Speaker 1: Said, you're listening to a Muma Mia podcast. Mom and
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Speaker 2: I am Pregnantty.
Speaker 1: Welcome to hell he Bump. We're making pregnancy less overwhelming
Speaker 1: and hopefully more manageable. I'm Grace Reebray. I'm pregnant for
Speaker 1: the first time, and I'm starting to panic that nothing
Speaker 1: is organized.
Speaker 2: Home yard of Pittman. I've got nothing organized, but that's
Speaker 2: because I do have six children. I'm also training to
Speaker 2: be an obstetrician, and I am a former sportsperson.
Speaker 1: Each episode, we will be holding your hand a week
Speaker 1: by week through the mysterious, perplexing and sometimes quite stressful
Speaker 1: miracle that is pregnancy, all the way from a poppy
Speaker 1: seed to a pupkin week week thirty four And what
Speaker 1: size are we?
Speaker 2: Little one is now an apple pie your local bakery.
Speaker 2: Let's get like a round, nice chunky apple.
Speaker 1: I can only imagine like a regional bakery job, a nice, big,
Speaker 1: chunky right. I feel like we're starting to get to
Speaker 1: melon territory.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're very close to melo territory. I got a
Speaker 2: baby wombat as well. For the Australian animal thing. Now
Speaker 2: this is actually the gestation that my twins came, so
Speaker 2: this is quite close to my heart, this one. So
Speaker 2: lots of things development wise for your bebit, your little girl.
Speaker 2: The bones are starting to harden, so their skulls getting harder.
Speaker 2: Now remember there's going to have those fontanelles and the
Speaker 2: ability for the little skull bones to cross over for birth.
Speaker 2: But it is starting to get stronger in that bone
Speaker 2: strength capacity. So there's two fontenelles. They're the soft spots
Speaker 2: on the baby's head and then there's the skin that
Speaker 2: covers the gaps where the plates meet together.
Speaker 1: When does their neck function as a neck.
Speaker 2: Not too well after birth. That's why we need to
Speaker 2: support them. So I think that's the scary thing when
Speaker 2: you've got more than one child and your toddler is
Speaker 2: flinging your baby around there. They're a lot more robust
Speaker 2: and in fact, my first ever grace time to the
Speaker 2: ed was when my I think it was about nine
Speaker 2: weeks old, and he rolled off my bed. Like they say,
Speaker 2: do not leave a baby unattended, but I'm like, sure,
Speaker 2: it's nine weeks. Sure. I literally turned around to hang
Speaker 2: something in the club of a little bull. It's weird.
Speaker 2: You know. I was in living in the UK at
Speaker 2: this point because I was back training again, and I
Speaker 2: went to the DA and the doctor said, I know,
Speaker 2: you feel like a terrible mum right now. I'd be
Speaker 2: the second one today. I'm like, oh, thank god, very robust.
Speaker 1: I Actually I have think my sister called crying when
Speaker 1: her son rolled off the bed for the first time,
Speaker 1: so it feels like rolling off the.
Speaker 2: Bed is the thing. He's a mark a marker, a
Speaker 2: terrible a good parenting. Yeah, but you will do You'll
Speaker 2: make mistakes, is what I'm saying. Most of the time
Speaker 2: it won't matter, but yeah, their next are particularly vulnerable,
Speaker 2: so we do need to look after them.
Speaker 1: What what's happening to me and what's happening to us.
Speaker 2: Well, at the beginning of pregnancy, you might have found
Speaker 2: that you're feeling quite tired and emotional. Well let's wind
Speaker 2: that up by about a hundred so it's really important
Speaker 2: to get plenty of sleep and plenty of rest. You're
Speaker 2: going to be starting to I think we talked about
Speaker 2: this a few weeks ago, starting to sort of nest
Speaker 2: and get things busy, and you're going to be thinking goodness,
Speaker 2: this is approaching quickly because we are only three weeks
Speaker 2: away from full term, so we consider term thirty seven
Speaker 2: to forty two weeks. So everyone says forty weeks is
Speaker 2: your golden golden time. That's when your due date is.
Speaker 2: It's the date you'll have been given when you started
Speaker 2: getting pregnant. But anytime after thirty seven weeks is term.
Speaker 2: So with only a month to go, it's getting very real. Yes,
Speaker 2: but it's important that you don't feel this time because
Speaker 2: a lot of people will be starting to consider maternity
Speaker 2: to leave now. Don't feel the time. This is the
Speaker 2: time to really rejuvenate, relax, fuel well, get your massage,
Speaker 2: booking with your antienatal appointments, and start to wind down
Speaker 2: and get ready for this baby to come.
Speaker 1: Is this normal?
Speaker 2: Is normal?
Speaker 1: Is this normal?
Speaker 2: Is?
Speaker 1: I was gardening on the weekend and was bending over
Speaker 1: a lot picking things up, and then I like had
Speaker 1: this huge pain on one side and I had to
Speaker 1: sit down and like wait for it to pass because
Speaker 1: I obviously I don't know, pulled something or I just
Speaker 1: can't make that movement anymore. And it was just a
Speaker 1: moment of ah, your body is not the same anymore.
Speaker 1: And you can't do certain things or even a time
Speaker 1: of recording. I'm about to hit thirty four weeks. I'm
Speaker 1: probably your weak left of being out to tie my
Speaker 1: own shoes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. You need to start getting some support now. Yes,
Speaker 2: that is what put me into labor with the twins.
Speaker 2: I thought I could still run up the stairs after
Speaker 2: my toddler and I lost balance and fell backwards. So
Speaker 2: because that's another big thing that's starting to happen. You're
Speaker 2: getting a lot more daor in your lower back and
Speaker 2: your whole center of gravity is moving forward, so your
Speaker 2: balance is really off. Now, don't get me wrong, And
Speaker 2: again I do not one hundred percent condone this for
Speaker 2: anyone listening. And I have severe in continence as a
Speaker 2: result of it. But I was still hurdling in my
Speaker 2: first pregnancy at this point because obviously I was a
Speaker 2: lead athlete. I was very worried about my finances and
Speaker 2: not being able to return to sports, so there was
Speaker 2: a bit of fear in that space. I don't condone
Speaker 2: it because I definitely think my peblic florist who are
Speaker 2: as the result of doing that. But you can't do
Speaker 2: as much as you think you can, and The argument
Speaker 2: here is why do you have to why do you
Speaker 2: need to garden now? Grace at thirty four weeks like,
Speaker 2: there is going to be plenty of time to put
Speaker 2: those roses in, But there's also, guys, plenty of time
Speaker 2: to go back to the gym. So you know, we
Speaker 2: have a lot of women who are really pushing the
Speaker 2: envelope at this point in pregnancy. And don't get me wrong,
Speaker 2: it's great for mental health, it's great for weight, it's
Speaker 2: great for your energy, but it's also okay if your
Speaker 2: body starts to say enough's enough to start winding back down.
Speaker 2: You will not lose fitness. Your body will bounce back.
Speaker 2: It's time to really focus on what you're doing, which
Speaker 2: is growing a baby.
Speaker 1: It's a hard one, especially when it's your first, because
Speaker 1: there is a resistance. But when we get to talk
Speaker 1: to a kid, I'm trying, yeah to just go oh
Speaker 1: I am limited.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, And we again touched on this a few
Speaker 2: weeks ago. But it's also okay to ask your part
Speaker 2: was about driving you to work. Remember it's okay to
Speaker 2: ask your partner to step up and do things because
Speaker 2: we actually want them him or her to be a
Speaker 2: good support person. After birth. So start early. Let's train them,
Speaker 2: you know, train them to do some extra things for
Speaker 2: that little foot massage at night, you know, getting your
Speaker 2: cup of tea on the couch or hanging out the washing,
Speaker 2: doing those things that you will really need them to
Speaker 2: step up and doing the weeks afterwards. It's okay to
Speaker 2: start asking them now. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I will just share one little story about my partner.
Speaker 1: He obviously came to the birth courses and he saw
Speaker 1: the pelvis being moved like in and out I'd say,
Speaker 1: like showing how it's gonna move. And for him, like
Speaker 1: I feel like everyone's had a moment of oh my
Speaker 1: gosh for having a baby. For him, it was the
Speaker 1: pelvis model that did it, and she was the person
Speaker 1: running the course, was moving the pelvist and it goes, oh,
Speaker 1: but yours won't move as much, and he was like
Speaker 1: as much, it's barely moving. What do you mean? And
Speaker 1: he it's like, your body's going to do so much,
Speaker 1: but you've already done so much, and you've been through
Speaker 1: so much already because you've been so sick. And then
Speaker 1: he went and brought me a gift.
Speaker 2: Oh I'll take it.
Speaker 1: I loved it, but like he's more wanting me to
Speaker 1: slow down than I am.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. Yeah. And it's interesting because this will also
Speaker 2: be conversations that you'll have closer to birth of where
Speaker 2: you want your partner to stand in the birth unit,
Speaker 2: because you know they will see a significant change in
Speaker 2: your body and the way things go. And I personally
Speaker 2: think that is sometimes the making of partners. For them
Speaker 2: to be able to see the enormous effort you've gone
Speaker 2: to produce that baby gives a whole new respect for
Speaker 2: the woman going through that space. But it is a
Speaker 2: very big change, and it can be something that if
Speaker 2: you let your partner into it and take them along
Speaker 2: to these birth courses and they can really see what
Speaker 2: your body's doing, will hopefully lead to a wonderful respect
Speaker 2: and then a real shared journey together throughout pregnancy and beyond.
Speaker 1: And what's in your took it.
Speaker 2: I think it's really important now to start investing in
Speaker 2: a very good pair of shoes, because one, you can't
Speaker 2: tie you shoelaces. Two they're starting to swell. And so look,
Speaker 2: I was a CrOx girl. I want to be honest,
Speaker 2: because I just found them easy to put on. But
Speaker 2: something that's going to be supportive because again we want
Speaker 2: to back off the heavy exercise. But going from some
Speaker 2: nice walks together, particularly with your partner, as you asked,
Speaker 2: just the two of you, is a good idea.
Speaker 1: Mine was It's a do as I say, not as
Speaker 1: I do. But I'm trying. I'm trying, and my app
Speaker 1: also told me is to start slowing down, which feels
Speaker 1: like the theme of this episode. There's a girl here
Speaker 1: in Mama Mia who she actually just had her baby,
Speaker 1: and a few weeks ago we were talking about the
Speaker 1: perception of women and brain fog and that you do
Speaker 1: slow like that people do treat you differently. And I
Speaker 1: was like, this is a few weeks ago. It's like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to be treated differently. I want to
Speaker 1: like be doing all the work and doing the long days.
Speaker 1: And she was just a few weeks ahead of me,
Speaker 1: and she's like, I absolutely want to be treated differently.
Speaker 1: And now at thirty four weeks, I'm like, I get it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I get it. I think it's a big change. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I do with the tiredness, the movement, like I've got
Speaker 1: a thirty minute walk to the office and a thirty
Speaker 1: like through the different public transport methods, and then it's
Speaker 1: a wad all. It's starting to be a bit of
Speaker 1: a slog. So I'm going to try and work from
Speaker 1: home on the days that I can set in all
Speaker 1: of those things.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's a great message because so many
Speaker 2: people don't do that, or they get the guilts that
Speaker 2: they should be getting more and this is just really
Speaker 2: not the time to be kicking goals. This is a
Speaker 2: it's a stay. It's a stay phase to say, where
Speaker 2: you just just get the bare minimum done and then
Speaker 2: the rest of it will come. You're not going to
Speaker 2: lose that much in this in this couple of weeks.
Speaker 2: I like that.
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