WEBVTT - “Tough It Out”. The Announcement That Upset Us More Than We Expected

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<v Speaker 2>MoMA Mia out Loud. It's what women are actually talking

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<v Speaker 2>about on Wednesday, the twenty fourth of September. And my

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<v Speaker 2>name is Hollywayen.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, I'm Jesse Stevens, and my name is Amelia Lester,

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<v Speaker 3>and I have something to tease before we get into

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<v Speaker 3>today's show. Remember our Taro card reader friend Evelyn. She

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<v Speaker 3>said during the episode. I can't remember if it was

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<v Speaker 3>a subscriber, if it was on the main episode, but

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<v Speaker 3>she said there will be a big.

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<v Speaker 4>Announcement coming on out Loud.

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<v Speaker 2>She did two weeks.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, she said this, and I was like, I'd shore,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not. There is a big announcement coming on out

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<v Speaker 3>Loud on Friday. That is my teas. Be the first

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<v Speaker 3>to listen. It drops a bit earlier on a Friday, make.

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<v Speaker 2>Sure you're on that show, and make sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Because there's some exciting news. So there's my little teas

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<v Speaker 3>for Friday.

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<v Speaker 2>That is as much as we're giving you, we are mean.

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<v Speaker 2>But on today's show, here is what made our agenda.

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<v Speaker 3>An announcement from President Trump this week about pregnancy autism

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<v Speaker 3>and paracetamol upset me even more than I expected. We

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<v Speaker 3>discussed the new directive for pregnant women, which is to

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<v Speaker 3>tough it out.

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<v Speaker 5>I've got a phone charging theory, which is not just

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<v Speaker 5>about phones.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to tell you about it.

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<v Speaker 2>And tremble in your soft pants. Friends. Your office attire

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<v Speaker 2>is not appropriate and you need to get ready to

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<v Speaker 2>be shamed about it because dressing for work is back.

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<v Speaker 2>But first, Amelia Lester.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, in case you missed it, I got some good

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<v Speaker 5>news and some bad news. I guess I'll tell you

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<v Speaker 5>the good news first.

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<v Speaker 1>The bears. The bears are getting fatter than ever. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm talking about it?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you talking about fat Bear Week?

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<v Speaker 5>It is fat bear Week? Can we have a vovo

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<v Speaker 5>zailor sound just there? Is that?

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<v Speaker 1>The word I don't know is that the.

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<v Speaker 5>Word Voting has opened for the eleventh year of this

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<v Speaker 5>contest that's run by the Alaska National Park to German,

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<v Speaker 5>who the fattest bear is?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that? Because it's so it's seasonal right, they're about

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<v Speaker 2>to go into hibernation and they've got to carblow it?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that great protein fish load.

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<v Speaker 1>They're up your alley, Holly.

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<v Speaker 5>They're all about the protein. They need nothing but salmon.

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<v Speaker 5>Think of their skin so radiant goodness. So you go

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<v Speaker 5>and watch a webcam of bears feeding at Brooks Falls,

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<v Speaker 5>which is a very beautiful looking place in Alaska, and

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<v Speaker 5>they're all eating their salmon, and then you vote on

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<v Speaker 5>which bear you think has fattened up the most over

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<v Speaker 5>the summer for the coming winter hibernation. And the voting

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<v Speaker 5>has just opened for this year. The contest is open

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<v Speaker 5>to all the bears in the park. There's about two

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<v Speaker 5>thy three hundred of them. As long as they are

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<v Speaker 5>sufficiently chunky.

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<v Speaker 3>They must be trying the big bears, only to think

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<v Speaker 3>that they're stoked when they find that the camera's following them.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, there are some there definitely are more into it

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<v Speaker 5>than others. Bears double their weight over the summer in

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<v Speaker 5>preparation for hibernation, which I just love as.

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<v Speaker 2>A fat fighting each other for the Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>They're fighting each other.

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<v Speaker 5>And I want to give a special shout out to

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<v Speaker 5>the adult females because I learned that basically they have

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<v Speaker 5>to get fat because they give birth to cubs midwinter

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<v Speaker 5>and then they're in the cave with them nursing them

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<v Speaker 5>until they come out in the spring.

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<v Speaker 1>But they're not eating anything.

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<v Speaker 5>For that whole time, so they give birth and nurse

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<v Speaker 5>and there's no food until they exit.

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<v Speaker 3>Apparently they've got particularly fat this season because there's been

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of food in the past, has been fighting

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<v Speaker 3>when it's been limited. But the ranger has said the

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<v Speaker 3>bears are extremely fat this year, and I'm looking forward

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<v Speaker 3>to seeing how people react to how fat they are.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, how people react with shock and awe and a

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<v Speaker 2>tape measure in hand. I saw my bucket list to

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<v Speaker 2>go and see those beads. Me too, I would love too.

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<v Speaker 2>But maybe it's not as good as it sounds. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>there's just like a horde of people.

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<v Speaker 5>Look, there's a webcam. I would say, you don't need

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<v Speaker 5>to get on a plane. The webcam will give it

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<v Speaker 5>all to you. There's a guy named Mike Fitz who's

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<v Speaker 5>a ranger who won the first year of the contest,

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<v Speaker 5>and he said that the reason why people love this, Yes,

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<v Speaker 5>it's because the news is full of doom and gloom

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<v Speaker 5>and it's respite from that. But also, and I want

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<v Speaker 5>to get this quote right, because it's delightful. Beyond that,

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<v Speaker 5>people just like looking at photos of round animals.

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<v Speaker 1>Round animal that's why we like. Look.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, be thinking about the round animals. Because now I've

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<v Speaker 5>got the bad news. Okay, the bad news is the

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<v Speaker 5>rapture is coming today.

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<v Speaker 2>I've heard about their Somlia.

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<v Speaker 1>Get your affairs in order.

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<v Speaker 5>People are apparently selling their houses, which confuses me because

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<v Speaker 5>if the rapture's coming, why do you need to sell

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<v Speaker 5>your house. But anyway, that's what they're doing. They're quitting

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<v Speaker 5>their jobs, they're packing up their pets. And it all

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<v Speaker 5>started because a South African evangelical pastor whose name is

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<v Speaker 5>Joshua Malacala insisted that the world is going to be

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<v Speaker 5>ending on September twenty three, twenty four. We're not quite sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Which apparently with Australian time difference twenty four twenty fifth,

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<v Speaker 2>which is today or tomorrow. Yes, so, Ameilia, the rapture

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<v Speaker 2>is correct me if I'm wrong. The idea is that

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<v Speaker 2>what happens is holy, but it's like Jesus comes back

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<v Speaker 2>and takes all the good people. Is that the shortcut?

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<v Speaker 1>It's not good for you and it's goods fine.

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<v Speaker 2>Imagine if we came into work tomorrow, and Jesse was

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<v Speaker 2>just gone, like her chair was empty, her cup was

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<v Speaker 2>undrunk from like, you know, her sandwich wrapper was just there.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna leave my clothes behind, so it looks like

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<v Speaker 3>I've just descended.

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<v Speaker 2>And we were like, we were laughing about this. Imagine.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I really liked the TikTok of the woman. There's

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of people explaining to people in their lives

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<v Speaker 3>how to survive without them after.

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<v Speaker 2>The wrapper because they're going up.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, a wife.

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<v Speaker 3>Being like, I know, I'm going like absolutely, I've lived

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<v Speaker 3>a moral, good life. But she's explaining to her husband

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<v Speaker 3>how to do things when she's off. You've got to

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<v Speaker 3>be outside, I think, to ascend. But her husband she's

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<v Speaker 3>going this.

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<v Speaker 4>Are you sorry, You've got to be outside?

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<v Speaker 1>Gonna hit the roof?

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<v Speaker 5>Familiar?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my goodness, Jesus sorted that out.

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<v Speaker 4>No, you have to wait outside on your doors.

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<v Speaker 2>Really worried about all these people sitting outside waiting for

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<v Speaker 2>this to happen, and then if it doesn't happen, how

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<v Speaker 2>they're going to get on with their lives on Thursday's.

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<v Speaker 4>An embarrassing next day.

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<v Speaker 3>There are some TikTok trends where it's going like they

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<v Speaker 3>go through celebrities and who would ascend and who would not?

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<v Speaker 3>So I would obviously ascend the Irwins, they say absolutely,

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<v Speaker 3>But then the theory is Chris Hemsworth would ascend, but

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<v Speaker 3>Liam Hemsworth wouldn't, which feels mean that me.

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<v Speaker 1>And what about all the celebrities named Chris, I wonder

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<v Speaker 1>which is.

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<v Speaker 4>I know, I think it would be very very selective.

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<v Speaker 4>You couldn't have them.

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<v Speaker 1>All Chris Pine for sure.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And what they've done as well is that people are saying, yeah, look,

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<v Speaker 3>if you're going to ascend, just leave all your designer

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<v Speaker 3>items on your front port because they can be for

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<v Speaker 3>the scavengers who are left like you, Holly.

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<v Speaker 2>Ah. Is it too late for me to make it

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<v Speaker 2>onto the vulture escalator because I feel like things are

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<v Speaker 2>hard down here at the minute. I want to be

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<v Speaker 2>up there singing to me Pedro Pascale's whispering, scoreless gossip

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<v Speaker 2>in my ear.

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<v Speaker 4>I'll give you my carcays, Holly, I'm not gonna need

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<v Speaker 4>my car anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>That's true.

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<v Speaker 5>You can jump onto hashtag rapture talk if you want

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<v Speaker 5>to learn more.

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<v Speaker 3>I was shocked yesterday at how much an announcement from

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<v Speaker 3>the White House ruined my day because this actually isn't

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<v Speaker 3>a story about Trump or RFK Junior. It's a story

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<v Speaker 3>about women who have been, are currently or will one

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<v Speaker 3>day be pregnant. It's a story about people with an

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<v Speaker 3>autism diagnosis. It's a story about the blame that we

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<v Speaker 3>always apportioned to mothers. And it's also a story about misinformation,

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<v Speaker 3>scientific rigor, and expertise.

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<v Speaker 4>Deep breath, you might remember that.

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<v Speaker 2>My whole thing is like, I'm not going to be

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<v Speaker 2>troubled anymore by the craziness that's coming out of my

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm going to be ferries en by this. But

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<v Speaker 2>it's hard on this one. It's hard.

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<v Speaker 3>You might remember President Donald Trump at Charlie Kirk's memorial

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<v Speaker 3>service took that opportunity to say, I think we found

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<v Speaker 3>an answer to autism.

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<v Speaker 2>He teased us, just like.

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<v Speaker 3>You did at the beginning of this leaf out of

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<v Speaker 3>Trump's book, and he ta used us, and he said,

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<v Speaker 3>I've got a big announcement coming well on Monday, US time,

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<v Speaker 3>Trump staged a press conference, and here's a little bit

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<v Speaker 3>of what he said.

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<v Speaker 6>First, effective immediately, the FDA will be notifying physicians at

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<v Speaker 6>the use of I said, well, let's see how we

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<v Speaker 6>say that. A said menefin acetamnefin I said, okay, which

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<v Speaker 6>is basically commonly known as thailand all during pregnancy can

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<v Speaker 6>be associated with a very increased risk of autism. For

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<v Speaker 6>this reason, they are strongly recommending that women limit us

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<v Speaker 6>during pregnancy unless medically necessary. That's, for instance, in cases

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<v Speaker 6>of extremely high fever that you feel you can't tough

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<v Speaker 6>it out, you can't do it.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess there's that.

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<v Speaker 6>It's a small number of cases, I think, But if

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<v Speaker 6>you can't tough it out, if you can't do it.

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<v Speaker 2>What a coherent and clear announcement about something so important.

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<v Speaker 4>He sounds so well prepared now.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm glad he was so well prepared.

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<v Speaker 3>Now in Australia, the generic name for the medication he's

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<v Speaker 3>talking about is paracetamol. Right, and Trump's announcement prompted a

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<v Speaker 3>swift response from experts all over the world. In the

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<v Speaker 3>United States, it was the American Academy of Obstetricians and

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<v Speaker 3>Gynecologists who said, in more than two decades of research,

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<v Speaker 3>not a single reputable study has successfully concluded that the

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<v Speaker 3>use of this drug in any trimester of pregnancy causes

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<v Speaker 3>neurodevelopmental disorders in children in Australia, the Therapeutic Goods Administration,

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<v Speaker 3>the Royal Australian and New Zealand College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists,

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<v Speaker 3>including every other reputable source of medical information, release statements

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<v Speaker 3>assuring women that there is no link between paracetamol use

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<v Speaker 3>in pregnancy and autism or ADHD. I could go into

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<v Speaker 3>the studies, I'm not going to do that. We have

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<v Speaker 3>an incredibly comprehensive episode of The Quickie Drop this morning.

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<v Speaker 3>Highly recommend you listen to that. But Holly, what I

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<v Speaker 3>want to know is why this has struck such a

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<v Speaker 3>chord and why it feels particularly sinister, Like health misinformation

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<v Speaker 3>is not new, there's nothing new about this. There's nothing unprecedented.

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<v Speaker 3>There's not even anything particularly surprising, but it feels sinister.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I think it partly feels sinister because of the

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<v Speaker 2>delivery mechanism. I mean, when we just played that clip,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, this is the President of the United States,

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<v Speaker 2>and whatever you think about him, that is a seat

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<v Speaker 2>of enormous power, getting the entire world's media pretty much

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<v Speaker 2>to turn their cameras on him for him to make

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<v Speaker 2>a confusing incoherent, fearmongering announcement that is then immediately refuted

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<v Speaker 2>by all these reputable organizations, as you've said, Jesse, but

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<v Speaker 2>the damage is done. That announcement just sets off an

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<v Speaker 2>explosion of shame and self loathing and panic and worry

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<v Speaker 2>lots of different groups of people, as you've already you said,

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<v Speaker 2>obviously women of childbearing age and pregnant women, but people

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<v Speaker 2>with autism, because what Trump was essentially saying was autism

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<v Speaker 2>is terrible and it should be eradicated. That's a whole

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<v Speaker 2>thing that upsets an enormous number of people to say

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<v Speaker 2>that women are somehow weak and selfish if they are

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<v Speaker 2>addressing pain, wanting even to address pain and pregnancy, not

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<v Speaker 2>toughing it out, and that whatever stage of all that

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<v Speaker 2>you're at, And obviously I have lived experience here. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to go into it in detail, but I've

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<v Speaker 2>sat in those rooms and heard those diagnoses that this

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<v Speaker 2>is your fault. Any difficult things that are coming your way,

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<v Speaker 2>for either yourself or your child, it's.

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<v Speaker 4>Your fault and your own selfishness.

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<v Speaker 2>It's your selfish. And so no one would suggest that

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<v Speaker 2>we should suppress any scientific evidence or findings to spare

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<v Speaker 2>people's feelings, So I don't mean to sit here and

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<v Speaker 2>go that makes me feel bad. So we shouldn't learn

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<v Speaker 2>about autism and the causes of autism. That is not

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm saying, or I think what anybody is saying.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's just so enormously irresponsible, Am I right, Amelia?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it enormously irresponsible? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>Other presidents have dispensed health advice. So President Eisenhower recommended

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<v Speaker 5>the polio vaccine. Barack Obama suggested people should quit smoking.

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<v Speaker 5>But I think what's different about this is that he

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<v Speaker 5>has departed from the entire medical establishment. And the reason

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<v Speaker 5>that it catches on with people is because there's a

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<v Speaker 5>vacuum of information right now about a perception that autism

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<v Speaker 5>rates a rising in the population. And because there's that

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<v Speaker 5>perception and the medical establishment hasn't yet figured out the

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<v Speaker 5>no doubt complex causes for why this is or even

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<v Speaker 5>if this is the case, people seese on a definite

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<v Speaker 5>answer from someone, even if he doesn't know what he's

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<v Speaker 5>talking about.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, and you can fact check so much of

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<v Speaker 4>what he says.

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<v Speaker 3>But I posted something on Instagram about it yesterday, and

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<v Speaker 3>the messages I got back from women who broke d

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<v Speaker 3>during pregnancy. That's what pregnancy did to them, the worst

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<v Speaker 3>migraines of your life. I got COVID and the flu

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<v Speaker 3>at like thirty five weeks pregnant, had a terrible fever.

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<v Speaker 3>And what I didn't know before that pregnancy was the

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<v Speaker 3>list of medicines I couldn't take, not just medicines, things

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<v Speaker 3>you can't do, things you can't eat. Like to suggest

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<v Speaker 3>that women are ever flippant about anything they put in

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<v Speaker 3>their bodies, on their bodies during pregnancy is so infuriating,

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<v Speaker 3>and that the experience of pregnancy in and of itself

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<v Speaker 3>is an exercise in toughing it out, Like you get

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<v Speaker 3>the flu, like there's virtually nothing you can take, and

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<v Speaker 3>all these experts have come out and said fever can

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<v Speaker 3>be dangerous for babies, and that's why we recommend getting

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<v Speaker 3>the fever down.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not a doctor.

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<v Speaker 3>Speak to your doctor if that's an experience you're having,

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<v Speaker 3>but that's putting a lot of pregnant women in danger

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<v Speaker 3>to basically say don't take this medicine when your doctor's,

0:14:10.822 --> 0:14:13.302
<v Speaker 3>your obstetricians, your midwives are saying the opposite.

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<v Speaker 1>And the reason why people are going.

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<v Speaker 5>To be really confused by this in particular is because

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<v Speaker 5>we don't know a lot about pregnancy, and one reason

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<v Speaker 5>for that is that you can't conduct to studies on

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<v Speaker 5>pregnant women for obvious reasons, and then you layer on

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<v Speaker 5>the misinformation and it starts to be a really dangerous stew.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because there are drugs, a doctor will often say

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<v Speaker 3>to you, we just don't know, so we're not going

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<v Speaker 3>to let you have that. To suggest that the medical

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<v Speaker 3>institution is an erring on the side of caution at

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<v Speaker 3>all times is just so irresponsible, And it's the endangering

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<v Speaker 3>I think that made me so angry, and also the

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<v Speaker 3>suggestion that there is this selfishness within pregnant women, or

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<v Speaker 3>this haphazard response to putting things in your body that

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<v Speaker 3>is causing long term damage, which is the wrong word anyway,

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<v Speaker 3>when we all know people who live with autism who

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<v Speaker 3>were incredible like as though it's some kind of disease

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<v Speaker 3>rather than a disorder that millions of people around the

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<v Speaker 3>world are diagnosed with and have always had as well.

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<v Speaker 2>One of the things that's saddling my brain about this

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<v Speaker 2>is that I'm old enough to remember Jenny McCarthy going

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<v Speaker 2>on the Oprah Wimfrey show, yep, a couple of decades ago.

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<v Speaker 2>Now probably that interview. Really see it in my mind,

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<v Speaker 2>I must have watched it in real time where she

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<v Speaker 2>told a story about my child. At the time, she'd

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<v Speaker 2>been an actress and MTV presenter, like she was a

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<v Speaker 2>cool girl, and then she became like a real crunchymum

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<v Speaker 2>pin up for a while and she went on the

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<v Speaker 2>opera Woinfroy Show. And I see it in my memory,

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<v Speaker 2>this story I took my kid to get their vaccine

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<v Speaker 2>and then immediately, like the next day, that kid was

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<v Speaker 2>completely different and it changed everything. Now that was seen

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<v Speaker 2>as a moment of enormous irresponsibility on the side of

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<v Speaker 2>the media to be immediately bandying about all this misinformation.

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<v Speaker 2>But in the period of time since, we have learned

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<v Speaker 2>so much, and that message has been discredited so many times,

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<v Speaker 2>and we've seen this always this sort of underground hum

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<v Speaker 2>of skepticism around that, but every credible medical organization has

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<v Speaker 2>pushed back. And it feels like here we are a

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<v Speaker 2>couple of decades later and the President of the United

0:16:27.502 --> 0:16:31.302
<v Speaker 2>States standing up there and apart from his directive, he

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<v Speaker 2>spoke broadly and coherently about the kind of vaccines, babies

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<v Speaker 2>get how there's just too much liquid in those syringes

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<v Speaker 2>for them. He just went on and on about all

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<v Speaker 2>of these really dangerous, disproven things. You know, there are

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<v Speaker 2>people in my life who are very across this kind

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<v Speaker 2>of stuff, and I've already heard about these rumors and

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<v Speaker 2>already seen that it was disproven all these things. But

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<v Speaker 2>most of us are just busy and getting on with things.

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<v Speaker 2>And pregnancy is one of those moments in your life

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<v Speaker 2>where suddenly you have to learn about health and science

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<v Speaker 2>and if you're not a person who knows about that,

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<v Speaker 2>so we just have these little drops of buzzes and

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<v Speaker 2>information and oh, I remember hearing something on Oprah once

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<v Speaker 2>about vaccines. I remember hearing something about blah blah blah.

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<v Speaker 2>And if that's most of us, what's just happened with

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<v Speaker 2>this high profile misinformation dump is so many people will

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<v Speaker 2>just go, oh, well, that's true. There are a lot

0:17:23.182 --> 0:17:26.502
<v Speaker 2>of pregnant women or women who've been pregnant, and I'd

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<v Speaker 2>put myself in this bucket. Who are going, wait, did

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<v Speaker 2>I take paracenamol when I was pregnant or did I not?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god? And then thinking about whatever difficulties or

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<v Speaker 2>hurdles their kids might have and thinking it's all on me.

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<v Speaker 4>You already think it's all on you regardless.

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<v Speaker 2>I just I find it befuddling, as you can probably

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<v Speaker 2>tell by my incoherent response. But I just want to

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<v Speaker 2>send love and solidarity, I really do, to autistic people

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<v Speaker 2>who are copying it over this, to the people who

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<v Speaker 2>support them, to the pregnant women who are wondering what

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<v Speaker 2>the hell they're supposed to do now. I just think

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<v Speaker 2>this is an incredibly difficult time, And of course, if

0:18:03.661 --> 0:18:07.141
<v Speaker 2>you are worried and confused, talk to an actual doctor.

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<v Speaker 2>As Jesse said, the health professionals know what they're talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>In a moment, your phone, your life, and.

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<v Speaker 5>A controversial theory about how they're connected. I saw a

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<v Speaker 5>headline this week which made me stop in my tracks.

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<v Speaker 5>Now that happens a lot these days, but this one

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<v Speaker 5>was about my phone. It was on the wire cutter

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<v Speaker 5>and it read stop charging your phone to one hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 2>What fed especially when you first get it. I thought

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<v Speaker 2>that was the point. It was like you have to

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<v Speaker 2>have it to one hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 5>I thought that was like phone hygiene, Yeah, like flossing,

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<v Speaker 5>Like you gotta charge your phone overnight to one hundred percent. No,

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<v Speaker 5>the wire cutter said that over time, charging your phone

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<v Speaker 5>all the way can weaken your battery and cause it

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<v Speaker 5>to lose its charge much faster. Instead, charge it somewhere

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<v Speaker 5>in the range of twenty to eighty percent.

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<v Speaker 2>Twenty percent, you'd be living on the edge. What kind

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<v Speaker 2>of risk taking adrenaline junkie is running around with their

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<v Speaker 2>phone only for charge to twenty.

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<v Speaker 1>The kind who's also running around looking for a charger

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<v Speaker 1>at work.

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<v Speaker 5>So apparently on your phone, if it's a your model,

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<v Speaker 5>you can just like make it do this automatically stop

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<v Speaker 5>at eighty percent. I haven't done this because it feels

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<v Speaker 5>wrong to me and I'm not ready to do it.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm just simply not ready to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not following the sciences points on other things important

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<v Speaker 2>medical information. Yes, the viber off on this anent.

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<v Speaker 1>The vibe off it? Do you get me thinking?

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<v Speaker 3>Though?

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<v Speaker 5>Because there was something about that idea of don't charge

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<v Speaker 5>your phone to one hundred percent?

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<v Speaker 1>I wondered whether we could apply it more broadly, like

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<v Speaker 1>not just to phones. Should we be avoiding one hundred

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<v Speaker 1>percent charge in life?

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<v Speaker 3>I feel as though it's better if my body never

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<v Speaker 3>knows what one hundred percent feels like, so I try

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<v Speaker 3>and keep it in seventy to eighty.

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<v Speaker 1>I've got some examples.

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<v Speaker 5>Think about when you go to bed early and then

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<v Speaker 5>you wake up the next week kind of groggy because

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<v Speaker 5>you slept too much.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yep, yep.

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<v Speaker 5>Or think about how a forty minute now you wake

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<v Speaker 5>up and you feel really discombobulated. A twenty minute nap,

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<v Speaker 5>you're ready to go.

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<v Speaker 2>Ten to fifteen is the sweet spot for a nap

0:20:16.502 --> 0:20:17.262
<v Speaker 2>in my experience.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh no, micronapp, I have two hour naps.

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<v Speaker 5>Really, yeah, that's charging your fine to one hundred, But.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't feel good after. To be clear, I feel

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<v Speaker 3>this when I eat broccoli. I've been talking about how

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<v Speaker 3>I've been eating vegetables lately, and I think you don't

0:20:30.341 --> 0:20:32.021
<v Speaker 3>want to eat too healthy because you don't want your

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<v Speaker 3>body to expect it. You don't want your body to

0:20:34.381 --> 0:20:38.061
<v Speaker 3>grow accustomed to only eating vegetables. So then you get

0:20:38.061 --> 0:20:41.222
<v Speaker 3>some hot chips because you're like, this way, my body's

0:20:41.262 --> 0:20:43.061
<v Speaker 3>just ready for what's going to come, Like, I don't

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<v Speaker 3>want to give it a shock when my real life

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<v Speaker 3>starts up again.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I mean? Do you think it applies

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<v Speaker 2>to effort Amelia.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, so I think that sometimes I go to work

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<v Speaker 5>and I've had too much coffee, and I give one

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<v Speaker 5>hundred percent and then people yourself, yeah, and they say

0:20:58.182 --> 0:21:03.341
<v Speaker 5>that I'm quote unquote overwhelming, and I try not to

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<v Speaker 5>do it anymore because people just start to back away.

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<v Speaker 5>So now at work, I aim for about seventy five.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And you also you don't want to raise people's

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<v Speaker 3>expectations firstly, and also you don't want to burn out,

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<v Speaker 3>no exactly, And if you're aiming for one hundred percent

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<v Speaker 3>all day, I feel as though what I have in

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<v Speaker 3>my life is one hundred percent moments where I can

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<v Speaker 3>give one hundred percent for forty five minutes, or like

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<v Speaker 3>if I go to the gym, I'll try and give

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<v Speaker 3>one hundred percent for literally one minute, and I'll just

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<v Speaker 3>like see that because I.

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<v Speaker 1>Do a high intensity interval tree.

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<v Speaker 3>Every now and then, I try to get my heart

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<v Speaker 3>right out really hard for a minute.

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<v Speaker 1>I do.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm going to give it a little bit.

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<v Speaker 3>But the thing is, if you wanted to give one

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<v Speaker 3>hundred percent every time you went to the gym, you'd

0:21:43.302 --> 0:21:45.101
<v Speaker 3>never go to the gym because that's just daunting. So

0:21:45.141 --> 0:21:48.661
<v Speaker 3>you've got to understand that when you go, you only really.

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<v Speaker 4>Need to be giving it seventy percent.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd set on my exercise bike and I am giving

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<v Speaker 2>it thirty eight. And I'm saying to myself, well, at

0:21:57.901 --> 0:22:00.422
<v Speaker 2>least i'm here, it's better than not being here at all.

0:22:00.782 --> 0:22:04.022
<v Speaker 2>But someone on TikTok is nearly always telling me that's

0:22:04.061 --> 0:22:06.782
<v Speaker 2>not true. They are always telling me, if you're not

0:22:06.901 --> 0:22:09.542
<v Speaker 2>killing yourself and sweating your guts out, what are you

0:22:09.661 --> 0:22:11.702
<v Speaker 2>even do it here? And I'm like, no, no, no.

0:22:11.702 --> 0:22:13.302
<v Speaker 2>Now that Amelia has told me this, I'm going to.

0:22:13.302 --> 0:22:13.782
<v Speaker 1>Say you.

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<v Speaker 2>And I need to get into your settings and sort

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<v Speaker 2>you out. Pushing back down to a thirty eight.

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<v Speaker 4>Can make out a battery at two pm.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm going to take it to the next level this

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<v Speaker 5>theory about battery and say, Mia has this concept that

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<v Speaker 5>I think about a lot called intimacy leaking. Yes, yep,

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<v Speaker 5>this idea that if you're in a romantic relationship with

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<v Speaker 5>someone a monogamous from romantic relationship, I guess is the

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<v Speaker 5>way to describe it here. And then you start telling

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<v Speaker 5>people in your life who are not your partner sort

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<v Speaker 5>of details of how you're truly feeling or really difficult

0:22:46.502 --> 0:22:50.702
<v Speaker 5>things you're struggling with. You're leaking intimacy from your relationship.

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<v Speaker 5>And I'm thinking of this as kind of like a

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<v Speaker 5>battery leak. You can't be giving too much of your

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<v Speaker 5>battery to other people. That's my extension of the wire

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<v Speaker 5>cutter theory.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, like it's leaking out, it's leaking battery.

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<v Speaker 5>So I think you just got to be mindful of

0:23:04.942 --> 0:23:07.821
<v Speaker 5>where your battery's going as well, in addition to being

0:23:07.821 --> 0:23:09.502
<v Speaker 5>mindful of what level the batteries are.

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<v Speaker 2>Is like, let's have another analogy. Remember how Taylor Swift,

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<v Speaker 2>the Overlord of the Women of the World, made that

0:23:16.821 --> 0:23:20.581
<v Speaker 2>statement about how treat your energy like it's expressive. This

0:23:20.782 --> 0:23:25.581
<v Speaker 2>is kind of like that. So if I'm cleaning my kitchen, look,

0:23:25.942 --> 0:23:28.821
<v Speaker 2>forty two is plenty, Like forty two percent is plenty

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<v Speaker 2>as long as someone's getting yes, But I have to

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<v Speaker 2>scrub every little gap.

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<v Speaker 5>Child used all your battery on cleaning the kitchen, and

0:23:36.462 --> 0:23:38.141
<v Speaker 5>then your kids came home and you had nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>To yes exactly, but my energy is expensive. So when

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<v Speaker 2>the kid walks in the door, this theory is at

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<v Speaker 2>least i'd be and I say, so happy to see you, darling.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you have a wonderful day. I'm going to put

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<v Speaker 2>one hundred percent. Make sure you feel.

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<v Speaker 3>Now I'm going to couch that because I don't think

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<v Speaker 3>we should ever be giving one hundred percent to parenting,

0:23:57.101 --> 0:24:01.182
<v Speaker 3>because again, it's about expectations. You can't have them expect

0:24:01.581 --> 0:24:03.102
<v Speaker 3>that you're going to be cooking and clin.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 5>But I've got a theory about children in general. This

0:24:05.942 --> 0:24:09.222
<v Speaker 5>is not about parents. Tony Morrison once told Michelle Obama,

0:24:09.621 --> 0:24:11.581
<v Speaker 5>you get that, So this is a third hand I

0:24:11.581 --> 0:24:14.542
<v Speaker 5>didn't hear it from Why Live in Directly. She said

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<v Speaker 5>that whenever a child walks in the room, you must

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<v Speaker 5>beam and act extremely excited because all children expect that

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<v Speaker 5>when they enter a room. Adults like act like they're

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<v Speaker 5>a joy in a miracle, which they are.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I support that scene.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's like at least five percent of your daily

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<v Speaker 1>battery on a child.

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<v Speaker 5>So if you're a teacher, I'm sorry, I don't know

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<v Speaker 5>how you're handling it.

0:24:36.742 --> 0:24:39.061
<v Speaker 2>Also, it depends on what base you're coming from, Like

0:24:39.101 --> 0:24:42.302
<v Speaker 2>if you're hungover or sick or exhausted, or your bosses

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<v Speaker 2>and then the child, then you're coming from five percent

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<v Speaker 2>to one hundred and that takes a lot like that.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, I have another application, and it's to do with appearance.

0:24:52.702 --> 0:24:52.862
<v Speaker 1>Right.

0:24:53.502 --> 0:24:55.142
<v Speaker 4>Do you ever like you doing your makeup?

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<v Speaker 2>And you go, I.

0:24:55.942 --> 0:25:00.021
<v Speaker 3>Could, I could contour, I could give it one, but

0:25:00.101 --> 0:25:00.942
<v Speaker 3>my nose.

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<v Speaker 1>Is just going to be as wide as it actually.

0:25:02.982 --> 0:25:05.381
<v Speaker 4>Is today exactly. And you go, you know what, I

0:25:05.422 --> 0:25:07.782
<v Speaker 4>want to be relatable. I want them to like it.

0:25:08.341 --> 0:25:11.661
<v Speaker 3>If I look too good, then I'm going to walk

0:25:11.661 --> 0:25:13.782
<v Speaker 3>into work. I'm going to make everyone feel like she's Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>See, this is a problem that clearly you are.

0:25:16.742 --> 0:25:17.501
<v Speaker 1>I have to live with it.

0:25:17.581 --> 0:25:20.141
<v Speaker 3>I have a friend who's too attractive, right, And we

0:25:20.141 --> 0:25:23.222
<v Speaker 3>were saying recently she wasn't there. There were just men

0:25:23.502 --> 0:25:25.861
<v Speaker 3>flocking to her, which is interesting because they didn't see us,

0:25:25.861 --> 0:25:28.061
<v Speaker 3>but they flocked to her, and we all said it

0:25:28.101 --> 0:25:29.141
<v Speaker 3>would be hard being.

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<v Speaker 4>That beautiful because it's distracting.

0:25:30.942 --> 0:25:33.381
<v Speaker 1>When you speak to the men flocking, it sounds like seagulls.

0:25:33.502 --> 0:25:35.581
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we go out to dinner, she gets harassed.

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<v Speaker 2>Can she turn it down from herd I don't know.

0:25:38.182 --> 0:25:40.262
<v Speaker 3>And maybe she can turn it down to ninety, but

0:25:40.341 --> 0:25:42.901
<v Speaker 3>I can easily turn it to like an eighteen, and

0:25:42.982 --> 0:25:44.662
<v Speaker 3>I think that that is a superpower.

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<v Speaker 5>Final question low battery mode. What is the human equivalent

0:25:48.821 --> 0:25:50.981
<v Speaker 5>of low battery mode, which, by the way, feels like magic.

0:25:51.061 --> 0:25:52.941
<v Speaker 5>Every time I put on low battery mode, I'm like,

0:25:53.022 --> 0:25:55.141
<v Speaker 5>I just conducted a magic trick.

0:25:55.661 --> 0:25:59.262
<v Speaker 2>I know, closing all your tabs. It's closing all your tabs.

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<v Speaker 2>Low battery mode is what I've been operating in while

0:26:02.502 --> 0:26:04.421
<v Speaker 2>I've been poorly lately, and out Loud has been very

0:26:04.462 --> 0:26:07.061
<v Speaker 2>sick of I'm sure hearing about me being poorly. Actually,

0:26:07.061 --> 0:26:10.581
<v Speaker 2>this is true. People like to blame you for your illnesses,

0:26:10.621 --> 0:26:12.782
<v Speaker 2>don't they. So when I said to anyone lately, I've

0:26:12.782 --> 0:26:15.861
<v Speaker 2>had the flu, they've blamed it on one hundred percent theory.

0:26:15.942 --> 0:26:18.621
<v Speaker 2>They've said, no, I think about it. Oh, it's because

0:26:18.661 --> 0:26:23.741
<v Speaker 2>you worked too hard. I just caught the flu. Like,

0:26:23.861 --> 0:26:25.901
<v Speaker 2>I don't think it has anything to do with anything

0:26:25.942 --> 0:26:28.861
<v Speaker 2>other than that I caught a sickness.

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<v Speaker 4>You went to low power mode.

0:26:30.182 --> 0:26:32.581
<v Speaker 2>I went to low power mode for two weeks, very

0:26:32.581 --> 0:26:35.581
<v Speaker 2>little movement. Yes, if I was a fat bear, I

0:26:35.581 --> 0:26:38.662
<v Speaker 2>would have been eating a lot of salmon, but not

0:26:38.782 --> 0:26:42.742
<v Speaker 2>moving much, storing myself up, just barely raising the head

0:26:42.742 --> 0:26:45.742
<v Speaker 2>from the bed to smile winningly at the children when

0:26:45.782 --> 0:26:51.262
<v Speaker 2>they came royally. That was great. Low power mode was good.

0:26:51.422 --> 0:26:53.821
<v Speaker 4>You're doing everything to not just die.

0:26:54.022 --> 0:26:57.542
<v Speaker 2>Literally, I think that low power mode can get the

0:26:57.621 --> 0:27:00.782
<v Speaker 2>job done if needed. Jesse, why didn't you tell me

0:27:00.782 --> 0:27:03.101
<v Speaker 2>that Luca was running in the Berlin Marathon last weekend?

0:27:03.381 --> 0:27:04.981
<v Speaker 2>I saw him in the office on Monday and I

0:27:05.101 --> 0:27:08.741
<v Speaker 2>was like, how you in Berlin? Like? The reason I

0:27:08.782 --> 0:27:12.942
<v Speaker 2>ask is that my boyfriend, Harry Stoyles's and don't worry

0:27:13.022 --> 0:27:16.022
<v Speaker 2>out loud, it would be very inappropriate. Harry Styles was

0:27:16.061 --> 0:27:21.141
<v Speaker 2>my boyfriend, very inappropriate. But we all know I love him.

0:27:21.341 --> 0:27:23.581
<v Speaker 2>He ran the bill in marathon on the weekend, in

0:27:24.302 --> 0:27:25.861
<v Speaker 2>Marathon full marin.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a good time, right, six fifty.

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<v Speaker 2>Under three hours, which is a goal for many people.

0:27:31.901 --> 0:27:33.622
<v Speaker 2>This whole other thing about how much I love gap

0:27:33.661 --> 0:27:37.341
<v Speaker 2>here Harry Styles. But quite a lot of people when

0:27:37.381 --> 0:27:40.461
<v Speaker 2>Mom and Maya posted about this said they thought it

0:27:40.542 --> 0:27:43.422
<v Speaker 2>was Luca. That's the picture of Harry Styles is annoying.

0:27:43.581 --> 0:27:45.662
<v Speaker 2>The people generally thinking that Lucas.

0:27:45.341 --> 0:27:46.502
<v Speaker 4>Hast so annoying.

0:27:46.581 --> 0:27:49.302
<v Speaker 3>Look, someone said it before and then we've never brought

0:27:49.302 --> 0:27:51.902
<v Speaker 3>it up again. But it is so annoying to make

0:27:51.942 --> 0:27:55.542
<v Speaker 3>that comparison, like it gives someone such a big hit Jersey.

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<v Speaker 5>Sorry, let's recap here. You've been told in recent weeks

0:28:00.101 --> 0:28:02.782
<v Speaker 5>you look like Sidney Sweeney. Luke has been Tory looks

0:28:02.821 --> 0:28:04.222
<v Speaker 5>like Harry Styles.

0:28:04.581 --> 0:28:05.022
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:28:05.061 --> 0:28:07.222
<v Speaker 1>Look, did Luca love this Harry Styles thing?

0:28:07.222 --> 0:28:08.861
<v Speaker 5>And is he kind of bringing it up at like

0:28:08.942 --> 0:28:10.262
<v Speaker 5>inappropriate at moments?

0:28:10.341 --> 0:28:10.581
<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

0:28:10.621 --> 0:28:12.141
<v Speaker 4>And look I can kind of see it.

0:28:12.222 --> 0:28:14.581
<v Speaker 3>He's got a headband and some sunglasses on in a

0:28:14.581 --> 0:28:15.702
<v Speaker 3>little bit of facial hair.

0:28:15.742 --> 0:28:18.662
<v Speaker 4>But there's no way that Luke's running a marathon. It's

0:28:18.742 --> 0:28:19.302
<v Speaker 4>just not him.

0:28:19.381 --> 0:28:21.941
<v Speaker 2>I just love that Harry Styles. And I've been on

0:28:21.982 --> 0:28:23.981
<v Speaker 2>this podcast winging about how much I want a new

0:28:24.022 --> 0:28:27.542
<v Speaker 2>Harry Styles album. Harry Styles is just like I am

0:28:27.621 --> 0:28:29.741
<v Speaker 2>living my life. I want to know what it's like

0:28:29.782 --> 0:28:31.982
<v Speaker 2>to run a marathon. I'm dating Zoe Kravitz. Were in

0:28:32.061 --> 0:28:33.861
<v Speaker 2>Rome or in New York. We're in London where wherever

0:28:33.901 --> 0:28:36.222
<v Speaker 2>he is spending his money, he is having a great time.

0:28:36.821 --> 0:28:38.181
<v Speaker 2>Here is my new role model.

0:28:38.502 --> 0:28:41.221
<v Speaker 5>So with Zoe Kravitz, she is dating him, she is

0:28:41.302 --> 0:28:43.702
<v Speaker 5>dating him. There was some confusion that was.

0:28:43.661 --> 0:28:47.421
<v Speaker 2>The bait and switched the Austin what's his name, hot man, very.

0:28:47.262 --> 0:28:49.742
<v Speaker 4>Hot Austin Butler Australian.

0:28:50.102 --> 0:28:52.461
<v Speaker 2>No, he's not and he looks Australian, but he's not.

0:28:53.022 --> 0:28:54.982
<v Speaker 2>Everyone thought she was dating Austin Butler, but they were

0:28:55.022 --> 0:28:58.662
<v Speaker 2>just doing very good chemistry. For she is dating Harry Styles,

0:28:58.742 --> 0:29:00.702
<v Speaker 2>or at least she has been. And some people say

0:29:00.782 --> 0:29:02.742
<v Speaker 2>he had a fake name and everything in the marathon,

0:29:02.782 --> 0:29:05.741
<v Speaker 2>not that I've done a deep dive and she was

0:29:05.822 --> 0:29:08.862
<v Speaker 2>there and maybe also in cognito cheering him on. But

0:29:08.942 --> 0:29:10.742
<v Speaker 2>he is living his best life. And everyone's like, look

0:29:10.742 --> 0:29:13.822
<v Speaker 2>at Taylor Swift. She's released like twenty five albums since

0:29:13.862 --> 0:29:15.981
<v Speaker 2>you did Harry's House, Harry, get your shit together, And

0:29:16.022 --> 0:29:17.982
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, nah, I'm full respectful. I was going to

0:29:18.022 --> 0:29:19.062
<v Speaker 2>say them fat bear mode.

0:29:19.302 --> 0:29:21.142
<v Speaker 3>Well, I was going to say, he's definitely not taking

0:29:21.142 --> 0:29:22.582
<v Speaker 3>it to one hundred percent, but then I realize he

0:29:22.661 --> 0:29:25.382
<v Speaker 3>just ran a marathon, so you might shit.

0:29:26.022 --> 0:29:30.661
<v Speaker 2>Can you run a marathon in low power? After the break,

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<v Speaker 2>soft Pants be damned? Dressing for Work is.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you wearing right now? Out louders you want to

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<v Speaker 2>find out liking to imagine that. I don't think very

0:29:57.942 --> 0:29:59.542
<v Speaker 2>many of our louders are this, but you know how

0:29:59.661 --> 0:30:01.742
<v Speaker 2>there are all those bros who pretend they're working while

0:30:01.742 --> 0:30:04.982
<v Speaker 2>listening to their favorite podcasts. Yeah, or watching it on YouTube.

0:30:05.582 --> 0:30:07.781
<v Speaker 2>Maybe there are some outlouders doing that. If so, what

0:30:07.942 --> 0:30:11.701
<v Speaker 2>is your current worker tire? Because apparently the mass return

0:30:11.782 --> 0:30:14.542
<v Speaker 2>to office work in Australia we're judged to be at

0:30:14.582 --> 0:30:18.942
<v Speaker 2>about seventy seven percent from pre COVID levels.

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<v Speaker 4>Of as in back to the office full time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I know how much the back to the

0:30:23.422 --> 0:30:27.542
<v Speaker 2>office conversation anoys, teachers, nurses, doctors, you know, retail workers.

0:30:27.582 --> 0:30:29.942
<v Speaker 2>I know this not everybody, but this is about people

0:30:29.982 --> 0:30:33.502
<v Speaker 2>who pre COVID were in office were apparently about seventy

0:30:33.582 --> 0:30:36.102
<v Speaker 2>seven percent return, So lots of back to the office

0:30:36.342 --> 0:30:39.062
<v Speaker 2>and apparently what's come with this is a bit of

0:30:39.062 --> 0:30:41.701
<v Speaker 2>pearl clutching about the fact that a lot of people

0:30:41.742 --> 0:30:43.902
<v Speaker 2>don't know how to dress for the office anymore and

0:30:43.982 --> 0:30:46.782
<v Speaker 2>we are in a full return to corporate ware. Listen

0:30:46.902 --> 0:30:50.262
<v Speaker 2>to this. It's a collection of mostly female managers having

0:30:50.302 --> 0:30:53.502
<v Speaker 2>a winge about their mostly younger colleagues what they're wearing

0:30:53.502 --> 0:30:56.662
<v Speaker 2>to the office. They had an assistant show up tour

0:30:57.022 --> 0:30:58.942
<v Speaker 2>in joggers, no makeup.

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<v Speaker 4>She sat down at the table to begin working.

0:31:01.182 --> 0:31:05.622
<v Speaker 5>I instantly had this gut reaction of no, this doesn't represent.

0:31:05.222 --> 0:31:07.102
<v Speaker 2>Our client who we are becoming.

0:31:07.262 --> 0:31:09.421
<v Speaker 5>It didn't work for me, and from that day forward,

0:31:09.542 --> 0:31:11.782
<v Speaker 5>I have enforced this dress code, not only for my

0:31:11.942 --> 0:31:13.262
<v Speaker 5>team but for myself.

0:31:13.302 --> 0:31:15.382
<v Speaker 1>When I get dressed for my top client every day,

0:31:15.422 --> 0:31:16.102
<v Speaker 1>even though I'm.

0:31:15.942 --> 0:31:20.382
<v Speaker 5>Seeing no one potentially but my team, it improves productivity.

0:31:20.462 --> 0:31:21.982
<v Speaker 1>There is it's neuroscience fact.

0:31:22.142 --> 0:31:24.981
<v Speaker 4>You're going to have a more successful day. You're telling

0:31:25.022 --> 0:31:27.622
<v Speaker 4>your body in your mind you are here to work.

0:31:27.862 --> 0:31:31.102
<v Speaker 2>It occurs to me that some of you have not

0:31:31.382 --> 0:31:34.302
<v Speaker 2>or do not have a grown up telling you how

0:31:34.342 --> 0:31:36.342
<v Speaker 2>to dress in the workplace.

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<v Speaker 7>I just wanted to talk about your outfit today.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, what about it.

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<v Speaker 7>We have a huge client meeting today, a customer worth

0:31:44.502 --> 0:31:48.221
<v Speaker 7>a lot of money who's expecting like the utmost professionalism,

0:31:48.462 --> 0:31:52.342
<v Speaker 7>and some people on your team really not comfortable with

0:31:52.382 --> 0:31:53.342
<v Speaker 7>what you're wearing today.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's a collection of tiktoks and reels from Australia

0:31:56.622 --> 0:32:00.022
<v Speaker 2>and America of basically bosses bitching about the fact that

0:32:00.062 --> 0:32:04.022
<v Speaker 2>nobody knows how to dress anymore. Now that's why you're seeing.

0:32:04.342 --> 0:32:06.421
<v Speaker 2>I'm certainly seeing on my social's lots of what I

0:32:06.462 --> 0:32:09.542
<v Speaker 2>watered the office reels right, lots of people putting together

0:32:09.582 --> 0:32:13.701
<v Speaker 2>their fashion and Vogue Australia declares that business casual is

0:32:13.702 --> 0:32:17.102
<v Speaker 2>dead and we're now into corporate core and there are

0:32:17.142 --> 0:32:19.542
<v Speaker 2>all these different trends with it that go office siren,

0:32:19.622 --> 0:32:23.342
<v Speaker 2>corp core, corporate fetish. Dressing for work is back. But

0:32:23.462 --> 0:32:25.822
<v Speaker 2>don't tell Emily Vernon because I checked in with her

0:32:25.862 --> 0:32:29.302
<v Speaker 2>today about this. I said, Duhl, did you dress for

0:32:29.342 --> 0:32:31.502
<v Speaker 2>work today? And you know what she said? She said,

0:32:31.582 --> 0:32:34.302
<v Speaker 2>I'm literally wearing see through linen pants that I may

0:32:34.422 --> 0:32:37.782
<v Speaker 2>or may not have slept it. I think that illustrates

0:32:37.862 --> 0:32:41.262
<v Speaker 2>the problem here, friends, are we dressing for work?

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<v Speaker 3>It is so funny because you put this in yesterday

0:32:44.822 --> 0:32:47.302
<v Speaker 3>like a story about this, and at almost exactly the

0:32:47.302 --> 0:32:49.181
<v Speaker 3>same time, I got a message in one of my

0:32:49.222 --> 0:32:52.582
<v Speaker 3>biggest group chats from someone saying apparently I have to

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<v Speaker 3>dress corporate.

0:32:53.822 --> 0:32:55.022
<v Speaker 4>Where is everyone shopping?

0:32:55.302 --> 0:32:57.261
<v Speaker 3>And I was like, I have not seen that question

0:32:57.902 --> 0:32:59.782
<v Speaker 3>in such a long time, and it made me think

0:32:59.782 --> 0:33:02.262
<v Speaker 3>about a few things. The first is that if you've

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<v Speaker 3>been working a few days in the office, the difference

0:33:04.862 --> 0:33:07.782
<v Speaker 3>between two or three and five is an entire wardrobe

0:33:07.862 --> 0:33:09.942
<v Speaker 3>you need five, or you feel like you need five

0:33:09.982 --> 0:33:12.502
<v Speaker 3>different outfits or at least different things to put together.

0:33:12.862 --> 0:33:14.981
<v Speaker 3>The other is a change of season, is that it

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<v Speaker 3>might be the first warm season that you've looked around

0:33:17.982 --> 0:33:20.142
<v Speaker 3>and gone, how do you dress for warm?

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<v Speaker 4>In the corporate vibe?

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<v Speaker 3>But then I tried to find evidence of this, and

0:33:25.222 --> 0:33:29.542
<v Speaker 3>I was looking at data about the term relaxed dress,

0:33:29.942 --> 0:33:34.461
<v Speaker 3>and apparently in Australian job postings it's up. So a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of sectors are saying that they're encouraging relaxed dress,

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<v Speaker 3>especially in the Act and Queensland.

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<v Speaker 4>The theory is that it's influenced from the tech sector.

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<v Speaker 3>So because the tech sector has always been about pushing

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<v Speaker 3>against office norms. Think about your friends who work for

0:33:51.702 --> 0:33:54.502
<v Speaker 3>kind of really hip, techy places and they just wear

0:33:54.542 --> 0:33:59.142
<v Speaker 3>jeans and sneakers or whatever. Apparently that has leaked into accounting, legal,

0:33:59.222 --> 0:34:03.822
<v Speaker 3>banking and finance it and there's been an increasing casualization

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<v Speaker 3>of how people.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's why there's a pushback on it now.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, well, I smell a rap.

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<v Speaker 5>I think the reason why this discussion is kind of

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<v Speaker 5>seemingly surfacing organically on TikTok and elsewhere is because employers

0:34:19.622 --> 0:34:23.302
<v Speaker 5>are unhappy with hybrid work and they want to change

0:34:23.342 --> 0:34:25.622
<v Speaker 5>the game, and they think that if they get people

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<v Speaker 5>to buy enough.

0:34:26.462 --> 0:34:29.782
<v Speaker 1>Clothes, they'll become more happy about going into.

0:34:29.582 --> 0:34:32.381
<v Speaker 2>Lim somewhere to wear them to exactly.

0:34:32.542 --> 0:34:34.902
<v Speaker 5>So I think it's also especially a story about the

0:34:34.942 --> 0:34:38.502
<v Speaker 5>corporate sector, because yeah, the point about tech is well taken.

0:34:38.502 --> 0:34:40.982
<v Speaker 5>They've always dressed a bit differently. But look at the

0:34:41.022 --> 0:34:43.022
<v Speaker 5>fact that the staff at the big four banks in

0:34:43.062 --> 0:34:45.942
<v Speaker 5>Australia have all been called back to work full time.

0:34:46.422 --> 0:34:50.582
<v Speaker 5>Also tab Corp and then Mineral Resources, that company in

0:34:50.622 --> 0:34:52.781
<v Speaker 5>Perth where the CEO said he wanted to hold the

0:34:52.822 --> 0:34:56.502
<v Speaker 5>staff captive. The staff are captive. They're back at work.

0:34:56.661 --> 0:34:59.462
<v Speaker 5>So I think smart casual that in the corporate sector

0:34:59.502 --> 0:35:03.341
<v Speaker 5>there's this real sense of we're paying you enough, why

0:35:03.382 --> 0:35:05.582
<v Speaker 5>aren't you here five days a week? And they think

0:35:05.622 --> 0:35:08.661
<v Speaker 5>that clothing is kind of the incentive to get people back.

0:35:08.661 --> 0:35:10.821
<v Speaker 2>Because as that piece in Vogue was saying that like

0:35:10.862 --> 0:35:14.261
<v Speaker 2>they're make trying to make corporate wear sexy. So it's

0:35:14.342 --> 0:35:16.622
<v Speaker 2>all about trying to appear like that. This is great.

0:35:16.701 --> 0:35:18.582
<v Speaker 2>This is a whole vibe to be coming out of

0:35:18.582 --> 0:35:21.341
<v Speaker 2>the office, getting dressed up, being sharp, and that what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm seeing. And you know, I don't speak fashion, I'm

0:35:23.862 --> 0:35:25.382
<v Speaker 2>not mere, but what I'm seeing in a lot of

0:35:25.382 --> 0:35:29.341
<v Speaker 2>these videos is lots of tailored pants, maybe a waistcoat

0:35:29.542 --> 0:35:31.502
<v Speaker 2>if you're like a hot thing who can have your arms.

0:35:31.622 --> 0:35:35.261
<v Speaker 2>Lots of draped blazer yet lots of blazers, heels seem

0:35:35.302 --> 0:35:37.742
<v Speaker 2>to be back, a bit of a pointed toe seems

0:35:37.741 --> 0:35:38.022
<v Speaker 2>to be.

0:35:37.982 --> 0:35:40.262
<v Speaker 1>Back officially pointed toes, back.

0:35:41.022 --> 0:35:44.181
<v Speaker 2>Slicked back hair. I think about and we've talked about

0:35:44.181 --> 0:35:46.221
<v Speaker 2>her on the show before, but you know, some of

0:35:46.261 --> 0:35:49.021
<v Speaker 2>the iconic girl bosses of the moment, like Emma Greed,

0:35:49.062 --> 0:35:51.942
<v Speaker 2>we've talked about her before. She's the woman behind skims

0:35:51.942 --> 0:35:54.741
<v Speaker 2>and all of those. She posts every week things I

0:35:54.781 --> 0:35:57.421
<v Speaker 2>want to the office every week, and it's her coming

0:35:57.462 --> 0:36:00.542
<v Speaker 2>out of the office lift in ever more elegant clothes.

0:36:00.661 --> 0:36:03.462
<v Speaker 1>Are they corporate or are they kind of more straddling like.

0:36:04.302 --> 0:36:06.662
<v Speaker 2>What modern corporate means, because she's not in a suit,

0:36:07.102 --> 0:36:09.382
<v Speaker 2>but she's definitely I think the word we would be

0:36:09.542 --> 0:36:10.661
<v Speaker 2>looking for is polished.

0:36:11.022 --> 0:36:11.662
<v Speaker 4>She and jeans.

0:36:11.982 --> 0:36:14.382
<v Speaker 2>She lives in jeans on a non meeting day, but

0:36:14.422 --> 0:36:16.941
<v Speaker 2>they're very elegant jeens. What I was asking em when

0:36:16.942 --> 0:36:19.102
<v Speaker 2>I asked her about her in pas, I promise it

0:36:19.102 --> 0:36:23.062
<v Speaker 2>wasn't passac. It's basically I wonder if there's a generational

0:36:23.062 --> 0:36:25.261
<v Speaker 2>piece to this. But I definitely think that I have

0:36:25.422 --> 0:36:27.821
<v Speaker 2>work clothes and non work clothes. Even though I wear

0:36:27.862 --> 0:36:31.741
<v Speaker 2>jeans and things to work. I definitely dress differently on

0:36:31.781 --> 0:36:33.381
<v Speaker 2>a day when I'm coming into the office here at

0:36:33.382 --> 0:36:36.421
<v Speaker 2>Mamma Mia than I do when I'm at home in Hip.

0:36:37.022 --> 0:36:39.861
<v Speaker 2>But I don't know if that's true for a lot

0:36:39.902 --> 0:36:44.382
<v Speaker 2>of the younger people who came of work age during COVID.

0:36:45.022 --> 0:36:48.862
<v Speaker 2>I definitely have spoken to colleagues where I say, oh,

0:36:48.942 --> 0:36:50.542
<v Speaker 2>these are work clothes, and they look at me a

0:36:50.582 --> 0:36:52.821
<v Speaker 2>bit blankly, like what do you mean working? Yeah.

0:36:52.822 --> 0:36:56.542
<v Speaker 3>So apparently self expression has become increasingly for GenZ and

0:36:56.582 --> 0:37:00.582
<v Speaker 3>millennial They've never really understood fashion without self expression, like

0:37:00.582 --> 0:37:02.301
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to show who I am, whether it's with

0:37:02.382 --> 0:37:06.341
<v Speaker 3>like a baseball hat or sneakers or something. They want

0:37:06.342 --> 0:37:09.422
<v Speaker 3>to look like themselves. Whereas when I first started in

0:37:09.422 --> 0:37:13.022
<v Speaker 3>the workplace. I worked in a school ADMINI thing like

0:37:13.102 --> 0:37:15.741
<v Speaker 3>I just copied exactly what everyone else was wearing, and

0:37:15.781 --> 0:37:17.942
<v Speaker 3>it was a pencil skirt, like that's the kind of

0:37:18.221 --> 0:37:21.902
<v Speaker 3>thing you did, which I felt incredibly uncomfortable in. But

0:37:22.022 --> 0:37:24.301
<v Speaker 3>I found this article in the Washington Post and it's

0:37:24.422 --> 0:37:28.182
<v Speaker 3>Lizzy Post, who works for the Emily Post Institute. Emily

0:37:28.181 --> 0:37:29.982
<v Speaker 3>Post was her great great grandmother, and she does all

0:37:29.982 --> 0:37:33.341
<v Speaker 3>the etiquette guides. Oh good, And she has business etiquette

0:37:33.382 --> 0:37:35.542
<v Speaker 3>and rules for what you have to wear to the office.

0:37:35.582 --> 0:37:37.102
<v Speaker 4>Do you want to hear some of them this year

0:37:37.142 --> 0:37:37.981
<v Speaker 4>twenty twenty five?

0:37:38.982 --> 0:37:41.142
<v Speaker 5>But I will say, if soft pants is on there,

0:37:41.261 --> 0:37:44.221
<v Speaker 5>I'm walking out. And there's been enough aggression towards soft

0:37:44.221 --> 0:37:45.461
<v Speaker 5>pants today.

0:37:45.502 --> 0:37:48.701
<v Speaker 3>Well, she says, and this is important for summer. We're

0:37:48.701 --> 0:37:51.381
<v Speaker 3>going into a summer in Australia and there's a big

0:37:51.462 --> 0:37:52.302
<v Speaker 3>question regardings.

0:37:52.342 --> 0:37:55.301
<v Speaker 2>Assuming the rapture doesn't happen exactly true, that would be

0:37:55.342 --> 0:37:57.221
<v Speaker 2>one of the reliefs of the rapture. We don't have

0:37:57.261 --> 0:37:59.221
<v Speaker 2>to think about what to wear to the office tomorrow.

0:38:00.102 --> 0:38:03.902
<v Speaker 3>The shoe to foot ratio, right, okay, shoes to foot ratio,

0:38:03.942 --> 0:38:07.582
<v Speaker 3>So we wear a sandal, how much sand or can

0:38:07.622 --> 0:38:08.661
<v Speaker 3>we get away with right?

0:38:08.701 --> 0:38:09.461
<v Speaker 4>This is the big question.

0:38:10.102 --> 0:38:13.661
<v Speaker 3>So she says that the shoe to foot visibility ratio

0:38:13.781 --> 0:38:17.142
<v Speaker 3>remains tipped in the balance of the shoe, so anything

0:38:17.181 --> 0:38:20.261
<v Speaker 3>that starts to have the majority of the foot exposed

0:38:20.502 --> 0:38:22.901
<v Speaker 3>starts to become questionable. So if I can say too

0:38:22.942 --> 0:38:25.462
<v Speaker 3>much foot, apparently that's a no no. Right, you've got

0:38:25.502 --> 0:38:29.181
<v Speaker 3>to have most of your foot covered. Rule iron your clothes, which,

0:38:29.382 --> 0:38:31.422
<v Speaker 3>by the way, did you really have to be told that,

0:38:31.582 --> 0:38:34.741
<v Speaker 3>jo I do iron my clothes, and every comment is.

0:38:35.902 --> 0:38:37.822
<v Speaker 1>A shower and a coat hanger.

0:38:38.221 --> 0:38:40.421
<v Speaker 4>I try, I try, but I actually iron them.

0:38:40.462 --> 0:38:42.422
<v Speaker 3>And every time we post videos to the outloud as

0:38:42.422 --> 0:38:44.542
<v Speaker 3>they say, Jesse ironing, I do.

0:38:44.982 --> 0:38:46.582
<v Speaker 2>But I'm the same as you. There are some people

0:38:46.582 --> 0:38:48.502
<v Speaker 2>who are really good at ironing, and I'm doing it right,

0:38:48.542 --> 0:38:49.062
<v Speaker 2>I'm terrible.

0:38:49.221 --> 0:38:50.902
<v Speaker 1>I think iron your clothes.

0:38:50.982 --> 0:38:53.542
<v Speaker 5>Probably if you gathered up all the comments on the

0:38:53.582 --> 0:38:56.181
<v Speaker 5>internet since it began when our Dore started at back

0:38:56.261 --> 0:38:59.262
<v Speaker 5>in two thousand, I think iron your clothes.

0:39:00.342 --> 0:39:02.982
<v Speaker 4>And then mostly about me. Jeans are allowed.

0:39:03.181 --> 0:39:05.781
<v Speaker 3>According to her, a particular type of gene loves a

0:39:05.822 --> 0:39:08.421
<v Speaker 3>straight leg, and she says the higher the waist, the better.

0:39:08.502 --> 0:39:11.062
<v Speaker 1>The Princess Die the twee blazer exactly.

0:39:11.661 --> 0:39:14.862
<v Speaker 4>You cannot wear the same socks you wear to the gym.

0:39:15.022 --> 0:39:15.822
<v Speaker 1>No, but socks.

0:39:15.942 --> 0:39:18.622
<v Speaker 5>I'm sorry with respect to the Post family, who I

0:39:18.661 --> 0:39:21.502
<v Speaker 5>know have been dispensing and I could advise for generations.

0:39:21.502 --> 0:39:25.062
<v Speaker 1>Socks is a whole other thing right now.

0:39:24.822 --> 0:39:26.022
<v Speaker 4>So you can have like a statement.

0:39:26.102 --> 0:39:27.821
<v Speaker 1>So it's too many rules.

0:39:28.181 --> 0:39:31.261
<v Speaker 5>I just I'm paralyzed by indecision on the sock front.

0:39:31.302 --> 0:39:33.502
<v Speaker 5>I don't understand what socks are appropriate anymore.

0:39:33.502 --> 0:39:35.701
<v Speaker 2>You know, I found myself buying some statement socks on

0:39:35.741 --> 0:39:38.182
<v Speaker 2>the internet when I was statements, and then I thought,

0:39:38.342 --> 0:39:40.942
<v Speaker 2>this is yet another one of these examples in my

0:39:40.982 --> 0:39:44.701
<v Speaker 2>life where Mia was buying statements socks literally and we

0:39:44.701 --> 0:39:47.742
<v Speaker 2>were laughing at her one year ago. We were pointing

0:39:47.781 --> 0:39:50.542
<v Speaker 2>at her stupid socks and going ha ha ha. And

0:39:50.582 --> 0:39:55.661
<v Speaker 2>then I just bought some sparkly mesh mid cuff, strangely

0:39:55.781 --> 0:40:00.381
<v Speaker 2>bronze socks for too much money on the Internet, and

0:40:00.422 --> 0:40:03.381
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, OK, this is another example of how she's

0:40:03.422 --> 0:40:05.181
<v Speaker 2>always right ahead.

0:40:04.942 --> 0:40:08.622
<v Speaker 4>Of the curt So backpacks are the new briefcase.

0:40:09.701 --> 0:40:12.221
<v Speaker 2>You happy you always have. I mean, I have a

0:40:12.221 --> 0:40:14.502
<v Speaker 2>backpack too, but you've had piss taken out of you

0:40:14.542 --> 0:40:15.782
<v Speaker 2>about your Josh Live.

0:40:15.661 --> 0:40:17.502
<v Speaker 3>And backpack for a while, for a very long time.

0:40:17.542 --> 0:40:19.861
<v Speaker 3>And this is the last one. T shirt rule, big

0:40:19.942 --> 0:40:22.462
<v Speaker 3>question about T shirts. All T shirts are not made equally.

0:40:23.462 --> 0:40:26.221
<v Speaker 3>You have to have a slightly thicker or softer fabric.

0:40:26.582 --> 0:40:29.542
<v Speaker 3>You need to tread carefully with logos, words and non

0:40:29.661 --> 0:40:32.382
<v Speaker 3>abstract images for example, a T shirt with them a

0:40:32.422 --> 0:40:33.102
<v Speaker 3>tease painting.

0:40:33.582 --> 0:40:38.341
<v Speaker 4>Fine. A T shirt with a cartoon character. No, so

0:40:38.462 --> 0:40:39.781
<v Speaker 4>that's the rule. Would you wear a T shirt?

0:40:39.781 --> 0:40:42.622
<v Speaker 3>I've never seen you wear a T shirt shirt. Yeah,

0:40:42.902 --> 0:40:46.582
<v Speaker 3>I don't mind. I make a T shirt look very cheap.

0:40:46.741 --> 0:40:48.942
<v Speaker 2>My uniform is shirts. As you know, I've got a

0:40:48.942 --> 0:40:51.062
<v Speaker 2>lot of shirts, which means I do have to iron them,

0:40:51.102 --> 0:40:54.102
<v Speaker 2>which is annoying. I wear a lot of shirts. I

0:40:54.142 --> 0:40:56.582
<v Speaker 2>would not wear a T shirt with the cartoon encouragement.

0:40:58.342 --> 0:41:01.062
<v Speaker 2>But if we instilled that, if we instilled that rule

0:41:01.102 --> 0:41:03.062
<v Speaker 2>at MoMA Mere, there would be no one out there

0:41:03.102 --> 0:41:04.381
<v Speaker 2>and they're all wearing T shirts.

0:41:04.382 --> 0:41:06.142
<v Speaker 3>Another fun one is that you can wear a hat,

0:41:06.221 --> 0:41:09.181
<v Speaker 3>but you must take it off for your meeting. Hat

0:41:10.382 --> 0:41:17.701
<v Speaker 3>then a fascinator like what from morning meeting?

0:41:17.781 --> 0:41:20.062
<v Speaker 4>By sorry, guys, just take my hat off out loud as,

0:41:20.102 --> 0:41:20.341
<v Speaker 4>what are.

0:41:20.261 --> 0:41:23.422
<v Speaker 2>You wearing to work? Like? Tell us and people started

0:41:23.462 --> 0:41:25.821
<v Speaker 2>talking to you about your clothes. Those tiktoks that we

0:41:25.862 --> 0:41:28.262
<v Speaker 2>played a bit of before, there's just these women walking

0:41:28.342 --> 0:41:31.142
<v Speaker 2>up to their coworkers and assistance and being like this.

0:41:31.542 --> 0:41:32.462
<v Speaker 1>No, not working.

0:41:34.102 --> 0:41:35.982
<v Speaker 4>Really, out Louders, tell.

0:41:35.862 --> 0:41:36.661
<v Speaker 2>Us how you're doing it?

0:41:37.701 --> 0:41:38.462
<v Speaker 1>I think that's it.

0:41:38.661 --> 0:41:41.221
<v Speaker 2>I think we've exhausted Wednesday.

0:41:40.822 --> 0:41:42.582
<v Speaker 4>Yep, solved the problem in the world today.

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<v Speaker 2>Massive thank you to all of you out louders for

0:41:44.701 --> 0:41:47.301
<v Speaker 2>being here with us. As always, we're going to be

0:41:47.302 --> 0:41:50.582
<v Speaker 2>back in your ears of course tomorrow, and don't forget

0:41:51.062 --> 0:41:52.741
<v Speaker 2>if you want to look at what we're wearing to

0:41:52.822 --> 0:41:57.102
<v Speaker 2>work today, at least the top half of it. Can't

0:41:57.181 --> 0:41:59.822
<v Speaker 2>check our socks. You'll find us on YouTube.

0:41:59.701 --> 0:42:02.741
<v Speaker 3>And out Louders if you missed Monday's episode. We talked

0:42:02.741 --> 0:42:05.701
<v Speaker 3>about the latest development in what I am terming the

0:42:05.902 --> 0:42:09.982
<v Speaker 3>Internet's biggest cheating scandal. We also talk about what is

0:42:10.142 --> 0:42:12.462
<v Speaker 3>going on with Jimmy Kimmel and all the stuff you

0:42:12.542 --> 0:42:15.381
<v Speaker 3>might have missed, and why are you ugly cry on

0:42:15.422 --> 0:42:16.421
<v Speaker 3>your birthday every year?

0:42:16.462 --> 0:42:17.142
<v Speaker 4>You're not alone?

0:42:17.302 --> 0:42:19.542
<v Speaker 3>We unpack why it's a super common thing to do,

0:42:19.661 --> 0:42:22.302
<v Speaker 3>and my Mum got so offended by what I said,

0:42:22.342 --> 0:42:24.462
<v Speaker 3>she commented in the out.

0:42:24.622 --> 0:42:30.022
<v Speaker 2>Special group, Anne Stevens continues to be dry Connie. She

0:42:30.342 --> 0:42:32.462
<v Speaker 2>was just like Jesse had a winge about her birthday.

0:42:32.462 --> 0:42:34.261
<v Speaker 2>You have to go listen, and Anne was just like

0:42:34.502 --> 0:42:35.622
<v Speaker 2>not having it.

0:42:35.781 --> 0:42:37.701
<v Speaker 4>Not having any of it. We will pop a link

0:42:37.741 --> 0:42:39.862
<v Speaker 4>in the show notes. Bye bye.

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<v Speaker 2>Shout out to any Mamma Mia subscribers listening. If you

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<v Speaker 2>love the show and you want to support us, subscribing

0:42:46.741 --> 0:42:49.221
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