Speaker 1: You're listening to a mother mea podcast. Okay, so you're
Speaker 1: in a bit of a situation. Someone, your boss, your friend,
Speaker 1: your partner has asked something of you, and your body
Speaker 1: it's saying no, but your mind, your mind is spiraling.
Speaker 1: What if they get mad at me? What if I
Speaker 1: let them down? What if this changes how they see me?
Speaker 1: And just like that, your people please are kicks in
Speaker 1: and you're about to say yes even though you don't
Speaker 1: mean it. If that feels familiar, this is for you
Speaker 1: because setting boundaries isn't about being a bitch, and it
Speaker 1: definitely doesn't make you a bad person. Boundaries aren't walls
Speaker 1: their clarity. They're actually one of the most respectful things
Speaker 1: you can bring into a relationship because when you're honest
Speaker 1: about your capacity, your needs, your energy, you create relationships
Speaker 1: that are built on truth, not resentment. So let's slow
Speaker 1: it down a little. Before you automatically say yes. I
Speaker 1: want you to get curious about what's happening inside of you.
Speaker 1: What's the story you're telling yourself? If you say no,
Speaker 1: is it? They'll be disappointed in me, I'll get in trouble,
Speaker 1: they'll stop loving me. Notice that because a lot of
Speaker 1: the time. We're not responding to the actual situation. We're
Speaker 1: responding to a fear. Now, come back to you, why
Speaker 1: do you actually want to say no. Maybe you don't
Speaker 1: have the time, Maybe you're already overwhelmed. Maybe you know
Speaker 1: you won't be able to show up fully and you'll
Speaker 1: end up doing a rushed, half hearted job. That matters.
Speaker 1: Your capacity matters. Now here's where we shift from awareness
Speaker 1: into action. Instead of avoiding the conversation or over explaining,
Speaker 1: we're going to communicate clearly. Here's a simple way to
Speaker 1: do it. First, acknowledge the request, then share your honest reality,
Speaker 1: and finally offer an alternative, if there is one. So
Speaker 1: it might sound something like this, Hey, I know you
Speaker 1: asked me to get this to you by tomorrow morning.
Speaker 1: I actually won't be able to get it done by then,
Speaker 1: but if I had an extra two days, I could
Speaker 1: do it properly. Do you hear that you're not shutting
Speaker 1: the door, You're opening a more honest one. And yes,
Speaker 1: this might feel so uncomfortable at first, So if you
Speaker 1: need to practice it, say it out loud, role play
Speaker 1: it with someone you trust, because what you're really doing
Speaker 1: here is you're teaching your body that it's safe to
Speaker 1: hold your ground and that you're allowed to take up
Speaker 1: space in your own life. Now, this is important. Setting
Speaker 1: a boundary doesn't mean controlling the outcome. The other person
Speaker 1: might have a reaction, they might push back, but this
Speaker 1: is where your strength comes in. You can stay open
Speaker 1: to the conversation without abandoning yourself in the process, because
Speaker 1: boundaries aren't about winning or losing. They're about alignment. And
Speaker 1: every time you choose honesty over people pleasing, you build
Speaker 1: self trust, You show yourself I've got me, and that
Speaker 1: that's where your power is. Mamma Mia acknowledges the traditional
Speaker 1: owners of the land and waters that this podcast is
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