1 00:00:21,500 --> 00:00:25,820 Speaker 1: Welcome to Timeless Wisdom with Dennis Prager. Here thousands of 2 00:00:25,860 --> 00:00:29,500 Speaker 1: hours of Dennis's lectures, courses in classic radio programs. Had 3 00:00:29,500 --> 00:00:46,660 Speaker 1: to purchase Dennis Prager's Rational Bibles. Go to Dennisprager dot com. 4 00:00:40,340 --> 00:00:44,500 Speaker 2: And welcome to the debut of the Male Female Hour. 5 00:00:46,540 --> 00:00:50,860 Speaker 2: Months in the in the planning, I welcome you. This 6 00:00:50,980 --> 00:00:55,420 Speaker 2: is Dennis Prager for the newest of my dedicated hours 7 00:00:55,460 --> 00:00:59,540 Speaker 2: of my show. Began with Fridays, and the Happiness Hour 8 00:01:00,940 --> 00:01:04,459 Speaker 2: went to Tuesdays, and the Ultimate Issues Hour, and now 9 00:01:04,660 --> 00:01:08,460 Speaker 2: an hour on Wednesday on men and women. I call 10 00:01:08,500 --> 00:01:12,140 Speaker 2: it the Male Female Hour rather than the Man Woman Hour, 11 00:01:12,260 --> 00:01:15,740 Speaker 2: because many of you suggested it be man women because 12 00:01:15,780 --> 00:01:19,340 Speaker 2: that's more more human. But the thing is, we are 13 00:01:19,380 --> 00:01:23,420 Speaker 2: not just human. We are human, of course, but we 14 00:01:23,580 --> 00:01:26,860 Speaker 2: have a male brain and a female brain that is 15 00:01:27,500 --> 00:01:31,900 Speaker 2: almost primitive. That is primitive, and that is also part 16 00:01:31,940 --> 00:01:34,740 Speaker 2: of what makes us. The battle between a man and 17 00:01:34,780 --> 00:01:36,860 Speaker 2: a male is a big battle that a man has, 18 00:01:37,500 --> 00:01:39,860 Speaker 2: and the battle between being a woman and a female 19 00:01:39,940 --> 00:01:42,020 Speaker 2: is a big battle that women have. So that's why 20 00:01:42,060 --> 00:01:46,020 Speaker 2: I'm calling it the Male Female Hour, because it's even 21 00:01:45,660 --> 00:01:51,940 Speaker 2: on a more basic level than man woman. Why have 22 00:01:52,060 --> 00:01:54,340 Speaker 2: I decided to do this because this is not an 23 00:01:54,380 --> 00:01:57,980 Speaker 2: easy decision to give up, as it were an hour 24 00:01:58,140 --> 00:02:02,060 Speaker 2: from news and from ohe so many of the issues 25 00:02:02,100 --> 00:02:05,020 Speaker 2: of the day that I love to talk about and 26 00:02:05,140 --> 00:02:10,180 Speaker 2: feel I have to talk about why this hour. Well, 27 00:02:10,260 --> 00:02:13,260 Speaker 2: I have found, over the course of many years of 28 00:02:13,300 --> 00:02:18,339 Speaker 2: broadcasting and lecturing and writing for that matter, that when 29 00:02:18,380 --> 00:02:21,900 Speaker 2: I have ventured into the realm of talking about male 30 00:02:21,980 --> 00:02:25,060 Speaker 2: female differences and how men and women can better understand 31 00:02:25,139 --> 00:02:29,940 Speaker 2: each other and all of the related matters, including my 32 00:02:31,260 --> 00:02:37,380 Speaker 2: by now fairly well known four lectures on male sexuality, 33 00:02:37,900 --> 00:02:42,980 Speaker 2: I have been told so often by couples, especially by women, 34 00:02:44,100 --> 00:02:49,139 Speaker 2: you saved my marriage, You saved our marriage. And I thought, 35 00:02:49,980 --> 00:02:55,100 Speaker 2: first of all, I was so thrilled, and I thought, well, 36 00:02:55,820 --> 00:02:59,460 Speaker 2: if I can do that with four lectures, imagine what 37 00:02:59,540 --> 00:03:04,860 Speaker 2: I could do with a weekly hour. And so that 38 00:03:05,140 --> 00:03:11,380 Speaker 2: too has gone into the consideration here. I believe deeply 39 00:03:11,500 --> 00:03:16,900 Speaker 2: if you understand your husband better, you understand your wife better, 40 00:03:18,100 --> 00:03:22,820 Speaker 2: you have a chance at a good marriage. See. Saving 41 00:03:22,860 --> 00:03:26,980 Speaker 2: a marriage alone isn't isn't only what I would like 42 00:03:27,060 --> 00:03:29,260 Speaker 2: to do, and it's not the only thing, in any event, 43 00:03:29,300 --> 00:03:34,180 Speaker 2: that I'm doing the show for. But it's it's it's 44 00:03:34,260 --> 00:03:38,060 Speaker 2: easier to save a marriage than to have a good marriage. 45 00:03:38,140 --> 00:03:39,780 Speaker 2: And I want you to have a good marriage. I 46 00:03:39,780 --> 00:03:43,660 Speaker 2: don't I don't merely want you to cohabit and avoid divorce. 47 00:03:45,580 --> 00:03:49,220 Speaker 2: I've known people who did cohabit and avoided divorce, and 48 00:03:49,300 --> 00:03:52,340 Speaker 2: their children paid a terrible price for a mother and 49 00:03:52,460 --> 00:03:55,900 Speaker 2: father who essentially loathed each other, but who wouldn't divorce. 50 00:03:57,780 --> 00:04:00,420 Speaker 2: So there are so many reasons that go into this. 51 00:04:00,540 --> 00:04:02,940 Speaker 2: I'll give you some others. Why I'm doing this hour 52 00:04:03,740 --> 00:04:08,620 Speaker 2: because so much nonsense has been taught to a whole generation, now, 53 00:04:08,660 --> 00:04:16,060 Speaker 2: two generations of Americans, beginning with this incredibly wrong, wrong 54 00:04:16,300 --> 00:04:20,100 Speaker 2: statement that men and women are basically the same, and 55 00:04:20,140 --> 00:04:23,140 Speaker 2: that there and that boys play with guns and beat 56 00:04:23,180 --> 00:04:26,219 Speaker 2: each other up is because we give them guns, and 57 00:04:26,260 --> 00:04:28,860 Speaker 2: we give them toy soldiers, and we give them trucks. 58 00:04:29,380 --> 00:04:31,620 Speaker 2: And the reason that girls don't is because we give 59 00:04:31,659 --> 00:04:35,460 Speaker 2: them tea sets and dolls. So give your boy a 60 00:04:35,539 --> 00:04:37,740 Speaker 2: tea set and a doll, and watch what happens, and 61 00:04:37,740 --> 00:04:41,780 Speaker 2: give you give your daughter trucks and see what happens. 62 00:04:43,340 --> 00:04:46,779 Speaker 2: But the people believe that that the former president of Harvard, 63 00:04:46,820 --> 00:04:51,339 Speaker 2: to his great credit, Laurence Summers acknowledged that he said, 64 00:04:51,380 --> 00:04:55,539 Speaker 2: I gave my daughter trucks and lo and behold, she 65 00:04:55,700 --> 00:05:01,820 Speaker 2: gave them names and took care of them. I have 66 00:05:02,020 --> 00:05:05,540 Speaker 2: so many anecdotes about that, and anecdotes will be a 67 00:05:05,740 --> 00:05:08,060 Speaker 2: very important part. What is an anecdote. It is a 68 00:05:08,100 --> 00:05:13,740 Speaker 2: real story about these issues, and that will be a 69 00:05:13,820 --> 00:05:18,060 Speaker 2: real factor. But so another reason for having this hour 70 00:05:18,100 --> 00:05:21,540 Speaker 2: each week is because the amount of nonsense that has 71 00:05:21,620 --> 00:05:27,539 Speaker 2: been given over to the well educated. Now I remember 72 00:05:27,700 --> 00:05:31,300 Speaker 2: this is not something I've read. I remember bumper stickers 73 00:05:31,340 --> 00:05:36,620 Speaker 2: and buttons cy citing this feminist phrase that a woman 74 00:05:36,900 --> 00:05:41,500 Speaker 2: without a man is like a fish without a bicycle, which, 75 00:05:41,620 --> 00:05:44,300 Speaker 2: in case it isn't obvious, what is being said is 76 00:05:44,340 --> 00:05:48,779 Speaker 2: that justice fish could do very well, indeed thrive without 77 00:05:48,820 --> 00:05:52,300 Speaker 2: bicycles and have zero need for one. It's absurd to 78 00:05:52,380 --> 00:05:55,660 Speaker 2: even think a fish needs a bicycle. It's absurd to 79 00:05:55,740 --> 00:05:59,979 Speaker 2: even think that a woman needs a man. And a 80 00:06:00,060 --> 00:06:04,260 Speaker 2: generation of women grew up believing that I don't need 81 00:06:04,300 --> 00:06:08,300 Speaker 2: a man, I just need career success. And a generation 82 00:06:08,420 --> 00:06:12,060 Speaker 2: of women got career success and many didn't go after 83 00:06:12,100 --> 00:06:15,180 Speaker 2: a man, and then found that career success was not 84 00:06:15,340 --> 00:06:20,220 Speaker 2: exactly what it was cracked up to be, especially for females, 85 00:06:20,780 --> 00:06:24,620 Speaker 2: especially for women. Not to say that it doesn't give 86 00:06:24,660 --> 00:06:27,780 Speaker 2: a woman a sense of achievement as it well, should 87 00:06:28,340 --> 00:06:30,340 Speaker 2: you do a good job, you do a good job, 88 00:06:30,380 --> 00:06:35,260 Speaker 2: whatever your job is. Of course that's true. But the 89 00:06:35,380 --> 00:06:39,460 Speaker 2: vast majority of women do not get the satisfaction from 90 00:06:39,540 --> 00:06:45,060 Speaker 2: career success that men do, and get far more satisfaction 91 00:06:45,260 --> 00:06:50,260 Speaker 2: from relationships, something you will never ever be told in 92 00:06:50,300 --> 00:06:56,260 Speaker 2: a college course, because it's the center of anti wisdom 93 00:06:56,780 --> 00:07:01,820 Speaker 2: the college. And so those are some of the reasons 94 00:07:01,980 --> 00:07:05,860 Speaker 2: why I have decided why we have decided to have 95 00:07:05,980 --> 00:07:08,860 Speaker 2: an hour each week devoted to men and women, to 96 00:07:09,140 --> 00:07:12,420 Speaker 2: every aspect. Sometimes it will just be about women, sometimes 97 00:07:12,460 --> 00:07:16,220 Speaker 2: just about men. Sometimes it will be about both. Sometimes 98 00:07:16,220 --> 00:07:18,940 Speaker 2: it will be about marriage. Sometimes it will be about divorce. 99 00:07:20,300 --> 00:07:23,700 Speaker 2: And a big factor here, even more so than the 100 00:07:23,780 --> 00:07:27,500 Speaker 2: Ultimate Issues Hour or the Happiness Hour, will be your calls. 101 00:07:29,260 --> 00:07:33,740 Speaker 2: This will be half driven by you, questions that you 102 00:07:33,980 --> 00:07:38,100 Speaker 2: have based on your life as a man or as 103 00:07:38,100 --> 00:07:43,700 Speaker 2: a woman, and your inter relationship with men and women 104 00:07:43,860 --> 00:07:48,660 Speaker 2: or a man and a woman. One eight Prager seven 105 00:07:48,820 --> 00:07:51,660 Speaker 2: seven six is the number one eight p r A 106 00:07:51,900 --> 00:07:55,740 Speaker 2: g e Er seven seven six be happy to take 107 00:07:55,940 --> 00:07:58,780 Speaker 2: general questions on this, but I will talk to you 108 00:07:58,820 --> 00:08:02,180 Speaker 2: about some of the differences that we will highlight over 109 00:08:02,300 --> 00:08:05,780 Speaker 2: the course of the weeks and months and presumably years 110 00:08:06,260 --> 00:08:10,780 Speaker 2: that we will be talking about this. There is there 111 00:08:10,940 --> 00:08:13,940 Speaker 2: are so many. I'll give you an example of issues 112 00:08:13,980 --> 00:08:18,220 Speaker 2: that we will we will take and I mean, and 113 00:08:18,260 --> 00:08:19,980 Speaker 2: they are tough, by the way, a lot of these 114 00:08:19,980 --> 00:08:23,180 Speaker 2: are tough ish. This will be much tougher to hear 115 00:08:23,820 --> 00:08:27,380 Speaker 2: for some than the Ultimate Issues Hour or the Happiness Hour. 116 00:08:28,740 --> 00:08:32,860 Speaker 2: There's no question which will make it. It's the sort 117 00:08:32,860 --> 00:08:36,060 Speaker 2: of thing where you know, no pain, no gain, which 118 00:08:36,100 --> 00:08:38,780 Speaker 2: happens to be true in exercise. I'm sorry to say, 119 00:08:40,500 --> 00:08:43,460 Speaker 2: I I you know, I've never understood those. Oh that's 120 00:08:43,459 --> 00:08:46,860 Speaker 2: a silly statement. What do he means? Silly statement? There's 121 00:08:46,900 --> 00:08:52,900 Speaker 2: no pain in sitting, but you don't gain much body 122 00:08:52,900 --> 00:08:55,740 Speaker 2: wise if you sit all the time. I mean, just 123 00:08:55,820 --> 00:08:58,220 Speaker 2: that's the way life is. No pain, no gain. There 124 00:08:58,220 --> 00:09:04,020 Speaker 2: will be some pain here that that's absolutely true. And uh. 125 00:09:04,380 --> 00:09:06,940 Speaker 2: For example, just as I'm looking on the list of 126 00:09:07,020 --> 00:09:09,180 Speaker 2: some of the items that we will talk about, and 127 00:09:09,179 --> 00:09:14,140 Speaker 2: that is the whole issue of maintaining one's attractiveness through 128 00:09:14,179 --> 00:09:17,660 Speaker 2: marriage is a very painful subject, so painful that couples 129 00:09:17,700 --> 00:09:21,220 Speaker 2: don't even talk about it. And yes, it does fall 130 00:09:21,340 --> 00:09:27,580 Speaker 2: disproportionately on the female. Is it fair, folks? My issue 131 00:09:27,620 --> 00:09:30,059 Speaker 2: is not whether life is fair. That's for the Ultimate 132 00:09:30,060 --> 00:09:34,180 Speaker 2: Issues Hour, that is not for the Male Female Hour. 133 00:09:34,860 --> 00:09:37,420 Speaker 2: I am not here to say what is fair or not. 134 00:09:38,300 --> 00:09:40,580 Speaker 2: I am here to say what is true or not. 135 00:09:42,179 --> 00:09:45,100 Speaker 2: The fact that I would like reality to be X 136 00:09:45,260 --> 00:09:50,900 Speaker 2: doesn't mean reality can be X. It isn't it is. 137 00:09:51,060 --> 00:09:56,780 Speaker 2: It is a factor in marriages. The death of masculinity. 138 00:09:56,820 --> 00:09:59,380 Speaker 2: That's a challenge to men, just as the other, the 139 00:09:59,740 --> 00:10:02,020 Speaker 2: one I just mentioned, is a challenge to many women, 140 00:10:02,100 --> 00:10:05,620 Speaker 2: the masculinity Are you? Are you masculine? Do many even 141 00:10:05,740 --> 00:10:09,460 Speaker 2: know what masculinity is? Any longer? We'll be back in 142 00:10:09,540 --> 00:10:12,740 Speaker 2: a moment. Brager it is, and welcome to the inaugural 143 00:10:14,740 --> 00:10:20,220 Speaker 2: edition of the Male Female Hour, My friends. I guess 144 00:10:20,260 --> 00:10:23,540 Speaker 2: we'll try to get specific music bumpers for this hour 145 00:10:23,580 --> 00:10:26,340 Speaker 2: or two we have an opening that's specific to the hour, 146 00:10:26,980 --> 00:10:30,580 Speaker 2: talking about men and women each week. Because the battle 147 00:10:30,620 --> 00:10:33,540 Speaker 2: between the sexes is probably greater than it ever was. 148 00:10:33,660 --> 00:10:39,180 Speaker 2: The misunderstandings are huge. I give one example in lectures 149 00:10:39,179 --> 00:10:43,579 Speaker 2: that I give on talks about men and women about 150 00:10:43,620 --> 00:10:46,180 Speaker 2: how many women think that their husband doesn't listen to them, 151 00:10:46,179 --> 00:10:50,140 Speaker 2: for example, doesn't listen when they talk. And as I 152 00:10:50,179 --> 00:10:53,660 Speaker 2: point out, it's not true. Your husband does listen, he 153 00:10:53,780 --> 00:10:59,340 Speaker 2: just doesn't remember. And it always gets a big laugh 154 00:10:59,460 --> 00:11:03,900 Speaker 2: because the men feel so relieved that I have acknowledged. 155 00:11:03,940 --> 00:11:08,380 Speaker 2: But the issue is, yes, we do listen, but guys 156 00:11:08,460 --> 00:11:14,060 Speaker 2: don't remember dialogues. Women remember things that were said Neo Natalie. 157 00:11:15,820 --> 00:11:20,420 Speaker 2: Conversations said when they were in the fetal state are 158 00:11:20,460 --> 00:11:24,780 Speaker 2: so how recalled. And that is what women do. They 159 00:11:25,020 --> 00:11:29,540 Speaker 2: their their brain is filled with with reviewing conversations. Men's 160 00:11:29,620 --> 00:11:33,500 Speaker 2: are never filled with reviewing conversations and don't recall having 161 00:11:33,540 --> 00:11:38,420 Speaker 2: had conversations as a general rule. And we remember batting averages, 162 00:11:38,540 --> 00:11:44,820 Speaker 2: stock prices and UH and the like. And we we 163 00:11:44,820 --> 00:11:47,980 Speaker 2: we are, we are made differently. And another thing that 164 00:11:48,020 --> 00:11:50,220 Speaker 2: has come up, and we should play Excerpts from my 165 00:11:50,340 --> 00:11:54,819 Speaker 2: debate with the with the Schmooley Bouteia. He believes men 166 00:11:54,900 --> 00:11:58,860 Speaker 2: women are are basically superior, inherently superior. I don't believe 167 00:11:58,900 --> 00:12:02,620 Speaker 2: that for a nanosecond. I don't believe either sex is 168 00:12:02,660 --> 00:12:07,700 Speaker 2: superior and innately but that we both have real issues. 169 00:12:08,420 --> 00:12:12,059 Speaker 2: And the thing is that men's issues are more obvious, 170 00:12:12,820 --> 00:12:17,819 Speaker 2: their sexual predatory nature and their aggressiveness. Women's issues, which 171 00:12:17,860 --> 00:12:21,540 Speaker 2: are as deep and as problem causing in light, are 172 00:12:21,620 --> 00:12:26,340 Speaker 2: far more subtle. You can't identified like that. Although I 173 00:12:26,380 --> 00:12:30,940 Speaker 2: will attempt to to help us raise better girls and 174 00:12:32,500 --> 00:12:35,860 Speaker 2: help women understand themselves better. There is it is such 175 00:12:35,900 --> 00:12:40,340 Speaker 2: a vast arena. And let me take the inaugural call 176 00:12:40,540 --> 00:12:45,100 Speaker 2: on the inaugural show, and that is from John in Downy, California. John, 177 00:12:45,179 --> 00:12:48,100 Speaker 2: you are the first caller on the Male Female Hour. 178 00:12:48,860 --> 00:12:52,140 Speaker 1: This episode of Timeless Wisdom will continue right after this. 179 00:12:56,700 --> 00:13:02,020 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Frager's timeless Wisdom. 180 00:13:02,140 --> 00:13:05,980 Speaker 3: Yeah. Well, the question came up when I read this 181 00:13:06,900 --> 00:13:10,980 Speaker 3: expert on Fox dot com News, and she didn't once 182 00:13:11,220 --> 00:13:15,060 Speaker 3: fight is it said, why do men cheat more? Statistics, 183 00:13:15,100 --> 00:13:17,620 Speaker 3: I guess show that men do cheat more. She didn't 184 00:13:17,660 --> 00:13:22,500 Speaker 3: fight one difference between the man and the female. And 185 00:13:22,540 --> 00:13:25,780 Speaker 3: I read your book and you happiness as a serious problem, 186 00:13:25,780 --> 00:13:28,180 Speaker 3: and you cited in your book that one of the 187 00:13:28,220 --> 00:13:32,620 Speaker 3: reasons is that men have an intrinsic desire for variety, 188 00:13:32,820 --> 00:13:35,100 Speaker 3: whereas women desire. 189 00:13:34,820 --> 00:13:39,020 Speaker 2: In you heard, you heard a sex expert speak on 190 00:13:39,060 --> 00:13:41,220 Speaker 2: this subject as to why men cheap more. 191 00:13:41,820 --> 00:13:44,980 Speaker 3: Just yesterday she wrote it on Fox News. I once 192 00:13:45,060 --> 00:13:46,100 Speaker 3: mentioned the difference, the. 193 00:13:46,100 --> 00:13:48,740 Speaker 2: Nature difference, So why did she say was the reason? 194 00:13:49,300 --> 00:13:53,339 Speaker 3: She said? The reason was primarily because maybe he's unhappy 195 00:13:53,780 --> 00:13:57,579 Speaker 3: with the physical or emotional sex, or maybe there's an affair, 196 00:13:58,780 --> 00:14:01,980 Speaker 3: which I agree, But I think the primary reason, and 197 00:14:02,020 --> 00:14:04,780 Speaker 3: I cite your book, is because we as men have 198 00:14:04,980 --> 00:14:07,820 Speaker 3: no our desire has no memory of the great sex. 199 00:14:07,620 --> 00:14:10,180 Speaker 2: We just have with our wife before. 200 00:14:10,540 --> 00:14:15,300 Speaker 3: It has no memory. We intrinsically like variety. We yearned 201 00:14:15,340 --> 00:14:16,059 Speaker 3: for it all the time. 202 00:14:16,260 --> 00:14:18,620 Speaker 2: Yes, and well, I just. 203 00:14:18,660 --> 00:14:21,300 Speaker 3: Find it amazing. She's college, you know, she's calling you. 204 00:14:21,820 --> 00:14:25,580 Speaker 2: Well, that's stuff, as I would always say, that's part 205 00:14:25,620 --> 00:14:28,540 Speaker 2: of the problem. Well, I'm glad we didn't say the 206 00:14:28,620 --> 00:14:30,460 Speaker 2: name of the person, because you know, I didn't hear 207 00:14:30,500 --> 00:14:35,420 Speaker 2: it directly. But I believe him and whatever she said 208 00:14:35,460 --> 00:14:38,180 Speaker 2: may have been utterly true. But the point is, yes, 209 00:14:38,380 --> 00:14:40,340 Speaker 2: and this is something that I will be dealing with 210 00:14:40,380 --> 00:14:44,140 Speaker 2: on the program, and this is very painful stuff. There 211 00:14:44,220 --> 00:14:48,020 Speaker 2: is no hour that will entail the self inquiry that 212 00:14:48,060 --> 00:14:50,980 Speaker 2: the Male Female Hour will. There will be challenges to 213 00:14:51,020 --> 00:14:55,900 Speaker 2: both men and women to understand themselves better, and it 214 00:14:56,180 --> 00:14:58,740 Speaker 2: is it is going to be a painful process at times, 215 00:14:58,860 --> 00:15:01,100 Speaker 2: and I acknowledge that, and I'm not thrilled about it, 216 00:15:01,140 --> 00:15:03,860 Speaker 2: but that is the way it is. And it is 217 00:15:03,940 --> 00:15:08,220 Speaker 2: not happy news to women that men are variety oriented that. 218 00:15:08,380 --> 00:15:11,140 Speaker 2: But what is amazing to me is that it is 219 00:15:11,220 --> 00:15:14,300 Speaker 2: news at all. It wasn't news to my grandmother or 220 00:15:14,300 --> 00:15:16,820 Speaker 2: her mother, or her mother, or her mother or her mother, 221 00:15:16,900 --> 00:15:24,100 Speaker 2: going back to Eve. It is news to the modern western, 222 00:15:24,540 --> 00:15:30,100 Speaker 2: well educated woman because education doesn't tell you about people. 223 00:15:30,180 --> 00:15:34,260 Speaker 2: It tells you about theories that people want to believe 224 00:15:34,380 --> 00:15:40,020 Speaker 2: about people. And that is exactly right. What sex means 225 00:15:40,060 --> 00:15:45,060 Speaker 2: to both sexes is so different, and this will be 226 00:15:45,140 --> 00:15:47,420 Speaker 2: this why, by the way, I guess I have to 227 00:15:47,460 --> 00:15:49,340 Speaker 2: say this that there are times when this is the 228 00:15:49,380 --> 00:15:51,580 Speaker 2: one hour of the week where maybe some kids you 229 00:15:51,620 --> 00:15:57,420 Speaker 2: won't want necessarily all your kids listening. That is a 230 00:15:57,500 --> 00:16:00,300 Speaker 2: because I know, for example, we had a wonderful homeschooled 231 00:16:00,300 --> 00:16:03,060 Speaker 2: family who use my show as a form of education. 232 00:16:03,220 --> 00:16:06,180 Speaker 2: A lot of people tell me that, and I'm delighted 233 00:16:06,660 --> 00:16:09,180 Speaker 2: because frankly, I think there's a lot more wisdom on 234 00:16:09,260 --> 00:16:12,020 Speaker 2: three hours of this show than in three hours at college. 235 00:16:12,700 --> 00:16:15,340 Speaker 2: And I'm not even happy to say it. It's not 236 00:16:15,380 --> 00:16:19,820 Speaker 2: only not boasting, it's painful for me to say, but 237 00:16:20,820 --> 00:16:25,100 Speaker 2: there's no doubt in my mind that that is so anyway. 238 00:16:25,860 --> 00:16:29,100 Speaker 2: So there are status That is a statement that I 239 00:16:29,140 --> 00:16:31,060 Speaker 2: had to make for those of you who have kids 240 00:16:31,100 --> 00:16:34,100 Speaker 2: regularly listening, there are times where it will be adult matter, 241 00:16:34,620 --> 00:16:40,420 Speaker 2: not titillating matter, but adult matter. And in this matter 242 00:16:40,580 --> 00:16:45,580 Speaker 2: of variety it is. It is remarkable how women have 243 00:16:45,740 --> 00:16:49,340 Speaker 2: not been taught this that men that is what men want, 244 00:16:49,340 --> 00:16:53,300 Speaker 2: and what women have been told is that, oh, you 245 00:16:53,420 --> 00:16:56,540 Speaker 2: are just like men. And so they have these hookups 246 00:16:56,540 --> 00:17:00,140 Speaker 2: at college, thinking that they can have as as great 247 00:17:00,180 --> 00:17:05,299 Speaker 2: a delight in superficial sexual encounters as men do. And 248 00:17:05,340 --> 00:17:09,459 Speaker 2: then and it hurts them over time, because it cannot 249 00:17:09,580 --> 00:17:16,980 Speaker 2: but hurt them, some permanently, some temporarily. But the denial 250 00:17:17,100 --> 00:17:21,379 Speaker 2: of one's feminine basis, and to think that all a 251 00:17:21,460 --> 00:17:24,739 Speaker 2: male body, I just want another male body, because that 252 00:17:24,899 --> 00:17:27,859 Speaker 2: is the way the male is constructed. This will come 253 00:17:27,939 --> 00:17:31,459 Speaker 2: up over and over. There is no way a woman 254 00:17:32,379 --> 00:17:35,819 Speaker 2: I am old enough to have dealt with this a lifetime, 255 00:17:35,899 --> 00:17:39,019 Speaker 2: to have talked to brilliant women about this It doesn't 256 00:17:39,020 --> 00:17:43,019 Speaker 2: matter how brilliant a woman is, asking her to understand 257 00:17:43,179 --> 00:17:47,459 Speaker 2: how a man sees a pair of legs of a 258 00:17:47,500 --> 00:17:54,139 Speaker 2: woman is not. There is no analogue to women. There 259 00:17:54,179 --> 00:18:00,100 Speaker 2: is no A man wearing shorts has nothing in common 260 00:18:00,179 --> 00:18:07,580 Speaker 2: with the female wearing shorts. Nothing, nothing. Women do not 261 00:18:07,780 --> 00:18:13,179 Speaker 2: fantasize male legs. Okay, they don't use male legs in 262 00:18:13,300 --> 00:18:16,419 Speaker 2: ads unless it's to a gay community. By the way, 263 00:18:16,540 --> 00:18:20,179 Speaker 2: everything that I would ever say about male sexuality is 264 00:18:20,260 --> 00:18:23,659 Speaker 2: proven by the fact that male homosexuals have the exact 265 00:18:23,699 --> 00:18:28,820 Speaker 2: same feelings towards men, so it can't be induced by 266 00:18:28,899 --> 00:18:31,659 Speaker 2: society the way men look at women. Back in a moment. 267 00:18:32,300 --> 00:18:35,659 Speaker 1: This episode of timeless wisdom will continue right after this. 268 00:18:40,139 --> 00:18:45,500 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's timeless wisdom. 269 00:18:45,580 --> 00:18:47,060 Speaker 2: Choseph, what I said was true. 270 00:18:47,139 --> 00:18:51,219 Speaker 4: There's no difference between the sexes. Men, women the same. 271 00:18:53,100 --> 00:18:53,420 Speaker 2: They are. 272 00:18:54,260 --> 00:18:57,659 Speaker 4: Well, maybe there is a difference, but it's a little difference. 273 00:18:58,300 --> 00:19:01,980 Speaker 3: Well, you know, as the French say, what did they say, difference, 274 00:19:02,419 --> 00:19:05,060 Speaker 3: which means which means hoorray for that little difference. 275 00:19:07,379 --> 00:19:11,939 Speaker 2: It's actually not little and it's not even what you're thinking. Hi, everybody, 276 00:19:11,979 --> 00:19:15,059 Speaker 2: Dennis Prager here this is the inaugural edition of the 277 00:19:15,260 --> 00:19:22,739 Speaker 2: Male Female Hour, and dedicated our Wednesday to this enormous subject. 278 00:19:22,979 --> 00:19:25,220 Speaker 2: And the hope is that you will understand each other 279 00:19:25,300 --> 00:19:31,379 Speaker 2: better and yourselves better and get along better. That's the hope, 280 00:19:31,540 --> 00:19:35,100 Speaker 2: and more than any other hour of my show, it 281 00:19:35,139 --> 00:19:39,139 Speaker 2: will depend upon what you would like to ask. I 282 00:19:39,179 --> 00:19:42,019 Speaker 2: will have topics almost all the time, as in the 283 00:19:42,060 --> 00:19:44,699 Speaker 2: other dedicated hours of my show, but it will be 284 00:19:44,780 --> 00:19:46,580 Speaker 2: driven a lot by what you have to ask. So 285 00:19:46,619 --> 00:19:50,939 Speaker 2: I will take calls immediately. Highland, California, Gary, Hello Gary. 286 00:19:50,699 --> 00:19:52,899 Speaker 5: Dennis Prager, Hello Dennis, how you doing. 287 00:19:53,060 --> 00:19:54,780 Speaker 2: I'm well, Thank you awesome. 288 00:19:55,020 --> 00:19:58,379 Speaker 5: My question is, are you guys out there check this 289 00:19:58,459 --> 00:20:02,580 Speaker 5: one out. I'm sure you'll know it. Why do ladies 290 00:20:03,020 --> 00:20:09,459 Speaker 5: in relationships expect men like if there's a problem you 291 00:20:09,540 --> 00:20:12,100 Speaker 5: walk into the dining room and she's giving you the 292 00:20:12,179 --> 00:20:15,299 Speaker 5: evil eye and you say, hey, baby, what's wrong? And 293 00:20:15,300 --> 00:20:19,899 Speaker 5: they say, oh, you know, they expect us to know 294 00:20:20,739 --> 00:20:24,419 Speaker 5: of what's going on or what's wrong all the time. 295 00:20:24,820 --> 00:20:28,820 Speaker 2: Bravo to you, Gary. That is entirely true of many, 296 00:20:28,899 --> 00:20:32,739 Speaker 2: many women, and it drives men nuts. And here I 297 00:20:32,939 --> 00:20:38,379 Speaker 2: side with the men. Women. We cannot read your minds. 298 00:20:39,100 --> 00:20:41,979 Speaker 2: That is not an ability that God, or if you 299 00:20:42,020 --> 00:20:46,379 Speaker 2: don't believe in God, nature alone gave us. Asking us 300 00:20:46,419 --> 00:20:49,580 Speaker 2: to read your minds is to drive us nuts. It 301 00:20:49,659 --> 00:20:51,580 Speaker 2: is almost as if you were to say to us, 302 00:20:52,419 --> 00:20:54,659 Speaker 2: why did you get and stuck in traffic? You could 303 00:20:54,699 --> 00:20:58,659 Speaker 2: have flown here, But we can fly. We're not supermen. 304 00:20:59,899 --> 00:21:03,739 Speaker 2: We are what we are, and we should be the 305 00:21:03,780 --> 00:21:06,019 Speaker 2: best that we can be as men and women. But 306 00:21:06,100 --> 00:21:11,019 Speaker 2: we can't be what we imagine somebody to be and 307 00:21:11,379 --> 00:21:15,700 Speaker 2: what a woman should do. And you will find a 308 00:21:16,340 --> 00:21:22,619 Speaker 2: such a dramatic improvement in your relationship with the man 309 00:21:22,699 --> 00:21:25,139 Speaker 2: in your life is to tell him what is on 310 00:21:25,219 --> 00:21:31,019 Speaker 2: your mind, not want him to read it. That is 311 00:21:31,100 --> 00:21:35,260 Speaker 2: a That is a girlish not a womanish thing. Boys 312 00:21:35,379 --> 00:21:41,100 Speaker 2: must become men, girls must become women. It is girly 313 00:21:41,820 --> 00:21:44,179 Speaker 2: to want your mind read. It is it is. It 314 00:21:44,260 --> 00:21:48,100 Speaker 2: is childish. Children expect parents to read their Well, what's 315 00:21:48,139 --> 00:21:53,139 Speaker 2: the matter my son, my daughter? Nothing? Nothing. What they're 316 00:21:53,179 --> 00:21:56,859 Speaker 2: saying is you should know, you, my father, you, my 317 00:21:56,979 --> 00:22:03,659 Speaker 2: mother should know. And from the earliest age we people 318 00:22:03,739 --> 00:22:06,059 Speaker 2: have to be told I won't read your mind. I 319 00:22:06,100 --> 00:22:10,539 Speaker 2: can't read your mind, and I shouldn't have to just 320 00:22:10,859 --> 00:22:15,659 Speaker 2: tell me what is troubling you or what are you 321 00:22:15,739 --> 00:22:20,019 Speaker 2: thinking about. So that's a great, great example of a 322 00:22:20,179 --> 00:22:25,019 Speaker 2: of a general problem between the sexes that can easily 323 00:22:25,379 --> 00:22:29,740 Speaker 2: be dealt with women. Just say what's on your mind 324 00:22:31,739 --> 00:22:34,419 Speaker 2: and get get the notion out of your mind. If 325 00:22:34,459 --> 00:22:36,899 Speaker 2: you really knew me, and if you really loved me, 326 00:22:37,060 --> 00:22:43,219 Speaker 2: he would know. But that's not true. He probably really 327 00:22:43,260 --> 00:22:45,619 Speaker 2: does love you, and he may even really know you, 328 00:22:46,780 --> 00:22:50,179 Speaker 2: but he still can't read your mind. Mind readers can't 329 00:22:50,179 --> 00:22:55,820 Speaker 2: read your mind. All right, let's go to another another 330 00:22:55,899 --> 00:22:59,899 Speaker 2: call here, Orange, California and Emily Emily Dennis Prager. 331 00:22:59,979 --> 00:23:01,580 Speaker 6: Hi, Hi, Dennis, how are you. 332 00:23:01,899 --> 00:23:03,100 Speaker 2: I'm well, Thanks. 333 00:23:03,899 --> 00:23:06,539 Speaker 6: I just calling because I actually wrote a paper about 334 00:23:06,540 --> 00:23:09,899 Speaker 6: this when I was in college. I just noticed, as 335 00:23:10,340 --> 00:23:13,139 Speaker 6: I'm a younger generation, so I was raised by the 336 00:23:13,260 --> 00:23:17,100 Speaker 6: older generation of burning their braziers and some things like that. 337 00:23:17,419 --> 00:23:17,820 Speaker 2: Mm hmm. 338 00:23:18,100 --> 00:23:20,379 Speaker 6: And I just think that something that happened in the 339 00:23:20,419 --> 00:23:24,219 Speaker 6: world women's movement that wasn't a beautiful statement was just 340 00:23:24,300 --> 00:23:28,539 Speaker 6: the complete the masculinizing of men, that's right, And it 341 00:23:28,699 --> 00:23:34,939 Speaker 6: completely just fuzzied the true identities of each gender role. 342 00:23:35,619 --> 00:23:38,619 Speaker 6: Because one thing that I think they forgot is the 343 00:23:38,659 --> 00:23:42,899 Speaker 6: true strength of a woman is to be able to 344 00:23:42,939 --> 00:23:47,139 Speaker 6: be a mother and be the backbone of the house 345 00:23:47,219 --> 00:23:48,499 Speaker 6: and the backbone of the church. 346 00:23:48,820 --> 00:23:50,979 Speaker 2: I am very curious where you learn this. Will be 347 00:23:51,020 --> 00:23:53,219 Speaker 2: back in a moment with twenty three year old Emily 348 00:23:55,060 --> 00:23:58,020 Speaker 2: Dennis Prager here on this inaugural edition of The Male 349 00:23:58,139 --> 00:24:03,419 Speaker 2: Female Hour, because there is so much I'm sorry to 350 00:24:03,419 --> 00:24:07,300 Speaker 2: say nonsense about men and women out there, and a generation, 351 00:24:07,899 --> 00:24:11,619 Speaker 2: my generation, the next generation, so many members of those 352 00:24:11,659 --> 00:24:16,820 Speaker 2: two generations have really been hurt by claptrap about the sexes. 353 00:24:17,820 --> 00:24:21,460 Speaker 2: And to the extent that people are willing to hear 354 00:24:22,459 --> 00:24:25,300 Speaker 2: what I think are truths about men and women, they 355 00:24:25,340 --> 00:24:28,260 Speaker 2: can really relate to the other and appreciate the other more. 356 00:24:29,260 --> 00:24:31,780 Speaker 2: And that was a wonderful question. It's worth putting these 357 00:24:31,820 --> 00:24:35,100 Speaker 2: down for further elucidation, like why why you know about 358 00:24:35,139 --> 00:24:37,259 Speaker 2: women wanting men to read their minds? That was a 359 00:24:37,260 --> 00:24:39,899 Speaker 2: perfect example. It was a great inaugural question. Emily is 360 00:24:39,939 --> 00:24:45,339 Speaker 2: twenty three and you I assume you were raised religiously. 361 00:24:46,300 --> 00:24:49,379 Speaker 6: Yes, yes, well my mother did. My father was not. 362 00:24:49,859 --> 00:24:51,340 Speaker 2: Yeah. Were you homeschooled? 363 00:24:51,619 --> 00:24:53,499 Speaker 6: No? I wasn't. I went to public school. 364 00:24:54,659 --> 00:24:58,139 Speaker 2: Now, now, how many young people your age think as 365 00:24:58,179 --> 00:25:00,059 Speaker 2: you do, or how many of your girlfriends do. 366 00:25:02,260 --> 00:25:06,060 Speaker 6: I think that some of them, some of them believe 367 00:25:06,219 --> 00:25:08,819 Speaker 6: wholeheartedly the way that I do. And I think that 368 00:25:08,939 --> 00:25:13,180 Speaker 6: some of them still are sifting through the issues for. 369 00:25:13,219 --> 00:25:18,859 Speaker 2: Themselves, right and having been taught so much of what 370 00:25:19,500 --> 00:25:23,820 Speaker 2: my generation on fortunately inculcated into yours. 371 00:25:24,219 --> 00:25:28,299 Speaker 6: Yes, it's been you know. But you have to say also, 372 00:25:28,500 --> 00:25:32,820 Speaker 6: is that if nothing else, it's given God the chance 373 00:25:32,899 --> 00:25:35,540 Speaker 6: to come and more into our lives and truly define 374 00:25:35,619 --> 00:25:36,700 Speaker 6: us as his children. 375 00:25:37,739 --> 00:25:40,619 Speaker 2: Well, well, it's a beautiful attitude. And Emily, good luck 376 00:25:40,659 --> 00:25:44,220 Speaker 2: to you. I appreciate your calling. 377 00:25:44,820 --> 00:25:48,139 Speaker 1: This episode of Timeless Wisdom. We'll continue right after this. 378 00:25:52,659 --> 00:25:56,379 Speaker 1: Now back to more of Dennis Prager's Timeless. 379 00:25:55,820 --> 00:26:08,899 Speaker 2: Wisdom, and let's go to line three and let's see 380 00:26:09,260 --> 00:26:14,659 Speaker 2: that's what that's what I just was with Bob Scottsdale, Arizona. Hello, Bob, 381 00:26:14,699 --> 00:26:15,980 Speaker 2: Dennis Prager. 382 00:26:16,340 --> 00:26:20,779 Speaker 4: Hi, Dennis, I'm really looking forward to this topic that 383 00:26:20,820 --> 00:26:24,859 Speaker 4: you're covering. Over the years of forty four years of 384 00:26:24,899 --> 00:26:28,739 Speaker 4: marriage with my wife, I realized she made decisions a 385 00:26:28,780 --> 00:26:33,619 Speaker 4: lot based on intuition and feelings. But if I could 386 00:26:33,659 --> 00:26:38,699 Speaker 4: get her to talk about them, a lot of times 387 00:26:38,739 --> 00:26:42,100 Speaker 4: she was spot on because of it. I was very 388 00:26:42,780 --> 00:26:44,499 Speaker 4: I need the fact kind of person. 389 00:26:44,619 --> 00:26:47,779 Speaker 2: But well, that's where we need both sexes. It's a 390 00:26:47,899 --> 00:26:52,299 Speaker 2: perfect example women's intuition. It's a very old phrase, and 391 00:26:52,340 --> 00:26:54,500 Speaker 2: there is something there's a lot of truth to it. 392 00:26:55,540 --> 00:27:00,060 Speaker 2: On the other hand, a man is exactly as you said, 393 00:27:00,139 --> 00:27:02,939 Speaker 2: more likely to say, well on what do you base it? 394 00:27:04,060 --> 00:27:08,059 Speaker 2: And she'll say, I know, I just know, And she'll 395 00:27:08,100 --> 00:27:13,700 Speaker 2: find your fact needing to be a little silly, and 396 00:27:13,739 --> 00:27:18,699 Speaker 2: you will find her who cares about facts in my gut, 397 00:27:18,820 --> 00:27:21,619 Speaker 2: I know what's true to be a little silly. And 398 00:27:21,659 --> 00:27:24,980 Speaker 2: we need both. So it's a it's a perfect example 399 00:27:25,340 --> 00:27:29,419 Speaker 2: of where the sexes are strong. The problem with women's 400 00:27:29,459 --> 00:27:32,259 Speaker 2: intuition is own not that it doesn't exist, and not 401 00:27:32,340 --> 00:27:37,780 Speaker 2: that it often isn't excellent. It's that you it can 402 00:27:37,820 --> 00:27:42,179 Speaker 2: be wrong, and so you're you're left with I'm saying 403 00:27:42,219 --> 00:27:44,899 Speaker 2: this to both both men and women. It can be wrong, 404 00:27:45,699 --> 00:27:50,700 Speaker 2: and women's certitude that their intuition is right is uh. 405 00:27:50,739 --> 00:27:56,540 Speaker 2: It needs to be tempered by well beyond your intuition. See, 406 00:27:57,219 --> 00:28:01,739 Speaker 2: let sometimes you can't have anything but intuition. For example, 407 00:28:01,780 --> 00:28:05,219 Speaker 2: let's say the two of you meet somebody and you 408 00:28:05,459 --> 00:28:08,619 Speaker 2: are you are wondering is it is? Was the person 409 00:28:08,699 --> 00:28:13,139 Speaker 2: telling the truth there? If your wife has been fairly 410 00:28:13,260 --> 00:28:16,859 Speaker 2: consistently accurate, and nobody has one thousand percent batting average, 411 00:28:16,859 --> 00:28:19,859 Speaker 2: and it's not to be expected. But if her intuition 412 00:28:20,219 --> 00:28:26,579 Speaker 2: where you don't have enough facts, is strong, why not 413 00:28:26,619 --> 00:28:30,699 Speaker 2: go with it, or at least don't make that business deal. 414 00:28:30,739 --> 00:28:34,420 Speaker 2: If she left a meeting with a potential business partner, 415 00:28:34,979 --> 00:28:39,180 Speaker 2: as you know, there's something about him that I just, honey, 416 00:28:39,300 --> 00:28:43,539 Speaker 2: I just don't trust that is worth listening to. Doesn't 417 00:28:43,580 --> 00:28:46,299 Speaker 2: mean you back out of the deal. It means don't 418 00:28:46,340 --> 00:28:51,739 Speaker 2: sign yet, because neither of you have the facts her intuition. 419 00:28:51,979 --> 00:28:54,060 Speaker 2: If she has a good track record, and that, by 420 00:28:54,100 --> 00:28:56,579 Speaker 2: the way, is a big deal in life. Track record, 421 00:28:57,660 --> 00:29:01,259 Speaker 2: that's what I call moral bank accounts. If her track 422 00:29:01,340 --> 00:29:05,700 Speaker 2: record and her intuition is a high, highly successful one, 423 00:29:05,780 --> 00:29:09,660 Speaker 2: highly accurate, I wouldn't make that I wouldn't sign that 424 00:29:09,700 --> 00:29:13,100 Speaker 2: business deal even though I have no facts. She has 425 00:29:13,140 --> 00:29:15,420 Speaker 2: no facts and I have no facts. On the other hand, 426 00:29:15,459 --> 00:29:17,979 Speaker 2: to the woman, I would say, you may have a 427 00:29:18,020 --> 00:29:21,459 Speaker 2: strong intuition about something, but there may be a whole 428 00:29:21,500 --> 00:29:24,940 Speaker 2: series of facts that prove the intuition to be inaccurate 429 00:29:24,979 --> 00:29:29,459 Speaker 2: in that case, so you will have to somehow say, Okay, 430 00:29:29,860 --> 00:29:33,739 Speaker 2: I have my intuition for whatever reasons, but I also 431 00:29:33,820 --> 00:29:36,979 Speaker 2: have to listen to the data. There really are reasons 432 00:29:36,979 --> 00:29:39,019 Speaker 2: not to go with my intuition in that case, my 433 00:29:39,100 --> 00:29:41,700 Speaker 2: gut instinct. By the way, men have gut instincts too, 434 00:29:43,020 --> 00:29:47,019 Speaker 2: but because of the way our mind is formed, we 435 00:29:47,060 --> 00:29:50,779 Speaker 2: will always ask ourselves, well, what's the evidence, Dennis, all right, 436 00:29:50,860 --> 00:29:54,100 Speaker 2: that's your gut instinct. But and women are more likely 437 00:29:54,140 --> 00:29:58,459 Speaker 2: to trust their gut instinct in that way. Sterling Heights, 438 00:29:58,500 --> 00:30:01,219 Speaker 2: Michigan and Mary Kay, Hi, Mary Kay. 439 00:30:01,340 --> 00:30:03,300 Speaker 3: Dennis Prager, Hi, mister Prager. 440 00:30:03,940 --> 00:30:06,900 Speaker 5: My question is, how can you expect to have an 441 00:30:06,940 --> 00:30:10,900 Speaker 5: emotionally intimate relationship with your husband if he doesn't remember 442 00:30:10,940 --> 00:30:12,700 Speaker 5: your conversations after. 443 00:30:12,700 --> 00:30:13,420 Speaker 4: A week or two. 444 00:30:15,140 --> 00:30:28,580 Speaker 2: Well, that's a very good question. And so the reason 445 00:30:28,620 --> 00:30:31,660 Speaker 2: for my silence is, I so understand where you're coming from, 446 00:30:31,700 --> 00:30:36,100 Speaker 2: and I so understand where he's coming from. You can 447 00:30:36,260 --> 00:30:41,059 Speaker 2: have an emotionally intimate life with him, but it doesn't 448 00:30:41,100 --> 00:30:44,740 Speaker 2: mean that he will remember the facts. He will remember 449 00:30:44,780 --> 00:30:48,580 Speaker 2: the bottom emotional line of a conversation more than he 450 00:30:48,620 --> 00:30:52,019 Speaker 2: will the facts that you have related to the woman. 451 00:30:52,459 --> 00:30:56,580 Speaker 2: The facts and the words of a dialogue are more 452 00:30:56,660 --> 00:31:00,499 Speaker 2: significant than the facts and words of a dialogue that 453 00:31:00,540 --> 00:31:03,780 Speaker 2: a guy has, and that's true for guys with other guys. 454 00:31:03,820 --> 00:31:06,019 Speaker 2: I'm going to keep you on, Mary Kay, because I 455 00:31:06,060 --> 00:31:08,940 Speaker 2: want to help you on this one. We will be 456 00:31:08,979 --> 00:31:11,499 Speaker 2: back in a moment. You're listening to the Dennis Prager Show. 457 00:31:13,380 --> 00:31:16,299 Speaker 2: Dennis Prager here, Mary Kay raises an issue on this 458 00:31:16,380 --> 00:31:20,700 Speaker 2: the first edition of the Male Female Hour, which I 459 00:31:20,739 --> 00:31:23,900 Speaker 2: am going to devote an entire hour or two very shortly, 460 00:31:23,940 --> 00:31:26,380 Speaker 2: one of the one of the earliest hours will be 461 00:31:26,459 --> 00:31:29,580 Speaker 2: on this, Mary Kay, how does one how could a 462 00:31:29,660 --> 00:31:33,019 Speaker 2: woman expect to have an emotionally bonded relationship with a 463 00:31:33,060 --> 00:31:36,180 Speaker 2: man or an intimate relationship if he doesn't remember the 464 00:31:36,219 --> 00:31:41,180 Speaker 2: conversations here in a nutshell? Let me let me tell you. 465 00:31:41,700 --> 00:31:44,660 Speaker 2: It depends on what you mean by not remember, and 466 00:31:44,700 --> 00:31:48,500 Speaker 2: it depends what the conversation is about. Uh. For example, 467 00:31:48,540 --> 00:31:51,140 Speaker 2: there's a there's an intern A young man sitting in 468 00:31:51,180 --> 00:31:54,540 Speaker 2: the studio right now was interning with us, and he said, 469 00:31:54,700 --> 00:31:57,420 Speaker 2: this is something that that he has heard. Can I 470 00:31:57,459 --> 00:31:59,900 Speaker 2: can I cite this where where? And his parents have 471 00:31:59,940 --> 00:32:03,580 Speaker 2: a wonderful marriage. But but where the mom will chide 472 00:32:03,700 --> 00:32:06,460 Speaker 2: the dad. But you don't remember I told you were 473 00:32:06,459 --> 00:32:08,860 Speaker 2: having dinner with the you know, with with with the 474 00:32:08,979 --> 00:32:12,100 Speaker 2: whatever couple it is. I told you two weeks ago 475 00:32:12,140 --> 00:32:15,180 Speaker 2: we're having dinner. Guys don't remember. That's why we we 476 00:32:15,459 --> 00:32:17,819 Speaker 2: write this down and have computers and and have and 477 00:32:17,900 --> 00:32:22,100 Speaker 2: have all sorts of databases. But if he doesn't remember 478 00:32:22,180 --> 00:32:25,459 Speaker 2: that you spoke about some deep hurt that you feel 479 00:32:25,780 --> 00:32:29,299 Speaker 2: in life, that's different. That's why I want to know 480 00:32:29,780 --> 00:32:32,219 Speaker 2: what it is. And I'm not saying you can answer 481 00:32:32,219 --> 00:32:34,499 Speaker 2: that now, Mary kay, But this is and I'll let 482 00:32:34,540 --> 00:32:36,860 Speaker 2: you go right now so you could hear the rest 483 00:32:36,860 --> 00:32:41,779 Speaker 2: of this off the off, off the phone. This is 484 00:32:42,459 --> 00:32:44,700 Speaker 2: a woman has to ask herself, what is it that 485 00:32:44,820 --> 00:32:49,820 Speaker 2: my husband isn't remembering If he doesn't remember a date 486 00:32:51,020 --> 00:32:53,260 Speaker 2: that that is significant to you, the date you met. 487 00:32:53,340 --> 00:32:56,620 Speaker 2: Let's say, I mean he should remember your anniversary. That's true. 488 00:32:56,660 --> 00:32:59,140 Speaker 2: He should, and if he doesn't, he should, he should 489 00:32:59,140 --> 00:33:03,340 Speaker 2: have it in his PDA and with a twenty four 490 00:33:03,380 --> 00:33:10,660 Speaker 2: hour alarm in front of it. But but you can't 491 00:33:10,700 --> 00:33:15,660 Speaker 2: ask us to be you with male organs. We are 492 00:33:15,700 --> 00:33:23,380 Speaker 2: not you with hair. We are not hairy women, and 493 00:33:23,459 --> 00:33:27,620 Speaker 2: you are not hairless men. And that is something that 494 00:33:27,660 --> 00:33:31,219 Speaker 2: the sexes need to appreciate about the other, but especially 495 00:33:31,459 --> 00:33:34,459 Speaker 2: because men do know that they Most men do not 496 00:33:34,540 --> 00:33:39,100 Speaker 2: walk around assuming women are like them. But a lot 497 00:33:39,140 --> 00:33:42,180 Speaker 2: of women want men to be like them because your 498 00:33:42,500 --> 00:33:47,340 Speaker 2: understanding of intimacy is X, so he must be X. 499 00:33:49,300 --> 00:33:52,780 Speaker 2: There are many ways of a man showing the emotional 500 00:33:52,900 --> 00:33:59,059 Speaker 2: connection to a woman. Remembering the details of conversations is 501 00:33:59,100 --> 00:34:03,180 Speaker 2: not necessarily one of them. It reminds me of this 502 00:34:03,660 --> 00:34:10,620 Speaker 2: one of the most ignored, hilarious, insightful movies ever, and 503 00:34:10,700 --> 00:34:14,100 Speaker 2: that is the one where the guy with the devil. 504 00:34:16,020 --> 00:34:17,860 Speaker 2: I love that movie. Come on, come on, come on, 505 00:34:17,900 --> 00:34:22,620 Speaker 2: come on quickly Bedazzle Bedazzle the modern version of Bedazzled. 506 00:34:23,219 --> 00:34:26,340 Speaker 2: The guy becomes a very sensitive man to get the 507 00:34:26,380 --> 00:34:30,140 Speaker 2: woman and then she throws up all right, male, female hour, 508 00:34:30,259 --> 00:34:32,540 Speaker 2: send me your emails. This is Dennis Prager. 509 00:34:44,819 --> 00:34:49,140 Speaker 1: This has been timeless wisdom with Dennis Prager. 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