WEBVTT - A Forensic Analysis of Meghan Markle’s Announcement

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to a Muma Mia podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Mamma Mia acknowledges the traditional owners of land and waters

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<v Speaker 2>that this podcast is recorded on. My concern is that

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<v Speaker 2>Megan Markl becomes the boy who cried jam.

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<v Speaker 3>No. That is a real concern.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because you can't just keep sending people jam and

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<v Speaker 2>expecting them to spreuk it. You've already used.

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<v Speaker 1>She didn't mention dog treats either.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's going to be dog treats. I reckon

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<v Speaker 2>it's going to be scented candles. I think we're going

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<v Speaker 2>to have a tetowel and a fancy class. Welcome to

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<v Speaker 2>MoMA mea out loud what women are actually talking about?

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<v Speaker 2>On Wednesday, the nineteenth of February. I am Jesse.

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<v Speaker 1>Stevens, I'm mea Friedman, and Holly.

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<v Speaker 2>Is away this week, which means Amelia Lester, you are

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<v Speaker 2>here again. Hello on the show today. A moment's silence

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<v Speaker 2>for Megan Markles American Riviera Orchard We hardly knew, an announcement,

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<v Speaker 2>an Instagram reel and a new brand. Did Meghan pull

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<v Speaker 2>off an epic relaunch? May I do not answer it? Plus?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it a did you don't know?

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<v Speaker 2>There's no suspense. Plus is Elon Musk using his kids

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<v Speaker 2>as props? And if so why? And open marriages are out.

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<v Speaker 2>Affairs are in the essay making people rethink non monogamy.

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<v Speaker 2>But first, Amelia, in.

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<v Speaker 3>Case you missed it, America is divorcing Europe on Valentine's Day,

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<v Speaker 3>no less. Donald Trump's vice president J. D. Vance gave

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<v Speaker 3>this speech in Germany, which left European leaders, who were

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<v Speaker 3>normally a pretty blase brunch, open mouthed, slack jawed, not applauding.

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<v Speaker 1>You came in having read this to our early morning

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<v Speaker 1>planning meeting a little bit shaky.

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<v Speaker 3>I was literally shaky.

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<v Speaker 1>Little unsettled. I'm sort of blithely ignorant of Well, I've.

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<v Speaker 2>Seen the headlines, but can you tell me why? Because

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<v Speaker 2>they were literally in shock after they heard his speech.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, they were in shock. So what did he say? Well,

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<v Speaker 3>for one, he said, everyone needs to relax about Nazis.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's listen to a grab now.

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<v Speaker 4>Again. We don't have to agree with everything or anything

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<v Speaker 4>that people say, but when people represent, when political leaders

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<v Speaker 4>represent an important constituency, it is incumbent upon us to

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<v Speaker 4>at least participate in dialogue with them.

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<v Speaker 1>An important constituency.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's not what is the Nazis.

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<v Speaker 1>So this is really the next level of Trump's. Some

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<v Speaker 1>of them are very nice people.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. So you have to know the context for this,

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<v Speaker 3>which is at the weekend before this speech, Vance met

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<v Speaker 3>with representatives of Germany's AfD party. This is a far

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<v Speaker 3>right party which some describe as neo Nazi, and for

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<v Speaker 3>good reason, its leaders have been convicted for using Nazi

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<v Speaker 3>slogans a political rallies, and they've also said that not

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<v Speaker 3>all SS leaders were bad guys.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it the German election?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, iminently to day is the German election, and the

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<v Speaker 3>AfD is actually second in the polls. It looks like

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<v Speaker 3>it's going to have its strongest showing ever. But what's

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<v Speaker 3>interesting is how Germany responded. So the German Chancellor Olf

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<v Speaker 3>Schultz got up afterwards and he gave this speech. He said, basically,

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<v Speaker 3>not on my watch. He said that Germany has committed

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<v Speaker 3>to never again returning to fascism and the Holocaust, and

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<v Speaker 3>that the laws that Germany has restricting hate speech that

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<v Speaker 3>Vance was referring to ensure that that commitment is upheld.

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<v Speaker 3>He said that they're not going to work with the AAFD.

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<v Speaker 3>There's some talk about whether or not the AfD is

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<v Speaker 3>going to be part of the government coalition, after all,

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<v Speaker 3>they are tracking second in the polls. But all the

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<v Speaker 3>other mainstream parties in Germany have said no, they're not

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<v Speaker 3>going to work with the AfD, and Schultz, in response

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<v Speaker 3>to Vance, said, I'm holding the line. We are going

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<v Speaker 3>to make sure that Nazis do not end up in

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<v Speaker 3>the German parliament again. Now do you see why I

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<v Speaker 3>was shaky on Monday?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And the.

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<v Speaker 3>Problem is Vance is forty by the way, he's really young.

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<v Speaker 3>So a lot of the European leaders there was reporting

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<v Speaker 3>afterwards that part of what shocked them is that Trump

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<v Speaker 3>is an old man and you can likely write him

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<v Speaker 3>off as he's a little kookie. He's going to leave

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<v Speaker 3>the world stage.

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<v Speaker 1>He also doesn't believe in anything other than Trump, like

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<v Speaker 1>he has no real ideology, which is just I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to be really populars so everyone loves me because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>the biggest, strongest.

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<v Speaker 2>Can I ask what JD. Vance is doing in Germany? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>what does he have to do with any of this?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, he was in Germany because there's this thing called

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<v Speaker 3>the Munich Security Conference, which is where European leaders get

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<v Speaker 3>together to talk about how to help Ukraine and other

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<v Speaker 3>security issues, none of which Vance talked about in the speech.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is the kind of stuff that Trump wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to do because he would think that it would

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<v Speaker 1>be boring. Yes, so do you think this is how

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to go?

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<v Speaker 3>The diet coach are smaller in Europe, so that would

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<v Speaker 3>be another reason why he doesn't want to travel there.

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<v Speaker 3>The other thing is that Elon Musk went to an

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<v Speaker 3>AfD rally. I don't know if you saw that via

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<v Speaker 3>video link.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, Okay, kats out of the bag.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm shocked we've kept this a secret for so long.

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<v Speaker 5>In two weeks, my show is coming out, which I'm

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<v Speaker 5>so excited for, and also my business, which I think

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<v Speaker 5>there's been a lot of curiosity about. Last year, I

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<v Speaker 5>had thought, you know what American Revier. That sounds like

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<v Speaker 5>such a great name. It's my neighborhood. It's a nickname

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<v Speaker 5>for Santa Barbara, but it limited me to things that

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<v Speaker 5>were just manufactured.

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<v Speaker 2>And grown in this area.

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<v Speaker 5>Then Netflix came on, not just as my partner in

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<v Speaker 5>the show, but as my partner in my business, which

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<v Speaker 5>was huge.

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<v Speaker 1>So I thought about it.

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<v Speaker 5>And I've been waiting for a moment to share a

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<v Speaker 5>name that I'd secured in twenty twenty two, and this

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<v Speaker 5>is the moment. And it's called as Ever.

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<v Speaker 2>As Ever essentially means.

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<v Speaker 5>As it's always been. And if you followed me since

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<v Speaker 5>twenty fourteen with the Tig, you know I've always loved

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<v Speaker 5>cooking and crafting and gardening. This is what I do

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<v Speaker 5>and I haven't been able to share it with you

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<v Speaker 5>in the same way for the past few years, but

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<v Speaker 5>now I can, so as things are starting to trickle

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<v Speaker 5>out there, I wanted you to hear it from me first.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, there will be fruit preserves.

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<v Speaker 5>I think we're all clear at this point that jam

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<v Speaker 5>is my jam, but there's so many more products that

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<v Speaker 5>I just love that I use in my home, and

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<v Speaker 5>now it's time to share it with you, so I

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<v Speaker 5>can't wait for you to see it.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks guys, if you have been waiting for pots of

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<v Speaker 2>Jam by American Riviera Orchard, we have terrible news because

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<v Speaker 2>Megan Markle yesterday announced a new identity for her lifestyle brand,

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<v Speaker 2>now called as Ever.

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<v Speaker 1>She shouldn't need me labels, she is going to need

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<v Speaker 1>new like.

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<v Speaker 3>Pour Out some strawberry jam from American revera orchard.

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<v Speaker 2>If you have a Google alert set for American Riviera orchard,

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<v Speaker 2>which mayor does, you'll know that the trademark was rejected

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<v Speaker 2>last year as one cannot have exclusive rights to the

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<v Speaker 2>name of a place. An American reviewer an orchard or

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<v Speaker 2>an orchard. American Riviera is a commonly used place name

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<v Speaker 2>to describe Santa Barbara, where she lives with Harry. There

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<v Speaker 2>were other issues, apparently the o in the logo didn't

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<v Speaker 2>look enough like a letter, and something about other food

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<v Speaker 2>companies saying the name was too similar to theirs, which

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think is that uncommon. Interestingly, American commentator and

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<v Speaker 2>Royal reporter Kinsey Schofield said in October last year. She

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<v Speaker 2>said that there were rumors that Netflix has said, allow

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<v Speaker 2>us to manage the retail strategy if you can't find

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<v Speaker 2>a CEO or somebody willing to work with you. They

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<v Speaker 2>said this to Megan, and Netflix saw an opportunity there.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's just interesting because that's exactly what has happened.

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<v Speaker 1>Netflix so true, I'd forgotten about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Has come on board as a partner. Meya. Meghan says

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<v Speaker 2>the original name meant she was limited to things that

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<v Speaker 2>she would have to manufacture and grow in the American

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<v Speaker 2>riviera orchard. Do you buy it?

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's great spin. I think it's really good spin.

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<v Speaker 1>I think what I took away from this video is

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<v Speaker 1>that Megan is picking up her influencing exactly where she

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<v Speaker 1>left off around twenty fifteen twenty sixteen when she shut

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<v Speaker 1>down the TIG and when social media and influencing really changed.

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<v Speaker 1>And none of this is a disc at all because

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<v Speaker 1>I know that I'm sort of the one on the

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<v Speaker 1>show that's considered to be anti Meghan. I'm not at all.

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<v Speaker 1>But my observation as to why people often or why

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<v Speaker 1>people in the last few weeks have found this stuff

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<v Speaker 1>it sort of feels a little bit out of step,

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<v Speaker 1>and some people say it doesn't feel authentic or it

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<v Speaker 1>feels fake. The more modern way to do it in

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<v Speaker 1>the TikTok era is to be like a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>like Ryan Reynolds at Saturday Night Live. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if you've seen the fiftieth Birthday celebrations and he was

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<v Speaker 1>in the audience. It's like Lively and Tina Fay and

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<v Speaker 1>Amy Poehler were like, hey, Ryan, Reynolds in the audience

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<v Speaker 1>and they're like, hey, Ryan, how you doing, And he's like,

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<v Speaker 1>why what have you heard.

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<v Speaker 2>Which, to be clear, is just as manufactured.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, totally, But it's not pretending that everything that

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<v Speaker 1>everybody knows it's not gaslighting, and it's owning it and

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<v Speaker 1>being honest about like he was making funny, is it.

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<v Speaker 2>Gas lighting or is it someone don't we get to

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<v Speaker 2>tell our own stories about copyright issues? Well, like what

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<v Speaker 2>out of basic human right?

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<v Speaker 1>She can do whatever she wants. But I'm just saying

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<v Speaker 1>that if I was advising her, it would be just go, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you might have heard a few copyright issues.

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<v Speaker 1>Turns out American Riviera very popular. Luckily, back in twenty

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<v Speaker 1>twenty two, I reserved another name because thinking about the

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<v Speaker 1>name for a and can be quite hard. So on

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<v Speaker 1>my short list was as ever, and here's why it's

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<v Speaker 1>actually going to be even better.

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<v Speaker 3>Also, to me his point, there were so many edits

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<v Speaker 3>in that. So she kept in the start where Harry,

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<v Speaker 3>of course says I've turned the camera on away, which is.

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<v Speaker 2>Weird because it's selfimotes. So it's like, why would.

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<v Speaker 1>Which was that was all very calculous and That's what

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<v Speaker 1>I mean. People see through those tricks. Now. Ten years

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<v Speaker 1>ago they would have been seen to be charming, or

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<v Speaker 1>people wouldn't have picked up on them. But we've moved

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<v Speaker 1>on and influencing his moved on, and because of TikTok

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<v Speaker 1>and the desire for authenticity, we've also moved past the

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<v Speaker 1>faux authenticity. They're oh so grateful. Oh my god, you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>can you believe Netflix? You know, like all that feels disingenuous,

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<v Speaker 1>Whereas I think the criticism of Meganofen is that she

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<v Speaker 1>just can't have a laugh at herself.

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<v Speaker 2>She said, Jam is her jam. That was very funny.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you make that was funny?

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<v Speaker 3>So, first of all, I want to make an observation

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<v Speaker 3>about the name as Ever. I had a boss once

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<v Speaker 3>who was a real famous, good writer, and this boss

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<v Speaker 3>advised me to always sign my emails as Ever because

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<v Speaker 3>he explained to me that whether you mean to diss

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<v Speaker 3>someone or to say I still hate you, or to

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<v Speaker 3>say you still annoy me, as Ever is the ultimate

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<v Speaker 3>way to just be authentic to yourself but still appear

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<v Speaker 3>polite to everyone you write to.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a great name. I think it's so much better

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<v Speaker 1>than America.

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<v Speaker 2>Like as ever, fuck you yes exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>The second thing I noticed about this name change is

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<v Speaker 3>that there was some reporting by Puck recently about how

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<v Speaker 3>Flamingo a state which is actually started by an Australian

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<v Speaker 3>man named Richard Christensen and which I believe is sold

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<v Speaker 3>in Mecca here in Australia, which spaced out of LA

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<v Speaker 3>There was some reporting that Megan had asked to work

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<v Speaker 3>with Richard on jams and to sort of collaborate, and

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<v Speaker 3>that he had said that he didn't want to do that.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's why she went off to start her own company.

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<v Speaker 1>Is He a beauty brand?

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<v Speaker 3>It started with soaps and candles right and now has

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<v Speaker 3>moved into, among other things, jams, rose, et cetera. It's

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<v Speaker 3>sort of a lifestyle.

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<v Speaker 1>Brand, which I assume and not sold a Meca unlesson's

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<v Speaker 1>been a while, and stuff in in Mecca.

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<v Speaker 3>And so I think that by changing it to as Eva,

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<v Speaker 3>she's we know that Megan's hyper sensitive to what people

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<v Speaker 3>are saying about her online. I'm sure she tracks that's

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<v Speaker 3>understandable in her course, and didn't like the idea that

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<v Speaker 3>she was being reported as kind of a copycat or

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<v Speaker 3>someone who was spurned from a collaboration, so started her

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<v Speaker 3>own thing as ever is moving it away from that

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<v Speaker 3>idea of a lifestyle brand rooted in place that he does,

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<v Speaker 3>and it's more making it into more of a generic

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<v Speaker 3>influencer brand.

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<v Speaker 1>To any better. And it also says classic, right. I

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<v Speaker 1>think her style is generally very classic. You know, she's

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<v Speaker 1>in her white shirt, her simple necklace, her blue jeans.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that is really true to her. Giving how

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<v Speaker 1>she debuted on the World Stages. She remembers she went

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<v Speaker 1>to that event with Harry wearing blue jeans and a

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<v Speaker 1>white shirt, and that's her classic signature.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I want to give her a bit.

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<v Speaker 2>More credit because people are saying I've seen the word

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<v Speaker 2>gas lighting thrown around, which is, we know what happened,

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<v Speaker 2>we know what happened with a copyright, and you're pretending

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<v Speaker 2>like it didn't. I think this is a case of

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<v Speaker 2>two things can be true, like, yes, there was the

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<v Speaker 2>whole copyright issue, but she also might have looked at

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<v Speaker 2>all the back and forth and gone, this isn't worth it.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't say a very long name.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she rethought it, which I had this yesterday. I

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<v Speaker 2>wrote a tagline for a podcast and we worked out

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<v Speaker 2>that there was something incredibly wrong with it, and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, great, so we pivot.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, totally. But my point is to take people

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<v Speaker 1>along with you. What people expect now is pulling back

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<v Speaker 1>the curtain, but in a real way, not going you know. So,

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<v Speaker 1>here's why I changed it. And you're right, that could

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<v Speaker 1>have been part of the reason that she changed it.

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<v Speaker 1>But everybody knows about the track.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we've heard story A and she's like, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just gonna throw story bas out there. This is my

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<v Speaker 2>concern because she did. Let's not forget that she did

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<v Speaker 2>send the jams out already. She sent the American reviewer.

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<v Speaker 1>Richard Tigue and had them and she on bacon.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and is she going to be My concern is

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<v Speaker 2>that Megan Mirkal becomes the boy who cried Jen No.

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<v Speaker 2>That is a real yeah, because you can't just keep

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<v Speaker 2>sending people jam and expecting them to spruk it. You've

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<v Speaker 2>already used.

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<v Speaker 1>She didn't mention dog treats either.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's going to be dog treats. I reckon

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<v Speaker 2>it's going to be scented candles. I think we're going

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<v Speaker 2>to have a tetwel and a fancy bas.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not far away from learning what it is. I

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<v Speaker 1>was slightly surprised about the Netflix connection, even though very

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<v Speaker 1>good research.

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<v Speaker 2>So Netflix is launching. I did some reading on it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like an Amazon storefront, like it's launching a shop.

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<v Speaker 1>You were like, shoppable.

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<v Speaker 2>That's really clever.

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<v Speaker 1>So it'll also get all the affiliate links.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Smart. And you know she said word has been leaking out.

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<v Speaker 1>I hadn't heard any words, so I think props to

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<v Speaker 1>her for getting ahead of the new song.

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<v Speaker 3>Apparently a news outlet was going to publish that she

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<v Speaker 3>changed the name, so she was kind of forced into

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<v Speaker 3>it a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>I liked the euphemism of the century, which was there's

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<v Speaker 2>been a lot of curiosity about my.

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<v Speaker 3>Business, a lot of people asking.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of asking, like are they asking or are

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<v Speaker 2>they smearing you? In every publication in the entire world.

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<v Speaker 3>But me, I think you're onto something with the idea

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<v Speaker 3>that social media changed in the intervening years when she

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<v Speaker 3>was off it, and it's sort of like, you know

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<v Speaker 3>how people say that your persona is crystallized at the

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<v Speaker 3>time you became famous. At the time she became famous,

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<v Speaker 3>we were doing Instagram grids and CPR shots of a

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<v Speaker 3>vocado toast and latte art.

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<v Speaker 1>That was what we were doing, yes, and putting little

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<v Speaker 1>flowers in ice school.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe it's some matchra if we were adventurous, but that

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<v Speaker 3>was the vibe back then, and you could call this

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<v Speaker 3>kind of like Instagram grid pr It feels like we've

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<v Speaker 3>moved on to something much looser, and she's trying the

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<v Speaker 3>loose with the Harry kicking off the video, but then

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<v Speaker 3>you got the editing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that doesn't want We've also done not just looser,

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<v Speaker 1>but also even Gwyneth Paltrow, who started with look at

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<v Speaker 1>my expensive things, she has to sell these candle smells

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<v Speaker 1>like a vagina.

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<v Speaker 3>She now sells skincaret Target Yeah, and.

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<v Speaker 1>Steaming vaginas because it wasn't enough for her to just

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<v Speaker 1>be fancy.

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<v Speaker 3>She doesn't sell steaming vaginas, I don't think.

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<v Speaker 1>But hot steaming vaginas.

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<v Speaker 2>That is a gap in the mine.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Come in a moment, why Elon Musk is suddenly covered

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<v Speaker 2>in kids and the woman who regrets her open marriage

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<v Speaker 2>and says she should have just had an affair instead.

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<v Speaker 2>We discuss after the breaking.

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<v Speaker 3>Every day is take your kids to work day at

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<v Speaker 3>the White House. These days, you've probably seen the pictures

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<v Speaker 3>of Elon Musks striding through the corridors of power in

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<v Speaker 3>Washington with a four year old on his shoulders.

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<v Speaker 1>I have seen that. And also you've been sending me

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<v Speaker 1>links about a conservative influencer who's having his like twenty

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<v Speaker 1>to fifteen.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm obsessed and you're ignoring my lengths and that's hurtful.

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<v Speaker 3>So now I'm going to sit here and explain the

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<v Speaker 3>story to you, okay, while you have no choice in

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<v Speaker 3>the matter. So the kid that Elon is carrying around

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<v Speaker 3>on his shoulders is named Actually, I think we better

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<v Speaker 3>hear from Elon himself on the name.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it's just X, the letter X and then

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<v Speaker 2>the AE is pronounced ash. Yeah. Twelve is my contribution.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh y twelve Archangel twelve, the precursor to the s

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<v Speaker 6>R seventy one, coolest plain ever.

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<v Speaker 1>So some people shouldn't be about to make more children

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<v Speaker 1>more visually.

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<v Speaker 3>I only just realized that when he was jumping around

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<v Speaker 3>with Trump on stage during the election campaign, that was

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<v Speaker 3>to create the X shape with his jump. Did you

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<v Speaker 3>realize that now? And it took our entire production staff

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<v Speaker 3>here to nut out their names and ages today and

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<v Speaker 3>we're still not quite sure we've got them straight. Just

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<v Speaker 3>this week, there's been another child announced. Ashley Saint Clair,

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<v Speaker 3>who was a twenty six year old conservative influencer and author,

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<v Speaker 3>said she had masks Baby earlier this year and that

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<v Speaker 3>he has now ghosted her. This is what is no

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<v Speaker 3>one in the business as a leopard face eating situation.

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<v Speaker 2>I've never heard that.

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<v Speaker 3>It means you might think leopards are glorious creatures and

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<v Speaker 3>very dignified and elegant and beautiful, but one day, one day,

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<v Speaker 3>they're going to eat your face.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'll get you close you and they're going to

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<v Speaker 1>eat your face.

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<v Speaker 3>So Ashley and Elon are now squabbling on X the

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<v Speaker 3>social media platform, not the child. Moving back to ex

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<v Speaker 3>achild Ex, a child is in the White House acting

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<v Speaker 3>in all sorts of age appropriate ways, and he also

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<v Speaker 3>appears to have been doing things that a lot of

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<v Speaker 3>world leaders might like to do, like he did appear

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<v Speaker 3>to tell Donald Trump to shush your mouth, and he

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<v Speaker 3>also wiped his snot on Trump's desk.

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<v Speaker 1>So I like him.

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<v Speaker 2>I like him.

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<v Speaker 3>Ex is being a normal kid. That's not up for discussion.

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<v Speaker 3>What I want to talk about today is the adults

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<v Speaker 3>behavior in this Why is Musk doing this and how

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<v Speaker 3>should we feel about it? In The Guardian, Awa Madawi

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<v Speaker 3>had some theories about what she called Musk's pr strategy,

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<v Speaker 3>and she wrote she didn't find it cute. She said,

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<v Speaker 3>having a kid on your shoulders makes you seem less

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<v Speaker 3>like a robber baron with a weird breeding fetish and

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<v Speaker 3>more like a fun dad. But this is what I

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<v Speaker 3>want to bring to you. Could it be a good

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<v Speaker 3>thing to normalize children in all areas of life and

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<v Speaker 3>to highlight look, dads also have to juggle work with parenting.

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<v Speaker 3>And didn't we all celebrate Jacinda when she became the

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<v Speaker 3>first world leader to attend the you in General Assembly

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<v Speaker 3>with a baby?

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<v Speaker 2>Remember how to Sindra Ardun was an elected official. I

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<v Speaker 2>know that was a totally different point. Oh yeah, that yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>That he has referred to X his child. This is

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<v Speaker 2>a quote from Musk as a cuteness prop He's used

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<v Speaker 2>that term. What riles me because I've seen these images

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<v Speaker 2>and I've had to assess my own emotional reaction because

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<v Speaker 2>part of me is thinking the White House government jobs

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<v Speaker 2>for people who still have their jobs are full of

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<v Speaker 2>working parents and they don't get to walk around with

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<v Speaker 2>their kids on their shoulders, and in fact, that's not

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<v Speaker 2>what most of childcare looks like parenting or parenting. I

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<v Speaker 2>remembered that when Elon Musk took over Twitter now X

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<v Speaker 2>he cut paid parentally from twenty weeks to fourteen days,

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<v Speaker 2>and that captured it.

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<v Speaker 3>Today are bringing receipts.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm bringing receipts. That's what I just went. You are

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<v Speaker 2>a business owner. You're telling me that on the floor

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<v Speaker 2>of Tesla, you're gonna let your worker bring in their

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<v Speaker 2>sick kid or if childcare falls through, you have any

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<v Speaker 2>empathy for that? That to me to come in with

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<v Speaker 2>your kids. Firstly, it's a prop and secondly it's taunting Grimes,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I think that the context of his relationship with

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<v Speaker 2>Grimes the mother of this child, he has more legal

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<v Speaker 2>resources than anyone who's ever lived, and he's keeping Grimes

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<v Speaker 2>from that child because he has this relationship. He's sort

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<v Speaker 2>of admitted X is his favorite, like he's prodigy.

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<v Speaker 1>Really yep, so does Grimes not see X?

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<v Speaker 2>No, So he's kept Grimes from his child. They're like

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<v Speaker 2>fighting in court and he says, oh, X mostly lives

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<v Speaker 2>with me. Grimes has said, I want to see my

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<v Speaker 2>own child and has said, I don't want my child

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<v Speaker 2>in public like that, Like I feel deeply uncomfortable with

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<v Speaker 2>his face being publicized. So I think it's taunting her

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<v Speaker 2>on purpose.

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<v Speaker 1>That's extraordinary. I didn't know that. I know that he

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<v Speaker 1>keeps having all of these children with these women, and

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<v Speaker 1>supposedly always by IVF because he doesn't always have romantic

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<v Speaker 1>relationships with them. Even in the case of this conservative

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<v Speaker 1>influencer Ashley Sinclair, she didn't.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, we don't be his girlfriend. No, she didn't claim

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<v Speaker 3>to be his girlfriend. It's interesting, Jesse, I think you're

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<v Speaker 3>onto something with the idea of taunting Grimes because also

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<v Speaker 3>this week he took his twins, Strider and as you were,

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<v Speaker 3>who were three years old, and he had those children

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<v Speaker 3>with chevon Zillis, who seems to be the only woman

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<v Speaker 3>who is now actually seeking out Musk's company. He took

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<v Speaker 3>her and those twins to meet with Indian Prime Minister

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<v Speaker 3>Miranda Modi and the kids were playing on the floor

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<v Speaker 3>as the Indian Prime Minister spoke with an unelected official

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<v Speaker 3>who overstated his student visa in the US, and Chavonne

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<v Speaker 3>was there, and it was really quite a contrast to

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<v Speaker 3>what happened with grime.

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<v Speaker 1>Why is he meeting with what? I mean, I guess

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<v Speaker 1>he's a force onto his own right, But is he

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<v Speaker 1>representing the US government in those meetings or we just

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<v Speaker 1>don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>We just don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, apparently it had something to do with business stealings,

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<v Speaker 2>but I also think there's something very revealing about business stealings.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think so, yeah, they could hope.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I like that.

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<v Speaker 2>You just you know, when you have a meeting in

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<v Speaker 2>the Oval office and you're like, I might just have

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<v Speaker 2>it there. Oh and here's my son. But the other

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<v Speaker 2>thing that's very revealing is what his eldest children think

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<v Speaker 2>of him, and they don't want anything to do with

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<v Speaker 2>being in the public eye with him.

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<v Speaker 3>And similar to Brad Pitt's kids.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, which I just think that tells you something. Vivian

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<v Speaker 2>Jenna Wilson, who is Elon Musk's daughter, she transitioned. She

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<v Speaker 2>identifies as trans Elon Musk has spoken about her story

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<v Speaker 2>in a way that she has expressed is incredibly hurtful.

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<v Speaker 2>He has politicized it. He's sat there with you know,

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<v Speaker 2>right wing pundits and dead named her. Whatever your politics,

0:21:52.341 --> 0:21:53.381
<v Speaker 2>that's your flesh and blood.

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<v Speaker 1>He has to weaponize the story of his own child.

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<v Speaker 3>Also this week released a video where she explained how

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<v Speaker 3>she learned of the existence of another sibling of hers

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<v Speaker 3>on Reddit.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they all find out, and that's what she says,

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<v Speaker 2>is that she talks about a really you know, dire

0:22:07.101 --> 0:22:09.861
<v Speaker 2>childhood and also you learn about siblings in the head lines.

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<v Speaker 1>We've spoken about Brian Johnson on this show before, the

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<v Speaker 1>guy who's trying to buio hack his whole body and

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<v Speaker 1>live forever. This whole thing with having lots and lots.

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<v Speaker 2>Of children pronatalism.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you explain that.

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<v Speaker 2>The thing with the tech bros seems to be almost

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<v Speaker 2>a eugenic The world needs more elands.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. So this is a movement that started in Silicon

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<v Speaker 3>Valley a few years ago, and basically its proponents are

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<v Speaker 3>convinced that low birth rates are the greatest danger to civilization.

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<v Speaker 3>Forget climate change, we need more vehicles.

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<v Speaker 2>Which it has a grain of truth to it, though

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<v Speaker 2>our declining birth rate taxes is an issue.

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<v Speaker 3>And in particular self appointed smart people need to have

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<v Speaker 3>more children to ensure the survival of the human race.

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<v Speaker 3>Mask actually said it a summit last year. If people

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<v Speaker 3>don't have more children, civilization is going to crumble mark

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<v Speaker 3>my words. So I think there's something a little sinister

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<v Speaker 3>in this too.

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<v Speaker 1>Well. Also is very different when you're in l on

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<v Speaker 1>Musk and you can have lots of children versus someone

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<v Speaker 1>who has no health insurance, yeah, and can't pay chi

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<v Speaker 1>and can't pay for charter.

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<v Speaker 3>Or apparently he's not helping allegedly not helping Ashley out

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<v Speaker 3>with any of her childcare expenses.

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<v Speaker 1>I wonder if there's a like a process like a submissions,

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<v Speaker 1>if there's just an email address that you apply to

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<v Speaker 1>just for some of his sperm, and if anyone vets it,

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<v Speaker 1>or it's just pretty much like if you want it,

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<v Speaker 1>here you go.

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<v Speaker 2>Apparently we're not wearing Apple watches on our wrists anymore,

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<v Speaker 2>and Amelia clearly didn't get the memo. So The New

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<v Speaker 2>York Times published a story this month with the headline

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<v Speaker 2>an ankle monitor, No, that's my Apple Watch. The reason

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<v Speaker 2>is that apparently it improves step tracking. I've found this

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<v Speaker 2>with pushing a pram. It doesn't get my steps in

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<v Speaker 2>and your hand. Yeah, I think treadmill desks and that

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<v Speaker 2>kind of stuff, you're not getting steps. In certain professions.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't wear a watch like a nurse like a surgeon.

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<v Speaker 1>But you can tuck it like a hand model.

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<v Speaker 2>In exactly, you can put it on your ankle. Tattoos

0:24:05.381 --> 0:24:07.501
<v Speaker 2>mess up with the heart rate sensor, and a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people have press tattoos. Yeah, and final reason is

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<v Speaker 2>personal style. I have a friend who tells me that

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<v Speaker 2>my Apple watch makes me look like a spy kid.

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<v Speaker 2>And she said that her greatest fear kept drop at

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<v Speaker 2>night was the idea of me walking down the aisle

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<v Speaker 2>with my Apple Watch on because she knew I wanted.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not true, you are a bit of a spy kid.

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<v Speaker 2>I really like it. And to this day, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know wedding day, how many steps. I don't know if

0:24:28.702 --> 0:24:32.061
<v Speaker 2>it was a good day, if it was a bad day. Now, Amelia,

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<v Speaker 2>will you be moving your watch to your ankle?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I won't be. Despite the fact that Mia has

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<v Speaker 3>issued a fashion edict that I need to get a

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<v Speaker 3>new wristband.

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<v Speaker 1>Like the color of a dead body.

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<v Speaker 3>The color of a dead body.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and it's made of I don't know, plastic.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's the color maybe of a brain.

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<v Speaker 1>Could be she's doing it a little secret flex. I

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<v Speaker 1>funnily enough, just moved to a cassio old fashioned digital watch.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you considered wearing that on your ankle?

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<v Speaker 1>No, but I might now that I'm not using my

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<v Speaker 1>Apple Watch on my wrists so much anymore, maybe I'll

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<v Speaker 1>strap it to my ankle. A little bit tricky to

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<v Speaker 1>look at the time or to use Siri.

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<v Speaker 3>It's true, maybe look. The whole reason they have this

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<v Speaker 3>is mostly for the whole time telling element.

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<v Speaker 1>So I wonder if the double advantage is that you

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<v Speaker 1>become a little bit more bendy because you constantly.

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<v Speaker 2>I want a strap that says this is not an

0:25:24.061 --> 0:25:27.061
<v Speaker 2>angle monitor, because it does look that's exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>Just like barrel leg jeans, open marriages appear to be

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<v Speaker 1>having a moment. Nearly one in three unmarried Americans report

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<v Speaker 1>having been in a consensually non monogamous relationship at some point,

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<v Speaker 1>so consensual non monogamy or an open marriage or polyamory

0:27:06.581 --> 0:27:10.582
<v Speaker 1>is distinct from cheating, which usually happens secret where only

0:27:10.621 --> 0:27:14.181
<v Speaker 1>one person knows about it. In Australia, there was a

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<v Speaker 1>survey in twenty twenty three of fifty thousand people, and

0:27:17.222 --> 0:27:20.861
<v Speaker 1>that revealed about one point four of them were currently

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<v Speaker 1>in an open relationship, so it's definitely growing. And dating

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<v Speaker 1>apps like Field say that they have seen up to

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<v Speaker 1>a five hundred percent increase in users, including terms like

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<v Speaker 1>ethically non monogamous, or polyamorous or open in their profiles,

0:27:36.101 --> 0:27:39.542
<v Speaker 1>and OkCupid has also reported similar growth. There's a lot

0:27:39.581 --> 0:27:42.181
<v Speaker 1>of gossip about high profile figures in the media and

0:27:42.262 --> 0:27:46.701
<v Speaker 1>Hollywood about who is in an open relationship that we

0:27:46.821 --> 0:27:50.461
<v Speaker 1>cannot repeat here. But the question is is it a

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<v Speaker 1>good idea? Well maybe for some, but not for everybody.

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<v Speaker 1>There was an essay in the Cut this week called

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<v Speaker 1>I Opened my marriage Maybe I should have tried an

0:27:58.661 --> 0:28:03.302
<v Speaker 1>affair instead, by a writer called Haley Moltech, and she

0:28:03.462 --> 0:28:06.262
<v Speaker 1>wrote about her experience. She got married to her high

0:28:06.262 --> 0:28:08.101
<v Speaker 1>school sweetheart. She'd been dating this guy since they was

0:28:08.141 --> 0:28:11.181
<v Speaker 1>boy sixteen, and a few months into their marriage in

0:28:11.262 --> 0:28:15.021
<v Speaker 1>that first year, they opened it up. And writing about

0:28:15.061 --> 0:28:18.782
<v Speaker 1>how she explored her motivation to do this, she wrote,

0:28:19.222 --> 0:28:21.061
<v Speaker 1>there was a real desire at the beginning of my

0:28:21.101 --> 0:28:24.222
<v Speaker 1>attempts at an open marriage. That desire fit perfectly over

0:28:24.262 --> 0:28:26.581
<v Speaker 1>what I was too afraid to admit that I wanted

0:28:26.581 --> 0:28:29.061
<v Speaker 1>a feeling more than I wanted anything else, that I

0:28:29.101 --> 0:28:32.061
<v Speaker 1>wanted it so badly, but somehow not badly enough to

0:28:32.101 --> 0:28:36.222
<v Speaker 1>do anything smart or kind for everyone involved and leave

0:28:36.302 --> 0:28:39.582
<v Speaker 1>my marriage. I thought that was so interesting, And then

0:28:39.702 --> 0:28:43.142
<v Speaker 1>she sort of talks more about is it infidelity to

0:28:43.142 --> 0:28:45.582
<v Speaker 1>have a flicker of desire for another person or to

0:28:45.661 --> 0:28:48.461
<v Speaker 1>foster an unexpected crush. Did I want the right to

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<v Speaker 1>act on every impulse or did I only want to

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<v Speaker 1>retain the right to a realm of feeling that remained

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<v Speaker 1>my own. If what we need is a secret, then

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<v Speaker 1>there's no form of communication that will help. If what

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<v Speaker 1>we need is freedom, then there is no form of

0:29:00.462 --> 0:29:04.982
<v Speaker 1>forever we can trust. Amelia, why do you think there

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<v Speaker 1>is this movement now to open marriages? What's different about

0:29:08.342 --> 0:29:11.382
<v Speaker 1>this point in time stick of the partners they might

0:29:11.422 --> 0:29:12.622
<v Speaker 1>have been within the pandemic.

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<v Speaker 3>I do think there's been a real seed change. Obviously,

0:29:15.342 --> 0:29:19.862
<v Speaker 3>non monogamous relationships have always existed. But I kept thinking

0:29:19.862 --> 0:29:22.062
<v Speaker 3>about do you remember that iconic scene and when Harry

0:29:22.062 --> 0:29:24.502
<v Speaker 3>met Sally, which is, by the way, twenty five years old. Now,

0:29:24.942 --> 0:29:28.382
<v Speaker 3>Carrie Fisher's character is in bed with her husband, and

0:29:28.462 --> 0:29:31.942
<v Speaker 3>both of them have fielded calls from Meg Ryan and

0:29:32.182 --> 0:29:35.822
<v Speaker 3>Billy Crystal about how awful dating is. And Carrie Fisher

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<v Speaker 3>turns to her husband and she says, tell me, I'll

0:29:39.262 --> 0:29:42.262
<v Speaker 3>never have to be out there again. And her husband says,

0:29:42.262 --> 0:29:44.102
<v Speaker 3>You'll never have to be out there again, and he

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<v Speaker 3>puts an arm around her. And the whole point is

0:29:46.702 --> 0:29:50.661
<v Speaker 3>dating is awful. The whole point of getting someone is

0:29:50.702 --> 0:29:53.582
<v Speaker 3>that you don't have to keep dating. And what's interesting

0:29:53.622 --> 0:29:56.062
<v Speaker 3>about that article is I thought it was a wonderfully

0:29:56.062 --> 0:29:58.142
<v Speaker 3>written article and it really gave me an insight into

0:29:58.142 --> 0:30:01.142
<v Speaker 3>why people do this. But they had been together since

0:30:01.222 --> 0:30:04.542
<v Speaker 3>high school, and I wonder if there's some element in

0:30:04.622 --> 0:30:07.462
<v Speaker 3>relationships which have been going for so long from such

0:30:07.502 --> 0:30:10.022
<v Speaker 3>a young age, where it's only natural that you might

0:30:10.062 --> 0:30:11.661
<v Speaker 3>get to the point where you need a bit of

0:30:11.742 --> 0:30:13.062
<v Speaker 3>novelty and things.

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<v Speaker 1>And exploring other versions of yourself, because something that people

0:30:16.862 --> 0:30:20.782
<v Speaker 1>talk about in long term relationships is that you don't

0:30:20.822 --> 0:30:23.502
<v Speaker 1>always like what you see when you look at yourself

0:30:23.542 --> 0:30:27.741
<v Speaker 1>through that person's eyes because of the drudgery and the

0:30:27.902 --> 0:30:30.502
<v Speaker 1>history of everything you've been together, which in some ways

0:30:30.542 --> 0:30:36.062
<v Speaker 1>is intimacy. But as Esther Perel says that familiarity can

0:30:36.142 --> 0:30:39.781
<v Speaker 1>breed out desire. So I think that as awful as

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<v Speaker 1>you say dating is, I think what can be attractive

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<v Speaker 1>about it to people who've been in long term relationships

0:30:46.222 --> 0:30:47.702
<v Speaker 1>is that excitement.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, breed out desire is a perfect explanation for the

0:30:51.102 --> 0:30:53.062
<v Speaker 3>look my husband gave me this morning when I asked

0:30:53.142 --> 0:30:55.062
<v Speaker 3>him to clean the kitchen on my way out the door.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you see too much of someone. And I think

0:30:58.422 --> 0:31:01.421
<v Speaker 2>sometimes it's actually the desire to have a secret. And

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<v Speaker 2>that's what I was thinking reading this, is that if

0:31:04.982 --> 0:31:08.421
<v Speaker 2>you have an open marriage, that it isn't scratched, because

0:31:08.462 --> 0:31:11.102
<v Speaker 2>then you have to have all these awkward conversation She

0:31:11.142 --> 0:31:15.142
<v Speaker 2>writes about the language, the corny and embarrassing language that

0:31:15.182 --> 0:31:18.582
<v Speaker 2>you have to use, that's all about boundary setting and

0:31:18.661 --> 0:31:21.542
<v Speaker 2>the rules and all that, which isn't very sexy. So

0:31:21.622 --> 0:31:23.502
<v Speaker 2>I think that for a lot of people it doesn't work.

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<v Speaker 2>And I've always thought, I think this is sort of

0:31:26.302 --> 0:31:29.741
<v Speaker 2>what the writer was talking about, that if you have

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<v Speaker 2>an open marriage, or if you have an affair, then

0:31:33.542 --> 0:31:36.382
<v Speaker 2>you often fall into a state of something called limerence

0:31:36.622 --> 0:31:39.742
<v Speaker 2>with someone. So if I was in an open marriage

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<v Speaker 2>and I went and met someone in an ideal world,

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<v Speaker 2>I could keep this kind of world spinning, and that's

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<v Speaker 2>all great, And then I go and dip out of

0:31:47.102 --> 0:31:51.142
<v Speaker 2>this when it suits me. That's not how desire works.

0:31:51.462 --> 0:31:53.862
<v Speaker 2>Like Limerens. This thing that you get in the really

0:31:53.902 --> 0:31:57.661
<v Speaker 2>early stages of a relationship with someone, the butterflies that

0:31:57.782 --> 0:32:02.382
<v Speaker 2>can't sleep, the obsession, las satuation. The last has to

0:32:02.462 --> 0:32:07.142
<v Speaker 2>take like it has to take from something. And if

0:32:07.182 --> 0:32:09.981
<v Speaker 2>that's what you're after, I think it's like it is

0:32:10.022 --> 0:32:11.542
<v Speaker 2>like a finite pie.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's what Esther Parrel, the relationships expert and guru, said

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<v Speaker 1>about why modern relationships and modern monogamy is just not

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<v Speaker 1>the answer for everybody anymore.

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<v Speaker 5>So.

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<v Speaker 6>Reconciling our need for security and our need for adventure

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<v Speaker 6>into one relationship, or what we today like to call

0:32:29.582 --> 0:32:32.942
<v Speaker 6>a passionate marriage, used to be a contradiction. In terms,

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<v Speaker 6>marriage was an economic institution in which you were given

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<v Speaker 6>a partnership for life in terms of children and social

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<v Speaker 6>status and succession and companionship. But now we want our

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<v Speaker 6>partner to still give us all these things. But in addition,

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<v Speaker 6>I want you to be my best friend and my

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<v Speaker 6>trusted confidant and my passionate lover to boot and we

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<v Speaker 6>live twice as long. So we come to one person

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<v Speaker 6>and we basically are asking them to give us what

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<v Speaker 6>wants an entire village used to provide.

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<v Speaker 1>Is this idea of why open marriages are becoming more

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<v Speaker 1>popular just because for some people they're accepting that they

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<v Speaker 1>can't get everything from one person and it's healthy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. I thought that this Esther Perel remark was really

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<v Speaker 3>interesting because I think often the knock on an open

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<v Speaker 3>marriage is that it is a way of essentially ending

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<v Speaker 3>the marriage. It's sort of like a stop gap on

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<v Speaker 3>the way to accepting the inevitable that the marriage has

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<v Speaker 3>run its course. But what I think Parrel is saying

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<v Speaker 3>is that it doesn't have to be like that. In fact,

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<v Speaker 3>it can be a way to ensure the relationships survival

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<v Speaker 3>by taking the pressure off your romantic partner now that

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<v Speaker 3>we expect them to be everything. It's a way of

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<v Speaker 3>turning outwoods rather than caving in on each other. And

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think it's a coincidence that we're seeing this

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<v Speaker 3>profusion of open marriages at a time when childcare has

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<v Speaker 3>become reduced to often just what the nuclear family can offer.

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<v Speaker 3>So you are running a daycare and a nonprofit daycare

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<v Speaker 3>in addition to trying to keep some kind of romantic

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<v Speaker 3>spark alive.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and Esther Perel also says that there are two

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<v Speaker 2>different times of relationships. One focuses on exclusiveness that's really

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<v Speaker 2>critical to some people's sense of what makes a romantic relationship,

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<v Speaker 2>and the other is uniqueness. And if you believe that

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<v Speaker 2>you have something unique with that partner, then it doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>matter if there are other partners involved too. But I

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<v Speaker 2>also thought, you know, the writer said non monogamy works

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<v Speaker 2>just about as well as monogamy does, which is not

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<v Speaker 2>very Whether or not she opened her marriage, would this

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<v Speaker 2>relationship have ended. Probably, It's hard to tell whether any

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<v Speaker 2>of this works because relationships end every day for all

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<v Speaker 2>different types of reasons.

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<v Speaker 3>And also, I don't think that it's a coincidence either

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<v Speaker 3>that what I've been hearing from people anecdotally in my

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<v Speaker 3>circles is that they're opening their marriages at the time

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<v Speaker 3>that they have little kids. And to me, at first,

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<v Speaker 3>that was really confusing because they thought that there's no

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<v Speaker 3>time or energy at that point. But maybe that's exactly

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<v Speaker 3>why they're doing it then, because there are so many

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<v Speaker 3>demands on their time and they're feeling so stretched in

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<v Speaker 3>their relationship that they need to outsource.

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<v Speaker 1>And are you feeling sexy when you've got little kids

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<v Speaker 1>or is that the whole point that you see yourself

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<v Speaker 1>in your partner's eyes as a mother? Yeah, and obviously

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<v Speaker 1>you know your children are a lot of you. So

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<v Speaker 1>to me, that was my strongest time of identity as

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<v Speaker 1>a mother and my biggest what do you call it

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<v Speaker 1>mattressence when I went from being a woman to being

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<v Speaker 1>a mother. And do you think that people are opening

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<v Speaker 1>up their marriages at that point because by being with

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<v Speaker 1>someone outside of that family, Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>They don't have to be the mother.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you don't have to be the mother, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you get to be just the sexy woman again.

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<v Speaker 3>But I was intrigued by the legitimatics of it, because

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<v Speaker 3>you know, you've got to account for every minute of

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<v Speaker 3>your time when you have little kids. And so I've

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<v Speaker 3>been asking how people do it, and then apparently the

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<v Speaker 3>most common way of handling it in a heterosexual couple

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<v Speaker 3>where they have children is that one partner does one

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<v Speaker 3>week with the kids and then the other goes off

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<v Speaker 3>for their sort of fantasy life and the enactment of

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<v Speaker 3>that for a week and then they swap back again.

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<v Speaker 1>We know that the divorce rates going up and up.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought it wasn't well.

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<v Speaker 3>Interestingly, the marriage rate, which I didn't realize this, has

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<v Speaker 3>been declining for five decades. There was this little bump

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<v Speaker 3>after COVID, but now it's still going down again. People

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<v Speaker 3>I think disenchanted with the whole idea, and also life

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<v Speaker 3>expectancy is esther for all points that has gone up

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<v Speaker 3>at the same time.

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<v Speaker 1>What's interesting is that the demographics where this is most popular,

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<v Speaker 1>unsurprisingly is young people and in queer communities. So Dad Savage,

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<v Speaker 1>who's a very well known sex and relationship agony uncle,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess he has for many decades been very open

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<v Speaker 1>about the fact that he's in a monogamish relationship is

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<v Speaker 1>how he calls it, and he talks about how in

0:36:46.741 --> 0:36:49.381
<v Speaker 1>the gay community that's actually quite common in the male

0:36:49.422 --> 0:36:54.701
<v Speaker 1>gay community, and in queer communities that's also become more

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<v Speaker 1>common than perhaps among straight people.

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<v Speaker 2>I think queer communities have had this incredible freedom to

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<v Speaker 2>make their own rules, and straight people are learning a.

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<v Speaker 1>Lot from them.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, a big thank you to all of you. The

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<v Speaker 2>out louders for listening to today's show and our fabulous

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<v Speaker 2>team for putting this show together. We will be back

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<v Speaker 2>in your ears tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 1>But before we go, if you can't get enough of

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<v Speaker 1>Apple Side of Vinegar and Jesse, you said that it's

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<v Speaker 1>now number three on Netflix globally.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's going off all around the world. It's been

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<v Speaker 2>really interesting to watch the US process this story. But

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<v Speaker 2>it's number one in Highland, number one in New Zealand.

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<v Speaker 1>You told me another fun fact about one of the

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<v Speaker 1>stars of the show.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my goodness. Okay, you know Lucy. I haven't told

0:37:34.661 --> 0:37:37.062
<v Speaker 2>you this yet a million you know. Oh, you haven't

0:37:37.062 --> 0:37:39.622
<v Speaker 2>watched the show. But Lucy, who made much to you,

0:37:40.181 --> 0:37:43.261
<v Speaker 2>stars as woman who's living with cancer and doing the

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<v Speaker 2>traditional therapies. She is the girlfriend of Dev Patel. Oh wow,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't think.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, the wife of one of the journalist and

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<v Speaker 1>she's Ozzy and Ozzie is with that and they've been

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<v Speaker 1>together for almost ten years, A long time.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, where was I? So we can't get enough of

0:38:01.062 --> 0:38:04.142
<v Speaker 1>this show and the Bell Gibson story, So we have

0:38:04.462 --> 0:38:08.142
<v Speaker 1>unpacked the actual story. We've spoken a lot on the

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<v Speaker 1>show about and aspects of this story, but in terms

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<v Speaker 1>of our review of the show itself and our recap,

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<v Speaker 1>we've recorded a whole subscriber episode and it includes the

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<v Speaker 1>scenes that we love the most, the actors, the script

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<v Speaker 1>to all of it. We will put a link to

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<v Speaker 1>that episode in the show notes and we'll see you tomorrow.

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