1 00:00:10,705 --> 00:00:13,425 Speaker 1: You're listening to a Muma Mia podcast. 2 00:00:13,945 --> 00:00:17,465 Speaker 2: Mama Mia acknowledges the traditional owners of land and waters 3 00:00:17,505 --> 00:00:19,145 Speaker 2: that this podcast is recorded on. 4 00:00:21,025 --> 00:00:23,905 Speaker 1: Whoever said orange is a new pink with seriously disturbed 5 00:00:24,025 --> 00:00:28,025 Speaker 1: laurels for spraying groundbreaking? Oh my god, you have to 6 00:00:28,105 --> 00:00:28,425 Speaker 1: do it. 7 00:00:28,505 --> 00:00:29,745 Speaker 3: You live for fashion. 8 00:00:32,105 --> 00:00:34,865 Speaker 4: Hello, and welcome to Nothing to Wear, the podcast that 9 00:00:34,905 --> 00:00:38,345 Speaker 4: solves fashion problems and levels up your wardrobe. Long time 10 00:00:38,425 --> 00:00:41,425 Speaker 4: listeners of the podcast might remember me. I'm Tamara Holland. 11 00:00:41,465 --> 00:00:43,945 Speaker 4: I'm the contributing fashion editor here at Muma Mia, and 12 00:00:43,945 --> 00:00:47,425 Speaker 4: today I'm joined by the fabulous and so stylish listen 13 00:00:47,505 --> 00:00:47,985 Speaker 4: to Picket. 14 00:00:47,985 --> 00:00:51,265 Speaker 1: Hello, my friend, Hello Tam. It is so lovely being back. 15 00:00:51,345 --> 00:00:52,145 Speaker 1: Thank you, Tam. 16 00:00:52,225 --> 00:00:54,905 Speaker 2: Our lovely host Lee Campbell is actually away for the 17 00:00:54,945 --> 00:00:57,225 Speaker 2: next couple of episodes, so Tam and I are taking 18 00:00:57,265 --> 00:00:59,905 Speaker 2: over the pod. And today we thought we'd discussed our 19 00:00:59,945 --> 00:01:02,905 Speaker 2: biggest shopping mistakes and how we can cure them. We've 20 00:01:02,985 --> 00:01:05,465 Speaker 2: all made them, we still make them to this day. 21 00:01:06,465 --> 00:01:08,785 Speaker 2: So we've actually come to the pod with three different 22 00:01:08,865 --> 00:01:10,265 Speaker 2: mistakes and how we can fix them. 23 00:01:10,305 --> 00:01:11,905 Speaker 1: So how about we start with your one and kick 24 00:01:11,945 --> 00:01:12,945 Speaker 1: us off with your number one? 25 00:01:13,145 --> 00:01:14,225 Speaker 3: Okay, let's do it. 26 00:01:14,505 --> 00:01:16,745 Speaker 4: So the first one I'm going to talk about, Lucinda 27 00:01:16,865 --> 00:01:18,865 Speaker 4: is something I actually wrote an article about this for 28 00:01:18,945 --> 00:01:21,745 Speaker 4: Mamma Mia the other week. I was very passionate about it. 29 00:01:21,745 --> 00:01:25,865 Speaker 4: It's something I'm calling buying the Consolation Prize. What I 30 00:01:25,945 --> 00:01:27,785 Speaker 4: kind of want to flesh out the scenario for you 31 00:01:27,865 --> 00:01:29,625 Speaker 4: a bit because it's a little bit hard to describe, 32 00:01:29,625 --> 00:01:31,105 Speaker 4: but I think it's something we've all done. 33 00:01:31,185 --> 00:01:31,465 Speaker 1: Right. 34 00:01:31,585 --> 00:01:34,425 Speaker 3: So picture this. You have an item in your head. 35 00:01:34,505 --> 00:01:36,985 Speaker 4: You've maybe seen it on Instagram, or you know, you've 36 00:01:36,985 --> 00:01:39,265 Speaker 4: seen it on an influencer you love, or maybe it's 37 00:01:39,305 --> 00:01:41,785 Speaker 4: just a designer bag or something like that. Design a bag, 38 00:01:41,825 --> 00:01:45,625 Speaker 4: a shoe, something that feels aspirational to you and potentially 39 00:01:45,665 --> 00:01:49,785 Speaker 4: out of reach financially. So rather than buying that item 40 00:01:49,865 --> 00:01:52,705 Speaker 4: like you're fixated on it and on a subconscious level, 41 00:01:52,985 --> 00:01:55,945 Speaker 4: you kind of end up buying like cheaper versions of it, 42 00:01:56,385 --> 00:01:59,145 Speaker 4: less good quality versions of that item to sort of 43 00:01:59,265 --> 00:02:03,465 Speaker 4: echo or get the look. But you're actually potentially better 44 00:02:03,505 --> 00:02:05,785 Speaker 4: off in the long run if you think about something 45 00:02:05,865 --> 00:02:07,825 Speaker 4: like cost per wear on that item, you might have 46 00:02:07,905 --> 00:02:10,225 Speaker 4: been better off buying me original in the film first place, 47 00:02:10,505 --> 00:02:14,385 Speaker 4: rather than spending money on you know, a subpar duplicate. 48 00:02:14,425 --> 00:02:15,265 Speaker 3: I have you done this? 49 00:02:15,345 --> 00:02:17,665 Speaker 2: I do this a lot, and it is those big 50 00:02:17,665 --> 00:02:19,745 Speaker 2: ticket items that when you see at the price, you 51 00:02:19,825 --> 00:02:21,905 Speaker 2: sort of gork at it. So, for example, a trench 52 00:02:22,465 --> 00:02:24,785 Speaker 2: or jeans, I do it with denim, Like instead of 53 00:02:24,865 --> 00:02:27,585 Speaker 2: just buying the good pair of jeans, I might buy 54 00:02:27,745 --> 00:02:30,425 Speaker 2: like a pair from cotton On, which, yeah, they get 55 00:02:30,465 --> 00:02:31,985 Speaker 2: you through maybe a season, but. 56 00:02:31,945 --> 00:02:34,345 Speaker 1: They're not going to have that longevity totally. And the 57 00:02:34,425 --> 00:02:35,185 Speaker 1: same with trenches. 58 00:02:35,225 --> 00:02:37,625 Speaker 2: I would always love like the Camilla and Mark, you know, 59 00:02:37,705 --> 00:02:38,745 Speaker 2: eight hundred and nine hundred. 60 00:02:38,745 --> 00:02:40,425 Speaker 1: It can even get that's such a good example. 61 00:02:40,625 --> 00:02:43,465 Speaker 2: Yeah, but I just can't buy it, and I end 62 00:02:43,505 --> 00:02:45,705 Speaker 2: up getting something that's you know, maybe two hundred dollars. 63 00:02:45,785 --> 00:02:49,145 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, cool. It just doesn't have that quality factor. 64 00:02:48,785 --> 00:02:51,305 Speaker 4: Does it exactly? And you can't keep it for a 65 00:02:51,345 --> 00:02:53,625 Speaker 4: long time. And when I shared this, I actually did 66 00:02:53,665 --> 00:02:55,665 Speaker 4: a reel about it on Instagram as well. I said, 67 00:02:55,705 --> 00:02:59,225 Speaker 4: stop buying or don't buy the consolation prize, And so 68 00:02:59,345 --> 00:03:01,625 Speaker 4: many women commented to say that they've done this too, 69 00:03:01,625 --> 00:03:03,945 Speaker 4: where they really identified with it, and they said ultimately 70 00:03:03,985 --> 00:03:06,665 Speaker 4: they usually end up coming back to the original item, 71 00:03:06,865 --> 00:03:08,665 Speaker 4: you know, spending the money on the jupe, and then 72 00:03:08,865 --> 00:03:11,065 Speaker 4: in the end they end up spending that money on 73 00:03:11,145 --> 00:03:13,385 Speaker 4: the piece that was more expensive in the first place, 74 00:03:13,385 --> 00:03:15,585 Speaker 4: So you're actually out of pocket even more money by 75 00:03:15,625 --> 00:03:17,865 Speaker 4: the time you've completed that journey and realized that you 76 00:03:17,905 --> 00:03:19,025 Speaker 4: were right in the first place. 77 00:03:19,065 --> 00:03:21,585 Speaker 2: So would you suggest just saving up, so deciding what 78 00:03:21,625 --> 00:03:23,545 Speaker 2: it is that you want, and then just saving and 79 00:03:23,585 --> 00:03:24,625 Speaker 2: getting the actual piece. 80 00:03:24,825 --> 00:03:28,105 Speaker 4: I think there's two scenarios here. If it's within your means, 81 00:03:28,185 --> 00:03:31,465 Speaker 4: potentially do the budget, see how much you need to save, 82 00:03:31,585 --> 00:03:33,905 Speaker 4: See if you can make a few other sacrifices potentially 83 00:03:33,905 --> 00:03:36,705 Speaker 4: in your wardrobe or elsewhere in your like lifestyle. Spend 84 00:03:36,785 --> 00:03:39,265 Speaker 4: potentially for the month, or you know, if it's a 85 00:03:39,305 --> 00:03:41,745 Speaker 4: designer handbag, it might be six months that you're planning 86 00:03:41,785 --> 00:03:43,945 Speaker 4: to buy this item right or longer. But if you 87 00:03:43,945 --> 00:03:46,145 Speaker 4: can do the maths and it's within budget with that 88 00:03:46,265 --> 00:03:49,625 Speaker 4: in mind, absolutely wait for the item that you want. 89 00:03:49,785 --> 00:03:51,745 Speaker 4: But if you can't and it's not within your means, 90 00:03:51,785 --> 00:03:53,945 Speaker 4: I think that's just the point we have to recognize. 91 00:03:54,385 --> 00:03:55,585 Speaker 3: You don't need a duplicate. 92 00:03:55,745 --> 00:03:58,185 Speaker 4: You don't necessarily and of course, like if you find 93 00:03:58,185 --> 00:04:00,705 Speaker 4: a great jupe and you love it, by all means, 94 00:04:00,745 --> 00:04:02,425 Speaker 4: get it. Yeah, just know that you're not going to 95 00:04:02,465 --> 00:04:04,425 Speaker 4: have the payoff that you would with the original. 96 00:04:04,105 --> 00:04:07,105 Speaker 1: Wye and you won't feel proud wearing it. I los 97 00:04:07,225 --> 00:04:09,465 Speaker 1: so true piece and someone asked, where is it from you? 98 00:04:09,905 --> 00:04:11,705 Speaker 1: This is it. It's Camilla mark and you look. 99 00:04:11,625 --> 00:04:11,945 Speaker 4: Out of it. 100 00:04:11,985 --> 00:04:14,105 Speaker 2: You don't really have that same effect. So yeah, I 101 00:04:14,145 --> 00:04:15,185 Speaker 2: get exactly what you mean. 102 00:04:15,425 --> 00:04:19,265 Speaker 1: So saving up if you can, no consolation prize. 103 00:04:18,985 --> 00:04:21,585 Speaker 3: No consolation prizees. That's it, my friend. 104 00:04:21,745 --> 00:04:24,865 Speaker 4: All right, let's jump into yours. What's your shopping mistake? 105 00:04:25,425 --> 00:04:28,265 Speaker 2: My number one is and I'm still here. I actually 106 00:04:28,345 --> 00:04:31,985 Speaker 2: did it last night. It's late night shopping. So I 107 00:04:32,025 --> 00:04:33,785 Speaker 2: was up with my one year old. I was gonna 108 00:04:33,785 --> 00:04:35,865 Speaker 2: call her a newborn. She's not anymore, but she was 109 00:04:35,985 --> 00:04:36,385 Speaker 2: just ah. 110 00:04:36,425 --> 00:04:37,785 Speaker 1: But I was just not well at. 111 00:04:37,665 --> 00:04:40,025 Speaker 2: The moment, and I was feeding her and to stay 112 00:04:40,025 --> 00:04:43,985 Speaker 2: awake there, I was scrolling online shopping and the irony. 113 00:04:43,985 --> 00:04:46,425 Speaker 2: I knew we were talking about it today that I 114 00:04:46,585 --> 00:04:47,705 Speaker 2: was doing it myself. 115 00:04:47,745 --> 00:04:49,105 Speaker 1: So it's this late night shopping. 116 00:04:49,145 --> 00:04:52,225 Speaker 2: It started for me when I was feeding my newborns 117 00:04:52,425 --> 00:04:55,225 Speaker 2: and to stay awake the three am feeds, you know, 118 00:04:55,265 --> 00:04:59,385 Speaker 2: the four am, five am, I'm up scrolling and buying online. 119 00:04:58,865 --> 00:05:00,585 Speaker 4: But that's what you do to get through it. I've 120 00:05:00,585 --> 00:05:02,305 Speaker 4: been here too, I've got a two year old. But 121 00:05:02,345 --> 00:05:04,305 Speaker 4: at the start, I remember like I bought things I 122 00:05:04,345 --> 00:05:07,185 Speaker 4: don't even have like the package arrived than the next week, 123 00:05:07,225 --> 00:05:08,865 Speaker 4: and I don't even have any memory of ordering it 124 00:05:08,905 --> 00:05:10,865 Speaker 4: because you're in the sleep deprived. 125 00:05:10,465 --> 00:05:13,065 Speaker 1: State and you have to stay away. Yeah, and it 126 00:05:13,145 --> 00:05:14,305 Speaker 1: might be bones. 127 00:05:14,345 --> 00:05:17,105 Speaker 2: It could be just you're at home, you're exhausted from work, 128 00:05:17,145 --> 00:05:19,585 Speaker 2: and you're doom scrolling and shopping and you're just looking 129 00:05:19,625 --> 00:05:20,745 Speaker 2: for that dopamine hit. 130 00:05:20,825 --> 00:05:23,745 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not like a healthy shopping experience. 131 00:05:23,865 --> 00:05:26,265 Speaker 2: And like you said, you either end up with something 132 00:05:26,345 --> 00:05:29,585 Speaker 2: that's really out of your style. I remember buying something 133 00:05:29,625 --> 00:05:31,385 Speaker 2: and sending it to a friend and she goes, what. 134 00:05:31,305 --> 00:05:31,785 Speaker 1: Are you on? 135 00:05:32,425 --> 00:05:35,625 Speaker 2: And it was like this Brat Girls summer miniskirt four 136 00:05:35,705 --> 00:05:36,465 Speaker 2: years ago, when. 137 00:05:36,305 --> 00:05:39,425 Speaker 1: Brat Girls one wasn't even a thing. So it's that. 138 00:05:39,585 --> 00:05:41,665 Speaker 2: But also it's out of budget as well, So it 139 00:05:41,745 --> 00:05:44,305 Speaker 2: might be you just think, oh whatever, you're not thinking rationally. 140 00:05:44,905 --> 00:05:47,145 Speaker 2: But also what I've done in the past is bought 141 00:05:47,425 --> 00:05:49,425 Speaker 2: like the wrong order, so the wrong size, or I 142 00:05:49,505 --> 00:05:51,905 Speaker 2: bought multiple of something because I'm just not thinking you 143 00:05:52,105 --> 00:05:52,505 Speaker 2: put in. 144 00:05:52,425 --> 00:05:53,225 Speaker 3: The wrong address. 145 00:05:53,385 --> 00:05:54,105 Speaker 1: Yeah. 146 00:05:54,465 --> 00:05:57,105 Speaker 2: Yeah, So trying to really get over that late night 147 00:05:57,145 --> 00:06:00,905 Speaker 2: shopping and I think we're all victim to it. But 148 00:06:01,065 --> 00:06:04,345 Speaker 2: what I'd say to get out of that is just 149 00:06:04,385 --> 00:06:06,105 Speaker 2: be aware of it and sleep on it. 150 00:06:06,145 --> 00:06:07,505 Speaker 1: I know it's easier. 151 00:06:07,145 --> 00:06:09,825 Speaker 2: Said than done, but it's really not going anywhere. And 152 00:06:09,865 --> 00:06:12,665 Speaker 2: don't fall for the marketing of you know, it's selling 153 00:06:12,665 --> 00:06:14,785 Speaker 2: out fast or you know, getting quick, or even the 154 00:06:14,785 --> 00:06:17,425 Speaker 2: pre orders. Just wait and hold until the next morning, 155 00:06:17,465 --> 00:06:19,585 Speaker 2: because sometimes I find that, Yeah, like people are saying 156 00:06:19,585 --> 00:06:21,905 Speaker 2: about the style, it's not my style, and I wake 157 00:06:21,985 --> 00:06:22,185 Speaker 2: up in. 158 00:06:22,185 --> 00:06:23,425 Speaker 3: The morning fresh eyes on it. 159 00:06:23,945 --> 00:06:24,185 Speaker 1: Yeah. 160 00:06:24,345 --> 00:06:26,345 Speaker 4: You could even like something I've done in the past 161 00:06:26,425 --> 00:06:28,745 Speaker 4: has taken a screenshot and then return to that the 162 00:06:28,825 --> 00:06:31,505 Speaker 4: next day. So I don't forget, Like I'm I can 163 00:06:31,505 --> 00:06:33,505 Speaker 4: see the item. I'm like, I can look at it 164 00:06:33,505 --> 00:06:36,025 Speaker 4: with fresh eyes, and I can consider it in. 165 00:06:35,225 --> 00:06:36,265 Speaker 3: The light of day. 166 00:06:36,265 --> 00:06:38,425 Speaker 4: If it's something that I actually, you know, is fl 167 00:06:38,425 --> 00:06:40,225 Speaker 4: filling a gap in my wardrobe, or it is something 168 00:06:40,225 --> 00:06:43,065 Speaker 4: that I really have been corveting or feeling like I need, 169 00:06:43,145 --> 00:06:44,985 Speaker 4: or it was just like a desperate middle of the night. 170 00:06:45,025 --> 00:06:45,585 Speaker 3: Hey, that'll do. 171 00:06:45,825 --> 00:06:47,025 Speaker 1: That's a really good tip. 172 00:06:47,105 --> 00:06:49,265 Speaker 2: Term I did that as well, just screenshot everything, put 173 00:06:49,265 --> 00:06:51,745 Speaker 2: it in an album called want to Buy, and that's 174 00:06:51,785 --> 00:06:53,225 Speaker 2: what I end up scrolling out that. 175 00:06:53,465 --> 00:06:55,505 Speaker 4: I have it on Instagram as like it just says 176 00:06:55,545 --> 00:06:58,105 Speaker 4: shopping nice. And I just returned to it sometimes and 177 00:06:58,185 --> 00:07:00,505 Speaker 4: like to look at the things and sometimes that's enough. Yeah, 178 00:07:00,825 --> 00:07:03,065 Speaker 4: looking at the item rather than having the gratification of 179 00:07:03,065 --> 00:07:03,545 Speaker 4: buying it. 180 00:07:03,825 --> 00:07:06,865 Speaker 2: Yeah, so late night shopping is my number one mistake. Okay, 181 00:07:06,905 --> 00:07:09,345 Speaker 2: I'm still trying to I'm guilty as well. My friend, 182 00:07:09,385 --> 00:07:10,225 Speaker 2: we're in it together. 183 00:07:10,905 --> 00:07:12,585 Speaker 1: What's your number two, tam. 184 00:07:12,625 --> 00:07:17,345 Speaker 4: So this is a trap I've definitely fallen into many times. 185 00:07:17,385 --> 00:07:20,985 Speaker 4: It's buying what I call like fantasy pieces. What I 186 00:07:21,025 --> 00:07:22,785 Speaker 4: mean by that is like, and I think you and 187 00:07:22,865 --> 00:07:24,585 Speaker 4: I are in the same boat, Like when you really 188 00:07:24,625 --> 00:07:26,625 Speaker 4: love fashion or you're just like a sucker for a 189 00:07:26,665 --> 00:07:29,345 Speaker 4: beautiful cut or a beautiful piece. You kind of want 190 00:07:29,345 --> 00:07:31,625 Speaker 4: to collect it just to own it, but you're not 191 00:07:31,665 --> 00:07:34,985 Speaker 4: necessarily considering like the end use of that piece. You're 192 00:07:35,465 --> 00:07:38,625 Speaker 4: just acquiring something. And like, we're not celebrity. I mean 193 00:07:38,745 --> 00:07:42,865 Speaker 4: maybe you're a minor celebrity on Instagram bringing up the 194 00:07:42,905 --> 00:07:45,825 Speaker 4: rear a little bit, a few thousand followers, but Look, 195 00:07:45,865 --> 00:07:48,345 Speaker 4: we're not celebrities. We don't have archives and other rooms, 196 00:07:48,385 --> 00:07:51,905 Speaker 4: you know, with specific humunity controlled air conditioning on our clothes. 197 00:07:51,905 --> 00:07:54,705 Speaker 4: We're not all like Sarah Jessica Parker with you know, 198 00:07:54,865 --> 00:07:57,585 Speaker 4: with an archive of clothes. But like sometimes I think 199 00:07:57,585 --> 00:07:58,705 Speaker 4: of it that way and I'm like, oh, I just 200 00:07:58,785 --> 00:08:01,065 Speaker 4: want to have it, but I'm not thinking about the 201 00:08:01,105 --> 00:08:03,905 Speaker 4: lifestyle that I actually lead. And I think this is 202 00:08:03,905 --> 00:08:05,785 Speaker 4: a big like I think you and I can relate 203 00:08:05,825 --> 00:08:08,745 Speaker 4: on this because we're both like city girls who've gone 204 00:08:08,825 --> 00:08:11,945 Speaker 4: like regional regional girlies. Now I live in the South Coast. 205 00:08:12,385 --> 00:08:15,145 Speaker 4: You live, you know, in the Southern Highlands, so the 206 00:08:15,225 --> 00:08:18,825 Speaker 4: lifestyle is very different to like I used to work 207 00:08:18,825 --> 00:08:20,945 Speaker 4: in the city and I used to need blazers and 208 00:08:21,025 --> 00:08:23,025 Speaker 4: heels and all these pieces that you know were for 209 00:08:23,065 --> 00:08:26,065 Speaker 4: my corporate life here and I should say in Sydney 210 00:08:26,065 --> 00:08:29,025 Speaker 4: where we're recording this podcast, but you know, back home, 211 00:08:29,185 --> 00:08:31,265 Speaker 4: I live by the beach, I've got a two year old, 212 00:08:31,305 --> 00:08:33,265 Speaker 4: I've got a dog. I take for walks every day. 213 00:08:33,305 --> 00:08:36,865 Speaker 4: I work from home. Like the reality is I was shopping. 214 00:08:36,985 --> 00:08:39,105 Speaker 4: I found myself in this trap of like shopping for 215 00:08:39,145 --> 00:08:42,585 Speaker 4: a fantasy life that I don't lead, and I think 216 00:08:42,745 --> 00:08:44,985 Speaker 4: a lot of things fall into this category. You know, 217 00:08:45,145 --> 00:08:49,905 Speaker 4: you might find yourself buying like elevated pieces, or if 218 00:08:49,905 --> 00:08:52,425 Speaker 4: you love shoes, And it doesn't mean that you can't 219 00:08:52,745 --> 00:08:55,305 Speaker 4: buy beautiful shoes and wait for an occasion to wear them, 220 00:08:55,305 --> 00:08:57,705 Speaker 4: but you might be better off using that budget that 221 00:08:57,745 --> 00:08:59,785 Speaker 4: you have for those shoes towards something more practical. I 222 00:08:59,785 --> 00:09:01,505 Speaker 4: feel like this is like a really boring tip, but 223 00:09:01,505 --> 00:09:04,265 Speaker 4: it's just like it's been an awakening for me personally 224 00:09:04,385 --> 00:09:07,625 Speaker 4: because I don't wear those clothes. I don't wear blazers, 225 00:09:07,905 --> 00:09:08,465 Speaker 4: buy the beach. 226 00:09:08,505 --> 00:09:11,465 Speaker 2: You're still attracted to that like glitz and shiny product 227 00:09:11,545 --> 00:09:12,105 Speaker 2: that you want. 228 00:09:12,185 --> 00:09:14,265 Speaker 1: I'm the same. There's these bags that I always want 229 00:09:14,265 --> 00:09:16,265 Speaker 1: to like, I'm not wearing these bags around town. 230 00:09:16,425 --> 00:09:18,745 Speaker 2: Yeah already the bags that I have I don't wear 231 00:09:18,865 --> 00:09:19,585 Speaker 2: in the country. 232 00:09:19,625 --> 00:09:22,745 Speaker 1: It's right peculiar to be said, it. 233 00:09:22,585 --> 00:09:25,025 Speaker 2: Is, wouldn't So Yeah, it's almost like you've got to 234 00:09:25,065 --> 00:09:27,265 Speaker 2: remind yourself, hang on a minute, I don't need this. 235 00:09:27,705 --> 00:09:30,105 Speaker 1: I also think I try and trick myself. Oh maybe 236 00:09:30,105 --> 00:09:31,785 Speaker 1: I'll keep it for my daughters. They'll love it. 237 00:09:31,785 --> 00:09:34,505 Speaker 3: It's like, oh, that's a good one. That's a good 238 00:09:34,545 --> 00:09:36,785 Speaker 3: excuse I have a daughter too, I could use that. 239 00:09:36,985 --> 00:09:37,545 Speaker 1: Yeah. 240 00:09:37,865 --> 00:09:41,425 Speaker 2: So no, I absolutely understand that one. And my second 241 00:09:41,585 --> 00:09:46,065 Speaker 2: actually follows on from the fantasy shop. It's the fantasy bod. 242 00:09:46,185 --> 00:09:48,065 Speaker 2: So I don't know if you've done this term, but 243 00:09:48,345 --> 00:09:51,225 Speaker 2: buying for your dream bobbed or you know, buying the 244 00:09:51,265 --> 00:09:54,105 Speaker 2: size eight when you're really a size twelve, or. 245 00:09:54,065 --> 00:09:56,705 Speaker 1: Buying something for postpartum, or buying something for. 246 00:09:56,705 --> 00:09:59,185 Speaker 3: Summer like I'll wear it one day, yeah, or. 247 00:09:59,105 --> 00:10:01,585 Speaker 2: With the intention of getting to that size for summer, 248 00:10:01,625 --> 00:10:04,025 Speaker 2: which is just so dangerous. It just feeds into that 249 00:10:04,105 --> 00:10:06,625 Speaker 2: diet culture. I think we need to stop that. I 250 00:10:06,625 --> 00:10:08,785 Speaker 2: feel like I do that my friends. I'm not anymore, 251 00:10:08,825 --> 00:10:11,385 Speaker 2: but my my friends used to do that as well. 252 00:10:11,385 --> 00:10:13,785 Speaker 2: And it's like we just buy these things that sits 253 00:10:13,785 --> 00:10:16,145 Speaker 2: here in our closet that we just don't end up wearing. 254 00:10:16,625 --> 00:10:18,985 Speaker 2: I've done that with bikinis when I was pregnant. It's 255 00:10:19,065 --> 00:10:22,025 Speaker 2: just an absolute waste of money and it's a toxic 256 00:10:22,065 --> 00:10:23,545 Speaker 2: way of thinking about clothes. 257 00:10:23,665 --> 00:10:26,305 Speaker 4: Absolutely, you need to buy for the body you have 258 00:10:26,505 --> 00:10:29,305 Speaker 4: now and the lifestyle you have now, and those two 259 00:10:29,385 --> 00:10:30,305 Speaker 4: things can work together. 260 00:10:30,385 --> 00:10:33,185 Speaker 3: Like I think for me, it was leaning into. 261 00:10:33,225 --> 00:10:36,425 Speaker 4: Clothes that you know, Also perhaps I was buying more 262 00:10:36,425 --> 00:10:39,745 Speaker 4: oversized things after I had my baby because I was 263 00:10:39,785 --> 00:10:40,505 Speaker 4: comfortable in them. 264 00:10:40,505 --> 00:10:42,265 Speaker 3: I had to be crouching down on the ground all 265 00:10:42,265 --> 00:10:43,185 Speaker 3: the time picking her up. 266 00:10:43,225 --> 00:10:45,585 Speaker 4: I had to be lying down, you know, with a baby, 267 00:10:45,665 --> 00:10:48,065 Speaker 4: rather than like wearing rigid denim or wearing And I 268 00:10:48,065 --> 00:10:51,225 Speaker 4: think for me, accepting that it was okay to buy 269 00:10:51,265 --> 00:10:53,865 Speaker 4: a different size to your point, and that's just just 270 00:10:53,985 --> 00:10:56,505 Speaker 4: accepting it doesn't matter what the label, what the label 271 00:10:56,545 --> 00:10:57,905 Speaker 4: says on the on the tag. I feel like it 272 00:10:57,945 --> 00:11:00,785 Speaker 4: sounds really cliche, but it was like a kind of 273 00:11:00,985 --> 00:11:03,545 Speaker 4: big moment for me to realize that it doesn't really matter. 274 00:11:03,905 --> 00:11:06,585 Speaker 4: Like if I'm comfortable, I feel better in my clothes anyway. 275 00:11:07,105 --> 00:11:11,065 Speaker 4: So having the pile of maybe I'll wear them one day, 276 00:11:11,065 --> 00:11:13,305 Speaker 4: whether it's for an urban me, that's a fantasy that 277 00:11:13,305 --> 00:11:16,625 Speaker 4: doesn't exist anymore, whether it's for the pre baby body 278 00:11:16,625 --> 00:11:18,745 Speaker 4: that I no longer have, like that was just wasn't 279 00:11:18,745 --> 00:11:19,185 Speaker 4: serving me. 280 00:11:19,385 --> 00:11:19,985 Speaker 1: That's right. 281 00:11:20,105 --> 00:11:22,905 Speaker 2: Yeah, So for me, it's just stop buying things. It 282 00:11:22,945 --> 00:11:25,185 Speaker 2: has to fit you right now. I like the mindset 283 00:11:25,225 --> 00:11:28,065 Speaker 2: shift of your body doesn't need to earn your clothes 284 00:11:28,225 --> 00:11:30,545 Speaker 2: like you just buy for you now, you don't need 285 00:11:30,585 --> 00:11:32,145 Speaker 2: to earn or try and fit into it in a 286 00:11:32,185 --> 00:11:32,785 Speaker 2: few months. 287 00:11:32,905 --> 00:11:34,905 Speaker 1: It's right here, right now, what's going to fit me, 288 00:11:35,345 --> 00:11:36,305 Speaker 1: and that's what I'm going to buy. 289 00:11:36,425 --> 00:11:38,385 Speaker 3: Can you say that again? Your body doesn't. 290 00:11:38,105 --> 00:11:40,905 Speaker 2: Need your body doesn't need to earn your clothes. I 291 00:11:40,985 --> 00:11:43,425 Speaker 2: love that, and it's so true. 292 00:11:43,505 --> 00:11:46,705 Speaker 1: There's dresses. I remember it was twenty seventeen. 293 00:11:46,745 --> 00:11:49,865 Speaker 2: I bought this Zimmermann dress and I still it's in 294 00:11:49,905 --> 00:11:53,505 Speaker 2: my wardrobe, still doesn't fit me, size extra, extra swall 295 00:11:53,665 --> 00:11:55,705 Speaker 2: because I had this idea of wearing it and it 296 00:11:55,745 --> 00:11:59,225 Speaker 2: was just it's silly, it's wasteful, and it's just feeding 297 00:11:59,225 --> 00:12:00,745 Speaker 2: into that toxic diet culture. 298 00:12:00,785 --> 00:12:04,465 Speaker 4: Absolutely so. My advice from personal experience to fix that 299 00:12:04,545 --> 00:12:07,585 Speaker 4: mistake of buying for a fantasy you is just to 300 00:12:07,665 --> 00:12:10,785 Speaker 4: ask yourself when you're shopping, first and foremost, think of 301 00:12:10,825 --> 00:12:13,145 Speaker 4: the end use of the item, like I said, not 302 00:12:13,225 --> 00:12:15,265 Speaker 4: like oh it'll look great hanging in my wardrobe, Like 303 00:12:15,305 --> 00:12:18,305 Speaker 4: what do I need it for? And then ask yourself, 304 00:12:18,665 --> 00:12:21,745 Speaker 4: are you buying it because you wear it, you need 305 00:12:21,785 --> 00:12:23,785 Speaker 4: it it fills that gap in your wardrobe, or just. 306 00:12:23,745 --> 00:12:26,225 Speaker 3: Because you love it, Because if it's just because you 307 00:12:26,305 --> 00:12:28,905 Speaker 3: love it, you might need to let it go, that's right. Yeah, 308 00:12:28,945 --> 00:12:29,665 Speaker 3: that's a good problem. 309 00:12:34,425 --> 00:12:36,945 Speaker 4: Okay, moving on, I want to talk about buying things 310 00:12:36,985 --> 00:12:39,425 Speaker 4: because they're on sale, because I feel like this is 311 00:12:39,585 --> 00:12:42,705 Speaker 4: like the most common mistake that I make, that my 312 00:12:42,745 --> 00:12:45,545 Speaker 4: friends make, my mum, everyone, we've all been there. So 313 00:12:46,305 --> 00:12:48,785 Speaker 4: you just have to remember it's on sale for a reason. 314 00:12:48,905 --> 00:12:51,185 Speaker 4: It's marked down for a reason, right, they want to 315 00:12:51,185 --> 00:12:53,345 Speaker 4: get that stock out of their warehouse whatever. And I 316 00:12:53,345 --> 00:12:55,905 Speaker 4: think this is something we all fall victim to, Like 317 00:12:56,025 --> 00:12:58,305 Speaker 4: when you see a further thirty percent off of the 318 00:12:58,345 --> 00:13:01,345 Speaker 4: sale edit online and you're like, ooh, even more money 319 00:13:01,345 --> 00:13:03,465 Speaker 4: off that piece, But that's actually just like, if you 320 00:13:03,505 --> 00:13:05,945 Speaker 4: think about it, the retailer really needing to shift the 321 00:13:05,985 --> 00:13:08,865 Speaker 4: item and offering you even more of an incentive. So 322 00:13:08,905 --> 00:13:10,705 Speaker 4: you get that urgent and you get that little pang 323 00:13:10,705 --> 00:13:12,465 Speaker 4: in your tummy that's like, oh, I need it now, 324 00:13:13,345 --> 00:13:16,065 Speaker 4: and am I just buying it because it's on sale? 325 00:13:16,185 --> 00:13:17,905 Speaker 1: Yeah? I do this all the time. 326 00:13:18,265 --> 00:13:20,305 Speaker 2: And it's a brand that maybe it is one of 327 00:13:20,345 --> 00:13:22,665 Speaker 2: those higher price brands that you don't often buy from, 328 00:13:22,705 --> 00:13:25,105 Speaker 2: so you're excited to own a piece from that brand. 329 00:13:25,185 --> 00:13:25,385 Speaker 3: Yes. 330 00:13:25,545 --> 00:13:27,865 Speaker 1: I did this recently with bear Park. They had a 331 00:13:27,945 --> 00:13:29,985 Speaker 1: sale and the thing with sales as well. 332 00:13:29,985 --> 00:13:33,345 Speaker 2: It's either the really really small sizes left or the 333 00:13:33,665 --> 00:13:36,105 Speaker 2: bigger sizes, so they never have my size. 334 00:13:36,145 --> 00:13:38,145 Speaker 1: I'm buying the wrong size either. 335 00:13:38,305 --> 00:13:40,665 Speaker 2: Yeah I'll get the size you know, fourteen, and I'll 336 00:13:40,705 --> 00:13:42,745 Speaker 2: get it tailored and it's just never going to fit right. 337 00:13:42,905 --> 00:13:45,105 Speaker 2: Or I've done the opposite where I buy the size 338 00:13:45,105 --> 00:13:48,345 Speaker 2: six and still don't wear them because it's just again wasteful. 339 00:13:48,465 --> 00:13:52,025 Speaker 1: You're compromising, You're compromising. Yeah, so I get that the 340 00:13:52,105 --> 00:13:52,825 Speaker 1: sales just. 341 00:13:52,825 --> 00:13:55,505 Speaker 2: In general, we all get caught up in that excitement 342 00:13:55,505 --> 00:13:57,665 Speaker 2: you're sending it and sharing it with friends or around 343 00:13:57,665 --> 00:13:58,185 Speaker 2: the office. 344 00:13:58,385 --> 00:14:01,465 Speaker 1: Just take a beat. What do you actually need as well? 345 00:14:01,985 --> 00:14:04,505 Speaker 2: Rather than just filling your wardrobe because it's on sale 346 00:14:05,025 --> 00:14:07,865 Speaker 2: and yeah, almost like before you open up the website, 347 00:14:07,865 --> 00:14:10,105 Speaker 2: what do I actually need? Because I feel like you 348 00:14:10,105 --> 00:14:12,105 Speaker 2: get sucked in and you see all these things and 349 00:14:12,345 --> 00:14:14,665 Speaker 2: like maybe you see the blazers. You've got, you know, 350 00:14:14,665 --> 00:14:17,305 Speaker 2: four blases already, you don't really need another one, yeah, 351 00:14:17,385 --> 00:14:18,505 Speaker 2: but you just but it's. 352 00:14:18,345 --> 00:14:19,945 Speaker 1: There in front of you. This is it? 353 00:14:20,065 --> 00:14:22,305 Speaker 4: So like I think we all still want, you know, 354 00:14:22,465 --> 00:14:24,945 Speaker 4: and potentially need to shop things when they're on sale. 355 00:14:24,985 --> 00:14:27,025 Speaker 4: So that's a financial reality. For a lot of people, 356 00:14:27,105 --> 00:14:30,105 Speaker 4: we wait for sales, right, but potentially instead and this 357 00:14:30,185 --> 00:14:32,665 Speaker 4: is something I know I do wait for the sale 358 00:14:32,665 --> 00:14:35,665 Speaker 4: events like Black Friday, Cyber Monday, that kind of thing, 359 00:14:35,905 --> 00:14:40,105 Speaker 4: because generally the retailers are offering like a generic discount 360 00:14:40,145 --> 00:14:44,025 Speaker 4: across the full range, right, thirty percent off everything, not 361 00:14:44,185 --> 00:14:46,665 Speaker 4: just thirty percent off the pieces that we want to 362 00:14:46,705 --> 00:14:49,545 Speaker 4: mark down that aren't selling, right, because you have to remember, 363 00:14:49,665 --> 00:14:51,985 Speaker 4: like you know, the pieces that are on sale are 364 00:14:51,985 --> 00:14:54,865 Speaker 4: like no one bought them, so you're like not having 365 00:14:54,945 --> 00:14:56,905 Speaker 4: your pick of what you want, You're having your pick 366 00:14:56,905 --> 00:14:57,785 Speaker 4: of what the retailer wants. 367 00:14:57,945 --> 00:15:00,585 Speaker 1: They just want to shift it exactly. People probably aren't 368 00:15:00,625 --> 00:15:02,345 Speaker 1: necessarily thinking that when they say. 369 00:15:02,265 --> 00:15:04,305 Speaker 4: We're not that discerning, are we? We're just like, oh, 370 00:15:04,385 --> 00:15:07,385 Speaker 4: big shiny red number, like I've got to get in there. 371 00:15:08,265 --> 00:15:09,345 Speaker 3: So yeah. 372 00:15:09,385 --> 00:15:11,985 Speaker 4: And I'd say another thing that falls into this category 373 00:15:12,145 --> 00:15:16,465 Speaker 4: is buying something because it's cheap on a discounted, say 374 00:15:16,545 --> 00:15:19,905 Speaker 4: designer retailer. Let me explain a little bit because I 375 00:15:19,945 --> 00:15:22,825 Speaker 4: did this not too long ago. There's a retailer called 376 00:15:22,865 --> 00:15:28,505 Speaker 4: Cosette that does like markedown designer handbags and accessories, shoes, 377 00:15:28,505 --> 00:15:31,545 Speaker 4: that kind of thing, and I ended up buying myself 378 00:15:31,745 --> 00:15:35,225 Speaker 4: a Gucci handbag because it was like, I can't remember 379 00:15:35,225 --> 00:15:37,585 Speaker 4: the exact numbers, but I think it was like fifteen 380 00:15:37,665 --> 00:15:39,985 Speaker 4: hundred dollars instead of two K, and I was like, oh, 381 00:15:40,025 --> 00:15:43,345 Speaker 4: I'm saving five hundred dollars, but I was saving money 382 00:15:43,385 --> 00:15:46,265 Speaker 4: on the edit of styles they have on Cosette are 383 00:15:46,345 --> 00:15:48,785 Speaker 4: the markedown styles that haven't sold in the boutiques. I 384 00:15:48,825 --> 00:15:51,345 Speaker 4: don't know how they get them, what bootleg stuff is 385 00:15:51,385 --> 00:15:53,545 Speaker 4: going on there, I don't really need to know. But 386 00:15:53,625 --> 00:15:56,265 Speaker 4: I didn't have my pick of going into a Gucci 387 00:15:56,265 --> 00:15:59,425 Speaker 4: boutique and choosing meticulously what I'm going to spend my 388 00:15:59,465 --> 00:16:02,385 Speaker 4: fifteen hundred dollars on. So I spent fifteen hundred bucks 389 00:16:02,425 --> 00:16:04,185 Speaker 4: on a bag that I'm not even sure if I 390 00:16:04,225 --> 00:16:06,345 Speaker 4: really loved or wanted, just because I was getting five 391 00:16:06,385 --> 00:16:10,105 Speaker 4: and in the life of that item and my life right, 392 00:16:10,145 --> 00:16:12,505 Speaker 4: that five hundred dollars would have come out in the wash. 393 00:16:12,665 --> 00:16:15,585 Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, that's a really great point. Yeah yeah, So 394 00:16:15,705 --> 00:16:16,105 Speaker 1: don't do. 395 00:16:16,105 --> 00:16:20,305 Speaker 3: That, all right? What have you got it? 396 00:16:20,505 --> 00:16:23,985 Speaker 2: My last one here is buying too early for an event. 397 00:16:24,265 --> 00:16:26,985 Speaker 2: So I reckon there's two types of people where you're 398 00:16:27,025 --> 00:16:29,225 Speaker 2: either Type A and you just want to sort of 399 00:16:29,225 --> 00:16:31,465 Speaker 2: tick the box. You bought the dress for the event, done, 400 00:16:31,505 --> 00:16:34,185 Speaker 2: you don't have to think about it again, or someone 401 00:16:34,265 --> 00:16:36,265 Speaker 2: like I do this for it overly excited. 402 00:16:36,305 --> 00:16:37,345 Speaker 1: I just want to buy the dress. 403 00:16:37,345 --> 00:16:40,465 Speaker 2: I'm excited for the event, but it's months away, and 404 00:16:40,505 --> 00:16:43,025 Speaker 2: by the time the event rolls around, you know new 405 00:16:43,145 --> 00:16:46,345 Speaker 2: styles are out, it's feeling slightly dated or done, or 406 00:16:46,385 --> 00:16:47,865 Speaker 2: you see something else that might be better. 407 00:16:48,065 --> 00:16:50,985 Speaker 3: That's a tragedy. I hate when that happens. 408 00:16:51,345 --> 00:16:53,505 Speaker 2: The problem with this is that you can often change 409 00:16:53,505 --> 00:16:55,505 Speaker 2: your mind closer to the day with all the new 410 00:16:55,585 --> 00:16:57,905 Speaker 2: styles coming out. So and also again what I was 411 00:16:57,905 --> 00:17:00,425 Speaker 2: saying about the marketing before, try not to get suckered 412 00:17:00,505 --> 00:17:04,105 Speaker 2: into you know, limited order or pre order now or 413 00:17:04,105 --> 00:17:06,625 Speaker 2: like sold out three times getting quick, because that's where 414 00:17:06,665 --> 00:17:09,065 Speaker 2: I've fallen short, where I try and think, oh, I've 415 00:17:09,065 --> 00:17:09,745 Speaker 2: got to get it now. 416 00:17:09,785 --> 00:17:11,345 Speaker 1: Otherwise I'd never be able to get it. 417 00:17:11,545 --> 00:17:13,545 Speaker 2: Because a lot of the time, if something is selling, 418 00:17:13,585 --> 00:17:17,225 Speaker 2: they will release it again, they'll restop, they'll restop, or 419 00:17:17,265 --> 00:17:19,945 Speaker 2: other brands will create something similar. So try not to 420 00:17:19,985 --> 00:17:23,105 Speaker 2: get caught up in that frenzy. Hold don't buy too early. 421 00:17:23,345 --> 00:17:25,505 Speaker 2: I always say maybe three to four weeks out from 422 00:17:25,585 --> 00:17:27,505 Speaker 2: an event is when you should be looking at buying. 423 00:17:27,665 --> 00:17:29,705 Speaker 4: Is that your Is that your thinking? Because that's like 424 00:17:29,825 --> 00:17:32,345 Speaker 4: feel so down to the wire for me. Really yeah, 425 00:17:32,385 --> 00:17:34,705 Speaker 4: but I feel like I need to take that advice 426 00:17:34,745 --> 00:17:36,505 Speaker 4: because I've made this mistake and then you've got. 427 00:17:36,465 --> 00:17:39,105 Speaker 1: All the new arrivals, you've got something fresh. There's nothing 428 00:17:39,145 --> 00:17:41,505 Speaker 1: worse than when like a fabric's been around for a 429 00:17:41,545 --> 00:17:43,425 Speaker 1: while and you turn up to an event and maybe 430 00:17:43,465 --> 00:17:45,345 Speaker 1: a couple of people wearing it or they go, oh, 431 00:17:45,425 --> 00:17:48,665 Speaker 1: that's sir, Like everyone's familiar with the presure. 432 00:17:48,505 --> 00:17:51,865 Speaker 4: Like the police say, movement of a couple of years ago, 433 00:17:52,145 --> 00:17:52,945 Speaker 4: so we all had. 434 00:17:52,825 --> 00:17:53,945 Speaker 3: The same set. Bless. 435 00:17:54,025 --> 00:17:54,465 Speaker 1: I loved it. 436 00:17:54,505 --> 00:17:56,505 Speaker 3: I still love it. I don't know shade to please say, 437 00:17:57,185 --> 00:17:57,825 Speaker 3: but yeah. 438 00:17:58,145 --> 00:18:01,665 Speaker 2: Something fresh that people haven't seen before, so just try 439 00:18:01,705 --> 00:18:04,185 Speaker 2: and hold and wait closer to the event. 440 00:18:04,425 --> 00:18:04,785 Speaker 1: Yeah. 441 00:18:04,825 --> 00:18:07,745 Speaker 2: So with things being on sale and you buy it 442 00:18:07,785 --> 00:18:08,705 Speaker 2: because it's on sale. 443 00:18:08,865 --> 00:18:10,185 Speaker 1: I do this as well. 444 00:18:10,225 --> 00:18:14,105 Speaker 2: I fall victim when I'm shopping on Deepop or Vestia 445 00:18:14,345 --> 00:18:16,385 Speaker 2: or any of those secondhand stores. 446 00:18:16,465 --> 00:18:18,185 Speaker 1: When I see something's on sale or. 447 00:18:18,185 --> 00:18:21,425 Speaker 2: It's really cheap because it's secondhand, I buy it when 448 00:18:21,465 --> 00:18:24,265 Speaker 2: it's really something I don't need just because it's secondhand, 449 00:18:24,345 --> 00:18:25,945 Speaker 2: just because it's ultra cheap on deep hop. 450 00:18:26,025 --> 00:18:28,265 Speaker 4: Yeah, you're like keeping something in the cycle of where 451 00:18:28,305 --> 00:18:30,265 Speaker 4: it's it feels good, but you're still. 452 00:18:30,065 --> 00:18:31,985 Speaker 3: Buying things you don't need. Like what it was The 453 00:18:32,025 --> 00:18:34,745 Speaker 3: answer to that, do you need? How do we stop? Well, 454 00:18:34,825 --> 00:18:36,585 Speaker 3: okaying about just asking for a friend. 455 00:18:36,665 --> 00:18:39,865 Speaker 2: Let's say it's some practical things, but we can take 456 00:18:39,905 --> 00:18:43,145 Speaker 2: away from this again the sleep on it, or keeping 457 00:18:43,185 --> 00:18:44,345 Speaker 2: things in your basket. 458 00:18:44,865 --> 00:18:49,145 Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's good, or sharing it with friends as well. 459 00:18:49,185 --> 00:18:50,305 Speaker 1: Do I really need this? 460 00:18:50,985 --> 00:18:52,865 Speaker 3: You got to have really trustworthy friends for that. 461 00:18:53,065 --> 00:18:56,305 Speaker 4: Yeah, because I feel like people just like I'm such 462 00:18:56,305 --> 00:18:58,305 Speaker 4: an enabler that I'll just tell you to miny too. 463 00:18:58,825 --> 00:19:00,505 Speaker 3: I don't care what it is. I'm like, yeah, girl, 464 00:19:00,545 --> 00:19:01,305 Speaker 3: get that too. 465 00:19:01,905 --> 00:19:02,265 Speaker 1: I know. 466 00:19:02,825 --> 00:19:04,985 Speaker 2: Do you know something else I used to do when 467 00:19:04,985 --> 00:19:07,465 Speaker 2: I was doing the late night feeds and shopping. I 468 00:19:07,505 --> 00:19:10,425 Speaker 2: allow myself to buy one piece of so I get 469 00:19:10,465 --> 00:19:13,265 Speaker 2: excited all week for that one piece. So you're not 470 00:19:13,305 --> 00:19:16,105 Speaker 2: stopping yourself from shopping, but just choose what that one are, 471 00:19:16,105 --> 00:19:16,545 Speaker 2: and then you. 472 00:19:16,545 --> 00:19:19,185 Speaker 4: Have to be more focused, like a laser focused because 473 00:19:19,185 --> 00:19:21,625 Speaker 4: you've only got one, so you really think about it. 474 00:19:21,865 --> 00:19:25,305 Speaker 2: I like that yeah, and also maybe choosing the category 475 00:19:25,345 --> 00:19:28,065 Speaker 2: so I find rather than looking at clothing and blazers 476 00:19:28,065 --> 00:19:31,425 Speaker 2: and trenches and whatnot, choosing so active wear or swimwear 477 00:19:31,465 --> 00:19:33,945 Speaker 2: where it is just a lower price point so you're 478 00:19:33,985 --> 00:19:36,945 Speaker 2: not breaking the bank necessarily, you're just choosing, Okay, I'm 479 00:19:36,945 --> 00:19:38,985 Speaker 2: going to buy a sports bra and it's something that 480 00:19:39,145 --> 00:19:42,465 Speaker 2: is more affordable than your BEG ticket items and it's. 481 00:19:42,345 --> 00:19:43,265 Speaker 3: Really niche too. 482 00:19:43,665 --> 00:19:47,345 Speaker 4: You're not just going a dress because that's so broad, right, 483 00:19:47,465 --> 00:19:49,465 Speaker 4: Like it's impossible to narrow that down. So you're going 484 00:19:49,505 --> 00:19:51,865 Speaker 4: to give yourself lots of because I think here's another 485 00:19:51,905 --> 00:19:54,305 Speaker 4: mistake that you make. You tell yourself, oh, I'm going 486 00:19:54,385 --> 00:19:56,225 Speaker 4: to get a dress, and then you've got all of 487 00:19:56,265 --> 00:19:59,185 Speaker 4: the internet to shop from, right, and then you just 488 00:19:59,305 --> 00:20:01,545 Speaker 4: end up you can end up buying two three dresses 489 00:20:01,585 --> 00:20:03,625 Speaker 4: instead of just one because you're like, well, I need 490 00:20:03,625 --> 00:20:05,705 Speaker 4: this one and I need that one as well. It's 491 00:20:05,705 --> 00:20:08,705 Speaker 4: like you're not being narrow, you're actually giving yourself so 492 00:20:08,865 --> 00:20:12,585 Speaker 4: much like and that's too much opportunity. 493 00:20:12,705 --> 00:20:16,025 Speaker 2: And with dresses as well, avoid buying occasion dresses like 494 00:20:16,265 --> 00:20:18,265 Speaker 2: so often I have bought that many. 495 00:20:18,145 --> 00:20:20,345 Speaker 1: Dresses that are really one off parties it's a one off. 496 00:20:20,465 --> 00:20:22,225 Speaker 2: Yeah, and they just sit in my wardrobe and I 497 00:20:22,225 --> 00:20:24,065 Speaker 2: stare at them and they just look pretty sitting there. 498 00:20:24,065 --> 00:20:26,425 Speaker 2: It's like, choose things that are practical that you can 499 00:20:26,505 --> 00:20:29,265 Speaker 2: match and mix up and actually style in different ways. 500 00:20:29,305 --> 00:20:31,545 Speaker 4: But I guess for occasion dressing then you know, like 501 00:20:32,065 --> 00:20:35,145 Speaker 4: hire it, borrow from a friend, like, yeah, there's so 502 00:20:35,185 --> 00:20:37,545 Speaker 4: many ways that you can still have that new piece 503 00:20:37,625 --> 00:20:40,265 Speaker 4: to wear, but it doesn't mean buying brand new. Yeah, 504 00:20:40,465 --> 00:20:44,225 Speaker 4: I think we've sold it, We've solved it. Yeah, that's 505 00:20:44,545 --> 00:20:44,985 Speaker 4: moving on. 506 00:20:51,825 --> 00:20:59,865 Speaker 3: It's very expensive, how mud, Let's jump into bougie and 507 00:20:59,905 --> 00:21:02,905 Speaker 3: budget please, Sinder. Let you start off, Okay, what's your 508 00:21:02,985 --> 00:21:03,825 Speaker 3: foujie for the week. 509 00:21:04,145 --> 00:21:08,465 Speaker 2: Bougie back to not settling for the consolation prize is 510 00:21:08,625 --> 00:21:11,105 Speaker 2: denim and finding a really good piece of denim. I 511 00:21:11,225 --> 00:21:14,705 Speaker 2: recently bought the Daring good Day denim. 512 00:21:15,345 --> 00:21:17,825 Speaker 3: I love Good Day. She's doing such a good. 513 00:21:17,665 --> 00:21:19,825 Speaker 1: Style and her new denim. 514 00:21:19,865 --> 00:21:23,305 Speaker 2: She's only just released two forty so it's actually not 515 00:21:23,425 --> 00:21:26,985 Speaker 2: as expensive as say, and a Goldie Pero jeans, but 516 00:21:27,025 --> 00:21:29,585 Speaker 2: they fit really well, one hundred percent cotton. They're just 517 00:21:29,625 --> 00:21:33,465 Speaker 2: a nice straight leg fit amazing, and yeah, I'm really happy, 518 00:21:33,465 --> 00:21:35,865 Speaker 2: with those, so that'll sort of get me through spring, 519 00:21:35,905 --> 00:21:38,545 Speaker 2: summer and beyond because they're just such good quality. But 520 00:21:38,825 --> 00:21:40,825 Speaker 2: I just committed to getting a good par of Janes 521 00:21:40,905 --> 00:21:44,545 Speaker 2: rather than just settling on something that would stretch out 522 00:21:44,585 --> 00:21:45,345 Speaker 2: and that I wouldn't become. 523 00:21:45,585 --> 00:21:47,665 Speaker 4: Ye to your point, now that you've spent that money, 524 00:21:47,825 --> 00:21:50,065 Speaker 4: you're going to actually invest back into them. 525 00:21:50,185 --> 00:21:52,225 Speaker 3: You're gonna get that wear out of it, right because 526 00:21:52,265 --> 00:21:52,945 Speaker 3: you've put that. 527 00:21:52,945 --> 00:21:55,385 Speaker 2: Yeah time and look after them and take pride in them. 528 00:21:55,545 --> 00:21:57,505 Speaker 2: So the daring world, the good day Jeens. 529 00:21:57,505 --> 00:22:00,145 Speaker 4: These are such beautiful genes. So this is why I 530 00:22:00,145 --> 00:22:01,785 Speaker 4: can't talk to you, because I want to reading what 531 00:22:01,825 --> 00:22:05,625 Speaker 4: you recommend. I bought all the other end of spectrum. 532 00:22:05,625 --> 00:22:07,065 Speaker 4: I feel like I just did the thing that you 533 00:22:07,105 --> 00:22:09,305 Speaker 4: said not to do. But I'm still going to recommend 534 00:22:09,345 --> 00:22:12,585 Speaker 4: them becare because I stand by it. I stand by it. 535 00:22:12,825 --> 00:22:15,225 Speaker 4: So my budget this week is denim as well. But 536 00:22:15,745 --> 00:22:19,465 Speaker 4: let me explain. I bought the big W barrel jeans. 537 00:22:19,945 --> 00:22:21,145 Speaker 3: Big W like I was. 538 00:22:21,185 --> 00:22:22,825 Speaker 4: I think I was in there and like it back 539 00:22:22,825 --> 00:22:25,785 Speaker 4: in like April, shopping for my daughter, buying her some 540 00:22:25,825 --> 00:22:27,665 Speaker 4: clothes or books or whatever, and I saw these jeans 541 00:22:27,705 --> 00:22:29,905 Speaker 4: and I was like these are really good barrel jeans. 542 00:22:29,905 --> 00:22:32,585 Speaker 4: In my opinion, they're thirty dollars. I bought them in blue, 543 00:22:32,665 --> 00:22:34,705 Speaker 4: and that was back in April May, I think, and 544 00:22:34,705 --> 00:22:37,305 Speaker 4: I've worn them like on repeat since. So like, just 545 00:22:37,345 --> 00:22:40,145 Speaker 4: because something's budget doesn't mean it's not good. Warn them 546 00:22:40,185 --> 00:22:41,905 Speaker 4: to death. So I was really excited when I saw 547 00:22:41,945 --> 00:22:44,665 Speaker 4: that Big W had brought out white pear or sort 548 00:22:44,705 --> 00:22:47,905 Speaker 4: of a cream pair in a crop, which is good 549 00:22:47,905 --> 00:22:50,065 Speaker 4: for me as a petite person. I love a crop 550 00:22:50,145 --> 00:22:52,385 Speaker 4: jane because it sits above my ankor other than drowning. 551 00:22:52,585 --> 00:22:56,185 Speaker 4: And still thirty dollars, still thirty dollars. So I wrote 552 00:22:56,185 --> 00:22:59,785 Speaker 4: about them from Amamea and yeah, a bunch of women 553 00:22:59,825 --> 00:23:01,505 Speaker 4: told me they bought them to and they loved them. 554 00:23:01,585 --> 00:23:04,665 Speaker 4: So it's the Big W cropped barrel jean and cream. 555 00:23:04,985 --> 00:23:07,825 Speaker 2: And it is a nice way to experiment with styles 556 00:23:07,865 --> 00:23:10,665 Speaker 2: and cuts of jeans, I suppose, yes, so true. Yeah, 557 00:23:10,785 --> 00:23:14,265 Speaker 2: playing around with the barrel starting with a Big W jean, 558 00:23:14,345 --> 00:23:15,785 Speaker 2: that's a great. 559 00:23:15,265 --> 00:23:16,065 Speaker 3: It's like a gateway. 560 00:23:16,225 --> 00:23:16,385 Speaker 1: Yeah. 561 00:23:16,465 --> 00:23:20,305 Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I've since, you know, bought other white jeans 562 00:23:20,345 --> 00:23:22,505 Speaker 4: like the ones I'm wearing today because I kind of 563 00:23:22,545 --> 00:23:24,585 Speaker 4: dipped a toe into it through a more affordable option, 564 00:23:24,665 --> 00:23:25,985 Speaker 4: and now I'm like, Okay, well I'm going to spend 565 00:23:26,025 --> 00:23:28,305 Speaker 4: that money on a slightly more elevated pair because I 566 00:23:28,385 --> 00:23:30,305 Speaker 4: know now that I like the trend. I'm wearing this 567 00:23:30,345 --> 00:23:32,465 Speaker 4: piece regularly, so I'm going to like, I'm going to 568 00:23:32,545 --> 00:23:33,585 Speaker 4: take the punt something. 569 00:23:33,865 --> 00:23:38,225 Speaker 1: I love that quality. Check those out. Okay. My budget 570 00:23:38,345 --> 00:23:39,825 Speaker 1: is actually from Big w as well. 571 00:23:39,945 --> 00:23:43,905 Speaker 2: Oh and it's one of their silk scarves. So I 572 00:23:43,985 --> 00:23:46,585 Speaker 2: was in there the other day and I saw the 573 00:23:46,625 --> 00:23:48,905 Speaker 2: scarves and with the whole scarf trend and wearing it 574 00:23:48,945 --> 00:23:50,585 Speaker 2: as a belt, I thought, you know, they've got some 575 00:23:50,745 --> 00:23:53,105 Speaker 2: great colors in there, and I got this red and 576 00:23:53,145 --> 00:23:54,225 Speaker 2: white one and it was beautiful. 577 00:23:54,345 --> 00:23:55,665 Speaker 1: Nine dollars is cute. 578 00:23:55,825 --> 00:23:57,465 Speaker 2: I actually wore it last time I was in the 579 00:23:57,545 --> 00:23:59,385 Speaker 2: Mama Mer office and I did wear it as like 580 00:23:59,425 --> 00:24:02,705 Speaker 2: a little belt and it's great just for spring summer. 581 00:24:03,265 --> 00:24:05,705 Speaker 2: And yeah, it allows you nine dollars if you want 582 00:24:05,705 --> 00:24:08,425 Speaker 2: to play around with that trend. It's a great size 583 00:24:08,465 --> 00:24:10,425 Speaker 2: as well, so it's not too small so it sort 584 00:24:10,425 --> 00:24:11,545 Speaker 2: of can go around the waist. 585 00:24:11,745 --> 00:24:14,065 Speaker 4: Amazing, because that's the trouble I've been having with the 586 00:24:14,145 --> 00:24:17,025 Speaker 4: bandanas and scarves is like, I fine, with bandanas. 587 00:24:17,065 --> 00:24:18,705 Speaker 3: I want to wear them as a belt, but they don't. 588 00:24:18,505 --> 00:24:19,625 Speaker 1: Fit around my waist. 589 00:24:19,865 --> 00:24:22,985 Speaker 3: Right with a scarf, you've got a little bit more room, yes, yes, So. 590 00:24:22,945 --> 00:24:24,825 Speaker 2: There's heaps of colors in there. I got the red 591 00:24:24,865 --> 00:24:26,745 Speaker 2: and white and there's a green and white as well. 592 00:24:27,025 --> 00:24:28,865 Speaker 2: So nine dollars, big w good. 593 00:24:28,665 --> 00:24:30,545 Speaker 3: One, all right, my bougie. 594 00:24:30,585 --> 00:24:33,145 Speaker 4: When I say I've been writing about the thong's trend 595 00:24:33,425 --> 00:24:36,185 Speaker 4: like flip flops for a year, I have, like, I 596 00:24:36,225 --> 00:24:38,265 Speaker 4: have labored over this topic and I think like somehow 597 00:24:38,385 --> 00:24:41,345 Speaker 4: subconsciously it's entered my brain that like, I need a 598 00:24:41,345 --> 00:24:43,465 Speaker 4: pair of elevated thongs, and now it's all I. 599 00:24:43,465 --> 00:24:44,145 Speaker 3: Can think about. 600 00:24:44,465 --> 00:24:47,625 Speaker 4: So I have decided on the thongs that I'm gonna get. Okay, 601 00:24:47,665 --> 00:24:49,625 Speaker 4: there's a lot out there, but I am a big 602 00:24:49,625 --> 00:24:52,705 Speaker 4: fan of the brand Alias May. I've bought their footwear before. 603 00:24:52,785 --> 00:24:56,345 Speaker 4: I've worn their footbed sandals to death, so I really 604 00:24:56,345 --> 00:24:58,425 Speaker 4: trust this brand. So when I saw that they were 605 00:24:58,465 --> 00:25:01,105 Speaker 4: doing a leather thong. When I say leather thong, it 606 00:25:01,145 --> 00:25:03,385 Speaker 4: sounds like I'm saying underwear, but a leather flip flop, 607 00:25:03,745 --> 00:25:06,825 Speaker 4: I was like, that's the one. It's called the Charlie's sandal. 608 00:25:07,425 --> 00:25:10,425 Speaker 4: It comes in lots of neutral colors, but I'm actually 609 00:25:10,465 --> 00:25:13,425 Speaker 4: loving the red patent leather for a little hit. 610 00:25:13,385 --> 00:25:14,745 Speaker 1: Of red very. 611 00:25:14,865 --> 00:25:18,065 Speaker 4: The Row coded it's very it's giving the Row absolutely 612 00:25:18,145 --> 00:25:20,705 Speaker 4: on a budget. So the shoes one hundred and eighty 613 00:25:20,745 --> 00:25:23,625 Speaker 4: nine to ninety five, which isn't like, you know, cheap, cheap, 614 00:25:23,705 --> 00:25:26,425 Speaker 4: but I think for a leather shoe, that's pretty good. 615 00:25:26,465 --> 00:25:28,265 Speaker 3: That's good, and I trust the quality, so. 616 00:25:28,305 --> 00:25:32,265 Speaker 4: I'll be wearing this to death. The thanks, friend, that's 617 00:25:32,305 --> 00:25:34,825 Speaker 4: all we have time for today. 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