WEBVTT - When I Have Kids I Will NEVER Do THAT! 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:03.199 We acknowledged the traditional custodians of the land we're recording 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:03.840 on today. 0:00:07.080 --> 0:00:09.560 Am I fine with putting it in my own body? Absolutely? 0:00:09.840 --> 0:00:12.920 My body is fucked already, not his precious little body. 0:00:13.000 --> 0:00:15.120 Am I okay with him eating devon and sausage for 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:17.840 every meal? Throat hypocrisy doesn't make sense? 0:00:21.920 --> 0:00:25.640 Hello, and welcome back to Eat Sleep, Ship Repeat, a 0:00:25.680 --> 0:00:29.600 wildly unhinged podcast all about the madness that is motherhood 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:30.480 and everything in between. 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:34.560 I'm Kiri Cells, I am Kaylee mccaren, and I'm so 0:00:34.600 --> 0:00:35.239 excited to have. 0:00:35.159 --> 0:00:37.440 A good old fashioned giggle today. 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:39.440 Yee. 0:00:41.720 --> 0:00:45.360 Today's episode is a lull fest about shit we said 0:00:45.400 --> 0:00:47.560 we would never do before having kids. 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:51.480 But first it's Key's turn for peak and pitch. 0:00:51.720 --> 0:00:54.840 Well, you're getting your wish because my pit today is 0:00:54.880 --> 0:00:55.400 really bleak. 0:00:55.520 --> 0:00:57.240 Okay, I said that for one week. 0:00:57.520 --> 0:01:00.720 I know, I know, but I actually denied as to 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:03.360 whether I would share this on the pod because I 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:06.240 just thought that maybe it was a bit too depress So, 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:11.360 but I also feel like sometimes being honest about where 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:14.640 you're at helps other people and maybe might even help 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:18.880 me feel less shameful. I think yes, So basically for 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:23.040 the last I would say month or two, my mental 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:26.559 health has taken a massive dip, and I can't really 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:31.240 remember a time where in recent times where I felt 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:32.640 kind of like this depressed. 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:33.840 Do you remember what. 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:38.400 Spurred it kind of brought it on? Yeah, I think 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:41.520 definitely maybe the miscarriage could have been the start of it. 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:44.960 And then I think that, you know, kind of while 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:49.000 I was healing from that, because stupidly, I never thought 0:01:49.080 --> 0:01:52.200 that I would have a miscarriage. I know statistically I 0:01:52.280 --> 0:01:56.000 could have. I just didn't cross my mind because things 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:58.920 with Ruin conceiving and everything had been fine, and I 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:02.440 was a little bit naive to this situation. And then 0:02:02.640 --> 0:02:05.240 it happened, and it took me a while to like 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:07.160 get out of that because it was also a really 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:09.400 long process, like I was waiting for my period to 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:12.480 come back. It didn't come back to February, and then 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:16.760 in February, my mother in law passed away really suddenly 0:02:16.840 --> 0:02:21.079 from an accident. And I just think like ever since then, 0:02:21.520 --> 0:02:22.960 I've kind of been like in a little bit of 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:26.640 like mental free for all in that like I just 0:02:26.840 --> 0:02:31.440 can't quite catch my breath almost, it feels like and 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:36.720 it's really hard, and I feel like I've reached my 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:40.480 limit of like kind of stifling it. Like I'm basically 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:44.440 on the verge of tears at all times. Maybe that's good, 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:48.280 it is, but it's also like it's really hard for 0:02:48.320 --> 0:02:51.440 me to be like happy about anything. So so much 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:55.320 stuff has happened, like just little things that I should 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:58.280 be really proud of, and then inside I'm just like, 0:02:58.960 --> 0:03:02.320 because I'm in such bad headspace, I'm just so critical 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:05.040 of myself more than ever before. And I'm naturally a 0:03:05.080 --> 0:03:08.959 pretty critical person of myself, and at the moment, it's 0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:12.120 just like insane the things I'm saying in my head 0:03:12.120 --> 0:03:17.639 to myself about everything. And the worst part about it 0:03:17.680 --> 0:03:23.200 is that it's affecting my parenting of Rue because I 0:03:23.280 --> 0:03:29.440 feel so depleted and like I just don't feel emotionally 0:03:30.160 --> 0:03:32.880 there right now, which makes me sad because I feel 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:36.040 like she's missing out on the best parts of me. 0:03:36.800 --> 0:03:38.840 And it's a weird thing. Like I've always had mental 0:03:38.920 --> 0:03:41.720 health stuff, so I've always been anxious, you know, I've 0:03:41.720 --> 0:03:43.520 always someone that wakes up in the morning with like 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:45.800 a little bit of dread. But you know, with like 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:49.000 medication and seeing my therapist and things like that, I've 0:03:49.000 --> 0:03:51.520 managed that. And then obviously big life things have happened 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:54.880 to me. But I think the difference in the things 0:03:54.920 --> 0:03:57.480 that have happened to me is that I don't know, 0:03:57.520 --> 0:04:00.360 they've been easier to kind of come to terms with, 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:04.680 like my grandparents dying, for instance, they lived a really 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:05.320 long life. 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:09.000 I hate saying that because that doesn't make it any 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:09.840 less sad. 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:10.640 It doesn't. 0:04:10.800 --> 0:04:12.559 However, there is a big. 0:04:12.280 --> 0:04:16.320 Difference that is the way that we know and expect 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:17.000 life to go. 0:04:17.200 --> 0:04:18.040 It doesn't make the. 0:04:18.120 --> 0:04:24.479 Impact any less horrible and devastating, but we expect it. Yeah, 0:04:24.760 --> 0:04:27.960 we don't expect someone to have an accident, have an 0:04:28.000 --> 0:04:30.600 accident in their very early sixties. 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:32.599 And that's what I think, Like I think also now 0:04:32.600 --> 0:04:37.279 I'm living really like just knowing how like fleeting life 0:04:37.320 --> 0:04:39.839 can be. You live a little bit differently, and you 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:42.120 feel a little bit differently, And I just feel like 0:04:42.240 --> 0:04:45.520 a lot of the time I'm sad, but like I've 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:48.279 always dealed with kind of like grief and sadness somewhat 0:04:48.320 --> 0:04:50.440 in a silo. Right, So with my grandparents, I was 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:50.960 like grieving. 0:04:51.360 --> 0:04:53.760 You could compartment for myself though, right. 0:04:54.520 --> 0:04:57.280 But I think every day that I get up, you know, 0:04:57.320 --> 0:05:00.120 I'm thinking about Charlie's dad. I'm thinking about Charlie. I'm 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:03.679 thinking about his sister, his brothers and Ruth and Rue. 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:08.000 Like I'm grieving for so many people on top of 0:05:08.160 --> 0:05:12.279 my grief. It's just a really shitty time. 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:17.520 And that was all on top of the physicality and 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:21.280 the emotional loss of the baby. 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:25.280 Yeah, and like right after our wedding, like we're meant 0:05:25.320 --> 0:05:26.840 to be really happy. I mean, the good thing is 0:05:26.839 --> 0:05:29.719 is like we are. We've definitely hard ups and downs 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:34.400 through this because it's really hard to both be grieving 0:05:34.440 --> 0:05:36.800 at the same time. And a lot of the time 0:05:36.839 --> 0:05:40.359 I think, like, it wasn't my mom, So it's difficult 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:44.120 for me because like Charlie's not like now, Charlie's like no. 0:05:44.080 --> 0:05:47.320 It's not like he's it was my mom. No, But he's. 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:50.359 Supported me for so long with different things that have 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:54.040 happened to me. He's been my support system that I 0:05:54.240 --> 0:05:57.280 really want to be his support system. But it's also 0:05:57.360 --> 0:06:00.720 really hard, like for something that shouldn't have I think 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:03.000 it's makes it so much harder to be able to 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:06.520 like understand and make any sense of because it's senseless 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:07.720 and it was your mom. 0:06:08.160 --> 0:06:11.400 Yeah, because you don't have your own mom. Yeah, and 0:06:11.440 --> 0:06:14.159 you've never had a mother figure before, so deb. 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:15.440 Was your mom. 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:20.679 She's been your family for seven eight years, a long time. 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:24.680 Yeah, and she was that mother figure to you. 0:06:24.960 --> 0:06:25.200 Yeah. 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:27.960 And I think she always like championed me as a mom. 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:29.760 Like that was a bit of kind of like a 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:32.719 realization I had with my therapist the other day was 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:36.119 like I definitely was like worried about having a girl, 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:38.160 and I had all of those things because you didn't 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:40.240 have a good point of reference, I guess, and that 0:06:40.320 --> 0:06:43.440 mother daughter relationship. I was like, oh God, like, am 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:46.960 I gonna be strong enough to kind of stop whatever happened? 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:50.719 Tipping over into how I'm gonna then shape this little 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:55.840 baby's life. But like Charlie's parents came. We spent a 0:06:55.839 --> 0:06:58.720 week in hospital after the C section, and Charlie's parents 0:06:58.760 --> 0:07:01.359 came for a week, and like dead would not stop 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:04.719 saying to us, like, you guys are such amazing parents, 0:07:04.800 --> 0:07:08.120 Like you are such amazing parents, Like you've taken to 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:11.640 it so naturally, And I would say all these things, 0:07:11.680 --> 0:07:13.880 and she would always say that to us. And I 0:07:14.080 --> 0:07:18.480 just feel like we're trying to have another baby, and 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:19.480 I just feel. 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:21.239 Like you don't have that cheerleader anymore. 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:24.960 And I just feel like my confidence is gone because 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:28.600 of it, and stuff I lope didn't worry about before, 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:33.000 I'm worrying about now. And it just feels really hard 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:38.160 and really heavy at the moment. So that's my pit. 0:07:39.280 --> 0:07:41.440 That's a really fucking shit. 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:43.400 You know, it's really shit. I don't think I've just. 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:48.119 God, you're such a special person. I'm getting upset because 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:51.360 I don't think she's just so amazing. And my own 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:53.200 parents have never told me that I'm doing. 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:56.960 Well. No one had ever said that to me before. 0:07:57.200 --> 0:08:00.520 That was why I think it was life. Yeah, hear that. 0:08:00.520 --> 0:08:04.760 That just impacted me so much because go tell everyone 0:08:04.800 --> 0:08:06.679 you know that they're doing a really good job, because 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:08.920 I mean, not if they're not. 0:08:08.920 --> 0:08:12.960 But don't be throwing it around. But if you. 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:14.720 See someone and you think. 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:17.960 Oh God, what a lucky kid to have those people's parents, 0:08:18.040 --> 0:08:21.920 tell them, well, what's the plan? Because you can't just 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:23.600 like keep living in a flop. 0:08:24.080 --> 0:08:25.880 I feel like talking about it is a good thing. 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:28.120 I think I'm going to up my therapy. It's a 0:08:28.320 --> 0:08:30.840 monthly at the moment, I think I might do it fortnightly. 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:33.720 I mean, I even just feel a bit of relief, 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:37.000 like talking about it and not keeping it as. 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:39.280 A secret, you know, because you shouldn't. 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:41.680 And when you said that you're on the verge of 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:43.400 tears all the time, and I said, maybe that's a 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:48.760 good thing, but letting it out actually helps so much, 0:08:48.880 --> 0:08:50.239 and having a good cry. 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:51.720 Sometimes cries are good. 0:08:51.920 --> 0:08:55.360 The other day I had an absolute meltdown. I was 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:57.640 bowling myyes at, I was screaming, I was shouting, I 0:08:57.640 --> 0:09:01.040 was throwing tantrums about so many different things. And then 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:03.680 after like I Simon, down goes. 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:04.360 Do you feel better? 0:09:05.240 --> 0:09:07.160 Even though he copped it, and I. 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:10.319 Was like, I, actually, yeah, I do. 0:09:10.320 --> 0:09:10.559 Do you? 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:12.840 Also then I got my period and I was like. 0:09:12.760 --> 0:09:15.439 Oh that on. 0:09:16.320 --> 0:09:19.880 But you can't continuously bottle everything in. 0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:20.760 Yeah. 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:26.079 And also I hate small talks so much, so when 0:09:26.120 --> 0:09:28.440 I see someone, i'd much prefer they have a cry 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:30.160 and tell me what's actually going on in their life. 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:32.319 Then tell me it's very cold at the moment. 0:09:32.360 --> 0:09:36.120 We fucking know it's cold, or tell me what's going 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:37.040 on in your life. 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:39.280 That's how I knew that it was bad, was because 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:44.959 like I was seeing people and going and crying, which 0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:48.320 is so unhid, which is not me. No, like I'm 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:52.120 a Fort Knox usually, like I've dealt with stuff before, 0:09:52.400 --> 0:09:57.800 Kelly do Yeah, he stop crying all the time. It's fine. 0:09:58.120 --> 0:10:03.240 Ever since I was healed in in Balle. Can we 0:10:03.280 --> 0:10:04.480 move on to your peak there. 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:07.160 On your peace? 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:11.559 Firstly, it won't be cold, it won't be cold, because 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:12.480 that doesn't help. 0:10:13.160 --> 0:10:20.760 We booked our honeymoon, so we are going I'm sorry 0:10:20.800 --> 0:10:23.040 September for three four weeks. 0:10:23.160 --> 0:10:25.200 He didn't even get a chance to tell me. I 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:28.040 just message and goes, hey, where are you going? Because 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:30.080 it was in like this document. 0:10:29.880 --> 0:10:32.880 This document for like podcast host leave and I was like, shit, 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:33.840 I was gonna tell you. 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:36.840 I just want to know where you're going. 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:39.480 So we booked it. We're going to London. A friend 0:10:39.520 --> 0:10:44.080 of ours is getting married heaven, yeah really curiously's wedding, 0:10:44.280 --> 0:10:48.160 and then they're doing like a buddy moon in Sicily, 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:50.320 and then we're going to go spend hopefully a week 0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:52.560 with my god parents in the Netherlands because. 0:10:52.320 --> 0:10:54.040 They live there in Amsterdam. 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:56.640 Will they live in like a little cottage, a little village, 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:58.840 I should say, But we'll travel around. You can go 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:01.080 from one side of the Netherlands to the other. End 0:11:01.080 --> 0:11:02.920 of the day, Oh, that's really cool. The only other 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:05.000 thing is we're flying out of Paris to come home, 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:07.960 so we'll have a night or two there. So I 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:11.680 really want to do a crazy horse that burlesque show 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:13.600 that they do to Paris. 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:16.800 Never I've never been to France or Italy. 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:20.559 I've been to France. I went to like Bordeaux when 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:22.760 we were there for our thirtieth and we like we 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:26.880 actually stayed in a giant wine vat that they'd converted 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:29.400 into like a little mini Airbnb thing in the middle 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:32.240 of that so cool. It was so sick, it was 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:35.960 really cool. So yeah, that's just our loose plan we'd 0:11:36.000 --> 0:11:38.040 like to do, like just get a villa somewhere and 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:40.880 just set up in a little town, but like very 0:11:41.840 --> 0:11:44.760 scaled back because we're taking Rue. So she's gonna be 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:47.160 She'll be fine. It'll be fun. It'll be a different 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:49.760 kind of trip. But I'm quite excited for it because 0:11:49.800 --> 0:11:52.560 I think by then, I think she'll be fine, Like I. 0:11:52.880 --> 0:11:53.960 Actually be fine. 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:54.520 She's so. 0:11:55.960 --> 0:11:59.560 Happy and chilled, not chilled chilled in the way like 0:11:59.640 --> 0:12:01.920 she's just happy doing what you guys are doing. Yeah, 0:12:02.080 --> 0:12:04.240 you can take her out to dinner and she'll just 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:06.720 like chat to people and play and like, yeah, exactly 0:12:06.760 --> 0:12:07.360 get there. 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:08.880 And so and I'm hoping because we're going to be 0:12:08.880 --> 0:12:11.400 doing a lot during the day, like she'll be shattered, 0:12:11.440 --> 0:12:13.000 we can go out for like a late dinner and 0:12:13.160 --> 0:12:15.360 just have her in the pram and transfer later. Like 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:17.760 we're going to just kind of let it take us 0:12:17.800 --> 0:12:19.920 where it goes and not be too caught up with. 0:12:20.800 --> 0:12:22.160 Routines or naps in that. 0:12:22.760 --> 0:12:26.240 Like yeah, like she can nap on me. Yeah, well 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:28.360 on Charlie probably. I can't really carry her anymore in 0:12:28.360 --> 0:12:28.680 the how. 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:31.440 She's quite heavy. And yeah, she'll still go on the carrier, right. 0:12:31.400 --> 0:12:33.560 Yeah, she will, so we just put it on the back, 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:33.839 I think. 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:36.040 Yeah, and then they can see everything. You can still 0:12:36.040 --> 0:12:36.800 go on hikes that. 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:37.160 Way, man. 0:12:37.280 --> 0:12:40.120 Yeah, it'll be really fun. So that is just yeah, 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:41.000 that's a nice peek. 0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:42.280 I'm so excited for you. 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:46.319 I'm not excited for the flight, although she should be 0:12:46.360 --> 0:12:49.079 all right, but like I hate flying in general. 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:52.160 So good thing is you'll have her own seat. I think, 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:53.880 like you know, when you don't have to pay for 0:12:53.920 --> 0:12:56.200 them and they sit on your lap, Like the bigger 0:12:56.200 --> 0:12:57.880 they get, the more annoying it gets. Like I think 0:12:57.920 --> 0:12:59.560 them having their own seat, you can kind of set 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:00.880 them up a little bit. We'll get one of those 0:13:00.920 --> 0:13:02.640 inflatable things that you put on the floor so it 0:13:02.640 --> 0:13:03.959 makes like a little bed for. 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:05.880 The cute yep for twenty four hours. 0:13:05.920 --> 0:13:10.600 So well, hopefully, she'll say, hopefully, hopefully. I'm preparing for 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:12.040 the worst and hoping for the best. 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:22.160 So today's episode is a very nice, light episode. It 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:25.840 is designed to make you laugh and feel better about 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:28.600 your own choices as a parent, because my word has 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:32.200 parenting turned me into an absolute full of shit fear 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:36.079 buck with a nice side turving of hypocrisy. 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:40.520 If you will, we're gonna be chatting about all the 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:44.560 things we said we'd never do before having kids and 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:47.520 reveal whether or not we're stuck to that rule. And 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:48.439 I would like. 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:52.280 To preface my list of stupidity with a disclaimer that 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:55.319 I am aware I was an evangelical fool who had 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:59.480 no idea and I've been absolutely served my smug ass 0:13:59.720 --> 0:14:03.600 Yeah on a steaming pile of loll Yeah. 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:05.680 I didn't say a lot of mine out loud, so 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:08.559 I feel confident that other people didn't realize how stupid 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:11.440 I was before and how judge you I was before 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:15.280 having a baby. But yeah, now I'm about to tell everyone. Sorry, 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:16.080 I'm a bit nervous. 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:17.719 I can't wait. So we're gonna should we take it 0:14:17.760 --> 0:14:18.120 in turns? 0:14:18.240 --> 0:14:19.680 Yeah, let's do it all right. 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:21.840 First things first, this is one that. 0:14:21.800 --> 0:14:24.640 I use to try to get shitter submissions when I'm 0:14:24.680 --> 0:14:28.239 a parent. I will never let my kid eat McDonald's. 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:31.800 Why and how did I think I was going to 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:32.560 get away with that? 0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:36.640 Well, I too had the same kind of thought about it. 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:40.240 In my defense, the reason I have that rule over 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:44.640 other forms of takeaway is because of those viral videos 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:47.800 you've seen where they do the experiments where like the 0:14:47.840 --> 0:14:50.840 food doesn't even disintegrate or grow moldy, like not even 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:53.840 moldile attach itself to McDonald's. So I just am like, 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:56.000 I don't care if you eat shit. I just don't 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:58.800 want you eating McDonald's. So even though that is a 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:02.440 bit of a lull, he's had it twice and he 0:15:02.840 --> 0:15:04.240 just had a few chippies. 0:15:04.440 --> 0:15:06.720 That's the same as Rue. I actually did get her nuggets. 0:15:06.720 --> 0:15:10.560 Because we've really fucked up our drive from Sydney to Brisbane. 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:13.000 We just like left late and then we decided not 0:15:13.120 --> 0:15:15.600 to go to one place where all the food places were. 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:17.120 And so we had one of those servos that we 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:19.440 had to stop off and that I only had a McDonald's. 0:15:19.680 --> 0:15:22.360 And I was like, oh, I need her to eat 0:15:22.400 --> 0:15:24.120 to go to sleep. So we got her like a 0:15:24.160 --> 0:15:27.360 happy meal and nuggets because she loves chicken nuggets. She 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:28.640 wouldn't eat the chicken nuggets. 0:15:29.040 --> 0:15:31.480 She was like, these are not nuggets. She was like plastic. 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:33.280 She literally like bat it out of my hand. It 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:37.320 was like grows. But she nummy, yummy the chippy. 0:15:37.600 --> 0:15:38.760 And that's the thing. 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:42.800 The first time it happened was we often have McDonald's 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:45.040 because I love McDonald's. You don't strike me as a 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:45.840 McDonald's person. 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:48.440 I was trying to pretend that I was for I 0:15:48.480 --> 0:15:49.720 was like, I just go with it. 0:15:49.840 --> 0:15:51.720 No your face, you're a bit of a food stop. 0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:55.480 I'm not a food but they don't have like gluten. 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:56.119 Free off no. 0:15:56.280 --> 0:15:56.760 Yeah. Fair. 0:15:56.840 --> 0:15:58.760 But also even Charlie, he doesn't strike me as a 0:15:58.800 --> 0:15:59.440 McDonald's person. 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:00.880 No, he's more of Bernando's guy. 0:16:01.080 --> 0:16:02.920 Okay, yeah, yeah, that's very bond. 0:16:02.920 --> 0:16:04.640 If you both no. 0:16:06.320 --> 0:16:10.920 Chicken, Domino's and McDonald's getting into it. 0:16:12.880 --> 0:16:14.880 They they do. 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:18.920 They do really good vegio options. Anyway, we just thought 0:16:18.920 --> 0:16:22.480 we'd get it. He'd already had dinner, obviously not. He 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:24.320 saw it and was like, give me some of those. 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:27.119 I think I remember. I think you put it on socials. 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:28.800 No, I think I just sent it to you, being 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:30.680 like loel. I was like, I'm not putting this on 0:16:30.720 --> 0:16:33.240 socials anyway. I have now because I'm just it's happened 0:16:33.320 --> 0:16:36.040 twice now where he's been like, I've spot those chips. 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:39.280 And then I tried to trick him. I made him 0:16:39.320 --> 0:16:40.960 some crappy oven chips. 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:42.920 Oh no no, and then like. 0:16:42.960 --> 0:16:45.400 Got his little box, like the little chip packet thing 0:16:45.880 --> 0:16:48.720 and put like some McDonald's chips in, but mainly the 0:16:48.760 --> 0:16:51.720 oven chips. He's not dumb. My kid is not dumb. 0:16:51.960 --> 0:16:54.040 He did not fall for that trick. He ate around 0:16:54.160 --> 0:16:55.600 the oven chips and then put. 0:16:55.680 --> 0:16:57.600 Held it out of me and he's like, more more 0:16:57.680 --> 0:17:00.520 of the good ones. Don't give me this ship in there. 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:03.400 I don't contribute to that bad at all. They don't grow, 0:17:03.480 --> 0:17:05.280 mold or go off. 0:17:05.520 --> 0:17:08.720 Yeah that's disgusting, Keith, Yeah, yeah, am I find with 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:11.960 putting it in my own body? Absolutely, My body's fucked already, 0:17:12.720 --> 0:17:14.959 not his precious little body. Am I okay with him 0:17:14.960 --> 0:17:16.680 eating devon and sausage for every meal? 0:17:16.720 --> 0:17:18.679 Though hypocrisy doesn't. 0:17:18.400 --> 0:17:22.120 Make sense, it's not meant to make sense. Okay. None 0:17:22.160 --> 0:17:23.800 of the parent was in my. 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:26.920 Head, and that's what it is. All right, your turn. 0:17:27.640 --> 0:17:31.160 Well, I think you know this from when I message 0:17:31.200 --> 0:17:35.720 you frantically, probably about I want to say, maybe two weeks, yeah, 0:17:35.760 --> 0:17:38.400 two weeks and two weeks in never will I ever 0:17:38.560 --> 0:17:40.120 co sleep with my baby? 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:42.679 Well? You know what also is dangerous not sleeping yourself 0:17:42.680 --> 0:17:44.359 and then falling on your baby or being in a 0:17:44.400 --> 0:17:44.879 car accident. 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:46.800 Well, and also I didn't realize there was a safe 0:17:46.840 --> 0:17:48.760 way to do it, and you sent me that. 0:17:48.960 --> 0:17:51.560 What's it called the safe seven? The safe seven? 0:17:52.000 --> 0:17:55.840 Basically I was a shitter through and through from day 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:58.200 one because he sent messages to some of her other 0:17:58.240 --> 0:18:00.000 friends and no one even responded to her. 0:18:00.119 --> 0:18:03.000 No one responded to the Hey does anyone coas sleep? 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:07.080 Because there was crickets. She messages me. Within two seconds, 0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:10.280 I'm like, fuck, yeah, I do. Here are all the 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:13.080 resources that I follow on Instagram to do it properly, 0:18:13.080 --> 0:18:16.000 which I wish someone had sent to me. Yeah, totally, 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:18.280 because we used to do it so unsafely because we 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:19.640 just fall asleep holding him. 0:18:19.680 --> 0:18:21.480 Well. I think a lot of people do that inevitably 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:22.120 because they're so. 0:18:22.119 --> 0:18:28.360 Tired, exactly mattress, no bedding, seeing the cuttle curl sea 0:18:28.560 --> 0:18:32.959 around them, no alcohol, no cigarettes. If your breastfeeding, it's 0:18:33.000 --> 0:18:35.119 even better. I don't know why, but apparently it is, 0:18:35.280 --> 0:18:36.040 probably because, like you. 0:18:36.160 --> 0:18:38.879 I think they just grab the boob and self settle. 0:18:39.200 --> 0:18:41.439 And that's why a lot of people do it, so 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:42.879 they don't have to like get up, get up. 0:18:42.920 --> 0:18:46.000 Well with my best friend, with her first I think 0:18:46.000 --> 0:18:48.360 I've told this story before, like everything was so by 0:18:48.400 --> 0:18:51.160 the book and safe. With the third she didn't even 0:18:51.480 --> 0:18:53.920 co sleep safely. He was in the bed with her, 0:18:54.040 --> 0:18:56.919 with the blankets and everything. She just slept without a 0:18:56.960 --> 0:18:58.720