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Speaker 1: Life Audio.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to the TAMAS podcast, where we share how grace, commitment,

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Speaker 2: and cooperation can help couples live the everyday moments of

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Speaker 1: Hey everybody, we are Ted and Dashley Slater. Today we're

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Speaker 1: talking about something surprisingly powerful, micro habits. These tiny almost

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Speaker 1: blink and you miss them actions take less than five minutes,

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Speaker 1: but over time they can completely shift the health of

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Speaker 1: your marriage. We'll look at why these one percent improvements

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Speaker 1: matter so much and share three micro moments we practice.

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Speaker 1: If your marriage could use a little more warmth, more intention,

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Speaker 1: or just a few simple wins, this episode is for you.

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Speaker 1: So today we are sharing three tiny or micro habits

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Speaker 1: that can make marriage better.

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Speaker 2: I've never heard this term before.

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Speaker 1: I hadn't either.

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Speaker 2: It sounds intriguing, it sounds easy. I like micro habits.

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Speaker 1: Habits no right, but it seems to be kind of popular.

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Speaker 2: Sweet. Yeah, I'm looking forward to talking about it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, okay, so a micro habit. Apparently we all

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Speaker 1: have them, whether we realize it or not. These are

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Speaker 1: habits that take less than five minutes. They're simple, and

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Speaker 1: over time they move us towards bigger goals. So think

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Speaker 1: like you know, improved health or better productivity or financial stability.

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Speaker 1: They're basically small actions that quietly add up in meaningful ways.

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Speaker 2: Like taking vitamin in the morning. Sure, it's a small habit.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean I take this. Oh it's like an

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Speaker 1: immune supplement, and I take it all year long. And

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Speaker 1: it seems like when people in the family get sick,

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Speaker 1: I might get a touch of it, but I don't

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Speaker 1: get it as.

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Speaker 2: Badly as everything, because you can't get sick.

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Speaker 1: This is true, right, But I think that that makes

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Speaker 1: a difference that I don't wait till it's cold and

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Speaker 1: flu season to take it, but I take it.

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Speaker 2: That is a very fine, healthy micro habit.

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Speaker 1: Yes, well, in another one yep of another micro habit. Well,

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Speaker 1: one of my goals over the last year or two

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Speaker 1: So one of my micro habits is drinking at least

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Speaker 1: thirty grams of protein in the morning, because I'm not

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Speaker 1: and getting enough protein helps with that.

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Speaker 2: So you drink thirty grands of prote six stick like

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Speaker 2: a chicken sandwich in the blender, and.

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Speaker 1: Oh, that's so close. So I buy those like drinks

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Speaker 1: or powder from the costco. Right, Yes, Well, I got

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Speaker 1: curious about, like what some of the popular micro habits are. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and so I did what all good researchers do, and

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Speaker 1: I googled it. So according to like googles like twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty five trending health micro habits data, yep, here are

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Speaker 1: a few that show up again and again. Okay, so

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Speaker 1: the first one is drink water first thing in the morning,

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Speaker 1: so like before coffee, before food, drink water.

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Speaker 2: I actually keep a big tub of water next to

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Speaker 2: me in bed. Yeah, and I'm drinking water all night

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Speaker 2: So I'm a fan of But that's different from what

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Speaker 2: you're saying. It's like intentionally have like a glass of

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean you're drinking it before you go downstairs

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Speaker 1: and drink something else because apparently it rehydrates us, helps

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Speaker 2: That's easy.

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Speaker 1: That's a good So it sounds like something you are doing.

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Speaker 1: For me, I'm drinking that protein drink first, but I

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Speaker 2: To bed, have a glass of water the plants to

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I have changed it and not. I

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Speaker 1: interests on an empty stomach. That shouldn't be the first

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Speaker 2: So this sounds intentional, like I stretch, but it's like

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Speaker 1: researchers at the National Institute of Health say that early

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Speaker 2: Can I confess something? Yes, When I hear the word

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Speaker 2: circadian rhythm, yeah, I think of those those bugs that

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Speaker 1: Yes, cicadas.

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Speaker 2: Cicadas. Uh huh, it's not the same thing.

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Speaker 1: No, but that sounds I hear the sound.

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Speaker 2: Okay, let me say something else, micro habits. When I

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Speaker 1: Or I have to be Like as soon as we

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Speaker 2: So this is not OCD. This is something else, right Anyway,

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Speaker 1: Yes, here's another big one which I haven't tried, and

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Speaker 1: that's to take five deep breasts before opening our phones.

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Speaker 1: Apparently that tiny pause keeps us from starting the day

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Speaker 1: we're giving our brains a second to set our own tone.

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Speaker 2: That's a good idea. So next time you hear me

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Speaker 2: breathing deeply, you know, I'm just about ready to check

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Speaker 1: Are you okay?

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Speaker 1: One more from the list. There were lots on the list,

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Speaker 1: but I had to kind of limit it, all right.

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Speaker 1: interrupt the sitting. Like my Apple Watch actually tells me

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Speaker 2: Okay, now there's that. Seems like a good reason to

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Speaker 2: have an Apple Watch. Yeah I don't. I don't wear

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Speaker 1: Do some squats, I don't. Those are good for like

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Speaker 2: Yes, that takes a little more effort. I can stand up.

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Speaker 2: Let's start. Let's start with standing up.

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Speaker 1: Start small, yes, okay, okay, start small, standing maybe later, okay,

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Speaker 1: they work because they're easy to start, easy to repeat,

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Speaker 1: and they build momentum. Excellent, and so James clear popular

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Speaker 1: Atomic Habits, and he writes that a one percent improvement

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Speaker 1: we end up roughly thirty seven times better by the

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Speaker 2: I want to be thirty times by times.

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Speaker 1: Yes, But if we get one percent worse each day,

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Speaker 1: the trend goes almost to zero. Like tiny changes compound Absolutely.

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Speaker 2: That makes sense. It's like a compounding interest exactly.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. He actually says habits are the compound interest of

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Speaker 1: self improvement. Look at me, so small gains repeated turn

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Speaker 1: we're not stagnant. So for not getting better, we're slowly

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Speaker 2: That cliche. You can't step into the same river twice.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but explain it to me, Like, there's a.

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Speaker 1: What matters is the direction our habits are taking us.

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Speaker 1: So we need to focus on our trajectory, not our

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Speaker 1: So okay, so what does this have to do with marriage?

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Speaker 2: And I am really restraining myself not to make a

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Speaker 1: keep us connected and emotionally healthy. So we're going to

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Speaker 1: or micro habits that can make marriage better. So today

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Speaker 2: Okay, let's get to it. Let's get to the meat

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Speaker 1: Well, some marriage experts call these micro habits micro moments,

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Speaker 1: and I really love that word moments because it feels

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Speaker 2: See that right, It feels more relational.

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Speaker 1: Exactly like it reminds us I think that connection isn't

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Speaker 1: built only through grand gestures, but it's also built in

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Speaker 1: those small, ordinary points of connection or those moments of connection.

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Speaker 2: That's cool.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, all right. Well, a website called the Marriage Restoration Project.

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Speaker 1: They talk about micro moments as a kind of ingredients

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Speaker 1: out that when a marriage is struggling, those moments starts

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Speaker 1: to fade. That's usually when couple slip into that roommate

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Speaker 2: Interesting.

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Speaker 1: So, okay, I've put together three micro habits or micro

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Speaker 1: And most of these are things that you and I

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's hear I like to bring another people those thoughts,

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Speaker 1: Build up up, Yeah, they do, all right. To recap,

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Speaker 2: That's good, all.

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Speaker 1: I paused for you there, thank you. It is simple,

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Speaker 1: Well, and some of them, like if you say they

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Speaker 1: did you know they could be one we mentioned like

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Speaker 1: say they do the kiss one.

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Speaker 2: That's your assignment this week is to kiss.

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Speaker 1: Multiple times during the day, but that takes us three times.

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Speaker 2: Well, we could try the green welcome home. Yeah ritual.

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Speaker 1: It's weird because you work at home, so it's not

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right, come home from work and the kids

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Speaker 2: scramble up and.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that could be why we don't have that one.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, we could try that, all right. So those

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Speaker 1: listening choose one practice it. It could be one we mentioned,

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Speaker 1: or it could be something unique to your relationship. All right. Well,

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