WEBVTT - The Flat Tyre Test And The Appointment Nobody Wants 0:00:08.234 --> 0:00:10.953 You're listening to I'm im a mea podcast. 0:00:19.634 --> 0:00:23.954 Hello and welcome to Unleashed podcast for gen X women 0:00:24.234 --> 0:00:25.154 who need a laugh. 0:00:25.714 --> 0:00:28.354 If you know Sheira is the princess of power? 0:00:28.434 --> 0:00:28.674 Yep? 0:00:28.794 --> 0:00:31.674 Have you every word to greet me? And had more 0:00:31.714 --> 0:00:33.914 fluo in your wardrobe than a road crew? 0:00:34.034 --> 0:00:35.513 Yes, you're in the right place. 0:00:35.634 --> 0:00:38.194 Yes, now, who is on the sofa this week? 0:00:38.473 --> 0:00:40.754 I'm Sally Hipworth and I'm an author. 0:00:40.714 --> 0:00:42.513 I'm Mary Kustas, I'm an actress writer. 0:00:42.954 --> 0:00:45.793 I'm Bruna Pependrea and I'm a film and TV producer. 0:00:46.074 --> 0:00:49.353 And I'm Cas Mahoney I'm a comedian. Wherever you're listening, 0:00:49.714 --> 0:00:54.954 unclenching your clinch your pelvic floor and get ready to unleash. 0:00:55.194 --> 0:00:58.954 Ye Okay, who's starting us off this time? 0:00:59.194 --> 0:01:01.834 I am busting to get this off my chest? 0:01:01.994 --> 0:01:02.554 Oh please do. 0:01:03.154 --> 0:01:04.474 Last week there. 0:01:04.514 --> 0:01:07.994 Was a number of messages on my daughter's school WhatsApp 0:01:08.954 --> 0:01:11.994 school Chats school chat for year eight, and the first 0:01:11.994 --> 0:01:17.194 message said something along the lines of my daughter Vanessa 0:01:17.914 --> 0:01:19.834 using fake names, had. 0:01:19.674 --> 0:01:24.474 Her blazer stolen from her locker. And I looked at 0:01:24.474 --> 0:01:27.074 it and thought, okay, fine, let's. 0:01:26.834 --> 0:01:27.314 All move on. 0:01:28.114 --> 0:01:33.834 And then the next thing, someone emojied the message with. 0:01:33.834 --> 0:01:34.753 A shocked face. 0:01:35.114 --> 0:01:37.154 Oh drama, Sally. 0:01:37.554 --> 0:01:40.874 And then someone else wrote back and said, I hope 0:01:40.874 --> 0:01:42.114 you've taken it to the school. 0:01:42.234 --> 0:01:43.634 This stuff has to stop. 0:01:43.674 --> 0:01:44.154 Stop it. 0:01:44.714 --> 0:01:48.034 And I was looking at it live thinking and then 0:01:48.194 --> 0:01:52.794 someone said, well, the other day my Duty's pencil case 0:01:52.914 --> 0:01:53.554 was stolen. 0:01:54.114 --> 0:01:59.314 No, I've stolen her name. Yes, please go ahead. 0:01:59.434 --> 0:02:01.754 I'm reading these messages and this is a new school, 0:02:01.754 --> 0:02:03.834 so I don't have a lot of mums to start 0:02:03.874 --> 0:02:08.234 a snarky side. But all I want to scream is, 0:02:08.674 --> 0:02:11.513 you know, Duty's pencil case was not stolen. 0:02:11.874 --> 0:02:13.394 She lost it, you know. 0:02:13.474 --> 0:02:16.793 And Vanessa's blazer it's on the train, you know, it's 0:02:16.834 --> 0:02:21.394 in the lost property. I don't understand why these people 0:02:21.434 --> 0:02:23.634 think that their things were stolen, Like if it was 0:02:23.834 --> 0:02:25.874 if it was a vape, you know, or if it 0:02:25.954 --> 0:02:29.914 was an air pods, perhaps it was stolen. But is 0:02:29.914 --> 0:02:34.314 there an underworld pencil case transfer business that I don't 0:02:34.354 --> 0:02:37.234 know about? And it got me thinking. I actually ended 0:02:37.314 --> 0:02:40.194 up going back to my kids and saying, kids, if 0:02:40.234 --> 0:02:43.834 you lost your pencil case or your blazer, and you 0:02:43.834 --> 0:02:46.834 could have sworn that you left it in your locker, 0:02:47.674 --> 0:02:50.914 what would you think had happened, and all three of 0:02:50.954 --> 0:02:51.394 them are. 0:02:51.274 --> 0:02:52.034 Like, oh, we lost it. 0:02:52.354 --> 0:02:56.233 Yeah, And I thought, okay, interesting and probably because I've 0:02:56.274 --> 0:02:59.754 taught them that most things in general in life are 0:02:59.754 --> 0:03:00.234 our fault. 0:03:00.474 --> 0:03:00.954 Correct. 0:03:01.074 --> 0:03:04.434 But sw there's two types of people victims, yeah, or 0:03:04.474 --> 0:03:07.394 there are people that want to have someone to blame 0:03:07.514 --> 0:03:11.234 for everything. Yes, the blame of adults. 0:03:11.114 --> 0:03:15.634 Like I'm actually quite shocked that no one chimed in 0:03:15.714 --> 0:03:18.594 and said it's on the train. Doesn't matter if she 0:03:18.714 --> 0:03:20.394 It's like Judge Judy says, how do you know that 0:03:20.434 --> 0:03:21.634 your teenager is lying? 0:03:21.914 --> 0:03:23.954 Because their mouths removing. 0:03:25.074 --> 0:03:27.754 Judge Judy. It always comes back to Judge comes back. 0:03:29.274 --> 0:03:31.474 I don't know about you, guys, but I find with 0:03:31.994 --> 0:03:35.874 most shall we say, school chats, that the same people 0:03:36.034 --> 0:03:39.074 tend to weigh in. Yes, it's always the same. There 0:03:39.074 --> 0:03:40.274 are those that just watch. 0:03:40.354 --> 0:03:42.714 And here's my problem with school group chats. 0:03:42.954 --> 0:03:45.434 I miss the important stuff because I couldn't give a 0:03:45.474 --> 0:03:48.634 toss about most of what's going on in there, which 0:03:48.674 --> 0:03:52.354 is always like, does anyone have the homework that my 0:03:52.474 --> 0:03:55.154 kid forgot to get? I mean, it's so kind of mundane. 0:03:55.594 --> 0:03:59.034 And then I have genuinely missed some important things because 0:03:59.074 --> 0:04:00.274 of all the stuff around it. 0:04:00.514 --> 0:04:03.874 Yes, I mute or archive chats like that, and it's 0:04:03.914 --> 0:04:06.194 exactly like Bruna said, then you miss the. 0:04:06.194 --> 0:04:10.034 Actual use the points that you need, and we need 0:04:10.034 --> 0:04:10.714 that stuff, we. 0:04:10.674 --> 0:04:12.434 Do, but the other stuff you just think you need 0:04:12.474 --> 0:04:14.074 to have a side group on this alway. 0:04:14.154 --> 0:04:16.194 Yeah, every group chat, you need a side group. But 0:04:16.274 --> 0:04:19.154 my funniest school story when I couldn't stop interfering is 0:04:19.794 --> 0:04:22.553 my kids went to this preschool in Los Angeles and 0:04:22.753 --> 0:04:24.873 they've been with all their friends through all the years, 0:04:25.274 --> 0:04:27.433 and then at one point in the preschool, you're either 0:04:27.433 --> 0:04:31.674 a blueberry or a raspberry, and all their friends were blueberries. 0:04:31.993 --> 0:04:34.433 And I get literally, something had happened that I think 0:04:34.433 --> 0:04:36.754 I had food poisoning. I was in hospital. They might 0:04:36.794 --> 0:04:40.393 have given me some morphine. And I get the email. 0:04:40.073 --> 0:04:41.634 And it says they're raspberries. 0:04:42.154 --> 0:04:47.313 And I go into you'd think someone had like said 0:04:47.674 --> 0:04:50.153 you can't ever leave the country. I was so upset, 0:04:50.633 --> 0:04:54.154 so I write the email of all emails and then 0:04:54.433 --> 0:04:56.354 just let me put it in context. Here they have 0:04:56.433 --> 0:04:58.953 released the class list at this point published from public 0:04:59.034 --> 0:05:02.953 to the other parents. So I have my moment and 0:05:02.993 --> 0:05:06.353 then there's tears involved, and the beautiful woman running in school, 0:05:06.393 --> 0:05:09.594 she writes back, and suddenly the lists are reput out 0:05:09.594 --> 0:05:12.354 into the world, and my kids in our blueberries and 0:05:12.873 --> 0:05:15.273 the greatest line that any other parent has said to me, 0:05:15.313 --> 0:05:17.993 and this is for those people who know The Godfather. 0:05:18.993 --> 0:05:22.953 I just got this email from another father and he said, 0:05:23.234 --> 0:05:24.594 we knew it was Eufredo. 0:05:25.393 --> 0:05:29.073 Very famous line, very famous line in The Godfather. 0:05:30.034 --> 0:05:32.993 And so I was publicly outed. Of course, it was 0:05:33.034 --> 0:05:35.514 so obvious what I've done. But guess what, no regrets, 0:05:35.714 --> 0:05:36.674 no regrets no. 0:05:37.474 --> 0:05:39.674 So, Sally, you're the type of person that says it 0:05:39.794 --> 0:05:44.273 as it is, and you come with a fresh, honest transparency. 0:05:44.393 --> 0:05:46.953 Why didn't you pipe in and say something, Is it 0:05:46.953 --> 0:05:48.714 because it was a new school or you know. 0:05:48.834 --> 0:05:50.994 It's mostly because it's a new school. 0:05:51.193 --> 0:05:54.234 And also it's pretty much because I didn't want my 0:05:54.714 --> 0:05:57.274 daughter to be tainted. If I was the only mum 0:05:57.354 --> 0:06:00.834 that had any logical sense, I did. Actually, after some 0:06:00.914 --> 0:06:04.433 time had passed and it continued to escalate, people were saying, well, 0:06:04.433 --> 0:06:07.873 they should put cameras there to try and catch the thieves, 0:06:08.274 --> 0:06:11.074 and no one was chiming in. I did have one 0:06:11.474 --> 0:06:15.113 other mother who I knew reasonably well, and I started 0:06:15.113 --> 0:06:17.993 the snarky side chat, and she wrote back and said, clearly, 0:06:18.034 --> 0:06:20.914 these people don't have kids with ADHD. We lose three 0:06:20.993 --> 0:06:24.474 lunch boxes, not drink bottles, a blazer, and to set 0:06:24.474 --> 0:06:25.594 a beer ponds every week. 0:06:25.633 --> 0:06:27.513 And I thought, I found my people. 0:06:29.113 --> 0:06:31.473 Okay, it's time for a round of guilty or not 0:06:31.513 --> 0:06:33.873 guilty in our hands. We all have a paddle that 0:06:33.914 --> 0:06:35.834 says guilty on one side, not guilty on the other. 0:06:36.354 --> 0:06:39.354 Everyone has a question that they are sitting on that 0:06:39.354 --> 0:06:43.034 they do not look at until it's their turn. Okay, Mary, 0:06:43.193 --> 0:06:44.833 what is your question? We will answer it. 0:06:45.313 --> 0:06:48.474 Okay, here's the question. I've said, Hey, we should catch 0:06:48.553 --> 0:06:52.954 up soon to someone with zero intention of ever following through. 0:06:53.154 --> 0:06:54.154 That's guilty from. 0:06:54.034 --> 0:06:56.953 Me, guilty for mey guilty unanimous. 0:06:57.154 --> 0:07:00.794 I said something similar without I hope these people don't 0:07:00.794 --> 0:07:02.473 listen to the show. But my daughter was at a 0:07:02.474 --> 0:07:05.634 sporting event and I went to order a coffee and 0:07:05.873 --> 0:07:09.073 they recognized me and they said how they were huge fans. 0:07:09.474 --> 0:07:12.033 And then I got my coffee. I hadn't taken a 0:07:12.034 --> 0:07:13.834 sip yet, and they said, well, we see you again 0:07:13.874 --> 0:07:16.634 next week, and I said absolutely, and then I took 0:07:16.794 --> 0:07:19.154 a sip of the coffee. And it was so shite 0:07:19.674 --> 0:07:22.393 and I thought you will never see me never again. 0:07:22.634 --> 0:07:24.634 Shut down, guilty, shut down. 0:07:24.994 --> 0:07:25.794 Next question. 0:07:26.274 --> 0:07:30.354 Okay, guys, I've snooped through a partner's phone and I'd 0:07:30.434 --> 0:07:31.074 do it again. 0:07:31.914 --> 0:07:35.034 Guilty, guilty, guilty, not guilty. 0:07:36.194 --> 0:07:40.874 Never Mary, Mary is the only Mary. If I've got 0:07:40.874 --> 0:07:42.833 to look through their phone on with the wrong person. 0:07:42.914 --> 0:07:48.033 You've never looked through never Wow, in the past. 0:07:48.074 --> 0:07:49.914 I don't even think it was so long ago. I 0:07:49.953 --> 0:07:52.273 don't even think that they had phones. They probably did, 0:07:52.994 --> 0:07:56.834 but no, I just don't. I just don't question certain 0:07:56.874 --> 0:07:58.354 things are really just. 0:07:59.674 --> 0:08:00.033 Like I do. 0:08:00.594 --> 0:08:02.953 It's not necessarily because they're cheating or I think that 0:08:02.994 --> 0:08:04.593 they're cheating. I just like to keep an eye on 0:08:04.594 --> 0:08:05.114 what they're up to. 0:08:05.354 --> 0:08:11.514 Okay, right, looks like it's my question. 0:08:11.794 --> 0:08:12.914 Okay, ladies. 0:08:13.994 --> 0:08:16.674 I've bought a book put it on my bedside tables, 0:08:16.714 --> 0:08:18.593 so I look like someone who reads. 0:08:18.314 --> 0:08:22.033 But never opened it. It's guilty from me, guilty from me. 0:08:22.354 --> 0:08:24.914 I've got a nice stack that are color coded next 0:08:24.914 --> 0:08:26.554 to my bed, and the candle on that are just 0:08:26.634 --> 0:08:27.434 more of a feature. 0:08:27.674 --> 0:08:30.273 Is that for like? When? When? 0:08:30.393 --> 0:08:35.274 When I ever get lucky? 0:08:33.674 --> 0:08:37.674 And a bit like Kath, I've got them there either 0:08:37.754 --> 0:08:40.474 someone gave them to me with the hope that I 0:08:40.474 --> 0:08:43.234 would read them, or with you know, I think this 0:08:43.274 --> 0:08:45.954 could be nice. They either are someone that has written 0:08:45.994 --> 0:08:49.434 the book or someone that thinks I would like that book. 0:08:49.634 --> 0:08:52.594 But when I write, I know this makes no sense. 0:08:52.914 --> 0:08:53.833 I sort of can't read. 0:08:54.754 --> 0:08:56.634 People say that a lot of people when they're making movies. 0:08:56.674 --> 0:08:58.874 A lot of directors say that they can't watch other movies. 0:08:58.634 --> 0:08:59.594 When they're making a movie. 0:08:59.794 --> 0:09:03.074 I struggle to read when I'm trying to write Mary Coustas, 0:09:03.114 --> 0:09:03.953 We've got one from you. 0:09:04.194 --> 0:09:08.194 Yes, okay. My question is I've told someone their haircut 0:09:08.274 --> 0:09:10.514 looked great when it was a total disaster. 0:09:10.994 --> 0:09:14.194 Guilty, guilty, guilty guilty. 0:09:14.674 --> 0:09:15.914 What else are you supposed to say? 0:09:15.954 --> 0:09:18.794 Like you with the haircut, you have to comment on 0:09:18.834 --> 0:09:20.314 it because it's screaming at you. 0:09:20.634 --> 0:09:22.994 You can't say it looks bad saying that. 0:09:23.114 --> 0:09:25.994 I do love my friend Michelle, who after I spent 0:09:26.154 --> 0:09:29.074 a small fortune in the Sydney hairdressers that is so 0:09:29.194 --> 0:09:32.394 reputable as being amazing, and the guy was unwell when 0:09:32.394 --> 0:09:35.114 he did my color, I literally came out looking like 0:09:35.154 --> 0:09:37.914 you know, the gremlin spike that had like just one 0:09:37.954 --> 0:09:40.874 bit of color and everyone else. So it's fine, and 0:09:40.914 --> 0:09:43.434 Michelle went, I'm calling them now we're going straight back. 0:09:44.234 --> 0:09:46.194 So here's to the friends that tell truth. 0:09:46.314 --> 0:09:47.474 We all need a friend like that. 0:09:47.674 --> 0:09:50.194 Yeah, at Sally hepwis what is your question? 0:09:50.594 --> 0:09:54.514 The question is I think therapy is overrated? 0:09:54.994 --> 0:10:00.994 Oh not guilty, not guilty, guilty guilty? Yeah. 0:10:01.034 --> 0:10:03.234 Wow, there's two of us need to be getting a 0:10:03.274 --> 0:10:04.874 bit more therapy, and it's not us. 0:10:04.994 --> 0:10:05.674 I want to say. 0:10:05.874 --> 0:10:09.394 I have had a lot of therapy, and I all 0:10:09.514 --> 0:10:11.914 continue to read books and self help books and all 0:10:11.914 --> 0:10:14.754 of those things, and I've reached the point now that 0:10:14.834 --> 0:10:17.594 I think it's a little navel gayzy and sometimes we 0:10:17.634 --> 0:10:18.834 need to just get on with our lives. 0:10:19.034 --> 0:10:22.074 Yeah. Well, I, on the other hand, think if you 0:10:22.114 --> 0:10:25.474 think you've got a problem, then maybe you do. And 0:10:25.514 --> 0:10:28.994 if you can talk your problem out and hear yourself 0:10:29.434 --> 0:10:33.354 admit to it and literally be actively looking for a solution, 0:10:33.474 --> 0:10:34.514 then that's a good place to be. 0:10:34.714 --> 0:10:36.914 But you've had a less therapy than most people. 0:10:36.954 --> 0:10:37.194 I know. 0:10:37.314 --> 0:10:39.434 I know, but when I did have it, it was 0:10:39.474 --> 0:10:40.234 super powerful. 0:10:40.394 --> 0:10:40.634 I know. 0:10:40.714 --> 0:10:42.034 But you haven't had a ton of it. 0:10:42.114 --> 0:10:45.434 Do I need more? I'm saying no, no, no, But 0:10:45.514 --> 0:10:48.074 I had a problem I thought I couldn't overcome, and 0:10:48.114 --> 0:10:50.514 I went to a therapist and they gave me the tool, 0:10:51.194 --> 0:10:52.794 and then they gave me the bill. 0:10:52.834 --> 0:10:55.394 I I had a lot of therapy when I was younger, 0:10:56.034 --> 0:10:59.314 and like showering. I just have no time now the therapy. 0:10:59.834 --> 0:11:01.514 And I think that's what my girlfriends are for. 0:11:02.194 --> 0:11:02.714 I agree. 0:11:02.874 --> 0:11:03.274 I agree. 0:11:03.314 --> 0:11:05.394 We've got a sex therapist and I don't have sex. 0:11:07.194 --> 0:11:19.634 Friend of guys. 0:11:20.074 --> 0:11:23.034 It's been a big few weeks at the Hepworth house. 0:11:23.354 --> 0:11:26.314 I have been solo parenting. 0:11:26.914 --> 0:11:30.953 I have had my two parents in and out of hospital. 0:11:31.474 --> 0:11:36.554 I've moved into my new house and the gate's broken, 0:11:37.034 --> 0:11:39.994 the front door has needed three turns to get the 0:11:40.034 --> 0:11:43.794 lock fitted. It's been one thing after another, and the 0:11:43.834 --> 0:11:47.074 most recent thing was last week. I was on the 0:11:47.074 --> 0:11:49.154 way to pick up my daughter from school, got a 0:11:49.194 --> 0:11:53.554 flat tire. Oh no, and it was about twenty past three. 0:11:53.794 --> 0:11:57.114 I had to pick her up at three thirty. I 0:11:57.154 --> 0:11:59.914 am out of options in terms of how am I 0:11:59.994 --> 0:12:03.514 going to get her picked up? And I thought I 0:12:03.554 --> 0:12:05.394 can't get there, what am I going to do? And 0:12:05.474 --> 0:12:09.954 I had this moment in my head where I thought, imagine, Sally, 0:12:10.634 --> 0:12:13.594 you were one of those women who could change attire, 0:12:14.954 --> 0:12:16.834 you know, like I don't know many women like that, 0:12:16.874 --> 0:12:19.914 but imagine, imagine now what I would do is get out, 0:12:20.314 --> 0:12:21.954 get out some sort of winch. 0:12:22.874 --> 0:12:27.034 Yes, you know, you know, I don't know that the 0:12:27.034 --> 0:12:29.754 apparatus I need, but I know about a winch and 0:12:29.754 --> 0:12:32.394 and I and I got the wognuts or whatever they're called. 0:12:37.514 --> 0:12:41.874 It's it's getting confident with Spanish. 0:12:42.834 --> 0:12:44.994 Have any of these tools, right? Like, I don't even know. 0:12:45.274 --> 0:12:46.914 And so I pulled over to the side. 0:12:46.754 --> 0:12:49.954 Of the road and I did what every and I 0:12:50.034 --> 0:12:53.834 called my dad and he was able to pick up Clementine. 0:12:54.474 --> 0:12:56.634 And I then did the second part of what every 0:12:56.754 --> 0:12:58.114 girl would do, and I left the car on the 0:12:58.114 --> 0:13:00.154 side of the road, and I walked home and called 0:13:00.154 --> 0:13:02.794 my boyfriend and he came and tot with it. Now, 0:13:03.234 --> 0:13:09.474 as a single woman, single mother, feminist, all of those things, 0:13:10.194 --> 0:13:12.754 I spent quite a good amount of time thinking, is 0:13:12.794 --> 0:13:15.114 this something that you should have done? Should you have 0:13:15.154 --> 0:13:19.154 turned to your boyfriend and your dad in this moment, 0:13:19.394 --> 0:13:20.874 you know, should you have been able to take care 0:13:20.914 --> 0:13:24.354 of it yourself? And I decided on reflection, absolutely not, 0:13:25.234 --> 0:13:28.314 absolutely not. That was a moment that I was able 0:13:28.354 --> 0:13:32.354 to outsource that bit of my shit life to someone else, 0:13:32.394 --> 0:13:34.154 And actually I was glad that it was men that 0:13:34.194 --> 0:13:35.554 had to deal with it. I wasn't going to call 0:13:35.554 --> 0:13:39.594 any of my girlfriends, my lovely, smart, intelligent girlfriend, well 0:13:39.714 --> 0:13:41.914 dressed girlfriend and make them get on the ground and 0:13:41.994 --> 0:13:43.754 change a time. I wanted to call a man to 0:13:43.754 --> 0:13:45.434 come and take care of it, because how often do 0:13:45.554 --> 0:13:47.474 men actually come and take care of your problems? 0:13:48.114 --> 0:13:51.714 So I want to know, I feel really good about it. Yeah, 0:13:51.794 --> 0:13:53.114 I really spent a lot of time on it. 0:13:53.154 --> 0:13:55.634 I want to know, what have you guys accepted that 0:13:55.714 --> 0:13:56.794 you're never going to learn to do? 0:13:57.154 --> 0:13:58.754 I mean, I don't think it's going to come as 0:13:58.794 --> 0:14:01.874 a shock to our listeners or to the friends I 0:14:01.914 --> 0:14:05.514 have here on the couch, but I've almost accepted that 0:14:05.594 --> 0:14:08.554 I'm never going to be able to put on makeup. Ah, 0:14:08.634 --> 0:14:11.154 I don't have you guys. I know, and I know 0:14:11.314 --> 0:14:13.314 we will go down to Mecca. We will try and 0:14:13.314 --> 0:14:16.074 do a lesson. We will, we will try. But I 0:14:16.194 --> 0:14:17.234 have tried, and. 0:14:17.154 --> 0:14:17.714 By the way, I can. 0:14:18.194 --> 0:14:19.754 I thought the other day, God, I can. 0:14:19.634 --> 0:14:22.274 Follow a recipe, I can cook. Yes, It's not like 0:14:22.354 --> 0:14:26.234 I'm totally useless. But when it comes to being a. 0:14:26.434 --> 0:14:28.154 Girl, as we perceive a girl to be. 0:14:28.554 --> 0:14:29.714 I just didn't get the gene. 0:14:29.714 --> 0:14:31.394 I didn't get the style, Geen, I didn't get the 0:14:31.434 --> 0:14:33.994 makeup Jean, didn't get the I can't even blow out 0:14:34.034 --> 0:14:37.394 my own hair, Ladies, I cannot. I'm incapable, And I 0:14:37.394 --> 0:14:39.754 think I just have to accept it an outsource. 0:14:39.954 --> 0:14:40.314 Wow. 0:14:40.594 --> 0:14:43.674 You know what I've accepted. I'll never do is assemble 0:14:43.794 --> 0:14:47.074 anything from my Keea. It is a recipe for divorce. 0:14:47.794 --> 0:14:51.154 I mean seriously. I went to my Ka twice, actually 0:14:51.154 --> 0:14:53.434 three times in three days. Bruner is witness to this. 0:14:54.434 --> 0:14:58.874 On the first occasion, I bought a beautiful glass cabinet, 0:14:59.394 --> 0:15:03.554 pale pink with glass bits and everything, and my daughter 0:15:03.554 --> 0:15:07.594 and I said, we'll do this together. And George, my husband, 0:15:07.634 --> 0:15:09.834 came out and said, now you're going to read the booklet, 0:15:09.954 --> 0:15:12.074 aren't you. You're gonna You're gonna read it all the 0:15:12.114 --> 0:15:15.714 way through, and then you're going to start at the beginning, 0:15:15.834 --> 0:15:18.994 knowing what steps are coming beyond the first step. And 0:15:19.074 --> 0:15:21.914 I said yes. And anyone that's seen me perform live 0:15:22.114 --> 0:15:25.834 knows that I love to improvise. This includes Ikea as well. 0:15:25.914 --> 0:15:29.274 While I got so stressed and my daughter is like 0:15:29.834 --> 0:15:31.594 I like this about her, and yet it's a problem 0:15:31.594 --> 0:15:34.074 because I do believe all our best qualities are our 0:15:34.114 --> 0:15:36.874 worst qualities as well. I got it, Mum. I know 0:15:36.994 --> 0:15:39.194 exactly what I'm doing, and I'm like, great, one of 0:15:39.274 --> 0:15:42.954 us knows what we're doing. Well, three steps in, something 0:15:43.034 --> 0:15:47.154 doesn't fit. Why doesn't this fit? Mama, I'm gonna ask neat, No, 0:15:47.274 --> 0:15:50.594 don't step, don't ask ned Dad comes in with his 0:15:50.714 --> 0:15:54.354 pre prepared monologue. Come on, girls, what did I say? 0:15:54.394 --> 0:15:56.074 You've got to read it all the way through so 0:15:56.114 --> 0:16:00.674 you know what's coming. Long story long. We were under 0:16:00.794 --> 0:16:03.234 so much stress, my daughter and I because we knew 0:16:03.234 --> 0:16:06.394 he was right and we were wrong, and there were 0:16:06.434 --> 0:16:09.394 talks of between the tour then maybe we don't need 0:16:09.434 --> 0:16:15.034 to put the backbits in. Anyway, it was very, very, 0:16:15.154 --> 0:16:18.274 really hard, So I care is one of the things 0:16:18.434 --> 0:16:21.434 I will outsource from this point on. I have tried 0:16:21.514 --> 0:16:23.114 again and again and I've failed. 0:16:23.314 --> 0:16:26.994 Did you end up like thrusting the instruction guide at 0:16:27.074 --> 0:16:28.554 George and storming off? 0:16:28.794 --> 0:16:28.994 No? 0:16:29.194 --> 0:16:31.394 Because I like to get on the other side of 0:16:31.434 --> 0:16:31.954 a problem. 0:16:32.514 --> 0:16:33.234 We persisted. 0:16:33.274 --> 0:16:37.834 When pain persists, call a doctor. I didn't call a doctor. 0:16:38.034 --> 0:16:40.834 George got in there and we dismantled, and we began 0:16:40.914 --> 0:16:43.194 from the beginning and we did it the right way, 0:16:43.194 --> 0:16:45.674 and it took maybe two extra hours, but we got 0:16:45.714 --> 0:16:46.234 there in the air. 0:16:46.474 --> 0:16:48.314 That's just you can't get back. 0:16:49.514 --> 0:16:52.234 I've been brought to tears by trying to put together furniture. 0:16:52.634 --> 0:16:54.074 I just think you either have it not. I don't 0:16:54.074 --> 0:16:55.954 think it's male or female. I think you either have 0:16:56.114 --> 0:17:00.514 that part of your brain works or you do not. Guys, 0:17:01.274 --> 0:17:05.113 I've been avoiding something consistently my whole life. 0:17:05.634 --> 0:17:07.513 What's this, dentist? 0:17:07.994 --> 0:17:09.714 Oh, this would be common. 0:17:09.994 --> 0:17:12.553 This is no small thing for me. When I was younger, 0:17:13.554 --> 0:17:18.234 I had very traumatic experience at the local government dental 0:17:18.234 --> 0:17:20.554 hospital when I had to get braces and I went 0:17:20.594 --> 0:17:23.273 in and I feel like, without any kind of anesthesia, 0:17:23.394 --> 0:17:24.834 they ripped a couple of teeth out and I was 0:17:24.874 --> 0:17:26.634 traumatized for the rest of my life. 0:17:26.634 --> 0:17:27.314 It's horrendous. 0:17:27.754 --> 0:17:31.434 So several times in my life I've let some time 0:17:31.514 --> 0:17:33.274 pass before I visited a dentist. 0:17:33.514 --> 0:17:34.554 How much time we're talking? 0:17:34.914 --> 0:17:37.274 Okay, so the first time. 0:17:37.194 --> 0:17:40.474 Was ten years? What ten years? 0:17:40.714 --> 0:17:42.354 Yes, Cath, you did hear it correctly. 0:17:42.474 --> 0:17:45.714 I did let ten years pass before I set any 0:17:45.994 --> 0:17:49.554 one of my feet in a dentist's office at time. 0:17:49.674 --> 0:17:51.754 What period of your life was this that you didn't 0:17:51.794 --> 0:17:52.513 go for ten years? 0:17:52.714 --> 0:17:56.314 This was, you know, as an adult in my twenties thirties. 0:17:56.914 --> 0:17:59.754 But when it really hit me, I was in Los 0:17:59.794 --> 0:18:04.674 Angeles and married with kids, and my husband was often saying, oh, 0:18:04.674 --> 0:18:06.914 I just came back from the dentist, just another cleaning. 0:18:07.194 --> 0:18:10.074 Do you feel like he was underlining that dentist. 0:18:10.394 --> 0:18:13.033 Yeah, And at one point he did. He said to me, 0:18:13.194 --> 0:18:14.674 when was the last time you went. 0:18:14.554 --> 0:18:17.034 To the dentist. I said, all, oh, it's been a while. 0:18:17.314 --> 0:18:18.234 It might have been a while. 0:18:18.514 --> 0:18:21.434 So finally I was like, okay, Bruna, come on, now 0:18:21.674 --> 0:18:24.474 it's time your kids are going to the dentist. Maybe 0:18:24.474 --> 0:18:27.634 it's time you, you know, manned up and went to 0:18:27.674 --> 0:18:29.594 the dentist. So, of course, when you haven't been to 0:18:29.594 --> 0:18:33.194 a dentist for ten years, you go. There are some issues, 0:18:33.314 --> 0:18:35.194 you know. So there was a lot of work that 0:18:35.234 --> 0:18:36.714 got done, a lot of money spent, a lot of 0:18:36.754 --> 0:18:39.954 work got done. But no, and bear in mind, I 0:18:39.954 --> 0:18:42.553 have no pain threshold at all, so I have to 0:18:42.594 --> 0:18:45.194 be sedated for any kind of dental work. I'm talking 0:18:45.754 --> 0:18:48.994 valuum sedation or like having a Zadax for I going like, 0:18:49.034 --> 0:18:50.674 I have to have sedation. 0:18:50.834 --> 0:18:52.394 I cannot be conscious for any of it. 0:18:52.514 --> 0:18:54.234 So someone has to drive you in and pick you up. 0:18:54.914 --> 0:18:57.234 My husband would drive me in and pick me up anyway, 0:18:57.274 --> 0:19:00.234 so that's cut too. I go, oh, I'm back, okay, 0:19:00.314 --> 0:19:01.034 my teeth are good. 0:19:01.554 --> 0:19:02.834 And then COVID happens, and. 0:19:02.794 --> 0:19:06.874 Suddenly five years later, I'm in Australia and I'm like, oh, 0:19:07.114 --> 0:19:09.434 I haven't been to the dentist again in a few years. 0:19:09.834 --> 0:19:12.114 Five years, years, full five. 0:19:12.314 --> 0:19:17.474 I thought that was hand we check up, so. 0:19:17.394 --> 0:19:20.754