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Speaker 1: Seven o two Weekend Breakfast and Parenting with Nicky.

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Speaker 2: Bush thirteen minutes after eight o'clock. Time for us to

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Speaker 2: talk parenting for this week. And this week is back

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Speaker 2: to school. For some people, it is the second week

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Speaker 2: back at work, or if you were one of those

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Speaker 2: lucky people who only got back to work this week,

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Speaker 2: it was your first week back at work. And so

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Speaker 2: it's basically all systems go, the alarms are back on,

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Speaker 2: the routines are back in place.

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Speaker 3: Everything is kind of time is accounted for because.

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Speaker 2: There's a lot to get through these chores, these homework.

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Speaker 2: Therese travel time you need to plan for. There's making

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Speaker 2: sure everything you need you and the kids for school

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Speaker 3: So it is that busy time.

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Speaker 2: So this morning we are talking about the importance of

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Speaker 2: having structure, routine and what are some of the ways

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Speaker 2: different timetables, different schedules to make family life run a

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Speaker 2: little bit smooth.

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Speaker 3: And earlier on I asked, what.

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Speaker 2: Are your some of your what are some of your

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Speaker 2: tools your tricks that you use that make running things easier.

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Speaker 2: Do the kids sleep at the same time every day,

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Speaker 2: even on the weekend, Do you prep things on a Sunday,

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Speaker 2: for instance, for the week. What are some of the

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Speaker 2: things you've put in place, your plans, your tricks, your

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Speaker 2: hacks that are making routines a lot easier. Give us

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Speaker 2: Human Potential and parenting expert Nikki Bush Nikki A very

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Speaker 2: good morning to you.

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Speaker 3: Is always great to have you on the show.

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Speaker 1: Good morning googs.

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Speaker 2: So it is all systems go. Most people are back

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Speaker 2: at work, kids are back at school this week, and

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Speaker 2: so it is that time where it's for many households,

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Speaker 2: it is time to juggle all the competing interests, demands

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Speaker 2: on time, demands on your attention. You have worked, kids

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Speaker 2: of school, this, things that need to be done in

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Speaker 2: that house. It is essentially, you know, that busy, busy

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Speaker 2: season for many households.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: In fact, at this point in time, I think we

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Speaker 4: need to reclassify parents as project managers because there are

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Speaker 4: so many different schedules that now need to be combined.

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Speaker 1: And I always think that one of the toughest.

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Speaker 4: Jobs in a school is actually the person who does

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Speaker 4: the extra curricular timetable and gets everything you know, flowing

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Speaker 4: so that every sport has its own field at the

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Speaker 1: I think it's mind bottling.

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Speaker 4: And for parents, especially when parents have got children, say

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Speaker 4: of different ages, where you've got one child in high school,

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Speaker 1: Plus you have.

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Speaker 4: Your own timetables to consider, you actually need to create

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Speaker 4: a moment of mission control. Now, for me, mission control

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Speaker 4: when my children were younger was always on a Sunday night,

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Speaker 4: Have they got everything they need for that particular activity,

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Speaker 4: putting everything in the diary. Now today you can use

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Speaker 4: you know, online project management tools like Trello et cetera.

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Speaker 4: To see something in hard copy. Now, schools are sending

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Speaker 4: and these things all carry information. Now, as a parent,

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Speaker 4: single month. Now you've got to juggle all of those

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Speaker 1: So there's a lot to take in.

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Speaker 4: And then you're going to have things like if you

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Speaker 4: very real. The juggle is real, and I promise you

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Speaker 4: that when you miss a step and drop a ball

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Speaker 2: And so it also sounds off for parents. There are

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Speaker 2: other things that I guess they can foresee or plan for,

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Speaker 2: But in addition, parents are also having to juggle I

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Speaker 2: You still need to do groceries, sometimes you need to

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Speaker 2: known so the things they can plan for, but also

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Speaker 2: No one expects to be in traffic for two hours,

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Speaker 2: you have grumpy, hungry, wwhiny kids, and maybe you're a

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Speaker 2: bit grumpy and whiny yourself.

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Speaker 4: Oh of course, and parents are very grumpy and whiny

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Speaker 4: I have to say I was exhausted by last night. Right,

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Speaker 1: The same boat.

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Speaker 4: What I would definitely suggest, and I've already done it

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Speaker 4: doing a full day strategy session. I've packed my snacks,

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Speaker 4: I've packed my water. In your car when you pick

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Speaker 4: because invariably they are going to be hungry and thirsty,

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Speaker 4: and God forbid you land up you know, spending two

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Speaker 1: At least you are prepared for.

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Speaker 4: Those hunger panes and kids being thirsty because when they're

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Speaker 4: try and map out those meals for the week. And

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Speaker 4: Then what you do the night before school, So every

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Speaker 4: and I would pre prepare as much of the lunch

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Speaker 4: But other than that, the fruit and the other snacky things.

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Speaker 4: Get those bottles of water and bottles of juice done

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Speaker 4: and it becomes a little bit more predictable. So that's

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Speaker 4: And then I also pre things like vitamins. Either you know,

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Speaker 1: You can actually do that ahead of time. So those

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Speaker 4: And then I think online shopping has revolutionized parents' sanity.

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Speaker 4: And there is nothing worse than a school book looking

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Speaker 4: So those are some of the additional things that you

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Speaker 2: And you often speak about you know, it sounds as

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Speaker 3: So this project, managing, this mission control.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you're in charge, and children actually self regulate better

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Speaker 4: so mission control here I come. Make sure that you

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Speaker 4: to help your child immensely to feel safe and secure.

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Speaker 4: And a child that feels safe and secure is a

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Speaker 2: Nicky has always a great pleasure having you on the show.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for your time this morning.

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Speaker 1: Thanks Gergs, and good luck to all our parents this week.

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Speaker 3: Thank you very much.

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Speaker 2: That's our resident human potential and parenting expert Nikki Bush.

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Speaker 2: start with a tribute show to the late Amy Winehouse.

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Speaker 2: director of the show, Kerry Hills. But first it's twenty

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