1 00:00:02,630 --> 00:00:05,570 Speaker 1: Life Audio. Hey there, friend. Heather Creekmore here. Thanks for 2 00:00:05,630 --> 00:00:08,410 Speaker 1: listening to the Comparative Podcast today. Today we are tackling 3 00:00:08,910 --> 00:00:11,590 Speaker 1: your three biggest questions. Okay, they might not be your 4 00:00:11,650 --> 00:00:14,840 Speaker 1: three biggest questions, but these are the three questions that 5 00:00:14,980 --> 00:00:19,540 Speaker 1: I am getting over and over again this month. And 6 00:00:19,560 --> 00:00:21,880 Speaker 1: I thought, well, I don't know, maybe you have these 7 00:00:21,940 --> 00:00:26,880 Speaker 1: questions too. We're going to talk about GLP-1s because everyone's 8 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:30,020 Speaker 1: talking about GLP-1s, but I'm getting questions like, should I 9 00:00:30,070 --> 00:00:31,870 Speaker 1: go on one? Is it wrong to go on one? 10 00:00:32,380 --> 00:00:34,780 Speaker 1: Do I need to go on run? Like, tell me 11 00:00:34,820 --> 00:00:37,010 Speaker 1: what to do with the GLP-1s. I'm getting that question 12 00:00:37,050 --> 00:00:41,290 Speaker 1: a lot. But I'm also getting questions like, what do 13 00:00:41,390 --> 00:00:44,710 Speaker 1: I do when there's a woman I know who just 14 00:00:44,750 --> 00:00:47,170 Speaker 1: completely intimidates me? And every time I show up at 15 00:00:47,229 --> 00:00:51,750 Speaker 1: church or at work or at the group, I just 16 00:00:52,210 --> 00:00:55,790 Speaker 1: feel all these things and I just, oh, I wish... 17 00:00:56,230 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 1: I didn't feel so insecure around her. We're going to 18 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:01,420 Speaker 1: tackle that one. And then the other question we're going 19 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:04,699 Speaker 1: to tackle is a question that came up in our 20 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:09,350 Speaker 1: 40-day journey, which is, don't I actually have to love 21 00:01:09,450 --> 00:01:14,470 Speaker 1: myself before I can love others well? Don't I need 22 00:01:14,670 --> 00:01:18,400 Speaker 1: to master self-love before I can even receive love? You've 23 00:01:18,420 --> 00:01:21,400 Speaker 1: probably heard that too. Friend, we're going there today. I'm 24 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 1: so glad you're here for it. I hope these three 25 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:26,300 Speaker 1: questions will be super helpful. And if you've got questions 26 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:29,060 Speaker 1: you'd like to hear answered on the podcast, you can 27 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:37,270 Speaker 1: actually record your question for me at speakpipe.com backslash compared 28 00:01:37,310 --> 00:01:43,580 Speaker 1: to who that's speakpipe.com. backslash compared to who, and I'm 29 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:45,780 Speaker 1: going to start using your questions at the end of 30 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 1: every episode. So shoot me those questions so you can 31 00:01:49,340 --> 00:01:57,450 Speaker 1: hear them answered here. Now let's get to today's show. 32 00:01:57,470 --> 00:02:04,290 Speaker 1: Hey friend, thanks so much for listening. If this is 33 00:02:04,330 --> 00:02:11,690 Speaker 1: your first time to listen to the and the ministry here, 34 00:02:11,770 --> 00:02:14,890 Speaker 1: what we do to help women with body image issues, 35 00:02:15,050 --> 00:02:20,650 Speaker 1: and so much more at improvebodyimage.com. You can find out 36 00:02:20,730 --> 00:02:23,730 Speaker 1: all about all of my books, our programs, coaching work 37 00:02:23,790 --> 00:02:27,930 Speaker 1: that we do, find old podcast episodes, pretty much any 38 00:02:28,010 --> 00:02:31,290 Speaker 1: question you have. We've probably tackled in one of our 39 00:02:31,290 --> 00:02:34,670 Speaker 1: 500 episodes, but we're glad you're with us today. Okay, 40 00:02:34,690 --> 00:02:39,030 Speaker 1: let's get to these questions. The first one. How can 41 00:02:39,070 --> 00:02:44,970 Speaker 1: I love others well if I don't love myself? Maybe 42 00:02:45,010 --> 00:02:47,310 Speaker 1: another way to say this is, don't I have to 43 00:02:47,350 --> 00:02:51,200 Speaker 1: work on loving myself first before I'm able to receive 44 00:02:51,260 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: and give love? Friends, what is so amazing is this 45 00:02:54,260 --> 00:02:59,399 Speaker 1: is taught as truth. so many places in our culture, 46 00:02:59,900 --> 00:03:04,420 Speaker 1: maybe even in our churches. And so if this is 47 00:03:04,460 --> 00:03:07,980 Speaker 1: something that you've believed, that you've heard, that you've tried 48 00:03:08,020 --> 00:03:11,940 Speaker 1: to live by, no shame or blame on you because 49 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:19,010 Speaker 1: this has been taught everywhere. But what's interesting is even 50 00:03:19,030 --> 00:03:24,270 Speaker 1: AI knows this isn't biblical. How is that possible? How 51 00:03:24,310 --> 00:03:27,410 Speaker 1: does AI have that kind of discernment? It doesn't. But 52 00:03:27,450 --> 00:03:30,910 Speaker 1: apparently there have been enough people who, like me, over 53 00:03:30,970 --> 00:03:35,380 Speaker 1: the years have tried to shine light and truth into 54 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:39,580 Speaker 1: the statement. But let's first start by figuring out where 55 00:03:39,620 --> 00:03:44,660 Speaker 1: it came from. According to Claude, oh, this is so fascinating. Friend, 56 00:03:44,980 --> 00:03:51,490 Speaker 1: according to Claude, this probably came from RuPaul. I think 57 00:03:51,550 --> 00:03:55,290 Speaker 1: RuPaul is a drag queen, has had several television programs. 58 00:03:56,400 --> 00:04:01,180 Speaker 1: RuPaul had a catchphrase. And the catchphrase is, if you 59 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:05,100 Speaker 1: can't love yourself, how in the hell are you going 60 00:04:05,140 --> 00:04:11,380 Speaker 1: to love somebody else? This is RuPaul's wisdom. Now, RuPaul 61 00:04:11,860 --> 00:04:16,850 Speaker 1: probably derived it from the field of psychology. But even 62 00:04:16,950 --> 00:04:20,820 Speaker 1: inside the field of psychology, it's not like there was 63 00:04:20,860 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: this easily recognizable tenant of love yourself before you can 64 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:31,099 Speaker 1: love others. It's just not there. Now, what's interesting is 65 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:34,850 Speaker 1: the internet phrasing of love yourself before you love another, 66 00:04:34,870 --> 00:04:40,770 Speaker 1: the AI traced that back to a book by Jane Roberts, 67 00:04:40,910 --> 00:04:47,039 Speaker 1: came out in 1974, called The Nature of of personal reality. 68 00:04:47,660 --> 00:04:52,779 Speaker 1: And apparently that channeled or became some sort of new 69 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:58,310 Speaker 1: age textbook. So that's one source for this concept. So 70 00:04:58,330 --> 00:05:01,530 Speaker 1: we got RuPaul, we got a new age book that 71 00:05:01,690 --> 00:05:05,070 Speaker 1: started off talking about new age things and then became 72 00:05:05,110 --> 00:05:07,670 Speaker 1: a full-blown new age textbook. And then we got a 73 00:05:07,690 --> 00:05:13,989 Speaker 1: third option, which is a German-American psychoanalyst named Eric Fromm, 74 00:05:14,089 --> 00:05:17,770 Speaker 1: who wrote a book in 1956 called The Art of Loving. 75 00:05:18,390 --> 00:05:21,250 Speaker 1: And Fromm apparently was heavily influenced by Freud, but kind 76 00:05:21,290 --> 00:05:24,070 Speaker 1: of broke off into his own ideas. And one of 77 00:05:24,130 --> 00:05:27,190 Speaker 1: his own ideas was this concept that self-love is what 78 00:05:27,330 --> 00:05:35,000 Speaker 1: makes someone capable of loving someone else. So hopefully already 79 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: you're kind of maybe getting the heebie-jeebies like, oh, this 80 00:05:38,500 --> 00:05:41,840 Speaker 1: isn't from scripture. This is from RuPaul or the New 81 00:05:41,900 --> 00:05:49,170 Speaker 1: Age movement or from some German-American psychoanalyst's book that was 82 00:05:49,370 --> 00:05:54,350 Speaker 1: heavily based in Freudian philosophy. Friend, like none of that 83 00:05:55,050 --> 00:05:57,789 Speaker 1: is the Bible. And so let's look at what scripture 84 00:05:57,810 --> 00:06:01,030 Speaker 1: really says, because actually AI did a really good job 85 00:06:01,290 --> 00:06:06,810 Speaker 1: of identifying the truth that Where people have misinterpreted this 86 00:06:07,110 --> 00:06:11,830 Speaker 1: is the verse, love your neighbor as yourself. It's Matthew 22, 39. 87 00:06:11,830 --> 00:06:17,490 Speaker 1: But in reality, love your neighbor as yourself, that's not 88 00:06:17,710 --> 00:06:22,710 Speaker 1: actually saying you need to have self-love first, and then 89 00:06:22,770 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 1: you can love your neighbor. Instead, this scripture is assuming 90 00:06:26,890 --> 00:06:33,200 Speaker 1: that we already love ourselves first. We already think about 91 00:06:33,260 --> 00:06:36,440 Speaker 1: ourselves first. Who do you wake up thinking about? Who 92 00:06:36,460 --> 00:06:40,119 Speaker 1: do you go to bed thinking about? It's me, me, me, me, me, right? 93 00:06:40,660 --> 00:06:43,690 Speaker 1: And so we're supposed to, the principle of the scriptures, 94 00:06:43,730 --> 00:06:49,370 Speaker 1: we're supposed to think about others in as serious and 95 00:06:49,490 --> 00:06:54,230 Speaker 1: dedicated and committed way as we already think about, i.e. 96 00:06:55,170 --> 00:07:02,029 Speaker 1: love ourselves. But somewhere along the way, this got wonky, right? 97 00:07:02,190 --> 00:07:05,670 Speaker 1: And it twisted into, you must love yourself before you 98 00:07:05,690 --> 00:07:09,270 Speaker 1: can love your neighbor, which even AI understood is a 99 00:07:09,290 --> 00:07:12,190 Speaker 1: theological stretch. Now, let me explain to you why this 100 00:07:12,250 --> 00:07:15,500 Speaker 1: is a theological problem, okay? Because you don't have to guess. 101 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:17,780 Speaker 1: You don't have to just agree with me or not 102 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:22,260 Speaker 1: agree with me. You can just look for yourself. Right 103 00:07:22,340 --> 00:07:26,440 Speaker 1: before this scripture, where it says, love your neighbor as yourself, 104 00:07:27,280 --> 00:07:33,140 Speaker 1: Jesus says there are two great commandments. The first commandment is, 105 00:07:33,200 --> 00:07:35,530 Speaker 1: of course, love the Lord your God, right? And this 106 00:07:35,550 --> 00:07:39,850 Speaker 1: is kind of a throwback to Deuteronomy, right? The Shema, 107 00:07:39,890 --> 00:07:43,510 Speaker 1: you're supposed to love God and love neighbor. But love 108 00:07:43,550 --> 00:07:46,570 Speaker 1: the Lord your God. And then the second one is 109 00:07:46,610 --> 00:07:50,450 Speaker 1: love your neighbor. Two great commandments. Now, I don't know 110 00:07:50,480 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 1: about you, but I'm pretty sure that God is really 111 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:55,240 Speaker 1: good at counting. I'm not great at math, but I 112 00:07:55,320 --> 00:07:59,110 Speaker 1: know God is. So if there were a third commandment, 113 00:07:59,770 --> 00:08:03,690 Speaker 1: like a hidden, like, well, love yourself before you can 114 00:08:03,710 --> 00:08:08,970 Speaker 1: do commandment two, wouldn't that make three commandments? Like, wouldn't 115 00:08:09,010 --> 00:08:12,260 Speaker 1: that have to be counted in the things you have 116 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:14,560 Speaker 1: to do? Well, I have to love God, love myself, 117 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 1: and love my neighbor. That would be three. But Jesus 118 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:23,060 Speaker 1: only counts to two. And so I think in that way, 119 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:26,740 Speaker 1: we know for sure he's assuming the self-love exists. He's 120 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:29,900 Speaker 1: not putting it out there as a mandate. Let me 121 00:08:30,350 --> 00:08:33,810 Speaker 1: also connect this to Paul's teaching on the same topic. 122 00:08:34,690 --> 00:08:39,349 Speaker 1: And so Paul in Ephesians is talking about husbands loving 123 00:08:39,530 --> 00:08:43,010 Speaker 1: their wives. And Paul is kind of echoing the same 124 00:08:43,210 --> 00:08:48,330 Speaker 1: sentiment about self-love. and what it means to love yourself 125 00:08:48,470 --> 00:08:51,730 Speaker 1: and love others. And so what Paul says to husbands 126 00:08:51,850 --> 00:08:54,720 Speaker 1: in Ephesians 5, 28 to 30, is he says this, 127 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 1: in the same way, husbands ought to love their wives 128 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:02,500 Speaker 1: as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 129 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:05,820 Speaker 1: After all, no one ever hated their own body, but 130 00:09:05,840 --> 00:09:08,090 Speaker 1: they feed and care for their body just as Christ 131 00:09:08,110 --> 00:09:11,230 Speaker 1: does the church, for we are members of his body. 132 00:09:11,830 --> 00:09:16,680 Speaker 1: And so the principle Paul is teaching here is not, Well, husband, 133 00:09:16,760 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 1: love your wife just as you love yourself. So if 134 00:09:19,420 --> 00:09:22,860 Speaker 1: you hate yourself, it's okay to hate your wife. No, 135 00:09:22,900 --> 00:09:25,020 Speaker 1: of course he's not saying that, right? We read in 136 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:28,760 Speaker 1: verse 29, Paul's assuming no one ever hated himself. Like 137 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:32,719 Speaker 1: you take care of yourself. You feed yourself. You care 138 00:09:32,780 --> 00:09:36,360 Speaker 1: for your body. You think about yourself. And he's relating 139 00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:40,560 Speaker 1: that to the way Jesus cares for the church. Here's 140 00:09:40,580 --> 00:09:47,380 Speaker 1: where it gets a little tricky. Some of us have struggled. 141 00:09:47,420 --> 00:09:51,370 Speaker 1: There's a lot of mental illnesses, eating disorders. There's things 142 00:09:51,429 --> 00:09:55,410 Speaker 1: that we have gone through where, wow, it sure does 143 00:09:55,470 --> 00:10:00,679 Speaker 1: feel like I hate myself or I hate my own body. Man, 144 00:10:00,700 --> 00:10:06,610 Speaker 1: it feels like this pithy piece of potentially new age 145 00:10:06,730 --> 00:10:12,010 Speaker 1: truth could be helpful. Right? Like, okay, that's what I 146 00:10:12,050 --> 00:10:14,090 Speaker 1: need to do. If I could just love myself, then 147 00:10:14,110 --> 00:10:16,230 Speaker 1: I could love everyone else. And then I would know 148 00:10:16,250 --> 00:10:19,610 Speaker 1: that I'm valuable and I'm worthy of love. And it's 149 00:10:19,650 --> 00:10:23,090 Speaker 1: the self-love piece that's the missing piece. If I could 150 00:10:23,110 --> 00:10:25,540 Speaker 1: just fix it, if I could just think better thoughts 151 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:28,860 Speaker 1: about myself, if I could just decide to love my body, 152 00:10:28,940 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 1: then I would be okay with my husband saying he 153 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:34,900 Speaker 1: loves my body or with feeling like others love and 154 00:10:34,940 --> 00:10:41,180 Speaker 1: accept me. But friend, it's just... not what the Bible teaches. 155 00:10:42,140 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 1: And I'm afraid that we have heard this so much, 156 00:10:45,220 --> 00:10:49,760 Speaker 1: so often, so long and tried so hard to make 157 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:51,860 Speaker 1: it work. Like we've believed in this so much. Like 158 00:10:52,179 --> 00:10:54,340 Speaker 1: I just need more self-love. I just need more self-love. 159 00:10:54,380 --> 00:10:56,800 Speaker 1: If I could just find some more self-love, but it's 160 00:10:56,900 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 1: a dead end street. And I talk about this in 161 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:05,330 Speaker 1: my 40 day body image workbook. In fact, that's why 162 00:11:05,380 --> 00:11:08,660 Speaker 1: the question came up. This month is because we're doing 163 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:16,220 Speaker 1: our 40-day journey. And it's sincerely a great question. But 164 00:11:16,260 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 1: my encouragement, you can read more about it in that 165 00:11:18,620 --> 00:11:23,970 Speaker 1: 40-day body image workbook, is that the answer isn't more self-love. 166 00:11:24,830 --> 00:11:27,969 Speaker 1: Here's one way we know this, right? What do you 167 00:11:28,010 --> 00:11:30,530 Speaker 1: think about when you think about someone who just loves 168 00:11:30,570 --> 00:11:35,720 Speaker 1: themselves a lot, who's just brimming with self-love, right? you 169 00:11:35,860 --> 00:11:40,200 Speaker 1: kind of get the heebie-jeebies. You're not happy for that person. 170 00:11:40,220 --> 00:11:44,500 Speaker 1: The person who has too much self-love, we might call 171 00:11:44,540 --> 00:11:48,760 Speaker 1: a narcissist. They might be pretty self-focused. And so if 172 00:11:48,800 --> 00:11:54,680 Speaker 1: the principle was more self-love means more loving others, we 173 00:11:54,720 --> 00:11:57,780 Speaker 1: know that principle doesn't work because the people with the 174 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:02,450 Speaker 1: most self-love often do a really poor job of loving others. 175 00:12:02,490 --> 00:12:06,590 Speaker 1: So that's a stereotype. but we know it's kind of true. 176 00:12:07,830 --> 00:12:10,670 Speaker 1: And so if there is a point at which we 177 00:12:10,850 --> 00:12:14,530 Speaker 1: max out on self-love, right? Like, well, you do need some, 178 00:12:14,550 --> 00:12:18,219 Speaker 1: not too much, right? Then we know that can't be 179 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:22,800 Speaker 1: the answer because the kind of love that scripture talks about, 180 00:12:22,880 --> 00:12:26,340 Speaker 1: you can't max out, right? When we're talking about loving 181 00:12:26,380 --> 00:12:29,420 Speaker 1: God and loving neighbors, what does Deuteronomy says? Love the 182 00:12:29,660 --> 00:12:32,210 Speaker 1: Lord your God with your whole heart, your whole mind, 183 00:12:32,710 --> 00:12:37,150 Speaker 1: your whole body. You can't max that out. Can you 184 00:12:37,290 --> 00:12:42,969 Speaker 1: ever love your neighbor too much? No. There's not like a, oh, well, 185 00:12:42,990 --> 00:12:46,329 Speaker 1: you crossed the line. You really love that neighbor way 186 00:12:46,350 --> 00:12:50,390 Speaker 1: too much. No, it doesn't work that way. And so 187 00:12:50,650 --> 00:12:55,170 Speaker 1: that's why I hope this has helped shed some light 188 00:12:56,059 --> 00:12:59,000 Speaker 1: on this dead-end street that is self-love. Go grab my 189 00:12:59,020 --> 00:13:00,939 Speaker 1: 40-Day Body Image Workbook if you want to read more 190 00:13:00,980 --> 00:13:04,980 Speaker 1: about this. But the answer isn't loving yourself more. The 191 00:13:05,059 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 1: answer is, as Tim Keller talks about, it's actually, it's 192 00:13:08,970 --> 00:13:15,290 Speaker 1: not loving yourself less. It's thinking about yourself less. It's 193 00:13:15,490 --> 00:13:19,050 Speaker 1: actually shifting the posture of your heart from pride and 194 00:13:20,030 --> 00:13:21,469 Speaker 1: I'm the greatest. I just need to believe I'm the 195 00:13:21,510 --> 00:13:23,390 Speaker 1: greatest and I'm the best. I just need to believe 196 00:13:23,429 --> 00:13:25,590 Speaker 1: I'm the best. It's not that. Like, I just love me. 197 00:13:25,630 --> 00:13:28,650 Speaker 1: I love me. I love me. That's all pride. Pride. 198 00:13:29,670 --> 00:13:33,150 Speaker 1: It's actually thinking, oh, I am worthy because Jesus says 199 00:13:33,210 --> 00:13:37,030 Speaker 1: I am worthy. I am loved and lovable because Jesus 200 00:13:37,090 --> 00:13:39,500 Speaker 1: says I'm loved and lovable. It's nothing in and of 201 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:42,860 Speaker 1: myself I can do. I'm going to get my eyes 202 00:13:43,059 --> 00:13:48,839 Speaker 1: off my thighs and point them toward heaven, to him 203 00:13:49,280 --> 00:13:52,730 Speaker 1: who says I'm worthy, to he who gives me my value. 204 00:13:52,750 --> 00:13:55,949 Speaker 1: And that's where I'm going to find my identity. That's 205 00:13:55,970 --> 00:13:58,460 Speaker 1: where I'm going to find my security. And that's where 206 00:13:58,480 --> 00:14:00,939 Speaker 1: I'm going to find the only ability I'll ever have 207 00:14:01,020 --> 00:14:04,000 Speaker 1: to love my neighbor as myself. Because goodness gracious, friends, 208 00:14:04,040 --> 00:14:06,819 Speaker 1: without Jesus, we have no chance of thinking of others 209 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:09,620 Speaker 1: as much as we think of ourselves. And without Jesus, 210 00:14:09,660 --> 00:14:12,480 Speaker 1: we have no chance of really loving God as well 211 00:14:12,559 --> 00:14:15,570 Speaker 1: as we're called to love him either. Right? It's all 212 00:14:15,590 --> 00:14:18,610 Speaker 1: through the power of the Holy Spirit that we are 213 00:14:18,630 --> 00:14:23,870 Speaker 1: enabled to love outside of ourselves. But it doesn't start 214 00:14:23,910 --> 00:14:28,100 Speaker 1: with self-love. It starts with Jesus's love. Okay, I hope 215 00:14:28,140 --> 00:14:30,240 Speaker 1: that was helpful. Let's get to the second question right 216 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:36,120 Speaker 1: after this quick break. Okay, your second question is so good. 217 00:14:36,260 --> 00:14:40,490 Speaker 1: It's Heather. I am so intimidated by this woman at 218 00:14:40,530 --> 00:14:44,330 Speaker 1: my church. And for you, it could be anywhere, work, wherever. 219 00:14:45,270 --> 00:14:48,270 Speaker 1: She's just got it all together. She looks great. She 220 00:14:48,330 --> 00:14:51,830 Speaker 1: dresses great. She seems to have her life all together. 221 00:14:51,850 --> 00:14:55,200 Speaker 1: And I just have a difficult time being around her 222 00:14:55,480 --> 00:15:01,180 Speaker 1: because I feel so inferior. I feel like she's just 223 00:15:01,260 --> 00:15:03,540 Speaker 1: winning at the game of life and I am a loser. 224 00:15:04,320 --> 00:15:07,220 Speaker 1: What do I do? I have tried to be as 225 00:15:07,260 --> 00:15:09,420 Speaker 1: good as her and I just can't pull it off. 226 00:15:09,660 --> 00:15:11,930 Speaker 1: I just can't do it. What do I do? Okay. Okay. 227 00:15:12,820 --> 00:15:15,000 Speaker 1: I love this question so much because I think every 228 00:15:15,060 --> 00:15:16,940 Speaker 1: single one of us has felt this way. In fact, 229 00:15:17,100 --> 00:15:21,220 Speaker 1: in my book, The Comparison-Free Life, I talk about being 230 00:15:21,600 --> 00:15:25,610 Speaker 1: a shambles and running into this kind of woman at 231 00:15:25,650 --> 00:15:30,250 Speaker 1: a hotel breakfast and telling her that she looked nice. 232 00:15:31,130 --> 00:15:35,110 Speaker 1: And I watched this woman kind of like visibly crumble 233 00:15:35,270 --> 00:15:38,660 Speaker 1: in front of my eyes. Like I could see in 234 00:15:38,780 --> 00:15:42,040 Speaker 1: my just couple flippant words, like, you look so nice. 235 00:15:42,790 --> 00:15:49,140 Speaker 1: I could see the insecurity and just the loneliness and 236 00:15:49,160 --> 00:15:51,520 Speaker 1: the questioning. I could see it all in her face. 237 00:15:52,360 --> 00:15:54,300 Speaker 1: And that doesn't mean that every woman who has it 238 00:15:54,340 --> 00:15:57,010 Speaker 1: all together is on the brink of falling apart. I 239 00:15:57,070 --> 00:15:59,250 Speaker 1: don't mean that at all. I just mean that we 240 00:15:59,470 --> 00:16:04,310 Speaker 1: often don't know the story behind the woman that's working 241 00:16:04,510 --> 00:16:07,550 Speaker 1: so hard to make sure that you think she has 242 00:16:07,590 --> 00:16:14,120 Speaker 1: it all together. I don't want to over-stereotype here, but 243 00:16:14,180 --> 00:16:16,960 Speaker 1: a lot of times the woman who's working so hard 244 00:16:17,000 --> 00:16:19,580 Speaker 1: to make sure you think or everyone thinks that she's 245 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:22,380 Speaker 1: got it all together, she's doing that because part of 246 00:16:22,420 --> 00:16:26,590 Speaker 1: her is falling apart. Not in every case, but in 247 00:16:26,630 --> 00:16:29,110 Speaker 1: a lot of cases. Now, but here's what I want 248 00:16:29,150 --> 00:16:32,950 Speaker 1: you to hear. I don't want to solve this question 249 00:16:32,990 --> 00:16:34,369 Speaker 1: for you. I don't want to answer this question for 250 00:16:34,390 --> 00:16:38,350 Speaker 1: you by saying, just remember she's probably falling apart. Because 251 00:16:38,510 --> 00:16:41,940 Speaker 1: in doing so, What I am saying is it's okay 252 00:16:41,980 --> 00:16:45,890 Speaker 1: for you to compare yourself to her and then decide, oh, really, 253 00:16:45,910 --> 00:16:47,990 Speaker 1: you're not doing as bad as you think you're doing. 254 00:16:48,050 --> 00:16:51,290 Speaker 1: You actually might be winning because she's probably falling apart. 255 00:16:51,370 --> 00:16:55,570 Speaker 1: You just can't tell that, right? That's comparison. That is 256 00:16:55,730 --> 00:16:59,940 Speaker 1: not helpful. So let's think about this in a different way, right? 257 00:16:59,980 --> 00:17:03,140 Speaker 1: My first question for you is when you think about 258 00:17:03,160 --> 00:17:05,399 Speaker 1: this woman, and so if you have a woman like 259 00:17:05,420 --> 00:17:06,920 Speaker 1: this in your life, I want you to just pause 260 00:17:06,980 --> 00:17:11,100 Speaker 1: and think about her right now. Just picture her. Okay, 261 00:17:11,119 --> 00:17:15,389 Speaker 1: got it? My first question is, what is going on 262 00:17:15,590 --> 00:17:20,370 Speaker 1: in your heart as you perceive, as you think about 263 00:17:20,410 --> 00:17:27,810 Speaker 1: this woman? Is it idolization? Are you idolizing her? Are 264 00:17:27,830 --> 00:17:31,490 Speaker 1: you putting her up on a pedestal, believing things about 265 00:17:31,540 --> 00:17:34,740 Speaker 1: her that may or may not be true? Or are 266 00:17:34,760 --> 00:17:41,450 Speaker 1: you envying her? Is it envy? Are you jealous of her? Oh, goodness, friends, 267 00:17:41,470 --> 00:17:43,550 Speaker 1: I was just reading in the book of Mark today 268 00:17:43,570 --> 00:17:49,950 Speaker 1: the story of Jesus being brought before Pilate and ultimately 269 00:17:49,970 --> 00:17:53,979 Speaker 1: him going to the cross. And there's a verse in 270 00:17:54,040 --> 00:17:59,500 Speaker 1: Mark that says, Pilate perceived that the chief rulers were 271 00:17:59,880 --> 00:18:06,590 Speaker 1: envious of Jesus. Envy is one of the sins that 272 00:18:06,630 --> 00:18:09,620 Speaker 1: took Jesus to the cross. Like envy is something we 273 00:18:09,710 --> 00:18:15,840 Speaker 1: cannot take lightly. It's a serious sin. Are you envying her? 274 00:18:17,440 --> 00:18:24,320 Speaker 1: Are you maybe determining that she's better than you? Or, 275 00:18:24,340 --> 00:18:28,080 Speaker 1: and this is a tricky one, have you determined that 276 00:18:28,119 --> 00:18:32,160 Speaker 1: maybe you're actually better than her because you're not so 277 00:18:32,420 --> 00:18:36,010 Speaker 1: shallow and superficial to worry only about your outsides like 278 00:18:36,070 --> 00:18:42,150 Speaker 1: she does? Yikes. So front, step one here is you've 279 00:18:42,190 --> 00:18:45,869 Speaker 1: got to stop whatever sin is happening in your heart 280 00:18:46,750 --> 00:18:49,850 Speaker 1: in the way you perceive this woman. And in order 281 00:18:49,890 --> 00:18:53,429 Speaker 1: to stop sin, it requires confession and repentance. Now, I'm 282 00:18:53,450 --> 00:18:55,570 Speaker 1: not saying you have to confess this to her. Maybe 283 00:18:55,590 --> 00:18:58,800 Speaker 1: that's appropriate in some relationships. I'm not necessarily saying that 284 00:18:59,230 --> 00:19:01,619 Speaker 1: for everyone, especially if it's someone you don't know. It 285 00:19:01,880 --> 00:19:05,040 Speaker 1: might be awkward, right? But confess it to the Lord 286 00:19:05,160 --> 00:19:08,830 Speaker 1: and repent immediately. I am sorry, God, that I have 287 00:19:09,010 --> 00:19:12,010 Speaker 1: envied her. I am sorry, God, that I have idolized her. 288 00:19:12,670 --> 00:19:17,100 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Lord, that maybe I've had pride around thinking 289 00:19:17,220 --> 00:19:20,140 Speaker 1: I'm better than her or judging her as better than 290 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:24,920 Speaker 1: myself and having some sort of false humility. Woe is me. 291 00:19:25,060 --> 00:19:29,500 Speaker 1: I'm the worst. The book of James talks about partiality, right? 292 00:19:29,520 --> 00:19:33,840 Speaker 1: It's clear through scripture that we are, like we just said, 293 00:19:33,920 --> 00:19:37,260 Speaker 1: to love our neighbors, to love others as we love ourselves, 294 00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:40,869 Speaker 1: but we're also not supposed to decide who's better and 295 00:19:40,890 --> 00:19:43,910 Speaker 1: who's worse. I love how Paul says that he doesn't 296 00:19:43,970 --> 00:19:46,450 Speaker 1: compare himself to other people. He doesn't even compare himself 297 00:19:46,490 --> 00:19:49,950 Speaker 1: to himself. God is his judge. He lets God judge 298 00:19:50,220 --> 00:19:53,360 Speaker 1: his heart. So friend, if you and I are working 299 00:19:53,380 --> 00:19:55,619 Speaker 1: together in coaching and you bring me this question, this 300 00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:57,820 Speaker 1: is where I'm going to start with you. I'm going 301 00:19:57,840 --> 00:20:00,310 Speaker 1: to say, hey, what's going on in your heart? And 302 00:20:00,330 --> 00:20:02,909 Speaker 1: we're going to call out the sin. And that is 303 00:20:03,090 --> 00:20:05,030 Speaker 1: really going to make more of a difference than you 304 00:20:05,190 --> 00:20:10,119 Speaker 1: might anticipate because It really does matter what is going 305 00:20:10,220 --> 00:20:12,899 Speaker 1: on in your heart as you relate to other people. 306 00:20:13,460 --> 00:20:15,420 Speaker 1: In fact, I think scripture would argue that's the most 307 00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:19,169 Speaker 1: important thing, right? Think about how in the Sermon on 308 00:20:19,190 --> 00:20:21,510 Speaker 1: the Mount, Jesus kind of turns everything on its head, right? 309 00:20:21,550 --> 00:20:23,129 Speaker 1: It used to be like, if you killed someone, that 310 00:20:23,170 --> 00:20:25,570 Speaker 1: was murder. And Jesus is like, no, if you hate someone, 311 00:20:26,090 --> 00:20:32,800 Speaker 1: that's murder. What matters is what's going on in your heart. 312 00:20:33,600 --> 00:20:37,210 Speaker 1: We can't ignore that. And so where I would start 313 00:20:37,230 --> 00:20:39,770 Speaker 1: with you, if you ask me this question, is let's 314 00:20:39,810 --> 00:20:40,990 Speaker 1: go through. What do you think is going on in 315 00:20:41,030 --> 00:20:45,389 Speaker 1: your heart? You can answer that now to yourself. And 316 00:20:45,410 --> 00:20:48,830 Speaker 1: then what do you need to do? Confess? Repent? What 317 00:20:48,850 --> 00:20:51,690 Speaker 1: do you need to do about that? And then I 318 00:20:51,750 --> 00:20:56,370 Speaker 1: think the next step is just to pray that God 319 00:20:56,590 --> 00:21:02,390 Speaker 1: would change the way you see people. Change the way 320 00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:07,440 Speaker 1: you view others. You see, that woman that you think 321 00:21:07,500 --> 00:21:10,699 Speaker 1: has it all together, you've determined she has it all 322 00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:14,979 Speaker 1: together because there is some area in your life that 323 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:17,580 Speaker 1: you are using, and we do this exercise in coaching 324 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:20,540 Speaker 1: all the time, you're using it as your ruler, right? 325 00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:22,840 Speaker 1: So think about like a ruler, like an old wooden 326 00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:26,480 Speaker 1: school ruler. A ruler is something you use to measure things. 327 00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:30,640 Speaker 1: And we all kind of grew up with our own rulers, right? 328 00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:36,460 Speaker 1: Like we learned from our parents pretty early on how 329 00:21:36,660 --> 00:21:43,460 Speaker 1: to win, what measurement we needed to get right in 330 00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:47,330 Speaker 1: order to get praise. So for some of you, that 331 00:21:47,369 --> 00:21:50,970 Speaker 1: was the right weight or the right look or the 332 00:21:51,050 --> 00:21:55,949 Speaker 1: right clearness of skin or shape or athletic ability or 333 00:21:56,410 --> 00:21:59,520 Speaker 1: intelligence or ability at school, right? It could have been 334 00:21:59,580 --> 00:22:01,760 Speaker 1: any number of things, right? But you were kind of 335 00:22:01,859 --> 00:22:04,790 Speaker 1: given this ruler at birth, right? And this is the 336 00:22:04,810 --> 00:22:06,909 Speaker 1: ruler where you measure, okay, how am I doing? Am 337 00:22:06,970 --> 00:22:10,210 Speaker 1: I doing well? Am I like a 10 on the 338 00:22:10,990 --> 00:22:13,950 Speaker 1: one to 12 inch scale of this brown wooden ruler? 339 00:22:13,970 --> 00:22:18,330 Speaker 1: Am I winning? But then we also take that ruler 340 00:22:18,730 --> 00:22:21,150 Speaker 1: with us. And as we look around at everyone else 341 00:22:21,210 --> 00:22:23,320 Speaker 1: in our lives, we measure them in the same way. 342 00:22:24,020 --> 00:22:27,199 Speaker 1: And so this woman that you are idolizing, chances are, 343 00:22:27,260 --> 00:22:30,660 Speaker 1: this woman that you're intimidated by, you've taken this ruler 344 00:22:30,859 --> 00:22:32,399 Speaker 1: up to her and you've said, oh, she's a 12. 345 00:22:32,380 --> 00:22:37,760 Speaker 1: She is. killing it. But here's what's so interesting, right? 346 00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:41,450 Speaker 1: There's a solid chance that this woman you are intimidated by, 347 00:22:42,109 --> 00:22:46,470 Speaker 1: because she measures well on your ruler, she may not 348 00:22:46,530 --> 00:22:49,710 Speaker 1: intimidate someone else who doesn't have the same kind of 349 00:22:49,830 --> 00:22:52,560 Speaker 1: ruler you do. Let me make that a little clearer. 350 00:22:52,859 --> 00:22:57,190 Speaker 1: One woman's ruler might clearly just be about success. right? 351 00:22:57,210 --> 00:22:59,570 Speaker 1: Like if you have a successful job, then you have 352 00:22:59,609 --> 00:23:02,910 Speaker 1: it all together. And so her ruler says, anyone with 353 00:23:02,950 --> 00:23:07,410 Speaker 1: a certain title or a certain paycheck amount, she is successful. 354 00:23:07,530 --> 00:23:11,129 Speaker 1: She intimidates me. She's a 12 on my ruler, and 355 00:23:11,170 --> 00:23:14,300 Speaker 1: I just maybe hope to be like her someday. But 356 00:23:14,380 --> 00:23:18,340 Speaker 1: another woman's ruler might be all about fashion. And a 357 00:23:18,380 --> 00:23:22,240 Speaker 1: woman might have just a job at McDonald's, but if 358 00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:26,889 Speaker 1: she dresses fashionably... in her off time, then she is 359 00:23:27,010 --> 00:23:31,290 Speaker 1: crushing it on that ruler. She's got a 12 out 360 00:23:31,310 --> 00:23:35,690 Speaker 1: of 12 and she's winning. And so that's what makes 361 00:23:35,710 --> 00:23:41,690 Speaker 1: this so interesting. This ruler of your heart is completely 362 00:23:41,730 --> 00:23:45,250 Speaker 1: dependent on what you believe. What did you grow up 363 00:23:45,369 --> 00:23:49,820 Speaker 1: learning about where value and worth come from? What do 364 00:23:49,859 --> 00:23:52,480 Speaker 1: you believe now about where value and worth come from? 365 00:23:53,369 --> 00:23:59,470 Speaker 1: These rulers reveal these idols we have. And this whole 366 00:23:59,570 --> 00:24:02,390 Speaker 1: exercise is actually in the 40 day body image workbook. 367 00:24:02,470 --> 00:24:04,530 Speaker 1: So if you want to try this exercise for yourself 368 00:24:04,570 --> 00:24:06,840 Speaker 1: or just learn more about how it works, you can 369 00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:09,320 Speaker 1: grab that 40 day body image workbook and learn more 370 00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:12,240 Speaker 1: about it. But you can ask yourself right now, like, 371 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:15,100 Speaker 1: what do I, how do I measure people? Do I 372 00:24:15,140 --> 00:24:17,240 Speaker 1: measure people's worth by how much they make? Do I 373 00:24:17,260 --> 00:24:20,580 Speaker 1: measure people's worth by how thin they are, by how 374 00:24:20,660 --> 00:24:22,960 Speaker 1: clear their skin is, by what kind of car they drive, 375 00:24:23,109 --> 00:24:25,790 Speaker 1: by what kind of mom they are, right? There's so 376 00:24:25,869 --> 00:24:31,350 Speaker 1: many different metrics that we might secretly hide in our 377 00:24:31,450 --> 00:24:34,850 Speaker 1: hearts and bringing them out of light really helps us. 378 00:24:36,070 --> 00:24:37,750 Speaker 1: I don't want to say level the playing field because 379 00:24:37,770 --> 00:24:39,910 Speaker 1: that's not our goal, but our goal is to love 380 00:24:39,950 --> 00:24:42,679 Speaker 1: others well. And if I can see that this is 381 00:24:42,740 --> 00:24:44,720 Speaker 1: in the way, my ruler is in the way of 382 00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:47,980 Speaker 1: me loving you well, then hopefully that'll help me put 383 00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:51,260 Speaker 1: my ruler away and say, no, I want to see 384 00:24:51,300 --> 00:24:54,980 Speaker 1: you like Jesus sees you. Man, you got struggles. I 385 00:24:55,020 --> 00:24:59,520 Speaker 1: got struggles. Praise God. Jesus is there to walk with 386 00:24:59,619 --> 00:25:01,380 Speaker 1: us in all these struggles we're going to have on earth. 387 00:25:01,570 --> 00:25:05,270 Speaker 1: But you are my sister and I am done competing 388 00:25:05,310 --> 00:25:09,530 Speaker 1: with you. The competition is off. The contest is closed. 389 00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:14,240 Speaker 1: We are not in a race to see whomever is 390 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:18,659 Speaker 1: the thinnest, prettiest, you name it. Man, we're both on 391 00:25:18,700 --> 00:25:22,379 Speaker 1: the same team here. Okay, last but not least, the 392 00:25:22,420 --> 00:25:27,160 Speaker 1: question perhaps you've been waiting for. Heather, should I go 393 00:25:27,420 --> 00:25:31,530 Speaker 1: on a GLP-1? I've done a couple other episodes about GLP-1s, 394 00:25:31,850 --> 00:25:34,850 Speaker 1: and they were a long time ago. I think the 395 00:25:35,070 --> 00:25:37,590 Speaker 1: most recent one I did was probably 18 months ago 396 00:25:37,710 --> 00:25:41,230 Speaker 1: or more. So the conversation around GLP-1s has gotten much 397 00:25:41,310 --> 00:25:44,830 Speaker 1: louder and more prevalent than it was back then. In fact, 398 00:25:44,869 --> 00:25:46,990 Speaker 1: I think the latest stat is that one out of 399 00:25:47,230 --> 00:25:50,909 Speaker 1: every three people is on a GLP-1 now. And so 400 00:25:50,930 --> 00:25:52,770 Speaker 1: here's what I want you to hear clearly. I don't 401 00:25:52,830 --> 00:25:56,620 Speaker 1: think I've changed my position on GLP-1s, but I do 402 00:25:56,690 --> 00:26:00,720 Speaker 1: believe that I've clarified and honed it because I know 403 00:26:00,859 --> 00:26:03,090 Speaker 1: more and more people who are using them. And I 404 00:26:03,190 --> 00:26:06,060 Speaker 1: want to be clear that there is no shame in 405 00:26:06,210 --> 00:26:09,340 Speaker 1: using a GLP-1. In fact, I hope if you're using 406 00:26:09,380 --> 00:26:13,139 Speaker 1: a GLP-1 that you're also getting support around your body image. 407 00:26:13,660 --> 00:26:17,399 Speaker 1: We have coaches that are willing to help you and 408 00:26:17,660 --> 00:26:20,060 Speaker 1: will embrace you. We are not going to say, you're 409 00:26:20,100 --> 00:26:22,320 Speaker 1: on a GLP-1, you can't work with us. No, no, no, no, no. 410 00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:28,160 Speaker 1: We want to support you because This journey with body 411 00:26:28,180 --> 00:26:32,080 Speaker 1: image issues is much more than just a physical body 412 00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:34,610 Speaker 1: going from a larger size to a smaller size. There's 413 00:26:34,619 --> 00:26:36,990 Speaker 1: going to be a whole lot more going on if 414 00:26:37,090 --> 00:26:39,669 Speaker 1: that is your GLP-1 experience. And so we want to 415 00:26:39,690 --> 00:26:42,290 Speaker 1: be here to support you. But here's my bottom line. 416 00:26:43,430 --> 00:26:47,870 Speaker 1: Thing one, question one, I would ask is why would 417 00:26:47,910 --> 00:26:50,670 Speaker 1: you use a GLP-1? And there's a lot of really 418 00:26:50,810 --> 00:26:55,649 Speaker 1: good answers to the question why. right? It might be, well, Heather, 419 00:26:55,869 --> 00:26:57,560 Speaker 1: I've got a lot of weight to lose and the 420 00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:01,120 Speaker 1: doctor says it's going to help my A1C or my 421 00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:04,020 Speaker 1: blood pressure or, you know, this number or that number. 422 00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:07,879 Speaker 1: Or maybe it'll just help my knees to not carry 423 00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:12,470 Speaker 1: an extra 70 pounds. Okay. That could be a perfectly 424 00:27:12,530 --> 00:27:18,869 Speaker 1: legitimate reason. They're also using GLP-1s around inflammation. A lot 425 00:27:18,910 --> 00:27:22,280 Speaker 1: of people that have pain and it's difficult to exercise 426 00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:25,980 Speaker 1: because of a lot of inflammation, especially in midlife, GLP-1s 427 00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:31,160 Speaker 1: have been proven to help with that. But, and this 428 00:27:31,220 --> 00:27:34,209 Speaker 1: is a big but, I want you to know what 429 00:27:34,250 --> 00:27:38,390 Speaker 1: you're getting into. And this worries me a little bit 430 00:27:38,550 --> 00:27:42,510 Speaker 1: for my friends who have a history of an eating 431 00:27:42,550 --> 00:27:51,879 Speaker 1: disorder or you will be able to go without eating 432 00:27:51,940 --> 00:27:56,240 Speaker 1: without it bothering you. In fact, in some cases, especially 433 00:27:56,260 --> 00:27:59,860 Speaker 1: with semaglutide, right, they're finding there's so many, there might 434 00:27:59,880 --> 00:28:02,780 Speaker 1: be so many digestive side effects, especially if you're on 435 00:28:02,820 --> 00:28:06,440 Speaker 1: a full dose, nausea, diarrhea, those sorts of things. Like 436 00:28:06,540 --> 00:28:09,600 Speaker 1: it might just be beyond not eating. It might be 437 00:28:09,660 --> 00:28:14,040 Speaker 1: that you are not eating and you're excreting, let's just 438 00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:17,080 Speaker 1: say it that way, more than you are taking in. 439 00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:21,120 Speaker 1: And that's not a healthy way to lose weight. Now, 440 00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:24,320 Speaker 1: there's an adjustment period. I think it's really important to 441 00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:27,820 Speaker 1: talk to your doctor about dosing. I would say the 442 00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:32,480 Speaker 1: lowest dose you can be on to have minimal effects, 443 00:28:33,050 --> 00:28:35,649 Speaker 1: but to feel some of the effects is probably the 444 00:28:35,750 --> 00:28:39,850 Speaker 1: wisest solution. But that's between you and your doctor to discuss. 445 00:28:40,330 --> 00:28:42,530 Speaker 1: I just want to encourage you to be careful, to 446 00:28:42,570 --> 00:28:47,820 Speaker 1: be thoughtful and careful. Again, I'm totally not against them. 447 00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:50,610 Speaker 1: I think it makes a lot of sense in a 448 00:28:50,700 --> 00:28:54,330 Speaker 1: lot of different situations to try a solution like this. 449 00:28:55,250 --> 00:28:58,630 Speaker 1: One illustration I used on one of my episodes on 450 00:28:58,650 --> 00:29:03,010 Speaker 1: this topic was about my thyroid medicine. My thyroid stopped 451 00:29:03,050 --> 00:29:05,680 Speaker 1: working completely. number of years ago. And I've been on 452 00:29:05,700 --> 00:29:08,940 Speaker 1: thyroid medicine ever since because there is a body part 453 00:29:09,460 --> 00:29:14,330 Speaker 1: that was insufficiently operating and I needed medicine to help 454 00:29:14,390 --> 00:29:18,510 Speaker 1: it operate more. And this very well could be what 455 00:29:18,590 --> 00:29:22,660 Speaker 1: is happening in some of our bodies and why a 456 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:27,260 Speaker 1: GLP-1 may be of help. But if you're coming from 457 00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:32,320 Speaker 1: a disordered eating or an eating disorder background, just beware. 458 00:29:32,780 --> 00:29:36,570 Speaker 1: There might be other consequences. What I don't want to 459 00:29:36,610 --> 00:29:40,440 Speaker 1: see happen is a woman who has a history. of 460 00:29:40,500 --> 00:29:44,660 Speaker 1: disordered eating or an eating disorder is prescribed a GLB-1 461 00:29:44,780 --> 00:29:48,500 Speaker 1: for a very legitimate reason, but then slides back to 462 00:29:48,540 --> 00:29:54,130 Speaker 1: a place where she is obsessing over food or rejoicing 463 00:29:54,270 --> 00:29:59,030 Speaker 1: in not desiring food or not wanting to eat. I 464 00:29:59,230 --> 00:30:03,190 Speaker 1: think that there is a hidden mental part of that 465 00:30:03,410 --> 00:30:07,410 Speaker 1: that can just sneak right in. Those eating disorder, disordered 466 00:30:07,530 --> 00:30:13,070 Speaker 1: eating behaviors, thoughts, patterns, they say already, aside from GLP-1s, 467 00:30:13,150 --> 00:30:14,970 Speaker 1: that a lot of them can come back to us 468 00:30:15,130 --> 00:30:18,570 Speaker 1: in midlife. And I'm afraid with the use of GLP-1, 469 00:30:18,990 --> 00:30:23,080 Speaker 1: they can just sneak back in and we might even 470 00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:27,660 Speaker 1: be happy that they're there because they're familiar friends. And 471 00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:29,780 Speaker 1: that's where it gets dangerous. So I would say if 472 00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:32,540 Speaker 1: you are going to say yes to a GLP-1, be 473 00:30:32,660 --> 00:30:36,860 Speaker 1: honest with your practitioner. Tell your practitioner what your history 474 00:30:37,060 --> 00:30:42,230 Speaker 1: is with disordered eating. Ask your practitioner for some accountability. 475 00:30:42,870 --> 00:30:46,750 Speaker 1: And maybe that accountability looks like you keep a food 476 00:30:46,790 --> 00:30:50,370 Speaker 1: log to make sure that you're eating enough calories to 477 00:30:50,490 --> 00:30:57,370 Speaker 1: stay healthy. Or watching like a body composition video changes 478 00:30:57,630 --> 00:31:01,140 Speaker 1: over the course of the time you're on the GLP-1, right? 479 00:31:01,180 --> 00:31:04,340 Speaker 1: If your practitioner notices that you're losing a bunch of 480 00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:08,900 Speaker 1: lean mass instead of actually what you want to lose, 481 00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:12,660 Speaker 1: which is fat, then that could signal a problem that 482 00:31:12,700 --> 00:31:16,640 Speaker 1: you're not eating enough, especially not eating enough protein, but 483 00:31:16,700 --> 00:31:22,770 Speaker 1: that you've maybe settled into a semi-anorexic type state of 484 00:31:23,510 --> 00:31:26,860 Speaker 1: And your practitioner needs to know that for you, that's 485 00:31:26,930 --> 00:31:29,700 Speaker 1: even more dangerous because your body maybe has already been 486 00:31:29,740 --> 00:31:32,860 Speaker 1: there or your mind knows what to do there. And 487 00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:35,160 Speaker 1: those aren't good things. You know, on the show, we 488 00:31:35,300 --> 00:31:39,520 Speaker 1: always take you back to what's the heart of the issue, right? 489 00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:44,620 Speaker 1: And with GLP-1s, it's tricky because it seems like it's 490 00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:48,740 Speaker 1: just about health. But I would ask you to think 491 00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:51,640 Speaker 1: about your heart too. What is your heart doing in 492 00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:54,210 Speaker 1: all this? We talked about what it's like to envy 493 00:31:54,250 --> 00:31:58,130 Speaker 1: other women. And perhaps you know 10 other women who 494 00:31:58,190 --> 00:32:03,150 Speaker 1: are shrinking because they're on GLP-1s. And you want that too. Like, 495 00:32:03,210 --> 00:32:07,180 Speaker 1: I get it. Of course. But I think it's worth, 496 00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:11,959 Speaker 1: before starting anything like this, it's worth asking yourself and 497 00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:15,680 Speaker 1: asking the Lord, like, what is my heart here, God? Right? 498 00:32:15,780 --> 00:32:19,180 Speaker 1: Am I doing this just because? The doctor says it 499 00:32:19,220 --> 00:32:21,210 Speaker 1: would be good for me and this would be a 500 00:32:21,270 --> 00:32:23,510 Speaker 1: healthy thing for my body and a helpful thing for 501 00:32:23,530 --> 00:32:28,430 Speaker 1: my body. Or am I doing this just because of vanity? 502 00:32:29,170 --> 00:32:31,250 Speaker 1: Because I really want to be skinny like everyone else 503 00:32:31,410 --> 00:32:33,150 Speaker 1: and I don't care what it takes to get there. 504 00:32:33,250 --> 00:32:37,150 Speaker 1: I mean, anyone who's had an eating disorder, you know 505 00:32:37,290 --> 00:32:39,450 Speaker 1: that sentiment. If you haven't had one, maybe you don't 506 00:32:39,470 --> 00:32:42,050 Speaker 1: know it. But if you've had it, you know that sentiment. 507 00:32:42,110 --> 00:32:44,470 Speaker 1: I don't care. I don't care. It's really, I don't 508 00:32:44,510 --> 00:32:46,790 Speaker 1: care about my health. I'll do anything to be thin. 509 00:32:47,550 --> 00:32:50,030 Speaker 1: I don't. care. I just want to be as skinny 510 00:32:50,070 --> 00:32:55,209 Speaker 1: as everyone else. And that is an eating disorder mindset 511 00:32:55,290 --> 00:32:57,830 Speaker 1: and heart posture. And I just pray that if you're 512 00:32:57,850 --> 00:33:02,600 Speaker 1: considering a GLP-1, make sure none of that exists before you, 513 00:33:03,060 --> 00:33:05,070 Speaker 1: before you try one or before you go on it. 514 00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:07,940 Speaker 1: If you need help around this, we are here for you. 515 00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:12,520 Speaker 1: Happy to help, uh, We're not doctors, so we can't 516 00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:15,770 Speaker 1: actually guide you around the use of them, but we're 517 00:33:15,810 --> 00:33:18,430 Speaker 1: happy to help you around what's going on in your 518 00:33:18,490 --> 00:33:22,990 Speaker 1: heart if you are using them or considering using one. Hey, 519 00:33:23,130 --> 00:33:24,690 Speaker 1: thanks so much for listening today. I hope these three 520 00:33:24,730 --> 00:33:29,270 Speaker 1: questions have helped you, inspired you. And if you've got 521 00:33:29,290 --> 00:33:33,830 Speaker 1: your own questions, remember you can go to speakpipe.com backslash 522 00:33:33,870 --> 00:33:37,200 Speaker 1: compared to who and record your question for me to 523 00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:39,180 Speaker 1: answer on the show. I'd love the chance to answer 524 00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:43,310 Speaker 1: your question. Well, thanks for listening today. Again, visit improvedbodyimage.com. 525 00:33:43,790 --> 00:33:46,420 Speaker 1: If you're looking for more content like this, I've got 526 00:33:46,460 --> 00:33:49,940 Speaker 1: a ton there. You can find all of my podcast 527 00:33:49,980 --> 00:33:56,180 Speaker 1: episodes at improvedbodyimage.com backslash podcast. There's more than 500 episodes there, 528 00:33:56,280 --> 00:34:00,530 Speaker 1: quite a library to answer any of your questions around food, body, 529 00:34:00,650 --> 00:34:03,310 Speaker 1: or just living the faithful Christian life. 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