Speaker 1: So you're listening to a Muma Mia podcast.
Speaker 2: Mamma Maya acknowledges the traditional owners of the land and
Speaker 2: waters that this podcast is recorded on. I'm a Shiny
Speaker 2: Dante host of But Are You Happy? Did you know
Speaker 2: that one in five Australians experience and mental health condition
Speaker 2: each year, Yet too many suffer in silence. Talking about
Speaker 2: our feelings and experiences is one of the most powerful
Speaker 2: steps towards healing and knowing we're not alone. That's why
Speaker 2: we're introducing I Never told You This, a series created
Speaker 2: to spark honest, meaningful conversations that support better mental well being,
Speaker 2: brought to you by Medibank.
Speaker 1: There's been a change, and I just feel as though
Speaker 1: you rely on me a lot.
Speaker 3: I feel bad for leaving.
Speaker 4: Two people one big reveal. I never told you this
Speaker 4: A simple card game where one question could change everything.
Speaker 3: It starts like, what more thing brings me joy?
Speaker 2: I'm not going to answer that.
Speaker 4: Then comes the moment that could shift a relationship forever.
Speaker 4: As they finished this sentence, I never told you this.
Speaker 3: I've never told you. They never told you this.
Speaker 4: Today, mother and daughter, Amelia and Slavka will be sitting
Speaker 4: down together.
Speaker 3: My mom and I often have these conversations.
Speaker 4: Amelia has something big to tell her mother.
Speaker 1: It's always a little bit scary bringing something up hearing
Speaker 1: her response. But I'm excited, welcome. So how are you feeling,
Speaker 1: Mum feeling a.
Speaker 3: Little bit nervous, which is normal.
Speaker 1: I think you know that I enjoy these types of conversations.
Speaker 1: So now I'm going to do keen to chat to
Speaker 1: you about it in depth and in an environment where
Speaker 1: you can't run away from me and not tell me.
Speaker 3: That you don't want to talk about it.
Speaker 5: That's true.
Speaker 3: I agree, that's not running. What is the game?
Speaker 1: The card game is called the Medibank Family Roast Cards,
Speaker 1: and we're going to each take turns asking each other
Speaker 1: some questions.
Speaker 5: Okay, let's do it.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'll go first. I'm going to pick up a
Speaker 1: card and read the question. Now, tell us about an
Speaker 1: embarrassing child childhood memory.
Speaker 5: And I fell off the bike. We were showing off,
Speaker 5: obviously as a teenager, so it was like a little
Speaker 5: stupid competition. Do you have to close our eyes open
Speaker 5: wide arms blinded? Down the hill? Nearly broke my knee
Speaker 5: and everyone was laughing. There was a really embarrassing moment
Speaker 5: for me. So tell me about an act of kindness
Speaker 5: you remember me doing for you.
Speaker 1: You're an act of serviceman. If you could do anything
Speaker 1: for us, you would do it.
Speaker 5: Oh, I want to always be there for my kids. Yes,
Speaker 5: you definitely thank you, so it was good to know. Actually,
Speaker 5: thank you, of.
Speaker 1: Course, And I'm sorry if I don't say it enough,
Speaker 1: because I really do think that.
Speaker 2: The rest of this episode of I never told you
Speaker 2: this right after the break.
Speaker 3: Now we're up to the big reveal.
Speaker 1: Okay, so the card says I never told you this. Sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm getting a bit of a sure. Sorry for a
Speaker 1: bit of backstory. We know that I'm going to Europe
Speaker 1: very soon. I bought a one way ticket. Yes, but
Speaker 1: I've never told you that. It's actually pretty hard for
Speaker 1: me to leave because I feel almost guilty for going.
Speaker 1: So for a bit of context, obviously Dad passed away,
Speaker 1: and you know he was sick for a very long time,
Speaker 1: but still it was unexpected. And obviously you and I
Speaker 1: became really really close.
Speaker 5: Even more closer.
Speaker 3: I wanted to be around you.
Speaker 1: I felt safe and comfortable, and you really helped me
Speaker 1: heal and it was beautiful. We know, since Dad passed
Speaker 1: away about a year and a half ago, there's been
Speaker 1: a change, and I just feel as though you rely
Speaker 1: on me a lot. I feel bad even more so
Speaker 1: for leaving, and again, I don't want to feel that way.
Speaker 1: I feel like that is holding me back. I think
Speaker 1: five years were really, really hard. He was diagnosed with
Speaker 1: dementia and Parkinson's and see how did you feel during that.
Speaker 5: I don't mind looking after That's something in my nature.
Speaker 5: I believe it's I don't mind changing him and bathing
Speaker 5: him and giving him medication. But the hardest thing is
Speaker 5: to see him every days deteriorating and his health is
Speaker 5: getting more and more sick. After I quit my work,
Speaker 5: my job, and that was the hardest decision. I felt
Speaker 5: like my freedom was taken away from me. At one stage,
Speaker 5: I was thinking, how long is this going to last? Yes? Wow,
Speaker 5: At first I was feeling like, oh my gosh, you
Speaker 5: know she's leaving me.
Speaker 3: How can she do that to me? Those other things in.
Speaker 5: My mind, I was actually thinking, what if she feels
Speaker 5: that way, that's not good.
Speaker 3: We have this good relationship.
Speaker 5: And I don't want any secrets between us, so I
Speaker 5: don't want you to feel that way anymore. I'm kind
Speaker 5: of came with ease, with that it is going to
Speaker 5: be hard for me without you. But that's not fair
Speaker 5: to not let you go just because I need to
Speaker 5: hold you next to me. I left my mum too,
Speaker 5: I went for another life, and she didn't say why
Speaker 5: you're going.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I'm actually pleasantly surprised by your response, But in
Speaker 1: saying that, I could sense that you were feeling a
Speaker 1: little bit more at ease, because initially, when you remember,
Speaker 1: when I would mention me booking I was angry.
Speaker 3: I would often get the response off I.
Speaker 6: Talk about it, you would just walk away, And that
Speaker 6: was honestly pretty hard for me because I've often been
Speaker 6: the sort of holder or the safety in that of
Speaker 6: our family family, and it's a lot.
Speaker 3: Of weight to carry.
Speaker 5: I have to, as I said, give you my bossing
Speaker 5: and let you go. And you do need to follow
Speaker 5: your dreams.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much mum for sharing. Oh thank you
Speaker 3: for inviting me.
Speaker 5: You know how much I love you.
Speaker 3: Are we going to hug each other.
Speaker 5: I have to hug you now and