1 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: Welcome to Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Here thousands of 2 00:00:24,240 --> 00:00:27,880 Speaker 1: hours of Dennis's lectures courses in classic radio programs. Had 3 00:00:27,880 --> 00:00:39,080 Speaker 1: to purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles, go to Dennisprager dot com. 4 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:44,160 Speaker 2: I need to make some introductory remarks here so you'll 5 00:00:44,159 --> 00:00:49,280 Speaker 2: know what you're getting into. It's about sex, but it's 6 00:00:49,280 --> 00:00:53,400 Speaker 2: not going to be very sexy. In fact, it will 7 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 2: probably will probably cause a few of you to look 8 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:04,559 Speaker 2: at sex a little differently, and certainly at men, which 9 00:01:04,600 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 2: is the subject for tonight. It is I have dealt 10 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:18,640 Speaker 2: with some very difficult subjects in writing and lecturing over 11 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:22,440 Speaker 2: the course of a lifetime. This is the most difficult. 12 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:28,120 Speaker 2: I thought happiness was the most difficult, and that's easy 13 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:34,040 Speaker 2: in comparison to this. This is a real puzzle. A 14 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:39,959 Speaker 2: sex is like an atom bomb that keeps going off 15 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 2: and we don't quite understand why. At least we know 16 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:47,080 Speaker 2: why the atom bombs were dropped on Japan. We knew 17 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 2: what airplane dropped it, we knew why it was dropped. 18 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 2: Sex is as powerful as a bomb as the atom 19 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 2: bomb in the human species, but we don't really fully 20 00:01:57,680 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 2: understand it. That's why there's so much writing on it, 21 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 2: and there's so much therapy. But there's a deeper reason 22 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 2: I think why people don't really understand it, and that 23 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 2: is it's very painful. Tonight will be painful. I'll try 24 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:20,360 Speaker 2: to lift your spirits with some moments of lefevity, but 25 00:02:21,519 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 2: it's a painful subject, the subject being primarily male sexuality. 26 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 2: Female sexuality is not my subject for two reasons. One, 27 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:37,239 Speaker 2: I'm not a female and I think I know men 28 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 2: very well. Number two, it's one of the rare times 29 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:50,160 Speaker 2: in life where where there is more to be said, 30 00:02:50,400 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 2: perhaps about male sexuality than female sexuality. In other words, 31 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:59,000 Speaker 2: something male than female. Generally, women are more complex. Any 32 00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 2: of you who are married pretty much know that if 33 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 2: you give man a man certain basic things that he 34 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 2: wants football, beer, sex, an income, a modicum of food, 35 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:18,360 Speaker 2: basically you have a contented soul. I say this with 36 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:22,239 Speaker 2: no pride, and frankly for me, either beer in football 37 00:03:22,360 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 2: or not a big deal. But women are far more complex. 38 00:03:29,080 --> 00:03:31,640 Speaker 2: If it is true that the man I consider to 39 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 2: be perhaps the genius of the twentieth century, Zigmund Freud, 40 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:40,000 Speaker 2: if he died asking what the women want, I certainly 41 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:44,120 Speaker 2: do not believe that I can answer that question. I'm 42 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 2: not sure women can answer that question. To be honest, 43 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 2: you see, we men assume that there is an answer 44 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 2: available if you just opened a woman up for enough time. 45 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:57,920 Speaker 2: But I'm not sure that that's true anymore. Women are 46 00:03:58,160 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 2: very complex in their own way. Men are in their way. 47 00:04:02,480 --> 00:04:07,640 Speaker 2: But here is something that is a hypothesis of mind, 48 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 2: that is that reveals something unique in the human spirit 49 00:04:14,960 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 2: or the human species. I believe that when it comes 50 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:23,400 Speaker 2: to the sexual makeup of men and sexual makeup of women, 51 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:28,199 Speaker 2: that it is far easier for men to understand women 52 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:32,040 Speaker 2: than it is for women to understand men. This is 53 00:04:32,159 --> 00:04:36,039 Speaker 2: unique in all other areas. I think that women understand 54 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 2: men better than the men understand themselves. In this arena, 55 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:46,680 Speaker 2: I am convinced that a true understanding of male, of 56 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:51,159 Speaker 2: the way men function sexually, is not available to the women. 57 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 2: It sounds incredible what I'm saying. After all, women are 58 00:04:57,720 --> 00:05:01,920 Speaker 2: just as intelligent, if not more so, than men. And 59 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 2: why if it's explained, is it not understood well? I 60 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:11,599 Speaker 2: can explain to you how orangutans function, but none of 61 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:16,600 Speaker 2: us can relate to an orangutan, right, we can't imagine 62 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:21,160 Speaker 2: what it is like to be an orangutan. Men can imagine, 63 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:25,400 Speaker 2: just imagine what it is to be a woman in 64 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:28,600 Speaker 2: the arena of sexual response. I don't mean what it 65 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 2: feels like to have a female orgasm, of course not, 66 00:05:32,400 --> 00:05:34,680 Speaker 2: but what it is that will turn a woman on 67 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 2: is understandable to men. In fact, while preparing for this 68 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:46,599 Speaker 2: for this course, I checked just today a little pamphlet, 69 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 2: and I will be as unracy as possible, but it's 70 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:54,039 Speaker 2: the title of the book. It's a guide to men 71 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:56,839 Speaker 2: on how to get laid, all right, And I was 72 00:05:56,920 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 2: checking this pamphlet that is sold in the millions. There 73 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:04,640 Speaker 2: is no, by the way, converse pamphlet for women how 74 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:08,400 Speaker 2: to get laid? A guide for women has never been published, 75 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:14,920 Speaker 2: which is of course part of my point that how 76 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 2: different they are. And basically, this corrupt soul who wrote 77 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 2: this book, who wrote this pamphlet, this low life, was saying, 78 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 2: all these are all the right things you have to 79 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 2: say to get women turned on. And the old adage 80 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:38,000 Speaker 2: really came out to be true. And all adages and 81 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:42,080 Speaker 2: all generalizations have exceptions. Nothing I will say is true 82 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 2: for everybody, okay, not for all men, not for all women. 83 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 2: But generalizations are important. Otherwise we shouldn't take a course. 84 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 2: If we can't generalize about sexual or any other matters, 85 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 2: then don't take a course in it. Obviously, there are 86 00:06:56,480 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 2: exceptions to anything, but there are general rules. And this 87 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 2: bore the UH, bore out the old adage of what 88 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:10,440 Speaker 2: is it? Men will use love to get sex and 89 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:14,000 Speaker 2: women will use sex to get love, and that is 90 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 2: what this guy was writing about. My point, therefore, is 91 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:23,480 Speaker 2: that male sexuality, which I'm talking about this evening, is 92 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:27,360 Speaker 2: extremely is impossible for a woman to fully relate to. 93 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:31,600 Speaker 2: Her brain can understand it, just like our human brain. 94 00:07:31,960 --> 00:07:35,239 Speaker 2: And I'm comparing men to orangutans here. So women should 95 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 2: not be insulted by this. If anything, it's the male 96 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:40,240 Speaker 2: that has the problem. As I will point out, in 97 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:45,760 Speaker 2: any event, I can get a PhD in the behavior 98 00:07:45,840 --> 00:07:52,160 Speaker 2: of the orangutan, be an absolute expert, the leading scholar 99 00:07:52,280 --> 00:07:55,880 Speaker 2: on Earth on orangutan behavior, but I have no clue 100 00:07:55,920 --> 00:07:58,840 Speaker 2: what it's like to be an orangutan. Oh, so that's 101 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 2: what happens when you do this? Do I see? That's 102 00:08:00,920 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 2: that an orangutan will do this. Likewise, a woman can 103 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 2: get a PhD in male sexuality but still not have 104 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:10,080 Speaker 2: a clue what it is like to be one. I 105 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 2: can understand. Really men respond that way, Wow, how fascinating. 106 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:18,080 Speaker 2: But it is still almost of a different species. Women 107 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:21,480 Speaker 2: aren't of a different species. The response to the turn 108 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:24,280 Speaker 2: ons of her life makes sense to a man unless 109 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 2: he's a total dummy. And there are such men. You 110 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:29,520 Speaker 2: may be married to one for all I know, but 111 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:34,960 Speaker 2: I certainly hope not. But in but in general that's 112 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:38,560 Speaker 2: we We males are really of a different species. Adding 113 00:08:38,600 --> 00:08:41,000 Speaker 2: to the problem of the complexity is men don't want 114 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:47,560 Speaker 2: to talk about this. Deep down. We are embarrassed by 115 00:08:47,720 --> 00:08:53,559 Speaker 2: our sexuality. It's embarrassing how many men will read Penthouse 116 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:57,400 Speaker 2: on an airplane and take out the center for Wow, 117 00:08:57,520 --> 00:09:01,840 Speaker 2: holy mattle, lot of booze. That right, No man will 118 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 2: do that. I mean maybe there are, but I've never 119 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:06,040 Speaker 2: seen one a night, and I have a lot of 120 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:11,600 Speaker 2: frequent flyer miles. Okay. Uh. Men will will put in fact, 121 00:09:11,640 --> 00:09:15,200 Speaker 2: if a man does buy a skin flick or a 122 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:18,280 Speaker 2: or a skin magazine, it's put in a brown wrapper. 123 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:22,080 Speaker 2: You know. There's a great scene like that in one 124 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 2: of Woody Allen's older movies where he goes in to 125 00:09:25,400 --> 00:09:28,720 Speaker 2: buy and jugs and you know, the you know, funny 126 00:09:28,760 --> 00:09:33,360 Speaker 2: whatever he is, legs, jugs, bellies whatever, buttocks magazine, you know, 127 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 2: Butdock's weekly whatever he's buying. But of course he's so embarrassed. 128 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:41,079 Speaker 2: He keeps looking around like this to see nobody's watching, 129 00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:45,920 Speaker 2: and then then buries all of that under commentary descent 130 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 2: the New Republic, you know, foreign affairs. So in the 131 00:09:51,400 --> 00:09:56,720 Speaker 2: middle of foreign affairs and commentary and descent is jugs 132 00:09:56,800 --> 00:09:59,600 Speaker 2: and you know, and god knows what. So the poor 133 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:02,679 Speaker 2: guy goes up to the to the the dealer. The 134 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 2: news dealer hands the guy the magazine, still looking like this, 135 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:08,319 Speaker 2: and the guy's ringing him up. And then he realizes 136 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:12,040 Speaker 2: that the guy ringing up sees he doesn't know the price. 137 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:16,440 Speaker 2: Hey Harry, how much is jugs? And the poor you know, 138 00:10:16,480 --> 00:10:19,440 Speaker 2: wood Ay Allen is just decimated by this. Men, we 139 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:24,280 Speaker 2: are embarrassed. It's embarrassed. Women aren't doing Women's sexuality is 140 00:10:24,280 --> 00:10:29,720 Speaker 2: not embarrassing. It's a at its lowest point. It doesn't 141 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 2: begin to match the the normal, if you will, in 142 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:36,959 Speaker 2: the male. So we don't want to tell you about this. 143 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:39,720 Speaker 2: Men don't want to. They don't tell their wives. Here's 144 00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 2: a story and I'll tell a lot of stories because 145 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:48,880 Speaker 2: you have to hear the real life examples that I 146 00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:53,040 Speaker 2: to to to make my points. I'll never forget. Well 147 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:57,080 Speaker 2: before I was ever married, and this actually almost frightened 148 00:10:57,080 --> 00:11:00,480 Speaker 2: me about marriage. Actually, I was with a friend who 149 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:04,560 Speaker 2: was married. It was my late twenties, and I was 150 00:11:04,600 --> 00:11:06,679 Speaker 2: with a friend who was about a year or two 151 00:11:06,679 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 2: older than I was, and he had been married just 152 00:11:09,040 --> 00:11:12,800 Speaker 2: a couple of years. We used to play racquetballing and 153 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 2: at the workout place where a lot of women walking 154 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:20,240 Speaker 2: around and you know, skin tight revealing leotard stuff and 155 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:24,719 Speaker 2: thong things and god knows what else. And we'd look 156 00:11:24,760 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 2: at the women. I mean, I don't say ogal, but 157 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:33,000 Speaker 2: we'd look. And I asked him or I don't know 158 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 2: how it came up, but oh nothing. So that's it. 159 00:11:37,240 --> 00:11:39,080 Speaker 2: Here's I haven't told the story so long. I didn't 160 00:11:39,080 --> 00:11:41,240 Speaker 2: get the word right. So that's what happened. Then I 161 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:44,120 Speaker 2: am having one by dinner with him and his wife 162 00:11:45,559 --> 00:11:49,000 Speaker 2: and she says, oh, so how's the racquetball going? You guys? Oh, 163 00:11:49,040 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 2: we have a great time, and and I say, you know, 164 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:55,199 Speaker 2: and then when we go out after each game, we 165 00:11:55,640 --> 00:12:00,480 Speaker 2: have a wonderful time looking around, and he gives me 166 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:08,080 Speaker 2: a kick, and she says to me, what do you mean, 167 00:12:08,480 --> 00:12:11,440 Speaker 2: not in a suspicious way, just what do you mean? 168 00:12:11,920 --> 00:12:16,800 Speaker 2: They go, well, I look at the women who are there, 169 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:20,160 Speaker 2: and she looks at him, and I'll call him Elliott. 170 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:29,360 Speaker 2: She goes, and Elliott, not me, Dennis does. I'll never 171 00:12:29,480 --> 00:12:34,720 Speaker 2: forget this because it had a very had a frightening 172 00:12:34,760 --> 00:12:37,719 Speaker 2: effect on me. Am I gonna have to lie when 173 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 2: I get married. That is what I concluded from this. 174 00:12:43,240 --> 00:12:45,960 Speaker 2: I can't believe it. He's denying to his wife that 175 00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:49,200 Speaker 2: he looks at the women and the leotards. I can't 176 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:53,439 Speaker 2: believe this because my disposition, which is why I'm giving 177 00:12:53,440 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 2: this course. My disposition is I want clarity. I say 178 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 2: this on the radio. I live for clarity. I want 179 00:13:02,920 --> 00:13:06,320 Speaker 2: to understand. If I were on an airplane that was 180 00:13:06,400 --> 00:13:11,559 Speaker 2: going down, I truly believe my major emotional reaction, other 181 00:13:11,640 --> 00:13:14,000 Speaker 2: than you know, my children losing a dad and then 182 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:18,000 Speaker 2: forget that stuff would be would be why is it 183 00:13:18,040 --> 00:13:20,840 Speaker 2: going down? Wanted to know If I were on the Titanic, 184 00:13:21,200 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 2: I would have studied as much as I could before 185 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:28,000 Speaker 2: I drowned. Why is this? I must understand? And I 186 00:13:28,080 --> 00:13:30,600 Speaker 2: have always wanted to understand me as a male. I 187 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:35,960 Speaker 2: wanted to because there was such a disparity between me 188 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:40,880 Speaker 2: the higher being and me the orangutan. There was I 189 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:43,120 Speaker 2: just I couldn't believe. Is it just me? Am I 190 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 2: am I perverted? Am I normal? Am I different? And 191 00:13:47,559 --> 00:13:49,920 Speaker 2: I talked to other guys and I realized I was 192 00:13:50,240 --> 00:13:53,720 Speaker 2: in the normal range of perversion, And you know that 193 00:13:53,880 --> 00:13:59,800 Speaker 2: was that's what would happen. So this clarity, I thought, 194 00:13:59,880 --> 00:14:02,880 Speaker 2: I'm gonna get married one day and I'm gonna hide 195 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:06,400 Speaker 2: from my wife, my best friend. That's what I assumed 196 00:14:06,440 --> 00:14:09,480 Speaker 2: my wife would be. I'm gonna hide from her my 197 00:14:10,440 --> 00:14:15,960 Speaker 2: very own nature. All I did was play racquetball, women 198 00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:18,640 Speaker 2: and leotard's really at my club? Get out, you must 199 00:14:18,679 --> 00:14:22,520 Speaker 2: be kid. I was reading War and Peace while I 200 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:28,520 Speaker 2: was getting dressed. This is what I feared. Do men 201 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:31,000 Speaker 2: do that? And the truth is, men do this. Men 202 00:14:31,080 --> 00:14:35,600 Speaker 2: don't tell. Now, there are some men who go to 203 00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:39,280 Speaker 2: the other extreme and shove it in the face of 204 00:14:39,360 --> 00:14:42,360 Speaker 2: the woman they are with, which is also just idiotic. 205 00:14:43,360 --> 00:14:46,000 Speaker 2: I shouldn't say also which is idiotic. If the other 206 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:50,000 Speaker 2: one is not idiotic, the other one is sad, because 207 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:53,360 Speaker 2: that's who we are, and you know that is part 208 00:14:53,520 --> 00:14:56,920 Speaker 2: of what is the makeup of your husband, your boyfriend, 209 00:14:56,960 --> 00:15:00,960 Speaker 2: your son, your father, whomever it is, gay or straight. 210 00:15:01,040 --> 00:15:04,600 Speaker 2: By the way, there is nothing and that's my proof 211 00:15:04,800 --> 00:15:08,000 Speaker 2: that it is all built in and not cultural. Is 212 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:12,040 Speaker 2: gay men and straight men are identical in their sexuality 213 00:15:12,080 --> 00:15:17,560 Speaker 2: but for one thing, the object of their attraction. That 214 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:21,280 Speaker 2: is the only difference. There is no difference between me 215 00:15:21,320 --> 00:15:23,720 Speaker 2: and a gay man in my sexual makeup, except for 216 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:26,840 Speaker 2: the fact that what all of those characteristics are for 217 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:28,520 Speaker 2: me toward a woman and all for him a toward 218 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:28,880 Speaker 2: a man. 219 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:32,720 Speaker 1: This episode of timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 220 00:15:38,240 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom. 221 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:49,320 Speaker 2: If gay men were different in their sexuality, then I 222 00:15:49,320 --> 00:15:50,960 Speaker 2: would have to say, well, maybe a lot of this 223 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:55,440 Speaker 2: is cultural. But it turns out that to me, that's 224 00:15:55,480 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 2: the proof. You know, unless you argue gay men are 225 00:15:58,480 --> 00:16:02,120 Speaker 2: raised in a certain way to regard men as sex objects. 226 00:16:02,120 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 2: But that's ludicrous, and we'll come to sex objects in 227 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:10,720 Speaker 2: a moment. So I'm giving this course because I believe 228 00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:15,840 Speaker 2: it's odd to say this. It's a service. You know. 229 00:16:16,120 --> 00:16:19,640 Speaker 2: I'm not praising myself. Believe me. But I truly believe 230 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:25,040 Speaker 2: it's a service to both sexes to understand, to have clarity. Women, 231 00:16:25,720 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 2: you are, in a sense on the sexual Titanic. I 232 00:16:29,840 --> 00:16:32,080 Speaker 2: don't want it to sink, so I want you to 233 00:16:32,200 --> 00:16:36,240 Speaker 2: understand the icebergs. To keep this imagery alive. There are 234 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:39,360 Speaker 2: tremendous numbers of ice worms. That's the value for women. 235 00:16:39,760 --> 00:16:44,440 Speaker 2: For men, the value is this is us. You can 236 00:16:44,480 --> 00:16:47,800 Speaker 2: have more peace about yourself knowing you are not a freak. 237 00:16:48,840 --> 00:16:53,240 Speaker 2: It takes a really, really bizarre form of perversion for 238 00:16:53,280 --> 00:16:57,160 Speaker 2: a man to be truly freaky sexually. I mean he 239 00:16:57,200 --> 00:17:00,600 Speaker 2: would have to. I don't know. I can't even think 240 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:04,200 Speaker 2: of one. Frankly, I will read to you. I did 241 00:17:04,320 --> 00:17:10,239 Speaker 2: one thing that it will be worth your visit, just 242 00:17:10,360 --> 00:17:12,120 Speaker 2: for what I will read to you a little later 243 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:16,120 Speaker 2: about what men wish to view. I took it from 244 00:17:16,159 --> 00:17:20,399 Speaker 2: a porn site on the Internet, listing of sites of 245 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:26,520 Speaker 2: pictures that men can visit, and you will even men 246 00:17:26,920 --> 00:17:30,359 Speaker 2: will have their minds blown because while many of the 247 00:17:30,359 --> 00:17:32,600 Speaker 2: men will relate to many of these, no man will 248 00:17:32,600 --> 00:17:34,919 Speaker 2: relate to all of these. If there is a man 249 00:17:34,960 --> 00:17:37,720 Speaker 2: who relates to all of these, see me afterwards. I 250 00:17:38,440 --> 00:17:40,560 Speaker 2: want I want your name. I just you know, it's 251 00:17:40,640 --> 00:17:44,240 Speaker 2: like you know, someone like the Guinness Book of World Perversions, 252 00:17:44,400 --> 00:17:46,760 Speaker 2: will you will have entered you will have entered it, 253 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:49,080 Speaker 2: And I want to be part of bringing you to 254 00:17:49,119 --> 00:17:55,480 Speaker 2: the attention of the world. So one of the reasons 255 00:17:55,520 --> 00:17:59,359 Speaker 2: for the complexity of male sexuality is that men are 256 00:17:59,400 --> 00:18:02,960 Speaker 2: embarrassed and don't talk about it or will talk about 257 00:18:02,960 --> 00:18:06,240 Speaker 2: it maybe a little bit and then shut up. And women. 258 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:10,160 Speaker 2: The other reason is men understand women don't really want 259 00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:13,520 Speaker 2: to hear it. That's the truth. I mean, they could, 260 00:18:13,560 --> 00:18:15,760 Speaker 2: you know, they'll handle it in the beginning and so on, 261 00:18:15,840 --> 00:18:17,959 Speaker 2: but they don't want to hear it a lot. And 262 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:20,040 Speaker 2: many don't want to hear it at all and want 263 00:18:20,040 --> 00:18:22,399 Speaker 2: to believe that their dad is different, or their brother 264 00:18:22,560 --> 00:18:25,879 Speaker 2: or their husband, or their boyfriend or their son that 265 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:30,080 Speaker 2: I say son orreaby that's a And it's very understandable 266 00:18:30,119 --> 00:18:33,320 Speaker 2: because you, my god, that's you. Are you like that? 267 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:38,119 Speaker 2: Male sexuality is frightening. If I were a woman, I 268 00:18:38,160 --> 00:18:41,240 Speaker 2: would be frightened by it. The point is, though, here's 269 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:43,880 Speaker 2: the good news. That's all bad news. What's the good news. 270 00:18:43,920 --> 00:18:47,480 Speaker 2: The good news is most men are decent and most 271 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:50,840 Speaker 2: men control themselves by and large. That's the good news. 272 00:18:51,320 --> 00:18:55,560 Speaker 2: And that's why a good man is a wonderful creature, 273 00:18:56,080 --> 00:18:58,600 Speaker 2: is a great invention and deserves a lot of credit. 274 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:02,680 Speaker 2: And if nothing else, maybe I will, and I hope 275 00:19:02,720 --> 00:19:07,399 Speaker 2: I do. Have you all respect men who buy and 276 00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:11,080 Speaker 2: large control themselves in the sexual arena, when you will 277 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:17,159 Speaker 2: see what the composition of the male is about. So 278 00:19:18,040 --> 00:19:24,359 Speaker 2: that those are my preparatory comments. And now to some 279 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:34,000 Speaker 2: of the components of male sexuality. Number one is the uh, 280 00:19:34,600 --> 00:19:42,320 Speaker 2: the power of the visual. It's all it's it's impossible 281 00:19:42,720 --> 00:19:45,600 Speaker 2: for a woman. It's possible for a woman to know it. 282 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:48,800 Speaker 2: It's not possible for a woman to empathize like I 283 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:51,800 Speaker 2: can know once again, my orangutan. I could know what 284 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:55,199 Speaker 2: it'll do, but I really can't empathize because it's just, 285 00:19:55,480 --> 00:20:03,520 Speaker 2: you know, it's a different species. The visual is is extraordiny. 286 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:08,719 Speaker 2: It's so powerful in the male that it creates a 287 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:15,240 Speaker 2: sexual response the visual alone. There may be times in 288 00:20:15,280 --> 00:20:21,800 Speaker 2: a woman's life that a f Frank Sinatra will cause 289 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:25,080 Speaker 2: some women in the audience to throw their hotel room 290 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:31,040 Speaker 2: keys at him. Girls will scream and wail when a 291 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:36,200 Speaker 2: great rock star shows up that happens. But remember there's 292 00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:40,920 Speaker 2: an enormous difference. It is the person that they are 293 00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:47,920 Speaker 2: wailing about, not the legs. No woman thought I must 294 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:54,800 Speaker 2: touch Frank Sinatra's thigh. This is my fantasy. I must 295 00:20:54,840 --> 00:21:00,680 Speaker 2: get pictures a Frank Sinatra in shorts. It's right, it's 296 00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:05,400 Speaker 2: a joke. It is proper and appropriate to laugh. If 297 00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:08,639 Speaker 2: only I could see the Beatles in bathing suits. This 298 00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:13,199 Speaker 2: the girls who were swooning were swooning and may have 299 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:15,640 Speaker 2: well wanted to make love with the Beatles. I don't 300 00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:19,520 Speaker 2: even deny that, or Frank Sinatra. I mean, obviously, stars 301 00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:22,360 Speaker 2: have their pick of women. There are groupies right now 302 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:26,800 Speaker 2: waiting for basketball players at the NBA Finals, waiting outside. 303 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:28,800 Speaker 2: If they will only take me to bed, it will 304 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:32,400 Speaker 2: make my life. I had I did ten basketball players. 305 00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:34,959 Speaker 2: I am. I am quite a woman or a girl whatever, 306 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:39,600 Speaker 2: But that's different. That's because they're stars. If that guy 307 00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 2: was not a star, she wouldn't give him a minute's 308 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:47,160 Speaker 2: look to these guys. But he's a star, and that's 309 00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:51,160 Speaker 2: the issue. It's the starness. It's it's him, it's the person. 310 00:21:51,960 --> 00:21:57,000 Speaker 2: Women are attracted to men, not to parts of men. 311 00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:03,600 Speaker 2: Men are attracted men are stimulated by parts. It's this 312 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:07,080 Speaker 2: is a woman can understand this but not empathize with this. 313 00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:11,360 Speaker 2: The uh and it doesn't even matter, by the way, 314 00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:18,200 Speaker 2: what part this is? What is? This is also incredible. Obviously, 315 00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:21,560 Speaker 2: the more in a female shows, the more she can 316 00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:26,640 Speaker 2: visually stimulate a male. But what about in eras where 317 00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:29,560 Speaker 2: women were pretty covered up? Did you ever hear the 318 00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:36,960 Speaker 2: phrase well turned ankle? Now, personally, I think the female 319 00:22:36,960 --> 00:22:41,080 Speaker 2: body is awesome. Ankles have never been a major source 320 00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:45,520 Speaker 2: of erotic stimulation as I personally see them. But you 321 00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:48,640 Speaker 2: know what, if I lived in a society where all 322 00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:51,200 Speaker 2: I saw of females was the ankle she was otherwise 323 00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:56,440 Speaker 2: covered up, I would become an ankleman, right, TNA would 324 00:22:56,440 --> 00:23:00,720 Speaker 2: be you know what? An ankles That's what it would be, 325 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:04,280 Speaker 2: because that's what would be visible. The nape of a 326 00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:08,120 Speaker 2: neck can do it for a man. Can you imagine 327 00:23:08,119 --> 00:23:12,359 Speaker 2: a woman speaking of male well turned ankles? Oh? What 328 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:15,320 Speaker 2: an ankle on that guy? It's it's it's like, it's 329 00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:21,879 Speaker 2: a joke. It's a bad joke. The sight of the 330 00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:26,840 Speaker 2: visual stimulation. Again, have to you women, you have to 331 00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:31,359 Speaker 2: believe me, but you can't. I can't have you relate 332 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:35,760 Speaker 2: to it. It's not possible to. I am convinced at 333 00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:38,639 Speaker 2: fifty I can make bolder assertions than I felt I 334 00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:41,080 Speaker 2: could before I turned fifty. It's one of the joys 335 00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:43,600 Speaker 2: of getting older. There aren't many, but this is one 336 00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:47,760 Speaker 2: of them. And that is I am now convinced what 337 00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:51,800 Speaker 2: I speculated in my twenties, thirties, forties, I am now 338 00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:56,919 Speaker 2: sure of this is not available to women's experience. This 339 00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:00,399 Speaker 2: a knee, a thigh. There was an ad for a 340 00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:05,960 Speaker 2: tequila I believe it was a very famous ad Billboard's 341 00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:09,880 Speaker 2: magazines where you saw a woman in a bikini bottom 342 00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:13,119 Speaker 2: and you only saw her from the bikini bottom down, 343 00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:18,119 Speaker 2: and she had two tequila bottles by her thighs. It 344 00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:22,760 Speaker 2: was a total turn on to men. No face, no torso, 345 00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:27,159 Speaker 2: no torso. You want to know the proof about the 346 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:31,159 Speaker 2: visual it's again, it's actually embarrassing. But since it wasn't 347 00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:33,440 Speaker 2: me who said this, I can tell it to you. 348 00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:38,000 Speaker 2: I give you my word. It was a salesperson, a salesman, 349 00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:41,639 Speaker 2: a guy in sales at KBC who heard my lecture 350 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:44,560 Speaker 2: on male female differences that I take many years ago, 351 00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:47,880 Speaker 2: and it was much calmer than this. I mean much, 352 00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:53,159 Speaker 2: you know, more easily digested in some ways. And and 353 00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:55,600 Speaker 2: yet had you know a lot of these ideas. And 354 00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:57,680 Speaker 2: he comes over to me one day at cab you see, 355 00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:01,560 Speaker 2: and he says, Dennis, God, are you write about the visual? 356 00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:03,920 Speaker 2: Do you know what I caught myself doing the other 357 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:17,800 Speaker 2: day looking up the dress of a mannequin? I mean, 358 00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:21,919 Speaker 2: if that basic doesn't say at all, I give up. 359 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:24,439 Speaker 2: You can actually get a refund at this time if 360 00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:28,840 Speaker 2: you are not at that point convinced. And you know, 361 00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:31,600 Speaker 2: while I can't say that I tended to do that, 362 00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:36,920 Speaker 2: I didn't think the guy was nuts. That is the 363 00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:43,399 Speaker 2: power of the visual stimulation to the male. Eight What 364 00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:46,040 Speaker 2: are they made out of? Plastic? What are they made 365 00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:49,240 Speaker 2: out of? I mean, what plastic? It's probably plastic. I 366 00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:51,719 Speaker 2: mean the guy was looking up the skirt of plastic. 367 00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:58,800 Speaker 2: All right. There are cartoon pornography. There is cartoon pornography 368 00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:05,120 Speaker 2: where it's not even pictures, it's cartoonish. Females and men 369 00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:08,920 Speaker 2: are getting stimulated looking at that. So of course, real 370 00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:10,919 Speaker 2: legs on a real woman. For all we know, she 371 00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:14,760 Speaker 2: had been dead. We don't know. Maybe they were well 372 00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:18,240 Speaker 2: preserved thighs. This woman died in seventeen eleven. For all 373 00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 2: we know, we don't know, we don't care. All we 374 00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:23,760 Speaker 2: saw are two good thighs coming out of a bikini 375 00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:26,880 Speaker 2: bottom and the tequila next to the thighs, because that's 376 00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:31,600 Speaker 2: why they know men's men's eyes will drift toward men 377 00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:36,760 Speaker 2: have crashed cars because of billboards. That is how powerful 378 00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:40,160 Speaker 2: the visual is. In fact, it is the most powerful. 379 00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:45,280 Speaker 2: Perfume is powerful, touches, of course powerful, but the visual 380 00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:49,199 Speaker 2: is the most powerful of the immediate sensations in in 381 00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:53,399 Speaker 2: sexual arousal for men. There are others, thank god, there 382 00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:55,919 Speaker 2: are other forms. And saw the blind would not have 383 00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:58,359 Speaker 2: sexual by the way, I have asked blind men, I 384 00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:02,160 Speaker 2: have been very curious, and they say all smell and 385 00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:05,840 Speaker 2: hearing and touch, but obviously they don't have the visual, 386 00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:08,160 Speaker 2: and it is a very different sensation. And I wonder 387 00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:12,640 Speaker 2: if they walk around quite as sexually bombarded and thinking 388 00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:15,320 Speaker 2: about it as much as sighted men. I do wonder. 389 00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:17,520 Speaker 2: I'll tell you this. I spent two weeks in my 390 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:24,199 Speaker 2: twenties Morocco alone, and many of the and especially in 391 00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:27,320 Speaker 2: the more rural areas, when women were covered, had to 392 00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:31,439 Speaker 2: tow and you know, I wasn't thinking about sex as 393 00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:34,760 Speaker 2: much as I as I do in the West. I 394 00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:37,480 Speaker 2: remember I flew from Morocco to Portugal, which at the 395 00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:41,159 Speaker 2: time was not even typical of Western Europe because it 396 00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:44,359 Speaker 2: was still under Salazara, was still a right wing authoritarian regime, 397 00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:47,040 Speaker 2: so the billboards were sedate. But my god, it was 398 00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:51,240 Speaker 2: like almost orgesque to see women in skirts, not even 399 00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,760 Speaker 2: mini skirts, after I had seen women in shadors. That's 400 00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:57,720 Speaker 2: why it is not surprising to me that a lot 401 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:00,960 Speaker 2: of the men who live in Middle Eastern countries like 402 00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:04,119 Speaker 2: that go crazy sexually when they go to Western Europe. 403 00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:08,840 Speaker 2: You know, they just must have ten hookers and they 404 00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:14,919 Speaker 2: you know, they go crazy. And it's understandable after that, 405 00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:18,320 Speaker 2: and I am convinced there is no great solutions. Solutions 406 00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:21,480 Speaker 2: will come to next week or the third week, or 407 00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:25,520 Speaker 2: the fourth week or never, but more likely never, but 408 00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:29,160 Speaker 2: will try some on the issue of women's dress, which 409 00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:32,800 Speaker 2: will be in the solutions part. I have come to 410 00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:37,840 Speaker 2: the conclusion there is no great answer. All answers have prices. 411 00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:43,920 Speaker 2: We'll talk about that another time. So the site, the 412 00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:47,680 Speaker 2: mere visual. Remember it is a sexual it's not and 413 00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:50,040 Speaker 2: this women must understand this. And I know what goes 414 00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:51,880 Speaker 2: on in women's minds. Because I've done this so often 415 00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,560 Speaker 2: on radio, women will call up. I just had this, 416 00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:58,800 Speaker 2: in fact, just last week when I interviewed a woman 417 00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,560 Speaker 2: who a Pulitzer Prize winning science writer for the New 418 00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:05,400 Speaker 2: York Times has just written a book on the women's body, 419 00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:07,680 Speaker 2: and women were calling up and say, oh, Dennis, come on, 420 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,240 Speaker 2: you just don't know women. You don't realize how we 421 00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:14,640 Speaker 2: love to look at a good, well formed butt. Okay, 422 00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:18,240 Speaker 2: I believe that that's true for many women. Okay. Meanwhile, 423 00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:22,000 Speaker 2: women are not going out and buying male butt magazines. 424 00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:25,600 Speaker 2: They're just not. And when I raised that issue, well, 425 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,600 Speaker 2: we have been socialized not to. But how are you 426 00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:31,200 Speaker 2: socialized not to? What does that even mean people will 427 00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:34,480 Speaker 2: do what they want sexually? I mean that doesn't make 428 00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:38,200 Speaker 2: sense in a free society. People have been socialized. You mean, 429 00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:41,960 Speaker 2: that's how powerful socialization is. It's suppressed the natural inclination 430 00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:45,640 Speaker 2: of women to stare at naked men's butts. No, it's 431 00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:47,440 Speaker 2: not the way it works at all. They want to 432 00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:50,960 Speaker 2: know who the man is, buy and large. That doesn't 433 00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:52,920 Speaker 2: mean that if a hunk of a man walks into 434 00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:55,080 Speaker 2: a restauran, a woman will not notice him. Of course 435 00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:57,800 Speaker 2: a woman. I thank god women notice men. Why the 436 00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:00,440 Speaker 2: hell am I working out so hard at the Spectrum 437 00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:04,960 Speaker 2: Club if they don't. Of course, I hope women notice men, obviously, 438 00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:08,040 Speaker 2: but notice is one thing. Gets sexually turned on by 439 00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:12,760 Speaker 2: a leg or an arm or a chest is quite another. 440 00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:15,640 Speaker 2: That's just not the way it works with women. There's 441 00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:18,800 Speaker 2: a lot more to arouse a woman. If women were 442 00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:24,320 Speaker 2: roused visually as immediately as men, nothing would have occurred 443 00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:31,280 Speaker 2: in history. All children would have been abandoned. The first 444 00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:34,520 Speaker 2: generation would have produced a second, and that would have 445 00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:38,200 Speaker 2: been in because all people would have done has had 446 00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:41,560 Speaker 2: sex nothing, No, the wheel would never have developed if 447 00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:46,240 Speaker 2: Thank god, female sexuality is very different than male Whether 448 00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:48,960 Speaker 2: or not it would be good if men had women's 449 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:53,959 Speaker 2: sexuality is an interesting question that is worth speculating on, 450 00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:56,240 Speaker 2: But I don't have a great answer to the fact 451 00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,360 Speaker 2: is that that men don't, and that's the way it works. 452 00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:03,040 Speaker 1: This episode of timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 453 00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:13,240 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom. 454 00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:17,920 Speaker 2: Another example of men and the visual and I'll go 455 00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:22,000 Speaker 2: back to this when I talk about some recommendations and solutions. 456 00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:26,680 Speaker 2: I call this guy Radar run. The man who at 457 00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:30,800 Speaker 2: a restaurant is sitting with his date, whether it's his wife, 458 00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:34,920 Speaker 2: a girlfriend, a first date, and he's doing this the 459 00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:39,720 Speaker 2: entire time while talking to the woman, and I have 460 00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:42,800 Speaker 2: a great here. I will offer a solution immediately because 461 00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:46,920 Speaker 2: it's a very fast thing. Men who can't stop themselves 462 00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:49,320 Speaker 2: from looking every time an attractive woman walks into a 463 00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:54,400 Speaker 2: restaurant should face the wall. That's what I mean. You 464 00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:57,880 Speaker 2: have to know yourself. If you can't stop, you owe 465 00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:00,000 Speaker 2: it to the woman you are with to look at her. 466 00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:03,960 Speaker 2: So what you do is you take the chair facing 467 00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:07,520 Speaker 2: the wall, and that's the end of the problem. Unless 468 00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:11,640 Speaker 2: the wall has erotic pictures on it that you see, 469 00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:16,240 Speaker 2: there are always problems that can be raised. So that 470 00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:19,560 Speaker 2: is the case for the power of the incredible power 471 00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:24,120 Speaker 2: of the visual. It is not analogous to women saying, oh, 472 00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:27,040 Speaker 2: that is a sexy guy. Of course women will say that, 473 00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:31,520 Speaker 2: and of course the visual matters to women obviously, but 474 00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:35,800 Speaker 2: it is not comparable in the effect that it has. 475 00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:38,400 Speaker 2: It isn't you see. Women will also say when they 476 00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:41,520 Speaker 2: call me up, oh, I appreciate a good looking woman 477 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:44,320 Speaker 2: and a good looking man. But men aren't appreciating. This 478 00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:47,840 Speaker 2: is not art appreciation. One point one. Men are getting 479 00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:54,640 Speaker 2: turned on. There's a difference between appreciation. Appreciation is neutral. Right, Oh, 480 00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:58,280 Speaker 2: what an interesting esthetic creature? Is not the way men 481 00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:01,160 Speaker 2: react to a woman walking in in a low cut dress. 482 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:07,719 Speaker 2: The marvels of nature, I claim, what a distinct achievement 483 00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,960 Speaker 2: that nature has made those two globes. That is not 484 00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:17,880 Speaker 2: the way he thinks. All right, Next area areas that 485 00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:26,160 Speaker 2: make things. It gets worse. Next area is the immediacy 486 00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:30,400 Speaker 2: of his arousal, which of course presents women and men 487 00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:34,440 Speaker 2: with a problem, among them premature ejaculation and love making. 488 00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:38,280 Speaker 2: This is, uh, you know, most women do not suffer 489 00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:43,280 Speaker 2: from orgasming too quickly. You know, I just you know, honey, 490 00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:45,840 Speaker 2: I got one minute, let's do it, and then then 491 00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:52,080 Speaker 2: I gotta make dinner. This is not a general female form. Rather, 492 00:33:52,600 --> 00:34:01,360 Speaker 2: you know, men learn this. Candles talk talk, talk, talk 493 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:06,040 Speaker 2: a little more talk. This is men don't want to talk, 494 00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:15,400 Speaker 2: man talk? Why do I talking talk? Listen to radio? Men? 495 00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:19,680 Speaker 2: The male nature is desirous of talking, and I mean, 496 00:34:19,720 --> 00:34:22,200 Speaker 2: you know, like there's just no analogy to it. With you, 497 00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:24,479 Speaker 2: it just doesn't want to This is it's immediate by 498 00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:30,440 Speaker 2: the way, interesting about men in immediate gratification, dear psychiatrist's 499 00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:34,520 Speaker 2: friend of mine, and a very interesting thought about this one. 500 00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:39,799 Speaker 2: So you mentioned men in immediate gratification is a very 501 00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:42,960 Speaker 2: interesting thing, because you know, the sexual arena doesn't end 502 00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:46,719 Speaker 2: in the sexual arena. We are one human with many components, 503 00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:50,600 Speaker 2: but one human, and maybe that is part of another thing. 504 00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:55,080 Speaker 2: And I am wondering how many men here? I am curious. 505 00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:58,080 Speaker 2: This may or may not bear fruit with you, but 506 00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:03,200 Speaker 2: how many men here? When you really want something, a car, 507 00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:08,799 Speaker 2: a record, disc, a book, I don't know what, but 508 00:35:08,920 --> 00:35:12,560 Speaker 2: really want something, must feel that you must have it. 509 00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 2: Then that you have a very strong sense you must 510 00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:18,640 Speaker 2: have it. Then you don't want to wait a week 511 00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:20,560 Speaker 2: until you get it. Would you raise your hand if 512 00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:22,759 Speaker 2: you're a man and then you have that, all right? 513 00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:24,399 Speaker 2: If you're a man and you don't have that, raise 514 00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:26,040 Speaker 2: your head. I just want to see who isn't voting. 515 00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:27,640 Speaker 2: That's most of the men are not voting, all right, 516 00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:31,319 Speaker 2: So more men than not? How many women have that? 517 00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:38,200 Speaker 2: I must have it at this moment? Shoes they are shoes? 518 00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:43,839 Speaker 2: They okay? Well for you women who do have that, 519 00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:47,360 Speaker 2: at least you will understand that part of the male 520 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,200 Speaker 2: sexual age you with two shoes is him to you, 521 00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:55,000 Speaker 2: and it's a very bad, sad sort of thing, you know, 522 00:35:55,920 --> 00:36:04,200 Speaker 2: and forget it, Okay, immediate gratification, instant, the instant arousal 523 00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:10,480 Speaker 2: is almost incredible. There are times, I mean every man 524 00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:13,319 Speaker 2: has experienced this, when we are blessed with a non 525 00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:18,440 Speaker 2: sexual moment, we could actually think about something else. It's 526 00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:22,279 Speaker 2: a great it's a relief. But of course if we 527 00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:25,080 Speaker 2: realize we're not thinking about it, we're doomed, you understand, 528 00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:27,520 Speaker 2: I mean, see, we really don't have the joy even 529 00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:29,759 Speaker 2: of knowing it, because if we know it, we're dead. 530 00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:34,600 Speaker 2: So but anyway, what happens is I'll speak for myself 531 00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:38,200 Speaker 2: where I will be, and I can really intensely concentrate. 532 00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:43,440 Speaker 2: I have written books with kids screaming on airplanes. It 533 00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:45,359 Speaker 2: doesn't matter to me. A kid could be next to 534 00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:48,320 Speaker 2: me crying, and I can write an article. I really 535 00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:52,040 Speaker 2: know how to concentrate too. Now is my wife's pejorative 536 00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:54,800 Speaker 2: way of putting it, I call it concentrate. Well is 537 00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:59,759 Speaker 2: everybody has a different thing. But no matter how or 538 00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:02,320 Speaker 2: I'm thinking. Let's say I'm driving and I'm thinking about 539 00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:04,520 Speaker 2: you know, I'm reviewing did I do my show the 540 00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:07,200 Speaker 2: best I could, or our speech I gave or something 541 00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:09,600 Speaker 2: I got to do, or some great idea that hit me, 542 00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:13,280 Speaker 2: you know, in theology or something. And then two blocks 543 00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:19,680 Speaker 2: away a woman is walking walking in shorts. That's it theology, 544 00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:24,400 Speaker 2: goodbye show, goodbye life. I mean, you know, it is 545 00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:27,200 Speaker 2: another That's why true crashes have been occurred. You know 546 00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:31,160 Speaker 2: where they say she could stop traffic. That's literally true, 547 00:37:32,160 --> 00:37:34,960 Speaker 2: because men would rather watch her across the street than 548 00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:38,400 Speaker 2: do anything else in life. There is no close second. 549 00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:44,319 Speaker 2: Maybe elected president, but really that is how powerful and 550 00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:48,200 Speaker 2: immediate the stimulation is. Now by the way, it can 551 00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:50,719 Speaker 2: leave when she, you know, goes into a building, you 552 00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:53,799 Speaker 2: can go back to your theology. It's thank God for that, 553 00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:57,279 Speaker 2: or else men would be you know, incapacitated. But I 554 00:37:57,320 --> 00:38:02,080 Speaker 2: will tell you the best line on sexual thinking was 555 00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:06,760 Speaker 2: the constancy. And this is another point after the immediate arousal, 556 00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:11,960 Speaker 2: the constancy of sex in the male mind. I have 557 00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:15,600 Speaker 2: let's see, I have two examples for you. One is 558 00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:20,640 Speaker 2: from my dear friend by Joseph Tulushkin, whom I went 559 00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:24,520 Speaker 2: to high school with and we were in the junior 560 00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:27,680 Speaker 2: year or so. Yeah, I think junior year in high 561 00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:31,600 Speaker 2: school and we're talking about girls. Oddly enough, and then 562 00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:33,719 Speaker 2: he said to me, he said, Dennith, you know, I 563 00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:36,680 Speaker 2: did a survey of the guys in the class, and 564 00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:40,480 Speaker 2: I found that one out of every ten thoughts a 565 00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:45,920 Speaker 2: guy has is not on sex. And I thought that 566 00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:48,399 Speaker 2: was an excellent way of putting it. There was those 567 00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:51,319 Speaker 2: who say one in one hundred. Rabbi Taraphone says one 568 00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:55,000 Speaker 2: in a thousand. It's a Talmudic debate on It's just 569 00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:58,120 Speaker 2: a play on Talmudic debates for those who study telling them. 570 00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:01,840 Speaker 1: This episode of timeless wisdom will continue right after this. 571 00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:11,799 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom. 572 00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:16,479 Speaker 2: There's another example. This was done by university, probably under 573 00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:20,040 Speaker 2: some federal grant to prove the obvious There are many 574 00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:23,239 Speaker 2: grants to prove the obviousness beauty of being an academic. 575 00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:28,520 Speaker 2: And they had male students and female students. They didn't 576 00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:30,840 Speaker 2: tell them what the study was about. They had the 577 00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:33,720 Speaker 2: female students sit alone in a room for a while. 578 00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:38,040 Speaker 2: A series of female students and a series of male 579 00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:41,799 Speaker 2: students then ask them what did you think about? And 580 00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:46,799 Speaker 2: all the men answered the sports and sex, and all 581 00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:51,200 Speaker 2: the women answered that they had reviewed conversations, which was 582 00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:56,080 Speaker 2: totally fascinating to me as a man. Men never review conversations, 583 00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:58,760 Speaker 2: and the reason is they don't remember them. You can't 584 00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:03,120 Speaker 2: review what you don't remember. It's not like we're not interested. 585 00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:06,880 Speaker 2: We didn't have it, you know. So it's totally the 586 00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:11,000 Speaker 2: brains operate on different realms. You know. My long standing 587 00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:14,120 Speaker 2: joke on this is the famous book Men Are from Mars, 588 00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:16,960 Speaker 2: Women Are from Venus is a very good book, very 589 00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:20,680 Speaker 2: it really is. I just think he understand tremendously. He 590 00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:24,279 Speaker 2: implies we're from the same solar system. I have never 591 00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:30,200 Speaker 2: found that accurate another. So we have the immediate immediacy 592 00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:35,680 Speaker 2: of arousal, immediate gratification sought, the constancy on the mind. 593 00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:44,160 Speaker 2: Then other aspects, the anonymity of it, which is frightening 594 00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:47,320 Speaker 2: to women. Right, thank you. I have a woman who's 595 00:40:47,360 --> 00:40:49,480 Speaker 2: responding here, and I'm so happy for it. You know, 596 00:40:50,680 --> 00:41:01,120 Speaker 2: no responding in the uh. The anonymity, the anonymity is 597 00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:03,600 Speaker 2: is truly frightening. I'm not kidding. I mean this is 598 00:41:03,640 --> 00:41:05,719 Speaker 2: you know, I give you, I give it to you 599 00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:10,960 Speaker 2: with a pill of what is it just a spoonful 600 00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:13,360 Speaker 2: of sugar. I'm giving you a spoonful of sugar. The 601 00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:17,080 Speaker 2: actually a cupful of sugar to let the medicine go down. 602 00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:19,640 Speaker 2: But it's bad medicine. I mean, I acknowledge this. I 603 00:41:19,680 --> 00:41:21,920 Speaker 2: don't want you to despair because, as I said, I 604 00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:24,719 Speaker 2: think there are ways of dealing with this, but we 605 00:41:24,840 --> 00:41:27,080 Speaker 2: have to know what the but the creature is about 606 00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:32,759 Speaker 2: before we deal with it. Anonymity is perfectly fine. It's 607 00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:38,520 Speaker 2: the Bible speaks of sexual relations as and Adam knew 608 00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:43,399 Speaker 2: his wife Eve, and Abraham new Sarah and so on. 609 00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:47,480 Speaker 2: It's a very powerful term. It doesn't stay slept with 610 00:41:47,680 --> 00:41:50,359 Speaker 2: sometimes it does, but when they are intimate, it says 611 00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:54,880 Speaker 2: and new. But the knowledge that men seek in women 612 00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:59,880 Speaker 2: may very well be simply sexual. It isn't human in 613 00:41:59,920 --> 00:42:02,880 Speaker 2: many cases. And don't think it's because men are taught 614 00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:07,160 Speaker 2: this about women. Gay men have more anonymous sex than 615 00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:11,560 Speaker 2: heterosexual men, but not because they're of a lower on 616 00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:15,319 Speaker 2: a lower level. It's only because they can. Women don't 617 00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:19,160 Speaker 2: allow it to heterosexual men, but other men will will 618 00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:23,840 Speaker 2: allow it to have homosexual men. Obviously, men will meet 619 00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:26,680 Speaker 2: at a gay friend in college who tell me he 620 00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:30,640 Speaker 2: would eye contact with another gay guy on a bus, 621 00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:36,600 Speaker 2: sit by the guy, and they would mutually masturbate, not speaking, 622 00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:41,480 Speaker 2: just put a coat over their their laps and stimulate 623 00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:45,920 Speaker 2: each other to to to climax. And and gay bath 624 00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:52,120 Speaker 2: houses what tape? Gay bath houses where men will there 625 00:42:52,160 --> 00:42:55,520 Speaker 2: will be peep holes where where just men will fondle 626 00:42:55,560 --> 00:43:01,080 Speaker 2: one another or or whatever, no talk necessary. There may 627 00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:05,880 Speaker 2: be in some women's minds a fantasy that some handsome 628 00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:08,799 Speaker 2: knight in shining armor will just take her one day 629 00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:12,120 Speaker 2: and do what he will with her, and no words 630 00:43:12,239 --> 00:43:16,120 Speaker 2: will have been discussed. This is generally in the fantasy realm. 631 00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:19,799 Speaker 2: It generally leaves by about the age I don't know, 632 00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:24,640 Speaker 2: thirty twenty five, eleven, I don't know, but it is 633 00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:27,080 Speaker 2: a fantasy. And by the way, and it's not to 634 00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:29,319 Speaker 2: say that no woman has ever had it or enjoyed it, 635 00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:32,400 Speaker 2: but it is not the constancy in her life that 636 00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:34,600 Speaker 2: she could do it over and over, and if she does, 637 00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:39,719 Speaker 2: it usually betokens some emotional issues. Whereas for a man, 638 00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:45,080 Speaker 2: it's not good for him, but it's normal to seek it. 639 00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:48,280 Speaker 2: It's not good to have it. But good and normal 640 00:43:48,320 --> 00:43:52,520 Speaker 2: are not the same things. Good is a moral term 641 00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:56,759 Speaker 2: and a psychological term and normal and normal is also 642 00:43:56,760 --> 00:44:02,560 Speaker 2: a psychological term, so skip the other psychological. The anonymity 643 00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:07,479 Speaker 2: of it is scary, and women know this about men. 644 00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:11,759 Speaker 2: And a man once told me that he had made 645 00:44:11,840 --> 00:44:14,880 Speaker 2: love to a woman that he actually was beginning to 646 00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:18,239 Speaker 2: date and cared about. And after they got out of bed, 647 00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:22,759 Speaker 2: she said to him, you didn't make love to me, 648 00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:29,879 Speaker 2: You ft me, And women generally want to be made 649 00:44:29,920 --> 00:44:33,840 Speaker 2: love to and have a good sex time that you know, 650 00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:36,319 Speaker 2: women are not sexless creatures. In fact, women are not 651 00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:40,680 Speaker 2: one whit less sexual than men. This issue is not depth. 652 00:44:41,400 --> 00:44:44,440 Speaker 2: The issue is form of expression. So I want that 653 00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:46,680 Speaker 2: to be understood. I do not have a vision of women, 654 00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:50,799 Speaker 2: as you know, as sexless creatures. God knows not. I mean, 655 00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:55,160 Speaker 2: that's ridiculous. The point is it's just different, and it's 656 00:44:55,160 --> 00:44:59,880 Speaker 2: extraordinarily different, the anonymity of it for a man, And 657 00:44:59,920 --> 00:45:02,680 Speaker 2: that is why men could be turned on by just pictures. 658 00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:05,120 Speaker 2: Don't need to know about the women. I mean, you know, 659 00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:09,480 Speaker 2: Playboy has attempted to change that. Playboy did create a 660 00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:13,160 Speaker 2: revolution in pornography. It told you the name of the 661 00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:17,279 Speaker 2: woman you were fantasizing. It really never was her name. 662 00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:19,359 Speaker 2: But what the hell. At least you got you know, 663 00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:24,799 Speaker 2: it wasn't sharing, okay, uh it was you know, was 664 00:45:24,840 --> 00:45:27,319 Speaker 2: you know some you know, stripper's name whatever they'll you 665 00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:30,239 Speaker 2: know they have, uh so that you'd make up a name, 666 00:45:30,320 --> 00:45:33,799 Speaker 2: you know, Lana August, you know who's miss July, which 667 00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:36,680 Speaker 2: really is confusing, but in any event, you know, make 668 00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:40,440 Speaker 2: up something, and then of course a list her hobbies. 669 00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:42,800 Speaker 2: Oh then you really know her. And they all like 670 00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:46,359 Speaker 2: the same hobbies. They all like Italian food like this. Oh, 671 00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:50,440 Speaker 2: now I really know her. The odds are she doesn't 672 00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:52,800 Speaker 2: even write it, you know, I mean, you know who, 673 00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:56,520 Speaker 2: but what it's you know. But anyway, there was this change. 674 00:45:56,600 --> 00:46:00,480 Speaker 2: Playboy at least attempted to say these are not anonymous 675 00:46:01,040 --> 00:46:04,279 Speaker 2: uh pictures, But by and large, the vast majority of 676 00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:09,000 Speaker 2: pornography is totally anonymous, totally just another body, another another female. 677 00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:11,799 Speaker 2: They're not They're not human. I mean, I hate to 678 00:46:11,840 --> 00:46:14,160 Speaker 2: say this. This is and it's not I'm not giving 679 00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:18,640 Speaker 2: a moral uh framework here, but it is not human. 680 00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:23,440 Speaker 2: It is just biological. And this is very painful. It 681 00:46:23,480 --> 00:46:26,680 Speaker 2: is I'm not I started this with all the humor aside. 682 00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:30,160 Speaker 2: It is painful. It is painful for men to realize 683 00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:31,840 Speaker 2: about ourselves. But there's nothing we can do. That's the 684 00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:33,719 Speaker 2: way we were born. It's like complaining I only have 685 00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:37,440 Speaker 2: five fingers. That's what I am. Doesn't mean I live 686 00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:41,400 Speaker 2: that way, but that is what men are. That is 687 00:46:41,440 --> 00:46:48,200 Speaker 2: the way sex is with us, immediate arousal, anonymity, constancy 688 00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:53,239 Speaker 2: on mind. We're not done, then sexual objectification of the 689 00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:57,080 Speaker 2: of the of the object. It becomes an object. That's 690 00:46:57,080 --> 00:46:59,239 Speaker 2: why he would why would he look up a mannequin's 691 00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:04,920 Speaker 2: legs because it's it's it's it looks like a female. 692 00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:10,120 Speaker 2: That's why. That's that's all. So this notion of well, 693 00:47:10,160 --> 00:47:12,680 Speaker 2: we have to you know, this is terrible. Our society 694 00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:15,279 Speaker 2: teaches men to look at women as sex object is 695 00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:19,680 Speaker 2: Maybe it's partially true that it is reinform, but it's 696 00:47:19,760 --> 00:47:28,280 Speaker 2: not taught. It's reinforced, not taught. Hugh Hefner didn't teach 697 00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:32,440 Speaker 2: men to look at women in a certain way because 698 00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:36,400 Speaker 2: men looked at There is ancient pornography on Roman walls. 699 00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:41,640 Speaker 2: As soon as people could draw, they men drew naked women. Okay, 700 00:47:42,200 --> 00:47:45,080 Speaker 2: first animals. For some reason. I will get into bestiality 701 00:47:45,120 --> 00:47:47,520 Speaker 2: another time. I know. That's why I you know, I 702 00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:55,839 Speaker 2: was always skeptical about those French caves. But uh we 703 00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:58,680 Speaker 2: that's what men would draw. They would they would create 704 00:47:58,719 --> 00:48:02,319 Speaker 2: their own pornography to to to look at what what 705 00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:05,160 Speaker 2: is pornography? And I will have a session just on pornography, 706 00:48:05,200 --> 00:48:06,880 Speaker 2: or at least a good part of it. It is 707 00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:10,960 Speaker 2: merely male fantasies in visual form. That's what it is. 708 00:48:11,520 --> 00:48:13,839 Speaker 2: That's why it's can be scary for women to go. 709 00:48:13,960 --> 00:48:17,120 Speaker 2: And I think every woman once should go into a 710 00:48:17,160 --> 00:48:21,799 Speaker 2: porn shop just to see what it is. If there 711 00:48:21,800 --> 00:48:26,760 Speaker 2: were shops that women frequented to have the lower parts 712 00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:29,279 Speaker 2: of themselves expressed, I would run in. I would die 713 00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:32,040 Speaker 2: to know. But women are more mysterious. You can't enough 714 00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:34,800 Speaker 2: shoe stores. I don't learn anything about women as you do. 715 00:48:35,200 --> 00:48:41,440 Speaker 2: I do nothing I can do there. So sex sex object. 716 00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:44,560 Speaker 2: And by the way, again is another proof that it's 717 00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:50,560 Speaker 2: not taught. Gay men see men as sexual objects when 718 00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:56,319 Speaker 2: they're attracted to them. Gay pornography is identical to straight pornography, 719 00:48:56,320 --> 00:49:00,600 Speaker 2: except that it's men posing just as anonymous, just as objectified, 720 00:49:00,840 --> 00:49:05,840 Speaker 2: just as much parts of body, just as much non dehumanized. 721 00:49:07,040 --> 00:49:09,680 Speaker 2: In fact, I must tell you I give gay men 722 00:49:10,239 --> 00:49:14,799 Speaker 2: who stay in committed monogamous relationships more credit than I 723 00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:19,880 Speaker 2: do even straight men, because a straight man as somebody 724 00:49:19,920 --> 00:49:22,880 Speaker 2: to put the brakes on his sexuality, it's called a wife. 725 00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:27,200 Speaker 2: But the gay man has nobody to put the brakes 726 00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:32,239 Speaker 2: on that sexual expression. So it's remarkable when a gay 727 00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:37,600 Speaker 2: man does achieve such a lasting, committed relationship, given that 728 00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:41,480 Speaker 2: they both have to battle the same problem. 729 00:49:41,600 --> 00:49:45,920 Speaker 1: This has been timeless wisdom with Dennis Prager. Visit dennispragger 730 00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:49,480 Speaker 1: dot com for thousands of hours of Dennis's lectures, courses, 731 00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:54,160 Speaker 1: and classic radio programs, and to purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles.