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Speaker 2: In today's episode of Timeless Wisdom.
Speaker 3: Reading Women's Minds. The key is that generally speaking, men
Speaker 3: believe that men should be able to read their minds.
Speaker 1: Here's the question. Is that true? And women?
Speaker 3: You have to be honest on this. Would you like
Speaker 3: your man to be able to know what you want,
Speaker 3: what you're thinking, how you're feeling without you spelling it out.
Speaker 2: That's coming up on Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Welcome
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Speaker 1: I'm old fashioned.
Speaker 4: I like two sexes.
Speaker 5: I don't know, I think all of a sudden, I
Speaker 5: don't like being married to what is known is a
Speaker 5: new woman.
Speaker 1: I want a wife, not a competitor.
Speaker 3: Competitor, competitor.
Speaker 2: Talk about a bit, this crying in the morning thing.
Speaker 2: It's depression, you know, let's get that fixed. That's what
Speaker 2: men think, isn't it.
Speaker 5: What Unless you've got the answer, unless you can say, oh,
Speaker 5: I know this bloke in the essex radical fix.
Speaker 3: That, and there's no point bothering, How do you write
Speaker 3: women so well?
Speaker 6: I think of a man and I take away reason
Speaker 6: and accountability.
Speaker 4: I love him, I love him and I don't care
Speaker 4: what you think.
Speaker 7: I love him for the for the man he wants
Speaker 7: to be, and I love him for the man that
Speaker 7: he almost is. What do people have rowse about him?
Speaker 3: Money?
Speaker 5: It's sex sex, money he wants, she doesn't.
Speaker 3: Want, she wants, he.
Speaker 1: Doesn't want women.
Speaker 4: I've always been a big problem to me, doctor Fusspender.
Speaker 3: Are you listening, doctor, yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 8: Go on, but.
Speaker 1: It doesn't male to crack me up.
Speaker 3: Hi, everybody, this is the Male Female Hour on the
Speaker 3: Dennis Praguer Show. Every week at this exact same time,
Speaker 3: I have an hour on men and women. It's titled
Speaker 3: the Male Female Hour. I will periodically share with you
Speaker 3: the many, many many emils that I get telling me
Speaker 3: that this has turned their marriage around, and it is
Speaker 3: so exciting to me. I'm so happy about that. And
Speaker 3: we cover very sensitive issues, very sensitive difficult issues like
Speaker 3: you know, if you're not in the mood, what do
Speaker 3: you do well? The answer is, don't depend on moods.
Speaker 3: In fact, I'm going to do allan a happiness Hour
Speaker 3: on do nothing based on mood. Moods are a dead
Speaker 3: end in life acting on moods. Anyway, everybody welcome. I'm
Speaker 3: Dennis Prague in the Male Female Hour. The subject today
Speaker 3: is reading women's minds there and they're the key. The
Speaker 3: key is that, generally speaking, men believe that men should
Speaker 3: be able to read their minds. Here's the question, is
Speaker 3: that true? And women, you have to be honest on this.
Speaker 3: Would you like your man to be able to know
Speaker 3: what you want, what you're thinking, how you're feeling without
Speaker 3: you spelling it out? And do you feel that if
Speaker 3: you have to spell it out, well, there's something a
Speaker 3: little wrong in his understanding of me. If he really
Speaker 3: really knew me and really really loved me, he would
Speaker 3: know without my saying one. A. Praeger seven seven six,
Speaker 3: one eight p R. A. G. E Are seven seven six.
Speaker 3: The experience of nearly all men that I have spoken
Speaker 3: to on this matter is that their wives or girlfriends
Speaker 3: expect them to know what they want without their saying so.
Speaker 3: And here's the clincher. I don't know if it's the clincher.
Speaker 3: Here's the punchline. They feel that there is something said
Speaker 3: unfortunate if he can't that the notion that she should
Speaker 3: have to tell him means that there's a failure in
Speaker 3: their communication. Men, has this been your experience? See I
Speaker 3: happen to have male that I am a solution to
Speaker 3: this problem. It will be highly complex. It will take
Speaker 3: approximately one sentence to give you the solution.
Speaker 1: But I won't.
Speaker 3: I won't for before I give you the solution. However,
Speaker 3: I want to establish that this really is an issue.
Speaker 3: If it's not an issue, then we'll move on and
Speaker 3: discuss thirteenth century Celtic philosophy. But if it is an issue,
Speaker 3: it is definitely worth engaging in one eight Prager seven
Speaker 3: seven six eight seven seven two four three triple seven six. Gentlemen,
Speaker 3: do you generally believe that your wife would like you
Speaker 3: to be able to know what she wants without her
Speaker 3: telling you? And ladies women w O e n or
Speaker 3: w O M y n if you prefer that spelling,
Speaker 3: is that what you would like from a guy? From
Speaker 3: your guy, I shouldn't have to tell him.
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have to I'll read to you.
Speaker 3: For example, I went on a search engine in on
Speaker 3: the internet, and I searched read a woman's mind, So
Speaker 3: I came up with this from a woman who writes
Speaker 3: about about women, and this is how to read a
Speaker 3: woman's mind.
Speaker 1: There's not a joke. This is that serious. This is
Speaker 1: not a joke.
Speaker 3: How often have you felt you don't understand women? Well,
Speaker 3: I know a lot of men who are sailing in
Speaker 3: the same boat as you are. Women, they tell me,
Speaker 3: are a complicated breed. It is tough to know what's
Speaker 3: going on inside her head. Although I can't claim to
Speaker 3: be an expert on the subject, being a woman myself,
Speaker 3: I quite understand the mechanics of a woman's mind. To
Speaker 3: know your woman better, you need to be really able
Speaker 3: to listen quote unquote to her. And when I say listen,
Speaker 3: I mean using not just your auditory senses, but using
Speaker 3: your other senses as well. This is when men begin
Speaker 3: to slash their wrists. A woman communicates by using more
Speaker 3: than mere words. Usually she speaks with body language, eyes,
Speaker 3: and sometimes even through touch. If you were really cued
Speaker 3: into your woman, you would be able to read her
Speaker 3: mind quite easily for beginners. And then she has some
Speaker 3: websites which don't really help. But this is perfect. See, gentlemen,
Speaker 3: it's not hard. All you have to do is read
Speaker 3: our body language, our eyes, and our touch, and if
Speaker 3: you're really cute into your woman, you'd be able to
Speaker 3: read her mind quite easily, to which the guy is
Speaker 3: now saying, Oh my god, no, I can't believe this.
Speaker 1: Why don't you drum roll? Please?
Speaker 3: Drum roll please? This is what men are really thinking
Speaker 3: when they hear this litany of things that they should
Speaker 3: be doing in order to understand what it is that
Speaker 3: their wife wants. The man is wants to say, the
Speaker 3: drummer has been shot. We have a resident drummer, however,
Speaker 3: he was hijacked by terrorists on his way to the
Speaker 3: studio today. So I will supply my own drum roll
Speaker 3: what it is? Right? All right? That's it. I waste
Speaker 3: it all that time for that nothing, mediocre, pathetic drum roll.
Speaker 1: Huh.
Speaker 3: I think sometimes you have to insult the musician to
Speaker 3: get the best out of them. Tuscany, he needs to
Speaker 3: do that, all right? Here is it? A guy says,
Speaker 3: my darling, why don't you just tell me? But you
Speaker 3: understand a guy who says that for many women is
Speaker 3: an utter and abject failure that he could not read
Speaker 3: it on his own. All right, let's go to your
Speaker 3: calls here and let's go to uh let's go to Plano,
Speaker 3: Texas and Mara. Hello, Mara, Dennis Prager, Hi, how are you?
Speaker 3: I am well, thank you good, thanks.
Speaker 8: For taking my call. I just I want for someone
Speaker 8: saying I don't remember who it was. But no one
Speaker 8: should have expect to have their mind be read after
Speaker 8: the age of eighteen months.
Speaker 1: I love it. Are you married?
Speaker 8: Yes, I'm married.
Speaker 1: And you don't. And you have applied that rule to
Speaker 1: your marriage.
Speaker 7: I do.
Speaker 8: I try as much as I can.
Speaker 3: If you would like me, I will personally send an
Speaker 3: email to your husband telling him how lucky he is.
Speaker 8: Thank you, I appreciate that makes sense.
Speaker 1: That is a great lie. Leave keep that out.
Speaker 3: No one should expect to have their mind read after
Speaker 3: the age of eighteen buds, that's great.
Speaker 1: Who told you that?
Speaker 8: I don't remember? I wish I did that. It was
Speaker 8: a few years ago and I just don't remember.
Speaker 3: All right, But is there a part of you that
Speaker 3: would like your husband to be able to or you
Speaker 3: truly have relinquished that well, I mean I.
Speaker 8: Think at times where when I'm frustrated that we're not
Speaker 8: communicating properly, then definitely there's that part of me that
Speaker 8: would just wish he got it in a sense.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you.
Speaker 8: Have to really, you know, give our spouse as a
Speaker 8: benefit of the doubt that they you know.
Speaker 3: All right, so you acknowledge that this is a part
Speaker 3: of female nature that you simply had to fight. I think,
Speaker 3: So okay, all right.
Speaker 1: Let me leave it at that. Mara, bless you, thank you.
Speaker 3: This is a big deal because it's a real source
Speaker 3: of some marital tension where the guy is deemed somewhat
Speaker 3: of a failure and maybe he isn't back in a moment.
Speaker 2: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this.
Speaker 2: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom.
Speaker 3: Dennis Prager here on the Male Female Hour every week
Speaker 3: at exactly this time, we talk about men and women.
Speaker 1: Today.
Speaker 3: It's about the desire that many many women have that
Speaker 3: their man, their husband, their future husband, their hopefully future husband,
Speaker 3: can read their mind.
Speaker 1: Now you know my view.
Speaker 3: We are allowed to have an infinite number of wishes,
Speaker 3: that's the way it is. And men are allowed to
Speaker 3: have their fantasy wishes. The question is whether we apply
Speaker 3: them to reality and let them disturb us when they're
Speaker 3: not fulfilled. So you are allowed to want this, you're
Speaker 3: but it's a not a good idea to expect it.
Speaker 3: There's no reason on earth why a man who loves
Speaker 3: and adores you should read your mind.
Speaker 1: There just isn't.
Speaker 3: And well, here is a call that may make may
Speaker 3: I can't predict, but I think may give an idea
Speaker 3: of how serious an issue this can be. Bruce in
Speaker 3: Fort Worth, Texas, Dennis Prager.
Speaker 5: High, Hi, not a better program on the radio.
Speaker 3: Mister Prale, thank you very much.
Speaker 5: See this was an instrumental this subject in my divorce.
Speaker 5: And uh, you know, I could not read my wife's mind,
Speaker 5: so I started to attempt to try, and when I
Speaker 5: get it wrong, it made the matters even worse.
Speaker 1: And and and she felt as a result.
Speaker 5: What she felt as a result that I could not
Speaker 5: read her mind, that that I wasn't intuitive or didn't
Speaker 5: care for her, I wasn't paying enough attention, et cetera,
Speaker 5: et cetera, That.
Speaker 3: If you really loved her, you would know her, and
Speaker 3: you would know her that would be demonstrated by you
Speaker 3: or knowing what she's feeling exactly.
Speaker 5: And what a what a waste of a relationship.
Speaker 3: Well, Bruce, it breaks my heart but I want you
Speaker 3: to know you've helped a lot of people.
Speaker 1: I thank you. That's that's.
Speaker 3: The subject lends itself to a lot of levity, and
Speaker 3: I've engaged in my own heath, but I didn't.
Speaker 1: Raise it because it's light.
Speaker 3: It's not light. It's destructive. And there is a man
Speaker 3: who claims now, I'm sure his wife would offer other thoughts,
Speaker 3: and I have no doubt. That's not my point. My
Speaker 3: point is it was bad enough for someone to say
Speaker 3: that was a root cause of his divorce. Well, if
Speaker 3: it's a root cause of a divorce, it's certainly going
Speaker 3: to be a root cause of tension in those who
Speaker 3: don't divorce. And that is a fact. I said i'd
Speaker 3: give you the solution later, I'll give you the solution now,
Speaker 3: because because there's no reason to delay. The answer is
Speaker 3: you tell him what you feel. That's the answer. It's
Speaker 3: so simple that it's almost painful that it needs to
Speaker 3: be said, But it does need to be said. People
Speaker 3: don't think. If you want him to know what you're feeling,
Speaker 3: tell him. And the vast majority of men are decent
Speaker 3: guys who will respond.
Speaker 1: And that's it. It is so simple.
Speaker 3: It doesn't mean he loves you less, understands you less,
Speaker 3: and I love I even remember the caller's name, Maara,
Speaker 3: also in Texas that after the age of eighteen months,
Speaker 3: you should not expect your mind to be read. That's
Speaker 3: why God gave us the ability to talk. By the way,
Speaker 3: sometimes this is a different subject, and it has not
Speaker 3: just for men and women or husbands and wives. Is
Speaker 3: you might want to write it. I believe that there
Speaker 3: were times when writing is more effective than speaking. It
Speaker 3: gives you a chance to really know what you're saying,
Speaker 3: gives you a time to think it over, gives the
Speaker 3: person who is receiving the words a chance to react
Speaker 3: non defensively. You might want to do it in an
Speaker 3: instant messaging session. You might want to do it in
Speaker 3: a letter, in an email. I mean it to someone
Speaker 3: you live with. Well, I don't know why writing is
Speaker 3: always considered inferior to saying. It's not at all. Sometimes
Speaker 3: one is better sometimes the other, But that's another subject.
Speaker 1: The point is, tell.
Speaker 3: Him in Brynmore, Pennsylvania, it's Francine. Hello, Francine, Dennis Praeger,
Speaker 3: thanks for calling.
Speaker 9: You're very welcome. So my point is, and I learned
Speaker 9: this from a male therapist's mine wall.
Speaker 1: You learned it from a whom from a male therapist.
Speaker 3: Male therapist. Okay.
Speaker 9: And so he asked me a question about my husband,
Speaker 9: and I was describing him and he said, oh, so.
Speaker 1: He has man disease, male disease?
Speaker 3: And what is that? Man or man disease? It's a
Speaker 3: bad connection.
Speaker 9: Go on, okay, Well I can make it better.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, what were you doing originally? Were you talking
Speaker 3: through a megaphone?
Speaker 9: I was talking through my glue tooth.
Speaker 3: Oh don't do that, folks, please, it's a national radio show.
Speaker 1: Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 9: So he called it man disease. And I think that
Speaker 9: the reason that women would like men to be more
Speaker 9: intuitive is because they are more intuitive generally than the
Speaker 9: male species.
Speaker 3: Accept my dear, except this is key. Not with men,
Speaker 3: they're more intuitive with other women. You don't read our
Speaker 3: minds any better than we read yours. Silence is agreement,
Speaker 3: said the tellm of two thousand years ago? Is there?
Speaker 3: She gone, that's funny. Uh, call me back if you can,
Speaker 3: because I'd love to get your reaction. But that's key.
Speaker 3: I told you this is a very serious subject. It's
Speaker 3: very important women's intuition forgetting women's intuition about all sorts
Speaker 3: of things. Or they may read their child, they may
Speaker 3: read their children better in certain ways and certain ways.
Speaker 3: Not that that's a separate istion you. But I don't
Speaker 3: believe that women read men's minds one whit better than I.
Speaker 3: There's no doubt in my mind that they don't. Because
Speaker 3: the human being is not capable of reading others' minds.
Speaker 3: That's not that's not a gift that that we're given.
Speaker 3: And so there's it's not a flaw. It's not a
Speaker 3: it's not a flaw. And man, it's not a flaw
Speaker 3: on women. But when women say, well we read others,
Speaker 3: they mean other women. Yes, they do pick up on
Speaker 3: cues from other women, no doubt, but we're not women.
Speaker 1: Anyway.
Speaker 3: Thank God, you don't know what your man is thinking
Speaker 3: all the time. It's one of the great reliefs, reliefs
Speaker 3: that men have knowing knowing that there are three men
Speaker 3: in the studio right now, allotted two winterds. The they're
Speaker 3: all this is the smile of recognition. Let's go to
Speaker 3: Debbie in Van Nights, California. Hi, Debbie, Dennis.
Speaker 7: Prager, Hi, Hi, I think it would be actually now
Speaker 7: that you just brought up. It would be a good
Speaker 7: topic to ask, man, do women read your mind any
Speaker 7: better than you read?
Speaker 8: It?
Speaker 7: Is because I think I don't agree with you. I
Speaker 7: think that we do tend to.
Speaker 1: Try harder to you may try harder.
Speaker 7: I mean, I think, and I can only speak it
Speaker 7: from my marriage. I know that I succeed much better
Speaker 7: in reading my husband's mind, but I don't expect him
Speaker 7: to read mine anymore. It was very devastating for the
Speaker 7: first few years, uh huh that I was married.
Speaker 3: And I thank you for your honesty.
Speaker 7: Yeah about its feeling like, oh, he doesn't love me
Speaker 7: enough if only did.
Speaker 3: That's right, This is I tell me. I'm going to
Speaker 3: keep you on. I want to know what you're reading
Speaker 3: your husband's mind back in a moment.
Speaker 2: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this.
Speaker 2: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless Wisdom.
Speaker 4: It's just a shame that's relevant.
Speaker 3: You're listening to the male female hour on the Dennis
Speaker 3: Prager Show. Another hopefully deeply relationship improving hour here.
Speaker 1: On the real, real, real issue.
Speaker 3: Indeed, as one man called in, it was the primary
Speaker 3: cause of his divorce. Tragically, his wife feeling that he
Speaker 3: was inept on loving and caring because he couldn't read
Speaker 3: her mind. And I think that is a natural proclivity
Speaker 3: of women to want their minds read. It is a
Speaker 3: way of their feeling that they are truly understood and loved.
Speaker 3: But it is not available to others. Women pick up
Speaker 3: on cues in other women that I will acknowledge. And
Speaker 3: therefore they apply that to men picking up cues and women.
Speaker 3: But men pick up cues and men as it were,
Speaker 3: that women don't pick up on. We know what other
Speaker 3: guys are thinking a lot of the time. Not that
Speaker 3: that's very complex, It's pretty much one or two subjects.
Speaker 3: But let's go back to a Debbie here, and Debbie,
Speaker 3: now you say that you do on occasion or often
Speaker 3: read your husband's mind.
Speaker 7: Well, women have the advantage because I think men and
Speaker 7: men are not as complicated as women are.
Speaker 1: Oh you could drop.
Speaker 3: I think just state categorically, we are not as complicated
Speaker 3: as you.
Speaker 7: They're just not as complicated as we are. I mean,
Speaker 7: you know, for women to pack on an overnight thing,
Speaker 7: you need a suitcase because I don't know what I
Speaker 7: feel like we'reing tomorrow. I mean, that's right, well, those
Speaker 7: women are so emotionally driven that what we want there
Speaker 7: is no consistent basis.
Speaker 1: That's right.
Speaker 3: I wanted on Monday, could well, which makes it so
Speaker 3: you would admit, Debbie, it makes it even harder to
Speaker 3: read your mind.
Speaker 7: I advise women all the time. This is my number
Speaker 7: one tip to bribes. Don't expect him to read the mind.
Speaker 7: He's not your mother.
Speaker 3: That's great. You women are coming up with great lines.
Speaker 3: That Mara's great line after eighteen months. We should not
Speaker 3: expect people to.
Speaker 7: Read our lines because save the heartache.
Speaker 3: Because that's right.
Speaker 1: But you acknowledged earlier.
Speaker 3: You did acknowledge that it was a source of heartache
Speaker 3: for you in the beginning of your marriage.
Speaker 7: And I thought about it, and I realized the reason
Speaker 7: is because I had, you know, it was at a
Speaker 7: time that I was having, you know, my oldest children.
Speaker 7: I realized, you know what, I'm expecting him to be
Speaker 7: like me. I am constantly figuring out what does this
Speaker 7: crime mean? What is this crime mean? What does this
Speaker 7: child mean? These nonverbal cues from kids and I, you know,
Speaker 7: women will tell you they know what we do.
Speaker 3: That's right.
Speaker 7: I'm tired, that's right. So if we can do it,
Speaker 7: of course, man, we love this child. You could do
Speaker 7: it if you love me.
Speaker 1: You're how good? How's your marriage today?
Speaker 7: Wonderful?
Speaker 3: Okay, that's it. That's it. Bless you. That was so important.
Speaker 3: Thank you, Donna Phoenix, Arizona. Dennis Prager, Hei, Hi, good morning.
Speaker 10: My husband reads and reads my mind and knows me
Speaker 10: really well, which I have to say is sometimes pretty
Speaker 10: scary for me. The converse, though, is that he expects
Speaker 10: me to know him just as well, for example, not
Speaker 10: to ask questions, just to know what he likes. Who's
Speaker 10: been married a long time just now, don't ask me
Speaker 10: to like know what.
Speaker 1: For example, what he wants for dinner? I mean, you
Speaker 1: know what happened at work?
Speaker 10: Do you what would he like to have for dinner?
Speaker 10: Do you want to do this activity or that one?
Speaker 10: And it sometimes, I have to say, quite.
Speaker 1: Frustrating, frustrating.
Speaker 3: I would have jumped off a nearby bridge.
Speaker 1: I'll bet you did.
Speaker 3: But there are Bettian Phoenix, You're very lucky. That is
Speaker 3: so interesting to me as a man. I do acknowledge,
Speaker 3: and it's not a judgment at all on your husband,
Speaker 3: but I don't relate to that. I have no ache
Speaker 3: to have my mind read you know. In fact, I
Speaker 3: don't almost feel funny because it's like, isn't it a
Speaker 3: privacy zone?
Speaker 10: Yeah, it's frustrating. I mean I ask because I want
Speaker 10: to know something could have changed from last week or left.
Speaker 3: So you have a switcher ruin your marriage. He reads
Speaker 3: you and which most men don't do two women, but
Speaker 3: he wants his red in return.
Speaker 1: Yes, very interesting.
Speaker 3: Look, that's why I please understand, folks, And you know
Speaker 3: I know this. I am a big fan of generalizations.
Speaker 3: As I always say, generalizations are the mother of wisdom.
Speaker 3: No generalization no wisdom. On the other hand, almost no
Speaker 3: generalization applies to everybody.
Speaker 1: So but you see, it causes a problem in her marriage.
Speaker 1: It's just that the roles are reversed, the sexes are reversed.
Speaker 3: Back in a moment.
Speaker 6: Good morning, I'm actually calling if you could get this
Speaker 6: message through to never. I listened to the Dennis Crazier
Speaker 6: Show last night. It was wonderful, absolutely excellent, and I
Speaker 6: just wanted to pass that word along so valuable. Anyway,
Speaker 6: Thank you, bye bye.
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Speaker 3: Hi, everybody, Dennis Prager here the Male Female hour on
Speaker 3: The Dennis Prager Show. Every week at this time. Tell
Speaker 3: folks about this hour, of course, tell them about the
Speaker 3: show generally if you would, but certainly about this hour,
Speaker 3: because if I could share with you every email on
Speaker 3: how this has turned marriages around, you would realize the
Speaker 3: potential for good that communications have today is one of
Speaker 3: those examples. I'm even getting text messages from people I
Speaker 3: know saying that they wish their spouse would hear this,
Speaker 3: or their spouse is and they hope it gets through.
Speaker 3: That's how important this is, and it you know, it's
Speaker 3: a topic that lends itself to fun, but beneath the
Speaker 3: fun is dynamite seriousness because it can blow up a marriage.
Speaker 1: The expectation that.
Speaker 3: Many women have that they're the man who loves them
Speaker 3: will read their mind and it's an unfair expectation. It's
Speaker 3: just unfair because it can't be done, and nor is
Speaker 3: it necessary to be done? And why it has nothing
Speaker 3: to do please women, hear me out. It has nothing
Speaker 3: whatsoever to do with A how much he loves you,
Speaker 3: b how much he understands you, he can be, he
Speaker 3: can love you with the deepest of loves, He can
Speaker 3: understand you as best a human can understand another human,
Speaker 3: and still not read your mind. There is nothing wrong
Speaker 3: and only good in telling him what you're thinking, what
Speaker 3: you feel. Tell him? Why is that not romantic? What
Speaker 3: stops that's? Worthy perhaps of another of a part two?
Speaker 3: Alan on this? What's stops you the woman from telling him?
Speaker 3: Do you feel it's unromantic? Do you feel that it's
Speaker 3: it announces a failing in your communications between the two
Speaker 3: of you.
Speaker 1: What's wrong with just doing that?
Speaker 7: Oh?
Speaker 3: Okay, let's see here and let's go back. I'm happy
Speaker 3: it was we got back to Francine. Francine, did you
Speaker 3: hear me earlier when I was saying that when you
Speaker 3: and I were talking, and for some reason, you know,
Speaker 3: the line just disconnected. But when I was saying, okay,
Speaker 3: I was saying that I think you were mentioning about
Speaker 3: cues that women feel that they have, and I was saying,
Speaker 3: they get these cues, these non verbalized cues from other women,
Speaker 3: not from men. In other words, women may read women
Speaker 3: better they not. May they read other women better than
Speaker 3: men read read women, but they don't read men better
Speaker 3: than men read men.
Speaker 9: Okay, but as you said later, then, but men are much.
Speaker 3: Simpler than that's right.
Speaker 1: Yes, you're right.
Speaker 3: But even having said that, though, I just wanted to
Speaker 3: make sure you heard that. Thanks Francine, Thank you very
Speaker 3: much for calling. It was important to me that she
Speaker 3: heard that.
Speaker 1: Women.
Speaker 3: Please know something. We read men better than you read men.
Speaker 3: We guys know what other guys are thinking much of
Speaker 3: the time, whether we're simpler or not. And we are,
Speaker 3: but that's beside the point we read each other about.
Speaker 3: I'll give you an example of where, for example, a
Speaker 3: woman will often say to a guy, didn't you notice
Speaker 3: that that woman was coming on to you? And the
Speaker 3: guy will say, honey, you gotta be kidding. We think
Speaker 3: that it may almost be a natural form of jealousy,
Speaker 3: which is fine, by the way, that there should be
Speaker 3: a tiny bit of jealousy. It's a good it's bad
Speaker 3: when it's corrosive, destructive, paranoid and so on. But that's okay,
Speaker 3: that's that's not an issue, which is another good subject.
Speaker 3: By the way, jealousy. Let's let's let's put that down.
Speaker 3: But notice, folks, I said let's put that down, not
Speaker 3: alan write that down.
Speaker 2: You.
Speaker 3: I become paranoid on this since the roast. No no, no, no,
Speaker 3: no no, I want to develop this theme prager's paranoia.
Speaker 3: And he's signaling, go on, go back to the subject,
Speaker 3: and I want to talk about my paranoia. This uh,
Speaker 3: this is a perfect example. A guy. A guy is
Speaker 3: told by by his girlfriend or his wife, did did
Speaker 3: you see the way that that woman was coming on
Speaker 3: to you? And the guy is thinking, oh, you you
Speaker 3: have to be kidding. She asked me what time it was.
Speaker 3: She didn't have a watch on. I had that recently
Speaker 3: where somebody said, did you see the way that woman
Speaker 3: came on to you? I said, hey, you've got to
Speaker 3: be kidding, You've got to be kidding, And she said no,
Speaker 3: the way she swung her head, I give you my
Speaker 3: I could not make this up, right, I could not
Speaker 3: make this up the way she swung her head. If
Speaker 3: I lived six thousand years, I would not notice the
Speaker 3: way a woman swings her head as denoting something about
Speaker 3: her reaction to me. By most guys, by the way,
Speaker 3: will know if a woman is coming onto him if
Speaker 3: she gives him a note that was notarized by a
Speaker 3: notary public. I hereby announce I am coming on to you,
Speaker 3: wish to have you, ache for you, and want you,
Speaker 3: and then he'll think it's a joke. So even then
Speaker 3: it doesn't work. Well, that's why I've always said to you, folks,
Speaker 3: I know guys. Most guys know guys, by the way,
Speaker 3: this is no great unique ability that I have.
Speaker 1: Guys know guys, and that is not.
Speaker 3: So, it is not unique women. Well, we read women
Speaker 3: and you read babies. That's true. You pick up signs
Speaker 3: from little little kids that we guys miss. You may
Speaker 3: know the kid is crying because of X, and the
Speaker 3: guy is thinking, how the hell did you know that?
Speaker 1: Right? That's true.
Speaker 3: Then that's a God given gift, in my opinion, to women.
Speaker 3: Otherwise many children would die because the guy would First
Speaker 3: of all, we would continue to sleep. To begin with,
Speaker 3: we're not even awakened by such things, all right, we continue.
Speaker 3: This is really really important babies don't snore quite like that. Oh, yeah,
Speaker 3: that's right, that's the guy. You're right, that was good,
Speaker 3: that was fair. We continue. I pray and I really
Speaker 3: do that this is helping a lot of people listening.
Speaker 3: You're listening to the Dennis Prager Show, The Male Female Hour.
Speaker 2: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this.
Speaker 2: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless Wisdom.
Speaker 3: Yes, indeed, the Male Female Hour on the Dennis Prager
Speaker 3: on the Dead Slow though. That was impressive on the
Speaker 3: Dennis Prager Show. Been talking to you today about such
Speaker 3: an important subject, the expectation that many women have, and
Speaker 3: it has very unfortunate repercussions in the marriage, that their
Speaker 3: mind be read by their husband. Women can read women,
Speaker 3: men can read men. Women can read children or little
Speaker 3: children certainly, and babies in particular, which is a gift
Speaker 3: and wonderful. But beyond that, the answer to this problem
Speaker 3: is staggeringly simple. You you tell your partner what's on
Speaker 3: your mind, what you would like, how you're feeling, et cetera.
Speaker 3: You tell it. It's so interesting because women often complain,
Speaker 3: and not without some validity, that there's not enough communication
Speaker 3: in their marriage and then they don't communicate because they
Speaker 3: want to be read. Well, which is it, Do you
Speaker 3: want to communicate or do you want to be read?
Speaker 3: That's not the same thing. All right, let me just
Speaker 3: summarize the calls here. It's always, uh, always a problem
Speaker 3: when there are so many good ones. Let's see Ken
Speaker 3: and Mission Viejo, California. Women often think they have intuition
Speaker 3: and jump to the wrong conclusion, which can be very damaging.
Speaker 3: That's an interesting question as that a you, guys, resonate
Speaker 3: I have four men surrounding me here. Does that resonate
Speaker 3: with you? Larry, last caller's husband expects her to read
Speaker 3: his mind because men are so predictable. Well, that that
Speaker 3: was that relatively rare instance where it was the opposite.
Speaker 3: He wants to be read and reads her mind. So
Speaker 3: I'm not sure we can learn much from that. Don't
Speaker 3: hang up, folks, I'm trying to summarize your calls, Linelle
Speaker 3: and Bremerton Washington. Telling my husband what I want need
Speaker 3: doesn't work with my husband because he always tries to
Speaker 3: read into what I say. Well, that's a separate issue entirely,
Speaker 3: and that that might be a good example of where
Speaker 3: marital therapy might help you have a very specific issue,
Speaker 3: and it might help him there, Larry and Phoenix, ironic.
Speaker 3: First thing women want from men is good communication. But
Speaker 3: then women expect men to read their minds exactly what
Speaker 3: we were saying here. That's so funny. I hadn't even
Speaker 3: seen that one. You're right, Larry and Patrick and Dallas.
Speaker 3: If women are so intuitive and know what we want,
Speaker 3: why aren't we having more sex. Finally, some guy called
Speaker 3: in with the question that is on every single guy's
Speaker 3: mind listening to this hour, folks, this has been the
Speaker 3: male female Hour. I hope it's helped. This is Dennis Prager, to.
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Speaker 11: Russia and Europe where I come from, manifesting not being united,
Speaker 11: and yet this country, such a polyglot, amalgam of mongrel peoples,
Speaker 11: is united. And how has this happened? And so I
Speaker 11: started drawing up a list of the people that, one
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Speaker 11: is Japanese and comes from a country where with everyone
Speaker 11: being Japanese, unity is something easy to achieve. She said,
Speaker 11: what you're doing And I said, I'm making this list.
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Speaker 3: Oh that's terrific.
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