WEBVTT - Kee's Birth Story 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:03.199 We acknowledged the traditional custodians of the land we're recording 0:00:03.200 --> 0:00:11.360 on today. The head moved a significant amount down even 0:00:11.480 --> 0:00:14.280 more into my pelvis, and I was just like, whoa. 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:19.640 That was really intense, like something is going on. And 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:21.880 then I kid you not. It was on. 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:27.800 Hello and welcome back to Eat, Sleep, Shit, Repeat your 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:32.120 wildly Unhinged podcast about the madness that is motherhood and 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:35.560 everything in between. I'm Kelly McCarron and guess who's back. 0:00:36.040 --> 0:00:37.000 It's Key Resells. 0:00:37.080 --> 0:00:37.440 Y'all. 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:41.800 Wow, that was a lot of energy for someone that 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:45.400 hasn't slept much. Yes, she is back. Her nipples are 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:48.800 currently being used as a pacifier, but she has popped 0:00:48.800 --> 0:00:51.280 out of matt Lee for the week to share her 0:00:51.600 --> 0:00:55.440 birth story. And if we hear babies yelling and i'l 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:58.959 b Allen barking and actually my kitten's going crazy, that's 0:00:59.000 --> 0:00:59.760 why I thinks. 0:00:59.520 --> 0:01:02.640 That it's yeah. Sorry, This is a true representation of 0:01:02.680 --> 0:01:05.720 what it's like with a newborn, a toddler, a new cat, 0:01:06.040 --> 0:01:09.679 a dog, and just two very unhinged people in general. 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:12.360 There's a husband somewhere around here. He hasn't come to 0:01:12.360 --> 0:01:14.360 get the barking dog, but anyway, I'll send him a 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:18.120 text and hopefully he vacates soon. This is so exciting. 0:01:18.200 --> 0:01:20.160 Let me tell you what a treasure it is for 0:01:20.200 --> 0:01:22.440 me to have a we break from a baby. 0:01:22.560 --> 0:01:26.200 I'm just also so excited. So Key gave birth two 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:29.560 weeks ago, and I'm yet to hear the tale because 0:01:29.840 --> 0:01:32.080 I don't know. I kind of wanted to hear it 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:36.800 properly in all of the entirety, Like I wanted to 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:41.160 basically be you shitters at home listening to no detail spared. 0:01:41.319 --> 0:01:43.080 I just love a birth story. 0:01:43.360 --> 0:01:46.240 Yeah yeah, and this one has got We got some 0:01:46.360 --> 0:01:47.840 great storylines within the story. 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:49.720 Let me tell you, Oh excellent. 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:52.080 Okay, So, I first of all wanted to start with 0:01:52.120 --> 0:01:53.960 the fact that I had to admit that we had 0:01:54.000 --> 0:01:57.080 been keeping a wee secret from our shitters, and that 0:01:57.280 --> 0:01:59.520 secret was that I told everyone, yes, that I was 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:02.040 going for a bea, but there was a little bit 0:02:02.080 --> 0:02:05.040 more to the story because we were actually trying for 0:02:05.160 --> 0:02:08.839 a h back, which is a home birth after cesarean. 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:10.640 So that was the plan. 0:02:11.080 --> 0:02:13.480 King Reese had her tinfoil bray on. 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:17.200 I was a big old layer and I felt real bad, 0:02:17.280 --> 0:02:20.040 but my midwife had spoken to me and she's like, hey, 0:02:20.280 --> 0:02:23.160 just like a little bit of advice, be careful about 0:02:23.160 --> 0:02:25.640 who you tell that you're having a homebirth too, because 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:29.000 people can have reactions that are written all over their 0:02:29.040 --> 0:02:30.720 face and they don't necessarily mean it. And with a 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:32.840 bit of talking to but she's like, you don't really 0:02:32.880 --> 0:02:35.160 want to have to keep explaining yourself to people, and 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:38.480 you don't want people's initial reaction to be detrimental to 0:02:38.560 --> 0:02:41.119 like your success and how you're feeling about your home birth. 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:44.000 Which makes so much sense because like even people that 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:46.120 I would tell, like even though it was a secret, 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:49.079 it wasn't really a secret. So I tell people and 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:52.519 your people would be like, oh why, And I was like, oh, okay, 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:56.359 that's why she's not telling people, Like, yes, exactly, it's 0:02:56.400 --> 0:02:59.200 her baby, Like let her do whatever she has and 0:02:59.240 --> 0:03:02.040 it's not like you were free birthing anyway you get 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:02.440 into it. 0:03:02.680 --> 0:03:04.320 So just about this, because I do. I think it's 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:07.400 quite interesting to talk about. When you're doing a homebirth, 0:03:08.000 --> 0:03:10.680 you engage the services of a private midwife, so on 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:13.400 the day that private midwife comes, and then a second 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:16.320 midwife is legally also required to be there so in 0:03:16.320 --> 0:03:19.040 the event something happens to you. Two of them can 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:21.880 lift you or help or whatever, So there always has 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:25.520 to be two midwives present at a homebirth. It's exactly 0:03:25.560 --> 0:03:28.280 the same as seeing a private obstetrician, except they come 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:31.280 and do all of your appointments at home. So it 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:34.560 was so fun, like sometimes Charlie would be there, Charlie 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:37.720 and Ru would be there. It was just really lovely 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:40.560 and it took us away from that hospital environment. So 0:03:40.640 --> 0:03:43.160 one of the key reasons that we decided to do 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:45.680 a home birth is because we had spent a lot 0:03:45.720 --> 0:03:49.160 of time in hospital about a year ago and it 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:52.800 just wasn't our lovely experience for us. And when I 0:03:52.840 --> 0:03:55.760 went and had that pesky Pooh stuck in my barm, 0:03:56.480 --> 0:03:58.520 we had another stint in hospital and we both kind 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:01.520 of agreed that we weren't really loving how it was 0:04:01.520 --> 0:04:04.960 making us feel that we needed more of like a 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:09.320 continuity of care, like personalized care for this birth in 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:11.680 order for us to both feel like safe and secure, 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:13.640 and that ended up being a private midwife and going 0:04:13.640 --> 0:04:16.560 the home birth route, So that was our decision. 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:20.599 I loved Charlie's reaction when you first broached it with him, 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:22.920 like you thought that he was going to be like, 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:25.600 oh my goodness, like what are you in the woo 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:28.440 woo type thing, but he was just like yeah, why not. 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:30.560 He was so into it from the get go, which 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:32.479 was so good, so I knew it was like definitely 0:04:32.520 --> 0:04:33.360 the right decision. 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:34.880 We love a supportive king. 0:04:35.400 --> 0:04:38.359 And just on that my midwife, she's actually British and 0:04:38.440 --> 0:04:40.839 so she had been saying, or do you want to 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:43.400 get a duela because the thing about home births as well, 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:46.800 there is actually so much medical evidence to back it 0:04:46.880 --> 0:04:51.280 up as to how much more successful physiological vaginal birth 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:54.080 can be. So she said, hey, something that also makes 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:57.119 your statistics higher for achieving a v back at home 0:04:57.560 --> 0:04:59.839 is having a dula, so like having someone there who's 0:04:59.880 --> 0:05:02.520 like just there for you emotionally rather than your midwife 0:05:02.520 --> 0:05:04.960 who was typically there for you in a medical capacity. 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:07.040 And I was like, oh, well, you know, like my 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:09.120 best friend Lucy's going to be there, Charlie's going to 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:11.760 be there. I love you, Like I think we're okay. 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:15.360 Her mum was actually visiting at the time from the UK, 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:17.080 or was going to be visiting at the time, and 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:20.240 she was a dueler for years in Dubai. She had 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:23.599 her own practice there, so she ended up being our dula. 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:25.920 They got to do their first birth together as mother 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:28.640 and daughter. So that was another really lovely thing that 0:05:28.760 --> 0:05:31.359 kind of came about from it. That is so special, 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:35.520 really special. Okay, so let's get down and dirty, well, 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:39.880 shitters and kel There were a few false starts. I 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:42.640 wrapped up work on I think what was I thirty 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:43.560 seven weeks? 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:47.240 You wrapped up work on the fifteenth. You were like, 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:49.640 I think I'll go over the next few days because 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:52.400 my brain's like I'm done with work. I can have 0:05:52.520 --> 0:05:53.120 my baby now. 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:56.400 Yeah, And everyone was telling me, like my physio was 0:05:56.400 --> 0:05:58.160 like I don't want to see you anymore, like you 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:01.760 are physically ready, and you're like everything soft, like your 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:04.800 cervix soft, Like I don't need to see you. I'm done, 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:07.720 I'll see you post Natalie, And I'm like, okay, cool, 0:06:08.160 --> 0:06:10.440 And then my midwife was like, yeah, you're looking good. 0:06:12.440 --> 0:06:14.680 That was thirty seven weeks. I did not give birth 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:17.480 to forty one weeks on the dots. So there were 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:20.560 many false starts in that time period. It was hard. 0:06:20.640 --> 0:06:22.719 That is a month, It's a whole month. I was 0:06:22.839 --> 0:06:25.000 literally like, fuck, I could have worked for another month. 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:28.720 I couldn't have couldn't though I was not feeling good, 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:31.919 you're off it. I was so off it. I was 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:34.159 off everything. To be honest, I was real big grumple 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:37.839 stilt skin. But yeah, there were many false starts that happened, 0:06:37.880 --> 0:06:39.719 but kind of in that, I think I got to 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:41.680 like thirty eight weeks and I got to thirty nine weeks, 0:06:41.680 --> 0:06:43.200 and I was just like, what the Hell's going on? 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:46.080 And then I realized like, I've just got to like 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:49.320 let go, because I think I was so convinced that 0:06:49.400 --> 0:06:51.000 it was going to happen that it was almost like 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:53.760 not letting it happen. So I really had to just 0:06:53.800 --> 0:06:56.200 like give in and I just had to do one 0:06:56.240 --> 0:06:58.320 thing a day and keep planning, Like I was like 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:01.159 crossing days off the calendar, and I stopped at thirty 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:03.240 nine weeks, like putting it on there. And then I 0:07:03.279 --> 0:07:05.480 was like, all right, I'm just going to right up 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:08.040 to forty two weeks just to give myself a little 0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:12.920 bit more anyway. So yeah, Emma, my midwife, was just like, Babe, 0:07:12.960 --> 0:07:16.120 you've got to relax, like just take everything off your mind. 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:18.760 Figure out if there's just like spin something on your 0:07:18.800 --> 0:07:22.200 mind that's like niggling at you. So with the false starts. 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:24.880 I had like a bit of mucus plug fallout on 0:07:24.920 --> 0:07:27.840 a Friday, and I was like, we are so on. 0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:30.200 I was looking after Rue laying on the couch and 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:33.520 I was like, oh, things are starting to get spicy, 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:36.560 Like my cramps are cramping right now. And so I 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:38.440 messaged Charlie and I was like, hey, I Reckon, you 0:07:38.480 --> 0:07:41.760 should come home just because things are starting to heat up. 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:44.480 And then I called my sister in law and I 0:07:44.480 --> 0:07:46.760 was like, hey, just letting you know, lost a bit 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:49.400 of my plug and my cramps are cramping. And she's like, okay, 0:07:49.400 --> 0:07:51.600 I'll be there in an hour to get Rue. That 0:07:51.800 --> 0:07:53.960 was so nice, But I think what happened is that 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:57.200 I then realized I had this like freak out that 0:07:57.240 --> 0:07:59.320 I was like, okay, this is literally the last time 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:01.480 it's going to be a FA family of three, Like 0:08:01.600 --> 0:08:04.240 she's gonna go and her whole life's going to change. 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:07.520 And I completely wigged out, and I actually think I 0:08:07.560 --> 0:08:12.000 packed myself out. So Ru got picked up and then 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:17.080 everything went away, like everything. I had no cramping. It 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:20.840 was like my cervix was like like closed itself. 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:23.000 Was that the night that you were also vomiting in 0:08:23.080 --> 0:08:23.840 diarrhea though. 0:08:24.080 --> 0:08:27.080 Yeah, that happened to me twice, so twice before that 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:29.200 plot came out. So that's the thing. It wasn't just 0:08:29.240 --> 0:08:30.760 me thinking I was going to go at thirty eight 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:33.760 thirty nine weeks. It was like I'd have these things 0:08:33.760 --> 0:08:36.760 where I'd open my bows, be vomiting, and then nothing 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:39.840 would happen. There was one of those instances that I 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:42.679 was having to like breathe through. I don't want to 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:44.520 say that they were like contractions, but. 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:45.680 Like a strong cramp. 0:08:45.840 --> 0:08:48.840 Yeah. I really had to breathe through them. So but 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:52.719 as my doller kept saying to me, they're not false starts. 0:08:52.880 --> 0:08:56.560 That is your body starting the process. Like it's a 0:08:56.600 --> 0:08:59.000 long process. She was like to me, remember you haven't 0:08:59.440 --> 0:09:02.880 dilated fully before, so if there's a bit of work 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:04.520 that needs to be done, you know that first. Like 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:06.440 six centimeters should be pretty normal. 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:10.800 What did you get to with rue for six centimeters 0:09:11.080 --> 0:09:12.720 over several days? 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:19.560 Over two days? Yeah? Yeah, so it finally happened. Tell me, 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:20.240 I want to. 0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:22.760 Know everything, because it was a day that I all 0:09:22.800 --> 0:09:25.559 of a sudden I realized that you'd gone really dark. 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:28.600 Lucy had gone dark, and Lucy never goes dark, and 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:30.920 I was like, it's on. And I sent you a 0:09:30.960 --> 0:09:32.480 message saying you've got this. 0:09:32.920 --> 0:09:35.840 Happy pushing, you can get this baby out or something like. 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:38.040 I was just so aggressive with my ha. I know 0:09:38.080 --> 0:09:40.040 that you're in labor because you and Lucy are both dark, 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:40.920 happy pushing. 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:44.560 Monday Day, I had, like, was making breaky in the 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:47.840 morning and I was like, oh, yuck, that's a lot 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:50.280 of you know, when you're just pregnant and you're just 0:09:50.280 --> 0:09:52.880 there's a lot of sweat and things fluids coming out 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:54.800 of down there. And I was like, oh, that was 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:56.760 a lot yuck. And then but anyway, I made my 0:09:56.800 --> 0:09:58.439 toast because food comes first, and then I went to 0:09:58.480 --> 0:10:01.920 the bathroom and I was like, w that is the 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:05.040 rest of my mucus plug, like a big amount of 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:07.040 my mucus plug. And I was like, all right, we're 0:10:07.040 --> 0:10:11.320 on here. So I texted midwife Adulla. I was like, Hey, 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:13.600 the rest of my mucus plug just came out, So 0:10:13.720 --> 0:10:16.079 just giving you guys a little heel that we might 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:19.040 be on here. Charlie came home as usual that night. 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:22.839 We put rude down the whole day, nothing, no, nothing, 0:10:22.920 --> 0:10:25.040 But do you know what I did that day was 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:27.199 like on my head. I was like, oh, because we've 0:10:27.240 --> 0:10:29.520 been so ready for a month. The house was like 0:10:29.600 --> 0:10:31.840 kind of a bit in shambles, and then you know, 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:33.800 life having a toddler all of that, and I just 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:37.000 wanted to like fold everything and put everything away because 0:10:37.000 --> 0:10:39.040 it was just like some washing out and blah blah blah, 0:10:39.080 --> 0:10:41.280 and I wanted to just you know, spruce it up 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:43.520 a little bit. So I did that that day, and 0:10:43.520 --> 0:10:45.080 then I sat down and watched like a little bit 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:47.520 of TV. So the day went really quickly, and I 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:49.360 swear that was the thing that had been on my 0:10:49.440 --> 0:10:50.520 mind that was annoying me. 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:51.960 It was just like the messy house. 0:10:52.040 --> 0:10:54.640 Yeah, just the messy house needing to get ounder control anyway. 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:57.200 So we put rud to bed and then I'm sitting 0:10:57.240 --> 0:10:59.680 on the couch. I'm just so uncomfortable because the baby 0:10:59.880 --> 0:11:03.079 was so low at this point. 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:04.720 If baby was hanging between your. 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:08.600 Legs, literally, I could not sit, babe. There was no 0:11:08.679 --> 0:11:12.360 position that I could sit or lay in that was comfortable. 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:13.360 I wasn't sleeping. 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:16.120 I was just bad. 0:11:16.240 --> 0:11:19.520 It was bad. Walking. I was like waddling like i'd be. 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:22.320 It was like I was a caricature of a person 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:25.600 who was pregnant, like I was so dramatic. It was 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:28.400 just like, I'm embarrassed about how dramatic I'm being in 0:11:28.440 --> 0:11:31.400 this pregnancy above all of the other things. 0:11:31.320 --> 0:11:33.880 Like it's not that common to go to forty one weeks, 0:11:33.960 --> 0:11:35.840 especially with your second child. 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:38.760 So well, it turns out it is, because remember when 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:41.880 I put it up on my Instagram and everyone's like, oh, yeah, 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:44.600 I was engaged at thirty six weeks and didn't give 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:46.560 birth to forty two plus. 0:11:46.200 --> 0:11:48.600 Who three And I'm like, oh wow, Yeah, I didn't 0:11:48.600 --> 0:11:49.680 realize it was that common. 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:52.880 Honestly, it can be anything. That's what I learned as like, 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:56.559 the baby will come when it comes, and it's its 0:11:56.559 --> 0:11:59.280 own personality. It's whether it's stubborn, it's whether it's comfy 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:02.520 in there, whatever. This baby was like I'm feeling good 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:04.199 and he I don't know about you, but I'm feeling good, 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:06.640 and I'm like, I'm not feeling good. Get the fuck 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:11.240 out anyway. So we are brushing our teeth and I 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:13.560 sit down on the toilet to do a wee and 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:16.520 then I felt a massive drop of the head. And 0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:18.200 I've heard people say this, so it was just like 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:21.679 so crazy for it to happen, but like the head 0:12:21.760 --> 0:12:26.160 moved a significant amount down even more into my pelvis, 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:30.439 and I was just like, whoa, that was really intense, 0:12:30.559 --> 0:12:34.040 like something is going on. And then I kid you not, 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:39.160 it was on. It was on straight away. So that 0:12:39.320 --> 0:12:41.679 all kind of kicked off at ten PM as we 0:12:41.679 --> 0:12:44.440 were going to bed, and for the next kind of 0:12:44.720 --> 0:12:48.600 hour and a half, I was just trying to breathe 0:12:48.600 --> 0:12:52.480 through the contractions basically, So I was laying down trying 0:12:52.480 --> 0:12:55.199 to breathe through but not really getting any reprieve. So 0:12:55.240 --> 0:12:58.080 I was finding it really difficult. And then the only 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:01.640 position that was like really comfortable for me was standing up, 0:13:02.480 --> 0:13:06.319 but that was bad because my legs like was so 0:13:06.320 --> 0:13:08.480 sore by the end of it. So about an hour 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:10.800 and a half and I said to Charlie like, hey, 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:14.120 I think we need to call Nikki the dueler over 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:17.680 just because I need help with like how to get 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:21.440 through these contractions. Like I feel like they're just coming 0:13:21.480 --> 0:13:24.160 so fast and so quick that I need her there 0:13:24.240 --> 0:13:26.320 to kind of like be doing kip squeezes and just 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:29.520 like coaching me through. Cheerleader yeah exactly. So Charlie's like, yep, 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:32.480 we'll get her over. So she came over. She was 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:35.160 like fifteen minutes away, so she got here and so 0:13:35.240 --> 0:13:38.240 that was about midnight. She arrived. She was really great. 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:39.720 She was just like coaching me through it. She's like 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:41.720 doing great. And as soon as she kind of got there, 0:13:41.760 --> 0:13:43.840 I relaxed a little bit more because I felt like, Okay, 0:13:44.480 --> 0:13:47.160 Charlie's there for me emotionally, but she's there for me 0:13:47.360 --> 0:13:50.559 as well, like to get me through it technically and 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:53.360 to figure out like what to do. And we were 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:55.560 trying a bunch of different positions and then she's like, 0:13:55.559 --> 0:13:58.040 why don't you do some sideline just to rest your legs. 0:13:58.080 --> 0:13:59.600 I was like, yeah, So in our room, we just 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:02.720 had like a little mattress on the ground that I 0:14:02.760 --> 0:14:03.680 was kind of laboring on. 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:07.720 Is Rue just sleeping through you laboring? Rue was asleep 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:09.840 at this stage, sort of quiet. 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:10.040 Then. 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:14.400 Yeah, So interestingly, for Roux's birth, I was really quiet 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:16.280 as well. I didn't make any noise, and I was 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:19.680 exactly the same for this labor. I didn't make any noise. 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:23.960 I was more like breathing, really controlled breathing. I felt 0:14:24.000 --> 0:14:25.680 like that was the thing that was gonna help me 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:30.480 the most. So then yeah, I'm sidelining and my waters break. 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:31.400 What did that feel? Like? 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:35.640 Warm gush of water that did not stop for ages? 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:38.000 And then I can you know when you can just 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:40.920 like sense someone's like oh, I saw the doeler's face, 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:43.200 like oh, and then she kind of like tried to 0:14:43.240 --> 0:14:45.480 take a picture really slide. She's like, I'll just be 0:14:45.520 --> 0:14:47.120 back in a second. And I was like, okay, she's 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:50.040 calling Emma because there's definitely maconium in my waters. 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:52.760 Oh my god, you got that just from her face? 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:55.160 Or could you smell it? No? 0:14:55.160 --> 0:14:57.760 No, no, I listened to so many birth stories that like, 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:00.200 you know, you just know. I don't know. I just 0:15:00.240 --> 0:15:03.280 had a sense anyway, and she came back and she's like, okay, well, 0:15:03.600 --> 0:15:05.680 I've just let Emma know that your waters are broken 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:08.920 and she is going to come over. So Emma got 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:13.360 here at like one or two am. She was like, Okay, 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:16.360 there's a little bit of maconium in your waters. But 0:15:16.600 --> 0:15:19.000 what's happened is that as your waters are coming out, 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:21.640 it's getting clearer and clearer. So it's not uncommon for 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:26.520 babies to do who before they go into labor, they're 0:15:26.560 --> 0:15:28.160 kind of empty their bows. But if it was like 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:31.920 consistently dark maconium. Then we would know that the baby 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:34.120 was in distress. So she checked the feet or heart rate. 0:15:34.240 --> 0:15:37.400 Everything was fine, did my obs, like my blood pressure. 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:39.840 Everything was all good. So she was really happy for 0:15:39.920 --> 0:15:42.560 us to continue to labor, and I felt confident in 0:15:42.600 --> 0:15:46.640 that as well. But then things started obviously getting even spicier, 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:49.200 and I didn't think that they could get spicier because 0:15:49.240 --> 0:15:51.680 I was fucking red hol at that point. 0:15:51.920 --> 0:15:52.800 Is Lucy here? 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:54.000 No? 0:15:54.200 --> 0:15:56.920 And so after kind of Emma gets here, I'm like, 0:15:57.000 --> 0:15:59.080 all right, I need to call Lucy because in my 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:01.640 mind I was like this, this is happening so fast 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:04.680 that she's going to miss the birth at this rate. 0:16:04.720 --> 0:16:07.280 So I just called Lucy and I go hey, and 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:09.840 she's like, is it happening. I'm like, yep, you need 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:10.760 to get here now. 0:16:11.000 --> 0:16:13.160 She's like, oh, for goodness sake, thanks, I've had my 0:16:13.200 --> 0:16:15.800 phone on laud all night, every night for the past month. 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:17.840 And then that was it. And then I just like 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:21.120 hung up the phone. And so she appeared and she was. 0:16:21.120 --> 0:16:23.080 Great, did she have the cake? No? 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:25.560 There was no cake. There was no cake. There was 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:27.560 no time for cake, let me tell you. So then 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:29.840 I'm like saying to everyone, can you guys get the 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:33.880 pool ready, like I need to not feel like I 0:16:33.960 --> 0:16:36.800 need to be in water like right now. So with 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:39.280 the home birth, you get access to a birth pool 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:41.680 that they give you as well as like a tens 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:44.640 machine and other things to help you. We had birth combs. 0:16:44.720 --> 0:16:49.160 Birth combs are fucking amazing, I will say that. So 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:52.160 they're just little mini combs that are that can be 0:16:52.200 --> 0:16:53.680 made out of anything. But howls are made out of 0:16:53.760 --> 0:16:55.360 like bamboo. We just got them of farmers on. They 0:16:55.400 --> 0:16:57.760 were dirt cheap withought. I'm in a pair of two 0:16:57.800 --> 0:16:59.960 and what you do is you have this pressure point 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:03.440 between your thumb and your pointer finger and your palm 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:06.840 and you bend the comb into that pressure point. When 0:17:06.880 --> 0:17:09.720 you're having a contraction, you push on it and it 0:17:09.840 --> 0:17:12.560 just distracts your mind because it's like a different pain 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:14.440 and it also released. And that was what I did 0:17:14.480 --> 0:17:19.280 pretty much from ten PM until I got into the 0:17:19.320 --> 0:17:22.640 berth pool around like four And that was a wow. 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:25.119 Like I wanted to get into the water because I 0:17:25.200 --> 0:17:28.040 just didn't want like I wanted to float around and 0:17:28.119 --> 0:17:30.800 kind of just have warm water around me. But the 0:17:30.800 --> 0:17:33.679 birth comb one hundred and ten percent the Tens machine. 0:17:33.680 --> 0:17:35.639 This time around, I was like, get it away from me. 0:17:35.840 --> 0:17:37.439 Like I was like, it's not working for me. I 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:39.280 hate it. I hate it. I hate it. And Charlie 0:17:39.359 --> 0:17:41.720 was like, fuck, that was like my thing from last 0:17:41.720 --> 0:17:44.560 time that I was like contributing, like the Tens guy. 0:17:44.800 --> 0:17:47.040 I was like, I got I'm the Tens guy. I 0:17:47.119 --> 0:17:47.520 got it. 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:49.159 And I'm like, babe, I don't want to tell you 0:17:49.240 --> 0:17:50.760 fucking I hate it. Get away from me. And he's like, 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:53.639 got it. So he's filling up the pool and then 0:17:53.800 --> 0:17:57.359 we hear a little scuffle of the feet and little 0:17:57.640 --> 0:18:01.199 root Cearles appears. I was just like, fuck, it's like 0:18:01.240 --> 0:18:04.160 three four am. I don't really want to call, even 0:18:04.200 --> 0:18:05.560 though it would have been fine to call my sister 0:18:05.560 --> 0:18:08.400 in law, but I was just like, if she's sweet, 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:10.280 I'm kind of fine for her to be here. I 0:18:10.320 --> 0:18:12.239 don't want her to be here on the business end 0:18:12.280 --> 0:18:14.680 because I feel like it's a little bit too much 0:18:14.720 --> 0:18:17.640 for her at that age. But I was like, let's 0:18:17.640 --> 0:18:20.119 just see how she goes. And she was amazing. She 0:18:20.200 --> 0:18:24.800 was just like super inquisitive, watching everything from the sidelines, 0:18:25.240 --> 0:18:28.520 just like would bring me her toys and say like 0:18:28.600 --> 0:18:31.399