don't you make a commitment to yourself to stop

715
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Speaker 2: drinking one until you find drinking. I totally agree. You

716
00:33:56,160 --> 00:34:00,160
Speaker 2: and I are the same. So stop drinking, stop smoking

717
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Speaker 2: or doing it.

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Speaker 1: You know, I would hope so that with those Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean this goes to my point. If you're thirty

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Speaker 1: three and you're telling us you can't find someone, and

721
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:11,000
Speaker 1: you're doing a Marble pack of day, yeah, yeah, you're

722
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 1: not exactly making the case right, But I don't I

723
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 1: doubt your listeners are like that.

724
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Speaker 2: But yes, well I don't know. You just told me

725
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:17,839
Speaker 2: I had two lesbians that are.

726
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Speaker 1: Submitting say that. You said, what what, Riley, We're gonna

727
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 1: have to come through this? What woman has a best

728
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,800
Speaker 1: friend that's a man, Like that's very strange.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, so taking care of yourself, vitamins, eating healthy,

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Speaker 2: comb your hair, like shower.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I would even go as far as say, like,

732
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Speaker 1: embrace every trick in the naturopathic world to like fight aging,

733
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 1: working out, vitamins, saunas, cold tubs, tanning, vitamin D levels,

734
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Speaker 1: get your hormones balanced right like you can. You can

735
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Speaker 1: extend that clock a little bit further than even some people.

736
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Speaker 1: You don't have to surrender to it, like don't eat carbohydrates,

737
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Speaker 1: don't eat refine.

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Speaker 2: Another thing that's really interesting, it's super it's kind of superficial.

739
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 2: But if a girl has her nails done and is like,

740
00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:13,319
Speaker 2: you know, that's a thing.

741
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:16,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you have a I mean I don't

742
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 1: know the wardrobe thing as well as you do obviously

743
00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 1: with dress classy, dress classy. And so you have to

744
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:23,080
Speaker 1: do everything yourself possible.

745
00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 2: Yes, carry yourself knowing that you have self work.

746
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Speaker 1: You have to go into environments that might make you

747
00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 1: uncomfortable to find a future match and you and.

748
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Speaker 2: When you go there, don't be rude and pompous when

749
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Speaker 2: you meet the man.

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Speaker 1: That's the other thing is that you have to basically

751
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 1: surrender to God. I mean, surrender is the only way

752
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:47,440
Speaker 1: otherwise the anxiety will absolutely kill you. Happens, you don't.

753
00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:50,360
Speaker 2: Have to immediately go to dinner. You can grab coffee.

754
00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, sure, I mean again, I nothing will be more

755
00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:58,839
Speaker 1: unattractive for an eligible bachelor man than desperation.

756
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:02,040
Speaker 2: Well, okay, so in New York City, it would be

757
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:03,960
Speaker 2: like a thing where a guy would come in and

758
00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 2: be like, okay, so I have drinks with Bethany at six,

759
00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:10,319
Speaker 2: and then I have dinner with I'd give me another

760
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:17,480
Speaker 2: girl's name, Cindy, Cindy some thirty, and then whatever they

761
00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:18,520
Speaker 2: have a nightcap with.

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Speaker 1: Okay, these are real names.

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Speaker 2: Relanda. That reminds me of that thing we watched the

764
00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 2: other day. Huh, the Sweet Tea thing. Yeah, okay. Anyways,

765
00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 2: so guys, sometimes there are some guys, like in New

766
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:39,719
Speaker 2: York City that stack their schedule like that because they're

767
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:40,200
Speaker 2: just here.

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Speaker 1: Here's the thing. People are going to email us. They say,

769
00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:44,919
Speaker 1: it's not fair. You're right, it's not fair. The game

770
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:47,279
Speaker 1: is rigged for men right now. In that way, men

771
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:49,760
Speaker 1: have a longer clock. It's harder to find a man.

772
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:52,279
Speaker 1: In Arizona, there's like three times the amount of single

773
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Speaker 1: women than.

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Speaker 2: The single unbelievable.

775
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Speaker 1: Yeah, So it's that's why I guess somebody lesbians, and

776
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 1: I think because they want to find somebody.

777
00:36:58,600 --> 00:36:59,640
Speaker 2: They're all my followers.

778
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Speaker 1: A parents, No it's just it's just the way it is.

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00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:04,920
Speaker 2: Okay. So then to close out that list, because we

780
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:09,400
Speaker 2: got to go. Takes your healthy putting yourself in uncomfortable

781
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 2: positions that are going to be productive towards personal growth.

782
00:37:13,120 --> 00:37:14,320
Speaker 2: And then I think.

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00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:16,239
Speaker 1: To spiritually nourish yourself.

784
00:37:15,960 --> 00:37:20,840
Speaker 2: Yes, and like be so it's just ingrained with the

785
00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 2: word and have the words so imprinted on your heart

786
00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 2: that it will literally take God saying that's him, and

787
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 2: you'll know, and you'll know that's where and he'll treat

788
00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:33,759
Speaker 2: you so well. And it doesn't matter if you're in LA.

789
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter if you're in New York City. I

790
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:38,359
Speaker 2: was in New York City and I found you. That's right,

791
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 2: Well you didn't weren't from New York City. You kind

792
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 2: of plopped in there to bills.

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794
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795
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Speaker 1: Maybe it was a It all comes in love to

797
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Speaker 1: from the curve and we don't do happy talk. I

798
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 1: can't stand these Christian podcasts. Sit around and God will

799
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:59,959
Speaker 1: deliver you your future mate and keep eating Krispy kremes.

800
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