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Speaker 1: Life Audio. Hi there, it's Dana sha and welcome to

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Speaker 1: the Rebuilding US Marriage Podcast. You know, there are so

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Speaker 1: many things that we go through in life. It's not

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Speaker 1: going to be made better or not. It's how you

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Speaker 1: go through those trials. These trials are producing something in us.

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Speaker 1: What you might look at as something that is meant

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Speaker 1: it's Dana Shae and you're listening to the Rebuilding US

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Speaker 1: Marriage Podcast. I'm so grateful that you're here on this

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Speaker 1: episode today, and I am confident that you are going

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Speaker 1: to be so encouraged by what you hear. I want

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Speaker 1: to first start off by just letting you know if

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Speaker 1: you have not already heard that I am releasing a

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Speaker 1: brand new book called Tried and True Marriage Advice from

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Speaker 1: twelve imperfect Biblical Couples. This book is so near and

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Speaker 1: dear to my heart. It is my labor of love

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Speaker 1: to you. I got this download from the Lord. Literally,

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Speaker 1: it just like God dropped this book in my heart.

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Speaker 1: And I was talking to a friend and she said, Dana,

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Speaker 1: I've never read anything like this before. This is such

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Speaker 1: a new concept, and I was like, well, we do

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Speaker 1: serve a god of creation and he creates new things

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Speaker 1: all the time, and so I'm just really grateful that

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Speaker 1: God gave me this idea. So I want to just

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Speaker 1: quickly let you know that these podcast episodes that I've

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Speaker 1: been doing as of late are all in reference to

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Speaker 1: this book, and I really want you to dial all

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Speaker 1: the way into all of these episodes in this little

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Speaker 1: mini series that I'm doing, because it's really going to

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Speaker 1: give you a firm foundation and anticipation for the book,

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Speaker 1: which releases in January of twenty six. Regardless of when

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Speaker 1: you're listening to this, obviously, if it's after January, go

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Speaker 1: get the book now. You can always find and anything

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Speaker 1: that I talk about on my website at Danishshay dot com.

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Speaker 1: Of course, the book can be found at Danashay dot

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Speaker 1: com for its slash Tried and True. Today, I want

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Speaker 1: heard someone say that before? Like, lots of people go

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Speaker 1: That review, that one small gesture of kindness helps other

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Speaker 1: So I would certainly appreciate if you would do that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I've got conversation starters in here, because y'all know I

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Speaker 1: I say this often sometimes i'll end my emails this way,

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Speaker 1: he show you his favor and give you his peace.

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Speaker 1: Thanks so much for listening. I'll see you on the

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