1 00:00:10,829 --> 00:00:15,109 Speaker 1: Said, you're listening to a Muma Mia podcast. Mom and 2 00:00:15,109 --> 00:00:18,429 Speaker 1: Mayor acknowledges the traditional owners of land and waters that 3 00:00:18,509 --> 00:00:20,029 Speaker 1: this podcast is recorded on. 4 00:00:21,389 --> 00:00:24,789 Speaker 2: I am Pregnantty. 5 00:00:26,909 --> 00:00:29,709 Speaker 1: Welcome to hell he Bump. We're making pregnancy less overwhelming 6 00:00:29,789 --> 00:00:33,069 Speaker 1: and hopefully more manageable. I'm Grace Reebray. I'm pregnant for 7 00:00:33,109 --> 00:00:35,789 Speaker 1: the first time, and I'm starting to panic that nothing 8 00:00:35,869 --> 00:00:36,469 Speaker 1: is organized. 9 00:00:36,869 --> 00:00:38,909 Speaker 2: Home yard of Pittman. I've got nothing organized, but that's 10 00:00:38,909 --> 00:00:40,989 Speaker 2: because I do have six children. I'm also training to 11 00:00:40,989 --> 00:00:43,069 Speaker 2: be an obstetrician, and I am a former sportsperson. 12 00:00:43,229 --> 00:00:45,229 Speaker 1: Each episode, we will be holding your hand a week 13 00:00:45,229 --> 00:00:47,989 Speaker 1: by week through the mysterious, perplexing and sometimes quite stressful 14 00:00:48,149 --> 00:00:50,629 Speaker 1: miracle that is pregnancy, all the way from a poppy 15 00:00:50,629 --> 00:00:58,069 Speaker 1: seed to a pupkin week week thirty four And what 16 00:00:58,229 --> 00:00:58,789 Speaker 1: size are we? 17 00:00:59,109 --> 00:01:02,029 Speaker 2: Little one is now an apple pie your local bakery. 18 00:01:03,309 --> 00:01:05,149 Speaker 2: Let's get like a round, nice chunky apple. 19 00:01:05,349 --> 00:01:09,109 Speaker 1: I can only imagine like a regional bakery job, a nice, big, 20 00:01:09,149 --> 00:01:12,069 Speaker 1: chunky right. I feel like we're starting to get to 21 00:01:12,069 --> 00:01:12,829 Speaker 1: melon territory. 22 00:01:12,949 --> 00:01:14,949 Speaker 2: Yeah, we're very close to melo territory. I got a 23 00:01:14,949 --> 00:01:17,389 Speaker 2: baby wombat as well. For the Australian animal thing. Now 24 00:01:17,389 --> 00:01:19,509 Speaker 2: this is actually the gestation that my twins came, so 25 00:01:19,589 --> 00:01:21,389 Speaker 2: this is quite close to my heart, this one. So 26 00:01:21,949 --> 00:01:25,149 Speaker 2: lots of things development wise for your bebit, your little girl. 27 00:01:25,429 --> 00:01:27,829 Speaker 2: The bones are starting to harden, so their skulls getting harder. 28 00:01:27,909 --> 00:01:29,869 Speaker 2: Now remember there's going to have those fontanelles and the 29 00:01:29,909 --> 00:01:32,829 Speaker 2: ability for the little skull bones to cross over for birth. 30 00:01:33,109 --> 00:01:35,069 Speaker 2: But it is starting to get stronger in that bone 31 00:01:35,269 --> 00:01:38,229 Speaker 2: strength capacity. So there's two fontenelles. They're the soft spots 32 00:01:38,229 --> 00:01:39,829 Speaker 2: on the baby's head and then there's the skin that 33 00:01:39,869 --> 00:01:42,109 Speaker 2: covers the gaps where the plates meet together. 34 00:01:43,149 --> 00:01:45,349 Speaker 1: When does their neck function as a neck. 35 00:01:45,349 --> 00:01:47,109 Speaker 2: Not too well after birth. That's why we need to 36 00:01:47,109 --> 00:01:49,029 Speaker 2: support them. So I think that's the scary thing when 37 00:01:49,029 --> 00:01:51,389 Speaker 2: you've got more than one child and your toddler is 38 00:01:51,389 --> 00:01:53,589 Speaker 2: flinging your baby around there. They're a lot more robust 39 00:01:53,989 --> 00:01:56,749 Speaker 2: and in fact, my first ever grace time to the 40 00:01:56,949 --> 00:01:58,989 Speaker 2: ed was when my I think it was about nine 41 00:01:58,989 --> 00:02:01,109 Speaker 2: weeks old, and he rolled off my bed. Like they say, 42 00:02:01,109 --> 00:02:02,829 Speaker 2: do not leave a baby unattended, but I'm like, sure, 43 00:02:02,829 --> 00:02:04,829 Speaker 2: it's nine weeks. Sure. I literally turned around to hang 44 00:02:04,869 --> 00:02:07,829 Speaker 2: something in the club of a little bull. It's weird. 45 00:02:07,829 --> 00:02:08,989 Speaker 2: You know. I was in living in the UK at 46 00:02:09,029 --> 00:02:10,749 Speaker 2: this point because I was back training again, and I 47 00:02:10,789 --> 00:02:12,629 Speaker 2: went to the DA and the doctor said, I know, 48 00:02:12,629 --> 00:02:14,149 Speaker 2: you feel like a terrible mum right now. I'd be 49 00:02:14,189 --> 00:02:17,469 Speaker 2: the second one today. I'm like, oh, thank god, very robust. 50 00:02:17,509 --> 00:02:19,869 Speaker 1: I Actually I have think my sister called crying when 51 00:02:20,069 --> 00:02:22,269 Speaker 1: her son rolled off the bed for the first time, 52 00:02:22,469 --> 00:02:23,869 Speaker 1: so it feels like rolling off the. 53 00:02:23,789 --> 00:02:25,669 Speaker 2: Bed is the thing. He's a mark a marker, a 54 00:02:26,349 --> 00:02:29,469 Speaker 2: terrible a good parenting. Yeah, but you will do You'll 55 00:02:29,469 --> 00:02:31,429 Speaker 2: make mistakes, is what I'm saying. Most of the time 56 00:02:31,429 --> 00:02:33,749 Speaker 2: it won't matter, but yeah, their next are particularly vulnerable, 57 00:02:33,749 --> 00:02:34,789 Speaker 2: so we do need to look after them. 58 00:02:35,229 --> 00:02:39,069 Speaker 1: What what's happening to me and what's happening to us. 59 00:02:39,429 --> 00:02:41,709 Speaker 2: Well, at the beginning of pregnancy, you might have found 60 00:02:41,709 --> 00:02:44,469 Speaker 2: that you're feeling quite tired and emotional. Well let's wind 61 00:02:44,509 --> 00:02:47,509 Speaker 2: that up by about a hundred so it's really important 62 00:02:47,509 --> 00:02:49,629 Speaker 2: to get plenty of sleep and plenty of rest. You're 63 00:02:49,629 --> 00:02:51,389 Speaker 2: going to be starting to I think we talked about 64 00:02:51,389 --> 00:02:52,989 Speaker 2: this a few weeks ago, starting to sort of nest 65 00:02:52,989 --> 00:02:54,869 Speaker 2: and get things busy, and you're going to be thinking goodness, 66 00:02:54,869 --> 00:02:57,029 Speaker 2: this is approaching quickly because we are only three weeks 67 00:02:57,069 --> 00:02:59,429 Speaker 2: away from full term, so we consider term thirty seven 68 00:02:59,469 --> 00:03:01,869 Speaker 2: to forty two weeks. So everyone says forty weeks is 69 00:03:01,949 --> 00:03:04,389 Speaker 2: your golden golden time. That's when your due date is. 70 00:03:04,429 --> 00:03:06,069 Speaker 2: It's the date you'll have been given when you started 71 00:03:06,069 --> 00:03:09,029 Speaker 2: getting pregnant. But anytime after thirty seven weeks is term. 72 00:03:09,109 --> 00:03:11,909 Speaker 2: So with only a month to go, it's getting very real. Yes, 73 00:03:11,989 --> 00:03:14,149 Speaker 2: but it's important that you don't feel this time because 74 00:03:14,149 --> 00:03:16,189 Speaker 2: a lot of people will be starting to consider maternity 75 00:03:16,229 --> 00:03:17,829 Speaker 2: to leave now. Don't feel the time. This is the 76 00:03:17,869 --> 00:03:21,309 Speaker 2: time to really rejuvenate, relax, fuel well, get your massage, 77 00:03:21,469 --> 00:03:24,229 Speaker 2: booking with your antienatal appointments, and start to wind down 78 00:03:24,269 --> 00:03:25,509 Speaker 2: and get ready for this baby to come. 79 00:03:26,389 --> 00:03:27,029 Speaker 1: Is this normal? 80 00:03:27,149 --> 00:03:27,789 Speaker 2: Is normal? 81 00:03:29,029 --> 00:03:29,709 Speaker 1: Is this normal? 82 00:03:30,189 --> 00:03:30,309 Speaker 2: Is? 83 00:03:30,629 --> 00:03:33,949 Speaker 1: I was gardening on the weekend and was bending over 84 00:03:34,949 --> 00:03:37,389 Speaker 1: a lot picking things up, and then I like had 85 00:03:37,389 --> 00:03:40,109 Speaker 1: this huge pain on one side and I had to 86 00:03:40,149 --> 00:03:42,749 Speaker 1: sit down and like wait for it to pass because 87 00:03:42,749 --> 00:03:44,949 Speaker 1: I obviously I don't know, pulled something or I just 88 00:03:44,949 --> 00:03:47,669 Speaker 1: can't make that movement anymore. And it was just a 89 00:03:47,709 --> 00:03:51,029 Speaker 1: moment of ah, your body is not the same anymore. 90 00:03:51,029 --> 00:03:53,629 Speaker 1: And you can't do certain things or even a time 91 00:03:53,629 --> 00:03:56,189 Speaker 1: of recording. I'm about to hit thirty four weeks. I'm 92 00:03:56,269 --> 00:03:58,149 Speaker 1: probably your weak left of being out to tie my 93 00:03:58,189 --> 00:03:58,629 Speaker 1: own shoes. 94 00:03:58,709 --> 00:04:00,949 Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. You need to start getting some support now. Yes, 95 00:04:01,069 --> 00:04:02,749 Speaker 2: that is what put me into labor with the twins. 96 00:04:02,869 --> 00:04:04,949 Speaker 2: I thought I could still run up the stairs after 97 00:04:04,989 --> 00:04:07,629 Speaker 2: my toddler and I lost balance and fell backwards. So 98 00:04:07,629 --> 00:04:09,389 Speaker 2: because that's another big thing that's starting to happen. You're 99 00:04:09,389 --> 00:04:11,869 Speaker 2: getting a lot more daor in your lower back and 100 00:04:11,909 --> 00:04:14,109 Speaker 2: your whole center of gravity is moving forward, so your 101 00:04:14,109 --> 00:04:16,669 Speaker 2: balance is really off. Now, don't get me wrong, And 102 00:04:16,709 --> 00:04:18,669 Speaker 2: again I do not one hundred percent condone this for 103 00:04:18,709 --> 00:04:20,749 Speaker 2: anyone listening. And I have severe in continence as a 104 00:04:20,829 --> 00:04:22,349 Speaker 2: result of it. But I was still hurdling in my 105 00:04:22,389 --> 00:04:24,309 Speaker 2: first pregnancy at this point because obviously I was a 106 00:04:24,389 --> 00:04:26,589 Speaker 2: lead athlete. I was very worried about my finances and 107 00:04:26,589 --> 00:04:27,949 Speaker 2: not being able to return to sports, so there was 108 00:04:27,989 --> 00:04:30,469 Speaker 2: a bit of fear in that space. I don't condone 109 00:04:30,469 --> 00:04:32,309 Speaker 2: it because I definitely think my peblic florist who are 110 00:04:32,349 --> 00:04:35,989 Speaker 2: as the result of doing that. But you can't do 111 00:04:36,029 --> 00:04:38,309 Speaker 2: as much as you think you can, and The argument 112 00:04:38,349 --> 00:04:40,749 Speaker 2: here is why do you have to why do you 113 00:04:40,789 --> 00:04:43,109 Speaker 2: need to garden now? Grace at thirty four weeks like, 114 00:04:43,909 --> 00:04:46,429 Speaker 2: there is going to be plenty of time to put 115 00:04:46,429 --> 00:04:48,589 Speaker 2: those roses in, But there's also, guys, plenty of time 116 00:04:48,629 --> 00:04:50,189 Speaker 2: to go back to the gym. So you know, we 117 00:04:50,229 --> 00:04:51,749 Speaker 2: have a lot of women who are really pushing the 118 00:04:51,829 --> 00:04:54,349 Speaker 2: envelope at this point in pregnancy. And don't get me wrong, 119 00:04:54,349 --> 00:04:56,349 Speaker 2: it's great for mental health, it's great for weight, it's 120 00:04:56,389 --> 00:04:58,829 Speaker 2: great for your energy, but it's also okay if your 121 00:04:58,829 --> 00:05:01,909 Speaker 2: body starts to say enough's enough to start winding back down. 122 00:05:02,189 --> 00:05:04,549 Speaker 2: You will not lose fitness. Your body will bounce back. 123 00:05:04,949 --> 00:05:06,829 Speaker 2: It's time to really focus on what you're doing, which 124 00:05:06,869 --> 00:05:07,629 Speaker 2: is growing a baby. 125 00:05:08,149 --> 00:05:11,989 Speaker 1: It's a hard one, especially when it's your first, because 126 00:05:12,109 --> 00:05:14,189 Speaker 1: there is a resistance. But when we get to talk 127 00:05:14,909 --> 00:05:19,509 Speaker 1: to a kid, I'm trying, yeah to just go oh 128 00:05:19,949 --> 00:05:20,909 Speaker 1: I am limited. 129 00:05:21,349 --> 00:05:24,309 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, And we again touched on this a few 130 00:05:24,349 --> 00:05:26,589 Speaker 2: weeks ago. But it's also okay to ask your part 131 00:05:26,629 --> 00:05:28,589 Speaker 2: was about driving you to work. Remember it's okay to 132 00:05:28,629 --> 00:05:30,509 Speaker 2: ask your partner to step up and do things because 133 00:05:30,549 --> 00:05:32,869 Speaker 2: we actually want them him or her to be a 134 00:05:32,869 --> 00:05:36,749 Speaker 2: good support person. After birth. So start early. Let's train them, 135 00:05:36,829 --> 00:05:38,349 Speaker 2: you know, train them to do some extra things for 136 00:05:38,469 --> 00:05:40,589 Speaker 2: that little foot massage at night, you know, getting your 137 00:05:40,589 --> 00:05:42,789 Speaker 2: cup of tea on the couch or hanging out the washing, 138 00:05:42,869 --> 00:05:45,269 Speaker 2: doing those things that you will really need them to 139 00:05:45,309 --> 00:05:47,629 Speaker 2: step up and doing the weeks afterwards. It's okay to 140 00:05:47,669 --> 00:05:49,109 Speaker 2: start asking them now. Yeah. 141 00:05:49,109 --> 00:05:50,949 Speaker 1: I will just share one little story about my partner. 142 00:05:50,989 --> 00:05:54,389 Speaker 1: He obviously came to the birth courses and he saw 143 00:05:54,429 --> 00:05:57,549 Speaker 1: the pelvis being moved like in and out I'd say, 144 00:05:57,669 --> 00:05:59,909 Speaker 1: like showing how it's gonna move. And for him, like 145 00:05:59,949 --> 00:06:02,309 Speaker 1: I feel like everyone's had a moment of oh my 146 00:06:02,309 --> 00:06:04,709 Speaker 1: gosh for having a baby. For him, it was the 147 00:06:04,749 --> 00:06:08,309 Speaker 1: pelvis model that did it, and she was the person 148 00:06:08,389 --> 00:06:10,949 Speaker 1: running the course, was moving the pelvist and it goes, oh, 149 00:06:10,949 --> 00:06:12,589 Speaker 1: but yours won't move as much, and he was like 150 00:06:12,669 --> 00:06:16,069 Speaker 1: as much, it's barely moving. What do you mean? And 151 00:06:16,109 --> 00:06:18,509 Speaker 1: he it's like, your body's going to do so much, 152 00:06:18,549 --> 00:06:21,429 Speaker 1: but you've already done so much, and you've been through 153 00:06:21,469 --> 00:06:23,829 Speaker 1: so much already because you've been so sick. And then 154 00:06:23,829 --> 00:06:25,189 Speaker 1: he went and brought me a gift. 155 00:06:25,469 --> 00:06:26,629 Speaker 2: Oh I'll take it. 156 00:06:27,749 --> 00:06:30,949 Speaker 1: I loved it, but like he's more wanting me to 157 00:06:30,949 --> 00:06:31,909 Speaker 1: slow down than I am. 158 00:06:32,069 --> 00:06:34,509 Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. Yeah. And it's interesting because this will also 159 00:06:34,549 --> 00:06:36,349 Speaker 2: be conversations that you'll have closer to birth of where 160 00:06:36,349 --> 00:06:37,989 Speaker 2: you want your partner to stand in the birth unit, 161 00:06:38,469 --> 00:06:40,869 Speaker 2: because you know they will see a significant change in 162 00:06:40,869 --> 00:06:42,949 Speaker 2: your body and the way things go. And I personally 163 00:06:42,989 --> 00:06:45,709 Speaker 2: think that is sometimes the making of partners. For them 164 00:06:45,749 --> 00:06:48,189 Speaker 2: to be able to see the enormous effort you've gone 165 00:06:48,189 --> 00:06:51,109 Speaker 2: to produce that baby gives a whole new respect for 166 00:06:51,149 --> 00:06:53,869 Speaker 2: the woman going through that space. But it is a 167 00:06:53,989 --> 00:06:55,949 Speaker 2: very big change, and it can be something that if 168 00:06:55,949 --> 00:06:57,909 Speaker 2: you let your partner into it and take them along 169 00:06:57,949 --> 00:07:00,389 Speaker 2: to these birth courses and they can really see what 170 00:07:00,389 --> 00:07:03,069 Speaker 2: your body's doing, will hopefully lead to a wonderful respect 171 00:07:03,109 --> 00:07:06,669 Speaker 2: and then a real shared journey together throughout pregnancy and beyond. 172 00:07:09,029 --> 00:07:10,349 Speaker 1: And what's in your took it. 173 00:07:10,589 --> 00:07:13,029 Speaker 2: I think it's really important now to start investing in 174 00:07:13,069 --> 00:07:15,749 Speaker 2: a very good pair of shoes, because one, you can't 175 00:07:15,789 --> 00:07:18,629 Speaker 2: tie you shoelaces. Two they're starting to swell. And so look, 176 00:07:18,909 --> 00:07:20,349 Speaker 2: I was a CrOx girl. I want to be honest, 177 00:07:20,349 --> 00:07:22,269 Speaker 2: because I just found them easy to put on. But 178 00:07:22,469 --> 00:07:24,549 Speaker 2: something that's going to be supportive because again we want 179 00:07:24,549 --> 00:07:26,229 Speaker 2: to back off the heavy exercise. But going from some 180 00:07:26,349 --> 00:07:28,709 Speaker 2: nice walks together, particularly with your partner, as you asked, 181 00:07:28,949 --> 00:07:30,149 Speaker 2: just the two of you, is a good idea. 182 00:07:30,269 --> 00:07:32,589 Speaker 1: Mine was It's a do as I say, not as 183 00:07:32,629 --> 00:07:35,349 Speaker 1: I do. But I'm trying. I'm trying, and my app 184 00:07:35,389 --> 00:07:38,069 Speaker 1: also told me is to start slowing down, which feels 185 00:07:38,109 --> 00:07:41,509 Speaker 1: like the theme of this episode. There's a girl here 186 00:07:41,509 --> 00:07:43,749 Speaker 1: in Mama Mia who she actually just had her baby, 187 00:07:43,749 --> 00:07:46,789 Speaker 1: and a few weeks ago we were talking about the 188 00:07:46,829 --> 00:07:49,989 Speaker 1: perception of women and brain fog and that you do 189 00:07:50,229 --> 00:07:52,429 Speaker 1: slow like that people do treat you differently. And I 190 00:07:52,509 --> 00:07:54,069 Speaker 1: was like, this is a few weeks ago. It's like, 191 00:07:54,189 --> 00:07:55,829 Speaker 1: I don't want to be treated differently. I want to 192 00:07:55,869 --> 00:07:57,829 Speaker 1: like be doing all the work and doing the long days. 193 00:07:57,829 --> 00:07:59,069 Speaker 1: And she was just a few weeks ahead of me, 194 00:07:59,069 --> 00:08:01,229 Speaker 1: and she's like, I absolutely want to be treated differently. 195 00:08:02,429 --> 00:08:05,709 Speaker 1: And now at thirty four weeks, I'm like, I get it. Yeah, 196 00:08:05,749 --> 00:08:07,669 Speaker 1: I get it. I think it's a big change. Yeah, 197 00:08:07,709 --> 00:08:10,909 Speaker 1: I do with the tiredness, the movement, like I've got 198 00:08:10,909 --> 00:08:13,469 Speaker 1: a thirty minute walk to the office and a thirty 199 00:08:13,589 --> 00:08:17,509 Speaker 1: like through the different public transport methods, and then it's 200 00:08:17,549 --> 00:08:20,069 Speaker 1: a wad all. It's starting to be a bit of 201 00:08:20,069 --> 00:08:23,189 Speaker 1: a slog. So I'm going to try and work from 202 00:08:23,229 --> 00:08:26,229 Speaker 1: home on the days that I can set in all 203 00:08:26,269 --> 00:08:26,829 Speaker 1: of those things. 204 00:08:26,909 --> 00:08:28,509 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's a great message because so many 205 00:08:28,549 --> 00:08:31,069 Speaker 2: people don't do that, or they get the guilts that 206 00:08:31,069 --> 00:08:33,389 Speaker 2: they should be getting more and this is just really 207 00:08:33,389 --> 00:08:35,029 Speaker 2: not the time to be kicking goals. This is a 208 00:08:36,429 --> 00:08:38,589 Speaker 2: it's a stay. It's a stay phase to say, where 209 00:08:38,629 --> 00:08:40,629 Speaker 2: you just just get the bare minimum done and then 210 00:08:40,829 --> 00:08:42,389 Speaker 2: the rest of it will come. You're not going to 211 00:08:42,429 --> 00:08:44,309 Speaker 2: lose that much in this in this couple of weeks. 212 00:08:44,389 --> 00:08:44,829 Speaker 2: I like that. 213 00:08:47,149 --> 00:08:49,309 Speaker 1: We hope you enjoyed this episode of Hello Bump. 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