WEBVTT - A Joke That Went 'Too Far' & The Internet’s Biggest Cheating Scandal

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to a MoMA Mia podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello, and welcome to MoMA Mia out Loud. It's what

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<v Speaker 2>women are actually talking about on Monday, the twenty second

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<v Speaker 2>of September. I'm Holly Waynwright and I am back from

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<v Speaker 2>a sick bed where I have been laid up with

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<v Speaker 2>the flu for a little while, dying to be back

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<v Speaker 2>talking to you.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm Jesse Stevens.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm very excited that Holly is back and Maya has

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<v Speaker 4>officially gone on holiday.

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<v Speaker 2>She has, she's actually left the country.

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<v Speaker 5>She did tell me she downloaded the entire three seasons

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<v Speaker 5>of the Summer Return Pretty to watch on the plane,

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<v Speaker 5>so prepare for that. When she returns, we'll fly. I

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<v Speaker 5>should probably introduce myself. Hello, I'm Claire Murphy. You can

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<v Speaker 5>usually hear me on Momma MIA's twice daily news podcast,

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<v Speaker 5>The Quickie and on Well for all your women's health

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<v Speaker 5>information and funny and gross stuff that our bodies do.

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<v Speaker 2>Funny and gross stuff. My body's been doing some very

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<v Speaker 2>funny and gross Murphy. We'll talk offline about that later. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>Here's what's made our agenda for today.

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<v Speaker 5>Jimmy Kimmel's late night show was pulled off the air

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<v Speaker 5>last week. There's been a lot of conversation around it, politically, morally, constitutionally,

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<v Speaker 5>but what does that all mean?

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<v Speaker 1>Does it matter? And should we be freaking out?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to alarm you out louders, but we

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<v Speaker 2>know that you always have a little cry on your

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<v Speaker 2>birthday and.

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<v Speaker 1>We know why you do.

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<v Speaker 4>And the wife guy is back, but this time without

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<v Speaker 4>his wife. I'm going to explain one of the most

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<v Speaker 4>ambitious comebacks in all of Internet history.

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<v Speaker 3>But first, Jesse, in case you missed it.

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<v Speaker 4>This morning Australian Time, a memorial service was held for

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<v Speaker 4>conservative activist Charlie Kirk at a stadium in Phoenix, Arizona,

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<v Speaker 4>and estimated two hundred thousand people gathered in and around

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<v Speaker 4>the stadium and all the speakers were shielded by bullet

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<v Speaker 4>proof glass on the stage, which is something we haven't

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<v Speaker 4>seen before. Attendees were also encouraged to wear red, white or.

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<v Speaker 3>Blue to the service.

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<v Speaker 4>Speakers included Robert F. Kennedy, Charlie Kirk's wife Erica Kirk,

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<v Speaker 4>Donald Trump Junior, who was very close to Kirk, and

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<v Speaker 4>of course President Donald Trump, who spoke last. Erica Kirk

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<v Speaker 4>declared that she had forgiven the man who allegedly killed

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<v Speaker 4>her husband, and her address had this real focus on love,

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<v Speaker 4>which was in stark contrast to Donald Trump's speech which followed.

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<v Speaker 4>The President said I hate my opponents, and I don't

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<v Speaker 4>want what's best for them. He referred to networks of

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<v Speaker 4>radical left maniacs who were to blame for Kirk's murder.

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<v Speaker 4>He also repeated the words fight, fight, fight, which you

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<v Speaker 4>might remember from after his attempted assassination last year. He

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<v Speaker 4>also referred to Kirk as a martyr, a patriot. He

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<v Speaker 4>is awarding Kirk posthumously with the Presidential Medal of Freedom,

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<v Speaker 4>which is a higher civilian honor. Many speakers cited this

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<v Speaker 4>battle between good and evil and said that there was

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<v Speaker 4>this struggle going on. Donald Trump Junior asked the crowd,

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<v Speaker 4>will you surrender? Will you back down? Will you give

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<v Speaker 4>up in fear? And Look, the headline is that Kirk

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<v Speaker 4>was used as a symbol for all that is great

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<v Speaker 4>about America. I think even with the colors that people

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<v Speaker 4>were encouraged to wear, it was about patriotism and this,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, almost a suggestion of some sort of civil

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<v Speaker 4>war that's going on in the US at the moment.

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<v Speaker 2>It's interesting though, because as you've said, that's not what

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<v Speaker 2>Erica Kirk was talking about. And the parts of it

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<v Speaker 2>that I've watched this morning, and obviously we're recording, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>at eleven thirty, it's sort of just finished. It was

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<v Speaker 2>like a show, and there was a very distinct difference

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<v Speaker 2>between Erica Kirk, who was very clearly incredibly emotional, incredibly devastated,

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<v Speaker 2>incredibly gracious, you have to say in saying what she

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<v Speaker 2>said about her incredibly immoving, and she said.

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<v Speaker 1>The answer to he is not hate. The answer we

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<v Speaker 1>know from the Gospel is love and always love.

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<v Speaker 2>And then, as you've said, Jesse, there's that beautiful, gracious

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<v Speaker 2>message that I wonder if people can actually hear. And

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<v Speaker 2>then you had like Donald Trump Junior treating it like

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<v Speaker 2>a stand up show. He was throwing out some jokes.

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<v Speaker 2>He made some Kamala jokes, some Hillary jokes, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>all the old hits from the MAGA, right, Trump preaching

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<v Speaker 2>how much he hates everybody. It just seemed like such

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<v Speaker 2>a stark contrast. Like I think so much of this

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<v Speaker 2>conversation is between the very human loss of a person

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<v Speaker 2>and then this huge existential war that seems to have

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<v Speaker 2>been very much fanned by this assassination.

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<v Speaker 4>Which isn't about Kirk at all, really, you know, and

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<v Speaker 4>there's a lot to be said for the left and

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<v Speaker 4>the way that they've discussed, the rhetoric that they've used,

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<v Speaker 4>the vitriol that's come in the aftermath. But it reminded

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<v Speaker 4>me that while the left has dehumanized Kirk, so is

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<v Speaker 4>a right like they've used Kirk as a symbol, and

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<v Speaker 4>they very much did. And when Trump got up, he

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<v Speaker 4>was at a rally. He was at a rally, and

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<v Speaker 4>he talked about twenty twenty and how that election was

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<v Speaker 4>stolen from him and Joe Biden.

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<v Speaker 5>He made some kind of policy announcement too, in the

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<v Speaker 5>middle of all of that, apparently.

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<v Speaker 4>Exactly some medical announcement. And there are reports that people left,

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<v Speaker 4>which I found really interesting when he started to speak,

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<v Speaker 4>because it did feel really disrespectful.

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<v Speaker 5>You know what's really crazy about looking at this memorial

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<v Speaker 5>today is that until September ten, I had never even

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<v Speaker 5>heard of Charlie Kirk. I have no idea who he was,

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<v Speaker 5>except in real vague passing. I'd seen videos on my

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<v Speaker 5>social media feed of him doing those debates with people,

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<v Speaker 5>but it was most often positioned from the person who

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<v Speaker 5>was debating him, rather than him.

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<v Speaker 1>And his debate.

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<v Speaker 5>But now, not only do I know who Charlie Kirk is.

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<v Speaker 5>I watched that man die almost in real time, which

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<v Speaker 5>was horrific to witness, and then not long after that,

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<v Speaker 5>I was given conflicting stories as to who his alleged

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<v Speaker 5>shooter was, his political allegiances, who he's chose to spend.

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<v Speaker 1>His time with.

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<v Speaker 5>This whole situation from the very get go, felt very

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<v Speaker 5>dirty and awful, and we all have participated in it,

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<v Speaker 5>whether it's from watching the videos, whether it's making a

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<v Speaker 5>comment about Charlie Kirk or his rhetoric, whether it's about

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<v Speaker 5>celebrating his death, which some have done, whether it's those

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<v Speaker 5>right wing factions who've now collectively got together to bring

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<v Speaker 5>down anyone who even mentions Charlie Kirk's name, to the

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<v Speaker 5>politicians who are speaking at these particular events trying to

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<v Speaker 5>muster up that same kind of energy that we heard

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<v Speaker 5>for January six, it all feels very performative. It all

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<v Speaker 5>feels like everyone is in it for themselves, and it

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<v Speaker 5>feels like this is where we absolutely expected to be

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<v Speaker 5>at this point in time.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really not shocked by any of it.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's very hard to be shocked by anything now

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<v Speaker 2>to be I'd suggest that Erica Kirk doesn't seem like

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<v Speaker 2>she's in it for herself. I mean, she did say

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<v Speaker 2>in her speech about Charlie, she said that she's going

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<v Speaker 2>to take on his work and she's going to become

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<v Speaker 2>the CEO of Turning Point USA and absolutely going to

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<v Speaker 2>keep moving with that, which is deeply understandable given the

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<v Speaker 2>kind of person Charlie Kirk was and the mission that

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<v Speaker 2>she says their family shared. But it's just that juxtaposition

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<v Speaker 2>between a very human grief and then this intense politicization. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>what we're going to talk about next is kind of adjacent, right, Murphy.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, because obviously the fallout, as I mentioned, there's been

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<v Speaker 5>a lot of collective movements coming together to stop any

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<v Speaker 5>conversation about Charlie Kirk's murder from anyone who's considered vaguely

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<v Speaker 5>left of center. So obviously one of those big fallouts

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<v Speaker 5>is Jimmy Kimmel. So, if you have not heard, late

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<v Speaker 5>night talk show host Jimmy Kimmel is currently off the air.

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<v Speaker 5>He's been indefinitely suspended by the ABC after making this

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<v Speaker 5>comment about the Charlie Kirk assassination.

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<v Speaker 2>New rose over.

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<v Speaker 6>Then with the Magga Gang desperately trying to characterize this

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<v Speaker 6>kid who murdered Charlie Kirk as anything other than one

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<v Speaker 6>of them and do everything they can to score political

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<v Speaker 6>points from it. In between the finger pointing, there was grieving.

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<v Speaker 6>On Friday, the White House flew the flags at half staff,

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<v Speaker 6>which got some criticism, but on a human level, you

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<v Speaker 6>can see how hard the President is taking this half.

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<v Speaker 4>Indulghos on the low finger friend Charlie Kirk asked, sir personally,

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<v Speaker 4>how are you holding up over the last day and

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<v Speaker 4>a half served?

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<v Speaker 6>I think very good. And by the way, right there

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<v Speaker 6>you see all the trucks.

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<v Speaker 7>They've just started construction of.

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<v Speaker 5>The new Baurold to the White House, which is something

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<v Speaker 5>they've been trying to get.

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<v Speaker 6>As you know, for about one hundred and fifty years.

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<v Speaker 7>And it's going to be a beauty.

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<v Speaker 6>Yes, he's at the fourth stage of grief construction. There's demolition.

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<v Speaker 2>Construction.

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<v Speaker 6>This is not how an adult griefs the murderer of

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<v Speaker 6>someone he called a friend. This is how a four

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<v Speaker 6>year old morns a goldfish.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, can I just jump in and ask you about Kimmel,

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<v Speaker 2>because if you're not massively conversant in American late night culture,

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<v Speaker 2>we know that there are these big shows that have dominated,

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<v Speaker 2>or they certainly used to dominate American political discourse in

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<v Speaker 2>the late nights. But I always get my Jimmy's mixed. Ye,

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<v Speaker 2>So there's Jimmy fallon. Yes, it was much as a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit more like he always seems a bit more

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<v Speaker 2>mischievous he used to be on Saturday Night. Like Kimmel

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<v Speaker 2>is the one who's hosted the Oscars a couple of times, right, right,

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<v Speaker 2>and Trump has always kind of hated him. I remembered

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<v Speaker 2>alive on stage at the Oscars, Trump was tweeting about him,

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<v Speaker 2>and he was reading out the quotes, right, And kim

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<v Speaker 2>OL's been a big force there for a long time too.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes.

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<v Speaker 5>Also, after it was announced that Stephen Colbert, who's another

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<v Speaker 5>one of these late night hosts, that his show was

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<v Speaker 5>being canceled in twenty twenty six, Trump put out on

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<v Speaker 5>his social media that Kimmel would be next, which and

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<v Speaker 5>indeed indeed he is. So After those comments were made

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<v Speaker 5>on Kimmel's show, conservative commentators came down really hard. One

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<v Speaker 5>had said that he's painted all of the MAGA movement

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<v Speaker 5>with the same brush, essentially calling all of them collectively murderers.

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<v Speaker 5>Elon Musk then weighed in he was at the memorial today.

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<v Speaker 5>Elon Musk was called Kimmel disgusting. X then was lit

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<v Speaker 5>up with conservative voices, and that echo chamber spread out

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<v Speaker 5>far and wide across the Internet. The ABC then received

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<v Speaker 5>pressure from the Federal Communications Commission, which is a government

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<v Speaker 5>department that oversees media in the US. The chairman warned

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<v Speaker 5>the ABC that they would pull their broadcast license and

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<v Speaker 5>calling Kimmel's comments truly sick. Now, there are also major

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<v Speaker 5>broadcast companies that take Jimmy Kimmel Show and broadcast it

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<v Speaker 5>to stations across America. So they came together and said

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<v Speaker 5>that they would pull Kimmel's show. Advertisers were being targeted.

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<v Speaker 5>Some employees were also receiving threatening messages. So they bowed

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<v Speaker 5>to the pressure and ABC stood Kimmel down. There is,

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<v Speaker 5>of course, a lot which we do not have time

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<v Speaker 5>to fully deconstruct here today going on up and down

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<v Speaker 5>that chain. So these big companies like the ABC, they

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<v Speaker 5>need government approval for acquisitions because they've got many fingers

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<v Speaker 5>in many pies, and they won't get that if they,

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<v Speaker 5>for example, from himmat with them, if Trump is angry

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<v Speaker 5>with them over Jimmy Kimmel.

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<v Speaker 2>It's also worth pointing out that when we say the ABC,

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<v Speaker 2>we don't mean the Australian Broadcasting Corporations. Yes, even though

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<v Speaker 2>the Australian ABC says they've been getting a lot of.

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<v Speaker 5>Complaints about they have hundreds and hundreds which they put

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<v Speaker 5>up on their social media just yesterday, and they also

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<v Speaker 5>put an email address for who to actually complain to

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<v Speaker 5>if they.

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<v Speaker 1>Were like, this is not us.

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<v Speaker 2>Guys, Yes, it's not us.

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<v Speaker 1>We did not do anything.

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<v Speaker 2>Has he been fired forever Murphy or has he been like,

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<v Speaker 2>has anyone given an indication of how long Kimmel is

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<v Speaker 2>sitting on the bench for and he hasn't spoken about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Has he has not? Sobly sitting with his lawyer?

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, so he is currently in talks with his lawyers.

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<v Speaker 5>The reports are is that he is very concerned about

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<v Speaker 5>his staff because apparently reportedly he said that he's very

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<v Speaker 5>worried about them. They're still financially recovering from the writers'

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<v Speaker 5>strike that happened a year or two ago, so he's

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<v Speaker 5>in talks, but obviously there is one of the those

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<v Speaker 5>broadcast companies that I talked about pulling Kimmel show. They

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<v Speaker 5>have asked for him to apologize formally to also pay

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<v Speaker 5>Charlie Kirk's family money and pay Kirk's foundation money as

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<v Speaker 5>well his nonprofit. So they said that will pave the

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<v Speaker 5>path for his return to the airwaves. But of course,

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<v Speaker 5>the conversation here is now, how do the late night

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<v Speaker 5>show hosts respond to this, because they under threat of

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<v Speaker 5>also being kicked off the air if they make jokes

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<v Speaker 5>about this situation.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, and also the conversation seems to have gone to Jesse.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the beginning of the end of free speech, right,

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<v Speaker 2>because when this happened on Thursday, my feeds were suddenly

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<v Speaker 2>flooded by lots of well known American leftist comedians. When

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<v Speaker 2>I say leftist, I just meant, you know, to be honest,

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<v Speaker 2>Until very recently, almost everybody in Hollywood was an outspoken leftist. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and so lots of people saying it's happening. We said

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<v Speaker 2>authoritarianism was coming. This is the first real sign of that,

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<v Speaker 2>is that where this conversation is now, is it about

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<v Speaker 2>the death of free speech, which is, let's be clear,

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<v Speaker 2>something that the right side of politics, as in the

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<v Speaker 2>megaside of politics, free speech was the thing that supposedly

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<v Speaker 2>radicalized and evangelized the Elon Musks of the world, the

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<v Speaker 2>Joe Rogan's of the world, the Mark Zuckerberg's of the world.

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<v Speaker 2>Charlie Kirk himself as a free speech advocate, of course,

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<v Speaker 2>And they're like, but they're saying that it was the

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<v Speaker 2>left that we're trying to silence debate and that's what

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<v Speaker 2>pushed them to the Trump side. Is this the first

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<v Speaker 2>step in authoritarianism?

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<v Speaker 4>To be clear, Trump campaigned on free speech. He talked

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<v Speaker 4>in his inaugural address earlier this year. He said, after

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<v Speaker 4>years and years of illegal and unconstitutional federal efforts to

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<v Speaker 4>restrict free expression, I will sign an executive order to

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<v Speaker 4>immediately stop all government censorship and bring back free speech

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<v Speaker 4>to America. There his words months ago. And so I

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<v Speaker 4>think everyone is going, hang on, this is absolute hypocrisy.

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<v Speaker 4>It is a double standard. There are fractures within the

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<v Speaker 4>party that are going this is what we fought for.

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<v Speaker 4>As you say, Holly, it is something that has been

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<v Speaker 4>pinned on the left in terms of cancel culture and

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<v Speaker 4>workism and you know, political correctness gone mad. But the

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<v Speaker 4>thing about that, and I would argue, we've talked about

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<v Speaker 4>cancel culture on this show. There are definitely instances where

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<v Speaker 4>there's been overreach, but that's often self censorship, a board

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<v Speaker 4>maybe trying to be really really careful and not offend people.

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<v Speaker 4>The difference here is that it's hard power, not soft power.

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<v Speaker 4>That's why I think it feels so scary.

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<v Speaker 5>When I spoke to John Barron about this and the Quickie,

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<v Speaker 5>he said, the big difference is these directives are coming

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<v Speaker 5>from the president down, which has not been the case.

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<v Speaker 5>It's normally like a public opinion or is a business

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<v Speaker 5>level decision, but this is very much coming from the

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<v Speaker 5>White House itself.

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<v Speaker 4>Often it's within the interests of like, for example, they

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<v Speaker 4>don't want to lose advertisers. This happens in Australia. Someone

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<v Speaker 4>says something offensive, they don't want to lose advertisers. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>that's a soft power that it can be troubling. But

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<v Speaker 4>this is a directive coming from within the White House.

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<v Speaker 4>And that's why it feels like communist China. Like it

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<v Speaker 4>feels as though you're living under a government who gets

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<v Speaker 4>to decide what you can and cannot say. And the

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<v Speaker 4>profound paradox in all of this is, of course they're going,

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<v Speaker 4>even at the memorial, look at this bastion of free speech.

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<v Speaker 4>You will look his opponents in the eye and speak

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<v Speaker 4>to them. And now you're going, you can't disagree with

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<v Speaker 4>what Kirk said, the man who got killed for saying

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<v Speaker 4>things that like, that's where it leads. Suppression of free

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<v Speaker 4>speech leads to something like a bullet because you say,

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<v Speaker 4>I do not want that person to speak anymore. I

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<v Speaker 4>do not think that person deserves a platform. It is

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<v Speaker 4>where you go in terms of an authoritarian regime. This

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<v Speaker 4>has played out throughout history, and I think that's why

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<v Speaker 4>people My first reaction upon seeing this story was, this

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<v Speaker 4>is really scary shit.

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<v Speaker 2>It is scary shit. I think it comes from a

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<v Speaker 2>basic place because, as has been widely what Jimmy Kimmel

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<v Speaker 2>said there was not that shocking, right. And also on

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<v Speaker 2>the day of Charlie Kirk's assassination, Jimmy Kimmel, like most

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<v Speaker 2>mainstream democratic figures, said exactly what they should have said,

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<v Speaker 2>which is, my heart goes out to his family. This

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<v Speaker 2>is inexcusable. Like he did all of those things right,

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<v Speaker 2>What this is actually about is that President Trump hates

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<v Speaker 2>to be mocked. Let's face it, most of us do, right.

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<v Speaker 2>But from all the way back before he was seriously

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<v Speaker 2>standing for politics, the Jimmy Kimmels of the world, in

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<v Speaker 2>Trump's view, people that he would broadly call the Hollywood elite,

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<v Speaker 2>the leftist Hollywood elite, have taunted him, not taken him seriously,

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<v Speaker 2>taken the piss out of him. It goes all the

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<v Speaker 2>way back to President Obama at the White House correspondence

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<v Speaker 2>dinner in twenty eleven, who stood up and roasted him,

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<v Speaker 2>and he was in the room at the time. Trump

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<v Speaker 2>he was a guest of Newsweek, and Seth Meyers stood

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<v Speaker 2>up and said, Donald Trump says he's going to run

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<v Speaker 2>for a president as a Republican, which is surprising since

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<v Speaker 2>I just assumed he was running as a joke, and

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<v Speaker 2>everybody just took the piss out of him. And many

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<v Speaker 2>Trump insiders say that was the moment when Trump went,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm coming for you lot, and look what's happened. He did,

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<v Speaker 2>and he won, and he didn't need any of these

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<v Speaker 2>guys who have been, let's be honest, trashing him for decades.

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<v Speaker 2>He didn't need any of them to get him to power.

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<v Speaker 2>He doesn't really need their approval, but he hates their

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<v Speaker 2>derision and he's been waiting for this. As Murphy said,

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<v Speaker 2>Colbert is going off air. He said that Jimmy Kimmel

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<v Speaker 2>was next. Now he says that Falon's next, seth Myers

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<v Speaker 2>is next. All these guys are going to go. It's

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<v Speaker 2>interesting because their power is reduced in lots of ways

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<v Speaker 2>since nobody watches network TV anymore. But they will all go,

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<v Speaker 2>and as they lose their jobs from their networks, they

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<v Speaker 2>will all go to YouTube, to podcast, to all the

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<v Speaker 2>different tech platforms, and they will speak there and whether

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<v Speaker 2>or not they really have clout anymore. I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>that classic thing in a way that what may lead

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<v Speaker 2>to this authoritarianism is like a man's bruised ego.

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<v Speaker 8>You know.

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<v Speaker 5>There's also some reports going around that people like Colbert

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<v Speaker 5>and a bunch of others in the background are starting a.

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<v Speaker 3>Rogue news network, which will.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm guessing be Internet based in some way, shape or form.

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<v Speaker 2>Which is what lots of the right guys have done.

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<v Speaker 2>It's what Toker Carlson's done and not. You know, like

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<v Speaker 2>this is where all these people are talking now.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, exactly right.

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<v Speaker 5>So it looks like it might create a whole new

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<v Speaker 5>network of sort of left wing ideology there. But just

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<v Speaker 5>before we stop talking about this, like do we need

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<v Speaker 5>to check ourselves and just look at this from the

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<v Speaker 5>other perspective for a minute.

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<v Speaker 4>I've been thinking about this because I don't think that

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<v Speaker 4>free speech is unlimited.

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<v Speaker 3>It never has been.

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<v Speaker 4>I think that there are things that Jimmy Kimmel could

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<v Speaker 4>have got up and said that are so offensive that

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<v Speaker 4>actually maybe would have warranted a little bit of censorship.

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<v Speaker 4>So if he had come up and incited violence, excused violence,

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<v Speaker 4>said I'm glad he died, he had it coming, who's next?

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<v Speaker 1>Yep.

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<v Speaker 4>Absolutely, I think that there would be a really important

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<v Speaker 4>national conversation because there is a standard of speech that exists.

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<v Speaker 4>But he didn't say any of those things. And my

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<v Speaker 4>first response to this story was, oh, well, I'm going

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<v Speaker 4>to look really closely at what Jimmy Kimmel said, because

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<v Speaker 4>some left wing commentators have feared into that, and if

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<v Speaker 4>that were on the other side, we would be just

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<v Speaker 4>as horrified. But to me, it's the banality of what

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<v Speaker 4>he said. His crime was being imprecise, Like what he

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<v Speaker 4>said was actually factually wrong. It was early days. He

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<v Speaker 4>didn't know it was wrong yet, and so that's something

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<v Speaker 4>that you know. Inaccuracy, you can definitely charge him with that,

0:19:37.074 --> 0:19:40.594
<v Speaker 4>But inaccuracy doesn't get anyone else pulled off the air.

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<v Speaker 4>And then some people said, well, the ratings were shit,

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<v Speaker 4>so they were just looking for an excuse. That's okay,

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<v Speaker 4>but you don't pull people off immediately for bad ratings.

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<v Speaker 1>You wind him up.

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<v Speaker 2>You're right, Murphy in lots of ways. And I think

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<v Speaker 2>that one of the things about this is is that

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<v Speaker 2>when I looked at all the responses from the other

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<v Speaker 2>late night guys, and they were all very clever, because

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<v Speaker 2>these are very clever people, and they've got huge staffs

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<v Speaker 2>of writing people who are also very clever people, and

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<v Speaker 2>they are exactly as I said before, the kind of

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<v Speaker 2>people that Trump would dismiss as Hollywood at least, and

0:20:09.314 --> 0:20:12.714
<v Speaker 2>they're thinking of the cleverest, funniest ways to go viral

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<v Speaker 2>by mocking the president. I would suggest that one of

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<v Speaker 2>the things we learned last year is that you can

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<v Speaker 2>have every famous, powerful Hollywood person on your side, from

0:20:24.554 --> 0:20:27.954
<v Speaker 2>Taylor Swift to Bad Bunny to every single Hollywood starter.

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<v Speaker 2>George Clooney and you're still not going to win the

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<v Speaker 2>election because nobody likes being mocked and dismissed and taking

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<v Speaker 2>the piss out of And that goes for Donald Trump,

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<v Speaker 2>but it also goes for Donald Trump's supporters.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it does.

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<v Speaker 4>But I would say that parody and comedy and sending

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<v Speaker 4>things up. In the world of comedy, the rules are

0:20:46.714 --> 0:20:48.954
<v Speaker 4>that kind of nothing is untouchable, and so of course

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<v Speaker 4>these shows were going to touch it in the same way,

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<v Speaker 4>whether you were right or left, you were going.

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<v Speaker 1>To touch it.

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<v Speaker 5>South Park they didn't have an episode go live last week,

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<v Speaker 5>and they put it down to they left it too

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<v Speaker 5>late and didn't get it finished.

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<v Speaker 4>Thirty years and they always managed to get it finished.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that was a smart move on their part

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<v Speaker 2>because of they've been all over the headlines lately. For

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<v Speaker 2>I was just saying how Donald Trump doesn't like to

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<v Speaker 2>be mocked. They have been mocking him on an extreme

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<v Speaker 2>scandal more than anyone from the micro penis down exactly,

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<v Speaker 2>So those guys would have to be worried. And I

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<v Speaker 2>think if they made a call to not go to

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<v Speaker 2>air the week of Charlie Kirk's murder because they knew

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<v Speaker 2>what they had was inflammatory. I would say that was

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<v Speaker 2>probably a smart choice. I think that's exactly what happened.

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<v Speaker 2>Not to defend censorship in any way. In a moment,

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<v Speaker 2>do you cry on your birthday? So do we and

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<v Speaker 2>now we know why. Jesse Claire, do you cry on

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<v Speaker 2>your birthdays?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I need to know more details about both these things.

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<v Speaker 2>At what point on your birthday do you normally cry?

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<v Speaker 2>Jesse Stevens normally more than once.

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<v Speaker 4>But I've identified yeah, And I've identified the moment where

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<v Speaker 4>I cry, and it's when I am doing something mundane.

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<v Speaker 4>So I find myself mopping the floor, scraping a dish,

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<v Speaker 4>putting on the dishwasher, and I think it's my fucking

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<v Speaker 4>bird and why am I doing this task? And I

0:22:10.834 --> 0:22:13.074
<v Speaker 4>also get that feeling on Christmas.

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<v Speaker 2>So basically, a birthday should be a day off from

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<v Speaker 2>boring activities.

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<v Speaker 3>It should free path only be extraordinary.

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<v Speaker 2>Murphy, do you like Do you like birthdays or not

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<v Speaker 2>like birthdays?

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<v Speaker 7>Oh?

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<v Speaker 5>I love my birthday. I also share my birthday with

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<v Speaker 5>the spookiest.

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<v Speaker 1>Holiday of the year. Oh, so Halloween.

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<v Speaker 5>I get to go trick or treating with my child,

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<v Speaker 5>which has not always been my favorite thing to do.

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<v Speaker 1>But now I've kind of come around to it, but

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<v Speaker 1>I do not cry on my birthday.

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<v Speaker 5>I've made it very clear to my family that I

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<v Speaker 5>will not be doing any mondane work on that day,

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<v Speaker 5>and that is purely up to them to do all

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<v Speaker 5>of that shit and also wait on me hand and foot.

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<v Speaker 5>My husband has been well trained to provide cups of

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<v Speaker 5>teas in bed if it is a weekend. He's been

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<v Speaker 5>very well trained to cook me dinner or take me somewhere.

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<v Speaker 5>This has been well established in my household. Plus, I

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<v Speaker 5>am the youngest child in my family by a long way,

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<v Speaker 5>so like there's a big gap between my brother and

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<v Speaker 5>sister and I.

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<v Speaker 1>I have been spoy yelled like.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So Murphy is the queen of the birthday boundaries.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I've discovered, now, how you, Holly, I have

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<v Speaker 2>been known to cry on my birthday. But the reason

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<v Speaker 2>I'm asking you this is because we ran a piece

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<v Speaker 2>on Mamma Mia this week which a lot of women

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<v Speaker 2>have related to, right, which was about why women cry

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<v Speaker 2>on the birthday because apparently it's very common, very common,

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<v Speaker 2>and there are a number of reasons. But back day

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<v Speaker 2>in this piece, she wrote, for example, there was somebody

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<v Speaker 2>who she spoke to who said the biggest fight she's

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<v Speaker 2>ever had with her partner was over his failure to

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<v Speaker 2>post a public display of birthday love on Instagram, even

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<v Speaker 2>though the last time he'd posted was in two thousand

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<v Speaker 2>and sixty. So very reasonable things here. Some people said,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe it's just an echo of the day that you

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<v Speaker 2>first entered the world, scrunched faced and crying and trying

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<v Speaker 2>to figure out all this shit.

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<v Speaker 4>It does feel overwhelming in the same way being born.

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<v Speaker 2>Mike, yes, exactly, and counselor Julie Sweet said, the reason

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<v Speaker 2>that a lot of women cry is because disappointment and

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<v Speaker 2>conflicting emotions often present when the pressure to appear happy

0:24:08.434 --> 0:24:11.354
<v Speaker 2>doesn't match in a feeling. So, no matter what's going

0:24:11.354 --> 0:24:13.834
<v Speaker 2>on in your life, maybe your relationship is falling apart,

0:24:13.914 --> 0:24:16.434
<v Speaker 2>maybe you're sick, maybe your kid's being a shit, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>your boss is being a shit, whatever's happening on your birthday,

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<v Speaker 2>it's still happening, but you have to kind of pretend

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<v Speaker 2>that it isn't and that can be overwhelming. So she said,

0:24:25.674 --> 0:24:28.754
<v Speaker 2>Julie Sweet, that this creates a double whammy of overwhelm

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<v Speaker 2>and internalized blame, and we end up wondering why we're

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<v Speaker 2>not happier, all the while berating ourselves for not feeling

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<v Speaker 2>grateful enough.

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<v Speaker 1>I know what that's like.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and I wonder too if it's my expectations are

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<v Speaker 4>unsaid because they are unacknowledged within myself, Like I couldn't

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<v Speaker 4>if I tried to journal what I wanted my birthday

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<v Speaker 4>to look like. I don't necessarily have a vision or

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<v Speaker 4>the words, but some part of me clearly has a

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<v Speaker 4>standard for the day that is never realized.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's complicate, more complicated for you because you share

0:25:04.154 --> 0:25:07.434
<v Speaker 2>your birthday. You're a twin right, so through your life,

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<v Speaker 2>was it important for your family to make a fuss

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<v Speaker 2>of Jesse, make a fuss of Claire? And we also

0:25:12.514 --> 0:25:15.514
<v Speaker 2>have the added thing you and I have being Christmas babies. Yep,

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<v Speaker 2>so one of the things you'll got ripped.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh we do.

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<v Speaker 2>One of the things that I often used to happen,

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<v Speaker 2>not anymore, but I used to struggle with on my

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<v Speaker 2>birthday when I was younger, is I was like, nobody

0:25:25.234 --> 0:25:28.394
<v Speaker 2>cares because everybody's focused on Christmas and I'm only going

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<v Speaker 2>to get joint presents and nobody wants to celebrate d

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<v Speaker 2>And there would be that kind of sulky la laugh

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<v Speaker 2>thing about.

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<v Speaker 4>It, which is all true. But I think that whether

0:25:36.354 --> 0:25:38.314
<v Speaker 4>we want to admit it or not, we do build

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<v Speaker 4>it up. As like even when we look at a

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<v Speaker 4>calendar year, right, if you were going to put the

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<v Speaker 4>first things in, you'd go, well, that's Christmas and that's

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<v Speaker 4>my birthday. Like it is, it exists in my head

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<v Speaker 4>all year round. The trick I have started to adopt

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<v Speaker 4>is I must have a plan. And I resisted that

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<v Speaker 4>for a while because I thought that plans inevitably bring

0:25:59.234 --> 0:26:01.194
<v Speaker 4>with them expectations and I don't want to be disappointed.

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<v Speaker 5>And was there an expectation that someone else make those

0:26:03.394 --> 0:26:07.273
<v Speaker 5>plans because it's your birthday? Maybe maybe I expect to

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<v Speaker 5>wake up and just be take him through a day

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<v Speaker 5>of joy. And that's never happened.

0:26:12.314 --> 0:26:14.954
<v Speaker 4>Like my mum was always just pissed off because it

0:26:14.994 --> 0:26:15.954
<v Speaker 4>was nearly Christmas.

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<v Speaker 5>Like, so your mom popped out like twins after twins,

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<v Speaker 5>like she had a lot on her plate.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, like she did not care and no, she didn't

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<v Speaker 4>care about making it special for each of us.

0:26:24.994 --> 0:26:25.714
<v Speaker 3>She was tired.

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<v Speaker 4>So I now A'm like, it's the existing in those

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<v Speaker 4>moments of in between that I really really don't like.

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<v Speaker 4>And I've found that with Christmas too, that I wake up,

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<v Speaker 4>I have this excitement that I kind of didn't even

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<v Speaker 4>expect to have.

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<v Speaker 3>I still have it.

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<v Speaker 4>And you have a plan, and sometimes you'll go and

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<v Speaker 4>do the plan, but then I don't like when the

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<v Speaker 4>plan's done, I'm just at home, and at six o'clock

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<v Speaker 4>on Christmas night, I feel sick because I'm just like,

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<v Speaker 4>this is just like any other night. What am I

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<v Speaker 4>meant to have leftovers? This is Christmas like?

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm horrified by that.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the thing, said the experts say. And I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to get to your excellent birthday boundaries in a minute,

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<v Speaker 2>Claire Murphy, because you have got the right idea, you'll

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<v Speaker 2>be surprised to hear the experts say that managing expectations

0:27:09.674 --> 0:27:12.674
<v Speaker 2>is the absolute key to this right, but also for

0:27:12.754 --> 0:27:15.434
<v Speaker 2>the people around you to understand what's required of them.

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<v Speaker 4>Now.

0:27:15.834 --> 0:27:19.034
<v Speaker 2>There was a brilliant piece online about a man who's

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<v Speaker 2>trying to opt out of his wife's unrealistic birthday expectations.

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<v Speaker 2>He said, they've been married for years, and they've got kids,

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<v Speaker 2>and she really wants a big, big, big fuss on

0:27:28.034 --> 0:27:30.834
<v Speaker 2>the birthday, and he's worked out over the years that

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<v Speaker 2>no matter what he does, it isn't enough. So one

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<v Speaker 2>year he'd planned her she wanted to go skydiving, she

0:27:35.834 --> 0:27:37.874
<v Speaker 2>wanted a picnic in a hot air balloon, whatever, and

0:27:37.874 --> 0:27:40.474
<v Speaker 2>he did it all, and she still ended up in

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<v Speaker 2>tears at the end.

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<v Speaker 1>Of her Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. And so he had written online and he'd said,

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<v Speaker 2>I've decided to set a boundary that I'm just out

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<v Speaker 2>of the birthday business because I can't win, and we

0:27:50.754 --> 0:27:53.114
<v Speaker 2>just have a big fight every year. I told her calmly,

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<v Speaker 2>and she responded with shrug shoulders that she knew I'd

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<v Speaker 2>changed my mind. He told her that he's not going

0:27:57.274 --> 0:27:59.194
<v Speaker 2>to plan anything. He's not going to do anything right.

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<v Speaker 2>Her birthday is now two months away, he writes, and

0:28:01.954 --> 0:28:04.954
<v Speaker 2>she's been coy, silly, persistent in hints that she's excited

0:28:04.994 --> 0:28:07.954
<v Speaker 2>to see what I've got planned. And he's said, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>planning a nice dinner at home with our kids and

0:28:10.354 --> 0:28:13.834
<v Speaker 2>anything else you need to plan yourself. His wife now

0:28:13.834 --> 0:28:20.074
<v Speaker 2>thinks that this is a strategy to hide reverse psychology. Really, so, Murphy,

0:28:20.674 --> 0:28:23.434
<v Speaker 2>what's going to happen to this poor man? And are

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<v Speaker 2>we sometimes unrealistic in our birthday boundary demands.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah we are, and we're unrealistic about a lot of

0:28:29.994 --> 0:28:33.194
<v Speaker 5>these things. We're unrealistic about what marriage looks, like, we're

0:28:33.274 --> 0:28:37.073
<v Speaker 5>unrealistic about our relationship with our boss. Like we're unrealistic

0:28:37.074 --> 0:28:39.194
<v Speaker 5>about so many things. And like that could be for

0:28:39.274 --> 0:28:41.634
<v Speaker 5>many reasons. Maybe your mum and dad had the most

0:28:41.674 --> 0:28:44.034
<v Speaker 5>wonderful relationship in the world, and Dad's spoiled mum and

0:28:44.074 --> 0:28:46.794
<v Speaker 5>now you are ruined for every other man that comes after,

0:28:47.354 --> 0:28:50.834
<v Speaker 5>or like maybe it's because you've watched too many rom coms.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know whatever it came from. But like, it's

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<v Speaker 5>not that I have low expectations. It's just that I

0:28:56.834 --> 0:29:01.074
<v Speaker 5>don't expect everyone to I don't know, like stop their

0:29:01.234 --> 0:29:04.154
<v Speaker 5>entire lives for one day, Like I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 5>just I want people to acknowledge that is my birthday,

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<v Speaker 5>by me gifts.

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<v Speaker 1>I love.

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<v Speaker 5>My kid creates the most ridiculous artwork for my birthday

0:29:12.354 --> 0:29:12.874
<v Speaker 5>and I love that.

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<v Speaker 1>So, like, there's lots of things that I do expect.

0:29:15.554 --> 0:29:17.554
<v Speaker 5>But if my husband was to get up and go,

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<v Speaker 5>I have got an emergency at work. I can't do

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<v Speaker 5>your birthday thing today?

0:29:22.514 --> 0:29:23.074
<v Speaker 1>Is that Okay.

0:29:23.114 --> 0:29:25.234
<v Speaker 5>I'd be like, yeah, cool, get on with my day,

0:29:25.314 --> 0:29:27.394
<v Speaker 5>Like I'm not so let down by it.

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<v Speaker 2>At the end of it all, Jesse, you're going to

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<v Speaker 2>hate one of the suggestions that the expert had, because

0:29:32.314 --> 0:29:34.554
<v Speaker 2>we've talked about this on the show before. Instead of

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<v Speaker 2>making it your birthday day, make it a birthday week

0:29:37.154 --> 0:29:40.034
<v Speaker 2>because you spread your expectations out across the week.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you think that is why people have started doing

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<v Speaker 2>birthday weeks.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a good point.

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<v Speaker 4>But then it's like, it's a Monday morning, and I'm

0:29:49.034 --> 0:29:51.754
<v Speaker 4>indignant because the Monday mornings aren't meant to happen during

0:29:51.754 --> 0:29:54.634
<v Speaker 4>my birthday week. Like I have the pleasure of never

0:29:55.594 --> 0:29:59.074
<v Speaker 4>nearly never having to work on my birthday because.

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<v Speaker 2>It's very often sometimes, but it's very often almost holidays,

0:30:02.954 --> 0:30:03.394
<v Speaker 2>isn't it.

0:30:03.434 --> 0:30:05.474
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, which maybe puts more pressure on it.

0:30:06.034 --> 0:30:09.514
<v Speaker 4>Like it was always also school holidays, so it was

0:30:09.634 --> 0:30:14.474
<v Speaker 4>like the sitting around waiting for a fuss to be

0:30:14.594 --> 0:30:18.794
<v Speaker 4>made was just always so so unmeat. It was Luca's

0:30:18.834 --> 0:30:22.474
<v Speaker 4>birthday over the weekend, and he was just like not

0:30:22.514 --> 0:30:24.154
<v Speaker 4>interested in doing and I kept trying to push something

0:30:24.194 --> 0:30:26.914
<v Speaker 4>because I was like, you'll be disappointed. You'll be disappointed,

0:30:27.154 --> 0:30:27.834
<v Speaker 4>and we sat.

0:30:27.674 --> 0:30:29.834
<v Speaker 1>There realistically, you'll be disappointed.

0:30:30.034 --> 0:30:31.714
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well he was fine.

0:30:31.714 --> 0:30:33.874
<v Speaker 4>On Saturday night we watched TVA and a Mexican. I

0:30:33.914 --> 0:30:35.554
<v Speaker 4>was like, this is the saddest thing ever, and he

0:30:35.754 --> 0:30:38.314
<v Speaker 4>was absolutely found it very joyful.

0:30:38.354 --> 0:30:40.474
<v Speaker 2>You need to have your rules, so as you've got Murphy,

0:30:40.514 --> 0:30:42.994
<v Speaker 2>You're like, I expect these things to happen. I expect

0:30:42.994 --> 0:30:44.674
<v Speaker 2>the people who live in my house to do these things.

0:30:44.674 --> 0:30:46.794
<v Speaker 2>They're not extravagant things, but they're things that matter. And

0:30:46.874 --> 0:30:48.674
<v Speaker 2>I'm the same. I'm like, whoever's birthday is in our

0:30:48.674 --> 0:30:51.754
<v Speaker 2>house gets breakfast in bed. Whatever they want for their birthday, Yeah, breakfast.

0:30:52.154 --> 0:30:53.594
<v Speaker 2>So if it's one of the kids' birthdays and they

0:30:53.634 --> 0:30:56.074
<v Speaker 2>want chocolate for breakfast on their birthday, they can have it, fabulo.

0:30:56.114 --> 0:30:58.634
<v Speaker 2>That's no problem. I expect to be able to be

0:30:58.754 --> 0:31:01.274
<v Speaker 2>eating what I want for dinner that night, whether it's

0:31:01.274 --> 0:31:04.554
<v Speaker 2>out or in, and I expect, as previously discussed, to

0:31:04.674 --> 0:31:07.394
<v Speaker 2>not have to empty the dishwasher. Those are the can

0:31:07.434 --> 0:31:07.954
<v Speaker 2>I ask.

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<v Speaker 3>A question quickly?

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<v Speaker 4>I keep saying to people around me, it's the big

0:31:13.074 --> 0:31:15.194
<v Speaker 4>thirty five this year. I want to do something special

0:31:15.234 --> 0:31:15.954
<v Speaker 4>for my thirty fifth.

0:31:16.034 --> 0:31:18.634
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry the what Okay, No, this is good.

0:31:18.834 --> 0:31:21.554
<v Speaker 4>People have started to react, like Uclaire, where they're like,

0:31:21.954 --> 0:31:24.514
<v Speaker 4>thirty five ain't a big birthday and I'm like, guys,

0:31:24.674 --> 0:31:26.234
<v Speaker 4>I think we should go away for my birthday and

0:31:26.234 --> 0:31:27.674
<v Speaker 4>they're like, thirty five isn't a mile.

0:31:27.754 --> 0:31:28.594
<v Speaker 1>So no it's not.

0:31:28.674 --> 0:31:30.594
<v Speaker 5>You get eighteen, you get twenty one, and then it's

0:31:30.634 --> 0:31:31.754
<v Speaker 5>ten year increments from that.

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<v Speaker 2>Note, you're on trend. My brother so he had he

0:31:35.314 --> 0:31:38.754
<v Speaker 2>was fifty five this year. Yes, we're ancient, and he

0:31:38.954 --> 0:31:41.514
<v Speaker 2>had a massive party. He didn't have a massive party

0:31:41.514 --> 0:31:43.914
<v Speaker 2>even for his fiftieth, but he had a massive party.

0:31:44.074 --> 0:31:48.554
<v Speaker 2>Apparently in Europe, the five years there we go europaid

0:31:48.714 --> 0:31:52.234
<v Speaker 2>turn is becoming more and more popular as the one

0:31:52.314 --> 0:31:55.674
<v Speaker 2>because the Zeros are so confronting zero.

0:31:55.714 --> 0:31:58.794
<v Speaker 1>It's like I confront you that halfway through.

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<v Speaker 2>So you are on trend.

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<v Speaker 4>Jesse Stevens, Okay, see I've got to do something big

0:32:02.474 --> 0:32:03.914
<v Speaker 4>for my master birth Can I tell you what I'm

0:32:03.914 --> 0:32:06.874
<v Speaker 4>doing for my birthday this year? I'm turning forty seven,

0:32:06.954 --> 0:32:09.834
<v Speaker 4>so it's not at anything birthday, but my best friend

0:32:09.834 --> 0:32:11.234
<v Speaker 4>and I are going up to the Gold Coast and

0:32:11.234 --> 0:32:14.594
<v Speaker 4>we're recreating our childhood experiences by going to all the

0:32:14.634 --> 0:32:17.594
<v Speaker 4>worlds because we used to go to the Lord Kids.

0:32:17.794 --> 0:32:19.274
<v Speaker 2>That's so fine.

0:32:19.714 --> 0:32:21.394
<v Speaker 5>And the beauty of working at mamamir As you get

0:32:21.394 --> 0:32:23.074
<v Speaker 5>your birthday day off. I know that sucks for you

0:32:23.114 --> 0:32:27.074
<v Speaker 5>guys because often a public call it. Anyway, you get

0:32:27.074 --> 0:32:28.634
<v Speaker 5>your birthday day off and then you get to go

0:32:28.674 --> 0:32:30.714
<v Speaker 5>and have fun, which is really cool. So yeah, I'm

0:32:30.714 --> 0:32:33.154
<v Speaker 5>going to like dream World and wet and wild and stuff.

0:32:33.314 --> 0:32:34.674
<v Speaker 5>Oh that's so fun.

0:32:34.994 --> 0:32:37.034
<v Speaker 2>Do you think that man's marriage is going to survive?

0:32:37.114 --> 0:32:40.874
<v Speaker 2>The one who's often birthdays and his wife thinks he's planning.

0:32:41.434 --> 0:32:43.714
<v Speaker 1>That's going to be the biggest fight of their entire lives.

0:32:43.914 --> 0:32:46.394
<v Speaker 4>The advice was you need to write her a letter

0:32:46.394 --> 0:32:47.954
<v Speaker 4>to warn her, And I'm like, no, she'll just think

0:32:47.994 --> 0:32:50.514
<v Speaker 4>this is part of the elaborate prank. Like she's just

0:32:50.554 --> 0:32:53.154
<v Speaker 4>going to go, Wow, you've really lowered my expectations.

0:32:53.194 --> 0:32:55.474
<v Speaker 1>It's not gonna end well. It's not going to end well.

0:32:56.434 --> 0:32:59.914
<v Speaker 4>After the break a man named ned, some secret photographs

0:32:59.914 --> 0:33:03.074
<v Speaker 4>sent to his wife and the explosion of an internet career.

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<v Speaker 4>You either know nothing about this story or every little detail,

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<v Speaker 4>and I'm here to explain.

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0:33:16.434 --> 0:33:18.194
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<v Speaker 5>There was a story that went viral over the weekend

0:33:31.194 --> 0:33:33.114
<v Speaker 5>back in my hometown of Adelaide. I don't know if

0:33:33.114 --> 0:33:36.074
<v Speaker 5>you caught this, but a lady went to donate some

0:33:36.154 --> 0:33:39.714
<v Speaker 5>goods to her local second hand store and did something

0:33:39.754 --> 0:33:41.274
<v Speaker 5>that if you've ever given.

0:33:41.034 --> 0:33:43.674
<v Speaker 1>Birth to a child, we are all at risk of doing.

0:33:44.794 --> 0:33:47.594
<v Speaker 1>She went, dropped off the goods, all is well and good,

0:33:47.594 --> 0:33:49.034
<v Speaker 1>went back to the car. She's got a toddler and

0:33:49.074 --> 0:33:50.354
<v Speaker 1>a baby. She's strapping them all in.

0:33:50.634 --> 0:33:55.114
<v Speaker 5>She drives away, leaves behind her seven hundred dollar Bugaboo

0:33:55.194 --> 0:33:57.954
<v Speaker 5>pram And for anyone who's ever had babies, you know

0:33:57.994 --> 0:34:02.114
<v Speaker 5>what a status symbol a Bugaboo pram is. Anyhow, of course,

0:34:02.154 --> 0:34:04.114
<v Speaker 5>the thrift stall looks at it and goes, oh, someone's

0:34:04.154 --> 0:34:06.434
<v Speaker 5>just left this not where it's supposed to be. They

0:34:06.594 --> 0:34:09.473
<v Speaker 5>sold it to someone for twelve bucks, and then this

0:34:09.554 --> 0:34:10.434
<v Speaker 5>lady went on the internet.

0:34:10.433 --> 0:34:13.114
<v Speaker 1>She's like, I'm so sorry I left my pram behind.

0:34:13.354 --> 0:34:16.274
<v Speaker 5>Someone bought it for twelve bucks, desperately tried to like

0:34:16.354 --> 0:34:19.393
<v Speaker 5>get it back again. Apparently the woman who bought it

0:34:19.434 --> 0:34:21.794
<v Speaker 5>for twelve bucks, who thought she had the investment of

0:34:21.834 --> 0:34:25.433
<v Speaker 5>the century for moms, then came back and said, yeah,

0:34:25.434 --> 0:34:25.954
<v Speaker 5>look it was me.

0:34:26.274 --> 0:34:27.194
<v Speaker 1>I will give it back to you.

0:34:27.274 --> 0:34:30.714
<v Speaker 5>But then apparently Bugaboo has come back to the original

0:34:30.794 --> 0:34:32.994
<v Speaker 5>mum who lost your prem and s that here have

0:34:33.114 --> 0:34:33.914
<v Speaker 5>another one.

0:34:33.994 --> 0:34:34.594
<v Speaker 1>The other lady.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, wait, I have a big question that I keep

0:34:38.474 --> 0:34:42.354
<v Speaker 4>wondering with this story, because if I left my Pram

0:34:42.634 --> 0:34:45.794
<v Speaker 4>outside of Salvos, no one would touch.

0:34:46.474 --> 0:34:48.954
<v Speaker 2>You're thinking the same thing, because you know how before

0:34:48.994 --> 0:34:52.114
<v Speaker 2>you donate anything to the salvo that you meant to

0:34:52.154 --> 0:34:54.394
<v Speaker 2>clean it and you meant to have it all nice

0:34:54.394 --> 0:34:56.354
<v Speaker 2>and well crapped beautiful.

0:34:56.834 --> 0:34:59.473
<v Speaker 3>Must have Pram have been so my pre tailed it.

0:34:59.554 --> 0:35:01.594
<v Speaker 1>People would not detailed it like that.

0:35:02.034 --> 0:35:05.274
<v Speaker 4>Maybe she detailed for fear of infection, like it has

0:35:05.314 --> 0:35:09.834
<v Speaker 4>mandarin pills, half a banana, dirty wipes, toys like spills

0:35:09.874 --> 0:35:12.714
<v Speaker 4>of smoothie and juice all on the white thing, like

0:35:13.434 --> 0:35:16.474
<v Speaker 4>the fact that it was in such condition that it

0:35:16.594 --> 0:35:19.393
<v Speaker 4>was sellable. But I reckon I have thought this with

0:35:19.434 --> 0:35:22.274
<v Speaker 4>prams because I'm in my parme Era. Love it the

0:35:22.354 --> 0:35:25.554
<v Speaker 4>places I leave the pram because I feel as though

0:35:25.994 --> 0:35:26.953
<v Speaker 4>like it's got this.

0:35:27.434 --> 0:35:30.634
<v Speaker 3>Stench, yes, stench that's like no one will ever.

0:35:30.514 --> 0:35:31.594
<v Speaker 2>Take active stench.

0:35:31.674 --> 0:35:34.274
<v Speaker 5>But also like a security aur about prams. Yeah, like

0:35:34.314 --> 0:35:36.154
<v Speaker 5>I see prams outside of places all the time. You

0:35:36.154 --> 0:35:38.234
<v Speaker 5>don't touch them, you don't steal them. They're for babies,

0:35:38.314 --> 0:35:40.874
<v Speaker 5>leave exactly. So I leave mine.

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<v Speaker 4>I will go I'm sure you're not meant to do this,

0:35:42.914 --> 0:35:45.114
<v Speaker 4>but like into my local. It's not a shopping center,

0:35:45.114 --> 0:35:47.393
<v Speaker 4>but it's like a little mall thing, right, And I

0:35:47.434 --> 0:35:49.914
<v Speaker 4>will leave it out the front because Luna's at the

0:35:49.954 --> 0:35:51.714
<v Speaker 4>age where she likes going up and down the escalator.

0:35:51.754 --> 0:35:54.554
<v Speaker 4>That's our excursion. So I will leave it sometimes for

0:35:54.674 --> 0:35:57.913
<v Speaker 4>thirty minutes with just whatever in it, thinking that no

0:35:57.914 --> 0:35:58.474
<v Speaker 4>one will touch it.

0:35:58.554 --> 0:35:59.754
<v Speaker 3>No one ever does touch it.

0:35:59.754 --> 0:36:00.433
<v Speaker 1>That's the rule.

0:36:00.554 --> 0:36:02.433
<v Speaker 4>So I if I were her, I would not be

0:36:02.474 --> 0:36:05.194
<v Speaker 4>expecting anyone to sell my buck a book.

0:36:05.234 --> 0:36:07.474
<v Speaker 2>I also feel for this woman because we all know

0:36:07.834 --> 0:36:11.394
<v Speaker 2>that to get the hand me downs to the Salvos,

0:36:11.434 --> 0:36:12.873
<v Speaker 2>she would have been driving around with them in the

0:36:12.874 --> 0:36:14.953
<v Speaker 2>back of her car for at least six months. We

0:36:14.994 --> 0:36:17.194
<v Speaker 2>all do that where you're like I'm definitely donating this,

0:36:17.274 --> 0:36:19.034
<v Speaker 2>I'm not throwing it out. But then you don't remember

0:36:19.274 --> 0:36:20.994
<v Speaker 2>she was driving around and she thought she had the

0:36:21.034 --> 0:36:22.274
<v Speaker 2>PRAM in the back of the car. The bit of

0:36:22.274 --> 0:36:24.993
<v Speaker 2>this story, she goes home, she opens the boot, it's

0:36:25.074 --> 0:36:27.474
<v Speaker 2>not there and the bags have gone, and she's like,

0:36:27.554 --> 0:36:29.034
<v Speaker 2>maybe I've had some kind of breakdown.

0:36:29.114 --> 0:36:29.514
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I.

0:36:30.994 --> 0:36:34.314
<v Speaker 2>Really feel for her. I understand it on a deep level.

0:36:34.794 --> 0:36:37.314
<v Speaker 2>And the fact that someone out there scored a dirty

0:36:37.314 --> 0:36:39.874
<v Speaker 2>bugaboo pram for twelve bucks, oh my god.

0:36:40.114 --> 0:36:43.114
<v Speaker 5>Applause, amazing And just finally, could we maybe normalize using

0:36:43.114 --> 0:36:45.194
<v Speaker 5>prams when you no longer have a baby?

0:36:45.674 --> 0:36:47.714
<v Speaker 1>Like, just thinking about this, I'm like, God.

0:36:47.554 --> 0:36:49.634
<v Speaker 5>I wish I still had a pram, Like the amount

0:36:49.674 --> 0:36:50.754
<v Speaker 5>of stuff you can fit.

0:36:50.634 --> 0:36:52.354
<v Speaker 1>In it, don't have to carry anything.

0:36:52.634 --> 0:36:54.994
<v Speaker 3>So Claire, I have not used a plastic bag for

0:36:55.034 --> 0:36:55.714
<v Speaker 3>more than two.

0:36:55.594 --> 0:36:57.234
<v Speaker 2>Years because I'm a mental warrant shark.

0:36:57.314 --> 0:37:00.034
<v Speaker 4>I just have like banana whatever I've bought, just in

0:37:00.074 --> 0:37:03.274
<v Speaker 4>the bottom of the pram. But the thing is, if

0:37:03.314 --> 0:37:04.913
<v Speaker 4>I see you walking down the street with a PRAM

0:37:04.914 --> 0:37:06.674
<v Speaker 4>and no baby, I just assume you drop the baby

0:37:06.674 --> 0:37:10.913
<v Speaker 4>off somewhere. I think that you can absolutely go for pram.

0:37:10.674 --> 0:37:11.594
<v Speaker 2>Your kid's ten, but.

0:37:13.714 --> 0:37:17.434
<v Speaker 5>Then eventually you could maybe convert into like a dog pram,

0:37:17.474 --> 0:37:18.274
<v Speaker 5>like you know, I'd.

0:37:18.194 --> 0:37:19.194
<v Speaker 3>See a lot of those around.

0:37:19.434 --> 0:37:19.634
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:37:19.914 --> 0:37:20.234
<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

0:37:20.274 --> 0:37:23.554
<v Speaker 5>Also the amount of stuff I've accidentally shoplifted because I've

0:37:23.554 --> 0:37:24.834
<v Speaker 5>put it in the bottom of the pram and then

0:37:24.874 --> 0:37:28.074
<v Speaker 5>walked out without paying for it. I apologize. I promise

0:37:28.154 --> 0:37:29.953
<v Speaker 5>not to do that anymore because it's not baby brain.

0:37:30.034 --> 0:37:32.834
<v Speaker 5>But like, can we just if we all had a pram,

0:37:33.074 --> 0:37:34.754
<v Speaker 5>we'd just be a much happier place.

0:37:34.834 --> 0:37:36.794
<v Speaker 2>I think, where's my midlife pram?

0:37:37.794 --> 0:37:39.034
<v Speaker 1>I've got a lot of shit.

0:37:38.834 --> 0:37:40.794
<v Speaker 2>To hurry around? Have you seen my skincare bag?

0:37:42.994 --> 0:37:45.354
<v Speaker 4>I want to introduce you both to an all or

0:37:45.394 --> 0:37:49.154
<v Speaker 4>nothing on a man named Ned former. If that rings

0:37:49.234 --> 0:37:52.074
<v Speaker 4>a bell, then you might be a rusted on out

0:37:52.114 --> 0:37:55.674
<v Speaker 4>louder who remembers our show from September twenty twenty two.

0:37:56.154 --> 0:38:01.314
<v Speaker 2>Who doesn't. Yes, I've committed exactly, yeah, every single one.

0:38:01.674 --> 0:38:04.554
<v Speaker 4>And that was three years ago, right, and our friend

0:38:04.554 --> 0:38:07.034
<v Speaker 4>Ned came up. Let's start at the beginning. Ned was

0:38:07.194 --> 0:38:09.314
<v Speaker 4>part of a group called the Try Guys. They were

0:38:09.354 --> 0:38:11.794
<v Speaker 4>all over BuzzFeed and then they went to YouTube and

0:38:12.314 --> 0:38:13.914
<v Speaker 4>you won't believe it, but they tried things.

0:38:14.274 --> 0:38:15.913
<v Speaker 2>They tried like a comedy kind of thing.

0:38:16.154 --> 0:38:19.194
<v Speaker 4>Yes, and they started like one of their most viral

0:38:19.274 --> 0:38:22.634
<v Speaker 4>videos was simulating labor paint. Well, they would try being

0:38:22.634 --> 0:38:24.594
<v Speaker 4>pregnant and put on like a pregnancy suit.

0:38:24.474 --> 0:38:26.834
<v Speaker 1>Or they saw one where they got waxed.

0:38:27.274 --> 0:38:30.594
<v Speaker 4>Yes, exactly right, just like try being a poker champion,

0:38:30.634 --> 0:38:34.913
<v Speaker 4>all that kind of stuff. And their videos had billions

0:38:34.954 --> 0:38:38.354
<v Speaker 4>of views, like they were totally, totally viral, and there

0:38:38.394 --> 0:38:43.154
<v Speaker 4>were four of them, and Ned Fulmer was known as

0:38:43.514 --> 0:38:45.354
<v Speaker 4>the wife guy. The reason he was kind of known

0:38:45.394 --> 0:38:46.913
<v Speaker 4>as that was that he had two little kids at

0:38:46.914 --> 0:38:50.274
<v Speaker 4>the time and his wife Ariel, who appeared in a

0:38:50.274 --> 0:38:53.634
<v Speaker 4>lot of the content as well. People really leaned into that.

0:38:53.674 --> 0:38:57.714
<v Speaker 2>Life guy became kind of like we've thrown it around

0:38:57.714 --> 0:38:59.913
<v Speaker 2>a lot, like I always say, David Beckham's a wife guy.

0:38:59.914 --> 0:39:02.914
<v Speaker 2>There are certain celebrities who are always like being really

0:39:02.914 --> 0:39:05.834
<v Speaker 2>in love with their wife is part of their brand.

0:39:05.674 --> 0:39:06.834
<v Speaker 3>And that started with Ned.

0:39:06.914 --> 0:39:07.114
<v Speaker 2>Ned.

0:39:07.154 --> 0:39:09.154
<v Speaker 3>It was the first time we heard he's the og

0:39:09.354 --> 0:39:11.033
<v Speaker 3>wife guy. He's the og wife guy.

0:39:11.954 --> 0:39:16.754
<v Speaker 4>And look that was until fans photographed Ned having an

0:39:16.794 --> 0:39:19.434
<v Speaker 4>affair with the producer of the show.

0:39:19.594 --> 0:39:22.034
<v Speaker 2>This is one of the problems with being a wife, guy,

0:39:22.314 --> 0:39:24.354
<v Speaker 2>is that if it turns out that you're not so

0:39:24.514 --> 0:39:26.514
<v Speaker 2>great to your wife. What happened?

0:39:26.834 --> 0:39:31.514
<v Speaker 4>So the fan was out and about and he was like,

0:39:31.594 --> 0:39:32.754
<v Speaker 4>he must have been kissing us.

0:39:32.834 --> 0:39:33.874
<v Speaker 3>It was very, very obvious.

0:39:33.914 --> 0:39:36.354
<v Speaker 4>But they took photos of Ned and this woman and

0:39:36.394 --> 0:39:39.954
<v Speaker 4>then sent them directly to Ariel He's white, directly to

0:39:40.034 --> 0:39:43.794
<v Speaker 4>the wife y outed by a fan, and then some

0:39:44.034 --> 0:39:49.873
<v Speaker 4>video photo thing went absolutely viral and ultimately Ned was

0:39:49.914 --> 0:39:52.754
<v Speaker 4>booted from the group. And this story to give you

0:39:52.754 --> 0:39:54.154
<v Speaker 4>a sense of how big it was at the time.

0:39:54.274 --> 0:39:57.314
<v Speaker 4>It was parodied on Saturday Night Life, it was in newspapers,

0:39:57.514 --> 0:39:59.714
<v Speaker 4>it was everywhere. It made it to us even though

0:39:59.754 --> 0:40:01.794
<v Speaker 4>we'd never heard of the Try guys before this moment.

0:40:02.594 --> 0:40:05.674
<v Speaker 4>Three years past, both of them disappeared. You've not heard

0:40:05.674 --> 0:40:09.393
<v Speaker 4>anything from them. It was one of the biggest cancelations ever.

0:40:09.754 --> 0:40:12.154
<v Speaker 1>Did they get divorced like we presumed that they split.

0:40:12.034 --> 0:40:13.154
<v Speaker 3>Up, We didn't know.

0:40:14.114 --> 0:40:18.873
<v Speaker 2>Lost his job. Basically they booted him from the crew

0:40:19.034 --> 0:40:21.674
<v Speaker 2>because he was bringing them into disrepute. Ye wow.

0:40:21.714 --> 0:40:24.754
<v Speaker 4>And there had been sightings those of the two sort

0:40:24.754 --> 0:40:26.433
<v Speaker 4>of around where they lived, and they were like, oh,

0:40:26.434 --> 0:40:28.514
<v Speaker 4>maybe they're still together, maybe they're not. We don't really know,

0:40:29.474 --> 0:40:33.314
<v Speaker 4>but Ned is back. He has a podcast called rock

0:40:33.354 --> 0:40:37.194
<v Speaker 4>Bottom where he interviews people who have made big mistakes

0:40:37.194 --> 0:40:39.433
<v Speaker 4>and he asked them how they came back. And the

0:40:39.474 --> 0:40:42.594
<v Speaker 4>first guest, which doesn't actually quite fulfill that promise of

0:40:42.594 --> 0:40:46.434
<v Speaker 4>a podcast, but anyway, his first guest is his wife Aeriel.

0:40:46.754 --> 0:40:48.953
<v Speaker 4>And here's a little taste of the conversation they had.

0:40:49.274 --> 0:40:54.994
<v Speaker 8>People ask me like, do you forgive Ned for what

0:40:56.394 --> 0:41:02.114
<v Speaker 8>he did? And I mean the answer is no, absolutely not.

0:41:02.914 --> 0:41:07.834
<v Speaker 8>How can you forgive somebody for like, for lying to you,

0:41:08.234 --> 0:41:11.594
<v Speaker 8>for cheating on you?

0:41:11.594 --> 0:41:11.834
<v Speaker 4>No?

0:41:12.634 --> 0:41:14.114
<v Speaker 2>Fuck no, fuck no.

0:41:14.474 --> 0:41:15.634
<v Speaker 1>I think I like Ariel.

0:41:16.154 --> 0:41:17.154
<v Speaker 3>I like Ariel a.

0:41:17.114 --> 0:41:20.314
<v Speaker 2>Lot, though she obviously has forgiven him, to the point

0:41:20.314 --> 0:41:22.513
<v Speaker 2>where when I was reading a little bit about this,

0:41:23.434 --> 0:41:25.674
<v Speaker 2>they talk about how they are kind of still together,

0:41:25.834 --> 0:41:27.794
<v Speaker 2>like they're not together, but they're together, like as in,

0:41:27.794 --> 0:41:30.794
<v Speaker 2>they're together as a family unit, they do things together

0:41:30.794 --> 0:41:33.114
<v Speaker 2>as a family. They're not explicit in whether or not

0:41:33.154 --> 0:41:37.034
<v Speaker 2>they've moved on or really got divorced, but clearly she

0:41:37.194 --> 0:41:41.274
<v Speaker 2>wants everybody to know that she did not stick with

0:41:41.434 --> 0:41:44.434
<v Speaker 2>that idiot who was so silly that he was cheating

0:41:44.514 --> 0:41:46.873
<v Speaker 2>in public as a famous person who was a.

0:41:46.794 --> 0:41:51.074
<v Speaker 4>Wife guy exactly. Interestingly, he isn't resentful about being canceled.

0:41:51.234 --> 0:41:53.714
<v Speaker 4>He says it was justified. And then he totally gets

0:41:53.754 --> 0:41:55.913
<v Speaker 4>it and that what the internet wants is a one

0:41:55.954 --> 0:41:59.194
<v Speaker 4>dimensional character, which he played into, which was his wife

0:41:59.234 --> 0:42:02.953
<v Speaker 4>guy thing. And in Good News, Ariel is setting up

0:42:02.994 --> 0:42:04.873
<v Speaker 4>a pottery business. I hope it was a link in

0:42:04.874 --> 0:42:08.114
<v Speaker 4>the show notes and we all that for her go

0:42:08.194 --> 0:42:09.114
<v Speaker 4>by a pottery.

0:42:08.874 --> 0:42:11.114
<v Speaker 2>So he's coming back and she's coming back in different

0:42:11.154 --> 0:42:13.714
<v Speaker 2>ways exactly now what he's been doing for money for

0:42:13.754 --> 0:42:14.314
<v Speaker 2>three years.

0:42:14.314 --> 0:42:18.114
<v Speaker 4>Here's my question, right, is because there has been an

0:42:18.354 --> 0:42:21.874
<v Speaker 4>enormous amount of resistance, people say, oh interesting. In the podcast,

0:42:21.914 --> 0:42:24.674
<v Speaker 4>she calls it the affair, he calls it the scandal. Right,

0:42:25.314 --> 0:42:28.074
<v Speaker 4>there's a lot of eye rolling. Three is a long time.

0:42:28.634 --> 0:42:31.714
<v Speaker 2>Does he go into any detail about the affair? I

0:42:31.714 --> 0:42:33.514
<v Speaker 2>think he says it's someone at work, right, But he

0:42:33.514 --> 0:42:35.954
<v Speaker 2>doesn't give you any context in how long was it

0:42:36.034 --> 0:42:36.393
<v Speaker 2>going on?

0:42:36.954 --> 0:42:39.154
<v Speaker 4>No, and then he says something that I didn't like

0:42:39.594 --> 0:42:43.194
<v Speaker 4>about how their marriage was kind of a fantasy and

0:42:43.234 --> 0:42:46.154
<v Speaker 4>the dream was starting to break. I really hate it

0:42:46.194 --> 0:42:49.034
<v Speaker 4>when an affair like this happens and they're kind of like, well,

0:42:49.154 --> 0:42:50.314
<v Speaker 4>you know, there was a problem with.

0:42:50.314 --> 0:42:51.634
<v Speaker 3>The marriage, even if that's true.

0:42:52.074 --> 0:42:54.994
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, just like it attempts to place blame on the

0:42:55.034 --> 0:42:57.274
<v Speaker 4>other person in a way that I think is really unhelpful.

0:42:57.434 --> 0:42:59.194
<v Speaker 5>Like life can get hard, you don't have to cheat

0:42:59.234 --> 0:43:01.354
<v Speaker 5>on your partner. You can have open discussions with them

0:43:01.354 --> 0:43:02.473
<v Speaker 5>and act like an adult.

0:43:02.354 --> 0:43:03.874
<v Speaker 3>And in the relationship that's allowed.

0:43:03.914 --> 0:43:07.474
<v Speaker 2>But is there a good way to be a amous

0:43:07.474 --> 0:43:10.234
<v Speaker 2>person or a public person and to come back from

0:43:10.234 --> 0:43:12.794
<v Speaker 2>a cheating scandal without looking like a dick. Because I'm

0:43:12.794 --> 0:43:16.393
<v Speaker 2>thinking about I mentioned before wife Guy Trademarke, wife Guy

0:43:16.474 --> 0:43:20.074
<v Speaker 2>David Beckham very famously there was a big cheating scandal

0:43:20.114 --> 0:43:23.154
<v Speaker 2>with Heat and Posh in the noughties. Their strategy has

0:43:23.154 --> 0:43:26.114
<v Speaker 2>always been don't talk about it. Just don't talk about it,

0:43:26.274 --> 0:43:28.393
<v Speaker 2>just don't go there, just don't give it oxygen. Even

0:43:28.434 --> 0:43:31.634
<v Speaker 2>in their documentary, the Beckham Documentary, it was kind of

0:43:31.714 --> 0:43:35.194
<v Speaker 2>referenced as we went through a hard time. Some of

0:43:35.194 --> 0:43:37.434
<v Speaker 2>the headlines even about that story were a bit edited.

0:43:37.474 --> 0:43:41.354
<v Speaker 2>So they've never given it fuel. Now this guy is

0:43:41.354 --> 0:43:43.034
<v Speaker 2>giving it a lot of fuel in a way, but

0:43:43.074 --> 0:43:45.634
<v Speaker 2>he's still kind of talking around it. As you say, Jesse,

0:43:45.794 --> 0:43:48.834
<v Speaker 2>he's calling it a scandal, a problem in my marriage,

0:43:48.874 --> 0:43:52.074
<v Speaker 2>he's not. Is there a way for a cheater, particularly

0:43:52.114 --> 0:43:54.834
<v Speaker 2>a male cheater, although maybe we don't see female cheaters

0:43:54.834 --> 0:43:58.314
<v Speaker 2>talking about publicly to win back a female audience, do

0:43:58.354 --> 0:43:58.834
<v Speaker 2>you reckon?

0:43:58.954 --> 0:44:01.194
<v Speaker 3>So that's a good point about the female audience.

0:44:01.394 --> 0:44:03.954
<v Speaker 4>That I should say as well is that eighty percent

0:44:03.994 --> 0:44:05.954
<v Speaker 4>of the Try guy's audience was young women. And I

0:44:05.994 --> 0:44:10.114
<v Speaker 4>think that's the other, the other important factor, and that

0:44:10.314 --> 0:44:13.554
<v Speaker 4>I don't think his crime was in fidelity. I think

0:44:13.554 --> 0:44:16.834
<v Speaker 4>his crime was being inauthentic. Yes, people felt as though

0:44:16.954 --> 0:44:20.393
<v Speaker 4>I was sold this version of you, and now I

0:44:20.434 --> 0:44:23.354
<v Speaker 4>saw someone in an article compare him to someone that

0:44:23.434 --> 0:44:25.354
<v Speaker 4>was a literal criminal, and I went, no, No, he's not

0:44:25.394 --> 0:44:27.714
<v Speaker 4>a criminal. He did something bad that a lot of

0:44:27.754 --> 0:44:29.754
<v Speaker 4>people do. I mean, even the word bad, like it's

0:44:29.834 --> 0:44:32.433
<v Speaker 4>very moralizing, like who or any of us to judge.

0:44:32.554 --> 0:44:35.194
<v Speaker 2>But she says she felt betrayed, So yeah, so we

0:44:35.314 --> 0:44:37.594
<v Speaker 2>know that for her, cheating was a line. Like we

0:44:37.674 --> 0:44:39.714
<v Speaker 2>talked about this when it was the Coldplay couple. You

0:44:39.754 --> 0:44:42.074
<v Speaker 2>don't always know what's going on in people's marriages. You

0:44:42.074 --> 0:44:44.434
<v Speaker 2>don't always know where they're up to and whether or

0:44:44.474 --> 0:44:46.794
<v Speaker 2>not they're separating or not. You don't always know. Maybe

0:44:46.794 --> 0:44:49.714
<v Speaker 2>they're open. Maybe they're not, but she has clearly said

0:44:49.754 --> 0:44:52.554
<v Speaker 2>here like this devastated me and I will never forgive you.

0:44:52.754 --> 0:44:54.993
<v Speaker 5>But I think what you said, Jesse then is so

0:44:55.074 --> 0:44:57.714
<v Speaker 5>true in that the audience that he was catering to,

0:44:57.994 --> 0:45:00.154
<v Speaker 5>being majority women, are going to be a lot harder

0:45:00.154 --> 0:45:02.913
<v Speaker 5>to win back than if your audience is majority men.

0:45:03.154 --> 0:45:06.314
<v Speaker 5>Like Donald Trump, for example, has famously cheated on his

0:45:06.354 --> 0:45:09.914
<v Speaker 5>wives and and so on and said awful things about women,

0:45:10.114 --> 0:45:12.194
<v Speaker 5>and yet it doesn't really matter for him that much

0:45:12.194 --> 0:45:15.393
<v Speaker 5>because the majority of his supporters are men. And I

0:45:15.394 --> 0:45:17.913
<v Speaker 5>think if you are catering to women, women are so

0:45:18.154 --> 0:45:20.954
<v Speaker 5>much more judgmental of you if you have hurt another woman,

0:45:21.554 --> 0:45:24.554
<v Speaker 5>unless for whatever reason, the Internet hates that woman, which

0:45:24.714 --> 0:45:27.714
<v Speaker 5>could be for various reasons. So we don't hate Ariel.

0:45:27.914 --> 0:45:30.354
<v Speaker 5>We like Ariel. So that's why it's going to be

0:45:30.354 --> 0:45:32.913
<v Speaker 5>really tough for him to come back unless he takes

0:45:32.914 --> 0:45:35.514
<v Speaker 5>full responsibility, which it sounds like he is definitely not

0:45:35.594 --> 0:45:36.234
<v Speaker 5>done well.

0:45:36.274 --> 0:45:38.834
<v Speaker 4>It's funny, right because even the name of the podcast

0:45:38.914 --> 0:45:42.274
<v Speaker 4>being rock bottom, Like if he went to the best

0:45:42.634 --> 0:45:45.634
<v Speaker 4>crisis PR team in the world, which I reckon he has,

0:45:46.074 --> 0:45:48.873
<v Speaker 4>and he said, what's a move? I think This is

0:45:48.954 --> 0:45:50.953
<v Speaker 4>exactly what they would tell him to do. I think

0:45:50.994 --> 0:45:54.274
<v Speaker 4>they'd say, laylo, try and repair things to some extent.

0:45:54.314 --> 0:45:56.194
<v Speaker 4>You don't have to get back together, but show that

0:45:56.274 --> 0:45:58.754
<v Speaker 4>she can tolerate you. That's a good start. Willing enough

0:45:58.754 --> 0:46:01.394
<v Speaker 4>to come on your podcast is enough? Yes, Yes, platform

0:46:01.434 --> 0:46:03.554
<v Speaker 4>her because the big thing is always like, well you

0:46:03.634 --> 0:46:05.834
<v Speaker 4>got your say, she didn't get hers, So give her

0:46:05.874 --> 0:46:06.354
<v Speaker 4>her say.

0:46:06.594 --> 0:46:08.953
<v Speaker 2>There's someone else, though, isn't there who isn't getting a say?

0:46:09.154 --> 0:46:12.274
<v Speaker 2>The other woman in this situation, which is why these

0:46:12.274 --> 0:46:15.274
<v Speaker 2>things are so thorny to discuss because we always talk

0:46:15.314 --> 0:46:17.634
<v Speaker 2>about like you can tell your truth, but your truth

0:46:17.674 --> 0:46:20.954
<v Speaker 2>nearly always involves someone else and their truth. So maybe

0:46:21.154 --> 0:46:23.994
<v Speaker 2>also wherever that woman is, the woman who was in

0:46:24.034 --> 0:46:26.593
<v Speaker 2>the photos that got sent to Ariel, this will blow

0:46:26.634 --> 0:46:28.393
<v Speaker 2>all this up for her as well. Like if I

0:46:28.514 --> 0:46:31.314
<v Speaker 2>was you know, we're all done our time as internet journalists.

0:46:31.714 --> 0:46:34.314
<v Speaker 2>Whatever happened to the woman that ned Fulmer was passing

0:46:34.394 --> 0:46:37.433
<v Speaker 2>in that restaurant, like, it also blows that back up

0:46:37.754 --> 0:46:41.074
<v Speaker 2>for her. So there's another strategy here, which is that

0:46:41.114 --> 0:46:44.274
<v Speaker 2>ned Fulmer came back to make an interesting and original

0:46:44.274 --> 0:46:46.194
<v Speaker 2>podcast about something that had nothing to do with his

0:46:46.274 --> 0:46:47.034
<v Speaker 2>personal life.

0:46:47.114 --> 0:46:49.114
<v Speaker 4>See, I don't think that was ever an option. I

0:46:49.154 --> 0:46:53.074
<v Speaker 4>reckon that he's brand now is rock bottom, Like that's

0:46:53.114 --> 0:46:55.873
<v Speaker 4>his brand and he needs white wife guy, and he

0:46:55.994 --> 0:47:00.114
<v Speaker 4>needs to own it and go I'm the guy that

0:47:00.434 --> 0:47:04.154
<v Speaker 4>was spat out by the internet ruthlessly. I'm going to

0:47:04.274 --> 0:47:08.514
<v Speaker 4>explore that in a series with like bear All, and

0:47:08.554 --> 0:47:10.354
<v Speaker 4>I think that we've seen a lot of men, even

0:47:10.514 --> 0:47:13.674
<v Speaker 4>like the Louis c ks is like they've got to

0:47:13.674 --> 0:47:14.714
<v Speaker 4>be the canceled dude.

0:47:14.834 --> 0:47:15.994
<v Speaker 3>They have to kind.

0:47:15.754 --> 0:47:18.393
<v Speaker 4>Of wear that for a while, right, even all their

0:47:18.394 --> 0:47:20.314
<v Speaker 4>specials are like corns anything.

0:47:21.234 --> 0:47:24.314
<v Speaker 2>You're so right, But as Murphy's just said, that works

0:47:24.354 --> 0:47:26.594
<v Speaker 2>okay for your brand if your brand was never squeaky

0:47:26.634 --> 0:47:28.314
<v Speaker 2>clean in the first place. Like the reason why you're

0:47:28.354 --> 0:47:30.834
<v Speaker 2>Donald Trump's and your Charlie Sheen's. You were talking about

0:47:30.834 --> 0:47:34.594
<v Speaker 2>that doco the other day, Like everybody knows that they

0:47:34.634 --> 0:47:37.274
<v Speaker 2>are not morally, you know, untouchable when it comes to

0:47:37.354 --> 0:47:39.834
<v Speaker 2>the cheating on their wives. Is probably good for their

0:47:39.874 --> 0:47:42.794
<v Speaker 2>brand in some twisted way. They're not pretending. You hit

0:47:42.834 --> 0:47:44.393
<v Speaker 2>the nail on the head before Jesse when he said

0:47:44.394 --> 0:47:47.913
<v Speaker 2>it's about the inauthenticity, which is why some people get

0:47:47.994 --> 0:47:50.433
<v Speaker 2>canceled for things that other people can say freely. It's

0:47:50.474 --> 0:47:52.594
<v Speaker 2>because they're like, well, I thought you were somebody different.

0:47:52.634 --> 0:47:53.714
<v Speaker 2>I didn't think you were that person.

0:47:54.274 --> 0:47:56.634
<v Speaker 3>Ellen DeGeneres her not being kind.

0:47:56.834 --> 0:47:58.714
<v Speaker 2>Because everyone was like, but she's the nice lady who

0:47:58.794 --> 0:48:01.634
<v Speaker 2>dances on the show. But it's interesting because your point

0:48:01.674 --> 0:48:03.634
<v Speaker 2>about this is a great strategy to come back into

0:48:03.674 --> 0:48:06.754
<v Speaker 2>viewing people at the bottom of pylons. Is that it

0:48:07.434 --> 0:48:10.554
<v Speaker 2>because he can't put himself in company of genuine victims,

0:48:10.674 --> 0:48:11.994
<v Speaker 2>do you know what I mean? Like people who have

0:48:12.114 --> 0:48:17.514
<v Speaker 2>genuinely been misrepresented bleed, Like he can't really put himself

0:48:17.554 --> 0:48:20.034
<v Speaker 2>in the company of that when he was having an

0:48:20.034 --> 0:48:23.714
<v Speaker 2>affair with a co worker and just was not smart

0:48:23.794 --> 0:48:25.834
<v Speaker 2>enough to be private about it.

0:48:25.874 --> 0:48:29.514
<v Speaker 5>Be interesting to see who his next guest lineup is,

0:48:29.674 --> 0:48:32.154
<v Speaker 5>because you're right, it would be pretty difficult for him

0:48:32.154 --> 0:48:35.034
<v Speaker 5>to connect with someone who's been canceled for other reasons.

0:48:35.074 --> 0:48:38.754
<v Speaker 5>But if his list of candidates is like other men

0:48:39.354 --> 0:48:42.314
<v Speaker 5>who've done things like that, might be interesting to hear

0:48:42.354 --> 0:48:43.554
<v Speaker 5>how men speak to.

0:48:43.514 --> 0:48:44.914
<v Speaker 1>Other men about these moments.

0:48:44.954 --> 0:48:49.154
<v Speaker 5>But I think trotting out Ariel forp one, I think

0:48:49.194 --> 0:48:50.674
<v Speaker 5>I could see what they were trying to do with that.

0:48:50.714 --> 0:48:52.953
<v Speaker 5>They want to blow open all the cobwebs. They don't

0:48:52.954 --> 0:48:55.514
<v Speaker 5>want anyone to ask any more questions. They want that

0:48:55.594 --> 0:48:58.474
<v Speaker 5>out of the way upfront, like, stop talking about it,

0:48:58.554 --> 0:48:59.674
<v Speaker 5>let's move on with this.

0:48:59.594 --> 0:49:01.114
<v Speaker 1>Now new podcast idea.

0:49:01.794 --> 0:49:04.194
<v Speaker 5>But I'm really interested to see who these next guests

0:49:04.234 --> 0:49:05.913
<v Speaker 5>are going to be, because I think that will then

0:49:05.994 --> 0:49:08.554
<v Speaker 5>mark what kind of guy this guy is.

0:49:09.034 --> 0:49:11.873
<v Speaker 2>I also think you nailed it in there. There's lots

0:49:11.914 --> 0:49:16.114
<v Speaker 2>of enthusiasm for Ariel because very often when a public

0:49:16.154 --> 0:49:18.433
<v Speaker 2>man is cheating and then his wife comes out and

0:49:18.474 --> 0:49:21.274
<v Speaker 2>says that she stood by him in whatever capacity, she

0:49:21.354 --> 0:49:23.794
<v Speaker 2>usually does say that she forgave him. She usually says

0:49:23.834 --> 0:49:26.114
<v Speaker 2>I knew he wasn't being himself. I knew he was

0:49:26.154 --> 0:49:28.554
<v Speaker 2>going through a hard time. I know there's a lot

0:49:28.554 --> 0:49:31.514
<v Speaker 2>of love here. And so to hear Ariel say quite

0:49:31.554 --> 0:49:35.714
<v Speaker 2>so clearly no fuck no about this, I think there'd

0:49:35.714 --> 0:49:37.154
<v Speaker 2>probably be a lot of women cheering.

0:49:37.354 --> 0:49:41.034
<v Speaker 4>And the question is whether this relaunch is gonna work.

0:49:41.474 --> 0:49:43.154
<v Speaker 4>Because he has every right to come back. He can

0:49:43.234 --> 0:49:44.354
<v Speaker 4>lost whatever show he wants.

0:49:44.434 --> 0:49:46.754
<v Speaker 2>You could argue that losing your job for a private

0:49:46.914 --> 0:49:50.394
<v Speaker 2>you know, is not really fair, but as we've already unpacked,

0:49:50.394 --> 0:49:54.234
<v Speaker 2>a's largely because he was being fraudulent in his representation exactly.

0:49:54.354 --> 0:49:58.433
<v Speaker 4>But we don't have any obligation to listen, or to

0:49:59.194 --> 0:50:00.674
<v Speaker 4>enjoy or to consume the content.

0:50:00.714 --> 0:50:02.354
<v Speaker 3>And I can't.

0:50:02.074 --> 0:50:05.834
<v Speaker 4>Really see it being because he's his role was. He

0:50:05.914 --> 0:50:09.074
<v Speaker 4>described himself as a comede before, and this all has

0:50:09.114 --> 0:50:12.513
<v Speaker 4>to get very serious in order for him to wear

0:50:12.554 --> 0:50:15.074
<v Speaker 4>it and try and build back his reputation, and I

0:50:15.634 --> 0:50:16.474
<v Speaker 4>don't see it working.

0:50:17.034 --> 0:50:19.393
<v Speaker 2>I hobby, I hope her pottery businesses a lot of

0:50:19.394 --> 0:50:21.234
<v Speaker 2>cops that say fuck no at the bottom of it.

0:50:21.354 --> 0:50:25.393
<v Speaker 7>Yeah, I love it out loud as a massive thank

0:50:25.434 --> 0:50:27.594
<v Speaker 7>you to all of you for being with us here today,

0:50:27.634 --> 0:50:30.034
<v Speaker 7>and to you Claire Murphy of course for filling from

0:50:30.034 --> 0:50:33.074
<v Speaker 7>Melia Lester, and to everybody for putting up with my

0:50:33.154 --> 0:50:34.474
<v Speaker 7>slightly wobbly voice.

0:50:34.754 --> 0:50:37.074
<v Speaker 2>Friends, don't forget that if you want to see our

0:50:37.154 --> 0:50:40.433
<v Speaker 2>glorious faces. This is what Need got wrong is he

0:50:40.434 --> 0:50:42.993
<v Speaker 2>didn't realize he was Internet famous at a level that

0:50:43.034 --> 0:50:44.994
<v Speaker 2>we know. This is why you can't scream at your

0:50:45.034 --> 0:50:47.354
<v Speaker 2>daughter in public. No, you see, I can't choke passion

0:50:47.394 --> 0:50:49.594
<v Speaker 2>pop at at his school function.

0:50:49.714 --> 0:50:49.794
<v Speaker 8>No.

0:50:49.874 --> 0:50:52.873
<v Speaker 4>The rule is, Claire, you can't cheat in public. It's

0:50:52.914 --> 0:50:54.913
<v Speaker 4>got to be behind closed doors. That's the number one

0:50:54.994 --> 0:50:56.274
<v Speaker 4>role of having your face on the internet.

0:50:56.394 --> 0:50:58.073
<v Speaker 5>Look, I'm glad you told me that because I would

0:50:58.074 --> 0:50:59.754
<v Speaker 5>never have worked that out on my own without you

0:51:00.194 --> 0:51:00.794
<v Speaker 5>killing me in.

0:51:01.554 --> 0:51:04.194
<v Speaker 2>If you want to be able to recognize us causing

0:51:04.234 --> 0:51:06.754
<v Speaker 2>misdemeanors in public, you need to go over on YouTube

0:51:07.314 --> 0:51:08.834
<v Speaker 2>how over to YouTube watch.

0:51:08.754 --> 0:51:10.794
<v Speaker 5>Please don't judge me for my middle aged pram, which

0:51:10.834 --> 0:51:12.754
<v Speaker 5>will be in some kind of condition by the time

0:51:12.794 --> 0:51:13.314
<v Speaker 5>you see.

0:51:13.154 --> 0:51:16.234
<v Speaker 2>It, and we will be back in your ears tomorrow.

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