Speaker 1: Welcome to the Seize the Yay Podcast.
Speaker 2: Busy and happy are not the same thing. We too
Speaker 2: rarely question what makes the heart seeing.
Speaker 1: We work, then we.
Speaker 2: Rest, but rarely we play and often don't realize there's
Speaker 2: more than one way. So this is a platform to
Speaker 2: hear and explore the stories of those who found lives.
Speaker 2: They adore, the good, bad and ugly, the best and
Speaker 2: worst day will bear all the facets of Seizing your Yea.
Speaker 2: I'm Sarah Davidson or a spoonful of Sarah, a lawyer
Speaker 2: turned entrepreneur who swapped the suits and heels to co
Speaker 2: found Matcha Maiden and matcha Milk Bar.
Speaker 1: Sez the Ya is a series.
Speaker 3: Of conversations on finding a life you love and exploring
Speaker 3: the self doubt, challenge, joy and fulfillment along the way.
Speaker 1: Welcome to Ya's of Our Lives Valentine's Day edition with
Speaker 1: my Valentine Ant foot.
Speaker 4: Then and Nick gets the hosts us for an intimate
Speaker 4: Q and A about our relationship.
Speaker 3: This is just the first time all three of us
Speaker 3: have been on this show. How how scause you never
Speaker 3: invite Nick? Don't worry, I got you, Okay, dude?
Speaker 1: He literally said, I'm just.
Speaker 5: A token partner. That's the only time we're getting bitted.
Speaker 1: But to make it look good, would you like to
Speaker 1: come on Valentine's Day? That would be really cute?
Speaker 3: And he said yes, And I'd also not mind coming
Speaker 3: on for non tokenistic like just random occasions.
Speaker 1: I agree.
Speaker 2: I think.
Speaker 5: Point. You know, Sarah wasn't funny before we met. I'm Sarah.
Speaker 1: She also didn't like mushrooms.
Speaker 5: Didn't She liked mushrooms, but only cut mushrooms until we
Speaker 5: explain to her, once you bite a mushroom, it becomes cut.
Speaker 1: I've come a long way, Gus, I'm not a long way.
Speaker 1: Welcome Nikki.
Speaker 3: We've had actually quite a lot of requests of the
Speaker 3: last that's true, the last year of people being like,
Speaker 3: by the way, have you nicked on an episode?
Speaker 1: Also, people keep asking if we've done it.
Speaker 5: Took a year for invite.
Speaker 1: I just wasn't and houring about it. I haven't seen uk.
Speaker 1: You've been busy. So many people have asked if we've
Speaker 1: done an episode on our friendship. I'm like, guys, come
Speaker 1: on with it.
Speaker 3: No, But it has been a while since Nick's been on,
Speaker 3: and lots of people have wanted to hear from you,
Speaker 3: So thank you for your time.
Speaker 1: Welcome back.
Speaker 3: This is coming out on Valentine's Day, but today, on
Speaker 3: the day of recording, it's actually and his birthday.
Speaker 4: So I'm laughing because thank you. I look, he's gonna
Speaker 4: right next week.
Speaker 1: Can't look back.
Speaker 5: I hurt my neck and my physio goes what happened
Speaker 5: and I coughed. It's true that legit. I was sitting
Speaker 5: in a cafe and I coughed.
Speaker 1: Now Nick has to sit in the podcasting room on
Speaker 1: the side of the room and he only has to
Speaker 1: look left at us.
Speaker 3: So since your last appearance on the show, we have
Speaker 3: aged significantly.
Speaker 1: Basically the point of the conversation.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're twenty six today that oh I'm like, you're
Speaker 3: closing to thirty.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm not even like early twenties anymore.
Speaker 1: Oh you're not You're not even Reai. It's actually quite
Speaker 1: a bit late.
Speaker 5: The terms over the hill.
Speaker 1: Who invited him, You're off size already.
Speaker 3: So for this very special occasion, since our last episode,
Speaker 3: there has since been since there has since been the
Speaker 3: invention of anonymous Q and as. So before we did
Speaker 3: Q and A's emissions on Instagram, but now we got
Speaker 3: all these questions sent to and so we haven't A
Speaker 3: don't know who sent them, which means people can ask
Speaker 3: why they actually.
Speaker 1: Want to know, and B we haven't seen them.
Speaker 3: And this is the first time we've done that too,
Speaker 3: because usually I've like control free kind of you know.
Speaker 4: I'm so excitedly pretty large to them a little bit,
Speaker 4: so many good ones this last week I've.
Speaker 1: Been looking at them being like, oh, I can't wait.
Speaker 5: I thought your laugh was weird.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know. Well that's where I get it wrong.
Speaker 3: Quickly, before we go into questions, Nikki boy, what's been
Speaker 3: going on the last time you were on the show?
Speaker 5: I don't know what, seventeen years through puberty.
Speaker 1: It's boy broke yesterday. Sorry, that's why I excel. Can
Speaker 1: you tell the vibe of relations.
Speaker 5: It's funny in the middle of the buffer.
Speaker 1: Literally like at.
Speaker 3: Least once a week and will be like when I
Speaker 3: always started to get eat and she just stwns.
Speaker 4: In the middle in the first parts of our friendship,
Speaker 4: when you guys have in the car and like these
Speaker 4: who would just have banter and then it will escalate
Speaker 4: and I'll be like.
Speaker 1: And then just breaks.
Speaker 3: Now, No, you've had We've mentioned on the podcast a
Speaker 3: little bit in a few episodes. You've had like a
Speaker 3: pretty hard little two year kind of period.
Speaker 5: And when the last time I was on Yeah, when
Speaker 5: was it? There was a tape recorder I remember recording it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, cassette.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I had to pedal to make the thing work.
Speaker 5: Flints Pelican trash can. Yeah, I had a tough few years. Yeah,
Speaker 5: we haven't seen much of each other every cloud, but
Speaker 5: for this couple's therapy. Yeah, it's been rough years. Yeah,
Speaker 5: since we got married. No, I meant with my father. Wow.
Speaker 1: We have actually spent a lot of time part over.
Speaker 5: The last years.
Speaker 3: But it's been I think the last couple of months
Speaker 3: has been really lovely.
Speaker 4: Okay, we've got strange questions up take.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've had a hard time since we've been married. Anyway.
Speaker 4: Anyway, as the more specific question specific, you've had a
Speaker 4: rough to use, but also you've like in that time,
Speaker 4: you've had to figure out ways to like, you know,
Speaker 4: mental health wise.
Speaker 1: You're riding your bike more, which is really nice.
Speaker 4: You're boxing now, it's cool, and like, yeah, you've found
Speaker 4: your way of managing all that stuff.
Speaker 5: The rest of my answers today will be.
Speaker 4: Directed to go through the spokes were speaking most code
Speaker 4: and anyway, just giving Nick some credit for having done something.
Speaker 1: Anyway.
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, questions, questions, questions, All right, I'll start with
Speaker 4: the easy ones. What's been the biggest challenge you've had
Speaker 4: to face as a couple.
Speaker 5: Wow, right, it's an easy one personality, but we're overcoming it.
Speaker 1: People think we're actually dysfunctioned. Next puberty.
Speaker 5: What's so? What was the question?
Speaker 1: What's the biggest challenge you've had to face as a couple.
Speaker 3: I actually think it's been the past two to three
Speaker 3: years just just having things outside the relationship that are
Speaker 3: all consuming and then finding ways when you're not physically together.
Speaker 3: We just had lockdown. The world is like, you know,
Speaker 3: coming just coming back into things. But we were sort
Speaker 3: of finding ourselves apart for like a third of a
Speaker 3: whole year, two years in a row, and trying to
Speaker 3: find ways to Like we've been together fourteen years, We've
Speaker 3: got pretty good strategies, and we've started businesses together. We've
Speaker 3: been through so many chapters, so we've already worked out
Speaker 3: a lot of communication and connection strategies that a lot
Speaker 3: of couples haven't been forced to necessarily. But I think
Speaker 3: go into quite a long stretch of more than the
Speaker 3: normal level of uncertainty of like where Nick would be.
Speaker 3: You know, I was traveling a lot separately. Our work
Speaker 3: was kind of taking us in all weird places. Plus
Speaker 3: coming off the back of the uncertainty of COVID, it
Speaker 3: was Yeah, I think it was hard because we've never
Speaker 3: really been through that and finding connection when you're not
Speaker 3: together physically as well, like repeatedly, I think that was
Speaker 3: really hard.
Speaker 5: Yes, I think COVID was easy. Yes, I mean because
Speaker 5: we're very good friends as well as you know what
Speaker 5: I mean, Like I spend more time giving your shit
Speaker 5: than loving you, like you know what I mean, like
Speaker 5: that type of thing, Like my my love language is
Speaker 5: that banter, you know what I mean. So it's we're
Speaker 5: always been very close. But I think the difficult part
Speaker 5: was starting the business with you, And that wasn't my
Speaker 5: fault because you didn't know how to separate business and work.
Speaker 5: And that was the most challenging for me because I
Speaker 5: had been there before where I had an old business
Speaker 5: partner who was like a girlfriend as in, like he
Speaker 5: was teen years our whole hell. He was like, we're
Speaker 5: really tight, and I was like was my best mate
Speaker 5: at the time. We spent twenty four to seven together
Speaker 5: across the road from each other, and yeah, everything we
Speaker 5: did was together. And then when we were business partners,
Speaker 5: he'd come with his idea and this guy body used
Speaker 5: to have ten good ideas. Nine of them were batshit crazy,
Speaker 5: but one of them was just absolutely inspired, right, And
Speaker 5: so I had to deal with all of those separating
Speaker 5: friendship and work stuff like that and working out how
Speaker 5: to give constructive criticism with a shit idea or a
Speaker 5: good idea. So I dealt with that, and I'd used
Speaker 5: to it, but you weren't right, and I was. I
Speaker 5: was treating you like you knew it and you didn't.
Speaker 5: So it was quite difficult where I'd go to bed
Speaker 5: after it and I'd turn around your blunt.
Speaker 3: I'd be like, you said, my idea was shiit so
Speaker 3: like and it probably was.
Speaker 5: No.
Speaker 1: I actually, yeah, that was about problem.
Speaker 5: That was super difficult, but COVID was so easy. So
Speaker 5: again it was nice actually, like as in we don't
Speaker 5: spend so much time together. Yeah, but being a part
Speaker 5: has been quite difficult.
Speaker 3: I think what was really interesting as well is around
Speaker 3: that same time of going into business together, you definitely
Speaker 3: had so much more practice at working with people who
Speaker 3: you had personal relationships within, like creating barriers. But also
Speaker 3: our lives went from so independent.
Speaker 1: Like the structure of our lives. It was really clear
Speaker 1: that you were a business owner. I was a lawyer.
Speaker 3: I had like really clear routine, and then I was
Speaker 3: also coping with like my whole idea of the week
Speaker 3: and the year and everything changing at the same time.
Speaker 1: So it was just so messy for us to suddenly
Speaker 1: be in.
Speaker 3: The same world and then like working from our house
Speaker 3: as well, while we we'd never done that before. We
Speaker 3: never like it was just so many things at once,
Speaker 3: but I think we once I learned how to not
Speaker 3: take everything in our work capacity personally, and also yeah,
Speaker 3: once we figured out how to have boundaries between like
Speaker 3: these have work chats and there's are home chats.
Speaker 5: The other hard thing is we travel a lot, but
Speaker 5: they generally work. And there was this whole it's just
Speaker 5: like I'll be in Tazzy for serious family things, not
Speaker 5: on holiday. So it's not like it was kind of
Speaker 5: you wanted to be somewhere else, but like I'd be
Speaker 5: in Amsterdam working, yeah, but you're like, oh, he's on holiday.
Speaker 5: You know what I mean. But I was, yeah, part
Speaker 5: of is like that, yeah, yeah, but the other part
Speaker 5: of the understands it. And same with you when you're
Speaker 5: working with Intrepid and all that type of stuff. It's
Speaker 5: like I'm here working and your gallivanting cross like kicking
Speaker 5: penguins and stuff.
Speaker 3: But I also think that, and I think a lot
Speaker 3: of couples will resonate with this that like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: she's lost it.
Speaker 1: She's lost.
Speaker 3: So that was actually another one of the really really
Speaker 3: really no one of the activities you could sign up
Speaker 3: for more recent challenging things was how high.
Speaker 1: Absolutely no.
Speaker 3: It was not having the ability to tell you that
Speaker 3: I was alive for like twelve days in a row.
Speaker 1: That was kind of weird. There's another question, okakkkka.
Speaker 3: But I will say of all the times we've had
Speaker 3: in obviously in fourteen years, we've had lots of times
Speaker 3: that were really challenging.
Speaker 1: We've lived apart for.
Speaker 3: Like protracted amounts of time, we've gone into business again,
Speaker 3: we had so many chapters, but every time there's been
Speaker 3: like a shitty bit, it's forced us to develop some
Speaker 3: kind of skill. That's meant that, like fourteen years later,
Speaker 3: we're we're still here, you know what I mean, Like,
Speaker 3: we're still don't you think though, like all of those
Speaker 3: chapters have meant.
Speaker 5: That now we home? This is question one.
Speaker 1: I'm just going to say. I was like, if you
Speaker 1: keep talking events in every question. No, that was a
Speaker 1: deep question.
Speaker 4: It is a deep question. The question is equally as deep.
Speaker 4: This one's on the back of stratege and how to
Speaker 4: support each other? How to support each other? How would
Speaker 4: you recommend to support your partner during the loss of
Speaker 4: a parent?
Speaker 5: That got deep real quick.
Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, so it was a second question. I thought
Speaker 1: it was timely.
Speaker 3: It's a very relevant question, and I would say it's
Speaker 3: really really difficult because you just want to make the
Speaker 3: world okay, but when something like that is happening, there's
Speaker 3: actually not much you can do.
Speaker 5: It was actually really difficult for you too, because the
Speaker 5: Paul was really sick at the.
Speaker 1: Time as well, so I couldn't leave me, and it
Speaker 1: was more important.
Speaker 5: I was so stressed about the dog as well. Like
Speaker 5: as much as that sounds bad, my just lost my
Speaker 5: father or my father was in a like free like
Speaker 5: that that like the night before he ninety died, But
Speaker 5: the dog had just been borderline being put down too,
Speaker 5: and I'm like, you need to be with the because
Speaker 5: I can't be. So that was my and so it
Speaker 5: was a lot more difficult to what would usually be
Speaker 5: the case where you be there with me. But also
Speaker 5: I'm not normal and I don't want people around me.
Speaker 5: It's true, like I've spent the whole time supporting my
Speaker 5: mum and sister that if someone came there and gave
Speaker 5: me a hug and gave me there there, I probably
Speaker 5: have lost it, lost it, you know what I mean.
Speaker 5: So even when Higgsy flew down from to come that
Speaker 5: we didn't talk. We worked on the house. We mowed
Speaker 5: five lakers, five lakers, five acres of lawn and clean
Speaker 5: the gutters. And like I'm weird though, so and the
Speaker 5: situation in itself is this situation himself was weird. He
Speaker 5: was given three months to live and died twenty years later,
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. Like I went down there
Speaker 5: fifteen times thinking that it could that was the last time.
Speaker 5: So I think our situation is quite different. But it
Speaker 5: is a good question.
Speaker 1: I mean from a support perspective, I really.
Speaker 3: Think that your inclination is like like your first response
Speaker 3: is can I fix it. And that's often how a
Speaker 3: love language of support is, like how can I remove
Speaker 3: obstacles for you? Once you realize there's nothing you can do,
Speaker 3: They're just going to feel how they feel at different times.
Speaker 1: It's really just like what you.
Speaker 3: Said, know how that your particular reaction is not the
Speaker 3: same as anyone else's, And your particular particular reaction in
Speaker 3: the first year was different to the second year, And
Speaker 3: the first time you went to Tazzo was different to
Speaker 3: the second time.
Speaker 1: It's really just give them space.
Speaker 3: And I saw this meme the other day and I
Speaker 3: sent it to you that was like, sometimes when we're
Speaker 3: in a hard, hard situation, I'll say, do you want
Speaker 3: solutions or do you want an ear likes someone to listen?
Speaker 1: And I thought that was the most valuable in any relationship.
Speaker 3: Situation, the most valuable thing I'd ever heard, because sometimes
Speaker 3: you want one thing and sometimes you want the other.
Speaker 1: And sometimes Nick would.
Speaker 5: Want me to like hindsight it's a good thing. I mean,
Speaker 5: like at the time when it's.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't know, but I mean like sometimes I
Speaker 3: would say to you, do you want me to come
Speaker 3: or do you want to just be able to go
Speaker 3: alone and not worry about me and like the answer
Speaker 3: was different on different times. So communicate and see what
Speaker 3: they need, but also then create the space to be like,
Speaker 3: you know, today he doesn't want to talk not it's
Speaker 3: not me personally, just doesn't want to talk to anybody
Speaker 3: was personally.
Speaker 1: And then but not, you know, don't take it personally.
Speaker 3: Be incredibly patient and be there to just help, you know,
Speaker 3: make the it's going to be crap. So if they're
Speaker 3: feeling crap like that's you can't necessarily stop that, just help.
Speaker 5: The whatever whatever decision you make is probably going to
Speaker 5: at times be the wrong one, like you know what
Speaker 5: I mean, or there is no right one, like you
Speaker 5: if you damned, if you do, damn you don't. If
Speaker 5: you go there and they're like, oh I wanted space,
Speaker 5: and if you didn't, like, why weren't you there? You
Speaker 5: know what I mean? I think I would err on
Speaker 5: the side of being there. It's easier to regret being
Speaker 5: there than not being there. But everyone's different.
Speaker 3: And I think one other thing that we found really
Speaker 3: helpful was there were times where I was like, he's
Speaker 3: not got brain space to make a good decision, Like
Speaker 3: there were times where you were so tired of going
Speaker 3: to Tazzi that you were like, you know what this time,
Speaker 3: I don't want to And I was like, I think
Speaker 3: we should just.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean that day that had happened, you like
Speaker 5: not just go. Yeah, I was so busy. I was
Speaker 5: so busy important.
Speaker 3: You've also done that trip four days ago, and your
Speaker 3: brain was just like I got there and I ran
Speaker 3: to catch the last flight and that was I never
Speaker 3: regret that. So I think sometimes when you know their
Speaker 3: brain is too full, helping think about what they might.
Speaker 1: Regret later as well as I mean, as much as
Speaker 1: you can. It's a hard situation, but you.
Speaker 5: Go to think every situation is uniquely different.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but the thing that you guys do really well
Speaker 4: is that you know how each other responds to that
Speaker 4: card ship. Because I didn't know how to support Nick either,
Speaker 4: so I just asked Sarah, knowing that like you just
Speaker 4: need space. But Sarah, and you exactly you should be
Speaker 4: like yes, come, don't come, like yes, text, don't text.
Speaker 1: It was just clear to you and that was helpful.
Speaker 4: But I don't think many partners would be in tune
Speaker 4: with their partners enough to really know like exactly what
Speaker 4: would be the best, like you being like fly. Some
Speaker 4: partners wouldn't even know if that were the decision to do.
Speaker 5: She had fourteen years to deal with it. Yeah, it's
Speaker 5: actually it was. You're great, don't get wrong. But what
Speaker 5: more sol What I mean is I wouldn't feel bad
Speaker 5: if you're a partner that doesn't know those answers.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's often the.
Speaker 5: First time when we met, my dad was terminal. Yeah,
Speaker 5: fourteen years ago, you know what I mean, It was
Speaker 5: like pending there. So anyway, Yeah, buzz.
Speaker 1: I was like, let me try to find a lot
Speaker 1: of one.
Speaker 3: I think there are people who would actually find that
Speaker 3: really helpful because it genuinely was the only.
Speaker 1: Question that got asked.
Speaker 5: Really.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, this is like screenshot in order of who's
Speaker 4: asked when. Okay, here we go, Sarah's favorite question, Nick's
Speaker 4: worst favorite question, favorite feature school, personally, any about one another.
Speaker 1: Dick kidding each other's penises? Oh my god, you said that.
Speaker 1: I was like, I need to just light the moon.
Speaker 5: It's definitely not a sense of human Mine would be
Speaker 5: your intelligence and.
Speaker 1: Your boobies and my boobies cap my croft top. That's
Speaker 1: a nice intelligence, isn't it.
Speaker 5: And your empathy.
Speaker 3: Oh that's really lovely, yours would be your lateral thinking,
Speaker 3: like there will be nine hundred and your laves know
Speaker 3: your ability to there will be nine hundred, Like overly
Speaker 3: qualified people looking at every aspect of a like problem,
Speaker 3: and nic will come in and just think of something
Speaker 3: that no one has thought of before, and it's like
Speaker 3: the most obvious way to do it that just other
Speaker 3: brains don't think, like you'll always see a different way
Speaker 3: to do it.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, You'll literally.
Speaker 3: Just cut through everyone else's brain and finds some way
Speaker 3: of thinking of something. And I'm always like, how does
Speaker 3: your brain see that? But it's consistent and it's so
Speaker 3: it's such a form of intelligence that's so different. It's
Speaker 3: like creative and academic at the same time.
Speaker 5: Moskiton and Rwanda remember that no one could work out
Speaker 5: to put that mosquito it up because it was broken
Speaker 5: And I'm just like, why don't we just do this?
Speaker 5: And tired? Why do you think of that? I'm like,
Speaker 5: how is that not obvious?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: But no one else, Like there's been so many times
Speaker 3: where intensely qualified people have not been able to solve
Speaker 3: a problem. And Nick's just been like, you're you know
Speaker 3: what you roind me of the little taco girl, like
Speaker 3: look at not as like that's nick all the time, your.
Speaker 1: Best ches being like the.
Speaker 3: Little cheese girls, soft and hardly exploring. No, but that
Speaker 3: because that's what she called the explorers done that, and
Speaker 3: you're so so you're lateral thinking and your intelligence that's
Speaker 3: so unique to anyone else's. But Kane is just losing
Speaker 3: her in the corner. But also the way that you
Speaker 3: make everything an adventure, like you will, in the worst
Speaker 3: in scenarios, crack a funny joke, or you'll you'll be
Speaker 3: throwing things at people in the way.
Speaker 1: That's like are you fucking joking?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Literally, at your dad's funeral, you were like cracking gags
Speaker 3: and in appropriate way though, like you're just I always
Speaker 3: say life will never be boring your practical jokes.
Speaker 5: Still telling this really serious eulogy. And my mom's four
Speaker 5: foot eleven and disabled and my sitter has gone and
Speaker 5: dad also held the high jump record as well as this,
Speaker 5: and I'm just gone and my mum broke it and like.
Speaker 3: All I saw your eyeballs go, oh my god, too
Speaker 3: far and then they looking in the crowd.
Speaker 5: Like my sister said, you're going to bash.
Speaker 4: If you watch your video back, like Sarah says it
Speaker 4: like Sarah's Nick sisters, and then Sarah says it, and
Speaker 4: Nick's eyes are going, should I should I? Sarah's going
Speaker 4: and Nick should I? And there's this long cause like
Speaker 4: says it, and then it runs away from the microphone's
Speaker 4: like oh.
Speaker 5: Then everyone laughed, and I was like, yeah that like
Speaker 5: six seven year old me. My sister was bigger than me.
Speaker 3: Was like, but you, yeah, you're endless, like practical jokes.
Speaker 3: And when I did first meet your dad, firstly, he
Speaker 3: was born on April Fools Day. But when I first
Speaker 3: went to your house in Tazzy, there's a sign that
Speaker 3: says beware of the wife. So I was like, okay,
Speaker 3: everything's making sense. And then the first story he told
Speaker 3: me was how when Irene first got Facebook, she had
Speaker 3: no friends obviously because like she hadn't added anyone yet,
Speaker 3: and so he screenshotted Irene Davidson has zero friends and
Speaker 3: like put it. They lived just the two of them,
Speaker 3: they lived together. So the only other person in the
Speaker 3: house who was going to see this, he printed, Irene
Speaker 3: has no friends, like and put it on the fridge
Speaker 3: and all over the house us and I was like
Speaker 3: and they'd been married like forty seven years and you're
Speaker 3: still doing that.
Speaker 1: So I was like, it all makes sense.
Speaker 5: And I had a competition on their vegi. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then your mum had like those broad beans that
Speaker 1: just over a whole.
Speaker 5: Bunch of extra beans sabotage.
Speaker 1: Garden like that thing.
Speaker 3: You have that too, And I think it's playful and
Speaker 3: like so much fun like life will never.
Speaker 4: Be is Shane. Shane's brilliant his jokes and they were
Speaker 4: the only two laughing. I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 1: When when you met Shane, you were like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: it all makes sense.
Speaker 5: You had two jokes. One was we.
Speaker 1: Would get canceled.
Speaker 4: It was like snows coming out of his mouth and
Speaker 4: like it's so funny, but it's so bad.
Speaker 5: It's my favorite.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, sweet, we lightened the mood. Great, Here you go.
Speaker 1: How do you guys manage your finances between you?
Speaker 5: I don't, that's true, Transa, that's question. I'm very very
Speaker 5: very good, always have been at making money.
Speaker 4: Right, and but but you're actually pretty good at like
Speaker 4: business budgeting.
Speaker 5: When it comes to money.
Speaker 1: Always the figure.
Speaker 5: I have an extreme ability, even since as a kid
Speaker 5: of making money.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're very and I.
Speaker 5: Absolutely even better ability to spend.
Speaker 1: It, like it's not it's not just you're not like.
Speaker 3: You just don't monitor the overall budget, like you don't
Speaker 3: watch the figures as much. So I think in any relationship,
Speaker 3: you learn what your strengths and weaknesses are. And that's
Speaker 3: what business was really good for us for because it
Speaker 3: really quickly showed like what our strengths and what we
Speaker 3: could learn from each other and what we could teach
Speaker 3: each other. And very quickly it was like, he's not
Speaker 3: great finances, so I will.
Speaker 1: Take home those.
Speaker 5: When it comes to personal, it comes in and I
Speaker 5: don't even think about it. I just and also I
Speaker 5: can't even log in. I didn't have any cash for
Speaker 5: a long time when I was like yeah, yeah, so
Speaker 5: I'd know exactly how many cents I had in my
Speaker 5: bank account when I'd go to buy in the supermarket,
Speaker 5: so I'd know I had like seventeen dollars forty one
Speaker 5: and I'd be buying. Well, I know that was my limit.
Speaker 5: And my goal was go to whenever I go to
Speaker 5: supermarket and not have to think about how much cash
Speaker 5: is in my bank account and just be able to
Speaker 5: buy it and then I just went too far and.
Speaker 3: I but what's really interesting is for the like management
Speaker 3: of our money, like saving house deposits, all that kind
Speaker 3: of stuff is more my role. But in the business
Speaker 3: I had no idea about the figures like working out
Speaker 3: cost of goods and margins and that kind of finances.
Speaker 1: I was like, ugh, and you did it all and
Speaker 1: you still do.
Speaker 4: There's an extension of that question of more in depth.
Speaker 4: Do you ever joint account?
Speaker 5: Was it when you moved in together nine and a
Speaker 5: half million bank.
Speaker 1: Accounts and they all joined dollars?
Speaker 5: I was like, no, it's crazy.
Speaker 4: And do you do your own thing with money you earn,
Speaker 4: including share portfolose, investment properties, et cetera. Was there actually
Speaker 4: buying money goal all the two of you really equally creating?
Speaker 5: Yes, but not because we're like protective of our own interests.
Speaker 5: I like, what's mine is Sarah's, what's mine is yours,
Speaker 5: and what's yours is yours.
Speaker 1: I mean he's learning.
Speaker 5: No, like we we have joint and shared, but it's
Speaker 5: not because of anything. It's not because of any reason.
Speaker 5: I dabbling weird ship.
Speaker 1: That is such an odd thing to say on the record.
Speaker 3: He does not dabbling in the way creatively created. No,
Speaker 3: like you're more probably risk have big of risk appetites,
Speaker 3: has like crypto and like all that's.
Speaker 5: Very then there was. I mean, it's also like we
Speaker 5: both got small ship medium sized share for polios. Yours
Speaker 5: is very much Sarah Navidson couldn't be more blue chip secure.
Speaker 5: I recently to share at six dollars forty that's now
Speaker 5: worth twenty one cents.
Speaker 1: Whoa amazing. But you also bought and stupidly sold so
Speaker 1: much bitcoin early.
Speaker 5: Do you remember, Yeah, yeah, of course I remember.
Speaker 1: You know he's blanked out.
Speaker 3: But I think we because of business, you get forced
Speaker 3: to sort out your finances earlier, probably than most couples.
Speaker 1: So we've had joint accounts for I.
Speaker 5: Think it's healthy to have your own cash.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we've also had separate personal savings, but it's I.
Speaker 5: Don't it's not a secret account or anything like that.
Speaker 5: That one's separate.
Speaker 1: It didn't happen.
Speaker 3: You have a little bit more time answer as we
Speaker 3: are both joint and separate, and I think that's healthy,
Speaker 3: it's good. I also don't buy our gifts for each
Speaker 3: other out of the joint It's like we can buy
Speaker 3: presents for each other out of our own.
Speaker 1: Because like the Valgan millennium whatever, whoa.
Speaker 5: That right?
Speaker 1: What's it called? Millennium falcon cloth.
Speaker 4: I'm so happy about post production anyway. The next question,
Speaker 4: this is the one who's actually really sweet. Aelready Nick
Speaker 4: One's posted something along the lines of you don't need
Speaker 4: to be passionate about what you do for work, as
Speaker 4: long as you have a passion for life. We'd love
Speaker 4: to hear more about this perspective and how he arrived
Speaker 4: to it and whether he.
Speaker 1: Expects to live by this forever.
Speaker 4: In Capital's question mark question, my Christmas exclamation was that from.
Speaker 3: You, just like, look at my amazing question.
Speaker 1: I don't even know then that you wrote that question
Speaker 1: to yourself. One Nick one.
Speaker 4: Time posted having ripped abs is number one? Tell us
Speaker 4: about that routinees are hard.
Speaker 1: It's a nice question. It's a beautiful.
Speaker 5: I learned that in Africa with Pat Hellahan and I
Speaker 5: were talking about it. So he was working as a
Speaker 5: town planner, but he would spend all his free time
Speaker 5: working for this charity and he was just like he
Speaker 5: was happy doing that at the time. He ended up
Speaker 5: working full time to charity, so ruining his whole quote.
Speaker 5: But the whole thing was you don't need to people
Speaker 5: that go love what's that quote that's like, if you
Speaker 5: love what, you love your job, you life And I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 5: but then you end up hating your job because you
Speaker 5: won't love it anymore. A lot of photographers get like this,
Speaker 5: and a lot of artists and stuff when they're commissioned
Speaker 5: to draw Fredo frog jumping in a lake when they
Speaker 5: all they wanted to do was draw cool shit and
Speaker 5: frog jumping in the lake, jumping in a river. But
Speaker 5: and so that whole thing where they lose the love
Speaker 5: for it, and also like it makes people feel bad
Speaker 5: that how many accountants would exist if you had to
Speaker 5: live love your job or like stuff like that. You
Speaker 5: don't need to be like the transport officers. Yes, so
Speaker 5: you don't need to love you job. You need to
Speaker 5: find passion in your life. And that passion could be
Speaker 5: rescuing dogs, or it could be cycling, it could be.
Speaker 1: A hobby or a play.
Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, a plat No, it's good, it's cute. I
Speaker 5: like it. I like your outlook.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, he's.
Speaker 5: But yeah, and yes, I plan on living there. I've
Speaker 5: just got to narrow down my passions to one.
Speaker 1: You have so many you actually do love them all.
Speaker 5: You just I've got weird ones. Like obviously woodworking is
Speaker 5: quite important, yeah, but then I'm like a ran out
Speaker 5: of things to work on. Then lego, and then there's
Speaker 5: a finite amount of lego a guy can have before
Speaker 5: it becomes super weird. And I've already crossed into the
Speaker 5: weird realm.
Speaker 1: And it's nothing like you are already there, mate, you
Speaker 1: are already.
Speaker 5: And then the same as like exercise, you get so jacked. No,
Speaker 5: there's only so much exercise you can do. Right before
Speaker 5: you hear your name.
Speaker 4: And then you had like but you also when we
Speaker 4: first met you, photography, you like, yeah, I loved cameras, Yeah, but.
Speaker 1: The building of cameras photography.
Speaker 5: I've got no shit close to one hundred cameras at home, Like,
Speaker 5: but yeah, and I love photography, but I started to
Speaker 5: hate it because I I did something but work, and
Speaker 5: that's why I don't do any of it.
Speaker 1: It's really interesting.
Speaker 3: That conversation with Pat is something I quote all the
Speaker 3: time as well. I reckon that helped me stay at
Speaker 3: the law firm for ages because he was like, if
Speaker 3: you're not one hundred percent passionate in what you do.
Speaker 3: Just find the passion outside of it, Like you don't
Speaker 3: have to be enamored with every day. But I think
Speaker 3: you also teach me that a lot as well, that
Speaker 3: you can find it. There are days when you're super
Speaker 3: passionate about what you do and there are also months
Speaker 3: where you're not.
Speaker 5: I hate a lot of my jobs, like I don't
Speaker 5: enjoy a lot of it, but I enjoy what it
Speaker 5: allows me to do. So it allows me to help
Speaker 5: a lot of people, and days sometimes I actually quite
Speaker 5: enjoy specific tasks. But it also one it allows me
Speaker 5: to help people and allows me to do things cheap
Speaker 5: for people I want to help because I get paid
Speaker 5: more from other people, and also allows me to live
Speaker 5: a life that you know what I mean, Like I
Speaker 5: earn enough money to do what I want to do
Speaker 5: to an extent and all that type of thing there,
Speaker 5: And I don't think there's anything to be shamed about
Speaker 5: by doing it. Not loving your job.
Speaker 1: Nice. That is very nice.
Speaker 5: You're so smart sometimes sometimes.
Speaker 4: One time, first time anyway today today, do you know
Speaker 4: your attachment styles?
Speaker 3: Oh, belcro what what does that mean?
Speaker 1: Oh? So there are attachment styles.
Speaker 4: It's a cycling there's like, yeah, yeah, there's also a
Speaker 4: book that it's like the four main one, secure, avoidant, disorganized,
Speaker 4: and anxious.
Speaker 1: I actually don't know them in depth. Can we ccco
Speaker 1: back to that question because I want to read that actually.
Speaker 4: Is a really good one to know. While you're looking
Speaker 4: at that, I'll do another one. Then I'll doing easy ones.
Speaker 4: You to have to think about it too deeply. Favorite
Speaker 4: place to go together, oh.
Speaker 5: In separate directions.
Speaker 1: Don't understand your favorite place to go?
Speaker 5: Look, the supermarket used to be office work. Yeah, whenever
Speaker 5: she was sad. Whenever she was sad, we'd go to
Speaker 5: the supermarket, supermarket or twenty four hour came.
Speaker 4: We did that once, did that much that one time
Speaker 4: we were both sat, let's let's go to the grocery store.
Speaker 3: We were like, yay, it's the little Yeah, yeah, it's true,
Speaker 3: it's true.
Speaker 1: I reckon.
Speaker 3: One of our favorite places is Alexandra, which is, as
Speaker 3: you guys know, where my mom grew up and we
Speaker 3: still have the house that she grew up in, which
Speaker 3: is really well designed and like exactly how it looked
Speaker 3: in the fifties. It's our happy place. I think we
Speaker 3: go with Paul. Paul loves it his favorite place, puppy
Speaker 3: and we go every east and we've been going every since.
Speaker 5: I was born. The last time, one of the last
Speaker 5: times were there and there's a massive thunderstorm on. Oh
Speaker 5: my god, a huge thunderstorm and that power was off
Speaker 5: and everything, and Paul was freaked down. He's jumped on
Speaker 5: top of the bed. As he's jumped on the bed,
Speaker 5: thunder's gone off and the bed broke.
Speaker 1: He was just like.
Speaker 5: And he's just looked at me in the eyes and
Speaker 5: he's just going get the we're going on.
Speaker 1: Definitely not his voice.
Speaker 3: We also love going to Tazzy together. Brunie has become
Speaker 3: a new like that's a brand new place to go
Speaker 3: since your sister and then you play there, but that's
Speaker 3: a new happy place, I think. And then overseas, where's
Speaker 3: our favorite.
Speaker 5: We love Italy traveling together stops a happy place I
Speaker 5: think when it's special, when it's not work related. Yeah, okay, yeah,
Speaker 5: but Alexandra, I.
Speaker 4: Guess next question is something that sounds like Nick's asked,
Speaker 4: have you guys ever tried tasting each other's snot?
Speaker 5: It's really.
Speaker 1: Funny that it's a relevant question because.
Speaker 5: I tried again.
Speaker 1: We have many snot stories.
Speaker 3: So the same way that and is closely associated with
Speaker 3: barts Nick is associated with flicking snot at people.
Speaker 5: It's true in people, not just random peoples.
Speaker 3: It has been a random before you have flinched on randoms.
Speaker 3: So he flipped it once in the car, just like,
Speaker 3: not really in any direction, just like I was in
Speaker 3: the car and he turned around and it was four
Speaker 3: my lit it was on my lip. I was, it's
Speaker 3: not a toilet, so yes, I have accidentally tasted side.
Speaker 1: He has not tasted mine. Oh that's when.
Speaker 5: She couldn't taste her because it was all the wall.
Speaker 3: So I also did the thing where I used to
Speaker 3: pick my nose and put it behind the bed frame,
Speaker 3: thinking that somehow I thought it would just disappear or like,
Speaker 3: I don't know, disintegrate.
Speaker 1: And then we moved the bed.
Speaker 3: To replace it with a new bed, and that it
Speaker 3: was like this, like of my not.
Speaker 5: Texture that, And she was just like she has two
Speaker 5: things she was unaware of back then. She don't aware that.
Speaker 5: I didn't notice when she burned and just went.
Speaker 1: You still do you still do that?
Speaker 5: I would have noticed you, but if you didn't go
Speaker 5: you're trying to clear a snorkel.
Speaker 1: You still I don't wanted to go in your direction.
Speaker 5: Definitely blue cans levels then by blowing them.
Speaker 1: And blows.
Speaker 4: I remember the first time I got a book, a
Speaker 4: book a snot you were like, you've made it literally.
Speaker 1: To have a circle of trust. Okay, next question, how
Speaker 1: do you keep your sex life spicy after all these years?
Speaker 1: I've been with my planner for.
Speaker 4: Fourteen years and we've done a lot of experimentation, but
Speaker 4: it's definitely an effort.
Speaker 5: Now, how do we keep it spicy?
Speaker 1: Tom Young, that's my tygering Curry, Like you just just
Speaker 1: hold it, Tiger and Curry.
Speaker 5: That's not spicy. Though my mom listens to this.
Speaker 1: Your Sarah's Sarah's moms never listened to it.
Speaker 5: CC not only not listened to she's the other day
Speaker 5: she comes in and goes, listen to this podcast. You
Speaker 5: just okay.
Speaker 1: So how do you keep your sex life spicy?
Speaker 3: I think because we travel a lot. Hotels, yeah, hotels, Yeah,
Speaker 3: We're often in a new environment. It's hard when you're
Speaker 3: like in the same house, in the same bedroom, and
Speaker 3: like for ages, we also worked in our bedroom which
Speaker 3: was not dogs just like won't get out.
Speaker 5: So you have to consciously different. That wasn't me.
Speaker 3: But you have to consciously be like come on, buddy,
Speaker 3: and like get him out and like put some and
Speaker 3: then much. No, I think it COVID was really hard
Speaker 3: because we were at home all the time. It was
Speaker 3: not a sexy time. But generally I think the proven.
Speaker 5: When we're in Alexandra, it's not a sexy time because
Speaker 5: Sarah showers once a week.
Speaker 1: To Joe.
Speaker 3: But I think, yeah, the fact that we get to
Speaker 3: change environments and have little date nights and little date
Speaker 3: adventures really help. So even if you don't do that
Speaker 3: for work, I think if you can book a little
Speaker 3: troop even at night, like do a stay ca and
Speaker 3: go out for dinner and have I think you do
Speaker 3: have to after fourteen years, you definitely have to make
Speaker 3: an effort towards romance.
Speaker 5: It's not it needs to be an effort when it comes.
Speaker 5: It just needs to be you need see to find
Speaker 5: that thing. Yeah, it kind of works, but yeah, on.
Speaker 4: The back of that, then what strategies do you put
Speaker 4: in place to keep that desire and attraction going. Do
Speaker 4: you think being apart from each other has helped keep
Speaker 4: that desire alive?
Speaker 5: Certainly makes me like you more.
Speaker 1: But I promise they love each other very much.
Speaker 6: I know if people don't understand, we would message each
Speaker 6: other consistently for fourteen years at least once every two hours. Yeah,
Speaker 6: it is good that we have really independent lives as well.
Speaker 6: So I definitely find that because we get to travel separately,
Speaker 6: you do kind of you get to feel the feeling
Speaker 6: of missing someone, and if you don't have that, I
Speaker 6: guess it's.
Speaker 5: Hard to kind of created grop on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it does because we do have streategy.
Speaker 5: The other thing that helps so is we both travel,
Speaker 5: so we both get it, you know what I mean.
Speaker 5: It was just like I remember during COVID, I did
Speaker 5: go to Tazzy a bunch of times and I quarantine
Speaker 5: and stuff, and Sarah was lot in lockdown and she's like,
Speaker 5: fall salty.
Speaker 3: Because you're in a hotel and he's like yeah, in
Speaker 3: quarantine and I'm like yeah, but it's still a hotel
Speaker 3: home and he's like yeah, I am like locked I'm
Speaker 3: like okay, but you're like on a fak.
Speaker 5: Just imagine people that like go for work and the
Speaker 5: other person doesn't travel work, then like that absence might
Speaker 5: make you a bit saltier. But I think I think
Speaker 5: that does help, but I still probably prefer to be
Speaker 5: with you.
Speaker 3: But I think the fact that we have our own like,
Speaker 3: I think what keeps us really attracted to each other
Speaker 3: is also that we're proud of each other's separate things,
Speaker 3: Like our identity isn't even when we're working on the
Speaker 3: same business, we still had other like different roles and
Speaker 3: different things going on, and there's a sense of like,
Speaker 3: when you're not so I meshed, that you're just one
Speaker 3: unit all the time, it's hard to be attracted to
Speaker 3: the other person because you're so like, do you know
Speaker 3: what I mean, your identity is a blurred Whereas when
Speaker 3: I get to watch him do his work or watch
Speaker 3: him like flourish and something that's really.
Speaker 1: Attractive because it's like, oh, look over there.
Speaker 3: Like it's good to not be intimately in every detail
Speaker 3: of each other's lives because then you can admire from
Speaker 3: afar and kind of be like, oh, cute, cute.
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm just gonna stop it there.
Speaker 1: Till you agree.
Speaker 3: The fact also caps backwards helps spice caps forwards.
Speaker 4: No kind of exact thing you that cap backward and
Speaker 4: Nicky's in the backyard doing his would.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, he's a chainsaw and the.
Speaker 4: Top is off and he's getting sunburned on his back
Speaker 4: the other day.
Speaker 5: But when you forgot to flip a steak.
Speaker 1: That's what you looked like.
Speaker 4: Okay on the okay, I want to extend this. Well,
Speaker 4: we're building up and we're hyping Nick up. This is
Speaker 4: so great and I hope Nickton said it to himself.
Speaker 4: Nick Davidson is so hot.
Speaker 5: Sarah calm.
Speaker 1: Sarah is a lucky gal.
Speaker 4: What are his top three tips around eating to maintain
Speaker 4: a ripped lean physique? Thanks from your favorite listener, You
Speaker 4: ladies are killing it.
Speaker 1: That's not calm, that's Nick for sure.
Speaker 5: You ladies. I wouldn't be sounding and I wouldn't be
Speaker 5: giving diet advice.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Nick doesn't that when you break it down.
Speaker 5: I tracked my calories for the first time in my
Speaker 5: life recently because Danny Kennedy asked me to, and that
Speaker 5: was quite interesting. But what was it that my diet
Speaker 5: was her?
Speaker 4: Yeah? The top three tips around eating to maintain a
Speaker 4: ripped lean physique.
Speaker 1: You just forget to eat meals, isn't it? But then
Speaker 1: gorgeous night.
Speaker 4: Genuinely, he's not purposely, he just forgets meals, and so
Speaker 4: I was like, it's lunchtime.
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, that's right, and then he'll be like,
Speaker 1: I haven't eaten it's breakfast. I'm my god at seven pm,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, who are Yeah, just like you just
Speaker 1: genuinely forget. I think a lot of it is you
Speaker 1: train regularly. That's a big part.
Speaker 5: Yeah. Yeah, I'm also not going to lie that it's
Speaker 5: there's a lot of people that train the same matter
Speaker 5: as me and eat similar to me, and they would
Speaker 5: be morbidly obese because I eat some crap sometimes. But
Speaker 5: having said that, I drink a lot of water and milk.
Speaker 5: I drink a lot of a lot of protein. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 5: I drink a lot of a lot of water. I
Speaker 5: enjoy eating shit food as well. No, no, but like,
Speaker 5: but I don't eat chip food all the time. Like
Speaker 5: it's not like I ate an entire pack of barbecue
Speaker 5: shapes last night, but without breathing once.
Speaker 1: I wish this like false, it's also.
Speaker 5: True, literally, like cooking months to start.
Speaker 1: Like, but you don't even look at it. You're just like.
Speaker 5: It's weird.
Speaker 1: Like I've seen like you know when he eats and
Speaker 1: he's just.
Speaker 5: Like I find that my body knows what it wants,
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. So some days I'm just like,
Speaker 5: why do I just want lollies? And I eat lollies.
Speaker 3: I think for the like average listener, you have a
Speaker 3: lot of muscle memory from being an athlete your whole life,
Speaker 3: and a very good metabolism. But you also don't eat,
Speaker 3: like really badly.
Speaker 5: I don't drink, and you.
Speaker 1: Don't drink a lot and you train regularly.
Speaker 5: Like I don't sit there every night and have a
Speaker 5: couple of beers or something like that, and I'll.
Speaker 1: Drink like once a quarter or something.
Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe a little bit more. But like and we binge.
Speaker 3: We're not regular drinkers. We just binge once every now
Speaker 3: and then.
Speaker 4: Okay, next question, you guys would love this. What's the trashiest,
Speaker 4: lowboil content that you watch together?
Speaker 5: Sorry, there's a lot.
Speaker 3: When we keep our relationship alive, we do joint activities
Speaker 3: that make us happy.
Speaker 5: We have set for a year pretty much because every
Speaker 5: night would watch Lauren order s for you when we
Speaker 5: went to bed and I was just.
Speaker 3: No, or We've got these like five pages that will
Speaker 3: just go on for like two hours, Like okay, we're
Speaker 3: going to bed early and it's like ten thirty and
Speaker 3: then at three am we're still watching me.
Speaker 4: Yeah you know you you watch compilation of TikTok videos
Speaker 4: on YouTube.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, because that's when it's on the big TV.
Speaker 3: But we start with fever. We start with the getting hurt.
Speaker 3: We love girls getting hurt.
Speaker 4: We love dogs, dogs shows love Oh yeah, Labrador Dance labyrind.
Speaker 1: Or Dance compilation.
Speaker 5: Crufts Crufts.
Speaker 1: And you made me watch Crusts.
Speaker 5: What are talking about? The best thing is? The best
Speaker 5: Crufts is you've got like the dog like the dog
Speaker 5: like obedience thing, right, you don't see it. You're like
Speaker 5: all these different breeds doing it. Don't see a goldie.
Speaker 5: It all like that's weird, no golden. And then you
Speaker 5: go crust cold and trieve it the cross Golden retriever
Speaker 5: it and then it is.
Speaker 1: Only gold.
Speaker 5: The twenty of them like being led by their leads
Speaker 5: around in this thing and then it's but it's the
Speaker 5: the dad and I just let go the lead and
Speaker 5: the dogs in there.
Speaker 3: Go you a diagonal and it's like, oh the jag.
Speaker 3: The goldies are all looking different, the crowd and then.
Speaker 5: The owners are actually it's around.
Speaker 3: So we have a lot of trashy shows that we
Speaker 3: like to watch, but we're not reality people, so we're
Speaker 3: more like Brooklyn ninet nine. We've watched every episode of
Speaker 3: Friends a thousand times. Same with Seinfeld, same with like
Speaker 3: Big Bang.
Speaker 5: We once went from the first episode of Jack yeah
Speaker 5: with hum and rap and then into it because it
Speaker 5: has been off it all the way through like recently.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but the trashiest is like the vines.
Speaker 3: We just get on a meme roll and then we'll
Speaker 3: just watch people falling over or the fart bomb, you know,
Speaker 3: the glitter bomb.
Speaker 5: But he's super smart, yeah, Marks, Yeah, he is so.
Speaker 3: But we get on tangents and also we also get
Speaker 3: on tangents like anything animal that will watch pandas falling
Speaker 3: for like days, Oh.
Speaker 5: What's the UK? Graham Norton, we get on.
Speaker 1: And then bloopers. We'll watch anchormand Bluebers.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Riggs blueps are amazing because he just laughs like it.
Speaker 1: I really high brown content.
Speaker 4: Only know that I knew that you're going to love
Speaker 4: that question because every time I come over, I sleep,
Speaker 4: What is this? What I'm like, Okay, I'm going to
Speaker 4: sleep and where are you leaving? The video is not
Speaker 4: done it's like seventeen minutes. I'm like, oh, sit back
Speaker 4: back on the it and.
Speaker 1: It's just memes the British British things. And you watched
Speaker 1: it before, like it's like a third time. You're like,
Speaker 1: this part's fine, the next one's coming out.
Speaker 4: What's some next question is actually this is a nice
Speaker 4: This is just a compliment, no real question. You are
Speaker 4: both such beautiful people, and I hope you get to
Speaker 4: have the life you dream of.
Speaker 1: So nice, I'm nick demply put that.
Speaker 4: In what is an experience you've had together you would
Speaker 4: recommend everyone try?
Speaker 5: It's such an inappropriate it's really going to rain himself in.
Speaker 1: Don't know, Dora needs to go away.
Speaker 4: Oh quick answer, we hate you.
Speaker 3: I feel like, very very we have done some awesome
Speaker 3: things together, like we we will never in our life
Speaker 3: look back and be able to say we didn't take
Speaker 3: every opportunity to adventure and try new things and go
Speaker 3: into business together and go to wild places and go
Speaker 3: normal places. Like We've had some incredible adventures, but it's
Speaker 3: so hard to pick just one. Like I would say,
Speaker 3: go into business with your partner, but I feel like
Speaker 3: some couples would not survive. One's the best thing ever
Speaker 3: and then also the hardest thing ever Egypt. But if
Speaker 3: you're not an super adventurous couple like that might be
Speaker 3: really out of your comfort zone.
Speaker 4: E What is an experience you've had together you would
Speaker 4: recommend everyone try.
Speaker 5: I think what we didn't doesn't have to be in Italy.
Speaker 5: That thing we did oh.
Speaker 1: Ye yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, where you.
Speaker 5: Literally just pack your car up and just drive and
Speaker 5: find a spot to stay as you go, unplanned completely obviously,
Speaker 5: you start and finish as planned. I think that is
Speaker 5: a brilliant way to just That was one of my
Speaker 5: first enjoy company over control. Freaky like you are you were.
Speaker 5: So the story was Sarah Finish Uni and we planned
Speaker 5: quite a long trip and I said, look, I'll organize Italy.
Speaker 5: I used to live there and I'll do that. So
Speaker 5: we get to Rome, spend two nights in Rome.
Speaker 3: And then wait, first we went to the Middle East,
Speaker 3: and I planned like three minutes, which is kind of
Speaker 3: necessary there, but like.
Speaker 5: I had a schedule.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was like, okay, you've got three minutes to
Speaker 3: pooh and then we're going to.
Speaker 1: Get on the bus.
Speaker 5: Don't bring up pooing. Maybe anyway, So we got to Italy,
Speaker 5: and she's like, where are we staying night? And I
Speaker 5: booked two nights in Rome and then gone, we'll pick
Speaker 5: up our higher car. We hot in the higher car
Speaker 5: and then she goes, where are we going now? I'm like,
Speaker 5: I don't know what.
Speaker 1: I lost it. I was like, you mean, we don't
Speaker 1: have the winnest.
Speaker 5: Booked out of Sicily in a week, and we've got
Speaker 5: to get there, so we'll drive and see what we did.
Speaker 5: And it was great. It was the best.
Speaker 1: That's my favorite. It was the best. Yeah, it was
Speaker 1: so good. Okay, when he's a baby spoon nicky boy arriving,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's so cute.
Speaker 3: So we've talked about this quite a few times on
Speaker 3: the show that we were not not trying last year.
Speaker 3: That was our first year of like, okay, we're not
Speaker 3: not trying. We thought COVID was just a weird time
Speaker 3: for hospitals and everything, so we kind of weren't trying then.
Speaker 3: But I came up the pill early last year, and
Speaker 3: then because we were not in the same place, and
Speaker 3: then I had Antarctica when everything.
Speaker 5: When I was mailing to Sarah, sorry, it was funny
Speaker 5: as hell.
Speaker 1: And we were like, oh, understand. I was like, what
Speaker 1: do you mean?
Speaker 3: But we weren't in the same place when I was
Speaker 3: ovulating more than once, so we were not Everyone's like, that's.
Speaker 1: Not really trying that. I was like, Nah, we weren't really.
Speaker 1: We weren't really like on the clock having sex. Yeah
Speaker 1: we were trying, Yeah, but like in all weird times,
Speaker 1: so not sure on the clock.
Speaker 3: Like we weren't doing the timing, like you know when
Speaker 3: you're literally when you're younger, girls think they can sit
Speaker 3: on the same time as a boy and get pregnant anytime, Like.
Speaker 5: It's so easy.
Speaker 1: You can't. No, as a young like as a young.
Speaker 3: No, at school they ski so much and then you
Speaker 3: realize it's actually only like you have one chance cycle
Speaker 3: which is twelve maximum, you know what I mean, Like,
Speaker 3: it's not as easy. There are very clear timelines. So
Speaker 3: this year we are making more of an effort to
Speaker 3: plan because we travel so much for work to plan
Speaker 3: better to Yeah, make a bigger effort, I would say,
Speaker 3: which is really exciting.
Speaker 4: Next question for Nick, Nick, how did you know Sarah
Speaker 4: was the one question mark X Did you put that in?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 1: I would make.
Speaker 5: Wars answer, I don't know. It was pretty early. It's
Speaker 5: like probably doing our stupid conversations about like acrostic poems
Speaker 5: and ship about random stupid things and Facebook Messenger.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Nick did the two thousand and nine version of
Speaker 3: sliding into my DMS.
Speaker 5: I still dispute the record on I reckon you just
Speaker 5: you slid into mine?
Speaker 1: Okay, But I didn't say, by the way, I've just
Speaker 1: changed my room from so even if I can't even.
Speaker 3: So, I said, even if it was me, right, I
Speaker 3: was just chilling right, like I was like, oh cute,
Speaker 3: Like we kind of knew of each other. We've been
Speaker 3: out before a couple of times, but we'd never really connected.
Speaker 1: And I said, whoever initiated it? I asked like, what
Speaker 1: are you up to? Like what have you been doing this week?
Speaker 5: And he goes, I think there's a winky face.
Speaker 3: I've just been moving my room around from a room
Speaker 3: for two people to a room.
Speaker 1: For one person.
Speaker 3: And I was like, as in, like, obviously I just
Speaker 3: had brought he'd just broken up with his what's up?
Speaker 1: But I was like, I was like, who says that,
Speaker 1: you know? What's finished? Moving my room around in the
Speaker 1: room but two people one person? And then I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm coming. I went to his house, Like true, that's true,
Speaker 1: and you tell me that you turned up.
Speaker 3: Oh god, but then you pretty much proposed like two
Speaker 3: days later.
Speaker 4: You know what's up? Okay, your next question, this is
Speaker 4: obviously talking about me. Do you have any couple of
Speaker 4: friends who aren't ridiculously good looking? Or are they all influences?
Speaker 4: Real question, and it's about me.
Speaker 5: I'm so really unattractive.
Speaker 1: It's so weird. Once you like people, I don't even
Speaker 1: know if people.
Speaker 5: Or not like ridiculously. It's awful.
Speaker 3: I mean, obviously we have a lot of friends who
Speaker 3: are in the same industry, yes, but we also have
Speaker 3: so many I mean at our wedding you can see
Speaker 3: they were actually all disgusting. They were found they were
Speaker 3: all not in the industry. Like so many of our
Speaker 3: friends have no idea, they're just like so like.
Speaker 1: And I'll keep us.
Speaker 5: Whenever I post something influency on Instagram, I know I'm
Speaker 5: going to get so much stick for it.
Speaker 1: We do have.
Speaker 5: I get said, I'll get send the photo the sins
Speaker 5: on my insights. My mates send them to us with
Speaker 5: alternate captions.
Speaker 1: Or like photoshopped. We have very beautiful friends. We're very lucky.
Speaker 1: I don't know, that's such a weird thing.
Speaker 3: But yes, I think all our friends are beautiful, but
Speaker 3: not all of them are in the industry. In fact,
Speaker 3: most of them, like we're all still we're friends with
Speaker 3: our school friends, we're friends with like I still have
Speaker 3: lots of work.
Speaker 1: Friends, Korean club, my Kareem club, my friends were adopted with.
Speaker 5: Two of my groomsmen were from when I was living
Speaker 5: in England, like well before, yeah, all of my before
Speaker 5: Instagram and Facebook nineteen thirty.
Speaker 1: Yeah one, Yeah, that's really cute that you think our
Speaker 1: friends are really beautiful.
Speaker 4: Oh god, Okay, a few more questions and then that's
Speaker 4: pretty much it. But how is it for unique? When
Speaker 4: Sarah was away in Antarctica and off grid.
Speaker 5: It was actually really difficult, Like I just the main
Speaker 5: reason is Sarah would do this thing where instead of
Speaker 5: just going, okay, we're going to go down it's really
Speaker 5: rough weather, I'm feeling so sick, but am I is
Speaker 5: she alive or what? So that part was stressful because
Speaker 5: I'm like, oh, because Sarah's Sarah. I wasn't worried about
Speaker 5: her safety. I was worried about her happiness on it
Speaker 5: because she's very she hates being sick, Like I'm like,
Speaker 5: she's got she's like Jerry Seinfeld and then whole she's
Speaker 5: phobic vomiting.
Speaker 3: It's called a metaphobia. I found out recently. I was like,
Speaker 3: it's a thing and it's common. I was like, I
Speaker 3: found my people. I'm actually you know, I'm like so
Speaker 3: scared of it. And I had food poisoning when I
Speaker 3: got on the boat.
Speaker 5: That it was difficult and not being able to be
Speaker 5: and also because we messaged so much just about like
Speaker 5: random things, it was kind of yeah, but it was
Speaker 5: kind of weird to like have like no contact. But
Speaker 5: the second time when so she went across and then
Speaker 5: I heard from her for a bit, and then when
Speaker 5: she was in Drake Spasty and I didn't hear from her.
Speaker 5: But that time on KNW she was fine, So it
Speaker 5: was much easier. It's just when I knew that she
Speaker 5: wasn't fine, it was easy. I mean, I'm secure enough
Speaker 5: in my relationship to be out of contact. I'm sorry, sorry,
Speaker 5: is Pingu.
Speaker 3: I found it really hard just because we've had this
Speaker 3: thing and you've talked about this a lot. If Nick
Speaker 3: is there, and we've had this quite a few times.
Speaker 3: When I got in really extreme situations out of my
Speaker 3: comfort zone that are real growth opportunity. Is if he's there,
Speaker 3: I don't do it. I'm like, oh, I've got my
Speaker 3: you know, security blanket, I've got my safe space, like
Speaker 3: I won't do it. But when we're in India one
Speaker 3: day we had this crazy hike that was I'd never
Speaker 3: really hiked before. I was by myself for like hours
Speaker 3: in the middle of the Himalayas with these walking sticks.
Speaker 3: I didn't know how to use them. And he had
Speaker 3: food poisoning ironically that day and couldn't come. And because
Speaker 3: when he's not there, I'm fine, I'm like, I don't
Speaker 3: have the choice. I have to like suck it up
Speaker 3: and do this thing and like get over the fear.
Speaker 3: And I'm totally fine when he's there and I lose it.
Speaker 3: So sometimes he's on purpose like go to it yourself,
Speaker 3: like you'll be fine. But with this I think it
Speaker 3: was like he knew I would be fine as soon.
Speaker 5: As I couldn't talk to me so much because I
Speaker 5: know way more to this story about what happened on
Speaker 5: that hike that can.
Speaker 1: Never go to you can say it halfway through.
Speaker 3: I've been really constipated from the Indian food. And I
Speaker 3: was like by myself in the middle of nowhere, and
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, I really need to pooh, and
Speaker 3: there were no ches anywhere. And then I found some
Speaker 3: sheirpers and they were like, you can go there, and
Speaker 3: I went behind this tent and then I turned around
Speaker 3: and like there were eight thousand cows just watching me
Speaker 3: and they me and I was at that point I
Speaker 3: was just like crying, and I was like.
Speaker 5: I just go.
Speaker 1: And then I had to hide all the way back.
Speaker 3: And the minute Nick opened the door, He's like, are
Speaker 3: you cares?
Speaker 1: But all day I was fine.
Speaker 5: The funny thing about it was the reason I got
Speaker 5: sick was I was at this temple up in like
Speaker 5: up Archie was anyway, it's some random place in monastery,
Speaker 5: and I grabbed a april clot up the tree. Monk
Speaker 5: came up and goes, oh, no, I'll grab it, and
Speaker 5: he just washed it that me and my friend and
Speaker 5: he just washed it in this dirty bucket of water,
Speaker 5: and I'm like, because would be fine off the tree anyway,
Speaker 5: So I've just rubbed it on my jump. It took
Speaker 5: a little bite and then was looking through it out
Speaker 5: my shoulder. Yeah, I was sick, but when she went
Speaker 5: on this hike, I really want to go. And by
Speaker 5: the way, we all me and Jim suddenly felt better
Speaker 5: and we were just sipping lattes and like just sitting sitting,
Speaker 5: just enjoying.
Speaker 3: The But like we said before, with that whole you know,
Speaker 3: how do you keep a good relationship that being out
Speaker 3: of my comfort zone and an experience that was totally
Speaker 3: by myself, I actually had to remember who I was
Speaker 3: when I can't validate my feelings or ventilate them with
Speaker 3: Nick and out of all of those daily habits and stuff.
Speaker 3: It was really interesting to see, like who you are.
Speaker 5: When you and I'm super internal and like I mean
Speaker 5: like I don't think you've being with me or you're
Speaker 5: not being with me. It doesn't like it doesn't you
Speaker 5: know what I mean, A.
Speaker 3: Big external like bouncer off of emotions, whereas I'm like
Speaker 3: I can't validate I don't feel like I fully felt
Speaker 3: something until I've shared it, which is yeah, sometimes you're
Speaker 3: like shut up at three am.
Speaker 5: Oh cool, it's.
Speaker 1: My favorite thinking time.
Speaker 4: Tell us about how love language rock to your world
Speaker 4: when you learned about them from Chi my cousin oh
Speaker 4: Chee literally wrote, she goes, is this legit anonymous cheat
Speaker 4: your cousin?
Speaker 1: Tell us about this cheat your cousin? I love che Yeah.
Speaker 3: It definitely made our relationship and communication. And I think
Speaker 3: I learned about the love languages around the time we
Speaker 3: went into business and realized that Nick's love language for
Speaker 3: me is if I have a problem, it's immediately helping
Speaker 3: me solve it.
Speaker 1: But I was like, I would tell.
Speaker 3: It, pitch him an idea, and he'd say, oh, well,
Speaker 3: you've got to fix this, this, this is this, and
Speaker 3: then in.
Speaker 1: For ages that would be so hurt because I was like, you're.
Speaker 3: Fucking what You're like, I'm here dealing with myself doubt
Speaker 3: and you're just knock him down and telling me what's
Speaker 3: wrong with it. And now you know, love language has
Speaker 3: helped me see like that's his way of saying, I
Speaker 3: believe you can do this, but to make it work,
Speaker 3: my support for you is like helping show you what
Speaker 3: you need to fix.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure that's not one of the five l No,
Speaker 1: it's not one of five one languages.
Speaker 3: But learning about the idea that we both show love
Speaker 3: and affection in different ways and we receive it in
Speaker 3: different ways, like I need someone to be like, that's
Speaker 3: the best idea, it's so possible. Let's not poke any
Speaker 3: holes on the plan. First like that was when it
Speaker 3: started to be really revolutionary. And then when I learned
Speaker 3: what the actual.
Speaker 1: Five love languages were.
Speaker 3: Five, right, it's gifts, acts of service, quality time, physical touch,
Speaker 3: and affirmations.
Speaker 1: We both like to give.
Speaker 4: What is Sarah's love languages that she likes to receive
Speaker 4: affirmations in order of the five.
Speaker 5: I'm not coming backwards to the gifts.
Speaker 1: I'm not big on gifts.
Speaker 5: No, it's the only other one I remembered.
Speaker 1: Definitely affirmations. I like it when he says things, Yeah,
Speaker 1: gives acts of service, physical touch, quality.
Speaker 5: Time, probably affirmations first. Obviously probably acts of service, physical touch,
Speaker 5: and gifts would be last.
Speaker 1: You're the same, gifts would be last. And what does
Speaker 1: it like to receive? I think, well, Nick definitely likes
Speaker 1: to give acts of service. He will go kind of
Speaker 1: a sense of the can testify her. Yeah, for not
Speaker 1: to do, but as important to Nick, that's a really
Speaker 1: interesting one. I think you like acts of service as
Speaker 1: well as number one.
Speaker 5: You think the problems act of services. I don't like
Speaker 5: it when I could do it better, and that sounds
Speaker 5: bade going to go and redo itation.
Speaker 3: You really appreciate gestures, Vicky, Oh my god, so much?
Speaker 5: Ya next door?
Speaker 3: Yeah a little yeah, yeah, I love her. So I
Speaker 3: don't know what the other order is really, I think
Speaker 3: I think in between they're all kind of like definitely gifts.
Speaker 1: Last physical touch is pretty high. Yeah, but he's also
Speaker 1: like general although you do like ws aformation and quality time,
Speaker 1: do you know what yours are that you're like to sy?
Speaker 3: That's why it's hard for me, but it definitely I
Speaker 3: think even in my friendships, I think understanding the way
Speaker 3: we all give differently and receive differently and matching that
Speaker 3: up and then everyone's not the same. It's a revolutionary concept.
Speaker 3: I think, same as that mem I was talking about before.
Speaker 3: It's really deep, meaningful.
Speaker 4: Okay, meaningful, yeah, okay. Second and last question, how do
Speaker 4: you prioritize the relationship when you're really busy?
Speaker 5: We don't.
Speaker 3: We're pretty good at calendar appointments, like we'll know, okay,
Speaker 3: we've got a really busy time, so.
Speaker 5: Like we're also really bad at it. If Sarah goes this,
Speaker 5: I'm like, it's not in my calendar.
Speaker 1: It's true.
Speaker 4: That's true because like is in my calendar. You're like, yes,
Speaker 4: it's it's that You're like, damn it, or I'm like
Speaker 4: check again.
Speaker 1: But it gives. It gives. Like you guys go like
Speaker 1: that's a rule. You both If nix like it was
Speaker 1: in my calendar, You're like, that is fair, then you
Speaker 1: don't have to.
Speaker 7: Attend yeah, yeah, regions as well, Like, because of the
Speaker 7: international nature of my businesses, I have a lot of
Speaker 7: meetings at between seven and nine pm or five and
Speaker 7: five and nine am, right, so if we're going for dinner,
Speaker 7: I can't just move a meeting to.
Speaker 5: Like later on because everyone else three different time zone
Speaker 5: is quite up into it too. So that's why the
Speaker 5: calendar is important. And also I try my weekends are
Speaker 5: important at the moment because I'm exhausted.
Speaker 3: But we're pretty good at Like when we were going
Speaker 3: to Perth for you know, the jet start job, and
Speaker 3: then we tacked on two days, like we'll often tack
Speaker 3: on two days of just us time. And then Nick
Speaker 3: was like, by the way, I've got to cancel because
Speaker 3: my best friend's here from.
Speaker 1: The UK, which I was fully four.
Speaker 3: I was like, you never get to see him, but
Speaker 3: you made a really big effort to be like, but
Speaker 3: that means in dead we have to book in some
Speaker 3: other two day thing that's us in the calendar somewhere.
Speaker 3: So we're pretty good at like, Okay, we don't have
Speaker 3: any us time in the next three weeks, so let's book.
Speaker 1: A hotel that our work.
Speaker 5: Also, we spend a lot of time together incidentally, like, yeah,
Speaker 5: I work from home ninety percent of the time, and
Speaker 5: so do you.
Speaker 3: So and every night we have time where like the
Speaker 3: laptops a shot and we'll watch an episode of something
Speaker 3: like We're pretty good like that.
Speaker 4: Okay, last question, it's chupata three biggest X each other
Speaker 4: and then three things you love the most.
Speaker 1: About each other. Oh, that's a cute underfinished ones.
Speaker 4: First you have to say that with poor three biggest X,
Speaker 4: you can't say, oh yeah.
Speaker 3: Okay, we does have three now three Beigause, Dix, Monday, Dick,
Speaker 3: and Princess.
Speaker 1: Oh I don't have that many X. Oh okay, he
Speaker 1: does this one definitely.
Speaker 3: It's not an ick so much of something that like
Speaker 3: makes me want to divorce him, Like right now, he does.
Speaker 5: This and I do it because so much. And she's
Speaker 5: real hype on in the morning.
Speaker 3: It so much so he obviously, as you guys can hear,
Speaker 3: Nick's love language is practical jokes, like he is serious,
Speaker 3: not that often, but sometimes we'll say the words about affirmation,
Speaker 3: which is lovely, but the practical joke rarely goes too
Speaker 3: far where I'm like, don't fucking do that.
Speaker 1: But there's one thing that he drives to do all
Speaker 1: the time is just suck my nose. And he would
Speaker 1: do it.
Speaker 3: It's like as then he would jump on me and
Speaker 3: hold me down and then like put his whole mouth over.
Speaker 5: My nose suck. I just put it because.
Speaker 3: Because he does it before he brushes his teeth and
Speaker 3: then my nose and I was like fucking spitch for
Speaker 3: hours and it just feels gross and I hate it
Speaker 3: so much.
Speaker 1: So mad joke you ever did that video you said
Speaker 1: you got the milk the cookie, You've got milk in
Speaker 1: your bag on your body.
Speaker 5: I hate it.
Speaker 3: But the nose I hate so much. I never get mad,
Speaker 3: but I'm like, oh God, it makes me so mad.
Speaker 3: One thing that gives me the ick is when he
Speaker 3: like it's kind of cool, but it's kind of not.
Speaker 3: When he gets annoyed with like bad customer service or
Speaker 3: something coming out wrong at a cafe or something, and
Speaker 3: I get really like even if I'm allergic, I'm like,
Speaker 3: don't worry, it's fine. I love it, like no confrontation.
Speaker 3: And it gets like like he'll stand up for himself,
Speaker 3: which is good, it's a good quality. But I get like,
Speaker 3: like I go into my skin and I'm like like
Speaker 3: if he sends something, oh my god, oh die, Like
Speaker 3: I'm like ill, I can't ill ill. Or if he's
Speaker 3: on the phone, like if he's been double charge for
Speaker 3: something and he gets even a tiny amount serious or
Speaker 3: like angry, that's your mom.
Speaker 1: Firm, I'm like, run out somewhere, run out of the house.
Speaker 5: I'm like my classic line is I'm not angry at
Speaker 5: you personally the situation.
Speaker 1: I have to leave. No, I can't do it.
Speaker 5: No.
Speaker 1: I think your second one.
Speaker 5: Is pretty high.
Speaker 1: I'm like, but so it's kind of like thinks she's
Speaker 1: been quite Like I was like, he makes that mouth?
Speaker 1: Who makes that?
Speaker 5: Who makes worst?
Speaker 1: You'd go.
Speaker 5: She didn't think anyone knowed it?
Speaker 1: Now like who even what is happening?
Speaker 4: It's great, okay, last one, last dick. Yeah, you think
Speaker 4: you appreciate the book of flicking.
Speaker 3: It's not an x though, it's just fucking annoying, but
Speaker 3: there's definitely other eggs.
Speaker 1: The how's the pick up? Nick drives like g force?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, when he drives like a maniac, do
Speaker 3: not drive he thinks he doesn't drive like a man yet.
Speaker 1: No, because the pickup is so fast.
Speaker 3: Because no, you know what really gave me the the
Speaker 3: first time when he wore lycra.
Speaker 1: No, and I was like, nos, that you look good
Speaker 1: in it. It just was like there's a lot of
Speaker 1: gold going on.
Speaker 5: There's not there's that much chemy there. When you re record.
Speaker 1: I know you're going to say that you stories.
Speaker 5: What's worse. What's worse is when she re records with
Speaker 5: the same enthusiasm.
Speaker 1: And then you get to an appointment.
Speaker 5: At night. It right, oh good, over and over again
Speaker 5: like video.
Speaker 4: It's so true, but also you used to it's so
Speaker 4: annoyed at me because like it'd be the sixth time and.
Speaker 1: He gooo, and you'd be like as if you hadn't
Speaker 1: done it already.
Speaker 5: The best bit is when you do it when she's
Speaker 5: got the mic set up in the headphones because she
Speaker 5: can't hear you do it, so she would be recording
Speaker 5: some years ago, poo pooh the background, and then she'll
Speaker 5: be like put her stuff away and she'll be editing,
Speaker 5: and she would just go are you.
Speaker 1: Like hours later, you can't.
Speaker 5: Hear it when she's recording, You're going to hear it
Speaker 5: when she's like.
Speaker 4: It was more because when you needed to do those
Speaker 4: quote of the days, and then it always like high
Speaker 4: beautiful baby, Hi beautiful people.
Speaker 1: Oh my only other equals niggers.
Speaker 3: When he's this thing when he's on a business call
Speaker 3: and like being really friendly with someone and they tell
Speaker 3: a joke and he's going to be really plain, he goes.
Speaker 1: He does this like fake laugh, you know, the laugh
Speaker 1: that you do.
Speaker 5: It was like.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, you would never laugh like that ever.
Speaker 5: So it's friend the chance the work.
Speaker 3: Club, which she's like, you only do it on work
Speaker 3: calls when you're at the end of the call and
Speaker 3: you're like, yeah, mate, that's finny, let's go, and I'm.
Speaker 1: Like, I've never heard that before. Wait. Next other thing
Speaker 1: is he flicks his toenails. That's my big.
Speaker 5: Nine.
Speaker 1: They're Jesus, I'm I'm here anyway. Now it's now it's
Speaker 1: a loving ending. Some things you love about each other.
Speaker 3: I love how it's not easy to have two really
Speaker 3: big careers and personalities in one relationship, especially when mine
Speaker 3: involve was like, bye, I'm going to Antarctica for a month,
Speaker 3: like and I won't have my phone and I have
Speaker 3: never in my like I lived in I was also like, bye,
Speaker 3: I'm living in Hong Kong for a year, i am
Speaker 3: living in Paris. Like the theme of our relationship with
Speaker 3: me being just bucking off of my career. And I've
Speaker 3: never ever felt like it was hard or I owed
Speaker 3: him something or that, like I think a.
Speaker 5: Lot of people would hold no.
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people would.
Speaker 3: Hold that over you, or you feel like, okay, well
Speaker 3: and now it's my turn to live overseas for a year,
Speaker 3: or it put straight on your relationship to do things
Speaker 3: like that, And I always feel incredibly supported, free to
Speaker 3: pursue any Like it's I feel so supported as a
Speaker 3: woman in a career, like I've never felt constrained. And
Speaker 3: if anything, You've done everything to make my career and
Speaker 3: life better and bigger, and you celebrate everything.
Speaker 1: And I think that's but I think it's you know,
Speaker 1: not always the case.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Well, I mean mine's Mine's almost same thing with
Speaker 5: regards to I love what where you just take these
Speaker 5: channel and do them like that's a really important thing
Speaker 5: because a lot of people with your education, and I
Speaker 5: mean people don't realize your education. A lot of people
Speaker 5: like how high you finished in the honor roll, like
Speaker 5: your score and your like you know what, mcrubby, she's
Speaker 5: like a she's got a portrait on the wall literally
Speaker 5: and was ducks of mcgroth higher and like languages all
Speaker 5: these other things. Most people would go, oh, well, I
Speaker 5: can know you're going to have a really successful, easy
Speaker 5: money career as a lawyer, but you chose not to.
Speaker 5: You chose to do something quite risky and now obviously
Speaker 5: there's years when it pays off, but there's obviously so
Speaker 5: much uncertainty in it. So I've always loved that you
Speaker 5: would take those risks. And this social media success you
Speaker 5: have now is a byproduct of you being a good
Speaker 5: person while doing it. That's what makes you likable. It's
Speaker 5: not like you just got your tits out in the
Speaker 5: beach style thing.
Speaker 1: You know what, I didn't have act vibes. You know
Speaker 1: that this is so.
Speaker 5: So it's almost the inverse of that, Like I love
Speaker 5: supporting you doing these wild things.
Speaker 1: That's nice.
Speaker 3: I know I was waiting for the like. The other
Speaker 3: thing I love about you is how much you care
Speaker 3: for your friends and people that you love. You don't
Speaker 3: ever half ass anything. You use your full ass.
Speaker 5: Both butt cheeks, both butt cheeks, which is interesting because
Speaker 5: the exothe theologists are same not use my glutes.
Speaker 1: Yeah no.
Speaker 3: But Nick will like fly to the other side of
Speaker 3: the earth to be there for someone and often not
Speaker 3: mention it, like you kind of don't really make a
Speaker 3: fuss about those things. You just you'll quietly come in
Speaker 3: and help remove obstacles from people's lives or make their
Speaker 3: life better in some way. And you never just support
Speaker 3: from afar like you.
Speaker 1: Always are hands on.
Speaker 3: How can I help when shit is hard and when
Speaker 3: it's easy, like both times, you'll not shy away to
Speaker 3: I don't think any of your friends can say you
Speaker 3: wouldn't like take a bullet.
Speaker 1: For them, like testify.
Speaker 3: Yeah, likes he doesn't just love you in a really
Speaker 3: easy way. He's like when it's hard or when like
Speaker 3: the first week you guys are friends, he's like, I.
Speaker 1: Had a ride with you from Adelaide Ye would I
Speaker 1: like that?
Speaker 5: Yeah? You thought there could be a car following you
Speaker 5: as soon as I saw the map on you wasn't
Speaker 5: going to happen.
Speaker 4: No, and Nick did it out of like genuine protection
Speaker 4: out of it, which I didn't know any time. He
Speaker 4: was like I've done this before, and no he didn't
Speaker 4: like exactly you said.
Speaker 1: Nick doesn't make it a big deal even mentions it.
Speaker 4: It just does it, and then after the fact you're like, oh,
Speaker 4: he actually didn't do it to ride next to me.
Speaker 4: Did it to make sure that it was mentally supported
Speaker 4: throughout the whole thing, which is much more than just
Speaker 4: being like, oh, I want to come on a front trip.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And you don't often say things like I'm there
Speaker 1: for you or whatever.
Speaker 6: You just do it.
Speaker 1: You'll just be you just turn up.
Speaker 3: And you're there for them, and then like years later
Speaker 3: they'll be like, oh my god, you're the only one
Speaker 3: who came and knew.
Speaker 1: That I just needed blah.
Speaker 3: And I feel like I've obviously been around you and
Speaker 3: your friends enough to have heard them say that many times, and.
Speaker 5: That makes me really happy. The whole idea of paying
Speaker 5: it forward with that though, like it's a case of
Speaker 5: I think that most of the people that I've done
Speaker 5: that for I've done a lot of it. It's all
Speaker 5: about if you can make them do it for someone else.
Speaker 5: And that's the thing because I was helped a lot
Speaker 5: when I was younger, and I'm often helped a lot
Speaker 5: in I was given opportunities because people took a risk
Speaker 5: I was. I had a lot of people that were
Speaker 5: older than me that helped me out a lot of things.
Speaker 5: And I mean I traveled the world for sport on
Speaker 5: other people's dimes a lot of the time because I
Speaker 5: couldn't afford it. Yeah, So then I look at some
Speaker 5: of my friends and I see that that I helped,
Speaker 5: and I see them paying it forward, and I'm like,
Speaker 5: that's all the matter anyway. The second second, I think
Speaker 5: it's just how you like, what's that make hay? Why
Speaker 5: the sunshine? You know what I mean? Like that whole
Speaker 5: you would just go, you know what I'm going to
Speaker 5: do is I'm going to do all of this and
Speaker 5: like okay, sure, like you know when you just take
Speaker 5: full advantage of everything and without that sounding like you
Speaker 5: go you'll sit there and you just if you've got
Speaker 5: this little opportunity, you just make maximize everything you can
Speaker 5: out of it. And without not in a extrinsic way,
Speaker 5: more of an intrinsic way, like I want to get
Speaker 5: as much as I can out of this and help
Speaker 5: and young and for both. So people in the podcast,
Speaker 5: most of the people on the podcast, they're getting out
Speaker 5: just as much out of the talking and stuff like
Speaker 5: that than you are, Like you know what I mean,
Speaker 5: Like they're actually it's quite cathartic for a lot of
Speaker 5: people to actually feel like their voice is being heard
Speaker 5: as well. So I love that.
Speaker 1: My last one would be.
Speaker 3: I think that you've always been like so keen for
Speaker 3: an adventure, Like even when you're you've been at your
Speaker 3: most serious and your most like work is demanding this
Speaker 3: and this and this is me you'll just go fuck it,
Speaker 3: let's go to Egypt, like anymore. Yeah, but you'll embrace
Speaker 3: an adventure always and be like like, one of the
Speaker 3: things I think is the most important in terms of
Speaker 3: compatibility of someone is of two people, is there how
Speaker 3: they prioritize what you spend your money on in life,
Speaker 3: whether it's like experiences or things or houses or whatever.
Speaker 3: And we've never I've never had to convince you of
Speaker 3: the value of experiences together, We've both been like, while
Speaker 3: we're young and we could do this, Let's go to Africa,
Speaker 3: Let's go to Egypt, Like, let's you know, we've foregone
Speaker 3: other things that other couples might have prioritized, but we've
Speaker 3: never not had an adventure, We've never not made memories,
Speaker 3: and I've never had to convince you that that was valuable.
Speaker 3: And because of that, we've just seen so much cool
Speaker 3: stuff together and I think we will continue to always
Speaker 3: do that. And I think that's yeah, I love that
Speaker 3: about you.
Speaker 1: Last one, you bum cute, You're ass.
Speaker 5: They're getting there and they're not there at the moment.
Speaker 1: They are always they are always there. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: this okay, we finishing on your bum.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm like, I'm happy with that.
Speaker 1: Happy Valentine's Day. Love all the people who you love,
Speaker 1: love them hard.
Speaker 3: We've got a really really exciting what Oh my god,
Speaker 3: what is the support that I'm getting over here? Love
Speaker 3: in Like, you don't just have to be in a
Speaker 3: relationship to enjoy Valentine's Day.
Speaker 5: Love all your loved ones.
Speaker 1: So that wasn't fun. That was very nice. So I
Speaker 1: think when Nick just everything.
Speaker 3: We are so excited to be having our first Valentine's Day,
Speaker 3: Pinot and Bikasa and Pals event this week. I think
Speaker 3: it will be on the same day as this episode
Speaker 3: comes out. No, yeah, on Thursday. Yeah, we're so excited
Speaker 3: and that sold out so quickly, so we're definitely going
Speaker 3: to come to all the other states at some point
Speaker 3: during the year. And hope you guys are all season
Speaker 3: your yay. Thanks Nikki for coming on, and thanks for
Speaker 3: modi yea.
Speaker 5: What Eating Eating, Hay Birthday and.
Speaker 1: Everyone every day
Speaker 5: M hm