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Speaker 1: Life Audio.

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Speaker 2: This is life.

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Speaker 1: Guess hi, but move forward?

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Speaker 3: Write a day. There's chapter.

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Speaker 4: It's long, but remember to turn the.

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Speaker 2: Pay Welcome back to the Real Deal Podcast with Abby

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Speaker 2: Johnson and Rake and Long, where we deliver the Real

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Speaker 2: Deal to y'all, completely unfiltered.

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Speaker 4: Welcome back everyone, so good to be here with you

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Speaker 4: once again for another week.

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Speaker 1: You know, Abby, what I do or intro, I always

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Speaker 1: have to pause for a minute because forever it was

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Speaker 1: the Real Deal of parenting. And then we discussed with

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Speaker 1: our team. I know that, okay, do we need to

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Speaker 1: drop the of parenting for the podcast to be able

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Speaker 1: to talk about anything and everything, even though in the

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Speaker 1: past everything we always have spoke about directly or indirectly

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Speaker 1: affects families and children. So anyways, every time I go

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Speaker 1: to introduce us, I always have to pause, like, welcome

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Speaker 1: back the real I noticed that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I know that. Every time I'm still not used

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Speaker 4: to it. You're always like the real Deal? What that mean?

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Speaker 1: I want to say the real Deal of that, I

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Speaker 1: have to go with the judges. And then I always

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Speaker 1: feel like, do you remember us growing up as kids?

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Speaker 1: Delilah Delilah on the radio? I don't know. Sometimes I

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Speaker 1: feel like when I'm starting, when I'm doing one.

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Speaker 4: Or did she die?

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Speaker 1: No, Delilah's alive and kicking. And let me tell you,

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Speaker 1: I think she has like some serious XM deal something.

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Speaker 1: I think she has something. And her voice sounds exactly

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Speaker 1: the same. She has an aged in her voice. It's crazy.

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Speaker 1: But my friends and I, like, I still remember, like

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Speaker 1: in middle school, like we loved it. We would like

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Speaker 1: be listening to Delilah on the radio.

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Speaker 4: Yeah I remember that too. Yeah I remember that too,

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Speaker 4: or that too so funny.

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Speaker 1: Kids are doing it inappropriate tiktoks and we were just

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Speaker 1: like listening to a.

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Speaker 4: Radio like Delilah.

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Speaker 1: I love friends, friends, whoever needs this message tonight, be.

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Speaker 4: Kind to one another, you know what. I also remember

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Speaker 4: I also remember, oh my gosh, Cleo what was her name?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you could call in and it was like I

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Speaker 3: like and Cleo or something. You could like call in, well,

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Speaker 3: madam Cleo or something. You could like call in and

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Speaker 3: she would read your fortune. Oh my gosh, I do

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Speaker 3: remember her.

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Speaker 1: But again I was always that like with all my friends,

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Speaker 1: and they would say this to this day. I was

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Speaker 1: always that like the Catholic girl that was afraid to

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Speaker 1: like participate or like be a part of anything like that,

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Speaker 1: like guys, wait, I just don't know, and I'll like

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Speaker 1: this is right.

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh. And they were like all these like

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Speaker 4: there are like all these like one eight hundred like

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Speaker 4: sex lines that you could call, you know, and I

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Speaker 4: remember like calling them and like it'd be like one

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Speaker 4: eight hundred get Sexy or something, and it would just

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Speaker 4: be like, hey, Blace, are you ready for a good time?

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Speaker 4: You know what it was like with like then you

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Speaker 4: but we just always like would call just to see

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Speaker 4: like what the what they would say. Yeah, they'd be like, hey, sexy,

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Speaker 4: are you ready for a good time for me? Put

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Speaker 4: in your credit card number right now?

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, this is all coming back to me. Literally,

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Speaker 1: this is like y'all these were our weekends. But like

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Speaker 1: when you were in a sleepover, when you were with

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Speaker 1: your friend, like this is what we did for fun okay,

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Speaker 1: oh my god.

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Speaker 3: Yes, Like all we did was like be like, okay,

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Speaker 3: what other combination of like sexy things can we call?

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Speaker 4: Like you know?

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Speaker 1: Or or it was like prank calling like pizza hut

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Speaker 4: And now girls are like on TikTok doing all these

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Like while we were prank calling and having the

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Speaker 4: I'm like, you shouldn't see what we did, Yes, you

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Speaker 4: should just see what we did prank calling everybody, Oh

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Speaker 4: my gosh, or like okay, So have a funny story.

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Speaker 4: So when I was a kid and at Christmas time,

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Speaker 4: one would have its head up okay like this okay, no, yeah,

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Speaker 4: So at Christmas time, me and my friends would go around.

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Speaker 4: Now this is before ring ring doorbells and like cameras

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Speaker 4: around and we would make them hump. So we would put.

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Speaker 1: Business like what you had to worry about the most

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Speaker 1: like this type of yeah.

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Speaker 3: Well, so we would put the one with its head

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Speaker 1: Why gosh.

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Speaker 4: So we like did this hump reindeer thing, okay, and

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Speaker 4: we did it all over town. I mean, like if

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Speaker 4: Like that was just the way it was.

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Speaker 1: It's hilarious.

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Speaker 4: So one Sunday, like we were we had done that

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Speaker 4: like the funniest thing, right, And so we're like driving

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Speaker 4: and my mom was like, who is doing that? Did

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Speaker 4: these deer?

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Speaker 4: They need to leave these deer alone? And I am

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Speaker 4: in the back seat like dying, right. And so then

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Speaker 4: as I get older, like you get older and then

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Speaker 4: like I get older and I'm like, Mom, remember all

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Speaker 4: those humping reindeer. She's like yeah, I'm like that was me.

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Speaker 4: She's like, oh mortified. Yeah, So like that's what we

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Speaker 4: Lebby was a rebel. Right, Yes, it was just like

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Speaker 4: a little like prayings and stuff. We we went to

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Speaker 4: It was just like that was the kind of stuff

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Speaker 1: So talking about being so grown. Okay, So my grandma

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Speaker 1: just sent me a couple of weeks ago, like maybe

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Speaker 1: two dozen pictures of me when I was little and

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Speaker 1: through my teen years, and it was so abby, it

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Speaker 1: was so wild to look back. So again, So Kendall's eighteen,

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Speaker 1: Cayden's fifteen, Kennedy's thirteen, Kelsey's eleven, Kg's turning seven. So

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Speaker 1: I'm comparing myself to these pictures of me as a teen.

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Speaker 1: When I was fourteen, because I remember some of these

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Speaker 1: things that my grandma and I were doing. And then

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Speaker 1: on the back of each photo, when my grandma got

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Speaker 1: the city in state.

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Speaker 4: We were in, even if it was at her house,

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Speaker 4: like we're not going to know, and then the year.

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Speaker 1: So there were several photos when I was fourteen, and

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Speaker 1: then I'm looking at Kennedy, who's turning fourteen this summer. Literally,

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Speaker 1: like my kids were like, Mom, that is not you.

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Speaker 1: How embarrassing? Like I look like a little innocent eight

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Speaker 1: year old Abby at fourteen, Like I dressed like nerdy

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because we were still kids.

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Speaker 1: We were kids. Like I'm telling you, I looked years

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Speaker 1: with what I had on and what I didn't have on, right, I.

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Speaker 4: Just it was I'm telling you, it is social media.

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Speaker 4: It is one hundred percent social media. That is like

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Speaker 4: aging our kids one hundred percent. I mean, and I

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Speaker 4: think it like, I mean, it ages them like behaviorally,

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Speaker 4: but also just like in the things that they want

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Speaker 4: Like my son Alex is thirteen, and he's a fantastic athlete.

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Speaker 4: He's gorgeous, he's beautiful, he's super tall, athletic, just the

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Speaker 4: most beautiful blue eyes ever. SENI your life, and all

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Speaker 4: of the girls have a crush on him, but he

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Speaker 4: is like not girl crazy. He's like, you know, he's

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Speaker 4: but he's not girl crazy. He's like, I want to

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Speaker 4: it's because like we don't allow him on social media,

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Speaker 4: so because like I compare him, because like like we'll

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Speaker 4: go places where there's other like thirteen year old boys

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Speaker 4: and they're all like talking about girls and they're they're

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Speaker 4: very different, Like their behavior is very different. But I

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Speaker 4: think because like Alex does not have access to that,

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Speaker 4: he's growing up like a kid, Like he's treating life

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Speaker 4: like my eight year old twins, like they are still

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Speaker 4: little girls, Like they still like to sleep with dolls

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Speaker 4: and they like stuffed animals. But like some eight year

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Speaker 4: into all this like fashion stuff. And my kids are like,

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Speaker 4: I don't care if you buy me something at Walmart,

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Speaker 4: like right, But I think so much is social media?

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Speaker 1: Abby, It unequivocally is. And again, to help even one

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Speaker 1: other family to preserve the innocence of their children, I

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Speaker 1: want to say this again, and I want to throw

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Speaker 1: myself under the bus and use myself as an example.

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Speaker 1: And I've said this so many times, and Abby and

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Speaker 1: I have talked about it a few times on our

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Speaker 1: podcast over the years. One of my biggest regrets as

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Speaker 1: a mom is giving into social media far far, far hard,

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Speaker 1: too early. And again, I have no there's zero excuse.

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Speaker 1: There's zero excuse because I pride myself on being I

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Speaker 1: don't follow what the majority of parents do. You know

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Speaker 1: what I mean spiritually or medically or you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean, Like I never feel pressure. Like again, I'm

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Speaker 1: fine with being the odd ball. I'm fine with raising

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Speaker 1: my children like, okay, we'll be the oddballs, like you're not.

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Speaker 1: I don't care what other family's doing that. And yet I,

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Speaker 1: very wrongfully, very weakfully, I caved, and I so regret it,

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Speaker 1: and Abby has held out, and there's such a mass

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Speaker 1: of difference. And I saw a post years ago abbeing

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Speaker 1: it so true, and it's like, if you truly want

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Speaker 1: to preserve the innocence of your children, simply don't allow

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Speaker 4: Like they don't do they're not on the computers like

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Speaker 4: can send them outside to go play by themselves. Right,

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00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:30,000
Speaker 4: you don't have to be You're not like a freaking gesture, right,

432
00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 4: and have to perform for your kid every second of

433
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:35,200
Speaker 4: the day, like you do have to teach your kids

434
00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:38,280
Speaker 4: how to be independent. Like so I just think that's

435
00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:41,199
Speaker 4: like also a tool of the enemy, like saying like

436
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:44,640
Speaker 4: how expensive it is to be a parent or things

437
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:49,160
Speaker 4: like that. I just think all those lies are tactics

438
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 4: to teach our society that kids are not worth having totally.

439
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:58,440
Speaker 1: And and I can't remember if we talked about this before,

440
00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:01,359
Speaker 1: and it's still it came out like a maybe six

441
00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 1: weeks ago of that the young woman who held a

442
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:07,800
Speaker 1: baby for the first time, and she was moved to

443
00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:11,960
Speaker 1: tears and before she held the baby it was the

444
00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:14,520
Speaker 1: first time ever, and she appeared to be like early twenties.

445
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,959
Speaker 1: Maybe she was adamantly like I don't want children. No, no,

446
00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:21,640
Speaker 1: not for me, never want to be a mom. Instantaneously,

447
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:25,400
Speaker 1: when her friend placed the baby in her arm, she wept,

448
00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 1: She wept and wept. Was moved that that was honestly

449
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:32,439
Speaker 1: one of the most miraculous moments of her life, and

450
00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 1: she wanted a baby after simply holding it. And it's like,

451
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 1: I can't express it enough that it literally is one

452
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 1: of the most literally miraculous things in the world. Like

453
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Speaker 1: I don't know, fortunately, and unfortunately it's my identity, it's

454
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:52,320
Speaker 1: my purpose.

455
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I was just thinking that today. Actually, I was

456
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:58,920
Speaker 4: just thinking that today, like how it really does become

457
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 4: your identity, but like in a good way, in a

458
00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:03,920
Speaker 4: good way.

459
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 1: In a good way. And it's like, yeah, I mean,

460
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:09,439
Speaker 1: of course Abby and I are not like some like

461
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:12,280
Speaker 1: weirdos that I mean, yeah, she's my best friend. Will

462
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,639
Speaker 1: be like, oh my god, we're so tired and drained

463
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:16,920
Speaker 1: from these kids. Like of course we're like every other

464
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 1: in the world too, but it's like we both realize,

465
00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:27,240
Speaker 1: like my gosh, God used us as vessels like to

466
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 1: bring these miracles into the world, and it's the most coolest, fascinating, humbling,

467
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:36,360
Speaker 1: phenomenal thing in the world. To be a mom, and

468
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:40,360
Speaker 1: it just really is. And so yeah, and I still

469
00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: even remember, you know, I saw something trending on Twitter

470
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:47,639
Speaker 1: yesterday about you know, so many people are like, well,

471
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,480
Speaker 1: we don't have the money for children or a large family,

472
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 1: like we want a large family, but we just can't

473
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 1: do it. And then you know, I saw so many

474
00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 1: people chiming in of like, you know, my wife and

475
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 1: I have six kids. We couldn't afford one, and yet

476
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:05,359
Speaker 1: God provided for each child and we're doing just fine.

477
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:10,360
Speaker 1: And like me, I know, like five kids later, gosh,

478
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:14,120
Speaker 1: we were just so poor and yet thrilled with our

479
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 1: first baby and barely paid our bills. And I even remember, gosh,

480
00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 1: that's the reason why the kid's father only wanted to

481
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 1: when he found out we were pregnant with our second.

482
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,119
Speaker 1: He's like, okay, this is a boy. We have our girl.

483
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:34,160
Speaker 1: We can't afford anymore, we can't do anymore. And I'm

484
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 1: just like, well no, like I'm maternally knew, oh this

485
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:42,480
Speaker 1: is not it, Like I unequivocally knew, and yet I'm

486
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 1: telling you, man, we went through some scary financial times,

487
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 1: like how is it going to work? But every child

488
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:53,360
Speaker 1: was always fed, always clothed, praise God a warm roof

489
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 1: over their heads. And it always works out, Abby, It

490
00:28:57,080 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 1: always works out when you seek first the kingdom. Again,

491
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 1: God always figures it out. Nothing is not figure outable, right,

492
00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 1: And you'll never regret ever having another baby, but you will.

493
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 1: The regret is always there where you're like, man, should

494
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 1: we have have had that another baby?

495
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 4: Oh? And I hear that all the time, like when

496
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 4: I go places like and I'll say like, oh, I

497
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 4: have eight kids, you know, and people are initially like,

498
00:29:26,840 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 4: oh my gosh, But then so many women are like, man,

499
00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 4: like I wish I would have had more, you know,

500
00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:36,240
Speaker 4: like I wanted more and we just didn't, you know,

501
00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 4: our gosh, what an inspiration. Like, man, you make me

502
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 4: wish I would have had more kids. And I don't

503
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 4: have that feeling.

504
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:49,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be like I have fulfilled my call from God.

505
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 4: Yeah I'm good. But like I know, I won't have

506
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 4: that regret. And then also I don't have the regret

507
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:58,000
Speaker 4: of having all of my children, right, and then I

508
00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 4: won't have the regret like, oh, man, maybe we didn't

509
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 4: have enough. Like I feel like we're totally filled up

510
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:06,560
Speaker 4: over here, you know, and just like so many blessings

511
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:09,200
Speaker 4: and like like people are like, oh, how are you

512
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:12,400
Speaker 4: going to afford like clothes and food and all those.

513
00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 4: I'm like, I don't know. It just works out, like

514
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 4: it just works itself out, and clothes get passed down

515
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:22,840
Speaker 4: from one kid to another. I mean, poor Jude. She's

516
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 4: the fourth boy in that little wolf pack of boys

517
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 4: and like all of his clothes with like holes in

518
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 4: them and whatever.

519
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 1: Kelsey being the third girl, she's like, She's like, Mom,

520
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:35,680
Speaker 1: why don't I really get new stuff? I'm like, because

521
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 1: you get all the cool stuff of having two older sisters.

522
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 1: She's like, but I really don't get anything new.

523
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:42,240
Speaker 4: No, you have so much.

524
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:43,480
Speaker 1: You have more clothes than.

525
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 3: Anyone exactly because you get like everybody's clothes exactly, and

526
00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:51,120
Speaker 3: like and I mean yeah, like Grace got all the

527
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:51,719
Speaker 3: new stuff.

528
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 4: Grace and Alex got like all the new stuff, and

529
00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 4: everybody else get's like all but it's like whatever. I mean,

530
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:01,960
Speaker 4: it's just and you like learn I mean, for me,

531
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 4: like I've learned how to cut boy's hair so I

532
00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 4: don't have to take them into this so I'm like

533
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:11,520
Speaker 4: a barber now, you know. And you just figure out

534
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 4: ways to make your life easy and it's just not

535
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 4: as challenging as people think it is totally and.

536
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 1: I'll still say this, I don't know if you ever

537
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 1: told me this what it was for you. It was

538
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 1: hardest for me going from one to two kids, more

539
00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 1: than any other transition, and so people are like, how

540
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 1: do you do three? How do you do four? How

541
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 1: do you do five? And to this day it just

542
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:36,959
Speaker 1: was And I know it's different for everybody, but like

543
00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: sometimes people that large number intimidates them, not even from

544
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,360
Speaker 1: a financial standpoint that was always ours. It was like

545
00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 1: okay financially. Financially, but it was like I remember when

546
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 1: we brought Cane home. I'm like, oh my gosh, how

547
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 1: do I keep two babies alive? How do I keep

548
00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 1: them alive? Oh my goodness? And after the first few months,

549
00:31:56,360 --> 00:32:00,760
Speaker 1: I was fine, but it was like the third all right, chaotic.

550
00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 1: We got this though. The fourth Kelsey was the easiest.

551
00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:06,880
Speaker 1: Going to four was the easiest for me. I'm like,

552
00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 1: welcome home, sweetheart, And again, y'all, my fourth is my

553
00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:14,360
Speaker 1: toughest child. She is my toughest child. She is my

554
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 1: most independent child. Because at that point my mindset's like, well,

555
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:22,240
Speaker 1: you know what, the older two are helping everything's things

556
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 1: will get done as they get done. Figure it out, Kelsey,

557
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:29,080
Speaker 1: I'm going to carry it out. Abby could testify too.

558
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:32,360
Speaker 1: Kelsey is my little stubborn, independent brute.

559
00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 4: So it's Carter. Carter's my fourth and he's like he's

560
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:40,719
Speaker 4: the same. I think it's because, like I think it's

561
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 4: because I always saying, like Carter's that way and maybe

562
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 4: Kelsey's this way, because like I really did not have

563
00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 4: the time to parent them, okay.

564
00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 1: And so true. That's when Kendall officially started stepping in

565
00:32:55,480 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 1: and mothering because it's like you're not anxious anymore. You

566
00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 1: realize kids are really resilient.

567
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, And like like I remember Carter. I'm like I

568
00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 4: had pictures of Carter would just like chocolate all over

569
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:14,600
Speaker 4: his face, you know, like he just ate whatever he wanted.

570
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 4: And like I think the.

571
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 1: First it was like no sugar, no soda. By the

572
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:24,160
Speaker 1: fourth it's like, you know, they're six months old, Carter

573
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:28,280
Speaker 1: has like poke in his bottle. I'm like, whatever, right,

574
00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 1: they're okay, they're good a bounce back wages.

575
00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 4: It was like Lord of the flies in here. It

576
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 4: was like freaking Lord of the flies. I mean. And

577
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 4: then when we adopted Jude. Then it was like, oh, yeah,

578
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 4: we have Carter, you know, because we had because Carter

579
00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 4: was six months old when we adopted Jude. And you know,

580
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 4: Carter was so healthy. He never had to go to

581
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 4: the doctor, he never like and so we were like, oh, yeah,

582
00:33:57,480 --> 00:33:59,880
Speaker 4: we have a six month old too, because he was

583
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:03,360
Speaker 4: She's just so easy, like he never cried, he was

584
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 4: never upset. He was so laid back. And then we

585
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,880
Speaker 4: have this newborn that we're having to like tend to

586
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:10,719
Speaker 4: and Carter was.

587
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:16,400
Speaker 6: Just smile, you know, just handling himself eating chocolate, you know,

588
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:21,080
Speaker 6: and we're like, right, And I think that's why though,

589
00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:24,280
Speaker 6: Like he's just kind of like go with the flow

590
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 6: because he just was kind of he kind of parented himself.

591
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 4: He just kind of had to figure things out of

592
00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:32,680
Speaker 4: his hume.

593
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 1: And you know what, I've noticed this at your house,

594
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:38,719
Speaker 1: and this is how it is at mine. Carter and

595
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 1: Kelsey they'll just go fix themselves something. They're like some

596
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:46,200
Speaker 1: of my other kids are so like, oh, like Cayton,

597
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:48,319
Speaker 1: my fifteenth like still like I need to do his

598
00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:52,400
Speaker 1: English muffins for him. Kelsey will just make herself a casadiya.

599
00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:56,080
Speaker 1: She will make herself pasta with che like whatever. She

600
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:58,320
Speaker 1: just goes it, does it herself.

601
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:02,440
Speaker 4: Like Carter's, yeah, there's like a problem. Carter's like I

602
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:05,000
Speaker 4: got it, Like I'll fix it. He doesn't come to

603
00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 4: me like, Mom, this light bulb is out. He's like,

604
00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:11,359
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go find the light bulbs and I'm gonna

605
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 4: fix it myself. Like he's just so independent. I really

606
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 4: think it's because they had to survive on their own.

607
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 4: They're like survivalists.

608
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:23,560
Speaker 1: Everyone else, who the fourth child you need to report

609
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:26,520
Speaker 1: back to us. There's something about that fourth kid.

610
00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:31,920
Speaker 4: That just yeah, yeah, that's it. Kelsey and Carter are survivalists.

611
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 4: They would be great in the wild, Like we could

612
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 4: leave him in the wild and they would be like awesome.

613
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:40,719
Speaker 4: We should put them together on like one of those

614
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 4: shows like The Amazing Race or something. They would drive.

615
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:46,480
Speaker 4: They would totally win.

616
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:52,399
Speaker 1: They would, I'm telling you, like physically, emotionally, spar even

617
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:55,440
Speaker 1: spirit Like Kelsey just beats to her own drum and

618
00:35:55,520 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 1: will just figure it out. Yeah, And like Carter, Carter's

619
00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 1: fine to like be alone.

620
00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 4: You know, like he's like he likes people, he has friends,

621
00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:10,040
Speaker 4: but like so many times like he I just see

622
00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:13,320
Speaker 4: him outside like digging in the mud or like trying

623
00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 4: to make something or whatever. He's like trying to make

624
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:19,759
Speaker 4: a raft or something. He's just by himself, Like he's

625
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:22,640
Speaker 4: happy to play by himself. He's happy to be alone,

626
00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 4: you know, or be with friends whatever. But like you know,

627
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:29,439
Speaker 4: my other kids are always like you leave for friend over,

628
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:31,359
Speaker 4: can I go play with so and so blah blah,

629
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 4: And Carter's just like back there, I don't know, making

630
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:38,840
Speaker 4: a fort by himself. It's just it's such a different

631
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 4: like vibe with my kids and Carter, Like he's just

632
00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:47,359
Speaker 4: so different and it's funny, like it's but is that

633
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:50,400
Speaker 4: fourth kid? Yeah, when I took him in, what like,

634
00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:52,839
Speaker 4: we don't do well child checks anymore, but before we

635
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:55,759
Speaker 4: were smart, I brought Carter in for like his two

636
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:59,720
Speaker 4: year old well child and they were like, the doctor

637
00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:02,719
Speaker 4: was like, we actually haven't seen Carter since he was

638
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:08,319
Speaker 4: six months old now, and I was like what. I

639
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 4: was like, I feel like I'm here all the time,

640
00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 4: and they were like, yeah, you are with your other kids,

641
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:16,480
Speaker 4: but we haven't seen Carner free. You're oh, dang it,

642
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:19,359
Speaker 4: that kid slipped through the cracks. He's doing great. He's

643
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 4: doing great. He's my altheis. I was like, well, I

644
00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:25,440
Speaker 4: mean he's great. He never gets sick and he's great.

645
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:30,319
Speaker 1: So we're good. Seriously, Oh I love it. Oh my gosh,

646
00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 1: real quick, I just need to make a comment. I

647
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:35,040
Speaker 1: know y'all can't see this, but I just have to

648
00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:37,760
Speaker 1: let Abby. I'm going to call her out. I see

649
00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 1: Abby has a cute little son, Tan, and I see

650
00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 1: she has these little straps. Oh, it's so funny. I'll

651
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:48,320
Speaker 1: be called. It's just and we do. We're forty something,

652
00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:52,480
Speaker 1: your old best friends, and sometimes our conversations you never

653
00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 1: know what we're going to talk about. When one of

654
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:57,480
Speaker 1: us calls the other, we just brace for impact. We

655
00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:00,719
Speaker 1: don't know, especially Abby. She thought that what's got me?

656
00:38:01,200 --> 00:38:04,279
Speaker 1: But it was so wholesome. Abby calls me after she

657
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:07,239
Speaker 1: gets back from like all this traveling and work and

658
00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 1: she's like, Rag, guess what I did yesterday? And I'm

659
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 1: like what. She's like, Rag, I blow the grass for

660
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 1: four and a half hours and it was so fun's.

661
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh.

662
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 1: We literally have like trying to get a conversation about

663
00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:27,839
Speaker 1: the wholesomeness of her bowing her parents' grass.

664
00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 4: I never mowed grass before, and so like I saw

665
00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 4: Doug outside like weed eating, and I was like, oh,

666
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:38,720
Speaker 4: like I want to weed eat. I've never done that before.

667
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:41,040
Speaker 4: And so I'm going out there and I'm like, oh,

668
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:43,680
Speaker 4: I wouldn't try it. He's like are, And so I

669
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:45,360
Speaker 4: start doing it and then he's like, you know what,

670
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:48,200
Speaker 4: you'd really like edging, like doing all the edging. So

671
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 4: he gives me like an edger and I'm like, ooh,

672
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:54,120
Speaker 4: this is like strangely like satisfying, like cutting all the

673
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 4: grass like along the edge. And then like I saw

674
00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 4: the little john Gear tractor and I'm like, I want

675
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:04,040
Speaker 4: to cut the grass like I want to mold the lawn.

676
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:07,400
Speaker 4: I've never done that. And I got on that tractor

677
00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 4: and so they're on two and a half acres and

678
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:10,800
Speaker 4: it took.

679
00:39:10,640 --> 00:39:15,920
Speaker 1: Me into me four andF hours. Abby went over lines

680
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:19,840
Speaker 1: a few times, Dug it takes Dug an hour and

681
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:21,880
Speaker 1: a half to cut this lawn into me four and

682
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:24,440
Speaker 1: a half hours, and I at one point in time,

683
00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:26,480
Speaker 1: I just couldn't like I think it, like the four

684
00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:28,640
Speaker 1: hour mark, I just could not stop.

685
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 4: Laughing on the tractor because I was like, I have

686
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 4: been on this for oh my god, I'm still not done.

687
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 1: Abby's like I committed to this and I am finishing

688
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:39,399
Speaker 1: it out.

689
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:43,840
Speaker 3: I am finishing it and I like when I came inside,

690
00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 3: I like my parents were sitting there and I was like,

691
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:48,920
Speaker 3: I just could not stop laughing, and I was like,

692
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 3: that grass just got cut so hard.

693
00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:56,760
Speaker 1: Right, there is not a blade That shit is taller

694
00:39:56,800 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 1: than it should be.

695
00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:02,279
Speaker 3: Every blade has been hit at least ten times.

696
00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's like, listen, I am your daughter.

697
00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:10,600
Speaker 1: I am the world sought out pro life speaker. I

698
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 1: will figure out this John Deere tractor, and I will

699
00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:17,799
Speaker 1: get every row mode before we're coming inside.

700
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 4: There will not be one tiny strip of grass what mode?

701
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,320
Speaker 4: And there was not. But I'm sure I wished that

702
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 4: would have videoed me because I know, like I looked

703
00:40:29,239 --> 00:40:32,920
Speaker 4: ridiculous because I'm like just doing like just going everywhere,

704
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:35,239
Speaker 4: like zig zagging all over the yard, like I did

705
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:38,719
Speaker 4: start out with a plan, but it did not. It

706
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 4: did not work out that way. Like it did not.

707
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:44,480
Speaker 4: It was crazy all over the yard. So yeah, so

708
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:46,839
Speaker 4: I did get like, but I mode in a tank top,

709
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:48,800
Speaker 4: So I like, do have.

710
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:51,759
Speaker 1: Like little sun the cute little sunburn.

711
00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:54,319
Speaker 4: I know I have a little sunburn because I was

712
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 4: just out in the direct Sun for fourtance. Yeah, oh

713
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:03,560
Speaker 4: my god, this mowing, it's so stupid. Are this is

714
00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 4: so good? See?

715
00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 1: This is wholesomeness. I love that we did a podcast

716
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:09,319
Speaker 1: just on some wholesome talk.

717
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:12,319
Speaker 4: Yeah, and now I've like, I feel like I really

718
00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:17,400
Speaker 4: accomplished something because I did weed, eating, edging, and mowing

719
00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:19,960
Speaker 4: all on the same day. And those were all first

720
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:23,840
Speaker 4: for me. Those were all first things for me. So

721
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 4: there you go.

722
00:41:24,800 --> 00:41:28,399
Speaker 1: And I have my little, my sweet little Mexican man

723
00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:30,919
Speaker 1: that I adore, Jose. The kids will be like, mom,

724
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 1: Jose's here, Jose's doing the yard.

725
00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:36,839
Speaker 4: Well you know it. Next time I come, I'll mow

726
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 4: your yard because I'm like, we'll see how you compare

727
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 4: to Jose. Jose does it beautifully. Well, It'll take me

728
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:50,280
Speaker 4: approximately six hours, so what Jose gets done in forty minutes?

729
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 1: Yeah?

730
00:41:52,600 --> 00:41:53,879
Speaker 4: Yeah, and still be out there.

731
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:58,719
Speaker 1: I love it so funny. Well, all right, y'all. I

732
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 1: hope this kind of again, because, especially as moms, we

733
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:09,239
Speaker 1: with so much unnecessary pressure on ourselves at times, and

734
00:42:09,280 --> 00:42:14,319
Speaker 1: it's like, just let our kids be kids again. Just

735
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:18,240
Speaker 1: let them get dirty, let them get stains on themselves,

736
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 1: let them be bored, let them find their innocence and

737
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:30,399
Speaker 1: their age appropriateness and the things that we used to do, and.

738
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:32,440
Speaker 4: Just live in the moment. Just live in the moment

739
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 4: with your kids, live.

740
00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 1: In them, roll alone. Yes, like I'm telling you, even

741
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:43,239
Speaker 1: like my kids to this day now we haven't and

742
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 1: they're they're really grateful. We haven't really done big trips

743
00:42:46,120 --> 00:42:49,720
Speaker 1: or big elaborate things. But I remember one year years

744
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:51,840
Speaker 1: ago we maxed out a credit card to take our

745
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 1: kids to Disney World. And let me tell you, Abby,

746
00:42:55,160 --> 00:43:00,759
Speaker 1: to this day, my kids still say this local amusement

747
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 1: park back in Pennsylvania they liked one hundred times better

748
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 1: than Disney World. The things that we do that are

749
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:14,240
Speaker 1: just day trips versus overnighters and like vacations, Mike like better,

750
00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:19,880
Speaker 1: Like it's the cheaper stuff, even the free stuff, Like

751
00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 1: don't get wrapped up that you have to compete with

752
00:43:22,719 --> 00:43:25,000
Speaker 1: the joneses to go do all this and that, like

753
00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:29,919
Speaker 1: they don't need it, they don't necessarily want and need

754
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 1: all of that. And so take the pressure off and

755
00:43:33,280 --> 00:43:36,080
Speaker 1: live in the moment. And most of the time our

756
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:39,040
Speaker 1: kids they just want our attention to where I know,

757
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 1: I just want.

758
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:40,480
Speaker 4: To be with you.

759
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:43,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, they just want to be with you, put your

760
00:43:43,960 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 1: phones down and just be in the moment and put

761
00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:50,320
Speaker 1: your phones down at dinner, yes, yeah, don't even allow

762
00:43:50,400 --> 00:43:54,200
Speaker 1: them near yeah, don't even have them at the table

763
00:43:54,760 --> 00:43:57,000
Speaker 1: in reachable accents for sure.

764
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:00,919
Speaker 4: And don't allow phones in their room. Yeah, Like kids

765
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 4: get in trouble in their room when they're alone.

766
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:08,319
Speaker 1: Nothing good happens after a certain hour, and nothing good

767
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 1: happens secretively laying in bed, swirling behind closer.

768
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:13,400
Speaker 4: You know.

769
00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:17,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just why why give the opportunity?

770
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:20,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean it's I just think having those parameters

771
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:23,319
Speaker 4: around your kids are just so important. It's really it

772
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:26,880
Speaker 4: really really really does protect them, like it really does.

773
00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:31,239
Speaker 4: And like I'm totally fine. I mean when Grace was

774
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:33,600
Speaker 4: just like the mom like some of my friends have

775
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:36,960
Speaker 4: take time or whatever, and I was like, well, great,

776
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 4: like their parents can make a decision for them, but

777
00:44:40,880 --> 00:44:43,360
Speaker 4: that doesn't mean I'm gonna parent like these other kids'

778
00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:46,960
Speaker 4: parents do. Like this is just a decision that we make.

779
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:50,440
Speaker 4: And now, like Grace, as she's in college, she's like,

780
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 4: I'm glad you didn't allow me access to that, Like

781
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:57,640
Speaker 4: I'm glad that I had like more innocence for longer

782
00:44:57,680 --> 00:45:00,319
Speaker 4: because now she sees what's on there, and she like,

783
00:45:00,400 --> 00:45:03,040
Speaker 4: I absolutely would should not have been seeing that when

784
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:07,480
Speaker 4: I was ten, eleven, twelve years old, and so she's

785
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 4: just like, I'm glad like that you didn't allow me,

786
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:13,400
Speaker 4: even though she was begging me for months to get it,

787
00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:15,440
Speaker 4: and I was just like, no, no, The answer is

788
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:20,320
Speaker 4: no no. And so people just have to just hold

789
00:45:20,640 --> 00:45:23,040
Speaker 4: to what they know is true and what they know

790
00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 4: is best for their kids. And and even like if

791
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 4: you've already given them access to it, like it's okay

792
00:45:28,120 --> 00:45:30,279
Speaker 4: to be like, you know what, We're not going to

793
00:45:30,320 --> 00:45:34,080
Speaker 4: do this anymore. I've got you know, Mom's got new information,

794
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:37,920
Speaker 4: and this is bad for you, and we're just not

795
00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:41,719
Speaker 4: going to allow it anymore. And like one place your

796
00:45:41,800 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 4: kids absolutely don't need to be is on roadblocks and

797
00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:54,319
Speaker 4: on YouTube, Like roadblocks is one of the most predatorial places.

798
00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:59,759
Speaker 4: So there are more predators on roadblocks than like any

799
00:45:59,800 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 4: other game that your kids go on.

800
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:05,560
Speaker 1: I keep seeing war and coming out about that.

801
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, and so roadblocks for sure, And like we block

802
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:13,359
Speaker 4: all YouTube in our house, So I just think there's

803
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:16,120
Speaker 4: things like that can be done and you can unring

804
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:16,560
Speaker 4: that bell.

805
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:19,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's just having to push past or they

806
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 1: going to be happy. No, is there going to be

807
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 1: a withdrawal period. Yes, it's just you got to push

808
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 1: past it.

809
00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:29,319
Speaker 4: Yeah, And you just gotta put in like and then

810
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:32,520
Speaker 4: put other things in place, like in our backyard, like

811
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 4: we're gonna build like a Ninja Warrior course for the

812
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:38,280
Speaker 4: boys so that they can go out there and play,

813
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:41,560
Speaker 4: and like we have like soccer soccer goals, and we're

814
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 4: putting in a basketball goal. And you know, another family

815
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 4: has a pool next door to us, so they go

816
00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:49,400
Speaker 4: swim all the time. And like, like you've got to

817
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:51,879
Speaker 4: put stuff like in your yard that makes them want

818
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:55,040
Speaker 4: to go outside and then they can like enjoy outside

819
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:57,000
Speaker 4: and then they start doing other things. They start building

820
00:46:57,000 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 4: for its like whatever. But I think if you have

821
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 4: things outside for them that they want to do, it

822
00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:06,120
Speaker 4: will entice them to go outside and then they start

823
00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:09,640
Speaker 4: finding other things that they want to do. So have

824
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 4: like all the footballs and all the basketballs and all

825
00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:15,480
Speaker 4: the thing was like, and then they can just kind

826
00:47:15,480 --> 00:47:18,279
Speaker 4: of take it from there. But just be like Godrid,

827
00:47:18,719 --> 00:47:22,719
Speaker 4: go bounce to basketball, go play badminton with your little

828
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:26,359
Speaker 4: birdie or whatever, like go do something. Just get out

829
00:47:26,360 --> 00:47:30,560
Speaker 4: of my hair, go entertain yourself. Absolutely agreed.

830
00:47:31,680 --> 00:47:34,560
Speaker 1: All right, my friends, Well, thank you for joining us

831
00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:38,880
Speaker 1: for another week, and until next time.

832
00:47:39,520 --> 00:47:55,640
Speaker 4: Keep raising your little saints. Oh say come,