WEBVTT - Grace Found An Intruder At 3am. She Did Not Wake Her Husband

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<v Speaker 6>Hirah Babby is Grace Lamb, fashion stylist in their house.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, and I am Tony comedian. It is hard to follow,

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<v Speaker 6>Me, I'll go first. I'm an own child, Grace, So

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<v Speaker 6>something crazy happened recently? What I had to fight off

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<v Speaker 6>an intruder?

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<v Speaker 4>What I know?

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<v Speaker 7>I know?

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<v Speaker 6>I mean for people who don't know what I look like,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm only five with five ice Chinese. I would say

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<v Speaker 6>I'm more of a slim built person. So one night

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<v Speaker 6>I was sleeping.

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<v Speaker 4>Hang on, hang on, you're fighting off an intruder in

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<v Speaker 4>your home.

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<v Speaker 6>So I was sleeping, and one thing about me, you

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<v Speaker 6>don't You might not know that I have sonic hearing.

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<v Speaker 6>I can hear everything from very far away. I can

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<v Speaker 6>even hear even when you're asleep.

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<v Speaker 8>You can still hear it like puppies.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh yeah, like when when my son coughs, I can

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<v Speaker 6>hear it and he's on the other side of the flat.

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<v Speaker 6>So one night I was sleeping and then suddenly I

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<v Speaker 6>hear this rattling noise. And by the way, I can

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<v Speaker 6>also hear you about me. I was sleeping and I

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<v Speaker 6>heard some rattling noise and I thought it was our

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<v Speaker 6>sun going to the toilet in the middle of the night.

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<v Speaker 6>It wasn't. So I got out of bed, went over

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<v Speaker 6>the other side of the apartment, went to the toilet,

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<v Speaker 6>check on him. He wasn't there. Went into his room

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<v Speaker 6>he was fast asleep. Then I still hear this rattling noise.

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<v Speaker 6>I creep to the door, looked through the keyhole. There

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<v Speaker 6>was a fucking guy in a red baseball cab jacket

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<v Speaker 6>shot trying to break into God My immediate thought was that,

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<v Speaker 6>oh my god, should I wake up Jason because he's

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<v Speaker 6>on the other side of the apartment, right But by

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<v Speaker 6>the time I get there, that guy might have come

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<v Speaker 6>in and his where we were, it's much closer to

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<v Speaker 6>my kids room. So I was like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 6>need to protect my kid.

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<v Speaker 4>So okay, can I just stop you for a second.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I would just be waking up my husband

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<v Speaker 1>at screaming, screaming, screaming, or were you like, no, they're

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<v Speaker 1>not in yet.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm gonna just go protect my kid.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know what came over me. All I thought

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<v Speaker 6>was like, I'm gonna take charge and I'm not gonna

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<v Speaker 6>inform Jason my husband straight away. And I basically started

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<v Speaker 6>banging on the door like a crazy woman, but I

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<v Speaker 6>lower my voice to five octave so I don't sound

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<v Speaker 6>like a woman. So basically I was going.

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<v Speaker 8>Got the fuck out of here, your fund.

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<v Speaker 5>Off.

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<v Speaker 6>I was going off, and he wouldn't budge. He would

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<v Speaker 6>not budge.

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<v Speaker 8>By then is Jason up? At this point?

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<v Speaker 6>Jason, my husband's up already, and he was like, what's

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<v Speaker 6>going on? What's going on? And another thing is, ladies,

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<v Speaker 6>I wear a splint like a mouth guard, so me

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<v Speaker 6>trying to threaten and intrude that when.

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<v Speaker 2>I have my lips, I'm going stop it.

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<v Speaker 6>It didn't go down very well. It didn't go down

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<v Speaker 6>very well. Wasn't that stretching your son up?

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<v Speaker 7>At this?

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<v Speaker 6>I was, it's getting and I was like.

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<v Speaker 8>Got the fuck out of you. Fuck what you're trying

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<v Speaker 8>to do.

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<v Speaker 7>He will not stop.

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<v Speaker 8>What time is? It was three a m.

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<v Speaker 6>And I turned around and said to Jason, called the police,

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<v Speaker 6>call upge downstairs, and I think that guy hurt us.

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<v Speaker 6>And he went away, and I thought, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 6>he's doing the rounds on a whole floor. The thing

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<v Speaker 6>with my building is it's a really safe building. Unless

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<v Speaker 6>you have a fop on the same floor, you can't

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<v Speaker 6>get in. So I thought, oh my god, how.

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<v Speaker 7>Did he get in? Right?

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<v Speaker 6>The blood thickens, Oh my god. And then I looked

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<v Speaker 6>through a keyhole. He came back and he said, I'm

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<v Speaker 6>so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm like, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 6>It's the neighbors drunk. It was he was trying to

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<v Speaker 6>get into the wrong party drunk.

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<v Speaker 1>He got the wrong door and all that that I've done,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 6>And I thought, you know what, my corterso went through

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<v Speaker 6>the roof fl oh and after I I then I realized,

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<v Speaker 6>oh my god, it's the neighbors drunk, right an intruder

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<v Speaker 6>is not gonna apologize.

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<v Speaker 5>Come on, Grace, you don't know your neighbors. You don't

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<v Speaker 5>know what they look like. You've not seen him before.

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<v Speaker 6>I've not seen him before. Do you know why? Because

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<v Speaker 6>our next door neighbors is a couple, like a couple,

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<v Speaker 6>an old couple, and they live somewhere else in other states,

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<v Speaker 6>and they only come to Melbourne once in a blue

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<v Speaker 6>moon to see their son and the grandkids. So I

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<v Speaker 6>know that's the son who's probably having the weekend with

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<v Speaker 6>the boys and got out of hand and away from

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<v Speaker 6>the kids. So he was having a blast. But to

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<v Speaker 6>be fair, our door is exactly the same.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, no, I don't, kind of I'm that guy, I know.

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<v Speaker 6>But three am in the morning, come down and I

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<v Speaker 6>woke up the next So then I said to Jason,

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<v Speaker 6>So Jason said, with.

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<v Speaker 8>Kath with him.

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<v Speaker 6>So I said to Jason, go to bed, let us

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<v Speaker 6>sleep with you tonight. I'm gonna guard the door. And

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<v Speaker 6>Jason just went you guarding the door? I'm like, yes,

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<v Speaker 6>let me guard the door because I feel strong. You know,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm like, not a mama bear because I was Chinese,

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<v Speaker 6>like a mama panda. I'm like, you know what, let

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<v Speaker 6>me gut the door. I'm going to fight whoever's going

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<v Speaker 6>to come in. He was like, okay, Grace, you do

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<v Speaker 6>you even though I'm six foot, I'm stronger than you.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm like, go go sleep.

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<v Speaker 4>But didn't you know at this point you were safe?

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<v Speaker 6>No, I know, but I wasn't.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>Too much. It was too much. And then the next

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<v Speaker 6>day I woke up. The first thing I said to

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<v Speaker 6>my boys were I already have a speech that I'm

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<v Speaker 6>going to tell that guy what I think of him.

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<v Speaker 6>Three am in the morning. I said, don't let me

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<v Speaker 6>see him today. If I see him today, he's going

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<v Speaker 6>to get it today. And Jason was like, good morning

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<v Speaker 6>to you too. You know that's how I rolled.

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<v Speaker 5>And Grace, did you sleep in front of the door?

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<v Speaker 5>Did you sleep in your son's bedroom?

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<v Speaker 6>I slept in my son's bedroom because it's very close

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<v Speaker 6>to the door. And yeah, I was guarding it all

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<v Speaker 6>night with your eyes closed right next to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you keep your splint on?

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<v Speaker 1>I did something I'd never done before, which I'm sure

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people listening have done before. I was

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<v Speaker 1>at the Crown Hotel for something and had a room

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<v Speaker 1>and the key wasn't working to my room and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, it's not working, and there was someone on

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<v Speaker 1>the floor cleaning the rooms, and I was like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so sorry. I don't want to go downstairs because it's

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<v Speaker 1>a pretty large hotel. Can you please open the door?

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<v Speaker 8>And they did.

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<v Speaker 1>Turns out I hadn't looked at the room number properly

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<v Speaker 1>and I walked in and a guy was sitting on

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<v Speaker 1>the bed.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god, it was the wrong room.

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<v Speaker 4>So I kind of identify with that guy.

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<v Speaker 5>Then, Bunny, when you walked in and you saw they

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<v Speaker 5>guy sitting on the bed, did you still think it

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<v Speaker 5>was your room for a minute.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>At that point, I was like, oh my god, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so sorry, and I felt so bad that i'd also

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<v Speaker 1>put this other person in that position, but that had

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<v Speaker 1>never happened to me where I was like, fully, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>the key's not working. You guys, Oh my god, it

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<v Speaker 1>always happens to me. And I totally just looked at the.

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<v Speaker 7>Room number wrong.

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<v Speaker 4>So I kind of feel for your neighbor a little bit.

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<v Speaker 8>Yes, but I was so you didn't jump into him?

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<v Speaker 6>No, not yet, but I am. Yeah, I'm looking up

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<v Speaker 6>for him, don't you worry. I actually think that I

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<v Speaker 6>saw him yesterday because he wouldn't look at this guy

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<v Speaker 6>wouldn't look at me. He wouldn't look at me.

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<v Speaker 4>In the eye.

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<v Speaker 6>He knows, so he knows.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm waiting to see you on the daily Mail. Not

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<v Speaker 3>in a good way, viral.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, all right, on that note, who wants a stick?

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<v Speaker 5>I do marry Chris because okay, now what I'm about

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<v Speaker 5>to say might make me sound like a monster.

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<v Speaker 8>Oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>The other day I was on the phone to our

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<v Speaker 5>fantastic producer Moms, and at the end of a very

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<v Speaker 5>good call was not romantic in any way, Mon said,

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<v Speaker 5>I love you.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh that's lovely.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, yeah, I love her, But I don't think we're

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<v Speaker 8>at the point where we should be saying.

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<v Speaker 5>And I was thinking, you know, we're saying I love

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<v Speaker 5>you too much, and I love a lot you do.

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<v Speaker 5>I've been loved well and I think I love really well.

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<v Speaker 5>And yet I don't want to throw it around Willy

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<v Speaker 5>Nelly Nilsen.

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<v Speaker 2>I could go squirt it around like it like it's

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I do. It's like, oh, it's like my HRT,

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<v Speaker 2>I just cover everyone in it.

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<v Speaker 5>Look, I'm all for saying it, but are we saying

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<v Speaker 5>it now as a way of trying to communicate something else.

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<v Speaker 5>Is it a way of saying sorry? Is it a

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<v Speaker 5>way of saying hi, it is nice to meet you,

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<v Speaker 5>or is it a way of, you know, saying I'm

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<v Speaker 5>feeling grateful.

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<v Speaker 8>I feel really good right now.

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<v Speaker 5>I just feel like we've diluted the word the concept

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<v Speaker 5>of I love you a lot.

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<v Speaker 7>In general.

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<v Speaker 2>I wish there was because in a lot of languages

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<v Speaker 2>there are a lot of different words for love aren't correct,

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<v Speaker 2>and I do wish we had something between like and love,

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<v Speaker 2>especially on date two for me going out with a

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<v Speaker 2>guy on second date, I'm feeling it for It's like

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<v Speaker 2>I need.

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<v Speaker 3>A mid mid range strong word. It's not love.

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<v Speaker 5>I think we're flogging that three word little thing way

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<v Speaker 5>too much.

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<v Speaker 8>I mean, we're using it all the time. I don't

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<v Speaker 8>know how you go.

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<v Speaker 5>Grew up, but I didn't hear it all the time.

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<v Speaker 5>Growing up, I knew I was loved, you know, I

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<v Speaker 5>didn't say it. I didn't hear it, And now we're

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<v Speaker 5>hearing it all the time. We're saying it to complete strangers.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, on stage, you win an award, I love you,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, like you get a good feeling in your

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<v Speaker 5>heart and suddenly you.

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<v Speaker 8>Have to tell everyone you love them. Right, Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 8>I just thought we've gone too far. Yeah, we'll agree.

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<v Speaker 1>I completely disagree. Yeah, I mean, fucking hater's got a

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<v Speaker 1>hate bear, Like, come on, I mean, I'm like, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I do tell my kids, and I also grumb it.

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<v Speaker 1>My mum absolutely loved me, but we weren't a family

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<v Speaker 1>who said it all the time. And I think that

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<v Speaker 1>our generation probably didn't say it as much as this generation.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, certainly in America, there's a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>positive affirmations, shall we say, you know what they are?

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<v Speaker 4>Gap, I did, but I kind of go out.

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<v Speaker 1>Of my way because I don't think I'm particularly naturally,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm not a big fan kind of a well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not touchy, and I don't love a hug from

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<v Speaker 1>a complete stranger, shall we say? But I do tell

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<v Speaker 1>my kids and people I love, I love them all

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<v Speaker 1>the time.

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<v Speaker 4>And what's wrong with them?

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<v Speaker 7>What's the negative?

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<v Speaker 8>I've got no issue with telling the people you love.

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<v Speaker 5>I have a issue with telling people that you might

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<v Speaker 5>not even know their surname or where they live, they

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<v Speaker 5>love them.

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<v Speaker 3>Look, I mean I'm a big advocate for love.

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<v Speaker 2>You know. The other day i'd sort of I'd ask

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<v Speaker 2>Lewis to you know, say, you know, I said I

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<v Speaker 2>love you. He's like yeah, he said, do you always

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<v Speaker 2>say that? I was like yeah, And then I just said,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, no one says it to me.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe I just need you to say that. Can you

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<v Speaker 3>say it back? And this is some way to school

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<v Speaker 3>poor kid? Ba?

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<v Speaker 8>I just need it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I love love.

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<v Speaker 2>But to Mary's point, I knew that I was loved,

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<v Speaker 2>but like our family weren't weren't big on the big

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<v Speaker 2>L words. So when I was last at home, and

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<v Speaker 2>you know, my parents are late seventies now, so you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very kind of all over them like a rash

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<v Speaker 2>just in case, and it's Christmas time, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>you guys, like you never say you love each other,

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<v Speaker 2>do you?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't really see hugle hold hands.

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<v Speaker 2>My dad have been like married, I think they've been married,

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<v Speaker 2>Like my mama's only ever been with my dad, Like

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<v Speaker 2>they are a rock solid couple. And they were just like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, we know, we don't need to say it.

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<v Speaker 2>So now every WhatsApp chat, every time I close the

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<v Speaker 2>FaceTime and they go love you, love you, we love

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<v Speaker 2>each other.

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, what about you grow space.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean I was Chinese. My parents have never said

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<v Speaker 6>I love you to me until recently. I caught my

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<v Speaker 6>mother off guard. Oh so it was I think it

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<v Speaker 6>was Chinese New Year. I call my mother first thing

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<v Speaker 6>in the morning. She was still asleep. Bear in mind,

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<v Speaker 6>Hong Kong is two hours behind, two three hours behind,

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<v Speaker 6>so I call her. She wasn't expected and she woke up.

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<v Speaker 6>I was like, Hima, Happy New Year's I me and

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<v Speaker 6>she was like.

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<v Speaker 2>I ralph you.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm like what God?

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<v Speaker 6>And I said, did She's just say I love you

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<v Speaker 6>or I rub you?

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<v Speaker 1>You know?

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<v Speaker 6>She said in the English, which is even more funny.

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<v Speaker 6>And I thought, Okay, she's not a drunk and she's

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<v Speaker 6>some crack or she's just not working up. So I'm

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<v Speaker 6>fifty three now, so that is the first time I

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<v Speaker 6>heard her say. Come, I'm not joking. Chinese people do

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<v Speaker 6>not say I love you in the family. Never ever

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<v Speaker 6>have they show love. It's true action. So they could

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<v Speaker 6>love you by giving you a plate of dumplings.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeap.

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<v Speaker 6>That's how they show love by feeding you throw up

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<v Speaker 6>and that's how we roll. But with my kid, I'm

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<v Speaker 6>completely opposite. Like my husband, Jason and I always very affectionate

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<v Speaker 6>with each other, always I love you, and of course

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<v Speaker 6>we fight. But with our kid we always make sure

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<v Speaker 6>he knows. But at the same time, because I'm also

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<v Speaker 6>a feisty mom, so sometimes I kind of I also

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<v Speaker 6>like to say that for me, it's very easy to

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<v Speaker 6>say I love you to a lot of people, right

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<v Speaker 6>because people would full of like bullshit words. I can

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<v Speaker 6>say I love you, Bruna Buch, I don't in your face,

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<v Speaker 6>but what is my action? I much rather to take

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<v Speaker 6>actions over retrick, you know, So it's just too easy.

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<v Speaker 6>Words is too easy. I like to see action.

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<v Speaker 4>I try and do both.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I try and do both. But I think

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<v Speaker 1>there's nothing worse. I mean, I'm sure we've all done it,

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<v Speaker 1>but there's nothing worse than when you think someone said

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<v Speaker 1>it to you, even just like in a friendly context,

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<v Speaker 1>and you say I love you too, and they didn't

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<v Speaker 1>say it, or that's happened, right, that's happened. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>when someone says you think someone says, how are you?

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<v Speaker 1>And you go good, thanks, and they never said how

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<v Speaker 1>are you. I don't know why, but I do that

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. I don't love you guys.

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<v Speaker 8>Growing up, my mother told me this story.

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<v Speaker 5>She was working on an assembly line like most migrant workers,

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<v Speaker 5>and that's where you know, they learned all about sex

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<v Speaker 5>and and they learned all about the different cultures because

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<v Speaker 5>they were all working on that line together.

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<v Speaker 8>And she told me about this Ossie woman.

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<v Speaker 5>And every day the Ossie woman's husband would drop her

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<v Speaker 5>at the factory and he would say I love you,

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<v Speaker 5>and she would say I love you back, and my

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<v Speaker 5>mother would of course, who loves sound effects like schlukschlook

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<v Speaker 5>and things like that.

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<v Speaker 8>She said, he would give her a kiss. Matts Mutz.

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<v Speaker 5>That was them both kissing each other. And this Ossie

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<v Speaker 5>woman would talk about how much she loved her husband,

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<v Speaker 5>and every morning there he was again, I love you, darling,

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<v Speaker 5>I love you too, Martsmortz, Mart'smortz. Then one day this

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<v Speaker 5>Australian woman came to work and she was really really upset.

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<v Speaker 8>And all the ethnic women like, well, what happened?

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<v Speaker 5>And she said she got home from work and there

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<v Speaker 5>was a note from her husband and he said, I

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<v Speaker 5>don't love you anymore.

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<v Speaker 8>I love somebody else. I'm leaving you.

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<v Speaker 5>And so that's when I think my mother got a

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<v Speaker 5>real healthy cynicism around how the word is often how

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<v Speaker 5>you feel in that moment, it might not be permanent.

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<v Speaker 5>And she said, your father and I never said I

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<v Speaker 5>love you. I love you all the time, but God,

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<v Speaker 5>I knew he loved me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh God, you really threw some rainbows and unicorns on

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<v Speaker 1>that one man, that's all.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh God, kath Ma, honey, yes, you know when you said,

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<v Speaker 6>Lewis didn't say back to you. I think with boys

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<v Speaker 6>it's very different than girls, I think. And I had

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<v Speaker 6>that moment for so many times with my kid and

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<v Speaker 6>he's only twelve. But the other day last week I

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<v Speaker 6>dropped him off a school. Before he shut the door,

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<v Speaker 6>he said, Mama, long eye late. I started tearing and

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<v Speaker 6>then he shut that he left. It means I love you,

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<v Speaker 6>And I was thought, wow, I didn't even ask, I

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<v Speaker 6>didn't even say it, and he said it to me,

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<v Speaker 6>So that means he meant it. That meant so much

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<v Speaker 6>more than when I ask him to say it. So

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<v Speaker 6>I think with boys you just have to let them

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<v Speaker 6>do their thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh look, in Lewis's defense, because you'll absolutely never listen

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<v Speaker 2>to the podcast. He always says he loves me. And

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<v Speaker 2>what I love is if I'm dropping him and a

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<v Speaker 2>couple of lads to like footage training and we're talking

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<v Speaker 2>like seventeen year olds.

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<v Speaker 3>As he gets out, the carry goes love you.

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<v Speaker 4>Mum says that a lot more than my daughter.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah more.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I just wanted like an extra couple that

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<v Speaker 2>morning was a need.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I sometimes needed like three or four and come

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<v Speaker 1>on more, I'm back and forth. Do you really annoy

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<v Speaker 1>the hell out of them?

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<v Speaker 7>That's love?

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<v Speaker 2>Right, It is time for blast from the Past and Bruno,

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<v Speaker 2>you set us some homework last week, Yes, that is

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<v Speaker 2>Legit kept me up.

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<v Speaker 3>Explain.

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<v Speaker 1>So last week I was in London and I was

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<v Speaker 1>lucky enough to be. You know, there's this amazing Billie

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<v Speaker 1>Eilish documentary which is basically a kind of concept film

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<v Speaker 1>plus extra and one of the things that wowed me.

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<v Speaker 1>My daughter is she loves Billie Eilish. But one of

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<v Speaker 1>the things that struck me so deeply about watching the

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<v Speaker 1>concert film documentary is the level of passion and connection

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<v Speaker 1>that her fans, these young people all over the globe

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<v Speaker 1>feel for her. I'd never experienced anything like it, and

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<v Speaker 1>it made me think, like, what was that for me?

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<v Speaker 4>Now?

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<v Speaker 1>I am a self confessed not a music person at all,

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<v Speaker 1>but I feel like when I was younger, I was,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I'd love to know from all of you.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I set you this homework. And I know

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<v Speaker 1>you're kind of all really into music. What was that

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<v Speaker 1>for you? Who was that artist for you? Or what

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<v Speaker 1>was that song that really made you feel connected?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, Brunett, what was yours?

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm an interesting one. I always say I'm good

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<v Speaker 1>at a lot of things, but I know nothing about music,

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<v Speaker 1>and music has just never been my thing. Fun fact,

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<v Speaker 1>when my car got broken into for the third time

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<v Speaker 1>in London, they just stopped stealing my record collection because

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<v Speaker 1>it was so bad that passion.

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<v Speaker 4>In my car.

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<v Speaker 1>But for me, the thing that really makes me feel

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<v Speaker 1>happy when I think about music was the connection to

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<v Speaker 1>my mother. When we were younger, she was always playing

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<v Speaker 1>certain artists and the main artist that my mother always

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<v Speaker 1>played when I was younger was Dolly Parton. Loved Love Dolly,

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<v Speaker 1>So for me, lots of Dolly Parton songs, but the

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<v Speaker 1>one that felt like it kind of was all about

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<v Speaker 1>my life was this song called Code of Many Colors

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<v Speaker 1>by Dolly Parton. So I want you guys to just

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<v Speaker 1>listen to these lyrics for a second and then I'll

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<v Speaker 1>tell you what they mean to me.

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<v Speaker 9>My Code of Many Colors that my MoMA me me.

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<v Speaker 7>Me only from bad, but I wore.

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<v Speaker 5>It song round.

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<v Speaker 7>Although we had no money, I was riches.

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<v Speaker 6>I could be in my Call of Many Colors.

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<v Speaker 4>Mama made me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I mean, I'm crying trying because for me,

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<v Speaker 1>we grew up with no money, and my grandma and

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<v Speaker 1>grandpa were Taylor's and they made all our clothes literally,

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<v Speaker 1>and they made all my mother's clothes, and it was

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<v Speaker 1>this very homemade it was very.

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<v Speaker 4>Sound of music, you know, And so I just it makes.

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<v Speaker 1>Me remember that kind of incredible time and that's love

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<v Speaker 1>for me. And so that's why it just makes me

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<v Speaker 1>really emotional hearing those lyrics so lovely.

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<v Speaker 6>We are crying, Yeah, Kath.

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<v Speaker 4>What about you?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh this is very different. I like, I mean, I

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<v Speaker 3>live and die by my tunes.

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<v Speaker 2>So when you set us this homework, I literally I

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<v Speaker 2>went to bed one night at two am because I

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<v Speaker 2>just went down a rabbit on.

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<v Speaker 3>All the songs that means so much to me.

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<v Speaker 2>So I want you to imagine that you are on

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<v Speaker 2>a bus, you're fourteen, You're going to school. You've got

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<v Speaker 2>your Walkman on, You've got clean battery, so you know

0:20:49.714 --> 0:20:51.834
<v Speaker 2>it's going to get you all the way to school

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<v Speaker 2>and back. You've just put a cassette in to the Walkman,

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<v Speaker 2>and then this song comes on, not as teary as yours,

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<v Speaker 2>still tune, So that was the Smith.

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<v Speaker 3>There is a light that never goes out.

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<v Speaker 2>And Damian Jones, who was in the year above mate,

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<v Speaker 2>was my boyfriend and we just started a date and

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<v Speaker 2>he made me a mixtape, which to me now would

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<v Speaker 2>that's worth a diamond ring if somebody makes you a mixtape.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, I do miss that about our gen

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<v Speaker 2>next days. And the great thing about him, apart from

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<v Speaker 2>his chiseled looks and that he was a skater and

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<v Speaker 2>a surfer and he did art and he's very moody

0:21:49.274 --> 0:21:52.273
<v Speaker 2>and it's still very handsome now. He had an older

0:21:52.314 --> 0:21:56.313
<v Speaker 2>sister who I'm still friends with. So I'm just probably

0:21:56.354 --> 0:22:01.674
<v Speaker 2>just turned forteen. I'm in the world of Banana Rama, mccassley, Madonna,

0:22:01.754 --> 0:22:05.194
<v Speaker 2>wam all amazing and music I would still listen to now.

0:22:05.594 --> 0:22:08.114
<v Speaker 2>But when I heard that song, and I'm I suppose

0:22:08.114 --> 0:22:11.073
<v Speaker 2>it's like that coming of age moment where I'm falling

0:22:11.074 --> 0:22:12.513
<v Speaker 2>in love for the first time.

0:22:13.234 --> 0:22:14.794
<v Speaker 3>I'm growing up, like, you.

0:22:14.794 --> 0:22:18.194
<v Speaker 2>Know, the whole world is out there and music takes

0:22:18.234 --> 0:22:22.874
<v Speaker 2>you to those places. And suddenly I'm hearing Morrissey and

0:22:22.914 --> 0:22:25.954
<v Speaker 2>I'm hearing the like the juxtaposition.

0:22:25.514 --> 0:22:26.274
<v Speaker 3>Of the music.

0:22:26.354 --> 0:22:29.874
<v Speaker 2>You've got quite dark lyrics if a double decker bus

0:22:29.874 --> 0:22:32.434
<v Speaker 2>crushed into us, did I by your side? But you've

0:22:32.434 --> 0:22:35.273
<v Speaker 2>got it with like a jaunty pop melody that it's

0:22:35.354 --> 0:22:37.553
<v Speaker 2>one of the most beautiful beasts of music. And so

0:22:37.634 --> 0:22:39.874
<v Speaker 2>I think going from you Banana Ramas and mc cassis,

0:22:39.914 --> 0:22:41.914
<v Speaker 2>I was just like, and you know, I grew up

0:22:41.914 --> 0:22:43.994
<v Speaker 2>listening to like the Top forty on the radio, and

0:22:44.034 --> 0:22:46.594
<v Speaker 2>I listened to my mum listen and dad listening to,

0:22:46.714 --> 0:22:49.394
<v Speaker 2>you know, the Dollies and Kenny's. But this was me

0:22:49.674 --> 0:22:52.714
<v Speaker 2>discovering like music that I just wouldn't have heard on

0:22:52.754 --> 0:22:55.313
<v Speaker 2>the radio necessarily on see on Top of the Pops,

0:22:55.354 --> 0:22:58.074
<v Speaker 2>and I just that was the beginning of my love

0:22:58.114 --> 0:23:01.674
<v Speaker 2>affair with the Smiths and Morrissey, which still goes strong

0:23:01.954 --> 0:23:07.793
<v Speaker 2>and storytelling, like the beauty of the like the stys

0:23:07.994 --> 0:23:08.794
<v Speaker 2>you get and his.

0:23:08.994 --> 0:23:14.034
<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh. Anyway, the romance with Damien was short lived.

0:23:15.834 --> 0:23:18.514
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean when you were fourteen, those feelings, because

0:23:18.554 --> 0:23:21.154
<v Speaker 5>they're the ones that have come first, and you never

0:23:21.234 --> 0:23:25.634
<v Speaker 5>forget your big first crushes. They're just all encompassing because

0:23:25.674 --> 0:23:29.313
<v Speaker 5>we're so hormonal, so fresh to the mix, as they

0:23:29.314 --> 0:23:31.714
<v Speaker 5>would say on bad radio shows, you know, and you

0:23:31.914 --> 0:23:35.273
<v Speaker 5>just fresh legs on the field and everything. I remember

0:23:35.314 --> 0:23:37.234
<v Speaker 5>boys used to walk past me, boys that I had

0:23:37.234 --> 0:23:39.273
<v Speaker 5>crushes on at high school. They will walk past me

0:23:39.314 --> 0:23:41.674
<v Speaker 5>in the corridor and I'd lose my breath and I

0:23:41.754 --> 0:23:42.834
<v Speaker 5>miss those feelings.

0:23:42.914 --> 0:23:46.234
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and also just how a song can take you

0:23:46.354 --> 0:23:47.674
<v Speaker 1>right back to that moment.

0:23:47.634 --> 0:23:49.954
<v Speaker 2>Straight back to the bus. And I think The Cure

0:23:50.114 --> 0:23:52.273
<v Speaker 2>was the next song on the playless. He just was

0:23:52.274 --> 0:23:54.354
<v Speaker 2>a man of great taste or his sister was so

0:23:54.434 --> 0:23:54.754
<v Speaker 2>thank you.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay.

0:23:55.914 --> 0:23:58.914
<v Speaker 5>So there has never been an artist that has impacted

0:23:58.994 --> 0:24:01.194
<v Speaker 5>more on my life and the way I look at

0:24:01.194 --> 0:24:04.833
<v Speaker 5>the world than Stevie Wonder. When I, like Bruna, grew

0:24:04.914 --> 0:24:07.474
<v Speaker 5>up pretty poor in Collingwood, we moved to the white

0:24:07.474 --> 0:24:11.074
<v Speaker 5>middle class and I was ostracized because I was not white,

0:24:11.154 --> 0:24:13.674
<v Speaker 5>and I was not middle class. I was off white,

0:24:14.754 --> 0:24:17.394
<v Speaker 5>and when I say off, I was off in the

0:24:17.394 --> 0:24:18.154
<v Speaker 5>mixture of the.

0:24:18.034 --> 0:24:21.594
<v Speaker 8>Whites in the area. And my dad bought us a

0:24:21.634 --> 0:24:22.234
<v Speaker 8>record player.

0:24:22.354 --> 0:24:24.354
<v Speaker 5>My brother and I went to buy a few albums

0:24:24.794 --> 0:24:27.354
<v Speaker 5>and we bought Songs in the Key of Life, which

0:24:27.394 --> 0:24:32.394
<v Speaker 5>is considered the favorite album of Prince of Michael Jackson

0:24:32.914 --> 0:24:35.594
<v Speaker 5>of some of the greatest artists of our time. George

0:24:35.634 --> 0:24:38.553
<v Speaker 5>Michael has redone some of the songs on this album.

0:24:38.834 --> 0:24:41.194
<v Speaker 5>At my wedding, I had my very good friend Danni

0:24:41.234 --> 0:24:45.834
<v Speaker 5>Olkaha sing a Stevie Wonder song and so as most

0:24:45.834 --> 0:24:48.474
<v Speaker 5>people that are listening to the podcast if you've listened

0:24:48.474 --> 0:24:51.714
<v Speaker 5>to an earlier podcast, I struggled to become a mum.

0:24:52.154 --> 0:24:55.714
<v Speaker 5>And so when that day finally arrived, where our beautiful

0:24:55.794 --> 0:24:57.994
<v Speaker 5>daughter who's now twelve and a half came into the world,

0:24:58.234 --> 0:25:01.074
<v Speaker 5>we had a playlist. My husband, George, put a playlist

0:25:01.114 --> 0:25:05.194
<v Speaker 5>together and the moment and this we could not have

0:25:05.274 --> 0:25:08.954
<v Speaker 5>controlled this, because that playlist started, you know, ten minutes

0:25:08.994 --> 0:25:13.154
<v Speaker 5>earlier or whatever. And when she first got turned around

0:25:13.314 --> 0:25:17.354
<v Speaker 5>and shown to me by my obstetrician, first time ever

0:25:17.434 --> 0:25:20.634
<v Speaker 5>I saw your face came on ROBERTA Flak. But the

0:25:20.674 --> 0:25:24.074
<v Speaker 5>first time she was put on my chest, this song

0:25:24.114 --> 0:25:31.513
<v Speaker 5>comes on.

0:25:38.514 --> 0:25:39.354
<v Speaker 1>That's the one.

0:25:42.514 --> 0:25:44.793
<v Speaker 8>So that was Stevie wonders, isn't she lovely?

0:25:45.074 --> 0:25:45.834
<v Speaker 7>And she was.

0:25:46.634 --> 0:25:50.194
<v Speaker 5>She was perfect and healthy and the cutest thing I'd

0:25:50.234 --> 0:25:54.073
<v Speaker 5>ever seen. So here's my philosophy. If I'm not laughing,

0:25:54.114 --> 0:25:56.474
<v Speaker 5>I want to be crying. I'm not really interested in

0:25:56.554 --> 0:25:57.353
<v Speaker 5>anything else of them.

0:25:57.514 --> 0:25:57.594
<v Speaker 6>That.

0:25:59.034 --> 0:26:02.273
<v Speaker 5>So that room was the same room I'd lost my

0:26:02.314 --> 0:26:06.194
<v Speaker 5>other daughter in. So this was the complete opposite experience.

0:26:06.314 --> 0:26:08.434
<v Speaker 8>So that was epic. And it was the same people

0:26:08.434 --> 0:26:09.234
<v Speaker 8>in that room with me.

0:26:09.314 --> 0:26:12.594
<v Speaker 5>It was the same obstetrician, the same midwife, my grief

0:26:12.634 --> 0:26:16.514
<v Speaker 5>counselor was there, and no one was crying more than

0:26:16.514 --> 0:26:18.754
<v Speaker 5>my husband. He was crying so much I thought they

0:26:18.754 --> 0:26:21.513
<v Speaker 5>were going to put a nappy on him. So yeah,

0:26:21.594 --> 0:26:25.314
<v Speaker 5>look that that song. Stevie spoke to racism in a

0:26:25.354 --> 0:26:27.434
<v Speaker 5>way that I've never heard anyone. He'd wrapped it up

0:26:27.434 --> 0:26:31.313
<v Speaker 5>in this almost joyous sound, and he made, you know,

0:26:31.434 --> 0:26:35.034
<v Speaker 5>really difficult things to get your head around sort of okay.

0:26:35.434 --> 0:26:39.154
<v Speaker 5>And he became, you know, my my artistic musical god,

0:26:39.314 --> 0:26:40.834
<v Speaker 5>and still is to this day.

0:26:40.874 --> 0:26:42.914
<v Speaker 2>That song I think was number one or it was

0:26:42.954 --> 0:26:44.554
<v Speaker 2>in the high in the charts when I was born.

0:26:44.594 --> 0:26:46.074
<v Speaker 2>So Mum and Dad always say, when it comes on,

0:26:46.154 --> 0:26:47.554
<v Speaker 2>that's what he used to sing to you.

0:26:47.274 --> 0:26:49.834
<v Speaker 4>In You, that's Cat's way of telling how she's younger than.

0:26:49.794 --> 0:26:54.354
<v Speaker 2>Us, not that much.

0:26:55.594 --> 0:26:56.513
<v Speaker 8>What about you, Grace?

0:26:56.994 --> 0:26:58.793
<v Speaker 6>All right, there's a lot of tears going on at

0:26:58.794 --> 0:27:02.994
<v Speaker 6>the moment, So get the tashoe. Wub your eyes because

0:27:03.034 --> 0:27:04.914
<v Speaker 6>I'm going to go shallow because I'm a shadow person.

0:27:05.154 --> 0:27:05.674
<v Speaker 7>Sorry.

0:27:06.554 --> 0:27:08.674
<v Speaker 6>So, when when I was in primary school living in

0:27:08.674 --> 0:27:12.634
<v Speaker 6>Hong Kong, my go to music was always David Bowie

0:27:12.714 --> 0:27:16.074
<v Speaker 6>and David Bowie and David and also Duran Duran, So

0:27:16.554 --> 0:27:22.954
<v Speaker 6>I love those boys. And when China Girl, I mean

0:27:23.074 --> 0:27:25.074
<v Speaker 6>not that my English was very good then, but I

0:27:25.634 --> 0:27:28.194
<v Speaker 6>can read like China Girl, and I thought, oh my god,

0:27:28.754 --> 0:27:43.354
<v Speaker 6>David Bowie is singing about me, trying to girls.

0:27:45.794 --> 0:27:54.434
<v Speaker 8>It's my child.

0:28:00.594 --> 0:28:03.994
<v Speaker 6>So not that I understood everything at that age what

0:28:04.074 --> 0:28:07.314
<v Speaker 6>the lyrics was about, but I just thought, my god, God,

0:28:07.474 --> 0:28:12.154
<v Speaker 6>my idol is singing about my race. I'm seen. It

0:28:12.234 --> 0:28:12.994
<v Speaker 6>was so crazy.

0:28:13.234 --> 0:28:15.674
<v Speaker 8>That's not shallow, that's deep, is it?

0:28:16.714 --> 0:28:17.154
<v Speaker 7>All right?

0:28:17.234 --> 0:28:18.514
<v Speaker 4>You're less shallow than you think.

0:28:18.954 --> 0:28:21.793
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I'm way more show than I think. And the

0:28:21.914 --> 0:28:25.114
<v Speaker 6>crazy story about that is I met him in New

0:28:25.194 --> 0:28:28.154
<v Speaker 6>York one time. I mean to say, meat is a

0:28:28.274 --> 0:28:32.514
<v Speaker 6>very strong word. I actually like, what's the word stalked?

0:28:32.674 --> 0:28:36.074
<v Speaker 6>Stalked him? Actually, So I saw him in New York

0:28:36.114 --> 0:28:38.914
<v Speaker 6>when I was there with my friends. I literally ran

0:28:38.954 --> 0:28:40.914
<v Speaker 6>down the street to chase after him and your man

0:28:41.434 --> 0:28:44.474
<v Speaker 6>and they had to run into this building no, and

0:28:44.594 --> 0:28:50.034
<v Speaker 6>the security shut the door, and I was banging David.

0:28:50.274 --> 0:28:53.234
<v Speaker 6>It's like a crazy person. They both looked at me

0:28:53.314 --> 0:28:55.474
<v Speaker 6>like this and then turned their head and they looked

0:28:55.474 --> 0:28:57.674
<v Speaker 6>away trying to like not to see me. But that's

0:28:57.674 --> 0:29:00.274
<v Speaker 6>how much I love him. And the video he had

0:29:00.274 --> 0:29:02.794
<v Speaker 6>a Chinese model in there, or this Chinese girl, and

0:29:02.794 --> 0:29:06.594
<v Speaker 6>then they actually dated very briefly apparent, and there gave

0:29:06.674 --> 0:29:09.034
<v Speaker 6>me a hope that when I grow older, I could

0:29:09.034 --> 0:29:12.714
<v Speaker 6>be his girlfriend. Yeah, you know, because he's hot. He

0:29:13.554 --> 0:29:16.594
<v Speaker 6>was very hot, very hot and very he's got really

0:29:16.594 --> 0:29:18.874
<v Speaker 6>good value sable. Yeah, I love him.

0:29:19.194 --> 0:29:20.114
<v Speaker 4>That was amazing.

0:29:20.194 --> 0:29:22.954
<v Speaker 1>I think we all passed the homework and I'm sure

0:29:22.954 --> 0:29:25.034
<v Speaker 1>they could be like dozens more.

0:29:25.074 --> 0:29:26.994
<v Speaker 2>Or so many more, so many more. We could do

0:29:27.034 --> 0:29:30.194
<v Speaker 2>this weekly. Actually, if you're listening, we would love to

0:29:30.234 --> 0:29:32.914
<v Speaker 2>hear from you. What your song was and what the

0:29:33.034 --> 0:29:36.114
<v Speaker 2>lyrics were that just got into your heart and your

0:29:36.114 --> 0:29:38.834
<v Speaker 2>brain and they take you straight back now when you listen.

0:29:39.074 --> 0:29:42.674
<v Speaker 2>So dm us at Unleashed Dot show on Instagram. Please,

0:29:54.794 --> 0:29:57.754
<v Speaker 2>oh it's so good to unleash today kind of the

0:29:57.834 --> 0:29:58.274
<v Speaker 2>talking sick.

0:29:58.314 --> 0:30:00.874
<v Speaker 3>Please bring yes my homey. Okay.

0:30:01.234 --> 0:30:05.794
<v Speaker 2>So I would like to preface this by saying, not

0:30:06.194 --> 0:30:10.794
<v Speaker 2>every single holiday, okay, but I do have to say

0:30:10.794 --> 0:30:14.434
<v Speaker 2>with a long weekend coming up, I actually dread holidays

0:30:14.554 --> 0:30:19.114
<v Speaker 2>and long weekends. Why well, you know, I've been divorced

0:30:19.154 --> 0:30:22.234
<v Speaker 2>now eleven years, and I've got to say I just

0:30:22.314 --> 0:30:24.954
<v Speaker 2>don't enjoy them. Like since I've been divorced and a

0:30:24.954 --> 0:30:27.554
<v Speaker 2>single parent, I really struggle with holidays.

0:30:28.994 --> 0:30:35.994
<v Speaker 9>Oh I do, like like that'd some good ones, but yeah,

0:30:36.434 --> 0:30:37.714
<v Speaker 9>they really love you.

0:30:37.954 --> 0:30:39.034
<v Speaker 4>Are you're talking about care?

0:30:39.114 --> 0:30:43.474
<v Speaker 1>Are you talking about like holidays and then just long

0:30:43.474 --> 0:30:45.474
<v Speaker 1>weekends like anything that feels like time.

0:30:45.794 --> 0:30:47.274
<v Speaker 8>Yeah, something should be happening.

0:30:47.554 --> 0:30:47.874
<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

0:30:47.954 --> 0:30:50.234
<v Speaker 9>And I think you know, being the other side of

0:30:50.234 --> 0:30:54.154
<v Speaker 9>the world from your family, then when you make a family,

0:30:55.074 --> 0:30:57.434
<v Speaker 9>and then when you're not in that family anymore, it's

0:30:57.994 --> 0:31:00.834
<v Speaker 9>it's really hard because you have to kind of hijack

0:31:00.994 --> 0:31:05.114
<v Speaker 9>other people's Christmases, other people's Easters and long weekends, and

0:31:05.114 --> 0:31:08.514
<v Speaker 9>that's that's exhausting. But if you don't set something up,

0:31:08.674 --> 0:31:10.354
<v Speaker 9>you know, it's also really lonely.

0:31:10.474 --> 0:31:13.474
<v Speaker 3>So it's a really crappy time.

0:31:14.154 --> 0:31:17.394
<v Speaker 6>Our welcome to our Christmas any time. And it's not

0:31:17.554 --> 0:31:20.834
<v Speaker 6>because I'm sorry for you. It's because we like hanging

0:31:20.834 --> 0:31:22.474
<v Speaker 6>out in me. Okay, I don't want you to think

0:31:22.474 --> 0:31:24.994
<v Speaker 6>that you're going to be hijacking other people's Christmas lunch

0:31:25.114 --> 0:31:28.434
<v Speaker 6>or whatever. So I'm serious thank you's, and I am

0:31:28.474 --> 0:31:29.234
<v Speaker 6>good value.

0:31:29.514 --> 0:31:31.874
<v Speaker 4>Yeah no, we know, we know that, but it's hard.

0:31:31.914 --> 0:31:34.754
<v Speaker 2>You know, Like Lewis was five when we separated, and

0:31:35.034 --> 0:31:37.554
<v Speaker 2>you know, he's an avid sort of little surfer, you know,

0:31:37.634 --> 0:31:39.274
<v Speaker 2>him and dad would always sif so if we went

0:31:39.314 --> 0:31:42.474
<v Speaker 2>on holidays, like a beach holiday, I was the mom

0:31:42.514 --> 0:31:44.274
<v Speaker 2>that never went in the water, and then he could

0:31:44.354 --> 0:31:46.634
<v Speaker 2>like there was all of these things that you just

0:31:47.554 --> 0:31:50.074
<v Speaker 2>you just go oh wow. And now he's seventeen, you know,

0:31:50.114 --> 0:31:51.754
<v Speaker 2>I can't even get him to watch a movie with me,

0:31:51.834 --> 0:31:54.474
<v Speaker 2>let alone and go on holiday. So yeah, I just

0:31:54.674 --> 0:31:58.914
<v Speaker 2>actually prefer just a normal weekend. So that's my loser moment.

0:32:00.114 --> 0:32:03.794
<v Speaker 2>Sh Let me share a sad moment.

0:32:03.714 --> 0:32:05.754
<v Speaker 6>You know, I mean, I think that could happen to

0:32:05.834 --> 0:32:08.834
<v Speaker 6>any of us, you know, a single mom, single parents, right,

0:32:08.914 --> 0:32:11.994
<v Speaker 6>so I completely understand. I mean, who's to say that,

0:32:12.114 --> 0:32:14.154
<v Speaker 6>you know, me and my husband going to be forever,

0:32:14.234 --> 0:32:16.794
<v Speaker 6>something might happen. I'm my big sister. She died when

0:32:16.834 --> 0:32:19.634
<v Speaker 6>she was thirty nine, out of the blue. From the

0:32:19.754 --> 0:32:22.114
<v Speaker 6>day we found out she had cancer to the day

0:32:22.114 --> 0:32:24.754
<v Speaker 6>she died, we only had three months. It was so crazy.

0:32:24.994 --> 0:32:28.594
<v Speaker 6>I watched my brother in law like crumble, like to

0:32:28.634 --> 0:32:31.474
<v Speaker 6>the point that he was not functioning because the kids

0:32:31.474 --> 0:32:33.794
<v Speaker 6>were young. So this could happen to all of us.

0:32:33.994 --> 0:32:40.194
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's you guys have really thrown more more more sparks.

0:32:39.754 --> 0:32:40.314
<v Speaker 7>On this one.

0:32:40.394 --> 0:32:43.794
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I've like never really said that out loud, because,

0:32:43.994 --> 0:32:45.754
<v Speaker 2>first of all, you put on a happy face, don't you,

0:32:45.794 --> 0:32:47.794
<v Speaker 2>for holidays, and you don't want to sound like the

0:32:47.834 --> 0:32:51.074
<v Speaker 2>person that's you know, yeah, yeah, miserable.

0:32:51.874 --> 0:32:55.074
<v Speaker 3>So that's the first time I've shared that on a podcast.

0:32:56.434 --> 0:32:58.634
<v Speaker 2>Anyway, what else, what would someone not know about you

0:32:58.714 --> 0:33:01.994
<v Speaker 2>that you're holding carrying every Mother's Day?

0:33:02.074 --> 0:33:04.954
<v Speaker 5>My daughter died on Mother's Day. Oh so that's always

0:33:05.034 --> 0:33:10.274
<v Speaker 5>fraught for me. Oh may so my daughter always says, Mamma,

0:33:10.314 --> 0:33:11.714
<v Speaker 5>what do you want for Mother's Day? And I said,

0:33:11.714 --> 0:33:13.274
<v Speaker 5>three hours in my bedroom.

0:33:12.914 --> 0:33:15.154
<v Speaker 7>On my head. It's probably good to cry.

0:33:15.354 --> 0:33:17.314
<v Speaker 5>And also, my dad died when I was young, so

0:33:17.434 --> 0:33:22.354
<v Speaker 5>Christmases were a shit show too. And it wasn't the first, second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth,

0:33:22.394 --> 0:33:25.194
<v Speaker 5>it was the seventh. It's when the novelty wore off,

0:33:25.234 --> 0:33:28.194
<v Speaker 5>when it started to become normal to be, you know,

0:33:28.514 --> 0:33:31.394
<v Speaker 5>just two or three of us. And that's when Brunna

0:33:31.394 --> 0:33:33.674
<v Speaker 5>and I decided we were going to do orphans Christmases

0:33:33.714 --> 0:33:35.714
<v Speaker 5>from that point on. So I think it is an

0:33:35.714 --> 0:33:39.514
<v Speaker 5>opportunity to really just say this feels terrible and this

0:33:39.594 --> 0:33:41.514
<v Speaker 5>doesn't work for me, and I'm going to try find

0:33:41.554 --> 0:33:44.834
<v Speaker 5>a way to turn it into something else or reimagine

0:33:44.834 --> 0:33:47.674
<v Speaker 5>what it can look like, because that's what we do.

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<v Speaker 5>Grace spent Greek Easter with us this year with her family.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, you just you just try to work it

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<v Speaker 5>into something that's actually fun if you can. And I

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<v Speaker 5>think there's a lot of people that don't like these

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<v Speaker 5>holidays for a million reasons. Yeah, Kath we're all struggling

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<v Speaker 5>with invisible stuff. But I think vulnerability, you know, is

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<v Speaker 5>a really healthy thing. To put out there so you're

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<v Speaker 5>not alone.

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<v Speaker 1>Who know, Yeah, I know, I think it's it's I think,

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<v Speaker 1>particularly as high functioning women, we try and always put

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<v Speaker 1>a positive spin on everything, right, Like Cath, I would

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<v Speaker 1>never have thought that before you said it and shared that,

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<v Speaker 1>and thank you for sharing it. I think what people

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm so high functioning. I think because I have

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<v Speaker 1>loopers and they call it literally the invisible disease because.

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<v Speaker 4>You just it's gotten.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not symptomatic in the ways that other things are,

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<v Speaker 1>but you're just always in pain. Like literally, there's not

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<v Speaker 1>a day I wake up where I'm not in pain. Seriously, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like where I just like the first like I would say,

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<v Speaker 1>sixty seconds of the day, just like my legs are

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<v Speaker 1>so sore when I get out of bed that like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, just like you just have to like get

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<v Speaker 1>into it, and you know, I mean occasionally I would

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<v Speaker 1>say to my husband, I'm having a bad day, but

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<v Speaker 1>for the most part, I just don't talk about it

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<v Speaker 1>because it's boring to me and also because I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>like one of those people who's like, Okay, we'll get

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<v Speaker 1>on with it, right or you know, try and solve it.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, it's a hard thing I think to carry

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. And I know a lot of people,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm sure a lot of our listeners have lots

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<v Speaker 1>of stuff like chronic pain that is invisible to everyone

0:35:26.074 --> 0:35:27.913
<v Speaker 1>that they really struggle with. And I really have so

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<v Speaker 1>much empathy for, you know, people who deal with that,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's hard, and I think you just you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to go on.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I'm the kind of person what you see

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<v Speaker 6>is what you get, So I don't really hide stuff

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<v Speaker 6>like if I've got off nipple, I would.

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<v Speaker 8>Tell you that race we didn't know about your sister.

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<v Speaker 6>Yes, so I mean, but it's not a secret. I

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<v Speaker 6>tell when I need to tell. And I've had a

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<v Speaker 6>lot of deaths in my life that people I love

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<v Speaker 6>and very close to me, and I can proudly say

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<v Speaker 6>that at this age, I'm very content of what I have. Finally,

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<v Speaker 6>whereas even a few years ago, I'll be like, why

0:36:06.034 --> 0:36:08.074
<v Speaker 6>have I not got this? I haven't I got that job?

0:36:08.114 --> 0:36:09.274
<v Speaker 7>Or why haven't got more money for this?

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<v Speaker 6>Why are you not always asking why? And then I realized,

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<v Speaker 6>you little piece of shit, you are so ungrateful and

0:36:16.234 --> 0:36:18.393
<v Speaker 6>that is why it's not happening to you. And then

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<v Speaker 6>when I'm my mindset change. I'm actually content of what

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<v Speaker 6>I have now. Maybe it's not a lot to a

0:36:23.874 --> 0:36:26.393
<v Speaker 6>lot of people, but for me, it is enough. And

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<v Speaker 6>I think when you when I've reached that goal recently,

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<v Speaker 6>even I feel like, okay, good things will happen, because

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<v Speaker 6>once you're grateful, things will start changing, starts shifting. And

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<v Speaker 6>I mean some of you might not know. I have

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<v Speaker 6>a huge cat phobia.

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<v Speaker 3>Huge.

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<v Speaker 6>Here it's the only pussy. I'm not scared of this

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<v Speaker 6>all of us and hello kitty.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, yeah, so I have a.

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<v Speaker 6>Huge cat phobia. If I go to your house, the

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<v Speaker 6>first our ask, not you're a dress, is do you

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<v Speaker 6>have a cat?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god, there is it. I get so freaked out.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't even know what I'm doing. This is how

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<v Speaker 6>bad it is. I once grabbed a guy off the

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<v Speaker 6>street in Hong Kong because three cats jump in front

0:37:06.834 --> 0:37:09.474
<v Speaker 6>of me. I literally grabbed him and said walk with me,

0:37:09.594 --> 0:37:12.553
<v Speaker 6>and we ran up in my five inch tairs. That's

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<v Speaker 6>how scared I am.

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<v Speaker 4>I empathized with that.

0:37:15.194 --> 0:37:17.794
<v Speaker 6>I really do so more things you don't know about me.

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<v Speaker 6>Can I please have the talking stick?

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<v Speaker 3>Of course?

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<v Speaker 7>Grace.

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<v Speaker 6>So I have a confession. I had itchy skin for ages,

0:37:24.914 --> 0:37:28.034
<v Speaker 6>and I thought, oh my god, and other fucking perimenopause symptoms.

0:37:28.234 --> 0:37:30.194
<v Speaker 6>So I asked my husband Jason, can you check my

0:37:30.354 --> 0:37:33.954
<v Speaker 6>neck and my shoulder because it's very itchy, check the rash.

0:37:34.194 --> 0:37:36.554
<v Speaker 6>He goes, there's nothing. There's nothing. Every fucking day. There's

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<v Speaker 6>nothing for four days, and then one morning I woke

0:37:39.994 --> 0:37:42.433
<v Speaker 6>up it dawned on me. Oh my god, and I said, Jay,

0:37:43.314 --> 0:37:47.314
<v Speaker 6>can you please check my hair? And it's always itchy

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<v Speaker 6>when I lie down in bed.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh, and he said, you have ni.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god, we have so to our lovely listeners.

0:37:59.434 --> 0:38:03.393
<v Speaker 6>I'm germophobic. So can you imagine what went down the

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<v Speaker 6>next three days after that, I basically burn a whole down,

0:38:08.194 --> 0:38:14.914
<v Speaker 6>boiled everything, bleach everything. And it came from my kid.

0:38:15.194 --> 0:38:15.913
<v Speaker 4>I told you that.

0:38:16.154 --> 0:38:19.433
<v Speaker 6>So then I send my husband Jason out to buy

0:38:19.554 --> 0:38:22.194
<v Speaker 6>all the shampool that we can get. Only one hundred

0:38:22.234 --> 0:38:24.474
<v Speaker 6>of them, so if you ever need anymore, just ask me.

0:38:25.274 --> 0:38:27.953
<v Speaker 6>And we did the whole shebang. And then I thought,

0:38:27.994 --> 0:38:31.314
<v Speaker 6>how the hell did he get like headlines because we

0:38:31.314 --> 0:38:33.834
<v Speaker 6>were on school holiday. It's a few months ago. Then

0:38:33.874 --> 0:38:35.634
<v Speaker 6>I thought, oh my god, is that day?

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<v Speaker 7>I knew it.

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<v Speaker 6>I knew it that day when we went on a

0:38:38.834 --> 0:38:41.514
<v Speaker 6>tram and it was very crowded and we were so

0:38:41.634 --> 0:38:44.994
<v Speaker 6>squashed with against people. So ever since then, I do

0:38:45.074 --> 0:38:47.994
<v Speaker 6>not get on a crowded tram I know in Melbourne.

0:38:48.074 --> 0:38:51.354
<v Speaker 6>I swear to God. It's from the I'm one hundred

0:38:51.354 --> 0:38:54.794
<v Speaker 6>percent of what was a tram because because we don't,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm trying to throw but I don't get close to people.

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<v Speaker 2>I know.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't get close to people. I don't even shake hands.

0:39:00.874 --> 0:39:03.074
<v Speaker 6>I do fistbum all the time. So that was the

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<v Speaker 6>only day when I said to Jason it's two crowd,

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<v Speaker 6>let's wait. He goes, no, No, let's get on. I

0:39:07.994 --> 0:39:09.994
<v Speaker 6>knew its it. He should have listened to me.

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<v Speaker 7>So yeah. So when you.

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<v Speaker 6>Blame something on perimenopause, it's not always.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah I am scripch is it?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah? Or bloody hell? What kind of show can

0:39:25.234 --> 0:39:27.393
<v Speaker 2>you say that? You can have a laugh, you can

0:39:27.434 --> 0:39:30.314
<v Speaker 2>have a cry, music can take you back and we

0:39:30.354 --> 0:39:30.754
<v Speaker 2>can talk.

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<v Speaker 7>About head license. Yes, great, what do you reckon? Wow?

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<v Speaker 3>I think we're done, though, ladies, are we done?

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<v Speaker 7>We're done? Wrap it up, We're so done.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, if you've got someone in your life that you

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<v Speaker 2>think would like to hear this show.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, we do the lulls, we do the highs,

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<v Speaker 3>we do the lows, we.

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<v Speaker 2>Did the tears today. If you think that might help her,

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<v Speaker 7>Yes m us, thank you, what do we like to say?

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<v Speaker 8>See Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 2>Until then, stay unfiltered, stay unreasonable, and stay unleashed.

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<v Speaker 8>Bye.

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<v Speaker 7>Mamma.

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