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Speaker 1: I'm just single and waiting and what is God doing.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna be talking about future husband Present prayers and

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Speaker 1: what God can really be up to in this season.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, let's dive in, let's talk about it. Hello. Hello, Hello,

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Speaker 1: ladies and gents, and welcome to this week's episode of

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Speaker 1: The Bottom Beloved Podcast. As always, it's your girl Kirby

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Speaker 1: Kelly back at it again. And I know that it's February.

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Speaker 1: I know that it's like the month of love, and

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Speaker 1: maybe you're like all into that, right, Maybe you have

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Speaker 1: everything's great, or maybe you're single and you're like, dang,

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Speaker 1: another season of dread. I don't know where you lie

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Speaker 1: on the spectrum for this month specifically, but I'm really

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Speaker 1: excited to dive into this topic with my guest today,

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Speaker 1: Christian and Bavier. She wrote a book. It's called Future

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Speaker 1: Husband Present Prayers, and I love the tagline for it too.

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Speaker 1: It says how praying while you wait transforms your singleness

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Speaker 1: and prepares you for marriage, and that is what we're

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Speaker 1: gonna be talking about in today's episode, and I'm super

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Speaker 1: excited about that. It is timely and her book just

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Speaker 1: has so many encouraging words of wisdom that I was like, Dang,

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Speaker 1: I really gotta use this in certain seasons of my

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Speaker 1: own singleness in my own life. But hey, the book

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Speaker 1: exists now and that's what matters. But before we even

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Speaker 1: dive into that and just talk about this topic today, Christian,

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Speaker 1: welcome to the podcast. Can you introduce yourself to the

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Speaker 1: people out there who are listening today, maybe who you are,

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Speaker 1: what you do, what you're passionate about.

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Speaker 2: Oh well, thank you so much for having me Kirby,

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Speaker 2: and I have to say you having Kirby, Kelly.

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Speaker 3: And Boughton beloved. Your rhythm is just so nice today.

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Speaker 2: My name is a little bit like how do you

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Speaker 2: spell that? Like what language is that? It's Italian last name,

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Speaker 3: But I'm Christian Pavier.

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Speaker 2: I'm part of our big crazy Italian by marriage family.

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Speaker 3: We do ministry.

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Speaker 2: We write books. Apparently that's like a thing once you

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Speaker 2: get married. It's like, are you interested in writing? Okay,

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Speaker 2: But it's just so it's so great. I've gleaned so

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Speaker 2: that's why I'm so passionate about this topic. One because

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Speaker 2: We see this throughout scripture, so I know it's important

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Speaker 3: So thank you for creating space to do that.

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Speaker 1: Girl anytime when Amanda, we have the same pr person.

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Speaker 2: And people like, what do you what's a husband's Bible?

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Speaker 2: And then I wrote the Dear Future Husband Prayer Journal,

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Speaker 2: And so we really are rewiring ourselves not just for

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Speaker 2: before I give my yes, even to a date, I

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Speaker 2: And so I believe that the Lord has that for

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Speaker 2: everyone watching that will get married. There are specific attributes

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Speaker 2: that he wants to partner with us in. And you know,

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Speaker 2: when the disciples are casting lots for who would fill

441
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Speaker 2: the position who would be that twelfth apostle, now they're like,

442
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Speaker 2: let's just pull lots and like, you know, these are

443
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Speaker 2: all great people, let's pull one. And the Lord's like, no, actually,

444
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Speaker 2: I've set aside someone for this role. And so I

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Speaker 2: think that can be similar to our approach of there's

446
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Speaker 2: a lot of cute guys of my church like.

447
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Speaker 3: Let me just eeny medium mineym. But there's more to that.

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Speaker 2: And I think even if, like you said, even if

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Speaker 2: we have done it wrong with good intentions or like, well,

450
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Speaker 2: these are all great people, invite the Lord in like, actually, Lord,

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Speaker 2: have you already.

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Speaker 3: Appointed someone for this role of my husband?

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Speaker 2: Have you appointed me for a role of someone's wife

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Speaker 2: that I could actually be pouring into myself. I can

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Speaker 2: be healing, I can let you into areas of my heart,

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Speaker 2: you know, Like there's just such a there's such a

457
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Speaker 2: divineness and intentionality, Like this person is not just going

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Speaker 2: to be your cute arm candy. They're going to be

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Speaker 2: the father of your children. They're going to be your

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Speaker 2: partner for life. And so I think that the more

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Speaker 2: wisdom we let in will never regret those informed decisions

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Speaker 2: along the way.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, and something that my husband, Richard and I talk

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Speaker 1: about all the time, Like I feel like we have

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Speaker 1: this conversation at least once a week, probably three times

466
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Speaker 1: maybe more, where we're just we just looked at each

467
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Speaker 1: other and it's like, I'm so glad that God allowed

468
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Speaker 1: us to get married. Not just because you're literally the

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Speaker 1: most attractive man I've ever seen in my life, and

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Speaker 1: I'm like, like Google gaga over you and all the

471
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Speaker 1: all the fun feelings of being in love, but I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I think back to the seasons of life that he

473
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Speaker 1: and I have gone through, like we did long distance

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Speaker 1: and going through COVID and all these things, it was

475
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Speaker 1: like we we learned so much about each other and

476
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Speaker 1: in commitment and devotion to one another and in our

477
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Speaker 1: dating season, but especially in marriage. Like two years ago,

478
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Speaker 1: I lost my mom and it was like very sudden traumatic.

479
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Speaker 1: She was an addict. So it's like even navigating those things,

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Speaker 1: like I have a brother with autism, like, uh, I'm

481
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Speaker 1: his caregiver, like legally all those things. So it's like

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Speaker 1: there were all these nuances to my life and it's

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Speaker 1: like looking back, it's like my husband worked for a

484
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Speaker 1: couple of years for like a company with children and

485
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Speaker 1: adults with autism. It's like he had that background and

486
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Speaker 1: it was like wow, God, like the little nuances of

487
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Speaker 1: what would come to be one day. It's like these

488
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Speaker 1: responsibilities that I knew I would take on one day.

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Speaker 1: It's like I have a husband who is actually prepared

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Speaker 1: for those things. I would have never thought to pray.

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Speaker 3: About those things.

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Speaker 1: But God was intentional enough in every little detail that

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Speaker 1: the person that I ended up marrying really meshes so

494
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Speaker 1: well into the life I have, and not only that,

495
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Speaker 1: I mesh well into the life he has. And that's

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Speaker 1: just one small example of like him him fitting into

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Speaker 1: the framework that God has for my life, the responsibilities

498
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Speaker 1: he has for me, and the same goes vice versa,

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Speaker 1: and it's just God is when you really surrender in

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Speaker 1: your intentional to trusting him of Like, Okay, there are

501
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Speaker 1: things that will come up in my life. There are

502
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Speaker 1: things within me that every married person probably relate to this.

503
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Speaker 1: It's like, I didn't realize that I was struggling with this.

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Speaker 1: I didn't realize that I needed to be so refined

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Speaker 1: in this area of my life.

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Speaker 3: People don't do the work now, so you don't have

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Speaker 3: to explain to something.

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Speaker 1: Girl, you're telling me about this, But there's things that

509
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Speaker 1: only get revealed as well in marriage when you're in

510
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Speaker 1: close proximity with the same person every day. And it's like, man, God,

511
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Speaker 1: I'm thankful that I'm married to this person because not

512
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Speaker 1: only does he reveal this thing within me, he loves

513
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Speaker 1: me through it and wants me to walk out freedom, healing, redemption, restoration,

514
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Speaker 1: all these things in the areas where I do lack,

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Speaker 1: in the areas where I do struggle, in the areas

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Speaker 1: where it's like, are you being the most christ Like here?

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Speaker 1: It's just you, none of us, even me, Like ten

518
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Speaker 1: five years from now, ten years from now, we don't

519
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Speaker 1: have the perspective of what will happen, but God does.

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Speaker 1: And that's why surrender in inviting him in is so

521
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Speaker 1: important and being prayerful is so important because only God

522
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Speaker 1: knows the nuances of what you need in a partner

523
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Speaker 1: for specific seasons and for specific reasons in your life.

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Speaker 1: So I love that you talk about that in the book.

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Speaker 1: Another thing you talk about that I love, uh, is

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Speaker 1: you write about praying without becoming obsessed, without becoming obsessed

527
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Speaker 1: about you know, the future and your partner and all

528
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Speaker 1: those things. So how can someone pray boldly for marriage

529
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Speaker 1: while still holding their desires with open hands? Because I

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Speaker 1: know that there are some people who might have we

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Speaker 1: kind of touched on this, like these expectations or maybe

532
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Speaker 1: even an obsession of like this is how it has

533
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Speaker 1: to look, like this is how it has to go,

534
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Speaker 1: and it's like that's it's almost consuming their every thought,

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Speaker 1: and it's like, how do we begin to like pray

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Speaker 1: these things boldly? But also like okay, girl, peel back

537
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Speaker 1: the fingers a little bit, Let God move, let God work,

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Speaker 1: let him reprioritize some things.

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Speaker 3: Maybe. Yeah, it's so good.

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Speaker 2: And I do think that's the number one reason that

541
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Speaker 2: a lot of people don't pray for their spells. It's

542
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Speaker 2: because they hear you're going to make it an idol

543
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Speaker 2: or you're going to become obsessed. But the amount of

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Speaker 2: things I've prayed for Kirby where I've prayed for them

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Speaker 2: and then I thought, oh, I actually need to pray

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Speaker 2: for that more. I mean, when it's for your healing

547
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Speaker 2: for a family member, right, you don't to say, okay,

548
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Speaker 2: bless them all right, that's it, because then maybe they'll

549
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Speaker 2: get too healed. You're right, there's no These caveats that

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Speaker 2: we put on relationships are not the same as other

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Speaker 2: areas that we pray into. I do think there are

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Speaker 2: some really practical steps. One thing I advise people to

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Speaker 2: do when they're praying is don't put a name on it,

554
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Speaker 2: even if you're dating someone. I've seen women that I've

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Speaker 2: walked with that do this and they're dating someone, and

556
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Speaker 2: I've had like a little inkling of like, hmm, it's okay, I.

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Speaker 3: Don't know, like they're gonna pray. The Lord's going to

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Speaker 3: show them right, and the.

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Speaker 2: Lord would say that's not the person they'd be praying

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Speaker 2: for their future husband and the relationship would end.

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Speaker 3: And so I think when we don't put a name

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Speaker 3: on it.

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Speaker 2: We don't, like you said, get emotionally invested to the

564
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Speaker 2: this is how who is going to be and this

565
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Speaker 2: is how it's.

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Speaker 3: Going to be.

567
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Speaker 2: And so I kept my prayers anonymous until the week

568
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Speaker 2: of our wedding, like even in engagement, like I would

569
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Speaker 2: pray for Arden and then I'm like, okay, Lord, b's

570
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Speaker 2: my future husband, you know, like we started single as dating,

571
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Speaker 2: I just kept this idea of Okay, Lord, I'm praying

572
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Speaker 2: for my husband, and I'm not going to try to

573
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Speaker 2: like lace in little details here.

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Speaker 3: I want those details to come from you. So the

575
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Speaker 3: Lord gave me.

576
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Speaker 2: He gave me visions of what my husband would look like.

577
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Speaker 2: He gave me specific things to intercede for him for.

578
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Speaker 2: And what I love, Kirby, is that those aligned the

579
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Speaker 2: more I got to know Ardent, rather than Okay, I'm

580
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Speaker 2: getting to know Ardent and I'm trying to put him in.

581
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Speaker 3: This place, if that makes sense.

582
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Speaker 2: That yeah, So without becoming obsessed, you know, like, don't

583
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Speaker 2: don't try to force a name on it. Maybe you're

584
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Speaker 2: single and you're like, well, how do I not get

585
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Speaker 2: obsessed when I don't have a vision or a boyfriend

586
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Speaker 2: to put a name on it, keep it as something

587
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Speaker 2: like I would make sure I have my like me

588
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Speaker 2: and Christian God time.

589
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Speaker 3: Before I prayed for my husband.

590
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Speaker 2: I need to keep this in the alignment of like

591
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Speaker 2: God is my first love, I need to go to

592
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Speaker 2: him first just to even be filled up to pray

593
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Speaker 2: for someone else, Like I want my cup to run

594
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Speaker 2: it over, rather than like my cup to be filled

595
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Speaker 2: by this hope of just being a wife.

596
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Speaker 3: Because wife me is a version of me. It's not

597
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Speaker 3: all of me, it's not my status, it's not my identity.

598
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Speaker 2: And so praying without becoming obsessed, like you know, there's

599
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Speaker 2: I think everybody's personality is different. Again for me, like

600
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Speaker 2: I catch one of a vision and I get so excited,

601
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Speaker 2: and so like I start up here, I'm more prone

602
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Speaker 2: to like dwindle down as I go in. Some people

603
00:28:35,640 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 2: may be the opposite, and so like when I get

604
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Speaker 2: too excited about something, I know that about myself, and

605
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Speaker 2: so I say, Okay, I'm gonna pump the brakes a

606
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Speaker 2: little bit. Maybe I need to go go on a

607
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Speaker 2: walk first, Like I want to keep praying for this

608
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Speaker 2: thing because I want to keep being guided in it.

609
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Speaker 3: But I don't want to become obsessed.

610
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Speaker 2: So I think it also takes this intentionality of knowing yourself, like,

611
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Speaker 2: am I open to the Lord's timeline?

612
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Speaker 3: Am I getting ahead of myself?

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Speaker 2: That doesn't mean to like abandon, It just says okay, God,

614
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Speaker 2: like even as the Father and Mark nine like, I

615
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Speaker 2: have faith, but give me more faith, Like, give me

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Speaker 2: more faith to do this process. Well, give me more

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Speaker 2: patience to do this in your timeline, give me more

618
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Speaker 2: dedication to pray more. Maybe you're like, I'm not obsessed.

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Speaker 2: I'm kind of fading out over here. It's been a while,

620
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Speaker 2: I'm tired of praying, right, So I think that idea

621
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Speaker 2: of you know, let the Lord.

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Speaker 3: Stearch your heart.

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Speaker 2: Let him show you what it looks like to have

624
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Speaker 2: faith in this way, how to pray. We see Hannah

625
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Speaker 2: in the Bible. She prayed out for thirteen years, it's believed,

626
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Speaker 2: And I mean she probably could have been labeled as obsessed,

627
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Speaker 2: like Eli could have been like this girl looks drunk.

628
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Speaker 3: She is so obsessed with praying for a child. But

629
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Speaker 3: it's through that.

630
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Speaker 2: Process that the Lord remembered her prayers and opened her womb.

631
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Speaker 2: And so I don't want people to get discouraged from

632
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Speaker 2: those comments. Of well, you can't keep praying for that,

633
00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 2: you absolutely can. We see that the Lord hears the

634
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 2: prayers as the righteous that it says to pray without seizing,

635
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Speaker 2: So come to him. You know, if your heart and

636
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 2: your emotions start getting lined in that like it's almost

637
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 2: like overcoming. Yes, let's peel back the layers a little bit.

638
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 2: Let's get back to the heart of the issue. But

639
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Speaker 2: don't stop praying just because you know there's flesh involved

640
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Speaker 2: with the person praying. That's gonna happen for everyone and

641
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Speaker 2: in different ways, So sort that out.

642
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Speaker 3: But let God still be in the midst of what

643
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Speaker 3: you're praying for.

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Speaker 1: That's so good Christian. Yeah, and what's so good about

645
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 1: like God really everything let's start there is that. I

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Speaker 1: love that you even bring up the fact that it's

647
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Speaker 1: like he remembers, He remembers our prayers and thinking about

648
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Speaker 1: that thirteen years of waiting, like that's a long time,

649
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Speaker 1: and maybe there's someone listening today and it's like, yeah,

650
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Speaker 1: that's me. I'm literally going on at third day there.

651
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Speaker 1: I just want you to know that you can keep

652
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Speaker 1: desiring those things and bringing them to the Lord. But

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Speaker 1: I even just want to challenge people in this not

654
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Speaker 1: to say that your prayers are bad or wrong or

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Speaker 1: hear me loud and clear. But to continue to trust God,

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Speaker 1: God is enough. God is enough. He is my first love.

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Speaker 1: He is the one who sustains me. And if I'm

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Speaker 1: into our life to join with us, to partner with us,

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Speaker 1: that is a blessing. But even if he doesn't, that

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Speaker 1: if we don't get the thing that we deem is good.

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Speaker 1: But if you do get that thing, know that it

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Speaker 1: comes with its own set of challenges, its own set

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Speaker 1: also its own set of blessings like anything else. And

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Speaker 1: I know you dive way more into that in your book.

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Speaker 1: Unfortunately we're kind of out of time today to talk

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Speaker 1: about that. I really want to talk about that. But

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Speaker 1: you know what, get the book. She talks about so

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Speaker 1: many good things within it, just ways to structure prayers,

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Speaker 1: ways to continue to pursue the Lord in your season

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Speaker 1: of singleness, she like, she said, she even has a

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Speaker 1: prayer journal that goes with this. So where can everybody

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Speaker 1: get the book because it's officially out today. Where can

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Speaker 1: they get the book? Where can they get the prayer journal?

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Speaker 1: Because I know that that's another project that you worked

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Speaker 1: on alongside the book. Where can everybody get all that?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much, just even for showing this, because

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Speaker 2: I do hope that we can change how modern dating

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Speaker 2: has become a dumpster fire. We can refine it, make

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Speaker 2: So that's one of my hopes through this, and to

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Speaker 3: So you can get both of those on Amazon.

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Speaker 2: They are available today. You order it will come to

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Speaker 2: your house. You can also go to Christianbevier dot com.

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Speaker 2: But I know that's hard to spell sometimes, so Amazon

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Speaker 2: or Christianbevier dot com. And I'd love to interact with

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Speaker 2: you on the Dear Future Husband podcast if you're like,

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Speaker 2: I need to.

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Speaker 3: Suss this girl out a little bit more before I commit. Fully,

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Speaker 3: it's okay. I know it's like a marriage. To buy

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Speaker 3: the book, we can date first. You can come over to.

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Speaker 2: The Dear People Husband podcast, and there's incredible testimonies there too.

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Speaker 3: I just I love how faithful the.

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Speaker 2: Lord is to give us testimonies, to give us encouragements

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Speaker 2: exactly where we are. So thankful for the voices there,

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Speaker 2: and Kurby, I'm thankful for this podcast. Thank you for

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Speaker 2: the Way in the Light hymn.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. I will link all of that down below

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Speaker 1: for y'all, so it's just one simple scroll and click

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Speaker 1: to check out her book and to check out that

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Speaker 1: her podcast.

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Speaker 3: Because it's amazing.

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Speaker 1: It is so good. I love y'all. Thank you for

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Speaker 3: Email me.

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Speaker 1: I'd love to make an episode that is relatable and

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Speaker 1: will pour into you in the season that you are in,

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Speaker 1: So feel free to hit me up on that email.

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